Top 5 Reasons Girls Disappear On You | Courtney Ryan
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- In this video, I talk about the top 5 reasons why girls disappear on you after seeming interested. I know this can be frustrating but it's extremely common with modern dating. Knowing these reasons might point you in the right direction to some things you need to work on or give a bit of reassurance.
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From an older guy to the younger guys - Two things to keep in mind while dating: First, if a woman is interested in you, it will be very obvious. You won't have to wonder at all. Second, if she loses interest it means she was never that interested in the first place and in all likelihood found someone she liked better. You were just a placeholder until a better option showed up. Accept that, forget her, and move on. Oh and if at some point she reaches out, ignore her. It just means that the other relationship didn't work out and she needs your services as a placeholder again.
As another older guy I agree with this 100%
She thought the grass would be greener on the other side. It rarely is and women are too emotion driven and not logic driven to realize that.
It's really sad when you hear people say that you'll know when a girl is interested... I'm 24 almost 25 and not a single 1...
@@ImBrockatron Understand that most guys in their mid 20's are at a real disadvantage in dating unless they are tall and quite handsome. Few at this point in their lives have much in the way of resources. And resources are what women really want from men. By contrast, women in their mid 20's are at the peak of their game. They have their youth, beauty, and no real competition. But times change and the years advance. By the time you get to your mid 30's, the advantage will switch to you. And these women will start to become bitter because they can't compete with the new crop of women in their mid 20's. Notice that a lot of the videos posted on social media by women ranting about men come from women who are getting older and resent that they are no longer getting the attention they feel they are still entitled to. Hell hath no fury like a woman denied what she feels to be her due!
The grass might seem greener but it might have dog shit on it🤦🏻♂️😂😂
If she stops texting you. She lost interest/respect for you, move on and don’t be a simp for her.
Thanks
You're right, sir. We should respect ourserves first.
Life goes on, get harder
An “EX” probably came back into her life too. I’ve been in that spot, plenty of times. Annoying asf
I normally do that but i can still remember this one girl i was talking to. She was a 10 on the hotness scale and all my rules went out the window 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂
You never have total control over how someone feels about you, focus on bettering yourself everyday.
They found someone better in their eyes, then again, and again, and again……until you get the “OMG, where are all the good guys”
Conclusion: Women don’t know what they want. Which is why I don’t trust them.
Exactly
Come on bro. He just has to be 6'5", makes 6 figures, has a great social circle, travels consistently, has multiple homes and has white sheets. Is that too much to ask for these poor oppressed Western Women? Asking for a friend
I think i'll just date internationally from now on.
@@ilikepancakes2368 never trust 99.99 % of them they will cheat
Any woman who ghosts/discards you and doesn't provide closure with a reasonable explanation is not worth it. You've absolutely dodged a bullet.
true
If a woman isn't interested in you, the worst thing you can do as a guy is to obsess over why it is that she stopped being interested. Whether it was you or her, it's really not that deep and you'll drive yourself crazy analyzing every single thing about you in order to avoid it happening again. Just chalk it up to a loss and move on.
Funny guys are told this, but when a girl obsesses like that, very often the discussion is "why did he leave her, he broke her heart." With guys we're told "lolz get over it, you lost."
Agree
Men have dones this for centuries.....Thats why we have the mythological "mermaids" which were really just hallucinations of the yearnings old sailors were having about their lost loves being projected onto the Sea. Obsession leads to Myth.
I spent the entire decade of my 20’s doing exactly this. I wish I’d listened to advice but I was stubborn. Try too hard? My answer was you can’t try hard enough!
"She doesn't like you". Actually, she doesn't like her PERCEPTION of you and the way you fit into her fantasy. I just want to make that distinction, as someone might feel their value as a person is lower, but the truth is it's not even about you. We all create fantasies about the people we meet and imagine how they will fit into ours, and maybe she can't find the fantasy to fit her perception. It can't be you, because she doesn't know the REAL you. Aside, great points in the video. Thanks, Courtney!
Yea some of these chicks are delusional.
@@ethosterros9430 Princess syndrome. It's what happens when you raise little girls under Disney fantasies, spoil them, and then bring them into the feminist world where they are strong, independent wahmen. It breeds mass delusion and we are witnessing it all destroy the dating market.
Sounds like a Avoidant attachment style
@@coreygeiger81 no they're just ignorant
@@ethosterros9430 No, it's really not just that. There is an explanation to an action, that doesn't require a dismissive, sweeping categorizing of filing it under ignorance
Getting dumped/ghosted for having white sheets?? Jesus, no wonder men are giving up on dating…
Ikr?!
lol
Agree mate, it’s non-sense
Love isn't even worth it anymore. I'm too tired searching for love. Besides, I'm stuck in catch-22. I could never get a girlfriend no matter what I do. But then again, there's too much junk in the trunk women carry that is not worth putting up with to win them over. Plus, it doesn't take much for women to scare me away.
Completely agree! this generation of women are so picky and bitchy... Ive given up. no matter who or what i am it will never be enough.
It's an odd moment when you realize that you're just a woman's attention guy. Even worse if you're genuinely attracted to her.
Happens to me all the time. That’s why I retired and became a 40 year old virgin lol.
"women's attention guy ''??
sorry I'm not a native speaker
like someone who she goes out with just to get attention from other women/people?
I think that happened to me
The MOMENT you show her interest on her she starts looking for someone else RIGHT AWAY. So this is a mental disorder.
Exactly!!! 👊👊👌👌👏👏🙏🙏
@@UnexpectedWonder You need to check Coach Greg Adams RIGHT NOW. I am from Belgium and his CZcams channel is literally my TV. So the whole idea is simply remain single and invest in yourself.
@@cenktoplar8378 I know about him. He's interesting. I don't follow him though. I don't agree with much of his Ideology.
@@UnexpectedWonder I wonder what point you disagree ?
Exactly
This is too common. People on TikTok think they're "dating experts" that give trash advice. And this whole ghosting stuff is why I stopped using dating apps. I'll be out in the field. These games are overrated
Agreed!!
@Aaron Blazawal yes. Sales and dating have many similarities, in dating you are simply selling yourself and it’s important to recognize and prioritize serious buyers
Every decent looking girl with a social media account thinks she can be seen as a "dating advisor" just because she has a vagina, lmao. The best think you can do is focus on yourself and girls will come. If they lose interest, more will come by until the right one stays.
I love how some of them even self proclaim themselves as “dating experts”, it always makes me chuckle. To be fair the male pickup artists are sometimes just as bad!
@@ianarn there are a few that give meaningful advice to wanting better quality relationships with others and ourselves. Others just promote hookups and flings
Courtney, anybody who devises an "Ick List", immediately enters a possible relationship situation focusing on negatives instead of the positives. Nobody is perfect.
I feel the lady in your video explaining her "Ick List", will one day realize she was not that special, and perhaps understand why the men in her life put her on their "Ick List" because of her attitude, and sense of entitlement.
Agreed haha I like a lot of her other videos and advice… but that’s one I cannot get behind!
This one is absolutely on-point. What she is doing, is actually forming a habit for "tracking the things she doesn't like"... This is a terribly destructive way to manage a relationship.
it always blows my mind how much some complain about men when they have enough options to randomly decide "i want a new relationship with different colour bedsheets"
Agreed. One would meet people and pay attention mostly to negative things, and being so focused on tracking down negative stuff makes it difficult for one to notice positive things; we have limited mental capacity after all, spent too much mental resource on one part and there is less for others.
Sooner or later, one will only see people as a list of things that make you "ick" but not a list of things that you like.
Yeah she'll be super happy as soon as she finds the perfect man.... Lmao
This should be called top 5 reasons you avoided an asteroid in your life, and should be grateful.
Thank you. Most of the time these situations are actually a blessing in disguise
Learn when to walk away, gentlemen. Story for y'all: I had a thing going on with my coworker for a little while. We never got to date because she was going through some things. I respected it, but she still kept showing signs of interest. After a while, I found out she was talking to someone else. I wanted to remain as friends. I ended up getting Covid for 2 weeks, and not once she texted me to get better. However, prior to Covid, I met a nice girl (who's a lawyer), that takes time out of her day to text me back. She even wished me to get better from Covid. Said coworker has made no effort to ask how I've been since Covid, nor asks me anything about my personal life anymore. The lawyer at least makes an effort with me. You never know when things get better after a possible toxic relationship.
"Let's just be friends." (Translation: "I don't want a relationship with you, but keep the attention and gifts coming.")
@@khalaq2 I'm the one that said we can remain as friends because she was going through a break up. But on reflection, I dodged a bullet because now she treats me like a total stranger for no reason.
@@quaker1874 Yep, it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
@@khalaq2 thanks! The lawyer I met makes an effort to talk to me despite her busy schedule. We had a date recently and it was a lot of fun. I'm at work right now, and my coworker is totally ignoring me. It's whatever for me because I don't care about the coworker anymore now that I see her true colors.
@@quaker1874 why would ever date co worker they got be on the worst decisions ever you wonder why had problems at work for it kinda frowned upon dating you're co worker at work which can mess things up as reminder
Great advice as always. Appreciate the help. The "ick" list sounds like why that person will always be single. No one is perfect.
For sure, I would say having anyone make a list of things like that would be a big red flag.
Yeah that’s weird as hell
@@Islander185 Creating a list that basically is titled “The things I hate about my partner” puts a very negative focus on her view of her partner and their relationship. And keeping that in her back pocket instead of openly talking about it and showing acceptance from both sides makes sure the relationship will fail. A self fulfilling prophecy.
If a bad boy Chad comes across the icky girl, she’d break all the rules for him 🙄
Exactly!!!
Society should be finding what is right about people instead of what's wrong about people. That really says more about you.
With how scientific guys have to be these days at getting the formula "just right" to even keep a woman's attention for longer that 15 minutes, we're going to have a generation of single people like there's never been before...
Bro forel they except u to be witty and constantly sweep them off their feet its ridiculous
Definitely
No, it's just the type of girls you are going after, stay off of dating sites.
Hasel Basil it’s not like it’s much better if you meet them at church, school, work, or Whole Foods. Women are women, and today’s women are touched by social media and feminism to a certain extent. It just is what it is.
@@shaunenwright7872 No, go out into the real world and you will see most women are different, the girls on these dating appts are not really interested in finding a guy they are just there for fun, it's a game to them, at least it is for the young ones.
I’ve worked on myself An incredible amount over the past five years. Getting rid of excess baggage, Meditating, really learning about who I am as a person, Finding my passions and goals, and i became really starting to be in tune with myself and comfortable in my own skin.
I’ve become much happier person from all of this. So I know I definitely took a foot in the right direction for myself however, For the first time in my life I am having a hard time finding women to date. Who would’ve thought? Seems like women have Much less interest in me now than when I had unresolved issues.
My biggest hangup is for the first time in life I know exactly what I want in a woman and know exactly what a healthy relationship should look and feel like. Finding emotionally available emotionally healthy women it’s like finding a needle in a haystack.
I've always struggled in the Dating Game for many of the Conclusions you drew. It's not gotten much better for me with age...
Facts. They want a guy to be everything they want. Without any effort on their part.
@@Mr.BigNate That's exactly right for many Females today.
Women do t want partners who love each other mutually
They wanted a replica of their fathers who love them unconditionally
Facts
The amount of women I've seen stay with men that cheat on them, emotionally abuses and plays games is amazing, fellas a woman is gonna be with you if she chooses to do so, don't feel the need to be this special guy for them. Ladies, don't get mad when you can't change a man, then realize YOU wasted your time with him.
100% facts. They will continue to get impregnated by the same cheater/abuser until HE is no longer interested. You will find all of these women on dating apps looking for something "serious". All of these women were on birth control btw.
Yea they stay when completely treated like dumpster garbage meanwhile this delusional cat lady is like ick his bed is the wrong color. Absolute delusion. These women gonna die alone.
My list:
- Not sharing the same interests
- Not having what she wants in a guy
- Being too available
- Not having a own life
My list: other men
Or she was only talking to you in the first place, because of Boredom only.
Well, now you know the reasons why they do it, guys, or at least 5 reasons, so, let me reiterate what you do about it.
1. Do NOT try to get back with her. You have just been shown specifically what you were to them. THAT is how it would go the next time.
2. Do NOT investigate why. If you do this, you are demonstrating that she DID matter to you. Be stoic. Stay in control of your feelings. Chances are, it'd just piss you off, anyway.
3. "Let's just be friends." NOPE!!! You don't need to be around someone you have feelings for so she can take advantage of that. Don't be an asshole about it.
4. Do not take her back. It is often the meat and drink of a bitch to wonder how her loss affected you. When she learns it didn't even break your stride, for some strange reason, it turns them on. They will try to tell you they made a huge mistake. Yup, and just leave it there. She deserves this.
5. Move forward. Do what YOU want to do. It takes a little practice, but it's ok to reflect on your time with her. There may have been lessons to learn, or good times you'll miss, but do not EVER mourn their loss from your life. Harden yourself, and be more selective next time, if you choose for there to be a next time. It may be un-Courtney Ryan-like for me to suggest this, always have your shields up. That said, do not lock phasers and begin firing. When I say "keep your shields up", this is a metaphor for "keep your head up, your shoulders back, and do NOT look down. As for "locking phasers..." Look up, acknowledge others, but do not stare or stare down. Confidence, not conflict.
Well said, thank you.
Good advice
Thank you for the advice brotha
Shields up. Always
Funny how people are "trying to reach perfection..." but it's just piling on the requirements to be perfect on someone else. Whilst being blind to their own faults, no less.
Society is hopeless 😩 thanks social media and Apps ! Love this lady she just tells it like it is 🙌
My Ex actually HIT ME WITH the “ick” she kept a journal of my wrongs and things that transpired between us. Coming to find out she was just in love with her ex and sleeping with her friends and not ready for a relationship!
Man thats rough. I can't stand chicks with zero integrity
@@davidhunt9143 unlucky bro
Damn, this sounds almost exactly like what happened with a chick I was seeing
Sorry Bro, that sucks. I noticed you said she was sleeping with her friends. Goes back to that age old question whether men and women make good friendships. I sense a little manipulation on her part. Hang in there man.
I never heard of the ick before. That's fucked up
I think younger me needed to hear that. Didn’t ever date her, but it took me a long time to realize I was just being played when I was younger. Eventually I gathered the strength to know what I’m worth and now years later I have a wife and 2 children. ❤️
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Great quote!
”Comparison is the thief of joy.” - Theodore Roosevelt
@@heisenbergkierkegaard3982 Thanks. I didn’t know who said it.
She was never into you, but she gladly accepts the free food and drinks and you paying her credit card debt, haaaaaaa! xD
Yeah, they tell you they don't want to continue romantically; after you take them out and pay for the dates, shopping, extravaganza, contract, and miscellaneous fees, etc.
If you’re at all involved in a girl’s debt issues and you are not a financial professional hired by her for the purpose of addressing the problem, or you are not her husband, you have made a massive mistake.
@@GardNRailCrucible Exactly.
the fact that you agree to pay for credit cards is on you. lmfaooo losersss
@@dionivargas23 That's right. I know some guys who actually do this, LOL.
"Fill in Guy"... yep, been there done that. I told the girl who used me in that fashion that she blew the chance to get to know a high-quality guy. Her loss.
You know Courtney Ryan is way wrong when she says you don’t need closure and excusing ghosting. If you go out with a girl and spend a considerable amount of time and money with this person, the girl owes the guy at least a goodbye text if not a break up conversation. If there is abuse, then yes, I think this is an exception. But it’s very immature for someone to just ghost the other person. We are human beings with feelings, there is no excuse to not give someone a break up notice. I find women do this and they should be called out for it and closure is appropriate and mature way of letting someone down easy.
I agree. Too many women out there excusing that behavior because they "don't know how the guy will react" or he might bad mouth them or whatever. It's a weak stance. If you're at least a date or two in and it's not working out and the guy's not a shit-bag then you owe him the courtesy and the closure so he can move on with his life.
Agreed. Ghosting speaks volume about the character (or lack thereof) of the person doing the ghosting. It is an extremely immature and selfish justification of their ego and their emotional state, to deny closure between the other party (or both parties) and grow. Ghosting ruins the other person, especially if they were invested in the relationship.
I agree with everything you said completely! I think what Courtney meant was "you dont *NEED* anything from them to be happy"
Like, you can still live a great life even if they never give an explanation.
Ofc that doesn't make ghosting any less cowardly. But like, if someone ghost you, they're probably not that great of a person anyway, so who cares
Forget relationships , they are a figment of some religious zealots control freak mind . We as humans are seasonal creatures much like most other species on the planet . My advice is if it "flies , or floats , or phucks, just rent it !!!
She's a woman she thinks with emotions what do you expect
Note to everyone: if you want to go ahead with the whole, "ick", on someone to look for a person's blemishes, do not forget that the door swings both ways. A person whom you might like, might have an, "ick list", on you as well.
In the end, please treat someone as you want to be treated.
(which also means that you value and love yourself first)
When my ex broke up with me, she told me it was because she wasn’t ready for a relationship and just wanted to be friends until then (called me when she was on her lunch break to do this). I understood and went with it.
Found out from her best friend that it’s because she cheated on me with her ex once he came back home for 2 weeks from being deployed in Hawaii. Plus that week when she broke up with me, she already went on a date that weekend.
Been tough recovering from the truth.
Love this channel for advice 🙏🏽
All guys need to practice this line “Friends? No thanks, I’ve got enough already”.
When it's all of a sudden and coming from nowhere...is because it's for somebody else.
from my experience... many times it has to do with the involvement of a 3rd party and what I mean by this is that many times women value their friends and social circles more than any guy or sexual relationship ( because keep in mind, women are more attuned to emotional needs rather than sexual needs). so, her friends can convince her not to date nor get involved with a particular guy or try to give reasons or excuses to why she could do better or he is not a match for her. For example, a woman first likes a guy and is very excited and interested and gets to know the guy..... then she is so excited she tells all her friends or best friends; then maybe her friends or social circles do not like this particular guy, or they're jealous of him or they feel like she could do better, they could convince her to drop this guy; leave him alone and move on! This is one ugly reality of the dating scene many people do not like to admit nor talk about in general. This is the truth to why many women end up losing interested or end up moving on after they expressed interest. If the woman was not that interested in the first place, then I personally don't believe that she would waste her time in the first place!
In fact, Courtney, I would love you to do a video on why it is not a good idea to involve 3rd parties in your intimate/romantic sexual relationships or dating because 3rd parties can really be detrimental and breach the relationships!
This is facts, I have seen it first hand, good job at the details and articulating this common scenario
Yes is possible, but I believe a friend is not a judge but a confident, and your life is your life not somebody else or third party.
@@AbnerChamate You can say that… but friends do not always have the best interest at heart for yourself or lifestyle. Look at it like this, when you are dating someone.. Are you dating them? Or their friends, groups or social circles? Are you dating them? Or there coworkers/classmates/or neighbors? Everyone is different and compatibility is different. Allowing/involving friends/groups/social circles ( aka 3rd parties) in your relationships is basically giving away your relationship to other people and putting the power and control into other people’s hands! 3rd parties are always detrimental because there is always someone is who trying to control, someone who is jealous, or someone who is trying to harm,damage, ruin or breach the relationship. I remember back in the days, I was dating a woman and someone in her friend group became so jealous; she started making up rumors and lies that I was a dangerous/violent person and was planning to go on a shooting spree. Then she started to get as many people as possible to side with her and eventually caused the relationship between me and this girl to breach. Was it fair? No! Did I say or do anything wrong to the jealous 3rd party? No! So because of 3rd party is killed a perfect happy long term healthy relationship. This is the consequence of involving 3rd parties! It all could have been avoided if the girl didn’t inform or involve the 3rd party in the first place!
I have had a couple of girlfriends come back to me, a few months after disappearing. I spoke with both of them when they came back each time, but decided not to get back together in either case. In both cases we only dated a short time at beginning. it was obvious they was dating other guys in-between and trying to decide. I just did not like being considered number 2 choice. The woman I did marry was about a couple of years later and she always kept me number one and played it straight, no games. However, after many years, I am facing dating again as we split up, and as an older guy with experience, so not entirely worried about how to date (I am not shy with women) just need a refresher course like listening to this channel for some solid tips for self improvement and how to romance a woman etc. Thanks Courtney!
so basically, anything miniscule will lead to ghosting or losing interest. I literally set up a date with this girl in my gym she agreed, and then 5 days later when I asked if she was still down she just ghosted me.
Dodged a bullet!
Seriously, why do you guys think it is an appropriate time to hit on a girl when she's working out at a gym? She probably said yes just to get rid of you.
@@laurapendosa4967 so if your celeb crush hit on you in the gym you would dismiss him?
@@laurapendosa4967 lots of girls want to be approached even in the gym, maybe not for you because you’re ugly. That’s ok.
@@laurapendosa4967 hey Laura. From my experience it totally depends on the girl and can’t be generalized. Some girls secretly hope that a guy approaches her the right way, some other girls just want to develop their inner man and don’t give a fuck about other men. You see, it depends what is her internal priority.
#2 is one of the most common. For a long time I was always the “attention guy” and that can kill a guy’s self esteem.
100%. I was the attention guy a couple weeks ago. Realized it and deleted her number so I never can hit her up.
she got the 'ick' - 1:00
you were the attention guy 5:22
she was never into you - 7:03
you were too clingy - 8:28
she met someone else - 9:49
she had narcisist disorder and disregard every bullshit here was mentioned,
its not you the problem,its her ,move on.
I used to be the attention guy. Whenever I suggested we spend some time together she'd be busy or couldn't make it. I continued on hoping that we'd hang out eventually but it never happened. I moved away and I never heard from her again. It sucks but I learned, not making that mistake again.
Yea it happens to the best of us
"Comparison is the thief of joy." I know where you got it from.😀
My guy Hafeez!👊
All women do it and they always ask Is he really the best I can do? Couldn't there be a richer better provider? So frustrating as guys don't do this
I think it's way older quote
Yes, BMV 😈
Theodore Roosevelt
All this crap is why I gave up on women. So much happier on my own.
Yes, it’s funny how all problems just disappear! More men should try going their own way.
Agreed! I was fairly successful on dating apps but all the women on there keep looking for the bigger, better deal. I decided to quit dating and deleted the apps. My life is so peaceful now, much happier. Just the thought of dating now turns my stomach...yuck!
ya but how does your wrist feel?
Not as good as my bank balance feels.
@@alexflips393 Savage! Love it.
You are killing it with these types of videos Courtney
Interesting topic. I think it's unreasonable to look for a perfect person. Rather acknowledge that people have flaws and you do too. There's obvious red flags that you should try to fix or distance yourself from, however, if you jump from relationship to relationship, you'll find out that everyone you find attractive has their issues. It's just a matter of which mix of issues you decide to accept and ultimately be their life long partner.
I relate with the “ick” because I was seeing someone who I found incredibly attractive and interesting up until I learned that she only eats fast food. This is not a joke.. she told me “all we eat at my house is fast food, nobody cooks”
When I finally went to her house her mom ordered papa John’s for dinner and earlier that day we had McDonald’s for lunch at our Uni.
I was grossed out lol
If she doesn't cook, don't deal with her. Lol I don't mind cooking for my woman, but once in a while, I'd like for my woman to make me a home cooked meal. 👍
On the flip side I had a woman dump me because she said she needed a man with a "mature palate". I eat fast food once a week for lunch on Saturday and like 1000 islands dressing. She cringed when I told her.
@@whatever3749 wow! You dodged a bullet there. Fast food once a week is totally reasonable. If she had that level of judgement she was not worth being with.
Gross. She is not gonna look good in a few years
Yeah that's gross
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I'm now subscribed. You get it, about things. All of what you said needed to be heard.
With the "ick" part, people shouldn't be doing the "ick" thing in general, let alone in dating. One of my pet peeves is when people do the "ick" thing, at all.
"Attract the right person for you." Good line. Not just the right person, but the right person "for us."
The ick list is the worst piece of advice. You have to look for the good in people. If you are constantly looking for all the bad things in people you will actually absorb all that bad energy and you will actually become that person, so beware.
Totally agree!
Not only that, but if you are looking for something, you'll find it whether it's there or not.
Fearful Avoidants often do that, because when the relationship gets boring, they freak out because they think it’s all supposed to be like the honeymoon stage. Or they look for qualities they wish they had in themselves in a partner , and it freaks them out and they leave
"ICKS"?! Bruh, everybody has faults and if you can't accept you're not perfect, you will always be disappointed.
"Keep your expectations low, and you will never be disappointed."
- Kratos, the God of War
Courtney - great comments as always - I agree. But at the end of the day, the best remedy, no matter what, is always the good old "develop your self-esteem" - love yourself to the point you really don't care whether or not she stopped liking you. Move on! When you love yourself you will generate such a great vibe that you'll end up attracting the ones that actually are in synch with you and that's when life gets so much better
Solid, timeless advice. This why I keep coming back to this channel.
When a guy rejects a girl they can't stand it. It's so bad that some girls need 6 months of therapy to get over it. Remember guys it's okay if she
rejects you, but don't dare reject her!
So true
More double standards.
As men most of us need to understand the power of rejecting women. We need fo reject them A LOT more.. they need to get their ego checked. Build an attachment then reject her on purpose and make sure you keep a stream of new options flowing in. That's the only way you will ever gain power in your "relationships ". When she comes back she will appreciate you more. That's the hardest part for most of us to "get" women actually WANT YOU TO REJECT THEM.
@@rickterrance4981 I don't agree necessarily that women want me to reject them as much as they want to know that I 1. will stand up for myself when she/someone else decides to throw a lot of shade my way. 2. And the mature(not given to persistent emotionalism) woman will understand and appreciate me/you for giving her the space-time to 1. Remember who she is and what is important to her--same as you need with friends or hobby/project all your own.
For what it's worth, this is what I happen to believe.
Bruh reject tf out of her lol.
I have never heard of this ick before but good thing I know now! Great vid Courtney!
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I've been through such a ghosting recently myself and after watching this video, looks like a combination of factors 3 (not into you) and 5 (met someone else). Videos like this help keep such experiences in perspective. Barring some over-the-top behavior or clinginess on your part, that is not you, that is all them. Accept, process, move on.
At this point im confused and struggling to move on but hopefully things work out in the future
@@Randy-us1ufkeep watching these videos by Courtney and stay in the comments
I really like the way you approach dating advices. It makes total sense. Thank you! Keep up the good work
Why she lost interest in u? Cause she has about 13 more options lmfao 😂
More like 1000 DM in my case
Yup. Like a kid in a candy shop she don't know what she wants..
Yeh what does that tell you about guys. They need OPTIONS.
Her other is called: Dill Doe!!
If someone disappears on you it’s because that person is a deplorable human being
Excellent video and I learned a lot. I was struggling with why she didn't contact me. An abundance mindset is what I will maintain. Thank you Courtney
Hi Courtney. Thank you for making these videos. I have learned quite a bit. Your videos are always of excellent quality and very helpful.
Ghosting? Disappearing on anyone is ghosting. Ghosting anyone is just rude. The only justification is if she has good reason to worry about her safety.
Yeah Courtney missed the mark here which is unusual for her. It’s not about someone being obligated to like you, it’s about having common decency and respect for the other person.
I agree. Ghosting is rude, immature, and worthy of contempt.
Sometimes it's not possible to be straightforward with someone because they're a narcissist, where even letting them down gently, it's often better to quietly slip away.
@@MH-cv5ye sure that’s one of the few exceptions but I definitely feel like most of the time it’s for no good reason
I’m a man. I ghost women because I see through them. Women and sex to me is something out of a science fiction movie. It looks cool and fun to be apart of, but in the end, the final frontier was made in a Hollywood basement.
In real life, I work out. That’s my sex. I play video games. That’s my version of cuddling.
I play the sims. That’s family life for me.
Life doesn’t have to be that complicated
bro so basically it's not you, she can dislike you for anything. Don't date anyone and just make money. That's how it is nowadays anyways.
Lol. Very true 👍
Workout. Hang out with dogs. Play video games. Watch porn when the urge comes. Smoke marijuana and drop acid. Just do that.
The best thing about this is most definitely the comments. A wealth of knowledge right there !
This is my favorite Courtney video so far!
I really liked these points you covered beautifully with consistent information and gave ways to tackle this problem
Thank you for this as always! Had some woman ghost before in the past, but it's okay just working on myself and these videos really do help appreciate all that you do.!
Happy early Halloween by the way! 😁🔥👊💙🙏
That’s the attitude I like! 🙌🏼
@@CourtneyRyan thank you so much.! Means tons.! 🙏🙏
You were ghosted because you have low sexual marketplace value. If you were Brad Pitt, Channing Tatum or Ryan Gosling, you would not have been ghosted. Simple as that.
Even those guys get ghosted too for sure
@@mauriciobr5574 so true they do we just don't hear about it haha
you're actually very genuine to both guys and girls. awesome
Hi Courtney 👋
How are you doing today ?
Thank you very much for this video, I finally got to understand that she ghost me out because one of your five reasons could of taking place in our fresh relationship !!
Thanks and God bless you Courtney !!
This happened to me Wednesday with a girl I’ve been seeing 4 months ago. Best girl I’ve ever gone out with. I’m not obsessing over it but damn does it hurt especially after having given this one my all which I never do.
That's your problem... You gave her your all, while she only gave you about 25%. Never do that. Have your own things/hobbies. Put yourself first, then give her your time.
@@tfkvng3187 100%. Pedestalizing talk
@@jleano609 first off no she gave a lot of effort back. Second I’m making an objective statement. She had her flaws but she was by far the highest quality woman I’ve ever gone out with (which is admittedly a low bar). There’s nothing wrong with admitting that. When you’re trying to make something like a relationship that quickly becomes an LDR work you have to give it your all or it’s guaranteed to fail.
And I’m beyond busy on my own time. Don’t make assumptions regarding someone you don’t know @tfgamer
@@LadiesmanB007 LDR? Low value and best avoided, as you’ve found out.
@@LadiesmanB007 I would bet at least 95% of all LDR's fail. It's not worth the effort unless it's really temporary.
If I learned anything about a girl disappearing on you, or about any breakup in general, is that you will almost NEVER know the real reasons why. That's one of the reasons why it hurts so much. On the other hand, keep in mind that the real truth might have had hurt you even more :-)
Good video, I definitely fall on the side of words being important, it’s amazing how little discussion of terms goes on around this subject which is strange because so much of the process is developing and deepening our understanding of the terms. Not saying the word is the thing of course but words are hugely powerful. Personally I see enlightenment, realisation and awakening as the same thing but as you say only an authentic awakening will clear this stuff up for the practitioner :)
I discovered you about a week ago and really enjoying the videos. Thanks for some great wholesome advice!
Neediness, being desperate and having saying yes to everything she says are the biggest down sides to be attractive. She is not going to develop any feelings for you.
I like this subject you talked about. I learned to accept when a girl doesn’t like me? This really helped me out cristine
‘Comparison is the thief of joy’. So true.
Great advice as usual Courtney! I love this channel
She lost interest because she keep her Bumble or other dating app profile up and something better came along. It used to be that you would ask a girl out and a few weeks might go by before another guy asks her out or you might even become "a couple" after you "seal the deal". On the dating apps, they get asked out everyday by multiple guys and so they can't commit. Are men the same? I'd say most men aren't as picky as women and don't get as many matches. For women, they get 100 likes - 5 guys they like back. For men, its give a 100 likes and they might get 5 back. Thats probably being generous too. For Chads, its the opposite.
Bro I ain’t joking when I say this but I knew a girl, not very attractive I’d say 4/10 tell me she got over 50 likes and it was hectic…. I’m like yo HOW mann
Yep I mean apps are crazy I don't think I am bad looking I work out etc but get few matches. And vast majority are nothing special at all. I think it's the point of working too hard, better to just focus on myself and level up and if a girl comes along later then great. Still on apps but limit the time I spend on them.
Courtney, once again comes with more HEAT! Guys sometimes it’s you and sometimes it isn’t. Actually most times it isn’t you. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. That girl was not the right one for you. Continue to grow, don’t hold a grudge and live life to the fullest. Everything will fall into place
I feel like this type of advice could be given to single mothers just as well.
I don't usually agree with you but I appreciate you putting your input on this topic. I have constant anxiety about this and never get closure or answers about what I might have done for things to turn cold. So it often leaves me feeling very rejected and sad. I do think women are picky about the wrong things. It reminds me of the show Seinfeld and the things he would complain about that just don't matter when finding a person of substance. Alot of the girls in your video the other day gave me that vibe when you were giving them examples to rate a guy 1-10. To me things like that don't matter as long as she is cute and we share the same values and life decisions I'm very content.
you really did help me get over this 1 girl, thank you so so much courtney!
Focussing on the negative brings in more negative. I think if you are keeping a list of reasons to leave rather than a list of reasons to stay you'll eventually talk yourself into leaving.
It's so sad to see these ladies keeps on coming up with things that will keep them single for good. First, it was a job, a car and a house was good enough for a man to find a woman, then need a high value men, then the 6 6s and now the ick list. The pool of men is getting smaller by the day and they don't even know it. Also they only have a limited supply of eggs in a lifetime. Their only/primary traits that attract men is also a limited time offer. Their philosophy of men is also discouraging them to look at a brighter side of things so it will help them be more positive and help them select a man. Please ladies you are digging yourself a very very deep hole and pretty soon no one will get you out of it. The trends are already showing in a negative direction. SMH. Great video!
Thank you so much for bringing me to a sense of closure
I don't usually comment, but I want to let you know that your content is so helpful and encouraging. I've been single for a long time now (not gonna get into it). But, It's really nice to know there are genuine women out there who do want a life long partner, and it gives me hope that I will find the person I can share my life with and have someone that I can take on life with as a team. Just wanted to leave a positive comment, and a thank you.
You’re so kind, thank you! Wishing you all the best 🤍
Women are truly flooded with attention.....on the rare occasions i do get 'a swipe' on a dating app they either unmatch me instantly, never message me and if i message them first they ignore me. I don't know if this is the same with other guys ?
Anyway i went full monk, can't be arsed with women.
Id say it is. They did a study on this. Women only swipe right on a very small percentage of men. If you are not a top tier guy, which most men are not, dating apps are a complete waste of time.
Same. I've totally lost interest in the apps now
That's why in this case for security reasons to always have a back up and then some. Dating one girl and hoping it's going to work because you are in to her is not always a must. Dating quite a few hot women sure helps. This way your not upset when the first girl loses interest. You move on and take it as it's her loss. 😁
she is honest & unbiased. i wish good things honest people & vis-a-vis.
Great point about abundance vs. scarcity mindset. And some very good advice at the end of the video for younger guys (not me). You're a rockstar, Courtney - keep up the good work (minus the tic toc videos perhaps; I get that you want to comment on the current culture, but I think you have a great deal more to offer...I'd say, ignore that world, and continue with the more salient, solo videos you do, focusing on what happens in the physical world). Cheers, J
The "Ick List" sounds like the closure the creator uses the justify dump/ghosting or expedting being dumped/ghosted in the most unproductive way possible.
I was dumped by my ex after 3 plus months out of "nowhere" meaning no prior drama at all. She literally went from " want to quit my job and find a house to move into with you to I've lot all the spark and think we should split two weeks later. Her only reasons : lack of experimentation in the bedroom and me disagreeing with her feministic viewpoints. As a result she left me and didnt look back. I was left in complete shock, but honestly now I know that this woman simply wasnt mentally healthy enough to be with due to her depression, drug use and very negative and narcissistic tendencies. I'm lucklily in a much better place today
@Jay Bee I'm smiling and shaking my head over such a comment coming from someone who has no insight and didn't know her or me. In no way was this woman mentally stable and if you had been in my place, you'd understand why. It wasn't up to me to fix her as the neurotic-psychotic borderline she clearly was. If anyone was a sexist, it was her, don't get that twisted. 3rd/4th wave feminists mostly feel superior to men and behave like narcissistic men. There's actually plenty of evidence behind that. Don't believe that then follow Prof Sam Vaknin and you'll be suriced. Nonetheless, I'm in a better position now because I took responsibility for myself by standing up for myself, not letting her run me over. Only a submissive slave would accept what was behind her beautiful mask. I've dated several nice women since then, who've been submissive, in their natural feminine and had no modern day feministic beliefs. A woman who disrespects men does not deserve my respect.
Feminism views and depression. Two very big red flags.
Great video. Thank you for posting this.
Fascinating. One more reason why I'm glad I'm at an age/place where I don't have to deal with this. An "ick list," really? If I found out someone was compiling a list of minor flaws on me, I'd drop her immediately...if not sooner.
I agree completely about the concept of "closure." If it's over, and it didn't land you in divorce court, *it's over.* It doesn't matter why... sometimes she sincerely couldn't even put it into words. Oftentimes, people are looking for a list of reasons so they can "sell" continuing the relationship. They're going to "overcome objections..." winding up being strung along, used, and feeling even worse after having performed the 12 Labors of Hercules (major simping) and still gettin' dumped. Don't do it. Move on, live life. And don't be a backup plan. If she comes back, her first choice didn't work out. You're a place holder til she meets someone she likes, she's looking, and when she finds him... she'll "just want to be friends" again. Send her on her way (FTR, I'm aware that guys do this. My perspective is that of an oldish man who didn't date dudes, 😂)
Last... I like your channel, "CR!" You're very wise. You're not, like, a 2000 years old and very well disguised, are you?😏😍
I'm 73 and have never been in an abundance situation. However, although I've never been needy ( Ithink), I've always been in a situation where choices are severely limited. Dating on-line is as bad at my age as any; the pool is limited and the lack of replies to messages or being blocked from sending a further message is crushing, and I rarely last for more than a few weeks before feeling so bad about myself that I withdraw.
Sorry about this hopefully things will get better
"It's not going to work out." What does it mean to work out? Sounds like determining the end before you get to the middle or the beginning.
When I feel love I Give Love even though I didn't receive it. It happens in a relationship unless or until if we are probity to ourselves not others. Have a Great Day Ms.
a note from a life long tweeter man... looking back 68 years, i can say you are pretty damn good at this...
Honestly, social media has ruined dating for the majority of people for a variety of reasons. Courtney is one of the few women I'd actually take CZcams advice from because she's beautiful, has a nice voice, seems to genuinely try to help people, men and women alike, and tries her best to be as neutral as possible. She won't sugarcoat, but she keeps her content pg to pg13 rated and I respect that even though I'm more of an R rated person😆
Exactly why I follow her
"SHE MET SOMEONE ELSE OR SHE GOT BACK WITH AN EX" IS THE MAIN REASON 95% OF THE TIME.
I just wanna say, I feel like I was getting life advice - not just dating advice. Thank you.
I'm not going to change myself for anyone but me. I change myself to improve myself, but for no one else
The modern young women's mentors were their mothers and grandmothers who filed for "no-fault" divorce, because, meh, they was bored or whatever...
And the modern young men's mentors were their fathers and grandfathers who had to pedestalize their wives to try NOT lose their kids, house, car, and years of income, because, meh, their wives were bored or whatever.
The "no-fault" "exit" clause is perfectly aligned with the hard wiring of the females brain, and is supported perfectly by this video.
Ok, question: if "one-itis" is never ok, then how is anyone ever supposed to get to the point of a committed relationship and marriage?
One-itis is only a thing when they aren’t reciprocating your time, effort and energy. Your partner should be reciprocating those things, so it’s not one-itis haha
If you have not noticed, most relationships are failures. Furthermore, almost 50% of marriages end in divorce, with women filing for divorce in 80% of the cases. Even in the marriages that continue, alot involve cheating and unhappiness. You really need to get out of the blue pill mindset dude. Its 2021, not 1950.
Even in marriage and LTR it’s important to retain an abundance mindset and remain attractive and capable of sourcing other women, even if you don’t. It will keep your SO attracted
@@jleano609 As Jordan Peterson says: Be atractive to the highest number of women you possibly can, but pick just one. I think female atention is just the way life has to tell "youre doing it right".
Exactly!
"Comparison is the thief of joy". That's quite good
You are amazing ! More men and women also need to watch your video.