Relationships in the Philippines/What was her Married Life Like in America?
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- Relationships in the Philippines/What was her Married Life Like in America?@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Did this Woman Marry for Love? Or for a Green Card?I have a candid conversation that both entertain and inform you about this age old question
This has to be the best video on CZcams regarding taking a Filipina to the US. Nothing better than first hand experience
Thank you David
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We just got married in October. She's 53 and I'm 65. Dated exclusively for seven years. We're working on her visa now. I'm not worried about america changing her. Well stay here for around five years and sell the house which is already paid for and maybe get a small place somewhere in the US and go to the Philippines for half the year. Who knows. Probably just rent there and go to different places each time since neither of us has seen different places in the Philippines. We are both traditional in our lives. Neither of us like going out and crowds etc. I live in a rural area here and she has never driven and never will. She won't even get on a bicycle. We both love the simple life. It helps to really know the woman you marry and it's just as important that a Filipina know the man she marry's.
Yea I agree because most expats who got scammed you don't hear from them out of embarrassment, you only hear.
But also I respect her because she's probably gonna get heat from her friends back home 😅
@@ForAndroid101 she doesn't want to be around filipinas in the states. Her choice.
@@woodspirit98 I think the risks are lower the older the people are . I think once she is above 40 the risk goes down a lot . I was married to a Filipina American and engaged to another. Once they are second generation they become much more American even if raised by first generation. The younger the Filipina and the larger the age gap , the higher the risk , just my observation but haven’t done research on it . Some of the endearing qualities get lost by the second generation. Actually hearing that a lot of developing countries are becoming more American like , where the young women no longer know how to cook. No big deal but simply an observation. Times are a changing .
Lovely lady. She is a blessing to her husband.
At 13:00 she is teared up for guys that have been hurt by women.
Have you ever seen an American woman show compassion for men in general like she did? I didn’t think so.
What a beautiful soul. High five to her husband!!!
Yes I HAVE seen an American woman tear up over how foreign woman rip off American men! I'm an American woman and one of my close male friends got stomped on by a Japanese woman who used him for a visa. When he recovered from that despicable woman he gave his heart to a Filipina who did the same trick. I think there are nice foreign and American ladies but he didn't find one. 😭
Thank you so much for watching the video.
@@happycook6737 I’m one of the lucky ones we talked for two years before we met and she waited for me until my surgeries and work retired me early . One thing is make sure they are not too fancy show off party girls . We have yet to go to a club and she has a 10 year old that is our priority in life . And we are 28 years apart . No issues love my wife and she recently became citizen works part time and we have Filipino girls w husbands and kids our fun is family together so basically we are homebodies . But of coarse we do Disneyland and all the other California attraction as well .
Good luck finding a woman like that in the west.
I felt this woman. She made me cry. Whoever you are Jeff you better be good to her. She is salt of the earth. This is one of the best interviews you've ever done .
Your friend is spot on. I brought my wife to the States and she loved every minute of it. Yes, she became Americanized, but she kept her core values. I watched her grow into her new life. She partook of every opportunity that came her way. We were happily married for 36 years until she passed away 2 years ago from Covid. I dearly miss my Sweetie Pie.
I’m very sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace sir.
sorry for your loss.
Really sorry for your loss John. I wish you all the best life has to offer.
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234, thank you. It’s been hard, but I’m managing.
RIP to your wife my friend
What a lovely girl both inside and out. She is the first Filipina I can honestly say that I like from the whole bunch of you tube channels!
Complete respect for this women, great interview Paul, probably your best. Woman tears up feeling bad for the men that were manipulated by woman from her own country. This guy married a class act.
what a lovely young women you are .... all the best
Excellent, brilliant 👏 Thank you both. I told my Ex fiancee in Davao PH . Don't matter where you come from, Park bench or Park Avenue. We all are God's children. Everyone has a purpose and heart. Honesty is always the best policy, so no one gets hurt.
I've heard ALL those same complaints from my family and friends before I brought my fiance to the US. They all said, she'll take everything from you and you will have nothing. I laughed and said well, my first two American wives did the same thing, and if she *my filipina* did, it will be a great 5 or 6 years while I wait for the hammer to come down.
The naysayers were wrong. My wife and I have been married for 14 years.
Really glad to hear that! Thanks a lot for sharing. thanks a lot for watching the video.
If you love your Filipina, bring her to America and set her free. If she doesn't come back, you can always find another Filipina! 🙂
The problem is you will be court ordered to support her for 10 years. Your idea is not risk free.
I respect your opinion Alan. Let us just wish everyone will have a happy marriage. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Yes, wishing you and Baby Mae a happy marriage! 🙂
I heard that it depends on the girl. If she is pretending...
Important topic to carefully consider. Since the 90s when I first brought my fiance to USA. I quickly learned about Filipina interaction, they love to hate each other and backbite. To a workplace with 10 or more Filipinos, all competing who got the new jewelry to got the new car. Major fights to-the-point the boss had to take one of their guns away. I don't really see the value in indoctrination of your Filipino to other Filipinos, I quickly viewed it as destructive and more drama than our marriage could handle. My wife being young and bossed around by a senior Filipina it was ridiculous. Very jealous small-minded and telling her to go home and change clothes because she was too sexy. I noticed the older Filipinos were much more loyal and would stay with their eighty-year-old husband. Well three out of three couples all of them dumped their original husband, replaced with younger more money and taller American man. Three out of three that I know and includes my own X. The bottom line is it really depends on your Filipina but after what I've seen I doubt if I would bring Filipina to USA🙏🙏
Interesting. Sorry you had to experience that.
I am really sorry to hear that! I hope you will find the happiness life has to offer. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
She is spot on Paul. My Filipina wife spent over 11 years in the USA with me(K1) and we have been married for 14 years and now retired in the Philippines. Over half of the filipino community that we hung out with 50% of the young filipinas LEFT their older husbands to find new younger American men. During our time in America, the Filipino community is not perfect by any means. The experience that I had with over 12 filipino/American couples that we met, seemed that the older the Filipina, the more she stayed with her American husband. Each Filipina is Different with an agenda, motives, and goals. Their main purpose is to WORK to send money back to the Philippines for their family-------bbbbbbbut there are other reasons. I seen some horror stories that I could share, but it would be a BOOK. If I could do it all over again-------------in my experience----------I wished I would have never brought my Filipina to America but that is MY opinion of my situation.
I agree Faron
Loved the comment and agree with the statement expressed. The only difference is I haven't found the same percentage in the filipina group my wife hangs with. They all seem to care about who they married. Some of the ladies in my opinion stay out with their friends a bit later then I would like for my taste. Seems to me some of the husbands the ladies are married to here cause that late night mentality to happen by not treating their wifes as equals. IE the women have their money and the husbands have their own money.
@@jon15711 i think it's too be expected everywhere. If a Filipina finds another younger guy her age especially if she makes decent money and he is good looking and also makes a decent living which many younger guys do now it seems logical she would much rather prefer the younger one.
The American mind says this happens because of money. What if it is more than that? Flip side. I take you to the mountains. Mga Bondo. You can take as much money as you want but you can never speak English again. You have money but you can only eat off the Land. Then you have to stay in a Bamboo bahay Kubo with 7 other people. And thé mountains are in Zambanga del Sur with the Abu Saya still running around. Money is a factor but it is not the only factor as is explained in thé vidéo.
Absolutely outstanding video Paul! The young lady is a treasure! Her husband is blessed!
This woman is pure gems. She so natural and inspire confidence. I wish to all to find one in the 50 % that are real life partners.
I really agree with you on that. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Excellent, informative interview, Paul! Any man from the USA or Canada who is considering finding a bride in the Philippines and bringing her back to North America to live, definitely needs to watch this presentation and take it to heart. 👍
Thank you so much for watching the video.
Excellent interview, great questions. Woman was honest, her %s seemed spot on. She is a honest and genuine good Philippine woman.
My brother has been married to a Filipina for over 30 years and they are still a happy couple. She has become a US citizen and I couldn't be prouder of her. She is a great sister-in-law and a really good person. I wish American women were more like her.
wondering what their age gap is, maybe not that big if they have been married 30 years
Best wishes for you Robert! thanks a lot for watching the video.
@@davea3329 Not to be a troll or ugly what does the age gap have to do with anything? As I have said, we were together for 45yrs, I was 19 and she was 28.
@@iluvmoney6767 It would go without saying if they are together 30 yrs now, their age gap wouldn't be too large, hence why the need to ask what it is. Obviously she or he wasn't 20 and she or he wasn't 50 when they met or got married.
@@iluvmoney6767 I agree with you on the younger ones (hate to generalize) usually marrying an older foreigner out of desperation or effort to just move up in life (as Paul and her discussed). Far as the "spoiled fruit" would depend on if it is love (real love) they would get married no matter what mom said or co-habitate and have another child (his one would presume) and then situation changes since mom now has a "real" apo.
Wonderful interview and great infoformation
Very good video. Been married to my Filipina for 26 years and happy as can be. If you get a good Filipina you have hit the gold mine. The tears shows a wonderful hearted woman. Jeff is a lucky man. Again very right on video.
Really glad to hear that Patrick! Thanks a lot for sharing. thanks a lot for watching the video.
Good one
Excellent video as usual beautiful lady lucky guy that found her.
Very Good interview
Great interview Paul. What an awesome young lady.
Thanks so much for sharing
Her story is so close to my wife's story other than!!!
Out of the say 25 Filipina / American couples we know only about 4 or 5 didn't make it.
We have recently gone to 4 high school graduations just this year of close friends with a child graduating. Many long term marriages. Very solid couples.
we only met 1 that didn't make it out of over 25 couples
Thanks a lot for sharing. Thank you so much for watching the video.
Great lady
Really enjoyed the video. My wife and I, she's a Filipina, have been happily married for 17 years. We have lived the vast majority of that time in the U.S. We have two teenage boys. One was born in the Philipines and one was born here in the states. She has adjusted well to being here and has her own career. When we retire we would like to spend more time in the Phlippines. Possilbly retire there. For now we are here in the U.S. until our kids graduate from high school and college.
Thanks a lot for sharing. I wish you all the best! Thank you so much for watching the video.
This is a GREAT interview. Wonderful perspective of a good Filipina. Her husband found a good one, just like I did
Jeff is a very lucky guy. Best wishes to both of them.. Great interview Paul, thanks again and hello to Baby Mae.
I really appreciate the support Jeff! thanks a lot for watching the video.
"Husband is always 1st." I've never heard this strange statement made in America before. I need to look it up...
Hi Paul, what a lovely interview with this delightful young lady recounting her life and how she ended up in the US and how her life progressed through the years with her american husband. A refreshing approach and one that is not heard very often. More importantly, Paul, an interview with a North American perspective. Thank you.
I really appreciate the support! thanks a lot for watching the video.
I am thinking here, there is a common factor. It comes down to how good the person is, inside. ie.morals, & respect, count for a lot.
She is so nice, beautiful and smart!!!
Awsome interview
Well done , good interview
What a very attractive and wonderful woman. Still the same Filipina when she left.
That was a good interview. While some American women feel entitled there are good and bad among any race or nationality of people😊
Great video Old Dog .. honest & very informative ..
Great interview, its very nice to see and hear they are doing very well and have the future together well under control to do anything they choose together as their option of choice.
I avoid mingling with Filipinas abroad not because my husband doesn't want me to but I learnt the hard way of being bullied when I first worked abroad. Filipino parties abroad is full of vile, gossips and jealousy. My friends are Brits and I live a very British life. Bliss!!!
Good for you Diana!
I think 3 things are kind of the determining factor. And frankly this is true in countries where divorce is allowed.
Does each person feel like they are accomplishing goals.
Does each person feel loved and respected.
Does each person feel financially secure. Often times for a Filipina feeling financially secure also means some family at home.
If you check off those 3 things, other things tend to be more trivial and easier to deal with.
In the US I think divorce is higher for people who lived in the US than it is for a couple where one comes from the PH and the other is from the US. I do believe those are the numbers I saw in the past.
I also believe a person is happier when their working, in general, because they're contributing.
That's interesting Diana because my wife was an OFW for years. Hong Kong, UAE, and Singapore. That's exactly how she feels. It's like reading my wife's words.
Wow. That is amazing, to hear. Thankyou for the input. Michael NZ
In my country in west Europe, bullying at the workplace is punishable so that's already a big discouragement via the system and it's taken very seriously.
The only thing I worry about is when a happily married woman (of any nationality) has female friends that are single or unhappy...
They tend to project their negative energy over to the one that is happy.
So one day when that happy woman has a minor bump in the road of her marriage, she would get encouraged by the negative women around her, basically get emotionally manipulated to make something minor into a big issue.
Ladies... When you are happily married please AVOID friends that are single! regardless of where you came from. Unhappy women do not like Happy women around them they will try to bring them down their unhappy situation any chance they can get.
It's nice to hear a good stories of mixed race marriages like hers. Her story is good and sounds like she is successful with life being married to American . In reality, not all Filipina are looking for a foreign husband or Bf. I am born Filipina and married to an American, I've lived in America since in my teens, and yes I am very Americanized as you would say. But, my heart is still Filipino and respect the culture there, and I go back at least twice a year to be with my Filipino families and friends. Respect and learning the boundary works for any foreign marriages, it has nothing to do if you are Americanized or not. What makes it bad for Filipino are those foreigners who exploit them. Thanks for the video. Aloha from Hawaii
I met a Thai lady here in the USA last August. Her husband passed a year before we met. She's a Thai cook at 4 sometimes 5 restaurants. She sends nearly all her money home to Thailand. We have quite a story. How we met and how we are now.
Does she do a good Kæng kheiywhwan?
@@graguitar6493 😅 Priorities.
@@man4YAWEH454 lol. Bit rude to ask about the main priority don't you think. Plus having been with a good 200 of them I can guess it's a yes 555
@@graguitar6493 She want me to move to Thailand with her. She sends a lot of money to friends and family. Say's she buys farmland and had family work her farms. She was married to an older guy who passed away last year. She is in a struggle with husband family with the estate. She tells me her husband didn't like to help her with sending money to Thailand in tell just before he passed away. She lives at a house with 2 others from Thailand right now. She doesn't speak English very well. and she is on the phone a lot all the time. She talks to Thailand even overnight here. So she don't get much sleep everyday. I tried to see if she would spend the night at my house and she agreed to do that. But she would not agree to turn off her phone overnight. So she said to take her home. We been seeing each other since last August.
I commend you for acknowledging that problems in Fil-Am relationships can't always be blamed on the Filipina. There may be reasons behind the stereotypes, but the exceptions are numerous and we shouldn't be too hasty to generalize. My Filipina wife and I have been together for 44 years. She has only sparingly sent money back home since our marriage (much less than I would be willing to), and I have tried to "Filipinize" myself in language, culture, and food as much as she has Americanized. Cultural fusion is great when it's a mutually respectful effort.
I really agree with you on that Ken. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Yeah I agreed that 💯
Excellent interview! Men need to take the time and really get to know the woman and her character
Love to see you and The Philippina Pea have a conversation
I respect when a Filipina gives us the boots on the ground nitty gritty TRUTH 👍.... ITS RARE
I really agree with you on that. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Great job Paul. Best interview
Nice video
Great video glad you met her to be able to inyerview.
Appreciate that! thanks a lot for watching the video.
Thanks for sharing, those numbers sound about right. Enjoyed the conversation and topic.
Appreciate that Roy! thanks a lot for watching the video.
good video you do good work Paul and are so laid back
Good interview Paul
WoW !!! she is Awesome. she seemed very very cool . her husband is a Lucky man. Cheers 🍻🍻🍻
What a nice young lady
Good interview!!!
Frea (sorry for misspelling) is a wonderful human being. Absolutely lovely and someone I would like as a friend. Great interview Paul.
Thanks Jimmy
Two beautiful Filipinas, wonderful conversation 😅, Stephany I hope to meet a Filipina like you one day 😊. I love both of your channels ❤️
Loved this interview...
Cool interview....nice.... Life is love,
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Thank you so much for watching the video.
Great interview as always!
Salamat
My wife comes from Davao City. We have been married for 31 years now. She first came to Australia in 1992. However over the years we have travelled extensively, including living in Davao for around 14 years in a twenty year period. We still get on well and enjoy our life. Pandemic slowed us down a bit, but plan to visit Davao this coming Christmas. We do know some Filipina here who ditched the man who brought them to Australia, but not as many as described in your video. Good video Paul.
Thanks Larry
Great interview Paul and a lovely guest. I was smiling all the way through.
I was like Jeff in 1998, and brought my wife to California. Her list was, get a blue passport, have two FilAm kids, and teach in California. It never occurred to me, that "growing old with my husband" was NOT on her list. She got everything SHE, wanted. At least I got two wonderful FilAm kids.
SAD
The conclusion I draw from this, plus 42 years of marriage to a Filipina, is that people are people, always and everywhere, and while there's a lot to work out in any relationship in order for it to be fruitful, being a good judge of character on the part of both parties is paramount -- especially when the average courtship is so short, as far as physical time together. My wife and I met in May, were married in September, and in that already-short courtship we were physically together for a grand total of 45 days. That is a recipe for disaster, unless one's intentions are pure and one has been able to size up another's character in pretty short order.
My wife and I both had different motivations for marrying -- some were pure, some were pragmatic -- and it made for a rough first couple of years of marriage. Why wouldn't it? We didn't know each other well enough at all, and there were plenty of moments when we were questioning ourselves and the decision we made. It was only after the kids started coming that the light went on for both of us, because the focus was no longer on what each of us was getting out of this relationship and was squarely turned on our children and providing for their future. It was the first time we were on the same page, and it reminds me of that old adage, "Love doesn't consist of two people looking at each other, it consists of two people looking together in the same direction." At that point we learned a great deal about each other, and only then did we really click.
Not too many marriages can last 42 years after a tenuous 4-month courtship, so I recognize that our marriage was probably not representative of the average American/Filipino marriage; but it comes close. The Filipino culture dictates that marriage is forever, and on that my wife and I agreed and were totally committed, no matter the difficulty. Character matters; choose wisely.
Curious about the age gap? Also, I think the chance of divorce goes down a little once there are kids involved.
@@davea3329 My wife was 7 years my senior (you'd have never known it). It's true that kids can shift your focus, but that's no guarantee of success, especially in an instance like ours where we didn't know each other as well as we should have before deciding to take the plunge. We both took a huge risk. But it worked out, so....
Excellent video Paul. Thank you..and God bless..😇
Thank you Mark
I worked with a Filipina woman in the US a few years ago. Her husband was an elderly American probably in his late 70's and they had been married for around 15 years. She was in her late 30's very attractive. She was constantly screwing around with guys at work. She hit on me a few times but I turned her down since am married with kids. Not willing to lose my family for some easy casual sex. But plenty of guys married and single took the opportunity. No idea what their marriage was like, maybe it was an open relationship. Just sad thinking about that.
Paul, I started watching your channel and Bud and you both are my favorites.
Your friend is a diamond ❤️ She feels great empathy and sadness for the American men who trusted the wrong Filipina. Her many years in the United States did not corrupt her heart
I really agree with you on that. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Great interview Paul. Nice to hear from an expert.
In my 27 years in the military, about 10% of the wives brought to the US stay with their husbands. Those aren’t very good odds and I am not a gambling man.
Thanks for the input Bark
If you marry a women your similar age and class your odds go way up. Problem is people want to marry young girls from poverty.
@@HairyPixels True, but I still am not betting on those odds. In the United States, the courts are against men. Remember men, the woman you marry is not going to be the same woman you face in divorce court.
@@Alex-10_Bingo Interesting. The important part is how these people met then. Were the girls looking to move to America? If so that may have been their primary goal and getting married was just a means to an end. Not saying America doesn't ruin women, it does, just that you can reduce your odds if you're wise.
@@barkeater9606 100% true. American law gives women an insensitive to get divorced even. It's totally sick. Obviously the country is falling apart at the seams...
Really awesome interview
I really appreciate that! thanks a lot for watching the video
This is a great video !
What a lovely lady, a genuine person, her happiness says a whole lot about Jeff also, a successful relationship !
Wish all bets were as sure as
Paul & Maes relationship surviving the big test of the US.
I really appreciate the support Rick! thanks a lot for watching the video.
An amazing story Paul, thanks for sharing...
Glad you liked it! thanks a lot for watching the video.
Great video Paul!!!! 2 thumbs up my friend!!!!
I really appreciate the support Samuel! thanks a lot for watching the video.
Absolutely outstanding video Paul! One of your best interviews! Fabulous content and the young lady is an absolute treasure!
I really appreciate that! thanks a lot for watching the video.
What a true sweetheart….. Values in tack !
I really agree with you on that David. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Excellent interview, Paul. You really asked sharp questions. And what a sweet and lovely woman!
Appreciate that Kevin! thanks a lot for watching the video.
What a outstanding wonderful woman and a really great interview Mr Paul 👍👍👍
good video!
Paul this is one of your best guests , such a genuine honest caring lady who has held her values and been true to her upbringing . I loved it keep up the great work
This lady has a good outlook on life and a beautiful attitude. I wish her and her husband all the best. Thanks Paul, nice interview 👍
A great interview with a great person to interview. I was surprised at the 50% number. I would have guessed much lower.
Awesome video Paul Thank You
Glad you liked it Tim! thanks a lot for watching the video.
I live in Florida and I'm surrounded by happy Filipinos. Here in Green Cove springs they are most of the population. My wife is also Filipina.
Maybe one of your best interviews. Love to hear a truthful answers to very difficult questions.
Appreciate that! thanks a lot for watching the video.
This was excellent topic.
Appreciate that Javier! thanks a lot for watching the video.
This was a wonderful interview,Thanks so much
What she is talking is true,i am a filipina who is married to a japanese for 36 years already,we have 4 kids and they are all have degrees,when filipina got married she will take care of the family being the queen,i must protect the king,there are ups and downs but when family stays together,everything will be alright...you just have RESPECT to each other.
I am a traditional American woman who does the same thing you are saying. There are still many of us traditional American women out there too.
Thank you so much for watching the video Jennifer.
Hey Paul and Guest! Great interview. It appears it could have a part 2. :) Maybe with discussions of money (purchased power/rich American), shopping, cleanliness, was church involved, children, pet care, family borrowers….. so much more. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
Great idea, I would like to continue the conversation also k9
Excellent conversation, Good environment for an interview, good audio, interesting topic.
Appreciate that! thanks a lot for watching the video.
My Goodness... a real woman with character and sincere emotion.
What a lovely, beautiful lady, noting that very few today are given the title of "Lady".
Self reflection: "What would I give...?"
As always, thank you, Paul.
Quality as ever Paul
What a lovely lady!
I really agree with you on that Martin. Thanks a lot for watching the video.
Cool interview Paul! Very interesting to hear her experiences. She is very sweet and genuine.
Thanks Rob
Fantastic interview !~
Appreciate that Mark! thanks a lot for watching the video.
This is I think one of the best interviews you have done. Good going!
Thanks PC!
Wonderful interview, I have been married for 11 years to a wonderful Filipina. So lucky I married a real honest and sweet woman. So happy
Great interview and finding the facts was real well done paul
Great interview and exchange info.
I really appreciate that Hal! thanks a lot for watching the video.
great video and what a lovely lady thumbs up Paul👍
Thank you RAYO