How Women Judge Your Value | Reacting To Todd V Dating
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- In this video, I react to Todd V's video about how women judge your value as a man. Let me know who you want me to react to next!
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_"If you have to say it... You're not."_
_"You are not everyone's cup of tea."_
These two quotes alone cover a lot of ground.
Most women are interested in men that are of equal value as them, or slightly higher - and that makes perfect sense.
They want a man that can protect them, and also help them raise their offsprings. This is deeply ingrained in them.
This probably dates back to a time in human history when women depended on men for a lot of things, such as: their livelihoods, and also to keep a roof of their heads.
So, this isn’t something they’re able to control - when it comes to choosing a mate!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Ladies tinder profile:
"Im smart. I'm funny. I'm emotionally stable."
Hmm, interesting.
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 I think it goes back to caveman days where cavemen always protected and provided for the cavewomen. It's been like this since the dawn of humanity. Women wanna feel safe and secure, while they nurture and support their man
@@tommygunn6901 Exactly! You got it. Lol
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Ask yourself this question, dude... who or what determines a person’s value? That statement you just made at the onset makes no sense unless you qualify it... that most women are interested in men of equal or slightly higher value than them. Based on whose interpretation of that person’s value? Theirs? Because that’s extremely subjective and varies enormously from one person to the next. The man a certain woman may perceive as a “4” and who rates herself a “10” might view that woman as a 6 or a 7 and rate himself a 9. Do you see how ridiculous that comment is now? And it’s not like either of them are right or wrong because their “grading systems” are based on very individualized value systems that dictate to them what’s important and what isn’t. Fashion sense is not something everybody values. I personally couldn’t care less (because it means absolutely nothing meaningful about that person) and I know many young, attractive women who feel exactly the same way. Not all are aspiring Victoria’s Secret runway models. Some wouldn’t be caught dead parading themselves like that. To illustrate my point further, how do women rate men living in a nudist colony or some headhunter tribe where nobody wears clothes? Suddenly a man isn’t judged by whether or not he dons an Armani suit. Others just consider it fickle because it has no bearing whatsoever on how likely that man is to be a good husband or father, and vice versa. A lot of what’s discussed in this video is extremely subjective and narrow-minded.
A quick tip based on my own personal experience. If you want to get on the radar with higher quality women, learn to become desensitized to their physical beauty and be genuinely comfortable being yourself around them. Girls can sense awkwardness and intimidation from a mile away, so any state of awkwardness from you will destroy your chances and is likely why you're unable to get with them.
Of course, this is easier said than done, but there are really only two roads to take in order to get there. By working on yourself and developing your self-confidence and self-worth or by simply hanging around lots of them until you come to the realisation that they're simply human beings with flaws like the rest of us.
awkwardness itself is great, girls cant resist it
Great comment. A simple and childish thought i sometimes have when i see a 9.9 out of 10 is to remind myself that she takes shits and farts just like everyone else. Its a fun way to remind myself she is just as human as anyone else.
@@renegadezen7841 dude wtf lmao
@@renegadezen7841 I get what you're saying, but perhaps not so scatological? I always liked the idea of picturing them brushing their teeth. it's practically impossible to look cool while you're doing that. It's very humanizing.
@@garmisra7841 ya good one. But when you see a Maxim model who physically is essentially flawless and you're at a club in Las Vegas...sometimes you need an extreme thought like the vision of them wiping their ass to knock yourself out of the trance ultra unicorn hotties can put on men
Nevermind how a woman judges your value, gents. It's up to her to prove her value to you; tattoos, piercings, baby daddies, weight, attitude. Stay on your purpose, gentlemen.
I was thinking the same thing immediately after I read the video title.
whats wrong with tattoos or piercings
@@skullcandy5411 Its not appealing or attractive to men in general. You do what you want of course. But there is always consequences for what you do later in life.
Number one rule. Don't Simp. Demand that they bring value other than their vagina.
@@knightheaven8992 dont speak for all men lol im a man and tattoos are attractive to me. they arent attractive to u which is fine but dont say they arent for all men. lots of men love tattoos on women
The “levelling up” stuff is relatable to me right now. Since the start of the year I’ve been working on improving myself after letting myself go these past few years. I’ve been going to the gym at least 3 times a week, stopped drinking alcohol, changed my diet and gradually replaced my wardrobe with newer clothes. I’ve had a few nights out recently, but still didn’t feel attractive enough, which led to low self esteem and low confidence. So I decided to grow my beard out and get a haircut, and rock a more modern style. Last Friday night I was out in a bar, and whilst I was waiting to be served I had a look around me, and I made eye contact with 2 women, both of whom smiled back. So I’ve definitely done something right I think, and it was a nice morale and confidence boost. I still have a good bit to go, but it’s nice to know that I’m on the right track. It’s been a gradual process but it’s been worth it. I haven’t felt this good about myself in years.
Good shit fam. I’m on a similar path my self.. continue leveling up G👑👑🔥
Why didnt u approach them dude
Good on you! Keep up the great work. Initially, the beard might help you get things going up front, but loose the beard, and stop hiding behind the scruff. You will not only look more confident, but you will not look like you are trying to hide something with a beard, and at the same time, you will look younger, and not have a scratchy face when you are going downtown.
@@__Paul__ i agree but girls like beard i guess
@@__Paul__ I’m not hiding behind anything. I used to work in a food factory so I had to either shave or wear a beard net. But now that I no longer work there I actually couldn’t be bothered shaving anymore, and I’ve had several compliments from friends and family about my new style and how I suit it. And I do regularly trim and use beard balm and oil my facial hair too
Building yourself up to be more likeable and desired to be dated, is like crafting the finest sword in the world. The sharper the blade (your social skills) better quality you'll get. You won't get anywhere without forgoing effort.
Lmao cringe
Most women are interested in men that are of equal value as them, or slightly higher - and that makes perfect sense.
They want a man that can protect them, and also help them raise their offsprings. This is deeply ingrained in them.
This probably dates back to a time in human history when women depended on men for a lot of things, such as: their livelihoods, and also to keep a roof of their heads.
So, this isn’t something they’re able to control - when it comes to choosing a mate!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Wouldn't this be the case with literally anything you do though? XD
More than that, wouldn't your environment and desires always impact the result you get? I think this is one problem with setting people up. Skills and self improvement will absolutely not guarantee people will like you. But the people who are worth being in your life will appreciate that, and in turn you should appreciate them.
In other words, you do what is right because it is right, not because other people will like you.
You mean putting in effort, not forgoing effort.
Aye that’s a great reminder ! Kinda cheesy but mostly true !!
If you are working hard to be judged well in a club, you are already on the wrong path. If you are obsessed with "leveling up" for any reason besides it makes you feel good, you are on the wrong path. Re-assess and re-calibrate. If you constantly put on too many masks, you will be surrounded by the wrong type of audience.
Great response.
Not necessarily.
Some guys' true self is just so bad. No sense of style, narrow-minded, bad communication skills, and overall no charismatic persona.
Such person has to be self-aware and make CONSCIOUS decisions to change himself. It might be seen by far away observers as inauthentic and phony at first... but IT IS NECESSARY to change.
Well said
This advice is so fucking dumb. You don't live on the planet as a single entity and others approval of you matters. Feedback from others is what keeps you sane. You don't have to be constantly attention seeking but acknowledging others view or opinion of you is what makes you a normal person.
@@smilodon92 What you may find to be charisma and a great personality, might be lame to other people... only a really small percent of men have a hilarious personality combined with social skills to the point most of the time it will come off attarctive to females for example
I don’t believe in the 1-10 scale and “leagues.” It’s an inhibiting mindset. Just approach the women you find attractive with unwavering confidence and charm. Let the chips fall where they may and be proud you made a move at all.
Admirable sentiment, but the mindset you posit, "Just approach all the attractive women you want, the worst they can do is reject you" (unless I'm misinterpreting your message), may contribute to the general bombardment women tend to feel from men approaching them. Certainly aim for being proud that you could make the move, but try to be socially aware enough to consider how this attention from you and others may come across to these attractive recipients.
@@shaunharkin1928 When you behave like a honorary man and deal with the situation in an orderly way then I dont think its that much of an issue.
Imagine a guy who approaches a woman, politely goes about the approach and accepts the denial like a true man and begs her his pardon and moves on. I think (but women correct me) will not be overly concerned with those type of men.
Its the ones that become hostile and vindictive that are the problem.
Love Todd, always puts out genuinely true advice without a sleazy manipulative agenda, and cool to see you agree with him Courtney, great video!
Have you read "The Game"?
Todd is in there. I think he was living in a tent in the yard of Project Hollywood.
Yes I read " The game by Neil Strauss, heard him in David's workshop.
@@aafaqkhan7438 I was there for some of the stories in that book. I hung out with Neil and Erik at that time.
Neil was taking a lot of notes at that time. Little did we know it was for this book, which betrayed the secrecy of the PUA community. Neil was a millionaire who wrote this book in order to make even more millions.
I knew Style and Mystery. In the end they ended up being mere acquaintances of mine, not friends.
@@antonboludo8886 So for all intents and purposes, Neil unearthed "The Secret Society" for his own selfish needs.
Luckily, pickup is still pretty underground in various parts of the world, if such a community still considers to exist to this day.
@@adventure09 Yes, many people still don't know about it. So much the better. I remember in Thailand I was talking to this British girl about the community. A British guy next to us was overhearing us and mentioned that he was in the process of reading Neil's book, lol.
It turns out that this particular guy was already successful with the ladies on his own before he had even heard of the community.
Also, Neil's book is not a how-to manual. It is simply an account of his experiences in the community.
A while back a woman I don't know personally but is amongst my Twitter friends shaved all her hair off - I mean smooth bald -and posted pics. She's a middle aged woman and obviously at first I thought the poor woman must be undergoing chemo. But no - she later posted an explanation that she "does what she wants, when she wants" - absolutely 100s of replies, mostly from women, telling her how beautiful she looked. They would say that they couldn't get away with it, but she was absolutely so stunning. I'll tell you now - she was an average looking 45 yr old woman. And she looked terrible.
And THAT is an example of why so many women begin to over-value their own looks.
Attention and validation seeking behavior. In a 45 yo woman that is bad news.
Women tell each other what they want to hear, not the harsh truth. Should hear conversations from a group of female friends.... I've heard it so often from different women that I can allow myself to add at least 90% of them in this "basket".
It is because in this “Meta world”, women tend to feel strength in numbers, and that it will magically make a difference, but once they come down and hit this dose of reality…they’re still lonely….just how men feel every day! I strongly believe and feel that more men should adopt these tried and true concepts… because that should be no problem, and not weak for us men in standing together, and building each other up in this world. So, if it works for them, it’ll work for us too!
@@jleano609 Very bad news!!!!
Short, short hair almost never looks good (to me) even on beautiful women. No hair looks worse. Full stop.
“If you have to say it… you’re NOT…” that cracked me up Courtney!
Yo you look funny
I'm rich
I'm not
Tywin's advice to Joffrey.
So true. On some of these channels that’s all they talk about. Alpha. Lol. Racks me up
I had a job where I had to wear suits often. I had noticed women (in general) were extremely nice to me. They acknowledged me more, smiled more, and I even had women opening doors for me. Little did they know the pay at that job was just okay.
I made the opposite transition, and noticed the same phenomenon in reverse. Went from suits every day with okay pay to wearing a foodservice worker's uniform and making around 20x the average worker's pay. People (not just women) nowadays treat me with an unbelievable level of contempt because of the clothes I wear.
usually when I see dudes wearing suits and ties in 2024 I just assume they are try hards
I am in the 85th percentile of earners at a fortune 500 company and nobody wears suits and ties, not even the bosses
Like Tywin Lannister once told Joffrey Baratheon
"Any man who must say "I am the king", is no true king."
I didn't realize it's a secret women judge worth on money you make, height, looks and social standing.
You would be suprised by how clueless some people are. "She only cares about kindness and personality" - ha.....
@@mickethegoblin7167 the cool women truly only care about kindness and personality. But how many truly draw their validation from within ?
After my breakup, I knew I had to change a lot of things. Fashion was a big one. When I first started doing it, I got a lot of compliments but also a lot of, "that's not you" kind of comments. For me, it just took routine. I didn't want it to be a glitch in the system. I enjoyed fashion and just personal care so much once I got into it, that I made sure to make it me, while maintaining who I am as a person. I don't make a ton of money. My car is the same. My apartment is the same. There's nothing about me to hide but at least I don't look like I don't care about myself or what I have.
Thank you Courtney for your time and effort you put it on helping us to improve ourselves!
Thank you for being honest about 5/10 women wanting 10/10 men. You’re honestly the first woman I’ve heard say it. It’s prevalent these days.
Thats why i only go for 10/10 women. It makes no difference compared to a 5/10. Sometimes a 10/10 is even better because they are that hot that they dont really care about looks that much anymore
@@christiangreisinger2339 While "I only go for 10/10 women" is surely an exaggeration simply because that level of perfection is rarely, if ever, seen in real life, you're basically right. Beautiful women still like a man to be decent looking and well groomed, but they don't need an exceptionally attractive boyfriend to boost their own status and ego. What fascinates them is a guy that's genuinely not the slightest bit intimidated or just awed by their beauty. Such men are quite rare, tbh, even among those who are themselves good looking.
If I only went for 10/10 women, I'd still be looking for a woman to approach. 😆
most women are 10/10 though
@@Turnpost2552 LOL no they are absolutely not hahahaha
being self aware is so important… the majority of modern women way way overvalue their looks and abilities…. they basically interview men . it’s ridiculous
What's worse is because of their looks, they feel like they don't have to develop abilities to be a good girlfriend/wife. And now the relationships are plummeting. Not a coincidence.
Most women are facially a 4, but makeupmaxx up to a 7... Then they tell themselves they are actually a 7... 🙄
A suggestion to men. Give David Jian and Jonathan Aslay a listen. Educational podcasts. David Jian empowers men.
I like how he says "If you're rich, you don't have to walk around and tell people you're rich" and yet he advises on wearing expensive name brands, which is basically the same thing.
Sadly critical thinkers can’t listen to this without finding contradictions and inconsistencies. The internet creates fake worlds and realities… and people like this prey on that.
It makes sense dude
If you dress properly then words are needless
@@Trump-A-Bad-MF dressing properly is more about the fit and less about having name brand logos.
If you're head to toe in Gucci its try hard. But if youre in quality clothes that fit you properly you look more impressive.
@@i9incher that's a cute fantasy... just like your imaginary 9 inches but hot girls don't respond to guys in dollar store clothes no matter how they fit
@@cbrown6848 you know there are different tiers between a 1 dollar shirt and and $300 shirt right?
Like you do realize their are mid and high mid right?
That's the crux of it. I think a lot of guys are living lives they like and are doing things they want to do, but those lives don't attract women. Some guys have been desired by women since they were 12. Other guys struggle to ever make a sale. Rejection after rejection isn't a learning experience, it's just punishing. So we gravitate towards lives that are less punishing. Video games, the gym, hunting and fishing, i.e. less social endeavors. But as we move towards those endeavors that eliminate the punishment we've experienced from all the rejection, we are also moving ourselves out of mainstream activities that most women would find attractive and that further reduces any chance we may have had of finding someone. It's a quandary. Do you keep doing things you don't really enjoy, and keep being punished in an effort to stay mainstream and maybe still have a chance, or do you try to hang on to what self esteem and confidence you have left and pursue activities that you actually enjoy, realizing the chance of an attractive woman coming by your deer hunting stand is virtually zero.
This comment speaks to me a lot. Excellent view. The only wording I would add is that rejection after rejection isn't always a learning experience. I find that some people have hard time learning why they were rejected, which gives you the result you mentioned. This lack of knowledge of how or knowing what to change about ourselves can make some people give up on it. I think ultimately though that people come to the same conclusion you mentioned even when they do know what they would need to change due to the perceived is the amount of effort they would need to put into changing worth the increased chance. Ultimately, it still seems people tend to lean towards not worth the effort.
I feel this, most of my hobbies are solitary or bro activities, which never put me anywhere near women. Now that i'm 28, I care a whole lot less about that. I enjoy my peace and activities that make me happy
You do what makes you happy and what you enjoy, women should always be the last thing you think about make yourself dont warry about the girls.
Who cares. Those things are fun and often useful (ie, the gym). If you like doing them, keep doing them, never give up something you like doing for ANYONE
I choose enjoyment and will continue in my quest if coin collecting and a wayward coin dealer. That's more important than chasing skirts
Todd is one of my favorite. I have "The System" and it helps me see things in a different light. By the way, you are my favorite female Coach, if that's what you call yourself. Straight forward and honest. Thank you.
I’ve been thinking about getting The System recently, is it good?
Love the morning uploads! I agree, if you can create a friendly atmosphere with that charisma/energy while being yourself then that's gold. I try to make convos with whoever I interact with for practice, definitely helps sharpen that witty aspect. No fake persona for sure, everyone is unique which is an advantage so build on that 👌🏽
As always stay cool, calm and collected everyone 🤙🏽
In essence it is about self care. You have to care about you and look after you, first. You have to be motivated to be better for yourself. Everything else and everyone else is secondary. Personal development and care should be at the top of the list whether you’re single or not.
This guy hit the nail on the head! I like that you pointed out how some men will disagree with you on some points, yet this guy had similar knowledge as you! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Great vid, CR! 💗
Exactly.
Yes, very well said 👍🏼
This really only matters for average-looking men. Attarctive women and men barely have to try to have success. Don't say that women have to wear makeup and do their hair etc.. No they don't... They can put nothing but get out of bed pics of themselves on their dating profiles and they still would have an overflooding of dm's saying OMG you look amazing without makeup etc
@@michaelangst6078 Yes and? That works fine for hookups but if a girl is super hot but is just a slob and doesnt care for herself or have the life values that align with my values. Then she is not relationship material.
@@hypnoticlizard9693 A relationship doesn't just fall from the sky like you're single one minute and in a commited relationship the next.
En THAT is where the point of Michael comes in, women (and A-list men) dont have to do any initial effort to make the first contact that flows into what comes after.
An average (or lower) man will ALWAYS have to put in a lot of effort to even be on the radar, which nowadays also barely happens barely.
If you cant see that, or wont believe it, then you're part of the problem.
Men, my advice- just don’t get involved with any women who think in terms of value and leveling. You will eventually regret it because your life will become miserable. Instead learn to love yourself and be yourself …
Just curious. How's that working out for you? How much sex/intimacy are you getting ever week ?
Great vid. This reallly convinced me Courtney knows her stuff - not only on fashion but also behaviour. Especially the part about bragging or flashing money to prove something - great point.
I wonder how many well off guys (who may not have the greatest “game”) get prematurely judged and written off just because they don’t advertise their wealth and don’t care about fashion or a bunch of material things lol
this
the thing is, the girl did the guy a favor... those girls be shallow these days
For example me.
A lot. That's your answer.
Well off guy should care about being well groomed, clean, and wear correct fitting clothes. Those are like the basics. If he can't do that, the girl was right to not pay attention to him. Vice versa, you wouldn't want a girl who didn't do those things.
Your a great voice of reason and I enjoy your videos. In our circle of friends we used to joke about this topic, with new couples. "I wonder who tricked who into this relationship". Being yourself works best, but trying your best is also a good motto to attract the best you. Thanks Courtney, keep the good vids coming!
This is what I want to see. An emotionally mature man and woman giving relatable dating advice and helping others
Thank you, Courtney, for doing all of these videos of yours. They're very helpful, and you're very sweet on how you.
Approach all of the different levels.
I have been working my tail off in my 'leveling up' journey...I am working towards what I call 'Dan 3.0'. It's been so fun, challenging, and rewarding and I can't wait to see what life looks like in 2022! Keep up the great work, Courtney!
Since breaking up with a toxic (and almost certainly narcissistic) girl, plus starting therapy, I also called this Life 2.0 :) Never felt better!
Most women are interested in men that are of equal value as them, or slightly higher - and that makes perfect sense.
They want a man that can protect them, and also help them raise their offsprings. This is deeply ingrained in them.
This probably dates back to a time in human history when women depended on men for a lot of things, such as: their livelihoods, and also to keep a roof of their heads.
So, this isn’t something they’re able to control - when it comes to choosing a mate!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
If it makes you feel better I work with a lot of CEO's and Business owners and a lot of the successful ones are named Dan.
@@OrangePony75 that's so awesome! I have started therapy as well and it's been a gamechanger. So great to hear, bruddah.
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 that's exactly it! Perfectly stated.
Something I tell guys that really helped land dates and GFs is take the time to get to know who you are first..
What are your strengths and weaknesses
Then go and build yourself..
Don't act like a confident guy. be one
Don't pretend to have all this money and success.
Build towards it and work to attain it
too many guys get caught up in trying to fake it.
Be the the real deal.. she will know she is talking to the real deal as te goes on and not someone who is trying to be a player
Always on the hustle & everyone’s looking to shake you down constantly 😂😂😂 Love kicking back & watching this s*** show from the sidelines, gold
Got rejected twice recently. I consider myself 7/10. Asked out a 7/10 girl, got rejected (HARD). Maybe I'm actually a 6/10. So I asked out a 5/10 girl, got rejected again!
What do these girls have in common? They both are going for 10/10 Chads. Girls are definitely overpricing themselves.
Maybe you overpriced yourself as well thinking you're a 7/10?
Age maturity could be a factor
@@wyleecoyotee4252 Like I mentioned I priced myself at 6/10 after the 1st rejection then got rejected by a 5/10 girl. No way am I actually at 4/10. I've mostly based my value objectively as I took a lot of people's honest feedback (some priced me at 8/10). I'm in no way going for 9s and 10s, but these girls are, and they continue to be single for years. It's likely them.
@@thefox47545 you just based the number on looks?
or on more data...
Because looks in the eye of the beholder.
For example ; i don't rate an angelina jolie even in her prime to be a 8, for me she just a 6 or 6.5. because she ain't my type...
this is called reality.
Point i want to make if you just put numbers on attractiveness...
For some people you are a 10 for some you are a 3..
So what you gonna do about it...act like you are a 10? or a 3?
How about just be who you are...keep it simple.
You do not base your attractiveness on whether you get rejected by girls etc, that's foolish.
Another dose of reality :
I like peace, therefore i do not find loud girls attractive at all..they can be 10/10 on the physical..but as soon that mouth open ups...she is 1/10...
Just saying, we are humans..We all have our setting...what we like or don't...
Don't beat yourself up if you get rejected.
You question is answered in the video my guy. "You could be the ripest peach, but there will still be people who don't like peaches." Stay sharp.
Just started watching! Thanks Courtney for your video on fragrances. My two winter favorites are Layton and Chanel Allure Homme Eau Extreme!
Ahh I love the fragrance videos! I adore Layton, I’ll have to check out the Chanel 👏🏼
Judging people by apperance isn't new . I differ in the aspect that I judge by what comes out of thier mouth , thier actions . This idea of trying to level at a certain number is a young man's game. I am in my mid fourties I no longer care . My attitude is take me as I am or go pound salt. I am not into the latest styles ...I go with what works . My goals are to take care of myself ....enjoy life's experiences. Don't get caught up on being desperate ...or worry. Let the young man chase skirts...If your not married just move on but don't close the door either
I really like the video you are showcasing, and appreciate his coaching approach.
Thinking about a “4” or a “10”, it dawns on me that a 4 for one person could be a 10 for someone else. Hence any “how do I get a 10” advice simply can’t be blanket statements, nor describing a 10 for everyone.
Also, perspective (what’s a 4 or a 10, to you) changes with time and experiences. Something to consider.
Maybe “how to be a big fish in *your* pond” could be a healthy topic?
It is really entertaining to watch. You're coaching and you're advice. You're very good at what you do. And I am very impressed.
You're also trying to better the lives of people. And of course, to
better society you are, it is really.❤
Bottom line is make a great life for yourself. If you meet someone, fine. If not, you still have a great life.
The difference is basically as long as a guy can get rich and bring value he can ultimately get a 10. He can be super ugly but if he is rich enough he can find someone that is a 10 simply because men care about appearance and status. I fully believe that a man will keep dating a horrible women not only because she is attractive, but because having an attractive partner raises his status level. And she will stay with him because he brings security, but will still find a way to cheat. I know because I have been there.
For women really what most of them bring to the table is their looks. And despite exercising and what cosmetic procedures will have you believe, after awhile that fades and they really CAN'T improve themselves to still get 10's no matter what they do. It's a real role reversal after awhile.
I don't care about my appearance. I would rather die with a few scars on my face and my teeth kicked in rather than going my whole life caking on some type of feminine product all so my skin looks youthful. Yeh you might be cuter but you also look like a boy. I might be uglier but my face would show experience. I've been through it but the boy taking 3 hours in the bathroom all over his appearance doesn't. Plus as a man,your suppose to be the protector. Being a protector isn't suppose to be pretty.
Being a "10" is over rated 🙄
I'm a 15.
@@smokingthereefer92 Women think they want a guy who cares about his appearance. I don't want to be with a woman who expects me to smell nice and have a skin care routine. I'm a fucking man. We work with our hands, or at least we're SUPPOSED to. In this modern age, too many men have soft hands and don't do any ACTUAL work. It's all on computers. It's honestly very sad. We have evolved a little TOO FAR. Women are becoming men and men are becoming women. I've had enough. Luckily I'm almost 38 and don't have much time left on this forsaken planet. I hate it here. I'm single and don't plan on being with anyone ever again because they all demand six figure salaries or gym memberships. I work 60 hours a week in a blue-collar job. I don't have fucking time to care about my physique or my skin. These women have too high of standards and I'm finished. I'll be friends with a woman but I'm not raw-dogging them anymore and I certainly will not cohabitate.
@@GT6SuzukaTimeTrials I completely agree men should work physical labor with their hands BUT alot of kids now days aren't shown how to. I wasn't and with this judgemental world we live in now days, if I did try to go out and teach myself,I would probably be spending more in jail for assault than I would be to learn anything. But I do agree men should work with their hands.
@@GT6SuzukaTimeTrials You'll probably find someone rather sooner than later, you'll fall in love and you will forget you ever said what you said above. You will look back and you will laugh at your own words. If you look for something at a pile of trash you won't find anything but trash. Look somwhere else for a REAL VALUE WOMAN. I'm ugly, always was. I got both ugly and beautiful girlfriends since I can remember. I'm a fun person. I always have something funny to say, even at a funeral. Chicks dig that a lot. The best of my girlfriends weere those who liked me for my fun part. Ugly is a very elastic concept when it is about a man and it means nothing.
Hypergamy and entitlement from women due to the constant simping of men on IG or your choice of social platform is a VERY real problem.
Don't think about how to get a woman. Think about how to better yourself and make yourself more desirable and marketable. If you care about trying to get a woman and that is your main priority, you're living life the wrong way.
That and a lot of those average women can get the exceptional guy with movie star good looks - for a night or two. They can never get that guy to commit. They think that because they can get a guy like that for sex that they can get a guy like that to commit which is incorrect. Guys have higher standards for women they will commit to than ones they will fuck. So they're good enough for a fuck but not good enough for a serious relationship. That's a tough pill to swallow for most women so most of them refuse to.
@@BLdontM do you even know any women? lol. you're just parroting red pill videos.
@@kennedyhair8434 Are you special needs? I want to know before I make fun of you
@@BLdontM im smart enough to know you like king of the hill. lol. but dude you ARE parroting red pill shit. you might just need to take a break from youtube and meet more people in real life. balance yourself out a bit.
@@kennedyhair8434 I'll get right on that.
Women endlessly whinge about men judging them only by their looks, while they’re judging us men by EVERYTHING, starting with the LOOKS. Shallow and entitled hypocrites.
If you ain’t got the pretty eyes and the pretty face you’re not worth a second glance and everything he spent so much time babbling about means nothing. So who exactly is judging by the looks then?
Exactly
But you still want women 😃
@@natashadickson4819 what exactly is your point?
True
But women want u to b interested in them as a person
Judging by looks is fine
But be interested for long term
@@Traumatised311
I think you need to read my comment again. Women will judge you by the looks and dismiss you in an instant, so what long term interest you talking about when you’re not worth a second glance in their eyes? If you’re not a good looking guy, you’ll be immediately ignored even possibly mocked. My suggestion is to ignore women all together and mind your own business.
Todd is basically the encyclopedia of game. Sometimes his vids are too technical and they don't all teach you game. Its just analysis. But, he's probably the most experienced and knowledgeable. Always love his content.
"Why should a 10 like a 4?" Because Hollywood and women in general have said that what they care about is "personality and that trumps everything else" when it's clearly not true. It gives people that don't want to work on themselves the false idea that just who they are as a person should be good enough. It isn't.
And thus you have 4's going after 10s. The problem also persists that a 10 for a women is just her being attractive. When for a man it's being attractive, well off, adventurous, and mysterious.
Men don't care about that at all when being initially attracted to a woman. Our barriers to entry are pretty low in comparison.
Nailed it! 100% bro, regarding the 10s and 4s, and what constitutes a 10 for a man vs for a woman. There's a walk of life, however, that I'm quite familiar with, in which a lot of super hot women are attracted to dweebs and beta males.....the world of cosplay. I swear to God, when I was heavily entrenched in comic cons and cosplay, I'd see these big time mismatches in the looks department, and, here's the real kicker, these bad looking guys weren't even wealthy, so it truly was their personality and common nerdy interests getting them these hot cosplay girls. I also think they felt more secure with those types of men because of all the attention THEY got at comic cons and on their social media accounts, while not having an equally hot or hotter man to compete with. I experienced this fight for attention and resentment of the attention I received with some of the hot, but super insecure, cosplayers I dated.
@@Lonstermash I actually know a lot of cosplayers. Believe it or not there are a handful of guys that bang most of them, and they are usually pretty Chad like.
But the thing about cosplay is status plays a lot into that too. So if you are a Male with a lot of followers you dominate the market.
Most of them aren't really trying to juggle multiple women though, but the ones that do REALLY go through them all.
Ha ha entry
@@i9incher when I was a regular member of the cosplay community, I actually was considered a "Chad," lookswise, but I still barely got the time of day from the super hot cosplay girls I hit on, even though I had a big following, like you mentioned. And I was wrongly rumored to be a man whore by many people, even though I barely hooked up with anyone, and 2 of the women I did hook up with regularly were relationships, while a 3rd was a 7 month casual relationship. All three were pretty hot, at least, but the one I was most serious with had some serious issues, as she resented my overnight success, because she had to "suffer for years from all the bullying and fear for our lives as we left conventions." She was also jealous of my success, even though she was wayyy more popular than I'll ever be. And she always feared I was cheating on her, even though she admitted I gave her no reason to feel that way. I noticed she dated down before and after me. Another perfect 10 I had 5 dates with attended a convention with me and later complained, "Everyone LOVED you, but they all HATED me," even though she got just as much attention as I got. And a few months later, she, too, was serious with an average looking guy who was just under her height. Smh
I disagree. How many men make videos on youtube for example and a lot of the comments are talking about sexy the dude is?? This is very rare, but if the guy is attractive enough for this to happen, he doesn't need to have anything else going on with his life and he can have the most boring and jerkish personality and he will be able to slay as easily as an attractive woman can
Todd V talks a lot of sense. Looks are important, until you open your mouth, or she sees where you live!
Also, think about it positively. Men are actually luckier than women in the sense that there are more attraction metrics that she "scores" a guy on than vice versa. For girls it's the 3Fs, fit, feminine and friendly, and she's got no more than 2 decades to really trade on those. For guys it's a whole laundry list of thing so that actually means a number of small improvements in a bunch of areas such as fitness, fashion, money, game and frame can yield great results. And he has time on his side. High value men can date down 20+ years no problem. In the US for instance with an epidemic of obesity, just being fit instantly catapults your SMV. And surely you can afford one decent outfit to go out in? Obviously money, game and frame are tougher, but through practice you can make inroads there too and it's those factors that are going to keep a girl around.
Looks its 100%, so you can be seen and then the oter stuff will have some value. Thats what men dont understand.
Looks its the entrance for the competition, the competition will count the oter aspects, finances, social status etc.
If youre 6 or avarage, you cannot compete thats it.
@@ArantyrDarkhand not true. Unless looks are on point you may well struggle with cold approach, but you can play within your social circle where you have more opportunity to display your softer characteristics like money, status, game and frame. Women are complicated, and there are plenty of ugly guys who can do well if they can leverage other attributes.
Excellent video!! Yes, self improvement is key. Also being yourself and a gentleman is underrated. Also things like building your credit, being financially stable, working on your career, having financial goals, and improving your social skills will definitely get you far in the dating world 🌎 😅
Lets deconstruct what that rethoric means in concreteness (numbers), shall we:
Being yourself: only when you're a top 1% otherwise its creepy.
Gentleman: If you want to end up in the friend zone
Build Credits: must be 7-digit.
Financially stable: yearly income must be 6-digit
Career: only when socially of high-value
Financial Goals: more money for the woman to spend on your behalf.
Social Skills: being a sleazeball.
..... this is a fabulous dissection video! Thank you for your insights. Grazie Signorina!
Courtney your youtube play buttons are on way 💎💎💎💎💎
Cant wait for you to unbox it
❤️😊 next stop, 1 million!!
"Living a life that you feel fulfilled happy living that you feel proud to invite someone else into. Or you're depressed and unhappy." This is exactly why I'm single. I don't feel like I've built myself and my life up to the point where someone else would want to join it.
I don't think your picture is helping your case LOL- I get your point though and feel that too.
This is one of the better videos you have made that I have listened too.
Well done!
This is great stuff. Highest style level is one's own *unique* style. Which can be done on a low budget with classic vintage or even thrift store finds (if you can get to them before the vintage store scouts do). The current fashions are *designed* to be out of date before very long. Which is why a lot rich people go for classic styles that suit them, and get decades out of the same outfits that always look sharp.
Arrogance definitely betrays insecurity. Definitely the real bad-ass need not say it. People *know.*
*Nothing* is one size fits all. I've had girlfriends who considered some of the "sexiest men alive" gross or yucky. Different blokes for different folks.
The best "game" is *no* game. Just to level up and be the best *you* possible.
My Dad always told me you can't always look good but you can at least smell good.
Gimmicks can get attention and initial attraction. But if you have to use gimmicks to maintain it, you're 100% going to burn out. You have to level up who you are, not what you do, to sustain attraction with someone of high value.
Give Bobby Rio a listen sometime. He kind of lands in that spectrum with Corey Wayne and Todd.
Be confident, be yourself, be kind, and be putting yourself out there taking all the shots cause if you don't you miss all of them. My coworker advised me to focus on me first and be my best version and the confidence will come out because it was always there and just unused.
Thank you. Great video as always.
what if I have no interest in women who care about which brands I wear or any other status symbols? to me personally, being a high value woman means you only care about things that actually matter.
This 😂☝️☝️☝️🤣🤣🤣
What’s funny is I hid most of this stuff from my wife when I met her because I didn’t want her to know how much I made or what I did initially. Then as we got more serious I started dressing better, revealing more etc..etc…
you took the word out of my mouth when you said social media made girls think they are 10. that was in immediate thought. glad you had a take on that quickly
Courtney I enjoy your videos. You have fantastic takes on just about everything.
I've dated a 9 during a couple of years and it was exhausting. When all the best behaviour faded after the first year of passion, I've started to feel that I had to bridge that extra gap, it made me super anxious and I found myself always at a loss. You need to know your real edge and your frame, and most importantly: don't fake it. Great Video.
What do you consider yourself out of 10?
If that's your face in the pic, I doubt it
@@michaelangst6078 I've seen ugly fat dudes with hot chicks IRL and model looking guys that can't get girls IRL. Anything can happen.
🎼 🎵 'When you're in love with a beautiful woman...' 🎶
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@@michaelangst6078what do you mean?
Why does it feel like in reality us guys have to strive to be perfection when all we want is a cool, attractive no drama kind of girl. With guys there is usually 3-4 criteria. With women you need a few pages before they're done.
Exactly. Trust me its not us men usually. Even though there is always room for self improvement and self realization. But its actually modern women that have been spoiled for choices, and set unrealistic standards for men, because they "feel" they deserve it. And that is their downfall too, specially after a certain age.
It sucks for us men when we still dont achieve much. But we eventually get there (and not for the looking for girls)...
For example, lets say you get a job, not a great job, just a job. Save penny's for years, then you want to "level up" (again not for woman) and you buy a car. A nice one you like.
You are already making it. That car will drive you home, work, whatever is your need.
Some woman already found you have a job, a stable guy and with a car to travel. You now have oportunity and just because you dont chase woman, you chase "excelent on life".
Is all about mentality.
if you were legit 8/10 looking you would realize eventually all that matters is looks...
@@michaelangst6078 even just being a 7/10 it's obvious. I have straight up been told if i wasn't so attractive my personality wouldn't work. I've almost always received female attention my whole life. I wasn't always picked first, but i have had girls hit on me often even if they have a boyfriend. I even get free stuff from female staff places pretty often. I dont even have good fashion at all, and get told they like how i dress. I dont have terrible fashion, i wear clean clothes, take care of myself, and wear good cologne. Genetics play a large role, i'd probably be more than a 7 if i was tall too, but i'm just average height.
@@rockbandandghmaster what stores are females giving you free stuff? I call bullshit. Female attention is cool and all, but at the end of the day it is all about making money in life when it comes to creating pure happiness.. The number of men who want to end their lives because of being invisible to women who are actually multimillionaires for example, has to be around 0.5% of the men who off themselves. Even the rich guys who do it may not be doing it because of women. Being a multimillionaire also grants you access to women who strictly only care how much money the man makes which is a bigger percentage of women than you would think
I love your content. Keep up the great work
RSD Motivation helped me to become stronger in life, emotionally stable, get rid of the scarcity mindset AND getting better with women. So many improvements. Their motivational videos also helped me to get inspired and getting me trough tough times. It is so cool to see you reviewing another heavy influence in my life.
I think compartmentalizing yourself to greater goals that are of more substantial nature makes a better character development environment. If we stop wasting time chasing women, I think we would find a quality partner much more naturally this way.
I really don't care much about what a woman thinks about me; i already have nearly everything i need and want so the only thing i could possibly want from a women is unconditional love, kindness, caring, loyalty. I grew up in an extremely disciplined but loving household so she should be the one worrying about what i think about her. Everything else this guy is talking about is just common sense and logic....
@CourtneyRyan these are my favorite videos... id never admit it to my friends, but i actually watch this guy and your reactions are so cool and eye opening.
18:02 speaks so much truth. I'm 33 yrs old turning 34 next year. There are challenges I need to address in other aspects of my life (health and finance). To fully feel fulfilled, happy, and proud to welcome girls into my life.
I dated someone who was super pretty and she was very kind and gentle, never felt insecure though the irony is that she believed I was out of her league due to my kindness
LOL! 'It's me it's not you'. She lied to you bud, just wanted an excuse.
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That happened to me, makes me think her past she was only valued for sex and basically being a slave to her guy since they probably leveraged her like a tyrant. I don’t think she was used to and equally attractive guy, but believes in being a gentleman and treating them right, then when she crossed a boundary or needed to be put into perspective firmly but respectively, she either took a step back in fear or otherwise from past traumas, or resented me in place of the blame or cost inflicted on her emotions from a past guy she resents. On finance and social status, I’m just an average dude. She’s hot but she’s living an average life as well. What fucks with woman like that, every guy high and low status gives her attention and validation, and it fucks with them as naturally a woman would get annoyed with 1, mostly the same what she calls “losers” or fanboys drooling over her, and the rich guy banter that probably is overly complimenting her only with sex appeal and seduction bull shit that I personally think is anything good intended. Naturally they kinda fall for the bad boy, then if he is or isn’t, she actually don’t know what she was expecting when she gets that guy whoever she had her eye on, cuz there’s no such thing as a fairy tale. But it shows throws woman off today that yea we all have our flaws and problems and also gifts and things we like to do. Finally meeting some one that wants the best for her, refuses to be the bad boy she fantasizes about, and just replaces it with respect and dignity, fails to realize when compromise happens when she doesn’t notice when that guy adapts to reasonable things she likes and does that’s just her being her and it’s healthy and enjoyable to be around if in a relationship or not. Guys, yea we forget some of the bullshit and gossip girls naturally do, as we should, and they will remember mostly everything sure, but will they appreciate being treated well and respected, especially if they are building a life together? being some one you are not just for the girl is not authentic to woman, but not revealing who you really and pretending you’re “fine” is the same thing we think when woman do that, which is called “being fake”
This is probably the same scenario you had maybe ? Well I don’t have any friends that are at the point in life where they see the world for what it is and still wants to do the right things at work, home, relationships. Loyalty is big for me since I know I’m not a cheater but I feel trust is a huge issue for attractive guys and girls both, we kinda know we aren’t ugly and we put a lot into being healthy and fit sure, that’s easy since it’s been a part of life since forever. woman it’s harder to not cheat or whatever probably, they could sleep with anyone, that’s their power to hold, but at a greater cost. Guys can’t but choosing not to sleep around is a good thing because it’s the right thing to be faithful to 1 woman. that same hot chick probably thinks we hook up with anything that will give it up. Lol that’s kinda silly when you have standards and morals. I don’t think the girl in my case realized my social skills only go so far 😅 , but I’ll never be sorry for being kind and respectful to woman, I gave it my best, and if that’s not good enough man, that’s ok for me, I wish her well sure but hey, life goes on.
Just remember the key thing with watching all kinds of videos related to helping you with gaining a person in your life, every girl woman man or boy is an individual, not everyone thinks the same, be the hero of their story and you can win them over regardless of what you look like, how much money you have what job you have, if your the one who saves them or does something to make them look at you in that light the individual is the key, find who the hero of their book is, everyone is different, each individual will most likely have a different book and hero. Be that hero you can get any girl woman man or boy with that.
ps.
Keeping them is another story lol.
I've been thinking thoughts but you kinda helped me pieces it all together with what you said right there, the final nail in the coffen, just letting you know, you did effect my thinking in a pretty huge way bro. Hope it made you feel good ;p, anyway thanks
@@PowerK1 You're welcome, It happened to me, and i tried it and it worked, but couldn't keep them because no job, no drivers license/no car, no house, no money, had to lie about everything to hold onto them, funny how women are typically 99% of them superficial, but when they find out the truth, it's all over 99% of the time. They will find out eventually.
So figured that was the hidden key that people just skip over and think it's this or that.
Truth is, everyone that hooks up if you look closely have a similarity about them, they kinda look the same thus other half, also is why love life is a double standard. IF you want someone hot you gotta make yourself hot yourself.
It's funny I was expecting more likes on my comment, I guess people aren't smart enough to realise it yet. You seem to be smart as you saw my meaning.
That is everyone hooking up typically find the person they see themselves in or becoming the hero of their story.
Thank you wing girl! Appreciate it
I've never been more sure that both Todd and Courtney know their shit. This was great to watch!
Courtney, I love the line "I'm so Alpha, I'm so this...if you have to say it, You're not," as she frowns.
Shot for who ever your attracted to but be yourself , but also be polite and classy if she or he says there not interested. Of course self improvement should always be a goal.
Thanks for your honesty!
I can summarize the whole video into one word: AUTHENTICITY!!! Most others behaviours and your mindset flows from this. If you are not comfortable with your authentic self you go about everything in your life with a facade. It never ends well bcos you cannot keep what you obtain and whatever you sold will eventually be exposed. Seen it time and time again with women as well as guys. You may attract what you don’t want or can’t handle. In the end it’s a loose loose situation for you. My two cents!! Cheers 🥂
Whatever happened to two people just liking each other? The internet.
Ok boomer
Women have always wanted the man to be the breadwinner in the relationship. The only difference is they were much more of a housewife on average compared to today, and you could trust them much more compared to attractive women today who can replace you with the snap of their fingers if somebody better looking and more wealthy hits them up online
There is nothing wrong with 'dying alone'. I was born ALONE. If, in your life, repeated attempts at finding a partner and all you have to show for is depression, self doubt, anxiety(which could have been things you struggled with but got worse through bad relationships) then just focus on ANYTHING else in your life that HELPS cope with your individual situation and,hopefully, find PEACE. We all find ourselves trying to find meaning and fulfillment in life in OTHER PEOPLE who are all broken in some way which is a human behavioral enigma.
'You'll die alone' is just something women say to make themselves feel better.
Any real man doesn't care about that sh!t, and sure as hell isn't going to compromise decades of his existence just to have some old bag by his bedside for his last few months on Earth.
Best comment ever.
Hard to find a guy who’s more insightful and more on point with anything game-related than Todd. No fluff. No gimmicks. Just the honest, detailed truth about the way reality is. Both the reality of the sexual market place and the reality of bettering oneself as a man.
This is so healthy to hear. Thank you 🙂
A woman's 1st impression of you is based on how you look and your clothing style. If she likes neither of those things she wont interact with you and will find it weird and or creepy that you tried to strike up a conversation with her. I thought women want guys who are confident and being comfortable in their own skin so if a guy is comfortable wearing clothes or having a style off the beaten path women still think the guy is weird. unless women truly are full of it and only want to be with men who fit into what societies box is considered acceptable.
I disagree. It's the guys face and hairline
@@michaelangst6078 bit of both when she is a gold digger
Face, height, body composition, race, is what women judge men by pretty much in that order.
@@tylerh1648 nawww, A percentage of women only want to date good looking white men, and some will only date within their race
@@michaelangst6078 true, for some girls it matter, mostly white girls, but non white girls this is usually true.
When discussing how women judge a man's value, it also important to not lose sight of hypergamy. Women always attempt to punch well above their level. The more validation that she has obtained from other men, her friends, family, etc., the more unrealistic her own rating scale will be towards men.
Hi... ToddV is definitely a guy i have on my watchlist since a while. He has very good vids, also with infield game, and he can definitely express exactly what the good points are. And he's not the superficial plan-seller with "secret weapons" to get each girl.
By the way Courtney good reaction vid...
Having a sound value philosophy is key. Good stuff
Commenting on bragging- there's an old saying, "Empty barrels make the most noise." Also actions speak louder than words.
I'll been single for 5 years. The longer I'm single the less stress that's in my personal life. Plus if you live with someone after 6 months. The law considers you married. and the woman is entitled to half of your stuff.
Not all states consider that law lol...
Give it time
Todd has brought a lot of value to a lot of men. And you are going a great job as well.
I do appreciate how you explain your point of view Courtney. Thank you for the vids, I hope in your later vids you're not referring to the "F&F" losers anymore as they are contributors to the overall problem. I really liked your comment pertaining to lower quality women feeling "entitled" to "high quality" (earners) men. No idea where this "idealism of deserving" came from, but it seems to have come in strong.
Small caveat, if you are trying to look/play the part, you're not. If the rule applies to one, it applies to the the other. i.e. If someone states (compelled to say out loud) something = it probably isn't true (Their an alpha, etc.).
“When you're good at something, you'll tell everyone. When you're great at something, they'll tell you.” That's a succinct way of comparing people that brag about their wealth vs. those that are actually wealthy. There's a reason that actual rich people don't have to advertise their worth by flashing luxury goods. You only see this type of behaviour from those that have no money and therefore feel like they have something to prove.
Your statement does hold some truth, but I enjoy the nicer things in life. Though it shows outwardly, my personality is the total opposite of a douche bag, which makes it a 110% solid deal when women finally get to know me lol. In their minds, it’s… wow he’s handsome and so nice and fun to be around! It’s like their mind is blown 🤯
I don't see how you can rate someone as 1 through 10 without knowing them. Everyone has value as a person.
the rating is physical only. like first impressions. I'd rather just say hot, good looking etc.
Your vids are awesome Courtney
I love that intro: you attract what you are like=like attracts like(cliche I know,but let's face the dull not so dull facts).
Descartes: "I think, therefore I am"
Women: "I have a vagina, therefore I have value"
Demand that the women you associate with bring value to the table and always remember to never simp. They don't deserve it, don't give it to them.
Todd’s one of the few genuine people on here trying to help guys improve themselves. He actually gets into the grass and weeds instead of just telling people “just do better/level up”
I watched the first 2 minutes and disagree that guys only care about looks. We have our hidden agenda too like wondering how many men sha has been with. This Todd is like most "coaches" trying to oversimplify things. It sounds like his audience are guys in NYC or LA where dating is toxic.
I think it is very nice when someone can contrast some else opinion. Tks Courtney.
This dude is great. His videos really helped me understand women, game, etc.
Watch TFM his been banned off of CZcams. but he gives really good advice when it comes to men's Life's.
@@manofthehour5580 : Sounds like the women did not want the facts to get out to the men, but the info leaked and they complained, and TFM got banned from Yt for that.
22:21 - Courtney, I'll translate in guy speak for ya: Example: Spending 15 mins to wash a car vs. spending an HOUR putting on cheap parts. The clean car is the "subtle" classy approach, while the dirty never been washed car with the cheap aftermarket fart can exhaust screams: "I Lack class and am bad with priorities".
What I have learned is that physical attraction is 10-20% of the package. It may look nice, but the substance is beneath. As she speaks and acts tells a story. Same with me. If I sense quality, I may pursue, if not, I want nothing to do with her. Simple.
Great video! 🙌🏽🔥
Todd's theory is good. can sometimes overcomplicate things but you're right courtney its important to become someone vs come up with a formula. Its just useful for guys starting off then they can internalize it and go through enough experience to then become less attached to theory and acts.
Wow there's another men dating advice channel; it seems like there's a million of these channels nowadays hahaha 😄 In all seriousness, Todd V is telling the truth. Women do like men who have things that they might lack in themselves. Also i think looks do matter to women. I think most women has to be physically and mentally attracted to you. Some women you can't please no matter what you do true enough. I do think being socially and financially responsible while dressing your best is helps. Either way, i wanna send good vibes to everyone. Have a blessed Thanksgiving Courtney 🧡🍂
because its easy money
My rule of thumb in general, which was handed down to me many years ago by someone I deeply respect, is to dress one level up from whatever the dress code is for what you are doing.
Going to the movies? Wear a polo and dark jeans instead of a t-shirt and cargo shorts. Dinner? A button down shirt and dark jeans or khakis. Interview? Suit and tie. Your wedding? N/A because we know better than to get married in 2021.
You can never go wrong doing that and it sets you apart in a very good way without making you look tryhard. Even if you are overweight or slouchy or look like a bean pole one level up in dress can and does offset a shit ton of other negative aspects. But you have to be honest with yourself and how you look to make sure you are choosing the right sizes and styles.
As far as clothes go, you can wear Kmart shit. I get almost all of mine from goodwill because fuck paying $40+ for a goddamn shirt when I can get it slightly used for $4 ($2 if you go on Saturday). The main thing is to make sure it fits right and isn't frumpy or squeezy and just about anything will look pretty good.
Better to be best dressed person in the room than opposite. Of course don't wear a tux to the beach.
Rule #1 never cargo shorts anywhere. Only on expeditions or hikes.
Make sure to carry the goodwill bag around when hitting on girls.
Nah, t-shirts and cargo shorts everywhere 💪
Finally a great and honest video
Thank you Courtney! 😊😎