RELATIONSHIP REAL TALK growing pains, inner work, dating, breakups, friendships & family Q&A
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- answering your relationship Q&A's for our 2 years anniversary 🌱 Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video! To get 10% off your first month of therapy, go to betterhelp.com/leahsfieldnotes to sign up today!
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00:00 sneak peak
00:49 2 recipes & 1 sponsor
02:11 intro: we met bc of my bladder
03:10 were u looking for a relationship when u met?
03:49 dealing w/ annoying habits grrr
05:05 how much compromise??
05:30 planning ahead avoids fights!!
06:53 can u be TOO comfortable?
07:15 when did u know u were in LOVE
08:47 GO OUTSIDE RN
09:05 is it important to like the same things
09:33 do u know if you’ll last
10:37 oversharing too much?
11:21 how to find someone T-T
12:03 getting over a break-up
12:23 seeing ppl as options/backups
13:16 how to make friends if ur shy 👉👈
13:52 pressure when single?
14:34 open communication tips!
14:49 how we split expenses??
15:22 turn-ons turn-offs
16:40 is it BAD to put someone first?
17:28 what to do when: BAD MOOD
18:19 our last BIG FIGHT + how we resolved it ❤️🩹
22:02 how did u confess?
22:58 jealousy?
23:07 farts?
23:11 Andrew’s thoughts on my exes
23:35 how to know when it’s time to date again
23:41 is Normal to be Awkward
24:13 losing friends :’(
24:29 are dating apps organic?
26:14 how to let go of friends?
27:25 do u still get butterflies 🦋
28:00 thoughts on media’s representation of love 💗
28:24 why do u call each other Misiu?
28:54 how to shoot ur shot 😎
29:32 fav qualities of each other!
32:00 dealing w/ controlling parents 👥
34:30 MARRIAGE? 💍
34:43 how should a relationship serve u ⚔️
35:13 is Andrew an introvert?
35:28 any cute single friends Andrew??
35.45 lingering s*xual feelings?
36:05 should u move-in together 🏠
36:44 how long did u date before moving in
36:53 different s*x drives?
38:05 Leah’s darkest secret?
38:32 will u ever find TRUE LOVE again??
Thank you for joining me on my journey of growth & discovery!
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My heart is melting
momi...
they broke up
You are the most authentic and genuine couple I’ve ever seen online 🙌🏻 also Leah breaking down at the boba shop bc of too many options is TOO PRECIOUS🥺❤️
omg zoeeeee never expected you to be in here. Uwu my two favourite CZcamsrs interacting at each other
Zoeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee 🥺🥺
@@Eliiiilulu 11
It helps to reframe COMPROMISE into COLLABORATION. You’re building something together, not fighting for territory.
THIS!
It’s only been 2 years but quarantine made it feel like 5 😅 thank you to everyone who submitted their personal questions to my Instagram story! I want to do a career/life path/school pressure real talk next since we’ve both gone through our career pivots from what we studied in university to what we do as our jobs 👀 so stay tuned for that IG story to submit questions!!
i would be glad to have some uni advices for those who's still struggling with it :') such an amazing topic to talk about leah!~ i'll look forward!!!!
I'm really happy to see this video, it's crazy how some things come when you needed it the most. Thanks for putting this video out here, I'm looking forward to the next one. Academic year is coming and it might be helpful to see it. Have a nice day ☀️🌻
Yaaas i would love it, I'm in this moment where i start to become a real adult with age and maturity and this process of choosing what i want for my life is stressing me out lmao
yes please!! i'm going back to school this fall after a 2-year mental health break and my school/career plans have changed immensely in that time ;-;
I loooved this video 😍😍😍♥️
seeing such a healthy and happy relationship just makes me so happy.
Yayyy it gives me hope lol
Same
yesss
really and truly...wishing that you all will find what you're looking for :)
@@sridevisudhahar309 you too
I am absolutely in love with this video. So aesthetic and so real and sweet 🥺💞🥰
my two favorite CZcamsrs at the same place. is this heaven? :)))))
ily hitomi
pls i love both of u sm
Damn, Leah! Hitomi is here 🦋😳
as someone who's gone through the strict parent experience, talking maturely was not an option and what worked for me was just simply growing up, becoming my own person making my own decisions and I had begun blocking out my parents from the decisions in my life, time and especially body. so boundaries and distance was the solution when it felt like any conflict might have permanently damaged our relationship
same! eventually they will understand that y'all are different persons, or maybe they wont... but you have to make peace with it
I totally agree with you.
Reading your comment felt like a weird out of body experience. I’ve had strict parents too, and we were really close; but last year I’ve started to feel like growing quite distant from them and we have quite a conflictuel relationship nowadays. We are trying to find solutions and trying to talk about it but reading about people having that same experience made me feel better somehow. Thanks !
The reason this relationship works is because you both want it to and you’re willing to meet each other in the middle and that’s love.
I relate SO HARD to Andrew's upbringing!! My parents never agree on anything and just shut each other out which has so evidently seeped into the way I handle conflicts not just in relationships but even friendships and stuff. It was so cool to relate to someone and be like DAMN SAME THOO
SAME
you’re not alone, same here as well
Same here
40mins of leah & andrew
WE WON!!!! 💖😭💖
I love Leah but damn I love hearing Andrew talk so much more than usual. He has such a calming masculine energy.
All the ideas shared in the video were great, guys, such emotional maturity
this inspired me to talk to my partner once they wake up…. just to REALLY catch up
Haha this sounds menacing
@@phosphenevision It wasn’t it went really well actually 🥰
@@loftybirds thats awesome!
As a new therapist, this was such a great watch. Not only were these really great questions but also you guys answered them so thoughtfully. It's evident that you guys are self aware and try to communicate effectively in the relationship. And its so clear that you both care for each other very much. Big love for you two 💕
-christine
I was once criticized for being sensitive, emotional and crying too easily. That is one of the main reasons he decided to break up. I literally cried when Andrew said that he loves all of those qualities of Leah.
I was in a toxic relationship for 3 years, when it ended I thought my life crumbled (even though the relationship was mutually abusive). I learnt a lot from that relationship, and swore I’ll be better and never act like that again. So when I met my current partner, I tried to be a better communicator and learnt to love and care for someone (and myself) unconditionally. We’ve been married for a year now and everyone tells us we are the happiest couple. If you just came out of a relationship, don’t give up, something better will come for you:)
Hey I have a little personal question, don't answer if you don't want to! But when u broke up with ur ex, did you feel a weight lifted off ur shoulder?
@@meemeelipota hi I was in a lot of grief at first, there was a lot going on like moving his stuff out, so it was more burden than relief. Once I recovered from the situation, I recognized how much I wanted the breakup and asked myself why it took so long to happen.
@@patronofthearts9343 sorry to keep this going it’s ok if you don’t respond I have a question too. If you ended the relationship ship what finally clicked in your head? I have a friend who’s I’ve a toxic and abusive relationship and they just “celebrated” their 3 year anniversary. Our close circle of friends have seen her brake down multiple times over their breakups and get back togethers. She’s told us she doesn’t love him anymore but she doesn’t know how to live without him... idk sorry lmao we just don’t know what else we can do for her seeing her so hurt
@@Kiwikick238 I have friends who are in similar situations, but there is little you can do other than being there for them when they need you (because I can tell you are a good friend). I can’t speak for her, but I can speak from my own experience, hopefully it could provide some insight.
Sometimes our perspective gets warped when in an unhealthy relationship long term, for example, when things are difficult, it becomes “a testament for true love”, or romanticize it, like “misunderstood love”. When others objected or criticized the relationship, it made me want to revert to the familiar (the relationship/partner), and would make up excuses for the relationship to try to justify the bond, almost like Stockholm syndrome. What your friend describes sounds like separation anxiety, it’s very scary leaving what you regard as a source of love and care and comfort for 3 years, even if others disagree. Once you lose your perspective, it’s easy imagine dealing with the current unhappiness (familiar), than dealing with the uncertainty, sadness and loneliness which could be long term. I felt it in so many ways, such as the fear of heartbreak, the stress of moving him out, the frustration of searching and dating…I would rather face the arguments every other day, than the doomed prospect that I imagined.
The thing is heart break is temporary, the feeling of independence is freeing, and falling in love again is beautiful. To answer your first question, everything clicked but only after it was over, my view was so clouded and probably so is hers. Considering she has a group of amazing friends like you, she sure is worthy of being loved by someone better. She just have to see it, and none of us can make her.
you honestly communicate with each other on such a gorgeously miraculous level, it’s incredibly mature and I’m so glad to be able to witness it.
I hope your younger viewers watch this video and the other videos where you have spoken about making relationships work, communication issues, not necessarily agreeing or enjoying everything that the other person has opinions on or does and really take in the honesty, integrity and genuine kindness you have for each other
okay now i am crying so hard
The moment when you discussed how the five people that are closest to you influence you and your life and how you found that watching youtubers with qualities you want to work on etc.. I felt that, but with you! you have made me feel a lot more comfortable with emotion, made me inspired to be more creative in times of blocked up thoughts and overall just made me feel comfortable in my own skin with a focus on self happiness and improvement, so thank you for being that person for so many of us Leah
I'm still healing from a breakup and been feeling crap about life lately, but this q&a really brightened up my day 😊
Time heals, everything will be okay soon! Stay strong!🤎
aww sending u the biggest hug!
Everything will be okay. ❤
:(
(i've literally never commented on a yt video before but i just had to say) super agree that you're a product of the people you surround yourself with! i'm also really picky about who i follow online because i know it directly influences the type of person i wanna be! having said that, leah's one of the few people that's obviously a positive influence and we're all privileged to somehow "spend time" with her (andrew too!) thanks for just being you!
AGREE SO MUCH!!! i used to follow very different people online (compared to who i follow now), and i realized that they were not the kind of person i want to be. it's really important for me now to really consider the media i consume, because even if i know i'm seeing something that's bad for me, it'll still have a subconscious effect. it makes me happy to know that i genuinely love the people i interact with online.
This is incredibly helpful ! Having this insight on another relationship & what works for y'all is giving me new ways to see how i can be more considerate of my partner & how to avoid potential conflict like Andrew saying he knew a storm was coming, i feel that too sometimes but don't prepare for it 😫 Also me & Dylan have been together for almost 7 years and id like to know how to keep things sexy aswell lol, we're sooo comfortable with each other!
I feel like I became a couple therapist for 40 mins.
And I didn't mind it a single bit ! It just went by in a breeze.
Confess away all you want ! It's always super interesting.
the way Andrew talks about the biking part where he fell in love with leah. that's so cute I cannot
Making friends especially when you're anxious and shy is da worst but it really is just like jumping off a diving board. The moments leading up to meeting someone new or starting a conversation can make you feel like ur at the top of the board getting ready to jump, but once you do it you feel great. And every time you do it after it just gets easier and easier. Fellow shy people - outgoing people get scared meeting new people too! We can do it :)))
it's nice to hear two people talk and cry comfortably over something that makes you feel super vulnerable
and realize, "okay, that's something I need to work on."
i've been avoiding watching couples vids cause i just broke up with my boyfriend but u guys made me feel like i can still love and be loved and that there's no pressure to it. thankss
sending you lots of hugs and love!
never thought I’d be into people discussing about their love/being in love. i also love the fact that i/some ppl dont envy it instead finds it warm-hearted, and its just cool.
I would 100% listen to any podcast you guys made, you're both soooo soothing to listen to and I feel like I learn a lot from your videos! Lots of love!!
no cap andrew just opened my eyes a bit on enjoying the time of being single, i can definitely see how it can affect future relationships and your concept of self.
been going to therapy but i dont like my therapist and he just made me feel like a disappointment. i can say that your videos are literally free therapy; you made me realize the beautiful things in life, inspired me to grow more, try new recipes, and have more self dates. genuinely cannot thank you enough leah！！💛
18:19 I do the Andrew-poker-face and it's my coping mechanism for feeling such extreme shame and guilt for hurting someone I never want to hurt. Working on it! Trying to be better!
Ah! my ex had rly similar argument styles to Andrew! Similar upbringing that was mentioned, super independent, mild tempered, kind, but avoidant attachment style and shut down during arguments. He was really emotionally intelligent but not emotionally available especially as I needed more connection. I’m glad Andrew is working on it :-) it requires a lot of unlearning and therapy.
As a chaotic and indecisive person, I've especially appreciated that Andrew's part when he says about the chaos he likes that Leah brings in at times. So soothing.
You guys really give me hope that there are relationships where one can actually talk and understand each other, unlike in my previous relationships. :]
LEAH, ANDREW AND EVERYONE ON THIS PLATFORM ARE BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEINGS. THANK YOU LEAH AND ANDREW FOR ANSWERING QUESTIONS, AND STARTING UP CONVOS WE ALL NEED IN OUR LIFE. 🤗 ❤️
Seeing this healthy relationship that really has a good foundation of friendship too, really helps me feel a little more confident when it comes to relationships whether it’s romantic or friendships. Thank you for this video ❤️
Leah, I just feel happy watching you and andrew talk about your relationship and opinion about everything. It makes me feels like I'm listening to my friends . I love you *cries* thank you for sharing your slice of life with us.
I’m not even 2 minutes in and I love how open and honest you guys seem with each other. Excited to watch the rest of this video. I’ve just been through a breakup and it got me feeling all sort of things. Thanks for sharing your love story here 💗
Yaay, the perfect podcast to end my day (german time). My boyfriend and I are very similar to you two. Hearing you talk made me realize even more how I glad I am for our relationship.
This vlog is melting my heart and im so so happy its gonna be a long vlog. I cant stop smiling
I really love the maturity, honesty and self awareness that you guys have and how you are willing to grow and communicate with each other. This video is really inspiring and makes me want to be a better person with myself and with others, honestly.
this just makes me so happy and i want to be a better version of myself for me and people around me
I am currently in a rough spot in a relationship and I get so pressured with what people are telling what to do on how to handle it. After watching this, it teaches me that I should also share this with my partner so that we can talk it out and learn more about each other.
Just finished watching the whole thing. Love how well you guys express yourself. Definitely learnt something from this✨
it's honestly so touching and comforting to see you two being able to be so open, to care for each other the way you do and also being able to share advice and more personnel things with us :,> it makes me very happy, kinda feels like talking to an older sister and her boyfriend eheh
so nice to hear you both have a genuine and a real conversation. having that person around you 24/7 must feel super reassuring and comforting.
I still watch this video every year even though I know that you guys split up, but the interaction between you 2 was so healthy which I need to remind myself what healthy relationship looks like.
I love these kind of video where you talk honestly about everything! it is amazing to know how wholesome relationship you have with each other
I learned a lot. So many mind opening opinions. Hope you'll make this kind of video too in the future. Thank you so much!
i love how honest and wholesome this was! some parts made me really emotional
I’m like writing notes from you guys!! So helpful. Waiting for my somebody to come one day :)
you guys are really motivating me to work on myself whenever I feel lazy and unwilling to think and reflect, watching you makes me want to keep growing and learning not only for myself but also for my future partner so I wanna thank you for that
Commitment is such a key, commitment at comunicating, share, be aware of each other state, also put first our own persona to be better to everyone else
seeing such a healthy relationship is sooooo good it makes me so happy 🥺 also you guys are so chill and open-minded, i could listen to you talk about anything for hours. wish u both lots of happiness ily!!!!!!!!
it was honestly so refreshing to listen to you and Andrew communicate how you each approach relationships in such a real and open manner! 🥺 the way you guys talk about each other too.. mA HEART 😭❤️
this was amazing timing for me! ive been struggling w a lot of the things people asked about, and having 2 perspectives on it really helped me understand mySELF (as well as made me feel less alone!) i also loved the filming style and love these real talks- it always makes me feel like im in a room w yall :) alsooo youre so appreciated for the time you put in to add all those timestamps/edit so gracefully
OMG a longer video??!! Leah you don't know how much I look forward to your videos weekly 🥺
This was such a great video!! It was great hearing about not stressing about love and just loving yourself before ! Love you guys !
this vid genuinely warmed my heart so so so much. also i love the genuine authenticity and how u guys emphasised that good, healthy relationships DO require effort, work and time. we appreciate u guys being open and always sending virtual hugs and PLUMS!
You guys are the most genuine couple I've ever seen. It amazes me how well you know each other & how articulate you both are with your feelings, just very mature. Most people never get to understand themselves like that. Pure admiration & love for both of you, you are so wise. Much love ✨
You brighten my life. Thank you dor being a great and genuine human being 💗
I really enjoyed this video. Also, the fact that they shoot this in nature. You guys never fail to make me smile and my heart be all glowy. 💖💖💖
this was so helpful. I love the way you communicate and think and the way you take time for yourselves. many times I feel overwhelmed and also be sassy to my bf and I felt so so so bad for it because I feel I can't control it sometimes but hearing you proposing forms to solve it makes me not feel that bad and hopeful. at the end we are humans and we make mistakes and overall we feel. truly helpful this video it opened my mind. thank you
This is so useful and nice to see! Thank you Leah and Andrew for your honesty, you're a great couple and I wish you happiness
I was single when i started watching your videos and learned so much from your relationship. And now that i’m in a relationship, i feel like all of the wisdom I learned from the two of you are now integrated in my relationship, and my partner knows that (!) and we’re so good together. So THANK YOU LEAH AND ANDREW for sharing your story to us!! 🙏🏼💖
your guys' relationship is so beautiful and inspirational I LOVE THIS VID- and its also so great to see how much you guys love each other and are willing to change and be vulnerable 🥺
the thing about the 5 person closest to you hits, also really want to work on my communication skills, i want to be able to express my feelings without the fear of being judged and you inspire me a lot to make effort and to work on it instead of being passive about it, thank üüüü so much again ate Leah!! such an eye opener 💗💗💗
i love u guys so much i swear my heart just swells up every single time. love to see such balanced & genuine people
I think this is my favorite video yet... I love to hear y'all talk in a lovely park :) been listening to this on the background while studying for my next pulmonology exam! thanks for being my (virtual) companions!)
amazing you two! the world needs more of this! so much love!
thank you for uploading Leah! hope to meet you both soon when everything gets better and once you have your cosy coffee shop/bed&breakfast 🤗💕
your videos always make my week
hi, Leahhhh! i just want to say thank you for putting out such calming content
this video was great. It almost felt like a podcast. Such an honest, raw discussion. You guys seem like a strong pair :)
Have been replaying this video 4 times because I can just hear y'all talk for hours!!! :) Y'all are seriously the cutest couple!!! :) This video is just so precious and please do a part 2, 3, 4 ahahaha :D
I'm so glad these two young ppl are so mature and have so much empathy. I'm 37 and I've been in my relationship for 14 years and this is it! Communication is so key! This is amazing to see in a young couple.
thank you for your wise words and advice, really broaden my mind. And especially i like how you change the background/video scenes continuously
Aw thanks for this video. There’s so much to learn from you two and I’ve realized a few things while watching. I often feel understood after hearing you talk about certain things. Much love to you from Germany
I've been binge watching your videos since I dscovered you about 2 hours ago. Awesome, real channel.
I feel so much comfort and security when I watch you two be honest and vulnerable with each other. Thank you for this:)
In my relationship I felt I was getting too comfortable too but I found this helps! When you are able to travel, go on mini getaways together. I just went on a drive with my boyfriend of two years, to a tiny house for three nights. It created an even deeper connection and intimacy. It was amazing
I really enjoyed this video and it showed me that even someone anxious can be in a relationship that's stable and growing. I tend to feel like Leah, and my partner is a bit similar to your partner, and my partner realllyyyyy helped me grow and continue to grow so it's very comforting to see!
Thank you for being so open up, and genuine! Learnt a lot from this video!!
Andrew is incredibly well spoken and it's nice to listetn to what he has to say, thank you for including him!
I love this style video (: just feels like Im chillin with my friends in the park. thanks for being open and genuine
happy 2 years to you two!!! all of your answers are so thoughtful and sweet. it's very evident that you both genuinely care for the people who asked these questions. you have such a rare gift for being fully honest and authentic even through the screen/editing/etc - you deeply inspire me and i'm so thankful that you're sharing with us in this way :) love you!! and if it wasn't obvious, please make more videos like these because i love hearing you ramble (but i'd love any other video by you too!!)
This is so wholesome 🥺❤️
This has got to be the most genuine and straight cutest relationship QnA I've ever watched
your foood looks soo goood and i love it when u film at parks - brings some of the outdoors into my bedroom in the wee hours 💕
Definitely agree with the point that we are the product of the 5 closest ppl around us. When I was mentally struggling my circle was very emotionally draining, I knew I didn’t like their energy but stuck to them because I wasn’t connected with myself to recognise I’m choosing to stay in an uncomfortable environment. Now I am filled with warm, kind, genuine people and omg once I started working on myself, like really step away from the drama and understand me and my values, I naturally attracted them and continued to learn and grow with their support :)
Moral of the story: spend time understanding yourself especially your past, you owe that to yourself! No one is going to care about you when they have their own mental health to figure out. Go into a relationship being whole don’t go into it thinking someone’s going to complete you.
I loved this.. was kind of unsure at the beginning cause I usually watch videos around 20 minutes long and the 40 minute feeling was overwhelming BUT no regrets was absolutely worth every second and lovely to hear such open discussion about issues that probably relate to everyone. thank you for the time you put into it
woahhh in the past week i’ve had all of these struggles :0 i can’t believe you made a video on it
Honestly thank you so much for this beautiful representation of a healthy, stable relationship ❤️ I grew up in an unstable, abusive environment and movies/music/books often portray love unrealistically (as you mentioned) so this is so important for me to witness. Sending you love across the globe 💫
I loved this video so much ! Would definitely enjoy more rambling videos by you guys !! the time flew by really quick ! also your answers got me reflecting a lot and are very inspiring in their own way! much love x
the concept and format of this video is so interesting !
I really needed this with all my trauma relapsing right now. Thank you so much for such warm, genuine advice!! You guys are my favourite couple ever and wishing both of you a happy and fulfilling relationship for life
im so excited for this video !! (i always am) you guys have the best vibes
the answer for the fave qualities question has got me so 🥺💗 i love the rambly videos and this was nice to watch bc it's gotten so cold over here that it felt like a small reminder of the summer that has already passed
I love both of your insights and energy 🤍 please keep it up 😆 i love this style where it shows your natural flow in conversations
Really loved this video Leah and Andrew! I could listen to you guys talk forever hahah. Thanks for showing that’s it’s possible to have a healthy relationship in this day and age when I’m about to give up 🥺❤️ Always rooting for you both! 💕
I always love listening to Andrew, his mind and words