THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING FAT!| MY STORY
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- čas přidán 18. 01. 2022
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In today's video I discuss the truth about being fat.
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This talk was VERY much needed Yanie. Thank you. I’m 24 and I’ve gained weight since my late teens early twenties and I get HELLL every damn day from it. Unsolicited ‘ advice’ from men never stops. And im not even super big im just short so it looks bigger than what it is…. Meanwhile people don’t understand I’ve been dealing with depression+Anxiety+Bipolar disorder for like 7-8 years. They don’t gaf about health it’s about how you look and I can’t stand the gaslighting. People pretending they care, no you just want me to look like the standard… period. They wouldn’t give a shit if I were thinner,
Saweetie is the perfect example of people not giving a shit about her health when she’s eating crazy on her ig lives, she looks good so it gets swept under the rug
Exactly!!! Preach ! It’s never about actual health! You never see the health warriors on posts with people smoking, drinking, doing other drugs or skinny people enjoying junk food! Unless you big they never ever show their “concern” about health!! It’s all superficial and disgusting. Saweetie is the perfect example!
Please leave skinny women alone. They already get attacked so much so you big girls can feel better about yourselves these days. You don’t need to throw skinny women under the bus constantly when they get on you for your size. Skinny women are not your shield!!!
@@babygurll7 You’re not a skinny woman you don’t understand what they go through with the so called “health warriors” so I’ll tell you. Skinny women get attacked so you big girls can have some self esteem. Skinny women’s mental health is sacrificed so you can feel better about over eating. Only to ask people to try not skinny shame women and the world gaslights skinny women “you’re the beauty standard” and small women can never play victim because “shut up you are skinny “ A skinny girl can’t even post a pic appreciating her body without someone blaming them for their eating disorder (a freaking stranger) or accusing them of promoting unhealthy body image to children or impressionable young people.
@@chunli9199 Skinny women are not thrown under the bus. Skinny women are literally the standard of beauty.
@@chunli9199 So we have to stop sharing our experiences to spare your feelings? Its not our fault you don't eat enough, you're bag of bones and people call you out for it. That doesnt even sound right writing but Im doing EXACTLY what you did in your comment. You're trying to shame and invalidate big women for doing the exact same thing you're doing 😂. Both skinny and f@t shaming is both wrong.
My weight fluctuates and it boggles me how differently people view me due to my weight gain. The way men treat me differently and how women namely my friends treat me. How invisible I was to people. It hurt so much when I lost weight and I was seen and respected…..versus me being the same soul in a bigger body wasn’t deserving of that.
Hey Alexis, I can totally relate to you!! It’s so sad how the world is so superficial
@@africanqueen5292 it makes you look at the world differently
the last line😓 it’s so so sad how people mistreat others just because they are not the conventional standard of beauty
Those were not your friends girl
Yes when I was skinny I remember not being treated as bad as I am now that I have gain a some weight over the years, but ones I loose weight again I wonder how ill be treated probably better which is sad.
I realized the people who pretend to care about your “health”…All that goes out the window when you lose weight and all of a sudden, you’re too small. That shows me that it’s not about being compassionate or trying to show you that they care about your health or level of fitness.
Folks will attack overweight people because we wear our struggles and insecurities everyday. We can’t hide it. With the people attacking you, you can’t see all of their insecurities and they know that which is why they’re so quick to make unnecessary comments.
I personally know people with fertility issues, marital issues, family issues, and mental health issues, but they will make a big deal about overweight people all day long as if overweight people are the reasons they have the problems that they have.
People can be so weak. They get off on picking on the insecurities of others to make themselves feel powerful or good about themselves. It’s pathetic to witness. I call them out in public too. I HATE bullies.
@@true4585 you’re right, but what do you do when the so called bullies are your parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles? It’s sometimes family who make these hurtful comments. It hurts bad enough from strangers, but it hurts even more coming from people you know.
@@ya.baldheadedmama97 I will willingly chill with my cousins before my aunts uncles and elder relatives that act high and mighty.
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AVOID THEM as much as possible, and if you must be around them stand up for yourself RESPECTFULLY. You don’t have to talk much, but let your energy let them know that you aren’t with that behavior and you won’t accept it. Place boundaries. They will get the clue if they love you and follow suit. If not, you know who they truly are and cut them out for a long time. If you let them back in and they do it again, CONTINUE to cut them out for a long time. At some point it will click. If they still don’t cut them out for good. Remember boundaries.
I get this. I was raped at a young age and have battled mental health for years. I am naturally curvy and always had a nice shape. Fast forward to my early 30s when life happened. I gained like 30 lbs (it's a lot to me I'm 5'2) and people (mostly family) we're on my a** about it. Major comments every time I came around. I got the "You let your self go" one for a long while. My mom would even say you gained to much and your getting older (I was 31) I have always gained most of my weight in my lower half.. So I knew I needed to lose weight but I didn't feel to bad about it..but when I would go around family, I would feel horrible after.. Then I lost weight.. family/others said I was to skinny and I ruined my shape and I should gain about 10lbs. So moral of the story..you can never please others.
I’m so sorry about what happens to your hun😢!! People really suck
You should never please anyone anyway your only goal should be to please yourself that’s it.
Similar story! My family wasn't super harsh, but the criticism was there. I was super skinny growing up, so it was "dang! You need to eat! Get some meat on them bones!" In college I put on 20 pounds, then it was "must be eating good! Slow down on that junk food!" 🙄 Always laughing while saying it to play off what they're saying as a joke.
love this talk. its scary how people cant seem to find empathy/sympathy for others.
Very.
Narcissism is on the rise and empathy is on the decline. It’s very sad
Hey black girl I got chicken sandwiches
@@victor1815 🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅
@@rainbowchampagne10 I got fresh watermelon juice too
The Body Keeps the Score is a good book about the links between trauma, mental and emotional health, and its manifestation in the body. one thing i learned from it is that trauma survivors tend to become still in their bodies which makes it harder for them to exercise.
people who suffer from anxiety sometimes avoid exercise because the body’s reaction to exercise is similar to anxiety and panic symptoms.
so i keep that in mind and it has motivated me to exercise. i encourage anyone who is interested to read or listen to the audio book.
Thank you sis, i will.
Thank you for saying this. I like working out but when I’m having high anxiety it confuses me how I can just not even want to move much. ❤
I also bought this book but haven’t started it yet. 🫠
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I gained weight after I broke my leg and torn my mcl, my guy then later became a Kevin Samuels worshipper, and start bashing me daily. Had to let him go, and block him.. he started to send me his videos even after I asked him to stop. Ppl definitely treat you different. Between men and family it you can’t catch a break. I went through so much trying to lose weight just like yourself. I’m still on my journey.
I had esteem issues and my mother among my peers relentlessly criticized me for my size and my reaction to how people treated me for it 💔
♥️ same
Same
Thank you for this video!!! I lost 60 pounds on my fitness journey, and the difference in how I’m treated, ESPECIALLY by family members. I was suicidal at my heaviest, not because I didn’t think I looked good. I gained weight because of hormonal reasons but was still getting daily lectures about needing to care about my health even though I was always the healthiest person in the house. I developed an ED too. I loved my body at every stage but my family’s reaction and response was what made me pretty much hate myself. It’s been two years and I’ll forever advocate and speak on the fatphobia that’s so prevalent in society.
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Thank you so much for speaking the truth, I’m a seventeen year old black girl and you’re hitting every point. Nobody will listen to me because I’m big, I’m glad someone who’s been through what I’m going through is speaking on this messed up subject. You’re a blessing thank you so much.💗
There are studies that link being overweight to depression. Of course there are other factors that contribute to being overweight as well, but I think it's important to not only focus on the physical health of people, but the mental and spiritual health as well. They're all linked to one another. Check on your friends/family who may be gaining a lot of weight or who are struggling with their weight (I hope I don't offend anyone).
Exactly this. Not always but in most causes treating obesity starts with the brain and mental health. I have battled binge eating since childhood linked to depression and anxiety. Now that I understand this at 32 and in a stable point in my life I can lose weight.
@@lm8499 Yes! Look at the people on my 600-lb life. They didn’t just wake up one day to being that size. A lot of times they’re binge eating is linked to depression, anxiety, or some traumatic experience. I’m glad you overcame yours I wish you all the best of luck on your journey. 🥰
@@divinefreedom143 A lot of sexually abused people are obese because they feel detached from their body. And they self medicate with food. There’s a lot that goes into obesity and it’s sad that more people aren’t more sympathetic.
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yes yanie, im on my journey at 20 and I’ve gone from 220 to 180 and i couldn’t be any more proud of myself, im not even nearly done. I’ve been seeing a lot of videos lately on CZcams about the lack of dating success bigger women receive and the disrespect they have to deal with and i took it as the hard truth so i can do what i need to do, but your videos are more so encouraging and fruitful. you never shame us for trying because you’ve been there and yet still motivate us to be our best selves, thank you ❤️
Congratulations on your weight-loss.
How long did it take you ?
As someone who was a big from the ages of 8-13 and the only reason I lost weight was because I had acid reflux around 12 almost 13. And yes, my family was the worst to me. It’s hard enough going to school but then to go home is even worse. I became an emotional eater because I was starting to have mental illness issues around 11. I went from a size 18 in women’s to a size 9 in juniors. I was traumatized so much that I still can’t look at pictures of myself from that time period. Everyone who treated me terribly I never forgot how they made me feel now that they wanted to be friends. Those micro aggressions never leave and I’m in my 30s now.
I agree with everything you said about Lizzo. I had to stop following her because I know what it’s like to put on a happy face but be sad.
Drinking water in the morning awakens your body and organs, drinking warm lemon water at night or morning also help alot with hydration and sleep plus weight loss
Oh ok. I have to remember warm water with lemon. Is it right before bedtime that I should drink it?
This video is so profound!!!🥺 I’m in my early 20’s and I’ve been overweight half my life. People really don’t understand how much we think about losing weight EVERYDAY SINGLE DAY!!! It’s impossible to go a day without thinking about. Then, like you say, you self-sabotage and develop depression. But, family and friends, don’t see that. They just see a big person who needs to look like everyone else. It’s funny how everyone is told to be different and unique until it’s about our bodies!!! Love you Yanie!❤️
Exactly sis
This is me at the moment 😭😭😭😭
Partly why I stopped looking at the scale so much and focused more on my nutrition and developing a healthy way I see myself. Whew it’s a battle everyday. Yesterday I felt so gorgeous inside and out because I am falling in love with myself. Yet it definitely didn’t happen over night. ✨😌
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Yanie thank you for this video! thank you I’ve lost 95 pounds I’m still going and hurts because I never realized how poorly I was treated until I lost the weight everybody likes me more even my mom. When I was losing weight nobody told me that people would change.
A lot of people missed the point of your last vlog. I just kept smh at some of the comments. Keep up the great work Yanie.
Those women will always exist. They watch her content to have their emotions already in pending, in order to project onto her, to make them feel justified for their decision making and thoughts
@@SmileyAdventures there were also men in the comments. I never understood why they come into this space. It’s just weird.
@@deliteful1991 whew, don’t get me started on them. I ignore them because they genuinely don’t exist in my mind. I’ve seen them in spaces on CZcams of women talking about being child free, (I’m one of them) and the men displaying their concerns as if it matters. Those type of men are weirdos, creeps and trolls and give them no power of discernment when it comes to these women issues.
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LAWD I’m 7 pounds away from 300 and lemme tell you life has really changed from when I was 100 pounds smaller. I’m working on my third or forth weight loss journey cuz I can’t keep this weight on forever knowing how society is. On top of that joint problems galore are doing me in. I’m all about self love but I have to live in reality and understand I won’t win being this high in weight and I have to accept that. Not for anyone else but for myself. I can’t wait til my weight struggles are water under the bridge. I lost weight before and I CAN do it again. I love how uplifting you are, btw. Relatability is what bigger women need right now during our pain.
I have been thin to skinny my whole life. I gained weight over the pandemic - anxiety/depression and spritual root was ALL out of wack. I'm losing it now but I'll never forget how mean people were to me.
I've always not eaten healthy.... but I was skinny. Not one person my whole life told me my body was unhealthy (even though it was I suffer from an ED). At one point I was 5"9 and only 118 pounds. Crickets
. But the second that reflected in my actual SIZE getting BIGGER then all bets off
It is crazy
Winners lose but winners don’t quit❤️
Great video Yanie. People who haven't been there with weight issues sometimes have no clue how hard it can be. You beat yourself up way worse than strangers do mentally. And like you said you try and fail miserably...but you never quit because that next try may actually work. Addiction to food is unlike any other addiction such as alcohol, smoking, or drugs. You don't need those things to actually live, but all of them can shortened your life span. You could cut it off cold turkey and still live. But you need food to live so you have try to make some type of peace with what triggers you to make you overeat and work to fix it. Keep up the good work and motivating us. You rawness in speaking on this issues is helping others and is very brave.
Fitness and health are luxury. You are so right. I've always been big too, and have always tried. People always looked down on me when I was bigger. succeeded a couple of times and I can say people really treat you differently. Recently, due to depression I went right back to my bigger size. I went to counselling and learned a lot about myself and decided to put myself first for the first time. I am still struggling with issues and i know this is a journey and keep thinking why am I paying this much at the gym, but it's a great social club, an expensive one, but my daughter gets to have after school club activities while I exercise and I get to socialize with other adults and she does with other children, we swim together after our classes, etc.. It's a very healthy environment... I have to keep reminding myself that I am not been selfish, I am taking care of myself and my daughter the best way I can. I have been giving to others so much, depreciating myself and so on, so why not give back to myself and expend that much on us? Thank you for sharing this. Wise and constructive advise
Size is secondary to good health because what people are failing to mention is that skinny people are so of the MOST unhealthiest people in the world. Labs and blood pressure in stroke or heart attack range but since their bad food choices are not visible, they are automatically deemed healthy.
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I love you & keep doing what you’re doing! This is the most honest conversation I’ve seen on the topic of weight gain & family criticism being the root cause of not being able to keep the weight off. I had the same experience and 1 thing I noticed as well was the complete LIE!! That your family tells you in order to MANIPULATE you. They always say “I’m only telling you because I’m concerned for your health” but never once tried to TEACH ME about healthy nutritional diets, a lifestyle & mindset change, or even hire a fitness trainer to help me. It was always about MEN! It was “how do you expect a man to want you” at like 12 years old. It was never about health. And always about outcasting a person based on their own projected insecurities! Keep up the amazing work baby girl ❤️
YES! All of this! As someone with a Haitian family, I was always asked if I didn't want to find a boyfriend. EVEN THOUGH, I wasn't allowed to date! Like make it make sense!!!!
Just viewing this video-essay. Yanie, you are one remarkable woman. Gen Z BW are very lucky that you're on YT.
The crazy thing is people judge people's weight but how easy is it to actually eat healthy? It's really hard. You have to go out of your way to find healthy food. Furthermore they are not serving salad with homemade salad dressing at the family function. At work if you eat healthy people make all kinds of comments. But then at the same token make comments and treat you bad when you are heavy. That's why It resonated with me when you said it's a personal battle. You have to heal yourself because people will always try to make you second guess yourself. Thank you for sharing your story Yanie! Keep Pushing!❤🙌🏾
I don’t think anyone eats 100% healthy because that isn’t practical and will make you binge if you try to lose weight with that mindset. Honestly nutrition matters but smaller portions matter more. You have to be in a caloric deficit for weight loss. Weight Watchers has the right idea with portion control. However I still hate their program. But yeah smaller portion sizes and more water is the way.
I’m 42 and through the years I learned that the more weight I have means I’m invisible… thus weight became a shield. A shield from the dudes that feel like they can touch you, grab on you when they wanna talk to you… all that touching drove me insane… But now that HOBOsexuals need a place to stay, they’re targeting big women (when for years they didn’t even notice me and it was great honestly)… I mostly stayed big to be left alone…
I’m 80lbs lighter now (from 315 - due to Keto) and I wanted the weight loss for myself and all the wrong attention came flooding back because I had a thick frame…. One day, at the post office, (dressed down) I was chased to my car by a man who “just wanted to talk to me”… I got to my car… locked my doors and he was attempting to get in my car… starring at me from the drivers window… in that moment I thought about my shield and putting it back on… but you’re right about thickness… people assume you’re more open to sexual advances and treat you accordingly.
Ugh that’s scary. I’m sorry that happened to you.
I can relate to some of this. Mine was with a Hispanic man, he was holding onto my car window as I was driving away. I was telling my sister I needed help on speaker phone. Men can be straight up scary. I feel like if you’re curvy or bigger your damned no matter what! I’m so sorry and congrats with your weight loss!!
@Angel Gutierrez Omg, wtf! I would be too scared to let him know where I live.
Congratulations on losing the weight but that must have been so scary being followed like that.
@@Carpathianpixie thank you and yes… it was terrifying… I haven’t been back
I always told myself that I will start my weight loss journey by loving myself. There's so much stigma and criticism and I don't want to come from that place.
Can we talk about how it’s more acceptable for men to be obese than women? Not only is it about professional sport. He also benefits from being a man.
I was struggling with my weight n my family n friends made feel like shit . That’s why I decided to lose weight. Now I’m fit asf n everyone wants tips n the same guys tryna slide . Ppl started treating me differently and I attract different men
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Phrase of the day "make water important"....
Highest was 366+ now currently at 284-288 back and forth this whole month of January. Frustrating mental health is slipping and I just can’t go back to wear I was. Struggling with binge eating and over eating is frustrating but imma try again tomorrow and just throw away the scale for a while and be on low carb. Addicted to that damn scale lol
Good luck on your health journey 💛
Not always but in most causes treating obesity starts with the brain and mental health. I have battled binge eating since childhood linked to depression and anxiety. Now that I understand this at 32 and in a stable point in my life I can lose weight. I think that stress, struggle and poverty is why so many black women are obese. Get your degrees ladies. Get a high paying job and live stress free.
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I needed this. It helps me understand so many generational traumas that the women in my family adapted to. I'm crying it out trying to find healing. But I stay strong and keep surviving ✊🏾❤💛💚
Your treated based on how your look and that’s reality
I read someone say that big people deserve to be abused.
People are crazy! I could never. What is wrong with this world!!
@@k-p1425 that was their reason. That’s insane.
I also struggle with depression and binge eating. I played sports and was active up until high school. I “carried my weight well” so I ignored the weight slowly increasing. It’s still a constant struggle trying to manage what I eat. As for the fatphobia, it’s sad that people don’t think you’re entitled to basic respect because they’re big.
Hey black girl I got chicken sandwiches
@@victor1815 imagine not having a life
@@100Stratusfiedx I know that's all you eat black girl
I lost almost 40 pounds and I get around easier. I feel better! I look better. I feel like people who lose weight through other reasons like depression, drugs, medication, bbl, they don’t appreciate it as much, or not at all. There wasn’t a real desire or effort being built toward it. Therapy first could be really healthy for her. If she isn’t already seeing a specialist...
I learned that I would have pretty privilege as a black women I need all the privileges I could possibly get.
Yanie..You actually understand because you lived it…You are speaking the same words I have spoken…THANK YOU…Some of us have just given up on life..thrown in the towel..because people have never treated us fairly…I’m happy you lost the weight..,
Omg Yanie 358lbs was me at my highest and I felt awful
I hope that you are in a better space. You should never have to be in a situation where you feel awful about yourself. Bless 🤗
you really inspired me w this. when u mentioned addiction i knew i have to make this video from that perspective. i use to be bigger and everyone treated me horrible, then i got addicted to x and lost mad weight. ppl will literally see me now and be so happy for me and dont get me wrong i love my body, but i wasnt healthy to get there
I was one of those people that judge bigger people. After watching this video, you really enlightened me! A bigger person is just wearing there addiction while others hide it. Addiction is always a result of trauma!
I have never been big and it's easy to look from the outside and judge.
This video game me a whole new perspective and instead of judging .. I'll offer a prayer❤
Thanks so much for speaking your truth!
The amount of skinny athletic people that I know who eat horrendously
You are my inspiration. Continue staying strong
No you’re absolutely right in this video, when I was bigger no one wanted to talk to me like at all. Now that I lost a bunch of weight everyone approaches me now 🤦🏽♀️
Yanie you’re a real inspiration and look fabulous! People don’t realize until it’s then losing major amount ms of weight is absolutely life changing. Living a night mare for last 12 year. Hitting 300lbs was mybbiggest fear so when I peaked at 380 this summer my life felt over. Had surgery in November and down to 300lb so on on way to a healthier life. Changed eatting habits. Now just waiting to start moving more. Surgery was the best option for me it’s a weight loss tool not a miracle so I still have a lot work ahead of me. My goal is 200lb lbs but I’d be happy at 250 to be honest
Please ladies if you feel tired and are over/underweight request a hormone and vitamin blood panel. As well woman are complicated and things that doctors don't mention. That can affect your overall life. As some who was Uber thin, to the ultimate southern thick to now a healthy slim thick 44 year old. I can say finding out my hormones were wack bc I decided not to have kids and had gotten off of birth control due to age. I couldn't do a thing but lay in my bed. Now 10 years later, I owe three businesses, feel fit and don't take any medications. Ladies help yourself by requesting these test.
Why am I crying ?
I appreciate you so much ! ❤️🙌🏾
The anxiety I developed being bigger is ridiculous. Yanie makes valid points. Society makes it about size instead of health.
Thank you for your advocacy and for standing firm in your message! ❤🌹
Your talk is reaching many people and encouraging those who need it...while opening other's eyes to their own unaddressed hypocrisies.
God bless your platform, your mentoring others, & your future endeavors! 🙏🏾 You are important in this space...and you are appreciated! Peace and blessings to you always! ❤❤❤❤
You should watch the story of Stephanie Buttermore. She was so sickly trying to keep a certain figure in the fitness community so much that she lost her menstrual cycle and she went on a journey of just eating what she wanted because her appetite was always so big even in a smaller type of frame. She was judged heavily when bigger abs actually said that the more people criticise you when you are bigger the more you will gain more weight from the bullying because it does not help.
I don’t know why people think that bullying people for weight issues ever helps them. I grew up chubby because food was my emotional comfort growing up in a toxic narcissistic family who would bully me constantly. When I went to college at 17 I lost all the weight because it was the weight of the bullying and being a scapegoat in my family of origin. People don’t know your struggle in life but they lack so much empathy and especially for people they deem overweight they always project their mess onto them and use bigger people as scapegoats for their false egos. I am glad you were able to glow and grow from your painful experience.
🗣Keep speaking ur truth loud and proud💯 Be true to yourself at all times!!!
Wow. I have never heard someone show a bit of empathy towards an underweight person. I’ve gone thru my entire life being ridiculed, bullied, clowned outright because of my weight. I’ve had strangers walk up to me and ask if I had an eating disorder. I’ve just never had a big appetite. As soon as I no longer feel hungry, I don’t eat. My dad would stand over me and yell that I looked like a skeleton. Doctors said there was nothing wrong with me and that I was just a small person. My children are also small and I would never ever make them feel that way. I’ve had overweight people remark negatively on my underweight stature. All in all, people should try to help or make others feel good about themselves. The world would be a better place. Like she said, you never know why a person is the way the way they are. Be kind first.
My city used to have an all women's gym but when the plague started it closed. Which is annoying because their other location where everyone can go is still open.
I always feel comfortable at an all women gym because I get embarrassed by the slender women at the gym. More plus size women seem to go to the All women gyms.
I’m so proud of you!!! Keep speaking, and everyone in the comments should keep/start speaking💪🏽💜🙏🏽
You are always so authentic this is why I ❤️ your channel Aries gang ♈️
You are speaking truths, especially with the micro aggressions. As someone that lost 100lbs and gained it back there have been so many assumptions about my character diet etc. in order to loss 100Lbs I was eating 800-1100 per day and working out 1.5-2 hours a day 5-6 days per week. Yeah I looked great but 800 calories is not sustainable. Now that I eat approx 1500-1800 cal a day the weight came back with interest and the judgement. I had to move home with my parents for them to believe that I don’t eat a lot and mostly health and that I exercise consistently for them to believe that I’m not eating like crazy. I had to learn to care what I think about me and not what others think. Their opinion is not my business so I call people out that if they have the gall the say something about my size under the guise of health. call it what it is and wipe your shoes before you step in my house
You’re such an inspiration🥰
Good for you for representing yourself and journey sis 👏🏾💜🙏🏾✨
Yep! That whole bottle of water soon as you wake up is a life changer...i swear by it !!!!
💫Thank you for the bit on consistency!! 🙏🏿 I told my circle that I'm changing to help keep me accountable, and they mercilessly judge me. It's torturous. Your encouragement to not give up just because I fell off is so VALIDATING thank you Yanie 🥰
This is so real! Thanks Yanie for being vulnerable. I so relate to the bullying dad. He always had something to say about what I ate, but like I’m a kid! Help me w portion crtl!
Wow! Proud of you Yani!!!! ❤️
Queen Yanie 💕 you’re appreciated
Definitely relating to you 100%..im starting my fitness journey after 2 years of having my first kid. I lost 40lbs before I got pregnant and now im at my heaviest I’ve been in my life and you give me so much inspiration to start again✨💕
Thank you for speaking up and sharing yannie ❤️🙌🏽
I love you Yani for keeping it real all the time. THERAPY!!!!! Go to Therapy. We need to heal our mind first.
Keep on Yanie ❤️
I've watched your journey for a while. You speak so powerfully. Wish you luck
Thank You For Sharing Your Story Yanie I Started To Gain Weight After I Graduated High School And In My Early Twenties And I Definitely Struggle With My Weight And How I Look
I really needed this as I continue my umpteenth weight loss journey! I know I'll get there because I'm more patient with myself and have a different psyche as before.
I’m very proud of you sis ♥️
Wow, I learned so much! Thank you for this 🙌🏾🙏🏾.
You better preach Yanie
This was a well rounded talk. So glad you went there. Just got to a place where I'm putting ME first.
Thank you for sharing your journey and being transparent ❤.
I’m in the military, had my third kid, work life slowed down after covid, but now it’s picking back up and I’m being heavily pressured about my weight gain. It’s the absolute worst
I gained 50 lbs during covid and I was embarrassed to go back to church because I knew people would talk about me!
I’ve missed these videos from you Yanie. I told you this on ig too but you have helped me out so much. When I gained weight in college the disrespect I received from people was too real. People respond better to me when I’m skinny & it’s the saddest thing.
I’m currently going thru the hurting knees, swollen feet, ankles and feet phase. Thank you for the advice!
Love you yanie and I appreciate you sharing your story you inspire me to work on my inner self
Watching this while I organize my closet and when you said cheese and sour cream ... Definitely my sign to keep it up. 💯💪🏾
This bout to be good! 👏🏾 been waiting for you to speak on this topic in specific.
I'm sorry about what you've gone through! I'm sending you my love! I want to give you a hug!♥️♥️♥️🧸
Yanie your whole blessing and healer. My God bless you. You have motivate me to get into therapies now my goal to lose weigh
This is a really good video. Thanks for sharing this, you’re helping a lot of people
You are SO gorgeous, girl! I've been subscribed to you for years and I can never get used to how pretty you are. And you're right, people are obsessed with bigger people and always have been.
You were preaching a word with this one!
People are so rude and cruel during the pandemic I gained alot of weight I flew back home for a family member funeral. I had a family member/guy cousin say to me" You use to be fine what happened to you". The fact you are a family member saying that too me/attracted to me beyond cringe and health wise you don't know what I may had been going thru. Till this day I still don't speak nor talk to him anymore an never will. I just start focusing on myself and health I don't care about folks and what they have to say anymore.
The fact that your cousin said that really creeps me out!🥺
Yuck, I’ve had this experience as well 🤢 I was so confused at the comment
I would also say that people have an obsession with image in general according to the “in” standard. Thank you for sharing your story
This video was outstanding!💕🙌🏽
This is great Yanie! Ive been chubbier than most most of my teenage and young adult. After having my first child i gained a bunch of weight and currently pregs with my second but i am trying my best to have a better diet while pregnant this time unlike my first pregnancy. This is super motivating and i cant wait to drop this baby to be able to work out the real way. Im ready to lose this extra poundage and hearing your story is so uplifting. Keep doing ya thing girl🙏🙏🙏❤
Hey black girl I got chicken sandwiches
This is great information
Needed this 🥲 Thanks 🙏🏾
I glad u you speak about this as 19 year old I been plus size throughout my childhood but very active but since I got vertigo it kinda stop me of doing things I love. So I glad someone who dealt with the same struggles talks about it.
this is truth!!! As a plus size person, i can understand because its so hard to lose weight when you have no motivation because of judgement. right now I'm keeping my weight steady but from first hand experience.. your mental health has to be in a good place in order for you to make change. if you don't deal good about yourself.. you'll only have the desire to make yourself feel worse.
I love you and I’m proud of you Yanie 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️
THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺IMMA GET THERE