My friends used to say: when it’s meant to happen, it’s gonna happen! And it’s true! So, just do what feels right for you! If you didn’t feel like going: it was for the best for you at that time! Don’t pressure yourself with this!
There's definitely a balance between giving people and chance (putting effort into starting a relationship or just getting to know someone) and listening when your brain tells you that it's not worth the effort. But mainly you just have to be ready and open to dating and starting something if it's gonna work out. It sounds like here that you're just enjoying your life and aren't ready or looking for a relationship rn and that's totally ok. Happy V Day girl ✨💜
i think trusting your gut is super important, but sometimes its hard to distinguish whether you have a bad feeling about that person or whether you are just feeling nervous, insecure, tired, stressed, or something like that. i know i defenitely had some amazing nights when i just forced myself to go even though i didnt feel like it in that moment. but when its a feeling linked to someone specifically, always trust your gut
"If it's not a hell yes, it's a no" 👏🏼 Ugh, thank you for this. The whole 8 months I was seeing him, it never felt right. I was strong enough to walk away, but I can't say I don't still ponder my decision. This was yet another confirmation that I made the right decision 🩷
The difference here is that you had 8 months to determine their character. She's just meeting this person, I presume. If you feel inside that you made the right decision, then you're probably right. But if you never go out with a person because it's not a hell yes, I don't see how that follows because you never went out with them to know one way or the other. That doesn't mean she should, just that she can't know.
Oprah once said that humans are the only animals that deny their animal instinct of no. She basically said that if you have an inkling feeling of eeehh nooo… then to never never never never never never never ignore that! You never know what your spirit is trying to protect you from. Also, maybe that person was meant for somebody else in like the most amazing sweet way, and you would’ve stood in the way. So it’s not always that that’s a terrible person but that person is not your person.
It doesnt matter about his background or anything. This situation is happening to my friend too. She got asked out, and she wants to say yes, but it doesnt feel like it. My advice would be : If you feel something, something big, something that makes your heart beat SUPER FAST, then go for it. If its just, "oh hes cute, why not?" or " Hes so smart, i'd look good next to him", then maybe you could keep him as a friend, but dont pass the line. This is advice for people who are looking for serious relationships, people who want to settle down. If your someone who likes multiple guys, or constant action, flings (No shame in it) then go for it, if you want to have fun, but just make sure to clarify that your not into long relationships so you dont surprise him.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions. I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count. He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though. Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot. However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures. I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back? (P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
@@anonymous.4643 it sounds like he might like you, or at least want to know you better. It’s possible to have a crush on someone but not be interested in a relationship. Personally I’ve glanced at people many times just because I want to be friends with them, but I find them a bit scary, so I’d say attempting to form a friendship of some kind is the first step here, after all it’s hard to really know how he feels unless you’ve talked to each other
@@elephantsac3961 Yea...I really like him but we've never talked (at least as far as I can remember). I really want to get to know him better but his friend also really likes me, so idk how to start a conversation. And, just to clarify things a bit of how I know he is not interested in dating, its bcz my mutual friends asked him a few months back why he doesn't date anyone and that was his response along with saying that his mom is strict about dating (his mom's a teacher at our school) (although I don't feel like thats the actual reason). Actually, our school is ending, so we're only gonna see each other on days of exams (so there's also not time for us to form a friendship)... I've been thinking of proposing to him on the last day but Im afraid it'd be inappropriate cuz his friend likes me and it'd probably even tear their friendship apart bcz of me. I wonder why he'd be intimidated by me though...cuz, he's a very confident, charismatic and sociable person with all genders. Btw, thanks for taking the time to respond..! I really appreciate it : ).
If the date looks good on paper, give them a try. It may not be a hell yes immediately but sometimes we just have to get to know people a bit more before we can decide. And of course if at any point he says/does something and your immediate reaction is “ew no” you don’t have to give them another shot! I love my boyfriend of three years, I am skeptical of men but he has never given me a reason to doubt him in our entire relationship. But our first date wasn’t a hell yes… it was just pretty good. Strong feels came over time once I got to know him better. I hope you give this guy a try just to see and if you don’t like him for ANY reason you can drop it like it’s hot lol
That is ridiculous. My first boyfriend was a no for me, until I got to know him and he is one of the best things to happen to me. Take a chance, if you don’t try new things you will never discover new things
Be glad. The stress of bad relationships, especially those on the toxic side is just not worth it! And sometimes you’ll just feel too far in not to go further. So I do agree if you’ve got the option better make sure he’s worth it before you invest your worth! (Learn from my misstakes)
I ve never been in a relationship at 20 years old, and I m not looking for one. And I don't see the problem. Like you, I avoid dates, I don't trust the person enough. So, if like me, you're not comfortable with just the idea of going on a date, then I'm asking you : how are you supposed to feel comfortable in a relationship? Trust time, and just live your best life ! We don't care what people might think, we're happy 🤗❤️ Ps: I love your videos, and how you always tackle the latest trend. Your honesty is so refreshing (in this era of "being gentle") I can't wait for your next video 😊
Honestly it depends. If the guy gave you any reasons to not “feel” like going then yeah it makes sense. But when I started dating my first boyfriend of 3 years now I did NOT feel like going to our first date AT ALL. It just happened that on that specific day I wasn’t feeling the best mentally, but I still went and totally got out of my comfort zone and it was absolutely worth it. So if that gut feeling its just you wanting to be by yourself that specific day, I completely disagree with that logic. You could have set it up for another day or something.
I agree 100%. I've been in the same situation before, and it was just me having an off day mentally. I had had a crazy week and been stressed at work, too. I should have rescheduled but didn't. That can really put a downer on any date, whether you like them or not. I later realized that it was just me having a bad day and that the guy was good friend material, but not boyfriend material.
If you have anxiety, especially social anxiety, you shouldn’t always listen to your gut. Bc half the time your “gut feeling” is your irrational anxiety that is constantly telling you to stay home and do nothing. If you always listen to your “gut feeling” as a person with anxiety you’re never gonna make any progress. Sometimes u just have to force yourself to do things even if you don’t want to
It just make me feel better to know I'm not the only one, I'm 22 and never dated, i just can't explain why, even tho sometimes I'd wish to stay in someone's arms just talking about stuff ❤️
Unless it's "actually no but I can't admit that because it's rude", giving a first chance can be a great idea. You don't always know what you like until you try it!
I think that by assuming the worse of men based on a few, not going out of your comfort zone and waiting for the perfect men that doesn't exist will prevent you from finding someone. And if you go for the long relationship it will be hard and you will never like everything about someone
I have really bad anxiety I learned in therapy my gut feeling is my non-stop talking anxiety and inner fears. I think it’s not the same for everyone. But it can be tricky 🙈
Well in that case it CAN be just a habit of being by yourself, although you are going on dates maybe you are sick pf it, feeling like it or not. Many times the urge to cancel something: a date, job interview or else, for me came from the place of fear, it wasn't a gut feeling. Sometimes it is, but you have to be quite careful of your subconscious notions that WILL make you stay in your comfort zone, it is,after all programmed to do so. (English is not my first language, sorry)
Sometimes when I think about that cute boy on the bus I could talk to, I don't feel like doing that: being single and never kissed or dated at 17 built a sort of identity and thing to be kinda proud of, so I don't wanna ruin it
This was interesting and pretty deep and honestly I think that you should always trust your gut because if not you might have to look back on life wondering why didn’t i just listen to my self ,and trust me no one wants to feel regret
I feel like there's not enough context to this situation. Are there red flags, or subtle things that give you the sense that it won't workout, or that he's really not a great person? Or is it that if you're not 100% sure about someone, then it's a no? Honestly, if it's much more like the latter, then I think this isn't the right mindset. No one will be perfect for you, and probably no one will give you the perfect feeling inside. That's just the reality of life. However, you should do what you feel you should, of course.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions. I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count. He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though. Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot. However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures. I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back? (P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
I don’t know, I feel like the gut feeling thing should happen at the moment he asks you out. Because if someone asks you out, you say yes, and then you cancel on them, that’s kinda brutal. I mean of course you have every right to still cancel the date last minute for whatever reason you see fit but on VALENTINE’S DAY? I always try and put myself in others shoes. What if he really likes you and he had to work up the courage he didn’t have for a while to ask you out? He might’ve been so excited when you agreed and been anticipating the date all week. He’s getting his most confident outfit on, doing his hair just right, and bought some flowers for the final touch. And then imagine he gets a text canceling (basically hell no-ing) his date on Valentine’s Day. He can’t ask any other girl out because it’s the day of and it’s too late. So he’s alone and probably gonna either stay home sad or hang out with one of his friends in a bad mood. Of course you still have every right to do whatever you need to do because you and your feelings are important. Just me personally, I also like to think of others feelings and if I committed to a date, especially on Valentine’s Day, I’m going. And if I’m not feeling right about it I can always cut the date a bit short and not go out with him ever again. But at least he didn’t get rejected on Valentine’s Day. Love ya’ll this is just my personal opinion!💕💕
Tbh I just watch Zoe’s videos for looks inspos at this point - I feel like a lot of them lately basically just boil down to “fuck men, fuck relationships, fuck other people’s feelings, just put yourself first and never question yourself” Like I’m sure there’s some girls out there who need to hear something like that, but it’s just not a healthy mindset and at a certain point it kinda comes off as bitter (the one where she filmed strangers kissing in the gym to make fun of them made me especially uncomfortable)
@@whatisthisayoutubechannel Yeah it's great to encourage other single girls that they don't need to be in a relationship and teach girls to love and prioritize themselves. But we should try not to do that at the expense of others. And I have not seen that video that's pretty disgusting.
I feel the same way (though I'm only 17, which is still really young, so maybe it's not that weird) But yeah... there's this guy who has a pretty obvious crush on me He's handsome (looks like a model), nice, smart and has similar hobbies to mine, and I really like him! But only as a friend And I don't know why I don't like-like him, it doesn't make sense and I wish I did, but I can't force it
For me it was the opposite. I didn’t really think my current partner would be someone who would go along well with me when I found his profile on tinder. I also wasn’t ready to be in a relationship yet and only looked for sex. Well, we’re almost 4 years together now.
Well.. He was a HELL YES but ended up being my biggest mistake. He was tall, hot, comfortable and turned out that he only was in it for his own physical gains amd I was in for the person I THOUGHT he was.
You do you boo boo. That said, if your gut is always telling you no, it may be last night's pizza and not a sign. I have a very strong gut feeling before anything bad happens, but I have no choice if it happens or not. Que Sera Sera if I could quote an old, but wise French phrase.
I've been single for 7years now and i have no problem with it bcos i feel like i can love myself more than any men i met ,6months ago i met a man ,i just couldn't keep up with the relationship bcos he always asked me out and i'm an introvert ,i don't feel like going out but he forcing me ,so i said "we end here" ,am i the problem ? say i will keep the relationship if he can bear with my habits & behaviour but he can't ,so yeah ,good for both of us ,i have no regrets
You could be demisexual, just like me. If you don't feel any connections then there is simply no attraction whatsoever. They could be a 10 but if there's 1 thing that you don't like about them then that's it. It's also called standards, might be higher than the normal, but who's to say we should lower them for someone else. I'm also happy to be ace too.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions. I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count. He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though. Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot. However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures. I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back? (P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
If your gut is sensing danger… then ofc say no! If you’re feeling lazy and would rather stay home and enjoy time to yourself …. then stay home!! If you look deep deep inside yourself and find that you’re saying no because you’re scared to make conversation with someone new? Maybe this guy isn’t your typical type and a date with him is out of your comfort zone? Can you tell he’s putting in genuine effort and wants to get to know you? Then I would get up from the couch, put on a brave face, and give the date a solid try.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions. I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count. He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though. Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot. However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures. I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back? (P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
I was the one giving a chance of a relationship simply because the guys were persistent madly in love with me for years and fun to hang out with even though the romantic feelings from my side were nonexistent from the beginning and I am a type of person that doesn't seek relationships just for the sake of having them, or even at all. Long story short I regretted it big time. So you go girl. A guy being nice and fun doesn't mean shit if there's no both-sided chemistry. It's only a doomed from the beginning waste of time. When it comes to casual dating without pressure it's more harmless so depending what you feel like at the moment
Honestly I’m 21 and looking like I’ll probably be right there with you soon lol, If it’s not a Hell yes it’s an absolute no is officially my Fave quote of 2023
I'm all about following your gut feeling, but also: don't let bad experiences of the past hold you back. It shouldn't get in the way of your own luck ❤
Perhaps you're extremely scared or wary. If it's a total stranger, then totally get it. But if it's somebody you know and like, emphasis on the like, then you should go ahead and give the person a chance, if you're ready for that first though.
If he checks all the boxes yet you still don't want him, it means there is something more crucial which is not being met. I wish more women would spend the time try and discern what that deep unconscious longing they have is actually longing for, instead of parroting the same superficial b******* of cuteness niceness and financial stability. By discerning it and finally expressing it two men, you would have your need met and we would have girlfriends. I do not believe the world is lacking men trying to find girlfriends, But it is quite filled with eligible women who would "rather stay home"
I'm 30 and I had to last minute "raincheck" aka HELL NO to a guy friend that wanted to get dinner with me, something we planned ONE MONTH in advance because it sounded like he really wanted to catch up, and i was having a gut feeling that I shouldn't go. After contemplating for a long time and battling between if I SHOULD go vs if I WANTED to go, I rejected him and said no. And I haven't regretted it despite how much I know that was a bitch move.
@@Ninon__ Expecting 100% certainty or 100% perfect feelings about a person is unrealistic. The reality of the human condition is that everyone is imperfect, and chances are (as someone else has said before) that you will marry the wrong person, in the sense that it will not be the most perfect person for you. What we should do is go with the person whose time we love to spend, who compliments and complements us, and who is willing to work with you to build a great future together. You deal with flaws if they are not deal breakers, and they will deal with yours. I'm not saying you have no standards, but you also cannot expect Mr. or Mrs. perfect. But hey, that's just my perspective.
I agree 100%! I gave my ex-boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, but we turned out to be no match in the end and the relationship became quite toxic. If it’s not a big yes, don’t go. There are plenty of guys who can be a better match for you and make you happier. Also love your personality and fashion Zoe❤️
I think this means that all the guys around you are not exactly your type... This happens sometimes. You could meet someone on a trip or in different countrie who wouldn't be from your circle. At least it would be interesting. Watching your videos I have noticed you are a smart person and have a great analytical skills, so just a cute nice guy would be boring for you. You need someone special
My friends used to say: when it’s meant to happen, it’s gonna happen! And it’s true! So, just do what feels right for you! If you didn’t feel like going: it was for the best for you at that time! Don’t pressure yourself with this!
There's definitely a balance between giving people and chance (putting effort into starting a relationship or just getting to know someone) and listening when your brain tells you that it's not worth the effort. But mainly you just have to be ready and open to dating and starting something if it's gonna work out. It sounds like here that you're just enjoying your life and aren't ready or looking for a relationship rn and that's totally ok. Happy V Day girl ✨💜
i think trusting your gut is super important, but sometimes its hard to distinguish whether you have a bad feeling about that person or whether you are just feeling nervous, insecure, tired, stressed, or something like that. i know i defenitely had some amazing nights when i just forced myself to go even though i didnt feel like it in that moment. but when its a feeling linked to someone specifically, always trust your gut
"If it's not a hell yes, it's a no" 👏🏼
Ugh, thank you for this. The whole 8 months I was seeing him, it never felt right. I was strong enough to walk away, but I can't say I don't still ponder my decision. This was yet another confirmation that I made the right decision 🩷
The difference here is that you had 8 months to determine their character. She's just meeting this person, I presume. If you feel inside that you made the right decision, then you're probably right. But if you never go out with a person because it's not a hell yes, I don't see how that follows because you never went out with them to know one way or the other. That doesn't mean she should, just that she can't know.
Oprah once said that humans are the only animals that deny their animal instinct of no. She basically said that if you have an inkling feeling of eeehh nooo… then to never never never never never never never ignore that! You never know what your spirit is trying to protect you from. Also, maybe that person was meant for somebody else in like the most amazing sweet way, and you would’ve stood in the way. So it’s not always that that’s a terrible person but that person is not your person.
It doesnt matter about his background or anything. This situation is happening to my friend too. She got asked out, and she wants to say yes, but it doesnt feel like it. My advice would be : If you feel something, something big, something that makes your heart beat SUPER FAST, then go for it. If its just, "oh hes cute, why not?" or " Hes so smart, i'd look good next to him", then maybe you could keep him as a friend, but dont pass the line. This is advice for people who are looking for serious relationships, people who want to settle down. If your someone who likes multiple guys, or constant action, flings (No shame in it) then go for it, if you want to have fun, but just make sure to clarify that your not into long relationships so you dont surprise him.
hi stays 👋
Oh you're a stay😍!!!
@@sybilla02jahde17 yes guys, skz world domination ofc
They say when you know (it’s right) you know. Always trust your gut.
Unless it’s telling you not to eat chocolate. Then it’s just wrong.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions.
I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count.
He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though.
Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot.
However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures.
I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back?
(P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
@@anonymous.4643 it sounds like he might like you, or at least want to know you better. It’s possible to have a crush on someone but not be interested in a relationship.
Personally I’ve glanced at people many times just because I want to be friends with them, but I find them a bit scary, so I’d say attempting to form a friendship of some kind is the first step here, after all it’s hard to really know how he feels unless you’ve talked to each other
@@elephantsac3961 Yea...I really like him but we've never talked (at least as far as I can remember). I really want to get to know him better but his friend also really likes me, so idk how to start a conversation.
And, just to clarify things a bit of how I know he is not interested in dating, its bcz my mutual friends asked him a few months back why he doesn't date anyone and that was his response along with saying that his mom is strict about dating (his mom's a teacher at our school) (although I don't feel like thats the actual reason).
Actually, our school is ending, so we're only gonna see each other on days of exams (so there's also not time for us to form a friendship)...
I've been thinking of proposing to him on the last day but Im afraid it'd be inappropriate cuz his friend likes me and it'd probably even tear their friendship apart bcz of me.
I wonder why he'd be intimidated by me though...cuz, he's a very confident, charismatic and sociable person with all genders.
Btw, thanks for taking the time to respond..! I really appreciate it : ).
This is also better for the other person because false hope makes it more painful
If the date looks good on paper, give them a try. It may not be a hell yes immediately but sometimes we just have to get to know people a bit more before we can decide. And of course if at any point he says/does something and your immediate reaction is “ew no” you don’t have to give them another shot!
I love my boyfriend of three years, I am skeptical of men but he has never given me a reason to doubt him in our entire relationship. But our first date wasn’t a hell yes… it was just pretty good. Strong feels came over time once I got to know him better.
I hope you give this guy a try just to see and if you don’t like him for ANY reason you can drop it like it’s hot lol
That is ridiculous. My first boyfriend was a no for me, until I got to know him and he is one of the best things to happen to me. Take a chance, if you don’t try new things you will never discover new things
Be glad. The stress of bad relationships, especially those on the toxic side is just not worth it! And sometimes you’ll just feel too far in not to go further. So I do agree if you’ve got the option better make sure he’s worth it before you invest your worth!
(Learn from my misstakes)
I totally get you... I'm just like that too
I ve never been in a relationship at 20 years old, and I m not looking for one.
And I don't see the problem.
Like you, I avoid dates, I don't trust the person enough.
So, if like me, you're not comfortable with just the idea of going on a date, then I'm asking you : how are you supposed to feel comfortable in a relationship? Trust time, and just live your best life ! We don't care what people might think, we're happy 🤗❤️
Ps: I love your videos, and how you always tackle the latest trend. Your honesty is so refreshing (in this era of "being gentle") I can't wait for your next video 😊
For sure gut feeling, the stupidest thing someone can do is ignore theirs❤❤❤
Honestly it depends. If the guy gave you any reasons to not “feel” like going then yeah it makes sense. But when I started dating my first boyfriend of 3 years now I did NOT feel like going to our first date AT ALL. It just happened that on that specific day I wasn’t feeling the best mentally, but I still went and totally got out of my comfort zone and it was absolutely worth it. So if that gut feeling its just you wanting to be by yourself that specific day, I completely disagree with that logic. You could have set it up for another day or something.
I agree 100%. I've been in the same situation before, and it was just me having an off day mentally. I had had a crazy week and been stressed at work, too. I should have rescheduled but didn't.
That can really put a downer on any date, whether you like them or not.
I later realized that it was just me having a bad day and that the guy was good friend material, but not boyfriend material.
If you have anxiety, especially social anxiety, you shouldn’t always listen to your gut. Bc half the time your “gut feeling” is your irrational anxiety that is constantly telling you to stay home and do nothing. If you always listen to your “gut feeling” as a person with anxiety you’re never gonna make any progress. Sometimes u just have to force yourself to do things even if you don’t want to
It just make me feel better to know I'm not the only one, I'm 22 and never dated, i just can't explain why, even tho sometimes I'd wish to stay in someone's arms just talking about stuff ❤️
Unless it's "actually no but I can't admit that because it's rude", giving a first chance can be a great idea. You don't always know what you like until you try it!
I see this video has 6 likes (including mine) and then I check when it was posted and it was posted 3 minutes ago?? Amazing 👌
Thank u for saying this I always feel like I'm broken cause I do like this guy but I'd rather stay home then ever actually do anything with him
I think that by assuming the worse of men based on a few, not going out of your comfort zone and waiting for the perfect men that doesn't exist will prevent you from finding someone. And if you go for the long relationship it will be hard and you will never like everything about someone
Ever thought about maybe it's ✨you ✨
At this point i don't know if I am picky or aro ace
If you don’t want to you don’t want to, that’s how you feel and it’s okay 👌
It sounds like you are afraid of rejection and getting hurt
Definitely can relate to this
I have really bad anxiety I learned in therapy my gut feeling is my non-stop talking anxiety and inner fears. I think it’s not the same for everyone. But it can be tricky 🙈
Yup. If u have anxiety you cant listen to ur “gut feeling” all the time bc it can sabotage you
Well, I think you'll never know is he your person until you get to know each other
Well in that case it CAN be just a habit of being by yourself, although you are going on dates maybe you are sick pf it, feeling like it or not. Many times the urge to cancel something: a date, job interview or else, for me came from the place of fear, it wasn't a gut feeling. Sometimes it is, but you have to be quite careful of your subconscious notions that WILL make you stay in your comfort zone, it is,after all programmed to do so. (English is not my first language, sorry)
Girl your just nervous! 😂 just go out with him lol❤
I am 23 and also still single due to basically the same reason 👍
Sometimes when I think about that cute boy on the bus I could talk to, I don't feel like doing that: being single and never kissed or dated at 17 built a sort of identity and thing to be kinda proud of, so I don't wanna ruin it
This was interesting and pretty deep and honestly I think that you should always trust your gut because if not you might have to look back on life wondering why didn’t i just listen to my self ,and trust me no one wants to feel regret
I feel like there's not enough context to this situation. Are there red flags, or subtle things that give you the sense that it won't workout, or that he's really not a great person? Or is it that if you're not 100% sure about someone, then it's a no? Honestly, if it's much more like the latter, then I think this isn't the right mindset. No one will be perfect for you, and probably no one will give you the perfect feeling inside. That's just the reality of life. However, you should do what you feel you should, of course.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions.
I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count.
He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though.
Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot.
However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures.
I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back?
(P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
My current bf was not a hell yes but we’ve been dating for 1 year and now he’s a hell yes, so idk
I don’t know, I feel like the gut feeling thing should happen at the moment he asks you out. Because if someone asks you out, you say yes, and then you cancel on them, that’s kinda brutal. I mean of course you have every right to still cancel the date last minute for whatever reason you see fit but on VALENTINE’S DAY? I always try and put myself in others shoes. What if he really likes you and he had to work up the courage he didn’t have for a while to ask you out? He might’ve been so excited when you agreed and been anticipating the date all week. He’s getting his most confident outfit on, doing his hair just right, and bought some flowers for the final touch. And then imagine he gets a text canceling (basically hell no-ing) his date on Valentine’s Day. He can’t ask any other girl out because it’s the day of and it’s too late. So he’s alone and probably gonna either stay home sad or hang out with one of his friends in a bad mood. Of course you still have every right to do whatever you need to do because you and your feelings are important. Just me personally, I also like to think of others feelings and if I committed to a date, especially on Valentine’s Day, I’m going. And if I’m not feeling right about it I can always cut the date a bit short and not go out with him ever again. But at least he didn’t get rejected on Valentine’s Day. Love ya’ll this is just my personal opinion!💕💕
Tbh I just watch Zoe’s videos for looks inspos at this point - I feel like a lot of them lately basically just boil down to “fuck men, fuck relationships, fuck other people’s feelings, just put yourself first and never question yourself”
Like I’m sure there’s some girls out there who need to hear something like that, but it’s just not a healthy mindset and at a certain point it kinda comes off as bitter (the one where she filmed strangers kissing in the gym to make fun of them made me especially uncomfortable)
@@whatisthisayoutubechannel Yeah it's great to encourage other single girls that they don't need to be in a relationship and teach girls to love and prioritize themselves. But we should try not to do that at the expense of others. And I have not seen that video that's pretty disgusting.
Meet him 😘
I feel the same way (though I'm only 17, which is still really young, so maybe it's not that weird)
But yeah... there's this guy who has a pretty obvious crush on me
He's handsome (looks like a model), nice, smart and has similar hobbies to mine, and I really like him! But only as a friend
And I don't know why I don't like-like him, it doesn't make sense and I wish I did, but I can't force it
You have to force it you have you
For me it was the opposite. I didn’t really think my current partner would be someone who would go along well with me when I found his profile on tinder. I also wasn’t ready to be in a relationship yet and only looked for sex.
Well, we’re almost 4 years together now.
Well.. He was a HELL YES but ended up being my biggest mistake. He was tall, hot, comfortable and turned out that he only was in it for his own physical gains amd I was in for the person I THOUGHT he was.
Sounds like you dated an real asshole 😂
You do you boo boo. That said, if your gut is always telling you no, it may be last night's pizza and not a sign. I have a very strong gut feeling before anything bad happens, but I have no choice if it happens or not. Que Sera Sera if I could quote an old, but wise French phrase.
Always trust your gut.
I've been single for 7years now and i have no problem with it bcos i feel like i can love myself more than any men i met ,6months ago i met a man ,i just couldn't keep up with the relationship bcos he always asked me out and i'm an introvert ,i don't feel like going out but he forcing me ,so i said "we end here" ,am i the problem ? say i will keep the relationship if he can bear with my habits & behaviour but he can't ,so yeah ,good for both of us ,i have no regrets
I love your hair color❤
About the history lesson 🤝
Even if is a hell, yes, better stay at home.
P. S. I love your videossss 😽😽
You could be demisexual, just like me. If you don't feel any connections then there is simply no attraction whatsoever. They could be a 10 but if there's 1 thing that you don't like about them then that's it. It's also called standards, might be higher than the normal, but who's to say we should lower them for someone else. I'm also happy to be ace too.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions.
I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count.
He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though.
Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot.
However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures.
I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back?
(P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
If your gut is sensing danger… then ofc say no!
If you’re feeling lazy and would rather stay home and enjoy time to yourself …. then stay home!!
If you look deep deep inside yourself and find that you’re saying no because you’re scared to make conversation with someone new? Maybe this guy isn’t your typical type and a date with him is out of your comfort zone? Can you tell he’s putting in genuine effort and wants to get to know you? Then I would get up from the couch, put on a brave face, and give the date a solid try.
I've been literally watching body-language videos and at this point, it feels like I can become a body-language coach. So, it'd be nice if anyone could bring some insight on this and you're honest opinions.
I like someone since 3 months and 'his friend' started liking me around the same time. Fast forward to now, my crush and I keep making eye contact soo many times...maybe 30+ times at least...idk. I've lost count.
He is a very charismatic, confident and sociable person. We've never talked though.
Recently, he's been acting weird. He glances at me even when there are so many people around (even my friends have pointed out). He makes eye contact with me but these days (we've met after quite a while due to exams) he acts a bit shy..? In the corridor, he looks at me, looks somewhere...like at the floor, looks at me again. He glances quite a lot.
However, it seems he is not interested in dating (found out 3 months ago). Considering this, I feel its a bit weird for a person who claims to not be interested in dating and for a person whose friend likes me to give off these gestures.
I've been having a very strong gut instinct that he likes me back but Im trying to convince myself that maybe he's just confused if I like him. However, it doesn't seem to fit in. Like- if he feels uncomfortable with me, then, why does he keep glancing back?
(P.S.:- Ik stalking is a bad habit, but i needed to...Basically, I saw his spotify, he isn't the type who adds love songs but recently he added some on his playlist. It's weird how it doesn't seem to very much fit into his playlist and how the songs relate to the situationship. Very interesting, indeed + His friend still likes me)
I was the one giving a chance of a relationship simply because the guys were persistent madly in love with me for years and fun to hang out with even though the romantic feelings from my side were nonexistent from the beginning and I am a type of person that doesn't seek relationships just for the sake of having them, or even at all. Long story short I regretted it big time. So you go girl. A guy being nice and fun doesn't mean shit if there's no both-sided chemistry. It's only a doomed from the beginning waste of time. When it comes to casual dating without pressure it's more harmless so depending what you feel like at the moment
Honestly I’m 21 and looking like I’ll probably be right there with you soon lol, If it’s not a Hell yes it’s an absolute no is officially my Fave quote of 2023
That sucks, no idea what its like to receive that HELL YES, its a myth to me
Ify, some ppl just don't wanna be in a relationship...for me, i didn't want one cus it felt.... unnecessary 🤷
I respect that, but you should totally go!
I like you. ❤
Voluntary celibacy
I'm all about following your gut feeling, but also: don't let bad experiences of the past hold you back. It shouldn't get in the way of your own luck ❤
Perhaps you're extremely scared or wary. If it's a total stranger, then totally get it. But if it's somebody you know and like, emphasis on the like, then you should go ahead and give the person a chance, if you're ready for that first though.
It makes no sense at least give the guy a shot instead of complaining😅
If he checks all the boxes yet you still don't want him, it means there is something more crucial which is not being met. I wish more women would spend the time try and discern what that deep unconscious longing they have is actually longing for, instead of parroting the same superficial b******* of cuteness niceness and financial stability. By discerning it and finally expressing it two men, you would have your need met and we would have girlfriends. I do not believe the world is lacking men trying to find girlfriends, But it is quite filled with eligible women who would "rather stay home"
But you giving him 0 chances
I'm 30 and I had to last minute "raincheck" aka HELL NO to a guy friend that wanted to get dinner with me, something we planned ONE MONTH in advance because it sounded like he really wanted to catch up, and i was having a gut feeling that I shouldn't go. After contemplating for a long time and battling between if I SHOULD go vs if I WANTED to go, I rejected him and said no. And I haven't regretted it despite how much I know that was a bitch move.
Absolutely, if it’s not >100% it’s 0% gonna work
That doesn't make sense
how so?
@@Ninon__ Expecting 100% certainty or 100% perfect feelings about a person is unrealistic. The reality of the human condition is that everyone is imperfect, and chances are (as someone else has said before) that you will marry the wrong person, in the sense that it will not be the most perfect person for you. What we should do is go with the person whose time we love to spend, who compliments and complements us, and who is willing to work with you to build a great future together. You deal with flaws if they are not deal breakers, and they will deal with yours. I'm not saying you have no standards, but you also cannot expect Mr. or Mrs. perfect. But hey, that's just my perspective.
It’s an exaggeration saying you should be certain you’re into the person, literally the exact same thing she said bruh 💀
I think you just made sense to why you dont have a bf at 24. You r just not excited about men.
I agree 100%! I gave my ex-boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, but we turned out to be no match in the end and the relationship became quite toxic.
If it’s not a big yes, don’t go. There are plenty of guys who can be a better match for you and make you happier.
Also love your personality and fashion Zoe❤️
You should date@jjange
You should date @JJNAGE
narcissism
I think this means that all the guys around you are not exactly your type... This happens sometimes. You could meet someone on a trip or in different countrie who wouldn't be from your circle. At least it would be interesting. Watching your videos I have noticed you are a smart person and have a great analytical skills, so just a cute nice guy would be boring for you. You need someone special
Maybe YOU are the problem luv
imagine even getting first chances 🥲
At this point i don't know if I am picky or aro ace