Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Hi U saying here because u try to tell other people don't make mistake and don't end ur relationship And same time u express ur feeling to people like taking to smone Be brave bro try again if there is any chance. Tak cr
I tried to stay with a cheater for the sake of my daughter, but couldn't. Once trust is broken, a marriage can't continue. She is right about women. We can forgive, but the love light dies.
12 yrs married with 3 children currently husband working abroad cheated on me found out when he came to visite us for his short break found lots of picture with a one friend, it wasn't good always on my head but gave him last chance for the sake of our children
My girls were 1 and 4 years old when my wife was love bombed by her narcissist co worker. He dumped her after 1 month because he got what he wanted and because i knew his identity. Now I had a homeless wife and mother. I knew she could potentially pick a new man that could have access to my girls. Her weak mind was just bowled over by a narcissist so i didn't want any strange men of her choice to be near my daughters. Yes i stayed with her and it's been 35 years of marriage. Still hurts today 25 years later.
How can he just leave after 35 years. He can’t punish her for something she did 25 years ago, especially after he decided to get back together with her. That says a lot about your character, the fact you put your children first in that situation.
Thank you for choosing to put your children past all of it. I hope your kids appreciate you for the gem you are. Maybe explore couples therapy so you can revisit the past and speak your mind, if it doesn't work, your kids are grown now you can move on
@@regalchic I will say both my daughters have married high value men and they all have high paying jobs and have bought homes. They are bright girls and i like to think having two parents in a solid family unit had something to do with their success. I Know my wife was weak and it was a painful event. She's also grateful that i took her back. Once her mind cleared, she realized what she almost destroyed. She has never repeated that mistake, this I'm sure of.
With or without children, release yourself by forgiving them & leave the relationship. One life & time does not wait for nobody. Blessings & light on your journey 💯💋❤️
From my own experience I would say to absolutely forgive them. After the initial shock I I realized I didn’t know her as well as I thought I did. The mistake I made was not forgiving her on a daily basis. Also, in this type of case it’s important to move on immediately. Get money in order, work in order, friends identified, and move on. Don’t react, don’t act out, don’t yell and scream or make threats, just leave her and move on.I’m not saying ignore the fact you’re hurt I’m saying don’t act on it. I got a good job, dependable vehicles, place to live and even told her I hoped it worked out for them. They fell apart, she asked to come back and I said nope. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I go back to the same situation it means I give up revenge, keep myself together and move on. Easier said than done.
Forgive not forget is what you are talking about. I think it is much harder though to try to work it out with your spouse after they cheated as opposed to just moving on. If you had children with her it isn't that easy to just move on.
Oh trust me when I was 18 I didn't handle it well. Now days I can tell when the gal I'm dating has someone else lined up. It's amazing to watch all the tells they put out. I don't even sweat it. Not my girl, just my turn.@@poopoopeepee4233
My husband had been cheating from the beginning, but I didn't find out until after we had kids. I chose to forgive him and stay. He continued to cheat but got better at hiding it. He took my forgiveness as a license to do as he pleased. My needs went unmet more and more, my workload increased in the household as he refused to get a vasectomy and I was unable to take birth control. He knew I was "trapped" and cheated time and time again, especially while I was pregnant and battling serious health issues that worsened over time from lack of proper care and lifestyle. Women who cheat MAY learn their lesson and stop after one failed affair, but in my experience, men who cheat have zero regard for how their actions affect others and it's healthier to leave the situation.
@kofiakuffo129 Only legally, for now. I finally met my limit and am doing better without him near me. I have learned a lot and blessed with my beautiful children but have lost all faith in men and most people in general. My family is completely dysfunctional as well so I am essentially alone in all of it. If it weren't for my babies and my faith in Jesus I honestly wouldn't be here.
I am soo glad you mentioned Jesus, i wanted to ask if you are a Christian but you know these days people get offended with such a question. With Jesus in your life trust me He will heal and make your life whole again but before that you must ask Him(Jesus) for grace to completely forgive and let go of any pain your husband have caused you. It only when you have truly forgiven him that Jesus can step in to help you get life back. As you know already no one does it best than our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ but first He commands to forgive. The Lord will definitely see you through my sister. I will add you to my prayer list.
@kofiakuffo129 Yes absolutely, thank you so much for that. I'm so grateful for your prayers and support 🙏 The Lord is so good always and was even the one to expose the truth about my husband to me. I know he'll bring me through it and there are better things in store 🙌 God bless you sister!
Someone cheats, you leave them. There is more trust. Cheating requires lying and manipulation.....why would you want to stay with someone who does that? Also, don't forgive the cheater, but you MUST forgive yourself.
You can absolutely forgive them. But you don’t have to be with them. Because we all know, that once the trust has been broken things will never be the same.
Yes you can forgive the person but stay in a relationship with them ? No. The relationship is done but instead of harboring those negative feelings - forgive to let go
It was super hard but it made my marriage much better... He finally woke up.... There is a difference between a bad person and a good person that does one thing bad... The two shouldn't be treated the same.. If a good woman commits to you and chooses you and only you but you reward her devotion with years of sexless marriage, Not hearing what she is telling you and basically forcing her to be in celibacy but at the same time expecting long-term devotion from her is hypocritically ludicrous and emotionally abusive... Sometimes (both) people need a reality check to see if they can build a different and a better relationship
Women also hate themselves for not leaving. By staying, you're telling yourself you're not worthy of loyalty, regardless of your gender. When you stay, you will feel betrayed by TWO people - your partner and yourself. You will shrink and become a sad loser, acting out in what could otherwise be minor or ambiguous situations. She can be very insightful on many topics, but her opinion on cheating is too generalised, short-sighted and harmful.
I believe a man who cheats will lose respect for a woman that overlooks it as well. It's one thing for a person to disrespect you by cheating, it's another thing for you to disrespect yourself by tolerating it. I would genuinely forgive, bless them, pray for them and release. No need to debase myself by staying with that. It's okay to expect more for yourself.
Forgive by letting go. Respect is lost when they cheat it wont be Regained. You taking thek back is telling them it was okay. And theyll do it again. If you cheat because they did they wont be forgiving or okay with it.
Suspicion of cheating, even when it's not real or substantiated, can be just as damaging to a relationship. So if one partner has constant suspicions, it will corrode your relationship regardless if there is actual cheating. Personally, I find this kind of jealousy hard to understand, because I don't see the point in chasing someone who's attention is elsewhere. And jealousy itself can drive a partner away; I've watched it happen in many couples.
Nobody ever changed just by listening but through immense hurt and trauma...so just someone saying them what's good they ain't gonna give a shit...better to dumb these craps to their situation as you do deserve too what you are giving
I'm a woman and I would forgive no matter what but NOT stay with the person or overlook it. I forgive you now go in peace lol.... If I stayed, I would hate myself too. My dignity and self-respect is worth far more than any person on the planet. Plenty of fish even after decades of being with a person because an individual with such a lack of integrity, self-control, and often times a lack of communication skills is not someone I'm willing to remain tied to. Bottom line is that I would never tolerate that kind of disrespect. Period. Never have, never will.
Guys, if you are ever cheated on by your wife you can stick around for the kids and if the sec is great why not however, at some point you have to leave when the children turn 14. Or you risk dying within, self degradations and mental health. That is worse. Marriage is a risk, not everyone will turn up as a winner. When it didn’t work out hey give yourself a pad on the back and tell yourself you were courages and it was a good run.
100% agreed. I have children with her. Unfortunately kids are part of family now. I'm learning how to forgive and move on. Honestly it's not easy. And I won't forgive but for children sake I think I can move on.. eventually wait till children get older and I'll move on on personal level.
They come back when you don't want them anymore. Find yourself and detach from the need for them. Meditate, a lot. When you love yourself, put yourself first, that's what attracts people to you. It's a pull energy, you go inward to yourself. It's the reverse of the push, the outward energy which pushes them away. When you're in pushing energy, people can only pull away. When you're in pulling energy, people can only push toward you. This is how the universe works, it's the laws of physics, metaphysics, and spiritual. Meditation is the answer to everything IMO, it works. You go inward to your soul. You connect with who you truly are, and your intuition, and your spiritual team which is always available to you with love and help, and the divine. Meditate lots. ❤❤
You know what cheaters really hate the most is getting cheated on themselves, and thats what happened. Well, it wasn't really cheating cause the trust was gone, and they became single at the moment.
Hi, Im 28 y/o male married to 27y/o female we have 2 yrs old son. She cheating on me for 4 months, now im in a difficult situation where I want to leave her but At the same time I wanna stayed because of my son! Gimme some advice.
I say forgive them, leave them then forget they ever happened. I only say forgive for your own peace of mind and clarity because you don’t want negative thoughts about it lingering in your mind. Eventually the victim will heal and that just shows how strong of an individual you are, but the cheater is always going to hold that title. Even if you tell the cheater that you forgive them, then walk away, it is going to destroy them. Their plan of getting at you by sabotaging the relationship didn’t work; their ego has crumbled. At least that’s what I think…. I’m just a firm believer in NOT taking the path of least resistance because of course we would love to tell the individual off, but then you are giving them the power. Fuck that, take the power back for what they did and just be “unbothered”.
If you want forgiveness for your imperfections then give as much forgiveness you need for yourself. I'm not excusing bad behavior just don't be a hypocrite about it. Forgiveness goes both ways.
What they ate talking about is staying in the marriage not forgiveness. If you are withholding love or are still angry (with you or your spouse) then forgiveness hasn't taken place. It is pointless to stay in a marriage if you choose not to forgive. You can try to earn back trust after forgiveness has taken place. You should explore why your partner cheated though so it doesn't happen again.
Yeah I'm same situation. My wife cheating on me with her sister. We have 2 children. . I can't won't forgive. Once a cheater always cheater. I don't trust her anymore. However the is reason trying to make relationship work.
Been through this myself...stayed with her after she cheated with a work colleague...we had bought a house 6months earlier so big commitment so thought should work it out...took me 6 months to even go near her again physically but I never wanted kids or marriage, not even a pet with her...I didn't get angry, I didn't get abusive I genuinely tried to move on...then a few years later she floated possible breakup...my reply was give me 24hrs to think....24hrs later I told her to get out the house she's done...7years wasted..
I have tried to forgive. But she hasnt acknowledged her affair and wants it swept under the rug. I can feel myself hating myself for not leaving her. I dont think it will work.
Leave now no questions asked. Don’t talk to her just leave and block her. Plenty other women out there. If I ever get cheated on I’m leaving and going on a trip to Southeast Asia and getting tons of women
My concern with this kind of advice or shared opinion is God is not brought into this conversation. Cheating is a very complex event and has deep spiritual identity issues attached to it!
Oh please, lady, you really think it's because those men aren't "strong enough to leave?" You're literally talking about relationships where these men HAVE KIDS!!! YOU don't even matter anymore at that point, god damn. If a man decides to walk away from his children, are you going to call him "strong?" Pft And by the way, if a guy has "forgiven" you but he keeps bringing things back up, keeps questioning you about things from the past, and just in general seems to still have problems, then that means he hasn't really forgiven you. Figure that shit out, it's not like it takes a lot of time or work, you can knock it out in a day or two easy. He needs to ask you every question he has and you need to answer every question with 100% honesty. Then once he has all the information, he can decide whether or not to forgive you, or to carry on with trying to forgive you. If he's losing his shit every now and then, it's because he has unanswered questions, and my inner misogynist says that's because some certain woman has been a little too dishonest or not forthcoming enough. The truth will set you free
In my personal experience and it happened to me a cheating woman and there was another man behind me, what type am I and this woman is my wife. My final decision was to divorce her with 1 talaq and No claim. Only I can demand from her. Just sharing my experience and now relax I get my claim every month.
Women can forgive men for cheating and they can recover their relationship but men should never forgive women because the woman will never respect the man who doesn’t have the respect to leave her
No, women can never truly forgive a cheater and men take that as a get out of jail free card for continuing the disrespect. These same women even in this comment section who stayed all regret it and either eventually left or were abandoned. It is the WORST option for a woman to remain with a cheating man. Nothing some random red pill nonsense claims will change that reality.
Forgive the person, but DO NOT take the person back!!! >>> That's not unforgiveness, that's:- 1. Freeing the cheating person to go where their heart is. 2. Creating the opportunity for a clean foundation, for your relationship - with a foundation of distrust, you have #nothing. 3. Understanding that forgiveness DOES NOT MEAN take them back. 4. Loving and respecting yourself enough, to free yourself from a shitty relationship, so you can have the wholesome love you deserve >>> many people don't respect themselves, or see themselves as deserving of quality loving relationships - you see that in the way they treat themselves and the things they tolerate 💡 It's a subtle Psyche-ological thing, deep within 💡
No. The only person responsible for cheating is the cheater. They should end the relationship if they feel moved to break their vows. There are no excuses regardless what misogyny would have you believe.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Hi
U saying here because u try to tell other people don't make mistake and don't end ur relationship
And same time u express ur feeling to people like taking to smone
Be brave bro try again if there is any chance. Tak cr
Go through the pain tunnel, get therapy, highly efective evetually you let go and feel better
I tried to stay with a cheater for the sake of my daughter, but couldn't. Once trust is broken, a marriage can't continue. She is right about women. We can forgive, but the love light dies.
12 yrs married with 3 children currently husband working abroad cheated on me found out when he came to visite us for his short break found lots of picture with a one friend, it wasn't good always on my head but gave him last chance for the sake of our children
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! even if she said she THOUGHT about sleeping with another guy she would be gone! disloyalty is the worst
It's not even about forgiveness. You can forgive but it's finished so you leave.
this
Also a woman who cheats will lose respect for a man that forgives even if she begs for forgiveness
Absolutely
Don't Cheat, if you are not Happy,just Leave..
My girls were 1 and 4 years old when my wife was love bombed by her narcissist co worker. He dumped her after 1 month because he got what he wanted and because i knew his identity. Now I had a homeless wife and mother. I knew she could potentially pick a new man that could have access to my girls. Her weak mind was just bowled over by a narcissist so i didn't want any strange men of her choice to be near my daughters. Yes i stayed with her and it's been 35 years of marriage. Still hurts today 25 years later.
Kids are gone. Exit her. You deserve better and your duty is done.
How can he just leave after 35 years. He can’t punish her for something she did 25 years ago, especially after he decided to get back together with her. That says a lot about your character, the fact you put your children first in that situation.
I did the right thing. The situation was bizarre. In later years i had to study up on "Limerence" as well as other mental health issues. @@Boss_Man00
Thank you for choosing to put your children past all of it. I hope your kids appreciate you for the gem you are. Maybe explore couples therapy so you can revisit the past and speak your mind, if it doesn't work, your kids are grown now you can move on
@@regalchic I will say both my daughters have married high value men and they all have high paying jobs and have bought homes. They are bright girls and i like to think having two parents in a solid family unit had something to do with their success. I Know my wife was weak and it was a painful event. She's also grateful that i took her back. Once her mind cleared, she realized what she almost destroyed. She has never repeated that mistake, this I'm sure of.
Forgive a cheater? No. The end.
With or without children, release yourself by forgiving them & leave the relationship. One life & time does not wait for nobody. Blessings & light on your journey 💯💋❤️
From my own experience I would say to absolutely forgive them. After the initial shock I I realized I didn’t know her as well as I thought I did. The mistake I made was not forgiving her on a daily basis. Also, in this type of case it’s important to move on immediately. Get money in order, work in order, friends identified, and move on. Don’t react, don’t act out, don’t yell and scream or make threats, just leave her and move on.I’m not saying ignore the fact you’re hurt I’m saying don’t act on it. I got a good job, dependable vehicles, place to live and even told her I hoped it worked out for them. They fell apart, she asked to come back and I said nope. Forgiveness doesn’t mean I go back to the same situation it means I give up revenge, keep myself together and move on. Easier said than done.
Forgiveness sets you free, resentment keeps you trapped,
Forgive not forget is what you are talking about. I think it is much harder though to try to work it out with your spouse after they cheated as opposed to just moving on. If you had children with her it isn't that easy to just move on.
Good on you. And seeing you not react to her cheating hurts her even more. Boss move
Oh trust me when I was 18 I didn't handle it well. Now days I can tell when the gal I'm dating has someone else lined up. It's amazing to watch all the tells they put out. I don't even sweat it. Not my girl, just my turn.@@poopoopeepee4233
Oh wow....that is basically word for word what I'm going through right now.
Good to know there are others out there
2:55 “You owe yourself the right to feel loved in the correct way” 🙏
My husband had been cheating from the beginning, but I didn't find out until after we had kids. I chose to forgive him and stay. He continued to cheat but got better at hiding it. He took my forgiveness as a license to do as he pleased. My needs went unmet more and more, my workload increased in the household as he refused to get a vasectomy and I was unable to take birth control. He knew I was "trapped" and cheated time and time again, especially while I was pregnant and battling serious health issues that worsened over time from lack of proper care and lifestyle. Women who cheat MAY learn their lesson and stop after one failed affair, but in my experience, men who cheat have zero regard for how their actions affect others and it's healthier to leave the situation.
Wooow your story is sad! I feel for you my sister. Please are you still in the marriage?
@kofiakuffo129 Only legally, for now. I finally met my limit and am doing better without him near me. I have learned a lot and blessed with my beautiful children but have lost all faith in men and most people in general. My family is completely dysfunctional as well so I am essentially alone in all of it. If it weren't for my babies and my faith in Jesus I honestly wouldn't be here.
I am soo glad you mentioned Jesus, i wanted to ask if you are a Christian but you know these days people get offended with such a question. With Jesus in your life trust me He will heal and make your life whole again but before that you must ask Him(Jesus) for grace to completely forgive and let go of any pain your husband have caused you. It only when you have truly forgiven him that Jesus can step in to help you get life back. As you know already no one does it best than our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ but first He commands to forgive. The Lord will definitely see you through my sister. I will add you to my prayer list.
@kofiakuffo129 Yes absolutely, thank you so much for that. I'm so grateful for your prayers and support 🙏 The Lord is so good always and was even the one to expose the truth about my husband to me. I know he'll bring me through it and there are better things in store 🙌 God bless you sister!
Thank you Jesus. amen
Someone cheats, you leave them. There is more trust. Cheating requires lying and manipulation.....why would you want to stay with someone who does that? Also, don't forgive the cheater, but you MUST forgive yourself.
i wish everyone out there the strength to move on if you have been cheated on.
its not worth the trouble. and its not the end of the world. move on.
I'd forgive... and leave.
You can absolutely forgive them. But you don’t have to be with them. Because we all know, that once the trust has been broken things will never be the same.
Yes you can forgive the person but stay in a relationship with them ? No. The relationship is done but instead of harboring those negative feelings - forgive to let go
It was super hard but it made my marriage much better... He finally woke up.... There is a difference between a bad person and a good person that does one thing bad... The two shouldn't be treated the same.. If a good woman commits to you and chooses you and only you but you reward her devotion with years of sexless marriage, Not hearing what she is telling you and basically forcing her to be in celibacy but at the same time expecting long-term devotion from her is hypocritically ludicrous and emotionally abusive... Sometimes (both) people need a reality check to see if they can build a different and a better relationship
Yeah i can attest this is a severe temptation i avoided thankfully
Forgive and leave immediately. It's over. No more contact ever. Find someone else.
Great guidance on the effects of cheating.
She is chatting bs.The only thing you gain by staying with a cheater is losing your peace of mind and a high possibility of a nasty STD.
You should eventually learn to forgive as not doing so will just consume you overtime. But definitely walk away especially if you are a man.
Why especially if you're a man? Women shouldn't tolerate it either.
You can forgive but you can leave. So it's better to just leave but keep things amicable.
Women also hate themselves for not leaving. By staying, you're telling yourself you're not worthy of loyalty, regardless of your gender. When you stay, you will feel betrayed by TWO people - your partner and yourself. You will shrink and become a sad loser, acting out in what could otherwise be minor or ambiguous situations. She can be very insightful on many topics, but her opinion on cheating is too generalised, short-sighted and harmful.
I believe a man who cheats will lose respect for a woman that overlooks it as well. It's one thing for a person to disrespect you by cheating, it's another thing for you to disrespect yourself by tolerating it. I would genuinely forgive, bless them, pray for them and release. No need to debase myself by staying with that. It's okay to expect more for yourself.
Forgive but not forget.
Never forgive! Never!
I don't have the power to forgive nobody.Just a human been.
No !!! HELL NO !!!, Get the hell away from them,block their number and never have any contact with them ever again,EVER !!!
CHEATING is a CHOICE.it doesn't happen by CHANCE.
Absolutely not!!
I guess I was an exception, although we’re broken up now. I’m glad my ex boyfriend gave me the grace and a chance to fix it.
Forgive by letting go. Respect is lost when they cheat it wont be Regained. You taking thek back is telling them it was okay. And theyll do it again. If you cheat because they did they wont be forgiving or okay with it.
Suspicion of cheating, even when it's not real or substantiated, can be just as damaging to a relationship. So if one partner has constant suspicions, it will corrode your relationship regardless if there is actual cheating. Personally, I find this kind of jealousy hard to understand, because I don't see the point in chasing someone who's attention is elsewhere. And jealousy itself can drive a partner away; I've watched it happen in many couples.
Nobody ever changed just by listening but through immense hurt and trauma...so just someone saying them what's good they ain't gonna give a shit...better to dumb these craps to their situation as you do deserve too what you are giving
Yeah should forgive them but never forget.
Absolutely not!
I'm a woman and I would forgive no matter what but NOT stay with the person or overlook it. I forgive you now go in peace lol.... If I stayed, I would hate myself too. My dignity and self-respect is worth far more than any person on the planet. Plenty of fish even after decades of being with a person because an individual with such a lack of integrity, self-control, and often times a lack of communication skills is not someone I'm willing to remain tied to. Bottom line is that I would never tolerate that kind of disrespect. Period. Never have, never will.
Guys, if you are ever cheated on by your wife you can stick around for the kids and if the sec is great why not however, at some point you have to leave when the children turn 14. Or you risk dying within, self degradations and mental health. That is worse. Marriage is a risk, not everyone will turn up as a winner. When it didn’t work out hey give yourself a pad on the back and tell yourself you were courages and it was a good run.
100% agreed. I have children with her. Unfortunately kids are part of family now. I'm learning how to forgive and move on. Honestly it's not easy. And I won't forgive but for children sake I think I can move on.. eventually wait till children get older and I'll move on on personal level.
You ll be old when the children will be grown, be real to yourself, if you are not leaving for the children, then you should forget that she cheated.
They come back when you don't want them anymore. Find yourself and detach from the need for them. Meditate, a lot. When you love yourself, put yourself first, that's what attracts people to you. It's a pull energy, you go inward to yourself. It's the reverse of the push, the outward energy which pushes them away. When you're in pushing energy, people can only pull away. When you're in pulling energy, people can only push toward you. This is how the universe works, it's the laws of physics, metaphysics, and spiritual. Meditation is the answer to everything IMO, it works. You go inward to your soul. You connect with who you truly are, and your intuition, and your spiritual team which is always available to you with love and help, and the divine. Meditate lots. ❤❤
A woman can forgive. A man can't.
Nope. It would always be on your mind anyway if you forgave or not. For me that’s it, it’s over, it’s done. 👍
Not if they doing it.
You know what cheaters really hate the most is getting cheated on themselves, and thats what happened. Well, it wasn't really cheating cause the trust was gone, and they became single at the moment.
It's not even about forgiving u just move on simple enit u don't want nothing to do with that person period
Hi, Im 28 y/o male married to 27y/o female we have 2 yrs old son. She cheating on me for 4 months, now im in a difficult situation where I want to leave her but At the same time I wanna stayed because of my son! Gimme some advice.
I say forgive them, leave them then forget they ever happened. I only say forgive for your own peace of mind and clarity because you don’t want negative thoughts about it lingering in your mind. Eventually the victim will heal and that just shows how strong of an individual you are, but the cheater is always going to hold that title. Even if you tell the cheater that you forgive them, then walk away, it is going to destroy them. Their plan of getting at you by sabotaging the relationship didn’t work; their ego has crumbled. At least that’s what I think…. I’m just a firm believer in NOT taking the path of least resistance because of course we would love to tell the individual off, but then you are giving them the power. Fuck that, take the power back for what they did and just be “unbothered”.
If you want forgiveness for your imperfections then give as much forgiveness you need for yourself. I'm not excusing bad behavior just don't be a hypocrite about it. Forgiveness goes both ways.
What they ate talking about is staying in the marriage not forgiveness. If you are withholding love or are still angry (with you or your spouse) then forgiveness hasn't taken place. It is pointless to stay in a marriage if you choose not to forgive. You can try to earn back trust after forgiveness has taken place. You should explore why your partner cheated though so it doesn't happen again.
Nope. Forgiveness is a trap. Nope nope nope, bye, im out
Never ever
No.
Forgiveness is a sin so that’s between the sinner and God.
Yeah I'm same situation. My wife cheating on me with her sister. We have 2 children. . I can't won't forgive. Once a cheater always cheater. I don't trust her anymore. However the is reason trying to make relationship work.
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A cheater will cheat again or he/she will died trying 😅😊
😂once a cheater,
You know the rest.
Come man, what are you asking here? The answer is no.
Been through this myself...stayed with her after she cheated with a work colleague...we had bought a house 6months earlier so big commitment so thought should work it out...took me 6 months to even go near her again physically but I never wanted kids or marriage, not even a pet with her...I didn't get angry, I didn't get abusive I genuinely tried to move on...then a few years later she floated possible breakup...my reply was give me 24hrs to think....24hrs later I told her to get out the house she's done...7years wasted..
Forgive and forget? Fuck that. I remember everything.
For me wrong that means wrong No excuse.
In summary..never
Always forgive but never forget ;)
Hell NO
I have tried to forgive. But she hasnt acknowledged her affair and wants it swept under the rug.
I can feel myself hating myself for not leaving her. I dont think it will work.
@@LindaQueLeenda thanks you are very kind.
I know what I have to do, and I am going to do it. I just need more time to get some affairs in order.
Leave now no questions asked. Don’t talk to her just leave and block her. Plenty other women out there. If I ever get cheated on I’m leaving and going on a trip to Southeast Asia and getting tons of women
@@jarhead21100also you should expose her to all her friends and on social media after you leave. Please bro. Women need to be held accountable
@@jarhead21100Did you leave?
@Elisabeta.Marina not yet. I got my own vehicle now. This may sound minor, but it was a major step.
I would forgive, but... it's over.
I wouldn't touch her again.
But I wouldn't leave the children.
A small difference - Sigma's lifestyle ;)
My concern with this kind of advice or shared opinion is God is not brought into this conversation. Cheating is a very complex event and has deep spiritual identity issues attached to it!
Oh please, lady, you really think it's because those men aren't "strong enough to leave?" You're literally talking about relationships where these men HAVE KIDS!!! YOU don't even matter anymore at that point, god damn. If a man decides to walk away from his children, are you going to call him "strong?" Pft
And by the way, if a guy has "forgiven" you but he keeps bringing things back up, keeps questioning you about things from the past, and just in general seems to still have problems, then that means he hasn't really forgiven you. Figure that shit out, it's not like it takes a lot of time or work, you can knock it out in a day or two easy. He needs to ask you every question he has and you need to answer every question with 100% honesty. Then once he has all the information, he can decide whether or not to forgive you, or to carry on with trying to forgive you. If he's losing his shit every now and then, it's because he has unanswered questions, and my inner misogynist says that's because some certain woman has been a little too dishonest or not forthcoming enough. The truth will set you free
In my personal experience and it happened to me a cheating woman and there was another man behind me, what type am I and this woman is my wife.
My final decision was to divorce her with 1 talaq
and No claim.
Only I can demand from her.
Just sharing my experience and now relax I get my claim every month.
Women can forgive men for cheating and they can recover their relationship but men should never forgive women because the woman will never respect the man who doesn’t have the respect to leave her
No, women can never truly forgive a cheater and men take that as a get out of jail free card for continuing the disrespect. These same women even in this comment section who stayed all regret it and either eventually left or were abandoned. It is the WORST option for a woman to remain with a cheating man. Nothing some random red pill nonsense claims will change that reality.
Internet mum strikes again.
Yes mum, Ive done my homework and got no suspension.
I did get suspended from social though but thats alright right?
Never ever forgive a woman
Forgive the person, but DO NOT take the person back!!! >>> That's not unforgiveness, that's:-
1. Freeing the cheating person to go where their heart is.
2. Creating the opportunity for a clean foundation, for your relationship - with a foundation of distrust, you have #nothing.
3. Understanding that forgiveness DOES NOT MEAN take them back.
4. Loving and respecting yourself enough, to free yourself from a shitty relationship, so you can have the wholesome love you deserve >>> many people don't respect themselves, or see themselves as deserving of quality loving relationships - you see that in the way they treat themselves and the things they tolerate 💡
It's a subtle Psyche-ological thing, deep within 💡
dont stop posting. put men matters first
You’re an idiot. If you cheat you are done. Good bye
Some women are responsible for their husband 's cheating so they should forgive.not all cases are the same
No. The only person responsible for cheating is the cheater. They should end the relationship if they feel moved to break their vows. There are no excuses regardless what misogyny would have you believe.