"GOLD DIGGER" IN THE PHILIPPINE. WHAT DO YOU THINK!
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- Philippine girl friend Does she love him or just his Money. Should he break it off and Move on with his Life. He traveled 8,000 mikes to meet his Filipina girlfriend and she is ashamed of him. Did he spend enough on her and her family to make her happy or did he just embarrass her in front of her family and friends. Bring Gifts to your Filipina girlfriend and her family. Did you spend to much or not enough?. @mikesphilippineretirement @DumagueteRentals love and money, genuine love, financial interest, relationship advice, red flags in relationships, true love, relationship dynamics, love tips, relationship experts, real-life stories #philippines #moneymatters #retirement
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Being old and lonely is not an excuse for being stupid
@jayo.6232 We all live and learn from our mistakes, hopefully.
Chronic Stupidity is a disease, and incurable.
He was too gullible, the girl reeled him in and caught a sucker...
Fooled once shame on her. Fooled twice shame on him.
@jayo.6232 He had 4 years to learn something... he chose not to!
Geez...........the more I hear these types of stories, the more I love my dog.
We have 3 dogs
@@mikesphilippineretirement3 dogs is an insurance policy 😊
Funny you!
Plenty of good Filipinas who are truly loyal.
Big time...!
Supporting someone you’ve never met and spent time with in person like that is never a good thing to do but men keep doing it
It is an on going story that has no ending
Being lonely can make people do strange things…..he just wanted to change his life…just picked the worst way of doing it…
Story is older than time it self….
@@egovorch The worst way to start a relationship is to lead with your wallet, especially one where you've never met in person
Everyone thinks it’s not going to happen to them. Too many simps fall for these scams. It happens every where. Colombia, Thailand, etc. Same game different country
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Lolol Good comment 😂
Get on your bike Mike!😊
I know that song
50 ways to leave your lover! Paul Simon was a smart man 😆🤣😆
And say goodbye Mrs Robinson (or whatever her name is) and start giving her the sounds of silence as you cross that bridge over troubled waters and head homeward bound.😂
If you wake-up at 3am, and your girl is going thru your pockets, "There's your sign".
has that happened to you?
This lazy girl had him go through his pockets for her! ;
@@mikesphilippineretirement, Once! Took her and her belongings to her parents house the same day.
#1 Mistake sending money to a Filipina before spending time together in person. Even after spending time together you need to limit how much you give. You can tell them you are more than willing to help in certain situations but only after you get married..
thanks for sharing Scott
It’s hard to feel sorry for him, but I do. This girl wasn’t flying red flags. She was sounding air sirens.
yes she was
If she always calls you handsome, she's a gold digger! They do that so they don't mess up and call you the wrong name. This dude was probably just one of several sending her money.
we do not know that
I have a pic I send to girls to see. If they call that pic handsome I know she is looking for money.
Wait, you mean I'm not? 8
The fridge and stove weren't purchased I am willing to bet, so no tour of the house was on the agenda.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
Ha, there were probably 3 refs, 4 big flat-screen TVs, 4 AC's and 3 healthy carabaos in the back yard! She didn't want him to see it all! 🤣
I came over 15 years ago and yes I brought with me gifts for the parents and her sisters only. Sure, i brought a bunch of candy to pass out. Nothing to big. I brought a few bottles of booze and some coffee for my mother in law. I didn’t consider the small gifts I brought as being excessive. As well i brought several towels and slippers for everything. I was happy to do this and they all where very appreciative of my gesture. I was informed prior to coming that this was the custom here. I never felt used at all. Keep the gifts simple.
Wow! He's lucky that she showed her true colors so early! I wish him luck finding a good Filipina.
He is lucky
Bro 10 years sending a girl money!!! I'm a "nice" guy too but there is a line between "nice" and STUPID.
no 10 years Started in 2020
Oh just dumb then haha @@mikesphilippineretirement
Man. I'm only 7 minutes into this video and I just can't watch anymore. Wow.
come on you need to watch the whole video
On my first visit, I just brought the family about $40 worth of chocolate candy. They all loved it and were very appreciative.
candy works
You should always bring "token" gifts for the family.
It's called pasalubong.
It's a tradition here.
Now, she was clearly abusing him. It started when she asked him for a necklace.
Jessa has never asked me to bring anything specific other than a few big bottles of tressame shampoo and that was after a long way into our relationship.
We met in manila when I was there visiting my uncle and she was working in his office.
After a year of ldr we went to her province to meet her family.
First thing her mother done was greet me with a hug and welcome me. Then she kicked off when she found out I was staying in a hotel.
"You are our guest. Our guests stay in our house, not in a hotel.
Then just like you said I was put sitting at the table and fed.
"You eat now na"
I said "no. Its not my table. I will wait for everyone else to sit"
If you are shown such respect...... show it back!
Thank you for sharing that
Loneliness is a powerful feeling! It sometimes gets to a point that people do things like he did here. He was in love with her and wanted to beleive they had a future together.
Hopefully he will heal and learn from this painful experience and try again. Try/fail, try/succeed. Best wishes to him and may this be a good lesson for everyone else that may be tempted to go down a similar path.
You dont have futures with someone that could be the age of your daughter ..It is fantasy and all they want is for you to spend money on them ..Men grow up and get smart
There’s a sucker born every minute - PT Barnum
he said that? Really
This guy has no one to blame but himself. He had no idea that she was like that before he came to the Philippines? After months and months of communication (texts, chats, messenger, FaceTime, etc…) he had no clue? Once she threw the necklace back at him, didn’t he consider walking away then? What she did was absolutely wrong, but he LET her do it. Meeting/picking your life partner is probably the most important thing that a person will do in their entire life. More important than your career or buying a house or buying a car. People can spend years planning those things out, but then they get taken by the first girl that they meet because they didn’t do their due diligence. Hopefully he learned his lesson.
thanks for sharing
I think this may have played out exactly as she wanted. She got a $3K diamond ring and never had to sleep with him. She knew that if she was incredibly rude to him, he would eventually leave her alone.
maybe the plan we will never know
It was a quick takedown without any long-term intentions.
@@mikesphilippineretirementshe is a user. hope karma gets to her
@@garyzies3486 I bet she is out fishing again! Hook them ,
Reel them in. Take what she can get and move on. It just may not work out as well next time. I was thinking I would have them load up the van, step way and watch it go!
so true ...never let them meet you at the airport. she was playing him like a fine tuned violin.
maybe but he did really like her
Maybe?? Come on Mike 😆 who cares how much he likes her, she’s obviously all about what she can get and doesn’t care about him at all
@@Gurkha9 I bet it wasn't her first meeting with an aging foreigner.
@@garyzies3486 Absolutely
This will continue to increase as we keep simping and just giving away our hard earned money. I understand we want companionship but at what cost? These women are using us,not all,. Find a lady not asking for money in some way. And they ask in many,many different ways. Stop giving away your money or this behavior will continue. She and her family and or BF are laughing at us.
Thanks for the comment Alex
Social media has enabled them. Many gals have several suckers on stand-by. Yes, they are laughing at us!
This sounds a lot like my first experience meeting a Filipina back in the day. Lesson learned in a hurry... 😐
learn and move on
He gets off cheap. He finds out what she is really like along with what the family expects before he gets married. Not a very good start to any relationship that is built on money and gifts. There are lots of good Filipinas who would be more respectful. Learn, move on.
lots of good Filipinas who would be more respectful. I agree
Lot's of great info Mike!....The longer I was listening to the story you were relaying, the deeper I was sinking into the chair.....I feel so bad for that guy....He was a nice guy, who was just lonely and wanted to meet someone.....For all those that are going to read this, imagine being that guy and that stark reality hits that you are just being used and they just see you as a GIANT ATM.....there would be no worse feeling than that in the moment.....
hope you did not fall asleep during the video. Hahaha Thanks for watching and sharing
Mike you are so wonderful of a communicator and knowing how loneliness feels and how the mind plays tricks on you. You’re a master communicator. I only bring chocolate and I’ve always been appreciated for that. Or always felt treasured with every Filipina. They have never asked for anything. I never use online. There are so many Filipinas to select from when someone is here. For me it’s way to risky to introduce being seduced with online dating. There’s no need to. Every where I’ve gone I always meet Filipinas if that’s what I want and sometimes I just want my own company which I truly enjoy. Great content and helpful to many men
Thank you Koufax
Fridge and stove for parents? Maybe now you understand why she didn't take him inside. 😮
I know why
what is 6 inches long, 2 inches wide and every woman wants it, MONEY!
A 100 dollar bill
I think someone is pulling your leg, no one is that naive
No not necessarily. I've heard worse 😄😄😄
Me too.
Heard much worse!
It takes all kinds. The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
@@Maputi_na_Kalabawtruth 💯
Sounds like this guy didn't watch enough of Mike's channel & take his advice.
This is what you can expect when you try to buy a relationship. These relationships between wealthy American men and poor Filipino women young enough to be their daughters exist only because of economic inequality
Thanks for sharing
I have walked away from women like this, and didn't say a word. As she see me getting into my car.
Next, my phone didn't stop ringing.
I never listen to voice mails, they can text. Reading the text, few would say sorry. I never l👀ked back to NEVER return their call. The beginning of the end. I ended it before it ever goes to worse.
If You know what You want in Your life for the rest of Your life, You will never settle.
your in the Philippines you get into your car a drive away. Hahaha
This woman is a player! She doesn't want all of her other boyfriends to know she's spending time with this guy. That's probably why she wouldn't introduce him to her parents; so she wouldn't have to explain her behavior. Any serious woman would be announcing to the world that she had her guy!
she did introduce him to the family just did not take him into the house
Thanks Mike! Could not have said it better.
@josephkumnick7696 thank you
I feel bad for this guy but he holds responsibility for allowing himself to be used like this. Common sense goes a long way.
thank you @Geoduck
The guy lacked confidence in himself. He didn’t owe her and her family anything. Too nice, too kind. Lacking social skills to be aware of such BS. Never put money out there ahead of your value. You are worth more than all the money in the world. She dug up his gold. She saw him as the goose with the golden eggs. She didn’t want silver. Dam, the water. He was the prize without having to spend a dime. She needs a visit from a priest.
Thanks for sharing
Exactly why I'd never do online relationship. I'll go there and while I'm there I'll find someone and date for awhile and see if it's going to work.
@gotruckyourself2976 thanks for sharing
My fiancé's family tried to serve me first. But I deferred to her parents.
I helped with the dishes after dinner.
Each time I visit her, I stay with her family. They are amazing, hard-working people.
I am privileged to be joining her family.
Thanks for sharing!
Great points brother Mike. Been there before with the daily problems. I ghost them
I found it hard to ghost someone but it is something that needs to be done from time to time
she was a professional. he got played.
at 40 did not think she was a pro
@@mikesphilippineretirement pffffffffffffff, you didnt listen intently to the story. right off the get go she brought half her family to meet him at airport. that served 2 purposes. family served as a barrier between him, and her. giant sh it test to see what he would tolerate; and he willingly tolerated. necklace, and you will pay my family 1,500, was also a huge sh it test. he failed everything. when u have no ability to say no, to any vajj,, you instantly loose the game.
@@lilfairycupcake her , her son and one of his cousins. total 3 people not even close to half the family. you should listen better b4 making your comments
@@mikesphilippineretirement my comprehension skills are right on the money. her son, her cousins, the milk man, the garbage man, the family dog, whoever; it should have been just her. nothing like willingly putting your head on the chopping block. and how did the story end? it would not have ended up like that for me, because it would have never started.
You are right I'm happy to hear that you have been explaining things which is very true
thank you
So true and facts 💯 👏 Wright on bro on your video, great information. I learned a long time in the Philippines. Since 2005 🇵🇭 🇨🇦
I was really lucky, as my fiance met me at the airport by herself and then wanted to spend 2 nights together alone before I met her family. She is from the province but has never asked me for money. She is grateful for everything I have done for her.
Every time I have sent her money for things, she sends me a receipt. I offered to buy her another ring for Christmas, but she did not want one because she said we could use the money for a future trip.
We have been together for over 2 years now, and our relationship is still amazing.
Good evening everyone thanks for the post mike hope you three are doing fine?
All good
@Charles-rd6ku
Great video! 🎉
Thank you!! 😁
Heres the way it should work. When I met my wife 45 years ago , we were 24 and 22 . she didn't care what I did for a living , the car I drove , or my bank account. she just wanted to be with me. I was average looking, but I was a hard worker and I was a gentleman and respectful of her family . she loved me for me , and that made me be a better man , a better husband , father and provider. 45 years later, we have 3 adult children , grand children, a nice house in California and a comfortable retired life . If God took my wife home to heaven , I would be ok to live the rest of my life alone unless God brought to me another person just like her , but although different too , But someone with the same traditional and Christian values . I will not settle for less. If I need a care taker, I will just hire a care taker. Getting into a relationship with someone who is out for financial gain is problematic.
Great for you but why are you watching videos about dating Filipinos?
@@alanaldpal950 my 37 year old son is having a tough time finding a long term relationship
@@alanaldpal950 my 37 year old son is having problems finding a LTR . I am encouraging him to try overseas :)
That’s terrible. Too nice of a guy. Be confident in your personal value.
he is a nice guy thanks
@MiamiTwicewrice
A Filipina will show you love like you’ve never experienced in the US. I was married for 13 years in the USA. On a 2 week vacation my Filipina GF showed me more love in more ways than my EX wife did in 13 years.
I know you don’t recommend meeting at the airport, but it is one of my best memories in life.
So happy it worked for you Mark
I have not met my girl yet but I am extremely confident of her moral character.
And I can't wait for our first meeting that will most likely be at a airport.
The main reason they want to meet at the airport is to seal the deal and make sure foreign men find another girl before meeting them.
@@markc7274 Correct!
@@markc7274 My then Filipina girlfriend LDR was terribly afraid of me meeting a girl at the airport and stealing me away from her...lol At 2 in the morning there were no other girls there besides those getting off the plane with me. That was in Cebu Mactan International.
So wise Mike! Thank you!🙏🙏👍
Thanks for listening
@rojawzciya
Good video, 👍🏻
thank you
Thanks for the advice Mike. So many pitfalls, so little time.
Glad to help
Do any expats stand up and say no or do they all just go along with it?
Didn't Roy watch any CZcams videos prior to coming to the PH?
I can't develop those feelings for anyone online there's no physical interaction.
When I meet someone online that I find attractive and I like their profile and interaction I can only take it so far and then I run out of things to talk about. I can't commit online because I know once I get off the plane I will be surrounded with many attractive options.
many say no...but hard to make a video from that. hahaha
@RayH- Agree, never developed any feelings for my then LDR before I met her in person. Was only hopeful that she would be acceptable to me and I to her. Not everyone falls in love online and shouldn't fall in love without meeting them in Person. Actually my wife said she was ready to give up looking online because she only could meet scammers and guys only interested in sex but her sister pushed her to keep looking.
Thank you for sharing this upsetting story.
Unfortunately some folks take advantage of lonely elder folks.
#1 Target is older people living alone for all scammers
older filipinas likes money just as much as younger filipinas does.. the age doesn't make a difference for the love of money & gifts..
That’s all women dear
thanks for the comment Rick
@@katemiller7874 yes exactly..
Not at all, there's always an exception,
Once again, my relationship with Christine is completely different than others! 😂🤣
And it's still great ❤️
I'm so fortunate that my Wife doesn't see me as an ATM!
your blessed Jerry
Good video
Glad you enjoyed
People have been posting CZcams videos about what can happen to foreigners in the Philippines for at least 15 years.
They have been posting this content on the internet for at least 25 years.
So even someone who is 75 years old was at least 50 and old enough to have learned how to use the internet.
Lots of men probably watch all these videos or go to the websites... and they still make these mistakes...
Men. Hear me. Just wait until you land in the Philippines to start looking for a girlfriend. And don't contract one-iitis.
We don't always agree, but your videos are still good and informative. Keep up the good work sir.
He didn't have any boundaries she knew this and exploited accordingly. Can't blame her!!!
We bring her family chocolates. They haven't asked for money. He did the right thing in the end and should never contact her again. There are plenty of Filipinas who would love to have that man.
We agree
@gesto70
West meets East....It's a new generation now. Social media has enabled many, culture and traditions are changing, expect the unexpected and be careful what you wish for! Never burn your bridges and always have a backup plan.
Filipino's are the most caring and giving of any Country. They will invite you to their home and share what little they may have.
So many online dating horror stories. It's just much safer and easier to meet a Filipina in person after you arrive here in the Philippines.
Don't fall into the "Send Money" Dating Trap. Just arrive and meet people in your everyday travels.
most are great families and good people
Poll: I wonder how many men's lives Mike has saved with this video. I'm raising my hand. Sheesh, now I'm going to be having nightmares. It is going to be a two-Ambien night.
Many men, I am sure.
Don’t send money before meeting. Even after, set a cap and that’s it before marriage / moving to the United States. Keep in mind all the costs of food, hotel, grab, activities are on you during the trip. No to extravagant engagement rings…go to a local shop and get one 250-500usd. This is enough for a modest gold solitaire diamond ring. This will be huge for a woman there. American women have been told what to expect due to commercials and friends showing off huge rocks…with guys going into large amounts of debt compromising the couple’s future. You can upgrade later. The reality is coming to the Philippines is such a big step, financially and otherwise, that should count towards something.
Do not expect or ask her to pay half on anything. Make it clear about family and friends…pay for a dinner but no to hotel / Airbnb….
@aboveitall9600 thanks for sharing
Lesson learned here is before you guys go to Philippines please talk to this blogger folks from dumaguete I am Fil American from California and these guys are trusted people
Hi Mike, Online dating is crap, i tried it just before arrival. Im in Cebu, .met a filipina at her work, had great date last night. I tried arriving in Manila and saying im here shortly after the conversation started, they back off. 90% are just after money. It's ok to be a willing participant if you're happy to part with cash, but why treat ourselves with disrespect?
disrespect correct you should not have to put up with that
Don't feel bad ROY, I know old men that bought his GF a house,
who was that? let hear the whole story
there's no story the old man got scammed,
I wouldn't have been set up in such a way myself. But the minute she threw a necklace, I would've grabbed my stuff and left PERMANENTLY.
I have been blessed by my wife and her family. There is certainly more good than bad, though. But be wise, if they ask for money right away. Red flag!
far more good than bad
I agree. I would not have said another word. I would have just left
Agree Sinfulz, the necklace thing was unbelievable
Brought some gummies vitamins to them for passalubong, they ate them all in a week like they were candy! Won't do that again!!
Oh noo they probably didn’t understand what they were. Oh well they’ll be healthy
Confusing a 'good heart' with feeling bad for a homeless person and giving them money might not be a good comparison. You can be a good person and not give money to a homeless person, you might volunteer your time or give money to a charity. Some people don't understand that 'giving money' does not equate being a good person, this is the reason some are taken advantage of financially because they get pressured to give more than they should.
Exactly.
Men can get company in the East in so many imaginative ways. Just throwing money around achieves nothing. Some Asian young women prefer older men. Some also want a decent place to live. Some like travelling to see other countries. Some are students and want a place to live, study and feel safe while at university etc.
a lot of Asian ladies like older men
Wow. My former Filipina wife and her family was not like this at all.
My current Filipina wife and her family is not like this either. She has never asked me for anything.
I have not met any people in the Philippines or Filipino's in the USA or Canada over the last 20 years that are like this either. Not saying there are not many, I guess I made better choices. lol
I have met many women in the USA and Canada like this though! I always said goodbye at the start. (even left a couple at the table in a restaurant to fend for themselves) HA!
100% Agreement Mike. I believe I would have left them at the resort let them find their own way home
Boy this is a tough one! No matter how much it's talked about their somebody to get stuck because the heart just takes over and most of us older guys who have to admit there are times that we think with the wrong HEAD! HAHA God Bless you all
@Charles-rd6ku yes you can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink
I gave my Filipina's parents a photo frame with a photo of each of us collated from photos we had shared online, along with some small souvenirs from my home city for the 3 other family members in the house she lived. Plus a cute fluffy local animal look alike for my gf - but I think she misunderstood that as a gift 😅
Thanks for sharing!! small gifts from your home country good idea
This happens so much in S.E. Asia.
Hello Mike, I have had a few Filipinas try to make Me feel bad because I wouldn't send Them any money. It didn't work on Me. I have known My Fiancée for over 8 years. We are engaged now. I will be going back to the Philippines in June for My third trip since We got engaged. She is very tight with money and won't even buy a new cell phone when I offer to buy it. But We enjoy visiting different Islands together. This trip We will travel from Cebu to Mindanao. Dumaguete to Siquijor Island and then back to Mindanao. I tell everyone to take Your time getting to know any Lady. Take care.
❤
Mike, you are proving the point of never sending money to someone who you have not met in person and you have not spent time with, unless you do not care about the money.
This happens often to alot of insecure men..desperation,is the culprit women sniff it out ,then its a all out manipulation,if you want know if she cares look directly in her eyes .YOU'LL KNOW!
boots on the ground
You are 100% correct!! He should have left her when she rejected the necklace.
Roy was an atm that got played like a fiddle. Their first time meeting and he had a ring already?
yes he had a ring and wanted to marry her
Im also shocked he followed through with his plan to give her the ring. By his own account the scene was breaking down the minute he arrived.
yes so was I
Excellent video and advice, Mike. Roy really badly got Used and Scammed; he should never have sent her a cent. (Nor told her the date of his arrival; so he could have got rested first).
Hopefully the other 75% of PH girls are not scammers and users like that 40 year old assertive "professional". Ghost her forever, Roy!
Good morning Mike.
Hello
@user-fv5pz7ur1j
Sad! But at least he figured it out before he married her. What a terrible life that would’ve been.
@51dbail
we agree
Good video today, its easy to criticise the guy in the story today but we all can get caught up in this kind of deceit and abuse, as you keep saying boots on the ground first. Get to know the place, that is the best way to get to know the Philippines then find the girl or meet up with one. i cant wait till I retire and move to Mactan, i have a house and family there but still working in the UK preparing for the day I can enjoy the Philippines
I hope others learn from the story Scot
Better to go over there and meet someone rather than meet online.
I agree. But many men have found good wife's on line
@@mikesphilippineretirement yes it is possible but I still think it is better to meet them over there. You would have a better chance if one doesn’t work out you might meet another or at least have a better chance of meeting another..
you can learn a lot about her 6 -12 months on a webcam like is she worth spending thousand to meet her in person this guy did not know her long enough on line to see redflags if he never met her until he got their it would have been worse
@vgshwk Wouldn't have never gone to the Philippines if I had not met my LDR online. Its very expensive to fly to the Philippines and "hope" you meet the one to marry. Was specifically looking for a woman online to bring back to the US on a K1 visa, like a lot of folks do, and to marry her. My wife was actually on vacation to the Philippines for the summer because she was an OFW in UAE (where dating sites are not allowed, at least to talk to women from other countries). So its not always feasible for peeps to go to the Philippines to meet someone, especially if you are in your late 40's with no plan to retire soon.
@@jsully4064 a lot more expensive to bring a lady over on a k1 visa marry her and hope she doesn’t divorce you and take you to the cleaners.
Pasa Lobo, did bring some chocolates (M+Ms w/peanuts) for the kids and remember bringing some other stuff for the family when first visited there. Thats expected when travelling and arriving back in the Philippines after a long time. So make sure to bring something for everyone, even if its not expensive the first time you go there. You may get invited to the familys house to stay for your trip, just remember to offer to pay for your food travel and electric, its not free to them and you are saving a lot by not staying in a hotel. Its true the family there will respect you, and your girlfriend will be proud of you, just be respectful in front of her parents.
Remember that one of the cousins came by and was begging for money for medicine and my then girlfriend said no no no and told him that he just wanted the money for alcohol...lol Am sure he wasn't embarrassed but it was funny to me at the time.
Definitely feel sorry for Roy, but feel you have made some good points about giving money to an LDR before you have met them.
Good video, Mike...Jim
Het Jim M&M's are great
At 6:26, An engagement ring, a wedding ring, and then suffer/ring.
I am in Bacolod, had a similar experience, whole family scammed me, she told me before I arrived she had no kids, boom she had 6 kids, I was out, ran for my life.
People can read other people, and she must of known from her online chats with him, she could get away with this stuff. I wouldn't call her a gold digger, I would call her an ass hole. But she screwed herself in the end. Wonder if she will try this with another guy. When my wife first moved in with me, she would do stuff like walk behind me in the mall, so she wasn't next to me. No matter how slow I would walk, she would walk slower. She was 19 and good looking, I was 53, fat and bald. She also stole $500 in Thai money I had hidden away, in the first year we lived together. At first I thought maybe some guest stole it, but later I realized that it would be very unlikely that a guest would find it where I had it hidden. Mike did you change apartments? Before you had a big living room with a piano.
Thanks for sharing
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Wow,so sad.
yes it could be but just prepare
Man, this was hard to watch. Trust your instinct and never give out money like that. Plain ridiculous what did he expect?
Yeah, and they leave their relatives high and dry while throwing $$ at strangers.
Regardless, Roy should have known better. It’s your money, it’s your responsibility. It’s good he reached out for advice and had the emotional discipline to follow it. Too bad it cost him quite a bit. Hoping it didn’t hurt him too much. Do the world a favor and release the name and pic of the Filipina.
OMFG, I would have turned around and went home so many different times in this story. I get it, he's 8 thousand miles from home, but at least go back to a hotel room and do some reflecting.
He should have at least KEPT the ring (not given it to her). Query: Mike, didn't you say the family sent him pics of the fridge, etc. they wanted him to pay for? Bet those things were NOT in the house, hence why he was not invited in. What a bunch of snakes.
Well, count his blessings, and dollars, at least in the end he ghosted her?
I have a house in San Diego also but it's not paid off. But I do have a lot of equity.
Yes the cost of housing in San Diego is very high
I was in a good position to take advantage of the housing bust in 2010.
@@lavonyoung2366 2012 here, best thing I ever did was waiting for the bottom of the housing market, besides marrying my Filipina of course ; )
Spot the idiot! Long-distance relationships, especially those initiated online, should always be red-flagged. I have met a few Westerners over here who are truly being suckered - much older guys with very young women. I met my wife in person in HK. We had a child together. She has kids from a previous relationship, as do I. We lived in HK for 3 years together before we relocated to the Philippines. We own property, we have a business and a decent income. Of course she loves my money, because it gives her a better life, and social status, better than she could have ever hoped for before she met me, but she didn't know I had money until we moved. She knew I was doing ok, but not 'how' ok until we came here. She is 12 years younger than I am. We don't give handouts to the family, although some were fishing. They soon got sidelined. Instead we employ some family members and take care of the kids' education as a view to their futures.
I was waiting to hear how much he spent on that trip.
Hmmm not sure of the total
He's lucky that it only cost him money. Just say sorry it's not what I want and I wish you the best. She'll be upset but only because she lost her ATM. Not every Filipina is good girl.
This is obviously just how much money can a girl get. Even if she is a super model you need to run.
run forest run
Mike, ghosting is when someone just disappears without saying anything. It generally shows poor character. Sending someone a quick message telling them that you feel they were insincere and he won’t be contacting them anymore is not ghosting.