Relationships in the Philippines/ Are we Really Legally Married?
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- čas přidán 20. 05. 2023
- Relationships in the Philippines/ Are we Really Legally Married?@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I recall the ups and downs of the process to get married in the Philippines
We had a civil wedding in the USA and had a Catholic Church wedding in Philippines last February. Baby May is right, it was a lot of requirements, we sent lots of paperwork, never thought I’d need to find my catholic confirmation certificate . In the end, it was terrific, but anyone who is considering should give themselves plenty of time.
@Her Expat Retirement we originally planned on having the wedding and reception done at the reception venue because we were less than confident that we’d be approved to have the wedding in the church, but after several hours of searching thru boxes in my garage, I was able to locate my first communion and confirmation certificates. Credit to my Mother who kept these items together for me until I was an adult and for me keeping them thru several moves. Prior to my final search, I contacted my childhood church but got no response from them. We were indeed lucky to find them on our own. My wife didn’t have her confirmation, but was able to join a class of adults the week of our wedding to complete that requirement.
it'll will take a lot more 'paper' work to become unmarried. Next step BTW 92%
Your lucky you found a woman who is actually financially conservative with money.
Thank you
What is the oldest trade in the world? Along with prostitution, espionage is the oldest profession in the world now we come to the definition of conservative............
@@jurgschupbach3059 prostitution is filth and should be banned everywhere
Yes, Mae is Paul's true treasure.
My wife wanted a Catholic Church wedding. I'm Lutheran and was divorced. I told my wife the Catholic Church requires you to go through annulment classes and they charge for it. She said she didn't think I was right. She made an appointment with the bishop and he said I was right. I told my wife that annulment through the church was to keep couples together and I was divorced and there was no chance of me getting back together with my ex. We ended up getting married in the Lutheran Church in Cagayan de Oro. My wife was shocked when we met with the Pastor when she asked him how much money to give for the ceremony. He said to give what you want. She said the Catholic Church tells you what to give.
Tells you what to give?
I went through same scenarios ( in ustates ) exactly I’m Lutheran she catholic - she chose to break up after things didn’t go “ her” catholic way ! To this day I thank them for vetting her for me and her inability to compromise … best thing that never happened to me 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@bert671 it's customary to give the church a donation when getting married here in the Philippines.
That's any church by the way.
We are getting Married in our church the joyful assemble of God here on Samal Island in Garden City on Saturday and we are giving 10,000 php to our pastor.
The Catholic Church office will likely have a list of fees for weddings. In our case, we found it to be like a menu, and there was a “fee.” Ours was I believe about $300. We also chose to add air conditioning as that was optional and an additional cost. They’ll likely charge for a choir, flowers if the provide them. We chose our own flower provider. Since we live in the USA. We’d sent a family member who was local to get all the costs and requirements. They helped establish our expectations and complete everything in advance. All in all, we loved it and are super happy with everything, but there are definitely cheaper ways to go.
@@robmari497 no menu of prices in the Lutheran Church. That's why I would never convert but I respect the choice people have in being a member.
Hey Paul my dear friend, you and the beautiful Baby Mae are truly the best. I love you both. Thank you for sharing brother. God bless you and Baby Mae always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
And we love you my brother
wow😂 benefits of this video: 1. you paved the way for those watching who want to get married there by revealing all the potential hoops and delays that can happen and ways to improve and avoid delays
2. A good example of keeping your sense of humor as you adapt and accept processes in the Philippines.
I don’t even know how you remembered all these things; my head is still spinning😅
I have a Canadian friend that got married in CDO in a civil ceremony about 6 years ago. I was his best man. I remember that he used a local agent to accelerate $$$ the process including sending the documents to Manila. Paul you were lucky to get the marriage class in English. Most married vloggers had to sit while everything was in local language. Congratulations to you and Mae
Holy cow, that's insane! You two have been put through hell. I'm totally impressed with your patience Paul. And Mae didn't look like shes even phased by this whle process! I hope it gets done soon and thank you for this eye opening, jaw dropping, beyond crazy Philippine beurocracy. On second thought you have my most sincere thoughts and prayers.
Wow! Keystone 👮♀️ cops😂….Sorry Paul and Baby Mae…
Try it in Germany. The bureaucracy is insane.😝
Oh, Paul and Mae, what a SNAFU! Fingers crossed it will finally be resolved, completely and absolutely resolved, sooner than you think. The only thing that seems to be missing from this story is the trio of Larry, Moe, and Curly. May you have a long, happy, OFFICIALLY MARRIED life together, Mr. and Mrs. McGill! 👍👍
The mayor that married us 14 years ago was recently sentenced to 48 years in prison for corruption so wonder if we are legally married?
😂😂
After 3 marriages and divorces in the United States, I will not be going through that! LOL Great story! Congratulations!
Thanks Patriot
Saw the 30 minute duration and when you mentioned documentation in your first sentence I put on the popcorn. Did not disappoint.
Thank you Oliver
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
Yes my girlfriend just wants a simple wedding But how long it took you to get married chap
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 wait, it's not over?! Wow, good luck.
It was popcorn worthy ... 😅
This is why you hire a relative of the mayor to take care of everything.
Pay their fee, sign all the paperwork and get the government document on time. That's just how it works.
my friend took a 3 hour flight to Malaysia to get married to a Filipina, due to the administrative nightmare in The Philiippines. They got to have a honeymoon in a foreign country as well.
Congrats to you both. You both deserve each other and now you have made the decision to make your relationship official and I think that's great!
You know Paul you hit the nail right on the head, ADJUST, ADAPT, and finally you must ACCEPT. You might think about doing a video on those three words. Thank You so much Paul your better than a "SHRINK"!!! God Bless 🙏👌👍
Yeah but acceptance doesn't promote change.
It's like being all dressed up in a nice suit but nowhere to go, it's a great place to start. Thanks for commenting..👍
Official or not.....Congratulations on your marriage....Wishing you both many years of happiness together. Now start planning the honeymoon!!
Your experiences are better than any reality tv show. Ten times better! Thanks for sharing. And the best of happiness to both of you.
Well all this debacle made for an interesting video and still more to come. Good luck 😊
I accept. Love that statement. Going crazy over things you can not change will only harm the both of you. In time this will be only a crazy story in a long beautiful journey for the both of you. God Bless.
Our first marriage was performed by the mayor of a town outside Cagayan d'Oro. If you know the right people and pay them, you can get whatever you want printed on paper in the Philippines. I went back 6 months later and we had a Catholic Church wedding. All the clothes were rented, including my barong, and it was beautiful.
Very true get to know the barangay captain and wife also the mayor
Hello Paul & Baby Mae - I'd like to say that all that beauracracy is lost on me but I come from Chile and although not as bad as the Philippines, it is still bad that is why I live in Canada. Thank heavens you two love each other and have the patience to endure it & go through the hoops. I am very happy for you two that you got married, you both look very happy💖💖
Thank you my friend
I admire your tenacity. This would have severely tested my patience and I would have been tempted to go back to being a couple without the marriage papers. I salute you both...
Bless your heart Paul, you are a real trooper for dealing with all this and not losing your cool. Wishing you the best as always. I'm glad you have adjusted to the Philippines way things happen.
Paul you tell the best stories! Love your channel. Keep up the great work!! Blessings to you & Mae.
Paul enjoy your channel and happy for you and Mae. Wishing all good things.
That's nuts !! = As I have gotten older, my patience has improved enormously, but I would have had problems trying keep my cool in that much Bureaucratic Ineptitude = Kudos to you two for keeping your cool !!
I hope that I can Adjust, Adapt and Accept the trials and tribulations wherever I end up. Thanks, Paul and Mae. 👍🏽
Good Video Paul and Baby Mae 😊. Made me chuckle a bit 😂.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Congratulations to the both of you! It proves to me that you two are meant to be together. It will all work out. Best wishes!
Very good,Be happy/ Healthy always.
Wow!! I admire your patience and determination to get through the unending process of waiting to get your paperwork back. Hang in there both! There will be light at the end of the tunnel. I'm learning a lot from you both about the beaurocracy in the Philippines . Thank You , Paul for the three A's I will for sure remember those words. God Bless You Both 🙏.
Getting married in the Philippines is a nightmare. We are getting married in December and it is a pain just to get the proper checklist of what you need. It's shameful how hard they have made this process.
I experienced this in another country but you’re absolutely right. It is a sin what they are doing to people nowadays. The stress of it all can kill your marriage even before it has even started.
Maybe because there is no divorce procedure ?
@@edgregory1 because there are still people who care about marriage and normal traditional life something that has been demonized in the West unfortunately!
Wow Paul really interesting video - hang in there- i am sure you will eventually get all of the t’s crossed
Hope so Bill
Hey Paul, Baby Mae and Tada! You are officially a Pinoy Paul. Way to hang tough with tons of patience. God Bless!
The bureaucracy in the PH has never change. It was very frustrating for me to get my birth certificate. I misplaced my birth certificate and I couldn't find it. I requested for a new one. It took me almost 2 yrs to finally get the certificate. So, I understand where you are coming from. Absolutely nuts.
Dear Paul & Baby May, WOW! I understand your feelings and frustration. Thank you for your time, patience, and explanation the two of you are going through. God's Blessings
Came over from Richie's channel..Subbed 👍
I got married here in manila 16 years ago, we had to jump through a few hoops but nothing like this. I would have exploded back then 😂😂😂.
I really admire both of you! Love that you guys are taking this ordeal with a great sense of humor. Hopefully, it will all work out in the end! I love that Mae is frugal as most true filipinas are…she’s a keeper, Paul!
Paul and Mae always great to see your videos. Real people no sugar coating. You both are lucky to have each other. You have a good wife Paul practical and knows how to save.
Great story and having been through the application for an SRRV( special residential retirement visa), those hoops and changes required are not surprising. And each new document cost extra, maybe that is why it is called The Fee-lippines!
Wow! This is a crazy story. I was starting to think they didn’t want you to get married. Paul, you have a tremendous amount of patience because I would’ve lost it. God bless you both and wish you all the best.
So happy for both of you! You both look glowing. Congratulations 🎉❤
I really appreciate and respect you and Mae. I haven't seen your videos for a while so congratulations on your marriage. You and Mae are a excellent couple.
Smart and beautiful… Paul, you have a winner!!!
Great story! The both of you deserve a lifetime of happiness. God bless.
Thanks so much
Paul you look so much healthier and happier since you married Mae, congratulations to you both!
Hello Paul and Baby Mae, I was actually thinking you both last night. That I had not seen you both for awhile. Good to see your happy smiling faces. Take care. Now I will watch and listen to your video. Lol. All good things come to those who wait. All the very best to you both.
Best part of the whole video was ???......... Ta da playing and being frisky non stop with Baby Mae😄😄 what a wonderful little puppy you all have. Love it.
I'm sure this was more fun to watch than for you two to go thru. Thank you.
Always more fun after it is over Danny
It'll be alright in the end, guys. If it's not ok now, it's not the end. Bless you both.
Your story telling is flawless, and enjoyable to listen to...hi Mae, you have a lovely spirit of gentleness.
Congratulation Paul and May God bless and keep it comin'
Great story Paul..I like the way you ended it. ..Adjust/Adapt/Accept
And I love Baby Mae's discipline with money. Thrift skills...awesome.
May God bless you both more. 😇
You pore busted))) mick Australia.
I watch and thums up👍 every video.
This my first message. )
I appreciate your time your heart to all❤. I pray you go to the top in youtube. God bless
Such positive attitudes!
Couples with great attitudes, who are flexible, and are easy going make for the strongest couples.
Such a great story to tell!
This girl deserves the world.
You and Baby Mae deserves a wedding celebration. some People don’t really feel married without the ceremony. Speaking from experience...
Good morning Paul and baby may it looks like I’m your first view this morning. This is cool. I enjoy watching your channel very much hopefully maybe one day within the next year or two I will shake hands be able to buy you a cuppa coffee. God bless.
Thanks Richard
What a MISSION just to have a very simple marriage!!!!! Incredible and ONLY in the Philippines!
No, not only in PH. Wake up.
Awesome Guys
Salamat po for the information Paul
Paul, this reminds me of the movie "Idiocracy". Man, kudos to you both and your patience! And congrats to your wedding! God bless you!
WOW!! Like this channel and others on CZcams. Exposes me to different cultures and gives me a better understanding of people. Have been out of the United States to other countries and really enjoyed it. Been to Mexico several times with my husband. But he just likes staying home now which is fine. I like the 3 A''s Adjust, Adapt, and Accept. Hope to go to another country soon. Thanks for letting the public into your life there. Very interesting.
Congrats to you both
Nice video Paul, I like how you explained everything step by step. OMG, what a process you went through.
We got married in the US when my now wife came over on a K1 Visa, this went very smoothly and then we had to register the marriage with the Phillippines Embassy in New York City. So our marriage is registered in the Philippines as well.
I am sure you have now saved many people from making the same mistakes you and Mae made. Your channel is a treasure trove of great valid information. I am sure your paper will be coming soon, I wish I can say be patient, but things are well beyond that at this point.
Congrats on your marriage Paul and Mae cheers to an awesome life together, God Bless and enjoy life 2.0.
Thanks a lot Paul, I'm heading there to get married as well and hopefully we can be lucky and not go through the obstacles you guys went through. I'll let you know what happens...till then God bless and keep on with the 3 A's.
Good to put these Red Tape videos out and you accept it with a smile!
Thank you so much for the information. It helps me be prepared for when I take that step 🙏
Just a couple of things for guys to consider. Just an opinion.
1. If you have moved to the Philippines permanently. And if you have established a solid relationship. Go for it. Filipinas are wonderful wives.
2. If you are intending to bring her home to the U.S. use a fiancee visa. Takes less time and you can see as Paul has shown, less complicated.
3. If you have not established a permanent relationship, divorce in the Philippines is very, very difficult.
Things to ponder.
Hi Paul ,thank God my wife Aurora and I got married in New Zealand, great video
I respect you both for going through all that hassle. I couldn't go through all that trouble for a marriage certificate. I would've just flew her to Vegas and married her there. If Mae wants a church wedding you can go to the Candlelight Wedding Chapel. That's where I married my wife over 20 years ago. Hassle Free, one day event. Even with the airfare expense, we still saved a fortune not having a traditional wedding party with catering and hall and limo rentals. Just a simpler way to go in my opinion.
Would't she need a visa to go to Vegas?
@@mauibuilder1239 I'm not sure, but I would think so, and it's probably a lot easier to get down there at the US Embassy than all the hoops it looks as though you have to jump through to get married over there. But I don't know, I'm just guessing bc I'm not there, I'm in Brooklyn, but I was married in Vegas. Best thing my wife and I could have done. We we're already in our 30's and set in our busy career''s, and we didn't want to deal with all the planning, expenses, who to invite, who not to invite and other b.s.. So we just went to Vegas for a week, got married, met an Elvis, had a great time, and avoided a bunch of stress.
I am glad you went through with it all with a level of acceptance. The whole rigamarole shows your commitment to making this happen..to you making sure mae is your inheritor if anything happens. And you beautifully added, I love my wife. Her eyes on you say the same thing.🎉
Wow Paul and Janet, what an adventure. I think you should write a screen play, it would make a great movie. ND the way you and Mae describe it I think it would fall in the comedy category
Excellent, informative vlog!
Thanks Harold
This is the funniest (frustrating for you guys) story I have heard you guys tell us.
It will get sorted.... but oh boy, what a tale!!!!
Best of luck in the world, guys
Thanks Ian
Congratulations!🎉
My wife and I got married at a mass wedding in San Quintin on Luzon on Feb 28 this year. Everything was free and it only took 2 weeks to get everything completed. The good thing was that the Municipality fast tracked everything since the mass wedding is put on by the mayors office.They even made wedding photos for free. I could afford to pay but them doing all the paperwork made it worthwhile. We did have to get several of the things you mentioned, but it was very painless. It was actually a nice ceremony. We are also waiting on The PSA to return our marriage certificate.
Great story, y'all! .... Very educational about actual conditions.
Congrats Paul. You got a good woman there. Struck gold you did.
Married my Filipina wife 19 years ago, by a Judge. Still the best thing I ever did.
It's all fun in the Philippines----luckily my wife worked in City Hall of one of the Manila NCR cities---she knew people who knew people and with payment of a little graft money, she could get paperwork moving withing hours or a couple of days----very lucky---she got her annulment but getting all of the paperwork registered was crazy and she had a plane ticket and our wedding planned in Australia---got it finalised with two weeks to spare. I asked her about her Mayor not turning up for booked weddings---she said that happened but the Vice Mayor or a senior counsellor would perform the wedding and the Mayor would sign the paperwork later as though he had performed the ceremony-----it's the Philippines
Thank you for informing me about bribery in PH. Up untill now I couldn’t find an answer whether it existed or not.
I know it is possible in Indonesia. It makes life so much easier.
Thanks for sharing guys
you have a patience that remains a mystery to me. We should give you the Medal of Patience and Wisdom.
You guys are such troopers !!!!!
Hi Paul. I am an American who married a Philipina as well. Everything you said was right on. I started my paperwork in June of 2022. By the time I had everything done between my paperwork & my wife's paperwork we were able to set a date to be married on Sept. 12th. Then it took over 3 weeks to get the marriage certificate. After that I had to go to Immigration to apply for my 13A marriage visa. It took me until October2022 to finally have everything finalized. So it took over 4 months to get everything finalized. So I know what you went thru. It was not a lot of fun.
Hi Paul , thank you for sharing this amazing story. I love the triple A punch line . 😊
It comes down to qualifying for survivors social security. Great video.
You guys are perfect couple God bless you both
Once your marriage is in the PSA system and they issue you a Certified Copy of you marriage (yellow copy), have May stop in PSA and get additional originals (yellow copies) , you will need them. While at PSA, have her get additional certified copies of her birth certificate, she will need them.
She deserves the best Paul, its only once in a womans life! ❤️ Baby Mae!
God bless you both-hopefully soon will get straightened out!
Congratulations and patience beyond amazing
I agree. Alot of ppl spend so much on the wedding day without taking into account after the wedding day. I have been married for 10 yrs this yr n l made all bouquets, headpiece, food and bought a beautiful brand new wedding dress for 120.00. Friend made a beautiful wedding cake for nothing. Got married in my church which didn't cost a cent because it's free n they aren't a money making organisation.
I wish long and happy marriage to you guys. What a beautiful couple.
Wow. Good bless you both.
OMG Paul, AAA wow
great vid Thanks for teaching
Congratulations you two ❤️
Great video !!!
Congratulations on your Marriage. Wow you both are being put through the ringer you Love each other so that all that really matters to you God Bless you both and may you have many blessings ahead ❤❤