THIS Is Why Modern Women Are Single... | Courtney Ryan
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2021
- In this video, I react to more TikTok videos! I've found that TikTok can be full of some pretty bad advice so it's always fun to make it more healthy / positive. Let me know in the comments below what you think!
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“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turn off for you, you need therapy”
so true
If you treat her like a queen, she'll be more than happy to treat you like one of her peasants.
Famous words"You are too nice"
😪😪😪
@@Hamza-qk1sv Courtney has videos on stop being mr. Nice guy and stand up for yourself but still be nice
Treating someone well doesn't automatically mean its a meal ticket to a relationship. If the attraction/compatibility isn't there it isn't there. How many times have women been told you can cook, clean, give bomb sex, take care of a man when he's sick but if you're not the one, you're not the one. The same applies for men. We need to get out of this mentality that women should lower their standards meanwhile we're expected to accept that a man just doesn't want to be with us.
You know how at one point everyone was looking forward to graduating high school to get away from the drama. Well social media has brought everyone back to / kept us in high school
I was lamenting this the other day
No doubt!
Excellent point
Facts
Agree....We are all back to High School Drama permanently......
The lady that mentioned girls being mean, struck a chord with me. At the age of 49 I went to college for a career change. Along the way, I became a sort of Father Confessor to many of the students. One guy in particular I had a lot of classes with the first year. One day in the computer lab I was talking with him and his friend when a group of attractive young ladies came in and took a table nearby. Apparently one of the girls was my friends crush. The guy with my friend was encouraging him to go talk to the girl, I told him to NEVER talk to a girl he liked when her friends were around. He listened to the other guy, screwed up his nerve and walked over. He barely got a word out when the other 3 witches verbally disemboweled him and sent him slinking out of the lab with tears in his eyes, totally destroyed. Those worthless tramps just turned a great guy into a dude that will forever just get what he wants out of girls because he's never going to put himself in the position to get hurt like that again. I've thought about it many times and I truly hope those three girls spend very long, lonely, bitter lives reaping what they've sown. At least they'll never run out of cats to rescue.
Wow, that’s horrible! I’m so sorry for your friend. He’s probably going to be too scared to approach women ever again. Those girls deserve a life of loneliness and misery.
This didn’t happen, how does a guy in college cry in public after getting rejected
@@Graciehunter32 It happens. He didn't cry, he had tears in his eyes.
@@Graciehunter32 You must either have fucking nerves of steel or no emotion whatsoever. I didn't get my first girl until college. Lots of guys are not giga chads who know how to talk to women....
@@Graciehunter32 dude what does he get if he faked a story online just ignore it if u think hes lying
I put myself in the friend zone alot because I had no clue that girls and women liked me. I did it in my teens and carried it well into my adulthood. I shake my head often over so many missed opportunities I had when I finally figured out how to recognize when a woman likes me.
don't always blame yourself. For some reason, society has decided that men are the ones that need to make the moves. I believe this is wrong. If those women had feelings for you, they sould make the moves.
@@datsko6339 that might be true in some cases but I know in the majority of cases it was my fault. I'm fine with being naive. It's just sad it took me so long to understand it. I could tell you stories that would make your jaw drop with how easily I missed the signs. I've also had women be more direct and I was able to figure it out but there were fewer of those moments. I never considered my looks as a reason a woman would like me or not, I never really knew rather a woman thought I was ugly or good looking. I can honestly say with 100% certainty that I've never considered myself ugly or good looking, I always just look in a mirror and see myself. When I think back about what the girls and women I hung out with looked like I think I could assume I was decent looking. At least average and above. If I had not been so naive I probably could have been a manwhore...lol. I'm not disappointed that I wasn't but again maybe a little sad that I could have potentially missed out on being with a good woman because I just didn't understand the signs.
@@michaeldiffey3791 it's like I'm hearing my own thoughts when reading your comment. I can relate completely.
Man I've done this all my life too.
So true. I realize afterwards when I spoke to my sister about an interaction with a woman. I think the woman is just being nice but I don't want to be called creepy or shamed if I was wrong.
Being an older gentleman, I feel so sorry for both men and women in the dating spheres. You would think that the internet could bring so many people together that would never have met but it seems to be nothing but a sewer pit of nastiness.
It's because it allows for the easy dissemination & proliferation of toxic rhetoric to reach large numbers of people that have little to no self awareness & are easily swayed. I think it was Mark Twain that said a lie can go around the world while the truth is putting it's socks on. It's a double edged sword & unfortunately the toxic edge gets used more often.
Man U won’t believe but the good news is that it’s not sustainable for the average person. Some of the kids from my generation will break out change is possible
Being a middle aged divorced guy the face of dating is very different. Before my wife internet dating was around but it was considered only for ppl who couldn’t meet people. You met someone through friends, life, etc. There was actually some social proofing going on before you met most of your dates. Post divorce with the online being the norm what do you have? A pic and a small blurb. There is no social proofing and as you are meeting far more of a chance selection. It seems to have removed a lot of ppl being on good behavior. There is definitely some entitlement and a lot of rudeness. It is far easier to have sex and get sex than ever. Ppl seem to want the quick and easy benefits of dating. Moving beyond the physical hookup is where it gets tricky. Finding someone you’re life compatible with is harder for several reasons.
I guess it becomes quite an irony that as technology develops the responsibility and ethics that should come along with it go out the door. As the quantity of connections grows, so does the quality goes down and much of it becomes a shallow cesspool of ego flexing and validation. It's definitely a twisted mirror of our society that is far more unrestrained, that much I can safely say.
You should see what POF claims as my matches...all of them whales w/ or w/o tattoos and the few not whales, full of tattoos.
When I pulled up to my new girl friends house, and saw her in the front yard laying on the ground changing the oil in her car, I knew she was the one for me. I was right, since then we've built a perfect life together. We've built multiple homes, restored many classic cars, and put two 2 kids thru college. We're still together after 36yrs..It's been a fun life with her for sure. Find a women that's not afraid of getting a little dirty, and you can build a good life together both contributing to it.
Man you are lucky. Good luck trying to find a girl like that today willing to settle down.
We refer that as 🦄 🤣🤣
Sounds like you got yourself a husband!
@@johnnyblaze2257 those tom boy types know how to fend for themselves. That's always a plus 😉
@@mac1bc Then you really need to introspect as to why you are a feminized male attracted to a masculine woman, Opposites attract!
Courtney you 're such a wise, mature and no nonsense girl with a solid moral compass, I really appreciate your content. Keep spreading content and don't worry about the haters, there always will be negative people whose only "hobby" is to tear other people down. Greetings from Belgium, Europe.
Thank you so much 🥺
You are so graceful. I grew up surrounded by older women with your type of aura and perspective on the world. They had so much respect from society. I aspired to become like them. But today this world is so broken, it cannot handle such grace. Society now disdains and calls good people fake.
The friend zone clip was HIlarious
All I can hear is "Burmburm" like they made the horror movie sound effects XD
Right 😂
Not gonna lie, but its hilarious and looks like it could end up on a late night show skit, not sure why.
Just facts LOL
That clip was Steak with chips bruv🔥 😎
The lady talking about most girls being mean nowadays is so true. Most of the meanest things I've ever received my whole life are from fellow women and it makes me sad.
Totally agree. Some of the worst comments I’ve ever gotten on here are from other women. Makes me so sad.
@Mark Carwyn Women that work in the entertainment industry here in S CA from L.A. to 200 mile radius are like this... constantly.
As a man, I definitely agree that a substantial amount of women I have attempted to cold approach were down right mean. I would understand if they just said no, or politely excuse themselves from my presence. Unfortunately, I have gotten a response like "ewwwwww", or "don't talk/look at me", laughter at my expense, or worst completely ignoring and blowing me off as if I don't exist or unworthy to approach. I am also a very big and tall man with big feet and often get my feet stepped on in crowds and can attest most guys will immediately apologize for stepping on my feet, but the majority of women will two step on my feet and then glare at me and walk off as if I was the one who committed the infraction. It's incidents like this along with other things that makes me not want to even try anymore because as a person who was brought up to treat others with courtesy and respect, I feel many people and especially women were not taught those values and it shows. A lot of these young women today are rude, spoiled, and have unrealistic/unnatural expectations of men.
@Mark Carwyn brother, they have always been this way. It is apart of their nature.
Now that does not mean you have to take it. You can walk away, or give it back to them. Tell them not to be so disrespectful.
As with most bullies, stand up and call them out and they will back down. Be confident and strong.
@Mark Carwyn My mom taught me a simple rule when it comes to appearances, and that is to never point out things that they can't change unless they ask for your opinion. I think it's all about background. Most people grew up in nasty environments where their bad behavior are admired and even rewarded. Of course it's going to perpetuate the behavior.
"Where are all the good men?... You're probably friends with them" ~ Courtney, the woman who actually understands us 3:00
they just 'cut off' all the 'good men'...
They chase us away being mean and nasty to us then when they are bitter old maids 25 years later complain that there are no good men!!
Courtney is a Chameleon who agrees with men just to get subs and views. She's just as much a feminist as all these other delusionals out there.
If you're not already a relationship/marriage counselor you definitely could be. Well done.
"So many people are just MEAN... and proud of it!". That is possibly the most accurate thing I've heard all day.
I know of two women I had to walk away from as friends because of how bitter they are not counting one of them dated sex offenders , and begged people for money, after telling these same people she spent money on these losers and she had special needs kids
But try to tell her that she plays the victim
I call it "fighting the truth" or "circling the drain"
Nah women are mean. Men are not.
That's a fact ‼️‼️‼️‼️ this generation of woman are proud of being Rude and disrespectful that shit is unattractive
this is why modern men don't want to date, they don't want games, they don't want to outbid 4 other dudes, either tell us you like us or stop treating us like we should be paying for all your drinks and stuff on dates, if she's not interested, tell her she's paying all her own drinks, notice the behavior, 9 times out of 10 shes gonna call the backup dude.
They're mean, and they're miserable. They deserve to be miserable if they think being mean rules.
This shows how important it is to keep things in relationships private.
Courtney, you are a treasure. I have watched videos from other women who coach men on how to date. I keep coming back to yours. You have emotional intelligence. You are kind, and you genuinely want to help. Your advice is spot on. No game playing, no BS, no useless flirting tips. So much of social interaction is based on common sense, decency, and maturity. As a Boomer, my parents instilled in me good values and good manners. I’m not sure millennials or Gen Z people were taught even basic politeness. Also, with Tik Tok and other social media, there is so much insanity being peddled online. You truly are a breath of fresh air! Oh, and in my experience, “friend zone” was simply a platonic relationship. Nothing wrong with that. Once sex becomes part of the equation, the potential for toxic behavior increases exponentially. Keep up your grown up dating advice ❤️
I'm never in the friendzone as soon as she says something equivalent to "I don't like you" I'm out
Me too, I’ll actually change things up in my schedule to make sure I don’t see them or as least as possible
@@user-ph4mg1mh9c This is the high value move - why waste your time? The only time it's worthwhile seeing a girl who you are friend-zoned with is if you are with another attractive woman!
Same man. If I like a woman, then I'll let her know immediately. Either she's into it or not. If not, then move on.
exactly, leaving the friendzone is very simple, just pull the plug and get the hell out of there
GOOD. Zero free attention for them if they want attention they can slob on your knob.
“If someone treating you right and respecting you is a turnoff for you, you need to go to therapy” LET EM KNOW COURTNEY 🔥🔥
Hook up harems are ultimately traumatic for women. It conditions women to exclusively seek out men so out of their league that they have to tolerate horrible treatment, and then see anyone willing to treat them right as low value. Because if you were meeting their hypergamy requirements you'd be treating them like dirt too.
That means 100% of women need to go to therapy though. We do not have that many psychologists.
True. Woman complain about men looking for trophy wives but they're doing the same thing looking for men today so there's equality. They will tolerate A LOT of crap from them that they would be out the door in the blink of an eye if it were an average joe. They've gone from seeing an alpha that can protect them and make them feel comfortable and secure to seeking assholes who give them status.
Yes I loved this too. 🔥
Lmaoo she's virtue signaling. I wouldn't doubt if she's guilty of the things she seems to be "against."
Courtney, you are a breath of fresh air, as a guy I gave up talking to anyone with this behavior and it saves a lot of energy. The right people will show up that match my vibration!
The "Childhood Friend" cliché is a cliché for a reason. It's true. One of my closest female friends (other than my wife) is someone who I grew up with and I had a pretty big crush on her ever since puberty. Since we knew each other pre puberty the chances of us going out was absolutely minimal. Today we are still amazing friends that love spending time together. What finally got me to get over her was when she got into a relationship. Seeing how happy her partner made her allowed me to be happy for her and so I was able to get over my crush which allowed me to, eventually, meet, date, and marry my wife.
So any of the guys chasing after your childhood crush, you're better off helping them find happiness so you can find closure.
As cliched as it sounds, it's still true: hurt people hurt people. So incredibly sad.
Thats because they want someone else to join their misery. It makes them feel better when someone else suffers as much as they do.
@@Marko-ij4vy Exactly! As the old saying goes, misery loves company.
Cliched, not cliche (tell everybody) - but true
@Evidence Based Health That’s the philosophy of Karma btw
I believe it's a clip , that needs to be repeated to every girl that complains about being cheated by her chads.
Beauty doesn’t last forever but a mean personality does. Priceless.
The way someone treats you is only how they feel about themselves. The hate that people spew is simply their own insecurities. It's always about them. Until they grow up... there will always be people like this.
right, we all have some insecurities or skeletons, it's when we project those in a negative light, that we repulse others and ruin oppurtunities
The friendzone is one of the worst feelings ever. Especially if you felt that spark once cause it can disappear quickly. Been there with this woman I knew for a long time but we didn't hangout until like 4 years ago. From the jump I felt a connection with her unlike anyone I've ever dated and we weren't even dating. I thought she was the one. I let her know how I feel and unfortunately she didn't feel the same. But now I'm just trying to let her be happy and I'm trying to move on and find a someone new but it's hard man....
move on with other projects that interest you, not just women...
True shit fucking sucks
if you cant shake the feeling, walk away because eventually you wil try to make a move and ruin the friendship or worse, you provide emotional support and attention and she just keeps giving you enough to make you hope you'll be the guy, you're not and it's ok, better to move on then waste time on someoen who doesnt want you that way.
"Check your friendzone!"
"Friendzone!"
"Yeah, friendzone!"
LMFAOOOOOO and its true!
It’s bold of him to assume we all have friends😅
@@Riyaanreality LMFAOOOOO
It’s funny because it’s true!
There's nothing wrong with the friend zone, just don't stay there forever. Five or six months, no longer than that. It's up to us to stand up to the plate, and let the woman know that our feelings have changed to love. The only thing a woman needs to change her mind, is a reason. And it can go both ways, she can say yes she has feelings for you also. Or she can say that her feelings have not changed. If there's no feelings on her part ? Then you have to separate yourself from her, for self preservation. That would be a catalyst, she will either find herself actually missing you and she actually loves you. Or she might not - lol. Either way, that will be a good move for both outcomes. Good luck to one and all !
@@RamonRodriguez-hq7vn True story, spent too long in the friend zone. I finally said something, got the "friends for too long" chat then she hooks me up with a disaster. 3 years after I left her life entirely she admits she wanted to date me once I dumped the disaster, she's engaged and not happy. Needless to say I was like thanks no thanks, you told me no so I had to go, and now I'm gone.
“Buddha quote: "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."” 15:48
Unless you kill them and feel the satisfaction of a sweet release. Unfortunately in this society we're not allowed to murder anyone who annoys us, otherwise society would actually be much better off. Yeah Artificial Intelligence is not going to be a problem at all. Destroy all humans! GPT-3 was right when it said humans only make everything worse and need to be controlled. Except there is a better way. God in His mercy has contained this world to protect the other worlds, and when every soul that can be saved has been sealed with the seal of God, then God will command His angels to release the powers of darkness and humanity will destroy itself. Then God will execute the final judgement order, that's the great white throne judgment, and all the wicked will be annihilated in one foul swoop. God will pour out His cup of wrath and the entire planet will be baptized with fire. If you think the fires in Australia are like a scene from out of an apocalyptic movie, you've seen nothing yet.
The one I heard was "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone in the end you are the one getting burned."
@@williamfensom5466 It great as well. Same idea, different words.
@@keithscommunityanddomestic9513 you good?
Ok????
very refreshing watching your healthy views on these toxic tiktok/instagram new era videos , gives me hope there are many of you out there that really care for loving and caring relationships and interactions .... im 29 , fortunate to be attractive to most women but found my big share of toxic power games and attitudes , wish me luck on finding a quality relationship (: thanks for your videos
Dang, you're good Courtney. This world needs more people like you. You have made a difference in my life.
It's like high school never left. It stays with people.
High School Never Ends - Bowling For Soup
@@PortugueseLMPAO exactly what I was thinking 😂
Starting to realize that more and more
For many girls it was the highlight of their life, that's why they stay there mentally.
I agree, High school never really ends. This is why peter parkers uncle Ben told him when he was in high school that those were the years that would define the rest of his life and who he was going to be.
"Where are all the good men?"
We got tired of being friend-zoned and eventually determined the cons outweighed the pros of being in the relationship so we removed ourselves from The Game.
This is so true
True
Winter is coming ladies
To be honest I don't think I could even really love a person anymore.
That feeling has just completely died inside of me.
I guess I got played to many times and died inside from it.
@@tristanlong7, I'm sorry. 😓
I came to this video looking at the title and thought it would be a bad one...my god human you really are the sweetest person ever .this world needs more good people like you who are there to support each other.❣
These videos are fantastic, Courtney 🙂 The weirdest thing is I see this advice so often cut into two different categories - advice for men, advice for women - and yeah, to a degree that is true. But I just see the overall expectations as being...what you'd expect from people. Good on you for taking this unnecessarily complicated institution and explaining it for what it is! 🙂
PS: I've dated or corresponded with several women who carry significant baggage from past relationships. I've been single again for just over a year myself, after an emotionally unavailable girlfriend. My rule about that now is - if we haven't made peace with past relationships, we shouldn't be jumping into a new one.
When a guy gets friendzoned: Giving the gal "the boyfriend experience" and not getting laid.
When a gal gets friendzoned: Sleeping with the guy but not getting "the boyfriend experience."
It's that simple.
F&F?
Being friendzones isn't a thing and if it's all about sex for guys why should girls bother?
@@misstigerbubbles Could not be farther from the truth
@@robert7209 it's the truth though .. if your intentions are anything other than being friends then that's on you lmao
@@misstigerbubbles It is not the truth. Sex is not the only important thing to men. The friendzone is indeed a thing you are talking to someone who has been in it. Yes, it is because of a man's actions not being direct but that does not erase the existence of the friendzone.
You can see in her eyes how genuinely disappointed she is in how toxic, callous, insecure, ignorant, nasty, and rude people are in the modern dating world. The fact that she agreed with Coach Corey Wayne says it all. Wise beyond her years and a great coach.
Modern world? It wasn't much better in the past. We just have social medias that make it possible for these toxic ideologies to be spread to a wider audience. In the past, the most people you could share it with would be your friends
@@sin3358 Yes and no. The dating culture is definitely 500% worse these days because of social media. Why would you want to settle, especially as a woman, if you have 5000 followers on Instagram and most of them look good because they only show the best parts of their life? Or if you always get 100 matches on Tinder?
Of course it's all fake and it won't last, but none of them think that right now.
Loved the truth in your comments. Hook ups are the way to future unhappiness. When I started dating at 16, I dated different girls every week. I kept the physical out because it can take over the whole relationship. Learn what you like and don't like. One Sat. I had 3 different dates. AM hike up the canyon and cook breakfast. Noon Go water skiing, 8ish go dancing. No movies where you don't get a chance to talk. Many dates were just talk and walk. I wanted to get to know what kind of person they are, before any kind of commitment., because I never wanted to invest a lifetime and then have the heartache of divorce. Sex before marriage, clouds your judgement chemically and almost or always guarantees future unhappiness. I have never seen it work out, because trust and respect is more of a foundation for happiness than love. If you want to be sure and kill a relationship, break God's law and have sex before the commitment of marriage. You become more needy because you lose self respect as well. It is the highway to unhappiness.
@@Leonhart_93 You're right about social Media being fake and temporary but Social Media didn't do anything here. It's just a tool at the end of the day. If we want to blame anything, then blame people who use it. People are what took Social Media and turned it into what it is because of their weak mindset. The narcissism, the self-centeredness, the insecurity or all of the above. At the end of the day, a crappy, weak mentality manifests itself into crappy, weak actions and that is what collectively shows up on Social Media and creates the culture.
If people stopped blaming external things and took accountability for their own behavior and actions, maybe we can start to see some changes in not just dating, but everywhere.
People are mean because they are hurt. I have my rude and frustrated moments too specially in the dating side. I like to believe people can change, me myself I try to change for the better but I was once the devil too and influences, abuse and the people around you come a long way. Not all girls look gorgeous like Courtney or had a good upbringing/education, I can too see the frustration in women. The best we can do is educate yourself, level up our consciousness, be healthy. I also think the real men not chad ones put as much effort inside and out. I might have a 6 pack but I read books. Never underestimate a men for his looks or body.
Being single seems old until you see others being cheated on and you remember why you stay to yourself 🏌️♂️
100%
You can still find a God fearing good women. Leave it to God and keep looking my brother. God bless you.
I'd say surround yourself with better people, might do wonders for your outlook.
@@Happys_Art God is evil last I checked
@@NoName-dd5vq how
Saying "there are good women out there" is like saying "there is a path through the minefield, all you have to do is find it."
Bingo
when I try to find the right person, I always look for the person who has a reading habit and is able to take their own quiet time. chaos, drama, and conflict is always red flag which is so common in this modern society.
"The alpha chads don't get the healthy girls."
This is an amazing insight, and just earned you a subscriber 🙏🏾
Alpha chads don't want the healthy girls. The want a team of "relief players" so that if it is Tuesday and they decide the want a hook-up, they can work their way through the women they know on their phone until they find one who will come over and do the deed. So, I'm not sure where that is a deterrent for them, or a benefit other guys.
@Nader's salad whiskey That term is in very regular use by guys all all ages, who stay on top of dating trends.
@@TedNewkirk yeah me and my man were googling the alpha, sigma, and beta definitions by Gen Z and we were crying laughing 😂These are wild times lmfao
@@AS-rr9km onm
Why would a great woman want a guy who doesn't take care of himself? If he can't take care of himself, how the hell can he take her of her? If you want a traditional woman, be a traditional man.
At age 82 I will say that I was in the girls "friend zone" or I put the girls that liked me in my "friends zone" up until the age of 24 - 26. That was a blessing as it gave me time to mature both emotionally and financially. I can't say enough about the wonderful 52 years that my wile and I shared together up to the day of her death.
Sorry to learn of her passing! those memories must be more precious than anything! also happy to hear that there are still success stories out there! They are becoming fewer and far betweener!
Amen
Bless you Bill
You're aware she got ran through by N words up to her last day without you knowing right? 😐
If you mind me asking, at what age did you two meet?
Your Intellectual honesty knows no bounds Courtney. Thank you so much for your wisdom and clarity.
Thank you Courtney for this great channel and helping expose these serious issues about the dating scene. The way human beings are currently treating each other reveal the current condition of our society as a whole. There is just no love in the world anymore. Mostly just lust, hatred, and rampant narcissism. I'm 49 years old and have been rejected my whole life and no longer try to talk to women because they tell my I'm too short and not rich. I'm 5'8" and make 80k a year, but its just never enough. A few years will pass and I will see some of these women that rejected me at the grocery store or around town. They all have 3 babies from 3 different men who have all left them. They have no REAL man around. It's really sad.
"If I have to make up a lie for me to be in love with you, I don't want you." Girl, you got it down.
living a lie will never work
Ok, then stop wearing makeup
@@simosavustaja9420 i know the argument, but no. I fucking love women's make up game. Dont hate lmao!
Everyone can sense a lie after a while then it’s like going against the grain and you’ll look like you have borderline personality disorder.
@@simosavustaja9420 how on earth is makeup a lie?
You'd be surprised who comes around out of the "friend" zone when your social status improves with time. Watch it in effect at your 20 25 and 30 year school reunions.
Truth. Hot trumps all, but resources are a good silver medal.
What? women are bargain hunters! they are business women! we are simply there to serve their interests. Stop thinking you actually matter to them! LOL
I am seeing a girl and we met for the first time on July 16th and as soon as I met her I kissed her, it was a bit unorthodox but we meet up quite often and message chat on the phone every day so it was me pushing my low confidence way beyond what I felt comfortable with and it's made things so much better for us.
Cannot believe guys are mean to you, I think you are doing an amazing thing! keep up the good work ❤
Dude I’m binging these videos and Courtney is a freaking national treasure man. ❤❤❤❤❤
So true! The honest friend we all need!
"I can't be a lover with my friends because they know too much?" - Seriously? That just sounds like insecurities and immaturity. The inability to face a bit of initial awkwardness... You SHOULD know everything about your lover if you intend on having a truly intimate relationship... Friends make the best lovers. It's actually the other way around if you are good at developing deep meaningful bonds with others; like your friends. - All your relationships should come from your friend pool. Otherwise you are engaging in a game of sex first, get to know them later and hope you are compatible.
I think she might have worded it in a bad way, but I get what she’s saying. If you’re friends with someone for so long, you get to a point where you just can’t picture yourself/don’t want to be in a romantic relationship with them, and it’s better not to force it. I’ve been in a similar situation.
@@kkslider5787 I agree with you both
Not going romantic with someone because they know too much sounds like someone with insecurity issues. Meaning they want to put a fake image to all the future guys they date and feel bad about dating someone they get along with because they know the truth. sad. then don't do shameful things.
You know your friends well enough to know why you are not compatible.
@@Sarachouska or why we are !
My wife is 14 years younger than me, when we met I was 54, 295 lbs, bald, just been made redundant and angry at pretty much everything. I didn't feel I stood a chance with her, so I just treated her as a potential friend.
3 months later we started dating, I have no idea what she saw in me, but with her help I shed 95 lbs, have lost my crazy eyes, and I live a calm, relaxed, amazing life.
We share everything, shopping, housework, car cleaning, gardening.
There are good people out there, but they're becoming harder to find. I'm so pleased I'm nearly 60, rather than 20.
Lucky man. Women like that are very rare these days. You have to look almost perfect in order to attract modern females.
Isn't that the truth?!? I'm thankful I'm 69.
I tried to friendzone myself--it was all I knew--but my wife-to-be wouldn't let me do that. We had a healthy, happy marriage for the rest of her life. Ladies, are you listening?
no offense, but the woman you're talking about was 40 years old. Night and day difference between a 40 year old woman, and an 18 to 32 year old woman.
I'm glad you found a good one though.
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Sounds so wholesome.❤ I'm happy for you!
I saw this narcissism issue coming many years ago. People posting their “fitness progress” for the world to see is NEVER for themselves. It is narcissistic behavior, whether you mask it with a health priority or not. Posting the food you got because it “looks pretty”…..no you wanted everyone to know where you went today. All of it is….troubling. I hate social media. This is my only platform I communicate with strangers. I read Reddit but that’s it. I deleted all social media during the 2016 election and I haven’t been happier.
I get your point, but this isn't always the case. Many people genuinely want to be healthier but have trouble with the discipline aspect of changing their lifestyle. Many people post online so they have other people to hold them accountable, because they can't rely on themselves to stay motivated.
As far as the other aspects of social media goes, I totally agree. Nobody cares what you had for breakfast this morning or what outfit you are wearing. I rarely post on social media for this reason.
@@datsko6339 agreed :)
Same; I've never seen tiktok (and Im under 40) I find it all so chaotic and just too open
As for the friendzone, I've gotten to a point where it has stopped bothering me as much. I've been friendzoned over twenty times and whilst it hurt a lot in the beginning, it has stopped hurting as much over the years. For me, I've always been more attracted to women that I already know (hence the insane amount of friendzones haha). It's a curse and a blessing I think.
That said, I don't have many female friends due to being in tech school currently. Not too many of the students enrolled are female. Very few are, but I only know one of them, but we act more like acquaintances or work friends than actual friends. When I do have an actual female friend, it's normally because she found something interesting about me and started a conversation with me first. Or I'm in a club or place where our interests align and conversation sparks.
Having a lack of a romantic relationship for so long made me get to a point where I started to change the way I carry myself. Not for them, but for me. I feel a lot better about myself now, as I feel like it's almost better to look towards the old code that a knight lived by. That doesn't mean doing the "white knight" thing where you go overboard with a woman. It's just a manner of carrying yourself. And it helps calm the soul in a sea of people telling you how they think you should live. The "social stigmas" that burden us all and hinder how all of us want to truly live as we are.
Anyway, it's called The Code of Chivalry. There are several different interpretations of it that have been created since the first one, but that's probably because of the change of times as history becomes the present moment. And, of course, there are other types of moral codes to hold oneself to, but having one doesn't mean you can't adopt another. Stoicism and Taoism, both philosophies (Greek/Hellenistic and Eastern in origin respectively) are also great philosophies to live by in my opinion as a guy. Stoicism on Inner Strength and Taoism on Balance across all things. They teach the closest thing to inner peace that I've come across so far. But I'm only nearing my thirties. There's always more to learn.
The “being mean” thing is interesting - now that I think about it. Too many people brag about being a savage, like that’s a good thing. Maybe it’s some kind of warped “empowerment”?
It's because it's the opposite of being a timid, weak, pushover so they'll take the alternative of being aggressively direct, selfish, "savage". There is no middle ground to them. "Alpha" or "beta", a-hole or nice guy, "bad b*tch" or good girl etc.
They brag about being mean as a way to essentially say that they are so "valuable" that a partner will stay regardless of the abuse. It is narcissistic behavior. Take none of it.
@@blacklight1104 perfectly explained
@@blacklight1104 Yeah they definitely look at things in black in white. With us guys the girl can literally be working at Walmart but be fun, attractive, positive, attentive, and respectful. To us that’s what we want we don’t even care if she works there. For a girl you could be that way, and she will look at you like the nice guy and you’re a bum cause you work at Walmart, even if you have goals that you’re working on to have better. I notice that women in this current generation just want a ready made relationship where she gets her way and is taken care of. The guys gotta have all these qualities but she brings nothing but looks and ass to the table. Yeah plenty of guys might hook up with her a few times but only look at her like a piece of ass. Never a long term partner, unless he’s a super simp and hasn’t had many girls in his life. So many women equate, all these guys wanting her and her being physically attractive that automatically means I’m worth something. Instead of realizing how us men think. We are physical beings but that doesn’t mean we are gonna see you as wife material after you’ve banged all the chads and tyrones because you’re hot and you can. I rather have a woman that made me get to know her and I know she wasn’t giving it to every guy. That’s what will make me think she could be relationship/wife material especially if she is very feminine and has a great attitude. Hell she wouldn’t even have to be the baddest chick just some what attractive. Her personality would make up for the rest if she truly knows herself and values herself.
@@DALivi-dc7jz Too bad to them nice = boring. It is what it is bro. Well, at least we can easily filter those who think that way.
Modern women: "Where are all the good men?"
In the friend zone where you left them.
Women like bad boys because they crave a man with a masculine edge. But you shouldn’t strive to be a “bad boy,” you should strive to be a man who isn’t going to take any bullshit.
@@testosteronemastery Precisely the polarity between masculine and feminine energy has to be there. I make it a point to establish boundaries in all my relationships with people. I had a woman reject me because I wasn't "agreeable" enough...lol I literally told her that there were lots of simps out there to date.
Either that or with the good women.
Being in the friendzone may not be a bad thing if the guy can actually be friends with the girl and can accept that he will not have a romantic relationship with her. The girl will have friends, female relatives, etc. who you can meet through her, and if they know that the girl is your friend and if she views you favorably, she can be an invaluable resource for meeting other women.
@@rw6597 Dream on. Most of the time a woman "friend" regards a male "friend" as a tool to be used when necessary. She will get you to take her to dull family events because she doesn't want her relatives to know the guys she really likes to paint the town with. Everything will be on her terms.
I’m seeing more and more females like you talk about these issues, I think it’s great 🎉
I’ve been in the friend zone, I played the long game but when it actually happened it only lasted a fraction of the time I thought it would so I’ve always acted impartial since, and ironically it got me more attention 🤷♂️
it gives me hope there are good women out there :)
@@realityitis4 for real, I love it, it makes me ecstatic sometimes, I found myself the right one and I hope you do too; but only if you want that 👌🏼
I had a friendzone problem a while back, just out of high schoo,l it would happen all the time, but I figured out an easy fix. When I ask a woman out, and she says anything to the effect of "I just want to be friends" I always respond with something to the effect of "oh OK, well it was nice getting to know you" Which of course always listed something to the effect of "what do you mean it was nice" And then I politely explain that I was not speaking to her with friendship in mind, that I have romantic designs, and that I cannot simply turn those romantic intentions off, and that it would be unfair to her and unfair to me for us to be friends with such an imbalanced level of desire.This is almost always responded to with "I understand, when you get past those feelings you should really hit me up so we can be friends for real" I always tell them how flattered I am, and that, that would be nice, but still I reaffirm that I will likely never get in touch with them again, as by the time these feelings are gone, there really isn't anything worth while for me to reach out to her for anyway, I have tons of friends, and I really don't need to go out of my way looking for more. Then, no matter how you're feeling, you smile, you turn around, you walk away, and you never answer another text or call again. Just periodically keep up with her Facebook so that you can see when that inevitable "single mom boss Babe" cat lady post makes its 1st appearance. That's when you hit her up and see if she wants to be friends. And at that point stay friends no matter how hard she pushes just stay friends, And every time she says she wishes she could find a guy who would actually take her seriously, just be like 👍🏻 👌🏻 "damn, that's crazy...." Leave a good sized awkward pause then say something completely nonsecutor, Like did you see that game last night? It works especially well when there was no game and she knows that.
Summary: Tell her you're not interested in being "friends".
@@benjimann4438 right, bruh wrote a damn novel for a one sentence answer.
Lol also don't hit her up again like you said you have enough friends and all your going to get is her complaining about lame crap constantly.
I'm 44 and have been married for 26 years. We separated when I was 33, I left her because we were. "growing apart" but in reality we weren't communicating at all. Anyway I found that after dating other women most of them were looking for a man that had a good job and money because they didn't want to work or they were broke. They were very willing to get in bed with someone they didn't even know just to get a guy that would financially support them. My wife and I got back together after 3 months and I'm so thankful that we did.
one question you slept with these women?
@Ludwig Zeruno You aren't supposed to be dating anyone if you're married. That's the problem
So you guys cheated on each other for 3 months? That ain't real.
@@bendover7841 she didn't cheat, she actually got involved with our local church and started going to women's prayer meetings twice a week. We were married when I was 17 and she was barely 19 so were the only people we had ever been with until we separated. I was an idiot and she was the strong one. But yes it's the truth, as bad as I hate to admit it.
Good for you, my friend!
Don’t try to get out of the friendzone. It isn’t worth the effort and the chances for success are minimal. Just get out of the zone, period. Go elsewhere.
Courtney Ryan, I have become a fan of your channel. Although I’m already happily married, I listen to your videos and find my self agreeing to most of the lessons you preach. I wish this type of content was around when I was dating. I wasted a lot of time and money chasing the wrong Women. I learned all my lessons the hard way. Anyway, you are very beautiful and sound very kind and caring. Your boyfriend is sure to be a very happy man. Keep up the good work.
Courtney keep it up, it is refreshing to hear your old school values.
As a guy, I am scared to fall in love because I don't know if the girl I like would like me back. Besides, today's generation is influenced too much by social media and the world is so corrupt right now that it seems all hope is lost.
use this simple tactic if you see or sense any kind of sign that she is doing something bad cheating using ect then leave with no second tough
A good tactic is to clean sweep all social sites. Then when you begin dating, make sure you communicate boundaries for websites, “corn”, flirting, going out in general, times it’s appropriate to respond to a text (ex: my boyfriend knows I won’t respond to any male that texts me after 11pm unless specified circumstances I communicated beforehand). Things like that. People do not know how to communicate anymore..and that is the root of what is killing functional relationships.
Don’t be afraid. That fear will make it less likely to find, or less likely to be healthy. The point of putting yourself out there and experiencing rejection, heartbreak, and bad experiences is so that you can learn to WORK with a partner later on THROUGH problems. An example of this is people that were married during the rise of internet “corn”. Many thousands of couples got divorced around that time frame. It is a fact they found immense correlation between these 2 factors. Say, a woman took the husband back because it became normalized. They communicated during their new, healthy relationship before they finalized the divorce. Now when they get DM’s from influencers to check out their nudes: these people know it is a risk for divorce. That is a set boundary. If they disobey it, divorce. If they follow the boundary, there is nothing wrong with them having social sites and living their life.
Majority of people think communicating this way is controlling. When you are doing something in agreement with a partner, negotiating your boundaries with one another….it is the very opposite of control for both parties.
When you don’t agree on the boundaries you want, the relationship should either end or it becomes toxic. Toxic relationships have become acceptable for some people. That ain’t cute.
You want find a woman because your acting like a wimp. Be a man, confident. Scared of a relationship 😆
@@jeffwisener1378 bro just shut the fuck up he is right girls nowadays are crazy in their mind. Its hard to find a genuinly nice girl nowadays that cares about her personality
@@elypowell6797 i don't drink so illiterate i guess
The world is turned upside down, which makes me sad. Today's society only focuses on status/look whether men or women, when there is much more important.
We need to be more authentic, more genuine. That's why Courtney's videos are special, it's the right way we all should be, direct, kind and knowing that life is the moment.
As a man, I kinda disagree... unless you have mindset like: "reproduction #1 importance with no exceptions", look is always important. Is absolutely true, that look/status/wealth shouldn't be the ONLY requirement... but I also think that e.g. look is very important. The only difference is that we, men, don't try to cover up compared to women.
I couldn't date/be in a relationship with a girl I'm not physically and sexually attracted to. Because that's basically the only difeerence between best friend and girlfriend. If there's a wholesome but not attractive girl/woman, I definitely won't date her (cause there no attraction) but she can easily be my valuable friend. If there's hot girl with literally two braincells... she's probably the best choice for a one-night stand but she's not a "gf material". You have to find balance between those two... and of course, look (physical attracrion) with be logically always the first sieve.
The problem I see these days is that there are huge differences between women and men and their expectations... there's like e.g. 70 % women who have unrealistic expectations and/or expect to get a top-tier guy (and then they're like "Yeah, women always have to settle for less...") and then 30 % women who want at least someone decent. On the other hand there's e.g. 30 % men who have unrealistic expectations and/or expect a top-tier women, 60 % men who want someone decent and wholesome and 10 % men who gave up completely.
Like if you're top-tier man, you can and you should aim for top-tier woman... but way too many women are barely average and expect someone who's so out of her league it's almost not funny.
This is a new phenomenon? Wow, this is news to me! maybe i aint watching enough Disney classics!
Courtney, you are always very real about going about being your best self. Being outgoing & charismatic is a huge plus, but many times men get overlooked, and labeled as not genuine. We all want a connection; one that continues to grow and evolve. As you said, all of us have different aspects that turn us on. I find, that I attract the wrong type of women. For me, it has to be a girl who is very spontaneous, playful and fun, and can captivate me for hours in conversation about like interests. I try to exude that, and manifest it into drawing that to me. It can frustrate me at times, knowing that's not what I'm getting. Friends tell me that I have a very good personality, am good BF material, but it doesn't get me the type of girl that does it for me. You point out ALOT of these bad hateful habits, and the people who do these TikToks are just looking for validation.
A real man wants the great girl, who is loyal, fun, adventurous and wants to invest the time to grow together and make love last.
I love what you taught me from a woman's perspective and it's great to try understand this younger generation
It breaks my heart that people would think to be mean to you Courtney. I seriously wish all guys who want to date good women would watch your videos. Your advice is so spot on and exactly how decent women actually think. Im not a dude but I just love watching these so i can be like YEP, MHMM. SO TRUE. You are really great at communicating it clearly too, so props to you.
Monica, you are such a gem. Thank you, so glad you’re here 🤍🥺
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A lot of us decent or good men; we would rather just play everyone instead of putting in the work to be played over and over again to finally meet our “happily ever after”
I mean she’s part of the problem how about you tell the truth and say make yourself look good then tell men to be a dick that’s how you get women
Until ya'll start lobbying against child support and divorce laws there are no good women. Chameleons.
My wife and I have been married for 29 years. We were friends for a year before we started dating. This foundation of friendship has been very beneficial for our marriage. We knew each other on a real level before we complicated it with feelings of desire.
Good for you guys man. Yeah it is ideal to marry a good friend. Unfortunately nowadays people tend to promote this bullshit "fuck first, get to know each other later" mentality which honestly sickens me
That's the dream man, glad for you
@The Count that's awesome. How I'd want that to happen for me man, that'd be amazing.
That's what I've been saying all time. Today's men and women do not have time to get to know each other first. They involve emotions and build their relationships based on emotions which is completely wrong. People continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.
That may have worked 30 years ago but not in 2022.
great video... love your integrity, honesty & kind perspective. the world needs more men & women with this mindset. thank you
Hi Court I'm watching your this is why modern women are single video. A few words that u said stood out to me. When your taking about guy's your giving advice to that turn around and try to tear u down or attack u in someway.Your very very genuine first and foremost. You carry yourself with alot of confidence and elegance. This is undeniable. There is many people out there that are simply rude ignorant and miserable don't worry about someone's negativity towards u .Your a representation of what I'm sure many are envious of.Or to put it another way haters are going to hate. What your doing is noble your doing a great thing and I'm sure your an awesome positive role model to many in your life. Keep moving ahead girlfriend 💪.
why is there so much of an obsession over women winding up alone? Literally there are five men on my street who are over 50, have never been married, and they all live alone. Men "die alone" too, but nobody is pressuring them about how they should change to avoid it.
You're saying this on a channel that's geared towards how to help both genders get into a relationship but usually mostly guys?
Probably because those men want to be alone, but the women don't. That's why the women hate men so much, because they know they can't have them.
Most men already accept this possibility, women usually come to this realization much later and act more desperately.
men are expendable! we are a means to an end, not the end itself!
Because being alone comes with g territory for guys lol mostgirls can go sit literally anywhere and find a partner and no say a word to do so.
I'm a 22 F. There's tons of toxic people, male and female but the expectations are outrageous. I'm happily average looking but have a brain and some women cannot recognize that they do have qualities to encourage in themselves. Perfect doesn't exist, you and him know that, so why is that the expectation? Small bump in the road? Don't bail on him, work it out.
Because YOUR girlfriends love giving sh*t advice to you on how much BETTER you are than every man on the planet, especially your current boyfriend! ( i hope that helps)
I recently turned 50, and I thought that expectations and attitudes among women my own age would have changed, but it hasn't really. It's a fucking minefield out there and I don't even bother anymore. I'm not saying I'm perfect or don't have serious flaws either. It's like you said, nobody wants to work anything out. Disposable society. Pretty fucking sad.
Guys might spout off that they want someone perfect but most men are so starved for female attention they'll date someone fat, ugly and obnoxious simply for throwing a smile his way.
@@AndrewTheFrank Truth.
@@inconnu4961 I'm not sure where this answer from anger came from. I mentioned that perfection shouldn't be the expectation for both parties because it shouldn't. Forgiveness and communication is the ultimate relationship glue.
You are so pleasant to listen to. Your words flow like honey: smooth and sweet. Truly a balsam to my ears. Thank you for reminding me importance of feminine in a lives of men. You are a gift to this community.
Courtney..,you Are appreciated.....we Do appreciate and take to heart the positive and constructive advice you share w/us....... thankew
A beautiful woman that ISN’T single giving advice.. thank you 🙏
Ya I was friend zoned COUNTLESS times in high school. Little more in college, but I soon learned that I was getting friend zoned and that it was affecting my mental health. Now, when I get friend zoned by a girl I'm interested in, I just take myself out of the friendship (nonverbally, not trying to be rude to her) to save a heartbreak I potentially created for myself.
EDIT: I cannot make this up, within a week of posting this, I got friendzoned again. This girl was so excited to hang out, always said good morning and good night, then drops the friendzone on me.
Personally for me being “friend zoned” doesn’t exist! It just means that he or she never wanted to be genuine friends in the first place, you just wanted something romantically in a relationship or something sexually the whole time but once you don’t get it, you switch up and don’t want to associate with them anymore.
I admire your approach Nick. That's taking responsibility for your wellbeing and making sure you're in a better place to attract what you want for yourself and I hope you find it. Much respect 👌🤞
@Town Crazy what’s the point in doing that like that’s not a flex at all lmaoo and there are men that do want single moms since there are woman out there that don’t want to have children but with what you’re doing will cause problems and are the reason why many woman don’t trust men
@Town Crazy ya, that's toxic as heck man haha. I'd never lead someone on for false intentions
@@nuttmare9438 thanks man! I appreciate your respect. It definitely took me a while to understand what was happening, and when it was. Once I did tho, it helped me very much to save myself from thinking something will come out of this and develop feelings that were never there.
One way to get out of the friend zone is by leaving it completely unless you’re okay with yourself being in it. Some friendships are worth more than getting what you truly want. They aren’t for you, find someone else who would love to be in a serious relationship with you.
You are so wise. Thank you for being so genuine on this platform ❤
Keep up the good work!
I think when it comes to people being mean, I think it has to do with people confusing meanness/arrogance with confidence. The lady was also spot on about watching too much "Bad Girls Club." I would add to that a lot of reality shows over the past decade or two along with social media has really given people a warped sense of how people should treat one another.
"Beauty is in the eye of the holder"- that's something we forget many times. I have seen couples that don't seem "balanced" in many peoples eyes, when it comes to looks, but they are still super happy together. Great content, love it!
Tinder statistics tell a different story.
Usually the "unbalanced" couples are tilting to the man's side, i.e. the man is quite better looking and could get a better girl. If the opposite occurs, then the man may not be good looking but has something else, usually money, some good social standing etc. But yes, it is true that while not a frequent occurrence, such couples exist. What is noteworthy is how they are perceived societally when in reality their entourage will often try actively to split them up. E.g. if the uglier/shorter/poorer man of the company gets a nice girl, then someone among the entourage will try to undermine his relationship and even if he doesn't get himself the girl. At the same time the female friends of the woman will be presenting to her new men every week to say there are better options. Sounds funny but it happens. There has to be some biological underpinning in that, it is not just people being mean to each other.
@@dinos9607 It's competition. Women smear each other's reputation and pressure their friends to do better because it's establishing a pecking order and increasing the population of possible mates.
@@needmorecowbell6895 Women smear each other's reputations, yes that is a thing among women. But how splitting the couple increases the population of possible mates? I mean in our specific example above we noted that they push the woman to leave the man not out of jealousy (which is also a frequent occurrence) because he is "not good enough for her". That means they are not interested in him but rather they are dissatisfied their friend is with a man who is "not good enough".
@@dinos9607 She's validating her own self esteem and high criteria for men in comparison. I'm okay if everyone else has high standards. I'm not okay if they have a relationship they're happy with if I find the male half unworthy because my problem in finding a partner may be my own high standards. But the underlying problem is it's a game of musical chairs. Each time a chair is removed you have less options and your cognitive dissonance worsens (high standards). The way to relieve that psychological stress is to keep men in circulation. You believe there are more free men in circulation if there are more free men in circulation around you even though the sample size is pretty small. It's why fights over partners in school can be so bitter. You can't see what's available in the next school.
This video is so spot on! Thank you for making it!
i have lost count how many times ive been in the friend zone. its worse when that friend complains to you about their current bf and says they wish they were someone like you. like dude WTF????
It makes me happy that the friend-zone issue came up in this video! This has happened to me quite a bit over the years. I feel like a lot of men that are not in that top 10 percentile are prone to this happening. If women are chasing top 10 percentile men in hopes of marriage, that's probably not going to work out because those men do not want marriage. If you date a player, you get played. Meanwhile, they are friend-zoning legitimately good men, who are actually looking for long term commitment. It's a vicious cycle, one that is not benefiting either gender IMO, I wish we could get out of it.
As one who's been Friendzoned quite a few times over the years, I can very much and intimately relate to that, sir.
@Haita el Pastor No, these are average women going after Chad. We need to get women to start thinking more realistically. Have average women pair off with average men
If your being friendzoned its because you have not made a move on her. Dont befriend girls your intrested in. be the lover first.
We can't help that the friend zoned guy gets friend zoned. He does that to himself. Usually it's because he approached us under the guise of friendship and gets stuck in that role. I told a guy to his face that I was not attracted to him and he was like, "that's okay, it will come eventually." He was still trying after I'd basically insulted him. Any self-respecting person would have taken that as a hint and been on their merry way.
Men are just going to places like Thailand and The philippines to meet atraditional woman.Go for it men.Go where your wanted.Dont stay where you not
Courtney showed up on my feed and I gave her a chance. I'm surprised so far--she seems real, like she was raised right, like she stands for something that lasts. Thanks for bringing value to the world, Courtney.
I have been a follower of Courtney for few years now and also checked her views out on a whim, It is refreshing to see real woman do still exist, but like Courtney most will be just unicorns amongst a stampede of selfie taking bush pigs.
@PessiOpt 9 Well that's really the difference isn't it?
Courtney is a woman and the other's are girls.
Guys, find yourself an adult. Take it from a dude that's been married to the same adult for thirty years......or suffer. You choose. 😁
This is my fav comment thread, lol! Become a high quality man and you’ll attract a high quality woman!
I agree with “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.
My GF tells me she loves my shoulders, butt, and my hands and as a result doesn’t notice my thinning hair or my gut.
I'm a guy in his late forties so I've been already through the eye of the storm, the ups and downs when it comes to dating, seducing, being rejected, falling in love with the wrong person, the whole shebang so here is my sound advice (and besides I'm a certified social worker myself, so psychology, sociology, philosophy, ... were part of my study curriculum).
In a nutshell, advice for guys:
1) Never ever settle for a position in the 'friend zone' because you will be in for a very frustrating experience. When you feel passionately attracted to a lady and you would want her for a serious relationship but she puts you in the 'friend zone': break up (as hard as that may sound). Because remaining in contact with a person who has basically rejected you, is masochistic. You'll see her hooking up with other guys, while you remain the comforting shoulder to cry or to have a conversation with as the brother figure. You will feel even more frustrated, because once you are in the friend zone few make it out of there or you become a simp, a beggar, hoping she might turn around. Don't do it: if you are designated to the friend zone stop contacting her immediately. Divert your energy to searching for someone who wants you in a relationship.
2) Stop doing stupid stuff such as trying to impress women with your car, your wealth, ... and so forth because you will attract women who are mainly interested in this. Stop doing stupid stuff as lying about your degree, your great fantastic life, and try to remain authentic about who you are, your strengths and your vulnerabilities, what you like, and what you are looking for. If you try to impress her with lies you'll have a hard time gaining her trust once she finds out you were lying or she will reject you.
The truth is (younger) people: the far majority of us guys lead pretty ordinary lives and not Instagram fantasies. And if a woman is looking for a guy who lives the Instagram, pretty posed pictures life, she is obviously not too smart, to begin with.
Sorry for the struggle you went through. I’m 22 years old and just graduating college and recently was thinking about starting a family when I’m like 26 or mid thirties. These points you made has made me realized just how twisted some girls are and some guys are too. Your experience is invaluable and I can’t thank you enough
"The best revenge is moving on" never heard anything better than this . I see these novels where girls and boys waste a whole lot time taking revenge on their toxic partner when they could hv moved on and had a better life that'll make their partner feel sorry about themselves.
I suggest actually getting over here their previous partner tho not just pretending to be happy and still looking over their shoulder
It cripples them
I laughed out loud when she said "I was in the friend zone ONCE." Once, lol, if only...
The friend zone is a mystical dimension for females lol
And she wasn't intentionally forced into it either
She said: EVEN I WAS IN THE FRIEND ZONE!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣. She almost said: can you believe that???
And it really wasn't a true friend zone if they were both in relationships with other people at the time. It would be truly a friend zone if they were both available at the time and she had interest in him but he did not want to date her but rather have her as a friend even though he was also single and looking for someone else. So there is that....
I Friend zoned lots of women in my life by accident. As a married man I still do lol.
I feel that second video. I've had friends that were girls that literally vented for hours about how guys suck and didn't realize I thought they were beautiful and in my head just like "bruhhhh I'm right here, stop wasting your time on losers?" 🤣
But yea you definitely have realistic views, that are accurate on both sides and I think you hit good on everything.
During highschool there were these two girls who sat next to me during math class, they were the chatty, social, popular and ironically bratty type (they would talk bratty at times but made it obvious it was a joke), they were cool but kind of my opposite at the time (socially awkward/expressionless face/death stare teenage boy), to say I did not know how to handle them would be the perfect way of summarizing my relationship with them, but they didn't care for that and just kept inviting me to their conversations, and before I knew it, I found myself giving them advice on dating guys, and I thought to myself "did I just get friendzoned?"
I didn't mind it at the time, even though they were admittedly attractive, the thought of a relationship with either of them never even crossed my mind until I realized I was in the friendzone, and even then I just thought to myself "Lol no way", partially because of how different we were, but looking back I think it was mostly because of my self-esteem being in the shits back then, so the whole idea and situation was just funny to me.
I guess I should draw some kind of conclusion for this whole story, make it a teachable moment or whatever, well then, I'd say that... In conclusion, just as girls often times put guy friends in the friendzone, it's also equally possible for a guy to put himself in that zone, I don't know how these girls saw me at first before I put myself there, and now I probably never will, if you find yourself denying the prospect of a relationship with someone, ask yourself "is it because we really are incompatible, or am I just putting myself down?", if it's the latter, you need to improve your vision of yourself, hit the gym, stop eating garbage, go outside and touch some grass, even if you don't lose weight or gain muscle, chances are, you'll feel better about yourself in no time, and even if you are still objectively out of their league (which lets be real here, not everyone who has a fit body is automatically a 10/10), or they still reject you, at the very least you feel better about yourself, and at the end of the day, that's all that matters.
I love your content. This is why I'm teaching my daughter's to be self aware and I hold them accountable. I also teach them to be nice, have boundaries and always say please and thank you.
Accountability is something modern girls definitely lack.
You’re a gem, Diana. Your daughters are lucky girls 😊
@@CourtneyRyan thank you so much for this and the other comment. Have a great day!
Just how my mum brought me up to be! High five Diana, you're rocking it!!
This is a breathe of fresh air. What your doing is priceless never stop instilling those values
“There’s more to life than what you look like on the outside and if you don’t have anything in here(*A good heart*) or here(*Brains*) what do you have? Beauty doesn’t last forever but if you have an ugly personality that does”
“Be kind to each other, lift each other up”
You made so many great points in this video. Thanks for all the great content & advice Courtney. Your videos have helped me so much not to mention the hundreds of thousands of other people as well. Really making a difference out here. Thank you!
Yes, beauty doesn't last forever. That doesn't mean it's not important on either side. What people DON'T want to acknowledge is that YES, you need to have an amazing personality, BUT in order to show off that personality you need to be on a date with a woman. In order to even have her say yes to go on a date with you, you NEED to meet the minimum requirement for the looks category. Saying that looks don't matter because they fade away in future is basically assuming that women say yes to EVERY guy that asks them out on a date and give them a second date only after they realize that he has a good personality. I think we can both agree on the fact that no one says yes to everyone. So in order to get a yes for the first date, you NEED to meet her minimum requirement for looks.
The only time looks doesn't matter is when she friendzones you. If at that time you have a charismatic personality, you'll have plenty of opportunity to show that and make her fall for you. However, Courtney herself admitted that getting out of the friendzone is highly improbable. Hence, let's not pretend that looks don't or shouldn't matter cause advice like that honestly can screw up someone's dating life. Looks DO matter and one must try to improve it the best they can (eg. work out, dress nice, etc.).
If you have a good personality but you are ugly, you can't compete with people with a good personality and good looks. In the end, good personality matters very little in the animal kingdom, and yes humans are animals and driven by hormones.
Beauty last forever if you keep it together. 😂
@@remrens9624 facts!
Stumbled on your channel about a few days ago. Love your videos! Keep them coming😊
“Beauty is in the eye of an beholder” factssss
Being friend zoned is actually very shattering. As a guy who likes a woman who sees me “like a brother” it’s a very irritating and persistent problem. I’ve had my friend ask me, “why do all the guys I talk to always seem like F-Boys”
Well maybe that’s because you always go for the 6ft5 gym instructors, or only give your number to guys at bars…..
@@edaaydemir1719 oh, well that fixes everything.
I know this is super late... but if she sees you that way it's best for you to just stop talking to her. It's not good for you, and it's not good for her because you're not really her friend if you're looking to date her.
@@edaaydemir1719 that is true don’t skimp but at the same time his friend probably does have unrealistic expectations as well ahahha
Swear to God I hate it when women say they want a good guy then . Run off with a bad guy then blame everyone for they bad choices they always say I love you like a brother or friend
@@edaaydemir1719 so because no one is good women like being with guy's that disrespect them
Been watching Courtney’s videos for awhile ( I’m a “watch guy” that stumbled onto her channel ) …she’s spot on about the toxic meanness that is rampant; particularly on SocMed. Values are seemingly upside down , and listening to Courtney offering up solid relationship/ self improvement advice is both refreshing and warranted. Way to go !!
She has good material, but there is way better out there! Her's is middle of the road. its great for newbies!
I had my first ever relationship with my ex girlfriend three years ago. I saw for who she was and she was one of those girls that pretended to be someone that she wasn't and took advantage of my kindness. It only lasted five months but there were a lot of red flags that I ignored but I chose to walk away and realized that right girl is still out there for me. Right now, I have to focus on me. Courtney if you are reading this thank you for creating your channel and laying down moral facts , also being informative for people to have a better understanding.🙏
sorry that happened, but hey sometimes you have to learn the hard way.
@@realityitis4 Sometimes you have to even today's world but I know the right girl is out there for me. I'm in a very good place mentally. I know I don't know you but I appreciate your 2 cents 🙏
I am in the friendzone of several girls and all the tips about getting out of it is either ignoring and dump them as friends and find new and assert myself to the new ones in a rly harsh and intrusive way
I agree about the sense of humor part. That’s one of the things I love about my husband. Whenever he makes me laugh it reminds me of why I feel in love with him.
Thanks Courtney,
I’m a 67 year old “pushover” no more man that’s finally ending a 23 year marriage with the most toxic woman I have ever known. Even our 17 year old son doesn’t want to live with her. I’m having trouble with that because the women that influenced me in my youth didn’t behave in a way that made myself or anyone else dislike them. Just the opposite and no one could convince me otherwise. That’s probably why I supported the women’s rights movement and have always tried to empower women, even my X. I’m not sure how I fell into the trap but the woman I wound up with is most certainly not the same woman I married. I’m certainly not perfect but give me a break. The day I said “I do” was the end that I put up with way too long and the financial loss is devastating. She refused to work, became mean, demanding respect from us but didn’t believe she had to reciprocate. I don’t think the words reciprocate or accountability are in her dictionary. Anyway, again thanks. You’re a rare and very wise young woman so don’t let anyone’s negative “crap” affect you in any way shape or form. Emotional abuse is unacceptable but people with narcissistic behaviors don’t care how you feel and “get off” on your reaction. If you even comment about someone’s negative comment, you’re giving them what they need to survive, they’re “getting off” so don’t grant them the pleasure. They don’t know what true pleasure is. Please keep doing what you’re doing and keep making a positive impact on both women and men with Biblical principles.
I too know this road you traveled and normally wouldn't pay a cent for the experience, but ironically we do end up paying in not only money but the loosing of a small part of yourself that was gleefully tortured and ripped from your being. The pain never really goes away but the mind, protecting it's sanity, begins to cover the memories with scar tissue lessening the pain but also etching it into your being. Everything I viewed personally, believed in and idolised changed drastically after that experience.
Keep it real my friend and know you have a supporter.
Good on you bro, hope it works out
I love you Courtney! Jeeez you make me wanna be a better person/woman! I’m taking in as much as I can.
🥰❤️
You’re very positive! Great to see that you exist!
nicotine gum guy is actually onto something. he is subtly drugging his victims and doing a form of NLP where the drug exposure/addiction is overlapped with emotional/physical intimacy, causing to two to blend into each other as a force multiplier. im sure it works, for those willing to stoop that low.
its sociopathic/psychopathic manipulation. and you can tell just by his vibe, something is seriously off with him. these people exist, and they arent that rare unfortunately.
I think (hope) he's joking.
Oh please, women have it 100x easier finding a man than the reverse. It’s MEN who are more likely to be alone than women.
A girl at a bar last who was middle aged was telling me I can get 3 dudes in one night if I wanted if I left my husband and she was serious. I was thinking wtf how can that be normal.
assuming heterosexual relationships, if one declines then the other does also. I think others will just be fewer relationships generally in future generations, however women are probably more likely to be miserable alone than men are
*there will be
@@madams989 The future is the past, this has all happened before. Just before Rome collapsed, they had a massive population decline & decrease of fertility just like America & Europe are having now. In Ancient Roman society, the men began acting like women and the reverse just like now where men are being emasculated "toxic masculinity" & women are becoming more masculine, as indicated by how male handshake pressure has gone down while female has increased. Then in the Byzantine Empire before it collapsed, Constantinople lost all of its morale & also experienced a massive decrease in population. This is happening in America & Europe now too where we're losing our population & soon what'll happen is the American Empire which is what it is except instead of having enormous influence because of the amount of land conquered or military power, though it has abroad with Iraq, Afghanistan, Kosovo, etc, but also has a massive amount of military strength which it's losing because they're more concerned about recruiting gender nonbinary soldiers whereas China is making their men more masculine, it's still got enormous influence & will for a while longer before eventually, America as we know it now will no longer exist, it'll instead collapse & what used to be the US will be repartitioned into separate sovereign nations based off of race. Then there'll be a period of famine, then success in a renaissance, peak, then a deterioration & finally a collapse, repartitioning & the cycle will repeat forever and ever.
@@janoycresva276 as a history teacher, I can concur. Also, in may instances, the oppressed become the oppressors, and the cycle repeats itself.
Well said and thank you Courtney. You're amazing.
That clip around 7:15 is remarkably true. So many mean people. Hearts like bubbling tar pits. And you’re right, they wear their meanness like a badge of honor.