Nature vs. Nurture: Are We Born with Our Personality Traits or Are They Innate?
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- čas přidán 24. 08. 2024
- Are personality traits innate or are we molded by our experiences? We weigh in on whether strong personalities are developed over time or if we’re born with our traits.
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Common misconception that a "shy" person doesnt have a strong personality. People often use shy to describe introverts and trust me introverts have strong personalities, are generally independent and dont need validation from others and can be extremely outspoken. Dont let the "shy" fool you.
You sound insecure
@@Yasmine079 no there is a difference between shy/ insecure and introversion. An introvert has no confidence issues they can turn it on and socialise when they need to but they prefer not to. I know people like this and they have some of the strongest wills/ convictions and definitely don't lack a personality
@@axenaxo6304 Yes!
I agree.. I am a shy person with a strong personality. I always say "don't get it twisted'
Mmmm hmmm thank you!!! I know this one very well because I am that in a sense😊 but are strong personalities the same thing as strong opinions in a way🤔 can you explain!
Definitely both. A little correction with the title: Innate means "born with".
I was thinking the same thing. 😒
Right like who gave this title? Lol
Right...I was like it's the same
Yes
I was thinking this they should totally alter the tile is possible as this is misleading xx
Adrienne was right in that parents have to learn to work with their child's natural personality and nurture it. A child may not know everything but they do know themselves because that's all they know. They live in their bodies and with their own thoughts 24/7. When a parent tries to "correct" a child's personality all they do is sow seeds of self doubt and shame. "I like this shirt, but mom says it's horrible and everyone will hate it. I have to pretend to not like it, I have to hide myself from everyone." It's ripples throughout your entire life and so many parents don't even realize they're doing it.
You are so right, my parents always commented in front of others the fact that I was shy and reserve as a bad thing so I contained myself even more and hated those traits.
“They do know themselves because that’s all they know” such a good point!
Exactly. My parents were like this to me as a minor. Smh:((
That's something my mom used to say. She would say, as parents we can rear you, teach you, instill the tools/values, but at the end of the day you have your own mind. And you're right, that's a mistake parents make. Thinking their children are them, so they rear them in the same way. And they're not you mom and dad. So it's definitely important to understand your child's patterns, habits, behaviors, and most of all listen to them. Don't always shut them up or shut them down. It's important to listen to them too. I didn't say don't discipline them or correct their bad behavior, but definitely try understanding each other. Adults can learn a lot from their children.
Love this thread guys ❤. So awesome to read insightful opinions. Yes to all you have written. Parents are simply guides or coaches, to walk along side us and nothing more. A lot of parents forget/don't know that or don't want to.
It’s both because bullying can change a soft personality real quick.
Yep
I love it whenever Tamera is brought up in the newer episodes
Aw it's cute that they still mention Tamera 🥰
Yes it is they still love her ❤
I wish she came back
She was on for a looong time! And I think they’re still friends
i thought of her as soon as i read the title!! with her psychology major xx
Right!? I just realized they never talk about her anymore.
I applauded👏🏾👏🏾 Adrienne's contribution on the personality topic particularly the part where she highlighted the role that parents/guardians have to play in nurturing and guiding the natural personalities of kids instead of breaking their natural-born spirits. I know of people who're still figuring out what their traits are as old as they are due to the fact that their natural spirits were broken either through ignorance of the parents or a trauma suffered during the formative years. Parenting requires wisdom; and it's my prayer that the Almighty God blesses parents with divine wisdom🙏🏾
It's really both. As someone who got an undergraduate degree in Psychology and has heard about this debate over and over again, I honestly don't see how it's a debate. You literally can't say it's one or the other because it's both. Like Adrienne said, there are things you are born with, but the environment you are raised in will either suppress or enrich those innate traits and/or abilities. It's the same with some mental health disorders. You could be born to be more likely to develop depression or anxiety due to a family history, but your environment will determine whether that lies dormant or not.
So interesting
Hmmm interesting, I can see that within myself. I think mine was dormant until recently stress and life has brought out alot of bad shh outta me.i used to actually surpress it with substances but then you grow up and try to wean off of things but naturally life will beat you to a pulp , atleast that's what it feels like in my situation.
@@misshglady4lyfe Life will definitely do that to you unfortunately. I have no idea what you are going through, obviously, but I'm rooting for you anyhow!
I definitely agree with Adrienne that you are born with natural traits but outside influences mold them
I used to be one of those naturally strong personalities, but authority figures and dealing with public school molded me more into a pushover :(
Mate I get you completely 🤦🏽♀️ it’s crappy, especially when trying to gain that back
same! especially because I was taught to respect authority
I am the same like you smh :((
Definitely with A, I think a lot of parents try to change their kids natural traits instead of molding and expanding those.
I also believe that people with personalities that are considered soft (as in shy, reserved, quiet) can have strong personalities in the sense of having a true sense of self, independence, averting peer pressure, and feeling their opinions and likes very strongly. Just another perspective on what is considered “strong”!
It’s definitely both.
My mom would literally plan ahead of time especially cleaning the house in advance when I was younger,I hated it;it disrupted my play time.
Fast forward I’m exactly the same and I haven’t lived with her in 4years because of school.I do exactly what she would do.
0:47 Exactly Garcelle! That was me as a child and who I am now DECADES later.🤣 The people that view those with strong personalities 99.9% of the time are people lacking in self esteem and confidence.
It has been my experience (I've actually did this as proof to certain friends) when I water down my personality ie: act shy, don't assert myself, hold back my opinions, etc) people love me! insecure people love me. Then when I return to my real self, I get a lot of "Who does Belinda think she is?"
I think we are a combination of nature and nurture. I was raised in a household with 10 strong minded siblings and a father (who was a Pastor) that told us constantly we are special, loved and leaders. It would have been hard to grow up insecure in those surroundings.
Agreed.. I think it is a combo of both....
Ad will be such a good mother!
I needed this! Raising 2 boys. Hoping to be the best mom I can be for them!
Being born with something and innate are the same thing 😂 you need to fix the title 😂
Yes 😂😂😂
I was looking for this comment😂
I wonder who they have uploading videos because .. That’s no excuse!!
Yep 😂😂😂
I agree with Adrienne - “yes and”
You guys should bring tamera back for a episode or two. Idk how she would feel about that. Or invite the twins together. Different personalities…different opinions
I like that they still talk about Tam!
Adrienne made some valid points , I think it’s definitely Natured and Nurtured ❤️ !
What Loni said applies to me. I always say I was definitely molded into the strong personality that I am. My nature is VERY soft, I can’t even lie. My mom taught me to stand up for myself and not let anyone treat me any sort of way. If it wasn’t for her and me growing up in the area that I did and growing up around the people that I did where I had no choice but to stick up for myself, I’d be an extremely soft guy. Honestly, I still am but I have another side that people are very shocked by when they see it. For me, my strong personality definitely came from nurture but I’m still a very soft, kind, peaceful person which is my nature. I’m really happy to have both sides because they have both helped me in major ways
I believe it's both,
Though sometimes nurture/upbringing depending how drastic, could have a bigger effect on the personality like childhood trauma can play a bigger role. Anyone know about the enneagram? it does a fantastic job explaining the different ways an upbringing shaped our personalities.
These are few examples (there's a total of 9 MAIN types)
"Type 1: REFORMER- These children felt criticized, and/or Household rules may have felt inconsistent. As such, they became obsessed with being good/not making mistakes to avoid condemnation. The principal message was: “You must always be better than you are.”
Type 3: ACHIEVER- These children felt rewarded only for what they did and how well they did it. Their feelings were discounted and ignored, only what was expected of them mattered. Admiration replaced real love.
Type 7: ENTHUSIAST- These children were deprived of nurturing too soon. They handled this lack by searching for distractions to minimize/repress fear and pain. They decided to focus on positive options and rely on themselves to fulfill their desires and gain a sense of nurturance.
Type 8: CHALLENGER- These children often grew up in an unsafe environment (Emotionally and/or Physically) and had to mature way too soon. They didn’t feel safe to show any vulnerability and may have felt controlled. Weakness was used against them, so they focused only on building their strength.
Type 9: PEACEMAKER- These children were overlooked or were neglected and felt unimportant or “lost.” They were ignored for having needs or expressing themselves (especially anger) and decided to keep a low profile and instead focus on the needs/experience of others."
Adrienne spoke the truth. The parent must nurture the child's personality and not let them become disruptive to others. Also parents need to guide their kinds into who they're suppose to be, not who the parents woman them to be. Stop pressuring your kids with all your expectations of them. Just let them grow and be there to help them!
I think that it’s a mix of the two. I think, for the most part, we are predisposed to interacting a certain way with others IE born with our personality but that the way people around us in our formative years interact and react to those predisposition can either deter or cement them into our actual personality once we’re more independent. Like, I think it’s essentially formed by the time you’re in kindergarten. Which is why it’s so important to have infants and toddlers interact with others their age (very worried about all these COVID babies and toddlers that missed out on those formative interactions)
Agreed
I love Adrienne's hair!!!
It’s both, but you change and grow. Your personality is constantly shifting especially if you’re a person that works on yourself and is open to change. I encourage everyone to take the personality quiz every 6 months to a year and you’ll see.
"They just got a ride together."🤣🤣🤣
I dont like how shy is considered having a weak personality. Shy people just choose who they show there personality too. There is nothing weak about protecting your peace and energy. I know so many shy people that come off boring to others but once you get to know them they will be the most strongest , funniest, caring people you know.
I agree with Adrienne think its a combination. I have twin nephews and one is more outgoing than the other, and they are from one egg so their dna is identitical. 1 can be reserved as a child and become outgoing as a adult. It depends on enviourment/parents, experiences so much.
So how does the fraternal part work if they came from different eggs they’re fraternal🤔 Sorry I don’t know still in school and still learning trying to educate myself.
There's nobody on Earth who isn't seeking the approval of someone else. Otherwise people wouldn't take a shower, wear cologne, wear makeup, wear fashionable clothing, drive nice cars, etc. We're social creatures and that's quite alright.
The way they still talk about tam on the show just shower how much love and respect they have for each other not just the girl at the front but everyone back stage. And the media always be wanting to talk nonsense 🙄.
Imo it can definitely can be both I remember for my senior year of high school In English we were supposed to go to this website and see what kind of personality traits we have ! And it was interesting and fun to see how it correlated to the lesson plan and to our real lives ! And some of our personality is innate as it is soemthing that is within our DNA and we get from our parents naturally… it carries over not only in our physical genes but our personality as well ! Then we have our personality that we get when it comes to what we see around us and we gravitate and take on things whether it’s our friends or family and it’s apart of character growth ! So I think it definitely can be both
Adrienne will be such a good mama one day, she is so sweet and wise I wanna cry
The things listed by Loni is all good and beautiful. However, some people , when rude and arrogant, they call it a strong personality.
Adrienne was spot on!
Temperament is inborn in us but character can be developed in us through social environment..So nature and nurture play an important role..
If a child is abandoned, most likely he or she may not be able to develop a healthy personality...
Aw I wish I could have been sitting on the coach next to tam when she saw the ladies mentioning her. Sure she smiled. The love will always be there.
I saw a wonderful video from Essence and I thought it could be comfort for those with a strong personality. It said this among other things, "I am not intimidating. You are intimidated." Don't let people make your assertiveness and confidence seem like a bad thing. ✌️🙏💗
I think it's a mix of both, with some mitigating circumstances from time to time.
I think I have heard some people say someone has a “strong personality” as a way to say they do too much.
Not Adrianne giving that long winded story in order to say she’s a strong personality. But she’s not she’s always asking for validation “right or what do y’all think” so not always saying what she wants & being assertive
Doesn't she have to make a point?? Otherwise it was just a story...
Adrienne’s outfit 😍🔥🔥🔥🔥
I believe our nature personality is the one we show when we are confortable; the nurtune one is when we aren't, so we play the one we think will help us "survive".
I know this is a snippet of the show but it seems the colors were intentional given context of the month… I LOVE IT! Everyone looks amazing! I love the accessories Adrienne and I agree with Adrienne… its yes AND… Circumstances and people mold you through social interactions. I agree for teaching those with “mild personalities” to be brought up to advocating for themselves.
I recently discovered I’m an INFP-T male.
Which makes sense, hence why I’m here watching a group of females having a discussion. Im not ashamed though.
But if I had to guess I think it’s a mixture of both… sometimes you can be born with a personality trait or develop them from certain traumatic experiences .
What's an INFP-T male ??
It's either innate or acquired traits. Innate means you're born with it.
I was hoping someone in the comments pointed this out.
What’s aquired trait is it something you gain along the way or what??🤔
@@alexandraanderson3988 yes. Acquired means you gain it gradually with experience.
Read the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain. She talks all about introverts and how society views extroverts as better, which is what they are doing here. Being loud and obnoxious isn't better and there are benefits to being quiet, soft-spoken, a thinker, and an introvert which she explains in the book. In contrast, especially in the US, extroverts are seen as stronger, more charismatic, leaders, which was a shift in "character" vs "personality" culture. Now that being an introvert has been popularized, all of a sudden everyone wants to label themselves as an introvert. Funny enough both Jeannie and Adrienne have claim to be introverts when they have all of the traits of an extrovert, and Adrienne just said them here. lol. Its cuz now its cool to be an introvert I guess.
What??? Introverts them??? Lol I maybe new and all this season but that seems to be not in the least to me🥴☺️ meaning to good to be true no way!🤔🥴
Adrienne will be such a good mother one day.
The title of the video doesn’t make sense, born with something and innate are the same thing lol
A strong personality is intimidating to a weak minded individual hence will be negative in their eyes.
Having a strong personality is a good trait but often it’s used as a polite way to let someone know that another person is too bossy and obnoxious by making an understatement. That’s why it’s gotten a viewed as something bad…
Adrienne's hair is beautiful.!!
I have a strong personality however, it can come of as bullying to people who don't understands you. You were born with your personality it's not something you can adapt or if you do it will come off as being fake.
Okay, loni, we get it!
Awwwww, we miss you TamTam❤️
My sister and daughter have strong personalities. They are quite successful.
I think Loni meant that she loves “nurture’ not nature, judging by the context of what she said
I think: BOTH! I was a very shy, quiet child that said very little. As I aged, I grew into a loud, opinionated person who works as a Professor. These traits sound like 2 different people, but they're all ME.
Y’all need to hire me to caption your videos, I have a whole masters degree. Innate means born with it 😭
😍🔥😍🔥 Yeeeees!!!! Loni it’s the dress for me sis
Horoscopes have a huge effect
The answers to such a question is always gonna be a mixed bag. Basically, no cause of anything in reality is due "this *or* the other". It's factors.
It can be argued that females and males who sexually offend adolescents for example are born with such a drive, but it could have also been caused by how they were mistreated as kids in a variety of ways that stopped them from realizing they should never do such a thing.
Many of us seem to be born to be able to love each other unconditionally as a species, but a variety of factors can either suppress that innate side of us, or emphasize our care towards others and ourselves.
The moral of the story is: Ya get what ya got cause ya either got-got or ya get good while the gettin's good.
#HustleMan
Loni looks amazing in this red dress 🔥! Y’a all can see what am seeing ?
Something is wrong with the title because "innate" means "born with". Anyway! I think that we are born with some of our personality traits. However, our life experiences, people we meet etc activate or deactivate these traits. Some of our traits may never activate because we've yet to experience their triggers.
I actually think strong personalities can be negative at times. Right? Cuz very few personalities are 100% alright all the time. Some strong personalities are pushy, dominating, etc.
It's hand in hand (both) and it can change overtime
Oh sure,some strong personality traits may play out negatively for example if someone felt like they don't need attention often, so then they're fine with non frequent communication...
In some ways, strong personality traits can undermine others, if applied wrongly.
*Silly title, innate **_means_** inborn.* 🙄🤦🏽♀️
That fact established, nature (🧬) and nurture (environment & experience) both factor in.
Brain disease, disorder, or injury also changes one's personality. (S/O to those of us who studied Phineas Gage.)
Recently, scientists are reporting that Long Covid can also affect/even *change* one's personality. Virus does significantly affect the whole being (🧠 and body), so- if true- that doesn't shock me.
That green on A 😍😍💚
Everyone's born with different personalities it doesn't matter
i feel like they missed the point with this topic. strong personalities have their pros and cons. not a lot of people like or can deal with a strong personality especially when it's a woman who has the strong personality - she has more difficulties navigating intimate relationships and sometimes even in the workforce. like adrienne said, it is both innate but also affected by experiences and the environment. maybe the child had no other choice but to be strong whilst growing up depending on their circumstances.
I think it is a combination of both
Why does San Diego only play your show at 3 am? I only get to see you guys here
Every time I've heard "strong personality" it's usually in a negative sense.
LONI that is your color!! 🔥
You’re mostly born with your personality however life situation if they are severe enough and if it happens when you’re young enough can influence your personality. But I think nature is definitely 80%.
I love how they still talk about Tamara but Tamar who? Lol
adrienne's hair....................................
Wait! That's me! Lol
Waiting for Adrienne to drop the unflatering hairdo! And Loni to take off at least 3 pair of lashes
I could be both, nurture and nature.
Title is wrong..it compares the same theory.
I’m confused by this title because an innate quality is something you were born with.
I was born strong willed but life has def broken my spirit. People say all types of things about you if you are strong willed.. esp if you’re a women.
Damn I love loni’s dress
Whoever titled this is really bad at English... 'Innate' means 'Born with'. I understand they post a lot & are busy, but you'd think the writers would be more attentive.
Hey I'm a big fan
"Born with" and "innate" are the same thing 🤷🏾♀️
Adrienne trying to say she has a strong personality. She always cowered when Tamar was around and was afraid to speak.
Have several seats.
She backs up when it comes to everyone not just Tamar. I think she confused strong personality with confident immaturity
That green dress Adrienne got on tho....😃😍😏
Oop they mention tamera
You all look beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
90% nature, 10% nurture.
Still hoping for Tamera to come back. The show is better than the past couple seasons so Tam should return!!
HOW COME YOUR SHOW DOES NOT ACKNOWLEDGE CHINESE NEW YEAR?!?!
Cause it’s an American show and they already celebrated New Years a month ago?
@@bleudiamondbleu AMERICAN HISTORY STARTED WITH "NATIVE AMERICAN, ASIAN, WHITE, BLACK, & LATIN. AMERICAN POPULATIONS
MADE UP OF ALL THESE NATIONALITIES! YOUR SHOW OFTEN TALK ABOUT THE HOSTS!?, BLACK, & LATINOS, BUT YOUR SHOW
EXCLUDE ASIANS & WHITE!? DO OUR CULTURES NOT IMPORTANT AS YOURS??
TALK ABOUT MORE SOCIAL TOPICS, NOT ABOUT YOURSELF!!??
INCLUSIVE NOT EXCLUSIVE? REPRESENTATION?
Girl would you take these struggle braids out? You don't have the hair for it.
Innate means born with!
Why don’t I miss Jeannie Mai?! Hmmm
I disagree with the definition that Loni read. I have a sibling with a strong personality and she is like a bull and it turns everyone off. She is controlling, obnoxious and rude. I think we need to call it an assertive personality. You can be assertive and yet be kind, respectful but at the same time stick up for yourself. I think nature can affect your personality both positively and negatively. It can make you more assertive or more inward. Your experiences in life really can affect your psyche. Bullying as a child made me question my worth but it also made me fight back and stick up for myself. I think though you are born with a foundation to build on.
Being born with a trait means innate...