Family skeletons in the closet EXPOSED on TikTok - REACTION
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🔥 HOLD ONTO YOUR FAMILY TREE, FOLKS! 🔥 It's your girl, Charlotte Dobre, and today we're diving deep into the scandalous abyss of family secrets that got spilled faster than grandma's famous gravy on TikTok! 🌳🤯
😱 Grab your detective hats and join me on this rollercoaster of revelations as we uncover the jaw-dropping tales that even your nosiest aunt couldn't pry out during Thanksgiving dinner. Because who needs therapy when you can spill the family tea on TikTok, am I right? ☕🕵️♀️
📱 We'll be delving into the nitty-gritty of unexpected ancestry discoveries, unexpected relatives sliding into DMs, and family reunions that redefine the term "awkward." Spoiler alert: Not all family secrets are meant to stay hidden, and TikTok is the ultimate truth serum! 😲🤳
👀 From secret romances to long-lost siblings, we've got it all. Forget daytime dramas; this is the real deal, and your family may never be the same again! Get ready for a saga of epic proportions that'll have you questioning your own lineage. 🤔🔍
💅 But fear not, my darlings! In the midst of the familial chaos, we'll uncover the silver linings - the hilarious reactions, the unexpected alliances, and the newfound appreciation for the chaos that is family life. Because nothing says "I love you" like a well-timed TikTok bombshell! 💖😂
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When my daughter was about 4, she said “if I buy daddy a Christmas present do you think he’ll get me one?” Nothing has broke me like that did! I started buying her some gifts from him and mailed them to her (at our house). It was worth the look in her eyes. She’s 24 now and has no idea. I HATED him so much but I loved her more.
That’s such a sad but sweet story - bless you ❤
That's a great thing you did for your daughter 🤎
Bless you! You're a great momma!
You both deserve better than him, I’m happy you kept it under wraps and let her feel loved. You’re a good mom, a very good mom.
Oh, tell her when she has her first. You were always there. 😢❤ made me tear up.
My granny would buy cool shells and go shell hunting with me. Throwing the bought shells when I wasn't looking letting me "find" them. She was so sneaky with it. Then she told me the secret when I had kids.
If magic isn't happening on its own momma will make magic happen. ❤🎉
My daughter's deadbeat dad called me and told me he was going to get her the Teddy Ruxpin she so badly wanted for Christmas. I said, "Are you sure?" Because this bear was hard to get, and they were selling out of it everywhere. A week before Christmas and I had still not heard from him. I was calling and calling. Nothing. The night before Christmas Eve, he calls. "I'm so sorry!" He says. Blah, blah blah was all I heard. I hung up on him. We went out and scoured towns! Finally, after driving all of the way to Lubbock TX from Amarillo TX, we found it! Over the years, I had gotten used to putting his name on all of her birthday cards because I didn't want her to know what a rotten piece of crap he was. I gave her the bear in his name. Years later, she was looking through all of her memorabilia. She came in and said, "Mom, thank you." I said, "For what?" She said, "For making me think he was a good person all of those years." I asked her how she knew? She said, "I'd know your handwriting anywhere." ❤
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YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD MOMMA!
I'm not crying, you're crying!! 😭😭😭
Awwww ❤😢❤
❤❤❤ awww 😢😢😢
I watched that mother's face when he said he wanted to get married and have children. Her despair and covering her face told me all I needed to know about this pathetic and entitled mother.
Yup, the way she was looking up at the ceiling blinking up her eyes, I know that look all to well. The "I deserve this from my child cause I gave birth to them and how dare they not give their life up to me so that I wouldn't have to do lift a finger again"
It is emotional incest and a terrible thing to do to your child
Yeah, it was so obvious that this is the last thing mommy wants.
My grandmother on my father's side is also a narcissist. And she's really old now and so confused why no one likes her.
The mother and son. Woah. My dad did that to me growing up too. I went to Japan as part of a sister city organization thing, and had to interview and fund raise for it. According to him, it was all his doing that I went. Not my hard work. And he never let me forget it, either. Even though, years later, the man running the whole organization basically told me that he hated my father and only accepted my application because of my attitude. Just...wow. I can't with this mother.
That entitlement of the mom using her son as a husband, is gross. I can only imagine what kind of mother in law she will be when her son marries, let alone grandma. She literally threw the things a parent does for a child into the son’s face to try to manipulate him. Smh
He'll never get married if he keeps doing all that for his mom 🚩🚩🚩
This second story is definitely my paternal grandmother, and yet, my Grandpa is still alive and ON THIS EARTH. She has a whole ass husband and still sees my dad in that inappropriate manner. My dad and mom got married in ‘81 and are still together and my grandmother still isn’t happy they’re married. You married your HUSBAND, not your son, lady!! Get over it!!
Yeah there are reels about this creepy shit where thr mom raises the son to be the husband she always wanted and then hating any women in their life cuz they thunkntheir son is their husband. It's super creepy and nasty
I love that he's letting her expose herself too 😂
My mother acts like this lol but i got more abrasive towards her as i age
If he doesnt get away from his mom he will never find a wife. Poor guy
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Yeaaaaaa don’t think he looking for a wife 😂😂
And she will never find a partner either.
@@Mashy8722 he said he was. He said and I quote “I am planning on saving so I could get married and start a family!”.
Imagine what she’ll be like as a mother in law….😮
The word for a man who won't buy his son a gift is not "delulu," it's "garbage."
About the first story, Jody Pico or Picoult writes popular fiction which can be characterised as family saga. She frequently centers storylines on a moral dilemma or a procedural drama which pits family members against one another.
A 29 year old that can buy a house, Mercedes and pay off all her credit cards is not the norm. That lady will only want, want, want from him. It’ll never stop until he changes his behavior. Shame on that lady.
She needs to get a job herself! Pay for her own crap.
Agree!
And should of shut her legs if she’s going to throw everything she did for HER son in his face.
Yeah this poor young man.
Yes - but he needs to say NO. And then do it.
My mama claimed she "raised" me and so when my biological father passed leaving me an inheritance that meant that I should pay her the back child support he owed her out of MY inheritance..... but the reality is that she GAVE ME TO ANOTHER FAMILY when I was 14 because she could not stand me. She effing hated me and the family that took me in showed me what real parents do and what real parental love was like.
Please tell me you gave her the finger instead of money!
Don’t give her a dime --hope you’re doing better now
That is awful! I am so sorry! The woman who birthed me had her parents paid for everything I did not live with from age 10 on but expected me to give her my tax refunds when I started working at 15 well into my adulthood. Then when my father passed, I made the mistake of seeing her the next day and all she did is complain about how much she hated him. They had been divorced for almost 30 years and with her current husband 20+ years at this point.
Awe, I’m so sorry babes. That’s heart breaking. But my mom adopted 13 kids off the street in the same way. So I’m so glad you have a real family and a real example of love and how family comes together when life gets harder. Not fall apart. You don’t owe her SHITUH
I am glad you got to experience real love from your family (like your mom is related to you but I don't see people like that as deserving of being a part of a family). I hope she didn't see a dime from your inheritence! You deserved the love and not that bs your mom put you through 💖
Love the guy filming his baby mama yelling at him to get his kid a gift like he thinks he's in the right. Just say you don't love your child
The last woman, my heart goes out to her. She probably knows the importance of feeling like the Dad cares, and the fear of what happens when she buys the gift and it comes out later, as it always does. Catch 22 understatement.
The mom needs therapy. Children do NOT owe parents anything. The parents decided to create the kid, the kid didn’t get a choice. If she wants something, her grown ass can go get it.
LOLZ I apparently owe my parents everything because they nearly went broke adopting me. Nobody owes me shit for being abandoned at the hospital for a week while the paperwork went through. I bonded with hospitals instead of my adoptive mom.
@@lindsayschuster302my adoptive dad was awesome. Gruff but the biggest teddy bear of a man who did whatever he could to help others who were struggling and had a sense of duty to help the community that helped him when he was growing up. Mom, well, I was never quite as good as their bio kids (even though I’m objectively better on every measure). Since she couldn’t rag on me about her labor, she’d talk about how much I cost them, including my glasses (nearsighted and asked for glasses so I could see the board at school and do my work) and braces (not vanity; had two literal rows of teeth). She even tried telling me, on my father’s literal deathbed, that he never wanted me, when he and I road-tripped and I know for a fact he wanted more kids. He used to play Santa for free for crying out loud and I was one of his favorite people in the world. Some people just have to many of their own issues to be good parents.
@@lindsayschuster302 my parents barely had enough to go shopping for themselves cause they had tons of medical bills due to a severe birth defect i had that disabled me and never asked me once to help them with anything
They're awesome
100% please preach to my mom too lol
I don’t think that’s entirely true - now I’m grown if my mum needed help I would 100% give after everything she did over the years. It’s not ok for them to demand it, but their sacrifice and time/love/money over the years does mean something. At least to me.
The last story, no he's not legally obligated to buy his son Christmas gifts but most parents are excited to get their kids gifts, especially at Christmas. He's a just a sour, bad human.
You can't make people do the right thing....if it's not in him to want a relationship with his son, then cut him loose, be glad you are getting child support and enjoy raising your son knowing you both dodged a f-ing bullet.
Honestly those kids need to be told that their dad did not, and what he used the money for instead. Stop sheltering your kkds from how bad the other parent is! Stop It People! They will ruin your child's life and they won't know it until later, when tik tok inevitably throws it into their face.
That father doesn't love his son. His son is just a bill he pays.
@@sicast916 Sad. Getting used to not gettng gifts from your family is a sad thing. also... Jehova witnesses are a cult.
@@pepeltoro444they’re totally a fucking cult. How do people not see that!
I’d give my mum the world if I could. Operations from birth, blood transfusions every 3 weeks, multiple tubes fitted in my heart, open heart surgery, bone marrow transplant, heart breaks, bullying, ptsd… she’s never left my side. Whilst my brother was also ill as a kid. Now she raises my brothers 4 kids with zero financial help. My dad working all his life to support us through all this and using his pension to raise his grandchildren. I wish I could give my parents things beyond their dreams.
okay yes, but that's because YOU want to. not your mother demanding it from you and acting like she's entitled to it because she raised you...... two very different scenarios.
Morally he’s required to buy his child gifts…Christmas, Birthday, Graduation etc…If he as the Father doesn’t believe thats true, then he has a broken moral compass and absolutely zero character.
The sad part is, the baby daddy wasn’t just recording, he had the audacity to post it and think he was so in the right, others would support him and give him a standing ovation.
That was actually the best part. He was thinking "look at this Golddigger" and the world saw reality. He isn't a father he's a legal obligation.
Unfortunately, some men agree with him. That's why things are mess societally.
It's because they're angry that they have to pay child support. In their mind they contribute already more than the mother does. They make this a principle about the money. It's silly, because it's just two occasions per year, birthday and Christmas. By not getting a gift, even a small symbolic one, the child feels rejected by Daddy.
Sad part is baby daddy did get support from a lot of dead beat baby daddys
Disgusting men
The last video, the dad literally needed to spend MAYBE $20 to bring his son joy and he wouldnt even do that. Shows what kind of father he is. I wish all the best to the woman and her son!!
And he was recording her to post on social media for what??? That’s their private business, not the fucking internet. I hate this culture of sharing EVERYTHING to social media. He just made himself look like a fool, though.
@@lilscenechick1995Yeah that bit got me too. It's like he thought he was doing something there, making her look greedy and unreasonable rather than just making himself look like a broke, mama whipped loser of a dad.
Ah ha ha ha ha I loved that: "a broke, mama whipped loser of a dad." SO well said. @@obnoxiousbluebird6634
That deadbeat father story is unsettling. He might not be legally required to purchase a Xmas gift for his child, but he is morally bound to.
They both suck. Should he get his kid a gift? Absolutely. Is she being a dick when she trivializes the child support he is paying? Absolutely. He is paying $26,400 in child support per year. That is objectively a LOT of money (about a third of the US median household income). Conceivably part of the explanation why he is living with his mother and feels he can't afford to spend more money on his child. Calling it "broke boy money" and making fun of him for living with his mom, is gross. They both suck. Hard.
Uh. No. That son should say nope. One present. Or tickets to something. The fact that he knows she’s a narcissistic is a bonus. The fact that he knows she’s a gas lighter. He won’t be able to get or stay married with a mom like that. You don’t get a medal for being and doing a the basics of being a good parent. You owe her nothing. Period.
That mom could've used the example of helping he tutor get her car fixed as an amazing life lesson about not being selfish, giving is better then receiving etc....
But instead she made it seem as some charity case that ultimately benefited her & her child!!!!!
As a mother of two grown men, the son doesn't owe momma a dime. Last I checked, no one asked to be born. If she wants payback for raising him, that's a pretty low bar, it's required by law. As she said, she doesn't want a husssssband, no she doesn't, she wants is a sugar daddy. Narcissist is a perfect description.
So true! My parents were like that too, and I thought, your “payback” for raising me is not spending time in jail for child neglect. That’s your prize. I find these older feminist women insufferable. No wonder they’re single at that age. If they don’t want a husband, they also don’t deserve what a husband has to offer.
@@Chardelle6925I agree with most of what you say, but being a feminist has nothing to do with it. I'm a feminist myself and, If anything, feminists don't believe in being dependent on a man, or anyone, for that matter. In any case, yes, the prize are the children themselves, or at least they should be.
Yes!! My argument exactly. We didn't ask to be born. I wouldn't ever sue my parents over it, but life is rough as hell...0 stars, do not recommend
the number of times ive told my mother, when god was handing out parents, and all the kids lined up and he said, "ok, i got a single teenage alcoholic mother with severe trauma from watching her dad beat her mom her whole life and will blame you for literally every shitty thing that happens to her after your birth, who wants her?" i was in the bathroom and came out doing a little happy dance from peeing and god saw my hand in the air. trust and believe mom, if i had seen what you would blame me for and put me through, id have stayed on the shitter. she always rolls her eyes and says, it doesnt work that way holly.. i reply "OH YOU KNOW!! i thought thats how you thought things worked because you act as if i picked this and have been actively ruining YOUR life since i crawled out of you" she doesnt like it when i remind her, i know what bullshit shes trying to pull on me
Someone needs to send her a copy of the song "No Charge", which speaks of a slightly different situation, but would be appropriate for her and her son.
Ironically, the first story sounds like the plot of a Jodi Picoult book.
😂😂You are absolutely right. It does sound like a plot from one of Jodi’s books. LOL
Haha good point lol
I'm going to start reading her books and see if my relationship with my MIL gets better 😂
@@jolygirl😂😂
I'm so happy Charlotte showed the clip with the guy and the mom because it's a situation that isn't talked about enough, so obviously me and my siblings love our parents because despite the narcissistic moments we had to endure they held us up when we felt down however as we grow into adulthood we learned how to deal with the ups and down and were creating our life on our own. Our parents would as much as they can hit us with the "We raised you so do this" or "I did this for you so you should.." At first, we all fell for it until we started getting into disputes that they themselves caused, and everything seemed to be our fault. I remember the moment me and my siblings and I looked at each other and just busted out laughing at how tiring and bizarre this whole thing is, it felt like a weight lifted off my shoulder. Seeing other people's stories on social media taught us that parents in general made a choice to have kids wether accident or on purpose (Not talking about SA) so they're are the ones to take care of us as we arent able to now as we get older, parents have to let us go outside so that we enjoy and learn as they also got to at their age, I wish I had know this sooner but it is what it is, we put our foot down and they would bawl and whine until they realize we weren't budging and now they're given up on controlling us and would occasionally say how proud of us they are. It's bittersweet, but that's okay. My parents weren't bad people. They just felt more acclaimed to things they shouldn't, and we still love them despite how insufferable or odd they are. However, I hope that video and this comment reach to anyone who feels like giving up or is exhausted like we were and know lots of things fade with time and you will be okay❤
poor baby mama at the end.. she should just say it how it is. "Do you want your child to knwo that you ONLY wanna spend the BARE MIMINUM on them... because that's how much they're worth to you?!"
Lesson to be learned regarding the inmate who gave a serial killer the contact number of a woman…NEVER, EVER, under any circumstance in life, and even just ordinary people, give contact information to someone else without getting their consent first. Basic common sense.
My old man gave away my phone number to a woman in his AA meetings...without telling me about it until he'd done so. His reasoning? "Well, you said you like women...and she likes women too! You'll get along great!"
On one hand, thank you for thinking of my happiness. On the other hand, DAD NO! 😅
I still don’t understand why he couldn’t just send him the books. Are they forbidden contact?
@@Stella-lo2py lil confused but he got the . . . .spirit?
Yeah, I don't think she had a choice on wether or not keep going that bookclub
Not to mention, he may use the contact info as currency inside the prison. My dad knows someone who spent time in a high security prison and he said that happens all the time.
Arguing over buying his son a Christmas present? What a deadbeat. His mother should be ashamed of him not encouraging him to be greedy and selfish. How disgusting. And he'll probably be confused when his son wants nothing to do with him when he grows up.
Nah, a guy like this will sit there blaming his “psycho ex” for “brainwashing” his kids into wanting nothing to do with him.
Does he have visitation rights or did she force him out of son's life and child support? If there is no visitation then he isn't a deadbeat but fulfilling legal obligations.
@@nickmoneyI was told if I take child support from my abusive ex he got visitation rights even if just supervised. I chose not to take him and he went to prison anyway. But 1. It's not always the girl. 2. If he's paying for child support he most likely has some type of visitation even if he's not choosing to be there for it. 3. I could be wrong this is just my personal experience. :)
Not every parent should stick around for their bio kids. I wish it was more normalized for like adoption/ showing genuine love it sucks when a parent doesn't want to connect or in a situation (a toxic relationship to the baby mama) but they also shouldn't like be dragged to be involved I guess. If they don't care, they don't care. Not everyone connects with their kids and other situations. When the baby daddy is dragged and guilted into a false interaction with the kid, it just...can create levels of confusion and hurt that isn't necessary. It sucks for sure. I'd rather be around people who want to be around me and not feel obligated to.
I say this as an adoptee that was rejected and accepted and it taught me the importance of feeling chosen in various ways. I don't know my birth father and I don't care to. I know my birth mom and I love her in my own way.
Dead beat dad's n ect, yea some of them are awful and can walk away from their kids easier but- why force your child to interact with someone who isn't emotionally interested. Not to mention the relationship between the mother and father can really speak volumes on why they can't work as a team or even why it's better they're not a team.
@@chelseykimrey5848 Depends on state and lawyers, a vindictive mother could have soul custody with no visitation rights but collect child support as well. Father might not want anything to do with son too and just fulfills legal requirements. Also fact ex was so aggressive means it was an abusive relationship most likely from her end towards him since he was so calm the entire time.
Those rainbow cookies are DIVINE, as a Bonelli with Sicilian and Colabrais blood. I would SPILL blood for those cookies!!!
Anything with almond extract, flour, or paste is mouth watering.
That mom and son fight on camera made me ANXIOUS
I like hearing stories like the first one, because suddenly my family isn't all that crazy.
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Same! My dad ended up in prison too, but at least not for murder? 😆 ("Just" fraud.)
I'm starting to realise just how bonkers my family are 😭
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"This is why we help poor people".
Help? She literally garnished the girl's wages for the advance. It's not nothing, but it's also not generous or anything to be proud of.
She didn't even send the last pay cheque.
This is why I NEVER rate people who come from money - you don’t know if they got where they are by themselves… the rich privilege trumps everything
She should Sue!
The most difficult debt to pay is gratitude. It becomes a struggle to ask payment for what these people-who-once-helped-you-during-a-great-crisis owed you. You become the villain and get called an ingrate.
She should have been tutoring him, not doing his work for him.
The rich story reminded me of something I was told. Some rich people think that electricity and other bills are free in America because they pay people to sort out their bills and forget about it 💀
My dad when I was 9 (my Mom had to raise me & my older 1/2 siblings by herself. I was the baby and yes I had a car at age 16 (Mama’s 2nd hand 1979 Camaro🤩). We live in a VERY rural area so a vehicle was “necessary “ lol. My Beautiful Mama is now 91 and still the Best Mama Ever and has NEVER expected anything from us kids!🌻
That dad refusing to buy his child a gift hurt my heart. She was working so hard to get him to try, just try and get something small. The kid has your love mom, and that’s gonna be their best memory.
2200$/month is celebrity level tf he buying that kid everything
@@thead3.144so true! And often time the mom misuses the money as her spending money
Why should he when she's gonna throw it out anyway
2200 isn't a lot. She clearly has full custody because he didn't want to be in his kids life but it also depends on how much he gets paid and what state they're in. If he watched his kid or had his mother help they'd be able to get it reduced. Either way he's still honestly disgusting because like Charlotte said at least a $20 truck would be fine. It's not her trying to take more money from him, it's her trying to help him not lose his son's love.
@@thead3.144 Depending on where you live, no. If you add up insurances, rent, groceries, then the daycare she mentioned, no. $2k with a kid is not a lot of money. It's a lot to just have taken from you, when you need it yourself, but as a monthly thing with a kid involved… No. Money adds up real quick, especially if you're in places like a big city, or a more developed area.
Regardless, it sounds like he's making excuses. Had he opened up and just said, "I'm sorry, I literally can't afford a gift right now," it would have been fine. The point is, child support is there to *support* the child. She also raised that neither his mom or himself have spent enough time with the son. That right there says everything.
My dad didn’t pay child support for the first 9 years of my life. Only started after my mom took him to court. Now 20 years later he acts like he is such a good father and that he has always been there for me but I have never forgotten.
my dad never paid a dime... i didnt meet him until i was 33, on my behest. (my husbands father had passed and he and i decded i should meet mine since he was alive, and we did and it was weird) but. about a month after i met him, he asked to move in with us. we said ok as we had an extra room and he was struggling at the time. his wife and parrot soon followed, which was cool, i got to meet the woman who stole him from the woman who "stole him" from my mom (which btw never happened, they are both 17 and stupid and in the 70s) while he was living with me, i learned alot about myself, my mother, why things happened the way they did. it was healing. BUT THEN.... my husband and i got into a fight over something, and my father butted in using a dad voice on me. i spun around so fast and pushed my finger into his forehead and said, "dont you DARE use that voice with me... it has NO power here, you sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up, this is MY house and you are a GUEST. i lived without you for over 30 years and dont thin for ONE second that i need yo in my life. you want to be a part, you follow MY LEAD. dont you ever try to use parental authority over me buddy, as far as you are concerned, IM YOUR MOTHER IN THIS HOUSE," his wife poked her head around the hall wall and said, robert, that woman is not kidding and she 100 percent right, get your ass to your room" he slinked away and about an hour later he came and apologized and said, "one thing ill never fault your mother for, she raised a warrior. im so proud to see who you are and sad to know i had nothing to do with it" i said, "you had everything to do with it, ive spent my whole life fighting for the right to be loved without feeling guilty and thats because of you, take it how you will. but this is all you" we dont talk much anymore, after they moved away, i lost contact and i wonder alot if hes ok
EDIT: after all the heartache and pain, why do we still hope they will just love us?
Same. Minus the eventual court order. I was a child in the 70's before support enforcement. He's almost 90 now. Bitches that other kids do things for their parents. If I start feeling guilty, I just remember what he said when he found out I was molested at age 4 by my step grandfather... "it wasn't that bad". Those experiences destroyed my childhood, altered the outcome of my entire future and destroyed my relationship with my entire family. But I guess he thought it wasn't that bad, to molest his 4 year old daughter. Unfortunately, some parents suck.
You are not obligated to play along. You owe him nothing. 💔
Yeah. It took me a while to understand my dad was “buying my affection.”
My father is a narcissist and has never once paid child support because my mom knew better than to ask him for it, as he'd probably claim I'm not his kid just to avoid paying. Now that I'm an adult, he thinks he's entitled to my time and my respect when he doesn't give me the same respect. Respect is earned, even with family.
It’s extremely common to have narcissist parents, but a lot of people don’t know that they are actually narcissists but think they’re “set in their ways” or “a diva” or “they’re just difficult”
I was today years old when I realised you guys dont mean cookies. I was envisioning like a 3 layer chocolate chip cookie. Thats a damn sponge cake!
No it's crispy,it's a small square cookie.
@@EmbalmerEmi im not American so cookies are exclusively the chocolate chip (or macadamia nut etc) type. We would for sure call that a cake haha.
That last video made me cry. She's begging him to give the boy a Christmas present and he says no. That's so heartbreaking, your own blood.
The worst people in my life are of my own blood. The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. I built my own family who love me and accept me for who I am. I do not get that from people to whom I am related by blood. It's been my experience people related by blood hurt you the most.
Just bc he pays child support does not mean he shouldn't buy his kid a Christmas gift. That is crazy. He is doing the bare minimum. Yes, he pays a lot, but from what she says, she has the child all the time.
And HES filming it… meaning he thinks she’s so wrong the whole internet is gonna side with him… the delulu is strong
@@shawnycoffman🙌🙌🙌 glad you know the proper quote.. it's often twisted as "blood is thicker than water" to manipulate people into accepting mistreatment and abuse from "family"
@@n.e9831 I know right? My own family has used that against me. Or tried to, anyway. 😏
After she said "he shared contact information with a serial killer with his own Wikipedia page" I was absolutely not expecting the continuation of the book club. Lol
that's okay, that's fine, I've moved 124 states away by the time Serial Book Club guy gets out. no problemo. Lol.
I mean, he's not getting out. Also, he wants the books to keep coming. If anything, he'd want to protect his contact with the outside. So many men feel left behind and forgotten in jail. And truthfully after the first 5 years most ppl stop contract. One of my childhood friends made terrible terrible decisions at eighteen and got 15 years no parole. He was amazed at colorful cash. Tens had just turned orange. But I wrote him infrequently, when he'd pop into my head. In a lot of ways, prison is inhumane and should be illegal the way they do it. Grouping the inmates by age alone would stop so many horrific occurrences. I think every school bully becomes a corrections officer and they never grow out of bullying.
I really hope she doesn’t become one of those with savior syndrome (or whatever it’s called, happens a lot but I don’t think it’s under Stockholm Syndrome) where they start ‘BuT tHeY’rE jUsT mIsUnDeRsToOd!!!’ (Or under ‘they regret’)
They then fight for their ‘changed person’ to be freed from jail, cases I hear usually succeed, and when they do, guess who dies? Usually said Savior Syndrome person, and then several others as said ‘changed person’ has not changed in the slightest.
That tutor story is wild…
That mom really thought she was doing her a favor by being “rich”. 🙄
Acknowledgement, intention dynamics, forgiveness & Forward movement ARE EVERYTHING
Trying to frame his sister for their father's murder was bad enough, but I feel like if he so nonchalantly gave out her contact information to a serial killer, dude learned nothing at all while in prison and probably should not be released based on that information alone.
Yeah, sounds like he's never been very good with his thinking skills.
I have a friend whose ex husband is in jail and he's given her info to so many different inmates that don't have anyone on the outside. I've told her it's really dangerous for someone to do.
The mentality within jails and prisons don't consider the common sense of don't give out a female family member's contact info to your bros in custody. It's just such a weird mindset. I had to put an inmate's pictures of his kids in his personal belongings to take with him when he was released because it was a picture of a young kid in the bathtub. I couldn't believe the family member didn't even think it through like the amount of pedos in jail is enough to not hand out those types of photos. The inmate wasn't in custody for any of those kind of crimes, but I had to tell him after showing him his pictures, he couldn't keep them in his cell because there's too many creeps. 😅
Serial killer with a Wikipedia page! For some reason it just hits different.
@@jeaniebird999 Sounds more like a sociopathic case who has no conscience and doesn't learn that actions have consequences. Maybe that's why he was in a maximum security prison with other creeps like him.
The worst part of the videos with the father who doesnt like his own child enough to get them a small present, is that the child will be able to find them one day and literally hear their biodad say a new years outfit is more important than them. Absolutely heartbreaking
I almost cried when I saw that part 😭😭😭
I can't ever imagine my dad doing that to us, he literally does so much to make sure that me and my mom had good Christmas Presents, and this sicko won't even buy his kid a toy truck.
Some people are sick.
Sick, sick, sick.
Watch the film, " Teddy Bear " ...its depicted a son husband dynamic. When he went to another country to meet a woman, she came back with him to live with him.
She responded by destroying his room. He moved out and he told he wasn't moving back in and he married his girlfriend.
If this guy doesn't break away now, it won't happen.
That mom as out of her mind! As a parent of two adult children, being a good parent whose kids turn out good is the rewards. Stop thinking your kids owe you!!!!
Oh Lord. That mom using her son made me sick. Imagine thinking that your child OWES you for simply raising you and doing what is expected of parents. I hope he put his foot down and has started to cut those ties because it'll just get worse
Problem is he doesn't have healthy boundaries it's very likely that he will end up with an even more controlling spouse . He needs to go NC and start counseling
That poor man may be suffering a type of Stockholm syndrome. Imagine how much he could've done for himself in this time which is the goal of most parents to see their kids surpass them. Most of us want to see our kids thrive and have a better life beyond what we could give them. Not give us what they work for.
@@toritorittaja4394 I fully agree. Definitely could benefit from counseling.
@@grungydoll I could see him having a type of Stockholm, especially growing up with a mother like that. Dude needs to find a GOOD therapist, a very good therapist to help him work through all of this and learn to set and MAINTAIN boundaries with his mother
The AUDACITY of his mom demanding she get all three options.
Also, imagine recording an argument about not buying your child gifts because you pay child support and actually think you are in the right.
Right, because his mom said. That mom was probably the same mum crying about his dad not helping him.. The BM literally said childcare is 2000 a month. What’s 200$? That barely gets you essentials and some fuel.
My mom would do the same. Parents like that are exhausting
She wants her son to have a happy Christmas without having to lie to him. I can't imagine what this guy thought he had to gain by uploading this video. 😮
If he’s paying $2200 for child support for one kid he’s has to be making a decent amount per month. He should be able to afford even a small gift for his child
11:00 Funnily enough no one I know who is my age-ish wants to have a kid, except for my narcissistic neighbour 😂
That last one had my blood boiling, I am so glad she left him. She deserves so much better and so does their child! What a dead beat😱🤯
his logic "i paid child support" like??? and?! that's like if a dad who lived w his kids said "no xmas this year, i bought y'all groceries, clothes and paid gas for cars you ride in" which is already so sad but like... that's actually thousands of dollars at least - this guy is acting like 2k is anywhere close to the real investment of a parent. he probably wishes his baby momma & kid would just vanish off the face of the earth. and she is a beautiful caring mom who just wants her son to get a gift from his dad. she and her son deserve way better.... haha I'm pissed too
He makes a LOT to pay that amount. My dad made like 1200 bucks a week after taxes and his maximum was 88 bucks a week. He could not be ordered to pay more, because that was the maximum percentage allowed by law. Note he never mentions his pay, or that the 2200
Is a big chunk of his wages, because it isn't. He knows 2200 sounds big to most people, so he's letting some number do the walking to buy him sympathy. If he said "THAT'S LIKE TEN PERCENT OF MY EARNINGS!" Then everyone would automatically know that he's a miser that is so bitter he has to pay ANYTHING at all, that he's taking it out on the kid by not being a parent in any other way.
Parenting is SO much more than financial, and I'm sick to death of parents thinking they can effectively buy a subscription and never have to do anything else for the child THEY decided to have. @@MaidenHelll
@@MaidenHelllchild support is based on about 15%-20% of income depending on what state they’re in. It may be 75% of YOUR income but it’s only about 15% of his. He is definitely a deadbeat and just doing what court orders him. He doesn’t care about his son at all. His support pays mainly for daycare alone so mom is definitely putting in way more that 2200 a month.
He blatantly lied saying he couldn’t afford a gift, but was choosing to go buy an outfit for a party instead. He’s a piece of garbage. I do understand that having to pay child support can financially drain a person, but mans made a choice. All he cared about was himself. PRIORITIES PEOPLE.
I agree. He did the bear minimum and then acts like he should get a pat on the back. The default parent or main parent does that and so much more to make sure their child gets everything they need. Even if you don’t have money you have ways to make your child happy he just seems like he don’t care at all
The last video is craaazy. The dude uploaded that video thinking he was in the right for refusing to buy his child a gift. Imagine having such a warped world view where you'd think that was a good idea.
I feel like most people miss in that last one. He’s complaining about giving them money for a Christmas gift or getting them a Christmas gift but he’s going inside to get a brand new iPhone and a New Year’s Eve outfit??? 🙄
He took pride in behaving like an absolute loser.
Yeah he clear gives no shit if his kids are happy or not. I'd love to see the comments on his video, but chances are there are just as many deadbeat parents backing him up
Living up to the stereotype
Right! He recorded her like he didn’t look foolish. Also there’s no way I would sit and argue practically begging a fool to buy my baby a gift. They both looked foolish. You pay your child support and when he ask “did dad get me a gift” I’d just say no but mom got you plenty so it doesn’t matter. Children grow up and understand who is an adult hole parent. And the parent usually regrets it when the child has low contact with them.
The first story was *wild*... But also, I love Jodi Picoult! 😂 I've read literally almost every one of her books. But like serial killers in prison bonding over her books, which are often based around court cases, sends me 😂😂
I LOVE you, @Charlotte!!!! Your videos are the best & I laugh sooooooo hard. It's total stress relief.
Loved that the last mom stood up for her son, she may not be able to convince her ex-husband to buy him a gift but boy did she give it a go, she can at least be proud of that
Hilarious how he thought “He’S dAh MaN!!!” By filming her trying to desperately get him not to abandon their kid like that.
I hope the kid sees through his dad’s crap in the future, and I hope the mom doesn’t protect ‘daddy dearest’s’ precious reputation :)
He sounds hopeless.
Poor son, but he should get used to the fact that his father does not care for him.
The first story was BEYOND unhinged!!!!
Right OMG 😳
Those Jody Picko
books!
Sorry Jodi Picoult
Honestly tho kind of wholesome in a weird way 😂
Lol yup.
I hollered "what!!?" so loud.
But you know, store bought pesto, that's crazy...
@@TheFlowerQueen what?????
I’m CONVINCED every Italian American family has that story 😂😂 in my family it’s over pizzelles. There’s only like 3 irons they brought from Italy in the 20s and my Aunties had WARS over them. Thank goodness I was reserved one as the oldest granddaughter even though it’s my dad’s family 😅
First story is wild lol. I stopped reading fiction years ago, but Jodi Picoult books were some of my FAVOURITE.
Parents who act like they deserve an award for providing for the kid THEY CHOSE TO HAVE absolutely astound me. You chose to have the kid, YOU took on the responsibility of their care and keeping until they were capable of doing it themselves, YOU are not entitled to anything in return. Kids aren't supposed to be grateful. We HOPE they are grateful for the things we provide them, the sacrifices we make to ensure they have everything they need and a lot of things they want. It shouldn't be expected. You shouldn't be keeping an invoice like your relationship with your child is transactional. Your entire job is to provide for that kid, period.
Exactly. It's not like kids are like "I consent to being born", they have no say in the matter. That makes it 100% the parents responsibility.
My mom told all 3 of us kids, we owe her $25k each, for raising us. She was also super abusive, clearly, so indont know how she thinks she deserves that much, let alone anything.
Salut tatie Charlotte j'espère que tu vas bien je suis présente pour cet nouvel épisode je t'aime très fort 😊❤
@@brianm4178 Did she pay her parents that fee?
@@breezy3392 oh of course not lol
7:40 mom is WAY too entitled to his successes. Like; as a parent myself who didn’t have a single bit of a normal childhood, I do not deserve NO PROPS, NO ENTITLEMENT, and ZERO CUDOS FOR MY CHILDRENS NORMAL CHILDHOOD AND WHAT I SACRIFICED FOR THEM. That was my choice to be a parent. The least I could do was do it gracefully and lovingly. I chose to make children. I chose to sacrifice and I did it all as a labor of love. Plus I had to buy my own damn car. And pay bills and take care of the house and my 14 other siblings as a teen. She needs to STAAAAHHHHPPPPPP
To be fair, I think good parents at least deserve to celebrate not raising a killer, rapist, or pedo. You never know if you did a good job as a parent until the kid reaches adulthood. Other than that, yeah, there should be no entitlement or that horrible gaslighting. I don't understand why some parents are like this. It's horrible, and they wonder why no one calls them in their old age.
@@MadMage1993 all three of my girls are grown. 20,21,&23. They are amazing wonderful kind people who always stand up for what’s right. No matter who is in the wrong. I’m so proud of them. But honestly, I feel like them growing into amazing humans is more the work they put into themselves. They worked hard to become great humans and I only guided them. My job was hard, it wasn’t easy by any means, but they did the most work. All I really did was talk to them like tiny adults and made sure they knew how to think for themselves. And how to have a voice. But thank you because I’m not the only one who thinks they’re just the bees knees
Definitely. And he should find his own place to live, probably far away from her, and then drop all contact.
@@dereklammers2977 absolutely!!!!
Okay hi I'm trying to figure out something ... so when my mother tells me her whole life was cut out to attend to my every need from year 1-3 ...
And when my father then tells me I started misbehaving when my brother was born and he already knew by my look that I disliked this sudden new family member ...
And when they blame me for the families problems because I was always different and was a malicious child that loved to act out control on all the family members to get what I wanted...
You're telling me that's simple parenthood tasks .... and not some great achievement they can cut down every argument with?!
Wow this is so sad and the reason why I cut off my family being in the military my family took full advantage of me and my kindness 9:02
I'm Italian. When my nana (yes I know it's usually Nona, but she said it made her feel old 😂) passed, our family got into a HUGE fight over her recipes. Some of us still aren't talking and it's been years😂 yall just don't get how important food is to us😂❤
the way that the mom rolled her eyes when her son started talking about having his own family speaks volumes... she doesnt care .., she just wants him to stay with her until she dies. She will def be an insufferable mil to his future gf or wife
He will have to nove far, and set bounderis.
She will NEVER take care of any grandkids. She’s too selfish.
@@sharimshe will but will also demand certain things in return
Yoooooo that last dude was upsetting. He’s literally doing the legal bare minimum and basically saying I don’t care about that child. He’s an inconvenience and I don’t want nothing to do with him or even being a good person at this point. Actions speak so much louder than words. You chose to make actions that lead to these consequences. Own your shit, take responsibility, man up and be a parent. That child didn’t ask for this. And just because he doesn’t carry the child, doesn’t mean he didn’t had a choice in signing over his rights when he agreed to child support. He signed the birth certificate, he agreed to child support, he needs to be more of a man and act right.
Yeah. He’s angry at his ex, and he’s taking it out on his child.
This is my family TBH. Both of my families are like the 3rd ladies story. Generationally and independently wealthy, but uncaring aholes, unbothered entitled aholes. (Also, rich ppl are all on drvgs or drvnks I promise you).
So I went to stay with my aunt at 16 when my parents went on "vacation" to their home in France and I wasn't invited lol. Later found out later my mom went to stay there to have my twin brothers in France so they'd be dual citizens like me. I didn't know my mom was pregnant, I didn't see her for 5 months till they let me come. My parents were also in the midst if a divorce. It was messy.
My aunt kept telling me, a 16 yr old, how much she hated her children, and their father. That they were such a burden. I once woke up to my 6 MONTH OLD COUSIN* crying alone in her rocker in her nursery. Idk how long she'd been there, but I had to care for her and feed her. My aunt had fired another nanny for "being nosy." I went down from the 4th floor, I was so mad, a baby could have gotten hurt alone up there if she wiggled out of the rocker!! Only after searching the house did I find my 5 yr old cousin alone watching TV. I asked where her mom was and she said rolling her eyes that her mom was in the garage, she knew exactly what my aunt was doing at 5! I tried to open the garage, baby in my hands and it was locked. I unlocked it and my aunt was smoking weed in her car with some guy. I was MORTIFIED.
My aunt got mad at me for disturbing them. Admittedly my aunt is the most immature one of all the siblings. Shes almost 50 and still throws herself onto the floor having tantrums when she doesnt get her way. She has no job and leeches of my grandmother.
My aunt does nothing all day but get high and remodel her house. My mom and uncle have careers but are also terrible parents.
My mom dumped my twin brothers off onto me when they were about 8 months old to focus on her work again, thats like the 1 thing she cares most about. And I mean literally I raised them. My dad was an abusive alcoholic att and is still never around going on fancy fishing trips, etc. His parents fund his lifestyle and dont say anything since he almost died as a kid, they baby TF out of him still at 58.
My brothers honestly barely know my parents and are 21 yrs old now. 1 of them has HF autism and I put in a lot lf work to raise them the way I NEVER was. They both consider me their mom and my autistic brother has attachment disorder. Thankfully my husband is amazing and supportive. Weve known each other since Kindergarten and his mother is my mom friend but we both hated the lifestyle. The grass isnt greener on the other side trust me.
@@SaintShion That sounds ROUGH. I grew up with lots of money, but fortunately my mother was very down to earth, hated over-consumption and taught me to appreciate value in things. My father managed to blow all his money, the all of his inheritance, so he’s now bankrupt. I have enough, but I’m now disabled so, it won’t improve much… Mondays doesn’t make people happy. Having it reduces some stresses, but increases others. And no amount of money will fix a narcissistic parent.
Agreed. That guys was trash. And his mom telling him not to buy gifts for her grandbaby... Ewww!
That poor baby! *except he has a fierce mama bear!
7:58 Charlotte I love your facial expressions 😂❤ if only I could see you react to the way my mother is with me because I relate to this man and his gaslighting, narcissistic mother struggles 🥲💙
Marriage and kids? Homie, will they be adopted? 😂 the sipping on the stanely cup alone 😂😂😂
Child support dude wouldn't even be paying child support if he didnt have to. He makes it painfully obvious that he doesnt care about the child the both probably wanted to have. Its upsetting
Exactly! Buy your kid a damn present.
Her threat to take him to court to force him to buy a gift is ridiculous. He isn't legally obligated to buy his son anything. Some other comment above said it clearly - He has made it clear he is only going to do what he is legally obligated to do. He's a terrible father.
He probably wants to see receipts of how his money was spent.
@@lotstodo That I don't blame him for.
@lotstodo Daycare is expensive in a lot of areas. He could easily check the daycare cost himself and if it's $2000, which it is in a lot of places, he doesn't need receipts to know $200/mo is nowhere near covering half the kid's remaining expenses a month. It shouldn't be on the parent with sole custody to "provide receipts" because it's just adding another thing to their plate and needlessly stressing out the sole parent more is not good for the kid(s). He's also straight up refusing to get his kid a gift, so... dude isn't looking too good regardless.
We dont know if the dad has split custody for the holidays... he could have already bought his gifts for christmas at his own house..
Child support doesn’t even make a dent in taking care of a kid. If she did use the money for gifts he would’ve had an issue with that too. I want to know what he thought he was doing recording her
Making himself look like a loser by the looks of it.
Trying to play the victim, but looking like a clown.
It looks like this may have a repost too, if you look at the caption. I'm sure there's Chadbro Alphamales who would be like: "How dare she ask him to buy his kid a gift!" - plenty of toxic guys who would side with the guy here.
@@DangerRavioli one guy did and when I told him all about himself he deleted his comment
@@DangerRavioli oh. It’s in my comment thread about this joke of a dude.
I recently discovered your channel, and now I can’t stop watching. 🤣🤣🤣
Seen your videos on facebook and had to subscribe to your CZcams channel your amazing and funny lobe watching these vids got a lot to catch up on lol
My mother is the exact same. She did the barest minimum, treated us children like crap, but expects us to bend over backwards for her for all she 'suffered'. I am older than the guy and I still am struggling because of her trying to make herself the center of the universe.
I'm sorry to read that. I hope you'll be strong enough to not let it ruin your own happiness in life. Sending love. 🤍
@ it's difficult. She actively tries any dirty trick she can to spoil anything good or positive in my life
@@RobinTimDrake I think, if I was you, I'd just get her out of my life. Hard decision, but some parents don't deserve to be part of their children's lives. I'm definitely not gonna judge your situation as I know nothing about it, I just don't want anyone to be hurt and disrespected unreasonably. 🥺 Really, I can only wish you the strenght to deal with it.
That last dude....I guess if he had custody, it would be "I support him all year, he don't need a Christmas gift!" SMDH His mother probably thinks she is punishing the baby momma by doing that, but....(on a side note, if he is paying $2200 a month child support, he has to be making at least $8500 a month salary, states cap support at 20-25% of salary)
So there’s no reason he can’t afford to buy a single gift for his child. Smh.. awful
@@anicolewwHis mother is the only reason I see....
@@oldschooldiy3240 true 🤦♀️
That poor mum. It's so sad for her that her little boy isn't loved by his dad. It breaks my heart.
Loving the blue mascara!
For the first one: the fact that they could repair their relationship via books (or at all) feels like a good indication that the issue was NOT about killing their father, just the blame. It’s crazy how effective “the enemy of my enemy is my friend” fixes a ton of sibling fights.
Omg I didn't realise it first but yeah you're so right!!
So my guess is that they shared some trauma that no one but the other sibling can truly understand. Probably as children the consequences of making any mistake were absolutely terror, they were punished severely for any little mistake or inconvenience by their father. So blaming it on the mum was a ptsd survival response fuelled by the unimaginable fear of facing the consequences. Which the mom eventually understood, because she has the same fears..
I don't know, I could be completely off..
@@brendag6148 could be! My own theory was that their father maybe SA’d his daughter and her brother put a permanent stop to it. My main reason for thinking this direction is that it never says she served any jail time-and that would make sense if everyone thought it was self-defense. Brother may have banked on that so the deed could be done but no one would actually serve time. Idk.
Yeah I couldn't repair a relationship were someone tried to frame me for murder...That's insanely terrible thing to do to someone...
@@brendag6148 this was worded so perfectly.... I get it!! and yeah I think this makes total sense because any other person would have cut the brother off for life without question
I love the second young man..Can't stand that toxic AF mother!!!!! She is disgusting and has went beyond a healthy parent relationship..Why would she look for a husband when she wouldn't be able to have a real relationship without toxic control!!!
And she EXPECTS her son to get her an extravagant trip, gift and party. Just because she heaved him out of her orifice. It’s selfish and greedy to think your child will spend their money for their future on your birthday. Entitled narcissist!
Did his mom say “who’s gonna take care of the baby?”
*what baby?*
But he isn’t setting any boundaries at all… he’s enabling her behavior.
He should stop doing and paying ANYTHING for her cause he owes her NOTHING. He didn’t ask her to be born, she decided for herself she wants kids. It was her decision to become a mother not his, that’s why he doesn’t owe her anything.
When he has kids she means. She’s using the fact that he’ll use her for childcare to try to say he needs to provide for her and buy her all these things.
He needs to leave.
9:00 Charlotte’s expression for the whole length of this clip being like “what did I just get into?” 😂 the patience to listen and be able to comment on this 🙇🏻♀️👑
My parents divorced when I was 5 and my lil' sis was 3. My dad paid off the entire child support in one go upfront with extra to boot. My mom tried to go through courts several times in the years afterwards to get more. Got shot down by the judge every time (she was a wonderful mom btw, no issues there) and still my dad sent us birthdaygifts and Christmas gifts every year even though it was a fight-divorce. There's no excuse for not giving your kids gifts. And it isn't about the gifts, it's the remembering of the gift giving. Those kids are going to remember this about their dad. :( forever.
How did he do that?! My son’s father pays $500/month. My son is 6 now, so that would be $6,000/year x 12 years (not including the past three years he’s paid). That’s $72,000 in one payment!! And $500/month is on the lower end for child support. It used to be $50/month…
@@Tree_fairyI’ve heard a few cases of a parent who have been able to write lump sum checks for child support but from what I’ve heard that it really isn’t the most encouraged option because of potential payment modifications are always lingering in the back. I’m guessing mom/dad has the extra cash handy go for it but don’t get mad when there is a need to drop more money
@@idjilju2835 the judge also took in account my mother remarried and she started her own company with the money from that payment which generated income
Jeeez that woman..It was my mother's 60th birthday like two weeks ago. She was a little dubious about me buying her more than one gift and the take out I ordered her. Then we just chilled on the couch all day.
New appreciation unlocked.
Whenever I watch Dr Phil I hug my mom after and tell her what a good job she did!
When I turned 60 a year ago, my daughter made me my favorite dinner. 💜
It's all I wanted. No gifts, just the company of her, my grandson, and mom. How entitled do you have to be to treat your child so poorly. 😢 I am grateful to have the love and friendship of my daughter for my birthday always. 💜🥰✌️
That's my dad😂 I said "let's open your gifts" and he said "gifts plural??" And made a face bc he doesn't like his kids spending a lot on him. He only recently actually started answering when asked what he wants for Christmas😂 always super appreciative 💚
I bought my mom a laptop because I had the cash and it would make her job easier, she was very greatful. Then I caught her looking at a sewing machine and she had mentioned she would like one to alter her clothes as fast as I could. (She could hand sew but I could hem her pants in 10 minutes) I got her the pretty sewing machine with 60 different stitches and she was greatful but said "Baby you shouldn't spend so much on me. You just got me the laptop and you got your own bills." So I had to downplay the sewing machine, like it's not even the one I have. Much cheaper and I got it on sale. Then she finally took it and was so happy setting it up. She very much has the attitude that it's nice to receive gifts from her kid but I don't owe her anything more quality mother daughter time.
the Jodie Pico book club 😂😂😂😂 this is such a GOLD episode thanks Charlotte 😂😂😂😂
Damn. I'm more low maintenance than I realized. All I want is for my adult kids to bring jello salads and brownies to holiday dinners 😂
LOL! This mother and son debate over who owes who what and why is just priceless. I am 61 and my son is 28 and I don't expect him to buy me anything. He has a life, job, home and a great girlfriend he needs to focus on and not me. I have always told him how much I love him and feel that he needs to focus on his life and not worry about me. Having and raising him was a gift enough for me. That is the greatest gift a parent receives.
Well said! I am also 61, and my daughter is 38. She makes me my favorite dinner on my birthday. I never want gifts. But this is her way to show her love and gratitude. She's told me this many times. 😊
Sitting down with her and my grandson makes my birthday special every year! 60 😆 was just another year older.
I feel the exact same way you do! 💜🤗✌️
My parents had 7 kids, I'm the youngest. My parents never asked for anything from us kids. The gifts we gave were from the heart. Many times, it was made by our own hands or was something unique we found. Never anything elaborate, but definitely from love.
I wish more parents were like this. You sound like an awesome mom. I'm sure you've made your son very proud.
That child support Christmas situation made me sad. My mom and dad split when I was 2 months old. My father never had to be taken to court to figure out fair child support with my mom, he gave it willingly and consistently and we had our own whole holidays with my dad and stepmother, complete with presents on Christmas and Easter baskets, Halloween parties, Thanksgiving or leftovers if we weren't there that day. My parents really did the coparenting thing and my stepmother, RIP Deb, was the one to make that happen most cohesively.
This is how it should be. ❤ You were blessed to have such great parents & especially a wonderful step mom. Deb sounded like a beautiful person❤ My condolences. ✨
My parents split when I was 4 and my dad and stepmom would stay at my mom and stepdad’s house when they came to visit. My parents never badmouthed each other and would say they were both responsible for their marriage ending. I was so grateful to not have a toxic divorce situation with them.
@@Just-Nikki you are very blessed to have grown up in a loving environment 🩷
My mom is a narc. She did the same thing to me. He needs to run 🏃♂️-🏃♂️Narcissists Never abandon their campaigns; even to their own demise. They are convinced that they are entitled to control people. The sabotage is criminal. Painful memories. But, I went no contact in 2016. Best thing ever 🎉
23:01 imagine being the kid finding out your father thinks a gift is a lot for him😅
I like how that guy is fully aware of what his mother is and is not afraid to tell her but he desperately needs to set boundaries.
Exactly. He’s talking about being married one day but I don’t think he understands that no woman will put up with all that. The mom will make sure she stays single so she won’t lose her supply.
Boundaries won’t even cut it. That man is going to have to fake his own death and leave the country to ever get out of the claws of his narcissistic mother.
@@spicymayo623 Exactly! My ex was a momma’s boy, it was a NIGHTMARE especially since he had no care or awareness about how the situation was affecting me.
This man needs needs to break up with that mother, she needs to love her son and prioritise him but I don’t think this kind of people would ever do that.
"I pay for food and rent, and now you want me to buy him gifts for birthdays and Christmases?"
Jesus, poor kid. How's that supposed to make him feel?
When I’m feeling bad about myself for something i didn’t do I come on CZcams to watch you’re videos to feel better..
When my son was younger, I just bought extra presents and said they were from his mom. No reason to let little kids think a parent doesnt care. But now that he's older, I still just buy extra and he sees what's going on with out me having to say anything or bad mouth anyone.
He just hugs me and says I love you so much daddy.
It takes longer this way, but in the end it's the best way.
It wasnt about me, it was about him.
Child support isn’t Christmas gift fund…it’s to make sure the child can live. Presents are extra
A few of my friends disappointed me because they spent the CS on themselves. The only one who didn't, was my friend John, he went without for his son.
also what parent doesn't want to get their kid a gift? hell I don't even really like kids but if I get to know a kid I love getting them gifts of some kind, even if it is just something small. it's fun to shop for them.
I remember one Christmas about 35 years ago, my deadbeat dad FINALLY sent my mom a "check for Christmas gifts" for my younger sister and me. When my mom opened it he had written on the back of the $40 check in capital letters "CHILD SUPPORT". My mom did not even bother to change it and gave it to support enforcement who finally had the info they needed to go after him for child support. It's kinda funny that's what he wrote on the check and that check was the reason they garnished his wages to send to my mom. I LOVE karma!! 😂
P.S. that was the last "Christmas present" we ever got from him 😂
@@folkloreofbeing I know someone whos sister did that. Luckily the grandparents took in the first child, don't know if the second child got also taken away but it is really sad to hear about people who do stuff like that. Like how greedy can people be?
That dude is was an absolute idiot, and an a-hole
If dude is expecting her to buy gifts with the child support money I would take him back to court to get an increase and use this video that he made as a reference to why it needs to increased. At the same time my brothers dad did something similar when he was growing up. My mom didnt defend nor trash him, just kind of let my brother make his own conclusions and now that he’s grown they don’t have a relationship. It sucks but sometimes letting ur kids see who their other parent really is can be the best thing for them.
Thank you for this video! 🙂🌼
I lived for the Jody Picoult book club story. What a tale!
My heart breaks for him. His mom shouldn't expect him to turn around and be her parent/husband/ entire world. He is absolutely right that that was her JOB as a mother to provide for him.
Ain't ain't nobody gonna talk about how it seems he's missing half skull? 😭😭😭
Regarding that last clip: The mom is not only trying to help save the dad's reputation, but also help her kid grow up with a healthy sense of self-esteem. A child who grows up feeling like a parent doesn't think about them or care about them is going to have psychological issues as they get older. Kids especially will internalize these kinds of feelings, which will manifest into resentment and even self-loathing, making their lives more difficult and uncertain (Speaking from experience).
This! But you can’t teach a man child this.
This poor mother 😢 I understand how badly she wants to protect her son and make him feel loved, but there's no hope for it. Her son will know that his dad doesn't care at all no matter how hard she works to shield him from the truth. Kids are far more intuitive than adults realise. Kids know when they're genuinely loved and appreciated. They can feel it. I'm sure this little boy will appreciate his mother even more as he grows, knowing how hard she tried to give him everything he deserved. He's better off with just his mother and all of her love and care than having such a waster for a dad.
Making your kid's father look better than what he is will backfire on you later. As I had done this my daughter thought her dad had morals. Now don't get me wrong the man did make sure the money was there off the ideas I told him to do to make money. He is one of the best salesmen I have ever seen. With that said with my brain we did good. After we broke up she blamed my husband for why we didn't get back together. Not the two sisters in between her and her sister. We were together for 20 yrs. I found out about the two girls 21 to 22 yrs later. I knew that one maybe out there but when I did ask him he non-stop said no. At that point it was only a business relationship for me and I feel that the siblings should know each other. Which would have been good for her 3 daughter because she passed away young. I told him see if you didn't lie they would know they could have come to me instead of running around like lost girls getting with the wrong men. They believe he did more for my kids. The truth is I did more and demanded more. If I knew about them they would have got great gifts from him that I purchased. He did have 3 kids. Well 4 when was not biologically his but he did claim her as his daughter. They were taken from that mom. He did fight for years for them. The oldest got one visit from him that I went to so they figured I was his mom. One because he claimed me and the fact he looked like my daughters. So I went every weekend to see him on Saturday and Sunday. The third time he asked was his dad. I lied and said he could not make it. He looked at me and smiled. At this time I had been there 6 times or the third weekend there and at this point he knew I was lying to not have him sad. Unfortunately he remembers me saying I would do anything to give you joy in life. At some point his real mom came and unfortunately he beat her up there and how they found out I was the stepmom. So at first I couldn't come without the dad. But the only way they could control him was knowing he could have that visit with me so they let me come back. He apologize for getting so mad that he beat the mom up. I told him don't worry about it I same thing when you all were taken. She could have told the police to call me to come get all of you including your two sisters because I had the room, but she was so selfish she didn't. So I can't be mad at you. At that point he said thank you for trying to make me feel bad about my dad and thank you for keeping coming.
Yeah poor mother really, I can feel her heart breaking with exhaustion at this man who has the emotional depth of a teaspoon. Like… she is trying so hard to cover for his ass and he can’t even get the fact that she is trying to help him save his face and relationship with his own kid. He really doesn’t give a shit… poor kid. But maybe she should stop trying tho because there’s no way she can keep covering for him so it’s actually better if the kid learns the truth and starts making peace with it… idk, though situation.
Honestly brings tears to my eyes seeing the desperation to do the right thing for her baby boy
It hurts so accurately
I read The Pact. Fell in love with her writing and bought at least 5 more of Jodi's books. Read My Sisters Keeper, was really good. Started another one but realised they are all the same. Family problems, a trial, a small twist ending. Rinse & repeat.
Child support is the MINIMUM amount of parental responsibility that one owes to their child. Birthday gifts and Christmas gifts are separate from the basic day to day cost of raising a child. She just explained to him that childcare alone was $2,000! If my ex didn’t want to buy our kid a gift, fine. I’d be honest about it. “Dad didn’t buy a gift for you, I’m sorry sweetie.” Dad would have to answer for it when the child grows up.
So many people think child support is basically paying the woman to raise the child. That is not what it is. I'd make him have custody for a couple years and pay child support to him. That'd make em learn quick. No wonder she divorced that loser.
Except that would only hurt the kid to teach an idiot adult what they should already know.
Agree with the philosophy but not the reality.
If you actually have kids and cherish love them and want the best for them, then NO you wouldn’t make him take custody for a couple years. Like NO YOU WOULD NOT
If child support would be "paying a woman to rise the child" none of those morons would be able to afford it for real...
all of these stories are amazing ahahha
the one with the dad not wanting to get a gift for his son is so sad tho....does he think he has to spend a ton of money on a gift??? you could get the kid a $10-20 toy and he'd be so happy to get something from his dad. Even something from the dollar store he would be like wow thanks dad!
I am 2 minutes and 12 seconds into this video and I had to pause and try to wrap my brain around that story. I feel stunned, aghast, not even sure what to think or say. My eye is twitching now...
The aunt needs to divide up the cookies and give them to specific recipients as part of their Christmas gift. You've lost your communal cookie privileges
I got the “secret” recipe and made those “rainbow”cookies *(once.)* They literally took hours to finish.
*It’s “Toll House” choc chip dough in a roll IF Xmas cookie baking is ever a thing again in the future!*
I truly thought she was going to say her aunt revealed Nona's recipe was actually cookies from a tiny secret bakery in a neighboring town. It probably would've been less traumatic tbh.