How Absence Plays With a Man's Emotions
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Get Him To Commit Before Sleeping Together (The Dating Vow)
Have you ever heard the saying: Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of commitment?
The "Dating VOW" Before Sleeping Together
I ___________________ agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next 3 to 6 months.
I ___________________ agree to be monogamous sexual while we have regular sex together
I ___________________ agree to not actively seek to meet/date others while we are in this dating process (include taking down dating profile)
I ___________________ agree to speak up if this isn't working for me vs. pulling back, ghosting or disappearing
I __________________ agree to invest regular time in this process of getting to know you which looks like this ______________
90% of men will bail on this because thousands of women will have sex without any commitment/agreement whatsoever. If all women are banned together (going forward), this will change how men treat/view sex, but in the meantime, if he does agree, you have a better chance of commitment than without it. - Jak na to + styl
A secure relationship helps heal insecure/anxious attachment. We learn to fear being abandoned from people who actually abandon us. We learn to be secure from people who give us security. Some relationships are damaging while others are healing. Part of healing ourselves involves weeding out people who are damaging as quickly as we can instead of entertaining them for too long.
Exactly
I agree, what heals avoidants ?
@@DecadentDelicacy I would be interested to know as well… most avoidants don’t seem to want to heal.
Well said. I totally agree! I have learned this from my own experiences.
Brilliant words👏👏
All the love I once poured into him, I am now putting into me! I am letting go of past failures, and going forward to know I am worthy, I deserve so much more. And I don't want a facsimile of what a loving relationship is, I want the real thing. I am loving ME first.
Love reading this... pour into yourself love. ❤💙💛❤
Same here!!! I am holding out for the real thing
Same here
Carla, how many months gave you been on your healing journey? I may need to concentrate mine into a shorter amount of time, because I'm 73 yrs old! 🥴😳
Karen Abbot, I am still on my healing journey, since last April. And it doesn't matter how old we are, we still have been through heartache. My guy is with someone else already, and still calls me! I am indifferent, I can't play his games, I'm 61 at the end of this month. I want serving so much better, I want a man who isn't afraid to show he cares, and I want so much more than he ever gave. This was his choice to find another, but I figure he isn't over me either, or he wouldn't still call. I'm just not into games, so now my next decision is to look out for myself and don't play his so I'm going to refuse to answer when he does call. No response, no more contact. I deserve better than that. I'm only sorry for the girl he's with now, she's got such a prize doesn't she? He spends more time on the phone with other women than he does her. I don't want that anymore. I'm always healing every day. I have to take care of me. We all do. Love ourselves to know our own worth. We are special!! Believe that, believe in you!!!
Absence also plays on a woman’s emotions making her feel insecure. That being said it’s time to MoveOn
Yes... which I did believe I said.
Wise words Kathleen... your exact point is being done to me right now... and it DID make me feel insecure.. NOT NOW ! THANK YOU
@@jillrice1630 I speak from experience. It was the best decision I ever made. I pray the best for you
I’m in process 😳
This happened to me over the summer, and there’s no going back. I’m just not putting up with it any more. We all deserve so much better than what people are attempting to give us.
focus on your creator. so much attachment is placed on men and dating game. Let go and find your own happiness. What is meant to be will be what is meant to stay will stay.
stone-walling/ghosting/bad communication/ignoring was sufficient for me to leave. Anxiety was all time highs at that time. Made me go from secure to anxious.
This!!! Yup! Being ghosted by a once trusted friend changed me from secure to anxious as well.
I was ghosted after 1 year 3 months of excellent 24/7 constant friendship. First reaction was..ensure nothing bad happened to him. Then..this ghosting made me wait few weeks after ensuring he was safe then... i text... are you well? His answer of being superbusy did not give me a good vibe as he was fully engaged in communicating with me. So i did not initiate text. Then waited another 2 weeks... went to see him ..he did not show any kind of anything...i made quick visit... he was friendly ... but did not offer any comment on his full ghosting. So i stopped calling or visiting. I never asked him why but i created 3 opportunities that he talk if he wanted ...we meet 6 times after accidentally.. we say hello.. and smile and each go his way. Yes its cruel.. traumatic..confusing... but i bit the painful bullet and walked without showing anyone that it was hurtful ...now i am trying to work on not letting this horrible trauma change me in a bad way. Im trying also to recover as it still hurt because there was no reason for this bad action. After all... i would not like this to affect my future friendships and im trying to learn what this taught me ....but i guess i wouldnt be happy if i become sick like he was
Same
@@Carolina3788 im sorry for this traumatic experience
@@Spinnglishthat sounds extremely confusing and painful, I'm sorry you experienced that. 🤍
ding ding ding!! Again ladies, he's reminding us that being hyper focused on a man is very very unhealthy 💯👍
Exactly 🙏
It’s soooooo important to take the steps necessary ( therapy) to reconcile your childhood wounds before you enter into relationships. If you don’t and you find a partner who hasn’t either your foundation will be shaky. The best thing you can bring to a relationship is an emotionally healed self . ❤️
Great advice. I met a guy I liked and admit I was acting Anxious - he was a totally Avoidant. He told me is only seeking casual low key relationship. I told him my STANDARDS and said we aren't a match. He tried to reach out again and ignored his message.
Thanks for sharing!
Keep ignoring because it's a total deadend. Good work.
@@motheryuba57 I did and see him on every dating app.
That's great NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU WANT!!!
You did a great job. I went through the same thing and kept in touch and he treated me like an option.
Being married to my husband taught me everything I need to know about what I want and need in a man. I'm glad he doesn't have emotional baggage and is emotionally secure. That is the only type to be with. Anything outside of that will make you become anxious.
Nothing better than being alone, than having my me moments. Going alone to a restaurant, theater etc etc. I’m getting so use to be by myself that I don’t picture myself living with someone again.
You are smart. No disease, drama or cheating.
It's far, far better than living with someone who makes you feel bad about your life and yourself.
@@northofyou33 Isn’t that the truth. It’s not as though there isn’t a great big world out there waiting to verbally crap on you, you get a romantic partner so the same thing happens.
I'm used to being alone as well and yet I do want to marry. I want to marry a man after God's own heart. A man of integrity and purpose. I think I know who he is. He pursued me & was intentional. He loved me but he has severe OCD. He has a hard time functioning. Any thoughts?
The fact that you are so open and honest about this stuff is refreshing. I didn't realize guys went through this, too. Thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry your mom behaved that way. My mom has some similar traits, God bless her. I'm healing and trying to learn that it isn't personal and she was parenting the best she could with the imperfect foundation she had to work from.
I was in my first relationship in over 5 years. It seemed like we had so much in common, but we only spent one day a week together and there was very little communication during the week. I would answer a text message from him that would go unanswered. He would call once a week to make plans for our weekend time together.
After awhile I just got tired of the lack of real connection and not really talking about anything deep. I broke it off finally because he didn’t even communicate that he was going away on vacation.
It was over a month ago that I broke it off. Then I randomly received a phone call from him. I didn’t take the call because I just don’t e know the point or continuing on in a superficial relationship. We did have fun outings together, but it wasn’t a deep connection. To be honest I don’t even think we were exclusive. My gut told me there were other women in the picture.
Lacking a lot of communication. You need to ask questions . You have to talk every day.
I was in an relationship that sounds exactly like the one you were in. The one thing that is different is that I did not take charge and disconnect from the relationship...he one day just didn't "text" or call...and I was hurt that he didn't give our relationship more respect by closing the relationship...I do feel he felt me closing up and letting go but it again disappoints me I did not step up and be real with him..oh well..lesson learned..but kudos to you for being assertive and doing what was best for you
Ditto. He called tonight after blocking him on Facebook. I don't get the point of talking. He moved out of state and didn't tell me... it's over so why does he call?? Like he likes the gratification of being wanted?? So annoying.
Men cheat and this really surprises women? Ladies we are just vaginas to men.
Good for you to let it go when you realized that it wasn’t the kind of relationship that would sustain your involvement. He may like to keep it shallow and sparse. Let him find a gal who’s fine with the light weight hookups.
Sadly, so far I've had mostly boyfriends who were "non-commital". But, I did have a husband who wanted committment. Yet, he was a drunk who couldn't take care of his family(me/his wife and his two small sons), so I wound up getting divorced with two small sons and no support. My impressions of men were either the ones with money had huge egos and treated their women like nothing, or they were not reliable(either emotionally/spiritually or any other way). It seems also that women who are empathic, very giving/loving, etc. attract narcissists.
Yes so true . Empathetic and giving partner will attract narcissistic people . Please don’t get into “fixing others “
in order to be loved
Get down to hold your staff and get to the bottom of it with a psychologist there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
@@marinettecachin5931 Oh yeah I've learned!
I hear you and concur
Omg! This is so true. I have been in nursing since I was a teenager, and empathy and compassion is the essence of my personality! I choose now to do a lot of self study, and awareness. I have been married to a narcissist for over 30 years! I can’t afford that at this turn of events in my life right now. This is why I have to choose on purpose to guard my heart! Protect my peace, and to love with my mind, instead of my heart until I know that I am not repeating history over again! Prayer and patience is key! I pray for discernment too; God, reveal the truth about this person’s intentions and heart to me! Amen.
Did you cheat on him?
Everything you say resonates with me. I’m in midlife and perfectly content living my best life, solo. I won’t rule out connecting in a meaningful way with a man, and have met a couple of practice guys…thanks to you I was able to “next” them pretty darn quickly. I’m still working on the part of me that wants to hear from them, and realize if they didn’t put the effort in from the get go, he gone, I’m good!!! Thank you Jonathan!!
Thanks for sharing 👍🏼
@@JonathonAslay so far I’ve read Talking to Strangers and Attached. Once I read all the books you suggest, I may sign up for your personalized help. I appreciate you helping me to see things differently!!
@@Evowoman1 That's great...
I hope to get to that place as well! I should have " nexted" the guy I married 51 years ago!
Wow ditto 😯…I could of written this myself !! 👍.
I’ve never understood why people think they have to talk on the phone every day. My man and I called each other when we had something to say. We’ve been together 8 years now, no anxious feelings, no excessive emotions. I think we’re both secure attachment styles.
I think it depends on "trust". When two partners spend time apart. Of course, it is a healthy thing to do. Some people(I have found mostly men) have a big problem being alone.
How much is time apart because it’s been over two weeks??
I agree that it’s not okay to ignore the person you’re with. But sometimes you need to detach from them if you’re not okay with the way they’re treating or stop making you feel secure in the relationship. I used to hold on so tightly to my boyfriends in the past even though they weren’t giving me what I needed. I was so afraid to lose them that I never took a step back and said I needed space. Now I’ve learned to communicate my needs and when he makes promises he doesn’t stick to, I need to step back and reevaluate. Doesn’t mean a breakup but it’s not a punishment either.
Perfectly said. Same here.
Your points are 100% spot-on. I hope the ladies watching will heed these wise words and stay strong & firm. I am finally in a place where I get it. And I haven’t yet met the man who’s ready to combine his words and his actions…but I have faith that it will happen someday. Until then… I am living life to the fullest, and am so very grateful! 🙏❤️
Heart felt gratitude, Jonathon, for being so generous emotionally.
It takes a real man to understand and express his true current feelings especially publicly. No one can get inside of another’s head and know their heart felt feelings unless a person is willing to communicate it verbally. And it can be emotionally exhausting.
That is why most of us get our signals crossed and feel insecure. You help me understand me better. And you help me enjoy who I am and where I am in my life without the need of a man to confirm it. Everyone wants that special person to share their time and life with.
But at this age - we need to understand ourselves- good and bad- in order to invite someone else in emotionally. Than you for being your true self in front of a camera for anyone to see and hear. You are so keen and likeable. I hope you have found your one and only- and she to you. Bc you definitely have found your calling career wise. Top knotch.. God bless
Rry r r rr
“Laying the cards on the table” with a new person is great IF you are positive you’re dealing with a normal person. However, being so forthright from the beginning could spell disaster if you are dealing with a toxic individual-a narcissist for example. I told too much, too soon and the “hidden” narc in the charming person I saw in front of me suddenly became my dream guy…liking the same things as me, having the same goals in life, wanting the same things from a relationship-on and on it went. None of what he said about himself was true I later learned. Be careful of divulging too much too soon to the wrong person who could pretend you both are on the same path when they really have another agenda.
Yes...
So true! Luckily, I was with a narcissist that really didn't ask any questions about me but I have heard horror stories about this. They throw everything up in your face down the road and any private detail you've ever shared with them they use against you.
Your openness about your thoughts and feelings in a current relationship help SO much, thank you!
I haven’t been in a real relationship for about ten years. I have dated but not found anyone I wanted to be with. I’ve been doing work on myself. I am currently still reading the Hoffman process. The book is tedious to me but I think it’s going to help even more. I am finding that more and more I am loving being by myself and hanging out with friends. I have a little ways to go before I am ready for a relationship. I appreciate all of your advice and your book recommendations!
I am secure, I trust him implicitly. He is away on business trip.
I’m glad I found you because of the age group you are able to intelligently speak to. There are so many guys and women with channels giving relationship advice between the ages of 20-30. These people are hilarious to me. The advice & general assertions are sophomoric & naive at BEST. Good luck to them but better luck to those who are listening. We all thought we knew everything even at age 40 but I’m getting nothing but vapid yapping, word salads, et al. Subscribed so long as if you should, for some crazy reason, break-up, you’ll take your channel through that with so much as possible. It sounds like a strong situation & I’m very happy for you.
Jonathon, I'm so sorry your mother's love was conditional. My mom didn't like herself so it was hard for her to connect at a deeper level with us, especially as we became teens and rebelled. I got along much better with my dad. I was lucky enough to get counseling in the '90s and early 2000s. Now, though, I'm dealing with abandonment by my three siblings since my parents have both died. You cannot change anyone else, you can only manage your own emotions and cope! Thank you for being radically honest with us. You rock!
This made a huge difference!!! I have really been working on myself since a divorce 3 years ago. I know my value and what I value in a relationship and I won’t settle. This relationship is one where I feel unconditional love. We discuss our triggers…you can tell we’ve been in therapy in our past. I am in a relationship with a high valued man and because of life, we’ve been going through a difficult time. He has a lot going on. My anxious attachment showed itself recently not in a way I’m proud of.
I also understand through your personal examples our long distance relationship more. I feel secure in our relationship and I know he does. But I’ve wanted to talk more where he doesn’t feel like he needs to. Yet I don’t want it to feel forced. We both need to compromise on this and we will. But I now understand why there is such a difference when we are together and I feel a detach when we are apart. A lot more makes sense and I think I’ll share this with him.
Thank you for your personal examples!!!
A man with a strong self esteem and boundaries will not tolerate disrespect and abuse. He doesn't need validation. Thats for women. Men work on yourselves. Be the best version of you that you can be. Be so confident that people will need to prove themselves to you, not in an arrogant way. But because your values are so high. And always remember that the ability to walk away is the strongest position you can have. Use it!
Excellent video. I’ve been in an LDR relationship for over a year. We started as friends our relationship quickly developed into a loving romantic partnership. We are working on emotional intimacy. He visited me and now it’s my turn. We’ve had conversations on me relocating and closing the gap. I agree it’s a work in progress. And I’m here for it. Thanks for sharing.
Okay, I’m coming into this video having never watched one of your videos. And this felt like such a refreshing perspective. No browbeating or condescending women. No groveling or pandering to us, either. Just delving into human nature and reminding everyone that our trauma shapes our responses in relationships. I truly hate game-playing and power play. It’s all so confusing and draining. And I just prefer to have someone let me know if they have the emotional energy to show up for the day or if they need down time.
Love your openness and honesty. Thanks for being vulnerable in this public space. That’s very brave 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
This must be the best advice ever given. Radical honesty. I read the book attached many times just to get in my head that I am only as needy as my unmet needs. I need a man that is comfortable with intimacy and would like to invite to using effective communication from the get go by being radically honest.
I love your videos! You provide such sound advice and thoughts to reflect on. Thank you! 👍🏻
Thank you for being so vulnerable 🙏 everything ypu said here makes so much sense.
It takes a lot of truth digging to teach the core of what’s positive or negatively programmed in us. I had a horrific childhood; for ME. It may not have been as bad as other childhoods but it was a tremendous affect on my life and relationships, self treatment, self esteem, career choices, and so much more.
And that's all that matters: how it affected YOU!
Thank you, makes a lot of sense. I was in a long distance and it ended. It seemed to be very consistent but the disconnect was uncomfortable for both… we would speak every evening and again it felt like a chore at times… I am sad it ended, but neither of us were in a position to move closer either. I did however learn to sit back. Although o was exceptionally disregulated throughout and I was having therapy throughout the relationship. … I am now healing my heart ❤️
....watching from Nairobi, Kenya. Been watching actually for a while and it's true, managing own emotions is key. Am the kind that feels intensely where good or bad and can like blow up in need to express myself. But I realised in that state, I was in no position to articulate anything. Nowadays, when I feel very intense, I pull back until am emotionally sober. I keep things basic until I am standing 'on solid ground'. 🙂
Spot on Jonathon. Thank you for your bravery and honesty.
Wonderful content. Thanks for sharing your personal experiences with your audience.
I was dating a dismissive avoidant person for almost a year (My therapist at the time was encouraging of this 🥴)... I am more secure attachment while, although prior to a lot of healling I was more anxious. My anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF.
Jonathan,
When you said it feels like a chore I can really relate to you.
I really appreciate you words of wisdom.
Thank you so much.
My pleasure 🙏
Thank you for giving me back myself. You made me stop and truly take back my strength. Awesome!! Thank you for this video.
You got this!
@@JonathonAslay your inspirational videos have helped!!!
Thank you for good advice and letting us know also your true feelings of a relationship.
I see me in this video
Really opened my eyes .
I’m like you.
I need to work on this issue.
Thank you so very much for sharing this!!
I’m struggling with a long distance relationship .
One of my favorite videos you’ve done! Also love your shirt!❤
Thank you for sharing! This is right on time for my own attachment style. Thank you!
Perfect timing for this one! Thank you for your transparency. Couldn’t agree more.
You're so welcome!
Yeah, its sad that childhood trauma, I think we all have experienced more or less, should have so much to say for how we cope further in life. Thanks for being so honest to us😊
Exactly
That was so helpful and open and vulnerable.
I can really relate to my past experiences.
I pray you have a happy life and
All the best in your relationship. 🙏. ❤
I love your videos Jonathon you have a gift of explaining & putting your point across tactfully. Your advice has helped me a lot. Congratulations on the relationship, I saw your photos on Instagram and you make a lovely couple, she radiates such great vibes.
You being vulnerable is your biggest strength 😃
I see the change in you Jonathan. You’re much less anxious. Hope your relationship works out Keep following your own advice
Warm Salutations and Deep Gratitude for sharing this wonderful and genuine and warm hearted , honest and beautiful wise video Dearly Jonathan Brother .. Peace and Love Upon you together with your beloveds ..
How did we ever date in this time without your sage advice. It has truly made the mystery of relationships clear! You are amazing!
Awe... thank you 🙏
One of your best videos Jonathon!
I just love your channel.
I really needed to hear that most men don't bond on the phone.
Love this, thank you, love the hug and bear too!
This helped greatly, I get anxious when I sense the distance 💜 #workingonmyhealing# #lovewillcome#
This conversation about deeper psychological underpinnings eg attachment styles is great! Puts a more clear perspective about direction.
I think I'm a man lol I prefer in-person communication.
I’m so grateful and so glad I found you ❤️🙏I’ve only watched two of your videos and it’s helped me tremendously 😮trying to get over a nine year relationship and learning to love myself more ❤️
I'm so glad!
Hello. I don't usually comment - although I've seen several of your videos. I applaud your candidness and want to thank you for being open and honest about your personal emotions and childhood experience. This is good information for both women and men. God bless!
Wow, thank you!
Thank you for your candor and honesty. It really helps to know how a man experiences his attachment style. I would say I too was anxious attachment but as I’ve gotten older and more secure in myself I feel that has lessened in me.
Thanks for sharing!
Emotional Intimacy… fabulous read📚
I feel that you shared this content in another video. I would love to hear some new stuff about what's going on currently in your relationship!
Thank you for the hugs of love 🌹🌹. I am so happy for you and your new love. May you both share many moments of peace and passion 😍😍. Your work has resonated with me. I appreciate the insight and explanation of why we do what we do and how we can make the love connection more meaningful. God bless you. Take care 🙏🙏😊😊🌸🌸
My attachment style at this stage of life (I'm 58) is Secure. I've gotten better at discerning more quickly and let the latest one know we weren't a match 3 days after our first meeting (we met up for church.) I do hope for a rest-of-life relationship someday, but am also very happy on my own. I've come to understand and appreciate why men have shyed away from very needy women. It is beyond draining when a man looks to you to provide everything he's neglected to build for himself. Crap happens to us all... gotta 'pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again!' You'll find it gets easier every single time. 😁
THANK YOU FOR YOUR LOVE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR GIRL FRIEND.😊
You’re so in love!!! OMG, it’s amazing! Congratulations! I wish you both the best! ♥️🥰
Thank you...
Thank you for sharing your own personal experiences ❤
Again wonderful common sense to all our insecurities!! Thanks Jonathan!!
It's all about maturity and wisdom people should know what they want I don't have time for foolishness when you have the right person you don't have to go through this you are an awesome guy nobody want to be hurt and in pain.
Great video.
I was raised by a very doting single mom but was in a bad marriage where I was abused but in my 7 month relationship right now, I’m seeing that I’m totally avoidant. Working on it 🤦🏼♀️
Thank you so much for putting yourself out there. This really helps me because my guy is very much like you.
My pleasure 🙏
Your words are exactly what I needed this morning. Thank you
Happy to hear 😊
Thank you so much I was meant to find your channel right now. I wish I could tell you want to going on but I don't want the world to know. Thank you so much you really hit home.❤
You are so welcome
Wow! A very insightful and informative video. I love the information and your POV. I can relate to the information provided. I love the book recommendations. Thank you for sharing your personal touches are an emense help
Glad it was helpful!
Guy I’m dating told me he doesn’t want kids so I was fine since we are both over 40. But then he said he doesn’t want to ever be married bc he has too much to lose financially. I’ve been with serious millionaires. This raises a red flag 🚩 for me! I love ❤️ the guy we already been intimate, now just 😢😢😢💔💔💔💔😅 he says he is committed but idk 🤷♀️ I feel embarrassed 😳 and sad 😞 for myself being a go getter. I’ve just been focusing on financial stuff myself and learning to be non attached and it doesn’t make me happy.
Great Content~💖
I really needed to hear all of this!
Thank You Jonathon~🙏
Happy to Hear your Relationship is Thriving... ✨💞✨
Glad you enjoyed it!
This is such good information for me. Thank you for sharing!
Glad it was helpful!
This is the best video I've seen on this topic! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you. That was valuable information from a male perspective with your background and expertise. Yes choosing a good person from the get go is key. It's hard when you come across someone with crazy chemistry, but may not be best for you. I love the book " Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov! Its my bible😅 her best advise is to have presence of mind, because without that, you'll make bad decisions and people will take advantage of you. Don't get tipsy on a first date. And make the man do all the work and chase you in the beginning. Need to read it again!
So great ,you've written several books,fantastic.
Excellent topic!!!
Love to you Jonathon!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
One day I’ll get my Mr Right.
Had him once I know you’re out there somewhere!😊
Hey Jonathan, thank you for the insight. What helped me with my anxious attachment style was hypnosis therapy. It has gotten so much better after only 3 sessions.( Usually it takes five (up to eight) sessions. I broke off because I didn't get along with the therapist very well.Wonder how much better it could get.) Anyway, I highly recommend it to you. In those sessions you create a safe space within you where you are loved unconditionally. Whenever you feel in need of love, comfort and security you can visit this place via meditation. It's so cool how you suddenly feel a peace of heart and mind.
All the best for your healing journey. May you be blessed.
Where was the concept of attachment style when I was in my 20's ,,,, so needed today
Dear Jonathon,
Prof/Dr. Sam Vaknin explains The Dead Mother: The Work of André Green.
Mr. Green's concept and book discuss the living mother who can be or simply is emotionally dead and what that behaviour/personality type does to children.
Perhaps that book and watching Prof/Dr. Sam Vaknin's CZcams videos on that topic, in particular, will add value to your own healing and understanding journey.
Excellent balcony coaching rewatch.
Thank you!
Be blessed, my friend. 🧡🍁🇨🇦
This was great information and I appreciate learning about what kind of attachment I am currently in. This was an eye opener..thanks Jonathan!
My pleasure 🙏
Truly is an awesome talk.
I love listening to your clips. So honest and true. You have a great day Jonathon
Awe... thank you 🙏
loved your take :)
Thanks Bro... I love your approach and would love to interview you... more like, have a discussion with you.
Good advice. I subscribed!
i like how you still said bless your soul regarding your mother. some people are so quick to hate on their mothers who have their own wounds just like we do.
Awe... thank you
Thank you Jonathon for another great video. I so appreciate you
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I appreciate that!
Wow . This is my second video I am seeing that you have made. You are amazing at what you have to say! I so related to the feelings and emotions you mentioned going through as a child and so much said here!
Thank you for all you are sharing!! At 51 and back in the dating world for 7 years now, I’ve had a lot of new relationship learning to do and self awareness! ❤
I really appreciate your channel and the info and wisdom you share. I had a free Audible credit to use and got the "Eight Dates" book. I hope to listen to it soon. Thanks for the recommendation!
You're welcome...
This was a great video and I really appreciate you sharing your personal experience of how you and your wife met!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Absence . they are operating from a place of Gratitude that someone is back in their life.
Really love your words of wisdom!
Spot on👍
Glad you think so!
It doesn’t feel very good going through absence (going without) for 8 years for this woman either 💔
8 years? Chile......
Jonathan, Thank you for all the book suggestions. Thank you for your own vulnerability and life experiences you share. Much appreciated. I am learning so much from you. I have also suggested you to many of my married friends in need of guidance since your advice is relevant for many things.
I love listening to your commentaries on relationships!..❤
Glad you like them!