4 things I learned about Relationships.

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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  Před 3 lety +1702

    I missed you all so much when I didn't upload last week haha. Please share anything that's been going on in your life lately, let's chat! xx

    • @herbetplum
      @herbetplum Před 3 lety +23

      well, i think ily

    • @minecraftstation6422
      @minecraftstation6422 Před 3 lety +19

      I just ate shawirma

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety +31

      dealing with overthinking the littlest things

    • @thealpha7848
      @thealpha7848 Před 3 lety +14

      When you said " don't say you wake up at 6 and go for a run " i looked away n embarrassed cause i do but then you said " if you dont " and i was like phew ... but all your points are true

    • @thealpha7848
      @thealpha7848 Před 3 lety +25

      And i always try to let ends be as peaceful and beautiful as possible i dont try to fight it

  • @zzt5282
    @zzt5282 Před 3 lety +6791

    "The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too."
    -Ernest Hemingway

    • @Siel-bm7gx
      @Siel-bm7gx Před 3 lety +8

      Interesting quote, how has this impacted you?

    • @smolpeepee9756
      @smolpeepee9756 Před 3 lety +32

      Siel8387 they always ask how did it impact you but never how are you :’(

    • @TheSchOOtx3
      @TheSchOOtx3 Před 3 lety +4

      @@smolpeepee9756 hahahahaha

    • @TheNinjapancake14
      @TheNinjapancake14 Před 3 lety +4

      This is a great reminder

    • @CarmelaBianchi
      @CarmelaBianchi Před 3 lety +39

      I made that mistake for 10 years. I learned A LOT (about myself, and to never do that again). I just woke up one day and left. I was a good partner. I thought that was enough to get the recognition and the love back. I learned some people are incapable of truly loving back. I'm in a better place now.

  • @gabrielgrigore526
    @gabrielgrigore526 Před 3 lety +3761

    The most important fact about romantic relationships is that you will only find someone you truly love if you are perfectly happy with being single as well. Only then love becomes a choice, not a "must".

    • @cnergyworld2831
      @cnergyworld2831 Před 3 lety +97

      This is so true. True love only comes for those who can live without it!

    • @vanessabellissimo350
      @vanessabellissimo350 Před 3 lety +17

      so true I needed that

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety +7

      factss

    • @alexanderx3554
      @alexanderx3554 Před 3 lety +39

      @Mike M jesus, I hope you you find love and forgiveness someday. That's a lot of anger your holding on to. I wish you peace and self-love.

    • @alexanderx3554
      @alexanderx3554 Před 3 lety +8

      @Mike M your dark view of women. "...the relationship is her tying to turn him into a looser..."
      Sound more like she is insecure and controlling. Unsure of who she is in this insane world. While the man in this story is trying to find himself, but is being suffocated from growing by the woman he is in a relationship with. While she stays in her comfortable zone, the man is resentful that he has to stay behind because she refused to grow with him.

  • @barcelonamariannedr.2389
    @barcelonamariannedr.2389 Před 3 lety +1404

    Imagine having a sister like her, I would talk to her endlessly the whole day about everything! :((

    • @barcelonamariannedr.2389
      @barcelonamariannedr.2389 Před 3 lety +7

      @Urjjo Bandyopadhyay pervert

    • @aravi105
      @aravi105 Před 3 lety +3

      Cousin sister*** as probably siblings do have talks like this but rarely... Otherwise 90% of time they do is make fun of you...🤡

    • @kevingaskin6317
      @kevingaskin6317 Před 3 lety +14

      This woman is gf material. She's calm and quiet. Not common here in the states.

    • @216_harshvardhanshete5
      @216_harshvardhanshete5 Před 3 lety +3

      Hello
      I respect your comment and your emotions but the video is about a having a relationship between a girl and a boy have sister or brother its a great thing but you can't compare a sister , brother , to a girlfriend, boyfriend it's just a unfair conversation a point less way to compare 🤍

    • @factually7134
      @factually7134 Před 2 lety

      Relatable !!

  • @Lifeishard237
    @Lifeishard237 Před 3 lety +2117

    “Ending is not failure” THIS. So many people stuck in mediocre relationships because they don’t understand this simple concept.

    • @avantikaroy5146
      @avantikaroy5146 Před 3 lety +29

      Exactly my rule is never settle for less.

    • @AFR0007
      @AFR0007 Před 3 lety +5

      damn girl you talking from expierence or what

    • @chaseo4557
      @chaseo4557 Před 3 lety +1

      TERRI JOHNSON maybe they are the reason it’s mediocre

    • @Lifeishard237
      @Lifeishard237 Před 3 lety

      Oddy no LOL

    • @Lifeishard237
      @Lifeishard237 Před 3 lety

      Chase O it’s quite possible

  • @user-yl1rl6lg2m
    @user-yl1rl6lg2m Před 3 lety +2902

    What I learned from relationships: *Don't wait for anybody to make your life better or easier*

  • @opedromagico
    @opedromagico Před 3 lety +1772

    'We are irresistibly attracted by who will bring us the problems we need for our own evolution."
    - Alejandro Jodorowsky

    • @60secondloveadvice
      @60secondloveadvice Před 3 lety +15

      I have not heard that one before, I will look up more of his work thank you for the pointer.

    • @tanyatanya9492
      @tanyatanya9492 Před 3 lety +14

      They invented "twin flames" based on this.

    • @theorangekindle4565
      @theorangekindle4565 Před 3 lety +4

      Problem is, some if not, most people focuses more on the word "problem".

    • @opedromagico
      @opedromagico Před 3 lety +2

      @@60secondloveadvice yep, this one is very underrated but so powerful! I see love as learning so this made a lot of sense to me

    • @opedromagico
      @opedromagico Před 3 lety

      @@theorangekindle4565 what you mean?

  • @user-xv2dl5pi5y
    @user-xv2dl5pi5y Před 3 lety +645

    “Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.”
    ― Emery Allen

  • @DayoAworunse
    @DayoAworunse Před 3 lety +827

    Lesson learned: Not all ending of relationships needs to be a burned bridge. It's all a learning experience, just make peace with it and move on.

  • @xfaroutzx3637
    @xfaroutzx3637 Před 3 lety +1445

    I've learned that when you don't really know yourself you make a lot of mistakes.

    • @talkafe4078
      @talkafe4078 Před 3 lety +9

      Know/trust same!

    • @Eli-dp7wq
      @Eli-dp7wq Před 3 lety +6

      Felt this!

    • @eugenelim3472
      @eugenelim3472 Před 3 lety +3

      So true...

    • @intentionalliving7326
      @intentionalliving7326 Před 3 lety +21

      So true! And even when we do, we still make mistakes... it’s ok to learn by making mistakes along the way of creating ourselves as the being we want to be✨

    • @greciaperdrieleid5529
      @greciaperdrieleid5529 Před 3 lety

      @@intentionalliving7326 this is true! And not only in relationships!!

  • @celinepope
    @celinepope Před 3 lety +1382

    Humans are quite silly.

  • @hola1707
    @hola1707 Před 3 lety +426

    My relationship of almost a year ended about 4 months ago and it taught me so much. But some of the most important things are that;
    - When you have a feeling someone isn’t right for you, a “gut” feeling that this person is not helping you grow or supporting you in ways that matter to you then it’s time to let go. Don’t hold of in the hopes that they change or things change because you’re only delaying the inevitable.
    - You cannot control other people’s actions or decisions or expect anyone to change to fit your expectations. You can only control what you do and what you bring to the table.
    - Pain and suffering are a part of life. Not all relationships are meant to last forever and the end of one is simply another beginning. The beginning of our journey into self growth, self discovery and the realization that we need to love ourselves enough to demand and accept only what we truly deserve. Nothing less.
    ❤️Wishing everyone much happiness and love!✨

    • @p2prelates934
      @p2prelates934 Před 3 lety +5

      Waaaay to go!! Wow!! You’re on to something. With that perspective, it’s only a matter of time before you meet your partner. It’s so easy to sulk & feel victimized when you’ve been hurt. However, when you can look back and find 4-5 lessons learned, that’s what it’s allll about!! Congratulations!!!

    • @ceooflonelinessinc.267
      @ceooflonelinessinc.267 Před 3 lety +1

      I(30,M) never had a realationship.
      All girls rejected me. No woman shows interest in me. I feel so lonely all the time. :( No kiss, no hug, nothing, no women shows interested in me.

    • @hellolucy2074
      @hellolucy2074 Před 3 lety

      Wow! Resonates with me so much! I love this. Thank you for your words 🤍

    • @phonkimhong2188
      @phonkimhong2188 Před rokem

      យតត

  • @TheZygomaticus1
    @TheZygomaticus1 Před 3 lety +260

    Keep it simple.
    “Money comes and goes, beauty fades, character stays”~

    • @factually7134
      @factually7134 Před 2 lety +7

      Wise words !

    • @indimist390
      @indimist390 Před rokem +2

      Personality can change too

    • @abceckswhyzee7169
      @abceckswhyzee7169 Před rokem +2

      @@indimist390 They're speaking in general, of course. Not always will beauty fade, and not always will money go. ITs a saying for goodness sake.

  • @MisterPol
    @MisterPol Před 3 lety +1599

    With social media, it seems that people don't value relationships as much as they did before. I don't know if it's just me, but I hope we go back to a time when meaningful relationships were more valued in society.

    • @gracegracegraceee
      @gracegracegraceee Před 3 lety +34

      That's absolutely true!

    • @MisterPol
      @MisterPol Před 3 lety +4

      @cloverjo - that's so true!!

    • @jasminshade7883
      @jasminshade7883 Před 3 lety +34

      True but I think it's the way everyone is switching from long term to one night stands, everything is changing society is not the way it use to be.

    • @nami_archives
      @nami_archives Před 3 lety

      I agree :((

    • @bonbon5717
      @bonbon5717 Před 3 lety +18

      I saw this a lot, where people show how happy they are social media for the sake of followers but behind the close doors, not so good. Went on a hike with my friends last month, saw a girl scolding at her boyfriend to take her picture in certain way for IG. Relationships are hard as it is without the involvement of public! You kind of inviting people’s opinions, like this one. Lol

  • @sams4892
    @sams4892 Před 3 lety +1161

    "Endings are not failures" is something that is a very difficult yet necessary pill to swallow.
    It's easy to wallow in self pity/grief after a breakup, but recognizing the experience as an opportunity for growth is so helpful in moving on and learning from that experience.

    • @johannak2256
      @johannak2256 Před 3 lety +16

      Very true, and I think the same applies to the endings of friendships, which are sometimes worse as they question a bond that is supposed to be one of the most stable in our lives next to family. But even then, when the necessary grieving part is over, we still carry memories and experiences that contributed in making us who we are. And even if a person is not to you what they used to be, it does not mean that what you lived with them was not real.

    • @shwetanavani480
      @shwetanavani480 Před 3 lety +8

      I think that its important to remember that life is not a race or competition that you can win or lose. We all see it that way for some reason. It's a learning experience so as long as you're learning, changing and growing then you are crushing this thing called life.

    • @shwetanavani480
      @shwetanavani480 Před 3 lety +2

      @Paddy so find a way to talk to your partner. Communication, communication, communication. If they understand and are willing to work on things then great. If not then its better for both of you to let go. Good luck

    • @alienturtle1946
      @alienturtle1946 Před 3 lety

      Maybe it’s semantics, but it seems more like it ought to be failures are not endings. Relationships can and do fail, but learning from them and moving forward are why one failure is not the end of your road.

    • @shwetanavani480
      @shwetanavani480 Před 3 lety +1

      @Paddy I'm sorry. I know that's probably not what you want to hear. I know what you're feeling right know and it just plain sucks. But I can tell you that you're going to be ok. And one day you'll find someone who wants to be more than friends. In the meantime, take advantage of this time that you are single. Get to know yourself, build your self confidence. It's most important that you love yourself first and one day you'll find that special person. Hugs ❤

  • @rasigadhanya8952
    @rasigadhanya8952 Před 3 lety +713

    If you don't feel special in a relationship, get out of it. You deserve better 💓

    • @asha2957
      @asha2957 Před 3 lety +2

      True

    • @Mi-yj2pp
      @Mi-yj2pp Před 3 lety +17

      do we make our partner feel special enough , to feel special?

    • @tompp894
      @tompp894 Před 3 lety

      Yes I agree with you 😊

    • @travis6694
      @travis6694 Před 3 lety +9

      @@Mi-yj2pp I think that’s implied. To care for the person inside special way but they don’t do the same. It’s one sided

    • @ToFinallyLive
      @ToFinallyLive Před 2 lety +4

      Agree. We should get the love we deserve

  • @peppermintdior
    @peppermintdior Před 3 lety +164

    "Don't go looking for love, love will find you, when it has to, till then live your life to the fullest"

  • @leftbehind4030
    @leftbehind4030 Před 3 lety +679

    Relationships are way too complicated.....thats why I have a guitar.

    • @markbennington2121
      @markbennington2121 Před 3 lety +7

      I got a Bass Guitar

    • @alinasings
      @alinasings Před 3 lety +14

      Mark Bennington I got a piano

    • @Abby-wx6kl
      @Abby-wx6kl Před 3 lety +12

      I have both :P And some other instruments too hehe

    • @vickcar1258
      @vickcar1258 Před 3 lety +8

      I got a cello and a sleepy cat with an imaginary dog 😂🤪🤪

    • @alluripranitha
      @alluripranitha Před 3 lety

      I too want but i feel even learning guitar is also soo complicated shitt phy dance singing everything are complicated😭😭😭

  • @angelikabatwoman
    @angelikabatwoman Před 3 lety +398

    I study psychology and we learned about attachment theory and I realised that a rush of feelings for someone very early and this feeling that this is the one and omg I'm so in love is often there because that person reminds us of our parents and the sometimes destructive relationship we had with them and that we relive this now and that's why we have this rush of feelings. This was really a pattern for me where I fell for really beautiful guys who didn't want me over and over again and I became a shadow of myself when I was with them. Now I'm in a wonderful relationship since 1,5 years and it feels totally different, it feels safe and easy and warm, not complicated and hot and rushed like before. I really like that.

    • @Marisa-xu9pn
      @Marisa-xu9pn Před 3 lety +7

      Interesting piece of knowledge. I will use it to analyse my past. Thank you for sharing!

    • @maryamziyad405
      @maryamziyad405 Před 3 lety +3

      Nice comment,
      I would love to know more about psychology how may I contact you please to guide me through

    • @angelikabatwoman
      @angelikabatwoman Před 3 lety +3

      @@maryamziyad405 hey, it's best to just watch some CZcams videos, there is a lot of information, or to just Google things you're interested in 😊 good luck!

    • @ajnef4448
      @ajnef4448 Před 3 lety

      How long did you date before you made it official? Xx

    • @imabal9183
      @imabal9183 Před 3 lety

      Sounds just like my mother except she never learns and can be naive sometimes, she always rush and ends up in bad relationship, it’s almost impossible for her to get in a wonderful relationship

  • @julesalmodal
    @julesalmodal Před 3 lety +195

    Endings are really hard to accept at first and you'll really lose yourself, but over time you'll realize you're getting stronger.

  • @breatheliveandthrive7404
    @breatheliveandthrive7404 Před 3 lety +117

    Be a person with HIGH INTEGRITY. Whether it's romantic, casual, or business relationships, that sure is going to leave a mark on their lives. Regulate your expectations to protect yourself from frustrations.

    • @p2prelates934
      @p2prelates934 Před 3 lety +3

      Amen!! A LOT of wisdom in your comments. I totally agree!!

    • @maygonzalez4249
      @maygonzalez4249 Před rokem +1

      Ever since I made integrity one of my biggest goals in self improvement, I’ve also made it a priority in friendships/relationships. Holding that standard has definitely provided me with a much more fulfilled life as well as being honest with my self about my own intentions ❤️ it’s a trait that is very underrated and it’s refreshing to come across somebody who understands this as well 😄

  • @annarosalyn7372
    @annarosalyn7372 Před 3 lety +429

    It's so necessary to ask ourselves "What do I bring to the table? Would I want to be in a relationship with myself?" when on the market for a relationship. Self reflection (before entering partnerships) is vital for healthy relationships and inflicting less emotional damage on ourselves and future partners. Thank you for shifting perspectives Lana!

    • @aaqilahs2011
      @aaqilahs2011 Před 3 lety +3

      This is so valuable. Thank you for sharing!

    • @annarosalyn7372
      @annarosalyn7372 Před 3 lety +6

      @Nowhere fast I don't think it only applies if a person has a serious problem. For example: You probably wouldn't want a partner who doesn't follow through with their word (like if they say they will meet you at a particular day/time but they always cancel or don't show up). That's a red flag that makes you think twice about continuing a relationship, because eventually it will get annoying. But it goes the same way for you--are you keeping the promises that you tell yourself? Do you follow through with your words? If you are unable to do that with yourself, you could have trouble keeping your word in relationships (this isn't true all the time, but you get the point). It's important to see what you can improve in yourself before starting a relationship so that you can be the best version of yourself, but also so that you're able to bring the healthiest version of you to another person. If you've been on the dating scene, you meet so many people who simply don't have a good relationship with themselves, and it shows. Sometimes, you are that person... Hope this helped. If you're ok with a partner being those things, then it's ok for you to be those things, it's all about our personal preferences.

    • @InsertNameHere73894
      @InsertNameHere73894 Před 3 lety

      Since when was starting a relationship treated like a job interview?

    • @shawnreed7876
      @shawnreed7876 Před 3 lety +1

      Damn you are wise. I wish my sisters understood this. They say "I deserve this and that" but never take to think "what do I offer a guy". They don't think "Am I making myself attractive, easy to live with, considerate, etc." Instead of bettering themselves, they blame men for being "superficial" for them being single.

    • @annarosalyn7372
      @annarosalyn7372 Před 3 lety +1

      Generation-Y Guy if you’re looking for a healthy, lasting relationship, that is two sided, both people kinda have to put in effort.... relationships don’t just form on their own, (just like you can’t magically get any job you want)🙄

  • @natemarx4999
    @natemarx4999 Před 3 lety +397

    Lana is the aunt we wished we had.

    • @jovanakesar
      @jovanakesar Před 3 lety +4

      I have an aunt whose personality really is so much like Lana's. :)

    • @nathan2813
      @nathan2813 Před 3 lety +4

      OMG you guys must be FETI (plural of fetus). Lana seems like a BABY to me... not old enough to be an AUNT.
      No way in HELL am I telling you how old I-I-I am!! :o|
      If Lana WAS an aunt she'd be an AILF!! :oD
      AILF = Aunt I'd Like as a Friend :oD

    • @jovanakesar
      @jovanakesar Před 3 lety +4

      @@nathan2813 I rather think what was meant in the original comment was that Lana has the wisdom of an older, really experienced person even though she's very young. :)

    • @nathan2813
      @nathan2813 Před 3 lety +2

      @@jovanakesar Yes, an "old soul"... I agree... an OSILF more-specifically! :oD

  • @ibnamin9388
    @ibnamin9388 Před 3 lety +186

    "I just don't know if people enjoy just watching me sitting here talking"
    - Lana Blakely, 2020
    Should we tell her?

    • @mgchannel532
      @mgchannel532 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes we should

    • @ayusha8163
      @ayusha8163 Před 3 lety

      Yess

    • @gentlesheep2905
      @gentlesheep2905 Před 3 lety +4

      Yes, I am a woman in my 30s and I do enjoy watching you sitting here sharing your views on relationships!!! Keep them coming please❤️

    • @attilathehun9654
      @attilathehun9654 Před rokem

      To be honest, I am suspicious that I only click her videos because she's beautiful. I am not saying the videos aren't good, they are. But I would not on click them and watch them. Funny

  • @dri8402
    @dri8402 Před 3 lety +124

    In the compromise topic, I think what I've learned in relationships is that one, like you said, will always find things that are annoying and frustrating and you might even expect the other person to love you like you do but that's the thing, you will always end up very frustrated or even breaking up if you don't realize one simple rule : they are their own person before they are ours and we either love them for all that they are or we leave. But the act of understanding each of us love how we know to love someone, you might love to write poems and long texts and they might be awful with words but hold your hand, kiss your cheeks and often call you to ask how you are and that be their way of loving. And once we really accept them by who they are, compromising doesn't seem so awful because we're simply loving someone by who they are while being loved by who we are.

    • @nivashah6828
      @nivashah6828 Před rokem +1

      This is soooo true. I will live by this

  • @david.walters
    @david.walters Před 3 lety +874

    Don’t know if someone is reading this, but if you are: You are amazing and beautiful! I believe in you! ❤️

    • @Visualiize
      @Visualiize Před 3 lety +14

      What if i am a serial killer Who murders babys do you still think i am amazing and you believe in me

    • @dinabutalid8840
      @dinabutalid8840 Před 3 lety +2

      You're so amazing to!

    • @sanjeevek9259
      @sanjeevek9259 Před 3 lety +3

      @@Visualiize you are still amazing and beautiful ❤️

    • @karlosmega2805
      @karlosmega2805 Před 3 lety

      You are too! 😁😃

    • @Visualiize
      @Visualiize Před 3 lety +4

      Thank u guys you give a lot of motivation to go out there and keep murdering babys 👶🔪

  • @tipaklong7073
    @tipaklong7073 Před 3 lety +68

    I think the biggest thing ive learned my whole relationship life was always start from within. Learn to organize who you are inside. Love yourself. Understand yourself. Feel yourself. For all we know its ourself that will be with us on the left and right shoulder until the day our souls leaves this shell. Thank you Lana

  • @beatricepaje7980
    @beatricepaje7980 Před 3 lety +20

    "That's what a relationship is, there will be ups, there will be downs; there will be highs, there will be lows."

  • @pallaviacharya3728
    @pallaviacharya3728 Před 3 lety +390

    I've rarely received back the amount of love i have given. Its always half reciprocated or barely reciprocated. and yesterday my boyfriend asked me " why do you love me so much despite everything?"..at that time i didn't think of it much but later.. i asked myself the same thing. why did i love him so much despite everything? despite knowing he'd never do the same things for me that I've done for him?
    and the answer was ...its because i don't know my worth. its because I don't love myself one bit. I have no love held for myself that's why I always have so much to give to others despite whatever they do.
    but I've decided to change this. I'm worthy of so much more. I'm worthy of so much love. And specifically I'm so worthy of all the love I am going to give myself.
    its gonna be hard because I do love him a lot. but he does not . So its time to let go and give myself the love that I've always craved so much from others.

    • @AnyaB18
      @AnyaB18 Před 3 lety +25

      Proud of you, Pallavi. Sending you much love x

    • @InshasChoice
      @InshasChoice Před 3 lety +20

      It's a journey, best wishes and you're not alone 🤗

    • @jo5206
      @jo5206 Před 3 lety +21

      Queen behaviour💅🏼✨go sis!!!

    • @aliciaamelie7912
      @aliciaamelie7912 Před 3 lety +11

      Sending strength! ❤❤

    • @ayushisawhney9712
      @ayushisawhney9712 Před 3 lety +3

      M going through same phase ... now what are u going to do?

  • @taniafonikaradillo4884
    @taniafonikaradillo4884 Před 3 lety +363

    The most important thing I've learned about relationships is:
    IF IT DOESN'T FEEL 100% RECIPROCAL, IT'S NOT THE RIGHT ONE. Because BALANCE is a MUST in life.
    If you and your partner are not giving the same amount of love, affection and effort in making the relationship evolve, it just won't work. 100% guaranteed.

    • @tomdrummy4984
      @tomdrummy4984 Před 3 lety +7

      Very very true

    • @hobimin3091
      @hobimin3091 Před 3 lety +6

      So true

    • @maryphantomhive7310
      @maryphantomhive7310 Před 3 lety +10

      Very true. Sadly.

    • @ciaoana7247
      @ciaoana7247 Před 3 lety +4

      Nailed it! It might be hard to let go but trust yourself that this is the best you can do. If they realize or not where they made a mistake just move on. The Earth won't stop for a while just we're upset about something

    • @shaniecegullison
      @shaniecegullison Před 3 lety +2

      Absaloutely Amen

  • @maryphantomhive7310
    @maryphantomhive7310 Před 3 lety +57

    This appeared in my recommendations at the right time. I’m going through a break up right now and I’m in my listening-to-sad-music-and-crying phase, holding on to the idea that I will heal soon enough. Thank you Lana, you made my day a little better.

  • @sandragirlovan7570
    @sandragirlovan7570 Před 2 lety +45

    When me and my boyfriend started dating, he liked me (and accepted some part of me) that weren't my best, he never hoped I would change because that was how he came to love me, and thanks to that attitude, I have grown and gotten better mentally and emotionally and that's on SUPPORT Y'ALL

  • @helenawoods
    @helenawoods Před 3 lety +604

    You are so elegant and sophisticated! And not only that, but you create very helpful content that helps a lot of people. Love the wisdom you share 💕 you’re my newest favorite creator ✨

  • @spazn
    @spazn Před 3 lety +198

    Sometimes you need to go through a hard breakup or life event to gain the courage to find your true authentic self in a world that wants you to be someone you're not. To live for yourself and stick to your ideals takes tremendous courage, and if your partner doesn't value that about you then as an infp/infj, it's just not going to work without giving up freedom and peace.
    Also, over/under compromise is sacrifice, not compromise. If you choose to sacrifice out of your own decision, then own it, but if you're forced to sacrifice by others then I would open your eyes and think again. Good luck and much love.

    • @jovanakesar
      @jovanakesar Před 3 lety +1

      So well said. As an INFP, I encounter so many difficulties on a day-to-day basis, that are related to what you wrote.

    • @myrtila
      @myrtila Před 3 lety +2

      Agree but it’s not only an infp/infj thing. I’m an isfp and I relate

    • @VanNguyen-lu8wj
      @VanNguyen-lu8wj Před 3 lety +2

      As an enfj/enfp, I totally can relate. Thank you.

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 Před 3 lety

      Well said

  • @cherrydewdrops
    @cherrydewdrops Před 3 lety +10

    You had me at "Endings are not failures," because I think that's what I've been hung up on without even realizing it

  • @opedromagico
    @opedromagico Před 3 lety +215

    I met a girl, she said she does not engage in serious relationships, and I thought "Ha, I'm gonna change that". Glad I realized that early and started to accept her for who she is. We only dated 3 times, tho haha.. I'm all for commitment and love, so it just didn't work.
    But before that happened, for 2 years I've had this potential thing going on with my ex.. I'm non-monogamous and she said she wanted to be too (since day 1), but after 2 years of trying to make it work, she just couldn't do it.. so we had to end it. I've had the most intense relationship I've ever had with her and I'm grateful for that, at the same time I learned my lesson to not begin a relationship with a promise of change, but with acceptance.
    All of this just to say it has been a very valuable lesson to me recently. Thanks for this video!

    • @thedave8097
      @thedave8097 Před 3 lety +42

      You're all for commitment and love but you also want a non-monogamous relationship? That just seems counterintuitive to me idk

    • @NTUNKNOWN
      @NTUNKNOWN Před 3 lety +25

      In my opinion u can't have a serious relationship if you're simultaneously non monogamous

    • @opedromagico
      @opedromagico Před 3 lety

      @@NTUNKNOWN yeh, that is what they tell you.. that love is a limited source and there is only one way to true love.

    • @opedromagico
      @opedromagico Před 3 lety

      @@thedave8097 It's quite simple actually, I fully commit to multiple. I'm in hope to persuade you, just answering what you asked hehe

    • @NTUNKNOWN
      @NTUNKNOWN Před 3 lety +12

      @@opedromagico I wouldn't be able to do that lol. I don't like to share

  • @AlexBlank
    @AlexBlank Před 3 lety +132

    I find it extremely difficult to find a balance within honesty itself.

  • @BensonGitau
    @BensonGitau Před 3 lety +45

    I couldn’t agree with you on the honesty part. Lying makes things worse because you always have to lie again to cover up the first lie, and it becomes a cycle that ends up in a disaster.

  • @seraphinagreen515
    @seraphinagreen515 Před 3 lety +36

    The lesson I learned from a relationship is to find someone who has the same values and morals. Sharing the same hobbies is a plus too.

  • @sherifelhousseini4853
    @sherifelhousseini4853 Před 3 lety +76

    i think that most people lose their time chasing or looking for "the special one' who turns out to be the worst creature and that is because they skip the real one who is most of the time an average person. I think living simply is the key, we all want the best but the best is not external it is simply internal and average. top people are not top, they are most of the time cheaters.

  • @NostalgicNathan
    @NostalgicNathan Před 3 lety +41

    I’ve learned in my long distance relationship that trust, transparency and communication is key.

  • @dante.nathanael
    @dante.nathanael Před 3 lety +101

    You're 10 years late, Lana. :(
    I've learned this the hard-way too, and your first point about honesty is the most basic and important foundation. I wasn't someone proud of myself, and my relationships reflected this. Then I said "okay, I'll be someone that someone else can be proud of." Of course that didn't work either. Then I just started to be proud of myself, to forgive, to make sense out of everything that repeated on my relationships, expectations, fears, lies upon lies. I thought some things were okay, when they were not, and vice-versa. I healed myself not through a fix, but through understanding.
    This tips are certainly useful, and we all should know them, but being honest isn't beat by anything, cause it's not something set on stone, it's a way of living, to steer us and find ourselves and our needs and wants, and decide if they're going to be honoured or trampled, by ourselves or by other-which is like doing it ourselves, as we accept them. Some may be well deserved, others just fantasies of past trauma, and we should be on guard and open to face their nature.
    Relationships, not only romantic ones, will not save us from something. They can help when the right person and will to change is involved, but expecting them to be our saviours (or us being their saviours) is going to lead to sure disaster. They're a plus, not something that everyone needs, so don't make your life and overall mood dependant on it. Good luck to everyone.

    • @charlineorozco
      @charlineorozco Před 3 lety +1

      This is still really great advice. Thank you for this video. :)

  • @mutiaraLUVSmusix
    @mutiaraLUVSmusix Před rokem +6

    Just went through a break up today. I initiated it but I still endured heartbreak because 1) I don't think I was honest (with myself) from the beginning which lead me to 2) committing to potential. 3) I ended up overcompromising & losing myself and only finding out too late that our expectations weren't clear nor aligned. I'm not even exaggerating that this spoke to me on a profound level. Thank you Lana, it won't be easy but I'll try my best to work on all of them, but for now: #4 especially.

  • @evaistheway
    @evaistheway Před 3 lety +39

    "Some people are meant to be experiences"

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid Před 3 lety +113

    Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come.
    ☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🌼🌼🌼🔥

    • @viiiRA_
      @viiiRA_ Před 3 lety +3

      Watch out! There's a fire near your flowers! 🔫💦💦💦💦💦💦💦

  • @ReynaSingh
    @ReynaSingh Před 3 lety +53

    so important to realize that endings are not failures. any relationship, whether is lasts or not teaches us a little more about who we are and what we want.

  • @Nwndw
    @Nwndw Před 3 lety +23

    I just got rejected by my 3-years-crush that I thought he'd give a chance for us to be together. Thank you Lana I become calmer to hear this 😢

    • @stergacha9435
      @stergacha9435 Před rokem

      What the hell,I also got rejected by my 3-(was gonna be 4)years-crush on 27oct 2022😂.He has a gf and she was standing next to him as he said "im uh,actually with her" . I thought we'd have a chance too ,i used to watch so many crush videos and according to the videos,he gave me most signs which is strange and it still confuses me to this day,i mean,his friend told me on 11aug 2022 that he liked me too and we(me & my ex crush) hugged that day,and now I'm hearing that you're with someone else ,like??? Confusing right? Or maybe I'm just kinda blind,but anyways ,I moved on within 2 days I guess.I'm that type of person that makes sh-t easy (if i can),so if you don't like me,I accept my rejection and move on, 'cause that's what I have to do¡

  • @FamilyTube3.1
    @FamilyTube3.1 Před 3 lety +2

    Keep making videos like these , its really like a 1 on 1 conversation, just us not talking back but hearing you out really helps me alot something we need to hear , thank you 🙏🏼

  • @Budibajbaj7
    @Budibajbaj7 Před 3 lety +55

    "I just don't know if people enjoy just watching me sitting and talking" - Lana, I think there are at least 400.000 people who love watching you just sitting and talking about topics that really matter. I'm happy to see your channel growing. I wish all the best to You and please keep up doing great work !

  • @billdale2870
    @billdale2870 Před 3 lety +80

    I always enjoy Lana and her ability to share her feelings openly. She is a breath of fresh air and is always true to her experience.

  • @beaar5118
    @beaar5118 Před 3 lety +10

    I really liked when you said " the person that you are today should align with the person that they are today" :)

  • @englishwithmaher5038
    @englishwithmaher5038 Před 3 lety +5

    'Committing to potential' is a very huge section that hides too many aspects of stabilizing or destroying the relationship, starting from the myth that this person is OUR, while they aren't, and ending with allegedly controlling the partner which will annihilate the relationship and leave bad traces.
    Thank you Lana for discussing these issues with us. 🍁🍁

  • @7184610369
    @7184610369 Před 3 lety +72

    Not getting into a relationship for the potential is advice that relationship experts have given. Experts say that you should expect that what you see is what you get.

    • @AFR0007
      @AFR0007 Před 3 lety

      true

    • @NolanJohnson423
      @NolanJohnson423 Před rokem

      True, if not worse since everyone has their secrets they don’t show off in public

  • @thebeachvegan9203
    @thebeachvegan9203 Před 3 lety +21

    Yes honestly. Accept your own flaws before entering into a relationship otherwise you can end up attracting people who will use your flaws against you.

  • @sarakjeldsen769
    @sarakjeldsen769 Před 2 lety +3

    "You don't align with what they could be or with what you could be." Well said.

  • @IelleFaith
    @IelleFaith Před 3 lety

    I binge watch your videos as I do a school work that doesn't require much thinking but is very time-consuming. I feel like I'm having a chat with a friend! Thank you for your creations!

  • @solmccc
    @solmccc Před 3 lety +72

    It would be nice to hear you on podcasts!!

  • @alexanderx3554
    @alexanderx3554 Před 3 lety +26

    Thank you Lana for that quote at the end. That really made me smile.
    You really can meet people for a night and spill your whole life story to them. It's beautiful, deep and uplifting. Then you go your separate ways and you have the memory of that night to last you a lifetime. It moves the soul.
    As for a relationship, develop unconditional self-worth. Forget having a deep meaningful relationship with anyone or anything (money,possessions) if you don't first have one with your self. Otherwise you will use people and possession to fill the void of lack of self-worth.

  • @tomatoxfairy
    @tomatoxfairy Před 2 lety

    I found your channel recently and the amount of calm you brought into my life is amazing. Thank you!

  • @HugoBeyer2103
    @HugoBeyer2103 Před 3 lety +30

    After seing two of my relationships horribly end, I found it really hard to believe there is someone out there who would really "be for me". As you said, we should not hold our stakes too high but at the same time we got to know and remember when dating someone what is important to us. For my part I know that empathy, true listening and respect are the three most important things I'm looking for. I also know that I need someone who's thinking about how to live better, have a fuller life, especially on the mental health side of things. Seing your videos and getting glimpses of who you are through them gives me true hope that there's someone like that out there, somewhere. Thank you for that :)

    • @p2prelates934
      @p2prelates934 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes, there is definitely someone out there for. I think 3 major things it takes is
      1- Self-Value (You know you’re special; you know yourself)
      2- Action (If you’ve secured an education, have a job, own property-each of those took ACTION!)
      3- Belief (that you deserve it & it’s possible)

  • @varung2449
    @varung2449 Před 3 lety +15

    So true. I sometimes wonder, if we're looking for love to be happy, then why do we feel trapped?

  • @leshi1926
    @leshi1926 Před 3 lety +39

    I love how even though every person and every relationship is so elaborate and different, still everyone can relate to and learn from this material, great video

  • @billieeilishstories4123
    @billieeilishstories4123 Před 3 lety +10

    I’m really obsessed with you and your videos
    The way that you talk makes me relax and calm
    Thank you♥️

  • @DesireeZeidel
    @DesireeZeidel Před 3 lety +1

    you’re vibe is very calming and helps me grasp your message more

  • @bynhupham
    @bynhupham Před 3 lety +49

    I think the most important thing for me is that it isnt all about being in love, it is about the decision of love. A relationship isnt 24/7 Perfect. There will be times where you argue about sth. . But you have to say yes to fix this... a relationship is like a garden, you have to watering your plants so your Garden can grow..

    • @Siel-bm7gx
      @Siel-bm7gx Před 3 lety +2

      Great perspective.

    • @bynhupham
      @bynhupham Před 3 lety +1

      Siel8387 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @spookywitch0x0
      @spookywitch0x0 Před 3 lety

      But nobody deserves to be in a toxic relationship where their so called partners are calling them with insulting names and trying to change the person they pretended to accept the way he/she is.

    • @botlhaleklassen4091
      @botlhaleklassen4091 Před 3 lety +1

      This is so true. You really do need to choose to love someone. EVERYDAY.

    • @bynhupham
      @bynhupham Před 3 lety +2

      Liz Moon soo this is not the Point that i was saying. I totally agree with u and also the Most important thing is to not want to change your partner. Also just Love yourself first
      But i just want to say that also a relationship which seems perfect isnt always perfect, so you have to choose everyday to Love your Partner :)

  • @dailydoseofmedicinee
    @dailydoseofmedicinee Před 3 lety +95

    Just like any venture, a healthy, loving relationship has to have these essential ingredients.👍👇👇
    Self-love. You are made out of an act of love: when your parents agreed to make you, and right up until today, you are loved.
    Respect. This is always the name of the game.
    Trust.
    Openness.
    Passion.

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety

      Daily Dose of Medicine self love is the best love

    • @Mr23Erick
      @Mr23Erick Před 3 lety +5

      Yes, because every human that has ever lived all had parents who willingly chose to have a child.

    • @Sophia-bh1uf
      @Sophia-bh1uf Před 3 lety +2

      What if your parents didn’t plan you

    • @truthmatters2782
      @truthmatters2782 Před 3 lety

      @@Sophia-bh1uf My parents didn't plan me and tried to abort me by medication. But once I was born they accepted me. It's Ok. They were poor and needed financial stability.

    • @sanamyousef3406
      @sanamyousef3406 Před 2 lety

      @@truthmatters2782 you are here today. You were meant to be here and you are loved. I hope your parents decisions they made don’t weigh your worth and your beautiful being.

  • @anhpam9205
    @anhpam9205 Před 3 lety +1

    Great advice and the quote at the end really hit home. You're so young and so wise. Thanks.

  • @unknown-jd3dz
    @unknown-jd3dz Před 3 lety +1

    This is probably the most helpful advice I’ve seen on relationships ever. Thanks!

  • @DevanshSadhotra
    @DevanshSadhotra Před 3 lety +11

    One of my favorite channels, this lady never fails to make me learn a new thing every time. Thanks a Lot

  • @nearest-star
    @nearest-star Před 3 lety +3

    Learning all about compromise right now. Your voice is so soothing. Thanks for another beautiful video ❤️

  • @Sunflower-uh3em
    @Sunflower-uh3em Před rokem +2

    That final quote is exactly what I was thinking lately : pple go , leave other enter into your life but I always like to think they bring you sthg => a lesson learned, a blessing, to know wrong from bad, to love, ....etc.

  • @LadyInTheCockpit
    @LadyInTheCockpit Před 3 lety +6

    I stepped out of a (very) toxic relationship and your channel is helping me become less afraid about dating again. thank you

  • @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith
    @MerryOlSoulGigglesmith Před 3 lety +46

    My favourite teacher of life ✌️☺️
    "don't exaggerate yourself" ~Lana Blakely (2020)

  • @SanjaySkar
    @SanjaySkar Před 3 lety +3

    So far my favourite video on this channel! Thank you, Lana! Sometimes, it's really heartbreaking that you know these things and acts in a different way, 'forgetting my brains' I would call it. I had my struggle being an over compromising person in the past! I don't regret it, it was a lesson for life. Thanks for sharing these ideas!

  • @mathedguy
    @mathedguy Před 2 lety +1

    Striking clarity,
    very wise and simple.
    Thanks for this glimpse.

  • @manahilalhindi7457
    @manahilalhindi7457 Před 2 lety

    I love how very reasonable and great this talk is like chatting with a familiar friend

  • @therealmwanderlust
    @therealmwanderlust Před 3 lety +5

    energy is real.. I literaly needed this at this exact moment! Thank you girl

  • @ekil9248
    @ekil9248 Před 3 lety +50

    I was in trouble with my partner. We broke up the relationship. We decided to work in make us feel better for ourselves and for each other. We love each other but we have very different languages of love and that was the main problem. Now we are getting to know each other better, it's like dating again... Don't know if it is correct but I think it's working and then, we hope to be in a relationship again. And what Lana says is soo right. Sometime we see in the other person what we don't see in ourselves. Also the "I can't remember this even do it makes you happy, I am like this so accept me" that's so bad. My partner is very bad at remembering things like important days, but he never told.me that "accept me because I am like this" No. And he is trying to learn about it. So be patience if you love that person but NEVER allow him or her to make you feel like trash. NEVER.

  • @daevenarose1728
    @daevenarose1728 Před 3 lety +1

    There's something very peaceful and calm about her aura. It really calms me watching her. Great vids, keep up the good work.

  • @kimberlymaboloc3592
    @kimberlymaboloc3592 Před 3 lety +1

    I love it when you're doing your videos in this style 🥰 It's like I am talking to a friend that I always wanted to have. You are so insightful. 🤩☺️

  • @aleiocmorales
    @aleiocmorales Před 3 lety +4

    This year I have definitely put a lot of thought into who I am, and what qualities I may need in a potential future partner (even though I have a hard time imagining myself vulnerable in any intimate way because I have gone through heartbreak). I've also put a lot of thought in the person I want to become, and quite frankly i look up to you a lot. Not only because you offer me perspectives that give me clarity and reassurance, but also because you inspire me by your ability to be organic. I relate to how you perceive the world, to how you prefer to explore the world through knowledge and humble yourself through the experiences you've gone through, and so much more. I am also an INFJ-T, and it makes me feel more confident in who I am knowing that there's people like you who think the same way. My 21st birthday is a few days from now, and I have so much more clarity on the kinds of people I want in my life. The way I should perceive my experiences with people and life. I've realized how much there is to learn about the world and how much there is to see. Anyways, I'm going off on a tangent, but I really appreciate how much thought you put into your videos. You inspire me so much, so thank you for all the effort you put into implementing authenticity and your personality in your content. Im always excited to hear what you have to say.
    Much love -Alyssa

  • @natebilamu2516
    @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety +3

    yes this is so true. appreciate you Lana , you’ve inspired me to make a channel of my own.

  • @Irene-ro7fg
    @Irene-ro7fg Před 3 lety +3

    I love this kind of videos:) I found myself to learn pretty much the same things too. Lot of times I accepted situations that were not ok to me, but I wasn't enough strong to say it and leave. It took me some time to understand that and I am now trying to change this behaviour working on myself. Thanks for this chat!

  • @isabelallen7710
    @isabelallen7710 Před 3 lety +1

    This is the best relationship video I’ve seen on CZcams, you are so insightful! X

  • @thaddeusnjuguna4289
    @thaddeusnjuguna4289 Před 3 lety +9

    Authenticity in a relationship is key.Authentic attracts authentic.Align with who they are,not who you think they should be.Thanks so ,much Lana that was deep.

  • @AndreyZenperial
    @AndreyZenperial Před 3 lety +74

    Giving without necessarily Expecting in return is what allowed me to find fulfillment in past relationships. If it’s right for you and you care than love unconditionally🤍

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety +1

      Andrey Zenperial yup self love is important

    • @AndreyZenperial
      @AndreyZenperial Před 3 lety +1

      Nate Bilamu Couldn’t agree more with you Nate! What’s the activity that makes you feel most alive?

    • @natebilamu2516
      @natebilamu2516 Před 3 lety

      Andrey Zenperial working out everyday makes me feel alive!!! hby Andrey ?

    • @camilalopez5888
      @camilalopez5888 Před 3 lety

      ​@magical wanda I think that not expecting doesn't mean settling. It's about giving but not over compromising, not losing yourself in the way, ofc you deserve a reciprocated love, but it's more like sharing all these beautiful things and not so beautiful too. I believe it's more like support and not codependency.

  • @OdalmyRuiz
    @OdalmyRuiz Před 3 lety +16

    was binging your content, and I have to say, I resonated with this so much. "Endings are not failures" something that after me being in a 7 year relationship hurt to embrace, but it is so true. Memories we created that I will forever cherish, but not all things are meant to be forever, thanks for this Lana!

  • @meghabisht3392
    @meghabisht3392 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you Lana, I just needed this chat session with you, your explanation makes sense to me. Thank you for sharing this. Looking forward to more such videos.

  • @pamelamaia.filipinas
    @pamelamaia.filipinas Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for this video Lana, I feel like we are childhood friends talking about our experiences in life. You're great, thank you again 💙

  • @nikolasal-furaih1709
    @nikolasal-furaih1709 Před 3 lety +3

    Whilst I do not always necessarily agree with your views on certain matters, the fact that your videos always leave me thinking more about the topic afterwards is what I find remarkable. I look forward to watching you grow further and, in a way, growing alongside you.

  • @raymarkbunga
    @raymarkbunga Před 3 lety +2

    Your topics are so interesting, and at the same time, the way you talk has a relaxing sensation to me lol. I don't know why

  • @margaritamanvelyan2481
    @margaritamanvelyan2481 Před 3 lety +1

    Agreed with everything you said. I adore your way of thinking, your content and how different you are. Calm and peaceful!! Watching your videos always makes my day better 💘

  • @menafam
    @menafam Před 3 lety +26

    "there is a difference between putting your best foot forward and.... a foot that isn't yours...."
    dang

  • @trishdotmp4
    @trishdotmp4 Před 3 lety +3

    Hi Miss Lana. Yesterday I've been watching many videos of yours. You inspire me to read books, to educate myself, and many more good things. You're so brilliant! I love youuu! 💛💛

  • @teresaholl3620
    @teresaholl3620 Před 3 lety +1

    I love your videos and look forward to them every week! Your sit down videos are always so spot on. Keep it up xx

  • @amelieu2734
    @amelieu2734 Před 3 lety +3

    I'm so grateful this came up in my recommendations. You are very articulate and I love how mature you seem to be. Take care always and stay shining

  • @selligelatin
    @selligelatin Před 3 lety +62

    Here are my thoughts about the topic Miss Lana introduced:
    1.) Be honest from the beginning.
    I totally agree with your talk here.
    Especially the part where you said, "If you feel like you can't be honest abt who you are with someone, you either: a) *need to work on yourself, including learning to simply accept yourself, to actually become someone you're proud to be honest abt being* or b) *you're simply in the wrong company*
    I've learned to realize this not long ago when it comes with my friendships. I've always known I needed healing. I wasn't proud with the fact that out of the sea of people surrounding me, I am so still and reserved. I always push myself to improve and get out of my said shell, because everyone's different. Until I'm no longer myself. I felt I was a project everybody needed to work on. At one point, I was confused and angry. But I know couldn't stay angry so I gone with the flow, never minding how I am not myself with other people. I was not happy but I am at peace knowing I am meeting their expectations and at the end I'll leave them. Until the day we were all apart from each other's sides. I missed them for the times I wasn't angry and confused. I realized, the battle was within the silent chambers of my soul. So I started to get along with myself first and listen to her when I thought everyone could not. I wasn't entirely in the wrong company. I guess I just needed to be proud of my own company, because at the age of teens being alone makes you look weak but that's just ridiculous. I believe it's a sign of strong mentality and resiliency. And my friends are good people. I was just in a miserable disposition at that time and finger-pointing was wrongfully convenient.
    Truly, love yourself first and everything else falls into line 💯
    2.) Don't commit to potential.
    "Acknowledge someone's true colors and decide if their color palette matches with yours." - Lana Blakely
    But I also half differ to your talk in here. If I were to encounter anyone, I would want to acknowledge them for what they could be. Not to expect something from them but in a form of respect and support for their pursuits. Embracing their past and not limiting their today and tomorrow.
    3.) Expectations and compromise.
    Learn to take a stand on your own, at the same time remain teachable. It's like listing what's negotiable and non-negotiable for you to others. Truly, *relationship is a two-way street*.
    4.) Endings are not failures.
    Hands down !! 💗 I've also learned so much on your past video topic about *goodbyes* 🥺
    *Perhaps we should ask ourselves that question too. Ego and all other filters aside-at my very core, how do I wish to part from this situation or person?* - Lana Blakely (How to Say Goodbye)

    • @batwoman1847
      @batwoman1847 Před 3 lety +4

      Yess! Thank you so much for typing this all out! I was looking for this comment!

  • @yovitamartono9786
    @yovitamartono9786 Před 3 lety +5

    I enjoy these chit chat videos because I just love listening to your voice! It calms my mornings :).
    I agree so much with the quote by Emery Allen. In the past year after my break up (from a 5 year relationship), I have met a few men that have made me love and learn about life a little bit more, and I’ll forever thank them for that. I love them dearly even until now. it’s not easy to accept the fact that their chapters in my life has (or will) come to an end but I’ll forever have them as friends to talk to. As each season goes by, it gets easier. As I meet more new people, it gets easier. But to be honest, my soul yearns for them now and then, and I still have thoughts like “I wish I could stay by you til the end”. But life moves on, and I am at peace with that.

  • @bienfaitmboni
    @bienfaitmboni Před 3 lety +1

    wow I ve never heard a more soothing voice and vibe !! Glad i came across this video

  • @felicitydowns6651
    @felicitydowns6651 Před 3 lety +3

    I’m definitely an overcompromiser- this video is so helpful and very much appreciated x