You Asked, We Answered! Dealing with an Insecure Husband
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- čas přidán 6. 02. 2022
- Real fam, you picked the topic and we’re answering! We weigh in on how we’d deal with an insecure husband.
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Loni's dress looks nice on her
I agree! That coral colour is beautiful on her
She's a really gorgeous woman
Veryyy!!
She looks so good!
It depends (& this goes for both genders). If it's a matter of lacking confidence, encourage them & help them through it. If their insecurities cause them to be controlling & abusive, get out ASAP
Perfectly worded
Perfect! Everyone has insecurities, it’s normal actually. But to use those “insecurities” to control and abuse, that’s a hell no
You took the words right out of my mouth
I think they misunderstood this topic. Having insecurities is different then being an insecure men. Insecure men are toxic af. That's not the same as a man having insecurities about his body.
What's new with these three... 🤦🏾♀️
Adrienne always does that
Huh? Insecurities don’t make you toxic. The topic was vague.
@@jazzyj904 I didn’t say that. You literally made my point. I said insecure men are toxic which is not the same thing as a man with insecurities.
They knew the topic… but decided to pivot
I do agree with Ade. People absolutely ignore the fact that men feel bad about themselves. Women especially view them as weak.
However, there is a great difference between being an overall insecure person and having insecurity. An overall insecure person is toxic and will often try to tear you down.
I think Adrienne starting the discussion kinda took it in a certain direction. I think the ladies romanticised this whole thing about an insecure man. Guys insecure men are EXHAUSTING. Especially if they don't have a handle on their insecurities. I once suggested counseling, twice actually in different relationships and both guys went once and didn't go back. So it's not that simple.
Agree! Adrienne ran in a different direction which is too bad bc honestly insecure men or women can be very toxic to be in a relationship with.
Literally, soon as she started talking I was like "girl what???"
She totally missed the mark and I think the other ladies knew it but still went in her direction anyway
As are women who are insecure. Yet these things aren't talking about.
insecure women are exhausting too see no equality
no its your not responsibility but men are taught to basically be robots with no feelings and thats not ok and men always have to be strong no let men be human just like women
The quote I live by is Psalm 118:24 “This is the day the lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it.” It makes me appreciate life and cherish the little things, and life is so beautiful and precious, so everyday I’m able to wake up is a blessing.
Yassssss🙌🙌👍👍 y’all better come through with these Bible quotes. I’m feeling you guys energy😊😊👏👏👍 by the way that’s one of my favorite Christians songs of that first verse in the scripture yasssss.🙏🙏🙌🙌👍
There is a difference between being insecure and having some insecurities. We all have insecurities but if you are an insecure person it’s gonna be a difficult relationship.
I understand what Adrienne is saying but there are different types of insecure men. Mine was insecure and very jealous. I couldn't talk to anyone or go anywhere without his knowledge cuz he was always paranoid about me doing something 🤦🏾♀️ always checking my phone and peeping over my shoulder anytime I turned it on. That type of insecurity is NOT acceptable, it's actually really toxic and such a turn off for any man OR woman to be that insecure, jealous or controlling towards their partner
Yeah that’s not good, but over all I agree that men can’t have vulnerability without being seen as soft.
Yes some men's insecurities can often be toxic
that kind of insecurity can lead to abuse, scary
Yeah I feel like she was describing a man with insecurities, not an insecure man. And insecure man or woman to me is what you described, and it’s toxic in both genders.
There is a difference between being an insecure person and a person with insecurities.
Insecure men are exhausting...no matter what you say, or do, take a lie detector test every hour... that battle is within!! Be single, mature, work on yourself. ✌
Sooo true... you gotta keep reeassuring him about everything .It is like having a toddler that never grows up UGH!
@@jolee1998 yes!
Amen!
I can doooooo alll things through Chrisssttt. Amen to that Adrienne
Yesssss😊🙌🙌 that’s a word right there yassss👏👏🙏🙏
There’s a difference between an insecure person and a person with insecurities
I'm not going to constantly reassure someone who doesn't put the same energy into understanding themselves cause it makes the work harder
Testify!
then dont expect anyone to do it for u you get what you give
@@zaqueenzhane7744 please clear this with me cause I don't understand your perspective
They missed the mark on this one. Everyone has insecurities about some thing/one thing BUT it’s completely different if a person is all around insecure in who they are, that kind of insecurity manifests very different and it can be dangerous to be in relationship with someone like that.
I said the same, looks like none of them have ever experienced a real insecure toxic person.
As a insecure woman you cant make someone stop being insecure. Yes reassurance helps and feels great but it dont make it go away. A man or a woman shouldn’t feel the need or responsibility to heal someone’s insecurities. In my opinion insecurity comes from past trauma/ problems or its just a mental illness because some of my friends who are also insecure bring up there insecurities and it’s something i never recognized on them so i guess insecurities are honestly just in are head.
There’s different types of insecurities and I wouldn’t want the jealous, controlling type. But a man who isn’t confident or is afraid to be vulnerable, it’s sad because men should be allowed to show that.
Not me thinking I was tripping at aloud
I don't think the ladies understand what men feel insecure about - it's different for us than it is for ladies.
This type of guy is exhausting. 4 of the 5 guys I dated were shy and insecure. I constantly spent all my time trying to build up their self confidence. I refuse to go down that road again. My next man will be like my last.....an alpha man😘
Quote:
*" True Faith is taking that first step, even though you don't see the whole staircase"* MLK My faith has helped me live a good life, give back and pay it forward to others, and keep things in perspective in moments of doubt and uncertainty.
This doesn't work for women because it's a role reversal that often leaves a woman feeling like she has ro be the strong one in a relationship. Because let's be real, many women would do all of that and some for their girlfriends.
Loni defined insecurities but I don’t think the panel really discussed the issue.
Exactly! They glossed over that and decided to talk about if someone is uncomfortable about one thing or another like their weight which is very different than a totally insecure person.
I would’ve loved to see Jeannie Beans thoughts… cuz she somewhat dealt with this in her first marriage and to see the type of woman she is now compared to then ! It just shows you… you can fully welcome energy within ur space in ur own home and not even realize the detriment u cause upon urself by lowering your standards and applauding your spouse for doing the bare minimum while u go above and beyond ! Do not dull your shine or lower your standards
There's a BIG difference b/w being insecure and having insecurities. Insecure people can be really toxic. The only way they feel good about themselves is when they put you down in some way.
True
I see what they’re saying, but I have to disagree. Yes, men should be made to feel more comfortable expressing themselves, but insecure men often end up being cheaters, or abusive, or both. It’s not fair to hold a woman responsible for a man’s actions. There’s only so much you can do, and I speak from experience.
Preach 👏👏👏👏
Ade's point is that we don't have the same energy for women. There is often a sister circle casted around women who are feeling insecure.
@@agathachris9722 Why don't men do the same thing for other men?
THANK YOU!
When his insecurities make him feel he has the right to do anything to make himself feel better.....IM OUTA THERE.
A looks so fire in green 😍
She does!!!😍
Loni is stunning! That color suites her so well
100% loni, I'm getting my man to break out of the stigma of man can't show emotions and it's making our relationship that much stronger.
My quote is once u hit rock bottom there's only 1 place left to go and that's up
Praying for my family, my 10 year old daughter and I are divided . Shes being manipulated against me , I have been battling a court case for two years now I was falsely accused of abusing my daughter had a fasle protective order out which was dropped in last August . My daughter’s father is in church supposed to be a minister and doing everything he can to hurt me . This man is keeping my child away from me she’s disrespectful towards me , basically don’t want to have anything to do with me, she won’t talk to me . I’m paying my support, doing all I can do; I pray that God turn this situation around and restore me back with my ten year old daughter. I miss her so much it hurts my heart to No that I don’t have rights to my child because someone else is trying to replace me . I been through a lot and I’m tired my heart is heavy so is my mind . Please keep me in prayer 🙏🏽🙏🏽
'You're right where you're supposed to be.' It's saved me a number of times.
I am not Bob the builder. Men need to work on themselves. It is not a woman's job to fix them
My quote is simple, ‘do unto others as you’d like them to do unto you’
Yessss👏 👏👏preach 🙌🙌🙌 I like that one too👍👍
Love these ladies & they’re always right on time with it 💕💕
Love all these quotes ladies and they are uplifting.
Isn’t insecure people different from people with insecurities??🤷🏾♀️
No weapon form against me shall prosper 🙏🏾
And Loni rocking the comfy shoes again!
Adreain those is for you Sister and God Almighty continue to strengthen you 🙏❤♥👏 Good Bible chapter and verse 🙏
Those are*
Usually insecure men constantly cheat etc. I'm all for men showing their feelings more and more. Because that allows their feelings to be addressed etc.
Greate quote. Thanks Adrienne!
Yesssssss🙌🙌😊😊👏👏🙏🙏
Love all of your quotes too Loni and Garccel very beautiful 😍
"Bendito" lol love you Adrienne
Best quote ever. "When you know better you do better" #mayaangelou
Absolutely correct just as much as we give women compliments may need them to and men need reassurance just as well as women to know that they’re doing the correct thing and that they are appreciated it goes a long way You can still be the man of your household but also to show vulnerability
First of all. Don't marry an INSECURE Man thinking he's not going to be an INSECURE husband. There's nothing you can do. He must acknowledge his qualities and be proud of himself.
I'm torn on this one... if someone is being insecure and vulnerable is you should absolutely give them positive reinforcement. However, often times insecurities are displayed via controlling, manipulative and abusive behaviors. Be there as long as being there doesn't cause you harm.
I wish there was a regular 4th cohost to fill in while Jeannie is off 😩
Speak it Ade!!!🙌🙌
And this is the main reason why I love them and this show for the ending specifically. We got kind of like a preaching sermon yesss🙌🙌👏👏 and the fact that everybody joined in and agreed with Adrienne at the end. I love just that💕❤️😍 like Adrienne can come in and express her faith and doesn’t have to get judged or be worried about what everyone else thinks because they all believe the same thing too.😊🙌🙌🙏🙏👍 Adrienne said imma make y’all worship and praise his mmm with me along today😊😅😂😁 lmaooo. I just love that about her hallelujah 🥴😊🙏🙏🙌🙌
Adrienne has nailed this topic. She made an excellent point.
And she looks gorg too
Yes! Men are human souls too. They need to be held too. Truly 💜
We got a sermon at the end!🙌🏾
Yesssss🙌🙌👍👍 I always like that from our very own Adrienne.😊🥴 I like how she always shares and expresses her faith on this show and she doesn’t have to shy away from or be afraid of what other people think on the show. Or the other ladies think too cause they believe in it as well I like that.😊👍👍🙏🙌🙌
People should be there for one another. Simple
I think it’s the opposite of what they are saying. Women are dragged when we are considered insecure and men are taken lightly when %90 of the time they cause their own insecurities. Women go through a million heartbreaks and men go through 1 heartbreak and becomes insecure for the rest of his life 💯
They started preaching at the end!! Amen now y'all! lol
Yesssss right😊🥴🙌🙌👍👍 and this is why I love them it loved them at the end since it’s over now😕😔🥰😍
If the insecure man is not abusive and accept that they have those feelings, but some can become abusive, controlling.
Exactly. First it's ,why u keep going to the store while I'm at work? Then it was you can't go to the gym with out me. Then it was you can say good morning to the neighbors. And I don't know what men think about apparently I make them look at me. Everything becomes something for them to be insecure about. U cant talk to friend cause they think you talking about them. I can't even visit my family cause he would think other wise. N no I have done nothing to make him feel this way. But Everything to try and make him feel better about himself. So no trying to build a man just tears you down.
All three quotes are great, but personally I like Garcelle’s quote best as it is a good way of discerning a person’s character. A biblical version of that would be, “Whatsoever you do to the least of my brother/ people, that you do unto me.”
Yesssss come through with that last quote at the end yassss👏👏🙌🙌🙏🙏
Come on A!! You better preach!!
Right lmaoo😊🥴🙌🙌👏👏
...And this too shall pass...
One of my fav!!!
Love this show
This is a serious conversation I understand but the bendito sent me
I feel like Adrienne makes these questions deeper than they have to be 😂
Real insecurities are a real problem!!!
I think the direction this conversation went is completely irrelevant to the topic. The question was how to deal with, not fix, an insecure man. And if we’re being real, completely fixing or completely changing a grown man is not easy and not possible in most cases. The older we get the more embedded our tendencies and personality is. At the same time let’s remember they are not psychologists not therapists so their ability to provide useful information and mechanisms is limited, they’re really only giving an opinion.
Amen!!!
Loni❤🔥🔥🔥🔥 love Adrienne green outfit too they all look so gorgeous Garcelle in her classy black outfit
loni has come outta her shell alot on the outfits im loving how she is showing sexy but with class the other always looks good but loni is the queen for me
I felt so stupid because I was about to say "Oh I have Adrienne's necklace."
Girl Chat!
I personally can never accept a compliment. Someone may tell me that I am handsome or cute and I can never say thank you and accept it. I immediately go to saying shut up because I don’t see myself that way. Low confidence and insecurity is a bitch :(
The signs that Loni mentioned are for men that are insecure and then taking it out on their woman and that’s manipulative and you should definitely put limits on the manipulation, but you can still then help if he will express that it stems from insecurity m. But what Adrienne says is an insecure man who has a much more healthy way to express and that he should be up-lifted.
If he’s insecure/jealous/angry, read the book Why Does He Do That?
I just don't believe whether men or women people always feel secure. Insecurities stems from how an individual perceives themselves. Society might not let a "man" show emotions however I do believe this lack of confidence might happen from past experiences where emotions might have been perceived as "weak". Psychotherapy and dealing with past emotional traumas resolves those deep inner traits
Garecelle looks so good
Unpopular opinion... nobody wants a man who be crying all the time. Emotionally available yes but if you can't regulate your emotions I can't help you....you need a therapist.
People here automatically equated insecurities with abuse and toxicity. I believe they should go back to discussing the difference, so women can separate the two with dealing with men.
Loni stupid talkin bout bellies.i died. 🤣😂😭😭
Poor men ,sometimes we just have unrealistic expectations for them .and little support they need
I agree what the girls are saying 🤣😂🤣
Gm edagdwg Miss A. Is soooooo extra a real man knows who he is I'm soooooo blessed to have a real man in my life .being real is a gift from god pay attention to what you want linda j. Peace
You can have insecurities. Everyone does. But it's a completely different thing when there controlling verbally abusive and abusive
I am so happy there is racial diversity on TV, we have worked so long for this to happen. I am happy to see myself representd racially. But I do think the next step for us to have more religous diversity on TV shows.
Phillipians 4:13 is mine as well from a child. "I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me" 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm with Ade, Phillipians 4:13. That's my go to bible verse.
Adrienne is a cutie
When Adrienne said “ oh are you a little bitch” I hollered. Was not expecting that on daytime tv
She always be saying stuff like that a little bit too often these days tbh lmaooo. They just be coming unexpectedly on unexpected times like you said so it’s not a matter of if she’ll say stuff like that but when???🥴🤔👀😐
Yaaaaaasss
i am a strong woman because a strong woman roads me.
Phil. 4:13 --- the bible verse of my couple. thanks Adrienne 😊
Im starting not to like the comments Loni makes about James. Its giving me weird vibes.
She says negative things about him very often coated as a joke.
If its not about his weight its about how much he talks. Like.. she sounds like a narcissist. I cant.
Adriennes make up looking bomb as each day goes bye.
Phil 4:13 is tattooed on me. It's the only thing that has gotten me through my darkest days.
Adrianne has been there fighting for mens righ since since alll dayyy. Captain save a …..😏😏
i miss jeannie :(
Same she would have a deep and well thought out thing to say about this topic. She always does! Thats why shes one of my favs
Loni you betta wear that dress like that! You Kaute!!!
Adrienne totally lost the point. Loni ddnt ask what you answered. It's like in the ward when we discussing kidney problems and another doctor answer with, "oooooo but liver also bluh Blu bluh". We are talking about kidney at this moment, we will get to other organs when we get to them. 😜
I don’t agree with treat the janitor as the same as the ceo. Not because I don’t think the janitor shouldn’t be given respect but because the janitor will never get the same privileges as the ceo. Therefore, it creates a hierarchy in which the people higher up are treated with diligence, patience, and given the luxury to move at their own pace while the people who have mediocre paying jobs are treated as if they ought to be doing their job and that they must move at the pace that benefits those around them. It’s sad that respect has levels and that there is a spectrum. The people higher up receives the upmost respect regardless of their character, while the people who don’t make as much money receives the bare minimum level of respect or lower and are expected to do their job regardless of how they are treated. What are y’all thoughts?
That's my scripture A!
Same here along with psalms 23😊
They missed the mark here. It's not women who stop men from sharing their feelings. Men themsleves are the ones who believe and say it's not manly to do so. That's why a lot of them don't handle their insecurities. And take it out on women. A lot of abusive men out there. It's not the women's job to make him feel better. Men rarely go counselling, for an example. They just don't care to change!
When is Jeannie returning?
The only way to deal with an insecure mate/spouse is to run.
The topic name was too vague so A went in the direction that relates to her most, her husband.
What it should have read was “What do you do when your man is controlling or puts you down due to his own insecurities”
i love when they speak out bible verse
Same😊
You don’t deal with a insecure husband tbh my ex husband is the most insecure man I’ve met he was manipulative and controlling but again he’s cheated on me and I left