Don't Miss These Hints Girls Are Giving You, Signs Of Being Desperate...
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- In this video I react to a group of videos from TikTok and give my perspective and advice. If you come across any videos you think I should react to, be sure to tag me or send them my way!
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I love that Courtney has moral standards. A valuable reminder that there are still (lots of) normal people in the world.
If Courtney's moral standards are so high, why is her top cut so low?
@@sarahrobertson634 You never show a hint of cleavage, Sarah? >:) I think the serious answer is that (a) it's good for CZcams views, and (b) showing some cleavage is not a sign of moral depravity.
to be fair she is refreshing to listen to when all we have are red/black pill youtube channels saying to be toxic
@@sarahrobertson634 She doesn’t slut shame, so there’s that.
@@chrispapadopoulos3080 I think so too.
"Where's the logic?" Remember, Courtney...this is TikTok. Logic and common sense have no place there.
Fair 😂
While that's true, quite a large amount of men have become tainted by the absurd and abhorrent.
insert lord of the rings meme: *you have no power here!*
Uhm. In my experience most women are not comfortable with their men having female friends full stop.
Hahaha!
I agree, too much insanity. Society has become steeped in extremes for a while. While I believe the extremes have become amplified, there is still a large portion of great individuals out there!
Agreed, some women in the "dating game" are just plain crazy. Just be happy that someone wants to date you, generally. Attention seekers.
I don't need information on tiktok from teenagers on relationships, I go out in the real world and gain experiences that way. This is what has helped me In my confidence.
A lot of women lead men on with these "hints". So it's actually very difficult for men to actually know
Agreed Courtney! My Ex GF wanted to keep in contact as friends when she was moving to another state for four years for university. I was logical enough to say no we aren't going to do that, we are going to find someone else and you and I both know that. Let's not keep this attachment going and move on, it was hard but necessary for both of us. Nonetheless completely agree with what you're saying.
Glad you saw that at a young age. I was the same when my first girlfriend dumped me-I dropped all contact with her..and her friends. My view was then, and is now: "look. Friends I have. I don't need the baggage." Yes, it IS painful, no one should doubt that but it is best-for both parties.
I have such a low view of myself that when a lady is interested in me I take it as a joke or a prank. I have to be hit in head before I see it. If a woman says to me you look handsome i say in my head "you can't be serious". You are the best Courtney.
When you feel that way here’s what you do. Day to yourself “fuck it” and go for it. She may diss you. Who cares. You already feel low so nothing she can say isn’t anything you haven’t told yourself. Source? Same boat. It works for me. I think I’m ugly but I’ve been called sexy. So how you see yourself doesn’t mean anything.
U not alone bro I feel the same way
@@gh0rochi363 Bruh that's a fast way to catch a case. Shit advice.
Dude, I feel the same way.
If a girl ever got an anonymous shot of alcohol while we were at a bar together, I would "joke" and say, "You send that to yourself? Haha, I've seen this on TikTok." Because guess what? The vast majority of guys do not buy random shots for girls who are with another guy at a bar.
Also at 8:20 there is a reason that was cut off shortly. That guy is a comedian and has said and done stuff like that in skits since his days in Dormtainment (sketch comedy CZcams channel that started like over 10 years ago). Also, that video was edited. She asked the "million dollar question" in response to something else.
I think the only exception with being friendly with your ex is if you have a kid together...
Courtney’s body language and faces she makes when she watches these videos (like, when she looks at the camera as if we’re there in person), the “oh no’s”, “dear lord’s” crack me up so much 🤣. It adds to the charm of her videos.
And then cut to soft jazz background music when she analyzes the tik toks, to describe human low moments…also adds to the package 😄😂. It works perfectly! Don’t change a thing!
Congrats Courtney. Thanks for keeping it real, we need more of this unveiling the crap embedded in society. Social media is not the only issue, it’s us as humans.
Thank you my friend! 😂 I appreciate it!
For many of us men Bachelorhood is a safe bet.
The safest.
I wish a woman would be more verbal about liking a man instead of giving nonverbal queues that she likes a man or she wants something. She hopes he gets it but doesn't turn out that way. Men and Women totally communicate different when they're in a relationship.
This is also true!
Lol yeah exactly. Is this what Americans mean by "you have to be able to communicate what you want." I don't get why they say that and yet are so indirect.
I feel you, but that’s not how that works they rarely say it out right so don’t expect it. Do your part. Women like a dude who doesn’t give af what people think. They don’t like jerks they like men who don’t care.
@@gh0rochi363 no they like jerk trust me treat women like crap they keep themselfs close to you and I like to break there ego and confidence once you take that away from a women she will never be the same person again and then I move on to the next one. Alot of Women did that and worst to me that's why I'm paying it forwards. Women don't like nice guys they are consider weak unless she hit the wall then it's time to find Mr good man but since women play with men emotion I figure why not do the same you get what you deserve right and they all deserve it because in the jungle there are no innocent it either you or them and I'm not going to be the one
women need an out though if the guy is crazy
Being friends with exes is a personality type. I'm friends with some exes, but I don't regularly speak to them and we keep limits. New girlfriends are often ok with that. I also have friends who are still business partners with exes. Again, I think it comes down to limits, boundaries, and personality types.
Courtney nails my two basic needs - genuineness and sincerity. Anything short represents something hidden (which could simply be mystery), insecurity or worse - questionable mental health wellness
7:34 Not every relationship ends with a fight. Not every breakup leads to losing respect for each other. Great relationships are built on top of a great friendship. And that friendship can outlast the relationship. I get the scenario where the next partner has an issue with the ex being around. The best antidote to this is, when these two become friends as well. It's possible. Relationships often emerge in a semi-fixed social circle: friends, colleagues, sport clubs... If both ex-partners are tied into this social circle, not seeing each other anymore is rather impossible w/o burning a lot of other bridges in the process.
Doesn't mean its okay to be friends with your ex. Period.
Sorry, that's simply how relationships work. If you've had sex with that person you are not friends and it's completely different now. Friends don't date their friends, and its not healthy to still be friends with them while you're committed to someone else. So if you really are friends you should have stayed friends in the first place. It's a red flag and there's always the risk of cheating.
@@LethalByChoice I think it depends what their relationship is like with their ex. If they're seeing each other every week it's a problem. If they're catching up about family and life then that's not really an issue. My ex's dad has terminal cancer, and we both had some mental health issues, so we keep in touch to see how each other is getting on. Don't let jealousy cloud all the good in innocent friendships. It's not black&white.
There is still the romance part. As someone who has been through this, probably more than most guys here (I'm 59) you BOTH are better off, just breaking off contact. You already have friends, why deal with that baggage?
@@LethalByChoice It's called maturity and growing up. Should you be hanging around with them instead of your partner? Of course not. When you're in a committed relationship, that's your number one. However, if you're saying that you should never be friends with your exes, maybe you need to graduate from high school and develop some real relationships, based on communication and friendships.
@@haggus71 What does maturity have to do with being friends with your ex? That doesn't even make sense. Keeping your ex in the picture and even suggesting the current partner be friends with that ex is toxic and retarded advice. People who do that will probably still have leftover feelings from that connection they once shared. It's always going to be a matter of insecurity on both sides so why go through that drama? That's a major red flag.
so basically tiktokers are recycling and repurposing one thought, and one thought only:
"everything revolves around me, all I ever think about is me."
sooo if you've seen one, you've seen it all??
Pretty much
Any girl that’s bragging about cheating with a guy who’s in a relationship when women have more options than ever , is plain trashy
Agreed
Quite a few of them get off on that. They want what someone else has.
@@Coyote-wm5op Yeah but when women even grossly unattractive ones can easily log into tinder and match with guy after guy at their fingertips, destroying a relationship potential marriage, kids etc. that makes you human trash in my book.
@@Coyote-wm5op it's not that they get off on having what someone else has. It's that thru get off on the power of taking what someone else has from them. It's a control thing.
I don't agree with the term "cheating" here. The girl's not the one cheating, since she's not the one in a relationship. I don't think it's a good thing, I just think you can't cheat in a relationship if you are not in a relationship. (Of course the same goes for men.)
In the age of consent, there are no such things as "signs" and "hints".
Men risk their careers, social lives, livelihoods, and maybe even some jail time.
This is an extremely relevant point. Even if she is clearly giving him hints, dude doesn't know he's on the jumbotron with witnesses, all he knows is that if she decided to call it unwanted contact it'd be his word against hers, and guess who the authorities tend to side with?
Completely disagree. This has been hyped on social media for some time now but just doesn’t bare out. Attention grabbing headlines always have a backstory. The vast majority of people who go on dates do not file charges against people for an attempted kiss or hand holding. There is always more to these types of accusations than meets the eye. Typically drugs or alcohol were involved, the women were gold diggers from the beginning or the guy wouldn’t take no for an answer. Men aren’t getting locked up or smeared because they attempted to kiss a woman on a legitimate date and she said no, if he accepts her rejection and stoically moves on.
Age of consent?
I can imagine that being a concern for people that were not good with the ladies in their teens and early adulthood, but as long as you take the time to understand situations where consent is not an option (I.E. screwing your secretary) then you shouldn't have a problem reading cues.
@@BigMikeBell1 Maybe the guy wasn’t in the mood or ready for a kiss what do you know ?
This stuff is insane! I dumped social media a few years back because I got tired of people that feel the need to act out their problems, craziness and emotions on public platforms.
Spot on brother!
lol
@@energeez whats funny?
Courtney, I know you hear every complement and word of gratitude under the sun, but regardless of whoever the information and knowledge is coming from, the information/knowledge alone is truly appreciated. It is alarming how much information and basic life principles are withheld or never taught to people.
I wasn’t taught a single thing about women (or life in general), so my entire adulthood has been learning or re-learning everything about life the excruciatingly hard way. When it came to women, I was a fish out of water; I didn’t even know the basics of any basic principle. I’d be willing to bet that I was THE most clueless man alive.
That being said, with that first clip, even my old self could’ve picked up on what she was trying to do. It’s hard to miss someone literally being right in your face. It is possible that he was seriously THAT clueless, however, being well acquainted with extreme cluelessness, that looks more like either pure rejection (he’s straight up not interested), or he’s so nervous/insecure that he mentality talked himself out of it (didn’t feel worthy, scared to mess up, scared of poor performance, scared of rejection etc.). The latter was the case for me. I was so insecure and so terrified of rejection that I wouldn’t even try. Even if a girl was making obvious advances, I was still THAT terrified of rejection that I would talk myself out of it mentally to avoid any chance of possible pain. Or, in rare cases, I would reject before getting rejected. Any rejection at all would destroy me to a deadly degree (not exaggerating). Women don’t understand how terrified men are of rejection. Even the most confident men still have a small amount of fear of rejection, but they’ve learned how to manage it and not let it concern them.
However, I’m living proof that any person can break out of the mold they were casted in. It simply takes desperate determination for the will to change. It will more than likely come at a great cost and immense pain, but it all depends on whether you want to lay down and die, or keep getting up, keep fighting, and keep pushing. There truly is a great reward on the other side. If you never make the treacherous climb up the mountain, you’ll never find the riches that reside at the top. No thing worth having ever comes easily.
*Insert any other cliche motivational quote here
🥰❤️ thank you for sharing this. Happy you’re here!
your story sounds like mine, imagine being SWM now 68 and still a virgin and have dated 5 times, quit at 46, and have never kissed a girl in my life, kinda sad -- it's my story, I knew I was NEVER going to have a gf let alone a spouse, time only confirmed my intuition. I had nothing that would attract any women, on the plus side, retirement income is 5,00K per month, net worth close to 800K, it'll go to family/charity -- sad end
Thank you for shedding light on this! The second clip reminded me of a woman that I went on a date about 11 years ago who tried to act like she's all that by staging something similar when she was just really insecure about herself. To make a long story short, it was already over before it began. Insecurity can be someone's worst enemy.
@@mariemunzar6474 first of all, you were not there when the situation took place. She not only staged situations during our date, she also exaggerated other things about herself. She also engaged in self-victimization, whereas she was complaining about how her boyfriend left her. And come to find out, she exhibited similar patterns in her previous relationships. If a person has to go as far as doing things that are very underhanded like that just to amplify their self-importance, you can only imagine what they'll do in the relationship. A person who knows their worth doesn't have to try so hard to be something they are not.
Airport lounges would be hard places to meet people unless you're a frequent flyer. You can't just enter them, even if you're a member - you have to have a ticket on that airline (or a partner airline)! Also, the lounges are past the security checkpoints - not just accessible to anyone who goes to the airport. Great video as always, Courtney!
Guys are getting burned so bad in the dating world that we are just purposefully being rude right back. Ladies, you're creating your own misery.
I am mean and hateful when I talk to them and it's funny because I get more positive responses when I'm aggressive and a ass never be a beta again
Women always create their own misery that’s why it’s important to not react
How many girls been rude to you? Any examples?
Sounds like a YOU problem.
@@v6camryse13 I guess you wouldn't know what I'm talkin about since you haven't moved away from blow up dolls yet. LOL
That ring looks good in your hand ! Congrats to Teddy & you ! Finally the man proposed
With regards to your ex, if you break up but both decide you just don't work you can easily still be friends. Personally I would feel that if you are jealous about an ex that says more about you then the person still friends with an ex. Unless there is obvious sexual tension I would see that as a good thing because that means if it doesn't work out you can still stay friends. I get your point to I just don't see it that way.
Be judgy Courtney, be judgy. Open relationships are ridiculous and disgusting.
Welcome to the new age women.
It's fine for you to feel that way but no need to rope her into your personal problem.
I agree good sir. If we accept it then it'll become a norm.
@@woooooooah exactly.
If both sides agree to it I see no problem in it.
Something I think is overlooked is that - for a man - the consequences of being wrong when thinking she's giving you a hint can be VERY severe. I don't think men are bad at reading hints - some are - so much as I think they are terrified that they're wrong.
💯 ...YUP!
Courtney, as a man that had a relationship that there was the lingering ex boyfriend, it was the entire source of all the strife in the relationship. She ended up cheating on me with someone (not ex) and I'm like 90% sure she cheated with her ex even though it never was confirmed.
Absolutely a red flag for any man/woman where they are friends with ex.
It depends. I'm friends with my ex girlfriend because we're good friends. I'm friends with all of them because they're good people who bring value to my life. I get your perspective and I'm really sorry that happened, but for me it works and my girlfriend doesn't care and is friends with my ex. We keep things transparent. Works for me. Hope what your doing works out 0w0
@@angelocarantino4803 Nope. doesn't work. For men or women. Good people or not, nature is nature.
It will not end well.
@@rh5776 for you. Again I'm having great experiences over here man. Maybe stop going along with the group think and try something different.
@@angelocarantino4803 Yeah, I thought I was too; twice. Then, by chance, I found out that I wasn't the only one and they were still meeting up with old BFs; working late, went for a drink with office ladies, going shopping.
Just saying.
@@rh5776 wdym? Why do I care what my exs do? And my girlfriend only has one ex who hates her guts 😅
Open relationships only work with great communication and rules. For instance, my girl doesn’t want to do or know anything, but I have to come home. Other open relationships are different, you just have to find what works for you. Stay Focused!!
Courtney, I think one of the things most guys struggle with, as I used to as well, is girls being on one extreme to another in relationships. Just to use your last thing you talked about being too clingy, or not there enough. I've learned that if a girl can go from one to the other in a week, then it's best just to walk away and wish her well in life. It's just surprising how many girls are like this, and don't communicate, but want a mind reader. This is something else that's a red flag for me....if a girl "expects" me to know something she hasn't asked for....I'm walking. I've been married and unfortunately my wife passed away, so I'm in the position that if it works out great, and if it doesn't I'll continue living.
Thank you for your content Courtney, listening to you is a breath of fresh air. You help me know and understand that I’m not wrong for not putting up with some of these women’s nonsense. Your fiancé is a lucky man and I hope you two have a long lasting, healthy relationship.
You’re so sweet, thank you 🥰 glad you’re here!
I second that - 18YzfR6!
Great tips - by Courtney! I agree with her. That was a pretty obvious one that she wanted to be kissed - guys can sometimes be so clueless. I guess, he was waiting for an actual invitation!
It’s not going to happen - most women are not that direct, they give you signals - it’s up to you to pick up on them.
It’s a dead give away when a girl looks into your eyes, then looks at your lips, then your eyes again - the “Triangle Method.”
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
2.34 "Just be normal. Can't we just be normal people?" hahaha, 100% agree. Thank you for being a 'normal' voice in an area of life gone slightly mad lol. I have many thoughts as to why (a big one is the general lack of reading of really nutritious books and then practically applying what was learned - 'knowledge to wisdom transfer' - knowledge is 'known' but then needs to be 'lived' to become wisdom), but to save a giant and most likely very boring essay for now, just thanks again for your very important and appreciated contribution to making this world and more 'normal' and healthy place.
Happy vibes from London.
Hahahah Courtney with the 5 places where to find gold diggers just killed me 😂
Just discovered this lady and have to say from the 2 or 3 videos I’ve seen so far-this lady has some class! And when she speaks her tone is soft which actually makes me want to listen to her more. Hope more of her pops up on my feed.
Thank you so much! Glad you’re here.. make sure you subscribe :)
Courtney's definitely worth subscribing to. I now use her line "A fish doesn't want to be caught!" in daily life. :) She gives a lot of common sense advice that perhaps should be obvious, but I think there's a great dearth of common sense these days and for me it's definitely worth hearing.
That man with integrity is a real one, even beyond romantic relationships
Your face reacting to the girl selling the, um, jars 😂😂 Also I agree you should do the these are my ladies tiktok with your recommended fragrances, that would be hilarious 🤣
Yeah, I had a friend try to shame me for blocking my exes in an effort to move on... turns out that guy was cheating on his girlfriend with a girl he used to hang out with 🤷
I will say that with the first clip, what I've witnessed in my life is that women will give the most subtle hints of interest and either one of two things will happen: 1) the guy is oblivious as hell and misses the clear gesture or 2) the guy does indeed see the signs yet when he makes his move the girl turns him down despite her giving him clear cut signs that she's interested. Most of the times a woman will send mixed signals and it usually stems from insecurity because of past scars or she thinks she's not good enough, but fellas just know if a woman is giving you clear signs make sure you pick up on it and make a move. Trust and believe women aren't the best at showing interest in the best of ways 😂
That's another reason why online dating sites are still the virtually only places to initiate potential romantic contacts, though it can still take years and dozens of contacts to make a match.
Clear cut "signs" doesn't mean much in this dating climate either. They might just be baiting you for attention and validation. You won't ever know anything for sure until you ask them out.
My ex gf insisted on us being friends but pretty sure she just wanted to keep me as an option. I said no thanks, I'm out of here and burned that bridge. To this day, 6-7 months later she still texts me to "see how I'm doing".
Being friends with an ex is not practical at all. It's a complete waste of time. It's not good for moving on and lastly if I started going out with a girl and she still talks with her ex I would leave immediately.
I'm autistic, high functioning as I am, it's very hard for me to pick up social cues. I usually realize hours later after I had time to think about it. I get better if I see the cue a second time later on. It makes dating difficult.
Practice, practice, practice my man.
Same dude. Fuck social queues just go for it. You’d be surprised.
I feel you, my friend. One of my clients that I work with has mid functioning autism . I can tell that he is aware of some social cues but not so much in tune with peoples emotions. It’s extremely difficult to express in words verbally. So, unless they are proficient in Sign Language or have some sort of electronic device such as an IPad with a word & picture program on it; it’s rather difficult. Same thing with individuals afflicted with Aspergers Disorder.
Never happened to me, but if I was with a girl and she did that to me (and how would I know if the bought the drink) and she consumed the drink instead of refusing it, she would never see me again.
Great content! Thanks for your insight and autenticity. I absolutely agree to not be friends with your ex, like, if you can be friends, why you broke up?! It makes your new relationships dificult for your partner. But i would highly recomend to end on good terms, if possible, to forgive means to heal your own soul. Just so you could interact in little hi-hi small-talk when you meet your ex. Also. For everyone who is reading - do not buy farts. If you are buying farts, pics or anything like that, you stay single my friend : l
5:53 to 6:07 😂😂😂 6:03 “Your gonna be there” was the best part.
I like watching your videos from time to time because you’re usually funny without meaning to be. Good stuff.
As far as being friends with an ex, you must also consider if there is a kid involved. You are forever going to be connected to that person.
I am a 56 year old man. I am friends with many of my ex's. Doesn't mean I do things with them. Just means I might wish them a Merry Christmas or whatever. Just because things didn't work out with us romantically doesn't mean I stop caring about someone. None of them did terrible things and I didn't do terrible things either.
Absolutely. If you aren't friends with at least one ex, you are probably dating horrible people (or you are really screwing them over). Maybe you just figured you wanted different things. That doesn't mean that this person you supposedly care about is disposable.
Just because you don't talk to them doesn't mean you stop caring for them when it happens, that's the hardest part of a breakup. And in the case of wishing them a Merry Christmas, it sounds more like a relationship with an acquaintance than an actual friendship. It all depends on the frequency and the intimacy.
@@haiirohyoushi95 Exactly!
I agree. I still hang out with my exs cause they are nice, and my girlfriend hangs out with then too. We do parties, and have bonfires, and they're just a part of my friend group along with their boyfriends (who I'm also friends with) and everyone else. My girlfriend hangs out with them too, cause they're great people. They bring value to my life and I'm not cutting them off because of some arbitrary rule
I don't think the guy in the 1st clip was clueless, I think he likely doesn't like her. I've been in a similar situation.
Courtney, I really love your throwback 'girl next door 1960s' style. It's a breath of fresh air!
@Courtney Ryan
Hello Courtney, firstly - big fan of your content. I especially adore how you take extra care to be as objective as you can and represent both sides to the best of your ability. It's rare and very valuable. I've watched a ton of your videos and consider them (as has been stated countlessly in the comments) a breath of fresh air. And this is probably the first time I disagree with you, with all due respect.
Topic: friends with your ex.
Why would anyone think this is a bad thing? I understand that there are hypocrites aplenty and often "being friends with your ex" is just a gimmick for trying to seem cool. But I mean, being ACTUAL friends with your ex. I know it's rare. I get a plentiful of cringe/dropped-jaw reactions to me being completely fine with my ex getting married soon, being invited to the wedding, going happily and being truly and honestly happy for them. I think she's with a man that will make her happy and that makes me happy. I am friends with most of my exes and I think it's a good thing. It's a sign that you are a mature person that can keep healthy relationships going without (a crooked/selfish) agenda, just being happy that the person is still around your life - that you don't have to cut them out just because you're not together anymore. That doesn't mean I have to see them every day, or even on a regular basis. But I refuse to cut them out of my life just because someone might have a problem with it. If you can't deal with my having a good relationship with people (including my ex), well, that's a red flag for me.
I also understand that not seeing your ex is better sometimes, especially when the breakup wasn't the best kind. But that does not mean that being on good terms with your ex should be deemed as some kind of a scarlet letter. It's not my problem that some people might have difficulty dealing with that. Yes, there's a "I'm not over my ex therefore I try to disguise it as being on good terms with them." but then there's also the "I'm genuinely over my ex and therefore have no trouble being around them and having a healthy relationship with them."
If you've spent 5-6 years with people, there's a strong connection - not something you can simply flush down the toilet - or at least, I can't. I refuse to throw it away against my own will just because someone could have a problem with it.
So, to be honest - I actually consider the opposite (or somewhat of an opposite) a red flag. When people either over-praise or over-criticize their exes. The former meaning they're not over them, the latter, that they're immature and unable to see their own mistakes and rather choose to blame everything in the relationship on them. Even if that person was really that bad as you describe them - you still chose them and chose to stay with them for an non-trivial amount of time - so you're also criticizing yourself as much as you are criticizing them.
Anyway, my 2 cents. Would be happy to hear your thoughts. The only reason I wrote this all because having watched your videos I believe you will have some nice insight on this topic - if you do, I'm open to discussion :)
Matej
Tiktok businesswoman: Sells farts in a jar
Courtney: Recommends fragrances
Me and my ex are friends because we saw that we aren't meant for each other but still care about each other as friends. She is not going to show romantic gestures in the future towards me or I towards her and she is not an enemy. She has a boyfriend and I give her advices if she needs any. I think the immature way is to shut that person out of your life just because he or she is an ex. If that person did something BS towards you, then you can say "good bye forever" and I'll back you up, but if you and your ex have nice and mature seperation and both of you don't see each other in a romantic way, why not be friends? If a girl doesn't see that or sees that as a problem, I say good bye to her, because I'm not going to push my friend out of my life for her.
You have a point but that doesn't always work out either for some.
And at some point specially during a hard time something can happen.
@@lolcup Thank you for sending your comment. You are absolutely right! Not every former relationship is going to work as a friendship. But that doesn't mean that there would not be any change to be friends. I have about 5 ex girlfriends and with one of them I'm a friend and with the other 4 I'm not. My point is that you should not turn your back on someone just because he or she is your ex. The key thing, is that if your ex did something bad to you like cheat or spoke ill about you behind your back and THEN it's ok not to be in contact with that person. If you two have nothing to say, that's fine and a reason to leave him or her behind your life.
There is a reason you two got together right? Let's say you two did get along. Why not hold on that and have a good friend next to you? You both need to know the terms and the reasons why the relationship didn't work.
Hard times can be difficult and "old salt" can make you thirsty, but you need to remember why you two seperated, why it didn't work out and your ex can possibly be a supporting factor as well, because he or she knows you and know how to make you feel better.
Thank you for your comment and your point. Everything is not black and white. Also sorry about this essay.
I would argue it depends how close you are. Being acquaintances isn’t an issue but to be BEST friends with your ex will cause more problems than solutions imo
I'm sorry but I disagree. I'm very uncomfortable with the woman I'm seeing being friends with someone she was romantically involved with, especially if they talk regularly. If we get into a fight and she goes to talk to him to vent, how do I know he's not going to take advantage of her vulnerable state and make a move on her? They were once physically attracted to each other, why can't they be again?
@@Dylan-ko2gj that's my point. May have worded it wrong but.
Why leave an avenue for something like that to happen.
At the end of the day people are very fickle to deal with and it seems to only get worse by the day
Man a lot of stuff in this society can be really discouraging but that’s what faith is for thanks Court for your insight
I'm friends with almost everyone I got involved with in my life. I don't play friends inmediatley, but after a few years someone reaches out and all can be good!
Great tips! Yeah. I agree. That was a pretty obvious one that she wanted to be kissed - guys can sometimes be so clueless. I guess, he was waiting for an actual invitation!
It’s not going to happen - most women are not that direct, they give you signals - it’s up to you to pick up on them.
It’s a dead give away when a girl looks into your eyes, then looks at your lips, then your eyes again - the “Triangle Method.”
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
That's why I dont treat women like adults I treat them like a kid which is what they are except I can legally sleep with them but at the end of the day there still children in a adult body
8:00 i think this is where cultural differences clash here. where im from, if you manage to keep a friendly relationship with an ex (and i mean an actual friendship, no hidden intentions) or at least end it on good terms, it shows a lot of maturity on your side. im still friends with my first ex. it's been over 10 years and we still have a friendly relationship. we both moved on with no intentions of going back. other ex's i tried to keep a friendly relationship but they slowly drifted away and went on their path and i respected that.
I could not agree more with you! Anyone who thinks that one should cut ties with everyone from one’s romantic past regardless of the situation would actually be a red flag for me.
I have to agree, still friends or on friendly terms with most of my exes. It's never really been an issue inside of a relationship, I'd rather not discard someone just because a relationship didn't work, if the friendship did
Yep came here to post the same thing - it's different if you are still hung up on your ex, but if it was fairly mutual why wouldn't you still be friends? I know not everyone can and that's fine. But it's not like I am inviting my ex over to hang out with me and my new gf either so....
I'm 50. I just commented two of my dear, lifelong friends are former loves. I've known them for longer than all these TikTokers have been alive 💁
When you have kids with your ex is a great reason to keep a respectfull "friendship" with him/her, it is much better for the kid's develloppement than when hate/disrespect each other
"Trust" is a subject I don't see enough of here.
Jealousy ~ is a belief that there’s not enough to go around. “If she gives her attention to that guy, there won’t be enough for me”. When we express jealousy, we are showing to the world that we don’t trust, and how fragile our love really is. Jealousy comes from acting out insecurities, the opposite of being in your power. When (she) wants him to feel jealous, she wants him out of his power and in her control. Which is all about manipulation. Jealousy is a signal of dysfunctional ownership and should be a red-flag to anyone striving for the *ego-less relationship. Building trust automatically turns off jealousy. So if (he) says he trusts you then shows jealousy, he is then-without words telling you he doesn’t understand trust, and instead really understands control.
Ego-less Relationship is the practice and art of Boundaries, and is a class I give on earthconnections with a Dot, and wordpress then another Dot with communications.
Overall, I thought you were ''another one of these people producing content we have somewhat already seen''. Yet, here you show to be really authentic, insightful and exposing a lot of your personal values (saying out loud what a lot of people keep quiet). I need to say it feels good to hear a woman exposing strong point of views like that about relationships
"The logic is zero" - Courtney Ryan 2022
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Courtney Ryan, I just wanted say I love your videos. I have learned so much from you. I hope you reach over 1 million subscribers.
I am still friends with my Ex. and that was 30 years ago. The trick is to be "Friends". Now, it does help that we were good friends before.
I am a female audience here, and I agree with everything you said! I have been watching your video for about a year, and I learned how to be "normal" in a relationship thanks to you💓
I can't wait to see more of your videos!! Love and support from 🇯🇵
I can’t modern America women think they are so much better. Really a turn off anymore
Y’all women wanna listen to everyone BUT your man 😂
Ironically one of my ex’s is still a friend as we broke up because I was allergic to her job(we laugh about it now) . She lives in another country now and is about to get married.
She really shows kindness I've watched a few of her videos and she makes sense out of some of the insanity. 🤣
Her hair is always on point. Just a little curly on way down. 👌
We always chastise women for onlyfans, twitch bathtubbing and asmring, pornstarring, feet camming, stripping, street walking n pooting in mason jars. But if dudes werent paying, these women wouldn't be doing that. So whose to blame?
You have a valid point. They are profiting off our lust.
Remember guys, never let a rich girl with a rich guy tell you money doesn't matter. It is not the only thing that matters, but things aren't going anywhere without it long term. Always look at a woman's actions. Also, there's no benefit to a woman who has guy friends that flirt with her since that doesn't make her more attractive. A woman's desireability to other men, doesnt make her more desirable. But a man who has girls that like flirting with him does have a benefit since that IS something that makes a man more desirable. Women love competing for men and they get extremely competitive. Jealousy in a man is weakness. But when kitty cats compete, you win.
Nope! Youre clearly part of the problem in our modern dating society. Youre just like the second guy (7th tik tok) in her video. Morally bankrupt. The only way any guy would do this is because of lack of self-esteem or respect. You need multiple woman fighting over you to make you feel desirable!? Pathetic! Get some self respect. A high-value guy neither wants nor needs multiple women chasing them. Someone with self respect and healthy self-esteem doesnt play games and lead others on, precisely because he understands the value of time - for himself and other people. Should only take one right person to compliment your life. The fact you refer to women (much-less any woman of value) as "kitty cats" shows you have some growing up to do. Try joining the world of adults.... it feels good.
I dated a girl when I was 18, we went to school together and were in the same group of friends. We broke up and didn’t speak for over 6 months. However the group of us are all still friends and meet up a few times a year, including my ex. We’ve spent next to no time alone in the last 5 years but we are still friends even if not close and have both been in several relationships since then. All our more serious partners have understood that we are more friends then ex, but I appreciate that we are different to most situations were people are “friends with an ex”.
My ex started talking to me online constantly after I started dating a high value woman. I blocked my ex on everything and deleted and blocked her number. (Satisfied sigh). Best. Decision. Ever. Now happily married for 12 years.
Hello Courtney: Regarding the farts in a jar, I have been through a really bad SIMP phase and I never descended to anything like that. When I SIMPed over women, at least, I spoke to them face to face. Paying $500 for somebod's farts is weird and pathetic. Stay well and safe.
i know. right?
Could be worse,
Could have sold used bath water.
@@tailgunner2 i seed what u did there
@@xvgreen8586 The thirst is real out there.
And I am well aware of the irony of that statement.
There is no woman so amazing, beautiful and desirable that I will abandon my dignity and self respect for, not even you Courtney (sorry, although you come pretty close). Any one who has paid money to obtain this POS woman's farts in a jar is simply not a man and is way beyond just a simp. He would need a 24' ladder to just reach up and touch a simp.
Remember guys, no woman will ever respect you until you respect yourself.
Wow, you're a poet and we didn't even know it 😂 super annoying to see how much money some girls make by doing things like selling JARS OF FARTS to guys, but I also can't blame them for taking advantage of that "market." 10/10 video, Courtney! Thanks for being normal lmao
😂🙌🏼 thanks Jack!
Thank you, Courtney, for your content. It's very informative, reassuring, and entertaining. Keep it up!
Friday night 25 March 2022. Congrats on 294K subscribers. Many thanks for keeping me on the straight and narrow, Courtney. Thank you for your common sense, moral take on relationships. Take care and all the best.
I was friends with my ex before we dated and we were better off as friends. I've moved on fine; but that's probably because I never had feelings for her.
If there are any hidden gems, I'm sure the diamond on the tip of your tongue will cut through everything covering the gems
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I don't think hinting should be used by either person. No matter which sex you are, if you are interested in getting to know someone better, ask them out to lunch. Tell them you can meet them at a restaurant and you will pay. Tell the person that you would like to get to know them better. Girls, flirting isn't a highly effective method. I have missed out on a number of girls flirting with me that I would have loved to have gotten to know better. I bet they left with the idea that I did not want to date them. They were wrong! I just didn't know. So just ask the person out. It will hurt if they say no, but if they say yes......
You are cared for , you are wanted, you are loved 😉
Been watching NDE videos?
"Maybe he didn't wanna kiss her but i'm sure that's not the case"
We also refuse advances if we are not interested, it just doesn't happen often because girls don't do advances because they fear to be rejected more than men, and they wanna preserve their "Perfect" image, and don't wanna risk getting hurt like men.
I agree she says that she guarantees that’s not the case but what if the dude doesn’t like her?? Plain and simple
Dude come on, y’all are either delusional or ignoring reality. Look at how painfully awkward he acted, and she’s far more attractive than him. It is what it is lol
The female ego is frail you know that.
Happy Wednesday Courtney lookin lovely as always girl ❤🌹
Thank you my friend!
I laugh out loud when Courtney said "there's clearly a market for it" !!
I think that's another great video, Courtney. I love your sound, straightforward, objective advice. You show the utmost respect to both sexes.
Separated from my wife after she got explicit texts from her ex fiance from a decade ago and then found out later he was in an open marriage, but they were "just friends" and I was a controlling nariscissist if I told her I wasnt ok with the friendship.
Edit: the texts were recent, it was their engagement that was over a decade ago
I feel you can still be friends with an ex but it depends on how the breakup was handled. Some breakups can be mutual and it also depends on how the friendship is maintained after the breakup.
If a dude breaks up with a girl and runs into her at party or social gathering with mutual friends and manages to keep it cordial, I don't see a problem especially if he hasn't seen her in a while. If a dude breaks up with a girl and continues to talk to her on the regular and meets up with her every weekend, that's a red flag to me.
It also depends on your relationship in general. Some people its too painful to be friends so they need to part ways. I have done that before.
Bruh her facial expression at 13:07 priceless! I’m Dying 🤣
Thanks for bringing exposure to that Courtney !!
Hey Courtney, I struggle with talking to girls and I would love to have a girlfriend one day. I love watching your videos!
You got it! I’ve done a few videos about having conversations with women, I think you might find them helpful 🙌🏼
@@CourtneyRyan awesome, thanks! Keep up the great work here on YT!
You have alot of work to do. I suggest that you find a strong male role model in real life. You need someone who can show youn in real time how to act masculine. Alan Rodger Currie is a good resource in the manosphere. Either him or Troy Francis.
@@markquinn1216 appreciate the advice!
As much as Courtney shade dissed him, Casey Zander is a really good follow on wooing a girlfriend. Watch enough “red pill” content (like Darius M, The33Secrets, Manosphere Highlights Daily, ADM Crazy Reviews, and Man Talk) should completely eliminate any fawning you have for women in general. Look for incredibly close friendship first, not vapid connections that most women want. Courtney is a rare bird that is willing to look in the “friendzone”, and those few ladies are the desirable ones that are less likely to take you to the buzzsaw that is divorce court. Best not to get married unless you’re absolutely sure it’s the right decision, and keep the wedding small and cheap. It may be more $$$ advantageous to stay unmarried and avoid the costs of a wedding vs. any tax breaks you get from marriage.
yeah but when you split with kids the government services expect you live this obtuse way and stay civil with ex
I was married to my ex-wife for 26 years and we have two kids together. I'm very happy that we're still friends. Makes it much easier to coordinate time with our kids.
With that said, we don't hang out other than when the kids are around. But we do text and talk often.
I've seen many couples break up and they hate each other. Much happier this way.
Same for us too
Regarding the "common denominator": a very good female friend of mine, after another jerk dumped her with a text message, told me, "Why do I always attract jerks?" To wich I said, "Maybe it's not that you attract jerks, it's that jerks attract you..." And the look she gave me was priceless. She said, "You know, I've never thought of it that way!" Since then, she's been much happier in her romantic life. Sometimes, all it takes is a little introspection.
"I would never want to be friends with any of my exes"
Uh....so Courtney....how to put this politely. That says a lot, A LOT, about you. A lot about your mate selection criteria and a lot about how you argue, because as someone who is still friends with two of his exes (out of 6 total in my 42 years) I can say that it is not only possible but is a sign of maturity on the parts of both people. My last girlfriend, now ex, has cancer, and had it when we got together, and I am still friends with her and we talk daily because she is one of the strongest people I have ever known, and while the romantic part of our relationship didn't work all the friendship parts did so we made the conscious decision to split amicably and keep the friendship. And we have. She got with another guy pretty quick btw and I am staying single because it's so crazy out there and none of that affected the friendship one bit.
If you find disgust at the idea of being friends with any of your exes than that suggests to me that your breakups were not amicable and that the men you selected were not good men, otherwise why would they suddenly be so repulsive to you? Did they deceive you? Did you allow yourself to be deceived? I just don't understand how someone who seems so rational and calm about dating and relationships would take such a firm stance against the mere possibility of staying friends with an ex. It's actually pretty normal? I dunno just my 2 cents.
I get where you are coming from but honestly sometimes settling for just friendship with someone you imagined your future together with can be difficult emotionally.......my friends from the opposite gender come and talk to me about their dates and significant others but if my ex -turned-friend did that ...it might trigger some emotions of nostalgia. Being civil and at good terms with your ex after break up is one thing ..being friends is another. It works for some and not for others
If you were friends with the ex before you started dating, is it still a problem to be friends afterward? I feel like this is a North American thing as well as in Europe it seems like friendships between men and women are more common while in North America it feels a bit odd.
Depends. There are social circles of guys and girls in NA, where lots guys and girls are friends and mingle. I used to see it a lot particularly in college. But people with smaller friend groups, it’s usually almost exclusively all-male or all-female.
I always kind of wished I was a part of one of those larger social circles so I could mingle and just have “more” friends, but the advantage of a “smaller” friend group is that we’re very tight-knit. I put smaller in quotes because my friend group isn’t small, it’s just not as big as some of those guy-girl social circles.
"Dear Lord, what is happening with society". Love it!
I love that red blazer amazing, thank you for the content
You know where rich men are? At work.
One day, I was driving and considering the whole "did you get consent".
It made me come up with the following answer...
"If you have to ask for consent from a women, they should always say 'NO!'"
If a guy can't detect that he has consent, he is not worth having around.
But please see the snafu buried in that. It is a really bad snafu for the women. The male side is bad enough. For the female it is a goddam blow up waiting to happen.
Why? Men are clueless. When they start to get a clue, half of the clue is other men telling them "you have to be confident". This means half of men or more will be confident by being just a little too aggressive. Hitch put out the 90/10 rule. What a beautiful rool. Then his trainee, Albert, manages to screw up the rule...
If a man asks for permission to kiss a woman, if the woman doesn't say no, she is setting herself up for a big problem.
If the woman doesn't manage the man from the beginning, she is in for a big problem.
But you can say the same for the man. Both sides have to have a little give to make it work.
But then 3 years into the relationship happens and all woman should be listening to Bettina Arndt and contemplating the bigger problem that 90% of them are going to face.
"If a man asks for permission to kiss a woman, if the woman doesn't say no, she is setting herself up for a big problem" What's the problem she's setting herself up for?
@@simontmn She is taking on a man who had no ability to perceive her position.
@@wbtittle I’d rather be sure by asking a simple question than take a risk with my life and liberty by misreading someone and making an assumption (which is something everybody’s thousands of times in life but you only need to do it once in the wrong place at the wrong time for it to ruin your life)
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 You are perfectly correct. But if you ask and she doesn't say NO, now you have a problem.
What a toxic take...
Regarding the guy that wants to look at other girls but doesn't want the girl looking at other guys ..... this is the issue with many of the content makers on CZcams for the whole red pill community stuff. They all keep telling guys about spinning plates and trying to be a 1% guy to do so or be in the top 20% is something else I've heard but none of these channels talk about finding a high value woman and if they happen to discuss green flags of a high value woman, those channels don't actually tell these guys watching them how to truly be a high value man that gets to have and keep a woman like that. ..... so definitely glad you called out this hypocritical behavior. .... every guy I've met that absorbs red pill community content for advice all seem to have very toxic relationships and views of women. It's kind of sad if not scary.
At 4:00 YES I AGREE. If you guys don't keep your word and you are not who you say you are I'm walking out the door! Buh bye!
I’m with Courtney on the foot/fart stuff. I would never buy that stuff and think it’s both gross and damages society.
Congrats on being part of 99.9999% of society.
I wouldn't be so sure on that, I'd say possibly 67% of society
Courtney, did you really just find out about the "fart-in-a-jar" woman? lol, Any who, it's one thing to simp for women and to like/comment on thirst trap pictures, but buying jarred farts from a woman? My faith in humanity dwindles by the day..
Here I completely agree with Courtney. If a girl told me they wanted to break up, I'd say, "Fine, let's just be friends". I never called any of these women again. If one of these females called me, and many of them did, I let them talk until they ran out of things to say and then hang up. After a few phone calls, they got the hint. It seems there are lots of girls that like to give you the "shit test". I never played.
I FINALLY saw the video from which you talk about farts-in-a-jar, Courtney! Every time you say it in other videos it makes me laugh! 😂😂😂