HSP and INFP
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- The focus of this episode is the MBTI trait of INFP. Being an introvert with a ruminating mind can be a blessing and a curse. I discuss the pros and cons of this unique personality type, and give some strategies for successfully living as an INFP.
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‘Imagine having a voice in your head that never shuts up’
*wAIT that isn’t normal??*
LOL! It is for INFPs! :-)
CoolChocoCassandra 😂😂
What?! That isn't normal?! 😱
Facts, I’ve always had the voice in my head.
INFP s can express emotions so well that people think you're extroverted. Not...
I find it easier for me to know emotions on a deeper level, especially those within as opposed to expressing.
I’m so glad I found your podcast! As a male HSP INFP living in a very rural setting, I have a hard time fitting in, much less finding my tribe.
The idea of “the sensitive male” has gotten a lot of mockery over the years, so to be an HSP is even more isolating among male peers. Thank you for being a voice for us!
Welcome to the HSP tribe!! :-)
"I've learned how to talk shallow" - LOLOL. Love it.
HAHA! It took me so long to learn that lesson
I'm an expert at small talk for about 2 minutes, after that I am looking for all the possible ways to escape faster than the speed of light...
OMG, YES!... I can totally relate!
haha i can empathise
Hey Steve! It's Jennifer from the meetup. I'm totally with you on the talking shallow bit (and many other things, really). 10 years of corporate life can prepare you for that, haha! Can't do it for too long, though.
@16:03 - LOL. So true, I too have learned to talk shallow, (boring/empty to me).
I'm both HSP/ INFP. We're such sensitive and intricate beings, majority can't grasp.
We can talk their language but they can't talk ours, because they can not feel our world.
When I was younger I wanted to fit and wished I was like the majority. Now I truly appreciate
my gifts and super powers... lol
Sending love and good wishes to all my super hero brethren out-there. I know it's not easy
but in the end we're so much blessed for having all those extra features the simple/common
models lack.
Yes embrace the infp superpowers 🔥
@@kobron1559 - LOL
Experienced gaslighting in previous relationships hands up INFP/HSPs 🙋♀️
I think we attract Narcissists
LOL!! Indeed we do.. like moths to a flame. I need to do another episode on the Narcissist/HSP dynamic.
Karen Horney gave excellent insight into this paradox.
@@TheHSPExperience - Yes, please do.
I'm still recovering from an x-narc friend.
Yes
How refreshing to see a male perspective! I've discerned that hsps and most inf... types are simply neglected or abused children that learned to survive by using or sensitivity. I personally was abused and lied to by my mother my whole life, and still.. Haha. So I had to learn to observe and use my intuition to put the truth together. This process takes a lot of thinking! So when I define myself thoroughly, I'm a child abuse victim, daughter of an alcoholic, narcissistic mother, codependent alcoholic father, wife of a codependent recovering alcoholic, and I AM a recovering codependent alcoholic with 7 years sobriety from alcohol. Because of these parts of my soul history, I'm also HSP, INFP, and neurotic. I'm at the point in my recovery where I'm feeling and healing my inner child. I'll let you know how it goes.. Haha! I also know that all these traits, when honed, make us incredible parents! So congrats on that! So very nice to meet you. This video helped me on a level I haven't had time yet to comprehend. These words are a spontaneous reply. Thank you for sharing your truth. My husband is much like you but not so "in touch" with his feelings. Regardless of his struggle expressing feelings though, his HSP, INF...ness makes him my soul partner. The worst is when we wind up in relationships with our polar opposites... narcissists. When in unhealthy places, our type can fall victim to emotional vampires disguised as feelers. I think that's enough words! Do you do that? Haha! Much gratitude to you, and best of luck on your journey❤
Hi There, you described my childhood very accurately, I am also an HSP, INFP who suffered abuse and addiction. I have just finished a 12 step recovery program, and now feel like I need to find out who I am.
I disagree I was always sensitive and caring even at 1. I was an abused child.
I can tolerate things to an extent. However, once you really cross me in such a way where you intentionally want to hurt me by going against what i really believe that is right or you've became disloyal ,I can and will cut you out of my life and NEVER look back. I will reflect the scenarios that led me to this final and permanent decision. I can seclude myself for long periods of time until I pull myself out and dive into a creative project. Even then I'll go throughout the scenarios My mind never shuts off. Any one else?
You just described the relationship between me and the vocalist from my old band. Long story short; he betrayed me and i had my revenge before i cut him out completely. I have been completely isolated from all the local music scenes for 5 years, working on my own personal projects that i will probably keep to myself. Now we're rehearsing again for a reunion concert next year, so i'll be working with the narcissistic bastard again for the sake of creation alone. Go INFP's!
Crystal Torres, YES!! I have walked away from so many people based upon betrayal or what I perceive to be their value system and how screwed I think their core beliefs are, that I can't even stand to be in the same room with them. In fact, I have realized that almost everyone in my life, including family, don't think at all about anything, other than themselves LOL. I walk away, knowing that I have made the right decision, and leaving people confused and hurt, not knowing really, why I have deleted them completely from my life. Why would I explain myself when I know they won't get it, anyway??
@Sweet Sandy
The fact that these people don´t get it anyway is the most sad about it. I am so exhausted from trying to explain them how much I value them; especially when I already put lots of trust, time, love into them. But I understand nowadays that most don´t experience such deepness of emotions/values/life/love... so I don´t expect much anymore, I keep beeing shallow now until I notice one is able to dive that deep. But even then I am cautious, since at one point almost everyone has walls, or let´s say not enough breath to dive deeper. It´s a pity. But we can´t expect that from them. We need to value how they are and appreciate this. :) Maybe one day we´ll find more people who are able to, but to be honest, who knows if then not they are the ones we hurt?
I think it´s good to acknowledge these points in others and learn to deal with it. We can be glad though, there are many people on this planet, and they all have their own values we can appreciate. Maybe INFPs (and/or similar people) need the whole world to be 'satisfyed'. hehe
@Crystal Torres
My mind also never shuts off. But at least I can direct the focus. Like creative projects really heal me. I then anyway am on high cognitive load, but at least in a fulfilling, positve way. Definately I once in a while find myself thinking back to situations with people, and I still pity them. I still wish these particular people would had been better/nicer, however. But I can run through it in my mind, if they did really bad, then I can´t forgive them. I am however able to still (or again) have contact with them. But I am definately more shallow to a certain degree. Trusting them will anyway never be possible. So to say, I am not slamming the door like INFJs seem to do, or how your comment sounded to me, but I definately have this scar that will never vanish.
Yup. Thanks for describing me so well! Haha!
Wow 😳 you look a lot younger than 47. I would have thought late 30s
Thank you!
Midn:
This is a type-thing
I take self criticism to the next level. I have to tell myself to stop beating myself up over things that have happened 10+ years ago. It’s a hard habit to break when you have been doing it without even realizing for so long.
I totally get it. I'm was the same way (still am, but getting better). I talk about this very thing on this video: czcams.com/video/uPqg-3Q8N4E/video.html
So are we blessed or cursed?! Lol. It's not easy being us but I wouldn't change even if I could. It has been very liberating since discovering that I am HSP and now that I'm INFP as well, wow! Really explains a lot and has released me from all of my intense self criticism I've had my entire life. I could never 'perform' or 'produce' like most people and thought that I was so flawed. Suffered from a lot of anxiety and depression. Now I love and accept myself as I am. Feeling deeply and caring deeply is intense but beautiful. I hope to find some other HSP/INFP's to connect with, to really be accepted would be amazing. My marriage has been extremly toxic but I couldn't bring myself to leave him for years and years. I was absorbing all of his dark energy and didn't even know what he was up to(deception,lies, manipulating,sex addiction) other than dealing with the kids, once we get the divorce finalized, he will not be a person in my life. Thank you for this channel, it's crazy but I relate to EVERYTHING you said. 😊💖
Thanks for the comment! I think being HSP and INFP can be a curse until we learn about it, and live in harmony with our traits. I have met many well adjusted HSPs and what they have in common is they have embraced who they are, and have constructed their lives/careers/etc in ways that embrace their sensitivity.
I am HSP and INFP :)
A YEAR LATE , but I just learned that some personality types inner voice isn’t none stop . And some don’t even have one. That just blows this INFP’S MIND .
You could be my soulmate...this video from start to finish is me. I've tried to explain myself but never has anyone understood or maybe believed what I was saying. Because they simply cannot relate.
I felt exactly the same way. Like a mirror of me
I think another battle in the head is about 'the feeling of being misunderstood' lol
Wow this is scary accurate how relatable this is! I didn't know there were so many people out there that think and feel the same!
Yes, realising that some years ago helped me a lot.
same
Empath and INFP... I fully support what you are doing! Love your channel!
I was yelling "yes!" to everything. I thought I was alone with this. Thank you for this video! If you ever decide to create an HSP/INFP online group I am in.
I have plans to create a group soon.. stay tuned. :-)
Omg I was doing that too
Once a person in my class told me I was childish. Two years later, I was never the same again... true story =‘)
What an awesome compliment. I wouldn't ever want to be called adultish.... somehow to me adultish is the same as boring serious and no fun. Childish seems fun, joyful, depress-proof. Yes! Give me childish anyday!!!
I feel like I need to throw in a few more adjectives. Adventureous, inventive, imaginitive, awesome, amazing,....yeah I think thats good.
CoolChocoCassandra childlike not childish. We are like children because we are not calculating and have no hidden agenda.
great video! I'm an infp hsp and I could relate to most everything you said- especially the getting out of my head thing. I love being able to see things from so many different angles because it helps in my understanding, but after a certain point it's not helpful. it can be alienating. especially because a lot of people don't do that.
I appreciate you making the point that a lot of other people aren't thinking about it anymore. they've moved on and are thinking about their own things. that's a helpful way to think about it because I think it helps infp's or other hsp's to just drop it and move onto something that's probably better to direct our energy towards.
so anyways, thank you for making your video. I look forward to watching more :D
Hi Amy, I'm glad you could relate... You are not alone. :-)
WOW. Hearing you say these things I felt understood for probably the first time in my life! Especially some random things like creating your own philosophy- “live and let live” as well as “do no harm” are my EXACT philosophies that I repeat sooo frequently. As well as “clutter affects my mind so I need to keep things clean”. That is 100% me!!
Not sure if I’m an HSP but I have always been an infp-t and I can relate so much. Thank you thank you thank you for this video!
"This is me.... Do I know this person?!" 😁
I'm starting to think we ALL know each other! I guess we just have to look a little harder than most to find "our people"....
You're never alone if you're by yourself
Anyone wanna be friends. I live in south nj. I feel so misunderstood by the people in my life, I have a deep longing to like find my tribe. Just another like minded person to get together with in real life go play outside get some positive thoughts momentum going on together, encouraging one another. Also I would love and appreciate so much someone perhaps another delicate harmony loving libra with the tact to help me out when I need to check myself, thinking too deeply into things, being too self conscious etc but who can do so without hurting my feelings. I once met someone who could do this before. I’m super eccentric- infp, hsp, empath, Libra 🧝🏼♀️
INFP & HSP 22 male.. and yes
"Nobody cares..nobody.."😓
i feel realy alone..and want to talk to someone, but cannot..
i actually was led to the myers briggs test from a hsp group where i found out i test and identify as infp-t i found this video a very on point and put a few things in perspective that linked up thank you
wow, I have known that I was INFP for like more than 10 years after taking several tests over several years that continued to confirm this, but i never know that there were different types of INFP. What is an INFP-t and how many variations of INFP are there? perhaps it is time to "go deeper into the rabithole"
Some Tests, or at least particulary the one called 16personalities, make an additional difference between how you act out the traits of your personality. There are 2 aspects in this case: A stands for Assertive and T stands for Turbulent. If you want to read more about this you´ll find their description here: www.16personalities.com/articles/identity-assertive-vs-turbulent
;)
Hahaha the thing you said at the beginning about non-HSP’s not being able to understand the struggles we have is so true! My husband gets so annoyed at my sensitivities to light and sounds and thinks I’m just a whiner... or when I bump into something or whatever and it hurts SO BAD but he says I over exaggerate 😤 he’s a nice guy and all, but yeah definitely doesn’t understand.
hahaha! Yesss... nobody "gets" us except other HSPs! so true! :-)
Hey man, I just came across my first video of you. It was the HSP-INFP video and it’s spot on! Everything you said was so good to hear!
So me😁! Yes I used to drink and smoke a lot just to quiet everything down. Thank goodness I am not there anymore
This was highly relatable I am HSP/INFP all the way and didn't think there were any kindred spirits out there😊 Luv your videos-keep posting!!!!
Thanks! :-)
Thank you so much for creating this video! It helps a lot to understand that as an infp and hsp, there are others out there.
Cool channel dude :) I've subbed. I am a hsp and infp. Nice to see someone who isn't a teen talking about this sort of thing. You're pretty wise :)
Didn't realise you were 47, you look a lot younger!
That you would make such a funny play on your own name is just so INFP haha!
This is great. Thank you for making this video. :) I laughed almost the whole time at how true most of this is.. Super relatable. Having an HSP get-together group is such a great idea!
I often find myself succumbing to madness but I thought it was just my depression speaking. Ahaahaaa. Yep I'm very friendly to people, but reluctant to go further (even though I desperately want to) because I know there'll be getting hurt along the way. I've met a few people that I just instantly connected with and I would want that in a relationship. Although the cynic in me says that's unlikely so I try not to be too hopeful and just be happy with my own self
I can relate to this. You are not alone. And may I suggest that your depression/madness may be a "side effect" (for lack of a better term) to your HSP trait. I'm beginning to better understand the link between these two as I have suffered depression (and sometimes madness) for most of my life.
nya - Exactly! missing the fun but avoiding
future problems.
8:29 neurotic issues you mentioned. it's really the same for a lot of HSP INFP's; especially growing up etc. Apparently INFP's aren't the easiest children to bring up (as you can see just from the discussion here) - the various "states of mind" that live in one body (spiritual/emotional/pain body) all happening at once for the INFP individual.
Unless, the parent themselves are aware of MBTI and take into consideration of such,
such as the INFJ mother who has been making video talking about her INTP son and INFP son. It's insightful and great to know people are bringing more awareness to society about these, and whether or not it does make an impact on society - at least we know there are parents who take the time to understand their children
pickle tarts I don't think that's necessarily true about INFP's are hard to raise because my mother always said I was very easy to raise because as a trait I have strong values. I value not to cause her too much stress because that wouldn't be right of me, it's just against my morals.
I don't know if it is true for all INFPs, but this speaks to me. My parents will a absolutely attest to this Haha
I can't keep the smile off my face listening to you because I'm also Hsp and Infp. Super weird/fun cos I don't know many others.
I'm so glad I found your channel! Listening to someone else who shares in and understands what it's like is so helpful. Ugh, all the ruminating and negative self talk is a huge problem. It's refreshing to hear some advice on how to tackle these things and at the same time appreciating the good things about our type. Thank you!
Thanks red! You are not alone!! :-)
I love that you mentioned personal philosophies, people have always thought I'm strange for doing that, I'm glad that's actually considered "normal" for my type.
This video in general was completely spot-on, thank you for sharing!
Sounds like someone needs a hug 🤗
Thanks! I do need a hug.. :-)
The HSP Experience Come here big guy.
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I felt the same need to connect with others like me recently and discovered an app called meetup.
I alrdy met ppl I can actually talk with and not burst into tears... although, thinking about such a great thing is making me want to cry.. so yea, thanks for the video. I think ur rly cool. And I wanna go search for HSP groups now!
❤ from this INFP
“Try having a voice in your head that never shuts up” hahahahaha
another infp artist -
Michael Jackson, ❤
this whole video everything you said described me. alot of what you said about yourself omg it's like you were describing me. with the in my head way to much, the voice that don't shut up. the overthinking.. the phone calls, lol man, that was crazy. ty
INFP and HSP 24 year old male here... Fun stuff
Xavier Cachon mbti is really helpful
I'm the same kind of person as you: HSP/INFP. I also developed a way how to laugh at serious things, to laugh saying negative things about myself. It's a laugh no one can believe us but it's the inner critician that's speaking out of us. It's a devilish voice we should never listen to. But try it if you hear it all the day…
The next thing we have in common is the sense of balance in a group or community. Sometimes I feel as a prophet seeing where a group or a community is going, I see what it lacks. And it's extremely difficult to express that because it's the group's innermost fear. But they need to hear it because no other can feel it so clearly.
The friend zone comment is super relevant! Can’t help it when you’re an empathetic, good listener 😂🙏
I'd recommend Ashwagandha (natural herb / supplement) for the 4:37 'overstimulated'
It helps calm the adrenal glands; especially helpful for HSP's / highly sensitive people
I'll check into it, thanks!
Thanks alot!
L-Theanine too :)
Is ashwagandha like code for marijuana? Lmfao
High doses of potassium helps the adrenals as well. Electrolytes
Hay you may not fit the perfect INFP personality but I can definitely relate to a lot of this as an INFP myself. My curiosity landed me here. And with your experience I now know how to hand thing a little better as well. You are helping, thank-you 🥰
i feel that i live in the past so that i can bring the good things from it into the future, plus those who dont know their own history are doomed to repeat it, especially the bad things
This is so true! :-)
Just found your channel. Omg, hit on every point here. Today I had to take a walk in the woods after work I was so upset about something a coworker said to me, actually what they didn't say😏 but I could feel intensely. It can be so frustrating. Your reminder to get out of my head really helped. They probably didn't give it another thought and here I am obsessing. Hsp life. The struggle is real.😂
Hey, awesome video. HSP/ INFP here, I laughed alongside you at so many parts. Other INFPs: (it’s intense): Kurt Cobaine, Edgar Allen Poe, Virginia Wolfe, Vincent Van Gogh, John Lennon, Johnny Depp, Ryan Gosling, William Shakespeare, George Orwell, JRR Tolkien, Albert Camus, Fiona Apple, etc)... About the passive/ aggressive thing, I was exposed to that in one relationship and that is something that will (akin to gaslighting) (if intentional) definitely put someone outside my INFP wall, which actually is pretty open...
I was wondering whether you resonate with the Empath (label) or description as well as the HSP, if you have explored that or not. I resonate with both and generally assume they overlap, but don’t know if it’s true for everyone, so am looking for other HSP’s experiences...
Good to see another youthful Gen-Xer 💗🌸💗
Thanks for the work you put into making this video. Reminding myself to get out of my head is a very useful tool .
Thanks so much, I´m currently in a bootcamp for learning code and I was worried wouldn´t fit with me since I´m a HSP and INFP, but it was nice to see you are a software developer and you are doing great :)
Einstein was an INTP. I'm an INFJ HSP and I can relate with a lot of what you've said. I'm an ambivert, so I keep things shallow with a lot of people otherwise I get that look from people. People generally think I'm nice, but weird. I'm cool with it. I think INFP's are awesome. I wish I knew more intuitive types. It'd be great to connect people on a different level.
I just found you and as a 52f insp hsp, I feel so connected. I haven't looked yet, but I hope you are still making vids.
I'm still making videos, when I not in introvert more or depressed.. I have to feel it.. but I'm always around (eventually).. LOL! Thanks for the comment!! Another HSP/INFP.. Yesss! 🙌
This is defiantly me... my inner voice is so loud. Even the outside world is loud... I don't go out unless I have to.
I like your voice, it's very soothing
Thank you for this perspective. I wish I had found your channel earlier! Subscribed :)
Thanks and welcome
LOL - I was listening to this again an you made me laugh @20:18, I love my alone time too.
I do answer to my loved ones but when the phone rings I'm like "Oh No!" Specially because I'm
listening to videos like yours, always learning, always in my head... lol
I hate to get interrupted sometimes.
Yes, I put a wall up and only open it to those special ones I trust. I almost feel
like having a warning sign or handing a manual to those new people I choose to let in my life.
Add to being an INFP, HSP being a Snake (Chinese Horoscope) and a water sign on top.
So overly Sensitive, such a refined nervous system. We're not regular instruments we're
Stradivarius, highly refined pieces.
I related a lot to the things you said. I am the same and i especially don't see the points in conforming to clothing norms in schools. It's like, why can't i be my own person? What the hell?! I am 32 so i am way out of that period of my life now, thankfully. I quite enjoy listening to you talk, i feel like subscribing :) Have a good day.
Dude, you nailed it 100%. I feel less weird or bizarre now. Thank you for sharing this information with the world! I almost died when you said "that's why I drink", I literally told someone that last night. it's just to shut the voices up lmao. Thank you brotha!!
INFP HSP female here 👋 love this video
Thank you!! :-)
you are like mirror image of me...
i can relate to your every word..!
(except that you are programer..becoz,i tried and still trying to learn coding but i am not getting good at it and i am ENTC Engineer last year student) (and i dont drink or any other addictions)
from last 4-5 years i thought there is something wrong with me and i cannot do anything with my life..
but now after discovering about INFP and HSP, its easy to understand myself..
Ugh this is soooo relatable! The piece you read about the wall, I felt like that and noticed it in childhood and in my teen years. I felt so closed off and cold to other people, but was so warm and friendly with my few close friends! I could never have a “friend group” with casual friends. It felt so shallow and useless. Only ever had one or two best friends at a time in my life and to them I could tell anything and would just talk and talk and talk about my problems for hours. It was so therapeutic tbh haha and now I’m married and don’t have any close friends anymore which is sad... after being married for so long we don’t talk to much about deep stuff... just busy with everyday life, so now I’m just in my head alone most of the time and I honestly annoy myself! It’s like you said about needing to get out of your head. For me escapism through watching tv dramas is the BEST way for me to relax and turn off my brain for a while. I get so absorbed into the storyline and so invested into the characters with my empathy that it is so addicting. It’s my escape from my thoughts!
" I’m just in my head alone most of the time and I honestly annoy myself!" ... I can totally relate! Thanks for the comment! :-)
Having a voice in your head that never shuts up! Omg...this is me!
Thanks for this vid! I struggle with living my head way too often. Glad were in this together! :)
I can’t emphasize on how much you’ve already helped me! I just found your podcast today and I’m already hooked. Man I’m not an ALIEN!!!
Thank you. I'm learning to talk shallow around the non-HSP's. Plus staying out of my head cycling over negative thoughts. You have explained a lot. I appreciate your channel.
"welcome to hell" I felt that. I'm super interested in how you formed your group of infps/hsps. Einstein was an entp I think. I'm really curious if there is a connection between hsp and migraines? I've been plagued with them for most of my life.
That INFJ that described us hit it right on the head💯
Pardon, I'm very into natural supplements and not trying to tell you what to do but,
22:25 on drinking - you can try getting better sleep with this supplement 'Inositol' - drink it with water to chill or especially at night before bed. helps to be a bit more relaxed instead of relying on alcohol all the time.
Some people stick to a routine taking it when they figure how to work it into their schedule - however you don't have to stick with a routine and can take as and when.
Since you're already 'putting yourself out' there - I figured the least I can do is to offer what knowledge I know - whether you or anyone reading the comments decides to put into practise.
Aside from the 'Ashwagandha' herb I mentioned in another comment. You can youtube search these things to see reviews from people too.
No thanks!! I'll try it and share my results.
Next topic hsp, brain fog please
The government just absolutely inflames our types! Soulless stupid unfeeling rules we "have" to abide by that we didn't get a vote on drives me insane.
I relate to you so deeply....much Love. Aquarian HSP INFP Empath
Dude, I like your perspective. It resonates with me. Especially 'use my experience to help others'. That's so much me and my driving force ever since I can remember!
Oh, and you have such a great voice! ^^ I know, shallow comment (it's late here), but genuine. :)
~An Infp and I suspect HSP (I feel other people's emotions vividly, even when they don't, so…)
Welcome to the podcast channel.. you can find out if you are HSP here.. :-)
hsperson.com/test/
Also before I found your CZcams I thought you’re a 28ish guy because of your voice and man your laugh is SO funny and contagious hahaha
My mind was screaming I KNOW RIGHT!? throughout the video!
My sister is, I think, an extrovert and a non-HSP and I've always been frustrated about how I can understand her but she can't understand me back. She always says Stop being a hermit you friendless and socially awkward loser, stop reading and get out there. All I say back is I'm just different. She'd come home with a new T-Shirt, I'd get irritated by the nylon fibre in it, and she'd cringe at me.
We are very good reading fake emotion too.
Great info!! Thanks for the video!! 😊
OOHhhh I was mentioned in the video ^^ thank you
Cool,.. this INFP video just came out :)
I was excited to see it because it wasn't here prior to. INFP here too.
Interestingly,
according to 16personalities.com -- there's: INFP-A (Assertive) and INFP-T (Turbulent)
From my observations online; the INFP-T has more emotional/mental struggles than the INFP-A it seems.
I"m not saying this is exact or 100% accurate but it seems to be the case and there has been discussion about this in the INFP Reddit.
The INFP-A's usually describe similar struggles but are still "managing" their lives.
The INFP-T's are more erratic and have more organisational problems (likely due to their strong energetic flow / psyche rhythms). -- this coming from personal experience,
but then again, you know - things are always subjective sometimes and it can depend on the person themselves and their upbringing.
however we all bring a piece to the puzzle in the grander scheme of things and whatever information we have we share and everyone learns something.
Me too! Woot! Thanks as well! I've taken the test several times. The first time I took it, I was INFP. A couple of years later, I tested ENFP. The last time I took it, I was actually XNFP, meaning I was in the middle. 乁( ⁰͡ Ĺ̯ ⁰͡ ) ㄏ Definitely a healer, tho. Just in my nature.
Interesting how your type can change over time. Do you feel like being in HSP and an introvert? Do you believe it's a blessing or curse? Some days, I feel like such a misfit, I can't stand it.... but then other days, I wouldn't want to be any other way.
I don't know if I like the dichotomy of blessing and curse. I look at it like this: a stone feels nothing because it's dead. HSP's get to "be more alive" than a lot of folks. I think it's a matter of finding your place in the world. Many types of plants won't grow in the desert, but cactus thrive. Find your place as an HSP/INFP/WHATEVER and it makes the difficult days easier. That being said, I agree with you that life as an HSP can be difficult because it is LOUD; your thoughts are loud, your emotions are loud, your experiences are loud. Maybe that's why I listen to metal - I'm used to things being loud! To answer your question about introverted, I was early in life. However, once I started waiting tables in my late teens/early 20's I learned that in order to make money, I needed to become more extroverted. What also appealed to me about being extroverted is that sometimes, it helps you as a "healer" type person because you feel more comfortable reaching out. I'm still introverted most of the time, especially when I don't feel well, etc. I'm not usually the life of the party. However, there are times when I just feel like cutting loose and start talking to everyone.
"I think it's a matter of finding your place in the world"
Good to see you!
Hi La Doone!! So good to hear from you. How's everything? I wanted to put a video about being HSP and INFP. Are an INFP? If you have never taking the MBTI test, you can take it here and find out. Talk to you later!! :-)
www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
I'm a highly sensitive extrovert. I used to just think I was an ambivert because obviously, part of being a HSP is a rich inner life, wanting to spend time alone, and spending a lot of time thinking, but I know that spending time with people makes me feel really energised. If I got to a hockey game and see a friend, for example, I find it really hard to sleep for hours afterwards because I'm feeling so energised after talking to them. When I found out about the highly sensitive trait, I knew I was a highly sensitive extrovert. I think being a highly sensitive extrovert is different from being a non-HSP extrovert. I do have a couple of introverted friends and I think I do understand them. I find it frustrating when they don't want to do stuff at the same time as me but I get it. I have one introverted friend in school and sometimes we'll look at memes together but sometimes we'll listen to music together and just not talk and spend time in each other's presence. He's not highly sensitive, just introverted.
You're one of the 30% that are HSP and extrovert...thanks for the comment!! :-)
My personality type is ENFJ. I don't know if that's common in extroverted HSPs or not.
Just checked: it is.
Drawn To Ice Hockey ENFJ? That's so cool! I'm INFP. My best friend is enfj too, very nice people in general. Looking at memes and listening to music together is one of my favorite activities lol
I'm not sure if I already know any INFPs. My 2 friends in school are ISTJs and I do find their bluntness quite amusing lol.
Dude you’re hilarious lol
LOL I relate so much to 16:12 and talking shallow lol I'm HSP ENFP and it's SPOT ON hahahaha
edit: I also started reading Einstein's Biography and think he was INTP or INTJ, at least I'm getting the feeling. He's more making decisions out of thinking rather than feeling.
Thank you!! So much of this is true for me and yes, definitely always felt like a stranger in a strange land. AND I have the wall. I can feel the wall. ugh ruminating. So torturous. I have something freaking tiny I've been trying to let go of for over a month now. I'm also an emotional sponge and negatives said to me/done to me tend to stick. I'm working on it! I find if I do EFT or ho'oponopono I feel better, lighter, afterward.
I'm glad you could relate! I heard good things about EFT.. I should try that! :-)
BTW you're awesome! Hope the best for your channel.
You give the best infp bro talk bro. Love.
I can say from experience that it's very difficult staying out of my head. I get stuck there a lot and ruminate ALL OF THE TIME...
I'm going to try and make 2019 a healthier year for me. Giving up alcohol is at the top of the list too.
Hey Justin! Awesome.. I'm doing dry January this year.. I started on 12/26, so I have 7-days no alcohol. It feels great.. I'll mention it in the next episode. Happy Holidays! Yeah, rumination sucks!!! :-)
Happy holidays to you as well. I think that I started around that date as well, give or take a day. I'm going to try for a dry January and give my anxiety a break. Good luck!
How you doing with Dry January? I feel great!! At 22 days all my anxiety went way.. Like zero! It feels so good.. Hope you good man!!
I'm feeling better as well. I fell off the wagon once, but life got really stressful at work for a little bit & I got too overwhelmed. I have to get better at self care. On the whole though I'm feeling so much better and sleeping so much better. I'm going to try extending dry January as much as I can. :-)
you are bang on accurate about infp...pls start writing blogs on infp...so mych more you have to tell.
do infp look eccentric and a weired staring problem?
Sadly, being so rare in itself is very isolating I've noticed with me. But when we see other INFP's etc. It's like a red flag over their heads & sounds ding ding ding going haywire lol
Thank you for this video i too am in I.T. i'm in operations and help desk. i'm glad i'm not alone. and your right the rest the world dont get it nor care . i bet your a change agent at your job i'm still waiting for authority to love my coworkers and tell them to behave lol
Here’s one for the algorithm, boys and girls!!!
"Welcome to hell people!" 😂
I had a friend who I always admired for her ability to withdraw herself from other people's emotions, to just be neutral, disengaged and just politely show a little bit of compassion and empathy, but no more. She told me I was too sensitive and she told me she was sensitive but not the the degree I am, and she kind of didn't like me being soooo sensitive. She took the MBTI test and to my utmost surprise she was INFP. I was sure she could be anything but INFP. So either the test is not always reliable, or INFP are not always HSPs... You can be introverted and sensing and feeling, but yet not an HSP. Bc I can tell that I could notice her irritation with my hypersensitivity. So there are some people like that as well. Just an observation.
Interesting.. A LOT of INFPs also have ADHD-Inattentive type.. and that type many times has something called "rejection sensitivity dysphoria" (RSD), which essentially can make an INFP appear suuuuuper sensitive to other peeps (if undiagnosed). You can take a test here and do more research...
www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-symptom-test/
www.webmd.com/add-adhd/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria
...or your friend might just be more stoic and/or not as sensitive.. I think calling someone "over-sensitive" is kinda of mean tho.. especially coming from another INFP.. how rude!! LOL! :-)
I know a few extroverts that think they're weirdos when they feel like sitting by themselves and not talk to anyone.
We are like turtle. We are very soft inside that we have the hard shell protecting us. We are nonconfrontational but when somebody does not hold the same belief as we have there is no point in being in a relationship with this person. And that person does not even know what went wrong.
INTJ female here. I'm also a HSP but I guess I've learned to temper and cope with it in a healthy way by my age. How do I navigate this in a relationship with an infp HSP? I'm understanding and empathetic but this is really feeling to me like unnecessary drama on their part, I know some of that perception is because I'm INTj. BUT because they refuse to understand or help themselves in any way i feel my observation is totally fair. They just want me to console and reassure them which is fine on one hand but on the other it is such a "codependent behavior, I'm starting to feel annoyed. Frequently consoling someone who is super upset over something minor based on a negative thought they told themselves and not reality is frankly exhausting
I wonder how not being hypersensitive and hyper vigilant feels. I envy insensitive people whom I’m surrounded by almost as much as I hated them. It felt incredible as I gradually came to a realization that most of my feelings and my emotions were not felt by the majority of other people-I thought it’d be the same for each and every one of us and that others were also having to hide theirs. Anyways, to my fellow hsp infps, if you only emotionally connect to people of your kind, it would be way easier. And if you haven’t yet met one of those people, I’d appreciate a chat with you!
Yesss, I wonder too! 🤔 I love being sensitive, but sometimes it really is too overwhelming and I have to go hide in my pillow fort for a few days.. 😂
You know, i feel stronger then most other people (it's an illusion, but still i feel it)
Things as death, loss, shit in general i guess... i think i take that better then a lot of other people. They get lost (so do i, but.. me getting lost is how i find myself again...) anger, hate, sadness they are no stranger to me. Plus i like to think about it.. my own death, the death of my parents and losing them.. i think now that this is a way of mine to prepare for the inevitable. I remember being a kid, crying in bed thinking of losing my parents.. and then i thought, why do i think this? hehe.. It wasn't crying though.. but i shed a tear, that i did.
So all these concepts from hell to heaven are no stranger to me, not anymore anyway. Therefore i am stronger when it happens.. i think... hehe, but i like this thought, compared to many other men i am more sensitive, i can talk to girls (deeply, not picking them up, then i suck again.. although.. sometimes i am cooler then James Bond ;) haha, but not often... :p hehe)
What you said i also recognize very deeply.. my fun conversations are the hard ones.. :p I have a group of friends who are really extroverts and we don't mix.. Many times they look at me like i am nuts.. cuz i said something... Too be honest i don't feel very comfortable around them, i just like the party's... (don't really talk at party's but mostly dance.. go figure.. again.. losing my mind as Alan Watts said it nicely, one has to lose his mind to find it again, it does apply to me... but just like the drinking you mentioned, it's a slippery slope, but i need it, i feel more at peace after i lost that energy)
But i want to be a man man too.. Always done fighting sports.. but i dislike pain... at the same time, i jump on a skateboard and will regret it later as usual :p haha, but i don't mind.. i love the adventure too much, the risk ;)
Okay i am talking nonsense again, i use this like some form of thought processing thingy or something.. You don't wanna know how often i wrote kilo's of words only to close my browser again.
But this time i post it or not.. i don't know, already posted 2 on this video.. you know what? It's your lucky day, you get 3! :)
I fucking love you seriously your words are my blood
My boyfriend is ENTJ-A it's best difficult sometimes, he is 71%judger, also critic and like to say what to do,and thinker for 90%
High 5 Steve. Thanks for a great broadcast. most stuff is right on with my experience as INFP
P.s. You got yrself another subscription
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Thanks! I'll be putting up more content soon!