@@SergioBicerra I was gonna speculate that Brother might just be the golden child and they would rather use daughters money on him, but apparently the brother isnt an asshole (just not very moneysavvy), so yeah im leaning more towards your idea now.
No matter if the parents must have access to a minor child's bank account, this might be "legal" but it is still utter theft! Sadly, many kids have THEIR money literally stolen by bad parents. And they wonder later when their now-adult child goes no contact with them! 🤨
@@lancerevell5979where is this even legal? Because I know my parents couldn't just take money out of my account even when I was a minor, they still needed me to be present at the bank as well
No no no. The OP in story 1 is trying to help from another child being bullied and feeling ashamed and holding a grudge against their parents for the name! I've witnessed it as a child and now as an adult. People and especially kids in school are BRUTAL!
Kids are basically adults with no social filter and sense of consequences. If their mind find something about you to laugh at, they will do it and make sure everyone knows about it.
@clevergray8754 a lot of countries have had to do that. A couple in New Zealand named their daughter "Talulu Does The Hula From Hawaii". She had actually went under court guardianship so that she can change her name. This is from one of the articles: In his written ruling, he said names such as Stallion, Yeah Detroit, Fish and Chips, Twisty Poi, Keenan Got Lucy and Sex Fruit were prohibited by registration officials. Others that were permitted included twins called Benson and Hedges, other children called Midnight Chardonnay, Number 16 Bus Shelter and, the judge added, "tragically, Violence". Another mother tried to use text language for her child's name, he said.
story 2 : ONLY 3.5/5 POINTS?! i will give them 5/5, they knew they can pay it, they knew the brother didnt have a job to pay it, they still did it and then they stole ALL OF her money that SHE earned when they could have paided it off with their own money?! nuh thats 5/5 points here. its finencial abuse of the worse degree. they are horrible parents.
@@julespellegrini9926 Giulia is the Italian spelling. I think it's a remnant of the Genoese (attempt at) domination of the island. And if I recall correctly, Italy's name laws come from Revolutionary France.
"Unique" spellings are how you can tell the parents are expecting a doll, not a person. People have educational, social, employment, and other interactions where how they are introduced matters. Dolls do not.
Exactly, if you want to make a name unique there's ways to do it without being stupid. I think if you want to change the lettering slightly, as long as it still looks right, that's not too terrible. The only issue with that is eventually will have someone say a name, and we'll have multiple different spellings of it, and never know which one is right. The other option is to have a hyphenated name or dual first name, or call them by their first and middle name. It allows for a little more variety, without stupidity.
@@Shadowgod1000I have a hyphenated name, and I would not suggest it. Most people just ask you what you like to be called cause they're worried about offending you. It gets quite tedious. I would just suggest people look to history and mythology if they want names that are normal but not popular.
My mom gave me a rare name that have different variations. The one she chose makes it more rare. OP’s friend is just mean adding 16 more letters unnecessarily
Yeah, another way to make it special is just to use the writing in another language. Juliet in this example, is written "Juliette" in French. Not that complicated to make it special.
My partner has a not very common spelling of a common name, but at least when reading it you get what the name is, I would never have Juliet from that name, never. I would have assumed it was a name from a completely different language.
Story 2: So they basically just didn't want to pay with their own money. As for the brother, it sounds like he's just dumb, not an actual sexist arsehole, just dumb. When OP turns 18, I hope she cuts off parental access so they won't try to take any more money from her income account
Yeah but huge respect for the brother for refusing to take OP's money tho. Idk even if he's that dumb, sounds like his parents were like "oh, go ahead, we can pay if needed, it's not a problem". Pretty much like getting a gift almost.
Yeah that was 100% pre-meditated. The fact that they CO-SIGNED the loan knowing the brother has no source of income is WILD. Basically they bought the brother a car and planned on stealing from OP to pay for it. I hope their relatives shun the parents for this
@@xLostInFirex Yeah, we don't really know why he bought a new car, neither the model. Maybe it was an expensive dumb purchase, or it was a small necessary one that he still isn't able to pay, so he asked for help from his parents that he knows (because it seems everyone in the family does) could cover up in case it turns for the worst.
@@Juju2927the parents co-signing sounds more like the parents offered to buy him a car and help with his credit score by having him on the loan as well
Dumb, like "never attribute to malice what can be explained by simple stupidity"? While, yeah, it might be so, the outcome does not care for its reason.
Story 1: don't think a CZcams video will change her mind sounds like she's incredibly stubborn, let's wait for the parents reddit post in a few years that's like "how do I stop my daughter changing her name"
When I turned 18, my dad started to charge me rent while I stayed at home. It was only 150 a month, and I still got to eat with the family. The only bill I had was for my phone line. When I turned 21, I was ready to move out, and had saved enough for a decent 1 bedroom apartment. I showed my parents, they thought it was a good choice, and paid my security deposit and 1st month rent. My dad had been saving the rent I had been paying, and between what I had left over from that, and what I had saved, I was able to get some decent furniture.
You see that's the right way to do it. I don't have kids but couldn't imagine using them to line my pockets. At least the way your dad did it it motivated you to budget.
I can see only two valid reasons someone should have their child (adult or not) pay rent - one is what your dad did (helping you learn how to budget money while still giving you access to said money rather than keeping it for himself) and the other is if the whole family is struggling to make ends meet, and that's a whole different conversation where you *ask* for help rather than expect it. No one should be making their child pay rent outside of those circumstances and I genuinely don't think I can be convinced otherwise.
"I know I sound like a dad when I say that." Bro, you ARE a dad! You're allowed to gush in the sweetest way possible about how impressive this young lady genuinely is. This is me being Shia LaBouf and screaming "DO IT!"
Presumably, by the time it gets to the point where a teacher is announcing the girl for attendance or she is being introduced to friends, someone would know how to pronounce her name
#2 Court cases have concluded before that even though the parent signed on the bank account of their children, when the parents never put significant money in or regularly used it they have no claim to the money in it
Story 3: Those parents completely needlessly torpedoed their relationship with their most responsible child. They better hope they don't need old age care because I don't think the son will have that kind of money.
2nd story: I don't understand why the uncle told her there's nothing she can do. Since he's a banker and closer to the situation, I'll assume he's right, insofar as she wouldn't be allowed to close the account or remove her parents from it; she may even be barred from withdrawing the funds. That doesn't mean there's *nothing* she can do. First, she needs to stop adding to the account. Get a trusted adult to help her set up a Chime account or something. Then she needs to look into getting emancipated so that she can get her "parents" off the account. If she waits til she's 18, they'll have found some excuse or another to drain the fund.
Story 4: Yeah, OP never actually told Lily to break up, just told Lily to worry about herself first. Honestly, it sounds like the son just wants to live off of Lily's money and make no contributions to the relationship.
To be fair, they just graduated high school. That change is pretty rough, especially if you don't feel like you know what you want to do. All that partying and video games could be him masking a depressive episode
I don't agree. I think there's more to this story. Many kids don't have any clue what to do after working basically full time through teenagehood, and then graduate and essentially lose purpose if they haven't thought about what to do afterwards. He could also be struggling with mental health, there are a ton of potentials here. My question is, was there any communication at all with her son? Did Lily talk to him? Did his mom talk to him? Or was there simply no communication? Lily has every right to break up with him, but depending on the circumstances, what his mom did could have been really messed up.
@@jbrennan381his mom didn't do anything. Lily literally asked her what she would do in her situation and the mom gave the most generic ass answer in the history of the world that even plants follow, think and act for yourself.
@@jbrennan381 right? Mom needs to talk to her son about seeking help or a part time or something. They're really just allowing him to rot away at home. Just because they're 18 doesn't mean they stop being your responsibility, especially with him still living at home.
I moved out at 23. My mom absolutely lost her shit when I decided this. She would cry, beg me to stay, promise to not charge me rent, the works. I was paying $400 a month for my room/internet access, while my brother lived rent free and got access to a whole private storage room. My dad would scream at me about using the kitchen whenever I was home. So yeah, I’m with OP on this one. Parents shouldn’t be scolding their kids for moving out
I felt OP being charged to live with their parents. I was paying $450 to $500 to share a room with my younger brother. Some parents just don’t love us.
@@It-is-me...Melsie Exactly. We see that story time and time again. Someone gets all offended that their parent charges them rent, decides to move out only to discover the worst dump imaginable costs twice as much and has a landlord with zero patience for their crap.
As a black woman that has heard some of the most of the dumbest and misguided names given to black kids, I will say that you're absolutely right!! My sister is a Pre K teacher and was once had a kid with 14 letters inher first name alone!!
When I discovered my parents were financially abusive, I started telling them I was broke. ANY time they asked, even for something small like milk, I told them I was broke. They also didn't have access to my bank account. It irritated them a lot because I think they knew I was lying sometimes but I didn't want to risk losing it so no matter what, I'm broke, mom!
Story 3: I feel like the parents were going to use their money to pay off OP's brother, but then pocket OP's money so they technically get no loss of money on their end.
people really need to understand that their children are not dolls or pets, they're human beings who are going to have to live with that name their entire life or at least until they can get it changed, which isn't an easy thing to do depending on where you live.
My money, his car story: they planned this so they could force her out of what she wanted and jnto whatever they want for her, probably to be an uneducated slave to some abusive husband. She needs to take her money out and hide it.
Story3 Speaking from a mother's perspective, I don't understand charging a child rent. I get shared expenses if needed but not straight-up rent and certainly not that amount. Our kids lived at home to varying ages depending on their individual situations. One stayed until he married at age 24, one was in and out for a bit while he found his footing, etc. They all had jobs and paid their own bills, and I still did all my mom stuff. (My house, I get to keep my mom status within my walls. Don't judge me!!)
Sharing utilities is a good way to have a "Rent" to at least make the child responsible if he can't allow himself to leave the nest for financial reasons. I was at my parent's place 'till 21, and my "rent" was just a share to pay for the family Internet, streaming services, meals... but I payed for my own gas, snacks, phone bill and whatever was my personal belonging.
I understand when parents keep it low and set that money aside for the kid to use when they get their first apartment, but the parents who charge as much as an actual apartment while also treating them like a child and not giving them space & privacy are just selfish and controlling.
@@LilChuunosuke Yeah, like a story I heard awhile back that let the OP's nephew stay in their room while they were gone and leave it dirty with crumbs all over the place.
Before I became a mother back in 2003, I didn't realise how much kids like to find their names on mugs and pens. My son is Alexander - my husband and I always call him Xander but at school and to his friends he's Alex, his decision, he decided he preferred being Alex when he was about 6. (He's nearly 17 now, I asked ages ago if he'd like his family to call him Alex too, but he prefers to be Xander to us) My daughters are Johanna and Gloria - and those are tricky to find on mugs in the UK, although "Jo" is easy enough to find. Fortunately we go to Spain a lot, and things with Johanna and Gloria are easy enough to track down there. In fact, there are little "Gloria" cakes in supermarkets there which made my youngest daughter very happy. Moral of the tale, unique names are great, but kids might not thank you for giving you unusual names that stand out. It's the parent who wants to stand out, the kid more often than not finds it embarrassing. If you want to give them an "interesting" name, please make it one that can be shortened to something simple if the child chooses later on.
@@asmith8692 I think it's just luck whether you love your unique name or not. I went by my middle name, Morag, when I was younger because I preferred to be unusual. I'm also sometimes known by the Welsh translation of my name - Heather - which is Grug - pronounced Greeg. Again, I liked being unusual. I think Relva is a lovely name. Then again, it depends what constitutes "unusual" too. What was common in 1900 would seem odd today.
My name is Valerie and my brother's name is Bill. I *do* like my name, but I remember being a little kid and always rushing over to the displays with the keychains or mugs or whatever with the names on them. Always found my brother's name and my dad's name. Usually found my mom's name. Never once found my own. I remember my dad once left on a business trip for a few weeks and when he came back, he got my brother a keychain with his name on it and I just got one that said the name of the place he got it from or something like that because one with my name did not exist. Idk why but it bothered me a lot as a kid to the point i wanted a new name. I've grown to love my name over time.
You can get stuff like that customize here in the states but it cost more (probably for shipping). While my preferred name is not unique it is hard to find since it's a nickname of my legal name.
The "My Money" story... it IS amazing that a 15 yr old could have the self control to NOT spend money and save. But let's not forget that OP started saving at TEN YEARS OLD... thats even MORE impressive!
I don't have idiotic spellings of my names, but I have 4 of them. And since I'm mildly dyslexic, it's been more than an annoyance all my life. I really wish parents think of their children when naming them.
This one I have to defend some. My kids all have two middle names. I broke family naming tradition, so my olive branch was to make sure the second middle name was a family name. I always just used initials on paperwork, but now they're adults who use their full names and love to use their name uniqueness as an icebreaker fact about them. It also made it easy for them to know they were in trouble, I didn't break out the full name, I broke out only middle names. Now, on that note. Yes, parents think through the names first. My oldest has unfortunate initials because it wasn't well thought out. Her initials spell crap. I told her before she learned from schoolyard bullies and we kept the schoolyard bullies from ever finding out. Now we just laugh about it. No one can ever tell her that she won't amount to crap!😅
@@DeplorableMe83My parents were planning on giving me two middle names, a personal one and a family one, but they realised it would spell SLAP so they just stuck with SLP haha.
I have 5 names but they all have good reasons and I am happy to have them. But there were still times in my life where I was like “This would be *so much easier* if I just had one middle name…”
Eyy I also have 4 names, one for a family tradition one because my grandma died just before I was born. The thing is, my grandma specifically told my mother to name me after her, and she did it anyways as a middle name. My other grandma had the thing of "Say middle names and if I get to last name you're dead." Thing is, no one ever told me how to spell the first one so I've constantly had to look it up. It's rather frustrating, especially since they're both variations of Mary. So, we essentially got [First name] Mary Marie [Last name]
I taught for 35 years. Some names parents chose for their children were highly questionable. Every year some kid chose a “new” name for themselves. The kids so disliked their given names. One set of parents were angry that I used the kids name rather the name the parents name. They complained to my principal. The principal & did a work around. I called the student “Ms. Jones” rather than either of the first names. I explained to student as to the why
You need to call CPS these parents! If their delusions are grant enough to demand teachers to emotionally abuse their children, there is no way to say what they're doing to him in private... These people are nothing more than child abusers!
Story 1 - I am a school bus driver and let me tell you when I see names like that I cringe so hard inside and I can hear the other kids on the bus giving them grief over the name from time to time. I agree with what the high school teacher said and school staff most certainly judge the parents hard for that kind of thing.
Oh no... its like that story about the kid nearly being named something like Krystal, but some letters were replaced with X. Sheesh. OP, NTA. That kid's parents are INCREDIBLY delulu
Story 2. Rslash! Its even worse than the parents cosigning, knowing brother cannot pay and they cannot pay. They CAN pay. They have enough money to pay. They'd rather steal money from OP so she can't become a pilot (possibly so she'll remain financially dependent on them for longer) than use the money they have to pay for their mistake
Ghiuliyette looks like what the Githyanki from D&D/BG3 would call their Queen. How does a mom come up with a more complex name than a bunch of nerds inventing high fantasy settings
4:41 being a pilot is a young persons game. Theres no "you can wait until youre older" the line of applicants is long, and you have exponentially less of a chance each passing year passed 23. 15 is basically the time to start, as thats the age you can get a pilot's license in some states. Try Civil air patrol, or anything you can. For those who dont know, the reason im not a pilot is because the total fees and time and testing required (yes paper tests) is roughly the same as going to university anyway. Not to mention if you dont go commercial immediately, then 80% of your pay in the first 5 years of getting a license goes to insurance. Afterwards its roughly 15-20%. So you cant even make moneu for half a decade after getting your career started. So in terms of total cost, including garnished paychecks, physical simulations and practice, tough paper exams, time and money involved, it really isnt crazy to make it comparable to med school or law school. In some sense. Because youre kind of out 7 to 10 years in this. However military, CAP and other programs can provide a difference in and alleviate for a lot of these aspects, but its complicated.
1st story: That little girls teachers are going to ask her to spell her name, and then punish her when she does, if she even can! A full blown dyslexic would struggle to mess up a name THAT badly.
That makes no sense. At every school I ever went to (except year 11-12), we had roll call first thing, where the teacher called out names from a printout from the office, so they would know how screwed up the spelling is.
@@tommmorton6625 every school I ever heard of gave the teachers a list of names for each class they had so all they’d have to do to verify would be look at the list they should’ve looked at already anyway
Update on story 1: Update: Alright, I get it. I’m an asshole for going after the Name more than once. Sorry for that lmao. I just send her an apology text for doing it, yet I did write how she should try to look at it from another perspective. I also send a few screenshots of the comments just for her to see what other people think of it. FYI I’m supposed to be the godmother, which is why I was extra worried lmao my bad Update 2: Hello again. I’ve been asked if there are any updates and yes there are! So I’ve been talking with Loreen a lot (over text) and she’s slowly starting to notice her „mistake“. I apologized again and we are good again. We talked about the name and she told me that she won’t change it and really loves it, but is slowly understanding why it’s weird for others, especially me. Her husband on the other hand is still pretty mad at me. He thinks that I took it too far and that my apologies aren’t from the heart🤷♀️. I’ve been asked if I’m still the godmother and yes I am. There were thoughts of changing it, but now that we get along again, I’m back in the role. Back to the husband: he actually blocked me everywhere and is telling Loreen to do so too because he thinks that I’m manipulating and that I’m lying just so we can get close again. Doesn’t make sense. Idk. Well either way, it’s getting better with the relationship, just not with the name.
@@JamesDavy2009 I’d say a bit yes. Don’t worry, everyone, including teachers and government workers will also think k that when they learn his daughters name.
So I have a bit of personal experience with story 1 and the thing I learned is this is all about what mom wants and not at all with how their kids feel. I would know; i brought it up with my mom over my middle name which is already unique enough without her bastardizing the spelling to make it even more special. When I brought this up with my mom, she had the same freaking reaction as the friend. Why? Because we aren't our own umique individuals; we are an extension of our mom's and their egos. Their feelings are more important than our lived experience. It's this epiphany that I always keep in mind when it comes to my own child; I never want him to be made fun of for something I had control over, especially his name.
When would people understand? Kids are not pets, you can't name a kid like a that, that poor kid is going to get bullied badly for it and is going to hate that name and never use it.
The mother will realize how bad she messed up when her kid comes home in tears because no one spells or says her name correctly and that she is bullied to no end cause kids are brutal
Story 2: Absolutely the parents deserve 5/5. Parents treating one kid as a golden child (despite the golden one being more friendly with OP) while stealing money from the other kid to pay for the golden child is abuse. 3.5/5 is WAY too low, especially after you said everything on how scummy the parents are.
Story 1: There are actually studies about how kids with “eukneeghque” (thanks MrsShocoTaco) names fare in school, and it’s not good. She will never meet anyone who will be able to pronounce that letter salad they’ve saddled her with. Kids will be merciless. Those parents are numbskulls.
I was bullied for my name for my entite youth, I changed it as soon as I could and I carried so much resentment against my parents for so many years about it.
Juliet is going to get bullied to no end when her classmates find out how her parents spelled her name. I was bullied for my name a handful of times and mine is a normal one with a normal spelling.
omfg i remember my friend reading the first one out loud and said to guess how the name was pronounced. i somehow got it first try which only made me more upset about the name
Teachers r gonna bully that little girl. I'm in Cleveland. My niece and nephew have VERY Greek names. My niece has a name that is long, my nephew has a spelling for his name from a specific Greek island. They BOTH hear about from their elementary school teaches and substitutes
I can agree on story one, I had that same thing with my first baby. I wanted to give them a "unique name" but my ex mil made it very clear to me how much she would struggle with it especially when she would learn to write. So we ended up doing the easier more common way to spell their name 😊
In the last story:NTA, the OP only tell her to think about herself frist also, the son is like that for 2 year, him an Lily were dating for 3 years, if I had a girlfriend I would act different form the way I do now like give her attention when she need it, that is pretty easy to do, if you can't even do that, the relationship won't last.
Story 2: That's serious financial abuse. Those parents are both disgusting. I'd take any money left in that account and buy a safe instead, your money will be safer. I wonder if the brother became financially irresponsible because his parents taught him that anything he earns will just be taken away anyway. So who cares if you can't afford the car, you won't be able to keep it anyway. Especially with their name on it. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if their plan was to co-sign for it, make the daughter pay it off, and then steal it for themselves once it's paid off.
*First OP:* The name _sounds_ pretty, but the spelling is horrendous. Juliet (I refuse to spell it their way) will absolutely get flack for how her name's spelled. I've said it before, and I'll keep saying it: giving your kids horrible names (or in this case, horrible spellings) is second-hand child abu5e. OP is NTA. *Second OP:* I would've understood (but still wouldn't with) the parents' decision if they put their money into OP's fund, but it was _OP's own_ money! OP is NTA, and her parents need to pay back the money they stole from her. *Second OP UPDATE:* OP's parents could've paid off OP's brother's loan without OP's college fund?! That's even more messed up! Is it some control thing? At least OP's brother (and uncle) has her back. *Third OP:* $600 a month gor rent and utilities sounds like a steal. I read the replies under the post, and they talked about how entitled OP sounded for having to pay his own bills and do his own chores without having his mom waiting on him. I kind if believe him. I originally said OP is TA, but he's not wrong for wanting to move out. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* Technically, OP didn't tell Lily to break up with her son, so OP is NTA. I do hope the breakup becomes a wake-up call for OP's son to improve on himself. I wonder if something happened to OP's son internally or externally to get in this rut?
$600/mo for your own studio apartment with your own space sounds like a steal. $600/mo for only your own bedroom as your personal space doesn't. Then again, my mortgage is $1300 even though I built this house 4 years ago so ... we probably live in vastly different areas.
How is there nothing OP can do about the joint account? If their name is on it, they can clean it out and open one in only their name. Go get that money and hide it, kid!
I could be wrong but I believe a 15 year old cannot open an account in the US without a parent or guardian on the account as well. And she is not in the US, who knows what kind of messed up laws her country has. I mean they don't even have an air force.
@@wingracer1614 Possibly Mauritius, Grenada or Dominica. They are all nations without an air force, and are extremely conservative on the subject of child's rights.
@@moviemaestro800 Could be. I was thinking maybe Costa Rica. I mean even Haiti has an air force. Turkmenistan has an air force. The most broke and backward countries around have a couple old transports, a private jet for the supreme leader and an old huey from Vietnam laying around and call it an air force.
Story 2 is so wild because it sounds like even the brother is like "YO, WTF MOM AND DAD?" Part of me wonders if he knew his parents would have done this he would have never bought the car
The first story is a great example of parents who think that they are being smart or cute for being “unique”. My dad named my older sister and everyone hated her first name. She goes by her middle name and stills hates it and goes by “Jackie” since she’s could talk, a nickname that is now her everyday name.
First story : my first name is spelled “Elle” pronounced “Ellie” and EVERYONE - even other students - no matter how many times I’ve explained how it’s spelled STILL misspells it! And my name’s NOT that far off from its normal spelling
My daughters name is Elle. Pronounced like the magazine. And every single person has said ellie until I correct them 😂 I thought I was safe with such a simple name
Story 1: op has a very valid point. Even if it seems like it'd be slight bullying, it would be at her most vulnerable and emotional state. Her entire childhood she would feel like an outcast, someone who was less than everyone around her. Naming your children isn't like selecting a gamertag. There are consequences.
Side note for story 1 - they must really like Romeo and Juliet, because they want to give the first name (pronounced) "Juliet" and the middle name "Maria," the name of the Juliet stand in for West Side Story...
my mum changed her name to Jaclyn after my gran named her Jacolyn. Jaclyn is Welsh like their family, Jacqueline if french. My nan tried to be different and my mum was so fed up of it she changed it by the time she was 10
That’s significantly harder than you think it is. Army or marines? Sure that’s fairly simple but the AF is pretty much out of the question without some serious efforts
@YriKururuyou seriously overestimate how many soldiers actually die in combat or even see it. Military is a fantastic option for people in the USA and for people wanting to immigrate to the USA. It provides free career training, housing, food, healthcare, discipline, education, and financial stability. I of course know the military isn’t for everyone but it’s not evil like most people seem to believe it is. I would argue student loans and medical debt are worse
Sure, if your dream is cleaning toilets or guarding a silo. Actually getting into the Air Force academy is a different story: International students cannot apply directly to the Air Force Academy. They must apply through their government, usually their ministry of defense. Only a select number of countries can nominate students. The home country may also require a commitment to serve in the home country's military.
@YriKururuan non-US citizen may enlist in the US military, and receive expedited US Citizenship. I'm a Navy veteran, and I actually served with several immigrants who went that route to obtain citizenship. Enlisting in the US military also gives you access to the GI Bill, which pays tuition at the US university of your choosing. There are also a myriad of benefits, including free housing, medical care, and meals for the duration of your enlistment, which many migrants do not have when coming here.
Story 1, my parents picked a regular name and switched the O for a Y, and now as an adult people still can't spell the name. The worst was in elementary when parents who received a class list with names miss spelled it on valentines cards, Halloween treat bags, and anything. Even a teacher switched the I and Y in the name despite seeing how the name was written never learned to change it. If one letter is hard, that entire name is messed up,
Yup. She's NTA for wanting to put herself first, but the way that she went about it... Pretty bad. "Your mom suggested I break up with you, so I'm doing it. By text. Bye." xD I'm glad that she's putting herself first - but... maybe not *quite* so first that she chooses the worst way possible to do things?
Last story annoys me because dad saying “without Lily his rot will be worse” - their lazy son is not her responsibility. It’s not like he had any self motivation to begin with. If he’s dragging her down, she has every right to put herself rest.
As a person who processed birth certificates at the hospital for the county, more than once, when seeing how the parents spelled their kid’s names I may have influenced them to rethink their decisions. All it would take is verifying the spelling by reading it back to them. Sometimes they’d ask, how else would you spell it? I’d then give them a couple other options. Sometimes they’d rethink their decisions.
@toastycomfyghosty1891 I think he's still in China and doesn't realize the timing is off bc of daylight savings.. and sure he'll change it once he realizes or back in the country
Story 1 : "Original name" haver here. (It appears like once or twice in the Quran but looks like a mix between two more famous Muslim names.) Children are not dogs or bags. You cannot customize them this stupidly, because they'll most lilely outlive you. I'm now a teacher, and that stuff is becoming more and more common. We're individuals, not accessories. Story 2: Might be radical to say this, but this sounds like financial abuse and / or theft. If they take it without you knowing, that's a slam dunk case. And if your brother has no job, there should be NO reason whatsoever for the bank to allow that loan in the first place. Post update - These parents are absolutely horrendous. Kudos to OP for that working morale and diligence.
Story 2: NTA. They are awful, AWFUL parents. I can sorta understand if they on hard times, but they are not! They just want to use OP's money because they feel like it. OP's brother did make a bad financial decision, but at least he has the decency to say he'll refuse the money if their parents choose to use OP'S money, that's at least something.
Story 2: I was a flight instructor for years, and I can tell you that the OP of this story is going to be a hell of a pilot. That kind of discipline at 15 to save that much money! That is an excellent start to her aviation career! I have my fingers crossed her parents don't find a way to screw her out of it.
I'm 25 and disabled I live with my mom. My brother and Sister are my caregivers my sister bought a house 3 blocks away because she wasn't driving at the time so she got a place she could walk over to rather than possibly being late
My parents did basically the same thing as @7:00 they emptied my bank account, that only contained money I had been personally saving since childhood, to pay to turn one of our bedrooms into a third bathroom. Then later they took my personal share of our great grandmother's inheritance and bought a shiny upgraded lawnmower. That and many other reasons is why I haven't spoken to them in 15 years.
0:49 i don’t even think the child would be able to even spell her own first name and middle name when she gets older😭
They call her "Gillette"
@@felipemaciel3463like the razor 🪒?
Teachers nightmare
Those test that gives you minus points if you misspel your name gonna give her PTSD.
@@kaykay8855 yeah probably
Story 2 is WILD! She said pretty clearly she's been saving it herself. And the parents are horrible !
They don't need the money, I guess her parents don't want her to become a pilot.
@@SergioBicerra I was gonna speculate that Brother might just be the golden child and they would rather use daughters money on him, but apparently the brother isnt an asshole (just not very moneysavvy), so yeah im leaning more towards your idea now.
@@SergioBicerraDefinitely my thought.
No matter if the parents must have access to a minor child's bank account, this might be "legal" but it is still utter theft! Sadly, many kids have THEIR money literally stolen by bad parents. And they wonder later when their now-adult child goes no contact with them! 🤨
@@lancerevell5979where is this even legal?
Because I know my parents couldn't just take money out of my account even when I was a minor, they still needed me to be present at the bank as well
No no no. The OP in story 1 is trying to help from another child being bullied and feeling ashamed and holding a grudge against their parents for the name! I've witnessed it as a child and now as an adult. People and especially kids in school are BRUTAL!
Yeah especially middle school kids are absolutely ruthless
Kids are basically adults with no social filter and sense of consequences. If their mind find something about you to laugh at, they will do it and make sure everyone knows about it.
Kid will keep spelling her name all her life
Yeah! The government should make a list of approved "normal" names and parents should only be allowed to pick from that list.
@clevergray8754 a lot of countries have had to do that. A couple in New Zealand named their daughter "Talulu Does The Hula From Hawaii". She had actually went under court guardianship so that she can change her name.
This is from one of the articles:
In his written ruling, he said names such as Stallion, Yeah Detroit, Fish and Chips, Twisty Poi, Keenan Got Lucy and Sex Fruit were prohibited by registration officials. Others that were permitted included twins called Benson and Hedges, other children called Midnight Chardonnay, Number 16 Bus Shelter and, the judge added, "tragically, Violence". Another mother tried to use text language for her child's name, he said.
Story1 "I think it makes her unique."
Did he mean "eukneeghque?"
Younique 💅
as I said in my own comment, that spelling looks like a transliteration from a Cyrillic language, so OP might be a major butthole
@@aleksasnadar😂
😂😂😂
Bless you.
story 2 : ONLY 3.5/5 POINTS?! i will give them 5/5, they knew they can pay it, they knew the brother didnt have a job to pay it, they still did it and then they stole ALL OF her money that SHE earned when they could have paided it off with their own money?!
nuh thats 5/5 points here.
its finencial abuse of the worse degree. they are horrible parents.
I was thinking the exact same.. R-slash is really inconsistent in how he rate the A-hole score at times
@@lasserasmussen3125He need a break.
yeah i was legit shocked when i heard his rating, WHYYYY on earth did he have to go easy on them? im with you, full 5/5 for these people
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THIS!
GET IT TOGETHER RSLASH!!
4.5 at the least
Rslash: "I sound like a dad"
Sir... you are a dad lol
Was looking for this comment
Bruh I JUST posted that before scrolling the comments lma
Story 1: THIS is why Europe and Japan maintain strict naming laws, to protect children from stupid parents. NTA.
Well that's good
In my country (France) Julia could be spelled Giulia or Ghjulia (corsica)
Good that the first one is allowed. Giulia is just the italian version.@@julespellegrini9926
@@julespellegrini9926 Giulia is the Italian spelling. I think it's a remnant of the Genoese (attempt at) domination of the island.
And if I recall correctly, Italy's name laws come from Revolutionary France.
@@julespellegrini9926but both make sense lingusticly
Adding random letters like the Trend in the US is just stupid
"Unique" spellings are how you can tell the parents are expecting a doll, not a person. People have educational, social, employment, and other interactions where how they are introduced matters. Dolls do not.
Agree. Parents NEED to realise they are naming a human to be a functional member of society, not a dog or a doll or a video game/anime character.
Exactly, if you want to make a name unique there's ways to do it without being stupid. I think if you want to change the lettering slightly, as long as it still looks right, that's not too terrible. The only issue with that is eventually will have someone say a name, and we'll have multiple different spellings of it, and never know which one is right. The other option is to have a hyphenated name or dual first name, or call them by their first and middle name. It allows for a little more variety, without stupidity.
@@Shadowgod1000I have a hyphenated name, and I would not suggest it.
Most people just ask you what you like to be called cause they're worried about offending you. It gets quite tedious.
I would just suggest people look to history and mythology if they want names that are normal but not popular.
@@j.jtilling1722 That works too.
I wouldn't even give one of my dolls that ridiculous name.
I think Ghiuliyette will be a very good friend with Krxstxl
And ABCDE.
And CVIIILyn
I was thinking about that episode
Add Shithead to that friend list. Yes that is an actual name.
I also once dated a girl named Pantea. Pronounced panty.
My first thought after i started the video😂
Daughter is just going to change her name to Juliet. And everyone is going to think her parents are idiots who couldn't spell Juliet.
From what I heard I guess when people can't pronounce names like that the parents think they're stupid
My mom gave me a rare name that have different variations. The one she chose makes it more rare. OP’s friend is just mean adding 16 more letters unnecessarily
Yeah, another way to make it special is just to use the writing in another language.
Juliet in this example, is written "Juliette" in French. Not that complicated to make it special.
@@Juju2927everyone knows things look better written in french.😊
@@Snailman3516 En effet! It is considered to be one of the most poetic languages for a reason! haha
That's insane
My partner has a not very common spelling of a common name, but at least when reading it you get what the name is, I would never have Juliet from that name, never. I would have assumed it was a name from a completely different language.
Story 2: So they basically just didn't want to pay with their own money. As for the brother, it sounds like he's just dumb, not an actual sexist arsehole, just dumb.
When OP turns 18, I hope she cuts off parental access so they won't try to take any more money from her income account
Yeah but huge respect for the brother for refusing to take OP's money tho. Idk even if he's that dumb, sounds like his parents were like "oh, go ahead, we can pay if needed, it's not a problem". Pretty much like getting a gift almost.
Yeah that was 100% pre-meditated. The fact that they CO-SIGNED the loan knowing the brother has no source of income is WILD. Basically they bought the brother a car and planned on stealing from OP to pay for it. I hope their relatives shun the parents for this
@@xLostInFirex Yeah, we don't really know why he bought a new car, neither the model.
Maybe it was an expensive dumb purchase, or it was a small necessary one that he still isn't able to pay, so he asked for help from his parents that he knows (because it seems everyone in the family does) could cover up in case it turns for the worst.
@@Juju2927the parents co-signing sounds more like the parents offered to buy him a car and help with his credit score by having him on the loan as well
Dumb, like "never attribute to malice what can be explained by simple stupidity"? While, yeah, it might be so, the outcome does not care for its reason.
Story 1: don't think a CZcams video will change her mind sounds like she's incredibly stubborn, let's wait for the parents reddit post in a few years that's like "how do I stop my daughter changing her name"
Or "Why does my daughter resent me so much"
Or AITA for naming my daughter this super unique name lol
When I turned 18, my dad started to charge me rent while I stayed at home. It was only 150 a month, and I still got to eat with the family. The only bill I had was for my phone line.
When I turned 21, I was ready to move out, and had saved enough for a decent 1 bedroom apartment. I showed my parents, they thought it was a good choice, and paid my security deposit and 1st month rent. My dad had been saving the rent I had been paying, and between what I had left over from that, and what I had saved, I was able to get some decent furniture.
That's actually awesome, like a savings to your future place?
You see that's the right way to do it. I don't have kids but couldn't imagine using them to line my pockets. At least the way your dad did it it motivated you to budget.
I can see only two valid reasons someone should have their child (adult or not) pay rent - one is what your dad did (helping you learn how to budget money while still giving you access to said money rather than keeping it for himself) and the other is if the whole family is struggling to make ends meet, and that's a whole different conversation where you *ask* for help rather than expect it.
No one should be making their child pay rent outside of those circumstances and I genuinely don't think I can be convinced otherwise.
"I know I sound like a dad when I say that."
Bro, you ARE a dad! You're allowed to gush in the sweetest way possible about how impressive this young lady genuinely is. This is me being Shia LaBouf and screaming "DO IT!"
Story 1: A good friend tells you when you're making a bad (or dumbass) decision that will have obvious negative repercussions
A best friend would laugh at you
A good friend is the one that will call you out, even if they know you might never talk to them anymore
Mom:what do you mean she flunked kindergarten?
Teacher: she can't write her own name!!!
😂😂
Or refuses to
Imagine the teacher trying to announce that at attendance. Or trying to introduce her to friends. It's an uphill battle
Presumably, by the time it gets to the point where a teacher is announcing the girl for attendance or she is being introduced to friends, someone would know how to pronounce her name
That one Key&Peele skit comes to mind...
@@LunarisArts A-Aron 🤣
1000% she will be mocked and called Gillette or something like miss wanabe razor or something like that
@zacharyjackson1829 "Ghuiliette the best a man can get"
#2
Court cases have concluded before that even though the parent signed on the bank account of their children, when the parents never put significant money in or regularly used it they have no claim to the money in it
She's not in the US or from the sounds of it, any other 1st world country.
Story 3: Those parents completely needlessly torpedoed their relationship with their most responsible child. They better hope they don't need old age care because I don't think the son will have that kind of money.
Second OP needs to take all her money out as cash and store it in a safety deposit box. Parents can't touch that
Exactly!
2nd story: I don't understand why the uncle told her there's nothing she can do.
Since he's a banker and closer to the situation, I'll assume he's right, insofar as she wouldn't be allowed to close the account or remove her parents from it; she may even be barred from withdrawing the funds.
That doesn't mean there's *nothing* she can do.
First, she needs to stop adding to the account. Get a trusted adult to help her set up a Chime account or something.
Then she needs to look into getting emancipated so that she can get her "parents" off the account.
If she waits til she's 18, they'll have found some excuse or another to drain the fund.
Story 4: Yeah, OP never actually told Lily to break up, just told Lily to worry about herself first. Honestly, it sounds like the son just wants to live off of Lily's money and make no contributions to the relationship.
To be fair, they just graduated high school. That change is pretty rough, especially if you don't feel like you know what you want to do. All that partying and video games could be him masking a depressive episode
Yep
I don't agree. I think there's more to this story. Many kids don't have any clue what to do after working basically full time through teenagehood, and then graduate and essentially lose purpose if they haven't thought about what to do afterwards. He could also be struggling with mental health, there are a ton of potentials here. My question is, was there any communication at all with her son? Did Lily talk to him? Did his mom talk to him? Or was there simply no communication? Lily has every right to break up with him, but depending on the circumstances, what his mom did could have been really messed up.
@@jbrennan381his mom didn't do anything. Lily literally asked her what she would do in her situation and the mom gave the most generic ass answer in the history of the world that even plants follow, think and act for yourself.
@@jbrennan381 right? Mom needs to talk to her son about seeking help or a part time or something. They're really just allowing him to rot away at home. Just because they're 18 doesn't mean they stop being your responsibility, especially with him still living at home.
I moved out at 23. My mom absolutely lost her shit when I decided this. She would cry, beg me to stay, promise to not charge me rent, the works. I was paying $400 a month for my room/internet access, while my brother lived rent free and got access to a whole private storage room. My dad would scream at me about using the kitchen whenever I was home.
So yeah, I’m with OP on this one. Parents shouldn’t be scolding their kids for moving out
I felt OP being charged to live with their parents. I was paying $450 to $500 to share a room with my younger brother. Some parents just don’t love us.
And yet I would kill to have a place to live for 500 a month. That would cut my expenses more than half.
@@wingracer1614not if its a 1 bedroom apartment you share with 3 other ppl and sharing a room with someone 12 years younger than you
@@wingracer1614 I think when the OP in the story gets out into the real world he'll realise how good he has it at home.
@@It-is-me...Melsie Exactly. We see that story time and time again. Someone gets all offended that their parent charges them rent, decides to move out only to discover the worst dump imaginable costs twice as much and has a landlord with zero patience for their crap.
@@adri_purplesoo... why dont you move out?
As a black woman that has heard some of the most of the dumbest and misguided names given to black kids, I will say that you're absolutely right!! My sister is a Pre K teacher and was once had a kid with 14 letters inher first name alone!!
When I discovered my parents were financially abusive, I started telling them I was broke. ANY time they asked, even for something small like milk, I told them I was broke. They also didn't have access to my bank account. It irritated them a lot because I think they knew I was lying sometimes but I didn't want to risk losing it so no matter what, I'm broke, mom!
Story 3: I feel like the parents were going to use their money to pay off OP's brother, but then pocket OP's money so they technically get no loss of money on their end.
That's the exact same thing, just with extra steps.
Nah, the lady in the first story needed a serious reality check. OP didn't go hard enough honestly 😂
people really need to understand that their children are not dolls or pets, they're human beings who are going to have to live with that name their entire life or at least until they can get it changed, which isn't an easy thing to do depending on where you live.
Yea really. People are dumb
My money, his car story: they planned this so they could force her out of what she wanted and jnto whatever they want for her, probably to be an uneducated slave to some abusive husband.
She needs to take her money out and hide it.
She's 15 and in some crap country too poor to have any sort of air force. I doubt the has any rights to that money without parental consent.
Story3 Speaking from a mother's perspective, I don't understand charging a child rent. I get shared expenses if needed but not straight-up rent and certainly not that amount.
Our kids lived at home to varying ages depending on their individual situations. One stayed until he married at age 24, one was in and out for a bit while he found his footing, etc. They all had jobs and paid their own bills, and I still did all my mom stuff. (My house, I get to keep my mom status within my walls. Don't judge me!!)
Sharing utilities is a good way to have a "Rent" to at least make the child responsible if he can't allow himself to leave the nest for financial reasons.
I was at my parent's place 'till 21, and my "rent" was just a share to pay for the family Internet, streaming services, meals... but I payed for my own gas, snacks, phone bill and whatever was my personal belonging.
I understand when parents keep it low and set that money aside for the kid to use when they get their first apartment, but the parents who charge as much as an actual apartment while also treating them like a child and not giving them space & privacy are just selfish and controlling.
@@LilChuunosuke Yeah, like a story I heard awhile back that let the OP's nephew stay in their room while they were gone and leave it dirty with crumbs all over the place.
Before I became a mother back in 2003, I didn't realise how much kids like to find their names on mugs and pens. My son is Alexander - my husband and I always call him Xander but at school and to his friends he's Alex, his decision, he decided he preferred being Alex when he was about 6. (He's nearly 17 now, I asked ages ago if he'd like his family to call him Alex too, but he prefers to be Xander to us)
My daughters are Johanna and Gloria - and those are tricky to find on mugs in the UK, although "Jo" is easy enough to find. Fortunately we go to Spain a lot, and things with Johanna and Gloria are easy enough to track down there. In fact, there are little "Gloria" cakes in supermarkets there which made my youngest daughter very happy.
Moral of the tale, unique names are great, but kids might not thank you for giving you unusual names that stand out. It's the parent who wants to stand out, the kid more often than not finds it embarrassing. If you want to give them an "interesting" name, please make it one that can be shortened to something simple if the child chooses later on.
My cousin has an aunt named Relva. She goes by Jo. Unique names have been going on for a very long time, given that Jo is in her 80's now.
@@asmith8692 I think it's just luck whether you love your unique name or not. I went by my middle name, Morag, when I was younger because I preferred to be unusual. I'm also sometimes known by the Welsh translation of my name - Heather - which is Grug - pronounced Greeg. Again, I liked being unusual.
I think Relva is a lovely name. Then again, it depends what constitutes "unusual" too. What was common in 1900 would seem odd today.
My name is Valerie and my brother's name is Bill. I *do* like my name, but I remember being a little kid and always rushing over to the displays with the keychains or mugs or whatever with the names on them. Always found my brother's name and my dad's name. Usually found my mom's name. Never once found my own. I remember my dad once left on a business trip for a few weeks and when he came back, he got my brother a keychain with his name on it and I just got one that said the name of the place he got it from or something like that because one with my name did not exist. Idk why but it bothered me a lot as a kid to the point i wanted a new name. I've grown to love my name over time.
You can get stuff like that customize here in the states but it cost more (probably for shipping). While my preferred name is not unique it is hard to find since it's a nickname of my legal name.
If it makes anyone feel better, I've had trouble finding MY name on things in the past, and my name is about as common as it gets!
The "My Money" story... it IS amazing that a 15 yr old could have the self control to NOT spend money and save. But let's not forget that OP started saving at TEN YEARS OLD... thats even MORE impressive!
I don't have idiotic spellings of my names, but I have 4 of them. And since I'm mildly dyslexic, it's been more than an annoyance all my life. I really wish parents think of their children when naming them.
This one I have to defend some. My kids all have two middle names. I broke family naming tradition, so my olive branch was to make sure the second middle name was a family name. I always just used initials on paperwork, but now they're adults who use their full names and love to use their name uniqueness as an icebreaker fact about them. It also made it easy for them to know they were in trouble, I didn't break out the full name, I broke out only middle names.
Now, on that note. Yes, parents think through the names first. My oldest has unfortunate initials because it wasn't well thought out. Her initials spell crap. I told her before she learned from schoolyard bullies and we kept the schoolyard bullies from ever finding out. Now we just laugh about it. No one can ever tell her that she won't amount to crap!😅
@@DeplorableMe83My parents were planning on giving me two middle names, a personal one and a family one, but they realised it would spell SLAP so they just stuck with SLP haha.
Oh wow
I have 5 names but they all have good reasons and I am happy to have them. But there were still times in my life where I was like “This would be *so much easier* if I just had one middle name…”
Eyy I also have 4 names, one for a family tradition one because my grandma died just before I was born.
The thing is, my grandma specifically told my mother to name me after her, and she did it anyways as a middle name. My other grandma had the thing of "Say middle names and if I get to last name you're dead." Thing is, no one ever told me how to spell the first one so I've constantly had to look it up. It's rather frustrating, especially since they're both variations of Mary.
So, we essentially got [First name] Mary Marie [Last name]
Last Story: I'm glad Lily didn't stay stuck in an "I can fix him" relationship
The parents need to kick him out or make him get a job and go to therapy! They’re just enablers at this point.
Yeah, that's not a great mentality. It's why good people often end up with bad people. It's a savior complex.
I taught for 35 years. Some names parents chose for their children were highly questionable. Every year some kid chose a “new” name for themselves. The kids so disliked their given names. One set of parents were angry that I used the kids name rather the name the parents name. They complained to my principal. The principal & did a work around. I called the student “Ms. Jones” rather than either of the first names. I explained to student as to the why
You need to call CPS these parents!
If their delusions are grant enough to demand teachers to emotionally abuse their children, there is no way to say what they're doing to him in private...
These people are nothing more than child abusers!
Story 1 - I am a school bus driver and let me tell you when I see names like that I cringe so hard inside and I can hear the other kids on the bus giving them grief over the name from time to time. I agree with what the high school teacher said and school staff most certainly judge the parents hard for that kind of thing.
"i sound like a dad" 😂 you ARE a dad!
3.5 for stealing 8.4k?
Yeah that would be 4.5 for me (As 5 is reserved for the worst of the worst)
Oh no... its like that story about the kid nearly being named something like Krystal, but some letters were replaced with X. Sheesh. OP, NTA. That kid's parents are INCREDIBLY delulu
I would rather be Krystal with a K like Catherine than be Krxstxl with an X
Krystal still sounds like a stripper name to me.😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@krystaldragons6040 Too strippery, how about Kevin with a K. To strippery too.
Story 2. Rslash! Its even worse than the parents cosigning, knowing brother cannot pay and they cannot pay. They CAN pay. They have enough money to pay. They'd rather steal money from OP so she can't become a pilot (possibly so she'll remain financially dependent on them for longer) than use the money they have to pay for their mistake
'I sounds like a dad right now'
Mr Bailey, you ARE a dad.
Ghiuliyette looks like what the Githyanki from D&D/BG3 would call their Queen.
How does a mom come up with a more complex name than a bunch of nerds inventing high fantasy settings
Also that kid is definitely gonna be called "ghoul"iet
4:41 being a pilot is a young persons game.
Theres no "you can wait until youre older" the line of applicants is long, and you have exponentially less of a chance each passing year passed 23.
15 is basically the time to start, as thats the age you can get a pilot's license in some states. Try Civil air patrol, or anything you can. For those who dont know, the reason im not a pilot is because the total fees and time and testing required (yes paper tests) is roughly the same as going to university anyway. Not to mention if you dont go commercial immediately, then 80% of your pay in the first 5 years of getting a license goes to insurance. Afterwards its roughly 15-20%. So you cant even make moneu for half a decade after getting your career started. So in terms of total cost, including garnished paychecks, physical simulations and practice, tough paper exams, time and money involved, it really isnt crazy to make it comparable to med school or law school. In some sense. Because youre kind of out 7 to 10 years in this.
However military, CAP and other programs can provide a difference in and alleviate for a lot of these aspects, but its complicated.
She's not in the US. In fact, she's in a country that doesn't even have an air force. None of those are options for her
1st story: That little girls teachers are going to ask her to spell her name, and then punish her when she does, if she even can! A full blown dyslexic would struggle to mess up a name THAT badly.
What kind of school did you go to that’s not how that works at all
Lol yea
A school with stupid teachers who genuinely didn't believe how my name is spelt. You guys didn't have that problem huh?
That makes no sense. At every school I ever went to (except year 11-12), we had roll call first thing, where the teacher called out names from a printout from the office, so they would know how screwed up the spelling is.
@@tommmorton6625 every school I ever heard of gave the teachers a list of names for each class they had so all they’d have to do to verify would be look at the list they should’ve looked at already anyway
Update on story 1:
Update: Alright, I get it. I’m an asshole for going after the Name more than once. Sorry for that lmao. I just send her an apology text for doing it, yet I did write how she should try to look at it from another perspective. I also send a few screenshots of the comments just for her to see what other people think of it. FYI I’m supposed to be the godmother, which is why I was extra worried lmao my bad
Update 2: Hello again. I’ve been asked if there are any updates and yes there are! So I’ve been talking with Loreen a lot (over text) and she’s slowly starting to notice her „mistake“. I apologized again and we are good again. We talked about the name and she told me that she won’t change it and really loves it, but is slowly understanding why it’s weird for others, especially me. Her husband on the other hand is still pretty mad at me. He thinks that I took it too far and that my apologies aren’t from the heart🤷♀️. I’ve been asked if I’m still the godmother and yes I am. There were thoughts of changing it, but now that we get along again, I’m back in the role.
Back to the husband: he actually blocked me everywhere and is telling Loreen to do so too because he thinks that I’m manipulating and that I’m lying just so we can get close again. Doesn’t make sense. Idk. Well either way, it’s getting better with the relationship, just not with the name.
Mayhaps the husband is a little 🐦🕐.
@@JamesDavy2009 I’d say a bit yes. Don’t worry, everyone, including teachers and government workers will also think k that when they learn his daughters name.
New mothers can get a hard lesson too.
So I have a bit of personal experience with story 1 and the thing I learned is this is all about what mom wants and not at all with how their kids feel.
I would know; i brought it up with my mom over my middle name which is already unique enough without her bastardizing the spelling to make it even more special. When I brought this up with my mom, she had the same freaking reaction as the friend. Why? Because we aren't our own umique individuals; we are an extension of our mom's and their egos. Their feelings are more important than our lived experience.
It's this epiphany that I always keep in mind when it comes to my own child; I never want him to be made fun of for something I had control over, especially his name.
When would people understand?
Kids are not pets, you can't name a kid like a that, that poor kid is going to get bullied badly for it and is going to hate that name and never use it.
The mother will realize how bad she messed up when her kid comes home in tears because no one spells or says her name correctly and that she is bullied to no end cause kids are brutal
Story 2: Absolutely the parents deserve 5/5. Parents treating one kid as a golden child (despite the golden one being more friendly with OP) while stealing money from the other kid to pay for the golden child is abuse. 3.5/5 is WAY too low, especially after you said everything on how scummy the parents are.
That name in the first story is a tragedeigh. A name that has been deliberately misspelled or made up to appear more unique than it really is
It’s pretty close to the real name Giulietta(e) so it’s kind of weird they just wouldn’t go with that.
Story 1: There are actually studies about how kids with “eukneeghque” (thanks MrsShocoTaco) names fare in school, and it’s not good. She will never meet anyone who will be able to pronounce that letter salad they’ve saddled her with. Kids will be merciless. Those parents are numbskulls.
I was bullied for my name for my entite youth, I changed it as soon as I could and I carried so much resentment against my parents for so many years about it.
My sympathies.
saw the first story on r/tragedeigh, the sub where overly unique names are dunked on, glad to see it here
Juliet is going to get bullied to no end when her classmates find out how her parents spelled her name. I was bullied for my name a handful of times and mine is a normal one with a normal spelling.
omfg i remember my friend reading the first one out loud and said to guess how the name was pronounced. i somehow got it first try which only made me more upset about the name
Lol
My brain keeps reading Ghiuliyette as guillotine....
For me it's Gilette, the razor company.
Teachers r gonna bully that little girl.
I'm in Cleveland. My niece and nephew have VERY Greek names. My niece has a name that is long, my nephew has a spelling for his name from a specific Greek island. They BOTH hear about from their elementary school teaches and substitutes
I was thinking how you could bully her for her name I thought of Gillette razor brand
With the spelling? Ghouliette.
I can agree on story one, I had that same thing with my first baby. I wanted to give them a "unique name" but my ex mil made it very clear to me how much she would struggle with it especially when she would learn to write. So we ended up doing the easier more common way to spell their name 😊
In the last story:NTA, the OP only tell her to think about herself frist also, the son is like that for 2 year, him an Lily were dating for 3 years, if I had a girlfriend I would act different form the way I do now like give her attention when she need it, that is pretty easy to do, if you can't even do that, the relationship won't last.
"I sound like a dad when I say that"
Because you are, Dabney. LOL
"I sound like a dad when I say that" but you ARE a dad! it's on-brand!
Story 2: That's serious financial abuse. Those parents are both disgusting. I'd take any money left in that account and buy a safe instead, your money will be safer.
I wonder if the brother became financially irresponsible because his parents taught him that anything he earns will just be taken away anyway. So who cares if you can't afford the car, you won't be able to keep it anyway. Especially with their name on it. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if their plan was to co-sign for it, make the daughter pay it off, and then steal it for themselves once it's paid off.
*First OP:* The name _sounds_ pretty, but the spelling is horrendous. Juliet (I refuse to spell it their way) will absolutely get flack for how her name's spelled. I've said it before, and I'll keep saying it: giving your kids horrible names (or in this case, horrible spellings) is second-hand child abu5e. OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* I would've understood (but still wouldn't with) the parents' decision if they put their money into OP's fund, but it was _OP's own_ money! OP is NTA, and her parents need to pay back the money they stole from her.
*Second OP UPDATE:* OP's parents could've paid off OP's brother's loan without OP's college fund?! That's even more messed up! Is it some control thing? At least OP's brother (and uncle) has her back.
*Third OP:* $600 a month gor rent and utilities sounds like a steal. I read the replies under the post, and they talked about how entitled OP sounded for having to pay his own bills and do his own chores without having his mom waiting on him. I kind if believe him. I originally said OP is TA, but he's not wrong for wanting to move out. OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* Technically, OP didn't tell Lily to break up with her son, so OP is NTA. I do hope the breakup becomes a wake-up call for OP's son to improve on himself. I wonder if something happened to OP's son internally or externally to get in this rut?
as I said in my own comment, that spelling looks like a transliteration from a Cyrillic language, so OP might be a major butthole
Giulietta would've been better
It's the Italian Juliet
Honestly it might even be fine if they got rid of the unnecessary Y
as I said in my own comment, that spelling looks like a transliteration from a Cyrillic language, so OP might be a major butthole
first story: it's likely a spelling from a Cyrillic language, so I think y'all piling on the parents are really cruel
$600/mo for your own studio apartment with your own space sounds like a steal. $600/mo for only your own bedroom as your personal space doesn't. Then again, my mortgage is $1300 even though I built this house 4 years ago so ... we probably live in vastly different areas.
How is there nothing OP can do about the joint account? If their name is on it, they can clean it out and open one in only their name. Go get that money and hide it, kid!
I could be wrong but I believe a 15 year old cannot open an account in the US without a parent or guardian on the account as well. And she is not in the US, who knows what kind of messed up laws her country has. I mean they don't even have an air force.
@@wingracer1614 Possibly Mauritius, Grenada or Dominica. They are all nations without an air force, and are extremely conservative on the subject of child's rights.
@@moviemaestro800 Could be. I was thinking maybe Costa Rica. I mean even Haiti has an air force. Turkmenistan has an air force. The most broke and backward countries around have a couple old transports, a private jet for the supreme leader and an old huey from Vietnam laying around and call it an air force.
@@wingracer1614 Oh yeah, my dad said something similar about how other countries form an “Air Force”. 👍
Does OP2 know there is a government organisation that will pay you to train as a pilot? They will even feed and clothe you.
Her country doesn't even have an air force.
Story2 Op is a prime candidate for emancipation.
*If available in her country.
Story 2 is so wild because it sounds like even the brother is like "YO, WTF MOM AND DAD?"
Part of me wonders if he knew his parents would have done this he would have never bought the car
The last story the son might have depression because no ambition is a sign of depression. I had depression
That is exactly what I thought, it explains all the symptoms and their sudden start. I'm disapponted so many people didn't make the connection.
The first story is a great example of parents who think that they are being smart or cute for being “unique”. My dad named my older sister and everyone hated her first name. She goes by her middle name and stills hates it and goes by “Jackie” since she’s could talk, a nickname that is now her everyday name.
1st story - yeah, let's coddle fragile egos; it's a beautiful spelling. Can you say it again? A couple of times?
Can you write it down for me? :)
Apparently saying it is simple.
Spelling it, on the other hand-
@@Juju2927 At least it wasn't a character from an old Monty Python sketch whose name is spelled Luxury Yacht but pronounced as Throatwobbler Mangrove.
pilot kid story: Give her more credit Dabney. she's not just an impressive 15 year old. From the sounds of it, she started saving when she was ELEVEN.
First story : my first name is spelled “Elle” pronounced “Ellie” and EVERYONE - even other students - no matter how many times I’ve explained how it’s spelled STILL misspells it! And my name’s NOT that far off from its normal spelling
Ello Elle
My daughters name is Elle. Pronounced like the magazine. And every single person has said ellie until I correct them 😂 I thought I was safe with such a simple name
Story 1: op has a very valid point. Even if it seems like it'd be slight bullying, it would be at her most vulnerable and emotional state. Her entire childhood she would feel like an outcast, someone who was less than everyone around her. Naming your children isn't like selecting a gamertag. There are consequences.
Side note for story 1 - they must really like Romeo and Juliet, because they want to give the first name (pronounced) "Juliet" and the middle name "Maria," the name of the Juliet stand in for West Side Story...
my mum changed her name to Jaclyn after my gran named her Jacolyn. Jaclyn is Welsh like their family, Jacqueline if french. My nan tried to be different and my mum was so fed up of it she changed it by the time she was 10
The girl in the second story actually can join the US Air Force, even being from a different country.
That’s significantly harder than you think it is. Army or marines? Sure that’s fairly simple but the AF is pretty much out of the question without some serious efforts
@YriKururuyou seriously overestimate how many soldiers actually die in combat or even see it. Military is a fantastic option for people in the USA and for people wanting to immigrate to the USA. It provides free career training, housing, food, healthcare, discipline, education, and financial stability. I of course know the military isn’t for everyone but it’s not evil like most people seem to believe it is. I would argue student loans and medical debt are worse
Sure, if your dream is cleaning toilets or guarding a silo. Actually getting into the Air Force academy is a different story:
International students cannot apply directly to the Air Force Academy. They must apply through their government, usually their ministry of defense. Only a select number of countries can nominate students. The home country may also require a commitment to serve in the home country's military.
@YriKururuan non-US citizen may enlist in the US military, and receive expedited US Citizenship. I'm a Navy veteran, and I actually served with several immigrants who went that route to obtain citizenship. Enlisting in the US military also gives you access to the GI Bill, which pays tuition at the US university of your choosing. There are also a myriad of benefits, including free housing, medical care, and meals for the duration of your enlistment, which many migrants do not have when coming here.
Story 1, my parents picked a regular name and switched the O for a Y, and now as an adult people still can't spell the name. The worst was in elementary when parents who received a class list with names miss spelled it on valentines cards, Halloween treat bags, and anything. Even a teacher switched the I and Y in the name despite seeing how the name was written never learned to change it. If one letter is hard, that entire name is messed up,
Story 2: Only 3.5? No no, 4.5!
"i sound like a dad when i say that" makes sense, ur a dad lmao
Lily gets a 1/5 from me, because she also didn't do the break up face to face. That's just a courtesy
Yup. She's NTA for wanting to put herself first, but the way that she went about it... Pretty bad. "Your mom suggested I break up with you, so I'm doing it. By text. Bye." xD
I'm glad that she's putting herself first - but... maybe not *quite* so first that she chooses the worst way possible to do things?
@@KageKobushi She may as well have written a Dear John letter.
I generally give women a pass for doing so. Men can turn into real violent PoS's sometimes.
"I sound like a dad" Oh boy do I have news for you 😂
Hey rslash what happened to puppy bloopers
Last story annoys me because dad saying “without Lily his rot will be worse” - their lazy son is not her responsibility. It’s not like he had any self motivation to begin with. If he’s dragging her down, she has every right to put herself rest.
Finally someone else points this out!!!
Story 4:Lily made her own decision,This isn't OP's fault and it also isn't OP's fault son became a bad person,NTA
As a person who processed birth certificates at the hospital for the county, more than once, when seeing how the parents spelled their kid’s names I may have influenced them to rethink their decisions. All it would take is verifying the spelling by reading it back to them. Sometimes they’d ask, how else would you spell it? I’d then give them a couple other options. Sometimes they’d rethink their decisions.
I miss 9 am upload time
Same. It's been throwing my adhd ass off schedule
Same
I miss 7am. Now it's 8am for me and didn't change at all with Daylight Savings cause we don't do that here lol
I'm wondering if he moved it to deal with child wake up times. If he had given a heads up I think it woulda been easier for everyone
@toastycomfyghosty1891 I think he's still in China and doesn't realize the timing is off bc of daylight savings.. and sure he'll change it once he realizes or back in the country
This poor girl will spend her entire life spelling her name to people only for them to get it wrong. Trust me, it's a total pain.
Story 1 : "Original name" haver here. (It appears like once or twice in the Quran but looks like a mix between two more famous Muslim names.)
Children are not dogs or bags. You cannot customize them this stupidly, because they'll most lilely outlive you. I'm now a teacher, and that stuff is becoming more and more common. We're individuals, not accessories.
Story 2: Might be radical to say this, but this sounds like financial abuse and / or theft. If they take it without you knowing, that's a slam dunk case. And if your brother has no job, there should be NO reason whatsoever for the bank to allow that loan in the first place. Post update - These parents are absolutely horrendous. Kudos to OP for that working morale and diligence.
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Why you comment D?
Story 2: NTA. They are awful, AWFUL parents. I can sorta understand if they on hard times, but they are not! They just want to use OP's money because they feel like it. OP's brother did make a bad financial decision, but at least he has the decency to say he'll refuse the money if their parents choose to use OP'S money, that's at least something.
Morning R/Slash, I hope you guys enjoyed your time in China.
Story 2: I was a flight instructor for years, and I can tell you that the OP of this story is going to be a hell of a pilot. That kind of discipline at 15 to save that much money! That is an excellent start to her aviation career! I have my fingers crossed her parents don't find a way to screw her out of it.
Daylight savings
I'm 25 and disabled I live with my mom. My brother and Sister are my caregivers my sister bought a house 3 blocks away because she wasn't driving at the time so she got a place she could walk over to rather than possibly being late
Hello there
General Kenobi
My parents did basically the same thing as @7:00 they emptied my bank account, that only contained money I had been personally saving since childhood, to pay to turn one of our bedrooms into a third bathroom. Then later they took my personal share of our great grandmother's inheritance and bought a shiny upgraded lawnmower.
That and many other reasons is why I haven't spoken to them in 15 years.
45 views in 1 minute he fell off
If i had to guess it's the recent time change but could be wrong
Not everyone's used to the new dst upload schedule
This joke is so stupid yet I laugh every time I see it 😂
2.7k at 4 mins , definitely 👍🏿
Yea, but almost 6k in 18min