Does your narcissist cheat? 5 types of cheating described

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Komentáře • 327

  • @LastNineBreaker
    @LastNineBreaker Před 10 měsíci +98

    Once you catch them cheating…. they can never trust you again.

  • @deebus3471
    @deebus3471 Před měsícem +8

    Narcissists believe that what they do isn't cheating because it's justified (in their mind).

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +54

    Emotional affairs is a betrayal of intimacy

    • @carolashlee8002
      @carolashlee8002 Před 9 měsíci +3

      I agree & my ex Narc is doing that with his ex wife.
      I finally got evidence of them meeting up in secret.
      I’m done

    • @kawaterskakatheryn6063
      @kawaterskakatheryn6063 Před 3 měsíci +1

      me too, I just got out from a 3yrs...I can't believe how happy I am without him...

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +32

    How do you know they're cheating you ask ...?
    If you suspect they are cheating.. they likely are.

  • @jerseygirl4623
    @jerseygirl4623 Před rokem +58

    Mine cheated me out of love, kindness, affection, respect, time, care

  • @crocodileranger8404
    @crocodileranger8404 Před rokem +185

    He wasn't cheating but there was always someone or something else that was more important than me and our relationship

    • @emiliaa6175
      @emiliaa6175 Před rokem +55

      Yes, exactly. Woke up one day and wondered why I feel like an empty shell of a person. I am on the bottom of his priority list. He is committed to everyone and everything but me. Being in a relationship with a covert narc leaves you feeling like a second class citizen. My emotions don’t matter.

    • @jubenmendez9855
      @jubenmendez9855 Před rokem +5

      Both ways for me..

    • @reneephillips7303
      @reneephillips7303 Před rokem +25

      He was cheating

    • @Music-Is-Real-Love
      @Music-Is-Real-Love Před rokem +5

      ​@@emiliaa6175
      I can relate to feeling this way.
      Thank you.

    • @Music-Is-Real-Love
      @Music-Is-Real-Love Před rokem +4

      Yes!!!

  • @courtneymacdonald6270
    @courtneymacdonald6270 Před rokem +53

    My husband cheated in all of those ways. I left him 14 months ago! Never been happier!!!

  • @HeavenTriesIt
    @HeavenTriesIt Před 9 měsíci +50

    1. He is secretive with his phone.
    2. Paranoid about his phone.
    3. He often becomes obsessed with a new "friend" at work. And then whenever I say it's inappropriate he randomly quits his job.
    4. He never gets along with bosses. Supposedly they always hate him.
    5. I've caught him talking on snapchat and reddit to random women.
    6. He denies any proof I show him.
    7. He tries to turn everything around and shift the blame onto me.
    8. He often tells me "just get over it"
    9. He's manipulative
    10. Makes rude comments and they claims he's just "joking".
    11. I catch him in small lies all of the time. He will then tell me im not remembering something correctly.
    Yeah, i could go on but that's just a drop in the bucket of what I i deal with
    I'm so done.

    • @snowflake2910
      @snowflake2910 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Mine would have locked me in a cage if he would. I want allowed social media, friends of the opposite sex, and I had to stay by his side in public.
      Recently went to Vegas for his step dads wedding he ditched me and flirted with other women in front of me. It was the final straw and called for divorce he said he's working on things and would go to therapy. I'm still miserable and no therapy session scheduled. I just can't get over how he acted like I'm the whore when he acts like that. It was straight up projection. He should have been the one in the cage.

    • @HeavenTriesIt
      @HeavenTriesIt Před 8 měsíci +3

      @@snowflake2910 Make a secret plan to escape! Tell him you want a job to "help him" then take your paychecks and run!

    • @cassiebennet4262
      @cassiebennet4262 Před 5 měsíci +2

      That hurt my soul just reading that. I hope you're long gone and thriving.

    • @curtriedel5036
      @curtriedel5036 Před 5 měsíci +3

      The male version of my girlfriend

    • @tati-anaroseee4316
      @tati-anaroseee4316 Před 4 měsíci +1

      My bf is exactly the same kind of narcissist and does the exact same things and he has been better the last couple weeks but I feel like he's just hiding it better

  • @michelezeug5206
    @michelezeug5206 Před rokem +114

    Can you do a video on the fact that you cannot have a logical conversation with a narc and how they deflect.

    • @julietruesdell.371
      @julietruesdell.371 Před rokem +12

      It's torture!

    • @alyciamarie4163
      @alyciamarie4163 Před rokem +11

      I always tell my husband okay now we are in the part of the script that logic goes out the window and we just say words 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️anybwoeds

    • @miriamcarpenter3168
      @miriamcarpenter3168 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Hub ended every discussion, disagreement with “ this is not going anywhere “. No conflict was EVER resolved.

    • @ca2or2nc
      @ca2or2nc Před 9 měsíci +6

      Or you get Stonewalled. My ex husband would go silent. It was like having a staring contest with a wall. 🤦‍♀️

    • @goboudou
      @goboudou Před 8 měsíci

      Yes

  • @Tom-ig3li
    @Tom-ig3li Před rokem +77

    My ex did all 5. I told him he was looking for someone else, and eventually he’d find it. He said that wasn’t his goal, but he ended up spending all his time with the new supply. He wanted me to stay, but no affection, no touching, no sex. He said his new “friend” shouldn’t affect our “friendship “. I blocked him before he could discard me.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Před rokem +5

      I remember that evasive language oh so well. My ex's version of "that wasn't his goal", was always, "that isn't my plan". Every time he used that dodgy language, that was exactly his plan and he'd end up doing it. In our case, it was the atheist gf half his age. It wasn't his plan to see her. It wasn't his plan to go back w/ her, blah blah. Even when I found out the second time, and kicked him out, he lied about seeing her all the way out the door. Then the following months he still lied about her, because he was still trying to keep the door ajar to get back in w/ me.

    • @sisid6295
      @sisid6295 Před rokem

      Horrible i know how this may hurt u am so sorry he is a loser :(

    • @eunicegantt3069
      @eunicegantt3069 Před 7 měsíci

      Bravo!!

    • @fantazm79
      @fantazm79 Před měsícem

      This sounds almost identical to both times my ex cheated on me

  • @JD-jz8vl
    @JD-jz8vl Před rokem +92

    Yes! There was no physical cheating but there was ALWAYS another woman in his life who was more important than me.
    Edited: actually there was physical cheating as well🤦🏽‍♀️ ThankGod it's over

  • @heatheran4783
    @heatheran4783 Před rokem +39

    The source one woman can provide will never be enough for a narc

    • @csibiedit8046
      @csibiedit8046 Před 7 měsíci

      Than they need to have more male organs if a woman are providing is not enough. To keep a harem and accept what every women provide must be a strong man.

  • @KatherineGrey-pz9on
    @KatherineGrey-pz9on Před 4 měsíci +40

    Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

  • @shilohbreigh3591
    @shilohbreigh3591 Před rokem +39

    Did you all know that “SEXTING” wasn’t cheating?!?!😂😂😂 yep, I thought my extremely narcissistic live in boyfriend of three years texting on messenger!!! More than once. But I’m crazy and that’s not cheating anyhow. Nice, right? I am moving out this weekend. Wish me luck.❤

    • @maileinouye
      @maileinouye Před rokem +3

      Good luck. You can do this

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 Před 9 měsíci +2

      You ok, doll?
      It's been a few months ❤
      Christi

    • @AbstractM0use
      @AbstractM0use Před měsícem

      It's been a year, I hope you're still doing well and have continued moving on. I had a similar experience. I recently caught my ex gf (of 13 years) sexting a man on Snapchat. She said they were only talking so it wasn't really cheating. Even though she'd have put on a show and flipped out if it were me doing that with another woman. But it's not cheating, right? Why so upset?
      However, their texts were about their sexual encounter, so obviously it was cheating all the way. She still denied it!

  • @leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851
    @leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851 Před 3 měsíci +4

    My husband cheats in most of these areas. I’m counting my days and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před měsícem

      We're here to support you on your healing journey. Take the first step by joining our free masterclass, where you'll learn how to break free from toxic relationships and much more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass

  • @user-vs3mr4mr6s
    @user-vs3mr4mr6s Před 5 měsíci +15

    Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

  • @lozannevanniekerk5489
    @lozannevanniekerk5489 Před rokem +30

    The kinder we are the more we heal the better we feel the more we appreciate. Being a beautiful soul.

  • @leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851
    @leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I commend you in your efforts. It’s almost impossible for a narcissist to change their personality. Keep it up and I hope you continue.

  • @suzysquat
    @suzysquat Před rokem +5

    Mine just denied, denied, denied - till I moved out.

  • @lyminshin
    @lyminshin Před 11 měsíci +15

    1. Physical
    2. Emotional
    3. Cyber
    4. Time
    5. Financial

  • @octavia9464
    @octavia9464 Před 2 měsíci +2

    This was an awesome video!! I haven't heard any councilors explain this vital information of the types of cheating!!! Thank you!!! God bless you and your marriage. I appreciate you and your determination to hold on to your marriage in being transparent and loyal!!!!

  • @vickybee5842
    @vickybee5842 Před rokem +8

    It is so devastating to find out that the person you love betrayed you, when I found out I felt like an idiot, felt humiliated, degraded, unappreciated, ugly and unloved, as so many years passed before I found out. I was fooled by his lies and his manipulation. I never imagine my husband could do something like that as he always made me believe he was a moral and correct person; didn't know his accusations against me of cheating it was a projection of what he was doing; after his insistence of this accusations I responded to him that it looked like he was wishing for me to cheat on him, his reaction kind of show me I was right, as now know that that would made him feel less bad for what he was doing or would help him to direct my attention to my wrongdoing instead of his.

  • @katrinadenicolo5463
    @katrinadenicolo5463 Před 11 měsíci +10

    Is a clear tell tale sign when the Narcissist switches to the dark side it usually always mean he has just done something wrong

  • @LRS11B
    @LRS11B Před 4 měsíci +4

    When a narc does something wrong, they go into a terrible attitude mood. It's meant to shut down any conversation

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +9

    Divided loyalties is betrayal
    Emotional betrayal is cheating and a double whammy!
    A one two sucker punch 👊

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 Před rokem +31

    I never had any solid proof that he was cheating as such, but he'd drop hints here and there that there were other people somewhere along the line. I knew he was capable of lieing when I found another womans number he denied having, and an STI after someone had told me he was sleeping with someone. Some was circumstantial yet when I confronted him he'd become angry and dismissive and discard me. My intuition told me those actions of his were evidence enough. It was the biggest mind feck I'd ever known. 🍒

    • @dyonnasantiago-ortiz1205
      @dyonnasantiago-ortiz1205 Před rokem +3

      I agree "Biggest mind f%@%" ever!!! I wish my husband would just be honest but unfortunately his actions are the only thing I have and even then he'll gaslight me. Horrible to experience.

    • @SaystheTruth3
      @SaystheTruth3 Před 9 měsíci

      What do you mean found someone's number? Like on a piece of paper?

    • @cherrybacon3319
      @cherrybacon3319 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @Firecracker13598 He told me he didn't have this womans (a woman he told me he was going to see for 'company') after telling me previously he did. He was backtracking and trying to make me feel crazy by gaslighting me. In the confused state I was, I sneeked a look at his phone, and there her name and number was in Black and White. He'd lied to me.

    • @snowflake2910
      @snowflake2910 Před 8 měsíci

      If I had solid proof I would dump him instantly. Unfortunately I have just intuition to go on. He left for work early Christmas eve to pick up a female co worker. Which females "don't work at his job" btw but this one magically appeared and his friend asked "Did you get with T?" Which he defended as picking her up. And he never did someone else got her but then he deleted the texts. I believe something else is going on but i would never get the truth anyway. I want to leave but he is who my daughter thinks is dad. Idk if I will do more damage to her staying or leaving. Idc about me anymore. I just want what's best for her and whe I look at my marriage and ask myself, "Would I want this for my daughter?" The answer isn't just, no. But hell no. I feel stuck. Pray for me yall, I need it.

    • @cherrybacon3319
      @cherrybacon3319 Před 8 měsíci

      @snowflake2910 My Heart goes out for you. Tbh i believe you'd both be better off without him in the long run.

  • @caur739
    @caur739 Před rokem +15

    Best to follow the lies that will usually go along with the cheating

  • @WeebRemover4500
    @WeebRemover4500 Před rokem +10

    microcheating, when you put yourself in a situation that could easily lead to cheating, flirting, wearing slutty clothes to gain sexual attention

  • @carlamitchell466
    @carlamitchell466 Před 5 měsíci +3

    You are correct my husband did all of these things except financial bc our accounts were joined. It took me a long time to realize what he was doing. Now my divorce is almost finalized

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 2 měsíci

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  • @karlataylor1172
    @karlataylor1172 Před rokem +13

    You just described my x husband.....and my x boyfriend.......and alot of men around here. I really don't care anymore though. No feelings for them whatsoever. Finally. I freed myself from the awful feelings the demons bring.

  • @straykittsco.950
    @straykittsco.950 Před rokem +28

    My ex's favorite line was,"One thing I'm not is a cheater...I would never cheat on you because I would never put you in a position to make you look stupid by other ppl!" I actually truly believed it for a little while but after awhile too many sketchy things occurred and I found out he emotionally cheated chronically for years, and even met up with a couple of women but idk how far it went. He told them they were beautiful, he offered one to move her in to my house so he clearly was future faking them alot. Told another he was going to marry her to get her back into the United States because she was in Mexico and told another one he wanted to take her to meet his father in Kentucky and take her there for his wedding anniversary even though he never took me to Kentucky our whole 5 yr relationship.

    • @Queening948
      @Queening948 Před rokem

      Omggg the ex Narc spouse said the same thing creepy. Mind you they are cheating since the beginning of the marriage it’s start with his ex girlfriend and a line of others from church and flirting with them, ended up having a whole relationship with a coworker 🤮 they lie about everything. He was always masturbating bc I no longer cared for sex as a wife who was married a virgin I became disgusted with sex I felt like a toy there was no connection passion or anything. He was an abuser all across and always spending money 💰 for things unknown waste money steal money ….he used me for US residency and personal gain to gain status “pastor” covert narcissist

    • @Sunlumiinous
      @Sunlumiinous Před rokem +7

      Wow, same similar statement as my ex-husband, who is a malignant covert narcissist.
      I didn't know much about future faking until recently learning everything I could about narcissists. I didn't even know there were types of narcissists either. Just mind blown by it all.
      He gave money to his side pieces while claiming there wasn't enough money to feed our family and kept us in an impoverished condition.

    • @Queening948
      @Queening948 Před rokem

      @@Sunlumiinous this is their natural habitat this is why their bank accounts is a secret because they don’t want you to know what they are really doing with the money. If they give your money they will take it back. It’s disgusting they train you to not depend on them so they can abuse you anyway they want.

  • @charlotteortiz1233
    @charlotteortiz1233 Před rokem +11

    I so wish my husband would do the work like you are . He lies , denies…..

  • @MH-en9qc
    @MH-en9qc Před rokem +18

    My ex Covert Narcissistic Sociopath cheated on me mentally, financially, physically and spiritually. It all hurt and broke me down bad. I am better now (took about 4-years to recover), and am on high alert 🚩 going forward. I won’t say I won’t be trapped again, but will say it will be d@mn hard.

    • @sisid6295
      @sisid6295 Před rokem

      Well said ! I also have cover narc sociopath plus he abiused me extrime way verbaly emotionaly and play the victim called me toxic never commit to me and he play huge empath am so good to everyone am a geniush he say or u stupid woman i dont want u u have nothing to ofert u are to simple for me .. poor demons manipulative deeply but i always spoke the truth to his fake face ..

    • @MH-en9qc
      @MH-en9qc Před rokem

      @@sisid6295 Think of things this way and maybe it will be easier to understand and accept what you were involved with. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, it matters more how much they love you. If they treat you badly (in any form), they don’t love you the same. It’s not your fault and there is NOTHING you could have done differently to get a different outcome. These narcs are destructive entities. Just run and don’t look back.

    • @nicholegibbs9881
      @nicholegibbs9881 Před rokem

      Can you elaborate more on the Spiritual part

  • @Nursegurl82
    @Nursegurl82 Před rokem +11

    the ex husband narc did all of them. Sick individuals

  • @fantazm79
    @fantazm79 Před měsícem +1

    This convinces me she was doing cyber cheating on me. What brought me to this video was noticing her behavior during the last few months was so similar to the first time she cheated on me which was emotional and physical.

  • @carolinec3951
    @carolinec3951 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I salute you sir! It must have been very hard for you to work through these issues. Narcissist usually aren't willing to put in the effort. So you are 1 in a million.

  • @eazyc404
    @eazyc404 Před rokem +4

    i got injured and had issues walking and she promptly used that as an opportunity to go cheat on me. what she did not know is that i hopped to my car and drove and hour and a half to her house and she wasn’t there, at midnight. after she had stopped answering calls and txt from me at around 10pm. these people have no souls. ain’t good for nothing but sex.

  • @marykirsten7773
    @marykirsten7773 Před rokem +16

    You and your wife are such a gift to all of us--THANK YOU for sharing your journey!!

  • @peacefulself7848
    @peacefulself7848 Před rokem +5

    Thank you Ben for being honest and vulnerable!

  • @ceeceecurry5349
    @ceeceecurry5349 Před rokem +9

    Thank you, so much for creating these honest videos . I never knew what hit me , and who I am in love with, I thought that I was going crazy , the lies the cheating, the guilt from what he made me feel that caused the affairs. I feeling like I lost my mind,my worth and my very being. I love this man with all of me but he has damaged me and yet I still love him. It's painful to love someone that hurts you this way.
    My heart goes out to all who are in this mess like myself.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Před rokem +4

      I'm grateful that I take zero responsibility for his affair. He still tries to blame it on me, while sort of claiming that it's on him and that he feels regret and remorse that he didn't work it out. His actions show differently. It's like Lee, the other aware narcissist channel says, they feel some guilt, but it's on a spectrum and it's shallow. They will always find a way to the blame the other person. Five months after I kicked him out and I'm still insulted, but I don't feel I really love him. I was in love w/ potential and who I thought he was. I still miss being in a relationship and feel lonely. Seeing the difference is helping a fair bit. I hope you get there too. Now just to build my confidence and trust back up. This type of relationship is very destructive.

    • @karenbrandis9099
      @karenbrandis9099 Před rokem +1

      hi. I'm exactly in the same position as you. I loved him so much. he used me as a front....he is a cheater with men.

    • @cassiebennet4262
      @cassiebennet4262 Před 5 měsíci

      I hope you're ok. I know exactly what you mean. They don't care if you care about them. It doesn't matter to them. They hate themselves and people can only give what they have. All narcissists have is hatred.

  • @chelceasurgenor598
    @chelceasurgenor598 Před rokem +17

    I'm so very proud of you Ben. Makes me cry happy tears for you and your wife! Thank you again for another helpful video!❤️

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před rokem +1

      I am so grateful for your support and encouragement, thank you from the bottom of my heart!

  • @rockybalboa4593
    @rockybalboa4593 Před rokem +10

    Mine would always say he had plans with “friends.” BS. They were other supply sources and “dates” or “FWB sessions” the entire time. I immediately got devalued after he went away to Italy for 10 days which I later found out was with a throuple. Yeah. Definitely not platonic. Came back a distant person and never made any plans with me. Was always booked with “friends.” I never even got a 10 minute phone call to hear about his trip or anything about it. 17 days had gone by before I finally said something about it and got received with narcisisstic rage and that “I was making him feel bad” and “needy as hell.” Told him I think he’s a narcissist and immediately got discarded and he already had a new supply. Exactly. Because it was never friends. It was dates or other supply sources all along. I figured it out and made sure he knew I figured it out. I exposed him.

  • @waynehaley3873
    @waynehaley3873 Před rokem

    Good on you champion!! Keep working on it!!👍

  • @tySalazar-pe6ll
    @tySalazar-pe6ll Před 2 měsíci +1

    Caught my female narc multiple times... guy actually facetime her while she war taking a shower I answered he apologized he explained she said her and I were broke up and said a half hour before she arrived she sent him a nude video of her playing with herself, I stormed into the bathroom he was on video and she claimed she had no idea who he was lolol. he then sent me the video. I asked her to leave and she detroyed my kitchen on the way out, needless to say I had her arrested.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +3

    Always in ALL ways 💥💣
    Emotionally, mentally, physically, intimately, financially, spiritually

  • @ladiebugs
    @ladiebugs Před rokem +5

    This is a great video, Ben. You break it down perfectly, and it's easier to understand the differences. Thank you.

  • @JesusisLord153
    @JesusisLord153 Před 11 měsíci

    Wow! This one really hit home!!!

  • @charityhouze647
    @charityhouze647 Před rokem +6

    What you're doing won't take away the damage that's done. You are however now being honest to help those that need to hear the truth. Thank you and may you continue to show up and teach.

  • @Greydog184
    @Greydog184 Před rokem +4

    Not cheating ….. “ I have been on Facebook “ ….. All morning!!? Pleassse -

  • @Missysnaturals
    @Missysnaturals Před 6 měsíci

    Raw honesty and great info

  • @AdrianVentio-hk9ut
    @AdrianVentio-hk9ut Před 5 měsíci

    You stated everything this Narc toxic person I was dealing with did this !!! Wow so messed up but the crazy part is that denied everything

  • @meganterrell4114
    @meganterrell4114 Před rokem +6

    Unfortunately, my narc husband has done all 5. I feel like most people who are actual narcissists probably do all 5 at one point or another.

  • @robinfarina2966
    @robinfarina2966 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I'm so happy you brought up the different types of cheating. My ex husband was obsessed with our son's little league baseball. Absolutely obsessed. Had to have control of everything. He was also financially abusive. His type would act too moral to cheat but would be missing 7 days a week at the ball park, trying to run things.

  • @mathews0618
    @mathews0618 Před rokem +6

    I never checked on her phone or stalked her. I was very easy to cheat on. I only know of 1 time and it was the final discard but i can think of a lot of times it felt like she might have been

  • @lidialeanos9005
    @lidialeanos9005 Před měsícem

    I always felt some kind of way when he would take his phone to the bathroom. Then if I was going to the bathroom he would say don’t you want to take your phone! Hmmm looking back! Such a red flag

  • @Dunitagin93
    @Dunitagin93 Před rokem +3

    Yeah, when I finally spoke to him about ‘cheating’ he said ‘if she was here I wouldn’t be doing THIS’-she’s away from the home for a few hours…whaaaaa?.
    Compartmentalizing? Sheesh….

  • @user-vj3qc6gq7n
    @user-vj3qc6gq7n Před 3 měsíci +1

    This is my first time seeing and listening to u but u came at the right time and when u said if we want to speak to u personally u said it so fast i didn’t understand it but I would love to speak with u hand to handn

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      @Eaglespy72gmailcom Před 2 měsíci

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  • @TheOfficialWiFiFairy
    @TheOfficialWiFiFairy Před 11 měsíci +5

    It’s not about the sex - bc we had an open relationship. I knew he needed the attention bc he was so insecure. It wasn’t about the sex, it was about the betrayal. As soon as you cause them to love you, they hate you. It’s almost automatically the moment they first say, “I love you”. And it’s all your fault.

  • @dianarowland3244
    @dianarowland3244 Před rokem +4

    My ex was an object cheater with my sons racing... the car got more love and money spent on her, and financially brow beat me for getting my nails done... He also charms Cashiers with the amazing nice guy..
    He is flirting.. I've seen it in action.. they get the nice guy.. I got the narc

  • @sandblackbondchickcruz462
    @sandblackbondchickcruz462 Před 4 měsíci +1

    He has always cheated and threatened me with cheating with strange customers that have fake body parts! He actually thinks they want him! Yea they want him for auto parts or to help the increase their bank account but he doesn’t help me with anything he downs me every chance he gets but uplifts other women and helps them with make money.

  • @SamouelKoons
    @SamouelKoons Před 9 měsíci +5

    Yes. She cheated on me in every way.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 9 měsíci

      sorry to hear that ,how areyou doing now?

    • @SamouelKoons
      @SamouelKoons Před 9 měsíci

      @@RawMotivations I'm not doing well.
      She is going from sugar daddy to sugar daddy and only comes home to sleep.
      Thank you for your help and advice.

    • @SamouelKoons
      @SamouelKoons Před 9 měsíci

      But, really, thank you for responding. I feel so alone sometimes.
      Thank you.

  • @WaterBug46
    @WaterBug46 Před rokem +4

    Caught h on a dating site and confronted him. He was just window shopping. I was over reacting. It was my fault. And I could just leave if I didn’t like it. Also physical affairs. He conflates marriage with dating 😮. I had to get a separate checking account just to save money. And would be gone yesterday if it was financially viable.

  • @blancamendoza2784
    @blancamendoza2784 Před rokem +3

    He does all those things on cheating to hurt me all the time.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +2

    They deny it so can't be held accountable by you, others or themselves.

    • @rossothecrimson7
      @rossothecrimson7 Před 9 dny

      This sucks for me because I take my phone to the bathroom randomly. I guess Im attached to the socials, but there is no one on the other line.

  • @johanna77777
    @johanna77777 Před 9 měsíci

    I love this CZcams channel A LOT! can you make the intro at the end, tho? 😮❤

  • @Robin19196
    @Robin19196 Před 3 dny +1

    His poor wife. I’m guessing she hasn’t watched any of his content. Or if she has, she believes his message of change.

  • @BreezeyHughes
    @BreezeyHughes Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you I appreciate this

  • @amorl4520
    @amorl4520 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Narc cheated on me. One and done!! Run

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před měsícem

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  • @CL-lo4wd
    @CL-lo4wd Před rokem +2

    My ex husband and ex boyfriend did all 5 out of 5. Devastating.

  • @poppett.m4481
    @poppett.m4481 Před rokem +18

    Another great video buddy 👍
    I'd just be content if he admitted he's been unfaithful and most probably still is considering his actions haven't and he's still being shifty. How is it possible to blatantly deny actions and behaviour when there's hard evidence? I discovered his emotional affair then that uncovered the girls online and the money pit they contributed to, and a severe porn addiction i literally just cannot believe i didn't notice especially because he was literally watching it even sitting across the table from me!! Thankfully he had a camera to spy on me and have me under constant surveillance, consequently the only person on any of that footage doing anything questionable is him.. whilst the whole situation makes me physically sick, i do look forward to the near future and the look on his face when i tell him I've got copies of the footage from his camera "that doesn't record/ the whole system got wiped out", his evasive "proof or it didn't happen" comment.. so much evidence that I'm going to have to get a bigger hard drive..

  • @robertvernon789
    @robertvernon789 Před rokem

    Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @shireenramnarain4005
    @shireenramnarain4005 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Yes of course always

  • @davidlindsay8122
    @davidlindsay8122 Před 5 měsíci +2

    For 14 years of my marriage I would have said my wife didn't cheat. I was wrong

  • @dotty577
    @dotty577 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Yes ... My narcissist cheated and lied about it until I had proof...

  • @phaedradinkins5117
    @phaedradinkins5117 Před rokem

    You are amazing

  • @blancamendoza2784
    @blancamendoza2784 Před rokem +3

    I need to walk away before gets more dangerouse again with viliont.

  • @matthewmccune8979
    @matthewmccune8979 Před 3 měsíci +1

    No but she pretend as if she did to piss me off

  • @Mechanically_Speaking
    @Mechanically_Speaking Před rokem +10

    She liked to break up constantly. Shed break up by text and "go right to sleep" so technically she didnt cheat and she could more easily believe her lie.
    She really loved to say "i never cheated" but thats reeally what she believes. Last time we had sex after over a month she was loose, modified one of our usual positions and told me for the first time in 3 years to pull her hair.... couldnt have went soft faster, i was convinced and that was the end... kinda lol

  • @robintatroe3473
    @robintatroe3473 Před 7 měsíci +2

    😢this is true ...he has cheated on me with porn and finances...I have nothing and feel lonely.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 7 měsíci

      It's a tough situation to be in, hope you can get back on your feet! You can do this

  • @stephcarrin
    @stephcarrin Před rokem +2

    Yep on all....in some way, shape or form.....😮‍💨😭😔😒

  • @katrinadenicolo5463
    @katrinadenicolo5463 Před 11 měsíci +4

    Can you talk about there EYES turning BLACK.
    I've had times when I can see the gradual changes in the days leading up to this fourth Day.
    It would happen threw the years a few times spaced part but I even could tell you at one of the times it did I had forgotten to on guard and just one day said ..what's wrong with your eyes? Some how not quick to be on point but surely it was definite there is this scary BLACK GAZED OVER CHANGE THAT HAPPENS to there physical face of there eyes when these episodes I would call them. He also sure of myself knowing doesn't even remember the extent he has turned into or what happens either when I've not mistaken to really do something to really check without giving it away

  • @1stwastheword893
    @1stwastheword893 Před rokem

    thank you for being straight forward
    they ALL cheat 😔🥀💔
    how are these guys cheating during the day ?
    who are these woman that are just "hookin-up"
    more narcopaths ?

  • @reneeboehm558
    @reneeboehm558 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I do have a question, and I don’t know if anyone else is going through this with their narc sometimes he would tell me to go to sleep, and it wasn’t in a nice way. I’m always wondered about that.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Před rokem +2

    Emotional affairs are usually ego based or should I say Ego Boost 😒

  • @octaviawhitaker-xb4jh

    Thanks

  • @emmarae4322
    @emmarae4322 Před 2 měsíci

    Trust your intuition.

  • @lenadiveeva586
    @lenadiveeva586 Před rokem +4

    Can I ask how specifically emdr works with narcissism?
    Did you work with trauma from childhood or used emdr for specific narcissistic strategies in adult life?

  • @fightswithspirits915
    @fightswithspirits915 Před rokem +1

    My car key fell off the keychain when I visited her. I saw it laying on the floor. I as like, "Ah, my key." She responds she saw it there but didn't know who it belonged to as her way of not picking it up and giving it to me. Very bad cover story. One never knows if she was just messing with my head or was actually concerned some other man dropped his key. Both could very well be true. And both could have been true at that moment.

  • @cherdangelo2993
    @cherdangelo2993 Před 8 měsíci

    My sentiments exactly..the bastard doesnt even include me on his priority list anymore. Every damn word is a lie

  • @joumanakaram8075
    @joumanakaram8075 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Don’t bother with people like that. Value and luv yrself and move forward. We live one time and when we go,no second chance. Don’t waist yr time on rubbish

  • @sophialewis5474
    @sophialewis5474 Před 9 měsíci

    .....but of course!

  • @chilo597
    @chilo597 Před 4 měsíci +1

    True what you say

  • @milana1599
    @milana1599 Před rokem +11

    I filed for divorce in June. I had many many many suspicions about him cheating including his ex straight up telling me that he did with her. He still denies any of it, tells me I am crazy. Whenever it was brought up, he’d get very angry and tell me he couldn’t be with someone who didn’t trust him. I never could prove it. But what do you all think?

    • @zbgb4339
      @zbgb4339 Před rokem +8

      Him saying you are crazy is toxic and gaslighting as it is simply your reality, a concern that you have, that he is not willing to address and have a heart to heart about. If he cared he would sit down with you and you would have a calm , cordial discussion that would ease your worries. Instead he just shifts the situation on to you as if you are to blame for having concerns about the relationship making you question your reality and your feelings which leaves you feeling less loved and considered. Him getting angry could be narcissistic rage as well. If that anger is an immediate reaction to your concern, it is possible he is guilty and is taking the control of the conversation with aggression in order to avoid questioning. Even if he did not cheat, your relationship is not sustainable when you can't effectively communicate with each other on difficult topics like that. You wouldn't have trust issues if the marriage was healthy.

    • @katvond6346
      @katvond6346 Před rokem +6

      The angrier his respons the more prove for you.Stay strong!

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    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před rokem +6

      Stay strong. Keep up with the divorce and get free.

    • @milana1599
      @milana1599 Před rokem +2

      @@RawMotivations thank you!

  • @laurahell
    @laurahell Před rokem +1

    ex-narc committed all of them

  • @SuperPrDude
    @SuperPrDude Před 7 měsíci +2

    New subscriber here...
    Thanks for the help.
    Question - If a narcissist is almost caught cheating, do they try to move to another state or country?

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Před 7 měsíci

      Here's a video I made a while back czcams.com/video/IdYQMvim-C4/video.htmlsi=8dBkTrhRkksBg87X

    • @SuperPrDude
      @SuperPrDude Před 7 měsíci

      @@RawMotivations
      Thanks a lot.

  • @annettedevries7559
    @annettedevries7559 Před rokem +3

    My ex.n cheated my all 5 of them..

  • @montoyajj
    @montoyajj Před 11 měsíci

    Hows it going you touch on how you cheated and confessed the first time then continued to cheat after, what characteristics would be there to know the cheating is continuing?

  • @mcmel3519
    @mcmel3519 Před rokem +3

    But, why cheat or lie if say you're open and don't mind the multiple relationships or group-ship? Is it the thrill of the secret, having something over the other, having an out from either or, or the ruse or amusement.....?
    Please
    Answer...

  • @ME_2023D
    @ME_2023D Před 4 měsíci

    @rawmotivation how did you come to aware about your situation

  • @thomashenshallhydraxis
    @thomashenshallhydraxis Před 9 měsíci +2

    Men have to have work love to even attract women. 😂
    I experienced all this with my xwife