I appreciate you making this video. I was just curious about this, because I've only experienced toxic relationships and this healthy relationship I'm in now, it's foreign and I'm always questioning everything about this relationship. After hearing everything you had to share. . . Thank you so much for validating this euphoric sensation.
It’s also hard on the men that didn’t have a good role model. Some dads abuse their kids. My husband is a very good man, with lots of flaws, but with, love, respect and patience… you can work with any man that wants to be a better person than his father was. ❤❤❤
I once asked a very old woman (97 ), who was still full in life, with no age problems, what was her " secret ". She said, " I don't really know, but I think it's because I've never been married "....😊
I decided a few years ago i am tired of being men's conquests. I have been able to spot men's true selves in about 2 months time when i don't sleep with them. Ladies, stop giving it up too soon. If they really like you, they will wait for 6 months so you can get to know eachother. You will save yourself a lot of heartache!
6 months? That still makes you an easy hoe....he gets the snatch with not commitment....boyfriend got wife privileges. You are giving wife duties at girlfriend prices..good deal for him....serrano alot of brown people like Puerto Ricans are named that....are you one? If so your thinking on 6 months aligns with the low standards you people have....
Basically ~ LIFT your standards, morals & value ladies, keep yr knickers on and stop being so desperate that you'll do anything to hang on to anyone just because you want someone. It's sad & emotionally damaging to your soul in the long-run.
Rubbish. Women are not commodities for men. If a man thinks like that then you are best not bothering with him at all. Marraige is a load of patriarchal rubbish as well. Know that!
I felt the lack of equity in my relationship…damn. This sums it up. He stopped taking me out after a certain point in dating stages and we’d just Netflix and cook food 3x a week and somehow still expected us to have sex every time we hung out, and expected for us to talk on the phone every night so he could have a therapist 🙄 I feel so used ☹️ Not only was he taking up all my time and energy, which was the only valuable resource I have, he definitely was not spending enough his money to have the things I was giving to them. Then blamed me for not appreciating him…
Ended my "relationship" with my boyfriend 2 days ago. He was never available on weekends, did the therapy thing with me, was always doing the small talking, and a lot more. All I said was, it is not working for me and I cannot accommodate your unavailability. He has not contacted me since then...do I care? NO.
I guess he didn't work in hospitality then, because hospitality workers are rarely available at weekends - I know, it absolutely kills dating opportunities 😢
Great video. Must watch it for all the details. How women give their power away: 1. The relationship is on HIS terms/his beck and call. 2. You're afraid to say how you feel about your relationship with him. 3. When the relationship ends, you focus on him instead of yourself. 4. Waiting for him to initiate contact. 5. You stop doing your pre-relationship life and focus solely on the relationship. 6. You feel you can't live without him. 7. You think this is the one person you'll feel good about (the only bus in town). How men use women: 1. He pretends he wants a relationship but acts otherwise. 2. He always makes excuses about not spending time with you or blames you. 3. After sex, he says let's take it slow. 4. He avoids sharing personal things about himself. 5. His conversations with you are rather surface. 6. He talks to other women constantly but claims it's just friendly. 7. He breaks up with you constantly and tries to get back together. 8. He's selfish in the bedroom; just cares about his pleasure. 9. He teases you; introduces you to people who are important to him but communications are rare. 10. He's secretive in his life; won't acknowledge that you're in his life (ex. posting pictures). 11. He uses you for money. 12. He uses you as his therapist!!!! (so familiar!) 13. He avoids commitment conversations.
Or says something like this for example: let's just go with the flow, were not in a relationship, but likes to sleep with you. Then if you don't do what he wants sexually he threatens to see other people? Playing games & house 🏠 with you! Crazy making!?!!!
Number 12....I am a retired clinical psychology professor so being cast as their therapist (in their mind) happens far too often. I try to avoid the what did you do conversation...I will say Im retired or was faculty but the field always comes up...cant lie...guess I could say IQ testing but that might scare them to death. Hmmm. Maybe learning theory ...any innocuous part of psychology??????But people are drawn to me before they know, women do it too. I need to cultivate a mean bXtch face.
I met someone on line who wanted to meet shortly after we connected with each other. We had plans to meet for coffee. When I got there he got very close to me & asked "do you feel a spark?" I said, "well no." He said "me either. No sense wasting time," and left!! 😅
This all was spot on. I recently did an "autopsy" of my current and past relationships and saw how I have really lowered my standards with my current relationship and just accepted it because of our long history and connection. Definitely was getting less than I deserved..so I just broke up with him. Now I'm focusing on me and also my pattern for dating very broken and emotionally unavailable men, and how it goes back to my father and trying to people please him. I'm sad for the breakup, but happy to not continuing to accept so much pain. I know the right guy is waiting for me, when I am ready. ❤
So many women were loved right by their fathers, and had to work hard with that so later they did the same within their relationships, im so lucky to have worked in healing my inner child in a program by one of the hest in Sacramento. Years after before my dad died he supported me after my mom died to being reducated..and in that the love he showed was so great another level of healing..
I did too had no boundaries in place I had a woman years ago tell me I needed to put them in place period for myself and also for men. It was an aha moment..opened my eyes up..~
I was off the market for 43 years. I’m widowed and I found this video a little late. If I knew 8 months ago what you taught here, I wouldn’t be in a situation that I regret right now.
'Loving yourself' and not allowing yourself to be used or disrespected doesn't automatically bring happiness. Sometimes it just brings an honourable loneliness and sadness.
It feels lonely but at first but you don't have to be stressing about what the jerk is up too and being upset when he doesn't do what he says he will and let's you down again.
As women we are brainwashed into thinking that there is someone out there for everyone and that having a man is wonderful. We haven't met Mr right yet LOL . People don't have to be married anymore and men have always been weak but our mothers and grandmothers had to put up with it. Any man who isn't weak and pathetic has a girl friend or wife and gets snapped up in his teens or 20s and a rare few reform their ways and only mellow out over time.
My sentiments entirely. We all pick up emotional baggage along the way and the older we get the more baggage we are all carrying. Younger attachments seem to be purer and simpler.
You are 💯 speaking facts. The good ones get snagged up early. The indecisive and just use woman like trade in cars with the meh whatever energy seems to be the only ones lurking out there. The older you get the harder it gets. It also depends on the area you live in😢
And I used to feel something was wrong with me 😂 I don't care if people assume I am a lesbian or hate men. The fact is not many good people are available to date and lead to a long term relationship.
Thanks Jonathan. As an older lady, your advice is “right on.” Lol. But I will say, being single causes much less stress. And frankly, at this stage of my life, I’m actually very contented and happy. 🙏
46 tried dating for 2 mo ths and just ran into men only wanted booty call. I figured it out that being single os juat fine. Im content w my circle of family, friends and furbabies.
So much seems to revolve around male genitalia. I accepted myself as asexual so that has relieved a lot of the anxiety. I find interacting with other’s genitalia and orifices off-putting and can’t continue with that in order to secure a relationship. I’ve tried with both women and men. At 41, I feel great not forcing myself to do unpleasant things that require loads of alcohol on my part and have not had sex for 5 years. I would still love an intelligent and creative companion of any gender.
Men don't want to hear the truth. I experienced rage and irritation if I spoke what was on my mind. I felt like walking on eggshells, hiding my deep emotions or insecurities because he couldn't take it. As we got to the point to speak about what kind of a relationship we both want ed, we both talked about different things and I felt my needs weren't heard at all. He also ghosted me multiple times, didn't introduce me to anyone (friends, family). It would've be so easy not to let myself trust him in the first place and not to fall in love with him.
You sound like your me Rita Wow! I had the same thing happened to me. Whenever I was completely honest to him how I felt not getting my needs met, he would fly off the handle and turn it on me that it was all my fault. Very sad how long I put up with that because I didn't love myself and was looking for love from a man instead of putting myself first. I no longer do that and am not giving my power away to anyone yayyy! I'm not in any intimate relationship for awhile now and am just focusing on loving myself and I'm OK and not feeling lonely anymore 😊
Yes this too..some men do not understand their must be reciprocal..communication in a true partnership it goes both ways / radical honesty with kindness..so no one feels closed off to open up verbally from an authentic place ..to share oneself in a naked way..to let the the other person see the person they are at ♥ heart level..
This. Ppl wonder why I don't settle for a relationship with any man that takes an interest in me. I have raised my children, had a successful career etc. And it's not a hurry to dive back into the place of inadequate relationships, it's been 18 years since I have been in one, and each year brings more contentment to wait for the right fellow. I know what I'm bringing to the table, and its good. Not going to settle for casual use of my love,or my body by another fool that doesn't appreciate what I give until they've betrayed my trust, because after betrayal I have no more interest or desire to be with them. I like what I see in my mirror, don't ever sell yourselves short or you may damage your own self image, and that's truly despair.
So refreshing to hear this message I’ve been told countless times by men I’ve dated or chatted to online that I expect too much too soon But always try to become intimate too soon
A guy I dated once was very nice but by the third date he got mad because I didn't want to have sex with him. He actually said I'm not going to keep seeing you just like we're friends my answer was okay and then I never called him again. When he called I didn't answer
OMG, my ex boyfriend broke up with me three times! I was dealing with an "emotionally constipated child"! I only have myself to blame for taking him back. Thank you for this video!
I ended a relationship 4.5 years ago. Dated for 6 years, talked about commitment a year in, then all talk stopped when intrusive adult daughter would be extremely disrespectful to me. I began to see the true situation but enjoyed having hom in my life. But I noticed he never stuck up for me and finally he told me his daughter was "my problem " and I had to deal with it. She was the most mean and self centered brat. Out the door I went and never looked back.
I had to leave him because of this exactly that was 13 years ago. His life didn’t change wrapped up in his daughter’s and parents demands. He just died of heart attack so suddenly, everyone says that could’ve the best thing that could happen to him. It’s so sad. He made his choice how to Live his life no one could rescue him.
I would have asked why the hell should someone else's badly raised child be my problem? It isn't so goodbye. Brats are the problem of their parents, nobody else and I've seen teachers kick them out of classrooms. One substitute teacher hauled off and slapped one who was a constant smart ass hard in his face. He was sitting there with tears coming down his face afterward, an entirely different kid.
@@dsoule4902 The guy can also use the kids as an excuse to avoid spending time together, dodge committment and not be serious. I will not date any single father's again with school- age or adult children. Learned that through trial and error twice.
I don't shack up. If he wants me like a wife, he'll have to put a ring on it. If I have to boggle my mind with a man who doesn't meet me in moving forward. He doesn't need to bother coming back.
Thank You ❤ !!! Wish I would have heard this sooner in life. I will be alone to my dieing breath before I ever again "beg" for someone to "understand" my needs and feelings !!!!!!!!!!!
The problem is men are raised to believe the world is theirs and they can do as they please. Women are raised to accommodate, change their lives around and be silent. Women aren’t stupid. They see everything; but the message they’ve been given is that they are too feminist if they don’t put up with BS.
Here's the thing, I'm on my own personal growth journey. My husband passed away, and so many guys don't want what I want. I would rather be alone and miserable than with someone who chooses everything on his terms. This is why I'm just learning to make new and good friendships. I am taking companionship on my terms. No ghosting, no sex unless they make me a priority. Several guys tell me what they want, and not willing to listen to what I want. There has to be reciprocation, I gave a couple gifts, and they didn't give me one.
So sorry there’s so many scumbags. I hope you take the path that makes you most healthy and mentally sane. I’m sorry you endured those losers, I can say so far through my 20’s most guys I’ve experienced were like this too. I’d say 77% of men in general this generation are complete garbage.
I'd swear you knew everything going on with me and my relationship. I actually laughed several times because you hit home and showed me how ridiculous Ive been. Ive done everything you pointed out. I'm wising up!! Tired of giving my power away and having NO BOUNDARIES! GEESH!!
My last ex would go icy cold if I told him I wanted more, or he would ghost me so it programmed me not to ask him, of course that is what he wanted and at end I resented him so much for that. I will never do that again.
I definitely agree on the texting stuff - most days I wanna toss my phone in the river. Texting is convenient for, "Hey, can you grab a gallon of milk on your way home, maybe a pint of Ben & Jerry's too." 😄 p.s. - great shirt Jonathan 🤩
You totally nailed it. I've been through this and had no idea at the time what was going on it's so good to hear someone articulate the scenarios so well. I now feel more equipped to avoid ending up in the same situation again.
I would rather be alone and respected than in someone’s company, and look like a pushover. That’s why I have been alone for almost six years. If that’s the way it’s gonna be that’s fine with me. I’m extremely grateful that I enjoy my own company lol because for people that have a hard time being along that’s the trap that leaves you vulnerable to the con man.
You crack me up. My daughter joined one of the local groups from when she was in high school? One guy talk to her about meeting up. Hanging out. He lived down the way from us as a kid. So she said sure. They never dated. They were just neighborhood friends. She gets there and he's trying to walk hand in hand. She suggested they walk outside. Then they sit on a bench he wants to put his arm around her shoulder. She felt creeped out. She cut it short. She asked me.. wth was that?? We never dated or anything. I told her people don't have basic social skills forget first meeting skills.
Really glad to have found you Johnathan. I’ve recently entered this crazy dysfunctional world of “modern dating” educating myself on everything I can to not be used again. My recent experience has really been a lesson learned for me and has made me tap into my own insecurities, my attachment style and focus on bettering myself. To love myself and see my worth. To also realize the power I actually have. All my life I have given emotionally unavailable men my power. Even in my 23 yr marriage. Still trying to detach myself from my recent 4mth experience. Your videos are a huge reinforcement for me. I’m scared, but staying strong through my faith.
So grateful for this advice. I was so paranoid because I have never been in a serious relationship before. After watching your video, I can confirm that my partner wants a serious relationship and is not using me. Thank you 🌸
Thank you sooo much for this wake up call 🙏🏻! I really needed to hear this & getting to understand the “translation” put into feminine words, as no one ever explained me this ! Thank you 🙏🏻
Excellent podcast Jonathan. You're so right about what you say. I will not allow men to use me for anything. I send your podcasts to men. They frequently cannot handle the truth and feel inadequate. Also calling them out on bad behavior and boundary setting causes deflection blameshifting and gaslighting. Life is too short for bs and gameplaying. You're right about about men saying what they need to get laid. Lovebombing and future faking I think there's a large population of avoidant attachment men that want casual situations hips. The keepers are rare. Agree with having the self love and self respect to cut them off say you're done and walk away. The texting and expectation of therapy is crazymaking!
Jonathon. You're all that!!! 😊 You've just confirmed what I had been doing for the last six years on and off!!! It's finally hit home knowing he will never change. I feel so free and spiritually lifted. I appreciate you and your expertise on relationships. Thank you so much!!! ❤️
Got someone that I've known off and on and I finally realized that I have been used physically and emotionally and he just wants to come back. However, I tried desperately to talk about the importance of communication is very important rather than to been taken advantage of. So I've given him the truth about his immature behavior that I've been tired of being taken for granted about my feelings that I told him that I nolonger want to be involved in this immature relationship and he never responded back. I'm done 😢
That was fantastic. Thanks so much for the straight talk. It’s so refreshing. Just fresh on the dating scene so it’s just what I needed to hear. Thanks for looking out for us!
Good rant Jonathan! We need the honest truth. I hate when people try to sugarcoat so they don’t step on anyone’s toes. Love your style of teaching/coaching. I bought several of your books. Thank you.
Awesome. Ive needed to hear all this my whole life! I always believed it was me being "too demanding" so hated myself for it but hey, I got to 60 years old and it was the last one that made me feel so disgusting that I walked away from him and ive spent the last two years "home alone." In hiding. Needless to say I never got any of this education as a kid. Thank you so much as I can now draw a line under my past. Thank you so much.
Jonathon.. relish your talks.. why.. because I can say confidently I have already evolved into this awareness.. there is so much value in hearing you reiterate this subject in its finer details and totality, and though it is your field of work, the benefit of a man sharing this awareness in a grounded and clear way is strengthening and cant be under appreciated.. love it when you unapologetically drop the f bomb too.. very funny.. Also, like many others listening in I'm sure, I greatly appreciate your vibrancy, enthusiasm and plain honest speak.. Dallas NZ
Love the Rant 😂 so so true .. enjoyed it and understand where you are coming from. It's all about loving yourself first and feeling valued! Thankyou Jonathan
This maybe your best video yet, the rant is on point. I swore off relationships after my narcissistic spouse died...never say never. I'm in the very early stage of establishing a friendship (maybe more LATER) with a fellow widowed person that I met at a hiking meetup.
WOW....this is excellent....girls in highschool, women of all ages should listen to this....don't trample your values ladies....stop being used by men...... what an excellent video!!!!
I agree with what you're saying, you are so right! The problem is we want relationships to be easy and it's not easy to stand up for yourself and learn self respect. I hope it will be worth the effort!
I really love this video, Jonathan! And I really love your emotional rants because you care! You are so right in all you're saying. People who are seeking a long term-relationship need to be forthright about what they want when starting a dating relationship. I agree with you 💯%😊
2007 he was told he had a colon mass and did nothing. 2009 he met and dated me for four weeks then we married. Six months later he asked my a vague question about “not having a long time together” vs. never being married. I was so inexplicably happy for the first time in my 51 years of life that I told him I’d rather have six months of “Happy” than to have lived without ever knowing this beautiful, loving and blessed utopia. His health began to deteriorate in 2018 and I was told of his 2007 diagnosis. Being a retired PA, I did everything in my power to persuade him to seek care. He maintained his determination to avoid the agony of cancer treatment as his father had died @ 65 after four years of fighting the same condition. We had committed ourselves to clean diet and healthy living long before we ever met so this was consistent throughout our 12 years together. His health deteriorated at an increased pace from 12/2020 until his death 10/2021. We were intensely bonded as we had 12 years of constant, uninterrupted companionship; We had retired early and relocated to build our homestead in an isolated area. Retrospectively I’d say that I wish I would’ve known his level of pain and heartache which he chose not to share during our time together. He wrote a letter conveying his deepest emotions and concerns for me (which letter I found a few days before his passing.) I asked him to read me the letter as I videoed his reading. We had a few days time of processing his heart-longing and shared tears together. Ours was a beautiful love story that will hold my heart captive until I’m again with him in the next world. I would’ve wanted to know of his diagnosis and his suspected shortened lifespan before I made the decision to sell my home and relocate to an isolated place and invested in building a homestead which,( although being everything I could ever need or ask for,) is now suffering neglect as I’m unable to sufficiently care for the maintenance. I have no attachment to the local backwoods society and am far removed from a community of familiarity. I believe, that if one has sufficient reason to believe he is to die at 62 years old, it becomes incumbent upon that person to share this matter prior to making lifestyle changes on behalf of another person who also has the God-given right of free-will choice to direct their own life. Don’t wait until three days before passing to say, “I always knew I would die at 62.” Moving forward, I’d like to invest what I’ve learned of emotional bonding, radical honesty, pure commitment and spiritual camaraderie. Finding someone like-minded….that’s a whole other story!
Where have I been all of the life of your channel!?!? I am blown away, my language is spoken here--fluently! I am so excited to have found an abundant source of support, strength, healing, TRUTH (even though it may sting a little... ) I believe that KNOWLEDGE = POWER Teachability, humility, gratitude and faith are just a sample of the steps that make up the path to an enlightened, empowered person . Thank you for shining a light along my path to self actualization, self respect and love. I can't wait to take this latest leg of my life's journey! #onlyloveandfear #thestoryutellurself
Been divorced 11 years now and dated on and off and I have seen it all! Total different perspective at this point in my life and it all resonates with me!
I really appreciate you for doing this. My father passed away and I remember asking him, what did he think about my boyfriend, and he always would tell me: It’s your choice, you are a grown woman. Now I am realizing that pretty much everything that you say it is happening to me. As you can imagine, we are not in good terms right now and I have asked for a divorce. I really wish I had stopped it long ago, because honestly it is very hard to leave a long time relationship even if it wasn’t a quality one. Thanks to CZcams and you, I came across your gentleman honesty and truthful hurt. Thanks for waking me up.
Thank you so much for your wisdom and your advice. The last couple ones you hit on definitely described my situation. I've already told him that I'm open to connection in the future but not the past and that was for if he chooses to move forward. Thank you again and have a lovely weekend
My last relationship was stressful. He was so moody that I felt like I was walking on egg shells. Of course I broke it off. Now, my number one rule if I ever do this again, is: I would have to really enjoy being in his company. (we would have really good communication). Of course, things happen, so it cannot always be that way, but the majority of the time, yes.
This resonates with me Jonathan! Thank you for giving it to us straight! You are a wonderful “big brother”! I am tired of being used and he not accepting any responsibility for his actions and then trying to turn it around on me. I rather be alone then with the wrong person! I’m happy with me and my life and can be patient. I have a great family support. Bless you Jonathan! ❤
You came up in my feed, so I watched. Took me years to realize everything you’ve tried to get across. Sometimes women hear it and still can’t seem to implement it. Thanks for your sincere efforts in rehabbing women. I’m doing very well.❤
The Commitment Vows made by you is SO genius , wow 🤩. Great idea, Jon! That would help society a lot and save women from being more depressed and disheartened than they already are. They're already fragile and they don't need to be pushed to suicide mode. Talking serious.
Wow! This is great! I just found you and the timing is perfect as I just broke up today with a “narcissistic” type man after giving him a year if my life with him. (I won’t get that back). After one year of being with him he finally confessed that he had been living with ex and not his parents that he told me. He said he didn’t want to lose me 😮he did pretty much a kk these things you talk about. What hit me was “do you really want to be with a “f***led up” emotionally man
Jonathan, thank you so much for what you do! I don't mind you're ranting I know that it's only because you have such compassion for women and for love and it's just so refreshing. I have dated every type of guy that you described in this LOL it all resonates. And I am definitely in a better place for seeing things for what they are💛🧡💚☘
Thank You 😊 great talk … you are so right 😵 I didn’t have a father or reliable father figure when I was growing up so I made a lot of mistakes in dating and marriage. I’ve been celibate for 3 years did therapy, reading and really getting to know myself, love and respect myself and know what I want and expectations I have for a partner. So your reminder or rant was great pre game talk before I go out and date ! ❤ it’s also good to know only 20 % are relationship material . So it’s ok to say Next ,,,,, Thanks again ❤❤❤
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Let me guess.... Redondo Beach? Seal Beach?
I appreciate you making this video.
I was just curious about this, because I've only experienced toxic relationships and this healthy relationship I'm in now, it's foreign and I'm always questioning everything about this relationship.
After hearing everything you had to share. . . Thank you so much for validating this euphoric sensation.
No I Don't Want To Be Used😢
What is the cost of relationship counseling after free call?
Thank you! Helping me a lot !! 😊
If you are scared that a difficult conversation is going to ruin a relationship, then he's not the one. Period....
Like your honesty!!
❤True words spoken .
So true
I quit dating because I'm not ready for a physical relationship and I haven't met a man who respects this.
It’s also hard on the men that didn’t have a good role model. Some dads abuse their kids. My husband is a very good man, with lots of flaws, but with, love, respect and patience… you can work with any man that wants to be a better person than his father was. ❤❤❤
I once asked a very old woman (97 ), who was still full in life, with no age problems, what was her " secret ". She said, " I don't really know, but I think it's because I've never been married "....😊
That is totally right ! ❤️ I believe so also.
I keep saying “Men do to you, what you allow them to do.”
Women, take your power back.
Love yourself enough so you know your worth and refuse to put up with BS.
@@sonyasmith1991 exactly. Very well said.
Correction:
Boys playing dressup in grown bodies. . .
Rubbish
So true!
I decided a few years ago i am tired of being men's conquests. I have been able to spot men's true selves in about 2 months time when i don't sleep with them. Ladies, stop giving it up too soon. If they really like you, they will wait for 6 months so you can get to know eachother. You will save yourself a lot of heartache!
6 months? That still makes you an easy hoe....he gets the snatch with not commitment....boyfriend got wife privileges. You are giving wife duties at girlfriend prices..good deal for him....serrano alot of brown people like Puerto Ricans are named that....are you one? If so your thinking on 6 months aligns with the low standards you people have....
Basically ~ LIFT your standards, morals & value ladies, keep yr knickers on and stop being so desperate that you'll do anything to hang on to anyone just because you want someone. It's sad & emotionally damaging to your soul in the long-run.
Exactly
Amen sister! 🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Yes!! You can't lose what you don't have!! Accept and move on ❤️
Preach!!!
I can't find your books anywhere
Love ❤️
“Wife benefits at girl friend prices”
Very well said.👍
Rubbish. Women are not commodities for men. If a man thinks like that then you are best not bothering with him at all. Marraige is a load of patriarchal rubbish as well. Know that!
Damn truth in that statement.
This is so true, I love this.
I felt the lack of equity in my relationship…damn. This sums it up. He stopped taking me out after a certain point in dating stages and we’d just Netflix and cook food 3x a week and somehow still expected us to have sex every time we hung out, and expected for us to talk on the phone every night so he could have a therapist 🙄 I feel so used ☹️ Not only was he taking up all my time and energy, which was the only valuable resource I have, he definitely was not spending enough his money to have the things I was giving to them. Then blamed me for not appreciating him…
Ended my "relationship" with my boyfriend 2 days ago. He was never available on weekends, did the therapy thing with me, was always doing the small talking, and a lot more. All I said was, it is not working for me and I cannot accommodate your unavailability.
He has not contacted me since then...do I care? NO.
Good for you for protecting yourself!
Good for you 💛
Take care of yourself first, always!
I guess he didn't work in hospitality then, because hospitality workers are rarely available at weekends - I know, it absolutely kills dating opportunities 😢
How long were you both a couple?
Good for you!
"When fretted by this single life which seems to be my lot, I think of all the many men whose wife I'm glad I'm not" Aunt Ada.
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My mom used to say it's better to be alone than wish you were
Awesome saying!
Great video. Must watch it for all the details.
How women give their power away:
1. The relationship is on HIS terms/his beck and call.
2. You're afraid to say how you feel about your relationship with him.
3. When the relationship ends, you focus on him instead of yourself.
4. Waiting for him to initiate contact.
5. You stop doing your pre-relationship life and focus solely on the relationship.
6. You feel you can't live without him.
7. You think this is the one person you'll feel good about (the only bus in town).
How men use women:
1. He pretends he wants a relationship but acts otherwise.
2. He always makes excuses about not spending time with you or blames you.
3. After sex, he says let's take it slow.
4. He avoids sharing personal things about himself.
5. His conversations with you are rather surface.
6. He talks to other women constantly but claims it's just friendly.
7. He breaks up with you constantly and tries to get back together.
8. He's selfish in the bedroom; just cares about his pleasure.
9. He teases you; introduces you to people who are important to him but communications are rare.
10. He's secretive in his life; won't acknowledge that you're in his life (ex. posting pictures).
11. He uses you for money.
12. He uses you as his therapist!!!! (so familiar!)
13. He avoids commitment conversations.
Or says something like this for example: let's just go with the flow, were not in a relationship, but likes to sleep with you. Then if you don't do what he wants sexually he threatens to see other people? Playing games & house 🏠 with you! Crazy making!?!!!
Number 12....I am a retired clinical psychology professor so being cast as their therapist (in their mind) happens far too often. I try to avoid the what did you do conversation...I will say Im retired or was faculty but the field always comes up...cant lie...guess I could say IQ testing but that might scare them to death. Hmmm. Maybe learning theory ...any innocuous part of psychology??????But people are drawn to me before they know, women do it too. I need to cultivate a mean bXtch face.
Noted!
The only bus in town !
Great saying !
Hahahahaha
I met someone on line who wanted to meet shortly after we connected with each other. We had plans to meet for coffee. When I got there he got very close to me & asked "do you feel a spark?" I said, "well no." He said "me either. No sense wasting time," and left!! 😅
Lmao at least he was honest...
U dodged a bullet!!
@@brianaschino4903 haha, I believe you are right!!
Did you get a coffee 😂
Very insecure man indeed. Wanted it all without working on it. You are lucky he left.
Hahah “ do you really want to be with a guy who’s all Fucked up emotionally?😂😂😂
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This all was spot on. I recently did an "autopsy" of my current and past relationships and saw how I have really lowered my standards with my current relationship and just accepted it because of our long history and connection. Definitely was getting less than I deserved..so I just broke up with him. Now I'm focusing on me and also my pattern for dating very broken and emotionally unavailable men, and how it goes back to my father and trying to people please him. I'm sad for the breakup, but happy to not continuing to accept so much pain. I know the right guy is waiting for me, when I am ready. ❤
So many women were loved right by their fathers, and had to work hard with that so later they did the same within their relationships, im so lucky to have worked in healing my inner child in a program by one of the hest in Sacramento. Years after before my dad died he supported me after my mom died to being reducated..and in that the love he showed was so great another level of healing..
We must be twins 🤔
I can relate to your story sooo much😔 it's fecking hurting to realise we do it to ourselves
Spot on for me too!
I did too had no boundaries in place I had a woman years ago tell me I needed to put them in place period for myself and also for men. It was an aha moment..opened my eyes up..~
Your protectiveness over women is so apparent. Your straight talk is so pertinent to anti-victim mindset. Thanks You Jonathan
I was off the market for 43 years. I’m widowed and I found this video a little late. If I knew 8 months ago what you taught here, I wouldn’t be in a situation that I regret right now.
'Loving yourself' and not allowing yourself to be used or disrespected doesn't automatically bring happiness. Sometimes it just brings an honourable loneliness and sadness.
It feels lonely but at first but you don't have to be stressing about what the jerk is up too and being upset when he doesn't do what he says he will and let's you down again.
Disagree. You can have fulfillment and contentment with solitude. It all comes down to a sense of purpose.
Never said you couldn't, just that it's not a given
@@sarcodonblue2876 how long is 'at first'?
@@mmmgyrl1976 7 years, still waiting for it to 'turn up' 🤷♀️
As women we are brainwashed into thinking that there is someone out there for everyone and that having a man is wonderful. We haven't met Mr right yet LOL . People don't have to be married anymore and men have always been weak but our mothers and grandmothers had to put up with it. Any man who isn't weak and pathetic has a girl friend or wife and gets snapped up in his teens or 20s and a rare few reform their ways and only mellow out over time.
My sentiments entirely. We all pick up emotional baggage along the way and the older we get the more baggage we are all carrying. Younger attachments seem to be purer and simpler.
@@vonnytighe517I share that.
You are 💯 speaking facts. The good ones get snagged up early. The indecisive and just use woman like trade in cars with the meh whatever energy seems to be the only ones lurking out there. The older you get the harder it gets. It also depends on the area you live in😢
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I definitely agree with your comment.
And I used to feel something was wrong with me 😂 I don't care if people assume I am a lesbian or hate men. The fact is not many good people are available to date and lead to a long term relationship.
Thanks Jonathan. As an older lady, your advice is “right on.” Lol. But I will say, being single causes much less stress. And frankly, at this stage of my life, I’m actually very contented and happy. 🙏
Thanks for sharing!
I agree same here
Indeed!
Me too. Single is best. So happy.
46 tried dating for 2 mo ths and just ran into men only wanted booty call.
I figured it out that being single os juat fine. Im content w my circle of family, friends and furbabies.
I have too been used many many times.
I’m grateful for the men who make these videos and take the place of the father figure many of us never had…
So much seems to revolve around male genitalia. I accepted myself as asexual so that has relieved a lot of the anxiety. I find interacting with other’s genitalia and orifices off-putting and can’t continue with that in order to secure a relationship. I’ve tried with both women and men. At 41, I feel great not forcing myself to do unpleasant things that require loads of alcohol on my part and have not had sex for 5 years. I would still love an intelligent and creative companion of any gender.
Same here
I third this!
Have you thought about getting a roommate?
Emotional safety is a huge deal if you don’t feel safe to discuss anything and everything with the guy you aren’t with the right guy.
Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued. Berne Brown 🎉
Exactly
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That is the bare minimum of a connection from a man, it should also be protected, provided for and romantically pursued.
I will not have sex ever again until I’m married ! I’ve been Celibate over 15 years !
That's really neat! You go girl!!
Spot on!!!! Sex is for marriage, that's how it was designed by God!
Me too.
Men don't want to hear the truth. I experienced rage and irritation if I spoke what was on my mind. I felt like walking on eggshells, hiding my deep emotions or insecurities because he couldn't take it. As we got to the point to speak about what kind of a relationship we both want ed, we both talked about different things and I felt my needs weren't heard at all. He also ghosted me multiple times, didn't introduce me to anyone (friends, family). It would've be so easy not to let myself trust him in the first place and not to fall in love with him.
Because they have fragile egos
He was a classic narcissist.
You sound like your me Rita Wow! I had the same thing happened to me. Whenever I was completely honest to him how I felt not getting my needs met, he would fly off the handle and turn it on me that it was all my fault. Very sad how long I put up with that because I didn't love myself and was looking for love from a man instead of putting myself first. I no longer do that and am not giving my power away to anyone yayyy! I'm not in any intimate relationship for awhile now and am just focusing on loving myself and I'm OK and not feeling lonely anymore 😊
Yes this too..some men do not understand their must be reciprocal..communication in a true partnership it goes both ways / radical honesty with kindness..so no one feels closed off to open up verbally from an authentic place ..to share oneself in a naked way..to let the the other person see the person they are at ♥ heart level..
You were smart not to trust him or give him your heart. This is a trauma bond.
This. Ppl wonder why I don't settle for a relationship with any man that takes an interest in me. I have raised my children, had a successful career etc. And it's not a hurry to dive back into the place of inadequate relationships, it's been 18 years since I have been in one, and each year brings more contentment to wait for the right fellow. I know what I'm bringing to the table, and its good. Not going to settle for casual use of my love,or my body by another fool that doesn't appreciate what I give until they've betrayed my trust, because after betrayal I have no more interest or desire to be with them. I like what I see in my mirror, don't ever sell yourselves short or you may damage your own self image, and that's truly despair.
“You don’t know who someone is until you live with them.” Yes! So true.
Exactly
So refreshing to hear this message
I’ve been told countless times by men I’ve dated or chatted to online that I expect too much too soon
But always try to become intimate too soon
A guy I dated once was very nice but by the third date he got mad because I didn't want to have sex with him. He actually said I'm not going to keep seeing you just like we're friends my answer was okay and then I never called him again. When he called I didn't answer
They have no problem or shame when they ask for what they want but if you ask for anything you are shamed.
OMG, my ex boyfriend broke up with me three times! I was dealing with an "emotionally constipated child"! I only have myself to blame for taking him back. Thank you for this video!
Yes ! I’m 56 my kids are all grown and I’m a yia yia ( nana) I will never break my own heart over a man again ❤
I ended a relationship 4.5 years ago. Dated for 6 years, talked about commitment a year in, then all talk stopped when intrusive adult daughter would be extremely disrespectful to me. I began to see the true situation but enjoyed having hom in my life. But I noticed he never stuck up for me and finally he told me his daughter was "my problem " and I had to deal with it. She was the most mean and self centered brat. Out the door I went and never looked back.
I had to leave him because of this exactly that was 13 years ago. His life didn’t change wrapped up in his daughter’s and parents demands. He just died of heart attack so suddenly, everyone says that could’ve the best thing that could happen to him. It’s so sad. He made his choice how to
Live his life no one could rescue him.
I would have asked why the hell should someone else's badly raised child be my problem? It isn't so goodbye. Brats are the problem of their parents, nobody else and I've seen teachers kick them out of classrooms. One substitute teacher hauled off and slapped one who was a constant smart ass hard in his face. He was sitting there with tears coming down his face afterward, an entirely different kid.
Oh yeah. Family can sure interfere in relationships. Sounds like emotional incest.- enmeshment. Been there done that.
I had one of those!!!!! The now-adult daughter is used block to keep him from having to commit Lmao. Fck 'em
@@dsoule4902 The guy can also use the kids as an excuse to avoid spending time together, dodge committment and not be serious. I will not date any single father's again with school- age or adult children. Learned that through trial and error twice.
I am with you!!! I am done being used by these men!!!!
I don't shack up. If he wants me like a wife, he'll have to put a ring on it. If I have to boggle my mind with a man who doesn't meet me in moving forward. He doesn't need to bother coming back.
Thank You ❤ !!! Wish I would have heard this sooner in life. I will be alone to my dieing breath before I ever again "beg" for someone to "understand" my needs and feelings !!!!!!!!!!!
The problem is men are raised to believe the world is theirs and they can do as they please. Women are raised to accommodate, change their lives around and be silent. Women aren’t stupid. They see everything; but the message they’ve been given is that they are too feminist if they don’t put up with BS.
Here's the thing, I'm on my own personal growth journey. My husband passed away, and so many guys don't want what I want. I would rather be alone and miserable than with someone who chooses everything on his terms. This is why I'm just learning to make new and good friendships. I am taking companionship on my terms. No ghosting, no sex unless they make me a priority. Several guys tell me what they want, and not willing to listen to what I want. There has to be reciprocation, I gave a couple gifts, and they didn't give me one.
Who's miserable alone?!? Man I've had peace alone
sane situation but have low opportunity to meet any men
Exactly..if it is not reciprocal it's not a true partnership..which..both participate..I have noticed those same traits..undesirable..
@@AG-nn8lp amen
So sorry there’s so many scumbags. I hope you take the path that makes you most healthy and mentally sane. I’m sorry you endured those losers, I can say so far through my 20’s most guys I’ve experienced were like this too. I’d say 77% of men in general this generation are complete garbage.
I have stopped being used !!! Thank you Jonathan you have started huge changes in my dating experience !
Fantastic!
Staying single has been the best thing. No drama, life is good.
" I don't wanna be used anymore",never again😢😊says Katya from Cuba🇨🇺
Universally woman need to keep their knickers on while dating.
I'd swear you knew everything going on with me and my relationship. I actually laughed several times because you hit home and showed me how ridiculous Ive been. Ive done everything you pointed out. I'm wising up!! Tired of giving my power away and having NO BOUNDARIES! GEESH!!
My last ex would go icy cold if I told him I wanted more, or he would ghost me so it programmed me not to ask him, of course that is what he wanted and at end I resented him so much for that. I will never do that again.
I definitely agree on the texting stuff - most days I wanna toss my phone in the river. Texting is convenient for, "Hey, can you grab a gallon of milk on your way home, maybe a pint of Ben & Jerry's too." 😄
p.s. - great shirt Jonathan 🤩
Exactly!!
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@Laurie Simonds - re: "Ben & Jerry's" = the ... Ultimate, Overpriced, WOKE Ice Cream using UN-Funny Names !!
It's Impossible To Have A Texting Relationship ---Natalie Clarice ♥️
@@warriormanmaxx8991 you're right. I grew up there and miss the days back in the 80's when it was just great homemade ice cream 😕
You totally nailed it. I've been through this and had no idea at the time what was going on it's so good to hear someone articulate the scenarios so well. I now feel more equipped to avoid ending up in the same situation again.
Save yourself 38 minutes girls, just Live your Life with your knees together. Sorted!!!!!!
NO I Don't want to be used anymore, I'm not going to allow men to use me anymore. I'm not giving my power away anymore.❤
I would rather be alone and respected than in someone’s company, and look like a pushover. That’s why I have been alone for almost six years. If that’s the way it’s gonna be that’s fine with me. I’m extremely grateful that I enjoy my own company lol because for people that have a hard time being along that’s the trap that leaves you vulnerable to the con man.
Exactly
You crack me up. My daughter joined one of the local groups from when she was in high school? One guy talk to her about meeting up. Hanging out. He lived down the way from us as a kid. So she said sure. They never dated. They were just neighborhood friends. She gets there and he's trying to walk hand in hand. She suggested they walk outside. Then they sit on a bench he wants to put his arm around her shoulder. She felt creeped out. She cut it short. She asked me.. wth was that?? We never dated or anything. I told her people don't have basic social skills forget first meeting skills.
Really glad to have found you Johnathan. I’ve recently entered this crazy dysfunctional world of “modern dating” educating myself on everything I can to not be used again. My recent experience has really been a lesson learned for me and has made me tap into my own insecurities, my attachment style and focus on bettering myself. To love myself and see my worth. To also realize the power I actually have. All my life I have given emotionally unavailable men my power. Even in my 23 yr marriage. Still trying to detach myself from my recent 4mth experience. Your videos are a huge reinforcement for me. I’m scared, but staying strong through my faith.
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So grateful for this advice. I was so paranoid because I have never been in a serious relationship before. After watching your video, I can confirm that my partner wants a serious relationship and is not using me. Thank you 🌸
You are so welcome
Thank you sooo much for this wake up call 🙏🏻! I really needed to hear this & getting to understand the “translation” put into feminine words, as no one ever explained me this !
Thank you 🙏🏻
Excellent podcast Jonathan. You're so right about what you say. I will not allow men to use me for anything. I send your podcasts to men. They frequently cannot handle the truth and feel inadequate. Also calling them out on bad behavior and boundary setting causes deflection blameshifting and gaslighting. Life is too short for bs and gameplaying. You're right about about men saying what they need to get laid.
Lovebombing and future faking
I think there's a large population of avoidant attachment men that want casual situations hips. The keepers are rare.
Agree with having the self love and self respect to cut them off say you're done and walk away. The texting and expectation of therapy is crazymaking!
Jonathon. You're all that!!! 😊 You've just confirmed what I had been doing for the last six years on and off!!! It's finally hit home knowing he will never change. I feel so free and spiritually lifted. I appreciate you and your expertise on relationships. Thank you so much!!! ❤️
Yes this what i needed to hear over and over. Thank you Joanathon
While I'm looking for a real relationship, I have no desire to get married again.
Got someone that I've known off and on and I finally realized that I have been used physically and emotionally and he just wants to come back. However, I tried desperately to talk about the importance of communication is very important rather than to been taken advantage of. So I've given him the truth about his immature behavior that I've been tired of being taken for granted about my feelings that I told him that I nolonger want to be involved in this immature relationship and he never responded back. I'm done 😢
That was fantastic. Thanks so much for the straight talk. It’s so refreshing. Just fresh on the dating scene so it’s just what I needed to hear. Thanks for looking out for us!
I fully agree and support what you're saying Jonathon. Thanks as always for your wise and helpful advice.
Thank you Jonathan,appreciate your love and support.This message is spot on ❤
Heck yeah shout it out! Thanks Jonathan! Good sinking in info!!
You bet!
Good rant Jonathan! We need the honest truth. I hate when people try to sugarcoat so they don’t step on anyone’s toes. Love your style of teaching/coaching. I bought several of your books. Thank you.
Awesome. Ive needed to hear all this my whole life! I always believed it was me being "too demanding" so hated myself for it but hey, I got to 60 years old and it was the last one that made me feel so disgusting that I walked away from him and ive spent the last two years "home alone." In hiding. Needless to say I never got any of this education as a kid. Thank you so much as I can now draw a line under my past. Thank you so much.
Jonathon.. relish your talks.. why.. because I can say confidently I have already evolved into this awareness.. there is so much value in hearing you reiterate this subject in its finer details and totality, and though it is your field of work, the benefit of a man sharing this awareness in a grounded and clear way is strengthening and cant be under appreciated.. love it when you unapologetically drop the f bomb too.. very funny.. Also, like many others listening in I'm sure, I greatly appreciate your vibrancy, enthusiasm and plain honest speak.. Dallas NZ
Love the Rant 😂 so so true .. enjoyed it and understand where you are coming from.
It's all about loving yourself first and feeling valued!
Thankyou Jonathan
Love that!
This maybe your best video yet, the rant is on point.
I swore off relationships after my narcissistic spouse died...never say never. I'm in the very early stage of establishing a friendship (maybe more LATER) with a fellow widowed person that I met at a hiking meetup.
WOW....this is excellent....girls in highschool, women of all ages should listen to this....don't trample your values ladies....stop being used by men...... what an excellent video!!!!
Thanks for listening
This video was everything! Totally resonated! Absolutely on point, thank you for snapping me into shape and calling my ass out!!!!!
We all need to be reminded. Thanks so much.
Thank you! I needed this! Just got out of a 2-year relationship with a man who couldn’t commit!!
Thank you Jonathan. ❤ Speaking to us like someone who cares. We NEED to keep our power.. and NOT be afraid to speak up. Grazie
Whoa 😮💨 Yes!!! I feel so validated!!! It’s great to find a man that has our back and strives to keep us ladies safe 🙌🏼💯
You are so welcome
I agree with what you're saying, you are so right! The problem is we want relationships to be easy and it's not easy to stand up for yourself and learn self respect. I hope it will be worth the effort!
Great to see you having your rant live!
Thank you for being a big brother!
Love your honesty
I appreciate that
Thank you for pointing these behaviours out for what they are!
I needed to hear this years ago. But due to some recent events I really needed to hear these exact things you discussed. Thx
Awesome Rant. I’m all ears for this information. Thank you Jonathan 🙏🏽
Glad it was helpful!
I wish I had heard all of this a long time ago. God Bless You for helping women.
I really love this video, Jonathan! And I really love your emotional rants because you care! You are so right in all you're saying. People who are seeking a long term-relationship need to be forthright about what they want when starting a dating relationship. I agree with you 💯%😊
2007 he was told he had a colon mass and did nothing. 2009 he met and dated me for four weeks then we married. Six months later he asked my a vague question about “not having a long time together” vs. never being married. I was so inexplicably happy for the first time in my 51 years of life that I told him I’d rather have six months of “Happy” than to have lived without ever knowing this beautiful, loving and blessed utopia. His health began to deteriorate in 2018 and I was told of his 2007 diagnosis. Being a retired PA, I did everything in my power to persuade him to seek care. He maintained his determination to avoid the agony of cancer treatment as his father had died @ 65 after four years of fighting the same condition. We had committed ourselves to clean diet and healthy living long before we ever met so this was consistent throughout our 12 years together. His health deteriorated at an increased pace from 12/2020 until his death 10/2021. We were intensely bonded as we had 12 years of constant, uninterrupted companionship; We had retired early and relocated to build our homestead in an isolated area. Retrospectively I’d say that I wish I would’ve known his level of pain and heartache which he chose not to share during our time together. He wrote a letter conveying his deepest emotions and concerns for me (which letter I found a few days before his passing.) I asked him to read me the letter as I videoed his reading. We had a few days time of processing his heart-longing and shared tears together. Ours was a beautiful love story that will hold my heart captive until I’m again with him in the next world. I would’ve wanted to know of his diagnosis and his suspected shortened lifespan before I made the decision to sell my home and relocate to an isolated place and invested in building a homestead which,( although being everything I could ever need or ask for,) is now suffering neglect as I’m unable to sufficiently care for the maintenance. I have no attachment to the local backwoods society and am far removed from a community of familiarity.
I believe, that if one has sufficient reason to believe he is to die at 62 years old, it becomes incumbent upon that person to share this matter prior to making lifestyle changes on behalf of another person who also has the God-given right of free-will choice to direct their own life. Don’t wait until three days before passing to say, “I always knew I would die at 62.” Moving forward, I’d like to invest what I’ve learned of emotional bonding, radical honesty, pure commitment and spiritual camaraderie. Finding someone like-minded….that’s a whole other story!
I'm with you! Hearing loud and clear.
Where have I been all of the life of your channel!?!? I am blown away, my language is spoken here--fluently! I am so excited to have found an abundant source of support, strength, healing, TRUTH (even though it may sting a little... ) I believe that
KNOWLEDGE = POWER
Teachability, humility, gratitude and faith are just a sample of the steps that make up the path to an enlightened, empowered person .
Thank you for shining a light along my path to self actualization, self respect and love. I can't wait to take this latest leg of my life's journey!
#onlyloveandfear
#thestoryutellurself
Been divorced 11 years now and dated on and off and I have seen it all! Total different perspective at this point in my life and it all resonates with me!
I really appreciate you for doing this. My father passed away and I remember asking him, what did he think about my boyfriend, and he always would tell me: It’s your choice, you are a grown woman. Now I am realizing that pretty much everything that you say it is happening to me. As you can imagine, we are not in good terms right now and I have asked for a divorce. I really wish I had stopped it long ago, because honestly it is very hard to leave a long time relationship even if it wasn’t a quality one. Thanks to CZcams and you, I came across your gentleman honesty and truthful hurt. Thanks for waking me up.
I'm done giving my power away❤! Thank you for this message.
Thank you so much for your wisdom and your advice. The last couple ones you hit on definitely described my situation. I've already told him that I'm open to connection in the future but not the past and that was for if he chooses to move forward. Thank you again and have a lovely weekend
My last relationship was stressful. He was so moody that I felt like I was walking on egg shells. Of course I broke it off. Now, my number one rule if I ever do this again, is: I would have to really enjoy being in his company. (we would have really good communication). Of course, things happen, so it cannot always be that way, but the majority of the time, yes.
This resonates with me Jonathan! Thank you for giving it to us straight! You are a wonderful “big brother”! I am tired of being used and he not accepting any responsibility for his actions and then trying to turn it around on me. I rather be alone then with the wrong person! I’m happy with me and my life and can be patient. I have a great family support. Bless you Jonathan! ❤
You have open my eyes to everything I have done wrong in my years of dating. I just want to say thank you you are amazing!
Yes, I appreciate you for sharing your expertise in this area. You often answer my questions. Cheers!
Glad to help
You came up in my feed, so I watched. Took me years to realize everything you’ve tried to get across. Sometimes women hear it and still can’t seem to implement it. Thanks for your sincere efforts in rehabbing women. I’m doing very well.❤
Wow, thank you!
Hi there,. This is one of your finest of pieces. So very true. Thank you.
Wow, thank you!
The Commitment Vows made by you is SO genius , wow 🤩. Great idea, Jon! That would help society a lot and save women from being more depressed and disheartened than they already are. They're already fragile and they don't need to be pushed to suicide mode. Talking serious.
Wow! This is great! I just found you and the timing is perfect as I just broke up today with a “narcissistic” type man after giving him a year if my life with him. (I won’t get that back). After one year of being with him he finally confessed that he had been living with ex and not his parents that he told me. He said he didn’t want to lose me 😮he did pretty much a kk these things you talk about. What hit me was “do you really want to be with a “f***led up” emotionally man
You have absolutely nailed it! I see strong, beautiful, intelligent women giving it away all the time!
Jonathan, thank you so much for what you do! I don't mind you're ranting I know that it's only because you have such compassion for women and for love and it's just so refreshing. I have dated every type of guy that you described in this LOL it all resonates. And I am definitely in a better place for seeing things for what they are💛🧡💚☘
I appreciate that!
Found your channel on my feed. I'm happily focused on myself at the moment but do find a lot of value in what you share. Keep up the rants! 😉😁
Welcome aboard!
You have shared some golden nuggets of wisdom here sir! I hope all ladies who see this are listening carefully! Excellent advice!
Thank you kindly
Emotionally constipated child! Jonathon 😂😂😂 you nailed it and this whole video is spot on!
Thank You 😊 great talk … you are so right 😵 I didn’t have a father or reliable father figure when I was growing up so I made a lot of mistakes in dating and marriage. I’ve been celibate for 3 years did therapy, reading and really getting to know myself, love and respect myself and know what I want and expectations I have for a partner. So your reminder or rant was great pre game talk before I go out and date ! ❤ it’s also good to know only 20 % are relationship material . So it’s ok to say Next ,,,,, Thanks again ❤❤❤
I appreciate this rant. Your honesty is refreshing. Thank you.
I appreciate that