Chris Voss Negotiation Drill - 60 Seconds or She Dies

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  • What is it like negotiating against one of the worlds lead negotiators Chris Voss? You’ll find out as Steven goes head to head with the world top FBI Hostage Negotiator. 👉👉 Get the free Voss Team Negotiation Webinar Training at theinvestormindset.com/blackswan
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    What is it like negotiating against one of the worlds lead negotiators Chris Voss? You’ll find out as Steven goes head to head with the world top FBI Hostage Negotiator.
    Join us today as Steven interviews Chris Voss, author of Never Split The Difference, and veteran FBI hostage negotiator. You’ll be leaving with a much greater insight to negotiation, and some real, actionable strategies to get started with!
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    The TWO key strategies you must keep in every negotiation
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Komentáře • 101

  • @valerie80yearsago90
    @valerie80yearsago90 Před 3 lety +129

    I love how Chris' entire demeanor changed as soon as the guy said "ring ring". He knows the role so well. Absolute badass. I love it.

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety +16

      He is truly a master at his craft. It was frightening.

  • @simplehousesolutions4819
    @simplehousesolutions4819 Před 4 lety +176

    this is fantastic, Met Chris in Person and did this with him in front of a live audience and he slaughtered me. great stuff

  • @TheProdigy260592
    @TheProdigy260592 Před 4 lety +113

    Lol host did not want to be over negotiated even if it meant he dies 😂

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 4 lety +17

      He lost his cool for sure! ... Chris is good at what he does

    • @waago1315
      @waago1315 Před 3 lety +4

      You see him realize what he’s up against 23 seconds in when he starts referring to his timer after Chris had him say 60 seconds twice at the start.

  • @ruthkaggwa8890
    @ruthkaggwa8890 Před 3 lety +69

    Chris's will never tell you that you are wrong! He'll always encourage one to negotiate better.

  • @mduphiney
    @mduphiney Před 3 lety +48

    I love how Chris started using "labeling techniques" at the very beginning of the negotiation.

  • @joannajohnson696
    @joannajohnson696 Před 4 lety +23

    Chris Voss really needs more CZcams videos that are "recent." New. Up to date.

  • @TheMrExemplar
    @TheMrExemplar Před 4 lety +118

    Nice interview but you spoilt it as your turn to be a kidnapper, you could have tried to counter Chris and try to play on his emotions, blaming him for her death

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 4 lety +24

      Of course I did... Chris used his skills to break down my confidence from the inside out... but the time I got to switch roles, I was stuck in a stubborn place. Making it almost impossible to move forward.

    • @CelticSpiritsCoven
      @CelticSpiritsCoven Před 3 lety +2

      If you were in the heat of the moment, with a hostage, ask for a car, the negotiator says you seem to want to live because getting away with a car means that you get to live.... and then you tell him you are lying..... sure.... you will have the wherewithall to blame the death of your hostage on him. Sure.
      Chris had him on the ropes in 10 seconds.

  • @kikook222
    @kikook222 Před 3 lety +13

    3:00 I like how he made him think of a response there.

  • @darshilshah2728
    @darshilshah2728 Před 3 lety +22

    His masterclass is sensational

  • @AZ33333
    @AZ33333 Před 3 lety +20

    What i dont like about the host being the bank robber is that he essentially trolled the exercise. He wasnt reasonable for the sake of knowing the master wouldve won anyways.

  • @jackwilde8622
    @jackwilde8622 Před 3 lety +21

    Breaking down the psychological element of this video is fascinating.
    The warfare starts at 0:53 - Chris takes control of the interview by using the words "I will give you the option"
    0:57 - Interviewer subconsciously recognizes this and attempts to regain control via re-asking the question.
    1:24 - Interviewers stress response kicks in and he attempts to release some of the built up tensions through his facial movements & Fidgeting.
    1:43 - Interviewer recognizes he's nervous and in an effort to calm his nerves he takes the pressure off of himself via "downplaying" his skill set.
    2:28 - After Chris's aggressive tonality, the interviewers fight or flight kicks up another gear. Notice the lip biting and nostril flaring. This is a normal response as his body is trying to get more air. AKA Bernoulli's principle.
    2:53 - Interviewer is met with the realization that this is incredibly uncomfortable and his body forces a smile as a stress response to calm the anxiety & discomfort.
    By the time it gets round to the role reversal the interviewer is emotionally fatigued, which explains why he was so abrupt and didn't answer the questions the way we would have hoped.
    Bearing all of this in mind, I think the interviewer actually did a decent job. High pressure negotiation is INCREDIBLY stressful and it is VERY emotionally draining. The only way we can improve and get better at this, is by doing it more and more. Notice how calm and collect Mr Voss it?

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety +3

      I think Steven, would agree. You can see he feels like Chris "broke his brain" while he was talking to him. By the 2nd negotiation, he didn't have much left.

  • @applebottomjeans7
    @applebottomjeans7 Před 4 lety +33

    Great episode! Valuable information! I am currently reading this book and it has changed how I look at my conversations

  • @merlincovlin4377
    @merlincovlin4377 Před 3 lety +1

    Hey just here cause of your interview with Edna Keep!! learnt a few things today ...thx!!

  • @steven.pesavento
    @steven.pesavento  Před 4 lety +6

    👉👉 Get the free Voss Team Negotiation Webinar Training at theinvestormindset.com/blackswan

  • @eleonoraformatoneeszczepan8807

    Brilliant!

  • @boynet2
    @boynet2 Před 3 lety +5

    Really love this video.. I see a lot bashing you for not giving him a chance while in reality he also doesn't gave you any chance..the point of this game is not really to save her life as it impossible, the point is just to feel how is like to deal with nervous fast situation when you don't have time to think and need to keep you emotions in control

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety +1

      When you face off with a master at his craft, its no surprise he dominated emotionally. It was almost like he "jammed up" the Steven's brain. Tough & yet wonderful experience.

  • @sourgrapes5692
    @sourgrapes5692 Před 3 lety +24

    Voss: sound like you wanna live?
    Him: Yes
    Ego: NO
    🤣😂😂💀🔫

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety +1

      That was pretty much it... he did a great job breaking my state & making it tough to think straight.

  • @curthauff2391
    @curthauff2391 Před 3 lety +4

    I've read his book three times and there is no way I last 90 seconds with Chris Voss. Great insight in the process, in this video, though!!!

  • @kikook222
    @kikook222 Před 3 lety +10

    I noticed that these negotiations are similar to the shit I deal with at work with Karen's. I'm kind of appalled that some of the techniques he's using is what I have to use at my job to de-escalate a pissed off customer and keep them happy without giving them what they want.

    • @Life-Sky
      @Life-Sky Před 3 lety +8

      Reading a book about negotiating with terrorists just to survive against Karens at work... man that's tough lol.

  • @narimanalhashim
    @narimanalhashim Před 3 lety +17

    Those 50 dislikes must be the robbers🤣🤣

  • @InSync3912
    @InSync3912 Před 3 lety

    Chris is genius!

  • @lordbruce2720
    @lordbruce2720 Před 4 lety +6

    That just goes to show that the only way you can make someone do somthing is if they want to do it.

    • @NG-jy7zg
      @NG-jy7zg Před 3 lety

      Yeah. But you can also higher the chances,

  • @fransisco5748
    @fransisco5748 Před 3 lety +1

    I just read the book then I searched for videos about the implementation of the book.
    But English is not my mother tongue so I had a bit difficulty comprehending this video (listened to it several times but I still failed).
    Could anyone tell me what are we supposed to do when the kidnapper instructs us how we should get the car?

    • @elisabethkanter3814
      @elisabethkanter3814 Před 3 lety

      Chris turned the tables and told him he wanted to live and thats why he wants a car. Someone put me in touch with this guy. I wont win but ill take him for a mental ride for few minutes lol
      Those FBI recruits are dumb

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety

      It was a negotiation face off, with Voss playing both the negotiator & the hostage taker.

  • @soarabove337
    @soarabove337 Před 3 lety

    I think with Sandler’s perspective, I could make this. Go for the no. Find the “why” behind the “what”. But who knows? 😎👍

    • @soarabove337
      @soarabove337 Před 3 lety

      Voss’ eyeroll @ 9:18 about it being “a foregone conclusion” tells me... he’s still willing to negotiate the point of that matter lol. 👍

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety

      It was a tough process... so much to learn with Voss. He's incredible.

  • @elunico13
    @elunico13 Před 3 lety +4

    Why did the host royally screw up and not let his guest share the strategies in a mock negotiation. Why even have guests if you’re gonna treat them like trash. THUMBS DOWN! This nut of a host started his clock just to cut off his guest. Hell no I won’t subscribe.

  • @MT-lq9fq
    @MT-lq9fq Před 3 lety +1

    well, we're not just gonna let you walk out of here, Whos We, Smith Wesson and me.

  • @comcast6438
    @comcast6438 Před 3 lety +2

    Who is she give me it this second

  • @HilmyA.S.
    @HilmyA.S. Před 4 lety +3

    The interviewer does kind it of decently doesnt he?

  • @andrievbastichy8551
    @andrievbastichy8551 Před 3 lety

    thing if it was real life -
    when he said "Doesnt sound like you want to live" (the door would have been rigged with c4.)
    and when voss said "you dont want to give me a chance, i dont think youre telling me the truth" - > Special Agent bosco would be firing his sniper rifle and swat team bravo would be flashbanging the room.
    :D the call wouldnt have ended how it did.

  • @amirhosseinrashidi4597
    @amirhosseinrashidi4597 Před 4 lety +15

    Not that I whould do better, but man , you were not doing a fine job at all. Your presense bothered me and I think you should improve your social skills

  • @pickettaasde3797
    @pickettaasde3797 Před 3 lety +3

    You set your guest up to fail. Bad manners.

    • @steven.pesavento
      @steven.pesavento  Před 3 lety

      Give it a shot sometime... going against a true master. Part of his strategies is to psychologically jam up his opponents. It was incredible to experience.

  • @mattortega3258
    @mattortega3258 Před 4 lety +5

    Bank Robber: Get me a vehicle, or this woman dies, you have one minute.
    Look I understand your urgency of needing a vehicle in an immediate
    fashion, as we remain realistic, we both know that a vehicle can't
    suddenly manifest itself out of thin air in a split second, when putting
    an innocent life on the line based on those terms of fantasy, what's
    really escaping you is the value of that human being, disregarding
    humanity, I know we don't want to lose value of life especially at the
    risk of your own, so let's work together to get you out.

    • @dwimarsudi2495
      @dwimarsudi2495 Před 4 lety +6

      The First Word of "I" is horrible based on Chris's Book, it mean "everything based on my perspective not your"

    • @mattortega3258
      @mattortega3258 Před 4 lety +1

      @@dwimarsudi2495 What would you say in the situation ?

    • @pwmoffa
      @pwmoffa Před 4 lety +1

      60 seconds have gone by she's dead..

    • @dwimarsudi2495
      @dwimarsudi2495 Před 4 lety +2

      @@mattortega3258 its sound like you want live

    • @marginalized945
      @marginalized945 Před 3 lety +2

      Podcast guy didn't react naturally when playing the robber. 1st off, nobody walks on the lot unless they want to buy, or in this case, a robber that wants to die in the bank isn't going to 1. Pick up the phone to talk. 2. Ask for assistance escaping the situation. The guy had hostages and was hopping on the phone to *negotiate*, not to count backwards from 60 with unrealistic expectations and time demands just to kill a hostage. Podcast guy's ego got bruised when he failed the negotiation bit so no matter what, just like Chris said, there wasn't going to be a deal. He went into it knowing he was going to get to zero from the jump. Ruined the bit for me.