This British Reality TV Show is Pure Evil
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23 likes in 16 hours? He fell off
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Honestly, having the bride pick her wedding from two anonymous envelopes could have been really cute….so long as the options were stuff like “ballroom reception” vs “garden reception” and NOT “shitty warehouse” vs “shitty prison” 💀💀
Totally agree. There absolutely are couples out there who would have fun gamifying their wedding and creating surprises for each other, but that working requires both partners to know each other well to anticipate their taste, and to CARE about how the wedding turns out. This man neither cared about the wedding nor did he know her well at all.
So accurate 💯💯
@@jijittersyeah but do audiences actually watch that? or do audiences say they want to watch certain things, but then in reality decide to watch and devote their attention to something else? netflix changed their whole video recommendation system over it and y youtube algorithm tracks watch times and not likes, etc.
@@Jack-px8lf What? Who cares? No one said anything about audiences.
To be fair - warehouse and prison themes are not bad in themselves (just like ballroom and garden receptions can be made into an absolute disaster by simply making the same choices for decor and ideas from the warehouse reception presented here) - you can go a long way by being imaginative and doing some research and maybe bouncing some ideas off of people who are capable of grounding some madness to a level.
I can imagine how - given a 14K GBP budget and some 3 weeks of time one could do a makeshift prison wedding. Like stick to one venue (this could also work as confinement theme) - the dirty warehouse (or a cleaner one - there are probably plenty of places to find with the brutalist architecture in UK industrial area one could rent for cheap, which has a roof, plumbing and electricity), next - get a prison chaplain and put some protective riot gear he might be able to borrow from the actual prison, maybe cuff the newlyweds. One could probably rent park picnic tables with benches attached to the tables themselves - reminiscent of the jail. You find all sorts of signs from actual prisons saying which direction one needs to face, which line not to step over, caution signs and stuff like that - print and put those up, but don't overdo it and maybe even find ones appropriate for certain areas pointing to lavatories and what not. Hardware store - find chains. Buy several handcuffs at one of those military stores selling airsoft equipment and military uniforms - weld or just attach those to chains and attach to some walls. You can even let the guests arrive in regular non-themed attire and have a set of orange overalls (also from a hardware store - maybe get some print on them). Then do some research on chairs someone sells - maybe there is a big and sturdy one - one could dress up as an electric chair using a pasta strainer, old belt, a bunch of wires and maybe some dark varnish or wood stain, maybe get a an old switch somewhere. Now you have a photo corner where people can put on the provided overalls and pose as prisoner in the chair, the person who pulls the switch and maybe someone else who soaks the sponge or does the strapping in or just puts the hand on the shoulder and pretends to be executed as well. Check the budget - enough for a wedding band to dress up as prisoners or guards and play like top 20 songs about prisons lifted off a list somewhere or just put the same songs on the sound system and then play them without the band. Shivs instead of knives at the table, plastic cutlery... one could go all the way and buy a toilet and put punch there. Divide tables into gangs. Let people get tattoo-like face-paint on premises - like hire an artist who looks gruff enough for a day. Use friends and colleagues from prison who would be willing to come and pose as actual guards at the wedding. Maybe get overalls for caterers. Maybe rent some cages. Plan the layout. Could work.
there was a kid's version of this where the children planned their parents wedding, and it was always so wholesome. they always really tried their best and knew their parents well.
this one was peak cbbc!! - I remember several where the kids made the decorations by hand, did the cake tastings (what kid wouldn't enjoy that) and made deals and shook hands with vendors like tiny business people!!!
I watched that and it was so cute lol
! I would love to see the reaction to this series! After this video he owes us something not so damn sad.
what was this series called cause this sounds so cute
Oh my gosh this sounds so adorable and wholesome🩷
I would love to see THIS show.
The age gap between these two, his liking of prisons, warehouses, planes, and going to Thailand are suspicious as hell
he's also a pig, so there's that
Yeah! Fuck Thailand!
For the honeymoon, he will be shipped by plane to a warehouse in Thailand. 😍 (it is a prison.)
Eh, my parents have a 9-year age gap.
Bruh its not the age gap that's the biggest problem. Its all things mentioned together that make this guy sus af.@user-ud1cd7qq4q
Brit here - while this dude is indeed an absolute 🔔end, the shown was also heavily led by the production team. There were some rules that weren't televised - like the groom had to pick a theme, and certain parts of the budget were dictated to make the grooms look more selfish. (For example they had to spend a certain amount on the dress vs the suit.) They also auditioned the couples, talking to each partner separately and deliberately chose those with the biggest differences in their ideas.
It was basically rage bait TV... Like most of our tv shows were in the 00's 🙈
This is so messed up. So the producers deliberately set up women for their feelings to be hurt by choosing the most inconsiderate, clueless men and encouraging men to ruin the experience for their brides - without women's informed consent to such appalling treatment. And it's worse than a simple rage bait like telling outrageous things, etc., because it involves actually hurting people's feelings and ruining families. What misogynistic bigotry this show is!
No I've seen this show and I've seen them spend way less on the suit before (once it was $0 on the groomsmen suits, causing the best man to drop out). Some of the bride dresses and bridesmaids dresses were alright. The man finds a way to mess up somewhere else
@@olgagrigoreva2801 come on they´ve seen the program before, they know the wedding will be rubbish. If you want a proper wedding then don´t go on a reality show
If the girl isn't an idiot she'd know what she's in for. They know what's good TV (or was back then) they get a free wedding and 15 minutes of fame!
@@Scott_Raynor truth
Its so sad when the bride first sees her dress because she starts to realize how little he actually values her
I actually got emotionally distressed for her, she seems so sweet and hearing her voice crack when trying to remain rational on TV made me so sad actually because wow. Imagine knowing that your husband would value you so little and then clearly care more about himself, think selfishly, and be a foolish fucking idiot. I'm glad she left him
"why play games with me now?" oh no girl I'm so sorry ☹️
theyre both on a fucking SHOW getting their wedding PAID FOR this is just brainless fake media. what happened to the world? we went from knowing this was completely staged bullshit to using reality shows as a gauge for human beings. get real.
I think buying a teeny tiny dress to your 8 month pregnant wife is just evil
@@PlanetBabylon Yeah how EVIL. No no no there is no responsibility on the woman in this at all. No sir! She married a literal terrorist after 9 months and let a tv show decide her "most important day(LMAO)"
But yeah sexism is cool I guess
It's not "guys shouldn't be in charge of large decisions" it's men are capable adults and shouldn't act like immature children.
and they should probably not marry a woman they clearly already hate. although i suppose that would narrow down their prospects quite a bit
im exploding like a volcano right now kurtis has stolen my content for money+views and never has given me any credit!!
@@chickenfoot2423exactly 🙏 they only marry for the perks, aka: a stable source of sex and the status that being married and having kids gives men.. thats pretty much it. they dont marry women because they actually like them loll thats LAME 💀🗿💪😎🔥🔥
@@ville__ Are people really dense enough for these obvious clickbait comments to have any positive impact on your viewer count?
Wouldnt it be easier to channel all this wasted energy into actually making passable content? Anyone falling for this clickbait will immediately leave and block your channel, because you're obviously dishonest and have to resort to underhanded tactics because your content is lacking.
I agree. love kurtis but he was wrong for saying that at the end
"if she loves you she will forgive you" works for, like, forgetting to hang the laundry or making a reservation at the wrong restaurant, not for intentionally making their wedding day the most disappointing wedding to ever grace the wedding world.
Nah she should
Him blaming her for her "choices" is a huge red flag.
This is a perfect visual representation of the “make better choices!!!!” argument they make when blaming victims
Him being a total idiot is a red flag but women love idiots because they sometimes are easier to control. ..not in this case, she probably loved his big wang but so do the other kooks.
every choice the husband makes while planning the wedding makes me feel like he's playing episode irl with no gems
Makes sense to me🧐
The show made the questions, the guy created the choices. “You’re in charge of planning your wedding with your 7 month pregnant fiancée. Which wedding venue do you pick?” Airplane Aisle vs Prison
Worst part is that he gave no thought about his partner’s wishes and then attempted to pin the blame on her as he hid the answers and made her pick one at random. At least Episode has the decency to show you your choices.
LMAOO like actually 😭😭😭
@@JBC352no fr😭 at least I can see what kinda shitty choice I’m making. THIS, this however is pure hell.
Lmaoo truuuuu😂😂😂
him spending $160 on her dress but $500 on his suit is actually so gross
£, not $ (500£ is 635$).
And that is a crazy amount to spend on the suit considering the budget. I have to attend two weddings this year so I bought a new suit for 180€ (154£), tailor fitted for me that I'm just going to straight up say looks way better than the one he got
@@jorgedaniel9656 i know its pounds im american and on a laptop so i dont have the symbol lol
@@Jack-px8lfit's less about that and more about, there is a budget, you are in full control over what it gets used for, and you decided your part of it deserves more of that limited budget than the other person.
@@jorgedaniel9656 $ means money in general, you are dense
@@Jack-px8lf"i mean i hate to be the"- proceeds to be that person. Dude. If I got married and for whatever reason my husband really cared about his suit, the materials, cut etc then obviously there would be no problem with spending more money for that reason. I doubt this dude actually cares about that, but it's clear his wife did and honestly he should know that because most women do, I do too and I couldn't even tell you why exactly, but you can at least expect a woman to want to look the most beautiful she can on the day of her wedding. He made no efforts to make that desire come true. He had the choice of how much money went into what, and decided that *he* was more important than her on something that he doesn't care about and she does. Because, let's be honest, that man wouldn't know the difference between a designer tailored suit and a cheap suit from the thrift
The fact that going on a plane when almost 9 months pregnant can also be dangerous for the woman and the fetus? The change in pressure can induce birth on the plane and increases the chance of blot clots!? Didn’t even think about anything to do with her just about what he wanted 🤦♀️
I am surprised the production team didn't say something and let it happen - they put her at risk too for the sake of TV! Should have been a health and safety concern, but maybe things were more lax in the early 00s.
He was also willing to put her and the baby at risk inside a dodgy leaking warehouse. Definitely not good dad material and completely fails as a 'protector'. I feel so sorry for her as she was clearly young and naive and did not deserve such a trash, selfish husband. I'm glad she's free of him.
Flying in the 3rd trimester isn't the best thing to do, no
Between the vows on the plane and that ghastly warehouse, he really said let's plan the deadliest wedding ever. He said I miss prison and I want to go back, forever.
“If she loves you, she’ll forgive you” yeah for accidentally forgetting to unload the dishwasher not ruining her wedding day
He's not dumb he's EVIL. He knew he was hurting her and thought it was funny
the most valid comment
Hurting her and then threatening to gaslight when he will eventually call it her fault and her choices.
He's very clearly a narcissist. Narcissists are fucking incapable of love, so of course he's evil and not empathetic.
He's only thinking of himself
just because he's evil doesn't mean he is not dumb...
Right?! It didn't feel like he didn't know her; it felt like he was *trying* to hurt her. Malicious, imo
This is like the worst game of MASH ever. "Looks like you're getting married in.... A plane! You'll be wearing.... A burlap sack! You'll marry... An asshole! Hehehehe"
I haven't heard of that game in years...
holy crap.. yeah- it really is
the "hehehehe" is killing me 💀
Oh my god I'd completely forgotten about that game. I'm not sure if I'm happy or upset with you for bringing back those memories
The reception will be...in a dilapidated warehouse! The bridesmaids will be...neon!! 😂
I saw one episode in which she said "I want a small intimate wedding, nothing football related". And he made her get married in a football game halftime in front of the entire stadium...
I wouldn’t go ahead with it. I don’t care if I’d have to pay the costs back..
The “getting married in a prison” option coming from him previously being a prison officer and not a prisoner really shocked me.
One of the worst ones was the groom who made it like a jacuzzi wedding with everyone in swimwear, and the worst part was the bride was allergic to chlorine 😭 how do you forget your wife's allergy??
NO 😭
I need to watch this show. This sounds like peak entertainment
Huhhhh????
I was at that wedding
@@kookiekat3195 Press X to doubt
"If she loves you, she will forgive you" what a disgusting, manipulative thing to believe.
Oh yeah she can forgive. Doesn't mean she'll forget. OR STAY.
Literally! How about: If he loves her, maybe he'll goddamn plan the wedding alongside her as a partnership!!
That sort of saying is for mistakes like breaking a mug she gifted you, or buying the wrong thing at the store. Not ruining her dream wedding.
im better than kurtis, cry about it
Explains a lot about why he is the way he is …
HELP the reception warehouse reminds me of the Willy Wonka Immersive experience 😭😭😭
LMAOOOOOO
The Willy Wonka even looked better lmao
HAHA so true!
this is definitely the type of guy you'll see in comment sections acting salty about women initiating divorce
I’m British and grew up watching this. When I was a kid, I didn’t want to get married because I thought this is how all weddings were planned, and I was NOT about to have an ugly ass wedding
omg that so funny 😂
You were dum.
Youre so real for this
You weren't a smart kid, eh?
😂😂😂😂
"the bridesmaids have their neon dresses, bianca's mom has her neon hair, bianca's gonna have her.... knee on adam's neck" killed me
that line was excellent
One of Kurtboi's best ever lines tbh
Came to the comments to say this
Don't translate... भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्ग मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु..,
one of his best jokes ever
The way I wanted an update on what happened, so I googled it right? "Don't Tell the Bride star who had disastrous wedding in a sand-filled warehouse recalls how she uncovered her husband's affair while he was in a COMA on follow-up series." What?? It was the first article I found.
Holy fuck.
That's one hell of a title
Isn’t this in the video?
this is in the video tho
it isn't even that he didn't know her, he knew she wouldn't like things but just didn't care
i think any man who forces his pregnant partner to be on a plane and walk on sand in heels on her wedding day should be in jail
too bad that’s not where they had the wedding 😔
Imagine if the prison themed wedding was picked and he just tasers her-
That's not even that bad though
@@ricksanchez7540 definitely shows his priorities and concerns tho
It is that bad @@ricksanchez7540
husband plans the wedding, wife plans the divorce
Ngl that warehouse is better suited for a divorce than a wedding
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That's factually correct . Wives initates most of the divorces in heterosexual weddings.
@@VanerSplanerLMAOOOOO
"So I'm thinking for this divorce we're gonna need sand and tetanus"
There's a new version of this show where the couples come back years later to react to the episode they were on, this couple got divorced because he cheated on her
wtf
I saw this years ago and one dude basically had an extravagant stag (bachelor) party in Vegas, flew his fiance out by herself and they got married with just him and a couple of his friends, none of her family were present.
Walked downt the isle in tears. It was messed up.
But WHY did she go through with it? 🤦♀️
The whole "then it's Biancas fault" thing is a huge red flag
I mean sure, but it seems weird to single that out when literally everything he said and did in that episode was a huge red flag. The man is just one giant walking red flag.
That guy is a walking red flag
@@ScoopMeisterGeneralactually it’s extremely important to call out his specific actions of abuse. it shows that each action doesn’t go unnoticed and may help other survivors recognize abusive behavior in their own lives. being able to articulate to yourself the abuse and understand the tactic can be so important to deprogramming yourself from tolerating that behavior and helps you learn the signs to better avoid abusive people going forward. yes, he is an entire walking red flag. it’s important to talk about why
@@ScoopMeisterGeneral I mean, yeah, but the fact that his first concern is to reserve all power to himself and find the flimsiest reason to justify saddling her with all the responsibility (in his mind) on what is clearly an incredibly-important topic to her is approaching the Platonic ideal of "red flag". It's like the point at which a red flag is so red and such a flag that it collapses-in on itself and consumes reality.
I felt so bad for the woman. I mean, she must have seen the episode and heard him say these things, yet she didn't leave him till he went and cheated on her. And this was all on camera! How shitty did he treat her off camera?
Probably why there was that 10 year age gap. He was taken advantage of her.
The fact that she stayed with him after that terrible wedding and HE STILL cheated on her is BAFFLING
shoulda had the wedding in the prison so this man could be swiftly arrested for these absolute crimes against humanity
That means she divorced him, right? Thank God!
Yeah something tells me she is not the sharpest either
Bcz baby
Ikr what a total dirtbag. I feel bad for her and their kid
she’s kinda dumb for staying with him though let’s face it
You say this is an evil show, but my friend (Lucy) married David, they had a Pride and Prejudice themed wedding on this show and he literally gave her the dream wedding, everything she ever wanted. It's more about the guys ability to listen to his girlfriend, to understand her, to budget and to not be selfish.
There's absolutely no way it isn't all planned and scripted because every episode they show shots of the bloke picking daft things juxtaposed with shots of the bride saying she wants the exact opposite. I once saw an episode where the wedding was on a wet, muddy pig farm so the dress got ruined. Absolutely no way the groom really thought that was a good idea. And yet at the end of every episode, despite her having cried over the ugly dress and moaned about the tacky venue, the bride says something stupid like "well, i just admire his creativity. he must really love me to have come up with such unique ideas" and they snog and everything is fine!!
Yeah 100%
"She hasn't got a choice, this is the situation I've left her in" applies to both the pregnancy and the wedding, I guess. This guy is just *so* classy.
Yuup
didnt ask+ im exploding like a volcano right now kurtis has stolen my content for money+views and never has given me any credit!!
It also applies to the cheating….
and he cheated on her sooo
@@Kiddzo. yup saw that after i posted this comment. Smh.
"if she loves you, she will forgive you." if YOU love HER, then YOU shouldn't willingly do something that will make you hope she's a forgiving person.
Right??! What a shitty attitude. You don't love her if you're willing to do shit that will upset her that she will need to "forgive you" for. It's also completely ass-backwards because being forgiven ideally involves you being SORRY... But you cannot possibly be sorry about something you INTENTIONALLY, UNAPOLOGETICALLY CHOSE TO DO knowing she would have to "forgive you".
That phrase is actually lowkey giving abuser vibes... "Hey, this thing that I intentionally did, knowing it would hurt your feelings? Yeah, you HAVE to forgive me (despite the fact I'm not even sorry), or else you don't love me. and PS it's your fault"
what a nice version of this sentence
Profound!!! And agreed.
He's a complete A- Hole , and i'm not surprised he cheated on her . He put zero thought and zero care into that wedding , it was a big fat joke .
25:35 “This is a show that only could’ve been DIVISED, kay? It was not created.” 😭😭
I think the only way you can go into this show as a couple is with the understanding that the producers want you to have something "quirky" for your wedding, but the important thing is that you're not having to pay for it
He had to be the one who planned the Glasgow Wonka experience 😭😭
the glasgow wonka experience was clearly more well planned anybody can see that
The Glasgow Wonka experience sucked because of artificial intelligence
This wedding blew because of natural stupidity
@@april-lemonokay Willy
you mean *devised* :)
HAHAHHA
this is what people mean when they say "do men even like women?"
Bro what? That is a weird thing to say lol. Pretty sure most do.
Ohh I forgot this was Kurtis Conner, who has a community with a lot of deluded people...
The replies just further proves my point lmao. It's actually sad.
@@androow1983when people say that it refers to how men treat women. Like yes men may be attracted to women but do they even LIKE them. As in like them as people or respect them as people and treat them accordingly.
@@androow1983 It's a hard thing to believe when a prevailing attitude among men is that women are uptight prudes when you can't have them, oppressive nags when you keep them, and crazy bitches when you lose them. Like if you honestly feel that way, just go after men and save you and half the human population the trouble.
@@iop1898 Yeah and it's reasonable to say that most men do respect women.
Sure there are loads of men who do not but there are loads of women who don't respect men either, and those are a minority, not most. It's just bad people.
lets play a game: spot the defensive man in the comment section
The best episode is where a they get married at a football match and the wife has thousands of drunk football fans singing 'does she take it up the arse' whilst she's getting married
No way?! Omg 😮😮😮
This is an exercise in:"How can I exploit every bit of influence, control, and power I have against the person I am supposed to love and care about. Showing her the type of person I am going to be, right when I marry her..."
The fact that Adam’s brother cared more about Bianca’s comfort, especially as a pregnant woman, is extremely telling. All of it is really, but that one especially stood out to me
And the fact that his response was "she has no choice/her fault she picked it (even tho she didn't, she picked a random envelope)" is heartbreaking.
@@blueismylove3128 It made me see red I'm ngl, and cheating on her is the shitcherry on top. Glad she served him the papers
Did they get divorced
@@joannegutteridge3843 see the end part of the video
@@joannegutteridge3843 yes they did
The thing is- men are COMPLETELY capable of planning elaborate and big things. Men are not inherently dumb, they are willfully making selfish and mean choices because they do not care for their spouses/women in general. Guarantee you that he could do most other things with reason if he cared.
it's weaponized incompetence at its worst
Yeah that's the one thing I didn't like about this episode. This isn't happening because men can't plan good weddings. This is happening because that guy is an asshole.
I bet it's the kinda men who would participate in a reality show like this. The kinds of men who could plan a good wedding would never do so without involving their partner. It's a diabolic plan from the show creators. I bet they knew that only the dumbest of idiots would sign up to be on such a show (and they probably further filtered to make sure they got the worst people).
Yep. I had an ex who could figure out complex physics but not how to plan a date. He mysteriously figured out how to respond to my concerns seriously when I broke up with him, but experience with him told me it was a temporary enlightenment so I didn't stick around any longer. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who came "out of the box" knowing how to pick things based on my interests and make plans to make me happy. Men can do it if they want to, watch a man play Arma and just try tell me they can't coordinate, plan, and remember details.
But not all men 🙄
Makes me feel very lucky that I’d trust my partner to plan our wedding. Maybe wouldn’t be exactly what I would pick myself, but I know it would be lovely - nobody deserves someone like this that actively chooses to disregard and embarrass his “partner”
It always baffles me how a couple can get so deep into a relationship to the point of being engaged and they still apparently haven't once had a conversation about what kind of wedding the woman would like.
of COURSE the hopeless and abusive groom is an ex-prison guard 😭
wait i havent finished the video… how is he abusive??
@@rayvamp000he genuinely doesn't love her and says it's her fault if she doesn't like it, also he cheated on her.
My poppy was an outstanding ex- prison guard in England & been married 57 years to my Nana. Also the guy wasn't abusive more like didn't care about her. You can tell cause the first thing that he liked & was interested about her was he saw her photo & guessed she swats so probably had a big arse which is cringy AF!
I dated a guy who ended up being a creepy stalker who was also a prison guard. He technically treated me really well but was toxically jealous, had questionable morals/values and was desensitized to violence
Don't translate...
भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्ग मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु.
He probably gave her an envelope that said "have an affair" on it, so it was clearly Bianca's fault 🤷♂️
He gave her two envelopes each with a different woman's name inside
@@Rachely24💀💀💀
@@Rachely24Yep, no good choice for her, but somehow still 'her fault'
His logic is scary and his lack of intelligence and empathy he doesn’t know how to take care of someone he loves , how to budget how to please her …. So many things aren’t right at all or maybe do something cheap but keep the money for the babie so many good ideas but he only had the worst ones
best thing about this comment is bianca divorced him for having an affair
You could literally do another vid on the golden dude who officiated the wedding. He has made so much money playing darts he had a mansion in the shape of a dart board. I love him!
My mom said your a “weird little white guy” 😂
“if she loves you, she’ll forgive you” how did i immediately know this guy was a cheater solely based on that sentence. if he’s applying it to ruining her wedding, you better believe he’s applying to everything else he does
"Mk. Well I'm not forgiving you so I guess I don't love you anymore!" Is the response this dude deserves.
And he did!
yeah, like, if you’re knowingly doing something your partner will have to forgive you for it’s more of a question if you truly love them or not 😭
He doesn't understand that you can love someone and not forgive them because forgiveness is earned and not given out of entitlement
Bet he would NEVER think about it the other way 'round - if HE really loved her, he would never do this to her and abuse her love to him...
Edit: "loved", not "lived" :)
Weaponized incompetence: the series 💀
💯
@@spectralsage7 ?
Partially weaponized incompetence, partially egotistical stupidity :')
@@spectralsage7 It does mean be so for real, but people don't normally say that as a form of agreement
"Be so for real" does not mean you are agreeing with someone, it means you strongly disagree
If 'Weaponized Incompetence' were a TV show
This just perfectly incapsulates the phrase: are the straights okay?
The difference in price between his suit and her dress says everything it needs to
Powerplay. The word is powerplay.
Or you know, the first every scene of them talking about each other and how they met and why they liked each other 😭
If he treats the wedding like a joke, I think the wedding just doesn’t count, the entire marriage is a joke
*Laughts painfully in british*
The entire relationship* is a joke
didnt ask+ im exploding like a volcano right now kurtis has stolen my content for money+views and never has given me any credit!!
I would have gotten the marriage annulled after he married me on the plane with no cows or anything, ESPECIALLY if I was pregnant like wtf why would he do that
@@polarbear9232 I’m sorry, but did you say you wants cows 🐄 🐮 at your wedding?
“Oh this episode of Snapped, pregnant bride beats up husband at party city warehouse themed wedding”
It gets way crazier after the wedding! 11 months later, Adam fell into a coma. Bianca's phone died while she was in the hospital. She picked up Adam's phone right as a text came through. "What are you doing today babe?" 😱
Being hopeful, and not wanting to dig into her husbands phone as he's in a coma, she let it go. Until a SECOND text comes through "??" He was not only cheating, but sending photos of the woman he was sleeping with to a group chat of friends he played rugby with.
I found all this in a Daily Mail article with her direct quotes. You can find it real easily
Ive seen a fair bit of this show and only remember one thoughtful husband,
They were both larpers so he planned it in the woods, with all the guests coming in medieval/fantasy dress, custom designed her a beautiful fairy inspired wedding dress and had a blueberry muffin tower cake as that's what he brought to their first date
It was so lovely
I know that most reality tv is meant for shock value to trigger emotional responses and hook viewers. But tbh, I would LOVE a version of this show that’s just wholesome partners going above and beyond to give their betrothed the wedding of their dreams.
@@ducktelepathy8352 100% I'm such a sap! Why can't I just watch people be nice to each other and express genuine feelings?! Grrr
“Say I Do” on Netflix is kind of like that. It’s really sweet :)
I remember this one, such a breath of fresh air!
@@sentientsquid7069 I’m gonna add this to my queue!! :)
Weaponized incompetence is literal spousal abuse.. I can't imagine what her life is like trying to raise children with this dingus, he would probably put the diaper on the baby head and be like idk babe what you want from me you deal with it until it can go to the gym
Read an article where she was interviewed about the affair and she mentions that he never learned how to put a diaper on right. Good job with that prediction!
if it was abuse professionals in mental health and the law would agree. having an immature spouse doesnt turn someone into a victim, they chose poorly and that is on them.
@@deusexmachina9776 “and that is on them” no it isn’t. this is literal victim blaming. everyone can learn to be better. him choosing not to is on him
@@ejing_ show me any law or ethics scholarly debate that frames women in such a situation as victims
@@deusexmachina9776 omg use your common sense and human empathy. the people in such situations are victims, due to the fact that another person is treating them horribly. loads of people choose to marry or stay with abusive partners for many reasons, but that doesn’t mean the abuse is justified or deserved.
That warehouse is genuinely the most South Welsh thing I’ve ever seen 😭😭
Kurtis, I want to say the most honest thank you for being you.
Your videos always make me feel better, and I have rewatched them so many times that I know them by heart now.
My depression has been going for some painful years now, and I do have psychological and psychiatric help. But in my lowest, when I am all alone in my tiny apartment, trying to calm down after crying until my head hurts and my eyes are all swollen, nothing can make me feel more relaxed that seeing you talking shit about something completely random.
Thank you so much for being there for me even if you are not actually here (?), and helping me get through my lowest with your hilarious videos.
I wish you came to europe so i could watch your show live. If you come anywhere near portugal i will travel just to get the honour of seeing you live
Can we talk about how he missed the perfect opportunity to dress the bridesmaids up as flight attendants
Working out too hard put him in a coma, imagine what thinking too hard would do to him!
im exploding like a volcano right now kurtis has stolen my content for money+views and never has given me any credit!!
@@ville__ stop spamming your pointless comment all over the place
@@ville__ He did no such thing
He missed a lot of opportunities…
the fact he could've easily made the reception a beach instead of making this hell warehouse barely look like one is so annoying wtf
Especially considering beach wedding in wales are actually pretty cheap too
Like he literally could have flown everyone to the beach with a reception set up for their arrival. Instead he chose to create this chaos
im still so confused why a warehouse was the first idea before an actual beach like what 😭
The UK has SO much coastline
@@sineadscholl7088and so little sand beach
"We're not gonna get a better space than this are we."
With £14 grand, and the ACTUAL Thailand never crossed his mind?
Thick as mince.
The real crime is how men like Adam are just allowed to be stupid and malicious, and then think women will still love them for it....tbh that guy is a super-sized red flag. I can see why he isn't with a 30yo woman, most would run away from this guy, so he goes for someone far younger and naive.
“men shouldn’t be in charge of large decisions” isn’t the right conclusion here. that’s further putting the responsibility on women for their partner’s lack of care or thoughtfulness. men are perfectly capable of making big decisions, many of them just don’t care enough to.
Yeah, and Kurtis's commentary makes it clear he would make better decisions. The guy in the show was just a bad person.
I think he was just joking when he said that it was meant to be taken ironically because most large decisions are ruled by men
i still do think the takeaway could’ve been phrased differently. maybe “ladies, find a thoughtful partner who puts in effort” or something other than just “men are incapable.”
As a Brit who grew up watching this, the show was wild. The show specifically picked husbands who had the craziest ideas then presented it as if it was typical of all men. The show had insanely sexist undertones, implying that all men are incapable of planning weddings and that women all behave the same.
i think we should realize that not every adult male human is a man they're just huge kids and you don't let a kid be in charge of anything serious or important
Getting married and having to walk around in the sand sounds like a literal nightmare. Any shoes you wear? Ruined. Dress? Ruined. Food? Extra crunchy and ruined.
I mean ideally if you’re planning the marriage around a beach you’d choose a dress without a train and simple shoes you could take off imo
Perfect for those crunchy parents, truly connect with nature
@@ChewyTwee they're not one the beach that sand is being mixed with grime and rust and oil 🤢🤢 that is getting into your food. Not the sand that's being pushed and pulling into the water.
@alo2285 not to mention some sand is chewed up corral. Literally shiet sand.
i know that literally anyone can agree with this but my star wars brainrot cannot stop me from claiming that only anakin skywalker has made this comment
One of the worst was a hot tub wedding where the ‘dress’ he chose for her was a bikini! And then she couldn’t even get in it anyway because she was allergic to one of the chemicals. Which he was aware of
And all the guests had hot tubs instead of seats. Some of which weren’t heated
No one wanted it and it was so awkward
I really hope this was staged and the producers just offered him money to do the most out of pocket outlandish shit he could on tv.
Guys aren't dumb. It's a rampant selfishness and weaponized incompetence. He didn't even seem to really care about the wedding, as they usually don't and certainly didn't care about her feelings. Chalking it up to "men being dumb," perpetuates this existing stereotype hurting men and women further.
agreed and glad you pointed this out. otherwise loved the video but this was a surprising takeaway to hear from kurtis. it reinforces the notion that wedding planning is "women's work" and that we are expected to take on that labor when it 100% needs to be collaborative. anyone who truly loves and knows their partner could plan a dream wedding. this episode specifically showcased an inconsiderate person planning a wedding for someone he didn't really care about. he made no attempt to make her feel special, and all of her humiliation was intentional, not bc he was some dumb clueless clown.
100% agree this is just a representation of the lack of love and respect some men have for their partners
@@tubiescubieright i was kinda shocked to hear that take from himmm anyone can plan a wedding for their partner with love
Yeah, no matter how small the guy's brain is there's no way he thought neon dresses and a warehouse full of sand with one teeny tiny sky backdrop is in any way ingredients for a good wedding. Dude just wanted to get it over with and thought it was funny.
THANK YOU, Also cause as a dude who absolutely loves planning (not sure if I ever plan to get married myself but I've considered going into wedding planning as a job) I hate it when people see men like this and go "Ah well, men are just bad at planning" literally the only thing this even has to do with gender is reinforced stereotypes, so if we were to actually stop viewing behaviour like this as expected then it would be a lot less of an issue.
Obviously the wedding is terrible. But the guy did it that way on purpose in order to humiliate his bride. He followed her across the world and made her trauma bond with him and trapped her with the big gestures and pregnancy. He WANTS her to be upset. That's the point. Because he is a shitty and abusive skid mark.
I hate him so much
Completely agree, this all just made me so upset for her. Everything he says/does SCREAMS abusive.
@@zomystarthe dude worked in prison, im not very surprised hes an asshole
He genuinely makes me so insanely mad
I was also getting abuser/manipulator vibes off him (from hearing how they met and his vacation antics, plus how quickly he proposed and how quickly she got pregnant); glad I'm not the only one getting that impression.
Just an important note: in England, as of right now, you actually can’t get married at a park unless the park is connected to a venue. There’s some really antiquated laws about how a marriage needs to take place in a legally approved or religious building to be valid, which makes park weddings impossible. On that note, I have no idea how they got a plane approved for a wedding 😂
The plane idea could have been cute, if executed differently.
Like if you met on a plane while traveling or working for the same airline / same airport or something.
The kurtlings have awoken from their slumber
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@@ville__ Wow my favourite bot is here :D
awaken, my kurtlings
He literally planned a themed rave as the reception. The abandoned warehouse, buckets, no food, the lights, the neon dresses- that’s a rave, babe.
Peak of around, what, late 2000's early 2010's full moon and rave warehouse parties with fish bowls of booze and neon. Aviici, David Guetta, Lonely Island Boys. I'm sure I've mixed my eras but you get me 😭
This show is the reality tv equivalent of those grooms on TikTok being absolute pigs in their vows.
Also, I knew the warehouse was gonna look bad, but I didn’t expect to be THAT bad 😰
I love his haircut because if you relax your eyes you can imagine it without the mullet part and it just looks like early yt Kurtis but with mustache
I knew it. I knew it. I knew something was off with his hair
woah.
Why couldn't he just have the reception at an actual beach???? WHY rent out a dirty warehouse, fill it with sand and pretend its a beach when you could just go to a beach!? I mean even if they dont live near one, its not like they didn't already have access to a private plane or anything where they could just fly everyone to an actual beach!!
Not solicited but it's a well known saying that in the UK you're never more than 70miles from the coast, so like yeah they definitely could have made it lol
The worst part is that the theme of the reception was LITERALLY THAI BEACH PARTY😭
So in the UK you can't get married in any location. You have to have a licensed venue.
@@AFiasco Wait, but they get MARRIED on the plane itself, which is definitely not a licensed venue? And there's no way the warehouse is a licensed venue. Which it doesn't need to be, anyway- they're already married by the reception, the reception is just a party.
Yeah considering they live in the uk they wouldn’t even need to get a flight to a beach they could just drive
I used to binge watch this and one moment that sticks out in my memory is the bridesmaids telling the groom that the bride won’t like the dresses he’s chosen for them to wear, and he responds with “well it’s not about her, is it?”
There was only a few eps I ever saw where the groom was super dedicated to making it a special day for both of them, those were sweet
Oml. That actually makes me want to throw up.
That’s probably because they WANT bad weddings
“Wanna know how I got this wedding ring?” took me out 😂
To be fair, I saw a warehouse like that in Thailand. It was a crime scene, but it was in Thailand. Same Same!
There’s a famous episode of this where the wedding idea and execution is so bad that he runs out of money and can’t afford to fly any of her family out etc. She then refuses to get on the plane arguing with the film crew, her entire family is in floods of tears while she’s having a breakdown, her sister goes mental at him to the point of near violence.
It is unbelievable.
The vegas one!
no way what episode
tell us the episode pls!!
This is 100% the kind of ending the producers envisioned for every episode.
@@michaelccozens I honestly think the Vegas episode was the one that made the producers realise that train wreck was the way to go. The season with that episode and the one before it is pretty normal, the biggest drama is that the dress isn't quite what the bride would have picked herself but she still really likes it. But after the Vegas episode, it's not an immediate change but things start to go...weird in the seasons following, getting worse and worse before eventually arriving at stuff like this episode. You can just tell applicants that say they will do crazy themes and have a total disregard for what their wife to be would like are the ones they snap up to produce.
There was one genuinely upsetting episode where the groom spent almost the entire budget on his bachelor party in Vegas and then didn’t even have enough money left after to fly out the brides entire family. The groom was a selfish pos and they eventually divorced.
they didn't even make it a year into the marriage if I remember correctly
I remember that one! That's also a common theme in this show where the husbands spend way too much money on their bachelor party and don't have enough left for the wedding
Not surprised they divorced a year after, bet she was left doing everything with the baby too while he was off being a useless scrote.
I wouldn’t go through with the wedding in the first place. Or if there’s a “completion clause” to get the money, head straight to the courthouse for an annulment right after the ceremony.
I remember this episode she cried in the airport after only her mum and dad arrived but no other family did, not even her brother. She phoned the groom in tears saying "You've ripped my whole family apart". It was genuinely heartbreaking...
This is so strange to see Curtis talk about🤣 Like 15 years ago, my mum and I watched this every week and were always jaw dropped at how clueless the men seemed about the whole thing (or just didn't care about it being serious and would take the piss)
24:06 Literally thinking to myself it looked like the Willy's Chocolate Experience fiasco just before the Unknown popped up :D
10:39 this conversation legit went like
“Oi mate, do you think your heavily pregnant bride-to-be is going to be happy, comfortable, and having a good time at the wedding you’re planning for the two of you?”
“Lmao I literally do not care, who said I was doing any of this with her happiness or comfort in mind?”
What a wretched stain.
@UTTP-142you have no friends at school so you have to say dumb things for attention online?
@UTTP-142okay 𝒻𝓇ℯ𝒶𝓀
@UTTP-142 Somebody's triggered, you're a 🤡
😂😂
@UTTP-142 I'm gonna touch you lil bro
She ends up leaving him bc he cheated on her
This show is basically about weaponised incompetence. That's why I hated Kurtis' conclusion "guys shouldn't be in charge of big decisions". I know it was half joking, but still: please don't perpetuate the opinion that man don't have do X because they are not capable. They are. They are capable of remembering the kids' medical info, they are capable of planning the family trip, they are capable of knowing what to clean in the house without having a list made by their wife and they sure as hell are capable of talking to their fiancée about their wedding plans & taking active part in executing them. They can do all that stuff, they just choose not to because it's easier. But this is not partnership is about. A woman in a relationship needs a partner, not another child.
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I also get Kurtis’ joke but this is so important!
It's obvious the producers purposely picked guys they knew would make poor decisions. Basically rage bait.
Preach
Thank you its everyone on the internet who tries to put an entire gender down 24/7
Also if he feels that way did he just hand his wife 100K and say do whatever?
You totally should do a series reacting to this show. I would definitely watch!
I think you should also look at "Marrying Mum and Dad" it is a CBBC show which is the exact same as Dont Tell the Bride but instead of the groom planning the wedding, it is the children of the couple who plan it.
21:00 Imagine *not* having a passport, being told that you need one, jumping through hoops for 3 months to get one and then finding out you don't actually need it. Jfc
and it costs like 40-60€ in my country to get one...
my thoughts too!!!
HAHAHAHAH😂😂😂
@@sturmfrei5853u have no idea
I feel like the Bear would’ve planned a better wedding than Adam
HAHAHHAHA
you're so right
This is flipping hilarious but also. I'm imagining a cake in a honey glaze. It would be in the woods of course. Likely salmon as one of the food choices.. with berry fruit salad? He would do the beary best he could.
im exploding like a volcano right now kurtis has stolen my content for money+views and never has given me any credit!!
At first I thought you meant the dude from the cooking show and I was thinking, “Well, yes!”
Like theres some nice beaches in South Wales 😭😭use thoseee
The fact this is not even the meanest British reality show of that era is insanse
They’re now divorced after Bianca found out he was having an affair a year after they got married.
He was in a WhatsApp group with his married friends who bragged about cheating on their wives.
I’m glad she divorced him
Hope the friends also got divorced
IF YOU ACTUALLY WATCHED THE VIDEO HE SAYS THAT.
What an absolute douche
They shouldn't have ever gotten married in my opinion, but I'm glad she's free of that guy now
@@DRAGONFOOT lol calm down
This isn't even the worst one. One guy has his wedding happen at a muddy pig farm and the bridesmaids were all supposed to wear pig onesies
I watched a ‘where are they now’ follow up episode on that and I think they actually stayed together!
Pig onesies actually sounds cute lol. Without the muddy pig farm xD
ohhhhh far out aha, i might check out those updates @@SavannahPhillipss
Hey at least a muddy pig farm has cute pigs and doesn’t look like the scene of a murder kidnapping
@@jupitersabyss5045except in that one case where the guy fed the bodies to his pigs
So he love-bombed her by following her on a 9 month trip, trapped her by proposing and is now planning a wedding in the most selfish way possible WHILE manipulating the situation to blame her. Maybe not a full-on narcissist but definitely has some of the traits at least.
I wouldn't be suprised if he had tricked her into pregnancy.
I was so shocked he would even consider the first warehouse as a wedding venue let alone actually want to hold it there
I'm British and I've never been able to watch this show because I get so angry at how frustrating the groom is. One episode he arranges for them to jump out of a plane to get to their wedding and the bride is just like "No, I'm not doing that." and then he got upset. I'm sorry but I'm on the bride's side, I'm not jumping out a bloody plane!
Omg yes! I always hated the grooms. None of the dudes seemed to care about their to-be-wives. All of them seemed like gigantic man-babies. I will never understand what those women saw in those men
At least one episode had to have been some kind of murder plot, type “get married to a rich woman and immediately give her a heart attack”
Especially for a wedding, like?? Aside from the obvious "absolutely not" factor most people would have at being asked to jump out of a plane with zero prior warning, I'm not ruining my hair and makeup for my WEDDING to jump out of the fucking plane. Men like this are why I have commitment issues lmao.
A woman flew in a helicopter to her own wedding as like a grand entrance, but the weather was bad and ultimately she and the other 3 in the helicopter crashed and died. Yeah I'm alright driving 😭
I agree, but, on the other hand, how foolish do you have to be to think this kind of unilateral arrangement of what should be fundamentally a very-collaborative event has any chance of going well?
Part of me suspects at least some of these brides agree to the show hoping, on some level, that it will provide them with a spectacular reason to leave the relationship they already don't like.
Fortunately for Bianca, the embarrassment of the wedding is overshadowed by the embarrassment of marrying Adam.
I worked at Alcatraz (as a tour guide) for 16 years, and I can’t even count the number of times I saw engagements happen on the island. Bleh.