The Narcissist has already REPLACED you!
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People. You were not replaced ,,,,, because you are irreplaceable. They just had to find someone else who believes the lies that we no longer feed into. I feel sad for the person we loved who is sick really. Just don’t take the sickness with you.
❤ Thank you for saying this. We are all unique and are not really replaceable, but the narcissist doesn't really care about who they are with, as long as he/she is getting what they want and getting their needs met. It doesn't really matter who it is and isn't really about us at all. One thing is for certain, and 2 things for sure....that new person is being lovebombed, deceived, lied to and was probably positioned before they even fully broke up with you. They are lying a$$ decepticons and unless they are in serious therapy in which they are committed to being and doing better, they will treat the new supply the same way (if not worse) than they treated you.
Sick ia an understatement. They are evil. It's a transaction of use and abuse .period. NPD is a Personality Disorder. A Disorder of Character.
YESSS!!! Their LOSS, DON'T TAKE THEM BACK vip
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Thank you🩷
Narcs have a fulltime job searching for next never ending supply.
Guys I know it hurts, but remember people with NPD don't think the same way we do. We mourn a relationship, they don't and it's ok. Don't let that make you feel undeserving of being loved. Their devalue of you isn't representative of your worth. Your happiness doesn't lie in their hands. Consider yourself lucky you're able to grief a relationship in a healthy way. Start living because you're blessed you aren't chained anymore. ❤️ God bless you all. Much love on your journey. You will come out stronger every day! 🤗
This is interesting. Thanks
@@Jackrabbitsteaparty Hope it helps! Shifting my mind this way certainly helped me!
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@@tammyfitzgerald5336 🤗🤗🤗🧡🧡🧡
As bad as this sounds, I constantly think to myself "at least he didn't kill me." I watch too much true crime, but as much as the discard hurts, I'm grateful I can live a fulfilling life with both my kids, even if I have to share them with the narc.
They replaced you way back when you no longer filled their needs
Don’t forget everyone, that your worth doesn’t change one bit when a narcissist moves on to abuse the next victim. What they do to you isn’t personal, it’s just their own chaotic way of being in the world. It has nothing to do with you. You are worthy and wonderful and will be forever more, never forget that.
Thank you for your insight. I needed to hear this.
Thanks CupCake so are you! You're very wise.
I agree, they really have such egos to believe that when they leave you, you will crumble because they're no longer a part of your world. What I've found is the opposite, many mourn the relationship but become healthier happier and more productive. Truthfully a narcissist replacing you is a blessing to you and curse for whom they choose. They are no prize at all😕
Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims. NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's. However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you. They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!! Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
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thank you for your effort and the great text, thank you
Absolute Gold
Very detailed and insightful explanation. Thanks for sharing
How freakin awesome is this?! I couldnt have said it better myself. Every sentence was absolutely my experience. Well said. 👏 Seriously, KUDOS TO YOU! ❤
Good it's her problem! I hope he leaves me alone now
You said it!! He is already working on the replacements replacement...Better them than me..
They can't stand to be alone
With Thier Wicked Demons inside!!
Agreeed!!😏
Very. They have fear of being tormented
Gaslight you
While they are on phone with new supply.
Hell mine lived a double life from the start with a hidden fiancé at home 😂I sure can pick ‘em lol
They replace the replacement.
I call it a weird kind of Karma when we get discarded for someone else then THEIR relationship goes tits up 🤣. 🍒
😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉how that second supply working out for ya lmao 🎉
Does it?
My case was textbook. My husband had been grooming the NS for a while. The NS referred to me (to a mutual friend) as "that bitch of a wife" and how horrible I was. We've never met, so her opinion is purely based on what he told her. I'm sure, though, she wants to believe it. The irony is, HE was the horrible spouse -- infidelity, secret phones, texting women, unexplained disappearances. The discard was my catapult to a better life. She can have him and she'll learn eventually.
These disgusting people and their NS’s destroy lives and families 😔🤍
He is my revenge 😅 I asked her to respect my relationship
My exs ex wife wished me good luck when she found out I was with him …and I did not know what did that mean .(my ex was calling her Bitch and horrible woman )after almost 4 years …now I escaped from this toxic relationship after he called me seveal times Bitch …i realize he is in a circle …
I tipped off the one he ran to, with evidence of there being many of us victims, because he took many of us for a severe financial ride. She played him then disguarded him. He's pissed because now he finally got played. The gamer lost the most wealthy supply.
Yes, never have anything to do with a man who calls any ex a bitch. Some of them can be more subtle than that, and then just say things like you are everything she never could be. Big red flag.
I was replaced months before finding out I was replaced well before my husband left the home. I had a feeling, wish I listened to it sooner.
Yes we always know because we feel it but we want so badly to be wrong about our “hunches” that we stick around anyway.
melaann .. your post shows its 10 months old can you please reflex on your experience from than to now , how are things going ? i felt my narc start distancing her self from me ( no more intimacy), just recently gave her the boot , i was asking for her phone and bank statement she refused , well had to ask her to move out ( i’m 1 weeks narc free )
@onemorecoat1712 hey, yes ofc. It's been the hardest thing to deal with. March 2022 was when my ex left and March of 23 was our finalized divorce. I've had therapy and diagnosed with major depression and anxiety, went on meds for it, got off a few months later because the worst of the time period had passed. My attorney helped me get everything in order but luckily because I had soo much evidence on my ex and his affair he ended up avoiding court and we settled on an agreement for kids, money, and assets. He wanted to be painted with a good light so he knew his fate if we went in front of a judge. I still struggle and have terrible days and weeks but today I can say I feel strong and good. I never know what tmr may bring tho so I don't celebrate my happy days anymore. I've def lost alot of happiness in life and still haven't even tried dating since he left. I'm still picking up the pieces he broke and destroyed and trying to make new placement for the holes left behind.
My ex wife has ASPD and I think sociopathy which means she’s also a narc or more accurately a covert narc. I thought she was just an alcoholic. She pushed hard to marry quickly and trapped me. Married 20 months and kicked her out 5 times before the final time when I changed the locks. I simply didn’t know what I was dealing with and with the gaslighting leaves you so confused. Found out she roofied me during the marriage to screw another guy. Screwed her married lawyer during the divorce to pay her bill. And she magically already had a man to co-sign her loan to get her car out of my name. Took me time to process but yet still years later I’m baffled it happened and what I endured.
Does anyone else feel like their empathy is more of a liability than a virtue after dealing with a narcissist? I do
I have figured out how to use this to my benefit 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yep! BIG TIME
Never again
Mother fuckers....evil narcississt...the New supply gonna get fuck too..am happy that shit go silent
I save my empathy for the homeless now. ❤ I am not feeling like being empathetic is a bad thing, I have always been.
I feel like I didn’t see any red flags- as soon as I looked back- they were flying around EVERYWHERE !
Omfggg he literally said them exact words! He said he’s going to work on himself and needed time to do it 🤣🤣🤣 because I wanted him to go to therapy!
It hurt at first but I am happy she has found someone else to entertain her
And they get to have plausible deniability about the NS because they can frame it as they were "just friends" or say they weren't a thing until after your breakup even though they were already grooming the NS.
I was surprised that he moved on with someone so quickly but I was relieved. The marriage was already dead and had been for 6 years.
You just summed up my relationship and the break up. I don't think I need any more proof... she can keep him. 🙏🏻
Literally with another girl the day after we separated. 13 years married with 2 kids. I can’t even imagine how long he was seeing her.
Same here, 5 kids. He was a serial cheater and refused therapy. He also took all our property and made sure that I wouldn’t touch any with threats
We were replaced from the beginning
Exactly, we were replaced before we even met them, o r married them!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
We need a channel that helps parents not create more narcissist.
That sucks. I rearranged my life for him, he said jump I said how high, and it was never enough. He always accused me of cheating even though I was 110% devoted to him. I had him on a pedestal and it was never enough. They will bleed you dry and then ditch you, leaving you to bleed out. They do not care.
Yep
Man here
Just the other side of your sharing
She never truly got the picture of this
The road goes both ways
The phone goes both ways
The texting goes both ways
She contacts me ... I responded as soon as I could depending on cell service
I contact her ... She might get back to me in 2 to 4 DAYS!!!
That the tip of the iceberg
The way I see it is, the spouse, friend, or relative never had a number one spot in the narcissists life from the beginning because the narcissist was always number one to him/herself.
When I speak of these things, I speak from experience because my wife shows all the traits of a covert narcissist. My comments aren't directed towards Ben or any other person that may have been diagnosed, they are only based on my experience and knowledge due to research on the disorder.
Exactly what my ex did and he would rage on me every time I called him out for cheating
He was a travel nurse and never wanted to communicate when he was gone
I was replaced by his work while still in the marriage, for a few years. Did a number on me.
I'd rather be replaced if she turns out being a Narccissist, I'd say good bye that would make me happy to move onto someone with true value and not jus thinking about themselves
He did his cheating infront of my face I let him cheat in peace ✌️ he can’t come back
My Narc is in an emotional affair with another Narcissist, he left me because he couldn’t give her up. This vile woman is already on husband number four and she knows all about me and my kids.
He thinks he can save her, and that they’re soulmates 🤢, they’re both home wreckers 😔
they can appreciate each other wickedness... when you don't have a high level of evil it makes them feel "bad" about themselves and they will take it out on you or nitpick and fault find or manipulate you to react so they can act as if you behave badly.
Focus on your kids, you won’t regret that. 💗
I'm guessing their relationship didn't last long.
Yes he is completely toxic i knew it in my GUT from day one he was with someone else!! He was nothing but LIEs and deceit!!
Virtually everything you said has happened to me
he started that other relationship 2 years before we divorced.. and a month later he sent me a txt saying 'I love my partner, we are happy, block me' . END
I was so shocked I literally blacked out I couldn’t Fathom what just happened to me and right after I had our baby and even while pregnant he was cheating
Yes! I’m sure my ex cried on her shoulder about how I abandoned him as he has tried to play the victim with everyone else. Found the hundreds of daily texts and hours long phone calls in November. Blocked and went no contact in January. His “friend” has been around for a year, and they went official 2 weeks ago. He just discarded his grown children for her and her two kids. They can have him!
Same thing happened to me!
Same. They were “just friends”
Oh man Queen Bee I SO RELATE to you again! We should be friends! I'm on FB, same name. But for me it's been almost 1 year out of that relationship come October 17th. Yay! But yes he's had someone new for a long while!
@@jackidezell3401 It’s crazy how so many of our stories are the same! It’s like they all read the same book on how to be a narcissist! 😊 I’m very close to his son who’s 24, and he is really having a tough time right now. His mom and I are on the same page trying to help him deal with feeling discarded. I spoke with her and she reached out to my ex about his son and he said he was just throwing g a tantrum! 😒. Oh and the lies he told her about me.
@@QueenBee-fg1iz that's sad. My daughter's dad is a narcissist, and a sociopath. She's 23. I too was discarded by my narc mom at 15 for many years, and it nearly killed me and its how I wound up with my daughter's dad. Anyway you know what's up, and being able to educate that young man, and for him to be able to ask you questions and to have your support is a game changer, and a blessing!
This happened to me in relationships before I was married, 🤔 all these situations are popping up. I think I will get the book "The Body Keeps the Score" I'm ready for it.
That title is one hell of a hard pill to swallow. The truth is often met with contempt. Not by me. I welcome it as uncomfortable as it might be.
Damn! Wish I knew this a year ago when the triangulation and devaluation started once I found out about the new supply. New supply knew he was married and was determined to “ save him” at all costs!
12 yrs of marriage & 2 young kids & it’s like we never existed! But you know what God will punish them both !
He always said he needed alone time cause he had the kids every other week.
Found out it was to go on dates, live his life without including me
That's right man. I was discarded back in January of this year she's been living with me for about 13 years. And by February of this year she was already moved in with someone else maybe before that. I found that crazy and that was not a family member! That was a guy I seen the signs of her behavior starting to change twords me weeks before the discard she was a whole other person not the woman I once knew. Spot on man thank you! 💯👍🏾
It’s something about that word “replaced” that yanks my innermost of everything. I swear I need to start my own podcast I’d have y’all hooked on my experiences alone.
This whole experience is making me feel like I need to stop being the type of person a narcissist looks for. But what is my crime? I can't believe we are expected to play nice with these people. See that? I'm already changing.
Keep going and don't gaslight urself on the why. Im still in the beginning stages of my own realization on my husband. Best we can do is to learn heal grow and change 🙌
Look into codependent behavior and how it applies to your life. That codependency often attracts unhealthy relationships.
We're not the ones who need to change! I'd rather deal with heartache than to change who I am and how I love. There has to be a better way to deal with this issue. (Now, I have to learn about codependency. Sounds like victim blaming to me.)
I got a legal separation from my husband and he was going around introducing
“ my fiancé “ that summer. They were married within a year.
I heard wife number two doesn’t have it very good.
Oh my goodnesss...sobering very very sobering..I had to rewind it he said the narc has a person that you just found out about so it seemed fast but it's been going on, you just found out. Then he said they have had that new person going for a while before you were done. BEFORE..that hurttttttt. Thank you for your honesty and all the platforms to help people.
I was thankfully educated and aware and just waiting to get word of the new supply. Wasn’t aware of anyone when we were together. And he is no looker. Lol. But it didn’t take long and was a hilarious relief and right in the timeframe I expected it. 😂 She was only transition and he is on the next one now. (I have no idea where he dragged them up from. So weird. Small community.) I hate it for her because I suspect before too long now things are about to start getting pretty wild. She needs to buckle up.
Yeah. I know. That’s why it was so easy once he got served.
I'm waiting for mine to be served... i hate waiting but glad it's here finally.
@@Melaann ♥️strap in and pray up!
The best thing and revenge for both the narc and new supply is to let them be together until the narc discard her or him. Don’t give the new supply any info how bad he is but let her realize and go through a hell 😂😈 and then realize and feel remorse “the bitch” wasn’t the real bitch. The narcissist was 😂
ALL I CAN SAY TO THIS IS THANK GOD.
Wow this bring so much clarity. My husband seperated from me and immediately started dating his manager. He said the sameee things u mentioned! I found out later, but either way... waiting on him to get served.
Being replaced isn't bad when this man doesn't want to leave. I know what is going on. He thinks I don't know what is happening. I don't even feel sorry for the next supply because they both deserve everything they get.
I can't force him to leave because I tried and he got violent. Very violent.
I'm trying to figure out at the moment how to help the situation along... she has a long time boyfriend with kids. But I think I will just let it work itself out. In the meantime I just need to stay strong and pray that this will end soon. 25 years I've been married...me to myself.
Thank you for the videos
Good to know. I just wanna say to replacer : good luck on you. Keep hold on to the relationship. If you success, i bow on you. And say : 'WOW'..
Truth is.. Different demons possess the body at different stages. Fallen angels command the demons when to possess and what to do. This video humanizes things too much. Perhaps some narcissists still have human souls. My ex gave over his body to the demons and completely controlled by them. In the very beginning he had creativity.. After giving in to demons.. No longer
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Yes he did this to me for 4 years!!! Lie to me and use me and make me think he loved me is waa abuse
Sounds and looks familiar. I'm praying for that person that God helps them.
Narc App! I wish that was there when I was looking for answers. So much easier to go contact! What a GREAT IDEA>
Thanks this helped me, i cant believe how spot on you are, everything
I've subscribed
Thanks for the sub!
That happens being replaced my experience has never been this. The narcissist does not have a replacement.
Lol I recently found out this it was devastating for about 3 weeks.honestly this helped me get over him.
Good Luck Hun!
No Coming Back to Me!!
Good! Poor bastard, he can have her! 🤣
He asked his friend for dating app to replace me, as soon I observed his activity cn phome app contacting women, I stopped meeting him
Totally agree
Accurate breakdown
Omg you nail my life down
Thank you
Totally true and right on point as usual!
so true....
This explains my exact situation
Absolutely, as it was .
YES! I knew all along....
STL watching...talk about ittttt Siiir...💪🏾❤💪🏾❤💪🏾❤💪🏾❤....yaaaaas...
Yup yup yup. So sad for them
You're speaking my experience. Alot of our experiences
Good people, do not get down when this person says that you were already replaced, don't let that bother you, remember they never loved you they will never love the person they're with now, they never loved their children they're incapable of empathy and remorse and just as GOD pulled you away from this entanglement, GOD has a plan for them as well. Don't worry, Time Will reveal everything, we cannot and should not try to bring the truth quicker than God's plan, because he knows when the truth will be revealed and his time frame will handle all these creatures that are narcissists. GOD bless us All. We are truly blessed, it is hard to accept, but GOD'S MERCY IS WITH YOU!
Great insight.👍
Thank you!
That’s exactly what happened to me. Thanks for the insight! 👍
Glad it helped!
Started the 7 day challenge today...
Ouch 🤕
Why does he keep telling me that there will never be anyone else after me, that he could bever have sex with someone else, that he find the thought of that repulsive?
So far he hasn't or couldn't replace me, maybe because he is older (63). I have often prayed that he would, knowing full well the emotional trigger it would be for me, but understanding that I need to free mysrlf
I.made a little calculatin , the new supply could have
half that my daughter age. I discovered that she appeared exactly before the luckdown in the relationship.
I've been talking to AI a lot lately 😂 it's kinda sad
True!
Thank you Jesus run like hell pray for one’s that are next ya can’t stop this accept it and run as fast as ya can go no contact get security cameras this is United States of America 🎉❤
People when you meet someone ask for records check lmao wanna see rage 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
They tell the new supply things like we have an open marriage or my wife likes other females or we are together for the kids ! plus the new supply feels so special that they left their whole family for them they must love me I’m so special! The new person also might get compared to the old supply which makes them also hate the wife. The new supply says things like you know she is so insecure. Most of the time 2 narcs get together and never realize it !
Ben, could you make a video to explain what we are seeing when we think back on the relationship and think ‘it wasn’t all bad’. Because there are good times too. I felt genuinely connected to the one I knew and the good times really felt like good times. Can you tell us if the whole relationship for the narcissist is all manipulation, even the good times, or if they can be genuinely considerate and kind sometimes?
Its all an act. The good times are BAIT to keep you self doubting and to serve as glitter to hide the dark evil manipulations underneath the glitter. The bait also keeps you locked in longer than you should be.
@@tranquility9325 Thanks for the reply. Why is this way of being remotely interesting for them?! What a waste of life to be constantly looking to manipulate people, like, go and get a hobby or something!,
I think its ok to appreciate the good moments because that was your reality in the moment, even if it was just playing charades by the narc. They wanted to get in your good graces to keep you hooked. They are not 'genuine' people like the rest of us. They are genuinely happy being self-serving at your expense.
@@AmandySue For sure! It still shocks me how bad they are, how inhumane. I can’t get my head around it
Cupcake, the same is for me 😔
After 22 years of ups and downs I actually thought we’d grow old together and that he loved me in his own way. It’s been 6 months since the reverse discard and I’m still struggling with who and what he really is.
It’s hard to explain to my kids that the father who never bothers with them was a fictional character, an evil one too.
We felt sorry for them and they abused that, we loved them and they took it for granted 😔
I realise that my quality of life with him wasn’t very good and it’s taken a toll on me physically, this saddens me.
I’m not a vain person, but to be left emotionally and financially abused and for that to impact my appearance is another blow.
I met him in my youth and he’s stolen some good years from me.
I do hope that we heal from this and can try to understand that the good times were an illusion, because they were/are fictional characters, they’re hollow and evil for sure 😔❤️❤️
And if you call them out or tell them YOU KNOW they are cheating you can show them video proof snd they will deny deny deny and get so pissed you don't believe them because You KNOW. snd they find out you contacted the other woman and exposed them you better be very careful and watch your back! Because they will be out to get you!
I had already noticed that once again someone is in the game. Then he discarded me. I moved out, but the woman was suddenly no longer there. Is it possible that she really was not the reason or did she quickly noticed his behavior and run away? He has always emphasized that she „only“ helps him to get along.
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Sorry for not using my phone this is my wife's phone.I never knew that people like this even existed but my wife told me i was unlike anyone else and it made me feel great but I noticed how she treated me didn't match her words now I know it's all been a lie everyone talks about the male narcissist but she is a narcissist and all the sexual partners she had while I worked it's mind blowing
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I knew he was already talking to other women, his ex's (multiple) and had to rub it in my face on Thanksgiving. Then a few weeks later I said I wanted to move back to my house, (he's a construction worker, and he said he'd be "offput" I knew right then he was talking to another, I have been in the constitution industry for 25 years. Never heard him use the word offput...so I asked him what offput meant, he couldn't give me the definition, I knew why the devaluation was starting. I did everything for him but wipe his...so I left him 3 days before Christmas. The neighbors came over and gave me lists of women that didn't make it more than a year with dude. One neighbor he had a affair with, she had been trying to tell me, I just was not l listening. The new supply, she played him, then he moved into her house, while she was at work, she called her ex husband for a gun, then she tried to get him out of her house nicely, he wouldn't go, so her friends took his stuff he moved in back to the place he was renting while he was at work, went home and changed the locks. He got so mad he tried to break and enter, and she called the cops on him. I went to the PD Academy and hold my 911 dispatcher certs. He fooled me for about 6 months after that I was on to him. His employees have him up...(he acts like this to ALL women) I found 8 of us, same exact MO he used us all for money, now I am suing him for human trafficking for profit, and a pattern of fraud. His M.O. is the same. Honeymoon, corrosion, isolation, pay off his bills, theft, disgard. Boy was he surprised when I turned the tables. He didn't think with my PD background and legal knowledge, that I'd be smart enough to build a case against him. He's stole all our identities. Even the neweat girls exhusbands info on her divorce decree. She found it in his house. I have collected police reports on him in 3 counties. He's a pattern player. I don't think he's just a Narc but also a sociopath combined. Each of us also experienced theft too. One girl said he stole her identity, ssc # and credit to get an apartment.
Nope, sad but no surprise. Signs signs everywhere is signs.
It was over night,Ben. Went to bed with somebody i thought i knew, woke up with Dr Frankenstein
8 year before, he find our not single friend and they are cheating. Woman man dont believe my story and laught me.
I have a question. I only had a 7yr. Sexual situationship. He kept me in it because he kept promising me a real relationship. He didnt like to be called out or confronted. He has all the signs of a Narcissist. I didnt want to believe he was but if it was just sexual could he be a narcissist? Hope i make sense here.
Why still Caous in my house !!! Investible Harrasment and Disterbans keep me Stock not No if alone on Not !!? Please Feedback on the phone message!!! Thanks 👍 😊
Unfortunately, I am one of his options… have always felt he spins info, goes mute to questions I ask, and has not been honest..
3 yrs on and off.. don’t know his BD, where he lives, or many other details of his life..
although I thought he was a support who always listened , always coming to my house for dinner, wine and sex.. takes a shower and leaves by 1-2am. Obvious .. but I wouldn’t see with clarity.
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