The Truth About High Value Men, Women Using Dating For Validation & More | Courtney Reacts
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
- In this video I react to some TikTok's and give my perspective and advice. If you come across any TikTok's you think I should react to, be sure to tag me or send them my way!
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The best advice is to not follow TikTok and you're good 👍🏻
Honestly 😂
@@CourtneyRyan 😂😂
Right TikTok is a cesspool of bad advice and toxic information.
best advice is not add your girl on Social media and get her phone number instead
@@danwarner7816 Or just don't do dirt. If you wanna date around then don't get a girlfriend. Just stay single. Its simple.
If you're confident in yourself, you don't need validation from someone. Needing validation is a sign of insecurity.
Spot on
Women in general tend to be pretty insecure
Superficial validation is like breadcrumbs. Better off doing something meaningful and being appreciated for it.
Ya, those girls intentionally wasting men's time & attention needing validation have what we might call "Daddy Issues".
It really makes us Classy women seem non-existent, basically.
I can pass mexican border without validation of my passport... I ain't insecure! who cares what customs think
Having a high net worth doesn't mean you're a high value person. Having a lot of money doesn't excuse your horrible behavior, it just makes it more likely others will overlook it.
🥵 true!!!
Say it louder for Kevin Samuels in the back 😂
I hear ya - Jason!
Great content - by Courtney! And yeah, I agree with Courtney. You should definitely not be following other women on social media if you have a girlfriend - it’s not a good look.
Because I don’t think if you’re a guy - you would want your girl to be following any man either on social media.
If you’re doing that - not only are you disrespecting your girl, but you’re also disrespecting yourself - and you’re certainly not a High Value Man!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Well said.
Women love bad boys though so wtf ever
No, a girl who goes into her car to record herself screaming at her phone is insecure. A girl crying, which is something that naturally happens when something painful joyous or terrifying occurs, is not seen as insecure to men.
That's typically when the protective side of a man comes in, which is the male version of a nurturing side; which is showing support, not mockery over insecurity.
exactly what I thought. If a guy was doing that I would think were going to see this guy on the news at 6 oclock. And not the local news either.
Right? She gave me a headache holy shit
@@redcobra1246 Yeah, she's very deceptive.
Totally obnoxious. I could not listen to her. She has no idea what a good man is or how to act. Obviously.
She’s a child still. Makes me glad I’m out of that high school/college phase of life.
Being high value is about maintaining one's dignity, self-respect, respect for others, making sound decisions, and accountability.
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No, that is what high value is to a man... to women it's a bunch of bullshit that they themselves aren't and don't even deserve in the first place.
Some of my worst decisions involve women.
Absolutely!
Looks like you’re on the right path, my friend.
There is a difference between high "value" and high "quality". I would compare value and quality to "product brands". Some people are willing to pay 100 dollars for a Supreme tshirt because it is seen as high "value" but "quality" is just average. Though something like an Arcteryx jacket is both high in quality and value.
Some people mistakenly equate high value to high quality but they are separate. There are high quality men who are not valued as highly by society. Similarly, there are also low quality men who are valued highly by society. It would be good to foster a culture where people go for quality first as opposed to only looking at "value" and assume that also means good quality.
Awesome comment!
A lot of this is caused by the fact that women can provision for themselves now. Since they can take care of themselves (not a bad thing)it causes a situation where they can afford to chase excitement.
What is more exciting the unavailable bad boy or dependable dave who is boring to her? It's the product of living in safe times and let's be frank western women are very safe now days.
You're such a great kind sister figure Courtney. We're lucky to have you remind us that there are plenty of lovely mature girls out there, gives me a lot of hope and makes it much easier to ignore/reject the bad ones
❤️❤️ thanks for being here!
@@CourtneyRyan we gotchu girl. Keep the awesome. Love your contribution!
Couldn't agree more. She is a gem. 🙌🏻
Kudos to those people who are able to get a meaningful relationship out of the online dating scene, and especially to those who find something that leads to marriage. I personally found the online dating scene underwhelming. I'm so happy that I was able to meet my current girlfriend through church and dancing. And yes, she's high-value :)
There are two things I pay attention to when I decide to message a girl. First how many views she got and the date she signed. That gives me a good idea of what the competition is like.
Congratz bro
Yeah, I'm lucky about that since the girl I'm with I met online. She is head over heels in love with me (not clingy though which is good) and the feeling is mutual. I'm happy to hear things are going well for you too bro. :)
@@Sagefrakrobatik could you explain to me what you mean by views and date signed please.
Salute God Bless Y'all🙏🏽💯
Courtney: "I don't think I could say it better"
Also Courtney: Proceeds to elaborate and explain further in a wonderful way.
😂❤️ thank you Matthew
The first guy nailed it on the head. When I was in the manosphere and heard these content creators disguised as dating coaches talk about being a "high value man," character and morals was rarely ever brought up but they loved stressing the importance of money, status, and the fact that they could cheat and their woman would be fine with it. Never made sense then and still doesn't now and it was obvious those guys just wanted to get away with being immoral and having the excuse of being a "high value man" as to why they cheated. Clown show 🤡
Cough Donovan cough.
Real shit bro, basically this describes that one douche bag who is like 25 years old and acts like he knows it all
True...honestly some men are not even built for that lifestyle. Also we never see any of these men outside social media so you can't take all of what they say to heart.
What I've been seeing about the manosphere seems to be - at least somewhat - toxic in that it spreads a negative view of women. I see it as a symptom of rampant narcissism and entitlement that is pretty prevalent in US society. Lots of people disagree with me though.
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That first guy knew EXACTLY what he was talking about! It's hard to find people like him. 👌🙏🤴
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The market (women) decides who's high value.
facts he’s so real for that
lol yeah right. You can get 500 matches in 10 minutes on dating apps. Women have it too easy.
@@CourtneyRyan could you please comment on why high value men should value themselves? I'm a bit demoralized by how many tons of matches women get. How can I be seen as valuable when that's the case? I feel so disposable.
"A high value man doesn't cheat. "
Truth. The big thing about being a man is keeping your word. When you marry someone you make a promise to them, your family, and the world that you're going to be loyal to them.
If you want to be with multiple partners you need to either have an honest discussion with your spouse about being open, you should divorce, or you shouldn't get married in the first place.
There's nothing wrong with being poly as long as your UP FRONT with your partner about it.
Its when you try and sneak around like a coward that makes you low value.
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Uh yah, POLY is a load of horse shit. That takes a person with a mental disorder of some sort to engage in that MR 9 inches 😂
This!
💯. You can't be congruent to your values as a man, until you decide what those values are. You have to find out what works for you, what doesn't, and kindly but firmly show people the door when you both want different things from life.
would you class someone who following models online cheating? because i'm confused doesnt actions speak louder than words. Its obivously different if he going out his way to meet them, but following them is like your girl putting on 50 shades of grey in front of you and you saying no burn it forever
The single critical trait that defines a high value man is a strong moral core. They know what virtues they value, can clearly articulate why they value them, and can explain exactly how any given behaviour either supports or damages those virtues. They don't tolerate deviation from that moral core in themselves and they don't tolerate it from the people that matter to them in their lives. They primarily go out into the dating market screening for values that match their own.
Money, body composition, health, status, a strong social circle, and many other traits that women are attracted to are often the result of three very common virtues that high value men include in their core: Self respect, discipline, and the desire to give of himself to those that matter to him. If a woman wishes to date or marry a high value man who also exhibits many of the standard attractive attributes listed above, she would do well to cultivate the same virtues listed above in herself.
Well said my dude.
I been matched with the same person three times and I couldn’t figure out why. It’s validation. Dating apps are complete trash. It’s a platform for woman to validate themselves.
Cold approach bro. Try it apps are crap.
The women on dating apps don’t know what they want but men do it’s why it never works
this is an accurate assessment of online dating. ill stick to creating my own happiness and maybe ill meet someone irl.
I find that works best as well.
Online dating, like online pretty much everything else, is a cesspool. The old way wasn't broken and didn't need to be fixed. So, by trying to "fix" it, online dating broke dating
#zyzz
me too! I'm still waiting for the one to approach me at the gym, or come knock on my door
A high value man is a man who lives his best life happily alone and doesn’t need validation from anyone to know his worth.
"The way you do anything is the way you do everything" so obvious yet so profound.
The last girl screaming into the phone, continuously ranting. Does not speak confidence it screams insecurity and massive red flags. She gets this way when no one’s around. Could you imagine if you stepped out of line? Or did something she didn’t agree with. It’s the whole “bad B” mentality is extremely unattractive. She made herself look terrible. Hope the date ran for the hills after seeing this
Narcissism and seeking validation. She need help fr
She actually has the right idea, just poor execution. Actually BE a high value women-- don't just pretend to be one, while losing your sh*t and swearing like a sailor. That's not a good look for anyone. 🤔
She’s normal. The ones who act all sweet and nice are actresses. Don’t fall for that nice girl nonsense that is definet red flag stuff.
All agreed. Like Courtney said. High value men don’t need to flex and say their alpha they show it by their actions. Same goes for high value women. I haven’t met many in my life but the 1-2 I have NEVER shouted, cursed or anything. You just knew by the way they’d carry themselves they knew they had it.
@@collingray2212 A classy woman with grace and elegance is a 💎
Courtney is like the big sister some of us guys never got honestly. I love watching the videos here to get some insight for different things.
Hey Jesus Christ loves u acts 238 and upci church locator for a church type that on the Internet
I feel sorry for Millennial and Gen Z men, who seem to think meeting women IRL is either all pick up artist nonsense or have no experience with it at all (Gen Xer here).
Yeah it’s fairly entertaining too. I mind my own biz and their “girlfriends” approach me… it’s wild!! I see so many of these beta GenZers n Millenials spending thousands on vacation and they are unaware that their girlfriends do not actually like them. I nolonger enable so the numbers get tossed, but it’s just alarming the behavior out there…
All that being said, for a man, making money is that first step. That one-legged homeless veteran used to know what loyalty means, but the ladies aren't exactly lining up for him. Not until he gets his career in order again, and by then it's often too late.
Ah, nothing like hearing a woman shouting for minutes on end end not be able to end half a sentence without saying *bitch* or *fuck*, that just really gets my engine revving. Just what I'm looking for when a potential future wife and I have a mild disagreement.
💯%, her aggressive and coarse attitude is far from feminine. She may have some valid talking points but the delivery sucked.
even funnier when its normally women who like to test for a reaction from men.
The girls that were treating the dating apps like a form of social media actually bothered me. Girls need to understand that men don't get the same attention that we do. Have some empathy for that. It's one thing to talk with someone, and realize they're not for you, but going on dating apps specifically for an ego boost is so incredibly disrespectful to everyone's time. It's disrespectful to the guy who's looking for a relationship. It's disrespectful to women after you, because every person with ulterior motives slowly erodes his will to continue dating, and potentially finding a loyal partner. It's also disrespectful to you because you're begging for validation from strangers on the internet because you don't have enough self love on your own.
Narcissism and entitlement has been rise in "the West" (USA) for decades, and is hitting a point were there are MAJOR societal problems. This is just a symptom of that.
Or... you can recognize the animal for what it is, and make your choices accordingly. If I went to a club where all the women played games, ghosted me, etc.-- How long do you think I would keep going back to that club? Not very long, if I am serious about finding someone special.
Online dating is no different. It's just a tool, to accomplish a task. If it doesn't work for you, stop using it. Where is it written, that, by law, you have to be on Tinder, or Bumble, or any of the others? Vote with your feet, and when enough people do so, things will likely change for the better.
i firmly agree dating apps are waste of time. they always require you spend money either boost your presence or instantly message someone. When you do conversation in person for free
Under no circumstances do I condone the behavior of those clear as day narcissists. But if guys would stop right swiping on everything with a vagina maybe just then it would start to kull this problem. If guys actually looked at the profile and looked for an actual connection like oh cool she is into nature stuff or insert nerdy thing then swipe right on her if you think you have a legit shot. Just have enough self awareness to realize your market value swipe accordingly.
The simps out there that swipe on everything with a submissive smile and a shoulder shimmy which is every woman's profile is why average women are swamped with matches. Just imagine a woman that is say a 7 she is going to have a 1000+ matches.
Let's put it this way if video game victor that worked at mcdonalds at 40 and live with mom had tons of average women begging for him to come over he would eventually be like get out of here Becky I am trying to clear the new warcraft raid. Men would be overvaluing themselves too.
It's human nature women are swamped with options and even average women now think they are the you know what. Men need to have some self respect.
Amazing comment. Respect for being empathetic
That opening statement, 100% agree. I've always said this; and, as a guy who's had way more attention from highly attractive girls/women than is his fair share, I pride myself on that fact that I've never cheated, and remained disciplined thus demonstrating high value. It's a weak mind that gives in to temptation.
As for influencers not talking about it, it's a bit more complicated than that, but typically among men, the loudest are the most noticed, which does not necessarily translate to the wisest or most sensible. Thus, just because male influencers have a loud voice - to follow the metaphor - so a large following, doesn't make them the best source over all. It's why I only watched F&F for a couple of months, because I got sick of their weak mindsets, and the generally low value girls/women they brought on the show to showcase the worst of girls/women.
The real 'alpha' mindset is disciplined and hard working in all aspects of their life.
This channel is a shining star amidst the sludge of social media today.
You are a gem. Thank you! 🤍
👀 oh wait you serious Clark????
Find some dudes to talk with and learn from Beta... This ain't it.. She's a fake chameleon out here cashing in off your insecurities and lack of options. Y'all just make this easier for her. SHE WOULD NEVER LET ANY OF YOU TAKE A LICK OR GROUND N POUND. SHE WOULDN'T GIVE YOU A BREADCRUMB TO STOP FROM STARVATION.. 🙄
Just trying to imagine how to react if I were one of the people in that parking lot seeing some girl loudly yelling at her phone. I might be inclined to call the police of paramedics thinking she was experiencing some type of manic episode. And I wholeheartedly agree with the first part: don't follow women on IG, TikTok, OnlyFans, Chaturbate, etc... If all men unfollowed them and quit paying attention to them just imagine how much more free time they'd have to devote to better and more worthwhile things. Plus you're killing their revenue streams. 😉
its hilarious that they can tell us what a high value man is while they have insta shams, filters, lonely cans, thick thot.
With a plethora of options, they can exercise theirs, and mean while tell you not to exercise yours. Please.
The Alpha Sugar Daddy sounds like the final boss you have to beat to get out of the friendzone
Hahahahahahaha
"And now you shall see my TRUE FORM!!!"
-In a flash of pixels Alpha Sugar Daddy morphs into an overweight incel behind a keyboard for the final stage of the fight.
Thank u for this video..I am disabled and live on disability due to it therefore I don’t have a lot of money. I hold myself to a higher standard than the stigma for ppl on disability and low income. Hearing this helps me keep striving to be a better man.
the women saying they would never meet anyone on a dating app are lying. yes they would never give almost all the men a chance, and maybe super hot guys won't match with them so in that case they never would meet a man on there, but if she matched with a super cute, dark, billionaire with a 500k IG followers, she would be wiring him thousands of dollars in no time.
cough Tinder Swindler cough*
Thanks again for being a rational voice in this part of life that's gone a little mad lol.
'High Value' currently seems to just be viewed from the exterior side of the street (Personal Exterior and Collective Exterior to reference Ken Wilber's 4 quadrant model from Integral Theory) - basically aesthetics and resources/money. It certainly does matter to a certain degree, but it only opens the door. From there, it's only one's interior development (Personal Interior - morals - and Collective Interior - how one interact with others) that matters most.
I do feel the current state of the dating world in general reflects the current state of the world quite a bit. There's generally most emphasis on the exteriors of things and less attention to bringing interior qualities up to the same level for integration, which would balance out the madness and weave a thread of peace throughout the hearts of individuals. When the term 'High Value' becomes related to being a 'whole' person in all aspects, exterior and interior, things will start to settle. But not just in the dating space, in the world at large too. We need interior qualities to hold exterior development in check and in place. One without optimal development of the other only leads to dysfunction.
Lots to talk about with regards to such a topic and society as a whole, but I'll leave the essays lol. Gratitude again for all you're doing and sharing Courtney. Happy vibes from London.
I definitely needed to hear this- Thank so much. I feel the same about women(high value is her character: integrity is more important than money any day)
I feel like "High value" is nothing but buzzwords nowadays cause it's overly used, not to mention that it's taken out of context. I'm grateful that I have stability, have supportive relationships with people, in grad school, do martial arts, so many things I'm grateful for!😊🙏
Definitely true. Sounds like you’ve got it going on and being grateful is so important ❤️ thanks for the comment, Tommy!
@@CourtneyRyan I totally appreciate that! Thank you so kindly!❤
High value is simply: How do you stack up, against your competitors? Nothing more, nothing less. If you're doing better than most of them, you're high value. If not, you're low value. It's just that simple.
@@marcmays48 The mindset of comparing yourself to others and competing against them is actually low value in itself, because you are essentially only doing something based on what others do, and there is nothing genuine about that. It's also a very self-defeating mindset.
@@Leoo117 In theory, Yes. Women should love you "just for your personality." I agree: that's the way it *SHOULD* work.
Yet in actuality, when you get into the real world, people will make comparisons, between you and the other people, as part of their decision-making process. Some of these are objective measurements (he is taller than other guys, has more money, etc.). Some are purely subjective (that guy treats me better, I click with him more, etc.). The objective measurements, which the vast majority of a society agrees upon, are what fundamentally make someone higher value.
Ignoring, or attempting to redefine the concept of high value, though 1) doesn't change what it actually is, and 2) isn't useful, if you are looking for actionable, intelligent information to improve your dating and relationships, so you have more and better choices available.
Unless you're in a scenario like the movie "Blue Lagoon," where you're the only guy on an island with one girl, she *WILL* have other men to choose from. While you are busy saying "I am already high value! I don't have to compete! Everything is just fine! ," the other guys who do get it, are improving themselves, and making a compelling case for why a woman should choose them instead. Sure, a woman may choose you anyway, based on the subjective factors. And perhaps you're cool with either getting the less desirable women, or settling down with women, after they've had 3 kids from 3 different other fathers. But most men that I know of, are 1) not OK with that, and 2) if they do that, tend to be miserable, and less respected by their women.
The same thing is true in the employment world. If you have fewer skills, connections, or other resources needed to get the job done, you will be less essential than other employees. If you are self-employed, people will at least consider other options, if you are objectively lower value. Yes, employers may still choose you based on subjective or other factors. But try telling someone that they can be seriously considered as part of the search for a new CEO, using little more than Rhonda Byrne's "The Secret." That's total f*cking nonsense. If you gave that advice to a job seeker, they would have you sent to the looney bin, and rightfully so.
I don't dispute that it's nice to have other good things going on in your life, being consistent, loyal, etc. are great traits to have, especially if you want a stable long-term relationship. Nevertheless, calling a mountain lion a house cat, does not make it so. Same thing with the concept of being high value.
Let's use a real world example. Suppose the actor Will Smith shows up at a local eatery. Is he going to draw a crowd? Yes. Would you or I draw the same crowd? No. Would people want his autograph, or pay for it? Most likely, at least some people would. Would they pay for your autograph, or mine? Most likely not. Welcome to the world of higher value.
I am not saying Will Smith is a better person than either one of us. Personally, I think it's a bit tacky to laugh at a joke a comedian makes about your wife... and then to get up and physically assault the same comedian, for the same joke, once you realize that you won't be getting nookie any time soon, unless you prove your manliness in a toxic way. It's likely that his decision lowered his value in many people's eyes. Still, there are some people who will overlook what he did, and treat him more favorably than they would you or me. And that is objectively stated, why he has higher value than non-famous people.
A lot to unpack here indeed; that energy is overwhelming. Thanks for enduring on our behalf Courtney. We appreciate the refreshing takes of yours and the insight like the opening man.
Thanks for being here and for your kind comment, I appreciate it! ❤️
That girl was super aggressive and masculine looking. Dropping F bombs like crazy.
Would love to hear your personal experience on the dating apps considering you met your fiancée on one.
I can definitely do that!
Agreed. Meeting someone face to face through, mutual friends, work, or cold approaches, etc is much better than the online stuff. It shows more initiative and confidence on your part as well.
That's why im terrified of relationships. Im saving a ton of money being single and childless. I can't put my faith in a women, The thought of getting screwed over in a relationship or getting the wrong one knocked up would be a nightmare for me. And it would be absolutely devastating. My credit score, my bank account, my life in general, everything would be over because of a failed relationship or marriage. I would lose all of my free time, and work around the clock with no days off to make ends meet because now I have to carry this weight alone while she collects my child support. And I would have to live like that forever. I cannot trust a woman like that with my livelihood and everything on the line.
So wear a condom and put her on the pill?
I always wear condoms. And I still pull out while wearing one.
I'm not risking anything.
I understand your fear. But the thing is, at the end of the day, it’s nice to share your life with someone. I’m 60 years old & was married 28 years with 3 kids. We’re in the process of divorcing now, but still I wouldn’t change that. There are good women out there. But you’ll only find one if you try.
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But the odds suck now. When you started all that is way different than what goes on today. The young women just want to party their life away until Chadrone doesn't want them. And because a Chad will bed them, they all think they rate a Chad for marriage.
They are approaching nice guys after they have kids and or can't offer him up his own.
And a great many of them who marry a 'lesser' man feel like they settled, when they used to sleep with Chads. They miss that, and feel cheated. They leave.
You can't mix your experience with what men are getting more and more of today. It is a different world.
@@coda3208 “it’s nice to share your life with someone”, *proceeds to motivate me more to not share my life with someone*
Don't live in fear. I'm sigma, 45, divorced early 30s, my son is 14.
House, 2 vehicles are payed off, while I paid child support. A few more years and no more child support. I will help him with whatever he chooses to do, and grind on my next move into my 50s. 🙂
On the first TikTok: You're absolutely right, I totally agree with the man in the original video. But, there's always a but!
I consider myself a high-value man, but I'm dire strait. What I can say in this regard is that money is like women's beauty. It will never define high value, but it's the entrance to knowing people's actual value. A lady may be a wonderful person, but if she is not beautiful she may get her chances of being known reduced. Analogously with men's money.
Anyway... I manage! Thank you for your video! Greatly appreciated!
"you don't have to test people, all you have to do is watch and see how they react to things." it's Courtney gold here. teams of scientists have difficulty designing experiments that correctly target and suss out some kind of truth. as an individual you basically have no chance that your "test" will be a valid experiment. your "test" will always bias your results to what you want them to be. contrive a test, get contrived results. makes you look like a jerk too 🙂
Truth. What people actually do, will tell you more about who they really are, and what they truly value, then the word salad most people casually toss around. 🙌
this video has so many gems. a solid guy i wish Courtney hugged, self aware e-doll, girls supporting the idea that guys should just not use dating apps at all, extra sugar daddy demands meme, overly agressive he-female discovering casual dating.
When she says that money isn’t the only thing that makes a man high value and that there are other qualities like character that play a big role….. well of course she’s right when she says that . I don’t think anybody would argue that , but I don’t think that is really the most important question. the question she should be answering is what about the many many many many men who are great on the inside have great character , have a big heart , are warm and loving people but don’t quite have the finances that most women are looking for and why most women will pass on them. answer the question as to why those men are not being picked or being flocked to?
a high value man is a man with good morals, values & has integrity in addition to being financially stable. If a man is lacking in character but is rich == not high value
A man with a good character but broke == not high value
A high value man should be balanced
in all aspects of his life.
High value men aren’t measured by what they have, wealth, or a job, because stuff can be taken, wealth and net worth can be obliterated overnight, and one can lose a job. A high value man is measured by what he gives and brings to other people. High value men bring value to others, treat others with respect and dignity, they’re principled, and they have healthy boundaries.
A high body count is meaningless. Many low quality individuals have high body counts, but they aren’t people to be admired or followed. Realistically a high value man realizes his seed is valuable, and he takes into account all metrics of a woman’s quality, realizing any sexual encounter could lead to him fathering a child. There are some women a man simply doesn’t want mothering his children, and they should be avoided at all costs.
High value man has many options if your valued your wanted stop mixing quality for value.
@@mirocharles2319 I’ve seen your other comments, and you’re regurgitating Rollo Tomassi and his fanboys Fresh & Fit. Kevin Ray Wilder has taken them both to task and pointed out the studies they reference are quite flawed, and Lauren Southern beautifully took down Rollo in a debate that he refused to share on his channel. He was demolished. The problem with much of the Red Pill Community is pessimism and bitterness, which ultimately leads to loneliness. I get the appeal it has for many, because they’re nursing a wound or a series of wounds, but until those root causes are addressed and worked on, the appeal to pessimism and bitterness remains. One of the biggest issues the RPC ignores is the autonomy of women. They act like women are slaves to their primitive nature and can’t make choices outside of their hormones, and that is simply not the case. I know plenty of women who are not ok with becoming part of a man’s harem and only want the Brads and Chads as stated stated in other comments you’ve made. (By the way, Brads and Chads are not alphas, and if you think they are, then you need to recalibrate your compass.) I also have met a far greater number of women who want a sincere, genuine man, and they are repulsed by Brads and Chads. These women are also in their early 20s.
You’ve got to unplug from the RPC and social media and get out and meet women in public. You’ll find far more women aren’t reflective of the junk you see on social media and a great number of them are repulsed by hookup culture.
@@justinstevens3743 You are wrong though unfortunately the amount of women who want men like this are extremely high and ya you may be able to get women without having money or looks but odds are that marriage will eventually end. Women have there definition of high value men and that dictates the sexual market place morals and stands aren’t high on there wanted list like they used to be most high quality men aren’t high values and will unfortunately be cheated on , left , or never get an opportunity. Realism isn’t pessimistic it’s just reality.
@@whoareyou6854 that is a falsehood that’s been debunked by a study initially conducted by OKCupid and then subsequently confirmed by university studies. What they discovered is the selection problems exist with us men more than women. Men were mostly going after the most attractive women, while women were typically selecting more average looking men. Do yourself a favor and avoid Red Pill media and forums, especially Rollo Tomassi and Fresh & Fit.
“I’m a high value man”
Said no high value men ever
It depends on what you want to cook and what you are starting with. Sampling a bunch of cooking advice and not committing to one particular dish is likely to leave you with a disappointing mess. I think most of the good advice on dating and cooking is more principle-centric, like wanting a healthy dish. And there are particular best practices that are involved in preparing certain ingredients, like the difference between preparing Michelin star quality sauce onions and something that is whimsically thrown together. Being selective in ingredient selection, etc. In general, figure out what you want to cook, find a recipe that works for you, apply best practices in ingredient selection and preparation, and then observe the process to proactively respond to the idiosyncratic nature of your circumstances. Clean as you go and wash your hands.
Hi Courtney, I´ve seen some of your videos and I really like how you are so mature even at your young age. Thats the kind of 26 years old women the world needs. Keep the great work
Just a suggestion, try to petition to dating apps that any woman who doesn’t go on a date in let’s say 3 months should immediately be removed from the app. There should be a date check with a timeline to encourage responsible behaviors otherwise it would lead to problems that would affect people’s lives, their work and society in general
Finally someone defines what a high value person mean
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She's wrong and mixing quality for value.
Thanks for another great insight Courtney. Since I found your channel it has been extremely refreshing to hear your well rounded and spot on content. Tbh I watched one of your videos the first time because of how strikingly beautiful you are but I stayed for different reasons, I was very impressed with your rational and intellectual take on relationships and their many conundrums and you provide genuine and real advice. Your delivery is second to none and your kind, caring and beautiful nature really shines through. Thankyou for keeping it real.
Thank you for the kind comment! ❤️
In this day and age dating is messed up. I gave up a after my fearful avoidant ex dumped me without reason or explanation. I don’t go on dating apps and I don’t approach women in public, because if I try to say something then they immediately call me a creep... So yeah I don’t bother anymore. I have my work, my house and my Siberian Huskies. That’s all I need. Dating is a waste of time.
To me, “high value” sounds like a gimmick to think you are more important than you actually are
Honestly lol
What IS value? If someone (or something) is in HIGH DEMAND, then by definition, it is high value. What that dude is saying sounds nice and all...he's saying all the "correct" things, but how a person BEHAVES has little to do with that person's relative VALUE. Ideology doesn't determine value. The MARKET does.
Interesting point Todd! Thanks for sharing!
Exactly. 👍 The more in demand you are, and the better you compare against other dating / romantic options, the higher your value.
What that dude was saying was nice, and I am not saying you shouldn't cultivate other desirable personality traits. But it attempts to redefine the concept of value, which isn't needed (or necessarily useful, if you're low value, and want to improve your options).
High value women don’t have kids. If they do their value is zero.
Having money doesn’t automatically make you a high value man but if we’re honest, you can’t be a high value man without it.
I agree 100% about what you said about being high value is a little of optimizing everything in ones life.
You really knocked it outta the park with this one!! Great video.
Hey Courtney, could you make videos in the future regarding more relationship advice as well in additional to the dating advice you give?
I am completely concerned that my children will suffer if I risk my assets (read: THEIR inheritance) for the wrong woman. My time and resources as a successful man are far too valuable to trade for a piece of a__. I want a partner, not a parasite. That being said, the woman I choose gets me exclusively.
Don’t do it bro you will get burned. The courts are not in favor of men and no fault divorce incentives her to cheat and leave with half of your estate. I suggest hookup culture. Forget long term loving relationship. Not gonna happen you will get sick of her or she will of you. Usually after the first year the happy crap wears off that’s when the true colors show
Thank you Courtney. I learn so much from you. Love your advice
I’m so glad! Thanks for being here ❤️
Most people are generally insecure about their Health, Wealth, and Relationships.
This is why a lot of people lead double lives, they present themselves to others as someone they are not naturally.
To become fully confident and secure in yourself, you have to build discipline, work on the pillars that build a foundation for the good life, that includes Health, Wealth, and your Relationships with others.
Once you start improving in those areas, you will naturally become more confident in yourself, and less insecure. Hence, you won't need validation from others, nor will you want to be a people pleaser.
Thank you for this video. Honor and integrity are what makes someone a good person and "high value." anyone can "fuck bitches" but the people who can do the right thing because it is the right thing to do and not because you will "get bitches" or "stack money."
The rest of the "high value" traits can be learned or earned. Integrity and character cannot. You either have it or you don't.
I’d love to meet someone in person, just don’t know where to do that.
Best tik tok reviews yet Courtney, can’t tell you how much these actually helped.
🙌🏼 love to hear it! Thanks for watching!
@@CourtneyRyanone of my favorite things about you and your Chanel is your engagement with your followers. So thanks for responding, It’s sincerely appreciated. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about getting off of dating apps all together. For for many of the same reasons this video just articulated..but before I do, I would really appreciate your opinion or insight on my profile and if there is something I’m missing/doing wrong before I call it quits. Thanks again Courtney - Arthur
The first guy spoke so much truth. Discipline through all walks of life. The third tik tok was something I found out the hard way so I stopped doing apps. The fourth one sounded like a friend of mine😅
Value is always relative to a standard. Many men measure their quality by the amount of women they can attract. A lot of women measure a man's quality by the sixes.
Neither of these measurements are inaccurate, but I think neither produce long-lasting satisfaction for either men or women.
Integrity and morality are very inaccurate measures of high quality in the sexual marketplace, but men who focus on those will be happier as mgtow than the serially bedhopping Chad's. Women who look for a good man rather than a prince will have a much better chance at happily ever after.
I do think you'll see another version of a man if you give him a bunch of money and status. You have to have a solid moral foundation to avoid the temptations that come with that.
One of the better react videos... I love that reaction to the girl with all the Hinge notifications.
"Immediately no." I love this. I need to start saying this more in my life 😊
Notification squad and remember to tag her everybody😊
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oh my goodness, that girl at 10:10 was so cringey. That was probably the most annoying behaviour I've ever witnessed. If I were a man, I could never see myself wanting that to be raising my daughter.
Thank you as always great content Ms. Courtney ✌
Courtney, thank you for your videos!
Thank you for being here!
I agree about the high value man being all of those things, but the issue isn't the men who make a lot of money claim they are high value, it's the women who are shallow and only look at the dollars. Take away the supply and more men will up their game. But the reality is there will always be low quality women that are young and super hot and low value men who make/inherit a lot of money. Let's just all ignore these people.
Well you shouldn't it's wrong they are mixing quality for value when they're not the same thing. Most women statically speaking wants a man that makes more than them thus they are valued, but you can have the best personality in the world and be middle class but most women still won't look your way when compared to a douchebag with Lamborghini.
0:38 His definition of a high value man is different than most women. They see men as success objects. A man's value is based on his looks and what he can provide. If you have neither of those things (meaning both are average or below) your chances of ever being with a woman are slim to none. I'm 20 years old and still have never had a girlfriend, things are not looking good for me and it's because I'm seen as low value.
Edit: No one will ever see your true value because they are only able to judge a book by it's cover.
I'm pushing the back end of my 30's and women have never shown me the faintest glimmer of interest. But does that define me as a low value man? I'm a good person of strong moral character, and I'm going to continue being that person regardless of what others think. Someone having more external means doesn't make them a better human than me. It's just a shame so few people are willing to look beyond the surface. And that's not to say things like looks and finances are meaningless, but too many people chase "the pinnacle" of external success to the exclusion of internal character, instead of seeking out more honorable partners who merely have "enough." It is, in essence, a sort of greed.
@@RisingChaos The man you believe you are is all that should matter to you. Everyone else's opinion of you is always going to be wrong because they will never know yourself as much as you do, and all they can do is just look at the surface. Most women are born entitled to a man. Because of social media, women realize the amount of options they really have and it inflates their ego. So if they have a basket of apples, they're going to pick the best one. It was easier before the internet for my dad to find a girlfriend and he looked just like I do now. Today, I get rejected constantly and I think I've talked to more girls than my dad has seen in his life.
@@RisingChaos You may be a high quality man but you are also a low value man in the sexual market place same as 70 percent of the men out there .
Ms. Ryan, I watch your channel on a semi regular and appreciate your advice as it's helped me date and raise my confidence with women. Unfortunately I think I gotta throw in the towel, relationships these days feels like too much of an insincere game where the winners live in a illusion of love rather than the real thing. Your advice got me back into dating after years and I had some fun and learned about myself and even though I'm giving up on this dog and pony show, I still want to thank you for the wonderful advice. You speak from the heart; keep up the great work. Peace 🕊️
High value men! Wow, well, by your descriptions I think that makes me one! Wow! I have standards, and am inflexible on them. Morals, and intellect, strong communications are absolutely essential. Loyalty, and integrity are ABSOLUTELY required. Not straying outside of any of that is imperative. If you don’t like all that, then YOU have work to do! Great post CR! Love it!
Hey Courtney, I'm a big fan of yours! You've helped me a lot. I have a question: Do you know of any "women who want to date men" relationship gurus that are similar to your style that I could recommend to my female friends and relatives? Thanks!
Thank you so much! I actually do not 😬 maybe people here in the comments can give suggestions!
@@CourtneyRyan Ok, thanks anyway! I asked Marni this question too, because I like her work as well, and she recommended Matthew Hussey, so I'll be recommending him for now, but I wanted to check in with you, too, to see if you knew anyone else. :)
Seriously though, let's figure out WHERE women who actually want to date/marry men are these days...
Ooh I thought you were asking for female content creators! Yes, Matthew Hussey is great 🙌🏼
Stephan Speaks is the Best 👌
The girl from 10:50 is way too mad about her subject to not ''give a fuck'' about it
This was such a good video and concept. High Value Men in this way, is to me, exactly what a High Value Women is, principally her character. Everything is a bonus.
Re the aggressive girl. I dont need to say anything about her - everyone can see it for themselves.
However to me. If a girl plays games, such as doesn't message me back for 24-48 hours, (thinking it will make me more keen on them, trying to get me to hunt her) she gets one of those, if it happens again that says your not interested or your plate spinning.
People that think dating is about games and manipulation is the worst advice or actions you can do, in my opinion. Mind you I am happy being single, it takes a great girl to get my head to turn these days.
That first video was so on point! I was talking to my coworker about this very topic! She's messing with a married "High valued" man. Is he really I valued if he has a wife already?! Ma'am, What number side chick are you? She could be #4 out of 7. I saw the validation video just the other day and I was like, "They are a shining example of what is wrong with modern dating". The lady screaming about a sugar daddy. cracks me up. The dude she's yelling at is the man that paid for her "package upgrade". She wouldn't look so attractive if he hadn't paid for it to be done. But in her defense what he did do to her was foul. Lord Jesus can people stop yelling in their videos? I see what she is saying, but in the same breath I'm not gonna date someone that is gonna show me a pic of a chic that he feels is hotter than me.
I'm done with dating apps. A dismissive avoidant wrecked dating for me.
That outfit is on-point.
Thank you so much! 🤍🤍
It's nice but I do see a big hole in the shirt. They don't make material like they used to
That first video SLAPPED with the Interstellar background music…
This world needs MORE Courtney Ryan’s!!!
What I hate is that the Western men will look at the East and how happy Eastern men are with the lots of amazing Eastern women, and they will steal the girls.
3:16 This is kinda odd. She makes revealing content for men to consume, but when the men are consuming her content she shames them? Seems kinda counterintuitive.
also, would the reverse of this apply? Would men not be considered controlling and misogynistic if they are controlling what you follow on social media? Should I also tell my girlfriend to stop watching her kdramas cuz there are a ton of handsome men on there being romantic and giving women the willies? That would be considered insecure and controlling?
Great video
The woman making the revealing content would probably complain that her OF page isn't making her enough $
That's basically human nature. Everyone wants to be free to shop around for the Bigger, Better Deal... while restricting their partner's ability to do so. Don't fall for it.
Spot on correct. This is the only nonsensical double standard that Courtney perpetuates. If a guy isn't sliding into DMs, trying to influence and control who a guy follows on insta is simply toxic.
ttrrruuueee, Men having standards is good however if you dont meet those same standards as you expect from others its pretty bad and telling.
To have high standards you must possess the qualities you require 🙌🏼
Anyone can have any standard they want. You're correct though: being a hypocrite is a turn-off for most people.
Loved what the first guy was saying what a high value man is and broke down on what a high value man isn’t.
The first tik tok is actually the very first tik tok that I actually agree with. A high value man has value within, not from the outside. It is the mark in his soul and heart that describes him as a person. The character within makes a man truly handsome or not
High value people don't to scream that they are high value.
Exactly
One guy against 1187 others lmao. Thats how its been since ten million B.C.
"Lingerie picture people..." I love how you talk! Great content, thanks for posting.
The online dating thing is so crazy this day and age thumbs up video Courtney Ryan
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Sweet. These girls just justified bullying and negging on Hinge prompts. Easy way to stand out!
Time to go to work! 😈
Lol 😂😂
Ma'am, you appear a well meaning and ethical person, but I can tell you I don't smoke, drink, use drugs or commit crimes but few women expressed any interest until I went to college late in life and then entered a well paying profession. Suddenly, women who wouldn't have given me the time of day before projected interest. Review of sociological research studies reveals women of all socioeconomic strata attempt to marry up. In a world where women doing the same job as a man with the same seniority are making the same income, it is unethical for those women to expect men to pay for their company. If they do, this represents sexism as surely as anything women in my generation experienced.
Hypergamy they are social climbers nothing new
Yeah and those type of women cannot be trusted. Only trust the ones who are willing to build with you from the get-go and overcome together, not the ones waiting until you cross the finish line and then come join you.
@@traelee684 it’s all of nothing with me. She better be on 🔥 to be with me. Not this like warm I like you crap. The warm stuff is easy to get.
@@traelee684 I couldn't agree with you more. I have developed a flow chart to guide men through the pitfalls of dating. First, does the woman want children? If she does, she had better bring at least as good an income as the man into the relationship and intend to keep working after childbirth. If she doesn't, avoid her. Second, is she trying to "marry up" even if she does not want children? If so, avoid her. Third, is she attractive with the obvious attitude her beautiful entitles her to special treatment? If so, avoid her. When you reach the end of this process, I think you will find the women who remain are already recognized as Saints or are in the process of canonization.
@@traelee684 The problem is that there aren’t many of those left
High value is defined by your character and nothing else. Our physical she'll is just that a vessel for who we are. Now we take care of it but we take care of our soul and spirit so our lives emit light. That's high value which is why I'm unmoved by societal definitions of these kinds of things.
Lol dang Courtney bringing out the flamethrower for Tristan Thompson; also agree with the point about meeting girls in person -- started seeing someone who I met in person after doing more IRL activities 🙌
...and we all said "Tristan who?" After all, if he's low value, then he shouldn't be easily recognized by anyone. Except that he isn't low value! Now, he may not be very virtuous (by whatever measurements you care to apply), but I can guarantee you, if you're out on a date with a new girl, and Tristan Thompson walks up (and she realizes who he is), you're going to have some competition.... unless he is not at all her type.
That's the essence of high value. He'll get more of a chance to make a first impression.
What was the activity you picked up where you guys met?
That loud mouth tiktok one was sooo annoying I couldn't finish this video
Same brother 😂 the worse part is that she isnt even attractive but she has this attitude bc of the many thirsty guys there are
yeah maybe mute and just watch my response 😂 haha I had a hard time too
Just look at Will Smith. He was the man back in the day but he's falling from grace.
I strongly agree with that first guy. A high value Chad has all the sections of his life in check, felt so glad that someone on TikTok actually acknowledged that 😂
I'm glad you touched on the girl with the Hinge notifications. Women are going to have to pick someone eventually regardless of how many matches they get. We can only do so much to stand out. You should do a video on what it's like from a woman's point of view in regards to having a lot of matches
Honestly I think they should just cap out the amount of right swipes men can do so this way they would actually be more selective. This fixes the average women having 100+ likes each day.
@@polishpimp4233 that would be a good idea actually
The first TikTok is spot. You must have a good balance of everything in your life to be high value.
Spot on
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I totally agree with everything Courtney. So much better meeting someone in person and even asking them out in the moment.
Before I deleted dating apps, I had women say things like “But we barely know each other!” I am thinking that is the whole point of meeting in person. In other words, they were just attention seeking and using men for validation because deep inside they were just insecure about themselves and needed a confidence and ego boost. What a sad world we live in nowadays.
The best thing us decent gentlemen can do is delete or unfollow women who constantly post selfies 24/7 because they simply are insecure and immature. It’s a massive red flag. Do they even realise the majority of attention they get is actually from thirsty men who know no better when it comes to attraction because the men who have high standards are focused on their own ambition, purpose and vision.
That first TikTok did not go the way I thought it would. That was refreshing.
Thanks 😊 for saying money 💰 is not everything. While it’s a big part of life. I like how that guy said it also. That helped me have language to what I’ve been thinking.