How to Weaponize Your Beauty to Attain Social Power -Dark Femininity

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  • čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
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Komentáře • 147

  • @mikhalaa746
    @mikhalaa746 Před 5 měsíci +109

    I’m gonna start saying “don’t talk to me sir I don’t want ugly offspring”🤷🏽‍♀️🤣

  • @Therealblasianbae
    @Therealblasianbae Před 5 měsíci +183

    I’ve started using my beauty to get six figure careers and I am an exotica with yellow/gold skin. I know other girls are jealous because my beauty outshines their whole existence but I don’t care! I’m coming out of my shell at 23 years old and I love life so much more now. Thank you for these videos. Our community needs to stick together always. 💕

    • @Rchl_Renee
      @Rchl_Renee Před 5 měsíci +25

      Don’t shrink for nobody. Keep Queenin’ loud and proud 👑

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 5 měsíci +42

      Yes that’s amazing! I’ve seen women use their professional polished beauty to do newscasting, real estate, political activism etc. beauty is not just about dating! it’s about social power .

    • @ernestinewilson6209
      @ernestinewilson6209 Před 5 měsíci +4

      I appreciate , and love our Exotical Community 😘

    • @tinag.7256
      @tinag.7256 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Yes!!! I don’t know you personally but I’m rooting for you!!! ❤ Shine bright!!! ❤

    • @sabrinaa3478
      @sabrinaa3478 Před 5 měsíci +3

      I'm glad I'm not the only who thinks like this ❤

  • @EconomicWarfare
    @EconomicWarfare Před 5 měsíci +88

    Weaponizing your beauty leads to the soft life. Since, I have the privilege to work from home, I can focus on my daily beauty rituals. I can work out while watching your videos. I'm able to prepare my healthy plant based meals and perfect my smoothies. ❤

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +11

      This is indeed the LIFE!!!!💅🏾

    • @DearStephanieX
      @DearStephanieX Před 4 měsíci +5

      Sooooo true ❤

    • @vam9785
      @vam9785 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Same! Love my plant based meals and having all this time for myself ❤

  • @lester2588
    @lester2588 Před 5 měsíci +136

    God forbid you’re attractive, confident & assertive. Triple threat for the haters who will use it against you to paint you as “rude & disrespectful” 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @TanzytheglowupG
      @TanzytheglowupG Před 4 měsíci +8

      This tripple threat sounds like me 😢 I am pretty confident smart and h@ted for it

    • @divinebeaute
      @divinebeaute Před 4 měsíci +6

      i feel like people want you to be a people pleaser and force yourself to be extra bubbly even if that’s not your personality to prove you’re down to earth and compensate for being a “triple threat” in their eyes.

    • @sadizzle
      @sadizzle Před 3 měsíci +3

      & low body count didn’t give it up to every man

    • @writingismagic5597
      @writingismagic5597 Před 2 měsíci +3

      This is happening to me in my current job & I got so tired of the hostility & abuse I put in my 2 week notice.

    • @hey5268
      @hey5268 Před měsícem +2

      Tylas reality smh

  • @ettecolllove6313
    @ettecolllove6313 Před 4 měsíci +30

    Growing up my mum always pushed the point to my sister and I that we must look after ourselves and look good when we are outside, she did when she was younger she even wore heels to go shopping 😅

    • @ShekaGolden
      @ShekaGolden Před měsícem +3

      Sounds like my mom! She was a Lucky Libra ♎️

    • @Dashomin
      @Dashomin Před 28 dny +2

      As long as she’s happy and your happy I know some people who would never go out without makeup or even wigs but if it gives a big confidence boost and you are comfortable of not being made up, then I’ll say good for you! ❤

  • @TrulyUnbothered
    @TrulyUnbothered Před 4 měsíci +27

    This man told me I was so fine i can get away with anything. My antennas instantly went off 😈

  • @minenhlensele9902
    @minenhlensele9902 Před 5 měsíci +55

    I'm from South Africa.Im not however exotic.Im a black african women.I consider myself as someone that has pretty privilege. I have found strength & power through watching your content.Thank you for sharing your past experiences.I can relate to some of your experiences..... 😅.I have found myself healing from my past trauma by just consuming your content.

    • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
      @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton Před 5 měsíci +5

      Hey fellow South African ,Mkhaya ,lovely meeting you here ,yeah I relate to what you saying 😊

    • @minenhlensele9902
      @minenhlensele9902 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Yebo mkhaya❤❤❤❤sending love &hugs❤❤❤

    • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
      @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@User.777.1 lol I am Pedi even though I speak more Setswana since of area I grew up in ,Soweto .

  • @armanijack2927
    @armanijack2927 Před 5 měsíci +60

    I use my MLS privilege with men who I know prefer me. I am a lesbian though 😂 I do not share this information with them. I am sweet to them if I know they can or will offer me some form of assistance. I’ll smile, I’ll be personable. Lately I was able to get a guy to help me move to another state for $300. Without my pretty girl privilege I would’ve been paying almost $3,000. I plan to lose a little weight to be even more desirable.

    • @BlaxicanBeautyTV333
      @BlaxicanBeautyTV333 Před 5 měsíci +6

      Period 😂

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Yeesss!!!!

    • @sewblue187
      @sewblue187 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Must be nice, as a dsbw we don’t have that luxury even when we a lot of the times look better than lsw

    • @camilia198773
      @camilia198773 Před 4 měsíci

      Don't forget to add Ving Tsun classes.

    • @kenasssss
      @kenasssss Před měsícem

      @@sewblue187 -_- stop. Remove that wiring from your brain. You are desirable, you can get whatever you want - ignore the opposite messaging, you're gaining nothing from it. From now on, you are delusional and everything else that doesn't align with it can go f itself.

  • @ChristenAlysia
    @ChristenAlysia Před 5 měsíci +35

    I’m not light skinned and I’m not mixed but I’ve always been told I’m really pretty and have always been hated on. People always ask if I’m Caribbean and I say just black lol. But I can relate sooo much to you’re videos so that’s why I love you’re videos

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 5 měsíci +5

      Thanks for watching and please let me know what you wanna see next!

    • @ChristenAlysia
      @ChristenAlysia Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited 💕💕

    • @Z-ef1rr
      @Z-ef1rr Před 10 dny +3

      “Just black”.. don’t diminish yourself babe

  • @ReleasewithPhilece
    @ReleasewithPhilece Před měsícem +5

    Chocolate beautiful neck breaker checking in and I love your content it resonates to beautiful women of all shades we can all learn From this content ❤❤❤

  • @camilleamaclean
    @camilleamaclean Před 4 měsíci +12

    This truly came at the right time! It was this year where I realized I was supressing my beauty to get what I want and once I slowly started doing it, things really started to ascend for me. Dressing up everywhere I go, wearing heels, talking with confidence and not letting people get disrespectful really did wonders! Great video!

  • @niratomas579
    @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +24

    “Ok then I’m selfish!”
    🗣️”Who gon’ check me boo!?!”

  • @_komiichan9509
    @_komiichan9509 Před 4 měsíci +12

    I always wondered why people wanted my opinion on everything, it makes sense now.

  • @kendracunningham1408
    @kendracunningham1408 Před 4 měsíci +9

    There's a saying that you have to "use what you got to get what you want"! It's so true, so why shouldn't we do it in every way possible 🙌🏽

  • @PatriceCetrine
    @PatriceCetrine Před 2 měsíci +5

    New subbie here . I want to thank you for this channel because for awhile I always muzzled my beauty because I hate when people change around me…I noticed all it did was actually hurt me. So now I’m learning to embrace it. I’m an indie musician, and I now see how powerful beauty is. I want use it for good

  • @ExoticalSauce
    @ExoticalSauce Před 5 měsíci +40

    "Okaayyy im selfish who gon check me" 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Yourrrr
    @Yourrrr Před 5 měsíci +39

    Seated and taking notes 📝

  • @prettywhitney17
    @prettywhitney17 Před 4 měsíci +13

    Not a Person of color, but ALWAYS felt empowered listening to your channel. thank you so much for doing what you do!! xx

  • @ChaChaWitYa
    @ChaChaWitYa Před 5 měsíci +33

    I’m not an Exotical, but I have to thank you for this channel ❤

  • @Tsunamijane0
    @Tsunamijane0 Před 4 měsíci +9

    the "who gon' check me" gets me everything

  • @callieblossomASMR
    @callieblossomASMR Před 4 měsíci +15

    it would be an honour for my picture to be used on this channel, I love the message.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Ok, just email your pics to exoticalsunited@gmail.com !

  • @ladyeam
    @ladyeam Před 5 měsíci +12

    Yes, I’ve definitely been bestowed “Queen Bee” status without even knowing it 😊. Before I realized what it was truly about, I’d be thinking, “Um, how did I become the expert all of a sudden 😂😂?”

  • @3mi3mi
    @3mi3mi Před 4 měsíci +11

    28:30 For us nerdy girls: streaming on Twitch, making CZcams react videos, learning how to make good cosplays and make a TikTok or Instagram for your cosplays. I’ve seen pretty girls into Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, anime, etc., have a ton of views and followers for their content. It’s not lame or stupid to show your passions. And the reality is, if you have pretty privilege, people want to see you into the same things they’re into.

    • @LilyM-qx2qu
      @LilyM-qx2qu Před 2 měsíci

      What other common websites can you post cosplays besides instagram and TikTok?

  • @fatema555
    @fatema555 Před 7 dny +2

    "Beauty is a form of social power"❤❤❤

  • @EconomicWarfare
    @EconomicWarfare Před 5 měsíci +13

    I'm loving this dark femininity series. ❤ I'm selfish? So? Now what?! 😂😅

  • @tinag.7256
    @tinag.7256 Před 5 měsíci +13

    I want to thank you, EU, for your content and speaking out for the community! I do wish there was someone like you putting out this type of content years ago!! I will use whatever info you and other exoticals such as myself to navigate in this world as my true self and to not let any “basic Bettys” to dim my light. I’m almost pushing 50, but I can still use your info/advice to cater to my needs and get what I want in life (I’m almost 50 but I’m not dead lol)! I can pass on the info to my 3 multiracial daughters; I was telling my teen twin daughters about your channel. They definitely can relate to your content and they have their own stories about how they are treated in school. Keep spreading the message EU and stay pretty ladies!! ❤

  • @HoneySnowflake
    @HoneySnowflake Před 4 měsíci +8

    Plus size exotical here! People get so offended that I know and acknowledge I am fat and pretty! 😅 I've used it to create plus size clothing brands ❤

  • @AFocusedLiving
    @AFocusedLiving Před 5 měsíci +32

    I’ve just realised my little 12-year-old sister has been has been using her privilege to get things from my parents😂🤣

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +5

      Hilarious and smart!
      I’m curious to know examples of what she does 👀

    • @AFocusedLiving
      @AFocusedLiving Před 5 měsíci +10

      @@niratomas579 she uses the sweet soft voice and because she has a innocent look you end up falling for it.😅

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +4

      @@AFocusedLiving Period💅🏾

    • @adrienne7642
      @adrienne7642 Před měsícem +1

      Learning young lol

  • @Chamsiee
    @Chamsiee Před 3 měsíci +3

    I am black. However, many people think I'm mixed because I am french, I travelled a lot, and I'm not seen as the stereotypical "black woman" These days I'm not doing well because I have to work a lot to find a job and to study. And I'm realising how the women at my workplace were awful towards me.
    This video brings me joy because it reminds me that I unconsciously used some of these tactics and it worked ! ( Being so pretty that the others women collegue have to level up, using beauty to have the best man in relationship and others... )
    Thank you to remind me that I am that girl, that fucking threat. We have to stay focus no matter what people throw at us. I need to move on and let their karmas beat them. That is on God, not on me anymore.

  • @CousinCourtney
    @CousinCourtney Před 4 měsíci +9

    Thank you for all of your work-your honesty and always raising the bar! ✨

  • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
    @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton Před 5 měsíci +10

    Hi exotical united ,I admire your courage . You are very bold and not afraid to speak your mind .
    I found your series on decentering and centering very eye opening .
    Watching all the way from the beautiful South Africa 🇿🇦,
    I also am seen as light skinned even though I don’t really see it that way ,my complexion changes and in the summer I would think I’m more relating with the dark skinned or unless I am in denial with my skin tone .I would say I am caramel if I were to describe my complexion .
    But Winter I do get lighter which is normal though .

  • @user-pk4ee9od2i
    @user-pk4ee9od2i Před 4 měsíci +4

    Did not realize how much I was weaponing beauty privilege especially in social media when it comes to humor and creating funny content. I’m trying to work on using it more in the workplace and my dating cause I’m tired of settling with the “dusty” guys that take advantage of me lol

  • @Teclairee
    @Teclairee Před 4 měsíci +3

    At this point, I'm not even that beautiful and I was looking for a way to maximize my privilege of beauty and charm. But as you speak I realize that I am already at the top level of weaponry (she speaks French). Thank you soo much for the encouragement. I am so grateful for this video

  • @Chamsiee
    @Chamsiee Před 3 měsíci +3

    True for the children ! And also as someone who worked in a school, the most annoying kids treated me with more kindness and appreciation than my colleagues

  • @TaylorMorgan-qr1ti
    @TaylorMorgan-qr1ti Před 3 měsíci +2

    omg I screamed when you said " they wanna have a peak inside, the world of a pretty girl" @16:48 , invasion of privacy is like a motif of our shared lived experience from conception. Like literally telling beautiful pregnant women that daughters will steal their beauty, ego. Thank goodness we can get that exoctial tax, the only redemption

  • @kendracunningham1408
    @kendracunningham1408 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Awwh thank you! I see my pic and im going to use my beauty to my advantage!!❤

  • @rushellepeterkin3768
    @rushellepeterkin3768 Před 2 měsíci +2

    I like how this video went. At first i was like hmmm this sound kinda mean girl ish but when u went over how beauty is bith objective and subjective and we all can push our own, i was very pleased

  • @DearStephanieX
    @DearStephanieX Před 4 měsíci +6

    Ooooooo you are a cosplay/LARP girly?! 😍 I love my Renaissance faires as well! I’ve definitely gotten a pass for my nerdy hobbies too 🙃. It’s fun when kids/adults ask to take pics with me when I’m in costume 😊

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 4 měsíci +4

      omg yes! i dressed up and went to an event and i felt so cool when people asked to take pics with me! 😍😂

    • @DearStephanieX
      @DearStephanieX Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited it’s such a beautiful and fun, feel-good hobby, enjoy! 🥰

  • @tammaraforde4914
    @tammaraforde4914 Před 4 měsíci +3

    I keep getting random hate from women - for example i literally never go outside looking bad - I saw this girl I see every single Saturday she knows my style her comment was “you look like you rolled out of bed “ 😂😂😂 me never / I was like what “in my head “ I’m dark skin and extremely pretty

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin Před 5 měsíci +8

    This was so spot on omg

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 5 měsíci +1

      omg i just did a video inspired by you! youre doing a great job! have you ever noticed we all get the same hate comments on our channels? "youre stuck up, you think youre better, youre conceited" 😂

    • @TheExoticBrownSkin
      @TheExoticBrownSkin Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@ExoticalsUnited what?! Let me go check it out 🥰 thank you and yes we get met with the same BS!!

  • @xoxosisihere
    @xoxosisihere Před 4 měsíci +2

    My favourite videos on here are your #DarkFemininity videos. Being in this energy will literally save your life.

  • @BlaxicanBeautyTV333
    @BlaxicanBeautyTV333 Před 5 měsíci +5

    Great video, I have been told I can get ahead in possible career prospects because of my looks, I just didn’t know how to use them. But 10:28 is definitely me 😂

  • @TanzytheglowupG
    @TanzytheglowupG Před 4 měsíci +5

    I have pretty privilege as a brownskin woman...im told your not dark or light. In the middle.i ve had darkskin men and lightskin women tell me they want their children to look like me? I was shocked .i have this pecan tan if i stay in the sun for 5 hrs i get dark called burnt Bizkit.but when winter comes i get much lighter that people ask me am i bleaching? The beauty in being in the middle makes me feel like i have the best of both worlds just like i feel a mixed race person blk and white. I dont belong with the lights or the darks. I exists and ive been targeted by ugly dark skin women and even some light skins have been ugly towards me mainly because i have more confidence and they want me to be jealous .my cousin is high yellow and shes ugly as all get out and makes fun of my skin and yet i made fun of her napppppy hair. Which i was doing her hair while she talk about me being darkrr yhen her .its crazy i have a darkskin family member she is gorgeous yet hates me for being lighter then her? It just unbelievable... But im loving me now my pecan tan im about to use to my advantage just like my beauty

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 4 měsíci +5

      Yes, you have a fluid skin tone identity which means you get to pick and choose whether you want to be light skinned or dark skinned. And you have every right to use your skin tone however you want, and to navigate through society however you choose. Stay pretty ❤️

    • @TanzytheglowupG
      @TanzytheglowupG Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@ExoticalsUnited thank u and I sure will!!! I love your channel keep shinning bright and speaking up when others want to silence you! I'm proud of u being a light in the dark that most people don't get to see!❤️❤️❤️🥰🌟

  • @kateemmerson3891
    @kateemmerson3891 Před 5 měsíci +3

    I love the knowledge and perspective…and empowerment you bring into my life. It’s been powerful seeing my beauty as a value I can leverage. Really revolutionizes how I see myself. I also look back and see how when men have been unkind to me it … it might have been some humbling going on.

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 Před 5 měsíci +1

      Yesss!!! Knowledge is indeed power!

  • @tbdgaming2074
    @tbdgaming2074 Před 27 dny +1

    You did an amazing job with this video! 👏🏽

  • @vashhLOVE
    @vashhLOVE Před 2 měsíci +2

    I love your Chanel ❤

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV Před 5 měsíci +15

    I’m a counselor and I notice that it’s hard for uabw to connect with me. They choose me based on my profile picture for virtual therapy but they come once and don’t return. Mostly younger, light skin, or other pretty black women come back to me plus other races.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před 5 měsíci +1

      oh wow thats very interesting! i hope you tell a storytime about this!

    • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
      @AmaLoveGoddessTV Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited good idea. I had one dark skin lesbian call the office and say that she’ll just wait for them to get another black therapist. She gave an excuse saying that she feels like I didn’t read her notes from the previous counselor. Her previous counselor was an uabw. None of the dark skinned women returned unless they were old.

  • @Rosaline1700
    @Rosaline1700 Před 5 měsíci +12

    I love your dark femininity content EU❤ 20K here you come!!!!

  • @MoonLightt57
    @MoonLightt57 Před 5 měsíci +7

    This channel is gold! Love from India 💗🌸

  • @oneproudmommy100
    @oneproudmommy100 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Love this!!!!!!!!

  • @CousinCourtney
    @CousinCourtney Před 4 měsíci +3

    You are gold! You really get IT

  • @Becomingsplendour
    @Becomingsplendour Před 4 měsíci +4

    A new subscriber. Also studied sociology

  • @angelface333
    @angelface333 Před 5 měsíci +5

    eek! i’ve been waiting for another dark femininity video 😁💗

  • @AFocusedLiving
    @AFocusedLiving Před 5 měsíci +1

    Wow great points EU❤

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin Před 5 měsíci +6

    👏🏾💯

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV Před 5 měsíci +1

    0:16 I love her hair

  • @mehanimations2675
    @mehanimations2675 Před měsícem +3

    Make a discord server please

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  Před měsícem

      I already have one , it’s for patreon members only

  • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
    @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Hey ! That's me 9:14-9:30 ❣️💙🥰

    • @munirayussuf8558
      @munirayussuf8558 Před 4 měsíci +1

      You are so beautiful 😍

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 Před 4 měsíci

      @@munirayussuf8558 Thank you so much 🙂💙

    • @munirayussuf8558
      @munirayussuf8558 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@Afrocentric_Exotical_24 you're welcome 🤗

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 Před 4 měsíci

      You're so beautiful yourself ❣️😍❤​@@munirayussuf8558

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 Před 4 měsíci

      I just realized I got the time stamped wrong because I was using automated voice system LOL I am from 9:14​-9:30. I put 19 minutes by accident @@munirayussuf8558

  • @ExoticalSauce
    @ExoticalSauce Před 5 měsíci

    💕❤💕❤💕❤💕❤💕

  • @conservative1news
    @conservative1news Před 5 měsíci +4

    😂Can't spell Exotical without t-o-x-i-c
    You're welcome .

    • @Doriginal-b8y
      @Doriginal-b8y Před 5 měsíci +15

      Because we make you so sick, you just have to watch us & hate.
      Get therapy. You're welcome.😂

    • @conservative1news
      @conservative1news Před 5 měsíci +4

      @@Doriginal-b8y I will always love watching this channel. This empowers women. #bwe

    • @ExoticalSauce
      @ExoticalSauce Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@Doriginal-b8y😂😂😂

    • @Mstorrance
      @Mstorrance Před 4 měsíci +1

      Yes and?

  • @jaqiana5612
    @jaqiana5612 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I absolutely love your content and it has provided soooo much validation for me. Thank you 🫶🏾

  • @maddisb6501
    @maddisb6501 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Watching this as a Native American Mexican Asian mixed girl ❤

  • @DearStephanieX
    @DearStephanieX Před 4 měsíci +14

    Damn. You really have the courage to make videos about the things people dare not say out loud. 🥲🩵 Such value! Your content is making me bolder, I'm not dimming my looks anymore and completely re-inventing myself 🙏🏽