@@TheLastAlgonquin how much does a guy taking a girl on a date cost?? What's with the weird miserable cost comparison? I don't get what it accomplishes. Enjoying a persons company should be a thing in its own..
Absolutely true. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend at the time, some of her friends would talk her out of being a relationship and she figured out that they were toxic or I would basically confront them privately say.. you can either be happy for the fact that we're in a relationship with your friend, or I can have you taken home. And have her block you for the rest of your life... They messed around and found out
Love this. Reciprocation. An acknowledgement of all the efforts men make not being a bare minimum, because the bare minimum really is actually nothing. The ending. Single women keeping women single, and the putdown. Love it.
when my boyfriend and i first started dating, he wasnt feeling too good at work/hadnt eaten so i dropped him off some chicken nuggets from mcdonalds and added a lil hand written note saying i hope he enjoys and i care about him, it was between my work shifts and i didnt think much of it.. just wanted him to know i care and wanted him to eat something - he said that was one of the most thoughtful things hes ever experienced and still has the note to this day.
When we just started dating, my boyfriend got sick. I brought him a box of Kleenex. It floored him that I would do that. It is one of his favorite memories about me, and proved to him I really did like him. We've now been married a couple years ❤ I thought it was just a simple act to help. But it made his year, ncs guys receive so little simple decency anymore 😢
@@bearwitty9690don’t date someone you can’t imagine being in a marriage with. That’s the reason why all those pushy and cringe wifey women are happily married and the others… own cats
Yeah, that's the spirit. You start giving and with good intentions, and if the other person does not reciprocate, you leave. But it's not smart to begin on "defensive" mode. Begin on kind and giving mode, and get out if it doesn't work, man or woman. It's simple.
The reason the system is broken is promiscuity. When women made men step up, and she too had to show the man what kind of person she was, BEFORE sex, the system worked. But the only way it works is with one crucial ingredient. Time. Any player can step up for a short amount of time. He can't do it for the long haul. If all women made all men wait, then men would have to up their game. Men would then only pursue the woman he wants. No more time wasting. No more ghosting. No more siutationships. But to be pursued, the woman would have to show she's worth it to him for the long haul. This is how the system works. We broke the system with hookup culture. Only women can make that go away. But women are short term thinkers. They want the bag, etc... They think they should be able to run around having fun in their 20s, and then find their man in their late 20s to early 30s. But the men they want in their 20s, don't want them long term. Now they have to pursue the guys who do. Those men are increasingly no longer interested in sloppy leftovers.
@@leroyrussell8766Hook up culture does have its downsides but making men wait for sex like a carrot on a stick is hardly a recipe for a healthy relationship, seeing a relationship as an exchange instead of a partnership is fucking weird dude. Sure, some of it is an exchange for us humans to satisfy our cravings for intimacy but that’s a very 1 dimensional way of looking at things. You’re glazing over everything else that goes into partner selection and oversimplifying how dating works. It’s possible for people to treat each other well without giving out sex like treats to men, that’s fucking ridiculous
@@leroyrussell8766dude dating isn’t a system ffs. It’s simple: shoot your shot, reciprocate their efforts, and work with them to make it work. Sometimes you get unlucky and it doesn’t work, but if you keep trying and being a good person you will find someone
A girl I been going out with for about 6 weeks, out of the blue, made me a packed lunch before I headed out. It was kind and thoughtful and happened over 20 years ago and I still remember the gesture with fondness.
@@mauritsgresnigt2801it really does, men take ANY compliment we get and cherish that shit because it rarely happens unless you're conventionally attractive
You tell it girl! Being kind to others doesn't require some kind of minimal criteria; your behavior reflects on you, not them. If they "use" you and don't reciprocate similar behavior, then that says everything you need to know about them.
Changing your behavior because someone MIGHT use you might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard, honestly. Just be normal, be kind, make yourself likeable by the other individual. If they don't reciprocate, then they might not be a fit for you, but you should never assume that they won't.
Exactly! You give the energy you want back and show genuine interest and care for the person you are dating. If they don't reciprocate and use you then you leave. Being aloof and not showing affection isn't going to make a good man suddenly want to wife you up, it's just childish mind games
"Trying way too hard." No, its just called putting effort into a relationship. Thanks for all you do, its refreshing to hear a woman who actually cares.
@stratigangames508 two dates isn't enough time to really know someone. For all you know, the person you're going out with could be going out with two other people.
@@post-leftluddite I know. But I refuse to believe that that is the norm, no matter how often I see it. (I know it's a little naïve, but I would rather have a little hope)
I just sent my hubby some flowers and a snack to tell him I love him and appreciate all the hard work he's been doing (doing his job while dealing with flaky contractors during some home repair, ugg...). It made him so happy to get them. And he has done the same for me (or run out at midnight for random snack attack fries for us both). It is give and take and mutual effort that makes relationships work.
dude, the girl I'm engaged to made me fall for her by actually doing little things like this that showed she actually cares. Sure, I do all the expensive things like paying for dinners, since I earn almost 4 times as much as her, but even just coming home to see she's arranged my desk and files correctly is the kind of small thing she does that feels so special and makes me see her as someone I want to marry.
Women that do little things for us are the best. My fiancee is similar and also tells me if I'm close to burnout since I hyperfocus on my tasks at work. That woman can read me like an open book, and my mental health has drastically improved thanks to her
im only found 2 girls like this and in 29yo. Sadly, i couldnt had a great match with these women. rn im in a relationship, but i miss that kind of treatment. they are treasures
The bare minimum for a woman on a date is to be pleasant no matter where you go and be good company. Basically make sure everyone is having a good time. Then when it comes time to say that there won't be a 2nd date if things didn't go well to not be a total biatch when you say it.
Women like that are just mad that they are being made to look bad in comparison. Only way a low standard works for someone is if other people apply it too. Then again... if too many women set the bar for themselves too low, then men apparently just peace out and play video games.
@@michaeldietz7793 It is a little different but I didn't word it specifically enough. The guy is going to be the anxious one since the onus is on him is to try and carry the date but the woman is suppose to a soothing element calming allowing the guy to feel more comfortable which leads to a better time for everyone involved. This might require laughing at stupid jokes, smiling a lot, and speaking words of encouragement without being condescending.
You are very amazing. We need more people like you in the world. All the other women are intolerant to this thing we need some more good women like you good job you go girl.
Still remember receiving flowers on a date for the first time when I was 23. Blew my mind. I never knew I could receive flowers and it made me so happy!
@@missantrafalgar782 well, I’m 24 now, and we realized we weren’t right for each other around our 8th date. Though it didn’t work out, I’ve learned that even though I’m male presenting, I still deserve to be treated with the same attention and care that a woman does on dates! :) I’m in a relationship now, and she always wants to take care of me. Like, the other day I was really feeling unwell, so she went grocery shopping for the essentials for me, and handmade me some sushi rolls to eat since it’s my favorite food. She makes me very happy, and I think she’s the one :)
You are a person of course you can. however society says no. Me? I buy myself flowers or plants that i like. If someone thinks otherwise I don't care. It's not your business.
Not really about the video, but i just wanna share. My friend has been with this guy for two years. Everyday she’ll prepare his clothes, do laundry, clean, organize his closet, prepare his towel, heck she even SQUEEZES the toothpaste into the brush for him everytime he’s about to take a shower. AND THIS GUY JUST CHEATED ON MY FRIEND. While I do agree with the video, appreciation should go both way for a relationship so i hope the person anyone’s on the date with appreciates this kind gesture.
He probably put her in the friendzone, because she didn’t gave him enough bad girl vibes or something? At least that’s the female explanation on why they cheat on good husbands.
While I don't condone cheating in a monogamous relationship, if they were sexless and he addressed this with her, then there were only two real possible outcomes of she didn't correct that. You may not be getting the whole story.
I love this. Some of us have had bad experiences being “wifey material” and see that as the problem to why we weren’t taken seriously when we were just with the wrong guy. You should always put in effort as much as he is. Especially if he’s paying for dates, making sure you’re safe and opening doors for you. Making someone a meal or snack is the most kindest thing you can do. You’d want the guy to do things for you while dating too. You don’t have to go full on wife but you can show your interest in your actions.
I met this girl at a party and she was ALLLL THAT, maroon-red dyed hair, thin waist, pretty face. The house party that we were all at, was at her aunts house and her nephews were there and they came downstairs hungry. I watched her make food for these 2 kids in the middle of people partying,dancing and singing. She brought them back up and came back down and cleaned the kitchen and the house while the party continued. I went back to my apartment at college and I got a call from one of my boys “Yo, that girl with the red hair wanted your number!” The next week she moved in with me because I learned she was sleeping on a couch at her aunts place for months. That was 5 years ago and we got married last February. Girls, be wifey material to get husband material. Guys, be husband material to get wifey material. It’s a 50/50, not a one way street.
ask a woman genuinly, what do you bring in a relationship ? she will either say its sexist but actually litterally dont know what they offer in a relationship yet they know immedietaly the whole list they want in a man, these women are incredibly entitled these days its sad
@@relax6098 True story. Could be part of the love bombing a narcissist does in the beginning of dating and the relationship. Then she'll devalue you and you'll wonder what you did wrong
Normalize love language expression in contexts that aren't always romantic. Cuz they aren't. My love language is physical touch. I always make sure to dap up the homies and pat em on the back when they're down. It goes a long way.
When I started dating my bf of two years , I would always make him lunch and take care of him when he was sick and he didn’t have a job at the time so I always paid for everything. Now that he has a job he pays for everything and takes good care of me and we're getting married next year. Always be kind and considerate ❤
Well said. I'd say about half my dating experience is just women "showing up" and expecting me to do everything. Plan the date, pick them up, carry the conversation, do all the gentleman stuff, take them home, be nice to their family and friends if we meet, make the move towards intimacy and all this carries the risk of rejection at any point while getting no appreciation. Really feels like it's 1 wrong move and all the 99 good things you've done are forgotten.
sounds about right. its definitely not as horrible as some of the red pill content makes it sound like. but about half or alittle above that is also what i experienced.
You know, I used to be the one putting he effort all the time, getting nothing in return, or even mistreatment. I got enough and for a few months I watched a lot of content where woman were saying exactly what the girl in black is saying here, "men need to do everything" and a lot of content where men were misogynists. Honestly as a woman in her early 20's I felt like neither the thing I was doing nor the thing they were advising was a solution for me, and it got me kind of sad. Might sound like I'm exaggerating but this video feels like the conversation my mind has been having these past few months. What being a woman is? What's my part in a relationship? I guess it's just a choice. Deciding what you're willing to offer, find someone that appreciates that and that also has what you're looking for in a man. That's a good answer for me. I guess it sounds so simple now for me, back then I was overloaded w opinions and dissapointment. Thank you for the video.
I don't know if you'll see this or even want the unsolicited perspective but here we go. I'm a guy that has been happily married for 5 years and dated her for 5 years prior. Some men are unappreciative of the woman who cares, because they don't. I had almost given up dating entirely because every woman I met at college was shallow wouldn't give me the time of day. I met my wife off of a dating app. The first day we talked and I can't even remember what about. But hours flew by. That's when I asked her to be my girlfriend. Afterword she cooked for me, made sure I was studying but didn't force me to. On the nights I worked past midnight she would stay up just to say goodnight. Those little things, to the guy who cares mean the world. He may not care the topic but just likes talking with or being around you. Don't look for Mr. Perfect but Mr. Right. He doesn't need to look like a model but attractive enough. But someone who cares and says thank you either literally or in small gestures. There are more good guys then bad. Most just get overlooked or are afraid of rejection.
Funny how I acted like this with mine and now we live together with 4 kids. If you want to do this for a man u like there is nothing wrong with it. Stop taking dating advice from people that call a kind gesture a wifey task 😂
I don't get it. Like a women making me food has 0 effect on how I feel about her. Doesn't matter if she does or does not. If its a nice gesture then its one that I don't care about.
@@voevodineu i think people should both express gratitude. Just saying thank you and reminding how much it something matters to you is not hard, and it means a lot
@@lunedefroid8817 It depends on one's empathy level I'd say, I am one of those people who finds it hard to express feelings, sure it's some kind of social cripliness, but nevertheless, it's not easy for everyone as you said - that's what I would like to point out
My wife has been wifey since day 1. Everything she did amd continues to do for me fills my heart with so much love and respect. I give her thay same love and energy in return. Weve been together happily ever since and plam on having kids soon.
I think the big thing is to make sure you’re doing this for the right person. Doing all of this stuff earlier on can def backfire if it’s the wrong person. This is where discernment comes into play 💙
@@dennis_hdmi5402doing it for the wrong person means 1) you waste time by throwing pearls to swine 2) you open yourself up for being unappreciated to the point where it can border on disrespect because they do not reciprocate 3) you open yourself up to attacks on your time, energy and sometimes psychological well being from people who have no good intentions for you. It can definitely backfire alright…
@2011troya agreed, but all of that is observable, and when it happens, you now know to leave him for someone who won't do that. So it isn't a problem and can help with discernment.
@2011troya Dude, she's trying to make him lunch. She's not trying to pay up his 7-figure debt. It's not that deep. Reciprocate affection and gesture to the person you're dating. If you're gonna get caught up with the "are they the right person" mentality, then don't date them and respect the other person's time they could be spending with someone who could show appreciation because you clearly can't.
@@dennis_hdmi5402I'm a giver, not a taker. I don't like it when people do things for me that we didn't talk about first, but I'm happy to be generous and thoughtful when there's an opportunity. If someone made a lunch for me without asking first if I wanted one, I'd be upset by the obligation being imposed. I'm probably a fringe case though. Food stuff is the kind of thing a person learns on a first date. I'm just saying they've got a point about discernment. In relationships, communication is key.
Well done and great work. Not married, but been with the same for 15 years, with 2 kids. It sure take some effort and there can be some really low periods where you can regret it all. Buuut it passes and life is good again.
When I met my husband, he didn't mind taking me on our first date to Panera Bread when he asked me out which is my favorite place and on our second date I decided to treat him out to a nice coffee shop in my suburban area and a bike ride adventure together. We didn't mind treating each other out on dates.
This is really cute and sweet! 🥰 Bike ride adventure sounds like an awesome date idea, it's something fun! Dinner dates are nice but it's cool to see people doing other fun ideas.
You approached the relationship thinking "What can I do for him?" and his was "What can I do for her?". This is the secret to every successful relationship and (as far as I can gather) that is what you experiencing. Keep it up the both of you.
The dating world is so f*ed up... Thanks for being on point. Relations are give and take. Note that give comes FIRST and it's true for the both of you at the same time.
No, men will take you as a doormat. Men have biological tendency to chase women. If a woman is too nice, they take it as cue to walk all over her and give her bare minimum in return. All of that while he stalks and likes Stacey’s insta profile and longs for her.
Women... AND men, are forgetting that in order to please someone you have to strive to be nice. In the society we are developing, it is increasingly common to see vanity, self-centeredness and self-indulgence at their best.
Met my wife 53 years ago one evening when we were both in separate high schools, about 25 miles apart & We clicked :) I've shortened this story, but I immediately started picking her up from school , but in order to see her daily, I chose to help her with her busy outside charity work. It brought us that much closer & it has worked well - both ways - over the years, including when I was in the Navy right after graduation & she still had another year of school.... Great ride & I'd do it again!
Exactly. Give and take. No relationship can function without both sides willing to give. Too many women feel too entitled to man’s effort. Too many men only willing to put forth the effort if they think it will get them laid.
The part about women k agree with but thee men one only sleaze bags expect to be laid and they are the minority of men not the majority the majority of men are ignored and we tend to be more gentlemanly and only expect you to not be going on multiple dates a day or be sleeping around when with us cause I can tell you this we aren't or can't. Not from lack of trying either cause like I said ignored.
@@ditchan1806 I think you meant interdependency? Codependence is toxic but interdependence is necessary because we can’t all possibly be completely self-sufficient. It just doesn’t work in the modern world. With interdependence, we rely on each other to provide for everyone’s needs. So, in a couple, one person may work for a paycheck that pays to keep a roof over heads, food on the table and clothes on the back. And then the cleaning, cooking and laundry is split up (house chores are more demanding than an office job. My partner gets all his work done in less than 2 hours a day, but I work retail shipment so it’s like a workout for me 3-5 days a week, 8 hours, but he works from home. He can do his share of housework).
@@isabelsalamanca893 nah he said no relationship works on just giving but there are a lot of codependent couples (toxic) which do last I was meaning that
@@Rosie82333 I understand that, so they won't get your time for very long, but becoming jaded and testing every potential partner before revealing your true self is nearly as bad as pretending to be a wonderful person and then manipulating your partner, both are dishonest. You miss out on all those truly good people who only got to see your hard shell and decided that person wasn't for them. I don't see how anyone thinks they can find happiness by pretending to be something they're not.
@@Rosie82333 You'll miss out on the right one when you show everybody a person who isn't the true you. You're asking someone to not only show you their true self, but to break down the walls you put up against them. Why would anybody do that? Would you do that? Keep fighting for a relationship where that person is punishing you from day 1 for things you had nothing to do with? Be true to yourself and the right person will be true to you
It’s hilarious cause I guarantee you the second you hand that guy the surprise lunch the first thing that will pop into his head is “what in the wifey material is this??” 😂❤️
I love how some women think equality only goes one way, I like to go the extra mile, to show I'm not like other men that do minimum and think its a lot, but I also like to feel that what I'm doing is appreciated and not just taken for granted.
I'm the type of guy who just does as he pleases and it's always seen as I'm going the extra mile. Which is funny because all my ex's loved that about me but because of that chose to build the relationship on lies because they didn't want to lose me. They became my ex's for a reason.😂
According to society, and if modern feminist get their way, women will get everything and men will work the manual labor jobs and be seen as beneath them. Oh wait that’s already happening, there are more women in college than men, and men are increasingly being drawn to the trades because they don’t have to incur the debt that their supposed wife will have. Also, true equality stopped being the goal like 50 years ago, now they just want a matriarchy. If you ask me, the best society is an egalitarian society like we we’re heading towards anyway.
It's crazy to me that women like this will refuse to do "kind gestures" as they consider it Wifey treatment, yet they will sleep with the guy on the 1st date. (Hell, sometimes without even a date) Just goes to show how backward things are right now. 😂
I was thinking the same thing. I'm in it right now. Just ended a two year relationship. She slept with me on the first night, met her at a night club. Two years later, she won't even make me a cup of coffee. She can't see what my problem is, or why I don't want to move in with her.
It's because how their mothers raise them and the father not having balls to stop it mine and my wifes sons girlfriend is moving in when she turns 18 and me and my beautiful wife told her there will be no disobedience me and my son does the man shot around the house like home repairs working on the car doing yard work mowing and weed eating and my wife and you will cook clean do the laundry follow our orders and fetch our beers and massage our shoulders and shit my wife said she's even going to retrain her to be a reap woman
Thank you so much for these videos. I think they have the power to reallyyyyy open the eyes of a lot of women and real men appreciate your work as well as the way it's done. Even the sass in the end!! 🥂
@@Rosie82333 30 years from now: a girl in the white is happily playing with her 3rd grandkid. While smart fems who "never allowed to take advantage of them" are crying to the pillow and thinking about getting the 5th cat :D
@@ErinThePsychicWitch Ah guys are around everywhere, every store you go to, down every street you are on but most of them wont be interested. Ya'all think guys are dumb but they can sus you up pretty quickly and if not they certainly will when they learn more about you for good or for bad (usually bad.) Most guys are single afterall, they just don't wanna be with you and would actually prefer to remain single than be with you. 9 times out of 10 the single life is a better life for them rather than the alternative and they know it down to their core.
I had a double date with me, my husband, my best friend and his best friend when we went to Chili's. He was gonna pay for it but I told him that I want to pay for us all when we was getting to know each other. I'm a very good caring person and I don't mind making people happy. We took turns when me and my husband went out on dates so he saw the green flags in me and felt in love with me.
100% on point. My wife gets up with me at 5am and many days much earlier, makes my lunch, packs dog treats for my co-pilot, waits for me to come back in from starting my Peterbilt gives me a kiss and my lunch. We guys appreciate things like that.
Amen!!!! Ill never forget how surprised he was that I wanted to go grab breakfast for him in the morning. He ended up getting me breakfast and it was so fvckin sweet❤❤❤❤
She really gets men. Lots of wisdom with gal. Men get a raw deal with how we are talked about, but in reality, women are by far the difficult ones by and large
I did this wifey thing and the guy said "you're moving too fast" sooo still be careful who you're doing this and maybe not do it right away until you're sure the feelings are mutual. (Communicate and listen) And if it's not right then keep on moving some guy would love to be treated that way :3
The guy is a jerk. We only need the stomach full and another thing empty. And it is just food. We love getting food or affection in any way. My wife wrote me sweet letters with hearts, so I had to marry her 😊 I proposed after 6 days of meeting her and she said YES.
As a guy, I say leave him because he is the type of guy not looking for marriage, he is just looking for fun. This is how you out the bad guys from the good ones. If he says it's to fast, it the same type of guy to say "she love bombed me" with gifts. Your wifey level gestures shows a level of seriousness that he didn't want because he doesn't want marriage as the end goal. He is a player!
You missed the point. The point is to treat people well and be amazing to everyone you date. You then use their reaction to gauge whether or not you should stick together. If they don't reciprocate it then you dump them and move on. Just like in your case. You learned that he wasn't worth shit. You move on and keep doing "wifey things" for your future partners until one sticks. You don't wait and "not do it right away". That's pretty much exactly the opposite of what the video is saying.
I love your small reels. Common sense, that's anything BUT common... I truly wish, more people would watch these and take them to heart. You're doing amazing work miss. Keep it up
Difference between a wife and a woman that’ll be single for the rest of her life.
Provide value get value back. This is just a truthful statement no matter which gender
Single vs slave
@@TheLastAlgonquin how does making a sandwich for a man because you want to anything like that? That's actually the opposite
@@Madchris8828 How much does a sandwich from a fast food place and an Uber home from the airport cost? She is providing those services for free.
@@TheLastAlgonquin how much does a guy taking a girl on a date cost?? What's with the weird miserable cost comparison? I don't get what it accomplishes. Enjoying a persons company should be a thing in its own..
Single women keep women single.
Holy shit that’s too accurate
Absolutely true. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend at the time, some of her friends would talk her out of being a relationship and she figured out that they were toxic or I would basically confront them privately say.. you can either be happy for the fact that we're in a relationship with your friend, or I can have you taken home. And have her block you for the rest of your life... They messed around and found out
Love this. Reciprocation. An acknowledgement of all the efforts men make not being a bare minimum, because the bare minimum really is actually nothing.
The ending. Single women keeping women single, and the putdown. Love it.
That one hits hard, because it’s accurate af
Exactly. Women need to stop shunning for being romantic.
when my boyfriend and i first started dating, he wasnt feeling too good at work/hadnt eaten so i dropped him off some chicken nuggets from mcdonalds and added a lil hand written note saying i hope he enjoys and i care about him, it was between my work shifts and i didnt think much of it.. just wanted him to know i care and wanted him to eat something - he said that was one of the most thoughtful things hes ever experienced and still has the note to this day.
Aww so lovely to hear 🥰
I’m dating the wrong women. Never had any woman do anything for me just because she cares.
Some chicken nuggets and a note is memorable... Yeah. People reading your comment should let that sink in.
When we just started dating, my boyfriend got sick. I brought him a box of Kleenex. It floored him that I would do that. It is one of his favorite memories about me, and proved to him I really did like him. We've now been married a couple years ❤ I thought it was just a simple act to help. But it made his year, ncs guys receive so little simple decency anymore 😢
I wish someone would care about me even though I'm different…
“What’s your boyfriend’s name again?”
The silence is quite literally the answer 😂
Neither of them have a boyfriend though.
Actually most girls with high standards do actually get boyfriends. So this is just factually untrue lol.
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One does, she is picking him up at the airport.
@@Chrono_Mitsurugiafter 2 dates? Talking about "wifey-energy" is crazy. 😅
@@bearwitty9690don’t date someone you can’t imagine being in a marriage with. That’s the reason why all those pushy and cringe wifey women are happily married and the others… own cats
It helped me realize my husband was "the one" when he reciprocated my efforts.
Yeah, that's the spirit. You start giving and with good intentions, and if the other person does not reciprocate, you leave. But it's not smart to begin on "defensive" mode. Begin on kind and giving mode, and get out if it doesn't work, man or woman. It's simple.
The reason the system is broken is promiscuity. When women made men step up, and she too had to show the man what kind of person she was, BEFORE sex, the system worked. But the only way it works is with one crucial ingredient. Time. Any player can step up for a short amount of time. He can't do it for the long haul.
If all women made all men wait, then men would have to up their game. Men would then only pursue the woman he wants. No more time wasting. No more ghosting. No more siutationships.
But to be pursued, the woman would have to show she's worth it to him for the long haul.
This is how the system works. We broke the system with hookup culture. Only women can make that go away. But women are short term thinkers. They want the bag, etc... They think they should be able to run around having fun in their 20s, and then find their man in their late 20s to early 30s. But the men they want in their 20s, don't want them long term. Now they have to pursue the guys who do. Those men are increasingly no longer interested in sloppy leftovers.
@@leroyrussell8766Hook up culture does have its downsides but making men wait for sex like a carrot on a stick is hardly a recipe for a healthy relationship, seeing a relationship as an exchange instead of a partnership is fucking weird dude. Sure, some of it is an exchange for us humans to satisfy our cravings for intimacy but that’s a very 1 dimensional way of looking at things. You’re glazing over everything else that goes into partner selection and oversimplifying how dating works. It’s possible for people to treat each other well without giving out sex like treats to men, that’s fucking ridiculous
@@leroyrussell8766dude dating isn’t a system ffs. It’s simple: shoot your shot, reciprocate their efforts, and work with them to make it work. Sometimes you get unlucky and it doesn’t work, but if you keep trying and being a good person you will find someone
But he didn't do the effort first, right? Just waited for you to make an effort and he oh so generously "reciprocated" it. Girl...
A girl I been going out with for about 6 weeks, out of the blue, made me a packed lunch before I headed out. It was kind and thoughtful and happened over 20 years ago and I still remember the gesture with fondness.
Tells you something about how low the bar is.
@@mauritsgresnigt2801 and yet somehow they fail to reach it
@@mauritsgresnigt2801it really does, men take ANY compliment we get and cherish that shit because it rarely happens unless you're conventionally attractive
And why did you separate? 👀
How long have you two been married?
You tell it girl! Being kind to others doesn't require some kind of minimal criteria; your behavior reflects on you, not them. If they "use" you and don't reciprocate similar behavior, then that says everything you need to know about them.
Greatly said!!👌
Changing your behavior because someone MIGHT use you might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard, honestly. Just be normal, be kind, make yourself likeable by the other individual. If they don't reciprocate, then they might not be a fit for you, but you should never assume that they won't.
Exactly! You give the energy you want back and show genuine interest and care for the person you are dating. If they don't reciprocate and use you then you leave. Being aloof and not showing affection isn't going to make a good man suddenly want to wife you up, it's just childish mind games
Men deserve to be pampered too. If he treats you like a Queen, make sure you treat him like a King😊
"Trying way too hard." No, its just called putting effort into a relationship. Thanks for all you do, its refreshing to hear a woman who actually cares.
I often don't even see these things as effort.
I care for the other person, so I WANT to do this stuff. So I argue it is called "showing affection".
Theyre not in a relationship. Theyve had two dates.
@@sugarnads If two dates in, and they're still going out, isn't the beginning of a relationship, then you need to rethink some things.
me here thinking my whole life it's normal
@stratigangames508 two dates isn't enough time to really know someone. For all you know, the person you're going out with could be going out with two other people.
Ladies, guys will remember and treasure a small act of kindness for YEARS. Just putting that out there.
Same as dogs 💀
Ok no I'm sorry... I'm a guy myself but it seemed a perfect opportunity to crack a joke lol
@@xLeco it was
@@yoshiwhere148 ??
You're working under the assumption that these women actually care about pleasing anyone but themselves
@@post-leftluddite I know. But I refuse to believe that that is the norm, no matter how often I see it. (I know it's a little naïve, but I would rather have a little hope)
I just sent my hubby some flowers and a snack to tell him I love him and appreciate all the hard work he's been doing (doing his job while dealing with flaky contractors during some home repair, ugg...). It made him so happy to get them. And he has done the same for me (or run out at midnight for random snack attack fries for us both). It is give and take and mutual effort that makes relationships work.
dude, the girl I'm engaged to made me fall for her by actually doing little things like this that showed she actually cares. Sure, I do all the expensive things like paying for dinners, since I earn almost 4 times as much as her, but even just coming home to see she's arranged my desk and files correctly is the kind of small thing she does that feels so special and makes me see her as someone I want to marry.
Women that do little things for us are the best. My fiancee is similar and also tells me if I'm close to burnout since I hyperfocus on my tasks at work. That woman can read me like an open book, and my mental health has drastically improved thanks to her
im only found 2 girls like this and in 29yo. Sadly, i couldnt had a great match with these women. rn im in a relationship, but i miss that kind of treatment. they are treasures
“What’s being a woman, what’s our bare minimum?” Beautifully said, and the single girl had no answer other than “you’re trying too hard”.
The bare minimum for a woman on a date is to be pleasant no matter where you go and be good company. Basically make sure everyone is having a good time.
Then when it comes time to say that there won't be a 2nd date if things didn't go well to not be a total biatch when you say it.
@@anthonyju6392 And, this isn't the same for a guy?
Women like that are just mad that they are being made to look bad in comparison. Only way a low standard works for someone is if other people apply it too.
Then again... if too many women set the bar for themselves too low, then men apparently just peace out and play video games.
@@michaeldietz7793 It is a little different but I didn't word it specifically enough. The guy is going to be the anxious one since the onus is on him is to try and carry the date but the woman is suppose to a soothing element calming allowing the guy to feel more comfortable which leads to a better time for everyone involved.
This might require laughing at stupid jokes, smiling a lot, and speaking words of encouragement without being condescending.
You are very amazing. We need more people like you in the world. All the other women are intolerant to this thing we need some more good women like you good job you go girl.
Still remember receiving flowers on a date for the first time when I was 23. Blew my mind. I never knew I could receive flowers and it made me so happy!
Did marry her?
@@missantrafalgar782 well, I’m 24 now, and we realized we weren’t right for each other around our 8th date. Though it didn’t work out, I’ve learned that even though I’m male presenting, I still deserve to be treated with the same attention and care that a woman does on dates! :) I’m in a relationship now, and she always wants to take care of me. Like, the other day I was really feeling unwell, so she went grocery shopping for the essentials for me, and handmade me some sushi rolls to eat since it’s my favorite food. She makes me very happy, and I think she’s the one :)
You are a person of course you can. however society says no.
Me? I buy myself flowers or plants that i like. If someone thinks otherwise I don't care. It's not your business.
My boyfriend didn't realise i bought flowers for him. He thought someone left them and i took them or smth else. Men are not used to flowers...
@@AnjaLerntDeutschI mean they also need to like flowers. Personally I don't.
Not really about the video, but i just wanna share. My friend has been with this guy for two years. Everyday she’ll prepare his clothes, do laundry, clean, organize his closet, prepare his towel, heck she even SQUEEZES the toothpaste into the brush for him everytime he’s about to take a shower. AND THIS GUY JUST CHEATED ON MY FRIEND. While I do agree with the video, appreciation should go both way for a relationship so i hope the person anyone’s on the date with appreciates this kind gesture.
There's "wifey treatment" and then there's "mommy treatment"...
He probably put her in the friendzone, because she didn’t gave him enough bad girl vibes or something? At least that’s the female explanation on why they cheat on good husbands.
Exactly. The man has to be quality…
While I don't condone cheating in a monogamous relationship, if they were sexless and he addressed this with her, then there were only two real possible outcomes of she didn't correct that. You may not be getting the whole story.
@@roycewalters I found the incel
I love this. Some of us have had bad experiences being “wifey material” and see that as the problem to why we weren’t taken seriously when we were just with the wrong guy. You should always put in effort as much as he is. Especially if he’s paying for dates, making sure you’re safe and opening doors for you. Making someone a meal or snack is the most kindest thing you can do. You’d want the guy to do things for you while dating too. You don’t have to go full on wife but you can show your interest in your actions.
I met this girl at a party and she was ALLLL THAT, maroon-red dyed hair, thin waist, pretty face. The house party that we were all at, was at her aunts house and her nephews were there and they came downstairs hungry. I watched her make food for these 2 kids in the middle of people partying,dancing and singing. She brought them back up and came back down and cleaned the kitchen and the house while the party continued. I went back to my apartment at college and I got a call from one of my boys “Yo, that girl with the red hair wanted your number!” The next week she moved in with me because I learned she was sleeping on a couch at her aunts place for months. That was 5 years ago and we got married last February. Girls, be wifey material to get husband material. Guys, be husband material to get wifey material. It’s a 50/50, not a one way street.
Dude you kidnapped a homeless woman… how do we know she’s okay
It starts as 50/50 but should go up to 100/100 as you both test each other out
@@ladyoftheflowers44 ahhhh, she’s cookin dinner and watching Hell’s Kitchen while happy-dancing. That’s happy to me!
wow
soooo what exactly did you do that makes you husband material? you were the one who was 'just there' in this scenario lol
It’s always the single ones😂 miserable people love company.
ask a woman genuinly, what do you bring in a relationship ? she will either say its sexist but actually litterally dont know what they offer in a relationship yet they know immedietaly the whole list they want in a man, these women are incredibly entitled these days its sad
Facts
It’s always the smart ones that don’t need male validation 😂
My friend in misery is such a true song
Its because they think i'm offering my beauty and sex be happy for that you have me thats the mindset of modern women 🤔@@cedricdellafaille1361
Even if it doesn't work out, you would forever be remembered as that one nice girl who brough food :)
Men and women are not wired the same.
"What's our bare minimum ?" Well said girllllll👏🔥we need to remember if we expect so much then we have to give equal efforts in return. A
“what’s ur bf’s name again?”
omg fuck’n murdered her 🤣
Joshua
James
Brian
Kurvok
Tio
Tam
Samuel
Lucian
Frank
Graham
David
Ben
And of course Jessica
But they are just for fun
And her main is posh tom
What day is it???
Michael McDoesntexist
Yes she destroyed an argument she created in her head and then acted out
What color is your Bugatti
I LOVE it when a woman does stuff like that at the beginning. Good way to make him fall hard for you
Especially since guys stupidly give husband treatment before she proves herself a wife. No wonder women are so entitled men make it too easy to be
None do lol
Actually it's rare but if you find a girl that does be very careful. She might be faking her personality, I fell that for a whole year she played me
@@relax6098 usually the ones who act that way look like men as well
@@relax6098 True story. Could be part of the love bombing a narcissist does in the beginning of dating and the relationship. Then she'll devalue you and you'll wonder what you did wrong
Your content has helped me overcome a lot of my social programming. I appreciate my lady now more than ever. Thank you
I like this Lady, she's on point, real talk.
It's all about balance and effort in relationships. Appreciation goes a long way.
Mr Beast?
@@emmanuelogunkolati2737 no
Highkey a good friendly gesture too. Not everything is romantic my love language is just acts of service
Your love language is getting taken advantage of
No girl is doing this unless they like you lmao
Normalize love language expression in contexts that aren't always romantic. Cuz they aren't. My love language is physical touch. I always make sure to dap up the homies and pat em on the back when they're down. It goes a long way.
@@kaior1that's not true.
@@Rosie82333if they want to do acts of service for people they care about leave em alone, it's not getting used if they want to do it.
This woman is a gem
When I started dating my bf of two years , I would always make him lunch and take care of him when he was sick and he didn’t have a job at the time so I always paid for everything. Now that he has a job he pays for everything and takes good care of me and we're getting married next year. Always be kind and considerate ❤
I 100% support this, you should not be getting advice from people cannot hold a date of their own
They're called Dating Experts nowadays.
Such facts
Well said. I'd say about half my dating experience is just women "showing up" and expecting me to do everything. Plan the date, pick them up, carry the conversation, do all the gentleman stuff, take them home, be nice to their family and friends if we meet, make the move towards intimacy and all this carries the risk of rejection at any point while getting no appreciation. Really feels like it's 1 wrong move and all the 99 good things you've done are forgotten.
Well stated! 👍🤟
Couldn't ave said it better
Yeah really.. couldn’t have said it better
brilliantly worded
sounds about right.
its definitely not as horrible as some of the red pill content makes it sound like. but about half or alittle above that is also what i experienced.
You know, I used to be the one putting he effort all the time, getting nothing in return, or even mistreatment. I got enough and for a few months I watched a lot of content where woman were saying exactly what the girl in black is saying here, "men need to do everything" and a lot of content where men were misogynists. Honestly as a woman in her early 20's I felt like neither the thing I was doing nor the thing they were advising was a solution for me, and it got me kind of sad.
Might sound like I'm exaggerating but this video feels like the conversation my mind has been having these past few months. What being a woman is? What's my part in a relationship? I guess it's just a choice. Deciding what you're willing to offer, find someone that appreciates that and that also has what you're looking for in a man. That's a good answer for me.
I guess it sounds so simple now for me, back then I was overloaded w opinions and dissapointment.
Thank you for the video.
I don't know if you'll see this or even want the unsolicited perspective but here we go. I'm a guy that has been happily married for 5 years and dated her for 5 years prior. Some men are unappreciative of the woman who cares, because they don't.
I had almost given up dating entirely because every woman I met at college was shallow wouldn't give me the time of day. I met my wife off of a dating app. The first day we talked and I can't even remember what about. But hours flew by. That's when I asked her to be my girlfriend. Afterword she cooked for me, made sure I was studying but didn't force me to. On the nights I worked past midnight she would stay up just to say goodnight.
Those little things, to the guy who cares mean the world. He may not care the topic but just likes talking with or being around you.
Don't look for Mr. Perfect but Mr. Right. He doesn't need to look like a model but attractive enough. But someone who cares and says thank you either literally or in small gestures. There are more good guys then bad. Most just get overlooked or are afraid of rejection.
"What's you're boyfriends name again..." LOL
Funny how I acted like this with mine and now we live together with 4 kids. If you want to do this for a man u like there is nothing wrong with it. Stop taking dating advice from people that call a kind gesture a wifey task 😂
Moments like this when you realise there should be a double-like button
Smart based woman with real life results!!!
I don't get it. Like a women making me food has 0 effect on how I feel about her. Doesn't matter if she does or does not. If its a nice gesture then its one that I don't care about.
Thats why my beautiful traditional wife and a woman like you has the ring
Funny how you don't just say married unless it doesn't apply
It's so sweet to make a lunch for your partner. It only becomes a problem when he takes it for granted and does not express gratitude.
What if he does something back, and doesn't expect your gratitude as well?
Sure if this situation was about partner. This is a dude that she's seen twice.
This is just Insanity.
@@voevodineu i think people should both express gratitude. Just saying thank you and reminding how much it something matters to you is not hard, and it means a lot
@@voevodineu
Enjoy your healthy relationship?
@@lunedefroid8817 It depends on one's empathy level I'd say, I am one of those people who finds it hard to express feelings, sure it's some kind of social cripliness, but nevertheless, it's not easy for everyone as you said - that's what I would like to point out
My wife has been wifey since day 1. Everything she did amd continues to do for me fills my heart with so much love and respect. I give her thay same love and energy in return. Weve been together happily ever since and plam on having kids soon.
I agree. One does not deserve any minimal criteria just by minimal effort and it goes both ways.
I think the big thing is to make sure you’re doing this for the right person. Doing all of this stuff earlier on can def backfire if it’s the wrong person. This is where discernment comes into play 💙
How can that backfire??
@@dennis_hdmi5402doing it for the wrong person means 1) you waste time by throwing pearls to swine 2) you open yourself up for being unappreciated to the point where it can border on disrespect because they do not reciprocate 3) you open yourself up to attacks on your time, energy and sometimes psychological well being from people who have no good intentions for you.
It can definitely backfire alright…
@2011troya agreed, but all of that is observable, and when it happens, you now know to leave him for someone who won't do that. So it isn't a problem and can help with discernment.
@2011troya Dude, she's trying to make him lunch. She's not trying to pay up his 7-figure debt. It's not that deep. Reciprocate affection and gesture to the person you're dating. If you're gonna get caught up with the "are they the right person" mentality, then don't date them and respect the other person's time they could be spending with someone who could show appreciation because you clearly can't.
@@dennis_hdmi5402I'm a giver, not a taker. I don't like it when people do things for me that we didn't talk about first, but I'm happy to be generous and thoughtful when there's an opportunity. If someone made a lunch for me without asking first if I wanted one, I'd be upset by the obligation being imposed.
I'm probably a fringe case though. Food stuff is the kind of thing a person learns on a first date.
I'm just saying they've got a point about discernment. In relationships, communication is key.
Married 33 years One of your better videos keep up the good work
Well done and great work. Not married, but been with the same for 15 years, with 2 kids. It sure take some effort and there can be some really low periods where you can regret it all. Buuut it passes and life is good again.
@@itchfinger15 years and 2 kids? you're already married at that point fam
It's women like this that inspire the greatest love songs of all time.
“What’s you boyfriends name again?” Got me rolling on the on the floor 😂
As a man, please accept my sincerest gratitude for educating the future generations on "reciprocation" , equal effort and mutual respect.
Yes!
Well said, brother!
Also, half the stuff she said was just good manners, that’s not going above and beyond.
He didn’t ask for the lunch. That makes it a nice and kind gesture
God bless!
The world needs more of you.
SERVICE "IS" THE BASES OF A GREAT RELATIONSHIP, IT SHOWS RESPECT & LOVE......
This kind of respectful , valuing, loving behaviour makes me melt.
When I met my husband, he didn't mind taking me on our first date to Panera Bread when he asked me out which is my favorite place and on our second date I decided to treat him out to a nice coffee shop in my suburban area and a bike ride adventure together. We didn't mind treating each other out on dates.
That sounds awesome. It's nice to hear good stories on dating rather than the typical horror stories plastered all over social media
This is really cute and sweet! 🥰 Bike ride adventure sounds like an awesome date idea, it's something fun! Dinner dates are nice but it's cool to see people doing other fun ideas.
You approached the relationship thinking "What can I do for him?" and his was "What can I do for her?". This is the secret to every successful relationship and (as far as I can gather) that is what you experiencing. Keep it up the both of you.
The dating world is so f*ed up... Thanks for being on point. Relations are give and take. Note that give comes FIRST and it's true for the both of you at the same time.
This is one of the few good women left that are worth the world.
Honestly its such a really nice gesture. Like not even romantic. Thoughtful and sweet. It just shows you its kind
No, men will take you as a doormat. Men have biological tendency to chase women. If a woman is too nice, they take it as cue to walk all over her and give her bare minimum in return. All of that while he stalks and likes Stacey’s insta profile and longs for her.
Women... AND men, are forgetting that in order to please someone you have to strive to be nice.
In the society we are developing, it is increasingly common to see vanity, self-centeredness and self-indulgence at their best.
THIS WAS THE MOST FACTUAL FACTS DUDE HELL YEAH THIS WOMAN IS GOLDEN LET NOTHING HARM HER BOYS
Keep that woman safe... She is a keeper
This woman is refreshing tbh. God bless her
Treat people awesome right off the bat, they dont match your energy or effort then move on. Dont play the "earn it" game, no one wins.
☝🏼
Yes!!!
They both made good points actually.
I love how honest this feels.
Met my wife 53 years ago one evening when we were both in separate high schools, about 25 miles apart &
We clicked :)
I've shortened this story, but
I immediately started picking her up from school , but in order to see her daily, I chose to help her with her busy outside charity work. It brought us that much closer & it has worked well - both ways - over the years, including when I was in the Navy right after graduation & she still had another year of school....
Great ride &
I'd do it again!
Awesome!
My dad used to go hangout at the hospital so he could spend time with my mom who was what they called a "Candy Striper."
Exactly. Give and take. No relationship can function without both sides willing to give. Too many women feel too entitled to man’s effort. Too many men only willing to put forth the effort if they think it will get them laid.
The part about women k agree with but thee men one only sleaze bags expect to be laid and they are the minority of men not the majority the majority of men are ignored and we tend to be more gentlemanly and only expect you to not be going on multiple dates a day or be sleeping around when with us cause I can tell you this we aren't or can't. Not from lack of trying either cause like I said ignored.
a relationship should be build on love not business, there shouldnt be give and take but rather selflessness
You've never heard of codependecy
@@ditchan1806 I think you meant interdependency? Codependence is toxic but interdependence is necessary because we can’t all possibly be completely self-sufficient. It just doesn’t work in the modern world. With interdependence, we rely on each other to provide for everyone’s needs. So, in a couple, one person may work for a paycheck that pays to keep a roof over heads, food on the table and clothes on the back. And then the cleaning, cooking and laundry is split up (house chores are more demanding than an office job. My partner gets all his work done in less than 2 hours a day, but I work retail shipment so it’s like a workout for me 3-5 days a week, 8 hours, but he works from home. He can do his share of housework).
@@isabelsalamanca893 nah he said no relationship works on just giving but there are a lot of codependent couples (toxic) which do last
I was meaning that
“What’s your boyfriend’s name again?” That got me good 😂
What's your boyfriends name again?"
Savage lmfao that was perfect
💯 Be the partner you want to be and you'll find that in them too
They just take advantage
@@Rosie82333 I understand that, so they won't get your time for very long, but becoming jaded and testing every potential partner before revealing your true self is nearly as bad as pretending to be a wonderful person and then manipulating your partner, both are dishonest. You miss out on all those truly good people who only got to see your hard shell and decided that person wasn't for them. I don't see how anyone thinks they can find happiness by pretending to be something they're not.
@@Rosie82333 You'll miss out on the right one when you show everybody a person who isn't the true you. You're asking someone to not only show you their true self, but to break down the walls you put up against them. Why would anybody do that? Would you do that? Keep fighting for a relationship where that person is punishing you from day 1 for things you had nothing to do with? Be true to yourself and the right person will be true to you
@@Rosie82333then leave
@@Rosie82333its your second comment, there prob are more. Get your heartbroken ahh outa here
It’s hilarious cause I guarantee you the second you hand that guy the surprise lunch the first thing that will pop into his head is “what in the wifey material is this??” 😂❤️
Thank god there are people like you in the world
That's very nice of you. Anyone would appreciate the thought and the effort.
I love how some women think equality only goes one way, I like to go the extra mile, to show I'm not like other men that do minimum and think its a lot, but I also like to feel that what I'm doing is appreciated and not just taken for granted.
I'm the type of guy who just does as he pleases and it's always seen as I'm going the extra mile. Which is funny because all my ex's loved that about me but because of that chose to build the relationship on lies because they didn't want to lose me. They became my ex's for a reason.😂
According to society, and if modern feminist get their way, women will get everything and men will work the manual labor jobs and be seen as beneath them. Oh wait that’s already happening, there are more women in college than men, and men are increasingly being drawn to the trades because they don’t have to incur the debt that their supposed wife will have.
Also, true equality stopped being the goal like 50 years ago, now they just want a matriarchy. If you ask me, the best society is an egalitarian society like we we’re heading towards anyway.
As a guy, that's boss! 100% gonna "get you back" with a surprise lunch of your own.
"What's your boyfriend's name again"
Savage lmaooo💀💀
I've thought so much about finding the one, but damn if I could've found you I think I'd actually be happy.
It's crazy to me that women like this will refuse to do "kind gestures" as they consider it Wifey treatment, yet they will sleep with the guy on the 1st date. (Hell, sometimes without even a date)
Just goes to show how backward things are right now. 😂
I was thinking the same thing.
I'm in it right now. Just ended a two year relationship. She slept with me on the first night, met her at a night club. Two years later, she won't even make me a cup of coffee. She can't see what my problem is, or why I don't want to move in with her.
@@Erik_369 how TF you went past a week????
@@samuraitadpole5459 Hahaha! Good question.
It's because how their mothers raise them and the father not having balls to stop it mine and my wifes sons girlfriend is moving in when she turns 18 and me and my beautiful wife told her there will be no disobedience me and my son does the man shot around the house like home repairs working on the car doing yard work mowing and weed eating and my wife and you will cook clean do the laundry follow our orders and fetch our beers and massage our shoulders and shit my wife said she's even going to retrain her to be a reap woman
@@Erik_369 must have been some damn good box. 🤣
Protect this woman at all costs!!!
I want her to keep telling me what I want to hear
@@vortigaunt911 she spitting facts.
Protect this beautiful woman at all costs
Thank you so much for these videos. I think they have the power to reallyyyyy open the eyes of a lot of women and real men appreciate your work as well as the way it's done.
Even the sass in the end!! 🥂
"Cow Manure attracts flies, Sunflowers attract bees" -My Grandma
Literally thank you, wish more women had these types of values too. There'd be more hope for both genders of our generation...
My faith and hope for humanity is restored in this one short video. Thanks
These videos give me hope as a man that i really have a chance to find a good woman after i lost someone i really really loved.
Women in white knows what she wants, and knows how to lock it down.. Bravo
Getting taken advantage of 😂
@@Rosie82333 30 years from now: a girl in the white is happily playing with her 3rd grandkid. While smart fems who "never allowed to take advantage of them" are crying to the pillow and thinking about getting the 5th cat :D
@@Rosie82333 You must be sad
Bullshit. That doesn't lock any man down. Ask the women who have played wifey for years and he's still cheating.
@@lastchancefancypants7905 Nah, just hip to the game.
Every man needs a woman like her in his life.
Let them know girl some real woman right here god bless you we still have hope 😭
Single women keep women single
And also shitty men
You wish it was difficult to find a man 😂
@ErinThePsychicWitch you find them, you just can't keep them.
@@ErinThePsychicWitch Ah guys are around everywhere, every store you go to, down every street you are on but most of them wont be interested.
Ya'all think guys are dumb but they can sus you up pretty quickly and if not they certainly will when they learn more about you for good or for bad (usually bad.)
Most guys are single afterall, they just don't wanna be with you and would actually prefer to remain single than be with you. 9 times out of 10 the single life is a better life for them rather than the alternative and they know it down to their core.
Gifts and service are great ways to show people you care
Literally a case of “if you want kindness then be eager to give kindness”
Yep. Totally agree 👍
Praise this woman until the end of time
I had a double date with me, my husband, my best friend and his best friend when we went to Chili's. He was gonna pay for it but I told him that I want to pay for us all when we was getting to know each other. I'm a very good caring person and I don't mind making people happy. We took turns when me and my husband went out on dates so he saw the green flags in me and felt in love with me.
Protect this woman at all costs
100%
Agreed 💯
This woman is conscience incarnate!
She just absolutely nailed it!
Thank you for this video. To men, these little acts of kindness mean everything. Most women have no idea.
God I wish more women thought like this girl It would have made life so much easier for so many men out there
You mean having someone they can use for what they need whilst giving her the bare minimum to keep her around for sex!!!
100% on point. My wife gets up with me at 5am and many days much earlier, makes my lunch, packs dog treats for my co-pilot, waits for me to come back in from starting my Peterbilt gives me a kiss and my lunch. We guys appreciate things like that.
Being considerate of each other is definitely the way.
"What's Your Boyfriends Name Again!?" Was 🔥🔥🔥😂😂😂
You can tell which one will end up with wine and cats at 37, wondering "Where are all the good men?"
Beg pardon, but I think you've a spelling error: you put "wine" when you meant "whine" perhaps?
@@flyingbeaver57autist
Amen!!!! Ill never forget how surprised he was that I wanted to go grab breakfast for him in the morning. He ended up getting me breakfast and it was so fvckin sweet❤❤❤❤
She really gets men. Lots of wisdom with gal. Men get a raw deal with how we are talked about, but in reality, women are by far the difficult ones by and large
Her boyfriend name is Chad, and he hasn't texted back bc he's been very busy with work😂
"Thanks for the tip....
What's your boyfriend's name again?"
Brilliant!
That last dig was crazy 😂 "What's your boyfriend's name again?"
I did this wifey thing and the guy said "you're moving too fast" sooo still be careful who you're doing this and maybe not do it right away until you're sure the feelings are mutual. (Communicate and listen) And if it's not right then keep on moving some guy would love to be treated that way :3
The guy is a jerk. We only need the stomach full and another thing empty. And it is just food. We love getting food or affection in any way. My wife wrote me sweet letters with hearts, so I had to marry her 😊 I proposed after 6 days of meeting her and she said YES.
As a guy, I say leave him because he is the type of guy not looking for marriage, he is just looking for fun. This is how you out the bad guys from the good ones. If he says it's to fast, it the same type of guy to say "she love bombed me" with gifts. Your wifey level gestures shows a level of seriousness that he didn't want because he doesn't want marriage as the end goal. He is a player!
You missed the point. The point is to treat people well and be amazing to everyone you date. You then use their reaction to gauge whether or not you should stick together. If they don't reciprocate it then you dump them and move on. Just like in your case. You learned that he wasn't worth shit. You move on and keep doing "wifey things" for your future partners until one sticks. You don't wait and "not do it right away". That's pretty much exactly the opposite of what the video is saying.
I love your small reels. Common sense, that's anything BUT common...
I truly wish, more people would watch these and take them to heart.
You're doing amazing work miss. Keep it up