How to Say Goodbye
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What was your most recent goodbye? Like, actual goodbye, and did it go the way you wanted it to?
I had to make a song about it. Only way I can express the pain in goodbye.
I was in a band and we ended this year. It felt good to be free to pursue writing and dreaming music on my own! 🎶
My father's mother died & a few months later his brother died.
It's not my goodbye but his. Thank you for another excellent video. ✌️ 😀
I had to say goodbye to the two most important people in my life. That was 5 years 10 months ago. That came close to killing me, very nearly. I'm stronger and smarter now but still not where I need to be. Still working on me.
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“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Never heard This quote before, but that's totally true, without understanding yourself first, there is big risk to find the wrong person
Lana said something similar to this in another video. Not sure which was it was.
i lost a girl friend of 5 years 3 months that way.
Love this! 🦾🙌
Who else thought she was quitting CZcams?
I was kinda scared 😂
Only those who give Lana dislikes need to leave.
Bruuuuhhh 💩💩💩
I almost dropped the phone when I saw that 😂😂
Not anytime soon! :-)
“Memories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.”
― Haruki Murakami
KAFKA ON THE SHORE.
Broke up a 4 year relationship a week ago and it feels like the world is sending me major 'move forward' energy.
I broke up with my girlfriend last night 😔
@@22chuuya *hugs*
@@Ashitathakur thanks 🥺🤍
You will get through it ❤
@@feliciaj4245 thank you 🥺 and i will. Focusing on myself now. 🙌
I appreciate your authenticity.
Agree
She’s cool 😎
Mathematical Ninja what is funny
@@SussurroTV he think she's fake or pretending
Min Sithu Maung oh
“No one ever says goodbye unless they *want* to see you again” - John Green
Usually when I've said goodbye to someone, I've regretted not sharing how I truly feel with them. For me, it's hard to open up to people I value in my life. So I guess a proper goodbye for me would be sharing exactly how I feel about someone without worrying what their reaction would be
Not even exaggerating YOU are one of the best people out on youtube, genuine and deep-thinking.
You're too sweet
Totally agree
I think my last goodbye was with my old self. I used to hate her so much and be like "you wasted so much time and for what" But now I've forgive and understand her. I let my past behind and with a proper goodbye this time.
Damn I needed this❤️
If a goodbye isn't good, it's a badbye.
But there’s also HELL in hello
Fairy Mystonight worst joke ever
Worst joke ever
deep
Saying goodbye to people can sometimes be harder than saying to places, maybe because we feel as though we're abandoning someone. I suppose it triggers something we might be healing of ourselves. Thanks for this video. 💞
I definitely agree. Thank you Dory
I’ve learned that it’s better to make you’re own closure. I kept asking the person to give me a reason why they are leaving me , despite them telling me and not ignoring me. I still kept asking for more kept questioning them and begging. Until I realized that I just want to hear them tell me something that I want to hear which isn’t possible for them. So I eventually stopped and created closure for myself.
I wish I did that instead of begging them
Closure can be hard to find in life. Sometimes the words just don’t seem to come out right when it comes to endings.
I feel I never get closure haha
Joy Mae - Millennial Money Talk in the world of ghosting who does?
Sometimes saying goodbye can be very theraputic, especially if it's something that's long overdue like a toxic relationship. On the flip side, goodbyes can difficult when it comes to things pets, friends or a job but goodbyes truly have a pivotal role in the game of life. Awesome video Lana!!
Goodbyes are always different for the kinds of people we meet and how deep our relationship is with them. It will never be easy but it is very important to be able to let go and heal for yourself and for the person.
“I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” - Life of Pi
Her voice makes me so calm and at peace
I really don't like to say goodbye. That word really breaks my heart. I just walk away so people can't notice I'm gone and I hope that someday I'll meet them again.
Always a pleasure 🤎💛
But I ain't never gonna say goodbye to this channel.
Haha
I recently said goodbye to this guy and I don’t know if I will ever mean as much to him as he meant to me. But this video gives me a new view on goodbyes. Thank you so much. I think I’m going to write down the whole outline of this video to refer back to.
Honestly I like your energy, no fake over energetic bs . Just authentic and honest delivery on topics that we all deal with Really useful video for content creators like myself ! Stay focused homie 🙏🏽
Thank you Lana !!!
Saying goodbye to elderly parents is a difficult thing to do because of the uncertainty of the future.
Wise words you have there🙌🏻
As I have gotten older I have realised how important saying goodbye is, no matter how hard it’s going to be. I say this as sometimes unfortunately that last goodbye is actually in reality the last goodbye, as that particular person may have passed since the last time you saw them. Sad, yes but unfortunately very true for myself and a lot of people, especially during this virus pandemic.
I remember saying goodbye to my mom when she passed away. That goodbye was my thanks to her, my wish her safe journey back to where she came from, and that was also unstuck myself from clinging onto her. My heart still hurts when I think about that goodbye. That was 17 years ago.
I’m sorry for your loss.🥺 I bet she’s happy for having a loving child like you (and your sibling(s) if you have any).
Janet Altamirano thank you.
Ever since I was a child I always found it hard to say goodbye to people... like I really avoid it sometimes and then I end up regretting it.... I hope this video will help me
You inspired me to make my own CZcams channel! Thanks a lot! 🧡🧡🧡
Good luck ✌️😀
@@MerryOlSoulGigglesmith Thank you!
Sometimes saying goodbye is *more for the other person than yourself*
and it's more an act of *respect and gratitude* for what was had.💖🙏
Asking *"how do you wish to part?"* like Lana suggested is so great!🙌
I'm about to move to another country and I just said Good bye to my family today. I'm watching your video with a lot of deep emotions. Your video couldn't have been uploaded at a better time. Thank you
Good luck. Wish you all the best. ✌️😀
Other youtubers: how to take cold showers
Lana: how to say goodbye
We love you queen
Hahah
How to take cold showers: Go out and put hot water from sink and then smack it up ur face, simple.
I love you lana❤
Few seconds in,and I am already extremely emotional and tearing up. So melancholic
I absolutely hate this sad feeling of goodbyes, my life choices forced me for moving across countries, being far from family and friends, and each time adapt again in the new place.. But that's part of the sacrifice for each new beginning towards a new accomplishment
She's so transparent and easy to watch. Thank you for being an inspiration!
Thanks for watching Chelsea
Saying goodbye is never been easy. Atleast for me. You gave very detailed description to say goodbye, thank you lana!
How can you not adore this channel?
damn, what you said about movies that have bad endings... that hit.
today, a friend i've known for two years abruptly texted me a goodbye saying he'd never talk to me anymore, he said there's no hard feelings, he just didn't want to be my friend anymore. i don't know why but i just told him goodbye without asking any questions at all and made it very easy for him. now this video shows up in my notifications, idk how to feel about this.
I have also a group friend that I said goodbye few years ago. I never ask anymore whys or what? I just accept it, it's not easy, but I did it slowly..and I still wish them well after all.
My thoughts on endings: As much as I ideally would like a healthy and long conversation at the end of each relationship I end, thats not always the case. When theres never really been healthy communication in a realtionship or the phenomenon of „drifting apart from eachother“ happened due to long distance situations or sth similar, its hard to voice or even distinguish where and when you want the realtionship to end. If both partners are fine with an open end, then thats fine. But we must remember that people are not places. While places do not have feelings themselves and we dont have to care about the counterpart, can always quit without hurting anybody, in relationships thats simply not the case. Both sides should have a say in what they want. If you want an open end, at lesdt be thoughtful enough to tell the other person and let them know, maybe even listen to what they want the ending to be like.
I think some of the saddest goodbyes come from when other people do it, but they don't tell you.
💯💯
Currently I am thinking about saying goodbye to someone until I see her again. I hope I see her again.
so relatable. I rarely throw away things.
This resonated with me in a way
I can’t properly articulate in this moment... Thank you ❤️
Love you! ❤️
this question surprised me. my relationship ended like a slow dying candle & with just one gust of wind, it was out.
funny enough i prepped my self for two days till our "closure talk" i was across the country. even though he apologized & months down the line reached out like nothing, i still feel the pain coming in like waves. and maybe its just because it was my first relationship or maybe on how blunt he ended things but i can't seem to feel like i got my proper goodbye or the answers to my questions.
and i hate how twisted that is, what if time doesn't do what it's suppose to do? what if i never get over him?
it comes down to just nurturing myself & accepting that maybe you won't always get a goodbye that's perfect for you, that closes the chapter perfect in a neat bow. no goodbye is ever like that...
I have just stumbled upon your channel by accident from procrastinating of doing homework, I believe everything happens for a reason, if i didn't procrastinate then i wouldn't have found you, when I watch you my heart throbs with emotion, it just makes me feel happy, I feel like a different person even after watching only two of your videos. I will watch all of them and take mental notes for myself and how to improve. I will pass on your wisdom to my future children, and hopefully their children, and so on. You are an amazing person, I feel like your a guardian angel, I don't know why, it's just a certain feeling. All my best wishes I'm sending to you, I wish you the best of luck alongside. With love and sincerity, me. 💖💕
"Simply said, you leave someone when you cannot do anything more with them and you cannot function together in the world. If you are looking at relationships without sentimentality, if you are looking objectively, this is obvious. If you can do no more together, you cannot be together. You will feel complete. You will still love each other and appreciate each other. Perhaps there will be anger and resentment because of disappointment. However, the relationship is complete.
If you have a sense of purpose in life which you have identified and you experience yourself participating in it, the question of when to leave someone will become clear. This is not based upon whether you like someone or not. It is not based upon judgment of the other person at all. There is no judgment or condemnation here. It is simply that you cannot go any further together, and the attempt to go further is detrimental to both of you. The love remains. The gratitude will remain as well, once it is recognized.
It is very difficult to leave someone based upon truth and honesty, for you must give up many of your ideals to do this. What has failed here but your idealism? The great exception to this is if your relationship has true promise and you are not meeting its requirements. How can you tell the difference? Are you leaving or quitting? Knowledge is the difference. Knowledge will tell you to leave when it is time to leave. How could you remain in a relationship if your Knowledge is taking you somewhere else?"
From the exceptional book "Relationships and Higher Purpose" - Chapter 14, "Completing Relationships". It's free online at newmessage(dot)org. Also check out the Author on CZcams - Marshall Vian Summers. Thanks!
This is very honest, thanks GCP Aaron. Where's this quote from? Thanks.
@@LevyCarneiro this is an excerpt from newmessage dot org it's a fascinating read.
Andrew Scott I don’t understand what they mean by sentiment and objective. Can you pls explain this?
@@Aaron-yr3tn thanks, bro!
I wonder if you know how special you are. You are a true artist, Lana. I've never seen/heard/observed anyone like you and I can't quite articulate what it is, but it's something extraordinary.
Å ja trodde du skulle lämna oss nu när man vill lära känna dig mer
Love
Thank you for sharing another thoughtful video with us. Venice Beach says hello.
I wanted to have a proper closer with my friend but she is a narcissist and has attitude issues. There is no closure with some people! My 13 plus years friendship broke but I m happy because I wouldn’t be mentally abused from a narcissist anymore
Saying goodbye is so so hard even if it is something that is not necessarily positive. I HATED the first uni I was at and I transferred to a different school. Even though I hated the school, it was still hard to say goodbye. Even though I had terrible memories from being there, there are still some positive things that happened there and I find that I have trouble saying goodbye!
I feel one cannot compare one
goodbye in life to another. Best
to just let things go or pass by
and go happily on your way,
into new ventures. Enjoyed
this Lana. Kind greetings from
Zurich.
lana voice is so soothing . like someone whispering in your ears and you feel relaxed about it
for me goodbyes can't be proper sometimes the mothers goodbye to his son is the most painful part of her yet she shows smile and being supportive in front him/her... it can never be perfect for me it would as u said like if ending sucks that doesn't mean the whole movie was bad so ya i'll smile and reminisce to those precious moments with that person peace out lana...☮️(cool video).. i love it🥰💛
Her nature of content is so unique...I don't know if there's genres like these but it's so beautiful...I'm so inspired to venture in this genre on my channel
Awesome video, Lana! We left our home in Maryland USA (Washington, DC area) last year and said goodbye to our home of 28 years to move 3,000 miles away to California. Bittersweet!
Wow! That must've come with a lot of emotions. Hope you're enjoying your new home :-)
Lana Blakely yes, love the weather, but it’s hard to meet new people during a pandemic! Good thing I’m a bit of an introvert like you and have my CZcams channel to keep me occupied! Would you ever move back to the USA or do you love it too much where you are?
I don't have friends with whom I will go outside, talk, etc. I felt really lonely and empty and all I needed was your video. Only needed to listen to your voice which makes me feel like I have someone. Thank you for giving me those emotions.
It's not easy, but sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to change the people you hang out with
This quotes sums it up: "we are the average of the 5 people we hang around most with"
True
This is a great time she did this video, I also am moving to a new house soon. The neighborhood I lived in has all my memories, when my parents first move here as refugees, making new friends at the park next to my house, and the embarrassing moments that happened to me. I love this neighborhood and I will never forget about it. Now it’s time to start it in another chapter.
i've been struggling with trying to find closure to a certain chapter of my life and seeing this makes me feel less lonely, or more comforted in a way. thank you so much lana 💖
I had to say goodbye this same week. I am seaman and had to travel to the other side of the world to catch the ship. Saying goodbye is something I've learned in the past but I never feel comfortable with it. It's a feeling I'm never used to it. But sailing is my passion and I can overcome the feeling of goodbye in order to make my dream come true. It sucks to say goodbye to your family but these type of experiences have taught me to appreciate every moment with my loved ones. Every second counts and every activity together matters. Life is now more intense because it's what's happening between those goodbyes.
Your Videos are so meaningful between all this other content that I see every day, thank you!
Thank you Yuma :-)
This video was uploaded 10 hours after I had to say good bye to a person that mean so much to me.
These perfectly matching titles {completly random I know} in the same day happened so many times I start to believe that she is guardian angel {jk, but still}
The only thing is that these videos are always a couple hours too late.
That thumbnail is surprisingly deceiving, though the title is a lot more calming. About goodbyes... excelent points made in this video! It's so true that there are more than one type of farewell and they differ on the occasion we are on. Liked it a lot :)
You really seem to know what people wants at the moment.... Really admire you❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your voice is so soothing
Thank you Lana
I have a big move coming up and I was planning to just leave without saying anything to anyone but this changed my mind.
Those facial expressions you express 😍
my most recent goodbye, and the best and worst one i've ever had, was 3 months ago. neither of us wanted to leave our magical world, but i think we've made the right decision.
you have a dear part of me Sky. hold on to it. never let it go.
maybe we'll meet again at the horizon
-sea
Saying goodbye is definitely the hardest in a breakup at the time. I've said goodbye to a friend that I didn't know i wouldn't see again, 18 years later now I still miss her. All over dumb pride and expectations.. i was an idiot.
You have lots of patience and wisdom. I wish you would make a podcast
Damn, i have the same feeling every time i travel from one place to another..
I might never see that place again.. ever.
Girl, i just found your channel and i’ll use your soft voice to fall asleep to. ♥️
Goodbye is hard , but it's necessary
No wonder your channel has grown insanely fast in the past 12 months... You create quality content, you're very clear and well spoken, and well, very easy to look at. Wish you the best!
You are like a therapy for a sad soul. So calming and smart. Also, you remaind me to one of my favourite tv character-Jane Sloan from The Bold Type. You are great. Thank you for your videos.
My grandma passed away a little over a month ago due to a heart attack. My family is still having a hard time accepting it (a few days ago, my mom tried calling my grandma because she just completely forgot that she's not here anymore), so I'm not sure we've quite gotten to the 'goodbye' stage yet, but we'll get there eventually.
Sometimes u hv to choose between a place that has nothing left or a place where nothing is going right. Love suppose to fill you up not tear you down. Its sweet as it is also bitter. It helps u grow but sometimes it just withet. U r lucky if u hv found the one for u. But for me as i enter my 30s next yr i guess ill hv to see when it comes. Never be afraid to love and spread love. Fan from 🇵🇭😘😍
Your videos are so thought provoking. Your explanations are so thorough yet welcoming enough for me to be able to stop and be introspective. So happy you popped up on my Home page♥︎♡
Goodbyes are generally not easy for me. I value all the good memories with most of the relationships I established, places I've visited, and experiences I've felt. I think people should slow down and treasure those good moments because we're living in such a fast paced world these days, people tend to want to move on to the next best person/thing/experience/place.
I felt the need to write this comment, feel free to read. A month ago my grandmother passed away, I’m a teenager and it was also the initial passing of someone that I dearly loved from my family. I honestly cannot put into words what she meant to me, unfortunately it came to that day for me to realize that. Please, please be grateful for every little bit that you have, because nothing is certain, ever, people come and go and that’s inevitable. Life goes on no matter what, you’re never alone.
I just discovered your channel and you are truly amazing
Wow this video really popped up for me when I have to go pack my things from university locker and return all my things tomorrow. I spent all day today reminiscing about my uni days and how I will feel tomorrow. Its kind of bittersweet, an era of my life coming to an end, I cant explain my feelings but they are quite intense
Perfect timing. A couple of days ago I decided to get back in contact with a couple of important people in my life that I had the feeling I didn't say a proper goodbye to. Thank you so much for your take on this, Lana
Soon I'll need to farewell my favourite person in the world and I'm not sure if we will see each other again. It's definitely going to be a challenging goodbye.
This hit in the feels. Dire aurevoire à toujours été une des choses les plus douloureuse pour moi
Your videos better with the time
Ive been searching for "How to get over an ex" type of videos and yours came up. This is very insightful and helpful. Thank you for your amazing perspective on this topic.
When I left my job 2 years ago, I was humbled by the outpouring of emotion from my staff and team. When we moved out a couple of weeks ago, I had a vision of how this might go (thinking of our CZcams channel) but the chaos of moving house meant a totally different series of events! Great memories though. The focus on the "Hello" was good though!
I was literally thinking about her and she posted
with places I like to let soak in before I leave, people/death - spending as much time as possible with them helps. when losing my grandparents knowing I did all I could to see and help them gave me a sense of peace. break-ups- there will be waves of hate and wanting to get back, own/acknowledge the feelings that come up process them so you can begin to heal and move along. what gets repressed comes out in other ways ! peace..
This is so true. I randomly think about things or people or even places I saw for the last time!
thank you lana
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Your voice is so calming, thanks.
I am a man of deep faith and personally goodbyes are things I have never and probably will never come to terms with. I believe all separation to the things and people will love is ultimately temporary and that is how I get through it. I particularly love this from Rumi:
“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”
Another great inspirational video. You are wise beyond your years ❤️
Thank you xx
just an idea for another video-
could you maybe make a video on apologies, their importance and how things could get worse if not done properly? i'd love to hear your take on it. no pressure though!! love you ❤️