YES ! THEY ARE JEALOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you are NOT jealous of someone, you wouldn't spend so much time trying to find flaws/fault with them or obsess over them or talk about them.
Its envy not jealousy, jealousy is the fear of loosing something/someone to someone for example your the smartest in class and now somone is comes that is smarter, envy is wanting something someone else has for example beauty, smarts
@@louloudemondemon296 No. What EU is doing is RESPONDING to all of the bullsh*t that has been spewed at and about MLS women for the last decade on CZcams alone. Also, the lifetime, ongoing negging that is done towards attractive people is insane. It is long overdue that this obsessive behavior that UABW and UABM exhibit towards MLS people is exposed.
exactly! and she's also admitting that our beauty IS due to our skin/hair/facial features (in her mind.) basically whatever that woman naturally looked like when she woke up.
I love your comment you seem so sincere jealousy doesn’t feel good at all and I hope that you come to peace beyond the hate I too see beauty In all women however I can’t deny there are people who envy women with features they lack ❤
Biggest gaslight ever. We’re fighting a losing battle, because no one will literally ever admit they are jealous. Most people aren’t even honest with themselves. If they can’t process their emotions they won’t be able to have the conversation while based in reality instead of ego.
I love the amount of coping they do, “we’re not jealous! We just pick at, degrade, and invalidate MLS women’s experiences every chance we get! Plus they deserve it!!”. Is what I feel like some are saying without saying it. 💀
Whether im in a grocery store, in the club , or doing food delivery, i notice some women will see me and clutch their boyfriend extra hard, like he finna drift away 😂
Girl!!! It’s so crazy. I get the hell away FAST from married couples. And if I have to speak with them as a couple due to my job or just in passing, I usually will look at the wife while speaking because one false look at that man and baby it’s HAMMER time. It’s pathetic actually @ExoticalsUnited should make a post on how to stay away from jealous wives who will literally KILL over their dusty husbands. 😂
Thirty years ago, I interviewed for a job. I had my long hair up. After I was hired, I went to work with my hair down. My DS female supervisor commented about my hair and continued to do so while I was employed there. She went out of her way to bully and harrass me until I finally resigned.
OMG! Sadly, this is such a common thing. I figured out years ago that I needed to hide my hair whenever applying for a job. It kind of balances out the jealousy that I knew was going to be inevitable from a woman intervieer and it tempers the lust that I knew I'd get from a m¤le interviewer. My face is still my face, so I knew that I'd be treated decently due to the "halo effect" that pretty people have on others. The trick to the halo effect is that people like to help or give things to pretty people but they don't like you to be "too pretty" and since hair is a form of beauty, I would just pull it into a low and sleek bun, and just let my face shine. This "balancing trick" has gotten me into many doors. But the problems ALWAYS come when I drop my cover and let the hair down.😅 This was in my 20's when my hair was almost hip length. Now, I just keep it between bra-strap and waist length for convenience. Long, healthy hair is such a strong jealousy (and lust) trigger for so many people. At this point, I'm thinking it must be something primal in human beings regarding hair.
They sure are jealous. They do sneak attacks, too, or sly remarks, too. Or when a mixed woman comes around them uabw then laugh to try and make you feel a certain way. Check it out. You'll see
Had this happen to me the other day. I went to pick up my food order and this group of ds girls were in the waiting area and every time I would pass by a couple of them would snicker. Like the cup your hands to your face kind of snicker. It truly is something that someone’s existence makes one act that way. I knew it was jealousy. Since I’ve realized majority of stuff they do is out of jealousy it’s become comical and I don’t even get mad anymore.
Omg this has happened all my life especially growin up in the hood. Even black male teachers have made slick remarks including in college. Hearing others experiences has been really healing for me.
What happens here in Africa, the jealous village women will send you on a lot of errands so that you get sun burnt. You can just see that it's not about getting something done but a plan to drain you so they can get satisfaction from watching you sweat, weary and messed up from exhaustion.
People jealous of you have TOO MUCH Comfort talking about your appearance//only highlighting what they want but villiianize it on you. Again, hitting the hard topics and very prevalent ones.
Yup they constant humbling as a child one random day my auntie looked at me I had to be about 7 years old and said “ why your not gonna be anything but a stripper” that stuck with me my entire life
I’m so glad you’re talking about this. Recently, I had this one friend who was unambiguous that would always make negative comments about me, one of my other friends about us being proud of our Asian heritage. I am black Korean and thai and my other friend is black, and Malaysian. Recently me, and this friend had a cut off the unambiguous girl, because she would always try to compare us based on our skin tone and the texture of our hair. the unambiguous girl was also a K-pop fan and would also talk about her weird obsession with Asian men and would often try to flirt with any Asian guy that we would hang out with. She would always make comments about us trying to look more “Asian” even though we naturally have a mix of African and Asian features. it’s crazy how common it is for mixed people to be fetishized and pedestalized, but also hated at the same time. As a mixed boy I hope that more mixed men speak up on their experiences.
Have you noticed when any man no matter what his race is if he gets online and talks bad about any group of non Black women then his comments will be full of UABW encouraging it and happy about what is being said?
@@ExoticalSauceOh They ate that up lol… now had he said something ignorant about dark skin women, they would’ve canceled his ass…but us light skin women just brushed our shoulders off and kept our heads up…Period
Exoticals United im glad that you did a segment on the UDSBW jealousy of MLS , MGM , DSMW , LSW. Which you explained in your segment on why their insecurities causes them to verbally gaslight us with their words about our hair textures , facial , body features , skintones , eye colors , position in society as a whole.
They are jealous and DO try to humble mixed/LS people(mostly women)🤦🏾♀️I decided to watch iameloho because I hear so much about her and under a video of her talking about a LS woman there were so many comments saying “Lightskinned women need to be humbled” Or “She’s not attractive she’s just Lightskinned” And my favorite “Lightskinned women are only friends with dark skinned women to get more attention and overshadow their friends”
I watched Eloho a few times maybe a few years ago and I was so disgusted by her hating… she was damn near foaming at the mouth screaming ignorant shit about LS women… I just laughed because she was so bothered and pathetic and never watched her sorry behind again
@@stunnawhirl it's envy, they tried "exposing" her natural face out of jealousy and calling her "down syndrome face" because all types of men where simping for her
@@stunnawhirland also comparing her to flo milli an uadw and saying flo millis better but personally i find ice spice more attractive than flo milli not because of colorism but because she's generally prettier
I’ve noticed how they act like it is downright impossible the idea that they dislike us or are jealous because our skin tone. They will never admit it however I believe deep down they know a big issue they have with us is our skin tone.
My mom's sister's never complimented me my entire childhood until 18. So I developed low self esteem and insecurities because I thought if you didn't get compliments that meant you were unattractive. I seriously had a auntie say she didn't compliment me because she thought I already knew I was attractive. Meanwhile I compliment everyone!! Even on day to day experience I rarely get a compliment. Now I know I'm beautiful and learning to love myself every day. So yeah my family humbled me as a child but because of that I have a really strong personality. I'm not just focused on the outward appearance. It's OK to feel beautiful as a mixed or light skin woman. It's wrong how a lot of us have been treated.
I was recently accepted into a very selective group/conference that has ties to political figures. This is a very prestigious group, that is supposed to be open minded and accepting. One of the UABW girls from this group said at dinner one night, “oh you know, girls who look exotic, closer to you.” I was so shocked she would say that at a table of beautiful and intelligent, black women, and embarrass me like that. I was so stunned. All I could was stare. I’m a light skinned monoracial black woman. Promise me, we STAY on their mind !!!!
It never stops. It is so cra having 2 black parents as a monoracial light skin because you are isolated/mistreated by your own group. I literally could not hate bw because my mom, grandmother, grt grandparents are all dark skin. I wanted community but it doesn't seem that way vice versa. Now i realize why a gorgeous mls kept to herself in high school. They did not start being friendly to her until she got a car and most others didnt have one
The “pink gums” thing (along with pinkish nipples) has been pointed out by my DS UABW sibling in adolescenthood and first several years adulthood multiple times resentfully. It’s so common to hyperfocus on who you envy
Feel so liberated listening to this because so much jealousy I deal with at work. These women do too much have been trying to ruin my career ever since I started there. Lying on me and starting rumors every week.
omg i completely agree w this! it's so crazy bc i'm a darker toned mixed black woman (people always tell me i’m ethically ambiguous. they think i’m latina, east african, indian etc) and growing up, i went to black school w rarely any mixed ppl. Even tho i was darker toned, everyone around me knew i was mixed and would bully me, ask me uncomfortable questions about my race etc. My sister is very light skinned and we look like twins (she has very long 4c hair and i have very long 3c hair) just w different skin tones. I would always have to come help her fight bc girls would literally bully her bc she was light skinned. They also told her she couldn't say the N word bc she was white. 🤣 we aren't even white; our dad is puerto rican. Fast forwarding to highschool, i actually had most of my issues w light skinned women. 95% of the women who tried to fight me/ bullied me/ were jealous of me were light skinned women. They would wait for me in groups by the lockers and accuse me of thinking i'm "all that" and better than them; try to humble me, gang up on me etc. I also noticed that with SOME lighter skinned women and white latinas, it infuriates some of them when a black man chooses a darker woman over them . I'm not saying ALL white latinas/ light skinned women are this way; this has just been my experience. Some lighter toned women also believe that they should have favor bc their skin tone is the "standard" and when someone they deem as less than ( based off of skintone) is picked over them it upsets them. I KNOW some light skinned women were bullied simply bc they were light skinned bc I watched it happen to my sister first hand. I just wanted to add my experience to add another layer to the convo. Sometimes it's not just the skintone; it's the hair and the features. I always grew up hearing ppl talk about the bitter jealous dark skinned girl but i've experienced so many bitter jealous light skinned ones too ! along w the dark skinned ones of course. I would often be told "no one's jealous of you" but i've also been approached by ppl who were jealous of me's friends and they told me that person was jealous of me/ obsessed w me 🤣 i think these complexes affect everyone in different ways. Some ppl are innocent and others have sinister intentions. i hope no one misunderstands my comment ❤ oh yea, i was also bullied by teachers 😭 as early as pre k i had adult women trying to humble me. i will never forget it! it almost ruined my confidence but here i am 🎉
@@trxphywaif interesting! a lot of external factors play into that like region for example, how ppl perceive you, etc. most MLS women were pretty nice to me too. it was mainly light skinned black women who weren't mixed that i had issues w, white latinas and non mixed darker skinned women. it was just crazy seeing how many light skinned BW were triggered by my existence. in general, in addition to being mixed, i just trigger insecure ppl in general and certain BW have insecurities around men, hair, skintone and features. alot of the white latinas just be plain haters and just completely envious for no reason lolol. it's sad but it's true. i don't want to make it sound like ALL non mixed BW/ white latinas are bitter and jealous bc that's absolutely not true. i've met some very kind ones of course. this has just been my experience
I also had a girl at my school who would not stand when I get complimented. Mind you she is brownskinned 4c hair and im Dark with 4a to 4b hair. Any compliments on my hair,femininity would make her treat me so cruelly. So it is true, I depends on your experience. And by the way I have had some lightskinned women help me and be so kind to me while some darkskinned women be so cruel. And vice versa. So it all depends
“The purest form of existential envy manifests itself in times of disaster, when people, out of envy of others whose chances of survival they perceive as higher, choose one of several different means of escape and seek to destroy other possibilities of survival or escape. In his book The Boat {The Boat), Walter Gibson recounts what happened during World War II when the Dutch ship Rooseboom with 500 Malayan evacuees aboard was torpedoed in the middle of the Indian Ocean. Gibson, one of 135 survivors, states that, except that in one of the lifeboats, five soldiers banded together to throw 20 survivors overboard, those who themselves threw themselves overboard, unable to withstand hunger and thirst, seemed jealous of the others who strove to stay in the lifeboat and kept alive the hope of survival they themselves had already parted with." Gibson recalls, "Every suicide had one strange trait. As soon as people decided to jump overboard, they seemed to be annoyed that those who remained had a chance of survival. They tried to grab food supplies and throw them overboard. Before jumping into the ocean, they tried to pull the plug out of the dinghy to make it leak. Their madness always seemed to take the same form: they must not go off alone, but take everyone else with them." Helmut Schöck: Envy: A Theory of Social Behavior
@@ExoticalsUnitedLiterature on envy was the most validating eureka moment I came across. I observed these things in my life but thought I must be insane, surely nobody can be that destructive for no reason. I believed people who gaslit me about the envy and sabotage I was seeing with my own eyes. Now I finally know my sanity was right all along. People are far, FAR less rational than we’d like to think of them. Most act on complete autopilot with zero self-awareness. Adore your channel, thank you for all the hard work you do 🤌🏻❤️🔥
@@ExoticalsUnited the deeper you go into these topics, the more your channel will grow. There's a big market of people waiting for content like this because MLS populations are growing and the market does not have enough MLS-catered content. Imagine a world where ppl like us don't have to navigate UABW talking points all day.
@@GHC2US777 The problem is that unattractive m¤les are always obsessing over women that are wayyyyyyy out of their league as far as beauty is concerned. If they stayed in their lane, then maybe they'd find a woman who actually wanted to be with them as an equal. Beautiful women are people too, and we care about looks just like everyone else. We shouldn't be expected to lower our standard of wanting an attractive mate just because the unattractive m¤les think they "deserve" a pretty woman. We keep telling y'all, WE ARE NOT TROPHIES. We are human beings with eyes to see and natural desires just like everyone else. We are no longer allowing the uglies to guilt us into being their friend or their girlfriend. It's time for us to enjoy our own beauty and to actually benefit from it instead of just sharing ourselves with others out of some false sense of "fairness." Welcome to the real world of grownups where we accept that LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Deal with it.
Ok so I know I'm not mixed, just a slavic woman... but people sometimes have said that I look exotic (because I look different than other white people here...different phenotype, I guess). While I recognize that my personal experience doesn't apply to some of the talking points when it comes to race, I still feel like I can relate to mixed women in my own way. Is that weird?
yup, i noticed that some of the things we experience, monoracial women of any background can experience as well depending on how they look. thats why this channel also includes monoracial black women who just happen to "look mixed". its because race is a social construct. some people will judge your race based on how you look lol
No not at all!!! I’ve noticed the differences between eastern and Western Europeans. The Eastern European Polish, Slavic, Czech look is very beautiful! Actually one of my favorite supermodels growing up was of Slavic descent. ❤
@Minnahope ok well jealousy and competitiveness coming from women is one thing I've experienced, for sure... that's why I feel safe on this channel because I know you guys have experienced this too. Idolization/fetishization from male gaze is another part of my experience, as well as negging. But the part I relate the MOST to, being a first generation immigrant, is the lack of appropriate space/niche for me to exist within, given that I'm part of both cultures but neither at the same time? That's why I really love this channel, it just feels so refreshing to hear ExoticalsUnited talk about her life experience! ❤️
@@badb.tchesimurleaderim from a little island in the Caribbean and most men over here favor exoticals and lightskin women over darkskin uabw even though we are few and they usually have to settle so as a lightskin exotical i have faced alot of jealousy from them
I just saw a comment about Draya Michelle on IG where a girl said that she’s always looked average to her and she would look much better if she was darker. You can’t make this up 😂 Draya literally has dated several multi millionaire men so obviously they think differently
I’m sorry you went through that. You are gorgeous and they were clearly jealous and envious of you. It was always big black UABW who bullied me in middle school too. This one girl put gum in my hair! She was jumped by some Tongan girls the next day🤣
Sending you a hug. I totally empathize!! I was jumped, kicked, and cursed out by black girls and boys in school … terrorized over my hair, too. My black mother’s family hated me growing up and have always treated me with contempt … 😕
right! i was like wow she was REALLY staring. this proves that my theory is true. people stare at those they perceive to be "pretty" so they can compare themselves to you. they will pin point both your similarities and your differences from them. or your "flaws"
@@yanna1993 no. it was mainly on facebook not on tiktok- because of the implied sexual nature. Around light skin stare time. Whats good is that we've been protecting our image and exclusive with who we date that they dont knw the truth. They want to knw-weird
I had a childhood best friend of 27 years no longer friends because the last time I went to Jamaica she treated me like fecal matter come to find out looking back over the years she has always compared our skin tone even down to the pinkness of my lips asking me how do I get my lips so pink I'd say I don't know I was naturally born that way she was even borderline obsessed with asking me if I bleach my skin because I look so light to her and I told her I only bleached like the inner thighs or butt cheeks that's usually darker anyways to match my complexion and she was like oh very dryly but pretty much since we were teens she was bleaching her skin which is so sad because I always thought she had the most beautiful chocolate complexion but the saddest comparison I ever had to my skin tone was someone another light skin lady tellin my daughter that my daughter and I are twins except she's dark skin and light skin whole time I never raised my daughter with that concept she literally introduced that's vile concept 😢 to her then my daughter started calling me light-skinned this is literally why we have to be careful of the poison that is in this community and how it can affect the future generations.
The same people who are not jealous are the same ones who shame, gaslight, bully and exclude anyone who doesn't look like them. Isn't that weird? 🤔 And I'm not even mixed. I'm 100% East African but I look different from what is considered a "standard" black woman. I won't complain because I realize my experience was probably not as hard as what mixed girls had to go through 😢
Great video!! I've experienced this a lot but I used to tell myself it was "all in my head". I could sense it was really bad but I didn't realize to what degree until I found this community!
Tems collaborated with Rihanna and Beyonce! And had Billboard top hits, why do they keep downplaying the success of DS woman to push narratives? Tems is doing just fine. I found out about Tyla bc lipstick alley kept bashing her and I got curious.
Yes i mean 2 top ten hits and a number 1 song and working with beyonce and rihanna is a huge accomplishment ,this colourism conflict is dumb and stupid God bless the kind hearted
Like it is so funny that all their efforts to make us look bad, has actually backfired and they actually made us pop, while they have made themselves look bad at the same time😁 Tbh, since being subscribed to your channel I've learned to burn that cape.. When i see something about uabw i just shrug it off like it doesn't apply to me... But the second someone says something offensive about MLS PPL... IM ALL OVER THAT ISH!! I'm sorry, but they drew the lines in the sand and told us on large platforms that we are not their sisters and its war and that they hate us! while far too many other uabw stayed silent and let it go unchecked and was entertained by it. so now we MLS women have the same energy and some don't like it... Idk what to tell you, they wanted it this way!
The reason why “women that look like them” aren’t as big as Tyla is because they lack confidence and drive and feel they deserve something instead of working hard to gain success. For example. Normani. Normani has no personality in interviews and she doesn’t seem to have drive to make music. Therefore, she will be overshadowed by Chloe Bailey and Tyla. Is it insecurity and fear of failure? Maybe. But they can’t blame skin color for Normani career flopping
i've literally graduated college, moved to multiple cities across the country, been married, divorced, switched careers, went from my 20s into my 30s, and women are STILL talking about us on youtube 😂😂😂😂
Can you do a video on childhood vs. adulthood colorism/problems? I noticed many uab peoples talking points stop at childhood when all kids are emotionally and mentally underdeveloped. People of all demographics have some negative youth trauma. Abw experiences on the other hand tend to continue and sometimes heighten in adulthood. I am near 40 and it has never stopped. I just thought people didnt like me. Not a victim at all but didnt have youtube or a community with similar experiences coming up. I was literally just stared down at lil caesars last wk and i was in the car. She was walking past and literally was lookin all in my car at me. A glance is normal human behavior but she couldnt take her eyes off me. When i walkd out of place she was outside close by door and still started staring again. I flew the door open like a pizza princess, it almost hit her and got bck in the car. It was very uncomfortable. i had my child and no time for drama. I tend to use several tactics. Staring back, being even happier/confident, givin them a nice nasty stank eye, sarcasm, or completely ignoring them like they dont even exist on earth. Sry this was long
There are a lot of jealous jerks in this world. It is especially worse when you have a pretty face. The proof is also when you are told “you are too nice.” I was told my several people that I’m too nice & it’s like no matter what I do these jealous women on my job are going out of their way to assassinate my character. Unfortunately I work in a hen house 🏠 with majority nurses but the hostility is mostly coming from non nurses.
On the staring point I feel I've experienced the opposite, like from both white and black people there are some if I happen to glance their way they seem to be chomping at the bit to scream about me staring at them lol. Anyone else?
Yea it can go both ways on any given day. Ive dealt with both. I think its because looking at them triggers their insecurities that you will notice their flaws. Its also a humbling tactic trying to knock you off a pedestal because they noticed you look pretty or better than them & it triggered their internalized trauma as soon as they seen you
@@LaBellaMafia1This has been my experience too. They hate the staring because they might feel insecure and perceive your not "lacking" any to make you judgmental. Which is so cruel. But I understand. It sucks that to protect yourself (and these) it helps to keep a distance emotionally.
It’s to the point I work from home. I don’t show I’m online and I barely show my face on Teams during meetings and I’m still a target TF and yes they are Darker or None Black. I have continuously worked on myself with my hair make up and fitness, and it shows every time I show up. We shouldn’t be sorry for our genetics! 🧬
I’m a Dark toned all black woman and I think what light skin women experience is true Jealousy comes in all forms race gender privilege and some darker women are envious though I’ve never experienced jealousy in reference it was projected on me as a child to insight jealousy in me however it never stuck I empathize with it because you can’t help the way you’re born if you’re beautiful just be that and never allow anyone to shut down your experience ❤
If you know anything about it, I would love for you to do a video on colorism as it pertains to RHOP. It was watching the vile comments of UABW in that show’s recap/gossip channels that made me unsubscribe from all of those channels along with many UABW channels as well. That show is hugely triggering for them and they use it as an excuse (and we KNOW they will take ANY excuse) to drag MLS for everything they do. It is sickening and since I could no longer be the only one defending MLS in the comments, I left all the online channels that but I still watch the show. I would love to hear your thoughts on that show and the accusations of colorism, if you have any. Thanks for everything you do!
I wouldn’t even try to insinuate to anybody that they’re jealous of me. I know they’re not going to agree with it so why even start? I just go on and they say it. I’ve had people come back and say it, even if they don’t say the word “jealous.” They’ll day “I remember you always were/had this and that..” “ I remember that time when ....” . Most of the time the times are things I don’t even remember or it wasn’t important to me .... or they remember things in a much bigger/ different way than I do. I’m used to getting attention all the time from men and women and I see things differently than they do. Getting attention is huge to them. They assume it’s a big thing to me too and that it’s something I live off of. It’s not. It’s an everyday thing for me
Can you talk about makeup next and how people love to want you to put hella bronzer or contour on to darken it up….it’s like I don’t want too please talk about that if u experienced it
When I was 7 I had this best friend who was also light-skinned, when we got into 3rd grade this new girl came and she switched up for no reason I don’t know if it was jealousy or if I was nice(I was also quite shy and quiet). Also, I tried goth make(and I looked good!) this guy was so negative and ignorant and he said, “(name) did it better because she's white.” like um ok.
I noticed the same thing too. Part of it I think it's because despite us not wanting to admit it, darker black men or just black men in general often put mixed black women as the default black women. On one hand it's great that we're shown in a positive light but it's often bittersweet because there are beautiful non-mixed black women too. Heck there's way more of them than there's of us. And yet black men in the media don't show them, at least not often. That would honestly inspire ire in anyone. It's like with the East Asians, they definitely don't do that with their mixed kids. Their monoracials are their standard of beauty POINT BLANK. It's not even a question. They're not going to prefer a mixed Asian if the person isn't just spectacularly pretty not a preference because they're mixed. I know we have a thing about not making ourselves small and holding our heads high but things like this Tyla placing is one of those things that become noticeable. Especially because not all of us even have exposure to black men believe it or not. I think maybe her being in South Africa it makes sense that they show her next to unambiguous black men often instead of the variety, like say an East Asian or a South Asian men (also her cultures). Maybe it's because her looks appeal to black men more and obviously they're also the majority in South Africa (I hope. And think. I've not been to South Africa). It's not like in the United Kingdom where black women of all sorts are typically shown with a white guy unlike in the US. So maybe it's also a location thing and population prevalence. It's not like the US thing of mixed people being overepresented in the black communities here.
I thought I was the only one who peeped this. They are praising the darker-skinned kids, which is great, they are beautiful! But then they are trying to shit on the lighter kids like they are not CHILDREN!
Jealous people literally encouraged me to get my conceal and carry. They swear out they aren't jealous or hating but every chance they get they are saying something and/or doing something backhanded and wierd that makes me extremely uncomfortable to the point where i dont know how to respond. Because any way you respond they will try and use it against you. 🥲
YES ! THEY ARE JEALOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you are NOT jealous of someone, you wouldn't spend so much time trying to find flaws/fault with them or obsess over them or talk about them.
Some people actually relish traumatising others, so it's possible that they're just shitty people. I have seen some psychopathic assholes like this.
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😂that is what EU is doing tho 😂
Its envy not jealousy, jealousy is the fear of loosing something/someone to someone for example your the smartest in class and now somone is comes that is smarter, envy is wanting something someone else has for example beauty, smarts
@@louloudemondemon296 No. What EU is doing is RESPONDING to all of the bullsh*t that has been spewed at and about MLS women for the last decade on CZcams alone. Also, the lifetime, ongoing negging that is done towards attractive people is insane. It is long overdue that this obsessive behavior that UABW and UABM exhibit towards MLS people is exposed.
By saying, “They don’t even have to try, they woke up like this,” she’s literally admitting that her jealousy is not their faults.
exactly! and she's also admitting that our beauty IS due to our skin/hair/facial features (in her mind.) basically whatever that woman naturally looked like when she woke up.
@@fireinthesky_71and they can't say you have it easier if you're being bullied because of it
Am I the only one who doesn't want anyone to be jealous of me?
It just makes me sad. I see so much beauty in so many different looks.
Right ! Why would I want someone to want to harm me? Or have ill will towards me ?
yeah because they're aggressive & dangerous & will unalive us if it could get them their kangz back
I wish they weren't so they would leave me alone and stop bullying
I love your comment you seem so sincere jealousy doesn’t feel good at all and I hope that you come to peace beyond the hate I too see beauty In all women however I can’t deny there are people who envy women with features they lack ❤
Biggest gaslight ever. We’re fighting a losing battle, because no one will literally ever admit they are jealous. Most people aren’t even honest with themselves. If they can’t process their emotions they won’t be able to have the conversation while based in reality instead of ego.
I love the amount of coping they do, “we’re not jealous! We just pick at, degrade, and invalidate MLS women’s experiences every chance we get! Plus they deserve it!!”. Is what I feel like some are saying without saying it. 💀
Whether im in a grocery store, in the club , or doing food delivery, i notice some women will see me and clutch their boyfriend extra hard, like he finna drift away 😂
Girl!!! It’s so crazy. I get the hell away FAST from married couples. And if I have to speak with them as a couple due to my job or just in passing, I usually will look at the wife while speaking because one false look at that man and baby it’s HAMMER time. It’s pathetic actually
@ExoticalsUnited should make a post on how to stay away from jealous wives who will literally KILL over their dusty husbands. 😂
Thirty years ago, I interviewed for a job. I had my long hair up. After I was hired, I went to work with my hair down. My DS female supervisor commented about my hair and continued to do so while I was employed there. She went out of her way to bully and harrass me until I finally resigned.
OMG! Sadly, this is such a common thing. I figured out years ago that I needed to hide my hair whenever applying for a job. It kind of balances out the jealousy that I knew was going to be inevitable from a woman intervieer and it tempers the lust that I knew I'd get from a m¤le interviewer. My face is still my face, so I knew that I'd be treated decently due to the "halo effect" that pretty people have on others. The trick to the halo effect is that people like to help or give things to pretty people but they don't like you to be "too pretty" and since hair is a form of beauty, I would just pull it into a low and sleek bun, and just let my face shine. This "balancing trick" has gotten me into many doors. But the problems ALWAYS come when I drop my cover and let the hair down.😅 This was in my 20's when my hair was almost hip length. Now, I just keep it between bra-strap and waist length for convenience. Long, healthy hair is such a strong jealousy (and lust) trigger for so many people. At this point, I'm thinking it must be something primal in human beings regarding hair.
This is so very true. I've experienced women being very jealous of my hip long hair.
They sure are jealous. They do sneak attacks, too, or sly remarks, too. Or when a mixed woman comes around them uabw then laugh to try and make you feel a certain way. Check it out. You'll see
Had this happen to me the other day. I went to pick up my food order and this group of ds girls were in the waiting area and every time I would pass by a couple of them would snicker. Like the cup your hands to your face kind of snicker. It truly is something that someone’s existence makes one act that way. I knew it was jealousy. Since I’ve realized majority of stuff they do is out of jealousy it’s become comical and I don’t even get mad anymore.
Omg this has happened all my life especially growin up in the hood. Even black male teachers have made slick remarks including in college. Hearing others experiences has been really healing for me.
Happened to me plenty in high-school.....
What happens here in Africa, the jealous village women will send you on a lot of errands so that you get sun burnt. You can just see that it's not about getting something done but a plan to drain you so they can get satisfaction from watching you sweat, weary and messed up from exhaustion.
Wow…
The most common thing they say is that black boy on the middle school playground passed them up for the MLS girl🤷♀️
People jealous of you have TOO MUCH Comfort talking about your appearance//only highlighting what they want but villiianize it on you. Again, hitting the hard topics and very prevalent ones.
Yup they constant humbling as a child one random day my auntie looked at me I had to be about 7 years old and said “ why your not gonna be anything but a stripper” that stuck with me my entire life
Omg you just reminded me of a guy in middle school saying i was stripper material when I was in fifth grade and that I could strip at his wedding 🙄
@@ExoticalsUnited eww just eww the over sexualization of literal children is sickening
That's so abusive and perverted 😢
@@Aries.Goddess30 exactly like why would you even look at your little neice in that way
Wtf
If these people were not jealous---why all the endless obsession?
I’m so glad you’re talking about this. Recently, I had this one friend who was unambiguous that would always make negative comments about me, one of my other friends about us being proud of our Asian heritage. I am black Korean and thai and my other friend is black, and Malaysian. Recently me, and this friend had a cut off the unambiguous girl, because she would always try to compare us based on our skin tone and the texture of our hair. the unambiguous girl was also a K-pop fan and would also talk about her weird obsession with Asian men and would often try to flirt with any Asian guy that we would hang out with. She would always make comments about us trying to look more “Asian” even though we naturally have a mix of African and Asian features. it’s crazy how common it is for mixed people to be fetishized and pedestalized, but also hated at the same time. As a mixed boy I hope that more mixed men speak up on their experiences.
I truly believe that a ton of uambw are jealous of the amount of protection, support and freedom we have to live our lives in a multitude of ways.
Have you noticed when any man no matter what his race is if he gets online and talks bad about any group of non Black women then his comments will be full of UABW encouraging it and happy about what is being said?
This👆👆
Like Katt Williams' remarks abt "funny look light skin wives"
@@Music45387 yep! It makes them feel better about themselves. They also want us to feel what they feel they want us to feel ugly.
I'm sure it was UBDBW
@@ExoticalSauceOh They ate that up lol… now had he said something ignorant about dark skin women, they would’ve canceled his ass…but us light skin women just brushed our shoulders off and kept our heads up…Period
@@shennarice5749
Exactly!
Exoticals United im glad that you did a segment on the UDSBW jealousy of MLS , MGM , DSMW , LSW. Which you explained in your segment on why their insecurities causes them to verbally gaslight us with their words about our hair textures , facial , body features , skintones , eye colors , position in society as a whole.
They are jealous and DO try to humble mixed/LS people(mostly women)🤦🏾♀️I decided to watch iameloho because I hear so much about her and under a video of her talking about a LS woman there were so many comments saying
“Lightskinned women need to be humbled”
Or
“She’s not attractive she’s just Lightskinned”
And my favorite
“Lightskinned women are only friends with dark skinned women to get more attention and overshadow their friends”
The specific Lightskinned woman was ice spice, Ice doesn’t even deserve this type of hate she don’t even hurt nb 🤦🏾♀️
I watched Eloho a few times maybe a few years ago and I was so disgusted by her hating… she was damn near foaming at the mouth screaming ignorant shit about LS women… I just laughed because she was so bothered and pathetic and never watched her sorry behind again
@@stunnawhirl it's envy, they tried "exposing" her natural face out of jealousy and calling her "down syndrome face" because all types of men where simping for her
@@stunnawhirland also comparing her to flo milli an uadw and saying flo millis better but personally i find ice spice more attractive than flo milli not because of colorism but because she's generally prettier
@@stunnawhirlright she's unproblematic af
I’ve noticed how they act like it is downright impossible the idea that they dislike us or are jealous because our skin tone. They will never admit it however I believe deep down they know a big issue they have with us is our skin tone.
My mom's sister's never complimented me my entire childhood until 18. So I developed low self esteem and insecurities because I thought if you didn't get compliments that meant you were unattractive. I seriously had a auntie say she didn't compliment me because she thought I already knew I was attractive. Meanwhile I compliment everyone!! Even on day to day experience I rarely get a compliment. Now I know I'm beautiful and learning to love myself every day. So yeah my family humbled me as a child but because of that I have a really strong personality. I'm not just focused on the outward appearance. It's OK to feel beautiful as a mixed or light skin woman. It's wrong how a lot of us have been treated.
I was recently accepted into a very selective group/conference that has ties to political figures. This is a very prestigious group, that is supposed to be open minded and accepting.
One of the UABW girls from this group said at dinner one night, “oh you know, girls who look exotic, closer to you.” I was so shocked she would say that at a table of beautiful and intelligent, black women, and embarrass me like that. I was so stunned. All I could was stare.
I’m a light skinned monoracial black woman. Promise me, we STAY on their mind !!!!
It never stops. It is so cra having 2 black parents as a monoracial light skin because you are isolated/mistreated by your own group. I literally could not hate bw because my mom, grandmother, grt grandparents are all dark skin. I wanted community but it doesn't seem that way vice versa. Now i realize why a gorgeous mls kept to herself in high school. They did not start being friendly to her until she got a car and most others didnt have one
The “pink gums” thing (along with pinkish nipples) has been pointed out by my DS UABW sibling in adolescenthood and first several years adulthood multiple times resentfully.
It’s so common to hyperfocus on who you envy
Feel so liberated listening to this because so much jealousy I deal with at work. These women do too much have been trying to ruin my career ever since I started there. Lying on me and starting rumors every week.
omg i completely agree w this! it's so crazy bc i'm a darker toned mixed black woman (people always tell me i’m ethically ambiguous. they think i’m latina, east african, indian etc) and growing up, i went to black school w rarely any mixed ppl. Even tho i was darker toned, everyone around me knew i was mixed and would bully me, ask me uncomfortable questions about my race etc. My sister is very light skinned and we look like twins (she has very long 4c hair and i have very long 3c hair) just w different skin tones. I would always have to come help her fight bc girls would literally bully her bc she was light skinned. They also told her she couldn't say the N word bc she was white. 🤣 we aren't even white; our dad is puerto rican. Fast forwarding to highschool, i actually had most of my issues w light skinned women. 95% of the women who tried to fight me/ bullied me/ were jealous of me were light skinned women. They would wait for me in groups by the lockers and accuse me of thinking i'm "all that" and better than them; try to humble me, gang up on me etc. I also noticed that with SOME lighter skinned women and white latinas, it infuriates some of them when a black man chooses a darker woman over them . I'm not saying ALL white latinas/ light skinned women are this way; this has just been my experience. Some lighter toned women also believe that they should have favor bc their skin tone is the "standard" and when someone they deem as less than ( based off of skintone) is picked over them it upsets them. I KNOW some light skinned women were bullied simply bc they were light skinned bc I watched it happen to my sister first hand. I just wanted to add my experience to add another layer to the convo. Sometimes it's not just the skintone; it's the hair and the features. I always grew up hearing ppl talk about the bitter jealous dark skinned girl but i've experienced so many bitter jealous light skinned ones too ! along w the dark skinned ones of course. I would often be told "no one's jealous of you" but i've also been approached by ppl who were jealous of me's friends and they told me that person was jealous of me/ obsessed w me 🤣 i think these complexes affect everyone in different ways. Some ppl are innocent and others have sinister intentions. i hope no one misunderstands my comment ❤ oh yea, i was also bullied by teachers 😭 as early as pre k i had adult women trying to humble me. i will never forget it! it almost ruined my confidence but here i am 🎉
@@trxphywaif interesting! a lot of external factors play into that like region for example, how ppl perceive you, etc. most MLS women were pretty nice to me too. it was mainly light skinned black women who weren't mixed that i had issues w, white latinas and non mixed darker skinned women. it was just crazy seeing how many light skinned BW were triggered by my existence. in general, in addition to being mixed, i just trigger insecure ppl in general and certain BW have insecurities around men, hair, skintone and features. alot of the white latinas just be plain haters and just completely envious for no reason lolol. it's sad but it's true. i don't want to make it sound like ALL non mixed BW/ white latinas are bitter and jealous bc that's absolutely not true. i've met some very kind ones of course. this has just been my experience
@@badb.tchesimurleaderlightskin bw grow up being bullied in their black households usually so maybe they just were projecting
I also had a girl at my school who would not stand when I get complimented. Mind you she is brownskinned 4c hair and im Dark with 4a to 4b hair. Any compliments on my hair,femininity would make her treat me so cruelly. So it is true, I depends on your experience. And by the way I have had some lightskinned women help me and be so kind to me while some darkskinned women be so cruel. And vice versa. So it all depends
I get you I’m a mixed Latina (Brazilian) and usually I was bullied by white woman but some white latinas (tbh all mexicans) treated me like shit
“The purest form of existential envy manifests itself in times of disaster, when people, out of envy of others whose chances of survival they perceive as higher, choose one of several different means of escape and seek to destroy other possibilities of survival or escape.
In his book The Boat {The Boat), Walter Gibson recounts what happened during World War II when the Dutch ship Rooseboom with 500 Malayan evacuees aboard was torpedoed in the middle of the Indian Ocean.
Gibson, one of 135 survivors, states that, except that in one of the lifeboats, five soldiers banded together to throw 20 survivors overboard, those who themselves threw themselves overboard, unable to withstand hunger and thirst, seemed jealous of the others who strove to stay in the lifeboat and kept alive the hope of survival they themselves had already parted with."
Gibson recalls, "Every suicide had one strange trait. As soon as people decided to jump overboard, they seemed to be annoyed that those who remained had a chance of survival.
They tried to grab food supplies and throw them overboard. Before jumping into the ocean, they tried to pull the plug out of the dinghy to make it leak. Their madness always seemed to take the same form: they must not go off alone, but take everyone else with them."
Helmut Schöck: Envy: A Theory of Social Behavior
Very interesting, I need to read some more books on envy so I can dig further into the concept on this channel
@@ExoticalsUnitedLiterature on envy was the most validating eureka moment I came across. I observed these things in my life but thought I must be insane, surely nobody can be that destructive for no reason. I believed people who gaslit me about the envy and sabotage I was seeing with my own eyes. Now I finally know my sanity was right all along. People are far, FAR less rational than we’d like to think of them. Most act on complete autopilot with zero self-awareness. Adore your channel, thank you for all the hard work you do 🤌🏻❤️🔥
@@ExoticalsUnited the deeper you go into these topics, the more your channel will grow.
There's a big market of people waiting for content like this because MLS populations are growing and the market does not have enough MLS-catered content. Imagine a world where ppl like us don't have to navigate UABW talking points all day.
Love this. We need more Movie & Book recommendations
Read: Our Kind of People by Lawrence Otis Graham
It’s a page turner for sure 🤯
Yeah Mr. Majors is not my type either.
He’s just not attractive
@@GHC2US777 The problem is that unattractive m¤les are always obsessing over women that are wayyyyyyy out of their league as far as beauty is concerned. If they stayed in their lane, then maybe they'd find a woman who actually wanted to be with them as an equal. Beautiful women are people too, and we care about looks just like everyone else. We shouldn't be expected to lower our standard of wanting an attractive mate just because the unattractive m¤les think they "deserve" a pretty woman. We keep telling y'all, WE ARE NOT TROPHIES. We are human beings with eyes to see and natural desires just like everyone else. We are no longer allowing the uglies to guilt us into being their friend or their girlfriend. It's time for us to enjoy our own beauty and to actually benefit from it instead of just sharing ourselves with others out of some false sense of "fairness." Welcome to the real world of grownups where we accept that LIFE IS NOT FAIR. Deal with it.
Ok so I know I'm not mixed, just a slavic woman... but people sometimes have said that I look exotic (because I look different than other white people here...different phenotype, I guess).
While I recognize that my personal experience doesn't apply to some of the talking points when it comes to race, I still feel like I can relate to mixed women in my own way. Is that weird?
yup, i noticed that some of the things we experience, monoracial women of any background can experience as well depending on how they look. thats why this channel also includes monoracial black women who just happen to "look mixed". its because race is a social construct. some people will judge your race based on how you look lol
In which way?
No not at all!!! I’ve noticed the differences between eastern and Western Europeans. The Eastern European Polish, Slavic, Czech look is very beautiful! Actually one of my favorite supermodels growing up was of Slavic descent. ❤
@Minnahope ok well jealousy and competitiveness coming from women is one thing I've experienced, for sure... that's why I feel safe on this channel because I know you guys have experienced this too. Idolization/fetishization from male gaze is another part of my experience, as well as negging.
But the part I relate the MOST to, being a first generation immigrant, is the lack of appropriate space/niche for me to exist within, given that I'm part of both cultures but neither at the same time? That's why I really love this channel, it just feels so refreshing to hear ExoticalsUnited talk about her life experience! ❤️
@daryna94
That's interesting
I think her article “summed up” how many UABW feel when they around an Exotical.
yes! that's basically what my comment was about. it's envy of "exotic" features more than anything
@@badb.tchesimurleaderyeah since an uabw is seen as the "common black woman"
@@badb.tchesimurleaderim from a little island in the Caribbean and most men over here favor exoticals and lightskin women over darkskin uabw even though we are few and they usually have to settle so as a lightskin exotical i have faced alot of jealousy from them
I just saw a comment about Draya Michelle on IG where a girl said that she’s always looked average to her and she would look much better if she was darker. You can’t make this up 😂 Draya literally has dated several multi millionaire men so obviously they think differently
I’m so glad you’re touching on this! I’ve experienced this even with my own mom & other fam. Making certain comments, it’s gets overwhelming.
Omg, I was jumped 3 times by 3 big black girls . Literally for no reason. There would bully me and my other 2 light skinned friends.
I’m sorry you went through that. You are gorgeous and they were clearly jealous and envious of you. It was always big black UABW who bullied me in middle school too. This one girl put gum in my hair! She was jumped by some Tongan girls the next day🤣
Sending you a hug. I totally empathize!! I was jumped, kicked, and cursed out by black girls and boys in school … terrorized over my hair, too. My black mother’s family hated me growing up and have always treated me with contempt … 😕
Thank God you are ok.
Dang they looking at the color of our gumbs too?! I’ve heard it all today!
right! i was like wow she was REALLY staring. this proves that my theory is true. people stare at those they perceive to be "pretty" so they can compare themselves to you. they will pin point both your similarities and your differences from them. or your "flaws"
It’s ridiculous … seriously, who makes note of someone’s gums… just weird
@Free2Be7whats crazy is they already had a viral meme joking about that. It was pic of food items shaped like "light skin breasts"
@@LaBellaMafia1 I’m purposely choosing to believe this is not real
@@yanna1993 no. it was mainly on facebook not on tiktok- because of the implied sexual nature. Around light skin stare time. Whats good is that we've been protecting our image and exclusive with who we date that they dont knw the truth. They want to knw-weird
I had a childhood best friend of 27 years no longer friends because the last time I went to Jamaica she treated me like fecal matter come to find out looking back over the years she has always compared our skin tone even down to the pinkness of my lips asking me how do I get my lips so pink I'd say I don't know I was naturally born that way she was even borderline obsessed with asking me if I bleach my skin because I look so light to her and I told her I only bleached like the inner thighs or butt cheeks that's usually darker anyways to match my complexion and she was like oh very dryly but pretty much since we were teens she was bleaching her skin which is so sad because I always thought she had the most beautiful chocolate complexion but the saddest comparison I ever had to my skin tone was someone another light skin lady tellin my daughter that my daughter and I are twins except she's dark skin and light skin whole time I never raised my daughter with that concept she literally introduced that's vile concept 😢 to her then my daughter started calling me light-skinned this is literally why we have to be careful of the poison that is in this community and how it can affect the future generations.
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The same people who are not jealous are the same ones who shame, gaslight, bully and exclude anyone who doesn't look like them. Isn't that weird? 🤔
And I'm not even mixed. I'm 100% East African but I look different from what is considered a "standard" black woman. I won't complain because I realize my experience was probably not as hard as what mixed girls had to go through 😢
Great video!! I've experienced this a lot but I used to tell myself it was "all in my head". I could sense it was really bad but I didn't realize to what degree until I found this community!
I'm so glad my biracial grandmother always saw it as a compliment when her elder friends said I would be a heartbreaker as a toddler.
Tems collaborated with Rihanna and Beyonce! And had Billboard top hits, why do they keep downplaying the success of DS woman to push narratives? Tems is doing just fine. I found out about Tyla bc lipstick alley kept bashing her and I got curious.
Yes i mean 2 top ten hits and a number 1 song and working with beyonce and rihanna is a huge accomplishment ,this colourism conflict is dumb and stupid God bless the kind hearted
Like it is so funny that all their efforts to make us look bad, has actually backfired and they actually made us pop, while they have made themselves look bad at the same time😁
Tbh, since being subscribed to your channel I've learned to burn that cape.. When i see something about uabw i just shrug it off like it doesn't apply to me... But the second someone says something offensive about MLS PPL... IM ALL OVER THAT ISH!!
I'm sorry, but
they drew the lines in the sand and told us on large platforms that we are not their sisters and its war and that they hate us!
while far too many other uabw stayed silent and let it go unchecked and was entertained by it.
so now we MLS women have the same energy and some don't like it... Idk what to tell you, they wanted it this way!
Wow!!! You hit the nail on the head with the parents telling family members not to compliment you growing up. PURE FAAAAAAACTS!! ❤❤❤
That's so evil 😢
The reason why “women that look like them” aren’t as big as Tyla is because they lack confidence and drive and feel they deserve something instead of working hard to gain success. For example. Normani. Normani has no personality in interviews and she doesn’t seem to have drive to make music. Therefore, she will be overshadowed by Chloe Bailey and Tyla. Is it insecurity and fear of failure? Maybe. But they can’t blame skin color for Normani career flopping
Omg I forgot about normani, that’s so true
Megan is just as popular as cardi b . Its just who likes who and who us promoted mire. Plys ice spice kniws kim k kf she was invited to MG
Jonathan Majors has a struggle face
Real bad! 😅
@@divinej802 he has a we shall overcome civil rights face
Yall are rude and evil , may the devil be on your side
Another excellent topic! Thank you Exoticals United! 💖🙏🏽💖
Thank you for watching ! 😻
Now it’s been about a decade 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤
i've literally graduated college, moved to multiple cities across the country, been married, divorced, switched careers, went from my 20s into my 30s, and women are STILL talking about us on youtube 😂😂😂😂
@@ExoticalsUnitedyou are too funny!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 I love it! It’s been yearssss now lol.
Can you do a video on childhood vs. adulthood colorism/problems? I noticed many uab peoples talking points stop at childhood when all kids are emotionally and mentally underdeveloped. People of all demographics have some negative youth trauma. Abw experiences on the other hand tend to continue and sometimes heighten in adulthood. I am near 40 and it has never stopped. I just thought people didnt like me. Not a victim at all but didnt have youtube or a community with similar experiences coming up. I was literally just stared down at lil caesars last wk and i was in the car. She was walking past and literally was lookin all in my car at me. A glance is normal human behavior but she couldnt take her eyes off me. When i walkd out of place she was outside close by door and still started staring again. I flew the door open like a pizza princess, it almost hit her and got bck in the car. It was very uncomfortable. i had my child and no time for drama. I tend to use several tactics. Staring back, being even happier/confident, givin them a nice nasty stank eye, sarcasm, or completely ignoring them like they dont even exist on earth. Sry this was long
Happens to me as well also 40.
I wish all woman knew they were beautiful and didn’t let their jealousy turn into projection🤍
Are u multi racial in your identity?
If anything, I’ve found it’s getting worse the older and more attractive I’ve gotten… These issues of mistreatment and jealousy
There are a lot of jealous jerks in this world. It is especially worse when you have a pretty face. The proof is also when you are told “you are too nice.” I was told my several people that I’m too nice & it’s like no matter what I do these jealous women on my job are going out of their way to assassinate my character. Unfortunately I work in a hen house 🏠 with majority nurses but the hostility is mostly coming from non nurses.
On the staring point I feel I've experienced the opposite, like from both white and black people there are some if I happen to glance their way they seem to be chomping at the bit to scream about me staring at them lol. Anyone else?
Yea it can go both ways on any given day. Ive dealt with both. I think its because looking at them triggers their insecurities that you will notice their flaws. Its also a humbling tactic trying to knock you off a pedestal because they noticed you look pretty or better than them & it triggered their internalized trauma as soon as they seen you
@@LaBellaMafia1This has been my experience too. They hate the staring because they might feel insecure and perceive your not "lacking" any to make you judgmental. Which is so cruel. But I understand. It sucks that to protect yourself (and these) it helps to keep a distance emotionally.
Bw and bm will fight you for even making eye contact.😂😂 I avoid them both
It’s to the point I work from home. I don’t show I’m online and I barely show my face on Teams during meetings and I’m still a target TF and yes they are Darker or None Black. I have continuously worked on myself with my hair make up and fitness, and it shows every time I show up. We shouldn’t be sorry for our genetics! 🧬
I’m a Dark toned all black woman and I think what light skin women experience is true Jealousy comes in all forms race gender privilege and some darker women are envious though I’ve never experienced jealousy in reference it was projected on me as a child to insight jealousy in me however it never stuck I empathize with it because you can’t help the way you’re born if you’re beautiful just be that and never allow anyone to shut down your experience ❤
If you know anything about it, I would love for you to do a video on colorism as it pertains to RHOP. It was watching the vile comments of UABW in that show’s recap/gossip channels that made me unsubscribe from all of those channels along with many UABW channels as well. That show is hugely triggering for them and they use it as an excuse (and we KNOW they will take ANY excuse) to drag MLS for everything they do. It is sickening and since I could no longer be the only one defending MLS in the comments, I left all the online channels that but I still watch the show. I would love to hear your thoughts on that show and the accusations of colorism, if you have any. Thanks for everything you do!
Please screenshot and send links to to exoticalsunited@gmail.com and I will react to it on here
I wouldn’t even try to insinuate to anybody that they’re jealous of me. I know they’re not going to agree with it so why even start? I just go on and they say it. I’ve had people come back and say it, even if they don’t say the word “jealous.” They’ll day “I remember you always were/had this and that..” “ I remember that time when ....” . Most of the time the times are things I don’t even remember or it wasn’t important to me .... or they remember things in a much bigger/ different way than I do.
I’m used to getting attention all the time from men and women and I see things differently than they do. Getting attention is huge to them. They assume it’s a big thing to me too and that it’s something I live off of. It’s not. It’s an everyday thing for me
Can you talk about makeup next and how people love to want you to put hella bronzer or contour on to darken it up….it’s like I don’t want too please talk about that if u experienced it
The writer is South African. the convoy of '' gusheshes means a convoy of hoopty cars/ old beat up clunkers.
A gusheshe is a hoopty?! No it's more like the drop tops/impalas that African Americans (notably rappers like) not a hoopty wena
Your not crazy!!! 💯correct!!!
When I was 7 I had this best friend who was also light-skinned, when we got into 3rd grade this new girl came and she switched up for no reason I don’t know if it was jealousy or if I was nice(I was also quite shy and quiet).
Also, I tried goth make(and I looked good!) this guy was so negative and ignorant and he said, “(name) did it better because she's white.” like um ok.
I've noticed in Tylas music videos that they keep putting the darkest men as her counterparts
I noticed the same thing too. Part of it I think it's because despite us not wanting to admit it, darker black men or just black men in general often put mixed black women as the default black women. On one hand it's great that we're shown in a positive light but it's often bittersweet because there are beautiful non-mixed black women too. Heck there's way more of them than there's of us. And yet black men in the media don't show them, at least not often. That would honestly inspire ire in anyone. It's like with the East Asians, they definitely don't do that with their mixed kids. Their monoracials are their standard of beauty POINT BLANK. It's not even a question. They're not going to prefer a mixed Asian if the person isn't just spectacularly pretty not a preference because they're mixed. I know we have a thing about not making ourselves small and holding our heads high but things like this Tyla placing is one of those things that become noticeable. Especially because not all of us even have exposure to black men believe it or not. I think maybe her being in South Africa it makes sense that they show her next to unambiguous black men often instead of the variety, like say an East Asian or a South Asian men (also her cultures). Maybe it's because her looks appeal to black men more and obviously they're also the majority in South Africa (I hope. And think. I've not been to South Africa). It's not like in the United Kingdom where black women of all sorts are typically shown with a white guy unlike in the US. So maybe it's also a location thing and population prevalence. It's not like the US thing of mixed people being overepresented in the black communities here.
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11:40 yes this girl in high school was unambiguous and did this 19:26 wtf i need to look into this more
Scary 😟
Have you guys seen how they are tearing down Kevin Hart light skin children in the shaderoom, it’s just despicable… 😢
Can you email me screenshots to exoticalsunited@gmail.com
I thought I was the only one who peeped this. They are praising the darker-skinned kids, which is great, they are beautiful! But then they are trying to shit on the lighter kids like they are not CHILDREN!
Jealous people literally encouraged me to get my conceal and carry. They swear out they aren't jealous or hating but every chance they get they are saying something and/or doing something backhanded and wierd that makes me extremely uncomfortable to the point where i dont know how to respond. Because any way you respond they will try and use it against you. 🥲
my bf said he’s going to get me one. 🤣🔫