The Narcissists Playbook: Ex Partners Become Enemies
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- čas přidán 2. 12. 2023
- In today's video Jill explains why narcissists view people they were previously in a relationship with as an enemy when the relationship is over. If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist or if you know someone who is, then today's video is for you. #narcissist #npd #covertnarcissist #femalenarcissist #mentalhealth #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #lovebombing
Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.
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They think they own us. But we know we own ourselves. It is good to walk away and be free.
I’ve swung from being loved to hated within 20 minutes during hoovering.😂
Know the feeling
Absolutely! 10!
Yes, that’s how NARC’s do….
Same. Utter narc-insanity.
About a fortnight…probably less.
Your ability to cram so much well worded information into not even 13 minutes is uncommon. Truly is.
My husband discarded me back in May and he definitely views me as his enemy although hes the deceptive cheater
Sad, sad little people they are.
Yes, and pathetic.
Scumbag is the correct word you are looking for.
The worst is when the ex trashes you to all the other parents and teachers at the pto and sports.
And your clue is people are acting weird.
Yes distant with me. Because I live in another country she was able to go in and con people with her fake kindness routine. She is a manipulative marriage wrecker. How many men she tried to get involved with who were engaged or married. It makes her feel powerful to steal women from men.
I made a huge mistake by being emotionally coerced into staying with this unstable cow. Then. After all the fake suicide threats, she got pregnant. She turned the tables. Nw she harms the child to get to me and I'm in another continent. Imagine my fears for my child. She is loving the power. God will expose her.
Idk, my narcissist really doesn’t seem to care if he’s exposed. He once told me “go ahead, no one will believe you “
That's because they did a lot of things behind the scenes to make you appear to be a liar. Run don't walk, and with time, the narc will expose themselves
I get told this all the time
I was told this. And I was told that as a man who is alive and able to be provoked that I would be easy to be portrayed as a villain.
That was 2009. In 2021 she filed in court with fake allegations. 2024 still fighting to be in my child's life and protect him from that controlling cow
I left my abusive entanglement without smearing anyone luckily for me they all exposed themselves and the horrific tactics they use when they don't get their way!
How bad was it?
@@dennisrobinson8008 very very bad! I'm lucky I survived!
@@jasonjones4492count your blessings.
Thanks for the work you put into this. I really appreciate how thorough and well organized this piece was, and I was especially relieved at the reality presented at the end. The psychological damages post-narcissistic abuse are real and not to be diminished, but are incomparable to the lasting impact of the narcissists retaliation post-relationship, when there is a continuation of abuse (esp. in the case of malignants), including psychological terrorism, harassment, character assassination, financial abuse, triangulation, parental alienation, threats, and more framing the victim in the narc’s false narrative long after the relationship has ended.
Thank you. I agree. When watching these lessons and reading the shared comments this really helps. I greatly appreciate this group. ❤🎉❤
As soon as I realized this I did damage control. I have been trying to warn & educate his disabled mom. She knows he is a big liar, in which she has been subject to so many times. He uses and discards her as well, but she wants to stay in the dark because He is all she really has. This is so sad. He is already trying to play the victim. He is trying to rewrite the narrative now. He’s currently living and involved with an old prostitute. This is disgusting because I know he sleeps around. I am strong. He will not abuse me in any way. He’s actually living his karma now.
Nice one Jill - have seen this in action, so a good video. Thanks for it.
Narcissistic types see everything as self-referential, at the core of what you're describing is an inability to see others as separate, autonomous beings. Ergo, everything you do (or do not do) is framed as being either to please them or as an act of defiance against them. Can apply equally to romantic partners, bosses, so-called 'friends' etc.
Thank you Jill. Very well said everything here. It helps me recover from the abuse I have been going through. Always easier when you know the whys. It sheds a different light to everything.
Totally what I have experienced . Very interesting thank you very much .
You're very welcome
Thank you Jill, understanding the aftermath helps us be prepared to break FREE.
This is a great video Jill. I would also add to this that as a parent of 3 children with the narcissist ex, this then leads to smear campaigns and parental alienation. In the 4 1/2 years since the discard, I've had it all.
Would be cool if you made a video on 'People who narcissists ignore'. They're true masters and heroes of our time. Want to know their secret.
I would think, it's about not having narcs in your family as a child and not giving them any feedback and if they say something, you just pretend to agree with everything and hope it goes away instantly.
Also not standing out in any way would help. I'm really envy of those people.
I have a few videos on the neglect narcissists subject their victims to on this channel.
I'm would be very happy to be ignored by narcissist. I try to be as boring as possible. 😀
Everyone I care about already knew there was something wrong with him. My own children were concerned. I'm sure his family knows he's a narcissist & friends that don't I could care less. He kept me hidden away from them anyway. I can only imagine the lies he's spoon fed these people. I'm just thankful to be out of his bizzare & abusive world.
Leaving a narcissist- activates destruct mode. 🐷
I left come back, he is verbally abusing me calling me a narcissist right now as I am listening to this video
@@ihtd23 - They won’t change. Leave again.
Unbelievable Wisdom Mrs. Wise. I am starting to see that you never disappoint! That is so attractive. This is something you can not get from younger women. Have a good night.
Wow! Thank you Jill 😊
You’re so welcome! ❤️
❤❤❤❤ thank you yes I would like to send me more videos it's true that exmark and all nights that I did with my past I just don't want to deal with them anymore I want to move on with my life and peace thank you so much again
Or it can lead to the victim seeking revenge on whatever level
I don't care what he does or says about me but his karma awaits him in full. I walked away and took my children with me too. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I dodged the bullet and he is only my baby daddy aka sperm donor. I am completely indifferent towards him and focusing on myself and my lovely kids with beautiful hearts they took after me 😊
I was called “their property.”
Because they are dirty and don't want me to tell you about all their trains they pulled or car after car pulling up in front of the house. as they act all innocent. 1:57
I'm the devil 😈 himself.
Yet another wonderful video hitting the nail on the head. I have a very big place in my heart for you Jill ❤Thanks for all you do!
Thank you ❤
Thank you sooooo much for this video! I have experienced everything you discussed in this video, and it nearly destroyed me! I didn't know what was happening. I couldn't understand why someone who said they cared and loved me would say and do such horrible things. However, I started to realize how much he hated me when I told him I wanted to be alone so I could focus on healing. Although his words were nice, his facial expression showed anger and disgust. After going no contact, the covert malignant narcissist that was in my life launched a smear campaign at my job for over 2.5 years. He even tried to badmouth me to my only son. Then he tried to say bad things about my son to me. Basically, he tried to turn us against each other, but it didn't work, and I am so thankful that it didn't. I can't believe I'm still standing after experiencing something like that. I know it wouldn't have been possible without survivors like you! ❤
Knew she was the enemy when she called me at 3AM for something unimportant. Believe her purpose to break me down
Exactly what they did to my reputation within family. All of them are women narc abusers. Even a grandmother.
❣️❣️❣️Thank you Jill ❤️🙏
Children and career.
YES VERY GOOD THX ANGELA
Very accurate 👍👍
Can you please do a video on narcissistic/ Gold child and empath child with a narcissist mom
Off topic: Do I spy at least 3 pieces of McCoy Pottery?
Lol
What do we do when we get away and heal and they then get one of your children alienated and gaslit?
❤
Thanks
Welcome
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