The Weirdest Form of Dysphoria?
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2020
- In this video, I talk about the gender dysphoria that can come from not having a uterus. It’s come in a variety of forms for me over the years and at a variety of intensities. I’m curious to hear what y’all think!
I'm doing a Q&A next! Comment any questions you have for me, and I'll do my best to respond in video format! :)
Boone Williams how old are you? No offense intended but my age guessing skills are atrocious for anyone under 30. Your like in my top 5 favorite youtubers btw
have you ever wondered if you were born intersex? did you want to take your caryotype or do some genetic testing to see what's going on?
do you have Instagram
I relate to this so much. My friends always tell me that I’m lucky that I cant get my period. It just places this cloud of dysphoria over my head that I can never get rid of. I’ve always wanted to be pregnant and have children of my own. Getting pregnant and being a mother (to me) is such a big part of womanhood and I’ll never be able to achieve that.
I feel that way about pregnancy :( I wish I could feel that experience and being a mom.
Yeah recently I've been yearning more and more to be able to get pregnant 😞
@@boonewilliams5338 I understand. Growing up I was obsessed with pregnant cis women. I loved seeing them and the glow. I was both jealous and envious of them. Then I realized it was the dysphoria. After realizing why I felt that way,it really hit and sunk in. It sucks.
@@boonewilliams5338 I think there's research going on to make sperm cells and egg cells out of stem cells that can be extracted from your bone marrow. So maybe its not being pregnant but the opportunity to be a biological parent is very real!
And for those who keep their parts or freeze sperm then that's an opportunity too :)
The things you talk about things and think about I feel like I could literally have an all day long conversation with you lol you say and do all the things I've only WISHED I could say and do since my young teens and I'm in my early 30s now :(
Well, I'm extremely lucky that the world is changing. I happen to be younger, and I understand my privilege to have grown up in a much more progressive time, but you still have so much life ahead of you, and things are only going to get better for all of us. I'm glad that I'm able to have these conversations, and I'm really grateful for you and everyone else for contributing your stories, experiences, and opinions 💛
@@boonewilliams5338 yea I definitely agree the internet is like my personal therapy now a days lol I can find like minded individuals and talk about things I could never even mention in my hometown publicly! I mentioned it in a different comment but I actually just came out to my closest friend who also happens to be my ex today and watching these videos definitely helped me finally take that leap after all these years. My ex was very supportive even offered to help me tell my mom and everything it just couldn't have went any better. I know that the world won't accept me but as long as the people I'm closest to do I'll be happy with that. Now I feel like I have sooo much ahead of me but after all these years of playing a role that doesn't fit me I'm willing to go thru hell and back just to actually be the person I wanna be. It is the best thing to be able to go on the internet and share this with anyone. 20 years ago when I first realized I wanted to be female when I was like 12-13 the internet was still basic social media and CZcams wasn't a thing you're right you grew up in a better time obviously a progressive area whereever you're from I'm sure people are more accepting then they are where I'm from lol. I think if society was simply more accepting of these things so many more people would be coming out and be happier in life.
I just feel less valid by not having a uterus and stuff and feel like I missed out on going through the right puberty and all the experiences that come with it.
You're completely valid Expo! Remember that all that truly exists is the present. Onwards and upwards!
@@TheCheesedodo awww, thank you🥰❤️❤️❤️
@@Miss__Victoria What's your transition like so far girl? I'm seriously considering starting myself
@@TheCheesedodo ummmm well... idk what to say... Results wise... I am surprised and happy with changes so far and can't wait for more to come. I say surprised because of some of the changes I either didn't expect and/or didn't think were going to happen, or didnt even know were possible or would happen... in only 8 months of hrt, I don't even look like the same person anymore and guys are flirting with me😅 My doctor at planned parenthood was amazed lol
@@Miss__Victoria aw that sounds super great. I'm happy for you. I'm interested in hearing about what changes HRT is doing for you. I am hoping HRT would feminise my face and help me access my emotions better
Many intersex women don't have periods, and they feel the same way you do, whether they were raised as girls or not. I have a friend with Turner Syndrome, and it seems that she really wishes she was able to get pregnant and have a child. It's a normal type of dysphoria for women who have no uterus, so it certainly doesn't invalidate your womanhood to have this kind of feeling.
You're totally right, and I really appreciate you saying that. Despite how often giving birth is seen as a part of womanhood, there are plenty of cis women and non-trans-identifying women who can't or choose not to get pregnant
Thank you for this post. I'm not alone! Pre-transition I was oddly jealous of my best friends periods. Post transition I had too many other worries at first, but after GCS I was purchasing and using tampons. But I never went as far as Roberta Close who used chicken blood to help simulate her periods.
Hope all is well and in good spirits Boone!
OMG THE MAKEUP!!! i love it so much!!! Could you make a video about your everyday Makeup and hair routine?
I relate to this so much. Like I don't *want* to have periods... But it feels wrong that I don't. And I wish I could relate to it when people talk about it. Luckily, my best friend and a few others tell me a lot of details about their periods, and are open if I have a question about them in that discussion, and so I know a few things about them which lets me sort of relate by proxy and participate in discussions by saying like "oh yeah, my friend has that too," or "my other friend took that pill and this changed". Little things like that
All of your thoughts on "transitioning"... Very enlightening, and "real", at least for me... I've not transitioned (it's complex), nor am I even "out"... No one would suspect my "transgender" interior, except for some of my attitudes, political and otherwise of/"for women, about which I am very outspoken, which then only seem "offbeat" for a man... ... I am much older than you (70+, "young" physically, no one guesses my age), but I've always acknowledged in conversations, my desire to, "experience pregnancy, have a child", which, to my surprise, has always been met with surprise, and as an opinion "seldom expressed by a man"... You very well articulate the "syndrome" or what ever it is (?), and like for you, the (your) affirmation of our common experience/thought is comforting... ' Always wondered (before greater "openness" and conversation, U-tube, on "transness") why/how I was having these thoughts, feelings (example: empathy for women's issues, dysphoria, etc..., though life seemed manageable... With greater consciousness in earlier in my life, I might have come to other conclusions... (?), Thank you ! You are certainly very affirming, comforting for a good many... - Farley A.
I left this comment on your last video, but since you asked for questions I'll leave it here too. Did you have any obstacles in coming out in the realm of conservative/religious parents or just closed minded friends or family?
Hey boone...im a newly out 14 year trans...do u have any tips for me...rlly need ur help
Yeah I totally hate it and it hurts when cis women have said to me your lucky you don't have to have periods. Like bitch I wish i was a cis woman and I wish i could have a period and birth my own kids. They don't realize how much it hurts when they say that. I have friends who are trans women who feel the same way.
Absolutely. I feel like there is a lack of understanding that can feel like a total disregard for the struggles we face and the things that we will never get to experience and share as a part of what is often seen as womanhood in a cis-nomerative society.
How old are you? Im just wondering I don’t mean this in a rude way obviously if this is rude please tell me thanks.
I'm pretty sure she's 18, I could be wrong tho.
Thoughts on owning catgirls as pets?
Periods totally suck!
You are welcome to spend every day with me while I'm on mine.
I am being sincere here, btw. You are seriously welcome. My symptoms are extreme so having anyone attempt to understand it (empathetically)would be awesome
You can‘t really wish that.