I’m MGM and had two biracial grandparents and when I say that I’m mixed I get dragged and get called a self hating black person. I’m between 25-30% white and I get dragged in and out of blackness. It’s crazy.
Yup my mother and law is light skinned black women and she always feels the need to let me know I’m dark skin any chance she gets because I’m a mixed brown skin . I told her what I’m mixed with in front of her husband and she felt the need to let me know I look red or dark like them . Can you tell me why she does that please ?
I’m %70 African descent %30 other. I too get my black card revoked and given back often😂. I definitely appreciate you and your channel. You’ve helped me be a lot more confident in myself without worrying about what others think of me.
Girl, I fall in to this category too. 70% black, 20% white and 10% other. I'm almost 40 years old and have had my black card given, revoked, thrown at me, forced upon me and stolen back more times than I can count. 🤣
My Arab husband sees skin color literally. He was actually confused when I called myself black. He pointed to my skin and facial features and asked me why did I call myself black when clearly I'm not dark-skinned.
I noticed that when I was in DR for a period of time. They(both the Dominicans and Haitians I met) REFUSED to let me call myself "Black". But when you think about it on the color spectrum on a grander scale, it's true.
Yup, most non black people tell me I’m not black. I’m 25% mixed. It’s only black Americans who tell me that I’m black. African diaspora, and Africans living in Africa also say that I’m not black. I’m from an African country that’s made up of mixed race people because of colonization lol
I've been waiting for this conversation. Being mixed is a trip because you can face two types of colorism/racism. People seem to want you to pick a side.
I love when you said, "This channel is NOT for people with an Inferiority Complex" 💯💯💯 This channel is a huge support for Our Real-life Life experiences that people want to discredit for some reason. Get Over IT!!!
Thank you so much for this, I’m 25% Filipina and was raised by my Filipino father and Filipina grandmother. Yet I was/ am constantly told I’m not any part Filipina and that I can’t claim to be. Your channel has helped me embrace my ancestry and ignore the people denying my heritage, thank you 💜
I agree because when you can't run from the "Are you mixed?" on arrival they assume you are, anyway. Genetics are genetics no matter how far back. If it's in the blood. If its in the features. It's mixed.
Most of time people who are “25%” non black have RECENT non black grandparent and can be raised and submerged in there non black grandparent culture still, and even dominantly look like there non black grandparent or have obvious mix features (like hair, skin color, eye color and etc) literally like a Beyoncé or Rihanna. I also noticed people like to use the “technically we are all mixed anyway so it doesn’t count” line the hardest to people who are 25% non black or have a obvious non black grandparent when these people obviously don’t have that and know it. Like for example Beyoncé embraces her mix heritage and being creole and the black community constantly tries to gaslight her in a comment section and say “she’s trying to sound mixed” or “it doesn’t count cause all black Americans are mixed anyway” knowing in a DNA test they are like 5% non black and mostly black (but lying to themselves). But do you noticed how the black community will claim someone who is 75% white and 25% black as mix tho and point out how they “obviously have black characteristics like hair or facial features” so why would it be a struggle to claim someone with 25% non black blood as mix if you are claiming someone with 25% black blood as mix.
where are you getting that from? phenotype doesn’t always tell you about a person’s heritage. you can’t assume that someone can’t be more than 5% non-sub saharan african based only on how they look. i’m assuming you’ve come to this conclusion based off of the fact that most AAs are dark skinned with afro hair. 20-25% often doesn’t show up in someone’s features, although it absolutely can! (like donyale luna or donna drake). my AA mom (dark skinned, afro hair) took a dna test and was 31% european (no other non-african dna, just african and european). my mestizo mexican dad looks 100% white (straight, sandy blond hair, white skin, blue eyes) but came back only 36% european with filipino and indigenous making up the rest. you need to read up about punnet squares and genetics before make silly statements like this. also! the majority AAs (my mother included) have mixed grandparents or great grandparents because, as we know, a lot of dsbm don’t want their children to look like them will primarily date and impregnate mixed women. and as someone who spends equal time in the AA black community and the mexican community, these issues and conversations aren’t exclusive to the black community. there’s friction between dark skinned, unambiguously indigenous mexicans and mixed mexicans as well. i’m obviously for mixed people having their own community, i’m here! but all of these communities i’ve found seem very disingenuous and hyper focus on black people (specifically in the US) despite us all coming from multiple different races, backgrounds and cultures. it seems like a lot of you just need therapy, not a platform😂 i’m just wondering what the ACTUAL criteria is here. is it a percentage or a just phenotype? not all mixed people have “the look”, and they shouldn’t be excluded because of it! they’re still mixed.
@@iwillnotusethegothfont9312 I can just tell you jump to conclusions lmao. The only thing with phenotype mentioned in this comment was using Beyoncé and Rihanna as a example (and both actually have mixed heritage or a different race grandparent which proved my point) no where did it say have “dark skin and African features means you aren’t mixed”. Obviously the 25 percent is not meant in the LITERAL SENSE, when someone is referring to someone with a DIFFERENT RACE GRANDPARENT (not mixed grandparent), it’s the same way when people talk about “half black and half white people” (when most of the time dna wise they aren’t half and probably more non black), so if AA have more “non black dna” than this makes the identity policing on people with a completely different race grandparent EVEN MORE WEIRD (cause since you wanna speak in a literal sense, that would mean a mix person with a different race grandparent would technically have EVEN MORE non black blood) which STILL makes the identity policy and trying to force people to not claim mix as even more weird. You really wrote this big comment claiming people are judging AA people by phenotype, when the main point of this comment was someone who has colonizer blood from a million years ago telling someone who has a alive a present recent grandparent who is non black (not mixed) that they aren’t allowed to claim that grandparent and that there situation “is the same” IS NOT ACCURATE AT ALL. Someone with a non black grandparent who isn’t mix is most likely raised in the cultural (for example if they have a grandparent from Asia, Latin America, etc) so trying to pretend it doesn’t count is disingenuous….so I’m not getting why me saying this is so offensive to you and some of you fighting for the right to prove AA are actually “more than 5% non black” like the whole point of the comment borderline went over y’all heads or you are deliberately just trying to find a problem or have something to debate about LMAO. This comment was specifically for the people with a completely different race grandparent (doesn’t matter if they look mix or not) because I see AA people try to force them to not claim their grandparent and use the excuse “they are the same as them”, if that offends you sounds like a personal problem.
I'm glad you showed Solange. Because they will harp on Beyoncé about acknowledging she's mixed or for existing while LS. Meanwhile, despite her caping for uabp, Tina clearly has a VERY high % of European genes, then claiming Solange's son looks the way he does because he "looks like an everyday black person". Please🙄.
I recently saw an IG reel regarding black people having stronger discernment about certain people. The woman was a South Asia desi giving credit to black people being able to scope out the fakes. She said “I’m not black, but..” and I kid you not most people in the comments did hear the rest of what she said because they were too busy arguing whether she’s black or not.
It's funny how they say all African Americans are mixed yet somehow someone who is "75%" black is always 75% black on the dot. I bet Ryan Destiny/Beyonce have more than a quarter European ancestry.
I don’t believe most blacks are 25% mixed though. There is definitely a small admixture of 7-10%. I would not consider this mixed anymore than whites with 5-12% Black admixture. Admixture is not accepted as mixed in other communities so why should we accept it as mixed? It’s okay if we gatekeep.
Love this video! I’m in that 25-30% category with multiple mixes in there from white to native to asian. Black people have tried to gaslight me by saying we’re all mixed form slavery. Wrong! My family mixed willingly for generations cry about it 😂
NGL at one point I stopped even claiming my heritage bc people would say I didn’t look “mixed” then when people see my parents they felt the need to probe me for answers.
Thank you! My father is a mixed race man. Arab, Indian, Sudanese. My mom is Afro Caribbean. Her side is from Haiti.. I have family in Puerto Rico that I know and see and we visit each other. I always felt like I wasn’t “mixed” enough to call myself mixed due to how other black Americans treat me.. even though my other side (other Puerto Ricans, Caribbeans, and middle eastern people) telling me I can claim that side of me and they embrace me. I only hear black Americans telling me I can’t claim that side of me. I always feel guilty for claiming it. So, this is relatable to me.
You are a beautiful person of the most mixed heritage! Proclaim your mixed heritage all you want love!!!! We love and accept you over here❤️ 💛💛💛💛 have a good night😊
I’m part Asian on my dad’s side (Filipino) and all my life because I’m darker skinned, I’ve been told “you’re fully black stop lying”. I’ve been shunned into not celebrating my Filipino heritage. Not anymore.
Girl embrace your non black side and hold your head up. They are hating and mad they feel inferior to you. Be bold and unapologetic about your mixed heritage ❤
Thank you for this, I promise because I am white passing I'm not allowed to have a mixed experience or I'm called full white when that's not the case.... I've had racism throw towards me from both sides.
Same girl..same. Sorry to hear that-I relate. I have a half Black mum and look kind of Brazilian/Spanish…tan with blue eyes and big corkscrew hair. I experienced racism from both sides. I was once called every racist slur as a child so that they could correctly ‘cover’ what I might be. 😂 As an adult I get telling people telling me what I am..you are white/black/mixed/not mixed… When we mention our backgrounds people can be patronising and dismissive ‘it doesn’t matter..’well actually my identity, family heritage and experiences do matter. We have a place too. It’s insulting..we aren’t trying to be ‘black’ but equally we would have been subject to slavery rules back in the day so we aren’t ‘white’. I’m done letting ignorant people define my unique looks/experiences. Thanks for this channel..I love it..finally we are ‘seen’. I am mixed and proud! ❤
I am 34% non-black. Growing up, I’ve always identified as a black-Jamaican-American. 3/4 of my grandparents were born in Jamaica and the other grandparent was from Guyana. I attended a culturally-mixed elementary and middle school, so I never questioned my race until I attended an all black high school. In high school, UABP would ask me, “what are you mixed with?” or others would joke and make comments about me not being fully black, even though I claimed to be. UABP always pointed out that they knew someone lighter than me, and I never knew why! It’s crazy that this is a shared experience amongst other MGMs. I never thought about my MGM background because it was the norm for me. I’ve always had mixed cousins & interracial couples in my family. Although, I did notice how people would make a big fuss about my hair. I used to go to the Dominicans and get my natural hair blown out and flat ironed from middle school to high school. People would think I was mixed with black & middle eastern or Indian. I have small percentages of it, but so it’s far removed I feel awkward claiming it. I guess if people can tell, then I shouldn’t be right?? When my hair is in its natural state, people touch it and say, “oh wow your hair is soft!” or (I get this one a lot) “how did you get your curls like that???”, when all I did was a wash and go or as if my hair just couldn’t NATURALLY be like that…this channel made me come to terms with being an MGM. And I’m going to be more proud about it from here on out :)
It's the worst kind of double bind to be in. I would get made fun of by the darkest black kids in elementary school for my "Chinese eyes " and thin lips. They were basically saying I wasn't "black enough " But then when I would just casually mention my mixed heritage like my Native American heritage or my obviously white passing father, then they'd accuse me of "denying my blackness" or wanting to be something "special" Guys, like ib actually mixed lol. Doesn't mean that Im shunning or disrespecting AA people
Chinese eyes and thin lips 👄 You and I lived the same life. I bet you have a little button nose like me as well. We were never enough in the black community, but will get dragged for talking about what we’re mixed with. Every time people saw my father, they would ask “What is he!? Is he Mexican?” Smh
First, I want to thank you for establishing this channel. I am an older MLS and I had enough of the bullying and the humbling tactics of Blacistan. I am MGM with 71% Black 29% Native and European mixture. I have a whole Native American Grandfather. I have tribal documentation as well and I embrace my background. I leveled up moved to a quiet small town where I benefit from my skin tone i.e. pretty privilege. I am polite to them but stir clear of UABW. I just don't have the energy deal with all that toxicity. "Stay Pretty Ladies"
Same here. I’m a nurse and I get this question nearly every shift. When they ask, “what are you,” I just say “Black, just like you,” and just move on. I’m just not wanting to explain myself to every other pt in the ER.
@@CreolePearls_better advise is to just stay with mixed people.Most black people won't accept you no matter what you identify as and the jealousy will be there if you get called pretty
I'm mixed a quarter black and I love being mixed, and a big thing is, yes I am mostly white and less black than other people, but that doesn't mean Ill love my black side any less, or embrace my culture any less. Being a quarter black has made me look unique in my own special way, and shaped me and my culture and I love to embrace all of myself. If You are mixed don't let anyone say You can't embrace all of yourself and the multiple cultures You belong to.
I am 25% black, 25% white and the rest is a mixture of Puerto Rican, Hawaiian, Chinese, Filipino and I am very much white passing and here in Hawaii being White is the worst bcuz of colonizing ofc lol so I grew up allowing others to ridicule me and label me as just a white girl. I also matured at an early age and was attractive but became overweight becuz I was uncomfortable with the male gaze so sooo much of your content resonates. It’s so refreshing and empowering the way you address these topics 🥹🙏🏼🫶🏼
There is a lot of ignorance when it comes to mixed people, especially those who are mixed in the less traditional way. People are still of the assumption that mixed means having one white parent and one black parent. Monoracial Black people struggle with this concept the most. I'm MGM 51% black, 40% white and 9% Malaysian. Black people still struggle with the idea because I don't have one white parent. I've also noticed that if you look more traditionally black and white, black people accept your mix more. However, I've had a lot of monoracial black people tell me I look mixed with Indian or Arab as a way of telling me that I don't look traditionally mixed, and therefore you are somewhat seen as less. My sister, however, looks more traditional and is considered more beautiful. People need to understand that mixed people can come out looking like anything! But that doesn't take away who you are or your mix!
Funny in latin America since they are so used to being mixed over generations they are used to viewing people with two mixed parents or even one mixed parent as still being mixed but some with African American culture that is an issue unless someone has parents of two different races.
I am a Slav and was offered your video in my recommendations (CZcams works in weird and wonderful ways sometimes): the topic is a bit obscure to me (I am not American, not mixed or black), but I love your approach towards beauty standards and being unapologetic about your beauty-as it should be, of course)
Fellow purebred eastern Slavic here. USA ways of social reflection and thinking seems so rigid for no reason. I do know about "One drop law", so it can be result of it. Mixed people are mixed. Why being nervous about it? There were also "Melting pot" ideas back then, too. People, who are actually born "melted" in USA, are true american people.
Exactly! Calling other people ugly is just weird! When you love yourself you don’t go around focusing on who’s ugly and who not, or even worse.. telling them they are ugly. It’s just so odd! Also, they tend to confuse being biracial vs being mixed. You can be mixed without being biracial aka multigenerationally mixed, aka triracial etc… multigenerationally mixed have big chunks of both or more races
Right! I don’t think I’ve ever called a woman ugly in my life , like I seriously can’t remember calling anyone ugly. I don’t see a need to, plus it technically wouldn’t be true since whoever I call “ugly” is probably pretty to someone .
I took a DNA test on 23 and Me 6 years ago. I found out that I am 75.1% Black, 23.3% European, and I have 1.2% of Trace Ancestry of Chinese and Indian Ancestry. I am shocked to found out that I am actually considered mixed race even though my parents and grandparents, etc. are Black. My parents got a DNA test done years ago. My Dad found out that he has a lot of European ancestry. I don’t remember the exact percentage of European ancestry that he has but I do know that his European % is higher than mine. My Mom has some European ancestry as well. My last name which came from my late paternal grandfather is an English last name. It is not a common name so growing up I always figured that I had some European ancestry. I am now learning to embrace all of my mixtures even though I was raised by a monocultural Black family.
My mother just woke up to the fact that all of her siblings were very fair. Blue eyes, red hair some could even pass. It never occurred to her that their father or grandfather was probably white. My mother looks like a literal Native American or Latina with long shiny dark wavy hair and still can't conceive of herself other than an unambiguous black woman. Lol its odd when I think of it. I probably don't have one close relative who less than 30% white and Native.
my grand mom would always tell me I don’t have to try so hard to be black i simply am what i am. she hated me not acknowledging her and my moms heritage. she knew i always felt more comfortable with my maternal family. bless her soul
I found out I only have 8% European based off of my dna test, I may not be mixed but I do struggle with colorism bc of my lighter skin, I’m still searching into my ancestors. I would love to know how feel about dna testing, I heard sometimes you don’t get certain DNA from your parents.
8% is STILL MIXED. Pure black people are JUST BLACK. Do we need to look up pictures of the slaves to KNOW they did NOT vary in facial features, hair textures and skin tones. We need to LEGALIZE putting distantly mixed people as just "black" and we need to stop putting directly mixed people as just "black". And multi-generational-mixed people (often called light-skinned) as just 'black'. If I removed that 8% from you biologically, you would CEASE TO EXIST ON THIS EARTH!!!!!!!!!!
This is a great conversation! Reading everyone’s comments makes me also realize I’m mixed 25ish% as well from both sides, Cuban grandmother and Chinese grandmother on my other side and my father’s grandmother is white. I never would have thought ! When I mention my background people disapprove or state their views, completely ignoring the fact it’s in the bloodline.
I am a multigenerational, multiracial woman. I am Black, white and Asian. The fact that I feel like I have to list Black first is ridiculous. I have grown up having to claim Black or made to feel bad about for claiming my other status. I was told if I have 1 drop of Black, then I'm Black. I've had ppl try to make me feel bad because they think I have it easier because they believe I have quote, “good hair, soft hair.” Their opinion not mine. My sister and I have our entire lives tanning with dark tanning oil to try to become as close to chocolate as possible. Even wearing tanning lotion and going to tanning beds during the fall and winter months. Ppl telling me I'm so-called lucky!!!! I’ve never been Black enough for Black ppl, white enough for white ppl and definitely NOT Asian enough!I'm super happy you made this page. I've felt almost alone in this journey.
Hi and a good evening! I'm new to your channel and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate you and your channel and how happy I am to have discovered it. Now some background about me (and note, this'll be very very long): I'm a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial and MGM (multigenerationally mixed) woman of color (African American, European, Native/indigenous American, Creole, Egyptian, Greek, Palestinian, Romani, Melungeon, Portuguese, Italian, Ethiopian, Mexican, Jamaican, Chinese, Puerto Rican, French, Haitian, Japanese, Hawaiian, Dominican, Nigerian, Cuban, Filipino, Korean, Vietnamese, Māori, Malaysian, Zimbabwean, South Indian, Samoan, Indigenous and Aboriginal Australian, First Nations Canadian, Jewish, etc. I got some of everything lol), and I've been on a journey to first embrace my dark/brown skin complexion and now I've been navigating my perspective as a mixed race biracial and multiracial woman of color. And I actually just finished watching your video on Chrissie, Eloho, Cynthia G and a lot of these divester channels that claim to be safe spaces for black women and dark skinned black women but are really forums for divesters to promote and push a lot of hatred, bigotry, venom and hostility towards mixed race women which is something I noticed a lot. And I actually was initially in the divest movement for a time and Chrissie and Eloho were CZcams channels I once subscribed to, thinking that the divest movement was gonna help me as a black woman but then after a while--and very quickly, in fact--it became clear that the divest movement and community wasn't gonna help me and was actually more of a very toxic and volatile cult of femcels that hadn't healed from their experiences of colorism, intra-racism, sexism and misogynoir, had internalized those experiences and grew hateful and bitter from them and then turned into bullies with personality disorders and wasted time bashing, slamming, generalizing and hating black men as well as light skinned black women and mixed race, biracial and multiracial women instead of an edifying, helpful community aiding dark skinned black women into healing from colorism and misogynoir and improving and uplifting themselves and one another, and uplifting others. And channels like Chrissie and Eloho absolutely fed into these attitudes and mindsets which resulted in me distancing myself from those channels and the divest movement entirely, and I and other people that called out divesters and divest community's devilish toxicity and how damaging it was to black women, black womanhood, black communities, black female representation and image would face a lot of divesters' torrent barrage of some of the nastiest, rudest, and most hateful, disturbing abusive behavior and language I've ever seen be displayed by people, especially on Twitter. Not to mention that a lot of divesters on Twitter were literally rubbing elbows and getting buddy buddy with racist white men who were blatant white supremacist race soldiers with a sick, racially sexualized fetish for black women repeating these divesters' extremely racist, antiblack, white supremacist and colonialist talking points (there was even a Twitter space where black divester femcels and white supremacist cops were chatting with each other talking about ways to target and eradicate black men. Just seriously horrible, evil stuff). (And don't get me started on fatphobic attitudes, obsessive fetish-y white man worship, classism and rigidity cisnormative gender identity, role and expression standards rife within divester communities, all of which are also draining for me as someone who's also plus sized (skinny fat) and nonbinary/gender non-conforming who developed a fear and distrust of white men at one point!) Meanwhile, as a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial I've also had online experiences of, whenever I would talk about being mixed race and biracial, people accusing me of race baiting, of being self hating and "trying too hard to be exotic" and that I needed to just say that I was black and even facing cyberbullying for it--and all because I happened to be dark/brown-skinned while being mixed race and phenotypically not fitting everyone else's expected stereotype of what people assume a biracial looks like (which sounds like reinforcing the notion that only light skinned and fair or white passing people can be biracial but not dark or brown skinned people and thus, a lot of reinforcing/repackaging colorism, paper bag mentality, antiblackness, colonialism, Jim Crow/Willie Lynch culture norms, reverse colorism, lack of knowledge of the difference between phenotype and genotype and just overall people's hypocrisy, entitlement, projecting, double standards and people not having a job or any grass to touch lol 🤣😒). In short, just watching your video alone really opened my eyes to the fact that there are more complexities and rich layers to being mixed race than what people think, and also helped me finally grasp each conclusion that I reached silently a while ago but can now say openly: I can be proud of being black AND I can proud of being mixed race and biracial. I can acknowledge my privilege and show allyship to dark skinned black women AND I don't have to shrink myself or my heritage to placate to miserable, insecure self hating bullies who'd rather point fingers at others getting angry at the world than improve themselves. I have a right to take up space and stand up for myself and not hate myself to appease mean girls who weaponize colorism as an excuse to mistreat, bully, disrespect and dehumanize mixed women and others AND I can stay humble and not develop a colorist superiority complex. I also appreciate that you make clear that the exotical movement isn't for trying to incite division or competitiveness between black and biracial women cause that's not something I want either. We have enough of that toxicity already and we wanna stop the cycle. Thank you. Signed, a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial woman of color and a proud exotical 💜😊
I'm 27 percent Irish I cherish and celebrate the white side of my ancestry just as much as I love and cherish the nigerian part of my ancestry. A few years ago I got into a huge argument with my sister she shamed me for acknowledging that we are mixed race. Eventhough I grew up in the black community I feel happier,safer and more comfortable around the irish side of my ancestry.
I don’t believe I have any white ancestry and I’m a more black leaning exotical but I was raised around white people so I know what you mean. I feel way more comfortable around my boyfriends family than my own. I feel like I fit in with them more than black people for sure
Thank you so much girl 🥹 for giving MGMs ppl like myself a voice to be heard ❤ I’m so proud to be MGM my Louisiana creole/German/black linage. Us MGMs/25%\30% are always silenced by the black community. This channel made me feel so seen ever since I joined this channel 2 years ago. Much love girl fr 🩷🩷🩷
Interesting video. I fall in to that 70-75% black category due to admixtures on both sides. I'm Black American on my dad's side and Afro-Latina/Caribbean on my mother's side and have always been asked what I'm mixed with growing up. My parents had always identified as just black despite having admixtures so I didn't really understand the concept of having mixtures until I got older.
I hated chrissie’s channel.. they never wanted to hear different opinions in the comment section and honestly to me they were just bullies/ salty with no self esteem.
Since my age was in single digits my parents were always honest with me and my sisters they would tell us you have black in you but your not fully black. I'm 27 percent Irish I love and embrace both sides of my ancestry. When I'm angry or upset I turn into a helpless irish princess and cry.
I’m gonna say this keep speaking your mind, your voice is SO powerful and you are speaking nothing but FACTS I shared your video everywhere. You literally are speaking nothing but the truth thank you so much for making this channel.
My father is bi-racial and my mom is black and of course I'm black appearing and I've struggled with this bulk of my life because I felt like I needed to justify my blackness so I wouldn't be called a "white girl" or "mixed". Approaching 40, I'm starting to embrace my white ancestry more and acknowledge it. :)
Ive had unambiguous people get mad from both sides due to my phenotype simply because I celebrate saint patricks day due to my phenotype, instead of being glad that I'm celebrating St. Patricks Day. As though its for one group to celebrate only.
I’m more black passing like a peanut butter, caramel to cinnamon tone depending on the time of year and have had experiences that let me know that i am also ambiguous and this video helped me realize its okay to talk about my mixture not just culturally but also racial bc I have a mixed parent and my other parent is a lightskin black person with admixtures
I am a light skinned black woman i have native American ancestry but dont have a card both sides and black. I have been told im not black because of my dark brown reddish hair or people ask what am I. daughter is black and Mexican and im glad that she will be able to experience both of her cultures
Thank you for this. I always tried to explain to other black ppl why I talk about my mixtures as well. Because I have realized a difference in how I’m treated by monoracial black ppl and the rest of the world. Ppl always ask me what I’m mixed with when I just say black so it made me realize maybe I shouldn’t be ignoring my Scottish and native ancestry. Especially since i have cultural ties back to these communities. My non black grandparents taught me the customs, language and foods so I realized I have to keep it going especially for my Blackfoots. Our culture is dying and none of us are full blooded anyway.
I’m 65/35 mixture… African and European. Even my mother, who is closer to a 50/50’mix considers herself Black. It’s just the socio- political climate in which we grew up. I can lean more into unambiguous Black spaces just on skin tone but not features or hair whereas my mother has been told that she would have been in the house during slavery and not in the fields. I’m glad this is a space where we can have open and honest discussions about it without feeling shallow.
I remember that petition (in the U.K.) that Chrissie talked about in her channel b/c I was subbed at the time. Honestly listening to that video is one of the aspects that had me thinking about what I was and why here in the U.S. channels like hers felt the need to be apart of something that was in a completely separate country. I started side-eyeing alot after watching that video.
One thing as a mixed person that always trips me out, is black people will claim me only under certain circumstances. Otherwise they tell me Im not ‘black enough’ to comment on certain things. I def have a fluid identity, but lemme tell you I have never ever fit in anywhere. Im not enough of anything to actually have a place. People love to fetishize my looks and also downplay my lived experiences. Living in the south was difficult, especially in high school.
lol my 25% admixture is literally alittle of everything ( Indian, European, Arabic) my family on both sides have been everywhere. I chose to embrace all of my mixture, no matter how small it is.
Two people of completely different races and phenotypes can come together to conceive one of your parents and people will pretend like your supposed to pretend like that isn’t different than all your grandparents being the same race 😂
I always feel so weird when i tell people i identify as Afro Indigenous. I have biracial grandparents and non-black great grandparents. I have type 4 hair and i notice people will "validate" my identity depending on my hair style 😂 crazy thing is outside of the U.S. I would clearly be considered mixed
I thank you for making this channel I am 43 years and my mother is a black woman and my father is east Indian . I have 3 siblings but I have a different father from my siblings and I grew up being bullied by dark skin black woman and occasionally some light skin women mostly darker skin women. I have be harassed, physically attack, and emotionally. I had women who wanted to fight me for no reason I don't even know them this has happened on my job, and neighborhood grewing up. Even my own sister who is 9 years older than me was extremely jealous of me she beat me up humiliated me and excused me off wanting her trash husband who has been caught so many times looking at me inappropriately even my mother and other sister said her husband is mean to me because he likes me, but I can't do anything about it. 😢
Wow the story of my life Im in my early 20s and I go through the exact samething at work too since I have a similar mixture same to urs as my family is from the carribean. Im so sorry this has happened to u as well the struggle is real out here. I hate when ppl always assume these things about us because we look different that we deserve to be treated badly even in our own families! Meanwhile the media shows a false reality about us it rlly sucks :/
I remember when all the so called BWE content creators were dragging Zendaya for taking UABW roles and saying she need to acknowledge her privilege and give up her roles....Chile Byeeeee! 😂
I have a lower percentage with biracial great grandparents of German descent on my mothers side and I have some indigenous ancestry due to having family from Alabama and Louisiana Creole on my dad’s side. Depending on how i wear my hair those features stand out more. People always ask if I’m mixed so I decided to do some research. I am interested in all my admixture and ancestry because they are still apart of me
I have always been asked if I was mixed, I would always say no because I want to be pro black. However, there is some truth to that. My dad’s side of the family is creole. French and black. My grandmother and great grandmother look like white women. My mom looks mixed but also she is Native American and we are finding that may have been about 50%-75% Native American. Her mom was from Louisiana but her dad was Native American from Mississippi. But my hair is 3b-4a so I am about 25% white, creole and native American
Beyonce is also NOT mostly Black. Beyonce is MIXED. She even wrote a song celebrating her mixed heritage called "creole". She may pander to black folk but that doesn't mean she likes 'em. She just wants to make money off of their ignorance. She's SMART in that way. Her mother is part-Native American, part-European with a dash of black and her father is black. Beyonce is at the most 50% black or maybe slightly less. Time to educate people! WAKE UP!
So... Black people are ignorant, because Beyonce intentionally plays racial ambiguity games? Maybe if she just PLAINLY stated that she's "Creole and not Black," there would be no confusion. She plays up her Blackness to make money, but somehow Black people are the problem. Maybe Beyonce can start doing whites-only music, so Black people don't have confusion.
@@kevinc3342Beyoncé doesn’t pander to black community to make money because she had also lived the black experience that’s the most idiotic thing I ever read. My family is from Louisiana and I have a creole experience as well. It doesn’t mean I’m don’t consider myself black. Dumbest thing I ever heard a black person who uses their blackness for profit tf? When has black ever been profitable especially if they aren’t making fun of us. The stupidity of you haters to use that as a reason to hate on Beyoncé
Skin color is subjective and I don't like using percentages much. But yeah you can consider 25% mixed it's very significant, actually, just because someone ain't 50/50 don't mean much. If you are 25% you can still look "mixed race" or you can look so called black. Or you can look in between the two extremes. My dad is very dad but has Asiatic eyes and type 2 hair. You got to remember people can be triracial or multiracial also meaning mixed with 3,4 or even 5 things depending on the person. Like you have to take parents' grandparents, great grandparents, great great grandparents into account all effect your phenotype. If you have say a mixed great grandparent then you can still have a possibility of looking mixed even tho you don't have a white parent.I don't have a white parent till like one of my 4th or 5th grandparents on my mom side. In her case it's 3rd or 4th grandparents.🤷
A lot of what you say resonates with me. I think mixed men and woman receive passive aggression from mono racial black people. It's as if they don't like sharing a space with us but know that it's beneficial to be associated with us. I rock with black people politically and love the culture but when I'm around black people I feel like I have to prove myself to be an ally or something. Also, I think they view us describing our experiences as mixed as a 'flex' when it's just as speaking our truth.
My father was a dark skinned Jamaican man and my mother is light skinned half St Lucian and half English which I guess makes me 75% black and 25% white . My skin complexion is light skin and my younger sister who I share the same parents with is brown skin . Me and my sister hate when people address us as different races whenever we go out i’d be the mixed one and she’d be the black one , whenever she wore her natural fro out people wouldn’t bat an eyelid but then when I wear mine it’s like people have never seen a light skin woman with SHORT SHRUNKEN 4c 4b hair texture and look at me as to say I was doing something wrong ESPECIALLY other black folks . It disgusts me how black/ mixed or whatever tf we are treat each other smh.
Thank you for this video, it explained so much for me, now I know I'm multi generational mixed I could explain who was a different race in my family just didn't have the word, funny thing is I still get asked if I have a white parent or if I'm Spanish😄♥♥♥
Lol, dang I just realized my in my mind (UABM) father is actually multi generationally mixed too. He's at least 30% non bk, white. Wow it's pretty obvious when I think about the family. Now to get my DNA test.
☠️☠️☠️ if not you can still rep your sets! I found out my unambiguous dad has a little bit of creole in there and idc I am still going to show love! ( I probably have like 1%) ☠️ no one can stop you from showing love to the people groups who came together to create you! Multi culturalism is a beautiful thing
I made a video on my channel, and I literally had people coming to my video telling me to shut up. I was so pissed that I made a second video on the topic.😂
Interesting, the average African America is 75-80% black (20-25 add mixture), so would you all refer to the majority of you as mixed? Maybe the argument need be for those mixed higher than 25% as a starting place??? 25mins in, been interesting listening to your view point.
I don't like using percentages, but it depends on the person some Black Americans are more Indian than white. You got to understand we just mixed with white.
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV there are plenty of studies on this, speak with afro think tank if you want or the African Diaspora News Channel which belongs to an AA If you disagree than tell us what the genetic composition of an AA is?
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV Genome-wide ancestry estimates of African Americans show average proportions of 73.2% African, 24.0% European, and 0.8% Native American ancestry (Table 1).
On 2024, the one drop rule is ridiculous.
Loyal to Massa I suppose
I’m MGM and had two biracial grandparents and when I say that I’m mixed I get dragged and get called a self hating black person. I’m between 25-30% white and I get dragged in and out of blackness. It’s crazy.
Yup that’s exactly why 16,000 of us need our own space . We’ve all experienced similar things as people who do not have a fully white patent
@@ExoticalsUnitedyep and I have a biracial daughter that is white presenting. She’s going to have the same experience I have in the reverse.
I'm sorry y'all get put through that. I really hate the colorism from both sides of the spectrum.
Yup my mother and law is light skinned black women and she always feels the need to let me know I’m dark skin any chance she gets because I’m a mixed brown skin . I told her what I’m mixed with in front of her husband and she felt the need to let me know I look red or dark like them . Can you tell me why she does that please ?
Saaame
Also notice they gaslight H.E.R for saying she is mixed and she has a whole non black parent..
I’m %70 African descent %30 other. I too get my black card revoked and given back often😂. I definitely appreciate you and your channel. You’ve helped me be a lot more confident in myself without worrying about what others think of me.
Girl, I fall in to this category too. 70% black, 20% white and 10% other. I'm almost 40 years old and have had my black card given, revoked, thrown at me, forced upon me and stolen back more times than I can count. 🤣
same! I'm 70% black, 20% eastern european and 10% asian
Black supr3macists really hate to see a mixed person claim their non blackness smh this video is extremely important
Black supremacy is not real
Especially if we are brown or dark skinned mixed race.
@@AmaLoveGoddessTVyes...alot of mixed race people are darker skinned...mixed race is many colours...
My Arab husband sees skin color literally. He was actually confused when I called myself black. He pointed to my skin and facial features and asked me why did I call myself black when clearly I'm not dark-skinned.
So true! Most people around the world go by skin color
Yeah Arab men are racist. He truly was hoping you weren’t black at all - at least not able to pass.
I noticed that when I was in DR for a period of time. They(both the Dominicans and Haitians I met) REFUSED to let me call myself "Black". But when you think about it on the color spectrum on a grander scale, it's true.
Yup, most non black people tell me I’m not black. I’m 25% mixed. It’s only black Americans who tell me that I’m black. African diaspora, and Africans living in Africa also say that I’m not black. I’m from an African country that’s made up of mixed race people because of colonization lol
@@Prettyenergyy i agree. Even the African people I met there didn't consider me Black, even after telling them my parents are.
I've been waiting for this conversation. Being mixed is a trip because you can face two types of colorism/racism. People seem to want you to pick a side.
And as a mixed person you are not allowed to feel targeted by colorism. You are supposed to just suck it up, sit quiet and accept abuse.
@@Glad2BGolden people seem to have a need to criticize those who they can't categorize.
I love when you said, "This channel is NOT for people with an Inferiority Complex" 💯💯💯 This channel is a huge support for Our Real-life Life experiences that people want to discredit for some reason. Get Over IT!!!
Thank you so much for this, I’m 25% Filipina and was raised by my Filipino father and Filipina grandmother. Yet I was/ am constantly told I’m not any part Filipina and that I can’t claim to be. Your channel has helped me embrace my ancestry and ignore the people denying my heritage, thank you 💜
What in the fuck is wrong with people? Theyre just mad your blasian. You can claim that aby day bc its facts 😌
I agree because when you can't run from the "Are you mixed?" on arrival they assume you are, anyway. Genetics are genetics no matter how far back. If it's in the blood. If its in the features. It's mixed.
Exactly
Most of time people who are “25%” non black have RECENT non black grandparent and can be raised and submerged in there non black grandparent culture still, and even dominantly look like there non black grandparent or have obvious mix features (like hair, skin color, eye color and etc) literally like a Beyoncé or Rihanna. I also noticed people like to use the “technically we are all mixed anyway so it doesn’t count” line the hardest to people who are 25% non black or have a obvious non black grandparent when these people obviously don’t have that and know it. Like for example Beyoncé embraces her mix heritage and being creole and the black community constantly tries to gaslight her in a comment section and say “she’s trying to sound mixed” or “it doesn’t count cause all black Americans are mixed anyway” knowing in a DNA test they are like 5% non black and mostly black (but lying to themselves). But do you noticed how the black community will claim someone who is 75% white and 25% black as mix tho and point out how they “obviously have black characteristics like hair or facial features” so why would it be a struggle to claim someone with 25% non black blood as mix if you are claiming someone with 25% black blood as mix.
If all "AA's are mixed" then "75% black people" have more than that lol. There is absolutely no logic whatsoever.
I’m Black American and 24% non Black. Don’t have a recent non Black grandparent so no, we’re not all only “5%” other.
they do this to torian who has a creole mother
where are you getting that from? phenotype doesn’t always tell you about a person’s heritage. you can’t assume that someone can’t be more than 5% non-sub saharan african based only on how they look.
i’m assuming you’ve come to this conclusion based off of the fact that most AAs are dark skinned with afro hair. 20-25% often doesn’t show up in someone’s features, although it absolutely can! (like donyale luna or donna drake). my AA mom (dark skinned, afro hair) took a dna test and was 31% european (no other non-african dna, just african and european). my mestizo mexican dad looks 100% white (straight, sandy blond hair, white skin, blue eyes) but came back only 36% european with filipino and indigenous making up the rest. you need to read up about punnet squares and genetics before make silly statements like this.
also! the majority AAs (my mother included) have mixed grandparents or great grandparents because, as we know, a lot of dsbm don’t want their children to look like them will primarily date and impregnate mixed women.
and as someone who spends equal time in the AA black community and the mexican community, these issues and conversations aren’t exclusive to the black community. there’s friction between dark skinned, unambiguously indigenous mexicans and mixed mexicans as well.
i’m obviously for mixed people having their own community, i’m here! but all of these communities i’ve found seem very disingenuous and hyper focus on black people (specifically in the US) despite us all coming from multiple different races, backgrounds and cultures. it seems like a lot of you just need therapy, not a platform😂
i’m just wondering what the ACTUAL criteria is here. is it a percentage or a just phenotype? not all mixed people have “the look”, and they shouldn’t be excluded because of it! they’re still mixed.
@@iwillnotusethegothfont9312 I can just tell you jump to conclusions lmao. The only thing with phenotype mentioned in this comment was using Beyoncé and Rihanna as a example (and both actually have mixed heritage or a different race grandparent which proved my point) no where did it say have “dark skin and African features means you aren’t mixed”. Obviously the 25 percent is not meant in the LITERAL SENSE, when someone is referring to someone with a DIFFERENT RACE GRANDPARENT (not mixed grandparent), it’s the same way when people talk about “half black and half white people” (when most of the time dna wise they aren’t half and probably more non black), so if AA have more “non black dna” than this makes the identity policing on people with a completely different race grandparent EVEN MORE WEIRD (cause since you wanna speak in a literal sense, that would mean a mix person with a different race grandparent would technically have EVEN MORE non black blood) which STILL makes the identity policy and trying to force people to not claim mix as even more weird. You really wrote this big comment claiming people are judging AA people by phenotype, when the main point of this comment was someone who has colonizer blood from a million years ago telling someone who has a alive a present recent grandparent who is non black (not mixed) that they aren’t allowed to claim that grandparent and that there situation “is the same” IS NOT ACCURATE AT ALL. Someone with a non black grandparent who isn’t mix is most likely raised in the cultural (for example if they have a grandparent from Asia, Latin America, etc) so trying to pretend it doesn’t count is disingenuous….so I’m not getting why me saying this is so offensive to you and some of you fighting for the right to prove AA are actually “more than 5% non black” like the whole point of the comment borderline went over y’all heads or you are deliberately just trying to find a problem or have something to debate about LMAO. This comment was specifically for the people with a completely different race grandparent (doesn’t matter if they look mix or not) because I see AA people try to force them to not claim their grandparent and use the excuse “they are the same as them”, if that offends you sounds like a personal problem.
I'm glad you showed Solange. Because they will harp on Beyoncé about acknowledging she's mixed or for existing while LS. Meanwhile, despite her caping for uabp, Tina clearly has a VERY high % of European genes, then claiming Solange's son looks the way he does because he "looks like an everyday black person". Please🙄.
Both Solange and her son look mixed to me
Right; I’m trying to show more diversity of hair textures
@googisfree i agree. but because she openly sports her 4c hair, they don't accuse her of featurism/colorism.
I recently saw an IG reel regarding black people having stronger discernment about certain people. The woman was a South Asia desi giving credit to black people being able to scope out the fakes. She said “I’m not black, but..” and I kid you not most people in the comments did hear the rest of what she said because they were too busy arguing whether she’s black or not.
Lol I saw that 😂 people in general have been calling Indian people black though
It's funny how they say all African Americans are mixed yet somehow someone who is "75%" black is always 75% black on the dot. I bet Ryan Destiny/Beyonce have more than a quarter European ancestry.
Right, they probably do 😂 I just use 25/75 so it pops more in the algorithm search ☠️
@@ExoticalsUnited Good tactic lol
I don’t believe most blacks are 25% mixed though. There is definitely a small admixture of 7-10%. I would not consider this mixed anymore than whites with 5-12% Black admixture. Admixture is not accepted as mixed in other communities so why should we accept it as mixed? It’s okay if we gatekeep.
@@Glad2BGoldenI’m Black American and 24% non Black.
i have 20% and i’m lighter than both. not particularly true
Love this video! I’m in that 25-30% category with multiple mixes in there from white to native to asian. Black people have tried to gaslight me by saying we’re all mixed form slavery. Wrong! My family mixed willingly for generations cry about it 😂
THIS! I willingly have AMAZING sex with my white bf, ain’t no r@pe😂 my baby will be born out of pure love. They can cry abt that too
Same I’m European, south and central Asian, South American, West Indian and African
NGL at one point I stopped even claiming my heritage bc people would say I didn’t look “mixed” then when people see my parents they felt the need to probe me for answers.
Thank you! My father is a mixed race man. Arab, Indian, Sudanese. My mom is Afro Caribbean. Her side is from Haiti.. I have family in Puerto Rico that I know and see and we visit each other. I always felt like I wasn’t “mixed” enough to call myself mixed due to how other black Americans treat me.. even though my other side (other Puerto Ricans, Caribbeans, and middle eastern people) telling me I can claim that side of me and they embrace me. I only hear black Americans telling me I can’t claim that side of me. I always feel guilty for claiming it. So, this is relatable to me.
You're not Black American - you claim part-African (Sudanese) and Afro-Caribbean (Haitian), so embrace it.
You are a beautiful person of the most mixed heritage! Proclaim your mixed heritage all you want love!!!! We love and accept you over here❤️ 💛💛💛💛 have a good night😊
I like that you made this space. Thank you.
I’m part Asian on my dad’s side (Filipino) and all my life because I’m darker skinned, I’ve been told “you’re fully black stop lying”. I’ve been shunned into not celebrating my Filipino heritage. Not anymore.
Girl embrace your non black side and hold your head up. They are hating and mad they feel inferior to you. Be bold and unapologetic about your mixed heritage ❤
@@rahkeemthegreat360still mixed.
Thank you for this, I promise because I am white passing I'm not allowed to have a mixed experience or I'm called full white when that's not the case.... I've had racism throw towards me from both sides.
I hear ya!
Same girl..same. Sorry to hear that-I relate. I have a half Black mum and look kind of Brazilian/Spanish…tan with blue eyes and big corkscrew hair. I experienced racism from both sides. I was once called every racist slur as a child so that they could correctly ‘cover’ what I might be. 😂 As an adult I get telling people telling me what I am..you are white/black/mixed/not mixed… When we mention our backgrounds people can be patronising and dismissive ‘it doesn’t matter..’well actually my identity, family heritage and experiences do matter. We have a place too. It’s insulting..we aren’t trying to be ‘black’ but equally we would have been subject to slavery rules back in the day so we aren’t ‘white’. I’m done letting ignorant people define my unique looks/experiences. Thanks for this channel..I love it..finally we are ‘seen’. I am mixed and proud! ❤
I am 34% non-black. Growing up, I’ve always identified as a black-Jamaican-American. 3/4 of my grandparents were born in Jamaica and the other grandparent was from Guyana.
I attended a culturally-mixed elementary and middle school, so I never questioned my race until I attended an all black high school.
In high school, UABP would ask me, “what are you mixed with?” or others would joke and make comments about me not being fully black, even though I claimed to be.
UABP always pointed out that they knew someone lighter than me, and I never knew why! It’s crazy that this is a shared experience amongst other MGMs. I never thought about my MGM background because it was the norm for me. I’ve always had mixed cousins & interracial couples in my family. Although, I did notice how people would make a big fuss about my hair. I used to go to the Dominicans and get my natural hair blown out and flat ironed from middle school to high school. People would think I was mixed with black & middle eastern or Indian. I have small percentages of it, but so it’s far removed I feel awkward claiming it. I guess if people can tell, then I shouldn’t be right?? When my hair is in its natural state, people touch it and say, “oh wow your hair is soft!” or (I get this one a lot) “how did you get your curls like that???”, when all I did was a wash and go or as if my hair just couldn’t NATURALLY be like that…this channel made me come to terms with being an MGM. And I’m going to be more proud about it from here on out :)
My mum is black Guyanese and my dad is mixed race Guyanese (half black Guyanese, quarter Irish and a quarter Chinese). 🇬🇾🇮🇪🇨🇳
It's the worst kind of double bind to be in. I would get made fun of by the darkest black kids in elementary school for my "Chinese eyes " and thin lips. They were basically saying I wasn't "black enough " But then when I would just casually mention my mixed heritage like my Native American heritage or my obviously white passing father, then they'd accuse me of "denying my blackness" or wanting to be something "special" Guys, like ib actually mixed lol. Doesn't mean that Im shunning or disrespecting AA people
Native-American, European, and barely Black from a white-passing father? It's very likely that you don't look Black.
Chinese eyes and thin lips 👄 You and I lived the same life. I bet you have a little button nose like me as well. We were never enough in the black community, but will get dragged for talking about what we’re mixed with. Every time people saw my father, they would ask “What is he!? Is he Mexican?” Smh
First, I want to thank you for establishing this channel. I am an older MLS and I had enough of the bullying and the humbling tactics of Blacistan. I am MGM with 71% Black 29% Native and European mixture. I have a whole Native American Grandfather. I have tribal documentation as well and I embrace my background. I leveled up moved to a quiet small town where I benefit from my skin tone i.e. pretty privilege. I am polite to them but stir clear of UABW. I just don't have the energy deal with all that toxicity. "Stay Pretty Ladies"
I myself are mixed with Black, Native American and European.😊
i'm in the 25-35 ish percent mixed . I often felt I had to just say black because black ppl would accuse me of wanting to be everything else but black
True that
I can relate gurl they be so bothered by us MGMs 🙄
Same here. I’m a nurse and I get this question nearly every shift. When they ask, “what are you,” I just say “Black, just like you,” and just move on. I’m just not wanting to explain myself to every other pt in the ER.
@@CreolePearls_better advise is to just stay with mixed people.Most black people won't accept you no matter what you identify as and the jealousy will be there if you get called pretty
I'm mixed a quarter black and I love being mixed, and a big thing is, yes I am mostly white and less black than other people, but that doesn't mean Ill love my black side any less, or embrace my culture any less. Being a quarter black has made me look unique in my own special way, and shaped me and my culture and I love to embrace all of myself. If You are mixed don't let anyone say You can't embrace all of yourself and the multiple cultures You belong to.
Exactly ! 25% mixed is still mixed .
Girl you are white, stop
i was bullied out of being mixed cause i was only 25% lol i wish i saw this when i was 13
exactly! they asked for a reason, and you have to pretend your grandmother isn’t a irish women 🙃
I am 25% black, 25% white and the rest is a mixture of Puerto Rican, Hawaiian, Chinese, Filipino and I am very much white passing and here in Hawaii being White is the worst bcuz of colonizing ofc lol so I grew up allowing others to ridicule me and label me as just a white girl.
I also matured at an early age and was attractive but became overweight becuz I was uncomfortable with the male gaze so sooo much of your content resonates. It’s so refreshing and empowering the way you address these topics 🥹🙏🏼🫶🏼
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Another winner. You nailed it, again.
YES!!!!
There is a lot of ignorance when it comes to mixed people, especially those who are mixed in the less traditional way. People are still of the assumption that mixed means having one white parent and one black parent. Monoracial Black people struggle with this concept the most. I'm MGM 51% black, 40% white and 9% Malaysian. Black people still struggle with the idea because I don't have one white parent. I've also noticed that if you look more traditionally black and white, black people accept your mix more. However, I've had a lot of monoracial black people tell me I look mixed with Indian or Arab as a way of telling me that I don't look traditionally mixed, and therefore you are somewhat seen as less. My sister, however, looks more traditional and is considered more beautiful. People need to understand that mixed people can come out looking like anything! But that doesn't take away who you are or your mix!
Funny in latin America since they are so used to being mixed over generations they are used to viewing people with two mixed parents or even one mixed parent as still being mixed but some with African American culture that is an issue unless someone has parents of two different races.
I am a Slav and was offered your video in my recommendations (CZcams works in weird and wonderful ways sometimes): the topic is a bit obscure to me (I am not American, not mixed or black), but I love your approach towards beauty standards and being unapologetic about your beauty-as it should be, of course)
Yay! Thank you for watching ! 😍
Fellow purebred eastern Slavic here.
USA ways of social reflection and thinking seems so rigid for no reason.
I do know about "One drop law", so it can be result of it.
Mixed people are mixed. Why being nervous about it?
There were also "Melting pot" ideas back then, too.
People, who are actually born "melted" in USA, are true american people.
I have a white grandfather and the few times I said that I'm mixed I got the biggest side eye!!! It starts a whole debate! LOL it's hilarious
Exactly! Calling other people ugly is just weird! When you love yourself you don’t go around focusing on who’s ugly and who not, or even worse.. telling them they are ugly. It’s just so odd!
Also, they tend to confuse being biracial vs being mixed. You can be mixed without being biracial aka multigenerationally mixed, aka triracial etc… multigenerationally mixed have big chunks of both or more races
Right! I don’t think I’ve ever called a woman ugly in my life , like I seriously can’t remember calling anyone ugly. I don’t see a need to, plus it technically wouldn’t be true since whoever I call “ugly” is probably pretty to someone .
I took a DNA test on 23 and Me 6 years ago. I found out that I am 75.1% Black, 23.3% European, and I have 1.2% of Trace Ancestry of Chinese and Indian Ancestry. I am shocked to found out that I am actually considered mixed race even though my parents and grandparents, etc. are Black.
My parents got a DNA test done years ago. My Dad found out that he has a lot of European ancestry. I don’t remember the exact percentage of European ancestry that he has but I do know that his European % is higher than mine. My Mom has some European ancestry as well. My last name which came from my late paternal grandfather is an English last name. It is not a common name so growing up I always figured that I had some European ancestry. I am now learning to embrace all of my mixtures even though I was raised by a monocultural Black family.
I’m 24% non Black and 74% Black as well. Raised in a Black cultural family too.
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My mother just woke up to the fact that all of her siblings were very fair. Blue eyes, red hair some could even pass. It never occurred to her that their father or grandfather was probably white. My mother looks like a literal Native American or Latina with long shiny dark wavy hair and still can't conceive of herself other than an unambiguous black woman. Lol its odd when I think of it. I probably don't have one close relative who less than 30% white and Native.
my grand mom would always tell me I don’t have to try so hard to be black i simply am what i am. she hated me not acknowledging her and my moms heritage. she knew i always felt more comfortable with my maternal family. bless her soul
I found out I only have 8% European based off of my dna test, I may not be mixed but I do struggle with colorism bc of my lighter skin, I’m still searching into my ancestors. I would love to know how feel about dna testing, I heard sometimes you don’t get certain DNA from your parents.
8% is STILL MIXED. Pure black people are JUST BLACK. Do we need to look up pictures of the slaves to KNOW they did NOT vary in facial features, hair textures and skin tones. We need to LEGALIZE putting distantly mixed people as just "black" and we need to stop putting directly mixed people as just "black". And multi-generational-mixed people (often called light-skinned) as just 'black'. If I removed that 8% from you biologically, you would CEASE TO EXIST ON THIS EARTH!!!!!!!!!!
This is a great conversation! Reading everyone’s comments makes me also realize I’m mixed 25ish% as well from both sides, Cuban grandmother and Chinese grandmother on my other side and my father’s grandmother is white. I never would have thought ! When I mention my background people disapprove or state their views, completely ignoring the fact it’s in the bloodline.
I am a multigenerational, multiracial woman. I am Black, white and Asian. The fact that I feel like I have to list Black first is ridiculous. I have grown up having to claim Black or made to feel bad about for claiming my other status. I was told if I have 1 drop of Black, then I'm Black. I've had ppl try to make me feel bad because they think I have it easier because they believe I have quote, “good hair, soft hair.” Their opinion not mine. My sister and I have our entire lives tanning with dark tanning oil to try to become as close to chocolate as possible. Even wearing tanning lotion and going to tanning beds during the fall and winter months. Ppl telling me I'm so-called lucky!!!! I’ve never been Black enough for Black ppl, white enough for white ppl and definitely NOT Asian enough!I'm super happy you made this page. I've felt almost alone in this journey.
Hi and a good evening! I'm new to your channel and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate you and your channel and how happy I am to have discovered it.
Now some background about me (and note, this'll be very very long): I'm a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial and MGM (multigenerationally mixed) woman of color (African American, European, Native/indigenous American, Creole, Egyptian, Greek, Palestinian, Romani, Melungeon, Portuguese, Italian, Ethiopian, Mexican, Jamaican, Chinese, Puerto Rican, French, Haitian, Japanese, Hawaiian, Dominican, Nigerian, Cuban, Filipino, Korean, Vietnamese, Māori, Malaysian, Zimbabwean, South Indian, Samoan, Indigenous and Aboriginal Australian, First Nations Canadian, Jewish, etc. I got some of everything lol), and I've been on a journey to first embrace my dark/brown skin complexion and now I've been navigating my perspective as a mixed race biracial and multiracial woman of color. And I actually just finished watching your video on Chrissie, Eloho, Cynthia G and a lot of these divester channels that claim to be safe spaces for black women and dark skinned black women but are really forums for divesters to promote and push a lot of hatred, bigotry, venom and hostility towards mixed race women which is something I noticed a lot. And I actually was initially in the divest movement for a time and Chrissie and Eloho were CZcams channels I once subscribed to, thinking that the divest movement was gonna help me as a black woman but then after a while--and very quickly, in fact--it became clear that the divest movement and community wasn't gonna help me and was actually more of a very toxic and volatile cult of femcels that hadn't healed from their experiences of colorism, intra-racism, sexism and misogynoir, had internalized those experiences and grew hateful and bitter from them and then turned into bullies with personality disorders and wasted time bashing, slamming, generalizing and hating black men as well as light skinned black women and mixed race, biracial and multiracial women instead of an edifying, helpful community aiding dark skinned black women into healing from colorism and misogynoir and improving and uplifting themselves and one another, and uplifting others. And channels like Chrissie and Eloho absolutely fed into these attitudes and mindsets which resulted in me distancing myself from those channels and the divest movement entirely, and I and other people that called out divesters and divest community's devilish toxicity and how damaging it was to black women, black womanhood, black communities, black female representation and image would face a lot of divesters' torrent barrage of some of the nastiest, rudest, and most hateful, disturbing abusive behavior and language I've ever seen be displayed by people, especially on Twitter. Not to mention that a lot of divesters on Twitter were literally rubbing elbows and getting buddy buddy with racist white men who were blatant white supremacist race soldiers with a sick, racially sexualized fetish for black women repeating these divesters' extremely racist, antiblack, white supremacist and colonialist talking points (there was even a Twitter space where black divester femcels and white supremacist cops were chatting with each other talking about ways to target and eradicate black men. Just seriously horrible, evil stuff). (And don't get me started on fatphobic attitudes, obsessive fetish-y white man worship, classism and rigidity cisnormative gender identity, role and expression standards rife within divester communities, all of which are also draining for me as someone who's also plus sized (skinny fat) and nonbinary/gender non-conforming who developed a fear and distrust of white men at one point!)
Meanwhile, as a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial I've also had online experiences of, whenever I would talk about being mixed race and biracial, people accusing me of race baiting, of being self hating and "trying too hard to be exotic" and that I needed to just say that I was black and even facing cyberbullying for it--and all because I happened to be dark/brown-skinned while being mixed race and phenotypically not fitting everyone else's expected stereotype of what people assume a biracial looks like (which sounds like reinforcing the notion that only light skinned and fair or white passing people can be biracial but not dark or brown skinned people and thus, a lot of reinforcing/repackaging colorism, paper bag mentality, antiblackness, colonialism, Jim Crow/Willie Lynch culture norms, reverse colorism, lack of knowledge of the difference between phenotype and genotype and just overall people's hypocrisy, entitlement, projecting, double standards and people not having a job or any grass to touch lol 🤣😒).
In short, just watching your video alone really opened my eyes to the fact that there are more complexities and rich layers to being mixed race than what people think, and also helped me finally grasp each conclusion that I reached silently a while ago but can now say openly:
I can be proud of being black
AND
I can proud of being mixed race and biracial.
I can acknowledge my privilege and show allyship to dark skinned black women
AND
I don't have to shrink myself or my heritage to placate to miserable, insecure self hating bullies who'd rather point fingers at others getting angry at the world than improve themselves.
I have a right to take up space and stand up for myself and not hate myself to appease mean girls who weaponize colorism as an excuse to mistreat, bully, disrespect and dehumanize mixed women and others
AND
I can stay humble and not develop a colorist superiority complex.
I also appreciate that you make clear that the exotical movement isn't for trying to incite division or competitiveness between black and biracial women cause that's not something I want either. We have enough of that toxicity already and we wanna stop the cycle.
Thank you.
Signed, a dark/brown skinned biracial/multiracial woman of color and a proud exotical 💜😊
Love it here. I feel seen finally
I'm 27 percent Irish I cherish and celebrate the white side of my ancestry just as much as I love and cherish the nigerian part of my ancestry. A few years ago I got into a huge argument with my sister she shamed me for acknowledging that we are mixed race. Eventhough I grew up in the black community I feel happier,safer and more comfortable around the irish side of my ancestry.
I don’t believe I have any white ancestry and I’m a more black leaning exotical but I was raised around white people so I know what you mean. I feel way more comfortable around my boyfriends family than my own. I feel like I fit in with them more than black people for sure
I have european in my ancestry. I'm pretty sure I have Irish in my blood as well, because most slave owners in this country were Irish.
Thank you so much girl 🥹 for giving MGMs ppl like myself a voice to be heard ❤ I’m so proud to be MGM my Louisiana creole/German/black linage. Us MGMs/25%\30% are always silenced by the black community. This channel made me feel so seen ever since I joined this channel 2 years ago. Much love girl fr 🩷🩷🩷
Interesting video. I fall in to that 70-75% black category due to admixtures on both sides. I'm Black American on my dad's side and Afro-Latina/Caribbean on my mother's side and have always been asked what I'm mixed with growing up. My parents had always identified as just black despite having admixtures so I didn't really understand the concept of having mixtures until I got older.
Can you do a video on the black woman that says shes nervous around hood people and is getting dragged for it? Its trending.
Can you send the video to exoticalsunited@gmail.com! I haven’t seen it yet
What is a "non-hood" person doing in/around the vicinity of "hood people?" It's simple - don't go anywhere near them, and that solves the problem.
If this is a channel dedicated to mixes people why do you want a video about black women shown 🙄
@@ExoticalsUnited I sent them to you.~
😂 how is it useful lol ?
afro indian and yemeni here, and proud to be
They look calling clearly mixed people just black so they can feel they share the same experiences. Especially if they are a pretty mixed woman
I'm a 25-percenter by DNA here. I definitely relate to this content. People think I'm either Ethiopian or Kenyan. I get lots of pretty privileges.
Im black but have 30 percent white admixture but sometimes i dont feel like i relate to white folks on a culture level
You are healing so many of us mixed girls ❤
I hated chrissie’s channel.. they never wanted to hear different opinions in the comment section and honestly to me they were just bullies/ salty with no self esteem.
To be fair, this channel doesn’t want to hear their opinions in the comments section either ☠️ I’m keeping the same energy
@@ExoticalsUnited 😂
@@Seas47 agree.❤
@@ExoticalsUnited💯💯💯
Since my age was in single digits my parents were always honest with me and my sisters they would tell us you have black in you but your not fully black. I'm 27 percent Irish I love and embrace both sides of my ancestry. When I'm angry or upset I turn into a helpless irish princess and cry.
I’m gonna say this keep speaking your mind, your voice is SO powerful and you are speaking nothing but FACTS I shared your video everywhere. You literally are speaking nothing but the truth thank you so much for making this channel.
My father is bi-racial and my mom is black and of course I'm black appearing and I've struggled with this bulk of my life because I felt like I needed to justify my blackness so I wouldn't be called a "white girl" or "mixed". Approaching 40, I'm starting to embrace my white ancestry more and acknowledge it. :)
Ive had unambiguous people get mad from both sides due to my phenotype simply because I celebrate saint patricks day due to my phenotype, instead of being glad that I'm celebrating St. Patricks Day. As though its for one group to celebrate only.
I’m more black passing like a peanut butter, caramel to cinnamon tone depending on the time of year and have had experiences that let me know that i am also ambiguous and this video helped me realize its okay to talk about my mixture not just culturally but also racial bc I have a mixed parent and my other parent is a lightskin black person with admixtures
I am a light skinned black woman i have native American ancestry but dont have a card both sides and black. I have been told im not black because of my dark brown reddish hair or people ask what am I. daughter is black and Mexican and im glad that she will be able to experience both of her cultures
Thank you for this. I always tried to explain to other black ppl why I talk about my mixtures as well. Because I have realized a difference in how I’m treated by monoracial black ppl and the rest of the world. Ppl always ask me what I’m mixed with when I just say black so it made me realize maybe I shouldn’t be ignoring my Scottish and native ancestry. Especially since i have cultural ties back to these communities. My non black grandparents taught me the customs, language and foods so I realized I have to keep it going especially for my Blackfoots. Our culture is dying and none of us are full blooded anyway.
I’m 65/35 mixture… African and European. Even my mother, who is closer to a 50/50’mix considers herself Black. It’s just the socio- political climate in which we grew up. I can lean more into unambiguous Black spaces just on skin tone but not features or hair whereas my mother has been told that she would have been in the house during slavery and not in the fields. I’m glad this is a space where we can have open and honest discussions about it without feeling shallow.
I seriously love your channel . Never stop
I remember that petition (in the U.K.) that Chrissie talked about in her channel b/c I was subbed at the time. Honestly listening to that video is one of the aspects that had me thinking about what I was and why here in the U.S. channels like hers felt the need to be apart of something that was in a completely separate country. I started side-eyeing alot after watching that video.
This space is so needed right now. So much hate out there ❤
One thing as a mixed person that always trips me out, is black people will claim me only under certain circumstances. Otherwise they tell me Im not ‘black enough’ to comment on certain things. I def have a fluid identity, but lemme tell you I have never ever fit in anywhere. Im not enough of anything to actually have a place. People love to fetishize my looks and also downplay my lived experiences. Living in the south was difficult, especially in high school.
lol my 25% admixture is literally alittle of everything ( Indian, European, Arabic) my family on both sides have been everywhere. I chose to embrace all of my mixture, no matter how small it is.
I am 72 percent African and 26% European, Trace Asian and Native American.
Two people of completely different races and phenotypes can come together to conceive one of your parents and people will pretend like your supposed to pretend like that isn’t different than all your grandparents being the same race 😂
I always feel so weird when i tell people i identify as Afro Indigenous. I have biracial grandparents and non-black great grandparents. I have type 4 hair and i notice people will "validate" my identity depending on my hair style 😂 crazy thing is outside of the U.S. I would clearly be considered mixed
Love the video, I got over watching Umar Johnson on about "mixed raced africans". I lost several brain cells after listening to him.
My black GMA on my dads side would get mad when I said that I’m mixed. My mom is light skinned and clearly looks mixed with NA, Asian and white.
I thank you for making this channel I am 43 years and my mother is a black woman and my father is east Indian . I have 3 siblings but I have a different father from my siblings and I grew up being bullied by dark skin black woman and occasionally some light skin women mostly darker skin women. I have be harassed, physically attack, and emotionally. I had women who wanted to fight me for no reason I don't even know them this has happened on my job, and neighborhood grewing up. Even my own sister who is 9 years older than me was extremely jealous of me she beat me up humiliated me and excused me off wanting her trash husband who has been caught so many times looking at me inappropriately even my mother and other sister said her husband is mean to me because he likes me, but I can't do anything about it. 😢
Wow the story of my life Im in my early 20s and I go through the exact samething at work too since I have a similar mixture same to urs as my family is from the carribean. Im so sorry this has happened to u as well the struggle is real out here. I hate when ppl always assume these things about us because we look different that we deserve to be treated badly even in our own families! Meanwhile the media shows a false reality about us it rlly sucks :/
@@nelliebellie2222 thank you so much I just saw your message yesterday it's really sad but we can support all women like us. 🙏
@@c4tmh133 I'm sorry yes it is real that we get treated bad for being beautiful women that's okay we got each other. 🙏
I remember when all the so called BWE content creators were dragging Zendaya for taking UABW roles and saying she need to acknowledge her privilege and give up her roles....Chile Byeeeee! 😂
I also have a non-black grandparent. My grandfather is Scottish and Iranian.
4:38 « exotify » already existed colloquially, although most people use the following form of the word «exoticize, exoticized »
"exotify" is such a fire term lol
25% white 5% native ❤ the rest is black
I have a lower percentage with biracial great grandparents of German descent on my mothers side and I have some indigenous ancestry due to having family from Alabama and Louisiana Creole on my dad’s side. Depending on how i wear my hair those features stand out more. People always ask if I’m mixed so I decided to do some research. I am interested in all my admixture and ancestry because they are still apart of me
I have always been asked if I was mixed, I would always say no because I want to be pro black. However, there is some truth to that. My dad’s side of the family is creole. French and black. My grandmother and great grandmother look like white women. My mom looks mixed but also she is Native American and we are finding that may have been about 50%-75% Native American. Her mom was from Louisiana but her dad was Native American from Mississippi. But my hair is 3b-4a so I am about 25% white, creole and native American
Beyonce is also NOT mostly Black. Beyonce is MIXED. She even wrote a song celebrating her mixed heritage called "creole". She may pander to black folk but that doesn't mean she likes 'em. She just wants to make money off of their ignorance. She's SMART in that way. Her mother is part-Native American, part-European with a dash of black and her father is black. Beyonce is at the most 50% black or maybe slightly less. Time to educate people! WAKE UP!
My aunt does the exact samething and shes higly influenced by Beyoncé 😂
So... Black people are ignorant, because Beyonce intentionally plays racial ambiguity games? Maybe if she just PLAINLY stated that she's "Creole and not Black," there would be no confusion. She plays up her Blackness to make money, but somehow Black people are the problem. Maybe Beyonce can start doing whites-only music, so Black people don't have confusion.
And what is her sister, Solange? She’s mixed too, right? All that you said also applies to her too, right?
@@PaperMario64 Yes. She looks mixed too.
@@kevinc3342Beyoncé doesn’t pander to black community to make money because she had also lived the black experience that’s the most idiotic thing I ever read. My family is from Louisiana and I have a creole experience as well. It doesn’t mean I’m don’t consider myself black. Dumbest thing I ever heard a black person who uses their blackness for profit tf? When has black ever been profitable especially if they aren’t making fun of us. The stupidity of you haters to use that as a reason to hate on Beyoncé
Skin color is subjective and I don't like using percentages much. But yeah you can consider 25% mixed it's very significant, actually, just because someone ain't 50/50 don't mean much. If you are 25% you can still look "mixed race" or you can look so called black. Or you can look in between the two extremes. My dad is very dad but has Asiatic eyes and type 2 hair. You got to remember people can be triracial or multiracial also meaning mixed with 3,4 or even 5 things depending on the person. Like you have to take parents' grandparents, great grandparents, great great grandparents into account all effect your phenotype. If you have say a mixed great grandparent then you can still have a possibility of looking mixed even tho you don't have a white parent.I don't have a white parent till like one of my 4th or 5th grandparents on my mom side. In her case it's 3rd or 4th grandparents.🤷
A lot of what you say resonates with me. I think mixed men and woman receive passive aggression from mono racial black people. It's as if they don't like sharing a space with us but know that it's beneficial to be associated with us. I rock with black people politically and love the culture but when I'm around black people I feel like I have to prove myself to be an ally or something. Also, I think they view us describing our experiences as mixed as a 'flex' when it's just as speaking our truth.
My father was a dark skinned Jamaican man and my mother is light skinned half St Lucian and half English which I guess makes me 75% black and 25% white . My skin complexion is light skin and my younger sister who I share the same parents with is brown skin . Me and my sister hate when people address us as different races whenever we go out i’d be the mixed one and she’d be the black one , whenever she wore her natural fro out people wouldn’t bat an eyelid but then when I wear mine it’s like people have never seen a light skin woman with SHORT SHRUNKEN 4c 4b hair texture and look at me as to say I was doing something wrong ESPECIALLY other black folks . It disgusts me how black/ mixed or whatever tf we are treat each other smh.
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I am 72.8% of african descent/ 25.4% yt/ 1% I.A/Asian via 23&me and I look like the little girl from the polar express 🤭💕
I seriously doubt Beyonce is 75 % black. Maybe more like 45 -65 % Black .
I agree . However I don’t have their dna results so the women pictured in this video are the closest examples I could find.
Great content
Thank you for this video, it explained so much for me, now I know I'm multi generational mixed I could explain who was a different race in my family just didn't have the word, funny thing is I still get asked if I have a white parent or if I'm Spanish😄♥♥♥
Lol, dang I just realized my in my mind (UABM) father is actually multi generationally mixed too. He's at least 30% non bk, white. Wow it's pretty obvious when I think about the family. Now to get my DNA test.
I hope my dang dna test says that I’m at least 40% other so that I can really rep my sets and shut these haters up 😂🎉
☠️☠️☠️ if not you can still rep your sets! I found out my unambiguous dad has a little bit of creole in there and idc I am still going to show love! ( I probably have like 1%) ☠️ no one can stop you from showing love to the people groups who came together to create you! Multi culturalism is a beautiful thing
I made a video on my channel, and I literally had people coming to my video telling me to shut up. I was so pissed that I made a second video on the topic.😂
Interesting, the average African America is 75-80% black (20-25 add mixture), so would you all refer to the majority of you as mixed? Maybe the argument need be for those mixed higher than 25% as a starting place???
25mins in, been interesting listening to your view point.
I don't like using percentages, but it depends on the person some Black Americans are more Indian than white. You got to understand we just mixed with white.
No they are not and there’s no studies showing that.
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV there are plenty of studies on this, speak with afro think tank if you want or the African Diaspora News Channel which belongs to an AA
If you disagree than tell us what the genetic composition of an AA is?
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV Genome-wide ancestry estimates of African Americans show average proportions of 73.2% African, 24.0% European, and 0.8% Native American ancestry (Table 1).
@@skyking3210 do all African American have gotten their dna checked? No!
I’m 17% European
Dna and genetics is everything it literally makes up who we are