0:36 - State Of Confusing 2:25 - You Start Investigation 3:53 - Coercion 8:39 - If... You are in a toxic relationship. 13:45 - How To Deal With It 19:08 - Everyone Is Traumatizing 25:23 - Trauma Is Everywhere. AND IT'S OKAY 30:10 - What Are We Doing Here? You don't really need to know 36:14 - We Are Built For Connection 42:08 - Final Point Q&A Section 47:11 - When You Have Been Hurt That Much, How Do You Heal From It Internally? 50:30 - The Reptilian Brain Will Keep You Traumatized
Do you even know what alchemy really is ? Who the Rosicrucians were ? I know your atheist and you have no connection to source. Source is the one true god. Not the JESUIT multigod system that permiated egypt and corrupted the pharaohs and then moved to Israel..
velveteyes79, Thank you for illustrating the rigidity of organized religion and it’s fanatics. Your sad belief system is not part of other peoples’ lives, i.e. Jains, Hindus, Jews, etc., etc. You want to be respected, you need to respect others.
In my 71 years, it has come to me that covert coercion is the most common and insidious method. Media uses i. Politicians use it, Religion uses it. Authority figures use it. Lovers use it. Parents and children use it. And it is so easy, when you are sensitive and intuitive, to fall for it. But intuition, I believe, eventually wakes us up.
I spent my childhood in the library psychology section during the seventies, trying to work out what the hell was going on with the people around me. I had to wait for the internet to come into existence before I finally got some answers.
@@LauraPerez-kr8bn I read that book about 10 years ago. It explained so much and validated what I had experienced but had not been able to make sense of.
@@RICHARDGRANNON I'm over 60 and all relationships were same...finally, finally know why. Long and winding road (Rascal Flatts...sorry, broken road) to get me here, but I trust the plan. God Bless!
Richard, I’ve been watching you since 2016 and was in an abusive relationship with a psycho and now I’m with a wonderful man, like you. I remember I’d watch your videos back then and wish I could be blessed with a man like you. Someone kind and understanding and who has experience with abusive partners and has grown from it and of course a handsome and happy man (like you) and I got him! You have been a huge part of my self healing and recovery and I’m so grateful for you and your channel. Thank you.
❤🌹❤🙏😊🌹 the same storry here... After 4 years of abuse and 4 years alonn in terapy and watching Richard, I one day just mainifestetet my loving man from the Votex 🙏🌹❤😊 thank you.
I really wish I could. I am an empath stuck in quarantine with a Narcissist... I have started playing the narcissist game against him. He is oblivious. Timing is everything. I hate doing it cuz it takes alot from me being manipulative but it is the only way I can feel no guilt when it's all said and done so he wont be able to guilt me back. Example... he cosigned for another camper as the one we are in needs alot of work. His guilt tripping me to be back with me last time was he was homeless... so... I got a new camper, will fix other one, and then tell him to bugger off and leave him with one of the campers. He is no longer homeless. After that, i am moving to Arizona and changing my numbers. I have been in this toxic relationship for 6 years with 2 years of couples therapy and the same stupid conversations over and over. I recognize "shut up gifts" for what they are. He has lied to me since day one, to the point his own father had to tell me that it was HIS life story was what my "bf" was telling me was his. Even his dad and step mom saw what I was going through and told me to get away from him. I will no doubt cuz I have literally shut down emotions from him (upside to empath along with reflecting those negative emotions back at him). I have become an empathic sniper.. lol. But I still seek my soulmate. I KNOW he is out there... I just miss him soooooo much. I have dreamed of him and to feel the love of another empath like me... nothing compares. Really wish he would find me, like he promised me he would when I was 13. I am going to turn 45 in June.
Candace DeLong, FBI Psychological Profiler, once stated, "People who are trying to abuse you know exactly how to use the subtle technique that flies under the radar." "They use that subtle verbal technique purposely for you to question yourself and your judgment." "The abuser still needs to appear socially appropriate."
@@jengable4888 I am so glad that you liked my quote from Candace DeLong. When I first heard her make that statement, it rang so true and opened my eyes to what I had been suppressing throughout my life. Keep this statement in mind going forward, and you will be better off. Have a great day!
I just want to send cyber hugs to anyone here who has endured a really long and difficult relationship where they feel bound by contracts/children or financial dependency with a toxic partner. I am so relieved and happy I realised when I did and walked away. (Ran then hitchiked through the snow actually. ) This going over this chapter has finished for me. Thanks for all the videos Richard.
Thanks. I had someone hint at the fact that when they dont get what they want from the relationship they dont care where the relationship goes. I got discarded.
The confusion. Right from day one. 4 years of confusion which left me a shell of a person. Unable to make any decisions because I had zero trust in myself and my decision-making abilities. I was literally googling how do I know if I should leave my relationship! I actually found a book called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay lol! It should have been about 2 pages long, and just say 'if you've bought this book you should just get out!' Those were nutty, hellish times and I am loving my very easy life now. I know you say we are meant to have intimacy and love and connection but frankly I'm so terrified of ever getting myself back in any kind of situation where I start losing myself, I'm way too content and at peace now to mess with it!
Your investment in caring about humanity has exceeded what others couldn't hold a candle to. You are multi-talented. Your videos are so much more important than you may realize. I'm not saying this to patronize you. There are tons of people who are on CZcams, but you have mastered many modes of discipline. The genius in your teachings is that you are able to include ultruistic, ancient & modern methods and cut to the chase. Well done Richard. How can any words express how thankful or grateful I and surely many others are, that you are in the world. 💙💙💙 It would be great to hear you extrapolate on the concept of impermanence and continuous becoming. When I first started meditating, I listened to Buddhist videos. It helped me to understand that change is the natural order of living. Clinging causes suffering. I am not religious or ascribe to any system, but the wisdom in the 4 noble truths and 8 fold path, was enlightening. ✌🌷
"STOP being a Beggar!!.... ENOUGH of Begging for love, begging for kindness, begging for attention, begging for companionship, begging for support. " "STOP being a DOG!!.... dogs get sooo emotionally bonded with his human. Goes crazy when he's around. Will do anything for the human. Soo attached. Gets soo dependent on the human. Get so sad, restless, and anticipative when the human leaves house. Becomes obedient. Wants to please the human. By default the human leaves him many times. He is a human. Occasionally puts him in a chain or a Cage! The accepts . He said a dog . " "INSTEAD of being a beggar, be the one to give. Cultivate all those good qualities IN you... so that one day, instead of begging for those things, YOU can be the one to give away kindness , care, attention, a listening ear to OTHERS. There are 7 billion people on this planet and even more living beings. Why waste your life staying bonded to a handful of people. Let go. MOVE ON. Come out of the box" Richard I quoted from a Buddhist Monk. These were the parting advice on the final day recap of a long self help advice series on virtue, happiness, peace, investigative reflection, knowledge of the way of the world, release and liberation.
:(( my poor baby has seen so much. I officially finally split from her dad and I'm trying to heal from codependency. I cannot believe I allowed her to witness so much crap
@@kaylawilkins5731 better not leave her for grandparents like my mother did after divorce. Now shes desperate for my company but im simply not interested
@thefalsecritic Its a great question, Imma do a video called "why its a waste of time to study psychology" and really piss the British Psych Society off! :D
Please Do that Video!! I have always somewhat regretted my time spent on psych degree, just glad I stopped at bachelor's. Lol. LOVE come to Jesus meetings especially with public school administrators!! Been doing those lots lately on behalf of keeping ALL these behaviors from continuing at the expense of High School kiddos. Still scary to do but wouldn't have even been able to start to go against them previously. ☺️
My ultimate goal is to grow- this is where I always end up when I end any relationship- I'm accused of not valuing the relationship- untrue- I value it - I'm just changing at a rate and a way the other person isn't happy with. Do I stagnate to keep someone else happy? No- my life my journey 👍
Thank you for confirming the "gut instinct " is something to be heeded. I thought I was being covertly coerced, turns out that is the modus operandi of my narcissist. I have learned over time that those "unspoken expectations " were nothing more than me being gaslit to carry out his agenda. I have also learned that NO is a very empowering word. Thx again for the wisdom--
I wish my child was that smart - to realize she is being coerced in the most disgustingly subtle way to do everything on her useless covert narcissistic husband's agenda. It is mind blowing how he is abusing her and then after she gives him the silent treatment he sucks her back with all she wants to see - just for a day or two and then continues with the abuse...
My ex-narc always accused me of being a detective and also a lawyer because I was always defending myself and my grandson from his abuse. He even had the gall to ask me why I could have a 45 minute conversation with one of his friends without arguing. I told him it was an adult conversation and it was very refreshing to do so. Lol! When I would try to talk to the ex-narc, it was like talking to a 7 year old who has tantrums.
You are so right. Some people you cannot speak to without it turning into an argument. It leaves you confused and you think, how did we get to this subject when it didn't start that way? How did it turn to crap basically? and then your head starts to hurt and you feel ill.
You noticed that too?? Mine tells me all the time to stop talking to him like he is a child, I tell him to stop acting like one. I have 5 kids and 2 grandkids I dont need another child.
Yes they act like bloody children. I'm so glad you are out of it. My narcissist are constantly interfering with new apts and jobs I get! Like fuck,he should grow the fuck up! A healthy person doesn't frickin have to constantly undermine a woman,only a pathetic insecure vindictive person does that. I'm so glad you are safe. Maybe it'll happen for me one day....
"That's a trapped human being man". THANKYOU! When someone has codependency because of generational, emotional, mental, conditioning etc, they will grow resentful of being around a covertly coercive person because of their inability to say no and serve out of unjust guilt and obligation. So of course a few years down the line, they will become bitter, nasty, manipulative because they feel trapped not only by the covert pressure from their partner(who could be a narcissist), but also by their own codependency. Thank you for clarifying that. People are SO QUICK to label someone a narcissist, crazy, unstable, just because they didn't receive consensual gratification from their partner. People have emotions, just because they display anger and rage doesn't mean they are a full blown narcissist. They might've just been trained to never say no.
That's a great idea. Instead of a regular dating site you have to befriend ppl of your own gender. Then those ppl rate you. Often N and Ps can't pull the wool over their own gender as well.
I love this idea.. and it makes me giggle because covert narcs would damn RUIN it. They fancy themselves the queens and kings of the empaths. They feel SOOOO much and they are SOOOOOO feeling all the feels and no one else ever understands just how much they FEEL. I have compassion for them tho - it's easy to confuse an inner storm of tormenting self absorbed shame & angst - for empathy. ;)
Richard, I hung on every second of that 55 minute video. Mind blown. I have just said STOP after 6 years of suffering in my relationship. Now to focus on re-sealing my heart. I AM MINE.
@@christinesbetterknitting4533 Thankyou and here's some quotes from him :) The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult; and left untried. The Bible tells us to love our neighbors, and also to love our enemies; probably because generally they are the same people. The reason angels can fly is because they take themselves lightly. An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered. A dead thing can go with the stream, but only a living thing can go against it. The poets have been mysteriously silent on the subject of cheese. If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly. I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder. The world will never starve for want of wonders; but only for want of wonder. The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost."
That moment in 'V for Vendetta' when she's in prison (with shaved head) and has that breakthrough and stops being afraid....that's a good leveling up :)
That's one of my favourite movies! I've both a background in martial arts and too much experience dealing with narcissistic abuse and trauma - from parents to then (due to narc parenting destroying my self-esteem, sense of boundaries, assertiveness) being a "people-pleaser" and attracting narcissists as so-called "friends", so can relate to the breakthrough moment although it took years of dedicated effort by myself to work on the issues referred to (self-esteem etc.) and stop being an attractive target for narcissists. It did take years as mentioned and I think in part the time to heal was related to the fact that this was when the internet wasn't widely available, and nor was there all the helpful information about narcissism and techniques to identity and deal with narcissistic people that's available nowadays. One thing I wish looking back is that I'd had access to the information available now back then! It would've saved me so much time, energy, and suffering due to prolonged contact with and abuse by narcissists. Whilst I'm definitely very glad I put in that work, and no longer am attractive to narcissists - who will sense those that are good 'supply' for them - I am somewhat envious (albeit not in a negative manner, if you understand my meaning!) of both teenagers and adults today who have the plethora of information about narcissism and toxic relationships available to them, much of it online and also available in books, both hardcopy, e-books and/or audio books. They've often no idea how fortunate they are in this respect!
I honestly appreciate the new path you are taking in your work by not over focusing on the narcissist but to empower people to deal with their own wounds and close the entry points to toxic behaviors and relationships. I truly believe this is essential for our healing path. It’s really great to see this side of you 💜
As a survivor of childhood incest aaaaaand more recently narc abuse, your rumination on how WE have to be our own prophets and say “stop”, stop these ways of being w one another landed kind of like a little miracle in my heart. Thanks for this, Richard.🙏🏻
Thats exactly it, youre confused and look look and look and finally you end up finding narcissism. It took me 2 years until I found a psychology student who directed me to it and BINGO!
Richard! That’s it! Absolutely it - the state of confusion is a reflection of the toxic relationship! I would spend so much time replaying the interactions trying so hard to “figure” out what was going on. Bless you. It makes it all so clear now. 💡
I’m so grateful for your advice. I am getting a lot from it, including an elevated sense of inner peace. Baby steps but I’m glad to have this support. All the best to you.
I’ve talked to a couple of friends and a counsellor and I’ve been told I’m being hypersensitive and that’s just how men behave. Have we become so insensitive, socialised and adapted we can no longer trust our instincts? Bad behaviour makes us feel uncomfortable. I look at the other relationships in my life, my friends don’t try to control me? Why do the men I date, question me or try to control me? And other people tell me that’s acceptable.
Got out of abusive 4 year relationship, 3 years ago, and still NOT ready to date, but out of so many videos i listened about narcissist recovery, yours are some of the best ones. Thank you!!!
“Don’t hate trauma.” Love that! How DO you do this?! This one is brilliant! So amazing. You are hitting all the high notes - and all in one talk. I really like that your background is so eclectic and you can so easily reach into your bag of wisdom and pull out what you need to make your point(s). Beautiful. Soothing. Hopeful. Listening to you is like drinking a chocolate shake😋. Yum!
Took that conversation where I'd begin hearing it and took it right where I needed it to go. Thank you for the time and effort. It's really comforting to see others doing this and caring about these things, because indeed the world seems depressing when you don't see it happening.
I felt like alice falling down the rabbit hole literally! But once i realise that the head doctors diagnosis of his bpd which i though was allbullshit at the time ,then it was walk and dont look bk and look at my own shit and why i got sick and i unravelled.
This was absolutely wild. I cannot believe you know about the “but what about you” argument so many times I tried so hard to say what you just said about our relationship. Wow.
Omg! So glad you're talking about this. I have been spending years learning this the slow hard way. I had no awareness for years of my manipulative coersion in relationships, I always saw myself as the receiver, the victim, and never a participant. It takes 2 to dance a waltz. We are taught to blame. Dang you nailed it! Thanks for your bravery of honesty.
AhhAhhh, I am also practicing alchemy, great talk, can so relate! The Heros journey, just everything you mentioned, also about the witch burn. Hermes the god of boundaries, good reminder!
Best of all talks I have seen so far from you, Richard! For me personally a great reminder of the original intension with which I stayed in the relationship (at the end too long, but who knows): to become aware, to make aware, and it was sort of sorting out old karma. This video took me now out of the circle of doubts and questions I had after ending the toxic relationship. May it help to find back to the is-ness of this moment I had before, the freedom in the disciplin of confronting every day as it is.
Wow Richard! O LOVE you’re latest videos, the woo and everything. After about 2 years stuck in trying to figure out narcissists (as in, obsessing over all that’s wrong with them) I’m so ready for this more mature approach to healing and personal growth. Enough with that. STOP - yes! You’re one of my fav speakers, I love your humor and the way you comment on your own thoughts (the funny and insightful side notes), well done and thank you so much for your work! I appreciate you!
Thank you. That was so profoundly helpful. I was looking for blaming or labeling and decsifering the behaviors. We were both operating from wounded positions. Nobody wins. I’ll be looking in the mirror from now on. ✨
I've watched this about 4 times now. This is really everything a codependent or anyone looking outside themselves for completion needs to know. It truly is, excellent analogies and all, such a clear, throrough, kind, thoughtful and funny message. Stop, shut up, by yourself, for yourself...Thank you again for getting through the concrete that is my skull.
Love you Richard been watching for awhile.I especially enjoyed your explanation of being your own prophet and stopping the cycle.being vigilant to noticing the manipulation of others and loving yourself enough to walk alone if communication isn't open...Boston🍀USA
I love your videos more all the time, but I really love this one! So real, honest, straightforward , and thoughtful! So important! Forget math, I dare say I have learned more important life information from half of this video than my entire formal education. So comforting that thousands of people have watched this. I hope it truly touches many more lives and generations!
Brilliant! Thank you again. Healing....sealing....alchemy of turning suffering into purpose...this starchild is a fan. I will love and accept and forgive myself.
I was at that yoga studio in Encinitas, CA, in June, that you mentioned in this video. It was small, and you were great that evening. It was amazing meeting you after being a long-time viewer, and openly credit you with helping me crack open what was going on in my life! Thank you, again, for all you do to help.
Wow. I was not expecting what I just saw. You have helped me get through my own relationship trauma, taught me how to heal and taught me to reach inside myself to want to heal. I really enjoy your way of thought and the way you convey your message.
Thanks a lot! Your speech on trauma, disconnection and emotinal flashback syndrome opened my eyes to the roots of my own problems and how to solve them.
I Love the Woo ideaology........ it goes hand in hand with knowing yourself, understanding others and their behavior which is ALL rooted in beliefs and intentions. Point on...I'll keep watching 💯 Keep speaking Truth
I highly appreciate your emphasis on how toxic manipulation actually is. In general. This is something, as you mentioned, that's [hyper] normalized way too much. So much so, that we almost don't recognize it when it comes along.
Just found this very insightful and accessible education. Transmuting trauma using alchemy as our individual life work is spot on and brilliant. This presentation gave me a huge opportunity to leap forward in understanding and a reasoned actionable path forward after a trauma bond has finally ended. Thank you for this gift.
I love your videos. It's like when you have a philosophical conversation with someone where one idea triggers the next and you explore each area openly and authentically. Love the flow of how you cover the topic. Thank you.
This was great Richard, thank you! I just got out of a 2-month toxic relationship after being in therapy for a year. I noticed the signs right away, I worked with him but it was just too verbally abusive and I had to end it. I will take advantage of your links as well as I found this extremely helpful and enjoyed your witty delivery. I'm happy I found you on here, keep up the great work! :)
You're fantastic and truthful and funny.Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew but didn't know how to say it and put it all together. So much truth said in a perfect time. A year later, this discussion is still perfect. You're a great, funny, truthful person with great love.
Whatever bears affinity to cunning is despicable. Fitzwilliam Darcy This Is so important and helps me Tremendously. Ty Richie yes leveling up because: endgame.
I love your comment about the intergalactic spaceship! And about how torture keeps us stuck in our bodys to forget about where we are in time and space. (And how the fakirs run the show by being stronger than the threats., even when it really not should be necessary!)
I just stumbled on this... as I normally don't get time for 1 hour long CZcamss --- but you know, we're still in lockdown in Melbourne, Australia. You really speak my language, all of the time, but especially going down this deeply esoteric and spiritual information. Yup, when the devil can't reach you he sends a narcissist 🤣 So yeah, Anunnaki don't want any of us leaving this world, so they do all they can to cause drama, chaos, injury, wounding and suffering to bring us back into our skin.
I felt confused, couldnt make a decision, crying most days, always questioning . he was talking to women telling them he was single. Saw a naked pic of his ex. He blew up in rage when i confronted him about it. I had anxiety, stress n depression. He accused me if going to meet other men. I couldnt talk on the phone. He would be right there wanting to know who it was. I couldnt tell him no.
He didn't trust you - not because of anything you were or weren't doing but because of what he was doing. I learnt this the hard way too. My ex-husband did exactly the same. It was so confusing, I couldn't figure out where he'd plucked these ridiculous notions from? Well, it came from his own behaviour; he was cheating, used online dating, etc., and to avoid blame (which narcissists do), he transferred all his wrong doings onto me, the faithful, loving wife who regularly bent over backwards to TRY keep him happy. Now, I work on loving myself and keeping me happy. Wishing you luck on your life journey 🌻🌄
@@cmmontrose1469 I am in the same situation. But not financially able to leave yet. I have been going with the flow for 20 years and putting up with all his abuse. He made it look so normal. Like all men behave this way in America. A guy thing he said. As a foreigner I didn't understand his game. Thanks Richard for enlightening me.
Question: When I'm with a person who has a very black view of humanity, like "you have to be on top of the game to survive, there is no one you can trust in this world, women are manipulative, men are exploitative" and so on. I get overwhelmed with sadness, scared and feel intensive pain, I want to cry, scream to the person to stop talking, or leave the situation. What can this be I experience at that moment? I don't live with that type of belief systems myself. I feel and experience love, hope, trust, connections everywhere I am, with all sorts of people, animals, nature. But I grew up with a dad who has this negative, black and white thinking, jealous and judgmental about anyone and anything. Demanding all attention and servitude for only him self. I'm thinking, my reactions are my whole body, mind, soul shouting stop, no more. I do not surrender to your version. I have a right to my own. Anyone ells who feels like this? In pain, like being tormented by how negative, angry, mean, cold someone is in their expressions about other people?
Thank you for the inspiring and insightful explanation, Richard!! You have the most profound analogy that I have ever heard👍💞It really clears up some issues. Looking forward to the next episodes. Thank you again and God bless🙏🤞
Thank you for this, Richard. Hermenutics and the rest came into my mind. You are very well-read, my friend, which pleases me so much - so rare these days. This video sums up a lot and reveals a lot, 'tis whole in itself, decades of work behind. Thank you.
Thank you Richard for your video on emotional abuse and the whole title of this video! It was very educational and is ! I was so emotionally abused and mentally by two family members , one was recently it went on for 4 yrs , I had to get away and I started working on my self and realized what the hell that person was doing to me . I can’t be in the same room with that person without feeling physically, emotionally sick. I had to gray rock her! I can’t speak to her after I figure out what she does to people! I am on the mend now! I still have flashbacks, I’m in counseling too! Your videos help me understand what is going on and the tools to recovery ! God bless you always!
0:36 - State Of Confusing
2:25 - You Start Investigation
3:53 - Coercion
8:39 - If... You are in a toxic relationship.
13:45 - How To Deal With It
19:08 - Everyone Is Traumatizing
25:23 - Trauma Is Everywhere. AND IT'S OKAY
30:10 - What Are We Doing Here? You don't really need to know
36:14 - We Are Built For Connection
42:08 - Final Point
Q&A Section
47:11 - When You Have Been Hurt That Much, How Do You Heal From It Internally?
50:30 - The Reptilian Brain Will Keep You Traumatized
Very sobering talk. Thank you.
You got your Alchemist Egypt crap. We hot out god.
Do you even know what alchemy really is ? Who the Rosicrucians were ? I know your atheist and you have no connection to source. Source is the one true god. Not the JESUIT multigod system that permiated egypt and corrupted the pharaohs and then moved to Israel..
Thank you.. 💛
velveteyes79, Thank you for illustrating the rigidity of organized religion and it’s fanatics. Your sad belief system is not part of other peoples’ lives, i.e. Jains, Hindus, Jews, etc., etc. You want to be respected, you need to respect others.
I love when you said “The real alchemy is when you change pain and suffering into a higher consciousness”
In my 71 years, it has come to me that covert coercion is the most common and insidious method. Media uses i. Politicians use it, Religion uses it. Authority figures use it. Lovers use it. Parents and children use it. And it is so easy, when you are sensitive and intuitive, to fall for it. But intuition, I believe, eventually wakes us up.
Thank you for opening me.
I am about your age and have also come to this conclusion.
Yes!
Amen 🙏🌹
Me: Reads this comment first before the video. 'okay let's learn what covert coerxion is.'
I spent my childhood in the library psychology section during the seventies, trying to work out what the hell was going on with the people around me. I had to wait for the internet to come into existence before I finally got some answers.
truthmerchant1 this is when I say “bless this tech” - for all the pitfalls, it’s truly a blessing
@@LauraPerez-kr8bn I read that book about 10 years ago. It explained so much and validated what I had experienced but had not been able to make sense of.
@@RICHARDGRANNON I'm over 60 and all relationships were same...finally, finally know why. Long and winding road (Rascal Flatts...sorry, broken road) to get me here, but I trust the plan. God Bless!
Yes
Exactly, I second that, so, so true!!!!
Richard, I’ve been watching you since 2016 and was in an abusive relationship with a psycho and now I’m with a wonderful man, like you. I remember I’d watch your videos back then and wish I could be blessed with a man like you. Someone kind and understanding and who has experience with abusive partners and has grown from it and of course a handsome and happy man (like you) and I got him! You have been a huge part of my self healing and recovery and I’m so grateful for you and your channel. Thank you.
Julian Burr sounds like you straight up manifested homeboy from the intro dimensional places 🦑 💫. You’re request was congruent and aligned 🙏
@@RICHARDGRANNON best reply ever💖💖💖
Congrats on finding your person!
❤🌹❤🙏😊🌹 the same storry here... After 4 years of abuse and 4 years alonn in terapy and watching Richard, I one day just mainifestetet my loving man from the Votex 🙏🌹❤😊 thank you.
I really wish I could. I am an empath stuck in quarantine with a Narcissist... I have started playing the narcissist game against him. He is oblivious. Timing is everything. I hate doing it cuz it takes alot from me being manipulative but it is the only way I can feel no guilt when it's all said and done so he wont be able to guilt me back. Example... he cosigned for another camper as the one we are in needs alot of work. His guilt tripping me to be back with me last time was he was homeless... so... I got a new camper, will fix other one, and then tell him to bugger off and leave him with one of the campers. He is no longer homeless. After that, i am moving to Arizona and changing my numbers. I have been in this toxic relationship for 6 years with 2 years of couples therapy and the same stupid conversations over and over. I recognize "shut up gifts" for what they are. He has lied to me since day one, to the point his own father had to tell me that it was HIS life story was what my "bf" was telling me was his. Even his dad and step mom saw what I was going through and told me to get away from him. I will no doubt cuz I have literally shut down emotions from him (upside to empath along with reflecting those negative emotions back at him). I have become an empathic sniper.. lol. But I still seek my soulmate. I KNOW he is out there... I just miss him soooooo much. I have dreamed of him and to feel the love of another empath like me... nothing compares. Really wish he would find me, like he promised me he would when I was 13. I am going to turn 45 in June.
Candace DeLong, FBI Psychological Profiler, once stated, "People who are trying to abuse you know exactly how to use the subtle technique that flies under the radar." "They use that subtle verbal technique purposely for you to question yourself and your judgment." "The abuser still needs to appear socially appropriate."
MLS66 ....yes !
@@jengable4888 I am so glad that you liked my quote from Candace DeLong. When I first heard her make that statement, it rang so true and opened my eyes to what I had been suppressing throughout my life. Keep this statement in mind going forward, and you will be better off. Have a great day!
As painful as this is, I needed to hear it ❤
I just want to send cyber hugs to anyone here who has endured a really long and difficult relationship where they feel bound by contracts/children or financial dependency with a toxic partner. I am so relieved and happy I realised when I did and walked away. (Ran then hitchiked through the snow actually. ) This going over this chapter has finished for me. Thanks for all the videos Richard.
Hugs back and thanks....
Hugs back at ya
Thanks. I had someone hint at the fact that when they dont get what they want from the relationship they dont care where the relationship goes. I got discarded.
Thank you
It causes so much pain. Blessings to you too 💞
The confusion. Right from day one. 4 years of confusion which left me a shell of a person. Unable to make any decisions because I had zero trust in myself and my decision-making abilities. I was literally googling how do I know if I should leave my relationship! I actually found a book called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay lol! It should have been about 2 pages long, and just say 'if you've bought this book you should just get out!' Those were nutty, hellish times and I am loving my very easy life now. I know you say we are meant to have intimacy and love and connection but frankly I'm so terrified of ever getting myself back in any kind of situation where I start losing myself, I'm way too content and at peace now to mess with it!
I can relate...
Contentment in being single is underrated. Keep your peace, it's priceless!
Ditto omg!
@@Here_Today_ I agree... I crave the contentment of singlehood. It's just my trauma bonding that's keeping me hooked...😔
Haha I read that book too!
Your investment in caring about humanity has exceeded what others couldn't hold a candle to. You are multi-talented. Your videos are so much more important than you may realize. I'm not saying this to patronize you.
There are tons of people who are on CZcams, but you have mastered many modes of discipline. The genius in your teachings is that you are able to include ultruistic, ancient & modern methods and cut to the chase. Well done Richard. How can any words express how thankful or grateful I and surely many others are, that you are in the world. 💙💙💙
It would be great to hear you extrapolate on the concept of impermanence and continuous becoming.
When I first started meditating, I listened to Buddhist videos. It helped me to understand that change is the natural order of living. Clinging causes suffering.
I am not religious or ascribe to any system, but the wisdom in the 4 noble truths and 8 fold path, was enlightening.
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LimitlessThinker Thankyou
LimitlessThinker Agreed! Excellent comment👍👏I clap for you!
exactly, Richard Grannon is really doing a Geaaaaat Work! 🌿🍀🌺
"STOP being a Beggar!!.... ENOUGH of Begging for love, begging for kindness, begging for attention, begging for companionship, begging for support. "
"STOP being a DOG!!.... dogs get sooo emotionally bonded with his human. Goes crazy when he's around. Will do anything for the human. Soo attached. Gets soo dependent on the human. Get so sad, restless, and anticipative when the human leaves house. Becomes obedient. Wants to please the human.
By default the human leaves him many times. He is a human.
Occasionally puts him in a chain or a Cage!
The accepts . He said a dog . "
"INSTEAD of being a beggar, be the one to give. Cultivate all those good qualities IN you... so that one day, instead of begging for those things, YOU can be the one to give away kindness , care, attention, a listening ear to OTHERS.
There are 7 billion people on this planet and even more living beings. Why waste your life staying bonded to a handful of people. Let go. MOVE ON. Come out of the box"
Richard I quoted from a Buddhist Monk. These were the parting advice on the final day recap of a long self help advice series on virtue, happiness, peace, investigative reflection, knowledge of the way of the world, release and liberation.
* the dog accepts. He is a dog
“Don’t hate trauma, but be ready to handle it”.... quote of the day by Richard Grannon ! Perfectly said Richard ! ☺️🙏💕
That statement hit me hard, and helped me in so many ways.
Annette Fisher,hope you are not with a narcissist!
@@lioydwilliams1850 not anymore I’m not ... but I most certainly was !! 😕
Awesome.
"If this relationship isn't right for me, then I'd really rather not be in it." Yep. I'd rather be free and on my own.
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muTube So very correct!
Young children cannot "handle trauma," they just endure it and those experiences have repercussions.
Yes...I think this refers to my question about dissociation
:(( my poor baby has seen so much. I officially finally split from her dad and I'm trying to heal from codependency. I cannot believe I allowed her to witness so much crap
@@kaylawilkins5731 better not leave her for grandparents like my mother did after divorce. Now shes desperate for my company but im simply not interested
I can't find the emoji for "standing ovation"...
Narsufin 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔
@thefalsecritic Its a great question, Imma do a video called "why its a waste of time to study psychology" and really piss the British Psych Society off! :D
RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH Nice.
Please Do that Video!! I have always somewhat regretted my time spent on psych degree, just glad I stopped at bachelor's. Lol.
LOVE come to Jesus meetings especially with public school administrators!! Been doing those lots lately on behalf of keeping ALL these behaviors from continuing at the expense of High School kiddos.
Still scary to do but wouldn't have even been able to start to go against them previously. ☺️
I Know like I know like I know that....
I DO NOT KNOW!!🙃😂🤣😂🤣🙋
I always say I'm fascinated with psychology. But not enough to get a degree in it.
Omarra67 stay fascinated stay curious - a degree will kill both 😂
Just do your own reading ... this is 👌🏾
My ultimate goal is to grow- this is where I always end up when I end any relationship- I'm accused of not valuing the relationship- untrue- I value it - I'm just changing at a rate and a way the other person isn't happy with. Do I stagnate to keep someone else happy? No- my life my journey 👍
Same
go with your healthy self 👊🏼
Yes! This is how I feel as well!
Thank you for confirming the "gut instinct " is something to be heeded. I thought I was being covertly coerced, turns out that is the modus operandi of my narcissist. I have learned over time that those "unspoken expectations " were nothing more than me being gaslit to carry out his agenda. I have also learned that NO is a very empowering word. Thx again for the wisdom--
I wish my child was that smart - to realize she is being coerced in the most disgustingly subtle way to do everything on her useless covert narcissistic husband's agenda. It is mind blowing how he is abusing her and then after she gives him the silent treatment he sucks her back with all she wants to see - just for a day or two and then continues with the abuse...
I'm going through it right now hun I'm making decisions
“you know when you are being covertly coerced, because you can feel it”
Thank you!! 😔
My ex-narc always accused me of being a detective and also a lawyer because I was always defending myself and my grandson from his abuse. He even had the gall to ask me why I could have a 45 minute conversation with one of his friends without arguing. I told him it was an adult conversation and it was very refreshing to do so. Lol! When I would try to talk to the ex-narc, it was like talking to a 7 year old who has tantrums.
You are so right. How refreshing it is to talk to a child, instead of a Narc. The child is often way more honest and mature than a Narc. !
You are so right. Some people you cannot speak to without it turning into an argument. It leaves you confused and you think, how did we get to this subject when it didn't start that way? How did it turn to crap basically? and then your head starts to hurt and you feel ill.
You noticed that too?? Mine tells me all the time to stop talking to him like he is a child, I tell him to stop acting like one. I have 5 kids and 2 grandkids I dont need another child.
So true. Can not carry any type of conversation at all with my husband. Especially when we talk about his misbehaving ways. He fly off in a rage.
Yes they act like bloody children. I'm so glad you are out of it. My narcissist are constantly interfering with new apts and jobs I get! Like fuck,he should grow the fuck up! A healthy person doesn't frickin have to constantly undermine a woman,only a pathetic insecure vindictive person does that. I'm so glad you are safe. Maybe it'll happen for me one day....
"That's a trapped human being man". THANKYOU! When someone has codependency because of generational, emotional, mental, conditioning etc, they will grow resentful of being around a covertly coercive person because of their inability to say no and serve out of unjust guilt and obligation. So of course a few years down the line, they will become bitter, nasty, manipulative because they feel trapped not only by the covert pressure from their partner(who could be a narcissist), but also by their own codependency. Thank you for clarifying that. People are SO QUICK to label someone a narcissist, crazy, unstable, just because they didn't receive consensual gratification from their partner. People have emotions, just because they display anger and rage doesn't mean they are a full blown narcissist. They might've just been trained to never say no.
Emapths should find each other.. we could set up empaths dating app..but the Narcs will abuse it.
Lindsay Rose I Feeling Richard.. introduce me to him pls. The only person I’ve seen that I like a lot. Hope he’s like this in real life..
That's a great idea. Instead of a regular dating site you have to befriend ppl of your own gender. Then those ppl rate you. Often N and Ps can't pull the wool over their own gender as well.
Please
Lol! ❤️
I love this idea.. and it makes me giggle because covert narcs would damn RUIN it. They fancy themselves the queens and kings of the empaths. They feel SOOOO much and they are SOOOOOO feeling all the feels and no one else ever understands just how much they FEEL. I have compassion for them tho - it's easy to confuse an inner storm of tormenting self absorbed shame & angst - for empathy. ;)
Richard, I hung on every second of that 55 minute video. Mind blown. I have just said STOP after 6 years of suffering in my relationship. Now to focus on re-sealing my heart. I AM MINE.
“ only dead fish go with the flow...😁💕🌷
GK Chesterton originated this metaphor in 1910. Really good one.
my X said I felt like a dead fish (: lol and that we were the perfect fitted pair of gloves....oh dear how young and foolish I was ;)
@@debbiekostiuk8825 I was young and foolish over my ex too. Fortunately I read GK Chesterton and life is greatly improved now.
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Thankyou and here's some quotes from him :)
The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting. It has been found difficult; and left untried.
The Bible tells us to love our neighbors, and also to love our enemies; probably because generally they are the same people.
The reason angels can fly is because they take themselves lightly.
An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.
A dead thing can go with the stream, but only a living thing can go against it.
The poets have been mysteriously silent on the subject of cheese.
If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.
I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.
The world will never starve for want of wonders; but only for want of wonder.
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost."
Dude. I'm going to have to re-watch this in chunks to unpack it all - this was amazing!
That moment in 'V for Vendetta' when she's in prison (with shaved head) and has that breakthrough and stops being afraid....that's a good leveling up :)
That's one of my favourite movies! I've both a background in martial arts and too much experience dealing with narcissistic abuse and trauma - from parents to then (due to narc parenting destroying my self-esteem, sense of boundaries, assertiveness) being a "people-pleaser" and attracting narcissists as so-called "friends", so can relate to the breakthrough moment although it took years of dedicated effort by myself to work on the issues referred to (self-esteem etc.) and stop being an attractive target for narcissists.
It did take years as mentioned and I think in part the time to heal was related to the fact that this was when the internet wasn't widely available, and nor was there all the helpful information about narcissism and techniques to identity and deal with narcissistic people that's available nowadays. One thing I wish looking back is that I'd had access to the information available now back then! It would've saved me so much time, energy, and suffering due to prolonged contact with and abuse by narcissists. Whilst I'm definitely very glad I put in that work, and no longer am attractive to narcissists - who will sense those that are good 'supply' for them - I am somewhat envious (albeit not in a negative manner, if you understand my meaning!) of both teenagers and adults today who have the plethora of information about narcissism and toxic relationships available to them, much of it online and also available in books, both hardcopy, e-books and/or audio books. They've often no idea how fortunate they are in this respect!
I want to watch that now. I love that scene.
It's similar to the scene in the Labrynth when the girl realised that the Goblin King has no power over her 😁
@@amandadixon9548 thanks! 😁
I honestly appreciate the new path you are taking in your work by not over focusing on the narcissist but to empower people to deal with their own wounds and close the entry points to toxic behaviors and relationships. I truly believe this is essential for our healing path. It’s really great to see this side of you 💜
I got my Helpdesk homies working on an edit if the Star Trek analogy with some visuals 💫
“Generational Karma,” so true. We need to break the cycle.
As a survivor of childhood incest aaaaaand more recently narc abuse, your rumination on how WE have to be our own prophets and say “stop”, stop these ways of being w one another landed kind of like a little miracle in my heart. Thanks for this, Richard.🙏🏻
Deb Talan,hope you are not with a narcissist!
I believe I heard we break the generational karma, when we choose to deal appropriately with it & to heal from it.
Thats exactly it, youre confused and look look and look and finally you end up finding narcissism. It took me 2 years until I found a psychology student who directed me to it and BINGO!
So refreshing. Thank you for not sugar coating what we need to do to heal and stop the cycle of trauma.
Irma Francis,hope you are not with a narcissist!
Richard! That’s it! Absolutely it -
the state of confusion is a reflection of the toxic relationship! I would spend so much time replaying the interactions trying so hard to “figure” out what was going on. Bless you. It makes it all so clear now. 💡
I’m so grateful for your advice. I am getting a lot from it, including an elevated sense of inner peace. Baby steps but I’m glad to have this support. All the best to you.
DeAnne Millais,your pretty smile can make the news!
Richard, I'm friggin stoked to see you walk out into the light publicly. This is what we need.
I’ve talked to a couple of friends and a counsellor and I’ve been told I’m being hypersensitive and that’s just how men behave. Have we become so insensitive, socialised and adapted we can no longer trust our instincts? Bad behaviour makes us feel uncomfortable. I look at the other relationships in my life, my friends don’t try to control me? Why do the men I date, question me or try to control me? And other people tell me that’s acceptable.
Got out of abusive 4 year relationship, 3 years ago, and still NOT ready to date, but out of so many videos i listened about narcissist recovery, yours are some of the best ones. Thank you!!!
“Don’t hate trauma.” Love that! How DO you do this?! This one is brilliant! So amazing. You are hitting all the high notes - and all in one talk. I really like that your background is so eclectic and you can so easily reach into your bag of wisdom and pull out what you need to make your point(s). Beautiful. Soothing. Hopeful. Listening to you is like drinking a chocolate shake😋. Yum!
😩🤣🤣🤣🤣u crack me up..
More then that.,I trust myself after listening to u. Unlocked a whole heap of healing..
Took that conversation where I'd begin hearing it and took it right where I needed it to go. Thank you for the time and effort. It's really comforting to see others doing this and caring about these things, because indeed the world seems depressing when you don't see it happening.
You may have saved my life today. 52yrs of this. Thank you, so much.
Jaw drop. This is phenomenal on so many levels the insight and wisdom packed in this monologue. Absolute brilliance straight up.
I felt like alice falling down the rabbit hole literally! But once i realise that the head doctors diagnosis of his bpd which i though was allbullshit at the time ,then it was walk and dont look bk and look at my own shit and why i got sick and i unravelled.
I had anxiety attacks from being around my narc husband and his bipolar mom
This was absolutely wild. I cannot believe you know about the “but what about you” argument so many times I tried so hard to say what you just said about our relationship. Wow.
Omg! So glad you're talking about this. I have been spending years learning this the slow hard way. I had no awareness for years of my manipulative coersion in relationships, I always saw myself as the receiver, the victim, and never a participant. It takes 2 to dance a waltz. We are taught to blame. Dang you nailed it! Thanks for your bravery of honesty.
Richard -- phenomenal on so many levels. Some painful but needed aha moments. Pieces integrated. Thank you.
Yes! Time to heal - definitely on that one right now!
Thanks Richard, another banging video 😁
AhhAhhh, I am also practicing alchemy, great talk, can so relate! The Heros journey, just everything you mentioned, also about the witch burn. Hermes the god of boundaries, good reminder!
Best of all talks I have seen so far from you, Richard! For me personally a great reminder of the original intension with which I stayed in the relationship (at the end too long, but who knows): to become aware, to make aware, and it was sort of sorting out old karma. This video took me now out of the circle of doubts and questions I had after ending the toxic relationship. May it help to find back to the is-ness of this moment I had before, the freedom in the disciplin of confronting every day as it is.
Wow the impact of this talk is mind blowing. The content Richard grannon delivers is a godsend .
Wow Richard! O LOVE you’re latest videos, the woo and everything. After about 2 years stuck in trying to figure out narcissists (as in, obsessing over all that’s wrong with them) I’m so ready for this more mature approach to healing and personal growth. Enough with that. STOP - yes! You’re one of my fav speakers, I love your humor and the way you comment on your own thoughts (the funny and insightful side notes), well done and thank you so much for your work! I appreciate you!
This channel has really helped re-parent me. There truly is hope for the future. Thank you Richard.
Thank you. That was so profoundly helpful. I was looking for blaming or labeling and decsifering the behaviors. We were both operating from wounded positions. Nobody wins. I’ll be looking in the mirror from now on. ✨
I've watched this about 4 times now. This is really everything a codependent or anyone looking outside themselves for completion needs to know. It truly is, excellent analogies and all, such a clear, throrough, kind, thoughtful and funny message. Stop, shut up, by yourself, for yourself...Thank you again for getting through the concrete that is my skull.
Maggie Garrison,hope you are not with a narcissist!
Love you Richard been watching for awhile.I especially enjoyed your explanation of being your own prophet and stopping the cycle.being vigilant to noticing the manipulation of others and loving yourself enough to walk alone if communication isn't open...Boston🍀USA
Absolutely brilliant. And “ an entity in socks!” Made me laugh out loud. You are profound and seriously funny 😂🙏🏻!
I love your videos more all the time, but I really love this one! So real, honest, straightforward , and thoughtful! So important! Forget math, I dare say I have learned more important life information from half of this video than my entire formal education. So comforting that thousands of people have watched this. I hope it truly touches many more lives and generations!
Brilliant! Thank you again. Healing....sealing....alchemy of turning suffering into purpose...this starchild is a fan. I will love and accept and forgive myself.
Richard, you are truly appreciated. Thanks for making a positive impact for humanity.
I was at that yoga studio in Encinitas, CA, in June, that you mentioned in this video. It was small, and you were great that evening. It was amazing meeting you after being a long-time viewer, and openly credit you with helping me crack open what was going on in my life! Thank you, again, for all you do to help.
This is one of the best talks I have ever heard on toxic relationships. Thank you.
Wow. I was not expecting what I just saw. You have helped me get through my own relationship trauma, taught me how to heal and taught me to reach inside myself to want to heal. I really enjoy your way of thought and the way you convey your message.
Listened again, Richard, this is one for the the ages.
Thanks a lot! Your speech on trauma, disconnection and emotinal flashback syndrome opened my eyes to the roots of my own problems and how to solve them.
I Love the Woo ideaology........ it goes hand in hand with knowing yourself, understanding others and their behavior which is ALL rooted in beliefs and intentions. Point on...I'll keep watching 💯 Keep speaking Truth
I highly appreciate your emphasis on how toxic manipulation actually is.
In general.
This is something, as you mentioned, that's [hyper] normalized way too much.
So much so, that we almost don't recognize it when it comes along.
I love your evolution, this is beautiful! Thank you for being vulnerable, and sharing your new found wisdom. ❤️🙏
Just found this very insightful and accessible education. Transmuting trauma using alchemy as our individual life work is spot on and brilliant. This presentation gave me a huge opportunity to leap forward in understanding and a reasoned actionable path forward after a trauma bond has finally ended. Thank you for this gift.
I love your videos. It's like when you have a philosophical conversation with someone where one idea triggers the next and you explore each area openly and authentically. Love the flow of how you cover the topic. Thank you.
Calling spiritual truth "woo" is gas-lighting.
Thanks for another great video.
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Richard... This has got to be one of my favorite videos you've done!!! ✅✅✅
This was great Richard, thank you! I just got out of a 2-month toxic relationship after being in therapy for a year. I noticed the signs right away, I worked with him but it was just too verbally abusive and I had to end it. I will take advantage of your links as well as I found this extremely helpful and enjoyed your witty delivery. I'm happy I found you on here, keep up the great work! :)
You're fantastic and truthful and funny.Thank you for reminding me of what I already knew but didn't know how to say it and put it all together. So much truth said in a perfect time. A year later, this discussion is still perfect. You're a great, funny, truthful person with great love.
Great video! This should be broadcast during assemblies/work places/Homes all over the world ❤
Whatever bears affinity to cunning is despicable. Fitzwilliam Darcy This Is so important and helps me Tremendously. Ty Richie yes leveling up because: endgame.
You have out done yourself here. Loved this one. Thumbs up.
I'm taking my heart home for sure, thankyou richard.
This is the message I needed to hear today. Thank you Richard!
All of this really resonated with me Richard. Brilliant. Thank you so much. 💛
I love your comment about the intergalactic spaceship! And about how torture keeps us stuck in our bodys to forget about where we are in time and space. (And how the fakirs run the show by being stronger than the threats., even when it really not should be necessary!)
I just stumbled on this... as I normally don't get time for 1 hour long CZcamss --- but you know, we're still in lockdown in Melbourne, Australia. You really speak my language, all of the time, but especially going down this deeply esoteric and spiritual information.
Yup, when the devil can't reach you he sends a narcissist 🤣
So yeah, Anunnaki don't want any of us leaving this world, so they do all they can to cause drama, chaos, injury, wounding and suffering to bring us back into our skin.
I felt confused, couldnt make a decision, crying most days, always questioning . he was talking to women telling them he was single. Saw a naked pic of his ex. He blew up in rage when i confronted him about it. I had anxiety, stress n depression. He accused me if going to meet other men. I couldnt talk on the phone. He would be right there wanting to know who it was. I couldnt tell him no.
He didn't trust you - not because of anything you were or weren't doing but because of what he was doing.
I learnt this the hard way too. My ex-husband did exactly the same. It was so confusing, I couldn't figure out where he'd plucked these ridiculous notions from? Well, it came from his own behaviour; he was cheating, used online dating, etc., and to avoid blame (which narcissists do), he transferred all his wrong doings onto me, the faithful, loving wife who regularly bent over backwards to TRY keep him happy.
Now, I work on loving myself and keeping me happy. Wishing you luck on your life journey 🌻🌄
@@cmmontrose1469 I am in the same situation. But not financially able to leave yet. I have been going with the flow for 20 years and putting up with all his abuse. He made it look so normal. Like all men behave this way in America. A guy thing he said. As a foreigner I didn't understand his game. Thanks Richard for enlightening me.
Thank you for this video. Extremely thought-provoking!
Holy shit. I’ve never heard anyone explain it like this, and now it makes so much sense. I’m so glad I found your content
It's nice that this showed up in my CZcams feed today after I watched it a year ago. It shows how much more I understand and that I've grown some.
Thank you for helping me to understand what is toxic behavior.
That's what the true occult practices are, the alchemy of the self, the inner work, the great work.
Wonderful talk. Thankyou
Tina Garcia 'occult practices '..... ??? I think they're a little more than that.
Applause indeed. Thank you for your lovely perspectives and analogies!
So grateful and I love your style of coaching...it is spot on and the perfect balance of reality and spirituality without the dogma!
Question: When I'm with a person who has a very black view of humanity, like "you have to be on top of the game to survive, there is no one you can trust in this world, women are manipulative, men are exploitative" and so on. I get overwhelmed with sadness, scared and feel intensive pain, I want to cry, scream to the person to stop talking, or leave the situation. What can this be I experience at that moment?
I don't live with that type of belief systems myself. I feel and experience love, hope, trust, connections everywhere I am, with all sorts of people, animals, nature. But I grew up with a dad who has this negative, black and white thinking, jealous and judgmental about anyone and anything. Demanding all attention and servitude for only him self.
I'm thinking, my reactions are my whole body, mind, soul shouting stop, no more. I do not surrender to your version. I have a right to my own.
Anyone ells who feels like this? In pain, like being tormented by how negative, angry, mean, cold someone is in their expressions about other people?
I had the same dad. I have to consciously fight that negative tendency. I'm repelled by it too because I don't want that in my adult life.
You are one of my favorite people in the world. I feel like you are actually my friend,very mystical, simply love you so much. Love
Sir Richard, keep speaking your truth. Lovely sense of humor. Yes, replaying conversations until 2am. Be brutal...we been to be woke up
Always keeping it real...you are many of a few that's calling it what it is..thank you
Thank you for the inspiring and insightful explanation, Richard!! You have the most profound analogy that I have ever heard👍💞It really clears up some issues. Looking forward to the next episodes. Thank you again and God bless🙏🤞
I love 'Go with the Flow' that is what dead fish do!so true. All of it. Brilliant
Your thoughts are so incredibly deap. I really enjoy when you simplify and come down to my simplistic mindset.
Your woo is good (& not too wooey). Your view is clear. Your wisdom is hermetically sealing my wounded soul.
Wow, this was so much more than I expected from a video on “how to know if you’re in a toxic relationship”
Thank you for this, Richard. Hermenutics and the rest came into my mind. You are very well-read, my friend, which pleases me so much - so rare these days. This video sums up a lot and reveals a lot, 'tis whole in itself, decades of work behind. Thank you.
I found myself weeping throughout this video. Thank you for this wonderful talk.
Thank you Richard for your video on emotional abuse and the whole title of this video! It was very educational and is ! I was so emotionally abused and mentally by two family members , one was recently it went on for 4 yrs , I had to get away and I started working on my self and realized what the hell that person was doing to me . I can’t be in the same room with that person without feeling physically, emotionally sick. I had to gray rock her! I can’t speak to her after I figure out what she does to people! I am on the mend now! I still have flashbacks, I’m in counseling too! Your videos help me understand what is going on and the tools to recovery ! God bless you always!