Is Being Fat a Choice? | Middle Ground

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    0:00 intro
    0:32 Being fat or skinny is a choice
    6:56 I would rather be skinny than fat
    12:42 America has an obesity problem
    21:59 Fat shaming is worse than skinny shaming
    28:10 Diet culture has positive effects
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  • @jubilee
    @jubilee  Před 5 měsíci +909

    Exclusive prompt only on Patreon: bit.ly/47HwDsG “The body positivity movement promotes childhood obesity”

    • @MaxRamos8
      @MaxRamos8 Před 5 měsíci +22

      I think it's a 50% split cuz genetics, environment, economics, and upbringing are all factors that aren't controlled

    • @dohadena
      @dohadena Před 5 měsíci +137

      are you guys not making enough money from millions of views and ads on here why is a part of the video behind a paywall? 😐

    • @catalyst3713
      @catalyst3713 Před 5 měsíci +9

      Yes it absolutely does.

    • @user-sf9gs2pg1b
      @user-sf9gs2pg1b Před 5 měsíci +29

      @@MaxRamos8
      I feel like genetics does play a role, but probably less than it’s implied. Consider that a family of overweight people will feed their kids what they eat and thus make it appear genetic, when in reality they’re just eating the same foods in the quantities their family has.

    • @LuZu_
      @LuZu_ Před 5 měsíci

      @@user-sf9gs2pg1b /simulating their lifestyle

  • @BBCEmily
    @BBCEmily Před 3 měsíci +14736

    Bottom line: don't be rude or mean to people, but also, let's not pretend that being obese is in any way healthy.

    • @Tommy-nh4su
      @Tommy-nh4su Před 3 měsíci +731

      And let's not pretend being anorexic is healthy either. Both are bad.

    • @sendcottoncandypls
      @sendcottoncandypls Před 3 měsíci +444

      ​@@Tommy-nh4su theres a difference between being just skinny and anorexic and anorexia is literally the most deadly mental illness so like...obviously its not healthy and i dont think anyone here said that

    • @BBCEmily
      @BBCEmily Před 3 měsíci +175

      @@Tommy-nh4su Of course both are bad. But this episode is about obesity.

    • @serah3338
      @serah3338 Před 3 měsíci +98

      okay, let's also not pretend "not being healthy" is why obese people are treated so poorly

    • @BBCEmily
      @BBCEmily Před 3 měsíci +97

      @@serah3338 I'm referring to overweight individuals who try to glorify their condition, as if there is nothing wrong or unusual about it. Encouraging others to be obese / normalizing it as if "it's alright to be super overweight" is just as damaging as encouraging people to starve themselves.

  • @bellalulu6249
    @bellalulu6249 Před měsícem +2863

    i NEED to see overweight vs gym rats. Especially gym rats who were overweight i feel like it’s a whole new harsh but real perspective

    • @Musa_hi
      @Musa_hi Před měsícem +62

      Fr we need one! but at the end I feel like the gym goers will be called "insecure" for changing themselves, I've seen so many of them get absolutely bodyshamed in the comments :/

    • @edwardgaiennie8956
      @edwardgaiennie8956 Před měsícem +9

      Lauren gives me the gym rat vibe. But I don’t think she had a transformation

    • @Musa_hi
      @Musa_hi Před měsícem

      @@edwardgaiennie8956 she seems like a strict dietician rather than a gym rat

    • @joebriggs5781
      @joebriggs5781 Před měsícem +9

      @@edwardgaiennie8956 it’s fine to be a gym rat but she has an extreme relationship with food. You can be more balanced and still be in great shape.
      She’s free to do what she wants, but lots of healthy people eat junk food here and there.

    • @jadaolson6479
      @jadaolson6479 Před 26 dny +13

      Why are gym rats the standard for health? Like what they gotta do w this? Some gym rats have disordered eating in order to maintain their bodies, how is that healthy?

  • @symonewest5449
    @symonewest5449 Před měsícem +2597

    "Going to the doctor is a choice" one of the most privileged things I've ever heard

    • @Z1eepy_Rameos
      @Z1eepy_Rameos Před měsícem +107

      It is if you are fortunate enough. It also depends on where you live. For example being poor in America in need of medical attention then you have the worst luck. I wouldn’t call having basic rights privileged tho.

    • @Martina-cr9io
      @Martina-cr9io Před měsícem +45

      mainly in america

    • @Szaknj
      @Szaknj Před měsícem

      DEADASS

    • @MrManagemiracles
      @MrManagemiracles Před měsícem +42

      It shouldn't be, what's the point of taxes if there isn't public free /affordable Healthcare

    • @saf1692
      @saf1692 Před měsícem +41

      That's only if you live somewhere without free healthcare. Here in Canada it is a choice.

  • @sweetncool
    @sweetncool Před 2 měsíci +866

    Lauren is definitely going to be an almond mom. She seems like her size is her identity

    • @FlowersAnimations
      @FlowersAnimations Před 2 měsíci +23

      REAL

    • @jaeminok8544
      @jaeminok8544 Před měsícem +50

      the whole discussion was about size so of course shes gonna talk about it

    • @sweetncool
      @sweetncool Před měsícem +11

      @@jaeminok8544 There's a different between you so happening to be something and acknowledging it and your identity being based around that thing. She seems more of the latter. Thats my point

    • @jaeminok8544
      @jaeminok8544 Před měsícem +5

      @@sweetncool what

    • @jessiet6534
      @jessiet6534 Před měsícem +25

      Yup she's the type to shame her daughter for eating a piece of chocolate which then lead's to eating disorder. Some skinny parents do this because they do not want their children to go through bullying so I get it.

  • @StingWe
    @StingWe Před 5 měsíci +33368

    Telling a dangerously overweight person not to lose weight because they're "beautiful" is like telling an alcoholic not to stop drinking because they're "fun".

    • @soylatte1288
      @soylatte1288 Před 5 měsíci +1815

      But on the flip side, in studies it shows that bullying plus size people for their weight doesn’t actually “help” them lose weight but in fact increases binge eating due to stress

    • @RS54321
      @RS54321 Před 5 měsíci +832

      Being dangerously overweight isn't beautiful, though.

    • @mel-ed3yw
      @mel-ed3yw Před 5 měsíci +407

      @@RS54321beauty is subjective

    • @Huge_Echman
      @Huge_Echman Před 5 měsíci +336

      ​@@soylatte1288 What a wild false dichotomy.

    • @sf8262
      @sf8262 Před 5 měsíci +182

      @@soylatte1288 at least in part because society is pushing to make it too acceptable to stay unhealthily overweight, and make it frowned upon to mention it. family members and close friends should say something, but not random strangers

  • @vjrdxt
    @vjrdxt Před 3 měsíci +11543

    when Lauren said she doesn't think skinny people go into the junk food aisle I already knew she was an almond mom type of person because that made no sense.

    • @divinedlibra9884
      @divinedlibra9884 Před 3 měsíci +532

      Fr. I have very fast metabolism. Sometimes i eat so unhealthy but I do not gain any weight

    • @kab9706
      @kab9706 Před 3 měsíci +340

      I think she worded herself badly, because skinny people do eat junk food and fast food, but thin people eat LESS of it. Smaller portions. A thin person is taking in less calories than a 400lb person.

    • @divinedlibra9884
      @divinedlibra9884 Před 3 měsíci +76

      @@kab9706 i agree. There needs to be a balance. But sometimes I do eat more junk food than people that are bigger than me. It’s weird. I think you need to find the balance between junk food and healthy food within your own body that fits your metabolism.

    • @kab9706
      @kab9706 Před 3 měsíci +42

      @divinedlibra9884 same I eat junk but I don't really binge eat or sneak snacks all night. Obese people sometimes claim they "never" eat or eat healthier than thin people, but those calories come from somewhere

    • @alyssamarie5306
      @alyssamarie5306 Před 3 měsíci +4

      ⁠@@kab9706what do you mean thin vs skinny…

  • @noora78782
    @noora78782 Před měsícem +452

    Lauren saying she can't think of a single place that would be a food desert is so incredibly out of touch and ignorant I was shocked.

    • @tranatkikomi6873
      @tranatkikomi6873 Před 17 dny +9

      I know some people just don't have a clue

    • @pimvankempen4218
      @pimvankempen4218 Před 17 dny +5

      I'm confused about this. If there is a place that doesn't have a grocery store in the area but it does have fast food restaurants, what's stopping anyone from starting a grocery store there? It seems like that would be very profitable.

    • @noora78782
      @noora78782 Před 16 dny +14

      @@pimvankempen4218 there are many areas that are more remote or just not major cities where there is not a grocery store for large distances. they’re usually in areas with less densely populated areas, higher amounts of abandoned homes, lower incomes and low education levels. idk what’s stopping ppl from opening one but probably profit margins. it’s more profitable to open a grocery store in a much more densely populated area than one with less. so basically the city planning is discriminatory against these rural populations

    • @down-to-earth-mystery-school
      @down-to-earth-mystery-school Před 13 dny

      @@pimvankempen4218did you understand the amount of funding you must have to buy/rent a property, purchase all the refrigeration, hire all the staff, comply with safety regulations/licensing/inspections. If your town is so small you don’t have a grocery store, chances are you are also too poor to start a complex, expensive business…

    • @ninjustumaster5101
      @ninjustumaster5101 Před 2 dny

      Imagine being this lazy

  • @joshhoggle
    @joshhoggle Před 2 měsíci +950

    i weighed 230 and came down to 140 it changed my life actually my whole outlook im more positive and my mental vibes are way more delightful

    • @dank4556
      @dank4556 Před měsícem +59

      I think people underestimate how much isn’t just physical but mental. My therapist actually recommended exercise to help my mental health, I went from a bmi of 30.1 to 23.6 and not only did every health marker improved but so did my depression and really all aspects of my life. I feel so much better in all ways as I started taking care of my health

    • @joshhoggle
      @joshhoggle Před měsícem +1

      way to go pal!@@dank4556

    • @user-ch6uw4pf2x
      @user-ch6uw4pf2x Před měsícem +4

      I think a lot of it is do to the lifestyle changed that came with weight loss. Body image is only one part of it

    • @Shark-pj8in
      @Shark-pj8in Před měsícem +6

      ​@@dank4556it is physically straining which can cause mental strain too. As well as society hating on bigger people.

    • @Jaysi_NY03
      @Jaysi_NY03 Před měsícem +7

      That crazy I started 250 and now I also came down 140. I salute you !!!, it was not easy. “Self discipline”

  • @millieegirl
    @millieegirl Před 3 měsíci +10876

    why is nobody talking about parker and the "some days i don't eat" casually 😭

    • @stacymiffin3243
      @stacymiffin3243 Před 3 měsíci +1534

      No literally. Like Parker, that’s a disordered way of eating.

    • @ChaseBurns-kc7xg
      @ChaseBurns-kc7xg Před 3 měsíci

      fasting isn't an eating disorder he does have one but choosing to cleanse your pallet once or twice a month or not eating certain things certain days isn't an eating disorder@@stacymiffin3243

    • @jsanchez8855
      @jsanchez8855 Před 3 měsíci +423

      My boyfriend looks EXACTLY like Parker. Like I had to ask him if that was actually him. But anyway, he also doesn't eat some days but he has IBS and ADHD and many days will just.. forget to eat, or avoid it if his tummy is feeling off. I have to actively remind him to eat.

    • @revekat2053
      @revekat2053 Před 3 měsíci +110

      @@jsanchez8855he might be on medication that makes him lose his appetite.

    • @NeptuneChildASMR
      @NeptuneChildASMR Před 3 měsíci +89

      I went through a few years where I would forget to eat too. It wasn’t purposely. I also have ADHD. On those days I would sometimes be up at 3 am and realize I forgot to eat and then grab something and make myself eat it. Or I’d go a day without eating and wake up and eat cheesecake in the morning 😅
      I have had disordered eating for a lot of my life but during that time it wasn’t purposely avoiding food so I wouldn’t have considered it disordered compared to the times I’ve struggled with actual eating disorders.

  • @mycatsnameisgizmo4677
    @mycatsnameisgizmo4677 Před 5 měsíci +40639

    Seeing everyone jump on Lauren when she said skinny people don’t eat junk food was refreshing

    • @mra4955
      @mra4955 Před 5 měsíci +3643

      It's not that skinny people don't eat junk food, it's that they don't eat too much junk food

    • @corsariocapitao
      @corsariocapitao Před 5 měsíci +438

      ​@@mra4955what is too much junk food?

    • @spicycorndogs4619
      @spicycorndogs4619 Před 5 měsíci +3442

      @@mra4955that’s also not true as a skinny person who eats way too much junk food lol

    • @uchennanwogu2142
      @uchennanwogu2142 Před 5 měsíci

      @@spicycorndogs4619trust me, search up daily eating of an obese person

    • @mra4955
      @mra4955 Před 5 měsíci +136

      @@spicycorndogs4619 ok, must not be true then

  • @terecitanevarez2905
    @terecitanevarez2905 Před 24 dny +45

    " I chose not to eat somedays"... friend there's a name for that

    • @flamefusion8963
      @flamefusion8963 Před 23 dny +1

      Called having discipline.

    • @terecitanevarez2905
      @terecitanevarez2905 Před 22 dny +7

      @@flamefusion8963 u don't need to "discipline" yourself to stay thin when he alr said he's underweight and wants to gain weight

    • @MaryJaneJones.
      @MaryJaneJones. Před 3 dny +2

      It's called fasting. I lost 50 pounds in 8 weeks. Now I'm 120 pounds.

    • @mollybetts3449
      @mollybetts3449 Před 3 dny +3

      @@MaryJaneJones. Fasting is fine intermittently, but your body needs nutrients to survive. You are only supposed to lose 1-3 lbs a week in order to sustain yourself and your metabolism. There's nothing wrong with fasting, but there are significant health risks with long-term fasting

    • @emfrida7917
      @emfrida7917 Před 2 dny

      @@MaryJaneJones.what fast did u do?

  • @ccolivardia
    @ccolivardia Před 2 měsíci +549

    Seeing some of the viewpoints Lauren had about access to specialized healthcare and access to stores that aren’t dollar stores/discount grocery stores says a lot about how she grew up and the world she lives in.

    • @sciencelover7582
      @sciencelover7582 Před měsícem +24

      she grew up in a world where she had access to healthy food and got a referral to see an endocrinologist? thats what should be happening, its not a bad thing

    • @peachmilkbby9899
      @peachmilkbby9899 Před měsícem

      Yes but not everyone has access to that and her saying what she said was not taking this into account. The woman who she was responding to clearly didn't have access to the same privileges. @@sciencelover7582

    • @kotyarazuchara8329
      @kotyarazuchara8329 Před měsícem +8

      Why, is that a luxury in US?

    • @desiree5895
      @desiree5895 Před měsícem

      @@kotyarazuchara8329depends on the insurance one has but most ppl have access to grocery stores with healthy food that is affordable, most just decide to not buy the healthy food.

    • @avaday8475
      @avaday8475 Před měsícem

      @@kotyarazuchara8329it is for some, yes

  • @Welsh-Trials-Enduro
    @Welsh-Trials-Enduro Před 5 měsíci +26471

    Props to dominick for being self aware and balanced in his viewpoints

    • @TheSalami
      @TheSalami Před 5 měsíci +335

      He’s the only one who mentioned seed oils let’s go

    • @ProfessorBonnie
      @ProfessorBonnie Před 5 měsíci +11

      @@TheSalamihi carson

    • @Mary-lr5ok
      @Mary-lr5ok Před 5 měsíci +135

      His point about farms in small towns was kinda wack tho. Those farms are selling their meat and eggs in bulk to nationwide distributors, not to local poor people lol

    • @pog8744
      @pog8744 Před 5 měsíci +152

      @@Mary-lr5ok He meant that the residents themselves are farmers or at least have their own chickens

    • @goosmus
      @goosmus Před 5 měsíci +42

      ​@@pog8744 yeah that's correct! I've spent a lot of time on the road and while I obviously haven't visited every city in America, the thing rural cities had that places like LA certainly don't is land! People out there often had a few chickens of their own, and land enough to grow some vegetables, fruits, etc. so many fresh fruit trees, forageables, and more!
      Looking forward myself to getting well out of the city.

  • @therandommusicguy4773
    @therandommusicguy4773 Před 3 měsíci +8006

    Dominick was the sort of person we should all be like. He didn't make excuses to suit himself, while also not bringing himself down.

    • @walkingonfiree7609
      @walkingonfiree7609 Před 2 měsíci +24

      no, but he made judgements on everyone else and assumed they should think the same as him.

    • @RaviPatel-lb7uc
      @RaviPatel-lb7uc Před 2 měsíci +124

      @@walkingonfiree7609 He judged them after they opened their mouths and excuses came out.

    • @apowell539
      @apowell539 Před 2 měsíci +21

      He's my spirit animal, I loved his accountability.

    • @dont_harsh_my_mellow
      @dont_harsh_my_mellow Před 2 měsíci +29

      @@walkingonfiree7609 All that came out of the mouths of the others were sad back stories to justify not putting in the work to manage their weight. Is it harder for some ppl? Yes. Do some ppl have to jump through higher hoops for the same results? Yes. That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t or can’t. It’s a CHOICE, as he mentioned too.
      The more we see a trial or obstacle as an excuse for complacency, the worse off we all will be. Imagine if Jackie Robinson thought how these ladies did. Would he really have gotten to his level of legendary status? No.

    • @randomaccount3119
      @randomaccount3119 Před 2 měsíci +14

      I agree. I hope he lives a great life. He said he wants to be skinny so I hope he gets to his goal. It will benefit him

  • @YumiYumY
    @YumiYumY Před měsícem +144

    I hope dominick achieves what he wants and be around his kids for a long time. Those kids are lucky to have a father figure like him

  • @thestrategiquegyal
    @thestrategiquegyal Před měsícem +187

    Did I hear her say “I can’t even think of an area that would have a food desert”….??

    • @goatwoodward
      @goatwoodward Před 26 dny +12

      yeah, the whole cast was like, "well, I've never personally experienced one so they must not exist." 🙄🙄🙄 Like, I can see that they're not living in poverty by their clothes and the fact they can afford the food that's readily available in their towns.

  • @abi-fs5jt
    @abi-fs5jt Před 3 měsíci +6190

    lauren acting like everyone can go see an endocrinolgist and not worry about medication costs...

    • @familybitestravel4630
      @familybitestravel4630 Před 3 měsíci +339

      Yep. AND if she has hyperthyroidism... she is more likely to be skinny.

    • @tobiasdelasson8992
      @tobiasdelasson8992 Před 3 měsíci +55

      just live in europe 👍

    • @sapphire1817
      @sapphire1817 Před 3 měsíci +44

      That's exactly it. It's complete privilege to bekuege that we all can do that especially as women and don't even get me started on those who are ethic lol

    • @amandathaler1456
      @amandathaler1456 Před 3 měsíci +165

      She definitely carries the mindset of "I am thin and I am the better for it"

    • @gabby9388
      @gabby9388 Před 3 měsíci +3

      Literally

  • @Dioliolio
    @Dioliolio Před 5 měsíci +19268

    Shoutout to Dominick for being a totally reasonable and level headed dude.

    • @Morsee.
      @Morsee. Před 5 měsíci +251

      He’s like this in all videos a really great guy

    • @TeenageDirtbag8
      @TeenageDirtbag8 Před 5 měsíci +21

      ​@@Morsee.Yep agree

    • @masterqui-gonjinn90
      @masterqui-gonjinn90 Před 5 měsíci +59

      i hope he gets the help he needs

    • @goosmus
      @goosmus Před 5 měsíci +312

      Aww shucks you guys are so nice 😍😍

    • @Lxrd_Rome
      @Lxrd_Rome Před 5 měsíci +51

      @@goosmusbro why you let her say she’s the average weight for someone

  • @meechelle
    @meechelle Před 2 měsíci +131

    It always amazes me how humans will quickly change narratives to make themselves feel better

    • @hongsonnguyen8204
      @hongsonnguyen8204 Před 10 dny +1

      Yea, having a healthy body is da best because you would never have to worried about health problem, no health problem no depress because of health problem. There is nothing to debate about, every choices other than being fit is plain and simple wrong

  • @kathysandoval7054
    @kathysandoval7054 Před 19 dny +55

    We shouldn’t even think of “GETTING THIN” we need to strive for a healthy LIFESTYLE. Build healthy habits, learn to build a healthy plate, do research, exercise, lift, go outdoors! Eat your favorite meals too! Enjoy your “guilty pleasure”. We have so much access to information on the internet.

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 15 dny

      If you want to be healthy then you should strive for all kinds like your body weight. ‘Guilty pleasures’ are guilty for a reason

    • @britwashereee
      @britwashereee Před 9 hodinami

      @@Afrogirrl No, the number on the scale does not mean healthy or unhealthy in all situations. Correlation does not equal causation. Also, many guilty pleasures are things that people feel guilty about because it is something outside what they view as normal because of society. It does not mean they should actually feel guilty.

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 54 minutami

      @@britwashereee society? People should eat to their hearts extent and it’s okay to have excess adipose tissue, because of society?

  • @chuckbonanni9457
    @chuckbonanni9457 Před 5 měsíci +7560

    Lauren was the embodiment of privileged and completely lacked empathy for others life experiences. I’m 115 pounds and I would never belittle someone how she did.

    • @susse2343
      @susse2343 Před 5 měsíci +554

      She had the absolutely worst stink bombs of a take omg

    • @vlogsbyrow
      @vlogsbyrow Před 5 měsíci +572

      It made me seethe how she tried to mask her arguments as "logic" when they were obviously coming from a place of deep arrogance and bias. She just tried to sound fair 🤦‍♀

    • @meadowsweetstudios444
      @meadowsweetstudios444 Před 5 měsíci +558

      @@vlogsbyrowshe was saying the truth, though. You don’t need to sugarcoat all time. Could she have been a little more empathetic? Yes. But was she wrong? No.

    • @Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer
      @Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer Před 5 měsíci +55

      "Privilege" is a social construct.

    • @Jordan-xg4pn
      @Jordan-xg4pn Před 5 měsíci +241

      ​@@Aging_Casually_Late_Gamerbaby all language is socially constructed

  • @mikhaylasellars2362
    @mikhaylasellars2362 Před 4 měsíci +1596

    saying skinny people don’t eat junk food is insane

    • @RichardTavilla
      @RichardTavilla Před 2 měsíci +53

      I don’t think you realize though that, even though they do, it’s the amount of it. Overweight people are extreme liars about how much they actually eat. They lie to themselves. Yes skinny people might have a cupcake once in a while but they don’t have three every day.

    • @sierra94iolana
      @sierra94iolana Před 2 měsíci +46

      @@RichardTavillaas someone who is definitely considered skinny…I often eat a whole pint of ice cream and carb-centered meals on a daily basis. Our natural metabolism is a big determinant of our set weights.

    • @Mike-hk8lx
      @Mike-hk8lx Před 2 měsíci +10

      @@sierra94iolana of course and age comes into play as well. Amount of junk and booze and I consumed in my 20s.

    • @user-un7yy3rh6h
      @user-un7yy3rh6h Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@RichardTavillaa cupcake once in a while? 😂😂😂

    • @RichardTavilla
      @RichardTavilla Před 2 měsíci

      @@user-un7yy3rh6h she eats a case a day

  • @shelleyphilcox4743
    @shelleyphilcox4743 Před měsícem +129

    Sometimes being overweight is a choice, sometimes it is not. There is a very wide range of reasons why people struggle with their weight, from personal discipline, to metabolic changes, to medical conditions of the body or the mind. It is reckless to promote being over or underweight, and its reckless to promote discrimination and contempt towards those who are outside of healthy ranges. The goal should be to support people to be as healthy as they can be through promoting nutritional advice and exercise and being clear about the impacts of being an unhealthy weight and the dangers, but you can do those things without being nasty or discriminatory.

    • @condesabeatriz9303
      @condesabeatriz9303 Před 26 dny +7

      Totally agree! Well stated! I have no desire to be skinny, only to be my healthiest, most fit self.

  • @nirvanaluvr19
    @nirvanaluvr19 Před měsícem +68

    Madeline saying she’s average weight for women in America just proves that America has such a bad obesity problem 😭

    • @voidackerman2082
      @voidackerman2082 Před měsícem +14

      she is wrong

    • @HaileyGraceL
      @HaileyGraceL Před 13 dny

      Madeline is delusional! She’s not average size, and her body is not at its “set point”.

  • @pxachholic
    @pxachholic Před 4 měsíci +8725

    Dominic seems very smart! He thinks very logically and doesn't victimize himself. I wish him a long and healthy life😁

  • @JKDC97
    @JKDC97 Před 5 měsíci +5085

    Is anyone checking on Parker? He started the discussion saying that being skinny is a choice because there are some days that he chooses not to eat to later admitting that he is anorexic. That's an eating disorder and just as unhealthy as overeating and being obese. (Also, its important to point out that men's mental health, especially with regard to eating disorders, is SO overlooked and not acknowledged enough)

    • @isa640
      @isa640 Před 5 měsíci +147

      Why do we need to check on him. He said himself it's a "choice."

    • @aaronaldo14
      @aaronaldo14 Před 5 měsíci +168

      He’s aware that he is severely underweight

    • @prayed249
      @prayed249 Před 5 měsíci +37

      def not as unhealthy as overeating or being obese but he should find some kind of help so he can be at a healthy weight

    • @rainnnnnnn
      @rainnnnnnn Před 5 měsíci +96

      Is anyone checking on overweight people in this video?

    • @annemmie
      @annemmie Před 5 měsíci +130

      @@isa640well having an ed is never a choice

  • @ijusthavetosay3751
    @ijusthavetosay3751 Před 16 dny +13

    did Lauren just say SHAME is a motivator💀omg she needs a reality check

  • @user-nz8yx4ku1j
    @user-nz8yx4ku1j Před 2 měsíci +112

    what they are referring to as "productive shame" is guilt. no shame is productive. shame tells you: i am bad, there's nothing i can do about it. shame keeps people stagnant and stuck. GUILT says: i did/am doing something bad, what can i do to fix it. guilt can most definitely be a motivator.

  • @Aviciiz
    @Aviciiz Před 5 měsíci +6794

    Madeline saying she is the average weight of a woman in America is either a lie or a big disappointment from America.

    • @edwin1845
      @edwin1845 Před 5 měsíci

      70% of the usa is overweight 40% obese

    • @CoolCat847
      @CoolCat847 Před 5 měsíci +1609

      She is not the average weight, I checked the stats because I was so shocked. It's 170.8 lbs (77 kg) and she definitely weighs more than that.

    • @Aviciiz
      @Aviciiz Před 5 měsíci +1043

      @@CoolCat847 Yeah I knew that had to be a lie she probably tells herself to sleep better at night

    • @cngotham4111
      @cngotham4111 Před 5 měsíci +656

      She be lying to win an argument or shes uninformed

    • @db_2408
      @db_2408 Před 5 měsíci +588

      honestly, my jaw dropped when she said that

  • @Shirx.ley7
    @Shirx.ley7 Před 5 měsíci +2806

    It’s a huge problem that people don’t think obesity is unhealthy. Has nothing to do with being beautiful. Everything to do with dying early for no reason.

    • @9395gb
      @9395gb Před 5 měsíci +201

      Thank you. They are focused on the aesthetics of weight and beauty. It should not be about that.
      It's about health...high blood pressure, diabetes, heart attack, joint problems, breathing issues, stroke and earlier death. This can be said for being underweight as well.
      But the lack of acknowledgement of the weight being uncomfortable and impeding their ability to live a happier and long life.

    • @leftunsupervised
      @leftunsupervised Před 5 měsíci +106

      This is based on my experience, so caveat there, but I've never met an obese person who thought that their obesity was healthy or even pleasant. It's very uncomfortable physically. I've met obese people who don't want to be judged as less healthy in their habits than skinny people and treated differently as a person based on their weight alone. Which, to me, is fair. I know loads of perfectly thin people with terrible eating habits who never work out. And many overweight people who eat healthy and exercise. 🤷

    • @Shirx.ley7
      @Shirx.ley7 Před 5 měsíci +74

      @@leftunsupervised FYI I am an obese person. I never once have claimed to be healthy, as the people in the video are, nor do I think it’s ok. It’s a huge problem in America. I’ve been on a journey to get healthy and have lost 100 pounds in the last year because of my own personal choices. Everything comes down to choices. I’m still obese and I workout 5 days a week. At the core, nobody is naturally obese and I agree that we should all be treated equally but also obesity is a huge problem and only made worse by corporate greed and the overconsumption and gluttony taught in our society

    • @leftunsupervised
      @leftunsupervised Před 5 měsíci +29

      @@Shirx.ley7 Congratulations! That's incredible! Is obesity healthy? No. Do many obese people have healthy habits equal to or exceeding the habits of loads of thin people? Yes. I know them personally. They're putting in the work like you, but they aren't getting the results like you. They have other conditions and health factors than you don't seem to have. So, GREAT! That's awesome! But know that your experience isn't universal, so you can't then stand up and say oh, well, it's always a choice.
      I think the people in the video, esp. Cambria, were saying that you can't assume she's just a person with no self-control based on looking at her. She has healthy habits, she just also has lupus and was given medication that made her gain weight. That wasn't her choice. She doesn't have the same scenario as you, nor should people assume that she does.

    • @Shirx.ley7
      @Shirx.ley7 Před 5 měsíci +55

      @@leftunsupervised I understand where you’re coming from but I also am studying nutrition and exercise science and there’s no health condition that prevents weight loss by caloric deficit. It is how our bodies are fundamentally wired. Being slightly overweight may not be a choice but being obese is. Some may have to work harder but science is a fact. Understanding your own body and adjusting to your own needs is what it takes if you want to be healthy. There’s no one size fits all, but all should make every effort to be healthy. Nobody’s body is at a 300 pound set point, that’s not how it works chemically. Even with hormonal syndromes and issues, there are choices you can make to be at a healthy weight, I’ve seen it plenty of times and have my own experiences with physical limitations. There’s truly no valid excuse to being obese other than you just don’t want to put in the work, which I understand but let’s be honest about it. If someone is happy with their body then I’m happy for them, but I’m not going to agree that some people are healthy and obese and some people just can’t lose weight when it’s just simply not true.

  • @ariannarodriguez3231
    @ariannarodriguez3231 Před 18 dny +12

    Lauren has literally never met a poor person

  • @FarahRoseSmith
    @FarahRoseSmith Před 2 měsíci +231

    Sometimes fast food isn't what's "easy," it's what is affordable and in the local area when grocery stores are not. It's called a food desert. Sometimes "just going to a doctor" isn't possible if you don't have insurance. Blaming people for not having access to certain things is ridiculously uninformed.

    • @kristobin8451
      @kristobin8451 Před měsícem +39

      There are almost no scenarios where grocery stores will cost more than fast food... even in a food desert

    • @desiree5895
      @desiree5895 Před měsícem

      @@kristobin8451especially nowadays with prices going up

    • @agirlisnoone5953
      @agirlisnoone5953 Před 28 dny +17

      WHERE is fast food cheaper than the grocery store???

    • @MatthewNussbaum-og8cx
      @MatthewNussbaum-og8cx Před 27 dny +4

      Fast food is not more affordable than the local grocery store. Stop that misconception.

    • @Dands877
      @Dands877 Před 27 dny +6

      How is fast food cheaper? It's always cheaper to buy food in grocery stores and cook it yourself. Moreover, you don't need a nutritionist to lose weight, most information is available online. What's lacking here is proper motivation. It's always easier to feel sorry about yourself and seek for excuses rather than actually say NO to your cravings.

  • @goldengoddess8568
    @goldengoddess8568 Před 5 měsíci +8698

    The way she said “I’m the average weight for women in America, so if you’re looking for the average the closest you’re going to get is me”, the only reason that’s the case is because of the obesity epidemic… That was not always the average weight historically.

    • @destinypointer9069
      @destinypointer9069 Před 5 měsíci +734

      I agree with that statement. I was shocked when she said that she was the average, because I do not see many individuals who are that heavy. Do not get me wrong, I see overweight individuals, but I mostly see people who are 300lbs or below. Id say size 14-18 is the average for women because that is usually the size that is sold out most of the time.

    • @-danny.
      @-danny. Před 5 měsíci +580

      @@destinypointer9069the average woman in the US is like ~5’3 and 170 lbs. So she’s definitely bigger than the average woman

    • @fdscrl6016
      @fdscrl6016 Před 5 měsíci +269

      wow that is insane as someone from europe... and it is a problem to be that big. being the average doesn't mean its not bad like...

    • @classtilton871
      @classtilton871 Před 5 měsíci +1

      She aint the average woman, shes delusional.
      Sorry if its harsh but thems the facts

    • @viaisabeauty7540
      @viaisabeauty7540 Před 5 měsíci +47

      @@-danny.omg im literally 5’3 170 lbs 😩😩…crazy I’m that spot on 😂

  • @rlrcia
    @rlrcia Před 5 měsíci +4493

    Being healthy is a choice.

    • @thecoolestcat5078
      @thecoolestcat5078 Před 5 měsíci +178

      no

    • @nukahina384
      @nukahina384 Před 5 měsíci +287

      @@thecoolestcat5078 it is tho

    • @SlimClipper
      @SlimClipper Před 5 měsíci +347

      Fact. Obviously you can get unlucky, but for the most part it’s a choice.

    • @z3onix
      @z3onix Před 5 měsíci +184

      Depends on the situation

    • @saltchipper-7147
      @saltchipper-7147 Před 5 měsíci +117

      Yes, and some people are healthy at higher weights

  • @celinepa8246
    @celinepa8246 Před 15 dny +8

    Noone should be wearing g-strings in public. Period.

  • @user-mo1hp4yu2i
    @user-mo1hp4yu2i Před měsícem +33

    As a fitness coach who has helped many people gain and lose weight, I want to share my observations. All the slim individuals who told me that they also eat a lot or consume a lot of junk food, when I delve into how much food they actually eat in a day or how many calories they intake, the results are astonishingly similar. In fact, none of the slim people consume a large amount of junk food. Their average daily calorie intake is much lower than that of a normal person, and their appetite is very small. Similarly, individuals who claim they eat very little but are overweight always underestimate their appetite and the calorie content of their food.Excessive obesity and being too thin are both harmful to the body and unattractive. What's truly important is learning to control your own figure, so that when you are dissatisfied with your physique, you can change it as you wish. Controlling weight is never a difficult task; it is merely a skill, similar to riding a bicycle or swimming, that everyone can master as long as you have courage to try and faith to overcome certain difficulties.

    • @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare
      @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare Před 26 dny +1

      yeah they should have said they eat junk food often, not that they eat a lot of junk food.

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 15 dny +2

      Exactly lots of my friends who ppl say they have a ‘fast metabolism’ almost never finish their plate of food or that one fast food meal they eat ‘everyday’ wouldve been their only meal that day because they forgot to eat, or were preoccupied with other things

    • @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare
      @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare Před 15 dny +4

      @@Afrogirrl you can have a faster metabolism, but only people who use their body a lot will, the more active you are the more you'll burn off. Having more muscle mass makes you burn more calories faster than someone who doesn't

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 15 dny +2

      @@The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare yeah i dont disagree at all. But I feel like if you’re a skinnier person seen with a burger you’ll instantly be claimed to have a fast metabolism

    • @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare
      @The_Tortoise_and_the_Hare Před 15 dny

      @@Afrogirrl yeah, but that's just based on some subconscious learning, which yes, it's false. And also a burger isn't that bad, I think a burger at mcdonalds is like 350 kcal or less and if you eat that as a meal then you eat less than what a meal would be, typically a meal would be 500 calories.

  • @gusudeani6071
    @gusudeani6071 Před 5 měsíci +3888

    I feel like Lauren views being skinny through her own personal lens rather than objectively. The fact she straight faced said skinny people don’t eat junk food is BAFFLING. I’m 118lbs(53kg) and during my early twenties I was eating cake for breakfast some days. I would’ve loved a little bit more back and forth and challenge to Lauren’s claims.

    • @uchennanwogu2142
      @uchennanwogu2142 Před 5 měsíci +40

      how many calories did you consume? daily

    • @popkick8350
      @popkick8350 Před 5 měsíci +287

      @@uchennanwogu2142The point wasn’t really about how much cake is eaten or not. It was about eating cake at all since Lauren made the claim skinny people don’t eat junk.

    • @gibbono
      @gibbono Před 5 měsíci +94

      ⁠​⁠​⁠@@popkick8350 I’d like to think that Lauren was referring to the fact that skinny people don’t eat much calorie wise which is why she said they don’t eat much junk food either. Metabolism can play a big part but at the end of the day if you’re still skinny even after eating “a lot” then you’re not actually eating that many calories/junk food in this case.

    • @curryascocarrasco4829
      @curryascocarrasco4829 Před 5 měsíci +6

      I work out because it's fun and it allows me to eat more!

    • @chitownjaxxk7644
      @chitownjaxxk7644 Před 5 měsíci +16

      @@gibbonobut that’s not true , she should speak for herself because that’s false .

  • @enzogeet2463
    @enzogeet2463 Před 5 měsíci +6108

    As a nutritionist, seeing so many people think obesity isn't a factor leading to health diseases is concerning... It is really sad to know that's how it is across the atlantic, Europeans are usually way more educated on this subject.

    • @trackflix.
      @trackflix. Před 5 měsíci +769

      They all know it's detrimental to their health lmao they just won't accept it

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 5 měsíci +398

      These girls are coping HARD!!

    • @logicallychaotic9139
      @logicallychaotic9139 Před 5 měsíci

      become a DIETITIAN then come back…

    • @jato2942
      @jato2942 Před 5 měsíci

      Another reason why Europeans are superior

    • @Momo-po5tn
      @Momo-po5tn Před 5 měsíci

      Americans have brainwashed themselves

  • @Peachling
    @Peachling Před 2 měsíci +79

    The mishandling of the food desert convo was insane

    • @greywaren6034
      @greywaren6034 Před 28 dny

      Can u explain?

    • @trashbiscuits1906
      @trashbiscuits1906 Před 23 dny +9

      I actually had to put it on 1.5x at that point bc it was making me incredibly angry, I can’t believe anyone can be that privileged and uninformed, but to not accept this as truth and continue to argue incredibly niche examples of why this does exist bc “duhhhh there’s chickens and small town grocery stores is insane” many ppl can’t afford or do not own land, rural grocery stores are incredibly marked up bc often they’re the only choice with few produce options beyond basics, ALSO food desserts are typically an urban area thing, I live in a mid sized city of 700k and don’t drive, I can’t afford the TWO options within nearly 20 minutes of driving (and I live close to downtown which is insane)

    • @nicholascortez728
      @nicholascortez728 Před 17 dny +2

      ​@@trashbiscuits1906yeah it seemed that none of them really had a grasp on the term. While it is used to describe more urban locations usually ones that lost a traditional grocery store and now the only choices are Dollar General, 7-Eleven/Convince Stores ect the same concept does happen in rural settings.

  • @inclination7675
    @inclination7675 Před měsícem +165

    Not every skinny person is healthy. Yes! But I never see an obese healthy person.

    • @katarinavukosav3511
      @katarinavukosav3511 Před 27 dny +20

      I know 2. My partners parents are both over 100 kg (200 pounds) but they have a nutritious diet, they eat vegetables that they produce on their garden, protein and carbs, ofcourse they eat sweets, fried food or even mcdonals on special ocasions (which I don't thunk is unhealthy if it's not exagarated), but they also have an intense workout with a qualified coach 2 times a week and they have a dog so they take walks most days of the week, in summer they work in the garden on weekends they hike etc. Since they have a coach and try to eat even more of a nutritious diet they lost around 30-40 kilograms between both of them but for a year now they are stuck at the weight a bit over 100 kg. And I am sure they are not the only ones.

    • @fredlloyd5487
      @fredlloyd5487 Před 27 dny

      Skinny is an aesthetic. MOST skinny people aren’t healthy, if they were they’d be called “fit” or “athletic.”
      Meanwhile most football players are obese, even Travis Kelce.

    • @glencoconut
      @glencoconut Před 21 dnem +4

      but weight can fluctuate not just based on health choices? like taking certain medicines make you gain weight or chemotherapy and to not do so could technically be considered unhealthy

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 15 dny

      @@glencoconutwhat do you mean

    • @Afrogirrl
      @Afrogirrl Před 15 dny +2

      @@katarinavukosav3511you can overeat ‘healthy foods’ and many people eat more than they burn in exercise.

  • @MPLetsTalkAboutIt
    @MPLetsTalkAboutIt Před 5 měsíci +8525

    Dominick is the definition of accountability. He holds himself accountable but also is able to see its up to him whether he wants to change or not

    • @joeyhernandez7908
      @joeyhernandez7908 Před 5 měsíci +32

      Fax but at times comes out douchey

    • @jennosyde709
      @jennosyde709 Před 5 měsíci +94

      Perhaps so, though he likely does not have the background in psychology to understand that some of what he is saying is a bit silly. Even if he wanted to boil it down to willpower (though there are countless systemic factors which contribute towards obesity), willpower is quite literally a limited resource within the body that is regulated by blood glucose levels within the brain. People who struggle with self control are typically placed within environments where they are frequently exposed to high levels of temptation, which reduces glucose levels within the body making it more and more difficult to exert self control with each subsequent temptation. Many people due to financial, legal, or social circumstances cannot simply up and change every component to their lives, which can make it exceptionally difficult to lose weight simply because of this factor alone. People in Europe do not have some innate ability for willpower that Americans do not. The difference is that they have different systemic solutions to address obesity, including walkable cities, less fast food, higher regulation in the food manufacturing process, and better regional wages/work hours that leave people with the time and energy to cook at home.
      I do respect Dominick's willingness to take accountability for his own life, though this subject is far more complicated than being a mere issue of self control.

    • @hannahmacdonald9040
      @hannahmacdonald9040 Před 5 měsíci +39

      @@jennosyde709 Yeah agreed some of his takes were way to simplistic, weight is a lot more complicated than mere willpower...

    • @McKinley491
      @McKinley491 Před 5 měsíci

      it is an issue of self control and willpower and discipline. I'm not naturally skinny, i calorie count every single day and do calories in vs calories out. Some people lack that discipline, simple as that. Take accountability for your own obesity. @@jennosyde709

    • @McKinley491
      @McKinley491 Před 5 měsíci

      there's fast food everywhere, don't eat it maybe? You're not a child. Where I live theres' tonnes of horrible fast food, you just avoid it. Walkable cities? You can still go to the gym or run, btw though, exercise isn't necessary to lose weight. It's all diet (calories in vs calories out). You also don't need to buy sugary HFCS crap in America. And even if you do, it's still calories in vs calories out. You could lose weight on mcdonalds if you wanted.@@jennosyde709

  • @isabellariner9733
    @isabellariner9733 Před 5 měsíci +2368

    Lauren was unbearable, her viewpoints honestly disgusted me and were extremely hurtful. I’m not even overweight but she exemplifies why eating disorders are such a problem

    • @jonathanwalker3135
      @jonathanwalker3135 Před 5 měsíci +332

      She spoke nothing but facts...

    • @faithfrancisco9829
      @faithfrancisco9829 Před 5 měsíci +34

      Yes I couldn’t agree more

    • @wiz7650
      @wiz7650 Před 5 měsíci +216

      I feel like her points were often valid. I feel though that some of her points were innapropriate to the prompt or the course the conversation was going in.

    • @2bagbreezo
      @2bagbreezo Před 5 měsíci +204

      I think she says what people typically DONT want to hear , doesn’t make it horrible. It’s just an opinion you’re not a kin to, which is why we need these debates. She even went as far as to be respectful I’m not trying to hurt others feelings when she visibly seen them get frustrated

    • @MsLt1982
      @MsLt1982 Před 5 měsíci +63

      @@wiz7650right, it was like she had points she was planning to bring up ahead of time and couldn’t understand the conversation otherwise. Talking and not listening.

  • @tiapadilla7722
    @tiapadilla7722 Před měsícem +82

    lauren needs a reality check, ed help, and behavioral therapy

  • @jaidyn732
    @jaidyn732 Před 23 dny +7

    the girl in the red dress (lauren i think?) is incredibly privileged to think everyone is able to live the same way she is

  • @keirahleesha486
    @keirahleesha486 Před 5 měsíci +5337

    I laughed so hard when Lauren said “Skinny people” don’t go to the junk food aisle 😂😂 Just because someone is skinny doesn’t mean they are healthy ✌🏽

    • @sweet3488
      @sweet3488 Před 5 měsíci +205

      Lol yea they say junk food is horrible but people like Parker thinks it’s fine to not eat for entire days

    • @leftunsupervised
      @leftunsupervised Před 5 měsíci +159

      @@sweet3488 And Lauren was really vibing with that grapes and lettuce only diet 😂 Ah yes, fiber and fructose bombs. So healthy.

    • @avalonstout1490
      @avalonstout1490 Před 5 měsíci +36

      @@leftunsupervisedshe literally said the exact opposite. She was actually anti dieting

    • @britterthecritter4531
      @britterthecritter4531 Před 5 měsíci +53

      Facts, I’ve been skinny my whole life and got high cholesterol 💀💀

    • @leftunsupervised
      @leftunsupervised Před 5 měsíci +8

      @@AlesBejr-jk2py Thank you. I don't know why people keep ignoring what words mean in favor of how they are feeling about a word at the time they are typing it.

  • @NicoleReign
    @NicoleReign Před 5 měsíci +3000

    Lauren is so blind to her privilege, it’s tragic. In the US, no, everyone doesn’t have the choice to walk into a doctor’s office (which is hundreds of dollars….) and get checked. Crazy that she made that suggestion

    • @jaynez9027
      @jaynez9027 Před 5 měsíci +387

      Agree. Her responses were pretty out of touch.

    • @Eroshenkova
      @Eroshenkova Před 5 měsíci +79

      If you realy care about yourself you will get the money for your health.
      Btw in Russia it's free.

    • @cd3xp
      @cd3xp Před 5 měsíci +55

      plus not everyone lives close to a grocery store !

    • @sznlaura
      @sznlaura Před 5 měsíci +75

      @@Eroshenkovain america average people can’t afford it. Have family ther but am from europe and its really nit accesible to many people there bc like for some its either paying for food and school and rent or doctor

    • @user-he2ou2ex2f
      @user-he2ou2ex2f Před 5 měsíci +152

      @@jaynez9027 nah, she keeps it real. No wonder she can manage her own weight.
      We’re just a society that enables self victimisation. No accountability.

  • @aliakapoor
    @aliakapoor Před měsícem +43

    I really like the guy with glasses and red shorts. He knows that it's not black and white but grey. And the girl in the red dress is what my eating disorder sounds like.

    • @janatomlin1296
      @janatomlin1296 Před 8 dny +1

      Yes!! She gives off privileged to another degree

  • @MammothMorals
    @MammothMorals Před 26 dny +5

    The issue with minimum wage jobs is not that those people can't afford to eat healthy. Its that minimum wage jobs often are the most time consuming. They don't have the tike to cook a healthy meal.
    McDonald's isn't cheaper than rice and beans. But rice and beans takes longer to prep.

  • @arabellamoore2082
    @arabellamoore2082 Před 5 měsíci +2606

    are we all just gonna ignore that Parker is clearly struggling with an eating disorder....

    • @eleriamirayse6859
      @eleriamirayse6859 Před 5 měsíci +220

      Not just him

    • @zxr250
      @zxr250 Před 5 měsíci +51

      I've seen several comments talking about it - so people aren't ignoring it.

    • @AlisonMendez-bx8tp
      @AlisonMendez-bx8tp Před 5 měsíci +324

      Multiple ppl in this video have an eating disorder

    • @oreochocolate_lavacake9960
      @oreochocolate_lavacake9960 Před 5 měsíci +166

      I think he's aware of it as he did mention he is underweight so I hope he's geting the help he needs.

    • @oreochocolate_lavacake9960
      @oreochocolate_lavacake9960 Před 5 měsíci +8

      ​@@eleriamirayse6859 We're not talking about other people we're talking about Parker.

  • @Allhailpablo
    @Allhailpablo Před 5 měsíci +4439

    Dominick was definitely the voice of reason throughout this conversation. So refreshing to see someone who understands a problem and the other side's points and is able to logically and empathetically produce his

    • @Claire-ux2qu
      @Claire-ux2qu Před 4 měsíci +5

      except when they were talking about food deserts

    • @SmallSnailMarie
      @SmallSnailMarie Před 4 měsíci +7

      I appreciate how during diet culture discussion he asked for the other guys definition rather than just arguing with him without knowing what he considered to be "diet culture". It really shows that he is a cognitive thinker and he is trying very hard to consider everyone's background for their opinions.

  • @user-go7zy3fc5f
    @user-go7zy3fc5f Před 21 dnem +8

    No one should shame someone into doing anything. Negative reinforcement isn’t the way. Shaming is a psychological abuse tactic.

  • @quinn7694
    @quinn7694 Před 18 dny +8

    Dominick seems like such a down to earth kind person, i wish him and his wife n kids well ❤

  • @isaiahharris7046
    @isaiahharris7046 Před 5 měsíci +5313

    They should do another episode to where it's the exact same prompt but this time it's nothing but doctors debating. That would be interesting

    • @christinasanderford5849
      @christinasanderford5849 Před 5 měsíci +21

      ooohhh yeah

    • @FKDame
      @FKDame Před 5 měsíci +466

      Yeah except they’re not going to be debating because it’s not really a debate

    • @isaiahharris7046
      @isaiahharris7046 Před 5 měsíci +50

      @FKDame yes they would there's so many different opinions among various different doctors.

    • @elianavictor108
      @elianavictor108 Před 4 měsíci +165

      There would most likely not be a debate. Science shows that it is not healthy for someone to be overweight. In terms of beauty or ability to be a happy person, that is a different discussion, but most likely all doctors will agree from a health standpoint.

    • @chouyi7591
      @chouyi7591 Před 4 měsíci +86

      itd be hard to find a doctor that’s pro obesity

  • @elik8448
    @elik8448 Před 2 měsíci +4852

    Lauren 100% has the same vibes as a mom who very much causes all her kids to have eating disorders and control issues. I really valued Dominik's self awareness though, he not only acknowledged that being skinny can also be unhealthy and that he himself has unhealthy eating habits but also showed a lot of empathy towards others while they were speaking about their experience.

    • @GoldenGoosey26
      @GoldenGoosey26 Před 2 měsíci +179

      Or or or, she teaches her kids healthy eating habits

    • @DajaMoonSage
      @DajaMoonSage Před 2 měsíci

      @@GoldenGoosey26 Doubt it...she said she was for 'body shamming' someone into trying to get healthy. This is how self-image issues start, which can then lead to eating disorders. Body Shamming someone generally does not work. If anything, it can push more mental health issues.

    • @batswanamodipane7774
      @batswanamodipane7774 Před 2 měsíci +22

      true, I like how he actually admitted that his perspective has changed, which is the whole point of these videos I think

    • @brieonymous
      @brieonymous Před 2 měsíci +93

      How do you figure? I see her as the voice of reason. Obesity is not healthy, period. She was also not shying away from the FACT that obesity is not visually appealing to anyone save for people with fetishes.

    • @bekind9827
      @bekind9827 Před měsícem +41

      @@GoldenGoosey26 My mother who is somewhat similar to Lauren and it has made me fairly unhealthy... Like I will feel like when she is not around I just need to stuff my mouth with bad food because its the only time when I dont have to worry about her judgement. I will say, to some extent the things she says make a lot of sense however she takes it a bit to far and struggles to understand that living a healthy lifestyle is not a one size fits all thing.

  • @Linky-01447
    @Linky-01447 Před měsícem +16

    I love the diverse group of people in this video! They all have their own experiences and can learn from each other!

  • @NotTouchingGrassEver
    @NotTouchingGrassEver Před měsícem +24

    Dominic is a well knowledged person who is logical, and he is able to communicate well to others without belitting them by being self-aware

    • @RG_Eph
      @RG_Eph Před 17 dny

      He seems very nice but he is not informed about seed oils. There is so much false information about seed oils being spread

  • @lisac6905
    @lisac6905 Před 5 měsíci +2954

    This should be renamed Anorexia vs Binge Eating Disorder. In the first 5 minutes that one guy said he chooses to go without food some days. Literally every person on this panel has said something that relates to disordered eating. Jubilee needs to vet their speakers better because both sides are just pushing an unhealthy lifestyle.

    • @user-he2ou2ex2f
      @user-he2ou2ex2f Před 5 měsíci +228

      Yh 100%. Jubilee just loves to get outliers in the discussion. While still interesting takes away from what the debate should’ve been.

    • @FeelMyRhythm2U
      @FeelMyRhythm2U Před 5 měsíci +6

      Exactly.

    • @user-sf9gs2pg1b
      @user-sf9gs2pg1b Před 5 měsíci +107

      Yeah, I thought that was incredibly strange. Once I saw the skinny guy I immediately thought he had an eating disorder or something.

    • @rosee8140
      @rosee8140 Před 5 měsíci +148

      The skinny side is definitely not 'anorexic', having disordered eating and being skinny is not the same as anorexia.

    • @trilogy135
      @trilogy135 Před 5 měsíci

      Yup

  • @YTho-ev1ej
    @YTho-ev1ej Před 5 měsíci +4637

    Being skinny doesn’t mean your healthy but being obese means you are unhealthy. I think parents have a duty to make sure their kids are healthy, both mentally and physically (and being overweight pertains to both)

    • @duels
      @duels Před 5 měsíci +264

      ​@@KaitlinSkilton not very often you can say its not food related. people will always come up with excuses

    • @duels
      @duels Před 5 měsíci +151

      @@KaitlinSkilton look at other countries, clearly something is going on that’s severely unproportionate. not just conditions as it’s made out to be

    • @lilithjones5455
      @lilithjones5455 Před 5 měsíci +125

      @@KaitlinSkiltonyes and this apparently uncommon thing seems to affect mostly Americans it seems. Definitely not the fact the USA is known for junk foods high in sugar and with less care about what chemicals go in than most other countries

    • @TheAmazingHoho576
      @TheAmazingHoho576 Před 5 měsíci +5

      And emotionally!

    • @tartantulakid666
      @tartantulakid666 Před 5 měsíci +59

      @@KaitlinSkilton it's a bit of a stereotype that the woman always looks for the exception and not the rule. Are we really going to pretend that 60% of the adult US population all have genetic diseases?

  • @michellepascual3155
    @michellepascual3155 Před 2 měsíci +41

    as someone who is very skinny, I strongly agree that we get bullied and negative comments on how ''skinny'' we are. I have never met anyone who hasn't at least comment on my body telling me I'm thin and under weight. I am trying to gain weight, it's equally as hard and both are a huge struggle, gaining or losing weight is hard overall. however you look just feel healthy with yourself, the rest doesn't matter

  • @niqua19ful
    @niqua19ful Před měsícem +14

    I'm a smaller women , and I can eat healthy and I can also eat whatever I want and maintain an acceptable weight. So every one bodies are completely different.

  • @lauranottuna
    @lauranottuna Před 5 měsíci +3823

    I dont agree with everything said, but I am so glad about how relaxed the conversation was. Not much shaming, no screaming, no talking over each other.

    • @Wanderlust06705
      @Wanderlust06705 Před 5 měsíci +82

      Same. After watching the trans debate this was really refreshing.

    • @rita8274
      @rita8274 Před 5 měsíci +64

      Even when they obviously physically disagreed with someone talking, they weren't taking it to the next level by being unnecessarily rude. Nice to see the episodes coming back to actual discussions instead of just screaming matches.

    • @mon3yw4y
      @mon3yw4y Před 5 měsíci +11

      They were talking over each other sometimes, perhaps not significantly enough to change the atmosphere of the conversation.

    • @jayart7928
      @jayart7928 Před 5 měsíci +3

      The fats should be shamed.

    • @drawingdoritu
      @drawingdoritu Před 5 měsíci +15

      @@jayart7928i hope this is a joke

  • @laurynelizz__
    @laurynelizz__ Před 5 měsíci +4075

    This discussion needed more people at healthy weights and with healthy relationships with food. Even the skinny people exhibit a lot of disordered behaviors from what I can tell, based on what they’ve told us

    • @TheDevastator619
      @TheDevastator619 Před 5 měsíci +700

      When Parker openly said he “chooses” not to eat some days, it screamed depravation to me. Sure there are days when you’re not hungry and your body doesn’t prompt to eat, but if you’re actively making the choice to suppress when your body is telling you you’re hungry is harmful.

    • @rosee8140
      @rosee8140 Před 5 měsíci +163

      I kinda wanna see the opposite, morbidly obese vs diagnosed anorexic.

    • @weirdflex8158
      @weirdflex8158 Před 5 měsíci +70

      ​@@TheDevastator619not necessarily no. Fasting is great for lots of people

    • @Idkchangethislater
      @Idkchangethislater Před 5 měsíci +201

      Exactly both sides seemed kinda…Struggling…

    • @Formerlywendytestaburger1621
      @Formerlywendytestaburger1621 Před 5 měsíci

      I'm pretty sure he meant that his appetite is so low that he wouldn't eat because he talked about it as an unhealthy thing@@TheDevastator619

  • @luyandalamula9009
    @luyandalamula9009 Před 14 dny +3

    I love how it starts off with the disagreers for the first prompt explaining the nuances around her weight and the skinny girl continues to list things that may be out of your control as a choice. @3:57

  • @dariusjohn7581
    @dariusjohn7581 Před měsícem +9

    I love the congeniality and well-manneredness of the plus-sized people. Great conversation and great questions.

  • @bibbo3167
    @bibbo3167 Před 5 měsíci +3147

    This was one of the most genuinely productive episodes they’ve had in a while-no arguing, yelling, passive aggression etc

    • @ymoonysun9130
      @ymoonysun9130 Před 5 měsíci +81

      Productive for me is when the debate has quality and brings a logical fresh light to the subjet: but this episode was one of the most unproductive ones since no facts, no arguments structure, no science was brought, only weak opinions based on emotions ://

    • @bibbo3167
      @bibbo3167 Před 5 měsíci +30

      @@ymoonysun9130 baby steps baby steps lol

    • @LadyNellie
      @LadyNellie Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@ymoonysun9130huh?

    • @BabyJellyfish
      @BabyJellyfish Před 5 měsíci +16

      None of this was productive. Not shouting at each other is the barest of. Minimums

    • @ShadowJinxXOX
      @ShadowJinxXOX Před 5 měsíci +16

      ⁠@@ymoonysun9130I disagree, an argument doesn’t need a statistic attached to it if it can still provide sound reasoning to its basis. And there was a decent amount of times that deductive reasoning was applied from both sides, maybe not always perfectly, but fair points were discussed

  • @cloudyns
    @cloudyns Před 5 měsíci +715

    Lauren was embarrassing to be honest. "Skinny people don't eat junk food". She also was implying that only skinny people can wear bikinis and provocative outfits but that bigger people shouldn't. She seemed very clueless.

    • @whalium889
      @whalium889 Před 5 měsíci +42

      I am hoping she learned a lot from being on this episode of middle ground because it seemed like there was a lot she didn’t know.

    • @kiriavatar123
      @kiriavatar123 Před 5 měsíci +59

      She was def trying to be combative when everyone else seemed to be having a really empathetic back and forth

    • @Kingofthenet2
      @Kingofthenet2 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@whalium889so true

    • @elizabethrhiannon2924
      @elizabethrhiannon2924 Před 5 měsíci +53

      When Madeline said she was the average weight of a woman in the U.S. and Lauren shook her head aggressively… she definitely seemed fatphobic. I say that as a skinny girl. She definitely wanted to be condescending and rude to them

    • @sugarfish223
      @sugarfish223 Před 5 měsíci +12

      @@elizabethrhiannon2924 IOW, she very badly wanted to "Show Her Concern"(TM). Funny how such "concerned" people just can't quite get to the point of faking empathy long enough to be convincing.

  • @pathogen9494
    @pathogen9494 Před 2 měsíci +12

    there's food deserts in the city too. Businesses are not willing to put their businesses in dangerous neighborhoods, and public transportation is also bad. There are a lot of people without cars that need to take the bus to go to the store, and haul their groceries back home on the bus

    • @flopes11
      @flopes11 Před měsícem

      wonder what people did before cars?

  • @vesuvius2444
    @vesuvius2444 Před 14 dny +3

    I once heard someone who had a drug addiction and a food addiction. Say that the food addiction was way worse because we have to eat everyday while the drugs he took weren't something he had to do. So the over eating temptation is always there for him every time he ate.
    People can definitely change their lot in life but it's definitely not an easy thing for certain people to overcome. It's much easier to never be obese and maintain that.
    In some ways it's a choice, in other ways, it isn't.

  • @koraliee
    @koraliee Před 5 měsíci +2604

    Dominick seems like a great guy and came off as very intelligent and level-headed. Props to him.

  • @DearAliya
    @DearAliya Před 5 měsíci +2727

    I hope Dominick see's all of the support from the comments on this video and always feels motivated to achieve his personal health goals so that he can have the future he wishes for - he deserves it!

  • @biagalves6553
    @biagalves6553 Před 26 dny +1

    I wish I could participate on this discussion, love talking about it and meeting people that know how to be polite when expressing their opinions is so great

  • @SpeakingEnglishToday
    @SpeakingEnglishToday Před 9 dny +3

    My step sister and I grew up together eating the same thing as children, but she was more addicted to sugar, candy, and junk food. She was always extremely thin, and her doctors told her as an adult that it was dangerous how thin she is. I was more focused on living a healthy lifestyle, but I have always struggled with weight. I exercised a lot more and ate healthy food, but I was always a little overweight and she was always too thin. This had little to do with our lifestyle.

  • @TheBluntDoctor
    @TheBluntDoctor Před 5 měsíci +576

    “Skinny people don’t go into snack isles “ GIRL WHAT 😭😭😭

    • @EC-dz3fb
      @EC-dz3fb Před 5 měsíci +2

      Lauren is a horrible, horrible person.

    • @raevix4766
      @raevix4766 Před 4 měsíci +16

      They go to it but just take less

    • @itzasweater9621
      @itzasweater9621 Před 4 měsíci +30

      Skinny adults, especially as they age, do avoid a lot of junk.

    • @ashlynnhillegas3960
      @ashlynnhillegas3960 Před 4 měsíci +19

      Them skinny people be eating the mosssssttt

    • @ethanhawkins3052
      @ethanhawkins3052 Před 4 měsíci +8

      @@ashlynnhillegas3960total calorie intake is lower for skinny people

  • @taylorstephensen-beal5391
    @taylorstephensen-beal5391 Před 4 měsíci +2214

    “I choose not to eat some days.” Babes, that’s called an eating disorder. 1:26

    • @JasonVoorheeTalkShow
      @JasonVoorheeTalkShow Před 3 měsíci +333

      Crazy how people are casually overlooking Parker stating he has an eating disorder

    • @marymcintyre1702
      @marymcintyre1702 Před 3 měsíci +150

      Fasting is not a eating disorder, some people fast for religious reasons first of all and this has been practiced for centuries. There are also numerous studies on the health benefits of fasting such as increasing memory, regulating insulin (decreasing risk for type 2 diabetes) fasting enhances heart health by improving blood pressure, triglycerides, and cholesterol levels therefore reducing risk for heart conditions. Fasting increases the generation of nerve cells to help enhance cognitive function and reduce inflammation. Fasting increases growth hormone secretion research shows that this key hormone is involved metabolism, weight loss, and muscle growth. Several studies have found that fasting could naturally increase HGH levels. One review article noted that fasting for 37.5 hours can increase basal HGH concentrations by as much as ten times and also reduces the metabolic rate at which the body clears HGH. Several animal studies have found promising results on the potential lifespan-extending effects of fasting. the effects of periodic fasting on the human gut and found that fasting increased the diversity of helpful bacteria in the gut microbiome, including the Christensenella species, which are related to longevity. The researchers also noted an increase in sirtuins, proteins involved in metabolic regulation that are also associated with longevity. Fasting could reduce tumor progression and increase chemotherapy’s effectiveness. Calling fasting a eating disorder regardless of someone’s religious beliefs or health reasons is incredibly ignorant.

    • @EowynSoup
      @EowynSoup Před 3 měsíci +198

      ​@marymcintyre1702 fasting isn't an ED, but he later acknowledged he's severely underweight. Earlier he said he chooses to be skinny. It's all red flags to me

    • @medogerty6013
      @medogerty6013 Před 3 měsíci +15

      He seems happy doing it though and he’s not victimizing himself. So I don’t see an issue with it.

    • @simplecontinuous2343
      @simplecontinuous2343 Před 3 měsíci +30

      I was surprised it took me this long to find this comment! Or that more people weren’t bringing it up.

  • @denziboi4063
    @denziboi4063 Před měsícem +27

    Now do a reunion in 15 years and see whos still alive

  • @olliej.2603
    @olliej.2603 Před měsícem +7

    If you hate yourself while trying to lose weight then you’re most likely not going to either lose the weight or keep the weight off. Loving yourself through the whole process will not only grow you physically but mentally and emotionally. ❤

  • @socialmimicry
    @socialmimicry Před 5 měsíci +1221

    I really don't think Madeline is considered average size as she claims.

    • @Lagiacrus1996
      @Lagiacrus1996 Před 5 měsíci +134

      Yeah like a quick google shows its about 170lbs. I don't think she's 170...

    • @rchilla5860
      @rchilla5860 Před 5 měsíci +188

      I almost spat out my damn water when she said she was the average.

    • @brxndan222
      @brxndan222 Před 5 měsíci +77

      i had to pause the video and just stare at disbelief in what she said

    • @hayleywhelan3243
      @hayleywhelan3243 Před 5 měsíci +26

      Maybe it's because she's so top heavy that can make you look so much bigger

    • @lilycakes49
      @lilycakes49 Před 5 měsíci +29

      Height contributes to how weight looks on someone. She's pretty short

  • @dewis9997
    @dewis9997 Před 3 měsíci +3167

    The plus-size community needs more people like Dominic to speak up because if a skinny person says what he said, it doesn't come off the same/ some might feel it's fatphobia, but if he says it, it's more accepted.

    • @jaysellers011
      @jaysellers011 Před 3 měsíci +36

      It's sad that the Western society is like that. I think humans with different backgrounds should all have a voice

    • @jeffisjeff5511
      @jeffisjeff5511 Před 3 měsíci +7

      Are you sure he’s plus sized? Because most plus sized people are healthy. Since plus sized is just a bigger build instead of overweight or obese

    • @gur262
      @gur262 Před 3 měsíci +52

      ​​@@jeffisjeff5511😂😂😂no plus sized is obesity, in almost every example of it

    • @jeffisjeff5511
      @jeffisjeff5511 Před 3 měsíci +14

      @@gur262 Plus sized isn’t obesity. They both are different things. Please do research because it’s very bad to spread misinformation. Many plus sized people are healthy. They just have bigger bodies which would be healthy for them. Again plus sized and obesity are completely different. Don’t mesh them together.

    • @Winkle-Dinkle
      @Winkle-Dinkle Před 3 měsíci +47

      @@jeffisjeff5511I’m pretty sure plus sized is simply an umbrella term that refers to anyone above the average weight across a population. This can include oversight, obese, or morbidly obese. At least that is what the trustworthy sources purport.

  • @TheLostSheep578
    @TheLostSheep578 Před 22 dny +5

    It is not about being skinny or obese. Both are unhealthy in their own ways. It is about being healthy. Your weight should correspond with your height and vice versa.

    • @tonyisnotdead
      @tonyisnotdead Před 18 dny

      what about being skinny alone is unhealthy?

  • @MarcoRodriguez-kc1md
    @MarcoRodriguez-kc1md Před měsícem +6

    Dom is the realest one there. Very self aware and he doesn’t play the victim card nor does he play the body positivity movement. Massive respect to him and I hope he’s inspired to lose the weight.

  • @windwielder187
    @windwielder187 Před 2 měsíci +2609

    Madeline did not just say she is average weight

    • @valarmorghulis25
      @valarmorghulis25 Před 2 měsíci +319

      Yeah that was insane

    • @queenleo5578
      @queenleo5578 Před 2 měsíci +184

      She said she was the closest out of all of them. The average size in the US is like a size between a 14-16 now

    • @n0isy-rat
      @n0isy-rat Před měsícem +163

      The average hieght and weight of women in america is 170lbs and 5’4 😰

    • @Goosebeoms_
      @Goosebeoms_ Před měsícem +45

      ​@@n0isy-ratAin't no way💀🤚

    • @lcvinhannah
      @lcvinhannah Před měsícem +14

      @@Goosebeoms_ idk how true it is because it’s google but that’s what it says.

  • @veronicawinja3682
    @veronicawinja3682 Před 5 měsíci +3571

    As an African who moved to America, food and the food system has been one of the biggest challenges that I have experienced. It's a system that's not for the people at all! and it's even worse for the poor e.g. homeless people. The food quantities are abnormal, vegetables are way more expensive than junk food, there's a lot of variety of junk food. Food here is more for pleasure than for nutritional value.

    • @Summer-ke5es
      @Summer-ke5es Před 5 měsíci +153

      Agree. After moving to the US I gained so much weight. And the creziest thing is that I'm gaining weight from simple stuff like potatoes, for example. It doesn't matter if I boil them or grill I still gaining weight. Back home I could it potatoes as much as I want and never gained even one pound.

    • @itsnotif.itswhen
      @itsnotif.itswhen Před 5 měsíci +110

      @@Summer-ke5essame with meat quality. I suspect the way they raise farm animals here is different that contributes to the obesity epidemic.

    • @justme.11
      @justme.11 Před 5 měsíci +21

      Should be the number 1 comment.

    • @selinacadisch8449
      @selinacadisch8449 Před 5 měsíci +112

      its so crazy cuz for example in Switzerland,which is where i live, most American foods aren‘t even allowed bc of how much chemical and just generally unhealthy stuff is in them.

    • @Oxymera
      @Oxymera Před 5 měsíci +108

      I always hear about immigrants eating the same diet they had from their home country and still gaining weight. There must be something in our food that causes this

  • @kristenc2363
    @kristenc2363 Před 2 měsíci +21

    I really enjoyed Dominick's perspective, perfect balance, and accountability, while also having grace and understanding!

  • @yukslime8468
    @yukslime8468 Před 29 dny +9

    “Your body like to be at certain weights” 😂😂😂 that an insane statement

  • @oluchi8910
    @oluchi8910 Před 5 měsíci +2473

    Now this is a DISCUSSION! It doesn’t matter what side you’re on, people sitting down with opposing views and still being able to have a civil adult conversation while not cutting each other off and really LISTENING to all sides even if they don’t agree is super underrated

    • @oponomo
      @oponomo Před 5 měsíci +49

      funny thing is: this wasn't 2 opposite views, it was 2 opposite body types. Most of them have similar views which makes this a very weird jubilee versus.

    • @tartantulakid666
      @tartantulakid666 Před 5 měsíci +28

      There is only one correct side in this discussion. Being obese shouldn't be normalised and shouldn't be accepted. All I heard from the obese people were lies about their eating habits and lies about how great they feel. When you start to see their behaviour from the addiction perspective, their lying and deceit makes a lot more sense.

    • @Piinnkbunnii
      @Piinnkbunnii Před 5 měsíci

      lol my name twin! Are you Nigerian or Nigerian American?

    • @amyswallow742
      @amyswallow742 Před 5 měsíci +2

      i feel like this is one of the healthiest jubilee discussions i've seen and that's sad

    • @Brooklynnspov
      @Brooklynnspov Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@tartantulakid666then your lying about liking to be skinny

  • @kaitie4200
    @kaitie4200 Před 5 měsíci +1640

    As someone who has been both severely underweight AND overweight, the way I was treated while overweight was so much worse. Sure, I was made fun of while I was too thin - but doctors believed me, strangers were kinder to me, the world accomodated me.

    • @Sarah-xq4cf
      @Sarah-xq4cf Před 5 měsíci +120

      OMG THIS! I was overweight and nobody ever batted an eye to me, never got compliments, etc. Lost 30 lbs due to depression and there were so many compliments but I was in such a worse mindset. I've gained back around 14lbs and I've been so happy even though the compliments went away. It's crazy how our weight (even just a minimal amount in change) can make people view us differently in seconds.

    • @chainsaw_king0476
      @chainsaw_king0476 Před 5 měsíci +40

      Actually I agree with this overweight people do have it worse when It comes to bullying but it comes to compliments I think it's because people overlook how harmful it is to be under weight. As they aren't as noticeable at a glance as clothes often times hide it

    • @DrArthurCGarp
      @DrArthurCGarp Před 5 měsíci +30

      Bingo!
      I grew up very overweight, I don’t think I ever hit clinical obesity but there was no mistaking how big I was. When I finally lost weight the treatment I received from others made me want to cry and so I kept going until I was nearly underweight.
      When I say I went from getting zero attention (dating wise) to being hit on I mean it. When “nobody” cares about you and then you suddenly have people telling you how amazing you look and should feel it does something to you psychologically and physically

    • @ronny-yj8oc
      @ronny-yj8oc Před 5 měsíci +13

      True, but being underweight is also a HUGE struggle that so many people are overlooking and feel free to comment and judge on easily since "you're skinny".

    • @Blakoss
      @Blakoss Před 5 měsíci +25

      It’s pretty privilege. People are subconsciously nicer to better looking people. It’s got nothing to do with how healthy you are just how sexually attractive you look. It’s pretty messed up but it’s life

  • @Emma-1142
    @Emma-1142 Před 23 dny +3

    did y’all notice how they labeled the overweight/obese people as “plus size” and the others as “skinny” instead of “underweight/normal weight”

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect9717 Před měsícem +15

    Lauren needs to stop talking and listen more. If you're unfamiliar with food deserts, don't act like you know what you're talking about, talk over people, or invalidate others' experiences. Check your privilege of having access to a car, gas money, time to shop, an accessible grocery store, time and ability to cook, etc. ❤

    • @kellyann4073
      @kellyann4073 Před 29 dny

      “I have a lot of empathy” - Lauren

  • @ednabunker1498
    @ednabunker1498 Před 2 měsíci +1305

    Lauren shouldn't be interrupting people, she should be listening to them. She's ignorant and comes across as uneducated, privileged, and immature. She has some growing to do.

    • @SreyaVenkatesh_1109
      @SreyaVenkatesh_1109 Před měsícem +29

      @@Itz_IzeckI feel bad for ur wife

    • @ruovel
      @ruovel Před měsícem +6

      @@Itz_Izeckain't no way

    • @beardedrogue4282
      @beardedrogue4282 Před měsícem

      I mean, you should stop people from spreading lies. Being obese is unhealthy.

    • @an-me
      @an-me Před měsícem +45

      Exactly! She was so comfortable with being wrong and she doesn’t even realize she living a sad and judgmental life. Just wrong all around.

    • @Devilmousy
      @Devilmousy Před měsícem +2

      ​@@Itz_IzeckTyler it took me two clicks to find your socials, you really wanna be putting this out there?

  • @lovedlavender3266
    @lovedlavender3266 Před 5 měsíci +2806

    I'd love it if Jubilee made a common ground or spectrum videos about bullying, such as people who were bullied and even former bullies who stopped bullying.

    • @justhumanrampai4882
      @justhumanrampai4882 Před 5 měsíci +81

      Ohh, I’d watch this. I’d like to hear some of the thought processes

    • @lainaaa9075
      @lainaaa9075 Před 4 měsíci +7

      YESSSSSA

    • @shackles5850
      @shackles5850 Před 4 měsíci +5

      yes

    • @sowhat1674
      @sowhat1674 Před 4 měsíci +48

      Usually, bullies are not aware that they are bullies.

    • @user-ss4ek3zo4d
      @user-ss4ek3zo4d Před 4 měsíci +19

      yeah, but how would you define that, because most bullies were bullied at home or by other people, most of the so-called victims of bullies have been bullies themselves, I feel like everyone on earth has been both a bully and the victim of a bully at some point

  • @Vilik-nm7ry
    @Vilik-nm7ry Před 16 dny +3

    Saying she's the average weight is WILD, it's just not true.

    • @LINA-je9my
      @LINA-je9my Před 6 dny

      Well historically it's not but nowadays it is actually the average weight.

  • @fthidebessai3523
    @fthidebessai3523 Před měsícem +35

    shame doesn’t work as a motivator. people can only change through love.

    • @sidcrook-hutsler9155
      @sidcrook-hutsler9155 Před 26 dny +3

      I disagree. We pushed love and now the majority think being obese is beautiful and healthy

    • @DaniBee2900
      @DaniBee2900 Před 17 dny

      @@sidcrook-hutsler9155ignorant

    • @HaileyGraceL
      @HaileyGraceL Před 13 dny

      My mom pointed out I gained a lot of weight, looked unhealthy and unlike myself when I was 30. I lost that weight FAST.

  • @16ilovevampires
    @16ilovevampires Před 5 měsíci +2916

    Topic idea: Parents of multiple children vs. People who are childfree by choice
    Some prompt suggestions:
    I've been judged for my choices
    My moral or religious beliefs have contributed to my decision
    I feel represented in social media
    I sometimes envy the other side

    • @meyass4163
      @meyass4163 Před 5 měsíci +69

      this is the most interesting suggestion ive seen @jubilee 👈👈

    • @RachelDee
      @RachelDee Před 5 měsíci +123

      Additional prompt: my financial habits and goals contributed to my choice

    • @dinkyboss
      @dinkyboss Před 5 měsíci +10

      This! I have a feeling they’ll make that video soon because it’s very topical

    • @vl0731
      @vl0731 Před 5 měsíci

      Yes!

    • @savannahrichardson254
      @savannahrichardson254 Před 5 měsíci

      Yesss

  • @koolkat6070
    @koolkat6070 Před 2 měsíci +688

    Lauren messed up a lot of very easy debate points and surprisingly Dominic seemed to be the most down to earth of the cast. His reasoning is probably a reflection of the way society currently treats overweight men in comparison to overweight women.
    Edit: to add i reckon they should've had a bodybuilder as part of the cast as well

    • @hoophinhimer
      @hoophinhimer Před měsícem +8

      I COMPLETELY AGREE. There were so many points that that could've been made, but it seemed that they chose subjective points instead of actually looking at the concrete answers.

    • @YoBoi-cu6bh
      @YoBoi-cu6bh Před 29 dny +3

      I think they should have added a section of “average people” with BMIs for 20-30.

    • @YoBoi-cu6bh
      @YoBoi-cu6bh Před 29 dny +4

      Like me for instance I am 153 and 5’6 I have a BMI of 25. From my personal experience obesity is a choice in the winter my weight usually gets up to around 155 due to less activity and holiday foods. Then in the summer I will usually lose 5-10 pounds simply because I tend to be more active. This isn’t genetics it my personal eating and exercise habits.

  • @miamonster2253
    @miamonster2253 Před 26 dny +2

    Lauren is so privileged. She’s telling people to make choices like going to the endocrinologist and buying healthy foods yet so many people CANNOT AFFORD THIS. Insurance is not free. Not everyone has enough money to buy fruits and veggies and nutritional food. She needs to go get off her high horse and go realize not everyone is as privileged as her.

    • @flamefusion8963
      @flamefusion8963 Před 23 dny +1

      And it's her fault that they are broke? LOL more excuses from fatties.

  • @EllaLuke-vc1pd
    @EllaLuke-vc1pd Před 19 dny +2

    I've always found it interesting that people default to skinny being more healthy than obese. Like when you are on a medication that impacts your weight, you can CHOOSE to go off of it because you have free will - but that doesn't make it the healthier choice?

    • @tonyisnotdead
      @tonyisnotdead Před 18 dny

      medication impacting your weight doesn't make skinny the less or equal healthiest option to obesity

  • @metronia2183
    @metronia2183 Před 2 měsíci +2017

    nah the way Lauren was slowly shaking her head when Madeline said she was the average weight for women in America 💀. 10.32

    • @victoriaperez2752
      @victoriaperez2752 Před 2 měsíci +101

      Lol she like no im the only example of average

    • @_diw_5705
      @_diw_5705 Před měsícem +339

      like wtf shawty said she average weight at like 300 pounds

    • @slimey.1387
      @slimey.1387 Před měsícem +142

      Yea I was like pretty sure the average weight is 170 lbs in America… 😭

    • @canary3853
      @canary3853 Před měsícem +139

      I mean she was actively wrong. There is *no way* that woman is 170lb’s or lighter. Which is fine. I could not care less how much she weighs. I do think it’s a false perception of either herself or the rest of society.

    • @kv913
      @kv913 Před měsícem +56

      Because Madeline is delusional

  • @mengl29
    @mengl29 Před 5 měsíci +2522

    As someone who has lost a ton of weight (45kg aka 100 pounds), it is definitely difficult to lose weight. Getting over that initial craving / transition period is really really hard. However, once you get past that first month or so it does get easier. And it feels so much better! You can do so many more things more easily, and life just generally improves. If you are currently going through the weight loss process, don't give up, you can do this, I did, so you definitely can!

    • @poejavelski148
      @poejavelski148 Před 5 měsíci +38

      Great job on your progress! I absolutely agree. I was the opposite, I was once 130 pounds at 6’3, and lean bulked 60-65 pounds over a few years. The hardest part was definitely near the beginning, changing your life long eating habits is super tough. After about 30 pounds gained, I felt like I had developed much better habits and was much happier and just kept going from there.

    • @mengl29
      @mengl29 Před 5 měsíci +5

      @@poejavelski148 Sounds like you've done amazing mate, congratulations on your successful efforts. I will say, as someone who has been on both sides of the spectrum, it is still difficult for me not to either undereat or potentially overeat, however, i'm doing my best to maintain a healthy lifestyle, and in the end that's all we can do. Do our best to be the best version of ourselves we can

    • @poejavelski148
      @poejavelski148 Před 5 měsíci

      @@mengl29 Love to hear it, keep doing what you’re doing 💪

    • @JW-1089
      @JW-1089 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Thank you for sharing. There are so many weight loss stories on this app that are very inspiring.

    • @mengl29
      @mengl29 Před 5 měsíci +3

      @@JW-1089No, thank you for taking the time to read it, I appreciate it

  • @harrisonneil8444
    @harrisonneil8444 Před měsícem +5

    Crazy...Why are most the women on the panel making up reasons/excuses on why they are unable to eat healthy, and the only overweight guy on the panel is actually taking accountability on poor eating habits/choices