You are right, videos like this help other people. I am (a lot) older than you, but youtube videos helped me decided to transition. I saw that there were other "normal" trans people out there. Your videos are also affirming, it is comforting to see other trans people just being. Thanks!
I'm so so glad to hear that this sort of thing has helped you get to where you are, and I really hope by continuing to put myself out there, I can help other people feel more comfortable with the idea of transitioning. Much love, ~B
I live in "stealth" cause I live in a traditionally conservative midwestern state and I have found most people around here can accept someone who is gay or lesbian but have real trouble accepting someone who is trans. Think I have told a dozen people in 25+ years.. Sometimes I think it all depends on your circle and sometimes from my experience I think it's best to "feel" people out on the subject before you tell them.
Just seeing this today, I’m learning more and this speaks a lot to me. Regardless of how far this message goes, it reached me. I’m new in this journey and my mind is already a mess. Thank you for speaking something, anything, that gives a few of us a voice and helps us put our own unique thoughts together. Stay strong and live long
I have been working in the same team for 10 years in stealth. Last week I made an announcement to the whole team about my trans history and got back nothing but love, appreciation and support. Things are going really well. I can finally relax and not worry about outing my self. out and proud.
Open, honest, genuine, likeable, beautiful and true to yourself and the trans community. You are a remarkable young woman and an amazing ambassador for those that are trans and suffering from GD. You rock. In the words of Led Zeppelin... Ramble On x
You are WAY too nice. Thank you so much ❤️ I'm really happy to have this platform and incredibly grateful for amazingly kind comments such as this. P.s. love that you brought Led Zeppelin into this hahahah 🤟🎶
I liked this! I think it really is videos like this that helps trans people find the confidence to live their lives more authentically. Also, I think you're right in that finding ways to be more public in your trans identity will definitely help to make safer places and experiences. I'm trying to make sure I'm doing the same when I can. Also, it seems that when trans people get to a point when they can easily fit into the binary, they seem to disappear and I feel like its so important for these people to be more visible. It's like being able to see that proof? You know? Like every trans persons experience and life path is different but if I could have met or seen more trans women who were years into their lives, it would have let me relax and feel like life might actually turn out. Instead, I've found most of the people that are visible are those who are also reaching out (often in time of crisis) and while that's also important, it means most trans people starting their journey are prone to seeing a lot of negative experiences which builds so much anxiety about this journey. Thanks for making this.
Oh gosh, thank you for this incredibly lovely comment. You bring up such a salient point, and it makes me a bit emotional to consider. Those who are new to their transition are really forced to be visible, and I feel like the beginning stretch of a transition is *often* the most anxiety-inducing and generally difficult period. It seems way too common that many vulnerable trans people end up bonding with each other over shared trauma. I could do a whole other video on the issues of substance abuse, mental health, and drug-dominated social environments that revolve around the shared experiences of being outcast by society... I just hope I, you, and many others can help set examples of a happy ending. Because they exist. Thank you, again 💛 :)
It must be wonderful to know you can move on to living stealth (and gosh, you certainly could). But leaving these videos up as guidance and support for those that are starting their own transitions is a courageous and selfless decision, particularly in this political moment. Your reasons for doing so are even more commendable, and reflect your dedication to the long-term well-being of the trans community. Your wisdom, contemplation, and kindness really shine through in this video. Thank you for contributing your voice.
This means more to me than I can put into words. Life is so full of uncertainty and doubt, and knowing that I can have any kind of positive impact with these videos gives me a sense of hope and comfort. From the bottom of my heart, thank you, and I wish you the very best. ❤️
You are so beautiful. I love the video . I am transgender mtf 38 years old. I started my transition 2 years ago. I am out and proud on my Facebook and with my family. I run a Trans support group and I am think about starting a CZcams channel so I could help reach more people who are at a similar age group. Being out scared me at the beginning of my transition, I hated being trans. I now have embraced my transness I am happy and proud of being trans. I think once people can embrace who they are the freer and happier they'll be. Thank you for this video again. I look forward seeing more of your content.
Thank you so much, Savannah! And I think you're totally right. I feel like the good majority of people are scared in the beginning, and understandably so, but once you learn to accept and embrace who you are, it feels so so much more comfortable and liberating
Since you mentioned possibly doing a QnA, here's a random question I have. In coming out did you have any obstacles in the realm of conservative/religious parents or just closed minded family or friends?
I get what mean about considering deleting your channel and just going stealth, it would make perfect sense on one level, that you would be spared any discrimination as a transwoman. ( and just have regular old discrimination for being a perceived as a cisgender woman) I think when I was younger that would have my dream but I didn't come out until later in life and now that I have I really don't think going stealth is what younger people think it's cracked up to be. I imagine it involves a lot of secrecy and not even telling people close to you a pretty fundamental part of who you are. For me that would be just as bad as never coming out. The ability to honest with myself and others about who and what I am is a big part of why I came out. I applaud your decision to stay visible and therefore help others.👍👍👍👍
I completely understand the decision that many make to stay in stealth. Safety is a very, very real concern (as well as a number of other factors), however, the more time passes since I decided to stay public about this, the more confident I feel with it. Being transgender is by no means the most important part of who I am, and it certainly isn't a personality trait, but it's undeniably affected my life and is a significant part of my life that I no longer wish to hide. I really appreciate you sharing your feelings and your perspective :)
@@boonewilliams5338 I wouldn't judge anyone who goes stealth either and like I said I probably would have chosen to do that if it had possible when I was younger but I think there's a trade off in having to be secretive for the rest of your life that most people don't realize. I think it just comes with its own challenges. I really like your channel, without being too bitchy a lot of other channels by transwomen seem to revolve around the same three topics " Does liking transwomen make me gay." " The surgery " and " how to date a transwoman " these topics often seem to be of more interest to cisgender people than us and that's fine and all but it's refreshing to see a channel like yours, keep on doing what you do!
@@katedeaux2039 Thank you so much! I really enjoy getting to talk about things that are interesting to me and starting dialogues that I think don't often get opened up
So here is a prime example of why the concept of transgender is having so many difficulties. Straight : basic, simple, easy to understand Gay : opposite of straight, but still simple Bisexual: likes both, not as simple, but fairly easy to understand. Transgender: infinite variables, basic language no longer applies Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people have had a hard enough time being accepted and having to fight for rights they had in the first place but weren’t respected. Then comes transgender and words no longer have meaning. Man is now woman. Wait, what? Uncle Harry ( hairy) with full beard puts on a sun dress is instantly a woman. Not an easy sell. Alex has surgery, hormones, and becomes Alexandria. That’s much easier to understand whether she’s known to be transgender or not. Of course there are variations in between Harry and Alexandria. Pronouns: He or she is simple enough to understand. Might be a bit much to expect folks to call Harry “she”, but go for it. I would personally think hairy Harry lost a football bet and respond with “sir” or “princess” in the same conversation while complimenting the shoes and nails. They: where’s “they” at ? I only see one person. I learned to count to one accurately years ago. MTF gay lesbian: what !?!?!? “Mathematically” that adds up to a straight guy. But looks like a girl. A transgender person is a human being and deserves the rights and respect that any other human does. It is very difficult to get that respect or gain acceptance when the entire dictionary no longer has any meaning. Things won’t improve if people can’t communicate. I spent a large part of my career keeping aircraft in the sky safely. Airline travel may not fare so well if the sky becomes the ground. I’m a straight male. I find women attractive. I find some trans women attractive. Be who you’re gonna be. Be you with whomever is compatible for you.
Yes, more lesbian rambles! There's so little representation that just being able to live a decent life as a trans lesbian is trailblazing. I think it'll inspire other trans women who like women to share your experiences, because most of what's out there is dour hopelessness.
It's really sad how right you are. I, admittedly, don't have the best set up here, but I will keep trying to put out videos and talk about my experiences, on this platform. Thank you 💛
You mention how the trans part of your identity often comes before and maybe overshadow the lesbian part of your identity. I think when you tell people you're trans, they might assume you're already in a much wider world of gender, with friends from all over the spectrum (this part may be true for many ofc) and that gender wouldn't matter as much to you as a trans person because of it. And to some extent some would also think that since you are gay now you were "born straight" and it's more natural for a trans person to be gay, and thus less of a deal. No one has ever said this to me directly, but I've gotten the feeling that this is a way people think. Most people around me don't know much about what it means to be trans, and neither did I a few years ago, so most conversations I've had about it have been quite... interesting. Little do my friends know they're about to learn more. Also, talk about cartoons. Cartoons are nice. :)
Omg how bout cartoons that show lgbtq+ support? I also love cartoons 💕 specially those that are fun and inclusive. Thanks for the vid too, people should really acknowledge the trans community ❤️
Living Stelth has been Great for me. You don't need to tell your personal life if you don't want to. Everyone Accepts me as a cis woman. God bless you.
You look rather nice, imo. 2 questions. What % of transgender women are lesbian? Also, do a lot of lesbians get upset if a transgender woman does not disclose the first date?
Thank you! :) Unfortunately, I can't answer either of those questions. I have no idea what the percentage is, and my only long-term girlfriend knew from the beginning. Since then, I've had one experience dating where I didn't initially mention that I was trans. When I told her later, she was completely cool with it. Other trans people will have various answers and various experiences.
You like to date women? How do women react to you when you tell them you are trans? Are they like many men when they find out a woman is trans? Are women's reactions the same as men? Thanks. Good luck. Ps Do you think you are more attractive to women as a female compared before your transition. Also are you more confident approaching women as a woman?
I honestly haven't had the experience of telling women I'm trans many times. I've only been in one serious relationship, and that started in my early transition, so she already knew. I do think I appear more attractive now, just because I'm way more confident in myself. I feel much more comfortable in my own skin and secure in who I am as a woman, so I think that creates a more attractive presentation.
@@afonphoenix394 didn't say she doesn't pass at all, but there are much better ones. If you want to see what her passing problems are, read her kiwifarms thread. :-)
You are right, videos like this help other people. I am (a lot) older than you, but youtube videos helped me decided to transition. I saw that there were other "normal" trans people out there. Your videos are also affirming, it is comforting to see other trans people just being. Thanks!
I'm so so glad to hear that this sort of thing has helped you get to where you are, and I really hope by continuing to put myself out there, I can help other people feel more comfortable with the idea of transitioning.
Much love,
~B
I live in "stealth" cause I live in a traditionally conservative midwestern state and I have found most people around here can accept someone who is gay or lesbian but have real trouble accepting someone who is trans. Think I have told a dozen people in 25+ years.. Sometimes I think it all depends on your circle and sometimes from my experience I think it's best to "feel" people out on the subject before you tell them.
Thank you so much; your videos mean so much to us. I'm 42, and I came out as trans 10 months ago. You've taught me so much
I am so so honored and glad. Thank you so much for this wonderfuly kind comment, and I'm sending you all the best wishes on your journey 🥳❤️
Just seeing this today, I’m learning more and this speaks a lot to me.
Regardless of how far this message goes, it reached me.
I’m new in this journey and my mind is already a mess. Thank you for speaking something, anything, that gives a few of us a voice and helps us put our own unique thoughts together.
Stay strong and live long
I have been working in the same team for 10 years in stealth. Last week I made an announcement to the whole team about my trans history and got back nothing but love, appreciation and support. Things are going really well. I can finally relax and not worry about outing my self. out and proud.
I am SO happy to hear that. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. 💛
All the best,
~🐝
Open, honest, genuine, likeable, beautiful and true to yourself and the trans community. You are a remarkable young woman and an amazing ambassador for those that are trans and suffering from GD. You rock. In the words of Led Zeppelin... Ramble On x
You are WAY too nice. Thank you so much ❤️ I'm really happy to have this platform and incredibly grateful for amazingly kind comments such as this. P.s. love that you brought Led Zeppelin into this hahahah 🤟🎶
@@boonewilliams5338 your gorgeous I'm a guy who loves trans women, I'm just not open about it yet.
I liked this! I think it really is videos like this that helps trans people find the confidence to live their lives more authentically.
Also, I think you're right in that finding ways to be more public in your trans identity will definitely help to make safer places and experiences. I'm trying to make sure I'm doing the same when I can.
Also, it seems that when trans people get to a point when they can easily fit into the binary, they seem to disappear and I feel like its so important for these people to be more visible. It's like being able to see that proof? You know?
Like every trans persons experience and life path is different but if I could have met or seen more trans women who were years into their lives, it would have let me relax and feel like life might actually turn out. Instead, I've found most of the people that are visible are those who are also reaching out (often in time of crisis) and while that's also important, it means most trans people starting their journey are prone to seeing a lot of negative experiences which builds so much anxiety about this journey.
Thanks for making this.
Oh gosh, thank you for this incredibly lovely comment. You bring up such a salient point, and it makes me a bit emotional to consider. Those who are new to their transition are really forced to be visible, and I feel like the beginning stretch of a transition is *often* the most anxiety-inducing and generally difficult period. It seems way too common that many vulnerable trans people end up bonding with each other over shared trauma. I could do a whole other video on the issues of substance abuse, mental health, and drug-dominated social environments that revolve around the shared experiences of being outcast by society...
I just hope I, you, and many others can help set examples of a happy ending.
Because they exist.
Thank you, again 💛 :)
That was a great vlog.
You make me feel not alone and you are sweet and very likable.
I can't describe how much this means to me. I am so so happy to know that I can provide some comfort for you.
Thank you so much 🥺❤️
A great video. Thanks
Thank you so much!!!
It must be wonderful to know you can move on to living stealth (and gosh, you certainly could). But leaving these videos up as guidance and support for those that are starting their own transitions is a courageous and selfless decision, particularly in this political moment. Your reasons for doing so are even more commendable, and reflect your dedication to the long-term well-being of the trans community. Your wisdom, contemplation, and kindness really shine through in this video. Thank you for contributing your voice.
This means more to me than I can put into words. Life is so full of uncertainty and doubt, and knowing that I can have any kind of positive impact with these videos gives me a sense of hope and comfort. From the bottom of my heart, thank you, and I wish you the very best. ❤️
You are so beautiful. I love the video . I am transgender mtf 38 years old. I started my transition 2 years ago. I am out and proud on my Facebook and with my family. I run a Trans support group and I am think about starting a CZcams channel so I could help reach more people who are at a similar age group. Being out scared me at the beginning of my transition, I hated being trans. I now have embraced my transness I am happy and proud of being trans. I think once people can embrace who they are the freer and happier they'll be. Thank you for this video again. I look forward seeing more of your content.
Thank you so much, Savannah! And I think you're totally right. I feel like the good majority of people are scared in the beginning, and understandably so, but once you learn to accept and embrace who you are, it feels so so much more comfortable and liberating
Since you mentioned possibly doing a QnA, here's a random question I have. In coming out did you have any obstacles in the realm of conservative/religious parents or just closed minded family or friends?
So damn proud of you young lady!!!!!!! You are a star.
Aw Thank you so so much!!!! You're the best
It's the voice. It's always the VOICE that gets these girls spooked. If you have a good voice, you won't need so much surgery.
Possibly not a "celebrity", but deliberative and thoughtful person... - Farley A.
Aw thanks so much, Farley! :)
Good for you ❤️. You can be an actor if you want. ☺️ That would be fun.
I had no idea you uploaded, as I didnt get a notification
Aw shoot. Have you clicked the bell by the subscribe button?
@@boonewilliams5338 yes.
I agree with all of this so much! I'm doing the same thing to help normalize being trans.
Heck yeah!!! We're all in this together :))
I get what mean about considering deleting your channel and just going stealth, it would make perfect sense on one level, that you would be spared any discrimination as a transwoman. ( and just have regular old discrimination for being a perceived as a cisgender woman) I think when I was younger that would have my dream but I didn't come out until later in life and now that I have I really don't think going stealth is what younger people think it's cracked up to be. I imagine it involves a lot of secrecy and not even telling people close to you a pretty fundamental part of who you are. For me that would be just as bad as never coming out. The ability to honest with myself and others about who and what I am is a big part of why I came out. I applaud your decision to stay visible and therefore help others.👍👍👍👍
I completely understand the decision that many make to stay in stealth. Safety is a very, very real concern (as well as a number of other factors), however, the more time passes since I decided to stay public about this, the more confident I feel with it. Being transgender is by no means the most important part of who I am, and it certainly isn't a personality trait, but it's undeniably affected my life and is a significant part of my life that I no longer wish to hide.
I really appreciate you sharing your feelings and your perspective :)
@@boonewilliams5338 I wouldn't judge anyone who goes stealth either and like I said I probably would have chosen to do that if it had possible when I was younger but I think there's a trade off in having to be secretive for the rest of your life that most people don't realize. I think it just comes with its own challenges. I really like your channel, without being too bitchy a lot of other channels by transwomen seem to revolve around the same three topics " Does liking transwomen make me gay." " The surgery " and " how to date a transwoman " these topics often seem to be of more interest to cisgender people than us and that's fine and all but it's refreshing to see a channel like yours, keep on doing what you do!
@@katedeaux2039 Thank you so much! I really enjoy getting to talk about things that are interesting to me and starting dialogues that I think don't often get opened up
So here is a prime example of why the concept of transgender is having so many difficulties.
Straight : basic, simple, easy to understand
Gay : opposite of straight, but still simple
Bisexual: likes both, not as simple, but fairly easy to understand.
Transgender: infinite variables, basic language no longer applies
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people have had a hard enough time being accepted and having to fight for rights they had in the first place but weren’t respected.
Then comes transgender and words no longer have meaning.
Man is now woman. Wait, what?
Uncle Harry ( hairy) with full beard puts on a sun dress is instantly a woman. Not an easy sell.
Alex has surgery, hormones, and becomes Alexandria. That’s much easier to understand whether she’s known to be transgender or not.
Of course there are variations in between Harry and Alexandria.
Pronouns:
He or she is simple enough to understand. Might be a bit much to expect folks to call Harry “she”, but go for it. I would personally think hairy Harry lost a football bet and respond with “sir” or “princess” in the same conversation while complimenting the shoes and nails.
They: where’s “they” at ? I only see one person. I learned to count to one accurately years ago.
MTF gay lesbian: what !?!?!?
“Mathematically” that adds up to a straight guy. But looks like a girl.
A transgender person is a human being and deserves the rights and respect that any other human does.
It is very difficult to get that respect or gain acceptance when the entire dictionary no longer has any meaning. Things won’t improve if people can’t communicate.
I spent a large part of my career keeping aircraft in the sky safely.
Airline travel may not fare so well if the sky becomes the ground.
I’m a straight male. I find women attractive. I find some trans women attractive.
Be who you’re gonna be. Be you with whomever is compatible for you.
didn't know the expression and I thought it was something about trans woman on the CIA.
Yes, more lesbian rambles! There's so little representation that just being able to live a decent life as a trans lesbian is trailblazing. I think it'll inspire other trans women who like women to share your experiences, because most of what's out there is dour hopelessness.
It's really sad how right you are. I, admittedly, don't have the best set up here, but I will keep trying to put out videos and talk about my experiences, on this platform. Thank you 💛
You are gorgeous!!!!
Aw thank you!!
You mention how the trans part of your identity often comes before and maybe overshadow the lesbian part of your identity. I think when you tell people you're trans, they might assume you're already in a much wider world of gender, with friends from all over the spectrum (this part may be true for many ofc) and that gender wouldn't matter as much to you as a trans person because of it. And to some extent some would also think that since you are gay now you were "born straight" and it's more natural for a trans person to be gay, and thus less of a deal. No one has ever said this to me directly, but I've gotten the feeling that this is a way people think. Most people around me don't know much about what it means to be trans, and neither did I a few years ago, so most conversations I've had about it have been quite... interesting. Little do my friends know they're about to learn more.
Also, talk about cartoons. Cartoons are nice. :)
You're beautiful girl
Thank you so much 🥺🧡
Oh could you do a review of an anime ? A silent voice, namely.
I very much appreciate the idea, but unfortunately I'm not much of an anime person :/
Omg how bout cartoons that show lgbtq+ support? I also love cartoons 💕 specially those that are fun and inclusive. Thanks for the vid too, people should really acknowledge the trans community ❤️
That's a great idea!!! There's a very good chance you'll see a video about that soon ;)) And, thank you for watching!! ❤
I live stealth with my husband because it’s no ones business to know my body and my past
holy shit.
Are you out to your husband ?
Living Stelth has been Great for me. You don't need to tell your personal life if you don't want to. Everyone Accepts me as a cis woman. God bless you.
I get that, but isn’t it scary to always have the “what if I’m exposed” feeling hanging over you?
U r gorg honey-luv u sweetie xx
Aww you're so sweet!! Thank you😊💛💛
You look rather nice, imo. 2 questions.
What % of transgender women are lesbian?
Also, do a lot of lesbians get upset if a transgender woman does not disclose the first date?
Thank you! :) Unfortunately, I can't answer either of those questions. I have no idea what the percentage is, and my only long-term girlfriend knew from the beginning. Since then, I've had one experience dating where I didn't initially mention that I was trans. When I told her later, she was completely cool with it. Other trans people will have various answers and various experiences.
I love pre op gurls
Celebrity. Fast forward to now.. Elliot Page.
If he can do it so can you!
It's an honor to be mentioned in the same breath as him ❤
@@boonewilliams5338 enjoyed your video... I’m a straight 58 yr old male... and I found it inspiring.
Thx!
@@clays1507 Thank you so much :)
You like to date women? How do women react to you when you tell them you are trans? Are they like many men when they find out a woman is trans? Are women's reactions the same as men? Thanks.
Good luck.
Ps
Do you think you are more attractive to women as a female compared before your transition. Also are you more confident approaching women as a woman?
I honestly haven't had the experience of telling women I'm trans many times. I've only been in one serious relationship, and that started in my early transition, so she already knew. I do think I appear more attractive now, just because I'm way more confident in myself. I feel much more comfortable in my own skin and secure in who I am as a woman, so I think that creates a more attractive presentation.
@@boonewilliams5338 Thanks good luck.
Your beautiful 😍
OMG what a great passing in looks and voice. Much better than Blaire White and even Samantha Lux. With that, going stealth is very easy.
Blaire White is georgeous, how is she not passing?
@@afonphoenix394 didn't say she doesn't pass at all, but there are much better ones. If you want to see what her passing problems are, read her kiwifarms thread. :-)
@@afonphoenix394 it’s the voice I think. Her voice sounds altered whilst this woman sounds like a cis woman.
Unless you're comfortable with the fire and Fury that comes with being cancelled over soon me mild transgression, don't be so eager to be "famous".
THEY AL=L PASS
You’re just a woman to me
lol. i am an xx transwoman.
What is a man supposed to look like?
🤍🏳️⚧️✨