My 40K Wife Found Out How MUCH I spend on Warhammer - She Was NOT Happy! When Partners Turn TOXIC.
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her "oh its 2000pts! i thought you said you spent $2000 on this"
me " 👀"
Australian prices 1$ per point
Nails, hair, make up, shoes, and all that other bullshit is a LOT more expensive than Warhammer, and THAT'S saying something right there!
Totally. All that aside, consider this, hobby wife: I have near crippling alcoholism and smoke like a pack of cigarettes a day at least. I’d estimate at this point I spend Al least 30 USD on addictions I consume every single day, which has been the case for at least 20 years. I do not want to do that math. Oh and I have nothing to show for it except poor health, missed opportunities, and ruined friendships. So hobby bro lay all that out and ask if she’d like to trade.
Me and my Mrs have an agreement . . .
I don't ask how much she weighs . . .
And she doesn't ask me how much my hobby cost . 👍😃
Why it’s important to keep your money separate, joint stuff for bills but keep separate accounts. Been married 13 years and have no issues with money with the mrs.
Exactly this. Joint for bills, we each put in each month. Beyond that, mine is mine, hers is hers. Sure, we share (ok, I share, I earn twice as much lol) but when she wants something she gets it, when I want something I get it. She'll ask advice on stuff, or ask me to find deals for her, but she would laugh at being restricted the same way I would.
@@Daemonik same dude, except Mrs earns more in our house 🤣
If you’re married you’re supposed to function as one. I think joint finances is the ideal. Whether everyone can be trusted to live up to it is another matter.
@@db7314 When I got with my Mrs (20+ years ago), she earned more than me - so I know she didn't get with me for the cash - though now she keeps dropping hints about how I should let her retire early and live a life of leisure whilst I carry on 😄
@@clydemarshall8095 my parents were married twice and it all fell apart because of money issues tied to joint accounts. Appreciate joint accounts work for some but each couple needs to make it work for them.
Pretty sure that store breached major Data protection laws by offering to provide anyone other than the account holder their account/purchase info.
From the time I've worked in a call centre they would more than likely consider this as a breach Data protection & be enough to get a person hauled up for a disciplinary & or sackable offence.
If its a joint account then no rules were broken, both parties have legal rights to know how much is in there and how much has come out, if its his own personal account and he gave her permission to login then it's his own fault, if he didn't give her access THEN a law has been broken but most couples at some point give access to these things to their partners so it's harder to prove data breach if she can turn round and say he told me the password/pin number/security details
@@hamoostaffat well it sounded like it was the first time she was in there and she wouldn't be able to be added as an accosiate customer to most accounts without the primary account holders first hand verbal concent. Otherwise anyone could.go in and say hi I'm Fred's wife add me to his account and let me see all his shit please...
@@hamoostaffat But the issue is that she went into the GW store where he presumably placed the order and picked it up.
And that his wife went into the store and got several printed sheets of paper printed off in the amount of items that he had ordered through the store. So the question should be did she show enough proof to the staff in the shop to satisfy Data protection rather than coming in all chatty and then claiming to be married to X at this address.
@@andrewlaidlaw7975 thats the point, if it was a joint account then yes she had every legal right to do what she did and that should be the only way to do it, you can't show any amount of id to get the receipts from anyone, even for your own children its illegal, even if it was for the doctors or hospital it would be against gdpr, there is no level of id anyone can show to get access to anyone else's financial records, that was the whole point of the new gdpr rules coming I to effect, not even your own mother can't do what she did.... unless it's a joint account ✌️
This is a big talking point right now because of that last kid that unalived himself, Facebook won't release his search data to his own mother because of gdpr even though he's dead
Either its a joint account or the store broke some serious laws
There is also a big difference between a store "offering access to" information and a store "allowing the access of" information
But at the very least buddy needs to get outta there if he can't enjoy his own hobby, if a women won't let you have a simple hobby she ain't a keeper ✌️🤣
5:25 "Get the flamer brother, The HEAVY flamer"
18:36 think there was a collective "what a tool" from the entire audience at this part. Dude did not need to hand over the receipts
"We're in the UK, we don't have monstrous spiders... Probably"
😂
My partner gets annoyed either my pile of shame. Most of it is either boarding patrol boxes or combat patrol boxes I bought before they went out of print. It’s a long term saving. Nevermind inflation
Very few boxsets depreciate, if you can buy one to "play with" and 1 or 2 for saving its a great investment
I've been looking for some old rouge trader minis to complete some squads, 1 single ork dreadnought blister pack is currently on ebay for over £120! The pack is damaged too 😮
There's currently an ork boxset from the early 90s on there for over £700!!!!
If you can afford the cash and space to hoard a few sets I'd go for it bro, guaranteed future profit for the retirement party✌️🤣
Bro said 100 pounds of forge world resin was destroyed, what did he lose an upgrade sprue?
Unless he meant weight…
@@northernexile in that case he just lost vast generational wealth
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Let's hope he meant LBs and not £s coz £100 on forge world is nothing thesedays 😭
My wife currently always asks, "you want it? Can we afford it? Will it hurt us in the long run?" I usually answer, Yes- yes-no, and she answers, "GRAB IT" or she'll grab it for me. She's very supportive of my hobbies, and I of hers.
Ex-wife though oof, if I wanted something I'd agonize about buying it for months. Eventually saving and scrounging change to buy something far below the value I'd usually look for. Even then she'd just complain that I spent money, even if I spent less in total than she did on her own purchases in the same time frame.
Difference is night and day. One understands the hobby means something, the other just saw it as me doing something random and stupid.
Bills and food first after that the money is yours to spend as you please
good on you for telling people to chill on spiders! glad to hear it❤ and i'm an Australian. they are almost nothing to worry about. i don't know if anybody has died from a spider bite in a long time. very very rare
Feel like that’s *because * people see a spider and flip out and not in spite of it.
Sometimes correlation does show causation, it’s not always unrelated.
I feel like it’s not as bad because she didn’t go out of her way to invade his privacy, it was kinda handed to her on a platter.
Getting annoyed with it is probably normal if you don’t understand it or the love that the guy has for the game and models.
If they were financially struggling and the dude was spending more than what was reasonable then yeah I get being pissed off.
“Wait…. We could afford a vacation home on the lake, but instead you have little plastic soldiers YOU HAVE TO ASSEMBLE AND PAINT YOURSELF!”
They literally offload the most expensive part onto their customers, and charge more than any kind of toy company ever.
Printing out someone’s Warhammer purchase history is one rung less than exposing their browser history. lol
Did you know that uk/European house spiders are the fastest spiders in the world?
Gotta say my wife would never invade my privacy like that, and even if she saw how much I spent, she would never get on my back about how much I spent. We both do all we can to ensure each of us gets our individual hobbies and things we enjoy are covered and supported by each other as well as those things we do together! I don't understand how a relationship that does not work that way actually works at all.
My wife and I have a rule in place. Any time she gets to buy another book, I get to buy another box of models and vice-versa.
The nightmare about the wife angry over hobby spending literally caused me to text my wife(who is at work) and thank her for NEVER ONCE questioning my spending on hobbies for our 32 years of marriage. Thanks, North.
The story about their wife going to the store to get various pages of purchases presumable with little to no proof other than a conversation lasting X length of time would be the equivalent of a scammers paradise in being able to get hold of peoples info & I'm sure would also count as a breach in data protection.
Going on from the Call centre I worked in would more than likely count this as a breach in data protection & depending on the severity or number of times its happened would then lead disciplinary or dismissal.
I would consider it a to rather harsh if their significant other can't or wont understand what makes them happy considering that hairdressers & nail saloons charge £30+ depending on what your going in for.
That last story man. Bet she found out he plays grey knights so she had to have “the talk” with him.
Wild some lads put up with partners like that. Been with my lass over 12 years, not married, and have different bank accounts. If I want to get another guitar, and it wouldn't impact our bills...I get another guitar. No one should control you, regardless of who they are.
yeah, you pack and move your models yourself. Don't trust others to handle it with care.
My wife is so afraid of spiders, I have to stop whatever I am doing and protect her from them. She tells me where they are in the house and I have to go hunt them down. I say to them "I'm sorry about this. I have nothing personal against you, but you're bringing some crazy into my house right now so you've gotta go".
i thought getting my partner into Warhammer would be a good idea, she wants to spend more then i do XD
anything cute, cool. or dark is on the Wishlist
Re: Order history. I would complain directly to GW HQ about breach of personal information. Might get few free models out of it
Would I rather come across a bear or a strange woman in the woods?
The bear wouldn’t accuse me of grape for saying “hello” to get social clout and if it’s not hungry and I respect its boundaries it probably wouldn’t fuck with me.
In the past they haven’t at least.
Me and a black bear scared the shit out of eachother once when I was taking out trash.
Well, that wedding ring of hers was expensive, but it "made her happy" and you're not busting her balls about it are you? The least they can do is return the damned favor.
Oi if that Brisbane bloke is in here replay I need more 40k mates 😂
Honestly the problem started when the husband decides he was going to be deceptive toward his partner. It actually sounds like the wife was fine with the hobby and recognized that her husband enjoyed this enough to go into a store and try to find something he would enjoy. I can certainly understand the sticker shock she probably had. I can even see how she might not have thought much of seeing what he's bought so she can get him something similar he wouldn't already have. I would suspect they probably got through the conflict by fucking having a conversation about things that matter to them like adults and partners instead of hiding shit. Honestly, North, you have some real weird ideas about women and stories about hobby guys' female partners absolutely trigger the hell out of you.
Don't store your models in flimsy cardboard boxes!
Asda have an offer on really tough boxes at the moment.
Greenmade and Iris for here in the states as well, Costco almost always has great containers on sale.
My wife knows how much I spend on warhammer. She doesn't know how much i've spent on war hammer That number is frightening.
Spiders are generally useful and give them a wide birth.
Thanks for the vid. Yeah, my partner understands spending $40 to $60 a month on a hobby like miniatures, but for her the value proposition is out of whack at like $100+ a month.
She's kind of right though, I get nearly the same enjoyment out of spending $50 a month vs $150 a month because I already have a large 40k army and two AoS armies. I try and keep my hobby spending to $60 max a month unless there is a big purchase I need to make.
I find budgeting for my miniature hobby easier than budgeting for another hobby which is nice.
We don't keep separate accounts but we both have agreed amount each month we are free to do what we want.
My cure for arachnaphobia was watching 8 legged freaks, totally ridiculous, great fun, wasnt half as bothered after that. I like nature and animal programs so that helps to watch programs about invertebrates.....
Just to defend the wife in that story a bit - there's a lot of details missing there. We have NO idea how much he spends on the hobby - if they were in a financially precarious situation or he'd been going "oh money's tight" for years then spending thousands, or if they have a family and his spending had put them in a bad situation, she has a right to call that shit out, just the same as if he had a drugs or gambling problem that was skinting them as well. How reasonable the wife was being depends entirely on whether OP was well-off and spending his own disposable income, or whether he was taking food out of his kids mouths to fund his hobby.
The REAL villain in this story though is the GW employee who supposedly printed out his purchase history (not too convinced on this but let's give it the benefit of the doubt). That person literally acted illegally there, even giving someone's spouse that information is a massive breach of GDPR rules and they should have been fired and taken to court for it.
Regarding how the couple resolved it, I mean other than just being adults about it, I'd like to think she went "You fucking idiot. You could have got this 20% cheaper at an independent retailer."
A woman is never happy unless her husband isn't happy. Live your life; its the only one you get.
My grandparents have been married for over 60 years. My grandmother once told me the secret to a long and happy marriage: separate bank accounts.
Why would a purchase history help her to pick something? She intended to buy a duplicate...? 🤨
An over eager please employee. I used to work at blockbuster and the same kinda thing would happen sometimes… that employee was an idiot for sure.
@@penpointred yeah, but why would a purchase history help her pick a suprise present? She'd still have to know what he wanted...
Bear in mind we got a tldr of a conversation the writer wasn't there for.
Wife; "I'd like to get him something he would like, but I don't know where to start, can you help?"
Emp: "Well he normally buys space marines, we do lots of different things."
W: "Ok, well I don't want to buy him something he already has and that would fit with what he buys"
E: _presses print_
W: _SurprisedPikachuFace.gif_
A scenario like that is perfectly plausible. She may well have gone in with good intentions, and was simply shocked when his purchase history rivalled a print of the entire Horus Heresy.
"oh no, my ed stuff"
Get in the sea
I have to disagree with you here North.
The guy's wife went into the store to buy him a gift for his favorite hobby. Clearly she went in with good intentions. The clerk offered to print off his purchase history, which she accepted A because it would tell her which army to buy (Buying a Necron player a bunch of Fire Warriors is kinda useless) and help her not buy duplicates.
Now admittedly she should have recognized that yes makeup costs hundreds of dollars and so does Warhammer. He doesn't tell her not to buy makeup so she should not tell him to not buy 40k. So perspective is key here, but you don't respond to her with the papers with "I want a divorce" that's childish.
Both parties are adults. Both should act like adults.
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You're being too harsh for sure. Lol 😆 but hey, you do you bro.
All these simps here for the thumbnail
What??????