Quiet Confidence = REAL Confidence! 10 steps to Become ✨Magnetic✨
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- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
- Confidence is key, but how do you actually become confident? Here are 10 tangible tips you can follow to become the best and most confident version of yourself!
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timestamps:
00:00 - 1:36 intro
1:36 - 3:39 keep your own promises
3:39 - 4:57 get to know yourself
4:57 - 6:14 building a positive self-image
6:14 - 7:38 crafting positivity
7:38 - 8:20 stop being a victim
8:20 - 9:36 slow down
9:36 -12:11 understand your needs
12:11 - 14:45 create strong boundaries
14:45 - 15:44 trust your intuition
15:44 - 17:17 make happiness your biggest priority
17:17 - 17:58 good luck
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My 3 steps to better self-confidence
1- work on yourself
2- eat healthy, drink a lot of water and have a good sleep
3- Read the book Womens magic truths on borlest
I'm very surprised how few people know about this book when my friend recommended it to me it took me 1 day just to read it and I was blown away it's the best thing I've read lately My self-confidence has increased to the maximum
Your point about the happiest people being the most willing to share just really hit me. It’s so true that self-loathing people have a scarcity mindset, are super competitive, and feel crappy when they see others’ good fortune. Speaking from experience here, lol. And the victim mentality folds right in. Thanks for sharing this video!!
Anytime I’ve compared myself to others, I’ve felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon!
Your point about boundaries with partners is so true. Recently ended a relationship when a man crossed a boundary a few times. I finally said hey, enough, stop it. Period. He got all bent out of shape. I told him if he can't respect what is clearly a line for me, then I'm moving on. And yes, I was prepared for the relationship to end, which it did. It didn't kill me. It simply reinforced what I will accept and NOT accept in a relationship.
It is quite obvious & natural too that at some stage of your life you come across these things like feeling sad or a lack of confidence, especially after a big milestone accomplishment , feeling bored, loss of meaning or purpose in life,feeling unfulfilled,feelings of nostalgia, excessively thinking about the past, making impulse actions, feelings of regret. But as I have been closely following you through your vlogs, I strongly feel that you would surely over come your anxiety & so called midlife crisis thing.
1)KEEP A PROMISE, BUILD SO MUCH CONFIDENCE
Example: Saving $15,000 a year will make you feel more confident and help you stick to your word.
Choose one thing that you will commit to for three weeks, such as writing down three things you are grateful for in the morning or doing workouts.
2)GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
Start journaling to explore your thoughts and feelings.
Make a long list of activities or experiences and try them out. Afterward, write down why you liked or didn't like each one, considering various factors.
3)WRITE THREE DIFFERENT LISTS
Reflect on your past successes and contributions.
Identify and acknowledge your strengths.
Recognize your potentials and areas where you have room to grow.
4)ACTIVELY CREATE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK
Embrace a positive mindset and believe that good things happen to you.
Practice gratitude by focusing on the little things that bring you joy, even on difficult days.
Make a conscious effort to minimize complaints and instead focus on the positive. It takes practice, just like building a muscle.
5)STOP BEING A VICTIM
Practice resilience and acknowledge that while certain things may have happened to you and sucked, you are determined to move forward and not let them limit your life.
6)HOW YOU APPEAR TO THE WORLD
Pay attention to your posture and maintain good posture.
Slow down your pace, whether it's walking or talking.
Practice entering a room by looking around slowly before proceeding in your intended direction.
When asking uncomfortable questions, speak slowly and confidently, without feeling obligated to answer if it makes you uncomfortable. Slowing down will make you appear more confident.
7)GET TO KNOW YOUR NEEDS
Be confident in expressing your needs to others.
For example, say, "I need you to hold me because I'm feeling really sad," or "I need you to pay a little more attention to me because I'm feeling off today."
8)ACTIVELY IDENTIFY WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, EVEN IN SMALL WAYS
Imagine your perfect working environment, friendships, or relationships, and write about them in a journal.
Allow yourself to dream and have fun envisioning your ideal future.
9)CREATE STRONG BOUNDARIES
Recognize that valuable things are not easily obtained by everyone, just like exclusive brands like Hermes. Seek high-value and amazing friends, as this is your sacred space that you don't want to compromise.
Communicate your boundaries clearly, especially with men, and be prompt and assertive. For example, say, "I don't like it when you do XYZ because it's disrespectful." Stick to your boundaries as only you can uphold them.
10) ASK YOURSELF WHAT SOMEONE WHO LOVES THEMSELVES WOULD DO
Trust your intuition and honor the first answer that comes to mind.
11) FOLLOW YOUR HAPPINESS and pursue the things that bring you joy and fulfillment.
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Thank you ❤
Saving 15,000 a year LOL - Do you live on the planet Zob? Is there a shuttle to Zob in the near future, can we pick one up at a normal bus stop or will a Limo pop round to collect us?
Thank you
This is so helpful! Thank you!
I resonated so much with this. It’s like a mix of self love and no bullshit mentality. Exactly the balance I need. Listening on repeat!
Awhh thank youu! I really appreciate the feedback ❤️
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Finally someone who actually tells me how to feel confidentI wish we were taught this at school
Hold yourself to a higher level of accountability than any one else, then meet and exceed that level. And most important, actually give a shit.
I agree. Confidence is quiet! Insecurity is Loud
My husband is a wonderful person, but he also has faults. I used to not know how to communicate my boundaries and sometimes in confrontation, he’d successfully overargue me. But I learned to be straightforward and I think I’m only straightforward now because I’ve learned to deal with the discomfort of unraveling my emotions-what is fact and what is fiction. I believe my confidence in communication derived from knowing what I was particularly feeling and where my emotions arose from. I believe confidence results from unconditional self compassion ❤😊
You seem to be a person who know what you teach, that makes what you say impactful.
Making your happiness your biggest priority isn't selfish..I needed to hear that
Useful and meaningful tips! I’d like to add: be true to yourself.
If you feel certain emotion, acknowledge it. Take responsibility for your actions and don’t cloud your words by saying something that you don’t mean or isn’t true. Be direct and open with oneself is one of the keys to be confident.
Also, When we keep on dodging or escaping what is not favourable, our confidence shatters. Facing the problems is also important.
I know it takes time to be confident, it doesn’t happen overnight. We all are imperfect and progress always holds an upper hand than perfection 😊
A video that ACTUALLY gives you the action steps to the desired state of being confident! Thank you!!
The "what i need" list will definitely make me more sad because most things and ppl that I need is not always available or just unreachable for me to have it. Even a simple hug, i know I will never have that since I was raised in a tough family where showing support or love is cringy 😞
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my CZcams channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 345 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Perfect timing. Thank you 💕💕
Thank you for the practical tips!!! Love it
Thank you!!!❤❤ needed to hear this today
I would be very interested in a series where you go into more detail on each of the points.
Very thoughtful advices! Thank you
You’re right about not being a victim. I learned this early on in my 20 ‘s people with a victim mentality can never take responsibility it’s always someone else’s fault.
Love this video, it feels so warm and like an older sister giving me good practical advice ❤
Loved this 💕 Thank you! 🙏✨🧡
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and thoughts- its very inspiring to be a better version of our selves ❤
Love it! Easy to understand, you're making good and clear points, and it's doable. Keep doing what you're doing, you're changing someone's life
Really loved this!! Thank you so much for sharing ☺️❤️
Love this video so much ❤ just what I needed to hear and work on. Prioritize our own happiness is key!
this video is gold, so well-put together!
I absolutely love your mindset
Really useful! Really love the three list tip 😊
Loved this video 💗 thank you!
This is magical advice, and something I reallllllly needed to hear right now
Sounded really helpful and just wrote all the tips down in a list to work through it 🤗
I'd love for you to make a video on the stop bein a victim point ❤
Very insightful points. This is the real key to confidence.
Just added all of these ideas to journal! Thank you!
this really helped boost my confidence thanks Nika
I've missed you 😊
Your energy itself in this video is so much about the confidence 😊
This is great content! Thank you so much for this video, I love how you talk about knowing your character and your needs. Accepting ourselves in huge.
I've missed you and your vibes so much 💕
Thank you Gorgeous I love how you approach the confidence steps in that simple way, appreciate it 🙄🙏🏻🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
Thank you so much for this video ❤️
Love it❤ Thank you!!!
Thank youuuu so so so much for this video its helping so so much!
This is what I needed. Thank you
OMG I LOVE YOU!!!❤
i didn't know i needed this video but apparently i do i love it so so much
thank you 🙏 ❤
Thank you for this video ❤
very nice! you have a very positive vibe!
This is my favorite on youtube, you are the best!❤
Thank you so much! 🤍
This was great! Thank you
I am so glad I came across your video! Literally I could listen to you all day! I have implemented listening to you at the gym while I workout and it felt so good, working on myself again mentally and physically. I just want to say, thank you so much you're incredible❤
thank you i love thisssss
Love it! You are gorgeous!
Some of the best advices! As a nurse, I have seen so many bad things happened to good people that I am over the victim mentality. I realized Life isn’t fair! Sometimes you just have to suck it up and keep going!
Excellent advice ❤
this video might have changed my life in very epic ways. this is perfection - i cant thank you enough for your incredible content!
It was superb video. very precise and it covers up all the things that are required for being confident and building a healthy lifestyle.
Wow! This video couldn't have come at a better time! Confidence is something I constantly strive to improve, and these 10 steps seem so practical and easy to follow. I love how the video emphasizes that true confidence comes from within and shows us how to embrace our authentic selves. Can't wait to start implementing these tips and become magnetic! Thank you for sharing this valuable advice! 🌟
i only here for study english
This was actually useful thank youu
Finally a good video about confidence🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Wow. I am so impressed with you. All the things resonated so much. Thanks for sharing. ❤
Loved this video x
First time I've seen a video that really helps, I loved it, thank you.
I wasn’t sure about this video but it’s actually super helpful and so many great ideas! ❤
That colour blue is simply divine on you!!
Thank you for these reminders !
My pleasure 🥰
Wow great actionable tips!
Amazing video also these are great tips!!!
Thankewwsss Girl...!!💕
My favorite thing about your channel is you give us Work to do! You don’t just sit there, and give advice, but you give actionable steps to take, and I love this about you!
i genuinely loved this,
i love how actionable these points are. i appreciate this video coming at the right time. i relate to these mindsets and i am taking action ✨ thank you!!!
Awh thank you so much! So glad you found it helpful 💕
Same here! I'm not even sure if other people who says "Just be Confident or Love Yourself" know what do they really mean. I'm so happy to come across to your video! You really took time to analyze and understand how to convey the message properly. I will definitly get back to this video whenever I feel I lost track with my confidence hihi. Thank you. A new sub here :)
This video is gold❤ thnks girl❤
Your video improves myself and my English so much as well
Thank you very much for this video. It is really helping me
This video came in perfect time! Thank you so much.
Awh I’m so glad🥰❤️
I love how real and practical these tips are, thanks for sharing them! I disagree with tip number 10 about making you happiness your first priority. The harder we reach for happiness, the more it flees our grasp. So many philosophers, great thinkers, and just regular people as well have come to this conclusion. I know this is counter intuitive, but so many things in life work like this. I believe it works like this because so many times, what we think will make us happy is just something that gives us instant gratification but is not good for us in the long run, i.e. getting drunk frequently, watching movies/tv shows all day, eating junk food every day, etc. Instead, the things that we dread such as writing that essay, working out, being mindful of what we eat, etc, are the ones that really benefit us and will give us a happier life. I do agree with the rest of the tips tho, and I would love to read the opinions of others!
What I think it means to follow your happiness is to go for what truly makes you happy, not the instant gratification things that really make you feel like garbage after a little bit. But things like dancing drawing, watching the flowers, looking at the sunrise, stars, sunset, enjoying a picnic with loved ones, sitting by a fire, they make you truly happy, or whatever else flips your switch. The things like drinking, watching TV, and eating junk food do not really make you happy because you feel like trash as or after you do them.
Yes c'mon ladies, let's become "no nonsense queens" 👸🙌
I kept track of what to do in my journal and after you mentioned to slow down my handwriting changed manifold 😄
I really enjoy watching your video. thanks a lot
Loved your vibe! Felt each point made, like truths I knew deep inside verbalized so perfectly and made into a nice actionable list.
Thanks for the video, youtube brought it to me at the right time!
thank you soooooo much😘
i love the tips so much. thank you for this !! and goodluck to all of us who wants to be more confident
Good luck to you too! You’re gonna nail it ✨✨✨
All these steps could decrease stress levels and probably contribute to higher happiness levels.
Building (real) confidence is usually done through accomplishing difficult things. The more difficult goals you accomplish, the more confident you will be in yourself. When you know you can do something (or have the ability to learn something difficult), nobody can say anything to take that away from you…not even your partner, superiors, or family. You know you can prove them wrong. Now, that is true confidence.
I agree that accomplishing things you want increases confidence, but I think basing your entire confidence on achievements is a very masculine thing. I don’t think it would work as well for most women as it does for most men 😊 that’s just my opinion, but of course everyone should do whatever works best for them. Appreciate your feedback 👌🏼✨
very inspiring road map!
Great video ❤!
wow! aMAZING content! Thank you so much
I loveddd what you said abaout happiness and selfish people:)
Brilliant!!
Nika, this is suchhhh a valuable video. Ty for sharing :,))) legit saved the link to this video for future rewatching! I'm not sure if you've heard of it, but my friend recently introduced me to Superhuman meditations and the app has insanely enhanced my confidence beyond what I even thought existed! All of the content centers around living as the person you've always wanted to be, and so much of it centers on building your self-image to reflect deep confidence - it's so similar to all you're explaining here!! Can't help but share because it's honestly changed my life and feel like you'd really enjoy it haha :) x
I love the part about slowing down! I’m taking that for action ❤
This video>>>
Heyyy! I loveee your videos so much. Can you please made a video on setting boundaries? I'd love see you speak on it
Great video!
Thank you! :D
perfect!
Growing up my needs more often than not weren’t respected or encouraged, I was even punished if I had or expressed needs. I feel this makes me shameful whenever my boundaries appear to me to be ignored or my needs dismissed.
It feels like I can’t get a hold of what it is that I might need because it’s so drilled into my bones that wanting something or needing something that is not the same as someone else, or that might inconvenience them, is the epitome of selfishness and evidence that I’m a bad person.
Also, I am always convinced my feeling of the need is invalid or a figment of my imagination, that I am misinformed or exaggerating. I don’t think I could ever say things like:
I need a lot of cuddles every day;
I need you to give me context and be communicative;
I need you not to be distant and feel far away;
I need you to reassure me a lot even if it feels like you are repeating yourself;
I need to hear you say countless times and regularly that you care about me, will be there for me, and appreciate me;
I need you to be dependable and punctual;
I need it to be okay for you if I decide I need to wait to have sex indefinitely because I don’t want to feel pressured;
I need you to always have my back and be on my side while also always being honest and direct with me if I need to change a behavior or if something is bothering you;
I need you to make efforts to remain calm and be gentle and careful if you are upset or if we argue;
I need you to let me walk out before you if we walk through a doorway;
I need you not to sleep with your back to me in bed even if you feel this is the only way you can fall asleep.
Even though these are needs I feel I definitely have, to my mind, it would be too much to ask someone to cater to them. I feel like they are things I should work on not needing, that having them means I need to stop needing them, or rather, that I need to work on fulfilling them myself. I would like to feel it’s okay to have them and express them and that they are real, but I don’t know how or what is appropriate and normal.