INFP Career Help and Advice from an INFP
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The problem with being an INFP is that I love people, they're so fun and interesting, but also I hate people because they're so exhausting.
That’s every infp’s problem haha. Apparently I come off as an extrovert at first because of how nice I can be to strangers. But I reeallyyy need my own space a lot of the times. It’s a tough life, infj’s have that issue too
totally accurate
@@Gloopp trueeeee
Omg exactly!!! lol
@@Gloopp I know, right?!? Like is so crazy bc everyone seem to be tricked by us bc we seem so nice and calm and we agree with all what they say and are always smiling but then we are like "Uhh, and when are you gonna leave?" without words obviously bc we all know that we would never say something so mean bc what if they think that we want them to leave?!
I don't know. As an INFP, I have compassion, but people are exhausting. I don't want to socialize; I want to create.
Same xD
Same
It's very weird lol. I was thinking about doing animation, photography and/or 3d graphic design. You can show others emotions and even inspire through the use of visual arts, and since we're usually creative it can work out nicely. I'm still in highschool though, so a lot can change down the road
Gloopp I'm well out of college and wish I had understood MBTI earlier. I wanted to do 3D animation and even took a class or two in it but ended up majoring in computer networking for the money. Thing is, I never cared enough about computer networking to ever get very good at it, so I ended up not making a lot of money anyway, doing something I don't really enjoy. Just something to consider.
Gloopp im a 3D character artist for games i would say this is a great path to walk. Its a hard one, but very rewarding and requires a lot of hard work and passion to do, but it seems like infp’s fits this well because its creative and you get to collaborate with people to create visually interesting things, but you also get your alone time when you sit down and actually do the work. Its an awesome job, but like i said very hard to get your foot in the door you need to grind.
I'm not gonna do what you want me to do, mom, dad... world
classic world always trying to get ya!
It's happening to me right now...
Thx to this mentality I've always refused to study 😁
I didn't want to be a teacher or a nurse dad, sorry! I march to my own drumbeat even if you are too close minded to hear it. I will go in this way, and find my own way out. When I want guidance or advice I will ask, if not, just support me.
Same. 23 here, gonna quit my job on Monday cause it sucks and it doesn't suit me.
I have a few questions for you. Have you ever felt like you're not good at anything? Or not creative? You know you are creative, but it's just blocked somehow or you haven't found a way to express it? Like writer's block? These are some of my struggles.
Of course. I'll see if I can find a beneficial way to say it and put it on video :P
@@GeekPsychology thank you❤
Ugh, yes. Hello person who understands me lol
Yup, I love art, music, singing, dancing, creating short stories (in my mind), thinking of many visions and ideas, leanrning about languages. But none of these things leave my mind, because I'm blocked, I just can't express it. I wish could come out with my world to other peoples, but doing it alone is so hard. For me the solution are other people.
So I think you should find someone similar to you, someone you feel safe/comfortable with, someone who UNDERSTANDS you. Searching will be hard.
From my experience, I have few "friends" (it's not a friends friends but we talk and hangout together... why in english everybody is a friend, even a person I barely speak with? anyway) I enjoy to talk to. I know they get what's on my mind, they see true me, cuz they are INFP like me. xD And I am sure that if we became the best friends, I wouldn't be affraid of following my dreams, passions, ideas, believes beacause they already inspire me to doing stuffs. (We're not bfs because I am too affraid to take another step, to take it a little bit higher)
I wish you a friend/partner who wil inspire and motivate you to doing, to express yourself
P.S. I'm sorry for long and bizarre answer. I'm not native english speaker, plus I had 1 000 000 000 thoughts I wanted to send you.
@@sinaron1494 a good word for someone you barely talk to is "acquaintance" for future reference :) By the way, your English was pretty good!
I am an INFP and I once did a very repetitive and monotonous job in a warehouse that one wouldn't think an INFP would like, but what I liked about it was that I could physically work on "autopilot", while allowing my imagination to wander wherever it wants.
I can relate to that, sorting mail, picking strawberries, packing potatoes.
Thats why I like cleaning. I put on a podcast or something and just vaccume and clean the desks and I can't mess things up and have instant gratification while also being satisfied I am making the world better, even if it's just in this office building.
Same!
Literally me! Like in the “zone”
Same here!
I’m an INFP in my 40’s and have some thoughts about career choices. I think the problems come from a lot conflicting and contradictory feelings.
- Helping others but not wanting to be around others: I think a lot of INFP want to help people but also have trouble being around people. I’m like that but went into a career that forces me to interact all the time. We tend to like deeper and less superficial thinking so things that allow deeper thoughts and connections work better.
- Great ideas but poor productivity: We’re dreamers after all but can’t find that structure to make them happen. Too much structure stifles creativity but you do need some to actually make things happen. You have to accept and place some structure to achieve some goals even if you do sacrifice some creative thought.
Idealism and perfectionism: We don’t like the idea of sacrificing our ideals for anything but that causes us to seek perfectionism. No job is perfect. Every job has some mundane part. There should some balance between the enjoyable and mundane. Find something that gives you enjoyment but has bad parts you can mostly tolerate.
- Ambition and authenticity: Being dreamers we do get these lofty ideas. We want to achieve a lot but not have to be fake or cruel. Find a job that rewards compassion and honesty.
- Leisure and laziness: I think we live a world of instant gratification. If it doesn’t please us now we move on. Watching youtube is an example where we just move on to the next video once we’re bored. When it comes to careers it’s better to work hard now in order to get delayed gratification. It may be a struggle but you have to grind things out which contradicts the idea that everything should be easy and enjoyable. Putting in that work gives you the knowledge and skills to make things easier later. If you don’t have to worry about money and your career as you get older it makes life much easier so you have more time for leisure, vacation, ideas and family. Putting off work and stress now creates a life of greater work and stress later.
- Creative energy and recharge: Sometimes we have bouts of great ideas and other times when we just want to rest. Do rest if you need to but try to maximize those creative episodes and not let them go to waste. Write them down, even if you don’t have all the details. Come back to that idea when you’re back with creative energy.
- Individualism and listening to society: We want to be true to our individual selves and embrace our uniqueness. It’s a relationship where we can try to help make changes to society to help it but we should also be open to listening to others to improve ourselves. We embrace our strengths but should always strive to improve our weaknesses.
That’s all I have for now. Let know if you agree or disagree with anything. Hopefully this helps someone.
You really are yoda man, yoda man.
Wise you are!! Great comment, very helpful
Great
Very insightful. Thanks for sharing them!
hi, what profession/s you've been to? thanks!
Ahhh the great challenge of wanting to help people and be apart of a community but also being antisocial at the same time lol
Do you know your Enneagram type? Social 9 perhaps?
Geek Psychology I don’t actually, I’ve been meaning to look into it more. I think when I previously read about them, I identified with type 9 and 4
We want the option to be social, not the obligation to be. I now understand this concept
Haha 😂
letz keep it straight and simple
'I want to try everything out' in my mind and on my couch 😂
edit: yepeee so many like thanks all
love to know m not alone being lazy😆 what so bad about calling ourselves lazy lolz nobody is doing much better atleast we are not showing off by being fake 😂😂😂😂now this thing will trigger some people (sry but not sorry) thatz why we keep quit most of the time.
That could not be more accurate... Too true. xD
That's how I feel.
Lol so true
wow ive literally never related to anything as much as this comment
This right here ...I took the test and yep INFP here
I have to laugh because I think all of us INFP’s feel that, “this is below me” when we’re in jobs/careers that don’t align with our highest values and sense of self... but from the outside looking in I want to strangle myself for thinking that way.... Yet the feeling remains 😬🤣
I swear the world of work is designed for ESTJs...being the complete opposite obviously isn’t a great start :/
My counselor who sort of specializes in personality profiling says the same thing.. The world was "designed" for ESTJs. We INFPs have a inherit challenge to deal with. Good luck
Salvatur7 agreed, and good luck also
@rocky mountain lass I always try to balance staff, like if you get too many guys they make a frat party, too many women like to tear each other down. i think xxxj have secret language to make xxxps miserable.
I’m a therapist/councilor and I feel that it’s a great job ( yes I am an INFP)
Or more possibly this profit and productivity oriented world is mostly executed by ESTJs so of course it's the easiest for them
I think it would be helpful/intriguing if you interviewed INFP's who have found their calling and can tell us their journey to get there. Or, just more career-focused vids!
this would be so helpful
Yes PLEASE! :/
Agree!
agreed! i love hearing about what others do!
I wld specifically like to hear an older, more mature, wiser INFP woman!!! (Since the majority of INFP's r female) Throughout my life, ive been considered a "jack of all trades, master of none". I used to think.of that as NOT a compliment but now i realize i am "a jack of all trades mastering some!" This good stuff, ty!
Myers-Briggs is such an amazing typing system, because literally every time I listen to an INFP talk I just feel like I'm listening to one of my own.
It’s weird, isn’t it?
@@GeekPsychology ..it's amazing !
For all my fearful INFPs out there that are scared to choose the wrong career; it's never too late to change career/your mind. You're alive so it's never too late. Just try something and go from there, don't spent time endlessly thinking about whether this is the right career or not. Follow your intuition and do something (im also trying to accept this advice) ❤
tysm for the comforting words!!! I needed that rn because I was stressing out on what career path to choose (though im still in highschool) that I didn't realized that I have plenty of time to think about things. Tysm for this!!!!
Tysm for the kind advice! I'm currently studying smth that is so called a secure career but I don't think it suits me so now I know I should explore to diff careers
Having a mother that is an ESTJ, I have been living my whole life like something is wrong with me... Videos like these makes me love myself a little
WOAH SAME! Im INFP and my mom is ESTJ... was basically always told something is wrong with me...
@Lacey true our relationship is so toxic that physical abuse and even emotional was normal but the weird thing is whenever we are in public I have to act like we are this ideal mother and daughter to people because if I don't I would be ungrateful
@@lipsohlips97 it's ok you have your own strengths it just so happened that our weaknesses are their strengths...
@@lalalily_0016 Mmm very valid point I had not considered!
@@lipsohlips97 Same !!
my biggest fear is I'll live my life and never know who I am or what I want to do. I'll be middle aged and still unhappy. I don't want to be unhappy, I'm so tired of struggling already.
I'm 22 now and I fear of this everyday
same. im 23 and we are born to be struggle and using mask to cover up our emotion. I hope we will find happiness one day at the correct time
It is a struggle, that fear of when the end comes, will we look back on our lives only to recognize we never lived? I think it was Thoreau who put it along those terms, found it illuminating or at least comforting to be understood. On the positive side though, is it not that fear and despair that drives us to seek new paths? In other words, maybe it is precisely by introspection and self awareness that we have at least a chance of finding a path on which we can walk happily.
@@zargothrax9564that's a nice way of looking at it. I think you're right, without the fear maybe we wouldn't take risks, only to feel like we lived. thank you
@@zargothrax9564 maybe you are right. But taking too many risk to be happy is such a big moves for infp. It could affect the mental health of someone who has low self esteem. But That is a positive way of thinking☺️ keep it up 👍
I'm gonna die someday, I need to do something with my life
friiick
Amyeh I feel you Xd
I Feel you too
Me too
Me right now lol
INFPs will definitely have a hard time finding a place in this career-driven world. Independence and creativity are very important to us. We love to do things on our own pace. We are also agreeable to a fault. Sadly, these traits do not align well with the competitive and performance-based culture among workplaces. To other INFPs out there, which career do you feel fulfilled most? I think careers related to psychology, music, and writing are top choices. I work in healthcare, by the way. 😁
Somehow psychology and writing seems the most interesting for me
haha, writing seems good to me too, but I don't think I'm good enough. Though I do think I'll be good in song writing, but I lack connections sadly
I also work in healthcare but the target, deadline driven settings and I wrote an email to my boss a few days ago asking to be drop to a lower, less demanding position . I can't give more than I am and just wanna walk away but I need the money...
Writing is top for me. I'm also very interested in drawing, so I already thought multiple times about what if I wrote a comic or smth- sadly, that is a very low-gaining industry 😢 It makes me feel so crushed and useless.
I thought of becoming a nurse, but hey it's so practical for me, despite the fact that I truly care about other people's well-being, plus I don't think I would recover from the pain of seeing others pass away 😓. However I love writing and communicating with people so maybe that might be good fit for me. I'm 27 years haven't found a career but I'm in a process, hopefully next year I'll be in a university doing it.
Activities I like: Playing games, playing piano (though it's been ages) What am I good at? I guess writing and drawing? What does the world need? Empathy and compassion. I just ... have zero clue what I can do. :( Writing and drawing requite motivation which I don't have sometimes. I feel like all my life, I've been living someone else's life and not my own, I never got to explore what I wanted or it was brief and then taken away. I made decisions by not making any decisions, feeling powerless while the room slowly fills up with water. :/ Just ... awful. I'd love a solid direction or encouragement towards something. I don't know. I'm tired of being confused and directionless all the time.
feel you
Oh, we're almost the same except for the part with piano, I played the guitar for a short time. I understand what you feel, but you can always take it up again--what you wanted and see if the passion you had for it is still there. Maybe it's become a small flame that you just haven't noticed because of all the confusion you feel right now or it's been put out, but why let it be put out? It's also you that decide to light it or not.
I can't tell you what direction to go honestly because that is almost like me controlling you what to do and I don't want that. As an INFP myself, I dislike being told what I should do by others when it's not their life. I can only tell you is look in yourself, deep in you and when you ask your questions on a direction, try to look around, maybe just maybe the answers you've been waiting for your questions has been hanging around you, but you haven't noticed because of worry. If you still haven't maybe you just need to step out there to find it.
(Sorry if this sounded err.. a bit nagging to you, but I do understand what you feel and want to help you too. Maybe I'm not the best person to give you advice. So, take what I say as a grain of salt. In the end, whatever our present is we can't blame anyone, but ourselves for it.)
@@mirus6190 Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. It's interesting that since a month ago, my odd love for languages has surfaced again. Currently learning Japanese and I've always loved Chinese. I'll pick up piano again soon. The keyboard I have is limited so, that's partly why I haven't gone back to it yet.
It was actually very nice to get advice from someone who understands. I didn't get any nagging feeling at all from you, though funnily enough, I feel I'm surrounded by people who nag or just have very cold advice that doesn't resonate with me at all. Hmm. I understand, what with being raised by controlling people and never given any true freedom. For me, I'd just like direction. I know that my life does need changing - and it will very soon anyway, needing to step out and get employed somewhere. That last line of yours resonated a lot with me, even if it is a bit hard to swallow, it's still the truth. :) I'm trying to accept that about myself and little by little, I am. Thank you again for the response. It did help.
@@nomadicgamer9466 That is awesome to know!!! Coincidentally it's the same time you made your comment. 😀 The Universe at it's work.
Hmm. Funny thing.. when I was younger probably around ten that I got interested in chinese and then japanese later on because of the influence of anime. Right about now, Ive gone through four languages that I tried learning. 😅 But I'm more inclined to writing and drawing.
Anyway, cheers to our happiness, and may we always find reasons to smile and see the beauty of life. :)
@@mirus6190 what a great answer. Good luck!
I hate how conflicting my personality type is! Being an INFP can be such a struggle. Thanks for the video, it was helpful
so helpful
As a not-so-typical INFP (I got 53% on introvert and 54% on feeling but 86% on intuitive, 96% on prospecting, and 61% on turbulence...), I found myself hard to relate to the "help people" part as I am not willing to play a sort of "compensating" role in the world. Yes, I feel good when people like me or attracted by me, but it's not what I'm pursuing. For me, quality interaction with people serves more like self-confidence restoration. Rather than teaching or counselling, I would prefer more creative jobs to present my mind, intelligence, and sensory experiences. Also finding a fun job with both leisure and high payment sounds like a fairy tale to me, especially the payment part. I almost feel like being INFP is an illness that only rich people could afford to get.
I'm thinking about working part-time as a bartender and do some creative job during the day but I feel really insecure about it. I also thought about going to grad school for a master degree in psychology, and become a psychiatrist but first, English is not my native language which is the biggest obstacle; second, it requires huge investment while I am not sure if I'm going to like it; third, just imagine being restricted in a closed office listen to patients as someone who's vulnerable to mental illness herself... so I abandoned that plan...
"dont work in a job where you're in a cubicle and there's a lot of rules and structure because you're going to go home and feel dead and not want to work on your other passions" I feel that. Currently stuck in the cubicle 9-5 structured job and hating it. Trying to figure out my passion so I can find the right degree to go after. Started doing some art and I'm not very good at it yet but I enjoy it but tend to not have the energy to work towards making myself better at the end of the day when I come home. Also the wanting to work fewer hours and still make money, really felt that one.
Sameee struggling with finding a job though
I've worked at pawn shops, warehouses, and retailers and they all made me hate my life.
I currently freelance art and can't afford to eat but I'm way happier.
CRANTIME i feel you
Fellow INFP here
Jobs where I flourished: Hospitality and Retail
Job I failed at: Office job, in a cubicle, doing the same thing every week. 4 years of torture.
Got fired from the office job because my pride prevented me from quitting a job I hated. Now working retail and went from an entry level sales associate to a store manager in less than a year! There are shitty days but overall I love it!
Amazing!
Store manager infp? Huh
@@Lawltasticness inferior Te workout/aspiring
lindahl it can be a challenge for sure but I’m improving every day. Definitely pushes me out of my comfort zone.
INFP here! Got fired from a reta job after 3 years of hell (but dramatic I know but it was a super hard job for me..)
Currently in an office cubicle style job for the last two years and it’s going well. I find it very interesting we have such similar personalities but our career paths are so different. 🙂
I left my cubicle IT support job at a bank and became a carpenter. I've had about 7 or so major jobs before leaving customer service/sales altogether. Carpentry is the perfect mix of structure and creativity and also very fulfilling artistically. I love working with my customers and teaching them about what I created. My purpose, my end goal is to build my own house from the ground up and have a tiny farm, so I've been doing remodeling as well as carpentry to learn a bit of everything. You are so spot on.
Now I just have to try living in like 15 other places around the world before I can decide where I want to build that house LOL. The struggle.... My wife at least understands now that we are going to live sporadically. We've lived in Washington, Oregon, and now Texas. Maybe Maine will be next
I thought there was something wrong with me until I found out apparently I'm an INFP and it drives my family nuts! Coz we African and we don't care that much about personality types most people aren't educated about that so to everyone else I'm just unmotivated and lazy and need to keep being pushed and being told what to do which I completely hate... I'm glad I found this video because I just graduated and I'm thinking of what I want to do, and I'm just like stuck at travel far far away from my entire family 😂😂😂😂 but yeah your video resonates so deeply with me I do not want to sit in a cubicle for hours or spend my day talking to people over the phone or worse being told what to do all day I absolutely hate being told what to do! But with this advice I feel I can constructively find something to do that I will absolutely enjoy! Thank you! Subscribed from Kenya! Keep up the good work amazing content!
Omg as an African I so relate, the amount of times my mom has preached to me about being bold & decisive... & in some respects I think she's right but also it sucks that she can't understand that being decisive is something I have to learn & push myself to do, not something that comes naturally to me like with her.
Fellow Nigerian INFP here as well.I have been where you are at, idk your ages but I am 28. Probably everyone thinks you are being a rebel for doing things the tradition way and it’s going to get even more frustrating as you get older.The best advise I can offer you is continue to hold true to yourself and keep trying to learn about yourself so you can explain to your family why you do things the way you do. And it going to feel awkward because they will at times feel like you are odd. Just continue to learn about yourself more
I'm 25 and finally settled on a career. I'm now a hairdresser, and as an INFP, it was a great choice!
Gryffin Bird how do you like it I’ve always loved nails and want to be a tech. I’ve been to beauty school 2x (never finish) 1 for hair and the other time for skin
I would maybe consider being a hairdresser, but I’m bad at talking, and usually when I get my haircut they make some small talk, but I’m too shy for that 😞
Theo Shaphat Nayak oh okay, i see. i’m just terrible with small talk, that’s all 🤣
I hated beeing a hairdresser. But some infp May like it 😊
I bet you aren't one of those hairdressers who attempt to make small talk constantly haha
At first I studied Architecture, I choose not out of everything and within time constraint..
In the end after I graduate this is not I want hence I jumped to Arts Management. After studied for 3years and while serving my country (National Service), I am so lost I kept asking myself what do I want in life..
Now I’m a Social Worker. I studied Social Work in university, till now I have no regret.. I would said INFP is really late boomers.. but don’t give up everyone out there INFP
You have went through in diverse way of your life. Interesting, your carriers are what I considered to have. Why Architecture is not your thing? And are you satisfied now as a social worker? I am considering now for this carrier (geriatric care) but I am not that sure because of the 3 work shift..
i know this is an old thread but i would be super curious to hear your thoughts on studying and pursuing architecture! i have studied architecture for three years now and at times i’ve felt absolutely sick of it. i chose the career when i was in a bad place mentally i guess and i let other people’s opinion influence me a lot. there was no real passion whatsoever, at least not during the first two years or so. there was also that time constraint you mentioned too... however fast forward, some months ago i decided enough is enough and applied to study psychology. i was accepted. but now i am just torn. i kinda thought this could be more aligned to what i actually like... but i’m not sure. there’s constant push and pull - what would be reasonable vs what would be best for me. sorry for this ramble. i’m just so tired of doubting myself and feeling like i never can be content.
@@parus_1671 Architecture is very Te field, so it might be quite draining for them (need to be critique openly, strict environment,high workload etc) but in the long term its good for INFPs in developing their Te. Im an INTP(?) and pursuing architecture too for a really simple reason; developing creativity to improve my thinking. I like the creativity aspect in this field and learning the concept of structures or generally thereotical knowledge is fascinating to me. Unfortunately when it comes to make things real or hands on work (which is the main point of this field of course) im really struggling. I experience trouble in focusing into one idea and creating something 'fix' as i always jumping into one idea to another idea and let previous idea left underdeveloped that lead to difficulty in model making process (blame Ne?). My lecturer even told me that I stuck in my head too much. I try to follow her advice but I just couldnt, plus with zero passion. Anyway in contrary to most Se or Ni users, I observed that they seems to have no trouble in idea development due to their focus nature especially when pair with Te which somehow explains why INTJ being called Architect in 16p lol. Now I cant help but coming to the conclusion that Architecure is not suitable for INxPs nature, unless they really have a real passion because architecture is a type of courses that someone can't join only 'for fun'. This field surely require a huge effort; to get out from our mind and make things real. Our brain are not wired this way as we think abstractly and creating things conceptually (writing is a good example), not much in reality. Im not saying we couldnt create real concrete things, just hard.
I prefer to deal the world from distance so im thinking to change into computer science, IT that require passive activity or probably social sciences but social science have lack job oppoturnity in my country. I believe INFP can relate to "dealing with life from distance" in some level (Se blind), but hey at least they could imagine themselves as social workers (dealing with life directly) while im not as it would be too much pressure for my inferior Fe despite how appealing social studies to me. I dont know if its applicable to INTP generally, because exposing or showing my kindness is enough to make me anxious. Helping people indirectly by not letting people know who i am is the better option.
By the way in your case, before you change to Psychology, do you ever think about another option?
@@aonaohafa thank you for taking the time to reply! sorry in advance if my reply will be too long haha
yeah a big part of architecture is pure Te (management etc) even though at a first glance it could seem more like an Ni or Ne (creativity etc) type of field. i'm not sure of my type (i keep getting INFJ on tests but idk, i can relate a lot to INFP and even INTP) but Te and Se are definitely my weakest functions. and they are for sure important in architecture... however as you said, architecture is a great channel to improve those aspects! i've gotten so much better at taking critique and managing stress even though i still struggle with those more than most people in my course haha...
i've always been better at creating things conceptually i suppose. especially languages, writing and reading have always been easy and fun for me. (now this needs a sidenote once again, english is not my native language so if this text is a mess it would have to do with that lol.) but i'm usually bad at leaving things be and so even though i've at times had zero interest to this field and even hatred towards myself for making a decision to pursue this based on so stupid reasons, such as other people's opinion, i've just banged my head against a wall and continued... that was very bad for my wellbeing and i was miserable to be honest.
i've had problems with indecisiveness regarding ideas as well but probably even bigger problem for me is that i get stuck to one idea and obsessively pursue it even though it clearly has things that could be better. but that's the hard balance between reasonable amounts of work and perfectionism.
that's interesting you mention you prefer dealing with life from a distance. i've thought about that recently - is helping people directly just some kind of ego dream i have when in reality it'd exhaust me? i'm not sure but i very much can imagine myself doing some sort of counceling etc. but at this point i think i probably have to give psychology a shot and try it for a bit to see. get out of my head for once... sigh.
i have thought about another options as well. in the past especially i was very Ne-like and wanted to pursue many things from astronomy to sociology and economics to engineering. i don't want to close doors necessarily but i think engineering or very number-based sciences wouldn't be a good fit after all. i really really love languages but it has the thing you mentioned as well, not good job market. but i'd most likely really enjoy that type of field - aka everything architecture (traditionally) is not lol.
anyway whatever i end up doing from now on i can safely say that these years with architecture haven't been completely in vain. i hope i can apply my not-good but better-than-before Te and Se skills to whatever i might end up doing. i've even had some ideas on how to combine these two fields... but who knows.
omg same! i studied 3 years in architecture and finding a job is struggling. especially after the covid, my plan went down the drain. my passion dies and i find myself being depressed. im still trying to find a path for myself im glad u did!
I've been in a rut since I've started college because I don't know which career is my "passion". Psychology really interests me and it would be so purposeful to me if I could help people through being a therapist, but I do fear the task would be very draining as well. I realized that besides being interpersonal that my other skills lied in art careers such as creative writing and digital art/photo manipulation. So I have decided I'm going to be a graphic designer, hoping that it'll satisfy my wants for helping people by knowing I'm helping them with their brand. Sorry, I know this is long, but I would just like to let you know I felt a weight lifted off my chest when you said we gravitate towards graphic design. It gives me more hope that I've chosen the right career!
Awesome! I hope it works out well for you :) There are many ways to help people - it doesn’t have to always be in the stereotypical way of counseling.
I started going into graphic design too in my first semester of university - though I’d studied it on and off before that too.
Exactly my train of thought. :) I endet up studying Human-Computer-Interaction. Its Psychology + Computer Science + a little Design
annichan91 can you tell me more about this human-computer-interaction? I studied computer science and now I’m in a 9-5 job in a cubicle - and I usually hate it. I’m thinking I chose the wrong career and now I’m considering trying to go back to college. :(
Fox In ur case since u already have a degree I think it might be a waste of time and money going back for another degree. Seriously half of it I'm probably not using or I forgot it. Focus on learning the knowledge u didn't study, watch udemy courses or read books. Topics like UX-Design, UI-Design (they are two different things), learn about Designfundamentals (Shapes, Colors ...), working/designing with Photoshop or something like Sketch or AdobeXD (I DIDNT learn those at university). I studied in germany, so the things that are taught might be different for other universitys/colleges in other countries. Check out the curriculums in your country, the topics that are taught and see if u can learn some with books. U know probably half of it cuz its computer science. A lot of the Psychology I learned was interesting, but I dont need that much really now. I ended up picking up Html, CSS and Javascript and went for a Frontend-Job (including stuff that a UX-Designer would do). Oh and if you want to go more towards UX-Research, that means u need knowledge about Interviewing and Questionairs, their types and statistics + how to use programs that help u interpret ur findings. But Interviewing-skills in general is something a UX or UI-Designer needs. It means u are designing UIs with the user as the focus and the goal is to create a UI that is easy to use and understand, without the user having to memorize too much. A UI doest have to be graphical, it can also be a Voice-Interface for example. Then u need knowledge about computerlinguistics. It really depends on what u might like AND what employers are searching for, which skills.
If you enjoy design + psychology, look into ux design
INFP here. Diagnosed ADHD (attention deficit) at 54 (currently 55) so yeah, my resume is Tolstoy length.
Some of the highlights:
- dropping 1500'/min for over a mile straight down a shaft in a cage with 80 other guys just to drive electric ore trains around in
tunnels at high speed for 8 hrs (think space mountain on meth but sometimes with explosives)
- designing and building semi and fully robotic test and production fixtures in an automotive electronics manufacturing plant
- working in a cube farm as a formal mechanical designer (always made me think of whack-a-mole}
- Sales Executive for a major multinational equip manufacturer solely responsible for a territory larger than Europe
- co-owner of a salvage/environmental remediation company.
I've been a
- bouncer
- bartender
- waiter
- carpet salesman
- logger
- blaster
- dredger
- mill operator
- differential flotation specialist
I've forgotten half the crap I've done. Currently hiding out working as an assembler building custom service truck bodies while recovering from the catastrophic collapse of a 25 year marriage. Still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. I'm starting to do some writing. Seen some interesting shit.
Can't say how helpful it was for me, but this was a good video, man.
It's moot, damnit not mute Same except I found out at 31 (currently 32). Did meds help at all?
@@shinebabyshine. I apologize in advance for the length of my reply. It's too important a question and a quick answer's potentially dangerous.
In my situation I would have been screwed 6 ways to Sunday without them. Actually, I probably would have eaten a gun,
That said, I don't know your circumstances and I'm not an MD so please don't take that as an enthusiastic general they'll-fix-all endorsement. ADHD, despite being one of, if not THE oldest and most described disorders in the literature, remains one of, if not THE most societally misunderstood and medically misdiagnosed.
My understanding is that 3 genes control whether or not you have ADHD. If you have a defect in 2 of them, you;re either Attention Deficit or Hyperactive. If you have a defect in all 3 then you're both. If you are confident in the diagnosis, but have not yet started on meds, what should be prescribed depends on where you fall in this spectrum.
I'm brutally attention deficit as is my daughter. I take between 15 and 30 mg a day of Dexidrine which is an amphetamine. Same family of drugs as Meth. It's one of the reasons the stuff is locked away tighter than plutonium, even though, to my knowledge, it's not addictive. At least not if you're ADHD. Personally and anecdotally, I've found the disordered take it only when we know we'll need to concentrate and get shit done that we'd normally rather light our face on fire than do. It works immediately, it works well, and It's good for 4-6 hours.
Other than that, we tend to dislike taking it, or just forget. Mostly it's used for a period of time, sometimes years, until you've figured out organizational systems that work for you to replace it
Amphetamines can and do work for hyper activity as well but they've found an anti-depressant based med that can work as well or better. Like most anti-Ds, it takes a while to build in your system before it shows benefit.
There's a crap-ton of info on YT re the topic and if you haven't found the channel yet, I'd suggest starting with "How to ADHD" Jessica's brilliant.
PLEASE be sure of the diagnosis and then work with a professional to determine what if any meds would be beneficial.
And hey, being able to direct and control your ADHD-gifted ability to Hyperfocus (you know what I mean) is a huge advantage.
Hope this helped and take care.
It's moot, damnit not mute Thank you so much for your wonderful reply! It’s good to hear that so many who were diagnosed later in life have found success with meds. Im not hyperactive, but definitely believe I have ADD. I haven’t been diagnosed officially (though my father and sister have been) and will definitely take your testimony into account and do more research on the gene component you mentioned. And though it’s geared toward women, the “ADHD for Smart Ass Women” podcast has been a godsend for me. 🔆
Shine baby shine I'm glad it was helpful. I'm adding this because I don't know where you live or what health services are afforded you. I live in Canada and am fortunate to have access to an excellent universal health care system. I also come from a generation that did, and to a large extent still does, heavily stigmatize ADHD. I, like many, believed it was just a bullshit diagnosis pasted on kids that the system was unable to deal with. I was especially irked when my daughter got pegged with it.
The thing is, she knew at 8 years old that she had something "wrong" with her that was causing her difficulties outside of the norm in school. She tried to tell us. We didn't believe her. No parent wants to believe that their precious child isn't "perfect". When she was 14, she started cutting herself. Alarmed, we took her in and she was assessed with clinical depression and ADHD. They started her on Dexidrine and fluoexitine (Prozac). 19 now, she thankfully is off of the latter and only sporadically takes the former as needed.
My own diagnosis came about in the middle of my life exploding. We were losing our home because I had just lost my third job in a row. These were all jobs that I thought should have been a cakewalk. What I didn't understand was that they all required a high degree of organization to be successful. If you are ADHD, you'll understand that inability in this area is a hallmark of the disorder.
I thought I was suffering cognitive decline. I went to see my Dr. who is 20 years my junior and a Namibian ex-pat with no bias either way regarding ADHD. He asked me about those jobs I was most successful at and the ones I had just been fired from. He immediately drilled in on the fact that the ones I had thrived in were extremely mentally stimulating and required a quick climb up a steep learning curve with creative ability as opposed to the latter which paid more but were routine and required organization.
I did the questionnaire. After looking at it, and knowing my attitude towards the disorder, he said "Your daughter was just diagnosed with ADHD. Where in the hell do you think she got that from?"
He then informed me that it's about 75 to 80% inheritable and told me to go home and research the disorder thoroughly. After I was done that I was to try one of my daughter's pills. He told me that it would either work immediately to organize my thoughts and wrap my head around my current situation, or I would just feel a little more energetic. Either way, I'd know.
I did exactly as directed. When the Dexi kicked in I got that thousand mile stare when you understand what ADHD looks like in adults and realize that it explains your entire life to that moment.
I've you this because you mentioned that your dad an sister were diagnosed, so yeah, there is a very strong chance that you have it as well.
It's moot, damnit not mute omg you ate the kale me!
Entrepreneurship is great for INFP’s, with a little bit of help here and there to keep things rolling. Allows for a great world of possibilities and compliments the world of ideas we have.
how to get startet 😅
I literally just told my boyfriend I felt dead inside after coming home from work. I just started a new/first job as a nurse and I know it's a wonderful career, but I recently came to terms with it and realized there's too much "structure" and "rules" like you mentioned. The patients make my day better but the environment feels 100% wrong for me. They just offered me full time but my passion is music. After hearing what you said about having low hour job that is enough to live off of and working hard on my "side hustle" I decided I'm not going to take the full time just part time/prn. Thank you for your words, it is motivating to be an infp and listen to another infp. It's like you were giving advice on something I had already told myself deep inside.
I hope it works out for you! I can see how that career would be very rewarding but also a lot of structure and rules. Lawsuits and lives on the line.
Get the full time job lady.
@@Maik55732 I'm doing quite well without it though, I'm young no kids dont need the benefits and have plenty saved 😉
@@HappyH4ppyHappy Good luck! I hope you enjoy it and it turns out well. I'm actually finding the positives to nursing, I've realized that as long as I give myself time for writing (which I do I've been writing many songs) it allows me to process my feelings, which in turn allows me to focus on my patients and their needs and hold on to the 'altruism' us infps naturally have.
Hey! Same situation I’m an INFP RN. I worked full time and I was depressed, anxious, and broken from working the nursing floor. I loved the patients - but there was too much constraint. I took a break from clinical nursing and now I’m sitting behind a desk - and I don’t really like that either. I’m going part time in the float pool. It’ll change up my environment more and I can focus on my side passions (I need to finish my novel! And I love volunteer work -unfortunately it doesn’t pay-). I saw in another video that NP may be a path for INFP’s because the work is more independent than Nursing. And specifically Psych NP could be especially rewarding for INFP’s. Just wanted to let you know in case you wanted to do something else with your nursing degree.
I am a INFP Mediator, and am an English teacher, it is my second language and I truly found myself in teaching. I love being able to constantly improve myself, finding new possibilities in how to become a better teacher or what I am teaching and how. Dealing with the struggles of my teenagers and helping them prepare for their futures.
Building their confidence and working through everything they are feeling with them, is so incredibly special to me.
Seeing them understand something or seeing them succeed is one of the best feelings, I cannot describe it.
I like having the freedom of being my own boss in my classroom. I like teaching them about morals and values and listening to their stories.
Even though there are rules of course, they don't suffocate me, I feel like I can handle living by them.
I like that no single day is the same. My schedule can be difficult for sure, but it also helps me to keep somewhat of a schedule during my daily life. Sometimes, getting forced out of my dreamworld and being forced to focus on what is happening right in front of me, can help me as well.
So yes, I chose a job in which I have to interact with a lot of people daily. But I love these connections. I've had a lot, a lot, of different jobs, and working with people, helping them, is the best one for me.
Am I sure about everything and do I look into my future like this is what I am going to do for my whole life? aaaah probably not, since I like to wander, I like to keep growing and experiencing and boy do I need a lot of self improving. I don't like to focus on the future too much, because life is life. But I am thankful to have found something that brings me so much love and joy now.
My advice is: keep wandering until you find something you truly feel good about and that challenges you. And don't focus too much about if that's what you are going to do your whole life. You never know what might happen in the future anyways.
72 hours later... The Voice from SpongeBob says as the camera pants to an INFP laying on a couch.😫
Silly camera pants.
I love that "72 hours later" thing though lol
lol😆
- I love photography, writing and acting. Photography, because it allows me to capture a moment in time. It makes me really appreciate all the little things, which I sometimes tend to forget in a world where people seem to compete with time in a race they could never win. It allows me to pause for a while. Also, editing pictures makes me able to envision the world in a different way. It gives me the amazing gift of letting a magical world emerge from a dull, empty place. It makes my imagination turn into something real. I love writing, because it allows me to process my feelings so incredibly well. Writing lets me escape into a different world, which isn’t necessarily better than ours or in any way different. It’s just that it provides me with the insides I am so desperately longing for. I just want to understand the world a little better and see a little more of what is actually out there cause even though we go through the same experiences and see the same things we still perceive it differently. Writing helps me understand all the different angles and depths of human behavior. Acting allows me to witness the world through different eyes. Since I’m really interested in finding out what the world is really about, acting enables me to feel and see the world from a different point of view. It’s like you’re able to live another life and feel things that you’ve never felt before. It’s like entering a new world, where you DO feel fear, but it’s a different kind of fear. By collecting all this different experiences and emotions, I feel like I can see more of what there really is to the world. We all claim to know what ‘being afraid’ feels like, but is that really true? We name emotions, say that we relate to them, but yet our worlds are so entirely different. Art makes me see a different world with different values and different people. It lets me see a different reality. By playing different people and characters I get to experience what it really means to live and die, see and be blinded, run and be thrown back, love and be hated, to see but never really see, feel but never really feel, to understand but never fully understand.
Thanks for the explanation behind the hobbies!
MEEE THIS IS ME
Celina Bos you are literally my twin! Xoxo
Ashley
Idk if you know kamen rider..but kamen rider decade really fits this definition.. he's a passing through kamen rider..helping others from different worlds..and he also will take pictures from different world as his memorial because he can't stay in a world for a long period of time
Your hobbies and interests are pretty cool. It looks like you are embracing them well and that is amazing, I really wish to know whether have you managed to align these interests with your career. If not I hope you will. I like to write too but haven't had any luck in showing or telling people and still I wish to get job related to it.
"Video didn't freeze, it's me who is just upset at how old I am now"
Is that what we do as INFPs ?
We stop speaking when emotions comes in because they are introverted?
It felt strangely familiar.
And if we don't stop..other person can clearly listen crying sound..and most of the time over phone they even listens..once my crush heard me crying while she was telling her story..😂😂
I am an INFP Industrial Designer. I actually really love my job, and found the right company and feel pretty good helping peoples life, through products that benefit their experience/shoes/sports/cars/ and other stuff. Also always multitasking on several projects so when i have one project that is boring me and i nee to escape i go to the other project focus on it and move back after a while of escaping to the other project.
Cool job! Happy you have a found a job like that!
Im also working degree insudtrial engineer
I grew up watching cartoons (that's where I learned speaking English too) and I was so into it even to this point. Watching documentaries about showrunners and creator telling that it's the best job ever. I eventually took up animation. I was still full of passion even in college. Then I got into the animation industry as an entry level artist. And boy was it not how I imagined it would be. We were overworked for a below average pay, and we were chasing deadlines after deadlines, plus the work environment brushes off so much questionable work ethics. I was miserable. And part of it is because, if you are the creator, then you have the creative freedom; but as a person working on someone else's work, you do nothing but follow what should be done and that's it. It kinda turned the whole "dream job" idea into "I'm not so sure anymore". Don't get me wrong, I still love animation but I hated how everything was behind closed doors. It was basically a sweatshop. I left the studio not even a year.
Now I do freelance work,still in animation and illustrations, which is a thumbs up for doing it your style. Plus I got to meet great people along the way. It's also a landmark moment for me because I feel like I'm taking my direction in my own hands. It's not perfect though. It's still challenging, but it tests you how much you want it.
Hi there! I have a question for you. I grew up watching and loving cartoons too, and I couldn't understand why my friends would like live-action shows like the ones on Disney channel (this is true even now haha). So I'm a senior in high school who is interested in illustration and concept art/character design. I figured that being in the "sweatshop" animation industry is not for me and that being freelance and creating my own style/voice first before taking any gigs is very important to me (also representation for my culture and identity). I also aspire to start an online shop for stickers and prints, and also a youtube channel for live painting as a calm space for others. I know these are things I need in my life.
My question is, do you have another job that you enjoy as financial support? I feel like if I only depend on a freelance career, my creativity would be stifled and I would be really stressed. I've been thinking of being a doctor in integrative medicine (background of both naturopathic medicine and modern medicine) but I'm not sure...it takes so many years of effort and there are so so many paths to get there, I don't even know what major I want or what college to go to...it feels like so much it's overwhelming. I also want to minor in psychology, but I don't know.
For both illustration and the naturopathic side of health, it feels like the world is against me as well as the people around me, saying that these careers aren't stable or lucrative. I wish I was just interested in something that is lucrative 100%, but I guess the world isn't like that for INFPs.
what job do you do
Being an INFP in a world which seems to value only money and success is not easy. Great video btw 👍
Time wasting - It's something I am still struggling in my 30s. Man, how did you break off that?
31 here, still trying to figure this out.
I know
Endless struggle.
Maybe you should try to help somebody or try to make the world better?😉
And me doing in my 23s
Personally, I'm the INFP mediator type and I found myself being more inclined to jobs that involved interaction with other people but in a way that would help them further themselves...I had the opportunity and made opportunities for myself in which I would have the ability to teach others, since I like drawing that's the subject I focused on and I study everyday ways to improve in this subject which is how I came to the conclusion that as much as I wanted to deny this for myself I really do enjoy teaching about art, and creating art. I also found that instead of the usual form of therapy signing up for singing lessons in a place where they would push you to perform in front of others to see how you've progressed in this journey was very nurturing and healing for me. It might be the case for others that they cannot find solace in just talking to people about their problems because it creates redundancy and it just makes whatever is haunting them a deeper thing that they cannot seem to get out of so looking for alternatives in the art fields could be a solution to finding some sort of mental peace. Trying new things all the time is one thing that also helps a lot or learning a new language, since I find that I feel more useful and valuable if I'm integrating more knowledge into my life, but always keep it light-hearted and don't take it too seriously always remember that you made the choice to be there and if you feel stressed about it then what's the point? Hope this helps another fellow INFP who feels a bit lost. I hope you find your sense of purpose and self ♥
This helped..
This resonates with me deeply. Inspiring. Tanks!
This sums me up, i imagined this and felt happy, pls tell me how to become an art teacher🤣 i am good at art though
I’m a Gemini, empath, INFP ....
I just love helping people.. if it feels like work and there are expectations of me that are over powering my free will and trigger my fear of letting people down.
I smoke weed to chill... plus it’s magnifying to my creative side. I do all my best writing after I smoke..
my current job is a detail cleaner. I pick my clients. I can listen to my music and be in solitude and know that I’m there to make somebody happy when they come home. I love kids..
I have teenagers boy an girl and a toddler boy, so I’m trying to balance an be there an everything for everyone biased on their individual needs..
What’s hard for me a society wants us to raise kids like we don’t work and we’re supposed to work like we don’t have kids.
"What’s hard for me a society wants us to raise kids like we don’t work and we’re supposed to work like we don’t have kids."
That comment just nailed it! Yes! So true.
I feel this, I'm Gemini, empath, and INFP
Exactly how i feel!
Hi..a year later I'm on here
So,I'm also a Gemini, an empath and INFP,i just finished college, did international Relations but i have no idea what to do with my life,what can i do?
I like communication but i really have no idea what to do with it..
I’m a time waster.... what can I do to get myself up and going before 2pm in the afternoon? Seriously! My poor kids and husband... I swear if I don’t have anyone lighting a fire under me I will sit there all day and dream of things I can do but I really don’t get around to doing anything. And my careers have been unstable for 20 years so I have chosen to stay home but really have no motivation. Help
Jessica j. 😭 similar boat
@@Marixpress2 Same I'm so lazy
Me too tbh
sameee
Art. Find a craft that is creative: can be dealing with wood, paint, clothes, cooking. Anything that allow you to create.
Energy: Good and ethical diet, exercise, fixed time to sleep.
Not everything in your body is personality.
I'm a User Experience (UX) Designer. My whole job, at its core, is about helping people solve issues and achieve goals by simply designing great experiences for them. It is the perfect job for me as an INFP - I get to be creative, understand and talk to all sorts of people, empathise with people and problem solve. The thing I like the most about being a UX Designer is that my role explores the full gamut of introvert-to-extravert. I get time to be alone and reflect and go internally, and I get to engage with people and share what I have learnt. I highly recommend looking into UX Design if you're unsure you've found the right path for you.
This video is really accurate, so much of it resonates with me and I never really knew why I loved my job, I wasn't curious enough to be critical of it but I really do love helping others and being in a role that the world needs more of. Thanks!
Jade Doel that’s so cool! How did you become a ux designer and what made you choose it over ui design?
Omg I'm 21 yrs old and would have graduated my BA Hons in Communication Studies now, if not for the COVID19 lockdown 😌 and I'm an aspiring UX designer but I'm l'm aways confused and doubting myself, as to whether I'm pursuing the right career since a lot of sources have told that it'sa job with a high stress level and it seems really tough to break into the field and requires a certain level of agression. Im honestly so happy I came across your comment because I always look for 'designer' as a career option for my personality type be it MBTI or ennagaram but I never see it😔
Wow that's cool! I really want to be an ux designer. I love psychology and tech, I think it must be interesting
Hmm that gave me an idea of a career I can consider. Thanks a lot for sharing!!
Hi Jade, I was thinking of switching the career path to UX designer and really scared whether i should or not. Can we connect so that i can know what is it like to be UX designer?
I absolutely hate being an INFP.
I love being an infp 😂🤚
Heyoooo
Me too
@@Victoriaf8165 exhausting path to nowhere am I right?
@@i2thadean indeed....
Im 17 years old INFP. These past 3 years, I spent 1000+ hours on a video game, but playing never made my life happier. I wanted to stop, and your video finally convinced me.
Right after I watched this video, I just deleted this video game. It feels great.
I'm now free and I have time to spend on my true passions. Thanks !
Love ya! Happy to hear that you’re ready to make that change to live a non-NPC life and that I have helped. :)
Oof I’m late but still, hey man, not saying you have to because you already deleted the game, but if you really like the game you could consider starting a CZcams channel ? Idk man, whatever makes you feel the best. Wish you luck in whatever you do.
dude that's great! I'm 15 and starting to do the same, in fact hobbies made me feel better. Right now I am practicing how to draw and use Photoshop. I'm not very good at writing like many other INFPs are, but idk maybe one day
@@Gloopp Keep doing these, you're 15 and in the prime age to learn anything.
I started to play guitar at 14, I was not very good at it neither did I learn fast in the beginning (Tertiary Si needs experience over time, I find) but now I'm 24, and I think I'm about to be a musician actually!
I am a nurse because my parents thought it might be a decent job for me. And I was practising at an elderly home before studies and liked it. Originally I was meant to be a doctor, but I didn't follow thru. You know you have these expectations you must fill. I originally wanted to go to study history or German at university. But I was told it is a dum idea, because what can I do after I graduate? Teaching is the only thing you can do then, I was told. And at that point I didn't want to teach. I was young and I was lost.
Things that I have found that I like is advertising and selling stuff to people. Advertising because I am great at picking up people's needs and I am fast to learn what sells. And I find it exciting. I am quite good at selling as well because I can read what people need and say the right things. So it is not a bad choice either. You can also feel helpful while doing that. You don't have to be doing something really extraordinary to be able interact with people in a right way. Because it is you who make the thing extraordinary while doing it.
While being a nurse I learnt that I was really good with people. Especially the depressed ones. I felt that by being around them and listening to them, I had the power to make them feel better. I learnt that I somehow was good at motivating people who had lost all motivation and were really down. And I felt great while being able to do that.
But I was very bad with my hands, I hated all the things you had to to with your hands while being a nurse. I didn't want to touch the patients when you had to do the medical procedures. You know what I mean. But instead I loved to caress the older people, the ones who can't communicate anymore. The ones who have lost their memory and ability to walk. Who spend their days in bed just laying there. I used to sing to them. I sang old songs which I knew were played when they were children or young. So that they would feel safe and for a minute have something to hold on to. Because they couldn't remember anything, but you could see they remembered the songs. And it was like they would have a movie going on in their heads, they laid eyes closed and talked sometimes. And you could see they were in some place, probably a memory from childhood or something.
I wanted to make them feel as comfortable as possible, I wanted to read the signs that would tell me if they were feeling good or bad. In the hospital the nurses don't have time to do that, that is another problem. The time. You have to be really efficient so you can't stop to listen as much as you would like to.
After a few years I got sick. I never recovered fully and returned to my job as a nurse. I have an own company now for some years. I find it exciting and like it, I am my own boss. I decide my working hours. It is better for my health. It is not as much money, but it is good enough. And I can be as creative as I like.
I do regret that I didn't follow my passion and go to study further at university. Now I feel I am too old for that and I don't have the energy anymore. I think it is really important for INFPs to follow their passion. So whatever your passion is, try to find out how you could make money out of it. The worst possible thing is to let other people decide for you because it doesn't work. So do not listen if they tell you following your passion is a bad idea and you will never make any money out of it. Follow your heart.
I'm an infp Male and the best job I've had was working as a barista at Starbucks. it's not what youd expect from an infp but it was incredibly fun. the inner charismatic persona comes out when you have the protection of the apron. you get to connect with various people, learn about different people and establish a connection in the few minutes you get with them. hands down what was best.
however, it doesn't hold a good future; the income isnt anywhere close to sustainable:(
Connorfied WHUT I feel you so much. When I look back, the job that actually made me happy and excited was when I was working at a bubble tea shop while being in college. The little interactions between the customers and I really motivated me to go to work. The ‘real jobs’ I got after graduation that required me to work 9-5 and sit in front of a computer either by myself or next to some other people just killed me deeply inside. Those jobs never lasted over a month, and I can never admit to myself or anyone that the barista job was the one that really made me happy. Thank you for your sharing and I don’t feel so alone now
@@shirlyzhu8960 What's your job right now?
@@birgenbraem4288I’m an art psychotherapist now and I feel very fortunate & grateful :)
Anytime I bring up MBTI I'm bombarded from know-it-alls who lecture me on how it's not scientifically valid, but I can't get past how accurately videos like this represent my thought processes and personal obstacles. I'm not a psychologist obviously, but this is too precise to be nonsense. This is scarily accurate.
I feel your pain. I can't stand overly logical people who have absolutely no concept of what intuition is.
Is it coming from people who knew of it beforehand? I literally once had a (estj/istj?) teacher in middle school that said he found infp/intps lazy, undisciplined etc. I mean he's not exactly wrong, but just because we approach problems differently and absolutely hate rules/being spoon fed information doesn't mean we're always like that. I hate how schools are, they really favor people who just memorize and regurgitate information. There's like no innovation, thinking outside the box, you know things that ACTUALLY matter in the future. I still have a few years till I finish highschool but I can't wait to get out. The most fun and success I've had so far was in a multimedia class and in math (sorry if I derailed, it's just my experience on a so called know-it-all talking about the mbti)
I think I found a way out for this "jack of all trades" sympthom. I have been developing myself in music, studying languages, a bit of computing/design, and also other interests like psychology and arts... The more I develop such interests and seam them together, the more I see alternatives and opportunities of job and also hobbies taking form. Currently I am a teacher of English and struggle to make use of all these abilities developed through time. I am sure that if I had spent more energy specializing those habilities and made it stronger competences and also made it seamless as I could, I would reach higher ranks or get access to other jobs/hobbies... the absence of good results generates lack of inspiration until the unwillingness to keep on practicing. My advice is: Always sharp your axes, but don't use the sharpening as an excuse to avoid the cutting.
Good advice!
Wow. Well said
INFP here! Wanted to comment in case it helps someone... GREAT video - also felt like he was talking just to me lol. I've felt lost most of my life. Back in June I took a week long trip to the mountains of CO with my fiance (ENFJ). We hiked, white water rafted, just explored the towns - outside for a week! When we came back... that SAME night I had the strongest urge I've ever had. I didn't have to think - I just pulled out my largest canvas and painted. It was not even a choice - my body HAD to do it. For the next few hours it was nothing but me and the canvas and when I was done, for the first time in my life I actually liked what I created. I felt proud and filled to the brim with happy at my creation. Then I went back to work the next day... and 5 months later nothing else has been created - I'm just exhausted when I get home. I work in sales...which requires 50 hr weeks (which I've now heard multiple times is horrible for INFP). BUT there are many times I get to help people and that's what I'm trying to focus on until I can figure out what else to do. Moral of the story - I feel like our type heals SO quickly in nature. Somehow I've gotta figure out how to make being in nature a DAILY thing.
Prev jobs: short-wall cubicle work in giant building (developed migraines, overall dread every day of work), Paraeducator (30 hrs/wk, but with special needs kids=exhausting), Customer service (good and bad), GM of small hotel (owner was toxic so that didn't work, but LOVED that position otherwise!), Catering (awesome, but I worked for an amazing couple who's no longer doing it), Camp counselor (by far the best job I've ever had...unfortunately couldn't live on the pay), AND still searching. xoxo
make more canvases :D greetings from an infp
I was a camp counselor too and I agree best job I’ve ever had
What about being a landscaper designer? It could be suitable for the "nature" healing necessity?
2012 - I enrolled for a Bachelor in Commerce, gave in for two months and quit. Same year, I enrolled for 4 year Bachelor in Engineering in Information Technology.
2014 - I quit after studying full time for two years. Now, I'm 2 years behind my normal academic years. Later, I enrolled for Bachelor in Science in Geology (Because I loved Geography and Earth Science in general.) Finally, finished my Bachelors degree. All my friends went on to pursue Masters in Geology and I'm back at square one. I don't want to have a future career as a geologist anymore.
2017 - Later, I enrolled for a two year Graphic and Web Design course. No more to my surprise, I quit graphic design as well. Although I loved web design, so went on to study web development on my own at home.
Icouldn't
strikes, I'm at home, jobless. While people were laid off from their jobs, I was getting phone calls from recruiters. I didn't answer. anymoreit's
guilty sitting at home while my elder sister goes to work everyday.
I'm an INFP and I have been a nurse for 46 years. I know, I will be retiring in the next year or so. One thing that is nice, I don't have to compromise my integrity because of the nature of the work. That has been so important. I am not saying that I haven't had my share of narcissistic bosses, but working through the system always using care of patients as the priority can help neutralize these toxic ppl ( plus a great union that I hold dear). I kind of view my work partly as performance art. Nursing also provides that much needed socialization that we crave but I find personally hard to maintain. And I never have to worry about my awkwardness because the script practically writes itself. All you need to do is ask the patient about themselves, then you are off running. This profession has also improved my confidence and helped me be more organized. I am going to.be sad to leave ( this last year of work I have been very nostalgic)
I really struggled to find a job. It was my ESTJ wife that pushed me though grad school and now I’m a therapist.
It’s a great job for an INFP cause it’s extremely intimate and deep. It’s really odd but I go to work to recharge... usually. It can be draining but less so than working retail or customer resource. It’s very fulfilling and I wake up happy to go to work most days.
Love the videos!
I have worked sales, janitorial, data entry, security, grave digging (heavy machinery), demolition and substitute teaching.
I like jobs where I can make my own hours. Where people come to me rather then me going to them. I love to deal with people in crisis. I love to help people in a meaningful way. My empathy and sensitivity really pay off in the mental health field. Most of my other jobs offered little of what I needed.
Discovered my type, INFP, at 32 and I'll be 60 soon. Have had sooo many different jobs. I have found that whatever I'm doing, I don't like to be interrupted in the middle of it, but variety is key overall. Paperwork is a definite No. Currently I'm caring for my father. But when the inevitable happens, I'll have to find a job again. I just wanted to say, thanks for helping me to focus on the INFP strengths and abilities.
so true..i agree. interacting with people is essential for infps to feel purposeful
Interaction is meaningless.
@@AndreasDevig and very frustrating
*connecting
want to be appreciated
Man being a female in the engineering college, it is so hard find those connections and I wonder I can do creative stuff with engineering and do story telling/listening at the same time. Time to find another discipline of engineering :D
@America Online our parents hope make us to study engineering, their everything is spent on our degree and carrier, and our society compare everyone every child, that's good for majority they are happy but not for us 😅
I feel you
I am studying business with rich entiled guys 🥲
It was a great video. Good to see an INFP helping fellows with so much sensitivity and humbleness... More power to you Sherman
Thanks! Hope it helped :)
Thank you for sharing your story, this is really valuable! In my case, as for many INFPs, "career" is the most difficult thing in my life, my biggest struggle. When I was young, I had so many interests, it was hard to decide what to do, so I studied molecular biology and a few terms of medicine as I thought cancer research is something I could serve humanity best. After 6 years as a cancer researcher, I left this career path because I was so shy and couldn´t deal with frequent presentations at symposia, congresses or even in smaller circles of scientists, I just felt miserable already weeks ahead of a presentation. lost 10 lbs of weight, stomach cramps, insomnia, etc. Then I found a job in pharma as a medical writer, which is what I´m still doing today - it has been a path of extreme workload, massive overtime (50-60 hours a week are normal), and I have already experienced several burnouts, from which I have never fully recovered. My secret call is being a writer - not a medical writer which I am now - but a novellist. I have a manuscript that I wrote during a sabattical 7 years ago, but it´s still in my drawer, unpublished, and needs further work. In recent years, I have been saving up 70% of my income, became a fanatic stock market investor and joined the FIRE movement, ie, I hope to retire early from pharma within the next 2 years. And then finally be free and say goodbye to this horrible stress and corporate structures that are killing me inside. I´m in my early 40ies now and can safety say I have not lived my life in a smart way, there has always been so much fear regarding finances (I grew up in a highly dysfunctional and poor household) which kept me in this dreadful career. As a student, I tried out different jobs, and actually a position as a caretaker in a care center for autistic people was perhaps the most pleasant job I ever had in my life - I was basically playing with the autistic kids, went for walks with the adults, cooked for them, etc. I love to take care of people, especially cook healthy food for them and make sure they are well fed and happy. ;-) Years ago I was diagnosed with a very high IQ after my psychiatrist sent me to do an IQ test, and this together with my high sensitivity might be so typical for the INFP. My life feels as if I have never found the right path and early retirement will be a rescue, but where fulfillment lies, I still don`t know exactly. Thank you Matt for your wonderful videos, I enjoy them a lot. Btw, your voice is mesmerizing, really beautiful.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us
Creative people usually fall on a trap of self doubt and being an INFP is never an easy thing when it comes to pursuing a career but I do believe we can find our own way towards that job that felt really right to the core. I know we can both be passionate and practical with our job. It will take some time but evetually things will fall into place.
I knew I want to be a psychologist since I was 15 and never changed my mind. Now I'm on my second year ♡ I'm excited and yes it's hard but I'm on my way
So, I just watched the first 2 minutes of the video and I'm already having that stupid grin on my face because everything you say matches exactly with how I'm feeling. I found out about my personality type just today and I finally feel understood! I figure this won't make the journey any easier but it's very calming to know that there's other people out there who can relate with me and that I'm not a weirdo but maybe just a little special... :)
3 words: outdoor nature jobs.
Because.... Freedom
Yep forestry
Three words:
I have entomophobia.
What jobs involve this?
@@Exaspatial i wonder
Landscaping
i am an infp japanese. I've got a lot of infp friends in japan. i wonder if japanese people are more likely to have infp type than people from other country are. I'm not sure
Thats interesting.. i am Korean and i do know that it is not that common type in Korea.
Maybe that's why I'm drawn to Japanese culture. Shinto seems like it would be spirituality fulfilling and fulfilling.
こんにちは！一般的言うと、もっとISFPを日本がいます思います？ ちょっと、下手な日本語ですいません。
I think it would make sense despite having a strict organized view on work and Jobs. Idk like, japanese people have this stereotype of being full work and organized. But I think many japaneses are more creative than their society wants to admit. Is just that japanese society rewards more a full time working person. This comes from an foreigner person, so please don't feel that I'm attacking your society or anything lol. 😅
I'm an INFP argentinian, btw.
i was thinking about this too. I felt japan would have a lot of infps.
As an INFP, I've decided to become a writer. I always knew I would be one, but this dream was delayed for so long because unfortunately writing in cafe's doesn't pay the bills. I am working in a 9 - 5 now, but I'm working so hard on my first children's book and young adult novel that I'm hoping to eventually do this as a full-time career and work from anywhere in the world and having others enjoy my creations. I just can't stand going to the same place every day and answering emails. It's just not serving me and I need something that motivates me.
I love the part where you said Infps help people feel good about their inner worlds... that is a truth nugget right there. I love that💕 I followed that 9-5 template for years and my last 9-5 was about 2 years ago. I worked in a factory in MI making car parts. It nearly did me in. I was stressed at a level of crazy like I have never been at. All the structure, unable to share my ideas or opinions, the major clique that operated there of terrible workers being pushed up while the hard workers were treated like crap, having to go to bat for some of those hard workers with the higher ups only to be patronized and ignored and it culminated in having to stand up to the GM of the company. It took a long time to recover from that experience for me. But in the end the take away is I better know myself because it was while I was working there that I started diving into Mbti out of sheer survival sake. And also I am no longer afraid to stand for myself because I can say hey I stood up to the GM of a company so “ what you got?” :) Thanks for sharing all the great points!!!
Lisa Foster That sounds awful! I’m glad you stood up for what is right though!
It was!!!!! It took a long time to recover from that situation but I did learn about myself and my personality because of it. And thank you good did come out of it!!!!
It was!!!!! It took a long time to recover from that situation but I did learn about myself and my personality because of it. And thank you good did come out of it!!!!
It was!!!!! It took a long time to recover from that situation but I did learn about myself and my personality because of it. And thank you good did come out of it!!!!
I wish i could like this comment more than once. I experienced this as well. I would never want to again.
I took the test and got INFP and it’s mind blowing how accurate it is for me
Ikr it's crazy
I'm glad that I've found your channel, Sherman! It's helping me a lot, man. Thank you!
It’s such a relief to know this is normal among infps and knowing you’re not the only one having existential crisis. I agree on the part where Sherman said we want to find a job where it resonates who we are as a person and is in line with our principles bec we have this tendency to ask the meaning behind all the things we’re doing if it’s worth it in the bigger part of the world. I’m happy to say that I’ve found this sense of fulfillment and happiness in the makeup industry and in entrepreneurship. Reason is bec in makeup, I love the feeling of being able to enhance the beauty of the person and expressing my creative side. At the same time, seeing them happy with the results made me happy too or simply just watching behind the scenes of a photoshoot and seeing your hardwork put into display is indeed very fulfilling. I also went into entrepreneurship and found out that in being an entrepreneur, I have flexible working hrs while at the same time I can see the end to end results of my idea put into reality and it’s very satisfying indeed. I also love the idea of being a psychologist but that’s another story. It is very true then that we are most alive when we are doing jobs that involves connecting and helping people while at the same time being able to breathe in our own pace and not be dictated by rigid office rules or mom or dad or world 😂
INFP teacher here! I love being with the babies and it also gives me time to focus on my creative side hobbies during all the time off. I HATE following lesson plans so I write them and then just do my own thing, like improv teaching. It works for me maybe it will work for my fellow infp's! And to top it off you will really feel like you are making a difference!
CheckeredGreen what sort of teacher are you?
Jawsh K 1st grade special needs inclusion
CheckeredGreen I am considering teaching too, but I’m just a little afraid of being in front of a bunch of kids and having them misbehave. But actually I think special needs teaching would be pretty rewarding.
Fox I tried becoming a teacher and kids misbehaving was so hard for me to control. It was my biggest flaw, not being able to control my pupils and create a calm and safe environment for them to learn. I loved connecting with children but I suffered a lot from my lack of authority
This cannot ring any truer
Low working hours I resonate with - I need the breathing space
I’m an INFP and this was so so helpful. Your way of talking and explaining things was very calming. I’m 18, recently graduated high school and have no idea what to do with my life. It’s hard for me to pinpoint my strengths and skills but I do know that I want to help people and make a positive difference in their lives. Thanks so much for sharing your INFP wisdom! Haha :)
Maybe consider: teaching, psychology, social work or neuro coaching?
I was going through these comments and found yours which seems to be the exact situation of mine...so I am curious about what did you choose to pursue, it may be very useful for me if u lemme know :)
I love your energy, this video was really different from others done by none INFPs about the subject.
I had various types of jobs but always felt like work was prison.
I worked in international trades, tourism, office admin, web and graphic design, web development. I stopped working since 2017 after a sort of bournout/ breakdown and it was clear that I cannot continue with the corporate 9 to 5 even though the voice you mentioned comes back from time to time that this is what I should do. I just want to experience life and connect to people, inspire and feel inspired. There is so much beauty in the world, in the human experience. I love to explore that. But how to earn money out of that, that's the question.
Andrea C i feel ya... it’s darn hard. Struggling with that myself. A job is hell for me. I don’t even know how I am still alive and surviving.
@@victoria_hypnotherapy Yes, I think we might have some negative associations with the idea of "having a job". I sure do. I like helping people and doing things but when it's called "work" or "job" and I would do it for money, then I feel this huge resistance in me, feel sick from the thought. So maybe that's an avenue to explore, this negative association and understand it/ break it down :)
Just my case😮 is this a kind of a matrix game, that I am reading my own comments written by others? 🤔
Can i ask you for experience in web development? i mean how you feel, i interest in but i dont sure what "may be" come up. Im dont feel exhauste in math and sciene so can it be a deal with INFP
It's crazy how much I resonate with this, and thank you for putting your kindness out there man.
I love how I see a lot of myself in you and how we're trying to figure out the same thing
Thanks bro.. I enjoy your calm straight forward delivery my friend. V enjoyable and easy to take in. Cheers man 👌
Keep it coming!
Thank you ! This video really cleared out What I can , and want to do. Great questions .
hi INFP here, I also moved to Japan!🇯🇵 I also convinced my best friend and boyfriend to come too. I studied Japanese for a few months when I was 25 and then I started teaching English as most do.
I really like teaching but the hours can be draining. I would love to know how to do it part time and survive though!
I’ve also been a hairdresser (making people pretty lights up their soul!) A makeup artist, currently a flight attendant and hypnotherapist.
I love seeing the world and also helping people wade through their subconscious.
Now i’m considering going back to school (at 36) online of course, for psychology because I know I could help in deeper ways and also research into the mind interests me. I’ll also be moving back to Tokyo 🗼and commuting to work in the US (flying in) and then teaching on the side for a while and see how that works out. Japan has always had a piece of my heart ❤️, this will be my 3rd time moving back.
I’m quite excited 😆
are you still in Japan?
Honestly been feeling so lost and frustrated for a long time, thank you is all i can say
This video gave me the confidence over the insights i already had about which direction to go into my career (teaching, writing, art). It was a validation i needed. A relief of some sort. Thank you.
Thank you!! Yes, interaction and helping people are exactly what I’ve found I love most about my jobs. Those words are so true! And like you I was so surprised to find how rewarding it is to get to know people like that, since I’ve always been so introverted. Even though I have to run a cash register a lot where I work (which can be mind numbing), it’s worth it whenever I get to know someone better, relate with them somehow, or help with a question.
I love this ethereal hue that sits around you.
As you talked, it was most creepy how accurate you were at describing my experience. Thank you so much man, really appreciate it.
This is platinum. Beautiful and to the heart, and so easy and enjoyable to listen to, I feel so much better about the future paths - thank you :)
That was absolutely the kickstart I needed!! Thanks for guiding me to the path of what questions to ask myself. I find that if someone that I feel gets my experience (even a minuscule)points me in a direction and I can feel the resonance of it, that's where I find my best inspiration and motivation follows.
I have come to learn that I prefer minimal interaction with others when I'm working. To me, it would be a form of torture to have to go to work each day with the same people who want to talk and expect interaction all day long, day after day. So I am self-employed and I really love it.
I am happy for you. That is awesome.
Sooooo friggin accurate! I am an INFP and I have been on a similar journey. In school to become a teacher for all the reasons you listed. Wow....this video brought me so much peace. Thank you. I finally feel understood.
Thank you! The reminder to list Likes, Skills and What the World Needs helped clarify things for me, as simple as it may seem to be. Sometimes its hard to evaluate what is the good that I have to offer.
Thank you so much for the video and the advice!
It really got me thinking about what I'm doing right now. I've been working as a part-time translator at home and I do agree that few hours as possible and something flexible is the way to go, at least for me. I've also been thinking about going to work as a teacher with a limited schedule, but I'm kind of on the fence about it... I've never really liked teaching. In any case, it's definitely food for thought!
Once again, thank you so much!
I am so overjoyed to have found your channel. The relatability is off the charts, I actually laughed at points.
I always thought I was just not made for the way the world is, but it's nice to see I'm not the only one, and actually understand where it comes from.
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences! It means the world x
wasn't planning on watching this whole vid but i rly like ur energy HUH thank u fellow infp
Thank you so much. It was fun to watch and your video really is a huge help for me right now. Now I'm going to list down my stereotypes until I reach that core. Wish you all the best!
Thank you so much!! You made me feel better about my new career direction: in 2 years I'll be an FCS teacher and I know now that I will be very happy. 😃
Wow that really opened my eyes to my issues with my career path, as a welder/ mechanic it gives me plenty of room to be creative but I’ve been slowly sinking into “depressed hermit” mode and why I enjoyed being a ski lift operator so much more. It was the interaction with people that made it fun.
Thank you, brother. Career choice is definitely really hard for an INFP. Those that find the right jobs are so lucky. 💗
Thank you so much, I really needed this since I'm in a strange period! Thanks 💖
As a senior in college and INFP, I really needed this. Thank you Geek Psych, you're videos give me life!
The following is just my experience in life summed up thus far. No more important than the next.
I'm 23 and going through everything an INFP I guess goes through.
I'm still searching for a semblance of a purpose and currently bouncing from interest to interest.
As mentioned in the video I do like helping people. (warning novel alert)
Throughout high school I was working as a tutor, involved as a girlguide/boyscout (equivalent) instructor and was head prefect for the my school before graduating.
Since then I went into studying to become a registered nurse. At this time I was working as a secretary for a kids daycare and volunteering in soup kitchens for the disadvantaged community on a weekly basis.
A couple of years of this I still felt like none of this was enough and spiralled into a dark hole. So I decided to up the anti.
At 21 I became executive secretary for the non profit organisation. A community homework program coordinator that went on and won best community program a year later in a cohort of over 300 active community programs. A youth leader to 8 branches of groups around my city. Leading style: unapologetically unconventional.
Placed the studying on the back burner and swapped it to part time after two years.
In my off time I'd fulfill requests and designs from people, read, take my dogs for a walk, play the piano/guitar, learn something, knit or just game.
(End of Novel)
Now I apologise if I appear to be supercilious but to conclude let me just say. I have never felt more lost and broken than I am now. Mentally and physically exhausted that I've decided to step down from all these roles now to just work a mundane job in the new coming year. (Burnt out I guess).
I have no questions or valuable advice but reading through these comments and seeing this video has reassured me that my mind is not chaotic (as most people often tell me), just complex. It's taken me a while to acknowledge my personality and it mainly stems from just not wanting to be categorised. I'm an INFP that most people mistaken as an Extrovert but human interaction is draining I'd much prefer to take my dogs camping to sleep in a forest and write a book for the remainder of my life than speak with another person again. Don't know if anyone can relate but I felt compelled to write this nonsense about myself. Will most likely return to delete this during the week after some over thinking but thank you creator for making this space.
Jay thank you for this. I feel the same way and I appreciate the time you took to write this and if no one told you already, you’re an amazing person! ( I actually mean it lol I know our INFP minds can be harsh)
Hi@@christopherhernandez8466,
Thank you for your kind words, you give me far too much honour with your compliment.
I'm saddened to hear you are in the same minefield but I'm grateful for your reply as it kind of comfort in knowing I'm not journeying this struggle alone.
I hope you are in a better space today than three weeks ago. You are so right about our minds and sometimes I wish I could take a sabbatical from it. Lol.
hi, i’ve been reading through these comments and for some reason this really spoke to me. thanks for writing this. and i really wish you all the best, maybe we all exhausted ”chaotic” mind can find moments of balance every now and then.
4 years ago, I wrote this comment. I caught myself coming back to this video for some reason. I'm 27 now. Working a job I love with great work-life balance (still a position pertaining to helping people but not as nurse lol).
So much has happened for I guess the world in the last 4 years. Not just me. As one would have it. Covid struck a couple of months after I wrote this comment. Crazy to think about.
My focus and priorities all changed. In these four years, I've lost my nan and pops, a dear close aunty who was more a mother to me than my own and both of my precious furbabies (one 14yrs and other 15yrs).
In these 4 years, I changed jobs 4 times. I haven’t been in my current role for long. However, I have never experienced this sense of peace with any other role I've had to date. With the constant need to prove myself. To overwork. To go above and beyond. This role has not asked that of me.
I look back at that time 4 years back and see a naive child navigating the world completely blind.
I've definitely become alot more reserved. Always have been selective so I only have 2 friends in my close circle. It works out plenty when you have to ration time for them who are extroverted to the letter.
I'm in a better space than when I was in this original comment. And it's taken alot of work to get here so my goal is simply to maintain it.
@@joizz101 Beautiful to read this. what job are you doing now if i may ask?
Another INFP living in Japan over here! Just discovered your channel and this video really resonated with me. It has helped me see more clearly the things I should look for in a job, specially since my job right now is quite the opposite from everything you mentioned haha thank you!
That intro man, was like you literally read the transcript to my brain's dialogue. Great video, and very helpful! I feel better about my future for sure and feel like it's more clear what I need to do! As an INFP I have always had this conflicting urge to talk and interact with people, it can just be so damn awkward for me. This video definitely has helped me realize that I'm still on the right track and just need to keep pushing on! Many thanks for sharing this! Cheers!