Breaking the Cycle | Adam Sharplin | Episode 11, Season 2

After two laps of Aotearoa, we’re back to where it all began - interviewing Adam Sharplin in his backyard to conclude Season 2!
Welcome to Season 2 of Tough Talk, Going Deeper. These conversations are shared with the intention of breaking down the stigma surrounding men’s mental health. Psychologist Sam O'Sullivan discovers solutions by asking men to share their stories.
This time we’re going deeper by investigating the historical roots of Adam’s challenge with addiction as a young man and his journey to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma.
“My uncle said something really profound to me one day. ‘Hanging out with a bunch of dickheads doesn’t make you a cool guy among a bunch of dickheads’”.
We talk about:
- How the historical trauma from conflict between Māori and Pākehā over land has been passed on through the generations.
- Adam reflects on this trauma passing through his grandparents, to his mother and father, through to him.
- He examines how his trail of destruction (“TOD”) through addiction was a “pain blocker” - reckless use of drugs and alcohol, seeking adrenaline rushes that brought on violent tendencies, and dysfunctional relationships.
- How becoming aware of the history of his wounds helped him shift problematic cycles of behaviour.
- How he is breaking the cycle by taking ownership of the problems in his life, rather than pointing the finger.
- How everything changed when he found meaning as a father and husband.
- His work with supporting men through building trusting relationships and closing wounds, so it is safe for them to open up.
- “Check yourself” - he tells us that to support others effectively we need to take a look at our own backyard and role model strength through vulnerability.
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Credits.
Filmed by:
Kristina Ryan
Audio by:
Oliver Macro
Produced by:
Kristina Ryan
Directed by:
Sam Sim O'Sullivan
Music:
Communicate by Isaac Chambers Music
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[@paulicious2309]

Ka rawe korua! Awesome video thanks Sam and and Adam.

[@whywaste6182]

Grunty chats alright! And that Te Reo intro Adam! Auwe :)