From this INFJ's perspective, INFPs never get the respect they deserve, and their positive qualities are often glossed over. But the truth is, they're awesome. Here's why.
Bro. You shouldn't put yourself down like that. Conversations are hard. Putting yourself out there is intense. But i mean if you're brave enough to post videos on youtube, i'm sure you got this.^_^
@@marcoantonio078 i was talking about what mathieu said at the end of the video. However.... Is you wanna talk we can for sure do that. It get the feeling by the way. I don't get how people can change the "rules of engagement" as they seem fit then talk about justice and fairness.... Stay strong my man.
Hey, I think you're amazing. Just reading your replies to the comments I can tell that you're a very kind person, personality types aside. I hope that you have a good week, because you're the kind of person who should have one.
what's sucks to be an infp for me are altruistic, emotional bias for everything, anxious, overthinking and way too idealistic (or maybe it's all just me)
Ansa Hansson Yes. I can hardly watch a tv show or movie without screaming at a character for being an asshole to someone. Or hugging the other character whose just been hurt...in my head of course:)
I’m an infp and I stumble over my words in conversations. I think it’s because I’m insecure/uncomfortable in most settings, but if I have a point I will get it across one way or another
Yeah same. If I have something to say then it's usually some sort of vague idea that I sometimes struggle to put into words. But then it comes out all jumbled and confusing so some people don't understand what I'm saying. It's especially hard when I'm asked deep questions or ones I have to really think about it so it takes even more of an effort to think about what I'm saying as well as explaining it normally in a way the other person can actually understand.
I am struggling with this as well... it's sometimes hard to convey my thought process into something other people can understand and follow, it's especially visible and hard when I speak with thinking types... when I was younger I didn't care about it that much but it was also due to the people I was surrounded with but now it's an every day struggle... my partner is an INTP and oh boy when I have to explain some new idea or we discuss some deeper topic like conspiracy theory or something I have to focus and really get my thoughts organised before I open my mouth... if I don't do this it's mambo jumbo jumping from one topic to another as my brain see connections but in most of the cases this is to abstract to the person I speak with... I honestly think that for us INFP's life is a constant struggle... xD
@@klaudiamorawska4398 Can definitely relate to this… it’s not necessarily that I don’t know the information or can’t think of something to say, it’s about moulding the seemingly infinite number of ideas relating to the discussion that are buzzing around my head into a clear and concise point while not taking so long that people lose interest. We value perfection more than most other types and so that confuses things further. I also find myself thinking of wacky and weird ideas and jokes while in conversation which makes me chuckle and convinces those I’m talking to that I’m a real-life Joker - especially when I can’t explain what I was just laughing at without derailing the whole initial conversation. There are a million things I think to mention in every conversation; 70% of them I don’t ever say, 20% I attempt to explain but end up taking too long/get lost in tangents/lose the attention of my audience. The rest is ok though. But writing comments on the internet? I think we get our points across pretty well… ;)
Well I can feel my emotions, but I cannot describe or understand it. Its as if trying to explain the flavor/texture thats in the grey area between all common emotions. Took me till I was an adult to build the intuition to begin to understand what I felt.
Your whole analysis on INFPs really hit close to home. But, me personally, I really suck at trying to convey anything verbally with ease; especially when I'm being asked head-on. Maybe it's an anxiety thing, but I find myself having my thoughts more organized and condensed in a firmer box when I write or have days of preparing what I want to express.
You're not the only person who had this complaint, so it's possible I was just inaccurate about this. I'm no expert on this, and there's a lot of things about MBTI that I still don't understand, so it's possible this is just a mistake on my part. But at the same time, people are still individuals despite their types. I know there are a few things - not many - that tend to be a trend with INFJs yet I can't relate to them. So it's hard to say whether my statement on this is right or wrong. "I find myself having my thoughts more organized and condensed in a firmer box when I write or have days of preparing what I want to express." Maybe it is just an anxiety thing, because that's how I am most the time too.
Yeah i wonder about this too. I have this problem. And idk if its me, experience in life, or lack thereof, or anxiety, or infp thing? Or maybe its in my birthchart 😄. Or maybe its adhd/anxiety. Or maybe its some other processing disorder, or a touch of one. (My mom is NVLD, and Dad adhd/Tourette's. And two of my half siblings have dyslexia. Which i have it with directions only.) I also wonder if its my strong N and people just don't understand me? I try to adjust and i cant accomplish that because N is the base of all my thoughts. That theory gets steam when every ENFJ i talk to understands me. 😄
I am the same, however for me its because i never feel like i know enough about the subject to adequately get my point across. I am an engineer and have been for many years. I feel unstoppable in this field. I am shit hot at it, yet when put on the spot and asked "what or why i am doing, i can freeze. Its horrible. Sometimes i don't know why i do certain things i just know they do or will work, so often don't have an answer.
The part about conveying anything verbally with ease totally depends what it’s about in my case. I’m also an INFP ofc and I can easily give advice, comfort and help people... but when it comes to conveying my own emotions, thoughts and ideas my words get stuck. I feel like nobody would understand me anyways and so I really am not capable of conveying my own personal feelings with ease. So long I don’t have to talk about my own emotions etc. I can indeed verbally convey stuff fairly easy
For me, an INFP myself, I find it hard to express my thoughts and opinions verbally mostly because I try at all cost to avoid conflict. Since most of the people I interact with are outwardly opinionated, expressing my thoughts turn into large debates which I would rather forgo. I'm still opinionated, but I'll only talk of my passion or morals since they are super strong. On less strong subjects I might second guess myself and feel my thoughts and feeling are rather stupid and others would think so too, so I choose not to share most times.
Same thing here. I think I can express my opinions well verbally (as opposed definitely to in writing) but because I don’t want to debate or upset anything, I usually find it hard to express it
I felt that LOL. I find it easy to interpret my feelings and I’m well in writing them, but speech is disappointing sometimes cause it can feel restricting to the swells of emotions really going through my head lol. And yea, I tend to limit myself when communicating cause I never wanna seem too harsh or biased cause I’m very open to new ideas and understanding them.
Jason Dragon That’s so true. I’m INFP and my brother is INFJ and we have the best relationship of all the siblings. We get each other and encourage each other. He gets me at a deeper level than others do and vice versa.
I actually think that INFPs are the least likely type to dress to stand out - I dont think we particualrly want attention and often being goth (as an example) or whatever is just too try hard to be actually authentic
As an INFP I was miserable, lost and had no personality until my 30s when I finally met myself. I was the black sheep and scapegoat in my family. Now that I found myself it all makes sense. I am a brilliant writer apparently. In my first year college English class, I got a 120% on every paper I wrote. I skipped my final and still had an A+ for that semester as a final grade. My professor called me a quiet treasure. I'm nuts though bc of my ability to make insanely quick connections between multiple topics. When I talk about the 20 connections that just clicked in my head, people just stare and get confused. It is very frustrating. I need to be a writer! Oh and I am so obsessed with the Grateful Dead. Their music is the only thing in earth that stimulates me and gives me joy...and everyone thinks they suck. It is a lonely life as an INFP. I want someone to have meaningful conversations with. I can't find anyone to click with. I'm starting to think I never will. 😔
Being an INFP can be difficult as is, but don't hate the unique aspects that it brings. Also having a relationship with God is the best thing that happened in my life. And people may not get you, but the Lord does and loves you a lot. Hang on and continue writing.
Im an INFP and im happy. I dont like how everyone says that INFPs arent happy and that we are all depressed and anxious (which I was for a loooooong time). But now that I am genuinely happy i really dont like when people say that INFP = unhappy :(
hmm.. i’m an infp and i was relating to everything he said until the authenticity part. maybe it’s because i’m young and still very insecure, but i don’t feel like showing my inner self. i desperately want to talk about the bands i like with my friends and sometimes even want to wear all black and cut my hair because i would simply just like that, but i think my introvertedness just takes over this person i want to show to the world. ugh.
Actually what you describe is extremely common for INFP. Our authenticity is quite often held internally while we display very little publicly. Its important to be true to ourselves but we could care less if anyone else knows this or not. Its why the other types struggle with understanding us, they can't tell whats going on in our head.
This is definitely me. I try to keep myself quiet by saying that no one cares or that it's a stupid idea to tell them. But sometimes the energy is too strong to keep at bay and then it just becomes a massive wall of text to a friend who only responds to the last thought that was mentioned. Or nothing at all. That annoys me. Especially when they say, "I'll check it out later," and they never get back to you. But yeah, I guess I look at past experiences now and decide to keep myself quiet. Some days I find myself saying, "And this is why I don't talk very much...." because they've just found another "weapon" to use against me. I'm deeply sorry for the negativity within these words. None of this really flows the way I want it to. But I'm tired. I needed to transfer this from my mind into reality somehow, otherwise I'd be kept awake with everything swirling around in my head. I'm off to bed now. Again, I'm sorry. Please don't destroy me in the comments. Perhaps my mind can conjure up a dream tonight that doesn't turn into a nightmare. Goodnight.😴
We are simply gaurded is all. And yes you will grow into and then out of this. (Im 40 now). But don't fret over it now. No good reason. That's a lot of negative emotion to give yourself...
Descriptions of INFPs in a lot of sites are bullcrap which kind of frustrates me a lot of the time. Glad to know a video which doesn't undermine an INFP's abilities :)
YUP! We’re sensitive, teddy bears, soft, etc. I can be a jerk and every infp is secretly a jerk. We’re not naive, we just ignore realism because we’re smart enough to know how it will affect us.
Arielle Fenix I think that’s just how you are. Because as an infp, I’m not afraid to admit I do love recognition and praise for what I do. I think it just differs what kind of person you are, I mean personality is basically a spectrum. I just don’t like the “stereotype” of infps being these super kind people because we can be assholes sometimes, including me. Another trait of an infp is being genuine and I like to be genuine about the fact that I’m an asshole.
As an INFP, i'm an eccentric rebel... Ambivert really, but usually tend more to introverted. infp's usually have a tough time with how society is run usually because of our survival mode, if society were to detach itself from this, and function from a place that's.. Well you know, something that more in harmony and authentic... We are truly unstoppable and world movers.
Okay, wut? That was literally the best description of empathy, not to mention how you tangibly spoke what everyone thinks when they read the INFP description.(a worse form of multiple types) But the empathy. I now know how to explain my empathy to myself, if that makes sense?
I feel totally the same! Sometimes I thought that my emphaty was broken (because I didn't feel sad for someone), but now I see that it might not have been the case! But, well, I think I managed to learn a little how to block it, because sometimes it is energy - draining, to care so much.
Sol Usman Feel you. I'm torn between the admiration of the impressive musical creativity they can display and the general conviction that all hipsters must die.
I'm an infp, thank you so much. Your insight is accurately relevant. You hit the nail on the head, and you have a great sense of humour about this. I have been bullied a lot, recently from an enfp who followed me to Asia. She got made because she didn't understand I needed my time alone. She wanted me to treat her like a princess and constantly kiss her ass, she wasn't loyal though. When she realized she couldn't change me, she turned my entire class against me. I held my head high, sat beside her in class and ended up coming out on top. I didn't complain, I didn't let her phase me.... on the out side... inward thinker. In the end before the month long class was over people were annoyed with hearing her wine all the time. They realized I wasn't any of those things she was saying.
"followed me to Asia." Well that is an interesting start to any story. But I'm glad that all worked out for you in the end. Some people are dicks. But these things happen. And I'm really glad you enjoyed the video. I tried to be as accurate as possible. As for my sense of humour, I usually think if I make myself laugh, it's a bad sign. But I'm certainly glad you liked it. Thank you for the compliments.
I actually somewhat agree with you on INFP relating to INFJ’s.. although I’m an INFP, SEVERAL of my personality traits also align with INFJ’s. Im glad someone noticed that happens to INFP’s
Content 100%, humor 100%. People made fun of my music taste and called it elevator music but music evokes so many emotions in me that i cannot describe! Love to you!
Rebecca Nicole Vega you don’t need a job that you’re ok at doing, because as an infp you’ll be doomed to be mediocre at it, unless you really care about it
I can’t communicate well verbally at all unless I’m reading a script and am unaware of other people listening. I will write an entire script in my head that sounds like a university essay and then when I start speaking, it’s like someone scrambled the words or even just hit delete and my words stumble out of my mouth like a jumbled mess and I end up talking about a million unrelated things until the original point is forgotten. Then I spend my time afterwords trying to come up with alternate takes of the same scenario trying to figure out what went wrong. It’s like I’m constantly analyzing my interactions and picking out every mistake, every possible flaw and coming up with scenarios in my head where those flaws don’t exist to see if the conversation could’ve gone differently, not that it matters because there’s no going back to redo it.
The only thing I couldn't relate to in this video was the bit about being able to articulate our ideas well in verbal communication. That has never been easy for me. I, like you, have to write all my thoughts down, organize, and edit to express what I feel in its entirety. But when I try and talk on the fly I fuck up.
You know, I got another comment about 19 hours ago that said the same thing. That's interesting to me because, logically, Ne and Te combined should make it really easy to express your opinions in a poignant, detailed way, but obviously I'm not negating your experiences. People are just different. Nobody's gonna fit one of these sixteen boxes perfectly, but I do wonder if my thoughts on the INFP's ability to articulate in person are not as accurate as I thought.
@@CrispMasterCrunch I think it's our Intuitiveness. We already have the general idea and structure in our minds, but we don't know the step by step process. Idk
as an infp, i have never felt that other personality types are much better than infp. in contrast, i have allways loved to be an infp because of creativity, understanding and all the other things it gives. and i think there is nothing to do with intps smarter than infps just because they "think" while we "feel" (no im not saying this because my iq is 145) its about personality after all. but i think that we allways struggle to live, at least i struggle. when i read about infps i just thought that "oh, thats why i am this much depressive, pessimistic and open to bad things happening in my life, because of these i just cant be happy like others.." i know that it can be better if i were happier but there is something about being an infp that, being understood by this world is really hard. well i dont even understand myself though.. but as i said, i dont see this as a disadvantage. i think this is what make infps unique. and sorry for my poor english
I'm glad you didn't feel disappointed when you read your personality type, because ideally people would see the advantages in their types and realize what they can contribute. And I had a very similar situation when I read my MBTI type - it just answered so many questions about myself in comparison to others that I would have never come around to realizing otherwise. The poor English was not a problem at all. I hope the extremely late reply was not a problem for you.
I like the honest approach. I watch a lot of these videos and they seem biased even to the point of pretentiousness. Your truthfulness goes a long way and validates your authenticity.
For all INFPs out there: You are a beautiful infinite soul. Even when you don't like to go out, don't have friends, don't feel understood by others, even family and friends. Even you procrastinating, don't have job and ambitions to do something. The world needs you. You are an unbelievable true soul, without you the whole world would be a place with soulless unempathic dicks. We need your intuitional and idealistic leadership to our own inner and outer freedom to make the right decision for the better of all of us. I love you and truly believe in you.
not sure if I somehow managed to only look at all the rare sites with good descriptions of INFPs, but during that long-ish self discovery phase of my life I rarely found myself disagreeing or disliking the descriptions I found for INFPs or thinking they were negative. some would suggest INFPs are totally emotional an irrational, but not often did I find a negative other than that. I tend to think I'm more intellectual than emotional, though idealism can probably skew my view of reality now and then. and I spos I started off vary feelings based and hardly thought focused at all, and made a conscious shift from one to the other early on.
Interesting love the way you view the INFP and yes am a true INFP, I do appreciate your outlook on the INFP. Our vividly colorful ways of always being our true selfs in a world that is destined to be hopelessly grey at times! 🙏🏼💫
Hey Melinda! Yeah I just wish that we INFP’s were given more of a red carpet roll out for our colorful vivid minds and what they can create for this grayish world. Instead, we seem to not get much support / encouragement to bring that stuff out because it’s just hard to describe sometimes to others and what we clearly see ourselves up there in our heads. So with that, I feel we just have to take those initial leaps ourselves (which can have a high vulnerability aspect we tend to stray from) in order to colorize this place with our awesome creativity!! Sean
Personally I loved reading the INFP profile, maybe because it was so relatable and explained heaps about me. I guess I wasn't looking to build myself up, just know the truth. So it's very kind of you to talk about some admirable qualities of INFPs, especially because it's real hard to live in the TJ world.
Hey just because INFPs have more writers doesn't mean that you can't be a great writer as well, you shouldn't let that discourage you! You can use it to fuel you instead-why not be an amazing INFJ writer? :) Also, that intro was hilarious! 😂
That empathy vs sympathy got me gd as an INFP. Before discovering MBTI personality types, I wondered why I was very particular abt expressing to someone the word sympathise with vs empathise with when reaching out on a touchy issue. And then I realise i truly wanted to be authentic & come from a sincere place abt the person’s situation without undermining their feelings & throwing them a pity party or making them feel like they’re wallowing in self-pity in any way- it’s like making an effort towards compassionate understanding without the other party feeling belittled especially since INFPs already know they’re awkward to begin with so I don’t want to be misunderstood. =p
That certainly makes a lot of sense, and that's definitely an interesting take on it. But I do feel like sympathy kind of gets a bad rap in a lot of ways. I can only speak for myself, but I know I've met a ton of people who have gone through painful situations that I will never experience, whether it's from personal decisions or not. But even though I sympathize with those people, I certainly don't think I look down on them. I see so many mistakes I make from day to day that I find it hard to just disassociate myself from somebody based on their life choices. But it still comes from an honest place, and isn't synonymous with belittling. I think empathy and sympathy both taken to their extremes are disastrous. A person who can empathize but can't sympathize will see a lot of people who are at least trying to do good and leave them to rot or, worse yet, make them the enemy rather than trying to work with them. But a person who sympathizes with everyone will give too many chances to people who will just fuck them over, as well as making excuses for the decisions those people make. I'm way closer to the latter, but somewhere in the middle of those two extremes is where I want to be.
Mathieu Person sure it isn’t synonymous with belittling :) Even I confuse between the 2. I suppose it’s a need to be closer to the truth or heart of the matter & afraid of misconstrue. Both are good - sympathy & empathy. Sympathy is perhaps maybe when I don’t go through what the person did so I don’t know how it is to be in the person’s shoes (still authentic... honestly it’s all abt intention too & I Guess as an infp I do feel it out that ppl do their best) & empathy which is maybe just maybe being able to absorb or feel out partially what the person’s pain is. BUT I also realise something scary as an INFP because of this.. damnit.. since I’ve met other INFPs & I’ve noticed.. when we care, we can truly care & when we don’t care, we truly freaking don’t (it could also be on occasions where something is complete opposite of an INFP’s aligned values that INFP goes cold? Or lack of similar values/interests). That’s scary too since there are stuff beyond our understanding or feelings that we can’t encompass which still requires sensitivity.. INFPs can go from feelers to complete aloofness too. I’m not all proud of this all the time even though being a rebel at heart can be cool once in a while as I’ve been on the receiving end of hurt by other INFP & I myself have hurt others before with this regard (when I just can’t feel for the person anymore & it should be left open-ended). I prefer to figure out my personality type weaknesses...
I am an INFP and yes, all of these are accurate. Especially authenticity to me. I was always labeled as a geek, nerd and weird because of my outfits, my hobbies (diehard anime fan and Gunpla collector) and my speech. I really couldn't blend in but it was okay. I used my weirdness as my own people repellent. Thank you for this video! You let us, INFPs, shine 😊
Thank you for making this video. I'm an INFP and because of u... I think I'm gonna keep doing my shit+believe in shitty stuff again. The world hasn't been very nice lately.. thanks to u. I think I shouldn't give up
I'm really glad to see you spot INFP traits that are usually missed by a lot of the other types. In my experience most videos about INFP's focus heavily on the stereotypes that abound about the type - lazy, dreamer, unfocused and so on. It's amazing just how wrong these stereotypes are, and it is because most healthy INFP's are not included in the equation. Healthy INFP's are often mistaken with other types since they exhibit so few of the stereotypical INFP behavior, and tend to hide their thoughts (thus causing the 'mysterious' description). That is in fact why the stereotype exists to begin with, the healthy INFP's are mistaken as another type while the unhealthy ones end up representing it. Healthy INFP's have no need to express themselves to others or seek validation because we get that from ourselves. We are intensely aware of the emotions of others, which lets us determine what they are going to do and therefore what we need to do. That is why you so rarely hear about positive INFP traits beyond "they are so moral", we do not put those traits on display for others to analyze, catalog and recognize. So, in a way (from a recognition standpoint), we are victims of our own indifference to the opinions of others. Even our morality trait is fundamentally misunderstood. So often we are described as taking a position just because we "feel" that way, even when we cannot give a rationalized reason behind it, and this is often derided as illogical and therefore foolish. This is wrong, so wrong. It's actually hyper-logical, though often unconscious. This makes sense when you look at our cognitive stack. Our Fi hero means we base our decisions on how we feel. We get our information from our Ne parent (which functions differently for us than for other Ne users since it is focused on emotional input due to the interaction with Fi hero). The real key here however is the influence of our Si child. Si (long-term memory) child (where you go for comfort) subtly informs both the Hero and the Parent. It answers the questions "what is this feeling", "why is this being felt" and "what results from this". We start doing this emotional analysis from infancy and by adulthood is highly accurate. Ever looked at a math question and just known the answer without having to do the work? This is how feelings work for INFP. This is why INFP has a highly developed sense of right and wrong, we've spent our entire lives unconsciously analyzing and cataloging the emotions and decisions of others and seeing what works, what does not, what helps and what hurts. We have an internal data set that is unparalleled and we access it unconsciously. We may not be able to tell you why when we say something is right or wrong, but I can promise you that it is probably correct. Sorry for rambling on so long, and I apologize if I come off as lecturing, I'm just passionate about this subject, lol.
woah! can I talk to you about stuff? you seem to have it all put together and I'm always so confused. Even though it doesn't affect my life in a big bad way, not knowing if I'm an unhealthy intp thinking I'm a healthy infp or whatever seems to get on my nerves. If you're so healthy that you say you are could you determine which type I am?
purplemind93 lol, some days are healthier than others. I think the trick there is to learn to recognize your shadow functions and when you're in them. What did the test say you are?
Omegawhite well I don’t know why but I can relate to both Ti/Fe and Fi/Te and with that comes different shadow functions. When I’m stressed I usually shut myself down become like apathetic but when I was younger and less developed I would get these tantrums and throw and yell stuff (Fe right). At the same time I’m pretty disorganized and bad at following things through so there is that Te aspect. I’ve tested as infp, intp and entp I think. And once infj but that doesn’t feel right.
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that authenticity part hit me in the face. ever since i started high school, i wasn't necessarily afraid to reference some tokusatsu (and more recently love live) when i speak. some of my batchmates may find it wierd but i feel comfortable sharing at least that layer of myself since in the end, infps are generally reserved as well and would prefer to keep the personal stuff to important people (or even just themselves when uncomfortable)
the thing about infp and that i think our most strongest part ,is simply we are who we are, we got absloutly no masks or veils, we say what we feel and we absloutly dont care what other may think, since we follow our hearts and we belive it, we will never do anything against our morale code, becuase to do it its hurt us from the inside, and since we love to live in peace with ourself we always follow our heart,a developed infp can be emphatic, but put a line between our own feelings and others, knowing that pepoles caused their own suffering in their mistakes and if they had their chanceses ,knowing that allow us not to be controlled by energy vampires or manipulators.
May I add I’ve always admired INFJs intelligence.. there’s just something quietly formidable abt their intellect.. I’ve only met 1 known INFJ personality in my life.. and the depth of her critical thinking & organised thoughts that I know she has plus other INFJ youtubers. It kinda intimidates me sometimes. And if they have a dark side, INFJs can scare the lights out of u? But that’s just my own personal experience witnessing her interactions. INFPs thinking is alot more imaginative, organised chaos- organised values & messy thoughts scattered all over going in different directions?, Creative weirdos.. of that sort lol.. Sorry I’ve gotten mad before & witness other INFPs get mad- we hurt so deep yet come off weak & messy, even when we’re letting out the rage or grudge (mostly deep seated hurt of being bullied, used, misunderstood, disrespected countless times) & then going through guilt for the anger hashing out (even if there was satisfaction felt for a while) . I’ve also heard of the INFJ don’t mess with me anger & they .. please don’t hate me for saying this.. do reach a breaking point, they gut u & execute their revenge; no regrets.. and I can tell right away it’s there right inside.. I dunno why but that must be another major difference between the NFs.. tenderness & feelings of helplessness flow differently.. INFPs feel helpless easily.. Back an INFJ or INFP into a corner, the INFJ will tear u up while the INFP will die trying to defend themselves with valour & courage, or lose themselves in aimless messy angst/hurt or use tactful diplomacy.. Let’s just say u guys know how to assert your dark side while INFP seems like the weakest bunch unless they’re fighting for a cause, they easily get drained & destabilised by anger/batshit than INFJs who knows how to own anger & assert themselves through it...
"INFPs thinking is alot more imaginative, organised chaos- organised values & messy thoughts scattered all over going in different directions?, Creative weirdos" This is true about Ne users in general. My two best friends where I'm currently living are, I think, an INTP and an INFP respectively. And most of their friends who I've met are also Ne users. On one hand, I admire all of them, because they can all shift conversation effortlessly and they can have detailed, balanced conversations on a wide variety of subjects. I often think I'm the dumbest person at the table because, among other reasons, I just can't keep up with that pace, or change topics as flawlessly or even speak with that level of wit. But I will say, when I finally do talk, it tends to be a pretty focused, nuanced response about the topic. One that's rarely argued with. As far as "gutting" people goes, I'd like to say I'm a lot better at it than I actually am. I know I try to actively be on everyone's good side, but I've yelled at management or whatever at my job place if I felt like I was being fucked over, or if I felt like something was unjust. And while it does happen very, very rarely, I know I'll do it again. But what makes me a hell of a lot more hostile is when I see someone else getting mistreated. When that shit happens, I have no patience for it.
Mathieu Person I couldn’t agree more with the seeing someone getting mistreated riles NFs up- it applies so much to ENFP INFP INFJ ENFJ coz I’ve also seen ENFP go for the kill when someone they perceived as the underdog gets so much as slightly maligned- I realize there & then personalities far more sensitive than INFs & outspoken to boot. I’ll hand it to NFJs they get more things done better than infps haha & probably the most authoritative of all the Introverted types.
I don't think being bullied is a side effect of being an infp, that's a big generalization, but coinsidently I've been called Ugly Betty because of braces and glasses and been teased at for having a blog during a time when having a blog was stilled considered lame and geeky. It may not sound that much but words have a big big impact on me. And I was an easy target being the new girl in the class. I don't know if I stood out as an infp as I wasn't nearly full grown and aware of myself yet but perhaps it's easier for an esfx and estx to avoid bullying somehow. What do you guys think?
Also, I may be thinking that I'm infp just because I'm quite emotional due to my past, but really I could be an xntp as well cause I relate to Ti and Fe qualities. I'm a bit flexible being a vegetarian, because I want to try stuff like eating jellyfish and octopus once or eating fish when mom cooks cause I'm too lazy to cook for myself and it still smells good ;) So really I lable myself as a vegetarian in front of others cause it's easier than explaining why I eat fish sometimes. And that feels like something infps would not do. Even though I want people to save the planet by cutting meat out of their diets and so on, I myself started avoiding meat because I felt it was discusting to my taste, not a moral thing at first.
This is a perfect example of why common ppl should not share their skewed opinions to the public. Leave it to the professionals. Write these thoughts in your feelings journal and keep it to yourself.
Thia was the best thing I could hear about my type . I felt all those bullshits and my friends always tell me how shitty my type is and they are better with their enfp intp and infj types . 1 one my infp friends tried so hard to change in to an infj and she is so proud and whatever which makes me feel like my type is sickness is a weakness and I need to change ... So thank you ..
I find it strange that INFPs, and introverted feeling types more generally are thought to be unintelligent. I think this comes from the idea/misconception that emotions are irrational. If you consider what emotions mean (for Fi at least) they represent values, and these values are usually well thought out opinions about what matters or what should be prioritized for that person. Yes, in the heat of the moment, the emotion comes before the argument/thought process, but isn't that just a matter of timing? Or even a matter of focus? People who are emotional and aware of those emotions aren't incapable of thinking logically at all, it's just that the experience of those emotions is in the forefront of our minds, whereas thinking dominant people might have the exact same experience but with more of a cognitive focus than an emotional one - even though there is no other difference. Frankly, I think this comes from residual sexism which discredits women by dismissing them as 'emotional' and therefore irrational. I just don't believe you can truly separate logic and emotion, they aren't mutually exclusive. It seems to be the same kind of silly idea the ancient Greeks had about libido and cognitive ability. They thought only men with small penises (and therefore a low sex drive - also incorrect) could become intellectuals. This is the same backwards idea.
Wonderful Words. Thank you Mathieu. That´s not just balm for INFP´s souls, but also a great and well researched video. INFJs are worth the same amount of appreciative words, since you are surely great types as well; especially since you so brillantly do realize moral obligations and are those who assert accountability to morality into the world in your unique socially graceful ways. Don´t doubt your talents and abilities. Mistakes, failures and individuality happen, even on the most beautiful and neatly groomed paths, or even those where worse actually couldn´t get worse but f#*king does. Your abilities always protect and teach you in the long run. Yes, I am really talking about your personal abilities and traits that you can relie on. Trust them. You know you realize it most likely retrospectively, but when life doesn´t seem to follow your thoughtful plans and truest wishes, it eventually converges back to them sooner or later. I am tempted to say that you are the masters of karma. But that´s just a spontaneous Ni flash of mine. Do trust the life, your feelings, yourself and especially trust that your perspectives and intentions determine the outcome. Look through Ne and Se and listen to your Ni. Therefore your Fi, Te and even Si will thank your for the satisfactions and wonders you and life together provide to yourself and the one´s you love. :)
This is a great video, thanks for making it and stepping into INFP shoes. Agreed that there's a sense of INFPs being a worse version of another type! The one area where I'd perhaps disagree with you is point 1 ie INFPs understanding their own emotions. In my own INFP experience most things are a complex shade of grey, rather than a clearcut like / dislike. In fact I'm quite jealous of other types who can make decisions quickly and coherently!
Im an INFP. I wish I wasn't born but since I was I have to deal with it. I also can't make friends and end up disappointing everyone even if they don't realize it. This video helped me understand myself a bit. Thank you.
I remember when I was in school my teachers would always. Always. Make the same two comments. First, was that I needed to talk more and participate more in class. And second was that they were happy to see how I was always “sure” of myself and how I was individualistic. I remember always being so confused because I didn’t feel sure of myself, I was always so insecure about everything I did. But looking back, I never did bend to anything that was on trend. I would go to school all dressed up with a nice dress and jewellery, then the next day I’d show up wearing scene clothes and so on. I was insecure but at he same time no matter what anyone said, I wasn’t going to change. And I feel like that’s the entire INTP personality haha
Silent waters are deep. INFPs arent great speakers. I often Plan conversations hours before they Happen but when its time to talk to one another , all of my words are simply just gone. Since I didn't really had good grades, people always misunderstood me as dumb, naive and childish. It hurts me everytime I think of it, because I know that im so much more than the awkward quite girl, who is always struggeling to find Words. I have always been a writer and i think INFPs are simply meant to be ones. We have such strong feelings and such a deep outlook on life. Its easyer to express our feelings trough writing them down, because we have time to collect our thoughts and be brutaly honest to ourselves. In my last year school, i decided that i was tired of always being misunderstood. So i started to have a blog in which i wrote tiny diary entries everyday ,about different topics. As an overthinker and daydreamer you always have alot to say. I told as many people as possible about it and my Blog kind of went trough the roof. I inspired many people and helped them out of their darkest times. Im proud to be an INFP, even tho it always feels like im alone in this World. Sorry for my english ,its not my native language
As an INFP, I have to say the nicest compliment anyone has ever given me was that I am the most authentic person they know. Being true to myself and being a "what you see is what you get" kind of person is very important to me.
The empathizing part about not feeling bad for someone because I wouldn’t feel bad in their place is so true.... 😮 and I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling bad for some and not others...
Your video feels like a nice conversation between two bros. I am an infp and i know im late for i'd like to recommand you my favorite musician and the savior of my life, AURORA.
This is so damn lovely! I’m an INFP and my sister is an INFJ. We were raised by our single mom who I am still attempting to accurately type, but she’s most definitely a thinker and although I am deeply grateful that she gave my sister and I the freedom to express ourselves and never tried to change us, we both have always felt a disconnect from her in that we feel so deeply, seek to understand how people work and (more so in my sister’s case) help them, and hold a lot of value in spirituality and abstract thought. I feel very blessed that I have and am close to my sister, because I think without her I might’ve repressed these things that make me truly who I am.
One thing about being infp: our personality is rare, so we often feel like an outsider within our own home or family. When in our own element, or very calm, it brings out the best in us.
This was definitely relatable to me (I’m an INFP). I laughed when you were talking about authenticity. That was too funny but true. I really tend to not care what people think about the way I dress (and I dress pretty tacky) or interests I have for example. I’ve definitely been bullied for things like that but it never stopped me from being myself in front of people.
Pretty much spot on. Maybe have the sympathy/empathy definition flip flopped but how you described it was still right I feel like. 👍 INFJ with many close INFPs ❤
Thank you from an INFP who thought they were an INFJ. No matter how many tests I take, the end result is an INFP. Either way I love my fellow humans no matter what type they be
That’s not how I felt reading about being an INFP I am a bit of an ambivert so I’m a mix or E and I but more heavily I I want to use myself to inspire people to Pursue what makes them happy and not let their past stop them We have a great gift if you can master it ☺️
Because INFJs and INFPs have no conscious functions in common, it is really useful (as an INFJ, like you) to identify precisely how an INFP is different from my own way of viewing the world. You did a masterful job of delineating the differences between these two types based on their functional distinctions and the way that this translates to various real-world trait variations between these two introverted NF types. Really well done!
It’s so freeing to be different. To find out all of the people I looked up to and were naturally drawn to, heath ledger, franz kafka, princess diana, shakespeare, johnny depp, john lennon!!! It makes me feel like I can be true to myself knowing some of the most influential and most compassionate and ‘different’ people I loved were fellow infps :’)
A lot of people have said everything, but I will say just one thing. I hadn't seen the difference between empathy and sympathy, so thanks for noticing that. When I saw that image in the video, I paused for a second and I suffered some kind of "Epifanía". I don't know how to say that in english. The fact that empathy doesn't include sympathy, hm. I can feel the same as other person, and don't express it out loud. And other person can express sympathy for other's situation but still don't get the real feeling. Thanks for the video, you got me thinking.
I'd say you're right about the understanding your own emotions part, but only after some practice. (and maybe that's something all types can accomplish with some practice, idk) I used to be a mess emotionally too, I didn't understand them either, as an INFP. But for my anxiety problems and depression I spent a while in a psychiatric hospital and there I got confronted with myself and that's how I learned. But I admit, my therapist did say that I was good at it. Very nice video. It was really uplifting ^^ As well as spot on. I can't speak for everyone of course, but I tend to see and describe my own traits in a rather negative way, except perhaps the authenticity part but even then authenticity can make you vulnerable too. But anyway, the way you described everything was in such a positive light, it was nice to hear : ) thank you
Sorry, I misunderstood the video at first. I thought you were assigning Ti to us INFPs, but you were talking about yourself as an INTP. You guys ARE smart as hell. Great video!
I'm an INFJ so I use Ti as my tertiary function, but yeah, I was just using myself as a reference point. Don't worry about getting confused. Seems you weren't the only one who thought I was saying INFPs use Ti. I don't think I made it clear enough in the video that I was using my own functions as a reference point.
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Bro. You shouldn't put yourself down like that. Conversations are hard. Putting yourself out there is intense.
But i mean if you're brave enough to post videos on youtube, i'm sure you got this.^_^
@@TheBloodypimp I am not putting myself down, I am relatively happy but this world gets me down. Thanks for the words of encouragement.
@@marcoantonio078 i was talking about what mathieu said at the end of the video. However....
Is you wanna talk we can for sure do that.
It get the feeling by the way. I don't get how people can change the "rules of engagement" as they seem fit then talk about justice and fairness....
Stay strong my man.
Hey, I think you're amazing. Just reading your replies to the comments I can tell that you're a very kind person, personality types aside. I hope that you have a good week, because you're the kind of person who should have one.
what's sucks to be an infp for me are altruistic, emotional bias for everything, anxious, overthinking and way too idealistic (or maybe it's all just me)
Ansa Hansson exactly the same for me 😅
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Yes. I can hardly watch a tv show or movie without screaming at a character for being an asshole to someone. Or hugging the other character whose just been hurt...in my head of course:)
Same and omg you also like Eurovision!
Nah man, same here
Infp here. I'm the same.. it makes great writing material
I’m an infp and I stumble over my words in conversations. I think it’s because I’m insecure/uncomfortable in most settings, but if I have a point I will get it across one way or another
Same here!
Yeah same. If I have something to say then it's usually some sort of vague idea that I sometimes struggle to put into words. But then it comes out all jumbled and confusing so some people don't understand what I'm saying. It's especially hard when I'm asked deep questions or ones I have to really think about it so it takes even more of an effort to think about what I'm saying as well as explaining it normally in a way the other person can actually understand.
Same here. The trick I have learnt is that you speak when you feel confident. When you are not in that space you listen.
I am struggling with this as well... it's sometimes hard to convey my thought process into something other people can understand and follow, it's especially visible and hard when I speak with thinking types... when I was younger I didn't care about it that much but it was also due to the people I was surrounded with but now it's an every day struggle... my partner is an INTP and oh boy when I have to explain some new idea or we discuss some deeper topic like conspiracy theory or something I have to focus and really get my thoughts organised before I open my mouth... if I don't do this it's mambo jumbo jumping from one topic to another as my brain see connections but in most of the cases this is to abstract to the person I speak with... I honestly think that for us INFP's life is a constant struggle... xD
@@klaudiamorawska4398 Can definitely relate to this… it’s not necessarily that I don’t know the information or can’t think of something to say, it’s about moulding the seemingly infinite number of ideas relating to the discussion that are buzzing around my head into a clear and concise point while not taking so long that people lose interest.
We value perfection more than most other types and so that confuses things further.
I also find myself thinking of wacky and weird ideas and jokes while in conversation which makes me chuckle and convinces those I’m talking to that I’m a real-life Joker - especially when I can’t explain what I was just laughing at without derailing the whole initial conversation.
There are a million things I think to mention in every conversation; 70% of them I don’t ever say, 20% I attempt to explain but end up taking too long/get lost in tangents/lose the attention of my audience. The rest is ok though.
But writing comments on the internet? I think we get our points across pretty well… ;)
INFP male here : ) Feel like an alien in this world.
bladerunner8832 I really like infp men and i m an infp woman
lunophile
**receives a million proposals**
Same bro
@@lunophile399 i'm an infp male looking for other male people xd
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as an infp i keep have an eerie feeling that i’m going to die young... can’t say if i’m intrigued or scared
I got that feeling all the time. That is why I always cautious about my surrounding..
Lol you should pray to Christ about that...
Me too, but i'm scared
Yo me too 💀💀
so do I! I just don’t see myself living long and past my 20/30s
„They very easily understand their own emotions"
me, an INFP: *laughs in confusion*
HAHAHHJAA SAME :"))
Well I can feel my emotions, but I cannot describe or understand it. Its as if trying to explain the flavor/texture thats in the grey area between all common emotions. Took me till I was an adult to build the intuition to begin to understand what I felt.
"Oh, I'm like an INTP but less smart!" hit home
Hedgehog Fan14 But what if you compare an INTP to an ENFP standard deviation or two hire IQ how will look smartest?🤔
I do not feel this way with, around/about intp's. In fact opposites
Ouch.
that's just hard. i think i am smart so i thought i would fall into intp, but i tested myself a LOT of times, and i got more infp than intp.
@@mjade1673 you must be an intj lmao
Your whole analysis on INFPs really hit close to home.
But, me personally, I really suck at trying to convey anything verbally with ease; especially when I'm being asked head-on. Maybe it's an anxiety thing, but I find myself having my thoughts more organized and condensed in a firmer box when I write or have days of preparing what I want to express.
You're not the only person who had this complaint, so it's possible I was just inaccurate about this. I'm no expert on this, and there's a lot of things about MBTI that I still don't understand, so it's possible this is just a mistake on my part. But at the same time, people are still individuals despite their types. I know there are a few things - not many - that tend to be a trend with INFJs yet I can't relate to them. So it's hard to say whether my statement on this is right or wrong.
"I find myself having my thoughts more organized and condensed in a firmer box when I write or have days of preparing what I want to express."
Maybe it is just an anxiety thing, because that's how I am most the time too.
Yeah i wonder about this too. I have this problem. And idk if its me, experience in life, or lack thereof, or anxiety, or infp thing? Or maybe its in my birthchart 😄. Or maybe its adhd/anxiety. Or maybe its some other processing disorder, or a touch of one. (My mom is NVLD, and Dad adhd/Tourette's. And two of my half siblings have dyslexia. Which i have it with directions only.) I also wonder if its my strong N and people just don't understand me? I try to adjust and i cant accomplish that because N is the base of all my thoughts. That theory gets steam when every ENFJ i talk to understands me. 😄
I am the same, however for me its because i never feel like i know enough about the subject to adequately get my point across. I am an engineer and have been for many years. I feel unstoppable in this field. I am shit hot at it, yet when put on the spot and asked "what or why i am doing, i can freeze. Its horrible. Sometimes i don't know why i do certain things i just know they do or will work, so often don't have an answer.
The part about conveying anything verbally with ease totally depends what it’s about in my case. I’m also an INFP ofc and I can easily give advice, comfort and help people... but when it comes to conveying my own emotions, thoughts and ideas my words get stuck. I feel like nobody would understand me anyways and so I really am not capable of conveying my own personal feelings with ease. So long I don’t have to talk about my own emotions etc. I can indeed verbally convey stuff fairly easy
Same. Only can do it in writing. People don't understand why I don't go and speak to them (or call), instead write emails.
For me, an INFP myself, I find it hard to express my thoughts and opinions verbally mostly because I try at all cost to avoid conflict. Since most of the people I interact with are outwardly opinionated, expressing my thoughts turn into large debates which I would rather forgo. I'm still opinionated, but I'll only talk of my passion or morals since they are super strong. On less strong subjects I might second guess myself and feel my thoughts and feeling are rather stupid and others would think so too, so I choose not to share most times.
Same thing here. I think I can express my opinions well verbally (as opposed definitely to in writing) but because I don’t want to debate or upset anything, I usually find it hard to express it
Same here 😭
But once an INFP decides to participate in the debate (when their limit of tolerance reaches it's critical point)... it's all over for everyone!!
I felt that LOL. I find it easy to interpret my feelings and I’m well in writing them, but speech is disappointing sometimes cause it can feel restricting to the swells of emotions really going through my head lol. And yea, I tend to limit myself when communicating cause I never wanna seem too harsh or biased cause I’m very open to new ideas and understanding them.
@@avipsa3552 haha true (I like ur pfp and name )💜
My son is an infp, and he is so smart and so funny. My life would not be the same without him as a friend.
That is sweet Susanna, thank you.
You're definitely an INFJ. It's rare to see any of my fellow INFP's making a video about how great we are (cuz we're not, but thanks).
You are great, so you're wrong.
Usually INFJs are the ones who see greatness within us. That's why they both usually complement each other.
Jason Dragon That’s so true. I’m INFP and my brother is INFJ and we have the best relationship of all the siblings. We get each other and encourage each other. He gets me at a deeper level than others do and vice versa.
@@anabel1208 ohmygooooooooshhhh. My brother is INFJ as well.
@@anabel1208 my older sis is an INFJ and its the same with us as well
As an INFP I find myself wanting to dress and express how I want but social insecurities get in the way and I struggle with it a lot
Me 2
I actually think that INFPs are the least likely type to dress to stand out - I dont think we particualrly want attention and often being goth (as an example) or whatever is just too try hard to be actually authentic
SAMEEEEE
@@atomiccritter6492 I disagree, being an infp myself
I create characters...and journal
As an INFP I was miserable, lost and had no personality until my 30s when I finally met myself. I was the black sheep and scapegoat in my family. Now that I found myself it all makes sense. I am a brilliant writer apparently. In my first year college English class, I got a 120% on every paper I wrote. I skipped my final and still had an A+ for that semester as a final grade. My professor called me a quiet treasure.
I'm nuts though bc of my ability to make insanely quick connections between multiple topics. When I talk about the 20 connections that just clicked in my head, people just stare and get confused. It is very frustrating. I need to be a writer!
Oh and I am so obsessed with the Grateful Dead. Their music is the only thing in earth that stimulates me and gives me joy...and everyone thinks they suck. It is a lonely life as an INFP. I want someone to have meaningful conversations with. I can't find anyone to click with. I'm starting to think I never will. 😔
Being an INFP can be difficult as is, but don't hate the unique aspects that it brings. Also having a relationship with God is the best thing that happened in my life. And people may not get you, but the Lord does and loves you a lot. Hang on and continue writing.
Im an INFP and im happy. I dont like how everyone says that INFPs arent happy and that we are all depressed and anxious (which I was for a loooooong time). But now that I am genuinely happy i really dont like when people say that INFP = unhappy :(
Me too
hmm.. i’m an infp and i was relating to everything he said until the authenticity part. maybe it’s because i’m young and still very insecure, but i don’t feel like showing my inner self. i desperately want to talk about the bands i like with my friends and sometimes even want to wear all black and cut my hair because i would simply just like that, but i think my introvertedness just takes over this person i want to show to the world. ugh.
Actually what you describe is extremely common for INFP. Our authenticity is quite often held internally while we display very little publicly. Its important to be true to ourselves but we could care less if anyone else knows this or not. Its why the other types struggle with understanding us, they can't tell whats going on in our head.
Don’t worry! All in good time :)
I'm like you before but now I just started giving zero fucks and maaaan it feels so much better
This is definitely me. I try to keep myself quiet by saying that no one cares or that it's a stupid idea to tell them. But sometimes the energy is too strong to keep at bay and then it just becomes a massive wall of text to a friend who only responds to the last thought that was mentioned.
Or nothing at all. That annoys me. Especially when they say, "I'll check it out later," and they never get back to you. But yeah, I guess I look at past experiences now and decide to keep myself quiet.
Some days I find myself saying, "And this is why I don't talk very much...." because they've just found another "weapon" to use against me.
I'm deeply sorry for the negativity within these words. None of this really flows the way I want it to. But I'm tired. I needed to transfer this from my mind into reality somehow, otherwise I'd be kept awake with everything swirling around in my head. I'm off to bed now. Again, I'm sorry. Please don't destroy me in the comments. Perhaps my mind can conjure up a dream tonight that doesn't turn into a nightmare. Goodnight.😴
We are simply gaurded is all. And yes you will grow into and then out of this. (Im 40 now). But don't fret over it now. No good reason. That's a lot of negative emotion to give yourself...
Descriptions of INFPs in a lot of sites are bullcrap which kind of frustrates me a lot of the time. Glad to know a video which doesn't undermine an INFP's abilities :)
I’ve simply given up on the hope I can easily find a decent infp description. It’s rare to find a good one where I just think yup, that’s it!
YUP! We’re sensitive, teddy bears, soft, etc. I can be a jerk and every infp is secretly a jerk. We’re not naive, we just ignore realism because we’re smart enough to know how it will affect us.
Arielle Fenix I think that’s just how you are. Because as an infp, I’m not afraid to admit I do love recognition and praise for what I do. I think it just differs what kind of person you are, I mean personality is basically a spectrum. I just don’t like the “stereotype” of infps being these super kind people because we can be assholes sometimes, including me. Another trait of an infp is being genuine and I like to be genuine about the fact that I’m an asshole.
@@sarahl.5748 i always feel like such a meanie all the time
It was made by an INFJ after all
As an INFP, i'm an eccentric rebel... Ambivert really, but usually tend more to introverted. infp's usually have a tough time with how society is run usually because of our survival mode, if society were to detach itself from this, and function from a place that's.. Well you know, something that more in harmony and authentic... We are truly unstoppable and world movers.
ACCURACY +1000
this
Okay, wut?
That was literally the best description of empathy, not to mention how you tangibly spoke what everyone thinks when they read the INFP description.(a worse form of multiple types)
But the empathy. I now know how to explain my empathy to myself, if that makes sense?
That does make sense. Thank you for the compliment, and I'm glad the video helped you in any way at all. It's good to hear.
I feel totally the same! Sometimes I thought that my emphaty was broken (because I didn't feel sad for someone), but now I see that it might not have been the case!
But, well, I think I managed to learn a little how to block it, because sometimes it is energy - draining, to care so much.
Meh I couldn't care less If I'm less smarter than INTP or less special than INFJ. At least I'm not a hipster.
Sol Usman
Feel you. I'm torn between the admiration of the impressive musical creativity they can display and the general conviction that all hipsters must die.
Sol Usman Fuck yeah! Suck it unoriginal conformist hipters! #ValidationJunkies 😏
Ezekiel Watters Chill bro! As those religious nuts sprouting about "Hate the sin and not the sinner"... #TheirBullshitMustDie 😡
Stephen dela Cruz Oh alright... I'll flip the chill switch. Its been awhile though, hope I can still find it!
Just because INTPs are smarter on average doesn't mean you aren't smarter than the average INTP.👽
I'm an infp, thank you so much. Your insight is accurately relevant. You hit the nail on the head, and you have a great sense of humour about this. I have been bullied a lot, recently from an enfp who followed me to Asia. She got made because she didn't understand I needed my time alone. She wanted me to treat her like a princess and constantly kiss her ass, she wasn't loyal though. When she realized she couldn't change me, she turned my entire class against me. I held my head high, sat beside her in class and ended up coming out on top. I didn't complain, I didn't let her phase me.... on the out side... inward thinker. In the end before the month long class was over people were annoyed with hearing her wine all the time. They realized I wasn't any of those things she was saying.
"followed me to Asia."
Well that is an interesting start to any story. But I'm glad that all worked out for you in the end. Some people are dicks. But these things happen.
And I'm really glad you enjoyed the video. I tried to be as accurate as possible. As for my sense of humour, I usually think if I make myself laugh, it's a bad sign. But I'm certainly glad you liked it. Thank you for the compliments.
Reading this gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.
lmao
I actually somewhat agree with you on INFP relating to INFJ’s.. although I’m an INFP, SEVERAL of my personality traits also align with INFJ’s. Im glad someone noticed that happens to INFP’s
Same
Im proud INFP, that loves philosophy, literature and want to be writer itself... :)
I feel honoured that you would make a video about this. I truly love iNFJs :)
Hey, thanks for the comment.
By the way, checked your channel. It's always cool seeing other vegans on CZcams.
Content 100%, humor 100%. People made fun of my music taste and called it elevator music but music evokes so many emotions in me that i cannot describe! Love to you!
Thank you. I got fired from my job today and really needed to hear this. -💗 an INFP
Sorry about your job. But glad the video helped you out.
Rebecca Nicole Vega you don’t need a job that you’re ok at doing, because as an infp you’ll be doomed to be mediocre at it, unless you really care about it
I was also fired like 6 years ago. But girl, this will make you better. Rise from the fall and you'll be bigger :) do not give up! Let us not give up
That’s so cute you just made a whole video praising another type so thank you was a good self esteem boost haha! ❤️❤️
I took a 600 question test of the meyers test with a shrink..literally. And all he told me was, "people don't get you." lol
I can’t communicate well verbally at all unless I’m reading a script and am unaware of other people listening. I will write an entire script in my head that sounds like a university essay and then when I start speaking, it’s like someone scrambled the words or even just hit delete and my words stumble out of my mouth like a jumbled mess and I end up talking about a million unrelated things until the original point is forgotten. Then I spend my time afterwords trying to come up with alternate takes of the same scenario trying to figure out what went wrong.
It’s like I’m constantly analyzing my interactions and picking out every mistake, every possible flaw and coming up with scenarios in my head where those flaws don’t exist to see if the conversation could’ve gone differently, not that it matters because there’s no going back to redo it.
The only thing I couldn't relate to in this video was the bit about being able to articulate our ideas well in verbal communication. That has never been easy for me. I, like you, have to write all my thoughts down, organize, and edit to express what I feel in its entirety. But when I try and talk on the fly I fuck up.
You know, I got another comment about 19 hours ago that said the same thing. That's interesting to me because, logically, Ne and Te combined should make it really easy to express your opinions in a poignant, detailed way, but obviously I'm not negating your experiences. People are just different. Nobody's gonna fit one of these sixteen boxes perfectly, but I do wonder if my thoughts on the INFP's ability to articulate in person are not as accurate as I thought.
@@CrispMasterCrunch I think it's our Intuitiveness.
We already have the general idea and structure in our minds, but we don't know the step by step process. Idk
as an infp, i have never felt that other personality types are much better than infp. in contrast, i have allways loved to be an infp because of creativity, understanding and all the other things it gives. and i think there is nothing to do with intps smarter than infps just because they "think" while we "feel" (no im not saying this because my iq is 145) its about personality after all. but i think that we allways struggle to live, at least i struggle. when i read about infps i just thought that "oh, thats why i am this much depressive, pessimistic and open to bad things happening in my life, because of these i just cant be happy like others.." i know that it can be better if i were happier but there is something about being an infp that, being understood by this world is really hard. well i dont even understand myself though.. but as i said, i dont see this as a disadvantage. i think this is what make infps unique.
and sorry for my poor english
I'm glad you didn't feel disappointed when you read your personality type, because ideally people would see the advantages in their types and realize what they can contribute. And I had a very similar situation when I read my MBTI type - it just answered so many questions about myself in comparison to others that I would have never come around to realizing otherwise.
The poor English was not a problem at all. I hope the extremely late reply was not a problem for you.
I like the honest approach. I watch a lot of these videos and they seem biased even to the point of pretentiousness. Your truthfulness goes a long way and validates your authenticity.
Authenticity is huge for me, so I appreciate your comment like crazy. Thank you.
For all INFPs out there:
You are a beautiful infinite soul.
Even when you don't like to go out, don't have friends, don't feel understood by others, even family and friends. Even you procrastinating, don't have job and ambitions to do something.
The world needs you.
You are an unbelievable true soul, without you the whole world would be a place with soulless unempathic dicks.
We need your intuitional and idealistic leadership to our own inner and outer freedom to make the right decision for the better of all of us.
I love you and truly believe in you.
I- omygosh woah thaankyouuu
not sure if I somehow managed to only look at all the rare sites with good descriptions of INFPs, but during that long-ish self discovery phase of my life I rarely found myself disagreeing or disliking the descriptions I found for INFPs or thinking they were negative. some would suggest INFPs are totally emotional an irrational, but not often did I find a negative other than that. I tend to think I'm more intellectual than emotional, though idealism can probably skew my view of reality now and then. and I spos I started off vary feelings based and hardly thought focused at all, and made a conscious shift from one to the other early on.
Oh great now I have a weird crush on a voice narrating a video 🙄😂❤️
While an old video, I will still say thanks for the kind words.
Interesting love the way you view the INFP and yes am a true INFP, I do appreciate your outlook on the INFP.
Our vividly colorful ways of always being our true selfs in a world that is destined to be hopelessly grey at times! 🙏🏼💫
Hey Melinda! Yeah I just wish that we INFP’s were given more of a red carpet roll out for our colorful vivid minds and what they can create for this grayish world. Instead, we seem to not get much support / encouragement to bring that stuff out because it’s just hard to describe sometimes to others and what we clearly see ourselves up there in our heads.
So with that, I feel we just have to take those initial leaps ourselves (which can have a high vulnerability aspect we tend to stray from) in order to colorize this place with our awesome creativity!!
Sean
[INFP] thank you for your words! its really been uplifting to hear, from an INFJ's perspective, what there is to admire about us
Personally I loved reading the INFP profile, maybe because it was so relatable and explained heaps about me. I guess I wasn't looking to build myself up, just know the truth. So it's very kind of you to talk about some admirable qualities of INFPs, especially because it's real hard to live in the TJ world.
Glad I'm not the only one who struggles to verbally communicate with a stranger. I think so fast, a pile of gibberish comes out of my mouth.
I’m an INFP and oh my god I feel so much better about myself. Nobody ever really notices these things so thank you so muchhh!
Hey just because INFPs have more writers doesn't mean that you can't be a great writer as well, you shouldn't let that discourage you! You can use it to fuel you instead-why not be an amazing INFJ writer? :) Also, that intro was hilarious! 😂
That empathy vs sympathy got me gd as an INFP. Before discovering MBTI personality types, I wondered why I was very particular abt expressing to someone the word sympathise with vs empathise with when reaching out on a touchy issue. And then I realise i truly wanted to be authentic & come from a sincere place abt the person’s situation without undermining their feelings & throwing them a pity party or making them feel like they’re wallowing in self-pity in any way- it’s like making an effort towards compassionate understanding without the other party feeling belittled especially since INFPs already know they’re awkward to begin with so I don’t want to be misunderstood. =p
That certainly makes a lot of sense, and that's definitely an interesting take on it. But I do feel like sympathy kind of gets a bad rap in a lot of ways. I can only speak for myself, but I know I've met a ton of people who have gone through painful situations that I will never experience, whether it's from personal decisions or not. But even though I sympathize with those people, I certainly don't think I look down on them. I see so many mistakes I make from day to day that I find it hard to just disassociate myself from somebody based on their life choices. But it still comes from an honest place, and isn't synonymous with belittling.
I think empathy and sympathy both taken to their extremes are disastrous. A person who can empathize but can't sympathize will see a lot of people who are at least trying to do good and leave them to rot or, worse yet, make them the enemy rather than trying to work with them. But a person who sympathizes with everyone will give too many chances to people who will just fuck them over, as well as making excuses for the decisions those people make. I'm way closer to the latter, but somewhere in the middle of those two extremes is where I want to be.
Mathieu Person sure it isn’t synonymous with belittling :) Even I confuse between the 2. I suppose it’s a need to be closer to the truth or heart of the matter & afraid of misconstrue. Both are good - sympathy & empathy. Sympathy is perhaps maybe when I don’t go through what the person did so I don’t know how it is to be in the person’s shoes (still authentic... honestly it’s all abt intention too & I Guess as an infp I do feel it out that ppl do their best) & empathy which is maybe just maybe being able to absorb or feel out partially what the person’s pain is. BUT I also realise something scary as an INFP because of this.. damnit.. since I’ve met other INFPs & I’ve noticed.. when we care, we can truly care & when we don’t care, we truly freaking don’t (it could also be on occasions where something is complete opposite of an INFP’s aligned values that INFP goes cold? Or lack of similar values/interests). That’s scary too since there are stuff beyond our understanding or feelings that we can’t encompass which still requires sensitivity.. INFPs can go from feelers to complete aloofness too. I’m not all proud of this all the time even though being a rebel at heart can be cool once in a while as I’ve been on the receiving end of hurt by other INFP & I myself have hurt others before with this regard (when I just can’t feel for the person anymore & it should be left open-ended). I prefer to figure out my personality type weaknesses...
This makes me smile. You talk like my infj friend. I am an infp. 🐣
That was just beautiful, thank you so much bro! - an INFP
I am an INFP and yes, all of these are accurate. Especially authenticity to me. I was always labeled as a geek, nerd and weird because of my outfits, my hobbies (diehard anime fan and Gunpla collector) and my speech. I really couldn't blend in but it was okay. I used my weirdness as my own people repellent.
Thank you for this video! You let us, INFPs, shine 😊
Thank you for making this video. I'm an INFP and because of u... I think I'm gonna keep doing my shit+believe in shitty stuff again. The world hasn't been very nice lately.. thanks to u. I think I shouldn't give up
I took the test twice within the hour and I got both INFP and INFJ
I'm really glad to see you spot INFP traits that are usually missed by a lot of the other types. In my experience most videos about INFP's focus heavily on the stereotypes that abound about the type - lazy, dreamer, unfocused and so on. It's amazing just how wrong these stereotypes are, and it is because most healthy INFP's are not included in the equation. Healthy INFP's are often mistaken with other types since they exhibit so few of the stereotypical INFP behavior, and tend to hide their thoughts (thus causing the 'mysterious' description). That is in fact why the stereotype exists to begin with, the healthy INFP's are mistaken as another type while the unhealthy ones end up representing it.
Healthy INFP's have no need to express themselves to others or seek validation because we get that from ourselves. We are intensely aware of the emotions of others, which lets us determine what they are going to do and therefore what we need to do. That is why you so rarely hear about positive INFP traits beyond "they are so moral", we do not put those traits on display for others to analyze, catalog and recognize. So, in a way (from a recognition standpoint), we are victims of our own indifference to the opinions of others.
Even our morality trait is fundamentally misunderstood. So often we are described as taking a position just because we "feel" that way, even when we cannot give a rationalized reason behind it, and this is often derided as illogical and therefore foolish. This is wrong, so wrong. It's actually hyper-logical, though often unconscious. This makes sense when you look at our cognitive stack. Our Fi hero means we base our decisions on how we feel. We get our information from our Ne parent (which functions differently for us than for other Ne users since it is focused on emotional input due to the interaction with Fi hero). The real key here however is the influence of our Si child. Si (long-term memory) child (where you go for comfort) subtly informs both the Hero and the Parent. It answers the questions "what is this feeling", "why is this being felt" and "what results from this". We start doing this emotional analysis from infancy and by adulthood is highly accurate. Ever looked at a math question and just known the answer without having to do the work? This is how feelings work for INFP. This is why INFP has a highly developed sense of right and wrong, we've spent our entire lives unconsciously analyzing and cataloging the emotions and decisions of others and seeing what works, what does not, what helps and what hurts. We have an internal data set that is unparalleled and we access it unconsciously. We may not be able to tell you why when we say something is right or wrong, but I can promise you that it is probably correct.
Sorry for rambling on so long, and I apologize if I come off as lecturing, I'm just passionate about this subject, lol.
woah! can I talk to you about stuff? you seem to have it all put together and I'm always so confused. Even though it doesn't affect my life in a big bad way, not knowing if I'm an unhealthy intp thinking I'm a healthy infp or whatever seems to get on my nerves. If you're so healthy that you say you are could you determine which type I am?
purplemind93 lol, some days are healthier than others. I think the trick there is to learn to recognize your shadow functions and when you're in them. What did the test say you are?
Omegawhite well I don’t know why but I can relate to both Ti/Fe and Fi/Te and with that comes different shadow functions. When I’m stressed I usually shut myself down become like apathetic but when I was younger and less developed I would get these tantrums and throw and yell stuff (Fe right). At the same time I’m pretty disorganized and bad at following things through so there is that Te aspect. I’ve tested as infp, intp and entp I think. And once infj but that doesn’t feel right.
I normally avoid posting links on others videos, but I think this will help you out. This guy can be abrasive but he is very informative and I have learned quite a bit from his videos.
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Omegawhite uhm yeah he was pretty critical and no sugar coating whatsoever. But a few videos I found helpful and interesting so thanks!
that authenticity part hit me in the face. ever since i started high school, i wasn't necessarily afraid to reference some tokusatsu (and more recently love live) when i speak. some of my batchmates may find it wierd but i feel comfortable sharing at least that layer of myself since in the end, infps are generally reserved as well and would prefer to keep the personal stuff to important people (or even just themselves when uncomfortable)
you have no idea how good you made me feel about myself THANK YOU!
He just sounds so cuteeee
No matter which way you look there is clearly awesomeness in us 🙏💙
the thing about infp and that i think our most strongest part ,is simply we are who we are, we got absloutly no masks or veils, we say what we feel and we absloutly dont care what other may think, since we follow our hearts and we belive it, we will never do anything against our morale code, becuase to do it its hurt us from the inside, and since we love to live in peace with ourself we always follow our heart,a developed infp can be emphatic, but put a line between our own feelings and others, knowing that pepoles caused their own suffering in their mistakes and if they had their chanceses ,knowing that allow us not to be controlled by energy vampires or manipulators.
We do value the truth A LOT...not only love ,they don't contratict each other at all... but thank you for the video!! You are awesome sir!! Thanks!!
May I add I’ve always admired INFJs intelligence.. there’s just something quietly formidable abt their intellect.. I’ve only met 1 known INFJ personality in my life.. and the depth of her critical thinking & organised thoughts that I know she has plus other INFJ youtubers. It kinda intimidates me sometimes. And if they have a dark side, INFJs can scare the lights out of u? But that’s just my own personal experience witnessing her interactions. INFPs thinking is alot more imaginative, organised chaos- organised values & messy thoughts scattered all over going in different directions?, Creative weirdos.. of that sort lol.. Sorry I’ve gotten mad before & witness other INFPs get mad- we hurt so deep yet come off weak & messy, even when we’re letting out the rage or grudge (mostly deep seated hurt of being bullied, used, misunderstood, disrespected countless times) & then going through guilt for the anger hashing out (even if there was satisfaction felt for a while) . I’ve also heard of the INFJ don’t mess with me anger & they .. please don’t hate me for saying this.. do reach a breaking point, they gut u & execute their revenge; no regrets.. and I can tell right away it’s there right inside.. I dunno why but that must be another major difference between the NFs.. tenderness & feelings of helplessness flow differently.. INFPs feel helpless easily.. Back an INFJ or INFP into a corner, the INFJ will tear u up while the INFP will die trying to defend themselves with valour & courage, or lose themselves in aimless messy angst/hurt or use tactful diplomacy.. Let’s just say u guys know how to assert your dark side while INFP seems like the weakest bunch unless they’re fighting for a cause, they easily get drained & destabilised by anger/batshit than INFJs who knows how to own anger & assert themselves through it...
"INFPs thinking is alot more imaginative, organised chaos- organised values & messy thoughts scattered all over going in different directions?, Creative weirdos"
This is true about Ne users in general. My two best friends where I'm currently living are, I think, an INTP and an INFP respectively. And most of their friends who I've met are also Ne users. On one hand, I admire all of them, because they can all shift conversation effortlessly and they can have detailed, balanced conversations on a wide variety of subjects. I often think I'm the dumbest person at the table because, among other reasons, I just can't keep up with that pace, or change topics as flawlessly or even speak with that level of wit.
But I will say, when I finally do talk, it tends to be a pretty focused, nuanced response about the topic. One that's rarely argued with.
As far as "gutting" people goes, I'd like to say I'm a lot better at it than I actually am. I know I try to actively be on everyone's good side, but I've yelled at management or whatever at my job place if I felt like I was being fucked over, or if I felt like something was unjust. And while it does happen very, very rarely, I know I'll do it again. But what makes me a hell of a lot more hostile is when I see someone else getting mistreated. When that shit happens, I have no patience for it.
Mathieu Person I couldn’t agree more with the seeing someone getting mistreated riles NFs up- it applies so much to ENFP INFP INFJ ENFJ coz I’ve also seen ENFP go for the kill when someone they perceived as the underdog gets so much as slightly maligned- I realize there & then personalities far more sensitive than INFs & outspoken to boot. I’ll hand it to NFJs they get more things done better than infps haha & probably the most authoritative of all the Introverted types.
I fucking love ENFPs, and you're right, they will go right in for the kill if they feel like someone else has been wronged. It's cool as Hell.
I don't think being bullied is a side effect of being an infp, that's a big generalization, but coinsidently I've been called Ugly Betty because of braces and glasses and been teased at for having a blog during a time when having a blog was stilled considered lame and geeky. It may not sound that much but words have a big big impact on me. And I was an easy target being the new girl in the class. I don't know if I stood out as an infp as I wasn't nearly full grown and aware of myself yet but perhaps it's easier for an esfx and estx to avoid bullying somehow. What do you guys think?
Also, I may be thinking that I'm infp just because I'm quite emotional due to my past, but really I could be an xntp as well cause I relate to Ti and Fe qualities. I'm a bit flexible being a vegetarian, because I want to try stuff like eating jellyfish and octopus once or eating fish when mom cooks cause I'm too lazy to cook for myself and it still smells good ;) So really I lable myself as a vegetarian in front of others cause it's easier than explaining why I eat fish sometimes. And that feels like something infps would not do. Even though I want people to save the planet by cutting meat out of their diets and so on, I myself started avoiding meat because I felt it was discusting to my taste, not a moral thing at first.
I actually think of the people who are INFJs are pretty cool and intelligent because that's my sister's personality.
No, it is not just you. We are a lot of people who feel the same as you.
Those pictures had me laughing my ass off at times haha. Shout-out to you for throwing RLM in there.... And I guess the rest of this video. (Infp)
Red Letter Media is the best channel on CZcams. I had to pay my dues.
Mathieu Person definitely.
Infp here.
We're awesome.
That's it.
Are you INFJ?? You're more chaotic than INFP! :D Truily I didn't understand much of it but that the message was positive so thanks for that ;)
This is a perfect example of why common ppl should not share their skewed opinions to the public. Leave it to the professionals. Write these thoughts in your feelings journal and keep it to yourself.
infp. Also I love how every time you even mention the possibility of you being wrong you put that quote “Doubt it. I’m fucking smart”😂
YOU’RE FUCKING COOL, MATH! Thanks for this! I feel the love man I appreciate it
Shoutout to you for acknowledging Ka. Definitely one of the greatest lyricist of the last decade, for sure.
Thia was the best thing I could hear about my type . I felt all those bullshits and my friends always tell me how shitty my type is and they are better with their enfp intp and infj types . 1 one my infp friends tried so hard to change in to an infj and she is so proud and whatever which makes me feel like my type is sickness is a weakness and I need to change ...
So thank you ..
I find it strange that INFPs, and introverted feeling types more generally are thought to be unintelligent. I think this comes from the idea/misconception that emotions are irrational. If you consider what emotions mean (for Fi at least) they represent values, and these values are usually well thought out opinions about what matters or what should be prioritized for that person. Yes, in the heat of the moment, the emotion comes before the argument/thought process, but isn't that just a matter of timing? Or even a matter of focus? People who are emotional and aware of those emotions aren't incapable of thinking logically at all, it's just that the experience of those emotions is in the forefront of our minds, whereas thinking dominant people might have the exact same experience but with more of a cognitive focus than an emotional one - even though there is no other difference.
Frankly, I think this comes from residual sexism which discredits women by dismissing them as 'emotional' and therefore irrational. I just don't believe you can truly separate logic and emotion, they aren't mutually exclusive. It seems to be the same kind of silly idea the ancient Greeks had about libido and cognitive ability. They thought only men with small penises (and therefore a low sex drive - also incorrect) could become intellectuals. This is the same backwards idea.
Koala 👏🏻
Wonderful Words.
Thank you Mathieu. That´s not just balm for INFP´s souls, but also a great and well researched video. INFJs are worth the same amount of appreciative words, since you are surely great types as well; especially since you so brillantly do realize moral obligations and are those who assert accountability to morality into the world in your unique socially graceful ways.
Don´t doubt your talents and abilities. Mistakes, failures and individuality happen, even on the most beautiful and neatly groomed paths, or even those where worse actually couldn´t get worse but f#*king does. Your abilities always protect and teach you in the long run. Yes, I am really talking about your personal abilities and traits that you can relie on. Trust them. You know you realize it most likely retrospectively, but when life doesn´t seem to follow your thoughtful plans and truest wishes, it eventually converges back to them sooner or later. I am tempted to say that you are the masters of karma. But that´s just a spontaneous Ni flash of mine. Do trust the life, your feelings, yourself and especially trust that your perspectives and intentions determine the outcome.
Look through Ne and Se and listen to your Ni. Therefore your Fi, Te and even Si will thank your for the satisfactions and wonders you and life together provide to yourself and the one´s you love. :)
great video, always interesting to see how INFJs perceive us INFPs as we are often best friends.
This is a great video, thanks for making it and stepping into INFP shoes. Agreed that there's a sense of INFPs being a worse version of another type!
The one area where I'd perhaps disagree with you is point 1 ie INFPs understanding their own emotions. In my own INFP experience most things are a complex shade of grey, rather than a clearcut like / dislike. In fact I'm quite jealous of other types who can make decisions quickly and coherently!
Im an INFP.
I wish I wasn't born but since I was I have to deal with it. I also can't make friends and end up disappointing everyone even if they don't realize it.
This video helped me understand myself a bit. Thank you.
I believe we are to enjoy all types! Thx for the well rounded education on INFP personality types." 😀
I remember when I was in school my teachers would always. Always. Make the same two comments. First, was that I needed to talk more and participate more in class. And second was that they were happy to see how I was always “sure” of myself and how I was individualistic. I remember always being so confused because I didn’t feel sure of myself, I was always so insecure about everything I did. But looking back, I never did bend to anything that was on trend. I would go to school all dressed up with a nice dress and jewellery, then the next day I’d show up wearing scene clothes and so on. I was insecure but at he same time no matter what anyone said, I wasn’t going to change. And I feel like that’s the entire INTP personality haha
The INFP personality thing was underwhelming I agree! It made me feel terrible about myself so thanks for this 😭😊
Ty, from an INFP
I exactly agree with you. We aren’t given enough credit .
I love the editing omg 😂😂😂😂
This was good, INFP here🙋🏽♀️ U know what ur talking about more than u think
We think we are nothing and we want to become everything . Everything that can value us . That’s why we fail all the time .
Silent waters are deep. INFPs arent great speakers. I often Plan conversations hours before they Happen but when its time to talk to one another , all of my words are simply just gone. Since I didn't really had good grades, people always misunderstood me as dumb, naive and childish. It hurts me everytime I think of it, because I know that im so much more than the awkward quite girl, who is always struggeling to find Words. I have always been a writer and i think INFPs are simply meant to be ones. We have such strong feelings and such a deep outlook on life. Its easyer to express our feelings trough writing them down, because we have time to collect our thoughts and be brutaly honest to ourselves. In my last year school, i decided that i was tired of always being misunderstood. So i started to have a blog in which i wrote tiny diary entries everyday ,about different topics. As an overthinker and daydreamer you always have alot to say. I told as many people as possible about it and my Blog kind of went trough the roof. I inspired many people and helped them out of their darkest times. Im proud to be an INFP, even tho it always feels like im alone in this World.
Sorry for my english ,its not my native language
As an INFP, I have to say the nicest compliment anyone has ever given me was that I am the most authentic person they know. Being true to myself and being a "what you see is what you get" kind of person is very important to me.
The empathizing part about not feeling bad for someone because I wouldn’t feel bad in their place is so true.... 😮 and I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling bad for some and not others...
I think mostly other types think that negatively of infps, I think I'm a great person!😤
You are a great person. Yeah u guys can jump to conclusions as heck but y'all r great.
Your video feels like a nice conversation between two bros. I am an infp and i know im late for i'd like to recommand you my favorite musician and the savior of my life, AURORA.
This is so damn lovely! I’m an INFP and my sister is an INFJ. We were raised by our single mom who I am still attempting to accurately type, but she’s most definitely a thinker and although I am deeply grateful that she gave my sister and I the freedom to express ourselves and never tried to change us, we both have always felt a disconnect from her in that we feel so deeply, seek to understand how people work and (more so in my sister’s case) help them, and hold a lot of value in spirituality and abstract thought.
I feel very blessed that I have and am close to my sister, because I think without her I might’ve repressed these things that make me truly who I am.
One thing about being infp: our personality is rare, so we often feel like an outsider within our own home or family. When in our own element, or very calm, it brings out the best in us.
This was definitely relatable to me (I’m an INFP). I laughed when you were talking about authenticity. That was too funny but true. I really tend to not care what people think about the way I dress (and I dress pretty tacky) or interests I have for example. I’ve definitely been bullied for things like that but it never stopped me from being myself in front of people.
Pretty much spot on. Maybe have the sympathy/empathy definition flip flopped but how you described it was still right I feel like. 👍
INFJ with many close INFPs ❤
Thank you from an INFP who thought they were an INFJ. No matter how many tests I take, the end result is an INFP. Either way I love my fellow humans no matter what type they be
That’s not how I felt reading about being an INFP I am a bit of an ambivert so I’m a mix or E and I but more heavily I
I want to use myself to inspire people to Pursue what makes them happy and not let their past stop them
We have a great gift if you can master it
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i'm the same! I wanna help others.
Because INFJs and INFPs have no conscious functions in common, it is really useful (as an INFJ, like you) to identify precisely how an INFP is different from my own way of viewing the world.
You did a masterful job of delineating the differences between these two types based on their functional distinctions and the way that this translates to various real-world trait variations between these two introverted NF types.
Really well done!
It’s so freeing to be different. To find out all of the people I looked up to and were naturally drawn to, heath ledger, franz kafka, princess diana, shakespeare, johnny depp, john lennon!!!
It makes me feel like I can be true to myself knowing some of the most influential and most compassionate and ‘different’ people I loved were fellow infps :’)
GREATEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN today really and about INFPs. Thanks, seriously. Learned a lot about my own self. You have explained it well.
A lot of people have said everything, but I will say just one thing. I hadn't seen the difference between empathy and sympathy, so thanks for noticing that. When I saw that image in the video, I paused for a second and I suffered some kind of "Epifanía". I don't know how to say that in english. The fact that empathy doesn't include sympathy, hm. I can feel the same as other person, and don't express it out loud. And other person can express sympathy for other's situation but still don't get the real feeling. Thanks for the video, you got me thinking.
I like the INFP description. I didn't see "the worst version of another type" at all.
I'd say you're right about the understanding your own emotions part, but only after some practice. (and maybe that's something all types can accomplish with some practice, idk) I used to be a mess emotionally too, I didn't understand them either, as an INFP. But for my anxiety problems and depression I spent a while in a psychiatric hospital and there I got confronted with myself and that's how I learned. But I admit, my therapist did say that I was good at it. Very nice video. It was really uplifting ^^ As well as spot on. I can't speak for everyone of course, but I tend to see and describe my own traits in a rather negative way, except perhaps the authenticity part but even then authenticity can make you vulnerable too. But anyway, the way you described everything was in such a positive light, it was nice to hear : ) thank you
As an Infp I don't feel good enough so I listen to others talking how great I am
I totally came into this video thinking we were already awesome and coming to see how else we were awesome... did not expect the beginning lol
as an INFP, I started laughing so hard after the 1st point XD. From my perspective, we understand emotions of everyones' else but ourselves
Sorry, I misunderstood the video at first. I thought you were assigning Ti to us INFPs, but you were talking about yourself as an INTP. You guys ARE smart as hell. Great video!
I'm an INFJ so I use Ti as my tertiary function, but yeah, I was just using myself as a reference point. Don't worry about getting confused. Seems you weren't the only one who thought I was saying INFPs use Ti. I don't think I made it clear enough in the video that I was using my own functions as a reference point.
Please whoever you're God bless you.. 😭😭😭😭😭I've felt so validated and happy after so long