I can completely relate. As HSPs/INFPs, we’re able to help and support others in ways that they aren’t able to help & support us. This imbalance, slowly builds up in life and leads to us feeling an emptiness & this feeling of wanting to not exist.
Yes you're back! And I feel you, thanks for being real. I love the podcast. Being an INFP HSP male myself, I have to say, they help a TON. I watched every episode like 3 times. You're doing a great thing for people like us. Anyways, don't feel like you have to be all rainbows and unicorns all the time. I wish more people would drop that act tbh. In my experience, once I let myself feel those negative emotions deeply and let them process and NOT fight them, that's when the more positive ones start to float to the surface. Can't wait for the narcissists video you mentioned. Had problems with people like that in the past. It's definitely gonna be interesting hearing your perspective on that. Keep on being you ;)
I'm 16 now and I am an INFP as well. I just want to vanish and just stop this, because I feel like the positive things in life can't overweigh all the things that are so wrong and unfair and just hurtful. I feel like life is just pointless and I can't really get out of this depressing view of life. But you're really made me feel better and understood! :)
I just discovered this channel. Steve, if you read this I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your videos helped me like nothing else in my self discovery journey. I knew I was an INFP but thanks to you I realised that I'm also a HSP. When you talk I feel like I'm listening to a soulmate. All my life I thought there is something wrong with me, but thanks to you I finally discovered who I really am. It is so relieving. Your videos are so incredibly helpful. We are absolutely alike on how we feel and how we see the world. Steve, thank you so much, you had an incredibly positive impact on my life. I wish you all the best and I wish you would make more videos.
I feel all of that daily! I'm also an atheist. The best way I've found to deal with depression is trying to be in the moment (staying out of the past and future), Gratitude (evaluating worst case scenario, and realizing what I do have to be thankful for). Your vids are great, and I agree with that email 💯.
Thank you for this. Even the title of the video is the single most relatable thing to me, a fellow HSP INFP with CPTSD and lifelong depression... I've recently been wishing I could slip between the cracks of space-time to be miserable in peace until reality looks a bit more bearable, haha. But some days, there's no escape, especially at work. So we just get through it. There's no easy way to beat this; all we can do is be kind to ourselves and work towards self-improvement. Thanks again. It's a comfort to feel understood. I hope you're doing well ☺
Feel ya Steve! I'm the same where I generally can transverse life with most of it being positive in a sense, but yeah when the low times hit - they can hit hard! I do try my best to keep my low vibes away from my videos / others, but at the same time I feel it's just a big part of our fabric which many can relate so some videos have slipped in there where I'm feeling blue.. Lol I also agree with the therapist theory here! Like I REALLY work hard to know myself and also others because it's just something I'm passionate about. For the majority however, they just don't care about that stuff (MBTI, self development, etc) so their self reflecting skills are on the weaker side where they need more of that basic therapy that comes from the initial sessions. If I even went to a therapist (not really interested honestly) I would request to jump to like session 56 right at the start lol. A lot of times us INFPs are just really good natural therapists for others to where they will seek us out for those insights. Where do we get those skills...just hours upon hours of self discovery research to simply understand "ourselves". The positive comments you received were awesome from the viewers! That's the thing with CZcams that's cool to where the positive comments will randomly come in and sometimes at the perfect time! A lot of the times it's at a point where my mind is in that exact same state of - "does what I'm doing even really matter?". It "does" matter to "some" not "all", and from those positive affirmations they really help me to keep being my weird self and share "my perspective/ life experiences". I think that if we choose to keep it all in which is a more preferred option for us that no one really wins anything. We don't get to vent things out, and others can't potentially get that relatable / helpful content to apply possibly in their own lives. HEY THANKS FOR THE SHOUTOUT - much love back!....however, I ALSO want you to juggle LOL. Sean
Hey girl! Yeah I agree that going through the low times at the extent we tend to take them give a great bit of internal processing power which ultimately makes us a stronger person when we get on the other side of it...they still suck however 🥴
You have no idea how much I can relate to this. I had to come over here to comment and let you know! I am going through the depression season right now and it has taken a total blow to my CZcams channel. I literally took a week and a half break of doing nothing at all except sitting in my room and crying. I had ankle surgery two months ago and am not walking yet, so haven’t been able to escape to nature and clear my head or go in long drives. I’ve just been stuck in my mind and emotions. It’s so terrible sometimes. Keep being you and keep producing real, authentic content for us HSPs and INFPs! You make us feel less alone,
Thanks Shaylee! I hope you feel better soon!! I totally relate.. Those dark times suck but they do (eventually) pass. Thanks for the nice comment. BTW: I love your channel/content! :-)
HSP INFP here too. 33 yo, and depressed. Not happy with many decisions I made in life. What have I done with it... I did not listen to my heart... Seeing there are people who share my struggles helps helps dealing with this stuff. Thank you.
Thank you for keeping it real man! I resonate and appreciate the things you talk about. It’s nice to know that someone else out there occasionally has the same thoughts as myself.
Steve, I sit and listen to you and it’s like you are explaining me and my thought process. An exact mirror, I have never seen this before. Thank you bud, I’m 51 and want you to know, I hear you and I see you. Keep it up, you are helping, a lot!
you aren't alone. I sense HSPs have a hard time these days due to the entire world losing it's life resonating harmony. I think the answer is to give the world back it's life by generating a positive mind set, via compassion meditation, however it does require me to sit quietly for an hour, not easy for me. .... edited add-on: My therapist is Eckhart Tolle (videos on YT), as he seems to have a true voice aimed at "the western mind" lol. Love this video -- I'll watch more of your vids. thanks.
Fellow INFJ here, I really enjoy your honesty and the way you articulate your thoughts. I too know the feeling of wanting to disappear to be into another realm and often that feeling comes up when I am overwhelmed and have been neglecting my inner, higher self. Thank you for sharing your perspective :)
Yo......fellow INFP! Greetings!! 👊😁🤟 Your videos R Great!! I listen to your podcasts whilst I'm working!! I'm an artist too!! .......AND.....about 5 years ago I felt like "I wanted to disappear " also......not because I was in a too a depressive state.....but as you said .....I had enough of the way "life is currently set up" lol 🤣 Anywayz......I remember thinking... I just want to disappear into the hedgerows.......literally......I love nature and wildlife & I frequently wish I could live a life of a bird lol.....they're just free....do the hell what they want ALL day plus they can fly right!! Anyway.......because of this feeling & thought.... I got into landscape gardening .....and now run my own Garden Maintenance & Fencing business which is the best job in the world to me! I'm my own boss and I am as free as the birds each & every day.....outside.....in the fresh air .....and I only employ fellow peeps that I get on with!! I'm chuffed to bits! Hope I have given you some ideas!! ? ☝️😃👌
Jill let me know you were back! Happy to hear from you and so grateful for her being on the ball and connecting people haha lmao yes to so many therapists being way too surface level. Enjoy your month off alcohol! I’m 4 months alcohol-free now for the first time in over 10 years and I sincerely feel it’s helping a lot. The lows still come but I can get over them much quicker than when I’d numb with alcohol. Your video on alcohol and HSPs a while back helped inspire to commit to the decision to just finally see it for what it’s really been for me (and especially what it was slowly becoming) and cut it out of my life. I’ve sent an email saying that but want to say it again here to make sure you know! Thanks for that, for sharing so openly and for being you! Take care.
Hi Amanda! Congrats on 4 months alcohol-free! How's it affected your overall energy/mood/vibe? Mine is much better.. You are so right how we can get over the "lows" quicker... 100% agree. Apologies for not getting you a video yet.. it's been crazy. You mentioned sending an email.. was it to me? if so please re-send.. Thanks you for the support!! Peace! :-)
7:20 , 7:35 i am just 22 but i feel exactly same...last year i did exactly same like this video.. i shoot myself as for 10-12 mins.. but i deleted it😞 and i liked this podcast.. since last 2 years, i wanted to watch video like this or a person whom i can relate and i found you... i am just 22 and you got more experience..than me and i am no-one.. but i am just saying-- to stay away from depression, i keep myself busy in study or enjoying movies, series, youtube, or nature walk, treking,hiking,camping etc. it helps me...
So good to hear your voice again Steve. You are great therapy for me. Yes it is not all good times for HSPs but knowing that there are others like us makes it easier - we are not alone. Please keep the videos coming.
Thanks for the video... great as usual..lots of help to us Hsps.... maybe give yourself some rest and space to decompress us HSPs need lots. Meditation every morning works for me... heartfulness or mindfulness are great... take care off yourself
Hey Steve. I'm always glad to see another video from you. I feel bad you've been through a long depressive state. I believe it's important to clearly identify your unmet emotional needs. I relate to you with the religious stuff, and I'd love to talk more through email. I'll have to rewatch your video before sharing more of my thoughts in-depth. Also, I've been using a lot of extraverted thinking, so I've been busy! I believe the ESTJs to whom you refer are more likely ESTPs. ESTJs are going to be very matter-of-fact and productivity oriented (in a risk-reducing fashion). Because that type is our dual, we'll resemble them in certain ways. I believe INFP males can have a masculine energy through their stoicism. Like you, I also have a particular attraction to INFJ women. If you've ever watched Stranger Than Fiction, you may interpret Will Ferrell's character as an INFP and Maggie Gyllenhaal's character as an INFJ. His character has a stiffness and awkwardness but he's also kind, gentle and matter-of-fact. Her character is very feisty and expressive, and she's quite perceptive. I highly recommend you watch it. But yeah, INFJ women... They are something else.
Perfection, also, is a huge source of depression and self loathing... if we don't realize deep inside that we are by nature as humans not perfect, we'll never find peace inside..
Just stumbled upon ur page. Can totally relate to the religion thing and I appreciate you sharing. Felt a little less alone and I’m looking forward to listening more of ur podcasts. Thanks :)
Yes hsp's we gravitate towards depression and bouts of giving up alot. You are not alone btw God is there with you, youve only become too aware of your circumstances and distanced yourself but He is one call away. You may have been failed by your religious fellows but God hasnt. We are misunderstood alot and we suffer self esteem too. I do understand you and I got married to a covert may be you can understand my position and its been 25 yrs now and quite stuck with a complication that has made things worse. Av struggled with suicide too but being born again has helped, I keep encouraging myself. Been ignorant only got to understand disorders very recently a couple of yrs down the line. Please do pray for me children have traits allover the place not interesting at all.
I'm very late to the party, I have known I'm INFP since only 2 days ago. I cherish your line "crying on Earth - alone". Sad, yes but...I've literally had 48 hours of not being the loneliest number 1 ever of all time & now there's 'others', more numbers 1's walking around this land. So, hi guy's! I never comment but now I've realised that there's actually men like me also? My mind is blown! Bring me 2020 - Happy New Year my sensitive people!! x
Thanks for the comment. The topic of ADHD and INFPs has come up a lot in my life recently. I wonder if it applies to me? Hmm.. must investigate! Also, I love your CZcams channel!!
@@TheHSPExperience Thanks man and yes I hear it a lot too. I guess because INFPs lack execute functioning skills that people with ADHD also lack. ENFPs are known to have it too.
Hey you two! Yeah I told her that I’m almost certain I also have ADHD as well just undiagnosed. Something I’m also curious about, but yeah watching many videos on the topic I’m constantly shouting in my room by myself “That’s me! That’s me too!” Lol.
I’m a highly sensitive ISFP. It’s weird because the functions fit for that, but I know my Intuition is very high. I’ve looked into MBTI psychology stuff for a while, so I’m fairly certain that’s my type. Either way, your videos are really helpful and relatable
Also to add onto the video, I am currently going through the “not wanting to do life” feeling. A little bit of tension came up in my family and I am currently wishing I wasn’t born because dealing with it feels like I’m drowning
Thanks for the comment! How the types manifest on the surface can be very similar looking. I mostly hang out with INFPs and INFJs and I can tell the diff.. .but it's close.. the big diff is under the surface. How we intake and process information is completely diff. Glad you can relate...
OMG - I am having soo many me too moments! I am also an INFP male, I didn't know what demi-sexual meant but I feel I lean that way. Uggg.. the met this cool guy... happens so may times to me....
I never put that together that I have always had and preferred female friends and I'm an INFP man. I also love shooting. That's my primary hobby at the moment. Also, I left the Christian cult that I was raised in and am an atheist. Relating on so many levels!
I just keep commenting here after listening to the podcast, because I don't know how to comment over there 😅 I unfortunately relate very much to the unsatisfying therapist hunt 😕 And it makes me feel like I'm being difficult and should just accept their help, but as an INFP that isso impossible. If it doesn't feel like they get it, I can't stay 🤷♀️ I also tried betterhelp at some point and did NOT feel it! A bit like your experience: one just kept sending me this generic questonaires and information that I obviously already knew, and I just kept waiting until she would have gathered enough information so we could start the actual counseling, but this wás her counseling 🤦🏼♀️ ugh, waste of time. So I changed, and the next one was not even making the effort to get to know me, she just said things like: that sounds difficult, maybe try this or that. So, the textbook mirroring, which doesn't really add anything to what I already know. And it felt fake anyway, and next thing trying to give solutions 🙄🙄 uhhh, that is not how therapy works. First of all, you think I didn't try the things you are suggesting? And secondly, how high are the chances that, you randomly suggesting what your mind, with you life story, is coming up with, that those things will actually be applicable to my Story?? Uhh. I think she was just sipping coffee in a bar and texting clients on the side. So I left it there. But I had the same thought: I really could use some professional help, but they have to be good, cause this shit is making me feel worse about myself. Anyway, wanted to let you know that I totally feel you there. It's a struggle!
I'm glad you could relate to the difficulty of finding a therapist for HSPs. So many therapists don't even know what it is... or they are just terrible therapists. The best therapists are HSPs themselves and usually INFP or INFJ. Yeah, and the therapy apps are just a massive waste of time and money. I'd rather just figure stuff out on my own.. LOL!! :-) Thanks for the comment
I’ve heard also that INFPS that aren’t raised in a very supportive nurturing environment can struggle more than any of the types. Watch host Eric’s videos on INFPs at “talking with famous people”.:I think you’ll really like it. There’s a video there called INFP: natures fragile ward, or something like that.
Steve, man, why did you go from being an Evangelical Christian to becoming a complete atheist. From one extreme to another one. Christianity was a significant part of your life, and you cut off that part of your being too radically. Integrate it in another way that suits you; don't cut it off. The church is designed to appeal to the majority, not 20% of the HSP population. Maybe you could find a middle ground that suits your spiritual needs i.e., being a Christian, have faith, but not be stubborn or obsessed with it. Everything in moderation. I care about you; we are here all empaths never forget that. You have the best human beings for followers. I wish you all the best. VP
11:47 ....yes i feel you..you are sooo relatable. its realy painful being *INFP* & *HSP* person and living in country of second highest population in the world "India" and still found very lonely..! and never meeting another INFP or HSP i am 22 male and last year of Engineering... as becoz of my social anxiety, i still find hard to talk to anyone or specialy girls* and i never had female friend its another reason is i live in small city in india, where girls are not that open minded or male-female friendship was not normal in my school year experience - till age 16 (means 10 years) and after 16, it was hard to start conversation with girls from my side and as per my looks or quiet personality girls never attratcted towards me..i dont know why... but i hate this becoz , 21:46 i love tooo...but i never did got a chance..! its so unfair.. i am missing this and i feel bad. i am depressed since last 2-3 years and many times thought about suiside...but never tried becoz only one reason- my parents* i want to become successful for them only.. but i made some terrible mistakes and decisions in my life and i regret all of them..and i am very very afraid of my future and i keep visiting all my bad memories of past and i am stuck in Fi Si loop...😓..i want to talk but i dont think anyone can understand me.. i need theorapy too..but since i am still student and i cannot tell about this to my parents or anyone, i cannot afford it but i found your channel and i can relate to each and every video..! *thank* *you* and take care👍 and sry fir such long reply😜
Am an INFP living an Islamic society. Trust me, for us INFPs living in that type of society that suppresses individuality at all cost, is terrifying. That is why I never felt that I belonged.
Hi. What do you think you could be doing , working in what field, that could utilize your gifts intuition/emptathy/introversion as an INFP? Rumination is not good have you tried monitoring your thoughts and avoiding those? As an INFP I found a diet with low/moderate protein and zero salycilates/oxalates (plenty of tapioca and no fruits or vegetables) works for me. It helps me in getting 8 hours or even 9 hours of sleep which I need so much. I have the exact same constitution as you, aryan: germanic features and high forehead, mannerisms, etc. Even as I watch you speak it's like if I were watching myself. Good luck.
Never related to an INFP video more 23yr old female INFP who's hardcore struggling with depression and suicidal feelings often questioning and feeling like I want to "disappear" really hit home
Women don't even exist for me anymore - there is _no point_ even talking to them outside of business. Not existing has always been attractive to me. It actually wouldn't matter to anyone else if I didn't exist - I have no family or friends (by choice)...perhaps that's my IMPETUS to completely TRANSFORM my LIFE into something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!
There is so much here, I folla. Yes a guy can manly shoot a gun, ha, but to braveley ramble relevently, is... yeah. Umm, Okay so right there at the end is what I was describing in a comment as reply from last week. Shweet.
Have you ever thought that, this is the source of your depression?? the religion you left, f%cked up your faith and your trust to God .. the dogma of your religion was made by people... not God himself... maybe you need to work on your faith.. I am totally sure that God cries with us when we cry but there is a reason why we are unable to feel it..
no... the source of my depression was lack of purpose.. I'm good now.. Since I made that video, my life has changed for the better in so many ways.. I am very happy these days.. Thanks for the comment! :-)
I can completely relate. As HSPs/INFPs, we’re able to help and support others in ways that they aren’t able to help & support us. This imbalance, slowly builds up in life and leads to us feeling an emptiness & this feeling of wanting to not exist.
Yes you're back! And I feel you, thanks for being real.
I love the podcast. Being an INFP HSP male myself, I have to say, they help a TON.
I watched every episode like 3 times. You're doing a great thing for people like us.
Anyways, don't feel like you have to be all rainbows and unicorns all the time. I wish more people would drop that act tbh. In my experience, once I let myself feel those negative emotions deeply and let them process and NOT fight them, that's when the more positive ones start to float to the surface.
Can't wait for the narcissists video you mentioned. Had problems with people like that in the past. It's definitely gonna be interesting hearing your perspective on that.
Keep on being you ;)
Thanks Darko.. you're awesome!! :-)
I'm 16 now and I am an INFP as well. I just want to vanish and just stop this, because I feel like the positive things in life can't overweigh all the things that are so wrong and unfair and just hurtful. I feel like life is just pointless and I can't really get out of this depressing view of life. But you're really made me feel better and understood! :)
I just discovered this channel. Steve, if you read this I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your videos helped me like nothing else in my self discovery journey. I knew I was an INFP but thanks to you I realised that I'm also a HSP. When you talk I feel like I'm listening to a soulmate. All my life I thought there is something wrong with me, but thanks to you I finally discovered who I really am. It is so relieving. Your videos are so incredibly helpful. We are absolutely alike on how we feel and how we see the world. Steve, thank you so much, you had an incredibly positive impact on my life. I wish you all the best and I wish you would make more videos.
I feel all of that daily! I'm also an atheist. The best way I've found to deal with depression is trying to be in the moment (staying out of the past and future), Gratitude (evaluating worst case scenario, and realizing what I do have to be thankful for). Your vids are great, and I agree with that email 💯.
Thanks for the comment Tatsy! Good ideas.. I'm going to try and practice gratitude and staying in the moment today. Good tips!! :-)
Thank you for this. Even the title of the video is the single most relatable thing to me, a fellow HSP INFP with CPTSD and lifelong depression... I've recently been wishing I could slip between the cracks of space-time to be miserable in peace until reality looks a bit more bearable, haha. But some days, there's no escape, especially at work. So we just get through it. There's no easy way to beat this; all we can do is be kind to ourselves and work towards self-improvement. Thanks again. It's a comfort to feel understood. I hope you're doing well ☺
Feel ya Steve! I'm the same where I generally can transverse life with most of it being positive in a sense, but yeah when the low times hit - they can hit hard! I do try my best to keep my low vibes away from my videos / others, but at the same time I feel it's just a big part of our fabric which many can relate so some videos have slipped in there where I'm feeling blue..
Lol I also agree with the therapist theory here! Like I REALLY work hard to know myself and also others because it's just something I'm passionate about. For the majority however, they just don't care about that stuff (MBTI, self development, etc) so their self reflecting skills are on the weaker side where they need more of that basic therapy that comes from the initial sessions. If I even went to a therapist (not really interested honestly) I would request to jump to like session 56 right at the start lol. A lot of times us INFPs are just really good natural therapists for others to where they will seek us out for those insights. Where do we get those skills...just hours upon hours of self discovery research to simply understand "ourselves".
The positive comments you received were awesome from the viewers! That's the thing with CZcams that's cool to where the positive comments will randomly come in and sometimes at the perfect time! A lot of the times it's at a point where my mind is in that exact same state of - "does what I'm doing even really matter?". It "does" matter to "some" not "all", and from those positive affirmations they really help me to keep being my weird self and share "my perspective/ life experiences". I think that if we choose to keep it all in which is a more preferred option for us that no one really wins anything. We don't get to vent things out, and others can't potentially get that relatable / helpful content to apply possibly in their own lives.
HEY THANKS FOR THE SHOUTOUT - much love back!....however, I ALSO want you to juggle LOL.
Sean
Awe 💓 nah!!! Feeling like crap is good lol 😂
You two I would love to reflect on. Age is nothing to.me💓
Hey girl! Yeah I agree that going through the low times at the extent we tend to take them give a great bit of internal processing power which ultimately makes us a stronger person when we get on the other side of it...they still suck however 🥴
@@INFPHD 💓🤗
You have no idea how much I can relate to this. I had to come over here to comment and let you know!
I am going through the depression season right now and it has taken a total blow to my CZcams channel. I literally took a week and a half break of doing nothing at all except sitting in my room and crying. I had ankle surgery two months ago and am not walking yet, so haven’t been able to escape to nature and clear my head or go in long drives. I’ve just been stuck in my mind and emotions. It’s so terrible sometimes.
Keep being you and keep producing real, authentic content for us HSPs and INFPs! You make us feel less alone,
Thanks Shaylee! I hope you feel better soon!! I totally relate.. Those dark times suck but they do (eventually) pass. Thanks for the nice comment. BTW: I love your channel/content! :-)
HSP INFP here too. 33 yo, and depressed. Not happy with many decisions I made in life. What have I done with it... I did not listen to my heart... Seeing there are people who share my struggles helps helps dealing with this stuff. Thank you.
Thank you for keeping it real man! I resonate and appreciate the things you talk about. It’s nice to know that someone else out there occasionally has the same thoughts as myself.
Steve, I sit and listen to you and it’s like you are explaining me and my thought process. An exact mirror, I have never seen this before. Thank you bud, I’m 51 and want you to know, I hear you and I see you. Keep it up, you are helping, a lot!
you aren't alone. I sense HSPs have a hard time these days due to the entire world losing it's life resonating harmony. I think the answer is to give the world back it's life by generating a positive mind set, via compassion meditation, however it does require me to sit quietly for an hour, not easy for me. .... edited add-on: My therapist is Eckhart Tolle (videos on YT), as he seems to have a true voice aimed at "the western mind" lol. Love this video -- I'll watch more of your vids. thanks.
Thank you for the comment!! I can feel you're good energy.. :-)
Fellow INFJ here, I really enjoy your honesty and the way you articulate your thoughts. I too know the feeling of wanting to disappear to be into another realm and often that feeling comes up when I am overwhelmed and have been neglecting my inner, higher self. Thank you for sharing your perspective :)
Yo......fellow INFP! Greetings!!
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Your videos R Great!! I listen to your podcasts whilst I'm working!! I'm an artist too!! .......AND.....about 5 years ago I felt like "I wanted to disappear " also......not because I was in a too a depressive state.....but as you said .....I had enough of the way "life is currently set up" lol 🤣
Anywayz......I remember thinking...
I just want to disappear into the hedgerows.......literally......I love nature and wildlife & I frequently wish I could live a life of a bird lol.....they're just free....do the hell what they want ALL day plus they can fly right!! Anyway.......because of this feeling & thought.... I got into landscape gardening .....and now run my own Garden Maintenance & Fencing business which is the best job in the world to me! I'm my own boss and I am as free as the birds each & every day.....outside.....in the fresh air .....and I only employ fellow peeps that I get on with!! I'm chuffed to bits! Hope I have given you some ideas!! ? ☝️😃👌
@Sykt Norsk lol....where do you live? 🤣
@Sykt Norsk I am based in and around the city of Bristol in the UK 👍
I have always wanted to visit Norway lol? My ancestors came from that region!! 😉🤟
I appreciate your sharing 💓I've been through 3 therapists, nah, trust your experience
Jill let me know you were back! Happy to hear from you and so grateful for her being on the ball and connecting people haha
lmao yes to so many therapists being way too surface level.
Enjoy your month off alcohol! I’m 4 months alcohol-free now for the first time in over 10 years and I sincerely feel it’s helping a lot. The lows still come but I can get over them much quicker than when I’d numb with alcohol. Your video on alcohol and HSPs a while back helped inspire to commit to the decision to just finally see it for what it’s really been for me (and especially what it was slowly becoming) and cut it out of my life. I’ve sent an email saying that but want to say it again here to make sure you know!
Thanks for that, for sharing so openly and for being you! Take care.
Hi Amanda! Congrats on 4 months alcohol-free! How's it affected your overall energy/mood/vibe? Mine is much better.. You are so right how we can get over the "lows" quicker... 100% agree.
Apologies for not getting you a video yet.. it's been crazy. You mentioned sending an email.. was it to me? if so please re-send.. Thanks you for the support!! Peace! :-)
7:20 , 7:35 i am just 22 but i feel exactly same...last year i did exactly same like this video..
i shoot myself as for 10-12 mins..
but i deleted it😞
and i liked this podcast..
since last 2 years, i wanted to watch video like this or a person whom i can relate and i found you...
i am just 22 and you got more experience..than me and i am no-one..
but i am just saying--
to stay away from depression, i keep myself busy in study or enjoying movies, series, youtube, or nature walk, treking,hiking,camping etc. it helps me...
So good to hear your voice again Steve. You are great therapy for me. Yes it is not all good times for HSPs but knowing that there are others like us makes it easier - we are not alone. Please keep the videos coming.
Thanks mike!! Good to see you too.. :-)
Man totally relate to the therapists. For most INF types it's not worth it unless u can a really good one which sadly usually costs a lot more.
Thanks for the video... great as usual..lots of help to us Hsps.... maybe give yourself some rest and space to decompress us HSPs need lots. Meditation every morning works for me... heartfulness or mindfulness are great... take care off yourself
that is the nicest letter i've ever heard.
Hey Steve. I'm always glad to see another video from you. I feel bad you've been through a long depressive state. I believe it's important to clearly identify your unmet emotional needs. I relate to you with the religious stuff, and I'd love to talk more through email. I'll have to rewatch your video before sharing more of my thoughts in-depth. Also, I've been using a lot of extraverted thinking, so I've been busy! I believe the ESTJs to whom you refer are more likely ESTPs. ESTJs are going to be very matter-of-fact and productivity oriented (in a risk-reducing fashion). Because that type is our dual, we'll resemble them in certain ways.
I believe INFP males can have a masculine energy through their stoicism. Like you, I also have a particular attraction to INFJ women. If you've ever watched Stranger Than Fiction, you may interpret Will Ferrell's character as an INFP and Maggie Gyllenhaal's character as an INFJ. His character has a stiffness and awkwardness but he's also kind, gentle and matter-of-fact. Her character is very feisty and expressive, and she's quite perceptive. I highly recommend you watch it. But yeah, INFJ women... They are something else.
Yay you're back!
...best username, ever.. LOL!! :-) thanks!!
Perfection, also, is a huge source of depression and self loathing... if we don't realize deep inside that we are by nature as humans not perfect, we'll never find peace inside..
Good point about "perfection"... so true! :-)
Just stumbled upon ur page. Can totally relate to the religion thing and I appreciate you sharing. Felt a little less alone and I’m looking forward to listening more of ur podcasts. Thanks :)
Hey steve 😎
Welcome back
Yes hsp's we gravitate towards depression and bouts of giving up alot. You are not alone btw God is there with you, youve only become too aware of your circumstances and distanced yourself but He is one call away. You may have been failed by your religious fellows but God hasnt. We are misunderstood alot and we suffer self esteem too. I do understand you and I got married to a covert may be you can understand my position and its been 25 yrs now and quite stuck with a complication that has made things worse. Av struggled with suicide too but being born again has helped, I keep encouraging myself. Been ignorant only got to understand disorders very recently a couple of yrs down the line. Please do pray for me children have traits allover the place not interesting at all.
Love your content. Thank you
Love your podcast, subscribed! Fellow hsp(:
I'm very late to the party, I have known I'm INFP since only 2 days ago. I cherish your line "crying on Earth - alone".
Sad, yes but...I've literally had 48 hours of not being the loneliest number 1 ever of all time & now there's 'others', more numbers 1's walking around this land.
So, hi guy's! I never comment but now I've realised that there's actually men like me also? My mind is blown!
Bring me 2020 - Happy New Year my sensitive people!! x
Hi Shay! Welcome to the INFP party! :-) You're definitely not alone. Peace!
Spirituality helped me a lot with depression. And ADHD meds too haha.
Thanks for the comment. The topic of ADHD and INFPs has come up a lot in my life recently. I wonder if it applies to me? Hmm.. must investigate! Also, I love your CZcams channel!!
@@TheHSPExperience Thanks man and yes I hear it a lot too. I guess because INFPs lack execute functioning skills that people with ADHD also lack. ENFPs are known to have it too.
Hey you two! Yeah I told her that I’m almost certain I also have ADHD as well just undiagnosed. Something I’m also curious about, but yeah watching many videos on the topic I’m constantly shouting in my room by myself “That’s me! That’s me too!” Lol.
INFP HD Hey :D
I’m a highly sensitive ISFP. It’s weird because the functions fit for that, but I know my Intuition is very high. I’ve looked into MBTI psychology stuff for a while, so I’m fairly certain that’s my type. Either way, your videos are really helpful and relatable
Also to add onto the video, I am currently going through the “not wanting to do life” feeling. A little bit of tension came up in my family and I am currently wishing I wasn’t born because dealing with it feels like I’m drowning
Thanks for the comment! How the types manifest on the surface can be very similar looking. I mostly hang out with INFPs and INFJs and I can tell the diff.. .but it's close.. the big diff is under the surface. How we intake and process information is completely diff. Glad you can relate...
OMG - I am having soo many me too moments! I am also an INFP male, I didn't know what demi-sexual meant but I feel I lean that way. Uggg.. the met this cool guy... happens so may times to me....
I never put that together that I have always had and preferred female friends and I'm an INFP man. I also love shooting. That's my primary hobby at the moment. Also, I left the Christian cult that I was raised in and am an atheist. Relating on so many levels!
I just keep commenting here after listening to the podcast, because I don't know how to comment over there 😅 I unfortunately relate very much to the unsatisfying therapist hunt 😕 And it makes me feel like I'm being difficult and should just accept their help, but as an INFP that isso impossible. If it doesn't feel like they get it, I can't stay 🤷♀️ I also tried betterhelp at some point and did NOT feel it! A bit like your experience: one just kept sending me this generic questonaires and information that I obviously already knew, and I just kept waiting until she would have gathered enough information so we could start the actual counseling, but this wás her counseling 🤦🏼♀️ ugh, waste of time. So I changed, and the next one was not even making the effort to get to know me, she just said things like: that sounds difficult, maybe try this or that. So, the textbook mirroring, which doesn't really add anything to what I already know. And it felt fake anyway, and next thing trying to give solutions 🙄🙄 uhhh, that is not how therapy works. First of all, you think I didn't try the things you are suggesting? And secondly, how high are the chances that, you randomly suggesting what your mind, with you life story, is coming up with, that those things will actually be applicable to my Story?? Uhh. I think she was just sipping coffee in a bar and texting clients on the side. So I left it there. But I had the same thought: I really could use some professional help, but they have to be good, cause this shit is making me feel worse about myself. Anyway, wanted to let you know that I totally feel you there. It's a struggle!
I'm glad you could relate to the difficulty of finding a therapist for HSPs. So many therapists don't even know what it is... or they are just terrible therapists. The best therapists are HSPs themselves and usually INFP or INFJ. Yeah, and the therapy apps are just a massive waste of time and money. I'd rather just figure stuff out on my own.. LOL!! :-) Thanks for the comment
I can totally relate. I am the biggest cry baby. I'm right there with you
I’ve heard also that INFPS that aren’t raised in a very supportive nurturing environment can struggle more than any of the types. Watch host Eric’s videos on INFPs at “talking with famous people”.:I think you’ll really like it. There’s a video there called INFP: natures fragile ward, or something like that.
Steve, man, why did you go from being an Evangelical Christian to becoming a complete atheist. From one extreme to another one. Christianity was a significant part of your life, and you cut off that part of your being too radically. Integrate it in another way that suits you; don't cut it off. The church is designed to appeal to the majority, not 20% of the HSP population. Maybe you could find a middle ground that suits your spiritual needs i.e., being a Christian, have faith, but not be stubborn or obsessed with it. Everything in moderation. I care about you; we are here all empaths never forget that. You have the best human beings for followers. I wish you all the best. VP
Thanks Vada Vada.. I hear ya on the God thing... it's just not for me anymore... ...maybe someday.? Thanks for the comment! :-)
11:47 ....yes i feel you..you are sooo relatable.
its realy painful being *INFP* & *HSP* person and living in country of second highest population in the world "India" and still found very lonely..! and never meeting another INFP or HSP
i am 22 male and last year of Engineering...
as becoz of my social anxiety, i still find hard to talk to anyone or specialy girls* and i never had female friend its another reason is i live in small city in india, where girls are not that open minded or male-female friendship was not normal in my school year experience - till age 16 (means 10 years) and after 16, it was hard to start conversation with girls from my side and as per my looks or quiet personality girls never attratcted towards me..i dont know why...
but i hate this becoz , 21:46 i love tooo...but i never did got a chance..! its so unfair.. i am missing this and i feel bad.
i am depressed since last 2-3 years and many times thought about suiside...but never tried becoz only one reason- my parents*
i want to become successful for them only..
but i made some terrible mistakes and decisions in my life and i regret all of them..and i am very very afraid of my future and i keep visiting all my bad memories of past and i am stuck in Fi Si loop...😓..i want to talk but i dont think anyone can understand me..
i need theorapy too..but since i am still student and i cannot tell about this to my parents or anyone, i cannot afford it
but i found your channel and i can relate to each and every video..!
*thank* *you* and take care👍
and sry fir such long reply😜
Am an INFP living an Islamic society. Trust me, for us INFPs living in that type of society that suppresses individuality at all cost, is terrifying. That is why I never felt that I belonged.
Hi. What do you think you could be doing , working in what field, that could utilize your gifts intuition/emptathy/introversion as an INFP? Rumination is not good have you tried monitoring your thoughts and avoiding those? As an INFP I found a diet with low/moderate protein and zero salycilates/oxalates (plenty of tapioca and no fruits or vegetables) works for me. It helps me in getting 8 hours or even 9 hours of sleep which I need so much. I have the exact same constitution as you, aryan: germanic features and high forehead, mannerisms, etc. Even as I watch you speak it's like if I were watching myself. Good luck.
Never related to an INFP video more 23yr old female INFP who's hardcore struggling with depression and suicidal feelings often questioning and feeling like I want to "disappear" really hit home
Women don't even exist for me anymore - there is _no point_ even talking to them outside of business. Not existing has always been attractive to me. It actually wouldn't matter to anyone else if I didn't exist - I have no family or friends (by choice)...perhaps that's my IMPETUS to completely TRANSFORM my LIFE into something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!
There is so much here, I folla. Yes a guy can manly shoot a gun, ha, but to braveley ramble relevently, is... yeah. Umm, Okay so right there at the end is what I was describing in a comment as reply from last week. Shweet.
Have you ever thought that, this is the source of your depression?? the religion you left, f%cked up your faith and your trust to God .. the dogma of your religion was made by people... not God himself... maybe you need to work on your faith.. I am totally sure that God cries with us when we cry but there is a reason why we are unable to feel it..
no... the source of my depression was lack of purpose.. I'm good now.. Since I made that video, my life has changed for the better in so many ways.. I am very happy these days.. Thanks for the comment! :-)