The 'Soft Boy' Epidemic

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  • čas přidán 3. 01. 2019
  • I'M ARTSY :(
    Today, we look at the phenomenon known as "soft boys". The dudes who act like they're artsy and emotional for their own personal gain. With a little help from the @beam_me_up_softboi Instagram account, we take a closer look at these fellas, and try to stop...The Softboy Epidemic.
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Komentáře • 25K

  • @kurtisconner
    @kurtisconner  Před 5 lety +53585

    UR ARTSY HUH????????
    let me know if you want me to make a part 2!! thanks for watching!

  • @mayabergersen2144
    @mayabergersen2144 Před 5 lety +13116

    “Attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines...” boi thats u

    • @cindybenforever7647
      @cindybenforever7647 Před 5 lety +40

      222

    • @applelynch6980
      @applelynch6980 Před 5 lety +556

      im knew here and i swear hes talking bout himself

    • @mayabergersen2144
      @mayabergersen2144 Před 5 lety +402

      Apple Lynch he is legit just looking in the mirror and describing himself

    • @meredithabdelnour7198
      @meredithabdelnour7198 Před 5 lety +318

      that looks like he hasn't slept in...ever

    • @milkym9598
      @milkym9598 Před 5 lety +339

      Maya Bergersen don’t forget the curly brown hair. he was literally describing himself lmao

  • @oliviaj3887
    @oliviaj3887 Před 5 lety +3031

    If you look like you’re one cigarette away from dying, you’re a verified soft boy

    • @roshii2789
      @roshii2789 Před 5 lety +8

      Olivia J my favorite comment lol

    • @mattbrune8996
      @mattbrune8996 Před 5 lety +63

      *takes a smoke*
      *Cheeks start inverting*

    • @elijahparks842
      @elijahparks842 Před 5 lety +14

      Steve buscemi?

    • @Romanticoutlaw
      @Romanticoutlaw Před 4 lety +24

      and/or, one cigarette away from appearing in an adaptation of a John Green book

    • @alaasusername
      @alaasusername Před 4 lety +4

      I'm a female soft boy in that case.

  • @ParodyIncTheWeirdets
    @ParodyIncTheWeirdets Před 2 lety +2527

    i met a lot of soft boys in uni, especially as a creative writing major with an emphasis on poetry. soft boys LOVE joining in classes thinking they'll impress the girls with their shitty off the cuff poetry, heres a hint: no one was impressed. and critiquing the work of a soft boy is hell and it never ends

    • @ijk9492
      @ijk9492 Před rokem +75

      am starting my masters in creative writing soon lmao should I be worried

    • @hondaaccord1399
      @hondaaccord1399 Před rokem +47

      Was starting to get scared until you mentioned poetry 🤣
      Fr tho fuck poetry it's long novels based on bullshit adventures I make up in my head all the way

    • @dextro_whatever
      @dextro_whatever Před rokem +8

      Are those the guys who write in aggressively purple prose? Because I’ve mostly been blessed as a CW major but I think I’ve workshopped some guys like that.

    • @jeremiahinyangotu4023
      @jeremiahinyangotu4023 Před rokem +11

      i know a couple of softboys in my uni, who think they're smarter and woke than everyone else. A couple of the other guys would make fun of how they would answer every single question that the lecturer would ask about the course, and i would chuckle along 😂

    • @Fritz1105
      @Fritz1105 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@ijk9492I mean if youre doing it for yourself it's not really anything bad. The classes themselves arent the problem, its just the specific people they talk about here

  • @kaylamullins9068
    @kaylamullins9068 Před 2 lety +635

    I asked a boy if he went to the gym and he said, “I don’t work out my body. I work out my brain.”

    • @Schnort
      @Schnort Před rokem +80

      They're telekinetic and go to the gun to lift weights with their brain.

    • @monoduck
      @monoduck Před rokem +25

      ​@@Schnort i too go to the gun to work out my telepathy

    • @mikeoxmall69420
      @mikeoxmall69420 Před rokem +26

      And then you see him telekinetically lifting weights with an "I'm taking a dump" look on his face

  • @emmataylor1758
    @emmataylor1758 Před 5 lety +5532

    bold of you to assume you won’t still be bullied

  • @daddyreginald5062
    @daddyreginald5062 Před 3 lety +9018

    “Yeah I’m into indie music, ever heard of Harry styles”

    • @river1409
      @river1409 Před 3 lety +200

      This particular comment got me actually wheezing for some reason.

    • @SeanStrife
      @SeanStrife Před 3 lety +217

      "I only appreciate true arthouse cinema... ever see Saw?"

    • @dumbass9049
      @dumbass9049 Před 3 lety +53

      he literally made the video bruh come on

    • @daddyreginald5062
      @daddyreginald5062 Před 3 lety +12

      @@dumbass9049 lol what

    • @d1m1u
      @d1m1u Před 3 lety +40

      LMFAOOOO

  • @rulerzreachf4n200
    @rulerzreachf4n200 Před 2 lety +1178

    Damn my definition of soft boy was completely wrong. I thought it meant like. A boy that’s more openly feminine. Like idk I imagine a boy wearing pastel pink clothing and a flower crown
    That’s a soft boy to me.

    • @SunshowerWonderlab
      @SunshowerWonderlab Před rokem +153

      That's a femboy you're thinking about

    • @zyerkos
      @zyerkos Před rokem +208

      @@SunshowerWonderlab theres some overlap between the two but that was what a softboy was before it got hijacked like this

    • @lizamay722
      @lizamay722 Před rokem +5

      @@SunshowerWonderlab lmfao

    • @gasterthemaster6490
      @gasterthemaster6490 Před rokem +20

      --Why did I think of Basil.--

    • @drippylad3973
      @drippylad3973 Před rokem +1

      ​@@gasterthemaster6490clothes

  • @gracemceuen2058
    @gracemceuen2058 Před rokem +306

    I’ve got a soft boy trying to hit me up rn and recently asked me if I’ve ever been in love. When I told him no (because I’m barely an adult and he’s in his 20’s) he told me how devastating that was for him to hear and just how utterly heartbroken he was for me. It was condescending, it was manipulative, and it was really, really annoying. 👻👻

    • @emic2590
      @emic2590 Před rokem +2

      lol what a creep ...he should be devastated about the state of his brain..

    • @gracemceuen2058
      @gracemceuen2058 Před rokem +5

      @@emic2590 HAHAHA

    • @elisecode2212
      @elisecode2212 Před 10 měsíci +15

      welcome to the life of an aromantic

    • @shortentity6853
      @shortentity6853 Před 7 měsíci

      They r such male manipulators

  • @banditolwt7801
    @banditolwt7801 Před 5 lety +10593

    so who's gonna tell him

  • @mandymckk
    @mandymckk Před 4 lety +31301

    The soft boy and the “I’m not like other girls” girl are made for each other

    • @taliesinfox5901
      @taliesinfox5901 Před 3 lety +2185

      If they only dated each other we’d be totally free of them. No more fb memes about chicken nuggets or dms filled with indie song lyrics sounds like paradise

    • @clalyrics441
      @clalyrics441 Před 3 lety +108

      @@taliesinfox5901 HAH

    • @Yara-us5ey
      @Yara-us5ey Před 3 lety +38

      taliesin fox bro... I thought ur profile pick was dajjal XD

    • @mariannecontrino6297
      @mariannecontrino6297 Před 3 lety +224

      Yeah, it sounds good on paper, but you just described "100 Shades(Days) of Summer", and I think we can all agree, it didn't work out too well for them.

    • @taliesinfox5901
      @taliesinfox5901 Před 3 lety +9

      Yara is awesome aha it’s just some old artwork of mine

  • @melizadebelen9831
    @melizadebelen9831 Před rokem +41

    Soft boys always try to hit you with the “you’re not like other girls, you actually have a personality” and it always bugs me because I think it’s so wrong to open up something with someone why comparing them to other people. It’s also putting me on a pedestal I’m uncomfortable being on and the whole “relationship” I am trying to chase after this standard they’ve set for me. It’s sooo manipulative, they know you just want attention and validation and they like trick you into thinking they’re the source of it (as you can tell I’ve unfortunately fell for it).

  • @lachlanwong6448
    @lachlanwong6448 Před 2 lety +167

    i know that this comment probably won’t be seen by most people but i kinda just want to say that i’m very very grateful to kurtis for making this video as when i first watched it, i was kind of a softboy. i watched it when i was 13 and i was super pretentious about both movies and music and some of my online behavior wasn’t quite as cringe as this in hindsight i was a massive asshole to people. this video kinda made me change myself for the better and i’m really thankful for kurtis for making his video

    • @mal_3157
      @mal_3157 Před 8 měsíci +13

      One Kurtis Connor video can change a life 💯

    • @trixie2558
      @trixie2558 Před měsícem +4

      Good on Kurtis and good on you. Keep living a good life lad.

    • @jimmymushrooms420
      @jimmymushrooms420 Před 25 dny

      WEEZER AVATAR BASED

  • @liah8624
    @liah8624 Před 4 lety +3487

    in case you haven't noticed:
    i'm weird,
    i'm a weirdo.
    i don't fit in
    and i don't... wanna fit in.
    have you ever seen me without this stupid hat on?
    that's _w e i r d_

    • @mariafausti3128
      @mariafausti3128 Před 4 lety +214

      w e i r d

    • @wrenclark4907
      @wrenclark4907 Před 4 lety +85

      Riverdale oh no

    • @hsmacaraig
      @hsmacaraig Před 3 lety +130

      i hate how i know where this is from.

    • @ylanairias6255
      @ylanairias6255 Před 3 lety +58

      I hadn't changed my clothes/diaper in the last 2 years, I'm...
      I'm a weirdo, a quirky, different girl, nobody understands me...

    • @elonmust7470
      @elonmust7470 Před 3 lety +1

      Who are you talking to?

  • @CouchEconomyTX
    @CouchEconomyTX Před 5 lety +14035

    Soft boys are emo but like
    yellow

  • @thine.
    @thine. Před 2 lety +573

    since there was the one that said "you look like a sociopathic mess and i love it", i kinda wanna rant.
    i hate that people are glorifying mental illnesses, like some people saying "I'm such a phychoooo" like ok, even if thats a personality type and not an illness, its not just criminals that kill people and love blood. It's a personality disorder and its not cute.
    its good to talk about any mental illness, lets say depression, its okay to talk about it, but not glorify it and talk about it like "i love people who have it, thats so cool", its something you need to try to solve and get rid of

    • @preachlisa6432
      @preachlisa6432 Před rokem +19

      I totally agree with you.
      I don't know why people think thats cool 🤧

    • @user-xf3by8ho8d
      @user-xf3by8ho8d Před rokem +43

      you can love someone who HAS it but loving someone only because they have it is super weird and romanticizing something that is a struggle for most, totally agree with you Thine

    • @Buzzzy-bee
      @Buzzzy-bee Před rokem +20

      That last part is just flat out wrong by the way, don’t ever say that to anyone

    • @daveyJ0nes
      @daveyJ0nes Před rokem +24

      I was with you until the end. You can't get rid of mental illness there's no cure for them just types of treatments that help you deal with them.

    • @XYZ-zn6qz
      @XYZ-zn6qz Před rokem +11

      Psychopathy/Sociopathy actually rarely have anything to do with murdering people.
      The vast majority of people with those disorders (which make up 1-2% of the population) are very normal seeming people who live pretty ordinary lives.
      The whole psycho killer stereotype is pretty much only a movie trope.

  • @lonesomephreak69
    @lonesomephreak69 Před rokem +168

    "arty" is military jargon word for "artillery"...so that still works here. IE, these guys are aiming from far away, firing repeatedly, and then once they hit they move on to the next target.

    • @ussdrizzle8393
      @ussdrizzle8393 Před 16 dny

      this does not have enough likes 😭😭thats fucking funny

  • @emilymadsen9709
    @emilymadsen9709 Před 5 lety +9213

    Attractive, white, cheekbones, jaw lines, haven't slept... Kurtis I love you but I think you're describing yourself

    • @otterhaus
      @otterhaus Před 5 lety +769

      Don't forget the curly hair too lmao

    • @littelcreatchure506
      @littelcreatchure506 Před 5 lety +466

      @@otterhaus *curly brown hair

    • @judi7548
      @judi7548 Před 5 lety +45

      Curly hair is for fuck boys 😂

    • @rileyb3174
      @rileyb3174 Před 5 lety +299

      judi cjudie curly hair is for people who have curly hair what stop curl shaming 😤

    • @surprisinglysurviving751
      @surprisinglysurviving751 Před 5 lety +74

      @@judi7548 no u :( *sobs in short curly brown hair*

  • @CharleneMuchunu
    @CharleneMuchunu Před 5 lety +5461

    "They look like they would play the guitar but they probably can't"
    That's it, that's the actual definition

    • @Fanaz10
      @Fanaz10 Před 5 lety +168

      "they look artsy, but probably don't do any"

    • @danielsame2074
      @danielsame2074 Před 5 lety +13

      But i do play the guitar, am I still a softboy?

    • @natasha0599
      @natasha0599 Před 5 lety +89

      The female version of this is those girls with mooshroom haircuts, glasses, that have and ukelele and plays “ somewhere over the rainbow”

    • @Fanaz10
      @Fanaz10 Před 5 lety +14

      @@natasha0599 nah, they can't do anything either

    • @niknokpalabok3030
      @niknokpalabok3030 Před 5 lety +33

      @@natasha0599 don't you mean "cant help falling in love with you"

  • @saturncommitscrimes
    @saturncommitscrimes Před 2 lety +450

    i love how Kurtis’ description of a soft boy is just the same as describing a stereotypical bisexual

    • @TheYoungKilljoy
      @TheYoungKilljoy Před rokem +31

      This is late, but it was the cuffed jeans and Doc Martens XD

    • @iexist6677
      @iexist6677 Před rokem +1

      ​@@TheYoungKilljoyvery fucking late man

    • @iexist6677
      @iexist6677 Před rokem +10

      Also, your profile picture is- wilbur soot- you should know everything about soft boys

    • @saturncommitscrimes
      @saturncommitscrimes Před rokem +8

      @@iexist6677 i do, at least i know that they get turned on by their reflections in passing cars /ref

    • @koiifsh
      @koiifsh Před 11 měsíci

      ​@@TheYoungKilljoy you have the same last name as my friend

  • @baby.nay.
    @baby.nay. Před rokem +353

    I know this video is 3 years old but I simply must weigh in as 34 y old woman ,,, this was just art school boys in 2010s …every tactic . How many times someone asked me “ do you wanna paint together “ or something like that and they just wanna f*** 😮😊

    • @countesscrows
      @countesscrows Před rokem +33

      ‘you could come and read at my place’ sure man im on my way 🙄

    • @baby.nay.
      @baby.nay. Před rokem +5

      @@countesscrows 😂😂😂

    • @doogles.
      @doogles. Před rokem +5

      4 years ago now 😭😭

  • @SuperCat561
    @SuperCat561 Před 5 lety +2808

    “attractive white dudes with cheek bones, jaw lines, and look like that haven’t slept in like... ever” ...so like- you? cuz..-

    • @pedofragilistico4837
      @pedofragilistico4837 Před 5 lety +23

      trve

    • @enderdude13
      @enderdude13 Před 5 lety +21

      I was reading this as he was saying it

    • @feliDAdj
      @feliDAdj Před 5 lety +5

      @@enderdude13 I'd have him

    • @monke6166
      @monke6166 Před 5 lety +11

      Fetus deletus abortion completus I need to make 30 new accounts to like this reply

    • @springday2385
      @springday2385 Před 5 lety +22

      Kurtis is actually really really hot. Granted no under eye circles, which isn’t a must lol. His nose ring is cute too.

  • @jaaykaay
    @jaaykaay Před 4 lety +4614

    "I'm not a softboy, I'm a hardboy"
    *- Kurtis Conner 2019*

  • @456puff
    @456puff Před 2 lety +97

    Kurtis's little speech at the end about being genuine and attracting the right kid of people is FACTS and I love it so much.

  • @nex6820
    @nex6820 Před 2 lety +37

    I've never encountered a soft boy but in my youth I dated a pedophile and an emo boy. Then recently a country boy and I've realized dating is just not for me

  • @prof.lysander6191
    @prof.lysander6191 Před 3 lety +14870

    "911 what's your emergency?"
    "I got shot in my house"
    "Where do you live?"
    "The moment."

  • @jt0n
    @jt0n Před 3 lety +12641

    i just realized how old this video is, almost 2 years old. it's yesteryesteryear

    • @szecr
      @szecr Před 3 lety +147

      Yesteryearyear

    • @sayareejamal1406
      @sayareejamal1406 Před 3 lety +183

      Year before yesteryear

    • @belle_may_kickahhs
      @belle_may_kickahhs Před 3 lety +116

      yesteryear once removed

    • @smokenotfire
      @smokenotfire Před 3 lety +84

      It'd have to be ereyesteryear lol. Fun fact, ereyesterday is the official English term for the day before yesterday.

    • @delbrooke7655
      @delbrooke7655 Před 3 lety +15

      Its already learning to walk 🤧

  • @yongusdongus7351
    @yongusdongus7351 Před 2 lety +44

    so im transmasc and I pass quite well as a cis man and for the LONGEST time I'd act just like this because in my head I thought ''if I got a straight woman to have a thing for me then wow I would feel really euphoric" so I made my whole personality like the romance side character in a teen Disney movie and it was a huge burden on me, eventually I cracked and became emo so idk which is worse honestly

  • @eastia7518
    @eastia7518 Před 2 lety +487

    I feel called out, man. I'm an artist. I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I like to talk about my emotions. I wear vans and doc martins and I cuff my jeans. But that's because I'm *_bisexual_* okay? I'd never try to manipulate anyone by pretending to care about their emotions or using flowery language to impress them. If I'm into you it's because I genuinely like you and want to know how you're doing.

    • @alexisb3829
      @alexisb3829 Před 2 lety +12

      Same

    • @kelpu3849
      @kelpu3849 Před rokem +17

      cool, nice, ok

    • @kittypeanut4102
      @kittypeanut4102 Před rokem +36

      ...uh, so, you're saying that you have all of that characteristics just because you're bisexual? That sounds really, uh, superficial, like someone not bisexual can't be like that.

    • @kelpu3849
      @kelpu3849 Před rokem +15

      @@kittypeanut4102 you said what i wanted to say but i didn't know how yea the way they put it doese sound superficial almost stereotyping

    • @hurstinion
      @hurstinion Před rokem +50

      @@kittypeanut4102 The cuffing your jeans thing is what they mean, it's sort of a meme that all bi people cuff their jeans

  • @twitchycorpse4378
    @twitchycorpse4378 Před 3 lety +5232

    "I listen to only underground, ever heard of gangnam style?"

    • @samuel-zb4qn
      @samuel-zb4qn Před 3 lety +78

      Yeah but have you heard of this is the best burrito ive ever eaten?💔🥀😣✊

    • @lejindaryarmy948
      @lejindaryarmy948 Před 3 lety +73

      GANGAM STYLE-
      OMG!
      That was a kpop reset lol!

    • @lejindaryarmy948
      @lejindaryarmy948 Před 3 lety +31

      @Tegan Louise ,BTS was the way for me to know that PSY was a Kpop artist-

    • @forestgreen352
      @forestgreen352 Před 3 lety +22

      @@lejindaryarmy948 SAME- Idk why but I thought he was speaking English when I first heard it- I legit had no idea what kpop was.

    • @rashmisingh1363
      @rashmisingh1363 Před 3 lety +4

      @@lejindaryarmy948 same😂😂

  • @HollandInspired
    @HollandInspired Před 4 lety +7118

    Kurtis describing a soft boy was really just him roasting himself

  • @morgan5754
    @morgan5754 Před 2 lety +25

    the name for these types of boys has got so literal, it’s just male manipulators 😭😭

  • @gloomyxbabee
    @gloomyxbabee Před 2 lety +18

    Soft Bois want a manic pixie dream girl until the manic episode is over and she becomes a depressive pixie dream girl.

  • @mudzsoup
    @mudzsoup Před 4 lety +8826

    "Yeah I listen to really unknown music, you ever hear of Bohemian Rhapsody?"

    • @Dervs-pb5ey
      @Dervs-pb5ey Před 4 lety +273

      I don't even know what music is, bruh.

    • @ninawth
      @ninawth Před 4 lety +328

      The first time I tried online dating, a guy I chatted with hadn't heard of it before. So I sent him a link to the song and he said he didn't like it at all. Basically, a guy lost interest in in me because of Bohemian Rhapsody. It was weird.

    • @TheTrueAltoClef
      @TheTrueAltoClef Před 4 lety +260

      @@ninawth my girlfriend thought that the song Bohemian Rhapsody was written for the the movie, until I told her it's more than 40 years old

    • @Roma-kp4qg
      @Roma-kp4qg Před 4 lety +177

      Oh god, that was me when I was 13. I thought I was soOoOo unIqUe and Not LiKe oThEr gIrlS for liking Queen...

    • @lee2791
      @lee2791 Před 4 lety +19

      YoshiThe1st it’s that old already? wow-

  • @louisehalleur5863
    @louisehalleur5863 Před 3 lety +3395

    Kurtis looks like he has a british accent

  • @spaghetti4659
    @spaghetti4659 Před rokem +9

    I'm in art school... that's like their natural habitat. Fascinating type of person really. In my experience they all wear earrings and worship Quentin Tarantino.

  • @oppenheimersdarling
    @oppenheimersdarling Před 9 měsíci +3

    Hark, for I am'st in disbelief ☠️☠️☠️ How doth a gentleman confuse sandals with cavalry boots??? 😭😭😭

  • @a_useless_brick
    @a_useless_brick Před 3 lety +6271

    “brown curly haired skinny white boy who looks like he hasn’t slept in days.” sounds a little familiar kurtis...

    • @Peach-dh9pe
      @Peach-dh9pe Před 2 lety +154

      Ikr the irony.... Hmmm

    • @heyhorinshi
      @heyhorinshi Před 2 lety +99

      You forgot the tattoos

    • @SirFlooberis
      @SirFlooberis Před 2 lety +20

      MISSION FAILED WE’LL GET EM BACK NEXT TIME. Would probably be his reaction to this comment

    • @a_useless_brick
      @a_useless_brick Před 2 lety +27

      @floofy buttercup lmao what

    • @tret953
      @tret953 Před 2 lety +48

      @floofy buttercup actually, you were the pick me all along

  • @auggies7132
    @auggies7132 Před 5 lety +2643

    kurtis roasting himself for 15 minutes

  • @_noon
    @_noon Před 2 lety +20

    Kurtis: “the extra greeting is a kurtis guarantee
    Also kurtis: *forgets greeting*

  • @doubyday884
    @doubyday884 Před 4 lety +2668

    A "soft boy" once made a move on my friend. She's definitely not into him, but being the soft boy that he is he send a pic of him crying and said some shit like "I'm crying for you" or something and let me tell you I have never cringe and laugh so hard

    • @anyakirana4906
      @anyakirana4906 Před 4 lety +74

      That happened to me too omg and istg i cringed so hard

    • @johndelorean7353
      @johndelorean7353 Před 4 lety +19

      So did he get the friend? 😂

    • @doubyday884
      @doubyday884 Před 4 lety +39

      @@anyakirana4906 I felt so bad for my friend for her to get through stuff like that

    • @doubyday884
      @doubyday884 Před 4 lety +91

      @@johndelorean7353 nope. dude tryna act like he's making shit right by telling her to reconcile w her dad and everything and literally playing victim all the goddamn time. Dude was so problematic lmao

    • @froggielover587
      @froggielover587 Před 4 lety +3

      Haha omg 😆

  • @janedoe-ef2bz
    @janedoe-ef2bz Před 4 lety +3690

    Soft boys is just the male version of "I'm not like the most girls"

  • @cannibalcsffe
    @cannibalcsffe Před 6 měsíci +8

    kurtis this is an old ass video and this is an insane comment but i suffer with really horrible intrusive thoughts so your videos really help me distract myself from them!! thabk you

  • @levinyman8790
    @levinyman8790 Před rokem +9

    This is super late and deff won't be read by anyone but thank you for acknowledging sociopathy as a medical condition. I have AsPD which is the correct diagnosis (psychopathy and sociopathy are sets of traits someone with AsPD may have) and I've dealt with edgy chasers like that guy and it's disgusting. I'm sure that if the person he was messaging actually had AsPD and was categorized as a sociopath he would leave the second they showed symptoms because people like that don't want a mentally ill partner, they want brownie points for dating a mentally ill person.

  • @azriel82
    @azriel82 Před 5 lety +4419

    Softbois are just F Bois that figured out what emo and manipulation means.

    • @benjaminacuna8013
      @benjaminacuna8013 Před 4 lety +183

      Azriel fuck boys know how to manipulate soft bois just know how to spell the word

    • @gracefrederick6633
      @gracefrederick6633 Před 4 lety +77

      THEY'RE EVOLVING

    • @asianlion9769
      @asianlion9769 Před 4 lety +14

      Wow. I actually didnt know im that until i read your comment. I go for the emotions, not the body, and most women actually fall for me. Then we would have sex, then I would just leave.

    • @soriswikipediapage9131
      @soriswikipediapage9131 Před 4 lety +13

      Soft Bois is being used wrong it's mostly used by fandoms to describe members of certain groups or soloists. These American guys are f*** boys that are acting out cute guys in films that girls like or fangirl over e.g. Cole Sprouse/ any model/ 90s celebs etc

    • @ChristopherTheBanana
      @ChristopherTheBanana Před 4 lety +8

      yo this dude fucks

  • @victoriakathleen01
    @victoriakathleen01 Před 4 lety +19442

    Soft boys: I use big words to make myself sound more photosynthesis

    • @strawberrywigz1658
      @strawberrywigz1658 Před 4 lety +920

      Shushhh MITCHONDRIA IS THE PWORHOUSE OF THE CELL

    • @leisha7784
      @leisha7784 Před 4 lety +567

      Yes and u know my face is very germinating

    • @srslydoatm9251
      @srslydoatm9251 Před 4 lety +185

      Why did this kill me

    • @skoobydookie_ESBz
      @skoobydookie_ESBz Před 4 lety +145

      This made me funny

    • @Teeeth
      @Teeeth Před 4 lety +394

      I feel very pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis right now

  • @skyhideaway
    @skyhideaway Před 2 lety +18

    these are the kind of people who probably make/share ✨ aesthetic depression moodboards✨

  • @honey3438
    @honey3438 Před 2 lety +20

    1:23 kurtis literally describing himself

  • @marislovesgays
    @marislovesgays Před 3 lety +13110

    soft boys are always looking for a manic pixie dream girl and when they realize she has actual mental health issues and isn't just quirky, they leave

    • @merc065
      @merc065 Před 3 lety +1019

      100% true. And the fact that people are surprised that mental health is a real issue is just so sad. They’re almost always the same people fabricating their reputation using self-diagnosed illnesses but go speechless when they learn that mental health isn’t something for show

    • @crystalbombery9921
      @crystalbombery9921 Před 3 lety +106

      God damn right

    • @mia.semolina
      @mia.semolina Před 2 lety +55

      PERIOD!!

    • @krystalfukinmarie757
      @krystalfukinmarie757 Před 2 lety +60

      Oof 😅 the accuracy 🥲

    • @teal3af49
      @teal3af49 Před 2 lety +277

      What also sucks is when the soft boy thing got around my school, a lot of boys never showed emotion because they didn’t wanna look like a soft boy which fucked up their mental health. If there was a list on hurtful trends, soft boys would be in the top 3.

  • @zeldao1692
    @zeldao1692 Před 5 lety +12214

    "Attractive white boys with cheek bones and jawlines that look like they haven't slept in like. . . Ever." Do you guys wanna tell him or shall I?

    • @lucypark4282
      @lucypark4282 Před 5 lety +1165

      Zelda o you can I don’t want to upset him

    • @thanos7449
      @thanos7449 Před 5 lety +76

      lol

    • @tommyphelan8323
      @tommyphelan8323 Před 5 lety +25

      Zelda o I don’t understand

    • @jiyu9277
      @jiyu9277 Před 5 lety +835

      Tommy Phelan kurtis basically described himself without realizing

    • @anyam9330
      @anyam9330 Před 5 lety +50

      shit

  • @Sofia-ok7df
    @Sofia-ok7df Před 2 lety +6

    10:18 OMG I JUST GOT A DOC MARTIN AD AFTER THIS WTH

  • @thevoyagesystem
    @thevoyagesystem Před rokem +33

    One of my headmates uses the term softboy in a completely different context for himself. He's just super gay and a little femme, but he's one of our anger holders dude. He just uses the term to refer to how he dresses. **Shrug** but nah weve never actually encountered someone like the way youre describing before. this just sounds like niceguy hipsters lol.

  • @VizzyInks
    @VizzyInks Před 5 lety +4615

    I love to hear him explaining about how a "soft" boy looks like when he actually looks like a soft boy.

    • @faith9196
      @faith9196 Před 5 lety +68

      My thoughts exactly lmao

    • @mattdang3362
      @mattdang3362 Před 5 lety +17

      He mentioned that you dummie🙃

    • @femaleserialkiller
      @femaleserialkiller Před 5 lety +60

      yeah he mentioned that lmaooo “i know what it looks like, but I AM NOT A SOFT BOY”

    • @youareverynoice8805
      @youareverynoice8805 Před 4 lety +5

      Ikr

    • @CPRCUS
      @CPRCUS Před 3 lety +18

      Except I'm attracted to him and not to soft boys I mean what

  • @timotheelaperriere5212
    @timotheelaperriere5212 Před 5 lety +4392

    That’s basically the spider man pointing Spider-Man meme

  • @blondelilgiant381
    @blondelilgiant381 Před rokem +9

    When he mentioned the Birkenstocks I started crying from laughing so hard cause my dad owns a pair 😭

  • @cameronmat
    @cameronmat Před 7 měsíci +2

    I once had a guy on tinder message me with the opening line "Uhhh.... you look like you have a beautiful soul"

  • @premareyes1881
    @premareyes1881 Před 5 lety +17624

    a soft boy once corrected my pronunciation of my own name

    • @wittyblonde6728
      @wittyblonde6728 Před 5 lety +1326

      prema reyes I would kick him in the shins....like I do when people correct me on my last name.

    • @selfcompassionate
      @selfcompassionate Před 5 lety +628

      @@wittyblonde6728 people do this to me and it's ridiculous

    • @ElpSmith
      @ElpSmith Před 5 lety +435

      LOL WTF

    • @Eli-vx6xv
      @Eli-vx6xv Před 5 lety +740

      prema reyes dude I hate it when people do that, once in like 7th grade my teacher corrected me in pronouncing my name and I wanted to punch him right then and there.

    • @liberty1816
      @liberty1816 Před 5 lety +430

      Mansplaining

  • @jessicat3691
    @jessicat3691 Před 5 lety +7214

    Pants: Cuffed

  • @wildgr33n
    @wildgr33n Před rokem +7

    kurtis trying to describe soft boys while trying to deny he is one; best video on the internet.

  • @linorosavoigtlander3507
    @linorosavoigtlander3507 Před 2 lety +6

    I like how your videos are like 99% sarcasm and then in the last minute you drop some facts. But honestly, I laugh so hard watching your content.

  • @a.d.9366
    @a.d.9366 Před 3 lety +13113

    "attractive white dudes with cheekbones and jawlines and look like they haven't slept in forever.."
    Kurtis honey...

  • @babyfox3324
    @babyfox3324 Před 4 lety +3164

    Oh so when guys dress like that they’re softboys, but when i do it i’m a lesbian?

  • @Colonol_sanders
    @Colonol_sanders Před rokem +10

    I think when Kurtis was describing soft boys he was actually describing all of my bisexual friends without knowing it including me

  • @brettkelly6950
    @brettkelly6950 Před rokem +12

    Those bullies must be arrested. You have to be nice to Kurtis, it's the law.

  • @carlyndebolt8648
    @carlyndebolt8648 Před 5 lety +2950

    boy: soft
    pants: cuffed
    arctic: monkied
    docs: martened
    emotions: played

  • @leofreaking
    @leofreaking Před 4 lety +4382

    "They look like they play the guitar but probably don't"
    so simple, yet so true

  • @tiannacowan6999
    @tiannacowan6999 Před 2 lety +5

    3:33 the odd thing is that even though kurtis said birkenstocks, i still had a picture of doc martin type combat boots in my brain, before he corrected himself

  • @user-zh5mn5pn9w
    @user-zh5mn5pn9w Před 2 lety +3

    8:02 IM WHEEZING WHY DID HE FIND IT SO NECESSARY TO SAY THAT HE DOESN'T CARE ABT ADELE HELP

  • @tfoprincess
    @tfoprincess Před 5 lety +8304

    "I'm not like most girls" epidemic is dying out. Now the "I'm not like most guys" epidemic is rising.

  • @mckennacal_pencil
    @mckennacal_pencil Před 5 lety +3899

    A soft boy messaged me on instagram and said, "you look like someone who I could be sad with"

  • @MyFatherLooksLikeAPallasCat

    I always rewatch an old video after Kurtis upload a new one to get my extra greeting I subscribed for

    • @Skonces
      @Skonces Před měsícem

      I absolutely love your username

  • @LazyDwobbitReno
    @LazyDwobbitReno Před 6 měsíci +2

    Your dramatic reading is what convinced me to subscribe.

  • @sunny-4593
    @sunny-4593 Před 5 lety +1568

    I’m weird.
    I’m a weirdo.
    I don’t fit in
    And I don’t wanna fit in.
    Have you ever seen me without this stupid hat on?
    *T H A T S W E I R D*

  • @blanchardgreenez
    @blanchardgreenez Před 5 lety +3366

    the way they confidently abuse the english language is so special and so upsetting

    • @jelenabakajic2211
      @jelenabakajic2211 Před 4 lety +18

      bm 66 to be honest, I didn't really understand most of words that they used, and... I was kind of happy for it XD

    • @Fire-Toolz
      @Fire-Toolz Před 4 lety +5

      just sayin tho, english isn't always someone's first language. but i know what you mean.

    • @luxnoctis4730
      @luxnoctis4730 Před 4 lety +44

      English isn't my first language but even I cringe at how they murder it with their grammatical errors and misspellings.

    • @dylanenman3417
      @dylanenman3417 Před 4 lety

      Why did u say they, he’s one person lmfao

    • @negligible_reality
      @negligible_reality Před rokem +4

      it's the way that you just KNOW they used a thesaurus app to make themselves sound more intelligent and fake having a strong vocabulary, but didn't bother checking to make sure they're actually using the words correctly or correct any possible grammatical mistakes

  • @woody_you_want
    @woody_you_want Před rokem +3

    I feel so bad for non subscribers. That extra greeting always makes my day

  • @ayesha2524
    @ayesha2524 Před 2 lety +43

    I don’t think Kurtis realises he’s literally what every teenage girl falls for

    • @emic2590
      @emic2590 Před rokem +1

      so in that universe of you, where every teenage girl falls... the mulet hairstyle is a turn on?

    • @TheYoungKilljoy
      @TheYoungKilljoy Před rokem +5

      ​@@emic2590 You would be surprised, the things I've seen

    • @coffingxrl
      @coffingxrl Před 6 měsíci

      @@emic2590only on him

  • @sarahhowes8759
    @sarahhowes8759 Před 5 lety +804

    Kurtis you're a softboi

  • @glowkirby
    @glowkirby Před 4 lety +2236

    “Yeah I’m into indie bands, ever heard of Gorillaz?”

    • @hello1079
      @hello1079 Před 3 lety +95

      Have you heard of blur. It's such an underrated indie band. Doubt you've heard of it.

    • @it4065
      @it4065 Před 3 lety +157

      ever heard of the neighbourhood? yeah I thought so

    • @ethanhogan2463
      @ethanhogan2463 Před 3 lety +163

      Yeah, duh. Nah I'm like *really* underground stuff dude. Please tell me you know the Beatles? You probably don't they're pretty low-key

    • @raspberrycrowns9494
      @raspberrycrowns9494 Před 3 lety +122

      @@ethanhogan2463 Legit had someone actually tell me that. Said I probably haven't heard it and played Hey Jude, one of the Beatles' most popular songs. Then proceeded to rant about how music isn't as good as it was back then while having a Panic at the disco and Hamilton poster.

    • @ethanhogan2463
      @ethanhogan2463 Před 3 lety +22

      @@raspberrycrowns9494 Holy shit that's hilarious

  • @directedbylola
    @directedbylola Před 2 lety +2

    This is my comfort video and I’ve watched it 15 times already

  • @Jennaros1ty
    @Jennaros1ty Před rokem +2

    I love how literally he takes the bits - that is my type of comedy

  • @natalienecadova442
    @natalienecadova442 Před 3 lety +7534

    “i'm into indie music, ever heard of Ludwig van Beethoven?“

    • @sarahanditakarina1726
      @sarahanditakarina1726 Před 3 lety +213

      omg no way! my fave musician is Ling Ling (if you know this reference i’ll cri 😂)

    • @iman1246
      @iman1246 Před 3 lety +22

      Ik that reference but I’m not Natálie

    • @sarahanditakarina1726
      @sarahanditakarina1726 Před 3 lety +74

      @@iman1246 yooo ling ling wannabes unite (tho i'm not a musician lol)

    • @iman1246
      @iman1246 Před 3 lety +28

      Oh I am but I haven’t done my practise yet 😯

    • @roadman373
      @roadman373 Před 3 lety +14

      @@sarahanditakarina1726 LING LING WANNABE AYYYE

  • @xXxNeonPrincessxXx
    @xXxNeonPrincessxXx Před 5 lety +1251

    Rose: Draw me like one of your French girls.
    Jack: hOw aBoUt I dRaW uR aURA.

  • @limnem7864
    @limnem7864 Před 2 lety +11

    4:07 mitosis be like

  • @CryptP
    @CryptP Před 2 lety +14

    7:47 no but like Do I Wanna Know is also one of the most popular Arctic Monkeys songs (if not the most) so it's the same vibe as if they'd put like Creep by Radiohead there or smth like at least try dude

  • @stefangaitan3646
    @stefangaitan3646 Před 3 lety +8650

    “They look like they could play the guitar but probably can’t” the accuracy is astounding

  • @miagordon6352
    @miagordon6352 Před 4 lety +3315

    police:911 what’s your emergency?
    you:someone is in my house
    police:ok,where do you live?
    you:i live in the moment

  • @noshka
    @noshka Před 6 měsíci +2

    Omg Kurtis I can’t believe how good you look with this haircut !! Please do it again 😳

  • @squeece
    @squeece Před rokem +8

    How did Kurtis go from looking like a soft boy to looking like an eshay lmao
    (and yet somehow not actually being either)

  • @1o1nah
    @1o1nah Před 4 lety +2719

    I'm neither a soft boy nor a hard boy..
    _I'm a firm boy._

  • @Heyzzels9947
    @Heyzzels9947 Před 4 lety +3433

    I watch weird indie shows, like you ever heard of the office
    Edit: thanks for the likes, I’m also into this indie band called AC/DC, there really underground

    • @lopipee
      @lopipee Před 3 lety +238

      Have you heard of adventure time it’s so underrated and weird

    • @fibra2241
      @fibra2241 Před 3 lety +214

      I was a weird kid i watched this unpopular show Hannah Montana

    • @lopipee
      @lopipee Před 3 lety +119

      regular show was so quirky and odd I doubt you’ve seen it

    • @thejuicerisgone3215
      @thejuicerisgone3215 Před 3 lety +157

      I started to watch this quicky underrated show, have you heard of the spongbob square pants?

    • @WORLD-STAR670
      @WORLD-STAR670 Před 3 lety +111

      Dude, ever heard of like.. Peppa Pig?

  • @hanakkimmm
    @hanakkimmm Před 7 měsíci +1

    i was waiting for "folks!" but i guess it wasn't there yet

  • @shibuthicc
    @shibuthicc Před 2 lety

    I've never heard of you and yt suggested me this video now nvm the actual thing the video is about I give you A+ and a subscribe just for the huge effort to talk the way u struggle to say things is relatable as hell

  • @kittysrock16
    @kittysrock16 Před 5 lety +24694

    The biggest irony is Kurtis looking exactly like a soft boy making this

  • @madikoehler5321
    @madikoehler5321 Před 5 lety +14943

    Kurtis you’ve been looking really...soft lately

  • @Nikusarusan
    @Nikusarusan Před 2 lety +1

    only tangientially related, but i hate it when people say they listen to indie like that means anything, its not a genre, its the description of how the music is produced and sold

  • @benjaminwigley4132
    @benjaminwigley4132 Před měsícem +1

    drizzle drizzle brought me here... and i laughed hysterically!!! good job!

  • @isisreyeshdz2738
    @isisreyeshdz2738 Před 5 lety +3380

    haircut makes you look like a softboy..

  • @Maria-fb1sz
    @Maria-fb1sz Před 3 lety +3366

    noah scented mayo is just another breed

    • @hihihi_813
      @hihihi_813 Před 3 lety +114

      scented mayo. never heard that one before

    • @superstellarhere
      @superstellarhere Před 3 lety +147

      I skimmed over this really fast and read “mayo” and breed and my brain thought “Oh, Noah is bread?” So yeah. Noah Centimeter is another type of bread.

    • @preciousoh705
      @preciousoh705 Před 3 lety +18

      Noah Scent of a Woman

    • @hannahtimmons4097
      @hannahtimmons4097 Před 3 lety +34

      @@superstellarhere I read your reply and somehow forgot breed was a word I thought you were trying to spell bread it took me a sec I’m so done

    • @superstellarhere
      @superstellarhere Před 3 lety +11

      @@hannahtimmons4097 Me too bud, me too

  • @masch7000
    @masch7000 Před 2 lety +3

    As an HSP these types of people really makes things difficult for us

  • @gabyl735
    @gabyl735 Před 2 lety +4

    The “I live in the moment” quote is from the show “ how I met your mother “ originally its “ my parents live in Ohio but I live in the moment” I think he didn’t mean to come over as a soft boy😭😭😭