My Son & His Wife are Making Porn (Have I Failed as a Mom?)
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- My Son & His Wife are Making Porn (Have I Failed as a Mom?)
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Can you imagine them explaining to Dave how they payed off their debt?
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I'm imagining the debt free scream now.
@@actuallyterry More like a debt free moan
The fact that they felt comfortable telling her makes me believe she’s been a good mom
What a great son. Does Mom look at the Sex Movies hes made? That would be awesome😳😳
Lol nope
There are levels and she has failed but she can excel as a granny when her grandchildren rebel against their parents. Such is nature. She seems so nice too.
@@saintoflastresorts2272 its just porn, guys
@@saintoflastresorts2272she hasn’t failed. If they did none of this before 18 then she succeeded. they’re adults they can make their own decision. God damn their not drug smugglers their just selling pictures online, what’s so bad.
I love John’s response “Oh…what is it like Fan’s Only…or Only Fan’s? Like he doesn’t know! 😂 Nice try there John!
I am sure he looked after the show.
hahaha exactly. He probably looked her up after this call lol
@@MsBlackcat33 i hate when people pretend to be a saint. Lol, it’s human nature .. geez lol
😂😂😂😂😂
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Parents need to realize that, as adults, their children are not compelled to live by the values with which they were raised. Tough, but true.
Yeah but you have to wonder if you raised them right or raised them incorrectly based on the morals that they show
@@iironhide6209 Wonder away. However, you must then realize that they are adults and make decisions for themselves. For example, if you raise your child as a (insert whatever religion you want), your child, as an adult, may choose not to accept said religion.
@@sherwood9917 correct
Yeah each generation is more degenerate than the one before. How long can this continue before this empire falls?
This 💯
“Welllll, I can’t say I feel like I succeeded.” LOL!
This woman is actually a real gem, I love her. I hope everything works out for them.
I LOLed completely at that moment :D
She's awful I cannot stand her
People make their OWN decisions Carol. Not your fault. You're a great mom.
Best comment so far. I hope she reads this.
The questionable part is why she thinks she has to go tell everyone in her circle.
imagine defending this
I think the wife is the one who's convincing him it's a good idea so he just went along with it even though he knows it's immoral. It sounds to me like he's a pushover and she wears the pants.
A great mom would understand that her children are people with their own values and not her property.
Never thought I would see OnlyFans being mentioned on this channel but here we are lol
Im here for it! Lol
Lol welcome to 2021 where anything can happen 🤦♂️
This is the most 2021 episode ever 🤣😂🥲🥲
The first episode had a dad calling in about his son's open marriage 🤣
@@grod805 Open marriages are actually pretty common you just don’t usually tell your parents
She needs to stop making it about her and her identity as a mom. Kids are not machines that, if you follow directions assembling them, will automatically run a certain way. Humans don't work that way.
Totally agree. She is way to wrapped up in the lives of her adult children. She needs to have her own independent identity outside of her adult children's lives. And why would she think she needs to have a conversation about this with her preschool-aged grandchildren??
True. She needs to let go of the kids and jut try to forget them.
@@joreyn7656 are you forgetting they told her, she didn’t ask. I don’t know if you have children, but I don’t know how you can be too wrapped up in your adult children’s lives. You’re either involved in their lives as a parent or you are not. I don’t have kids, but I would be mortified if mine ended up doing that for a living.
imagine defending this
Given how much of her identity is wrapped up in how she raised her kids I’d wager she was a controlling type mom. Son prob couldn’t wait to get out of the house and get freaky
Her whole identity is wrapped up in motherhood… she needs a new purpose
Maybe she should start an only fans
@Jack Tapley it was a joke
@@katelyndefreitas2810 😂
@@katelyndefreitas2810 😆😆☠☠
@@katelyndefreitas2810 hahahha
They are adults now. They are responsible for their decisions.
Yeah but mom is still making it all about her wanting to run around telling everyone.
The mom is right to be concerned.
@@TheBusttheboss She surely is. She did her best raising them, and they are ultimately responsible for their decisions now, be they good or bad.
I think we all know that
They gonna be on the “Dave Ramsey show”
*The Every Day Millionaire* after all this money from only fans 😂
🤣🤣🤣
😂 😂 😂 😂
Maybe her stripper name is “Gazelle Intensity” 😂
Is there a chance that there’s a market of guys who will pay to see overweight middle aged women on only fans? Asking for a friend.
@@momof1576 Yes!
“It’s not your fault “
Immediately leaves to watch scene from good will hunting
I've never heard someone do that before
What scene???
@@donnellehall6093 have you seen the movie?
There will be alot of Onlyfans mom in 10 years, and it be the talk of Middle school kids around town…🤣
So much more thanks to the pandemic, it’s so mainstream that being on online star will NO LONGER be Stigmatized anymore than trying cannabis is now in a parent’s past. It’ll be the old fogies that muleheadedly insist on judgmentalism
And Heaven forbid! multigenerational porno... decadent society we are in, what a sewer.
Why do u let middle school kids on on only fans and letting kids talk about it around the town. Why didn't we teach not to disrespect anyone's mom regardless of whatever
@@jugendamthamburg-ggkonform381Really??
And some of them won’t care because their mom made a couple milly
Ironically what she isn’t totally grasping is that the fact they were comfortable enough to tell her about it rather than carrying on a ruse to hide what they were doing says a lot about her raising her children well and being trusted enough to be transparent about this. So I hope she doesn’t walk from their relarionship because as of how it is now there’s an incredible comfort between the parties to communicate this stuff
They don't believe they did anything wrong
@@AustindGreen They didn't. 🤷♂️
@@jojo2007ish Pornography is intrinsically damaging and wrong. Creating it and participating in it makes a mockery of intimacy and sex.
@vaska1999 Porn in moderation is absolutely fine. And in my relationships has been great! Then again I'm polygamous and kinky so I doubt you can relate. But you should still stop yucking people's yum.
@@vaska1999 No.
Sounds like she put too much of her self value on her “success” as a mom. Hopefully this is a good life lesson for her.
Many stay-at-home parents do this because they gave up a paying career. The children become the success measurement, just as much someone who builds a business/career and then retires sees a protege as a measure of their own competence.
@@DClark-zl8xb both are equally dangerous. Contentment & sense of self-pride are internal processes that can never he attained via external results.
@@josiahmanigault920 good point. That's why we need balance. Too much either way can be harmful.
@@josiahmanigault920 I agree.
Life definitely gives us the lessons we need
Mom needs to not talk to anyone about this situation unless somehow it comes out that a third party discovers how her son and daughter in law make a living. Then she needs to put her hands up and say that the situation is out of her hands and control and what else is there we can talk about.
I agree her kid and their spouse seemed to have more money problems before they started but now they have money and options. I would much rather see them with options than without!!
Yeah that was the confusing part was she feels the need to go tell everyone. Something else going on there.
it's still embarrassing.
@@jones2277 which is one the reasons you don’t need to go telling friends and grandkids. Some people just haven’t learned to keep your mouth shut about certain ways things.
Great advice. I hope Carol reads and applies your advice!
She thinks she failed because she raised children that don't hold the exact same value systems her, but that's literally how she succeeded. She raised children into adults that grew their own value system. Rather than always believing what they're told, they forged their own path. Just because it's something she doesn't agree with doesn't mean she failed. And it also doesn't mean that that topic has to be the only thing talked about at the dinner table.
Her kid is pumping his wife. I don’t blame her for being disappointed.
This is one of the harsh realities of parenting. You can do everything “right” but your kids can still go left.
Adults get to live their own life. Doesn't mean you have to like it but nor do you have the right as a parent to throw a fit about it.
No one does parenting completely "right" but how would we know? If you go off what society/culture promotes then you'd be raising narcissists with victim mentality. Point is doing it "by the book" is still wrong.
@@michaellastname3924 Agreed we all make mistakes as parents since we all have our flaws. Probably who makes the biggest mistakes are those that try to be the "perfect" parent. At this end of the day all you can do is do your best, give them love and security as children, and teach them how to make their own decisions and be self sufficient. When they grow up it's up to them.
Yah, better to do your best, but not get your identity too wrapped up in their choices
yeah free will comes at a price
Some things are just best not said to mommy and daddy 🙃
That’s what I was thinking. I don’t judge them for doing it. But telling mommy is a bit much.
@@johniii8147 the only thing I’m going to judge him for is telling mom. That was insensitive and inappropriate. And look what telling her made her feel, I feel sorry for her! Definitely can tell she’s a good mother!
@@annafisher6874 I am thinking they did this as a face rub to there parents moral standards. What person doesn't know how their mom/dad feel about it? Her kids belong in the "you better love me no matter how horrible my actions or you don't love me. "
@@grantarmbruster6591 exactly!
@@kaydefreese7586 Exactly.
Dr. John is really good at his job. This one really hits me in the heart because one of my friends died in early May. We could talk about anything. Talking through things with a friend can help put things in perspective.
Sorry for your loss, Belinda.
GOD BLESS
Why did they even feel the need to share that information ?
Carol please take yourself out the equation. This is definitely not about you.
Yeah. There is something about this woman that is super irritating to me and I think you found it! She's making it all about her and her identity and her life's purpose! They need to tell her to get a life! You can just tell she is a real piece of work. Or as Dave would say, " A travel agent for guilt trips" or "A test driver at the broom factory"!
This sounds pretty common and normal to me. What is a parents job? To make sure they do everything right for their kids and to make sure they grow up to be the best version of themselves, etc. So when a child starts getting into terrible things, parents can be tempted to feel guilty, that it was their fault, that they didnt do their best or enough to help their kids, because all of this hurts them... so normal i can imagine, i dont even have to be a parent to see that @kwalters3557
@@redfuse8369 yea but people are also born they way they are born. serial killers don't choose to be serial killers.
Every mom can benefit from John's words. Thank you for this!
I love John because even though most of these videos are situations I'll never be in, I still find things about myself or close people around me that I can personally work on for improvement in life
Same here
I guess it’s still true that one’s actions can shame the family. Her son is causing her shame. It’s a very old idea that is now practically obsolete but it is a real thing. Children who abandon the values their parents taught them actually do bring shame on their parents. Now, do I think she should take responsibility? No. Do I think she should try to get involved, no. But she should condemn the bad behavior and reach out to her son with love. But yes this kid is shaming his mother. It’s silly to pretend that he’s not.
There are some values that must be abandonned if they are toxic.
@@blueStarKitt7924 Indeed, like most modern values.
@@agx8447 Most "modern" values? A bunch of "modern" values absolutely.🤷
This is a spicy one
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Indeed.
I've seen and listened to you for a while. This clip is all anyone needs. Helpful. No judgment. But also aggressive and direct. The world needs more delonys
I feel like Carol is not really concerned about what they're doing, but rather how it will make her look. Her mistake is she is making it about herself.
You're twisted and id be shocked if you even have kids... Porngraphy IS Prostitution. And, He's pimping out his wife or GF, with the greed justifying the cause... The mother, as any GOOD mother would look at it and say where the hell did i go wrong that they are living a a-morel life style , AND EVERY good mother is disturbed by bad choices and problematic children, like having a child who cant stop committing crimes and in and out of the legal system.But of course your so twisted you want to blame the good person and say it them with the problem. You a hooker also sweetheart, cam girl?
I think most moms don’t want their kids doing porn and would feel some embarrassment telling their friends what their kids do for a living. Parents live for bragging rights.
I’m pretty sure most parents would want their children doing porn and they have grandchildren whatever is put on the internet will stay on the internet forever so one day those children of theirs can see their parents doing that crap the things we do do not only affect us but the people closest to us
@@TheRealdal "Parents live for bragging rights." Only parents who have no life or identity of their own. She said herself right in the beginning that she saw being a mother as her whole purpose and identity. Her kids are adults now, she needs a new purpose and occupation and leave her kids alone and talk about anything else to her friends.
@@anthill1510when your grown child is groomed into this crap, you will be entitled to an opinion.
Adam22's mom sounds nice, bless her heart. ❤❤❤
This comment is underrated. 🤣🤣
Crying!!!!!!
Hilarious!! And nobody here has a clue😂😂😂
looooool
Lmao
He answered this very well
That sucks u can tell she is hurt😰😥😢😭
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Wow! Men! John, you are very gifted in helping others. And you are really blessed with good words and knowledges to guide others in a great way of all kinds of situation! Bless you brother!
Sad for their kids when they grow up and realize 😩
They’re debt free I think they’re chillin
Even God was a perfect parent and gave his kids everything but they still messed up.
Love this. So true!
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My husband says this all the time. It is heart breaking.
No, he just gave us free will.
He gave/gives them freedom to choose between life and death
It’s very hard to see your kids do things that you know will hurt them in the long run.
It’s not hurting their pockets that’s for sure
@@jacksonlemay4418 it will come back to bite them sooner or later
How exactly is it gonna hurt them?
Temporary fame, when it dies down then what? Those clips will never leave the internet, they will haunt them…
@@madisonandthespirits Bro unless you're worth remembering no ones gonna care
This channel is helping me and my family more than I could hope to ever express on here. I've been trying to get through to my mother for over a decade, due to her traumas and paranoid thinking. I'm finally learning to approach it in the right way, and things seem to finally be heading in the right direction. These days I actually feel I know what to say, and she genuinely listens to me now, thanks to you and your videos.
Honestly, I can't thank you enough.
Sounds like a really wholesome lady. Hope she understands that everyone is free to choose what they want to do. Definitely not her fault.
wholesome? she sounds like a controlling uppity boomer
@@heatherboggio2180 lol
Bro this reminds me of my uncles ex wife who use to brag and flaunt her two daughters like trophies. One ended up having 3 kids with all different dads and in an abusive relationship. The other ran away with the first guy she could and had a kid before marriage. Now she has nothing to brag about.
She clearly was a narcissist, and the effects of her abuse on her kids manifested in those ways.
Sounds like she used to brag a lot about her kids with the other Karens in the neighborhood, now that they are doing shameful stuff she's afraid she's going to get made fun of. It's not her fault tho, they are adults.
Did your mom not brag on you to the other Selina’s in the neighborhood?
There would be no reason to tell them anyway just as the kids shouldn’t have told mom
Why call her a “Karen,” if as you say they are doing something shameful? It’s perfectly normal for a mother to feel disappointed and uncomfortable when her children are publicly doing something Indecent. Think if it were your daughter or daughter-in-law.
You really think a mother's only thought is she doesn't want to get laughed at? She doesn't at all care about her kid selling his body? Use your brain
Bingo! Early in the call, she seems to be saying that the only reason she had friendships was to talk about/ brag about her kids and now she can't!
I would feel like a failure too. And it's more than "they're making decisions you don't like." But all children have to make their own choices at some point and sometimes the devil just gets the stronghold. Rebuke their behavior and pray for them
Dr. John Delony is the male Oprah. Loooove the advice he gives. He was spot on with this one. : )
Oprah puts some people down.
John acting like he doesn’t know what only fans is hahahahahaha
He explains what it is later....he also fully said what she couldn't communicate. Don't know where people are getting he is pretending he "doesn't know"
He finally said it but didn’t go into detail. What adult especially male hasn’t looked at it?
@@johniii8147 I don't think my letters of correspondence look at it... lol jk.
@@johniii8147 Males who have morals.
Pretendships is a great phrase. Nice work
Pretendship haha I love it. All I can say to the caller is they’re not putting themselves in danger, they’re probably not showing her face. Don’t sweat it. You sound like such a lovely beautiful kind mom. I can see how it must be difficult but just remember they’re still the same people they always were.
There have been hundreds of husbands who killed their wife because they can't handle that their wife is doing porn, after they agreed to it and supported it.
I have done far worse and I had the best father in the world. He definitely didn't fail. As I get older, I didn't fail either, I just made some stupid choices.
The money will not be worth the lifetime of shame and embarrassment and the consequences that God will put back on you.
Thank you for your help. I needed these answers.
Love my man!!!!!! This is exactly what I wanted to hear!
Try not to judge too harshly. Just be there for them in case this implodes in which case they will need a soft place to land and not “I told you so”.
What they do as an adult has nothing to do with how good of a mom you are or not. My mom thinks like that, how I am is a direct result of how she was as a parent and fails to recognize that I have my own brain, that I'm not just a piece of software that she coded.
John gets some calls boy …
Bruh for real wtf 😂
All the people I know that went off the rails when they became adults are the ones who were raised in super strict religious households. From this lady's perspective, she probably thinks she did a great job instilling good ol' fashion traditional religious values into their kids. From the perspective of her kids, they would probably describe it much different.
@@rxses7714
No
@Joseph Burton
Being raised in a strict, conservative environment does not make a person go off the rails. People of low moral character are going to do selfish, immoral things regardless of upbringing.
I agree with you, but I don’t think this particular lady sounds like she was hardcore militant like that. She sounds heartbroken and worried, but I don’t hear any anger or contempt in her voice. She just sounds scared and sad, not scornful. I do agree with you about those type home environments causing kids to rebel, though. I’ve seen that exact scenario play out 100 times.
Eh the way I see it, it's a Husband and Wife monetizing their Marriage.
Have three brothers that are all drug addicts and violent criminals. We were not raised in a conservative environment lol
Your children are their own person
Says the porn pervert
“Carol, Carol”…. 😂 and “pretendships” were the true gems. 💎
You are such a good person. The end
If you raised your kids to think for themselves, they'll make choices you don't agree with once in a while.
If you didn't... that's when you failed
I needed to here this. My 2 children are making moral choices different then me. Hope she sees this.
“Pretendships” love that
It's calls like this one on the Dr. D Show that make me want to go back to school to be a therapist. I want to sit with people in the tough situations when they have no idea what to do and tell them, "Hey, you didn't fail. You're a good mom." And then figure out next steps from there
Been going through this crap and this has been extremely helpful.
I had to ask my roommate to leave because she was doing this. Not in my house. Bye!
When she started doing this, the vibe, energy in the house changed. The other roommates of the house could sense it too. A real evil energy.
If there are children involved I would report to child protective services.
That's not grounds to get your kids taken away from you though. Unless the kids are involved in the videos or photos which I'm guessing OF wouldn't allow to be uploaded. So the only thing that does is waste CPS' time & energy.
CPS won’t do a thing. It’s not illegal and they don’t police morality.
Wow I would have taken you to court
@@blackbutterfly233ify month to month lease...I am a teacher with a morality clause written into my contract. I only rent to fellow teachers (big high school of 5000 kids). During the pre move in interview, I clearly state no drugs or weird behavior. I had to kick out a roommate who was using kush, even though it was "legal". It's my house.
Good for you. You set good boundaries.
I understand where Carol is coming from, as a mom with Teens, I take all of my kids "failures" very personal....it's SO HARD not to.
This makes me so sad. I feel for her. But they are adults and will do as they please. Pray for them momma
@Kendl huh? I think you misunderstood my dear. I'm saying, they are leading their own lives now, with a questionable moral compass. Doing things that Jesus Christ would want us to repent for. So I say, pray for your kids, mommas!
Well Mom, you told him to do what he enjoys and he'll never work another day in his life. He took your advice and is now living the life. BTW, what is their Only Fans screen name? Asking for a friend.😊
disgusting.
@@patriciairwin9491 😂
@@patriciairwin9491yup. Onlyfans is a dreg on society.
I'm sorry but my first thought was ....huh wonder how much they make together haha
Same ahaha... It sounds like a lot if she was able to quit her job and they were really good on money now.
What’s their household income???
It’s helping them with their debt snowball. 😆
Dave would have been like well they paying the debt so I see no problem
None of your business to know salary.
@@arfriedman4577you must be new here
Meh we live in a new world. She didn’t fail. Her kids aren’t failing. They are just choosing easy money and independence over the 9-to-5 life. As long as they get their money and invest it wisely, hopefully in a more vanilla business, I don’t see the problem. This is just one phase in their life. As for the kids involved, it seems like pretty soon many mothers will have been in the onlyfans game. This world is changing, the stigma in soft-core pornography will disappear. I just hope that people in that industry save and invest. Sex work should be used as a stepping stone to something greater. This isn’t the end for this couple. I’m sure it’s the beginning. This mother is just shocked because the world she grew up in is breaking down. You can be a sex worker and still be a valuable part of the community. Most sex workers now aren’t drug addicts and lost children. They are average people.
Who are these ppl paying for OF? You can find anything on the internet for free
This
Something missing in this is the part that they choose to tell her. That should be a win, surprise the Dr didn’t talk about that. It must not have being easy for them to do that and she probably did raise him right for him to even bring it up. Not a fan of it and can see it from her perspective. But something worth noting, they didn’t try to hide it from her and she finds out from someone else.
I think they told her to rub it in her nose.
Delony thinking fast with that "fans only?" lmao
As a mom I’m always worried if my kids will grown up to be a good human, and make good choices, I think she has the right to be heart broken. I would too, but we can’t control what they do, when they grown up.
making porn does not make you a 'bad human'
@@usernameheda Maybe not on its own, but good people can make bad decisions, and it is unequivocally a bad decision.
@@agx8447 on your metric, not on everyone’s.
What if they're doing it to work the baby steps?
😂
Filthy earnings.
@@ladykemma3
So much more thanks to the pandemic, it’s so mainstream that being on online star will NO LONGER be Stigmatized anymore than trying cannabis is now in a parent’s past. It’ll be the old fogies that muleheadedly insist on judgmentalism
@@brutustantheiii8477Being a SW will likely always come with a stigma. And the more mainstream it becomes, the more people have begun to realize the plethora of problems it can create.
My adult son made the decision to participate in a lifestyle choice that I have chosen not to be involved in. He came home from Oregon a few years ago to visit and we had a deep conversation about his decisions. He wanted me to know, and I believe he was hoping that I would understand. It was hard to hear but I appreciate that he told me his truth. Internally I struggled with this info. for some time, but I finally made peace with his choice. I came to realize that this is his decision and my job now that he is an adult is to support him and not to judge him. I met his paramours and they are actually really nice women and they take good care of him and they love him and he loves them. In the end, this is what I want for my son. He is hurting no one, everyone involved wants to be involved. He does not tell me how to live my life and I made the conscious decision not to tell him how to live his life. He is a good, solid, hard working and productive man. I will focus on that and my love for him and his love for me. He was very relieved once he knew I knew. He wanted to be able to be open and real with me about his lifestyle. I made the choice to give him that.
That's great!
Failed as a mom? They're grown. They're going to do what they want. Nothing wrong with them wanting to do that. They might as well try to be the best at it that they can be if they enjoy it. Wouldn't tell mom though. Lol Don't know why they thought that was a good idea.
Kinda tough to explain to mom how you paid for the brand new BMW.
You might as well promote your onlyfans too since you’re defending it
@@k-mart7475 Nah. I would but I don't have the body for that. Lol
exactly. They are adults, legally working and paying their own way. I just don't know why they thought they needed to tell mom. Keep that crap to yourself!
This is not what you taught them this is a big decision on their part you did a great job
Don’t sit on the furniture at their house, Carol!
Lets be real, they probably told her to get some kind of reaction. Why else would you nees to reveal that level of detail
Sometimes people feel super guilty and the secret weighs on them. Also, they may not want her to be surprised if she finds out thru somebody else.
She's being forced to confront her own shame about her body and sexuality and is projecting that onto her children. They are not ashamed of their bodies or sexuality, but she definitely is. It's a great example of how each generation triggers the previous generation, allowing healing to occur.
@punkrocksmidge When you look at the data on p0rn actresses, it is much more likely the daughter-in-law has unhealed sexual shame. Maybe the caller does too, but someone who has an issue with their family member doing p0rn doesn't automatically have shame around bodies and sexuality. It's a great example of how you can't stop your loved ones from making self destructive choices.
She sounds so much like my former stepmother. Voice and everything. I could see her having this exact same reaction. This is about control that she thinks she's had and should still have. But you gotta let adult children be 100% responsible for themselves regardless of how bad the decisions they make.
I don't think it's about control. It's weird that you can birth someone and the whole universe could see up their butt if they want to
Carol you didn't fail, the one making the most money is his wife and you didn't raise her
The fact that they felt they could talk to her about this was
A) so brave and
1A) a testament to her awesome relationship with them.
They’ll need to lean on this fantastic communication openness of hers if and when this decision ever turns bad for them. And they can count on her. Because she doesn’t judge. And they trust that she’ll be there for them.
Meanwhile, she can brace herself for her friends’ husbands, friends, and family members who will inevitably see this at some point or might already be the wife’s “fans”. Because with the massive proliferation of porn since the pandemic - like 800x the opportunity there that it already was before that - it’s a sure thing that somebody who knows this mom will or has seen her daughter in law and might mention it or avert their eyes after enjoying their viewing.
The fact that they do it at all and had the barefaced gaul tlto tell her and expect her to be OK with it is degenerate and disgusting. They're pigs and vile to put her through this.
@@racheljames7 maybe you're the judge in your religion, bit God's the judge in mine, and I feel confident He has every soul He needs on a path to His plan, even of their path doesn't match my own or the plan I'd make for them. I pray they get and learn whatever they need from this experience.
I once saw a woman who had been trafficked through porn going out on the Vegas strip, once converted, talking to women or victims in the life who felf they could open up to her and trust her, because she had been through it. She's connect them with resources as a ministry. Her pain became their salvation from it.
I have no idea what droves some down that road to hell, but it seems like from their honestly their path is paved with good intentions. I pray God keeps them safe enough to spark a light in somebody's darkness through their experience.
This made me, a stranger, feel so depressed and weird even though I myself am dealing with some serious philosophy on my own at the moment.
Humans are so frigging complicated.
When John said FansOnly I was like bro.. you KNOW!
Get over yourself carol, You did your job raising them. Now they’re grown and they’re allowed to make what you think are mistakes you’re allowed to be disappointed. Don’t ruin the relationship
Says the person that most likely subscribes to OF.
@@AAA-ng3qk what in the goddamn?!
I so want her to be the ganster granny and love but mock them.
Could you imagine?! “Oops, forgot to zip your fly! Don’t want you to have to charge me.”
Delony show is so wild lol
If she had failed, they would not have been open with her. She has succeeded, and so has her son.
Bingo!
I don't think telling your mom about your porn is a great definition of success. Maybe they're successful but I don't think that's a good indicator 😅
Exactly!
This is devastating
Why
You know what... the longer I listen to this the more I think that Carol going to the site to join up is a great idea. I know people who have done similar things and been embarrassed when Mom found out. Well, honey, you put it on the internet for everyone to see... so here I am!
Haha you know what, you’re actually right. How would they feel if mom started watching and paying? Would the couple then feel like maybe their intimate parts of themselves shouldn’t be online?
Man I saw a thing where the OF girl found out that her stepdad was spending all his money watching her stuff
Worth a try. Heaven forbid! anyone in my family got into porno/prostitution I would try anything to get them to stop. I am also wondering if they are filming at their home and if yes is their child or children in the home at the time. @@kathyalex778
I'll have to watch the video and then determine whether or not there is failure. But in all seriousness it is not the parents fault what their adult children choose to do. You should carry no guilt in that at all.
The sad truth of it is only fans has been known to break up relationships. And those kids are going to be endlessly tormented because it is not a matter of if but when people find out and they are going to ruin those children's lives.
Carol.......you didn't fail.
They fail their kids by doing this this is not something to be proud of and they are because it easyer then having a real job
Wow. This video hits home for me today. My daughter ran out and did something today that makes my husband and myself feel like - wow. I feel like a failure as a mom because I wish she valued herself more not to do these self destructive things. She’s an adult and can make her own decisions. But, as a mom, I sympathize with this caller. It always hurts you as a mom when your adult child does obviously self destructive things. It makes you feel like a failure because, in your own mind, if you were a successful parent then your kids wouldn’t be self injuring. You can beat up on this lady all you like. But, I can tell you, even after you try your very best it still hurts when your adult kids harm themselves. You see them as strong and beautiful people and can’t comprehend what you see. It’s that simple.
I really, really dislike big mouth parents! Be quiet woman, don't tell a soul and mnd your business. Focus on spending more time with your grandchildren. Seriously, just be quiet before they shut you out of their lives forever!
Trust me they will regret this long term. She needs to stay away from them.
If everyone "stayed away" from their children that made choices they didn't like there wouldn't be anyone in the world who spoke to their children.
@@bradleyquinonesbrandt3302 This stuff is very serious. If someone is using drugs, you stay away. If they get arrested, you get arrested.
Ppl sell their body all the time...manual labor all that. It's none of this moms business as long as the kids are safe and not being abused by the industry she shouldn't be involved. It's not like they are selling drugs...it's legal.
Let's not compare manual labor to this lol
When someone tells you something, it is absolutely your business how you feel about it. You can't tell them what to do and you may not like it, but that's why she called- to get advice on how to handle this. And, legality is not the moral line. I find some things completely moral that are illegal, and plenty of things totally immoral but are still legal.
The issue isn’t about the kids. It’s a pride and fear issue for her. Understandably. If they are super happy going that job then what’s the problem? It’s not up to anyone to pass judgement on their decisions. She will because humans do but a judgement is just an observation that you know better. You might. But probably don’t. And better for who? This call is about the lady unpacking stories that turn up negatively for her. She doesn’t know better. and it’s not her right. I would love for you to explore what it’s about? Other people’s judgement? Sex stigma? Let them have fun. Nothing wrong if no one is hurting. You will be more damage to the relationship if you resist it. Seen it a ton of times. All the best. Love conquers all
Making a lot of money legally? Sounds like a great decision to me.
This is not a part time job… if they change their mind, all that stuff did online will be there forever…
This sucks. I feel bad for her. As a single mom her son should do better in terms of honoring her instead of making her feel ashamed.
No, then the son would be living through what his mother wants. Mom needs to accept that sex work is not something that should be seen as taboo anymore. Everyone does it, it sells, and it's only getting more profitable.
“Everyone does it” Is an overstatement of the year 😂 Mostly lost people who have zero self respect do it. Peace ✌️
@@OM-or3im - 100%. Just because everyone jumps off a cliff doesn’t mean you should do it too. I find the whole OnlyFans thing absolutely disgusting. AND they have kids?! It’s horrible.
Bravo!!!