Pretty Privilege Guilt & LOSING Your Pretty Privilege

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  • čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
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Komentáře • 71

  • @mschoy1597
    @mschoy1597 Před 7 měsíci +121

    You can lose privilege with SOME people but not all. Move into new circles of people.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +35

      Exactly . Different people have different things that they define as beauty

    • @ChartsArtsInc
      @ChartsArtsInc Před 7 měsíci +5

      Always planting social seeds and financial too 😉🌱

  • @aphroditerr
    @aphroditerr Před 7 měsíci +59

    I want financial privilege, I've only recently became financially stable and BOY what a difference. The main change was how good I felt with this newfound security and I also got pampered a few time and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT. I also want to maintain pretty privilege just because it makes me feel good about myself, I love seeing my pretty reflection in the mirror and styling my clothes. All in all, it feels nice. Another privilege I want to keep is being knowledgeable and having good problem solving skills, because it makes my life so much easier and fun to go through, and I noticed that it makes people respect me more.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +7

      Same , I personally view my own beauty as a manifestation of how I feel about myself inside (elegant, classy, healthy, stylish, etc)

  • @briolivia
    @briolivia Před 7 měsíci +62

    You're not lying about the car thing. I had a man stop to help, then had another man stop to make sure I was safe the whole time he helped😂 then AAA came.

  • @Sabrina-ek4px
    @Sabrina-ek4px Před 7 měsíci +71

    Im light skin with 4c hair I would never get a relaxer I love having voulme. I hate how I look with flat relaxed hair. But, I dont judge people who relax their hair.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +19

      So then keep it as it is . everyone is going to have a different beauty standard for themselves. Some women like volume and others like it sleek .

    • @livelovely4681
      @livelovely4681 Před 7 měsíci +12

      I'm 4b and I agree! The flat look has never been for me, but I've had my days relaxed and natural and to each their own!

  • @cynthiapickett7403
    @cynthiapickett7403 Před 7 měsíci +68

    STOP listening to Hoteps, while you're at it!

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +10

      omg yes ! please stop listening to them lol

    • @Nativecurls
      @Nativecurls Před 7 měsíci +1

      as in the likes of erykah badu or am i wrong?

    • @candice446
      @candice446 Před 7 měsíci +8

      @@NativecurlsI wouldn’t say she’s a hotep because she pretty much minds her own business and focuses on herself

  • @Ilovenyaa
    @Ilovenyaa Před 7 měsíci +41

    I fell in love with this channel even more. Its crazy how similar of a story I have! I've always had beautiful skin & had long gorgeous hair, i was always scared of admitting that I am beautiful. I would feel guilty for the attention & treatment i would receive but 2 years ago.. i also got really sick, lost majority of my hair and i also had exzema rashes all over my body! My self esteem went down & I also noticed that i stopped gaining attention but it also seemed like every one was happy that I lost my beauty. Fast forward to today where im eating healthy, not stressing and living a holistic lifestyle. I most definitely gained my beauty back & look better than ever. I know now to cherish & love that i am beautiful! ❤️ Great video EU!

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +9

      Yes exactly! Being sick and LOSING pretty privilege in the past has caused me to cherish and relish in my beauty even more

  • @dreamchaser7603
    @dreamchaser7603 Před 6 měsíci +19

    It’s refreshing to hear you being open and unapologetic about it. It’s annoying how so many attractive influences pretend pretty privilege isn’t 70-80 % of their success and make videos about gaining audience, saying “just be yourself” 😂🤣

  • @ExoticalSauce
    @ExoticalSauce Před 7 měsíci +20

    The actress Amanda Steinbeck said she was offered a role in the black Panther movie a few years ago..and she turned it down because she said the role was for a darker skinned blk person!!
    Mannn oh mannn the eye rolls and hate she got from another BWE channel!! They were saying she didn't really get the offer or she is acting like she had to "let us have something".... MLS women can't win... uabw say give up your
    "privilege" and let a dark skinned woman get it... And when she did that... She got hate 🙄

    • @eyesthrurosecoloredglasses
      @eyesthrurosecoloredglasses Před 5 měsíci +6

      I believe Amanda as she likely stepped out due to the advice of a parent or publicist about the backlash she'd get working with an overwhelmingly unambiguous black crew.

    • @poohcanplay123
      @poohcanplay123 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I remember when they tried Zendaya after she dropped out of Lifetime’s “Aaliyah” movie (turned out to be trash anyway).
      Alexandra Shipp stepped up and she got the rest of the heat. She did her best with the mess they gave her. She went on to be “X-men” and later the Barbie movie, so 🤷🏽‍♀️ mami’s doing just fine.

  • @clairewilliams7762
    @clairewilliams7762 Před 7 měsíci +27

    Listening to your channel makes me realise I've been pretty Mt whole life and I've been hated for it.

  • @zanetawrightsell8527
    @zanetawrightsell8527 Před 7 měsíci +20

    Will u do a video about rebuilding self confidence as a pretty woman?
    Lots of people try to break us..

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +8

      Yes that’s all in my patreon I don’t give that kind of info to the public ❤️

  • @sabira5564
    @sabira5564 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I have definitely lost pretty privilege with gaining weight but also by being sabotaged by others (i.e. bad hairdressers and frenemies / family members who are intimidated by my looks). The worst part is when frenemies / family members are dishonest and don't tell you look bad. Sometimes I look back at my past pics and wonder... why the hell no one told me I looked a whole damn mess.

  • @naturallyhoneybrown
    @naturallyhoneybrown Před 7 měsíci +19

    lol. I just bought an ombre color synthetic curly wig. It's fun trying new things. I just have to get out of the habit of being concerned about what people think.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +3

      Omg I’m about to get an ombré synthetic curly half wig for summer ! I want to do ponytails and stuff for summer

  • @carmelcutie1991
    @carmelcutie1991 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Ive never thought about it but I get asked all the time what race i am. And its always struck me as weird because i see myself as African American. Im just light skinned. But i found out on my dads side hes part native American. And on my moms side shes part German. So to other people i look racially ambiguous. I still dont see it. Iget asked where im from, if im latino, they tell me i have an accent...i dont. i live in Florida 😂
    80% of dms or men i match with are dark skinned men. They arent even cute... Like 4-5 on attractiveness.
    Ive had men pay for my gas, randomly while waiting in line, had my groceries paid for. A guy gave me a rose randomly once for no reason.
    Not going to lie i didnt think i had pretty privilege but watching your channel has opened my eyes. I always thought I was average.

  • @luvjene7652
    @luvjene7652 Před 2 měsíci +1

    So glad you're healthy and doing better now and able to help so many women x

  • @ToND1Ne
    @ToND1Ne Před 2 dny

    REPLACING them?!? When were they ever there?!? We’re typically the pioneers who open doors they later walked through! 😅

  • @madeleineclark283
    @madeleineclark283 Před 7 měsíci +5

    The wigs thing is so for real. I have been wanting to try a natural looking blonde wig to see if I am treated differently as a blonde woman than a brunette. I bet I am

  • @NicoleSpace-zh5rj
    @NicoleSpace-zh5rj Před 7 měsíci +10

    I LOVE this video! Thank you for the honesty that you share with us! Is it possible to do a part 2 to this video describing how to regain your pretty privilege when you have gained some weight. I'm a MGM woman and I'm 29 and I gained weight after losing 4 family members. I became depressed and developed anxiety. Now I'm working on getting my beauty back together. I can tell that people still find me attractive, its just that I know how and when I look my absolute best. I went from a size XS to a size L.
    I've been doing my exercise bike for a month now and I can see a difference in my face and body already. It would just be great to hear some other tips that I may not have considered or thought of.
    I think more tips on this subject would be amazing. I love your commentary! Thank you for all that you do, and the time and effort you put into these videos :)

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +4

      Yes that’s in the patreon. The true level up and strategic information is not shared with the public . People watch this channel all the time as infiltrators

  • @ocdbrain
    @ocdbrain Před 7 měsíci +8

    I'm jealous of smart people but I feel like anyone who doesn't have intellectual disability can obtain intelligence but it maybe harder for some people than others. I could study myself into an alternate dimension and still not retain the info. I feel like it's completely fine to call someone stupid because it's their fault but maybe it's not.

  • @katrinabrown3561
    @katrinabrown3561 Před 2 dny

    I was really jealous of my younger sister when we went to Paris and she was getting attention from different men. She’s dark skinned, curvy and she was wearing a light pink outfit while chatting excitedly. I wore a darker fit and had my natural hair and glasses, and I was a lot more soft spoken that trip, and the guys ignored me completely. I was so mad and the whole day I was in a bitter mood, and I was reluctant taking my sister’s pictures and felt like she was dominating the conversations. I feel really bad now and confused why I acted like this. We did end up arguing and I apologized, but I still feel horrible about it

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 2 dny +1

      oh no! well at least you know it was due to jealousy! it sounds like you wanted the pretty privilege and personality privilege she has

    • @katrinabrown3561
      @katrinabrown3561 Před 2 dny

      @@ExoticalsUnited yes and I believe it’s because I had those privileges in high school. I’m fighting to gain them back but I don’t want to do it around my sister

  • @ambrusin4889
    @ambrusin4889 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Thank You for your content, this is helping so much. I have been kind of depressed lately and have let people get under my skin but I hear these experiences and I know I am okey and this is normal , and these are real experiences that other people also go through. I kind of feel that I have not had the permission to feel and be as pretty as I use to be,as pretty as I can be, you know, and all because of other women, that they would like me more. Stupid. The thing is, we are not here to live only for others, not certainly for some envious people who wants us to feel like nothing, we are mainly living for ourselves too, so , this has helped me out in a short period of time to take more care about how I look again, and I cannot say how happy it makes me, it really feels good to take care of myself and look pretty. And having the "permission" to enjoy the beauty that I can have for myself, because that`s just something that just makes me feel so good. Why do we have to think about others. Always. Especially in a matter like this where we are not hurting anything but maybe someone`s ego by being pretty.

  • @abbysands9510
    @abbysands9510 Před 7 měsíci +4

    I love your channel, god I love channel never stop producing content. I am also use to going into rooms and having some people snarl at me or giving me dirty looks.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +2

      Right! I was used to people reacting to me, either smiles, admiration or envy . When I lost that reaction I knew I didn’t look the same, because everyone kept going about their business as normal lol

  • @angelface333
    @angelface333 Před 4 měsíci +2

    29:45 it would absolutely save my life if you made a video about this 🙏🏾💕✨ i’m an extrovert but i’ve tended to come across as awkward in the past

  • @enlightenedone7083
    @enlightenedone7083 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I appreciate your content🌺I am monoracial but universally attractive with carmel skin and keen features. So I can relate to so much of what you discuss. Most of my life, some women have tried to “humble” me. I’m already very kind, humble and compassionate. I just broke up with this girl who wanted to like me but her jealousy got the best of her. I was sick of her complimenting everyone but me, trying to nit pick little flaws, obviously not being happy for my successes, etc. She’s not dark skin, she’s just not attractive and wears bad wigs🤣. Miss me with that!🤡

  • @virtualfriendX
    @virtualfriendX Před 6 měsíci +2

    I've been watching all ur vids and I've been loving them ❤️

  • @lovenosa1105
    @lovenosa1105 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Great video, very insightful. I experimented with hair also and I can know with precision how I will be perceived in various hairstyles.
    Also I learned about pretty privilege personally when I put on bright red lipstick for the first time. I get noticed normally but this was on a new level. Women in stores were nicer to me, enough men held the door and waited for me that day that I noticed the increase. People greeted me 😂.
    I also did the experiment walking outside on the street with cleavage showing, that was eye opening also.

  • @yahainHotPink
    @yahainHotPink Před 7 měsíci +3

    Thank you for sharing

  • @thegiftofgabby5581
    @thegiftofgabby5581 Před 7 měsíci +7

    Just curious about y’all’s opinion…is Kenya Moore an exotical?

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +17

      If she’s mixed or her eyes/hair are real then in my opinion yes because she’d likely be accused of benefitting from texturism or featurism as a darker skinned exotical , or she would be mistaken for being mixed if her eyes/hair are real

    • @yokotoatto4426
      @yokotoatto4426 Před 7 měsíci +1

      She's one of the tokent dark skinned women people use for beauty because she has naturally long hair. She wears contacts but she benefited from looking exotic. Everybody thought those were her real eyes until RHOA.

    • @victoriakenney2848
      @victoriakenney2848 Před 7 měsíci +10

      @@ExoticalsUnitedyes I’m my opinion. I have a cousin who looks like her and she was bullied along with me when we were teenagers.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 7 měsíci +9

      yes if thats her real hair, it looks like mine sooooo yes she would 'look mixed' because she has the stereotypical hair textures associated with mixed race people, to the point where she most likely benefits from texturism etc.

    • @ChartsArtsInc
      @ChartsArtsInc Před 7 měsíci +4

      Her hair, eyes, and nose make her exotical phenotype she’s more of a brown and the shade varies sometimes she’s a lighter brown sometimes she’s much deeper brown

  • @cilene9812
    @cilene9812 Před 6 měsíci

    Ladies play Janelle Monae, I like that ❤

  • @Kaydee-haiku
    @Kaydee-haiku Před 6 měsíci +1

  • @yahainHotPink
    @yahainHotPink Před 7 měsíci +2

    🌹

  • @law11school11girly
    @law11school11girly Před 5 měsíci

    YES

  • @joannaj7705
    @joannaj7705 Před 6 měsíci +1

    What caused your hair loss? anything you’d suggest to enjoy, Im right now getting into wigs n weaves

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 6 měsíci +1

      I can go more into detail about my former illness in patreon . If you join it and remind me to talk about it I will because I do custom content in there

    • @Theworldismyoyster1000
      @Theworldismyoyster1000 Před 6 měsíci

      Fyi I just found your channel but I'm not mad or upset about mixed women or tall women the one last summer who was saying a whole bunch of stuff on BIGO but I have confidence I want to be man. I'm not jealous I was homeless for year during college I care about political power, I made a brand that was inspired by b yonce called hunny esthetics but I just want to say everyone is not jealous and everyone is also not in a safe space to express themselves honestly ​@@ExoticalsUnited