INFP Personality: The INFP Growth Cycle
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If you’re new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. I was thinking about the path of growth while learning about Dan Harmon's Story Circle and decided I'd share my thoughts. Hope it helps someone :D
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As an INFP, the idealism made me define my self as an alien
+Sakineu Beng lol. Are you an Enneagram 4 by chance?
Yes..
Beam us up Scottie!!
Im 2
Be ok fellow alien, you are not alone in this planet 🤣
Ok, for real I told this exact same thing to my therapist years ago haha
EVERYBODY LISTEN...do you hear that?! Right? I hear it too...an entire CZcams comment section where every person's feelings are agreed with or comprehended without confrontation or judgement. I've never experienced such harmony in this (or practically any) forum.
In a "room" full of INFPs, there seems to be nothing but a sincere mutual understanding between perfect strangers. Even the comments strictly aimed at complimenting his appearance are something I feel his discomfort with like it was my own (as an allegedly attractive male INFP I been complimented for my appearance more than every skill set, good deed, and accomplishment combined). I never realized how much I have truly longed for interaction with other INFPs, as I have none in my life. But during that video, my mind started racing with so many possibilities that I became distracted and literally mistook the voice playing in the background as my own internal thoughts.
I recognized your voice as the dialect of my own conscience. I felt truly understood as the many others here who said as much--and that's pretty incredible when the audience is made nearly entirely of people who don't feel "understood". So...thank you. Also, I wish we all had a place to talk like this whenever we wanted. It's so rare that realizing I've been deprived of seems like a minor cruelty now.
Thanks for this comment. I wrote a nice long response, but it was erased. :( That's awesome that you mistook my voice for your thoughts! So cool.
Hopefully what I'm doing will lead to more safe-zones where people are comfortable expressing this type of thing. I feel that us INFPs have a lot to give to the world, but really struggle with finding a way of getting it out there. But one man alone isn't enough, so comments like this really help. :)
I'm just noticing this, too. It's glorious!
This just made me cry 😭😭😭 thank you too!
Yeah that was for me too! I thought I was being distracted somehow because i was hearing his voice and kinda analyzing it in my mind at the same time which happens to me throughout most of the videos that need thinking!
Jesus you're right. Not one dickhead comment That is unheard of lol :o
“Throw yourself out there.”
No 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 that’s terrifying
It definitely is. :D
I got goosebumps just thinking about it!
Last week was awful because of two jobs applications almost successful. I felt drained, but yesterday I watched the film " a Quiet place" and went for dinner with my mother. We talk and she knows I'm not made for office bureaucratic job even I tried. So I restart today applying to museums and organizing an exhibition, that's what I like to do.
Yes! Do what you like and the world will be a better place - well... you know, as long as you're a good person :P
Best of luck on your job hunt and staying out of the super-controlled bureaucratic jobs!
i thought i had i problem. i really, really thought i had i problem. discovering about my personality explains me so much. i couldn't understand how other people didn't feel like me. and there were a lot of sad, low phases during my life and i always thought it was depression, especially when i had no friends. It was my fault having no friends - i love being alone and felt so safe, but craved friends at the same time. the thing is i thought i was depressed forever and unable to change it since ive been aware that i had this "problem" since i was like 12. "depression" was always in my mind. i wish my parents, my friends, everyone knew about this, about who i am inside. i wish they knew how much this changed the perception i have of myself. i accept me. i like me better now. i really do accept this amélie i have in me :)
i'm re-watching the video after quite some time and, scrolling through the comments, i literally had to go back and check if i was the one who wrote yours, it's scary how much we are alike.
anyways, it's been 2 years and lots of things probably changed.. i hope you're doing well! :)
I'm an INFP and it's really really crazy listening to your journey and being able to pinpoint so many various points in my life including where I am now. I've been so passively angry at so many people in my life for so long and Ive avoided forming new connections with people, instantly feeling disappointment with them (because if im disappointed from the start I think they cant cause me pain) but not even close to the disappointment within myself. Ive been hiding myself from the world and am so afraid to express myself because so many times in my life how Ive expressed myself has been criticized by my parents and others. I haven't taken TRUE responsibility for my own emotions, blaming others all the time. When you talked about changing enviornments to spark the change? I'm now 21 and leaving a small town in Florida for Chicago this January. I really just feel like Im on the brink of finally getting myself out there, doing whatever crazy thing my heart desires (well within reason) LIVING my life regardless of what others think of me. I deeply relate to this video and I hope my own journey will reflect the same growth and insight.
Hi I'm currently 21 and in a similar situation, can you give an update to what you're doing now? Would really appreciate it ,thank you
Hey, if your'e still active, could you express where you are right now and how much have you progressed?
"you know when you're stuck so much inside your self, and you're lookin out at the world through that lense, it's not easy right" that hits hard😢
i never know about myers personality before.while im growing,i though tht im depress,have a conflict that i though every teenager will have to go through as a phase but still seems the phase like never ending.i always search to solve my inner conflict and i always think,why cant i be like everyone else?when i read the comments,we have the same stories and that make me feeling so calm and happy.hiii all INFP friends!!!Be strong!!!we can do it!!
btw mr geek psychology,thank you for the awesome sharing!
Congratulations and welcome home ;)
about throwing yourself out there e.g. trying to make it in music... publish a book... go to auditioms etc. infps are driven by the need to do something they are passionate about. but what has been a struggle is not the going out there part... it's getting the rigjt conmections to get u to the next e.g. gig, play, publisher etc. we are essentially creators and not marketers of ourselves. we need agents managers and just a good support group. if ur out there alone... trying to pursue ur passion.. it can really get hard. u get inside urself. beat urself up for taking a chance... and not being able to connect with ppl easily. not sure if im making sense lol.. im just typing away.
+Chino Alfonso All the more reason to gain Fe and Te skills! It's not easy, I know. I struggle with it too. But just being aware of that issue, and keeping in mind that each interaction is a chance to grow, can be helpful. Keep at it!!
Exactly
Yes, I feel a strong need to connect with people
U r so right about not being able to market ourselves.U have articulated it so well.Thank u.
Chino Alfonso as an infp determined to make it in music, i FELT what you said. To the T. You’re definitely making sense dawg.
Just came across this video. You articulated introverted feeling and it's dark side very well. I was existentially depressed for a couple years. I had set in stone values and I was frustrated with the world, but didn't realize how 'in' myself I was. Two and a half years ago I decided to buy a one way flight to Asia and haven't looked back since. Since I've moved and taught abroad I've put myself out there a lot. I've realized that what I needed to really express my introverted feeling and carry out my values was actually basking in novelty and experience the outer world. I definitely think that INFPS- precisely because we're so in our heads- need to be in a place of novelty, growth, and connection to really fulfill our Fi and nurture personal growth.
Yes! Times when I've felt most at home with myself, were after I moved somewhere novel, or learned something new and/or complex.
You're so good looking! Just thought I'd point that out :)
I'm okay with this.
Haha!
Geek Psychology 😌💙
Hahaha
I agree..is this an INFP thing 😁?
"A lot of the problems were coming from within you, and your inability to affect you outer world..."
This encapsulates so much of my anxiety and angst that I have had for so long, and why I had my difficulties. But which I am now just realising my own (very personal, very eccentric, and very unique) correct tactics and strategies to come out of (no wonder I had problems lol). It is indeed a bliss to find one's way, after so long!
Take care.
+Jani R I'm glad to hear you related to it. It's always hard to tell if it's my own personal experiences or something that can be generalized.
Thanks for commenting and best of luck on your journey ;)
I really relate to this experience as a fellow INFP. I think it is a lot like grief, where we realise that the world we thought we knew was an illusion and we have to go through the stages of grief to acceptance of the true reality that we live in. As you say, whilst we are trying to fight against reality it makes it stronger. I think certainly we are weaker, as we are spending so much energy in trying to fight reality so we may struggle to cope. Also, whilst we are angry about the state of reality, we are probably sending out a lot of negative signals to the people around us, which could make reality even more harsh for us at the time. So learning to accept people with all their flaws, including myself, has been the biggest growth point for me. But also keeping myself healthy with self care has helped, because it allows me to gain energy so that I can access Ne easier and be more open to the world.
It's all a balancing act. "So learning to accept people with all their flaws, including myself, has been the biggest growth point for me." is a well-said and difficult task that I continuously struggle with.
Katie Plant : Well said! I am in the process of doing what you said: "...learning to accept people with all their flaws...!" It's really weird, because as I learn to accept others where they are, I feel less need to try to change or control them or make them understand! Which for some odd reason means that I find it easier to accept myself! Easier to see the good in myself! To just relax! Others may not understand me, but I do! Or at least, I am beginning to! I find tremendous comfort in knowing there are other INFPS out there who do understand! I've begun to try new things, things I've always been afraid of trying. Things like traveling to different places! It's very exciting and I'm growing as a result! I'm even learning to be happy! It's a great feeling to just be in the moment and realize that I feel happy and that it's okay to feel that way! It's all a learning experience, and we do our best work when we are learning new things and gaining new insights!
@@love2learnmitchell329 are you high? haha sorry, u just wrote with so many '!!!!' it sounds like you are suspiciously too happy haha lol
@@lucianaardillita7318 : Bonjou Luciana! I have a tendency to be a very serious person. I was having a really good week and wanted to share the feeling! But, I have to admit, I do love exclamation marks, hashtags and emojis!!##😃😲😥 Sorry about that! I couldn't resist the impulse to use them excessively! Peace!😀🖖
@@love2learnmitchell329 oh no, don't say sorry, it was a joke!
Hey there, thank you for sharing this. :-) As a fellow INFP, albeit in his late thirties, I can really relate to what you are describing.
I grew up in a family of SJs, which meant that my upbringing was quite safe and secure on the homefront, but also that my parents didn't really understand who I was and what I aspired to do with my life.
At school, only a few of the teachers seemed to understand me, and I was often bullied by the other students for being 'too smart'.
It all added up to me trying to present myself as a more 'normal' person and leading a more 'normal' life, while secretly resenting the world for making me lead an in authentic life.
Of course, the anger and resentment was in fact rooted in my own inner conflict between wanting to connect with others and be free to express myself in any way I like, while at the same time feeling very vulnerable and wanting to hide my true self from those who might want to critisize or judge me.
But I wasn't able to see this clearly until I made a good friend, who saw how much I was struggling, and let me know that I was valuable just as I was - regardless what others might think.
At first, it was very difficult for me to show my true colors without fear, and even today, I still feel that I have so much more potential waiting to be unlocked, but the breakthrough I had back then (and my subsequent realization that I was an INFP) has already allowed me to do so much more with my life than I dared to imagine back then.
For instance, when I was in the school plays as a kid, I discovered just how much I enjoyed acting. But if it hadn't been for my good friend's trust in me, I might never have had the courage to sign up to be in a play at our local, very professionally run, community theatre. In the beginning, I got the tiny parts, but over the years I grew more and more interested in the finer details of acting and eventually I gained the trust of my fellow actors and the confidence to take on leading roles.
Ironically, when I started taking my acting seriously as an art form, I also stopped caring about 'acting normal', because as I discovered, good acting is not about portraying 'perfect' or 'normal' people, but rather about truthfully portraying the many different ways - for better or for worse - that people desperately attempt to keep the mask of normalcy from slipping off their faces in the heat of an unusual situation. This is where we find both comedy and drama, and this recognition of both our beauty and our ridiculousness as human beings is what connects us to one another and hopefully makes us treat each other with greater kindness.
It's amazing to think that I grew up admiring comedians and actors, who had the ability cast aside 'normal', inhibited behavior and connect with an audience through their performance, and that now I myself have experienced that special feeling of connecting directly with an audience through my performance.
This goes to show that if we can stop blaming the bullies and threshold guardians of the past for how we feel about ourselves and dare to use our INFP talent for communicating truthfully, we can make a positive change not just in our own lives or in those of our friends, but in society as a whole.
Excellent insights into INFP. Thank you for spending the time to tell your tale.
I've always wanted to act for a profession, but never got into it out of fear and awkwardness... maybe I should give it a try! I think INFPs have a special talent in being able to embody both the deep, dark side of humanity as well as appreciating the beauty in vulnerability.
Keep at it, Michael! I'm rooting for you :D
I just had to say, I absolutely love your reply to this video and resonate with you very deeply. I had to pause the video to give my full attention to your response. Thank you! :)
@@GeekPsychology Thank you :-)
@@CydniKrajicek Thank you, Cydni. :-) I appreciate you taking the time to read my whole message and connecting to it.
I've thought sometimes that I'd be a good actor because of my ability to immerse myself in a character and also to see motivations from others. But in practice (skits, games, etc.) I'm far too self conscious, I guess because I feel afraid/ vulnerable if I show too much of myself.
I'm INFP, I honestly just discovered this as previously I just assumed I had a personality disorder. I happened to notice in this vid, when Ive heard recordings of myself speaking, my tone and speech patterns are virtually identical to yours. Many, many times ive been told my voice is calming, Id be willing to bet you get the same all the time.
I'm glad you don't consider your personality type a disorder anymore! :P
I'm really curious about tone and speech patterns of types - sounds very interesting!
I get that very often.
This is funny! As an INFP I often heard that my whole being has a calming effect (and sometimes I got that for my voice too).
I also thought I have personality disorder
Here's my thoughts on why it makes sense that we have a tendency to sound calming.
We're introverts, so there's a tendency there to be not too full on or loud.
The intuition also helps out in appropriately gauging (without us needing to consciously think about it), what tone is going to be appropriate (most of the time :) ).
We're the 'feelings' people, so we respect others and will even often consciously hold ourselves back from overdoing the tone if a conversation is a bit stressful.
The 'prospective' I find means when we talk, our brains are constantly sorting through the multitude of ways we could express ourselves, and that has a tendency to at times slow our speech down a bit (especially if there's a need to choose words with care and sensitivity), which in itself lends a kind of calming, thoughtful vibe about it.
@@benedictjephcote6815 well said!
I have been wondering why am i like this? why people don't understand me? why people don'y put effort to think about the world like I do? I figured that I don't share my thoughts and my feelings with anyone, and when I do share, it won't be the full story, I'm just going to hide my thoughts and feeling from anyone, I love people but I fear judgement and criticizing, it's like don't mind me, not bad or good, I don't even comment or review anything,I feel like even if i tried writing it won't express what i truly have in my mind, and even when I say anything I feel that people don't really understand me. when i knew that I'm an INFP I learned a lot about myself and knew that there are people like me.. this video is a great help, thanks
Happy to help. Keep up the quest for finding ways to express yourself and putting yourself out there - even when it hurts. It’ll expand your comfort zone and give you a better understanding of yourself. Not easy, but necessary for growth.
been a Christian sense I was 12 and I was raised as an early kid to just behave. I was a quiet kid in school did not get in trouble. I am not really mean to people because my conscious would kill me. I'm comfortable expressing ideas with my friends but I don't force my beliefs on people hence I'm a Christian but I'm not a religious zealot who forces it on people. I try to just be an example by living my life. But with my friends I can express things. In regards to new people I'm typically guarded especially in public places. I'm social because i only hang with my circle but if I go to the bar im not very welcoming towards people trying to talk to me I tend to blow them off alot.
maybe you should be more openminded, theres nothing wrong with socializing with people of different religions, as long as theres mutual respect everythings just fine
Charles Benson
Jesus spoke more about hell as heaven. Jesus said nobody can come to the Father but by Him. Truly caring about peoples destiny means bringing them Truth. It may be harder for the non confrontational INFP but it is no excuse not to love people enough to bring them the Truth.
i feel so cozy in this comment section
welcome!
Just the reminder I needed! I had been inserting myself in uncomfortable places and classes as a way to grow, but have gotten away from it. I noticed, as scary and nerve racking as the situation would be at the time, I always felt proud and accomplished after the fact while thinking back on it. I've felt a stagnation lately, and I think its due to me sticking to my comfortable bubble. Time to get back out there, and writing this comment would be the first step. Thanks
I thought I responded to this. My bad. It's great that you put yourself into all those strange experiences. You know what you have to do again!
Beautiful video
triptych lights if all people have this thinking then the world could be a better place. Thank you for the love! Please don't lose that in you.
INFP here!
Very kind words. Thank you. INFP and ENFJ make such a great match when they’re both activated and “on purpose”. Depth and breadth in all those F and N realms. S and T fall off a bit lol, but there are other people with those talents.
Ok so I know she's talking to geek psychology but I feel like she's talking to me too. So much so that the thought to post this comment on Facebook to express how I feel people should see us INFPs crossed my mind. She's a non-INFP that actually gets us and appreciates us! Where can I find more ENFJs? lol 🙂
I had this same realization about how my introverted feeling had been effecting my marriage for probably the first five years 😬 Had been blaming my husband for his over-emotionality, which freaked me out at the time causing me to retreat, but I finally figured out that he was that way, because I was giving him nothing to go on. Smh. I must say we've grown a ton in the last few years...so glad I didn't throw in the towel back then...I don't think I would have learned nearly as much about myself if I had given up.
That's great to hear. I'm glad you stuck with the situation and are continuing to grow together :D
This gives an over-emotional guy like me hope :)
Great video. As an INFP male, I empathized with Brienne of Tarth from GOT a lot. She's perceived to be an INFP. As a child I was always precocious and as an adult, I'm well spoken, well mannered, well read and creative. We're walking contradictions. I love people but I have no interest in socializing. I love the human experience but I can't abide by our errors, especially when we refuse to fix them. I'm so happy you shared this. I'm subscribing in hopes that I can find support for men like myself. The world's been hard on us because we're on the opposite side of what a man is expected to be. I would not have it any other way.
I had simpatico with her too!
I am an INFPA and the only way you can perfect your life is through lots of experience. When an INFP gets to a point where they don't care what others think. Then and only then as a INFP will you win!
I’m an infp but I use to get infp,j I can relate a lot to j’s but they get stuff done which is what I’ve been struggling with. I have been working on just putting my work out there and stop delaying it if it’s not perfect and that’s been the real struggle to stop overthinking it and just do. I’ve been doing it but I still struggle a bit. I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and I have so many amazing creative ideas that I want to share and help people with. I want to do videos but I hate the way my face looks on video. I’ve noticed that a lot of introverted types no matter how they look hate taking pictures or looking at themselves. Introverted actors won’t watch their own movies. I wonder why this is. I really need to get past this I’ve grown a lot in the last 3 years and friends have noticed how I’ve changed it’s a slow process but I’m making it more of an effort now. I’m becoming more self aware. Thanks for actually doing something to help people like us🙂
Thanks for the warm comment. It’s not easy to get your work (and yourself) out there. I don’t like watching myself or having pictures taken either. I usually make a silly face to cover it up :P
My only suggestion is to just do it. Put yourself out there and expand your comfort zone. GL!
I have seen a lot of INFP videos, and most of them are relatable, but this really speaks true to me.
This is a great reality check, thanks man.
funny anecdote: a couple days ago i said to myself as i was listening to one of your videos, driving to wherever i was going, “I just love Infp’s, they really seem to talk in a way that helps me understand the concepts a lot better, like they’re speaking my language.”
today, after watching months worth of videos across a lot of different channels, i can say that i put together my type before i even knew. you do such a good job at breaking this down for a lot of people, good on you. thank you
As an INFP, I can relate pretty well to this talk. I have literally just been through the realization that just "fighting" the horrible behavior of some people one just makes them stronger, it just makes them fight harder and they care so little they're going to use every unethical weapon they can get hold of. I am now in the process of trying to instead cultivate more mutual understanding and empathy with other people - hard for an introvert as it involves being with people a lot and it is damn slow, but hey possibly more effective in the long run. I'm also not sure how I can control myself from crying when I'm talking about something I care, not that I want to hide my feelings, but a lot of people get distracted and end up thinking that I am "weak", undermining everything I am trying to build with them. Let's see.
fought with the Marines in Iraq in 2006, Somalia in 2008 and the devastation from the children who suffered in those dumpster fires, still have a profound hold on me.. its been like 15 years since the war and im legit still lost.. left corporate america 3 years ago, my family views me as a failure, academia , sports, etc all came so easy to me my entire existence... 142 IQ which led to utterly non-existent work ethic from ever manifesting in my youth... Had a decade long lucrative career post military as a financial advisor, but felt like i was being waterboarded every day doing my 'trade'. feels nice knowing y'all get it, but gotta be honest, i feel my enigmatic situation being this muscular, 6'5 'tough guy' my whole life who in reality is a INFP-T thru and thru makes life basically in surmountable smh
The sheer amount of community in the comments is amazing to see, and for the video I'd honestly admit to the fact I dont think I've ever met anyone else whom thought, acted, or described things almost exactly like me, and thank you for the extra guidance to the other infp's out there by getting up and putting in the effort for a video that's, what I imagine was, a hard topic to put together in a cohesive way. You did a great job ^-^
Infps. My favorite in the opposite sex. I'm an enfp :)
ENFPs are cool too :D I don't know to many female ENFPs personally though.
As an INFP who lives in Jordan, i would say i do have a lot of things you said about yourself and i try a lot to change to be better to myself, i am going through things in this particular time and i take a decision everyday that i will be better to myself and try to change (for myself) i wish you all do what makes you feel better and happy.
Peace from Jordan ❤
It’s funny you mentioned go to the club by yourself 🤣 that’s exactly what I did. I hadn’t been out in years and one day I said fuck it! It seems it’s easier when i venture out on my own vs going out with friends. It’s harder to be vulnerable in front of ppl I love. But I am continuing my growth regardless 🫶🏽 thank you!
Thank you for these insights! INFP here as well... I'm currently trying to overcome problems with social anxiety and now that I watched this video, it made me realize a lot of the anxiety comes from judging the outer world. Like you said, seeing it through the Fi-lens... it's not easy to blend in and put yourself out there. Still trying to find a way to express myself in the right way.
Thank you for sharing. I am the type that get stuck in the fi si loop too much. I get scared a lot having to express myself due to my negative past. Thanks for showing us the bravery to step back out into the world. For being brave and a heart for helping others.
If only there was a tether that connected everyone together then maybe there would be no pain or suffering in the world, only peace and acceptance. When you were talking about Fi that was the thought that went through my head. Now that I think about it you mentioned something like this in your INFP enneagram 9 video. Wheb I think of INFPs I think of a caterpillar in the process of turning into a butterfly. The INFP sees what it is, what it's authentic self is and is trying to find a way to express this and be who they truly are. Sadly the real world beats the caterpillar down, and they retreat to a well built cocoon. Eventually some INFPs learn to embrace their authentic self and emerge as a butterfly. Now they're no longer restraint to the ground, but are now able to rise above everything to see that it is okay to be different, and that everyone is special in their own way, and that no one should be tethered to the ground.
This was what went through my mind, and I how I was able to translate that into text somewhat.
That tether would sure help people feel the repercussions of their actions.
I like your analogy. That cocoon is really comfy and well built, but the freedom that comes from flying and being "in the world" is so worth it. I feel like I have 1 feeler sticking out of the cocoon lol.
I love this metaphor :)
Do caterpillars ever stay caterpillars? Or do they ALWAYS become butterflies?
i really enjoyed this. i felt like i was listening to my own thoughts. im an enfp, but since im an ennegream 4, i rely heavily on my fi. i sincerely appreciate the infp males ive known in my life. i have always been drawn to their deep and sensitive nature and their ability to express how they feel without any shame or fear of "hindering their masculinity." i think the world could benefit from more souls like yours. thanks for being you, and thank you for having such good intentions for the world, others, and yourself. its so refreshing to know that people like you exist!
Thanks! I like ENFPs a lot too. It must be the attractive aspects of seeing people really live out our auxiliary function. I'd imagine it can be very grounding for an ENFP. It's always been very freeing for me.
I've always considered myself to be very feminine. It could be partially that I lived with my mother... Eventually (read: recently) I've come to embrace the Fi vulnerability and now I wonder why I fought so hard to hide it when it can be such a beneficial thing to guide others :P
Geek Psychology I relate dude... I am so sensitive inside hence my beard
Same ,for a second I literally felt like he was talking from my head,and I'm an infp
It almost felt like you've been through the same experiences as an INFP, like me and many others in the comment section. Most of the days, when I look into myself I feel almost proud of my thoughts and how good a person I truly am. But on other days, I feel like crap and feel that I'm just different from other people and I cannot really work well in this world. I write short stories and poetry but I am always doubting the fact that people may misunderstand me or maybe people will make fun of me if I put too much of myself out there to read. I also fear the fact that I would not be appreciated for my work. I really feel that I am destined for great things in life and I deserve more for the person I am, but I don't really feel like working on myself sometimes and I am busy thinking about the world and people. By watching this video I realized that I've been growing all this time and maybe I just have to get up work on myself and change, leaving behind the past. Cause I think my memories are like a drug to me and I am obsessed with it and it affects my everyday. So, thank you, I think your content is purposeful and will actually help people and the world- and that's what we INFPs want to do in the end, right? :)
I don't express myself as much as I want to.. It's very difficult for me to talk with other people, even though I've been with them for quite a time now like my office mates and relatives .. I don't like bothering other people 😩. I keep to myself a lot. But I have this notebook where I write all my thoughts whenever I can. Thank God I discovered this MBTI stuff, took the test, then discovered I am an INFP. 😊 I also have that thought constantly which is to strive to become a good human being, to contribute something good to the community. I thought I am "abnormal" because of the way I think and feel about things.. Well, I am just INFP.. it feels liberating to know that I have some people whom I can relate to. 🙌
The way you described introverted feeling is the most accurate and concise i've heard yet, thank you.
oooo. Thank you :)
ノックスパー right? I literally criedbecause...he was saying what I've always felt
Amazing words brother. I am an INFP who is a hip hop artist and aspiring public speaker but, like a few others in the comments, I am terrified of receiving unwanted judgement. I struggle a lot with being (or feeling) misunderstood, and I feel like I am a good person like I do everything in my power to always do, say and think the right things - and yet I always seem to be seen as selfish, stupid, irresponsible, childish etc. by family and others, and it really really hurts me. It makes me question EVERYTHING about myself, because I try to understand everyone’s side of things and when I do that, it makes me think maybe i really am all these things they say I am. And I find myself constantly fighting this battling between who I think I am and who they think I am. If anyone has some words of advice to overcome this obstacle I would appreciate it so much.
I do not have words of advice, but a question.
Is it possible that both you and they are right about you?
They see what they see. It is a helpful perspective to know how others perceive you. But, it's perception, which everyone has a limited supply of. Communication should take care of some perception issues, but then again communication takes more work and effort and skill.
You see what you see in yourself, plus you know your reasons better for doing what you do. INFPs are made to function differently. What some of several people may seem as "lazy" may actually be an INFP playing out different needs and interests in life. Fi is like a battery. It sometimes takes a little to charge back to 100% and sometimes needs a lot of solo activity to charge back to 100%. INFPs when charging their battery, I think, prefer a controlled environment of their choosing where not much is required/asked of them. How are other temperaments supposed to get that? It appears selfish at a glance or a prolonged look.
As for being thought of as stupid, I think INFPs may start out with a difficulty at making themselves make sense to others, but they can get better throughout their lives.
Lastly, INFPs shine, I think, when they have truly found something in life worthwhile, worth their time, worth their admiration and investment. Then, reproduce it in your own way. Do it for you and believe that there are people in the world who will appreciate it's beauty as much as you. Believe, believe, believe.
Same ! But I really don’t really appreciate Maturity. I appreciate innocent, soft, kind people
I truly believed I had borderline personality disorder, until watching this video. Thank you, truly.
How so? Can you elaborate on this?
-fellow INFP
Best video I've so far to explain what a INFP is going through life!!!!!
Thanks! :D
dude. this is spot on. thank you so much!
Thank you for reminding us how powerful we can be. I spend my adult life living in fear and anxiety, paralyzed daily for not being where I want to be. And it's a damning shame if I kept myself a secret to the world when I could be contributing something beautiful and meaningful to it.
Thank you for putting this into words!!!
I love your videos and the way you're expressing everything! it makes me feel I'm not alone and there are other people who share the same way of thinking & seeing everything!
Thank you for your video. It's really useful for INFPs. As a young INFP, I constantly struggle the restrictions of the external world and blame it a lot. However, I am now in my 20s. I gained more experiences and started to understand that I should take up more individual responsibility. Hope I could grow well as a mature INFP :)
Wow thank you for this amazing video! I feel like with INFPs being one of the rarest types and part of our journey towards self-growth being painful for many of us, it has been hard for me to express my feelings in a way that others could understand. Hearing everything you said and reading other people’s comments made me feel a bit more at peace knowing that I’m not the only one feeling these things.
Your truly helping me so much💗
These videos are so helping me so much I can’t even put it in to words. Thank you so much for making these videos
Really good. Might take a few rewatchings. Thanks for sharing.
Probably the best explanation of what happens right now inside my mind. Thanks for sharing it, I so needed to hear this.
Thanks. I think I am actually on the point of realizing that I just build a wall from the outside world because of messy it is. Now I am slowly removing the wall and trying to live like what you have explained.
Wow, thank you so much for making this. A lot of times I feel stuck inside my head and it makes me sad, because I see other people doing things I wish I could if I wasn't so fearful of rejection/judgement/whatever. Lately I've been realizing it helps me a lot to step out of my shell and reach out to other people, it helps me not be so self-absorbed and it lessens my anxiety. It's something that I'm still working on and it's difficult for me, but I can see the improvement in my mental state and my happiness when I do. This video helped cement some things I've kinda known subconsciously for a while. It just helps to hear somebody say it. And know I'm not the only one. Thank you.
This is beautifully articulated, thank you.
Dude, you really get it, thank you sooo much!! I am crying right now, because I feel so misunderstood and it is just so healing to hear this and have someone emphatise with it. You nailed it bro! Thanks!
This has definitely been my process and it was right after high school that shift in my view of the world drastically changed and a new healthier, vibrant, loving way of being was my new focus. Balance of appreciating myself and my inner world and being more open to the world in front of me. A blessing.
Thank you for this video 🙏
Wow what you are saying is so true. I'm INFP. I really think I needed to hear this. Well articulated and insightful. Thanks.
Geez! My first comment in your channel although I've been watching your videos, listening to your ideas and experiences for some time now. This one especially and other circumstances have given me the courage to start contributing here.
I've been working as a teacher and I think that despite bureaucracy and stuff, I've been able to learn useful skills like sharing more what I know and sometimes what I feel and experience, for example. There's still many things I want to do like becoming a more financially independent person and even if it's tough I know I can do it. Thanks for reading me!
My God... This is like my main problem..It helps so much to see it and hear someone speak about it..
Thank you so, so much! This really helped me a lot. Bridging that gap between the inner and outer world is what I have focused on learning the past few years and I have become much better at it. Though it really takes time and patience with yourself and belief that there is nothing wrong with you. It's just a matter of learning how to communicate. So thanks for voicing that so well.
+WholeWheatSandwich Happy to hear :)
It takes time... and will always take time because there’s no end! Just improvements. lol
Well put, much appreciated.
Spot on ... Thanks for making this video :)
Great video 🤟🏾🔥❤️
Tremendously helpful yes. If I have commented before it isn’t because I’m chatty but I need to hear these things more than once. And wanna make sure I thank you.
Its honestly astonishing to hear you talk. It sounds so much like the way i think. Then reading the comments here from other infps is crazy how i just immediately relate. Its so comforting to finally fee understood and that there’s other people like me. Also, can we just agree how exhausting being an infp is😂🤦🏻♀️
Your voice seems like a therapy.. as an idealist its really hard for me to be a realist. I thought I'm just immature because of the many scenes and ideas that coming from my mind.. Now I'm turning 25 and I just learned my personality.. I'm wishing that by watching videos like this.. I'll make a self growth and see my potential as a woman.
Watching this video, I found myself finishing your sentences. It's so nice watching videos or talking to people who are truly riding the same wavelength.
Very wonderful video. ♡
+Cierra Umac cool! Thanks for watching and commenting ^^
Love your videos! You are one deep infp hehe.. greets from an infp :)
+LYLA hey hey. Thank you. :)
All infp's are deep in there own ways.
I have to say thank you so much on how you have explained how an infp feel and how we think,and react to our environment around us. Thank you!!!!.
Sincerely an INFP,
Kara Farias
What you say regarding “struggling/fighting against the world” resonates so strongly for me... I’m hoping to cultivate further awareness regarding my dominant and auxiliary functions to help bridge the gap to being a more extroverted thinker, but it just feels so daunting to me at this point! I find life and the world such convoluted things at times; it feels so much easier to just exile myself into my proverbial cave lol. Ughh so frustrating!
This is very helpful! I'm so glad I came across this. I sense I'm going through a turning point and sometimes I question if this is right or if I'm turning into someone I'm not supposed to be. Now I have more peace as this video served as confirmation that I need to trust the process. No rush since premature deliveries and arrivals can be problematic. Yeah I don't want that. I've had enough of fighting in my life😅
Thank you for sharing your INFP growth journey and providing comfort by doing so🙏🏾
thanks a lot for this insight it was really needed!!
As usual, I struggle to put words on exactly what I felt watching this, but holy moly, I sure felt it deep.
Thank you, I'm infp and your explanation so resonate with me.
+sunny W Awesome. Happy to hear that it helps. Keep exploring!
Thank you for sharing your understandings and experiences. It helped me to have a better understanding of what I was feeling. I can relate to what you have mentioned about, until you have been truly exposed to the experience of heart breaking disappointments. That compromises your core values of the universal aspects of humanity. Once you graduate from the negative feelings of blaming the world, you start to shift and evolve your reality into your true self at present.
I am at a stage where I already did INFJ's door slamming and now focusing on boundaries.
Good! Boundaries are sooo important - especially for your type. Good luck with your journey!
a lot of these are my thoughts exactly !
Insightful. Like someone else in the comments said, your tone and speech patterns remind me of my own. Sometimes though other Infps come across quite differently. I wonder, has anyone ever doubted your type? They certainly have mine.
Cool. I’m really getting more interested in speech patterns of types. I’d love to spend more type studying it.
People think I’m all sorts of types. lol
IxTx seems to be a common direction. What to people see you as?
I took the Myers-Briggs tests over and over again and got various results but I resonate most with INFP.
Needed this, Thanks!
Happy to help :)
once again I’m commenting on another video and saying that it’s such a beautiful things to find someone I can relate to this much!
I find it difficult to be exposed to the world, certain people that I trust are okay though. While I know that going out and exploring and engaging with others will allow me to grow... but for now I just feel like I wanna grow by exploring myself by myself, or with the environment I love to be in.
I would say, as an INFP, my own journey, my own mistakes that I did by my decision allowed me to know myself and grow even though these experiences were bitter and tough.... at least that for now...
Damn.. i cried to this. Thank you... Thank you so much
You actually made me cry. You just explained a lot what I went through and I'm still not out of the woods yet.
Keep going!
This is exactly how my growth journey has been like so far. I also feel like the past 2 or 3 years is where I have grown so much, learned so much about myself, about others and the world; as well as learning things to improve my skills.
Thank you for this video
you described the infp journey so well ;;u;;
Btw I love your voice it's so calming
Definitely helped thank you
I totally relate & this is helpful
Nonviolent communication ftw
+Vlad Stavarache woot
Geek Psychology for expressing oneself assertively. Marshall Rosenberg, look it up.
Thank you! I feel like im begining to figure out how i need to communicate with others better. Instead of my perspective of them just not giving a shit, I realize i have to be able to openly communicate my feelings values boundaries etc.. And not speak in paraboles.. To communicate in general lol..in a straight forward not so deep way if i decide to connect my bridge lol but for me, just understanding that we all have baggage/toxicity whatever you want to call it.. and understanding that about others is how they have become who they are.. It makes it easier to not question why someone would react ..say in a rude way or recognize they hold their values because of their own life journey. Instead of judging them or getting "butt hurt" for others not holding my values on the same pedestal that I do. Doesn't make them bad people at all.. I empathize lol cuz i am often misunderstood. I have to change the way i communicate and learn how to communicate with the outer world if i want to embrace ... Idk the words lol but i can feel the feelings in my head from it
Wow, I get you. No specifics, but when you talk about certain scenario, visuals would come up. Thank you
I finally am getting there. Trusting the Extraverted Intuition and getting out of my comfort zone and expressing my thoughts and feelings and ideas and accepting all of them whether or not I initially want to agree with them. I’m finally feeling at peace with myself because, yeah, I did have my own set of standards as to what a good person looked like and I was afraid to be anything else. I beat my true self down because that wasn’t something acceptable to society. But now I’m falling in love with myself and I’m less afraid now. I’m less likely to take crap from anyone. It’s been a beautiful journey and I feel like my soul is unchained. I am infinite and I am at peace. I am strange and ever changing but as long as I don’t lose the spark that makes me myself, I have nothing to fear
Time is depth and motivation doesn't need to be effort, it can be a pleasure when you do it from your softest softness its a luxury an hand held soulful endeavor, the softer you go in the hardline world the more of a buffer you create to help you make it, put yourself around the right people who support working softness they are out there, learn the words working/effortlessness, things need not be hard(the secret to thriving as an INfP) the moxie that softness brings!LOL
Thank you..!!! just thank you...
You have a great smile! Also, really getting a lot from your videos.
Great, man
I've heard we as INFPs aren't that socially compatible to each other but I believe it depends on people's level of maturity. I think matured INFP have the best ways to connect and relate to each other.
Anyway, what makes you more attractive is your voice. At least for me, that is.
INFP here. I love calming, soothing voices, too!
I want to recommend a calming singing voice to you. Zhou Shen singing "Memory", "Love like a Colored Glass", "Rebel Princess OST", and "Big Fish". As an INFP, I get lost in this voice.
OMG! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I needed this so much. My world has been falling apart and I've been so lost. I'm ashamed to say I have been contemplating suicide for the first time in my life, yet I knew it wasn't an option because I have two beautiful boys I could Never leave. Plus the love of my life committed suicide, so I KNEW it wasn't an option. A few days ago I literally said to myself; "Well, I'm just going to hurt and feel like this for the rest of my life because I don't know what to do or what is what or who I am anymore.. About a week ago I watched my first personality video and it just happened to be mine, INFP. I dont know if I was crying more because I was overwhelmed or crying because FINALLY someone was talking like they GOT ME. UNDERSTOOD ME. That Never happens! Which lead me to your video. Sorry for the novel, I'm just SO grateful for the time, effort, realness and heart you poured into this. I can't Express that enough! I am 27 about to be 28 so I'm praying this is also my mini life crisis or something. But you have given me the strength to lite my fire inside again and just get this shit done. When I barely had the energy to get up or eat every day. So Thank You Again! Please make more RAW videos like this. We Need them!
I'm sorry for your struggles. Stay strong for you and your family. Email me at sherman@inowfeelpositive.com