A list of women who have allegedly got BBL‘s and don’t have this problem. 1. Lori Harvey 2. SZA 3. Teyana Taylor Why because they got a “skinny bbl”. 😅 I didn't speak on cosmetic surgery. Let’s be real cosmetic surgery will upgrade your status in the world when done TASTEFULLY. But this is chess and Lori Harvey understands the assignment. When you go three rounds with the BBL you will attract property line men.😅
@@sixteen.candles.4644 Yes, if you go to my Instagram it’s in my plastic surgery highlights. She has gotten a lot of work done but because she is very tasteful you will never be able to tell unless you clearly compare her old photos to her new photos.
@@jessicascreenwritingservices no seriously because today at the grocery store as I’m leaving I got approached by two men in a beat up Toyota my daddy’s age. You can just tell they had nothing to offer me or match me 😭😂
Exactly these bbl build a baddie girls swear us naturally skinny and naturally curvy women are jealous of them. They out here looking like ants and attracting the gazes of dusty men thinking someone is jealous.
I’m a petite black woman. I use to get approached more when I was younger. Now that I’m older I don’t really get approached at all (unless I’m at some type of event). Even though I have a pretty face sometimes I get insecure and feel undesirable. This video showed me I need to dive deeper into my self love journey because no matter where on the spectrum you land, there are going to be challenges to overcome.
@@jzhvaeduh you know, I think a lot of y’all are just scared of hard work. I acknowledge whole heartedly that it’s hard to tell a man’s intentions from the jump and a lot of us black men are grimey but I have a hard time thinking dating out is the solution. There are good black men out here but y’all not checking for them. AND When y’all date out, a lot of y’all will date someone EXACTLY like the ones you turned away, but the only difference is that he’s a different race…? I.e. Black women will shun all nerdy black men and then marry a white nerd. Shit makes no sense. Y’all have an inflated sense of entitlement when it comes to black men. Many black women run around giving black men prerequisites they have to meet but when it comes to Brad, “he loves me and he treats me nice and that’s why I love him 😊”. While I acknowledge many of our women are combative and hard to get along with, I still want to marry a black woman and I refuse to marry out. I’ll work hard and sift through those undesirable women to find my queen. I know she’s out there in all her melanated beauty. Just date very intentionally and find your king.
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@@edjohn5114 I’m just more attracted to white men personally, a nerdy black man who is attractive is rare but I am very attracted to that when I see it. There aren’t enough black men for all black woman though.
As a natural woman who has the BBL body too, this is 1000 percent accurate. Its HORRIBLE. the only men I seem to attract are lustful ones. and its not even men of other communities. Id say I attract men of other communities and it feels fetishy... even in childhood we (natural body girls who had the butt) were never safe... having this body type is an actual stalemate for disaster. When I saw the craze going on for BBLS I was like "yall WANT the struggle? the lower (and if you got the knockers too) and upper back pain? are you INSANE?" Now don't get me wrong I love my body im just saying its a blessing and a curse all at the same time (for me)...
@@Pink_pr1ncess then they complain about the struggle once the asthetic is achieved as if they didn't get the BBL for attention in the first place...be careful what you wish for! 🤷♀️
Girl, as someone with KNOCKERS (L cup), we still get the pain in our lower back and upper back even if the rest is flat as a board. Not to mention the shoulder and neck pains, the bruises from ill fitting bras, and the horrible tension headaches an migraines that no amount of painkillers can cure.
From a thin black woman thank you for your honesty and all the ladies in the comments. I had no idea. I thought women with the curvy body type had it made but I understand what you’re saying. All of you are beautiful don’t let these barbarians get you down.
Women with the curvy body type are harassed endlessly by black men. When you got a big butt, small waist, breasts? The attention is endless. And not in a good way.
She isn’t lying. I’m the opposite however, I don’t have a shapely body like that. But I do get attention from men and all they want is sex. Men trying to feel on you all the time and being inappropriate. I used to want to be the “it” girl, until I learned it’s only men being lustful.
@cg5491 definition of "bitter" (emotion): Emotional bitterness refers to feelings of sadness, resentment, and anger-especially anger-that accumulate over time. Yes, I am, and I do resent that BM (partitially, but really any man) have allowed and endorsed the image of 'desirable women' being MAN-MADE. it's degrading, dehumanizing, and discouraging to women. And we do need to speak up. You can take it or leave it 🤷🏾♀️
I have a natural curved body. People think I have surgery but I don’t. I will be the first to tell you they only want sex. This has caused me to not date as much as I would like. You get the most craziest men that will trick and use you for one thing.
All men want is sex from everybody nowadays they out her with tss that look like Yanie. It's this sesspool of social media. Real relationships don't even exist nomore. Good luck
I feel like people spend too much time online, because who is whining about not being able to get a man or person without a surgery body.🥴 Let me pray for the human race and especially the woman please stop taking these unnecessary Ls🙏🏾
I wish women would stop lying about why they're getting these BBL's too. Its all for the male gaze because no one else cares. Real men in the real world barely care.
That's what I was thinking too like I don't have a big ass but I don't have no trouble attracting men lol 🤣 so people who have that bullshit mind set that only women with big asses can get a man have just been brain washed by Instagram thots and really the type of men that only like big booty women those men be dusty perverts and I don't want them anyway lol 😂
Omg I felt this so much! I also have a natural bbl shaped body ,and this is the main reason I can’t work a regular 9-5 job in most places . Men constantly approaching me every day ,when all I’m trying to do is work is so overwhelming. I hate it , and also when the guys fight for your attention just for them to fold .They don’t take us seriously. We’re just a fetish to some to most of them. Getting hit on by grown men since 12 is really traumatic, caused me to hate my body all throughout high school , and my early 20s.
definitely can relate getting followed home or to school at 10-11 and well into adulthood is scary as hell or getting slapped on the butt by a strange dude out of nowhere. oddly enough i switched over to lightly combed wash n go mini fro now they hardly bother me. i also moved to a predominantly asian area I never knew peace like this existed.
WOW! I thought I was the only one. I really did. I have whole panic attacks working none remote jobs. Constant sexual harassment. I'm mature now and understand those things need to be reported immediately, written down by email to HR. In the past I wouldn't report it because I was scared to be bullied, outcaste, or plain scared of the man tbh.
I’m sorry😢. My daughter is going thru this right now and I hate it for her, I’ve literally rearranged life so that I can take her to and from school for her safety 💔
@@c.madelicious yes even getting told your jailbait in the store , your just there to get some snacks, so feel you .I lived in Washington state for ten years and it was actually a relief because I hardly had an issue there also predominantly Asian , white , even Pacific Islander , black in some areas but even they weren’t on that really. Peace does exist
@@girlwomen4685 I feel reporting but honestly in some places it’s so large and so frequent I literally would be spending my day making reports lol . I don’t have the energy for that . Your not the only one though , I’m thankful we are finding each other .
You’re videos are actually the reason I stopped trying so hard to gain weight. I live in South Georgia and I’m a lean tall black girl. Everyone always tells me I should gain weight but honestly I’m grateful for my shape. I still get a lot of attention from men (some that’s really in wanted) but I realize it could be a lot worse. I’ve seen how they treat the curvy women down here. It is NOT for the weak.
Everything she said is so true. I am South African and most women here are build like this, the harassment we get even while growing up is so unreal. I was so over protective of my daughter, she stopped participating in sports from a young age because of her big butt she just couldn't run. She's in Europe now and is having a better experience but when you have that shape, the people never let you forget....men and women. It's crazy, lustful and disgusting actually.. where are we suppose to live?
You tell NO lies Yanie 💯 it’s disgusting and very Traumatic. I have stories for days even as a young girl walking home from school. Big Booty = Harassment by Dusties 💯
Only thing I’m getting is a breast reduction. I refuse to be part of this bbl culture. Even a little lipo? I get it especially mommy make overs. It’s women like Erika Banks that make it seem like it’s the end all be all.
Due to years of sexual harassment It took me 10 years to love and cherish my pear shaped body. I wear clothes that properly show off my shape instead of hiding under 300 layers of clothing.
Rather than belittle these women for choosing BBL’s (neither of you did that in this video), I think we need to start reminding women who are insecure about having natural bodies that the men chasing the surgically enhanced women aren’t worth it. Yanie is right: you do obtain disrespectful and unwanted attention from black men that offer nothing when you have either a BBL body or a natural one similar to the surgery. I remember crying my eyes out in high school over black boys who pursued white and nonblack girls, especially the naturally thick ones. Fast forward to this day and I’m in a relationship with someone who loves me for me. The black guys who pursued those girls are no longer with them because those girls saw those guys for who they really were. They’re working on themselves and/or in better relationships with better guys.
@@l.boogie878 that’s true! I was a teenager still figuring out the whole crush and dating thing at that age. I’m older now and realized I could wind up hurting myself through limits.
as a woman who has the body type that women pay for. I feel and relate. I've had this convo with my best friend who is thinking about getting a BBL and I had to tell her all a nice body gets you is more attention and more men who want to do you. I've been getting harassed by men since I was 13. Which is why I also argue women don't get the BBL for themselves, they get them for the attention because if it wasn't for attention every women wouldn't then be naked once they get them or get such extreme asses.
@@blackkyurem720 yep, 13. I was 5'8 and my hips and ass was protruding. I didn't realize it. I was a teen minding my teen business but grown men would approach me and I wasn't the girl who lied about my age. Some men backed off once I said my age and some didn't care.
@@mybizness247 To the ones who didn't care, shame on them! I'd hate it too if I had an underage daughter and grown men tried something like that knowing. Well even if it was any family member that age, but related or not I still don't like it & that's messed up period. As for the ones that backed off, good on them. I too have seen women who I thought was in their mid 20s and ended up being like 15 - 17 but also women in their 30s that look underage, so I understand the confusion there. But even if a girl says her age is 18 or older, it's best if a man asked for their ID incase they do lie 😂 and hopefully they have an ID if they are 18+ (I know some don't).
i’m 14 & my body’s pretty curvy . i have boobs nd a butt , always been sexualized . i’ve learned to embrace my figure over time ; not because women desire to be curvy but because i’ve realized looking past the sexual comments helped bring me that confidence . i love my figure now 👸🏽. i want all women nd men to embrace their figures ; know that you’re your own unique individual .
@@blackkyurem720 I remember I was 15 and me and my cousin literally saw an 11 year old fully developed at the pool and legit thought she got plastic surgery... She kind of knew it too and was confident about it... but we were like... Woah... I can understand why these women feel uncomfortable being harassed by people from such a young age... It's hard to not stare for me because I was just not used to seeing it
I hate it you literally can’t hide the home grown dump trunk in anything! I almost had to run away from this black man that followed me and my daughter at the park like I’m happy my husband can defend and protect me because yea looking like this you basically can’t duck attention especially in black spaces
The Disgusting things men feel bold enough to say is crazy to me. I avoid walking by groups of men for this very reason. I have been assaulted in broad daylight wearing jeans and t shirt smh these creeps are disgusting.
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 So true i’m not even rlly thick ( small/medium hourglass shape) and people in general are so pervyyyy. The men are terrible and the women too, how can a woman who is at least twice as old as me body scan me?? Ma’am i’m not even in my 20’s yet?
Yanie IS NOT LYING!!! Been dealing with this since 14 years old. Left me so self conscious & with low self esteem because I do not present as an IG thotty type. Yet & still men only approach with one object and have zero chill with the so called “compliments” about my posterior
Thank you for speaking on it Yani. As someone who has been invisible 90% of the time, i can understand the desire for the attention. You think attention = value and it doesn't. So glad this healing journey is allowing me to grow confidence in obscurity.
Girl me too! I didn’t get much male attention growing up, and I did only when I grew breasts. 😂 but when I did start getting attention, I hated it. Even up till now and I’m in my mid 40’s. I don’t mind when it’s respectful, but a lot of the time, it’s not. I’m am so thankful that God made me as I am. My only goal now is to have a strong and healthy body. Period
@@CyberMachine she is probably very skinny with little to no curves or has an average weight body with small breasts and butt. These body types are invisible in the black community. My daughter has the skinny body type and laments that she doesn't get a lot of attention from black guys. I pointed out that Asian and WM (and the occasional BM) love her though and the attention she does get is very respectful, so what's there to complain about? 🤷🏿♀️ Women only want what is seen as popular at the time. I told my kid if super skinny aesthetic was in rn she wouldn't even be concerned with her body like that.
@@ajm935 I was the same way as a girl. I’m an adult now. But it hurts it used to make me think something was wrong with me. Just be a listening ear she’ll move past it. Maybe help her get into the modeling industry?
I think we need to stop pitting the bbl vs natural against each other because women that naturally look like they have the bbl (such as yourself) would still fall into the bbl category and it just ends up being a body shaming contest. Why do we care who these men marry when majority are not a prize themselves? Being married does not equate to not settling. Being married should not be our source of validation. This is coming from a person that got married young and ended up divorcing 4 years later. Women who are single with no kids are actually the happiest demographic of women. Not to say that there’s anything wrong with wanting to be married, but I think we should take a step back and not make/not make our own personal life decisions based on another potential person that’s statistically likely to decrease your happiness. Do it because you want to, don’t do it because you don’t want to. Not because of a man. Lastly, if we’re being honest, I’d really rather fall into the kardashian category vs the average struggle love that the majority of our communities glorify.
It's the unnecessary comparisons for me a woman can get three rounds of a bbl to look naturally curvy. This whole natural curvy vs bbl curvy is weird and exhausting.
I totally agree with you. It's just so weird how women so much care of what men think about them. Look I know of a woman who was all natural her man ended up always cheating with her with the bbl looking girls and ig hoes and ended up having a outside with a bbl girl. So at the end of the day you just need to make live about yourself and hey I seen a lot of women who get a bbl are married and are in relationships. I just think at this point this whole natural vs bbl is used to shame women especially for the ones who get surgery.
Yanie you said everything I was thinking....I'm actually insecure about my figure because of the type of attention it brings, I feel like I can't even wear "fashionable" clothes because people will look at me a certain way and it doesn't help that I'm pretty too 🤦🏽♀️. Lol what these instagram models or bbl girls aren't telling you is that people will actually hate you because of these things...they will say sly comments such as why you always gotta wear makeup or you just think you better than everybody else. Sadly this is the reality we live in...tbh I feel like these instagram baddies are influencing a narcissistic/body dsymorphia type of mindset...it's actually scary🤯
Yeah the instagram baddies, porn stars, instagram models are really just making it worse for ya'll lol. Your own gender, but because they take the opportunity to get easy money.
Your shape is beautiful period 🦋, and the hormonal weight you spoke on is so true , I got so many comments Chile 😩 dealing with an ED people picked me apart being too skinny either way we all as women are beautiful 🦋
I think a lot of us get swept up in desiring what we don’t have or can’t have. I just wish women would at least reconsider until after they reach 25-27 because like you said the grown woman weight is a real thing and your decision making is better at that age as well.
You know what some plastic surgeons used to do when women wanted breast implants? The surgeon would give the patient a pair of implants to take home with her to wear inside her of bra for like a week or two...just to see how she liked it. One of the women who did that, she tried it, and she noticed immediately how different the attention was she was getting from men. Suffice it says, she did not like that kind of attention, and she chose not to get the breast implants because of all the unwanted attention she got from men.
When I told friends that I wanted to lose weight they were like “WHYYYYYY??? Women pay thousands of dollars for your shape.” I tell them that those women must crave blk male attention and like being overly sexualized. They stopped commenting on my weightloss journey
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 lol they treated Doja the same way, they act like losing weight will make curvy women flat. Curves are bone structures meaning you can be skinny with a bbl
For real I had a guy told me oh a lot of men like you but for what because they like what they see not for no long term relationship everything she is saying is 100 percent!
Funnily enough having that body will give you better chances at ending up with the guy you want or need. It just that it also brings alot of unwanted and unnecessary attention from the guys who aren't the one as well.
@@ashleyhutchinson8358 I'm that type of dude that would like this body shape ofc but if I don't think we're mentally a good fit or the girl's character isn't my type or style then I won't even bother with her, just eye candy and I'll keep it moving, not even try to hit (unless they come up to me for that). But if she got the looks and the personality/character that fits me then I'd try to see what's up.
Girl, I’ve experienced that type of behavior from Black and Hispanic men. Just last week I had a guy come up to me in WalMart and say you look real thick in that outfit. No hey how you doing or nothing. Just immediately commenting about my body.
That just means he wasn't interested in you he just was being a pervert. That's why I'm glad I don't have a thick big booty body type because it just attracts dusty men and perverts lol 😂
@@CopperColouredQueen I said, "what...?" He repeated himself. I had to make sure I heard what he said. Then I said, "uh ok..." with a confused look on my face. He walked away. I had my children with me and wedding ring on. These guys really be having some nerve.
I’m in a singles Facebook group and some of the women share the disgusting messages that men send to them mainly because of their curvy figures. I’m always shocked, because as a naturally slim woman I never get men coming in my messages talking crazy like that.
I must admit I am truly lucky to not get that negative attention from bm. I’m slim and attractive, so I still get attention but it’s a lot more respectful than what I’m hearing you go through. Attention from bm is not a badge of honor anyway so I will never understand women actually getting the type of surgery they know will attract the bm gaze. Crazy.
Same here. Waist is 37 hips are 53. You can’t really change how people categorize and think of you. Only how you present yourself in a multitude of settings both online and in reality is what’s in your control to show the respect you have for yourself and that you require it from others
This comment is specifically for the people in the comments section: It’s very easy to be critical of procedures when you have a body type that is accepted by society. Your struggle is absolutely heartbreaking and valid. However, your experience does not mean that you can understand having a body type that has never and will never be accepted (not slim… I’m speaking on the inverted triangle shaped girls who get called everything from ice cream cone, wine glass, refrigerator, badly built, linebacker etc). Men and women **both** humiliate us, and then turn around and judge us intensely for wanting to change something that has never and will never be accepted by the larger society. No, ridiculous BBLs are unnecessary but some of you need to hold your judgment. The same way I can’t tell you that your experience doesn’t matter because your body shape is accepted now, you don’t get to comment on how I should move in a world that is so undeniably cruel towards girls shaped like us. Forget the attention of men. Sometimes you have to do what you need to do to feel good about yourself, judgment aside
We can have this conversation about self-love when women built like me can exist without being insulted almost daily by people with every other body shape. Or when they make themselves feel better by saying, “I might be big, but at least I’m shaped right.” We’re bottom of the totem pole and don’t let us be shaped like this and big… it’s psychological torture by others
This. I'm a rectangle shape and i get more inverted when I gain weight. Although there are struggles with the natural thick girls, I doubt they would change their bodies if they had a chance. I actually like being rectangle shaped because I can wear anything. But when I was younger I wanted a bigger butt to be more desired as well. There are struggles with every body type!. All men like curvy women, not just black men. And all women want a chance to feel desired. The solution is get financially secured before getting surgery so you don't have to walk around the hood with a bbl. Lol
@@Blissedx not walking around the hood financially insecure. 😂 But you’re right, all men do like curvy women and we have to stop pretending like black men have a monopoly on curves and that they’re the only ones who are disrespectful towards women who have them. At the end of the day, the body shaming, no matter who it’s coming from, needs to stop. INCLUDING the plastic surgery shaming girls and girls committed to judging other’s decisions on what they do with their bodies
@@Blissedx that's a good point , All men like curvy women. I agree. Im not curvy at all but all the guys I dated both black and white preferred curvy. Sometimes you don't need to ask, you just know.
I naturally have the slim thick/Slim BBL body type and even the negative attention with that is unbearable. I saw a tweet on Twitter were a woman said she needed to lose weight because she started to attract BM and chile...
4:34 I can totally identify with that. I just wear jackets, coats and long, loose tops to cover my boobs and behind. I just hate feeling like a piece of meat when trying to ride the metro, go to a store or get food. Ugh...
Yanie, this isn't the first time you've talked about this and yet it STILL flies straight over these ladies' heads. Some of these comments are so combative as if you're not giving solid insight. That thing you said about black people will tell you you're wrong about your own experience holds true. 🤣🤣
i can’t. i’ve heard too many horror stories. when i discuss this w my friends they tell me i can’t speak on it because i have a natural body. i feel like BBLs attract certain kind of men. the men we most likely DO NOT want
@@gofaonemotlogelwa4925 yes😂we need deliverance from this life long burden that has caused great demise amongst many women, broken friendships and a loss of our freedom
Girl... the facts! I have a natural BBL body and remember in my teens wearing baggy clothes to thwart the attention from boys. In my 20's I dressed as man 1 Halloween and this stranger said "you ain't fooling nobody with all Dat ass" now in my 40's dealing with hormonal weight fluctuations ughhhhhh
Yanie I feel you to a T. I’m naturally curvy like you and these BBL women are fning up the game and making it harder for us natural bodies and bring us even worse type of attention.
Nothing but truth and facts Yani. I feel you. I get very little attention because I am tiny! Skinny and short. I'm married. Been with me man for 10 years now.
I surely feel you!, I know exactly what you’re saying!, I’m in my 40s, I’m natural as well, small chest, no waist, big butt. Been dealing with a lot my whole life… me & my sister was talking about this a few days ago. Being naturally built. & blessed!, then folks think it’s fake 😳 Yes ma’am!❤
I'm older now, but I wish this type of commentary was around when I was growing up!! I've always had a BBL type shape, much like yours. AND BAYYBAYYYY THIS IS THE WHOLE TRUTH!!! ❤🖤💚💯💯
This is the truth for sure. Even at my age I'm still aware of what I wear and what streets to walk down. Never had this issue in any other neighborhood or with any other men.
Yanie I appreciate you so much for being brave enough to speak on this ❤, I have seen and experienced the same with myself and my female family members 😔
This is sad and true. I am attracted to this type but find it very difficult to approach and vibe with them because of that type of attention they always get. Whenever I greet with a hello or good morning, the response says it all and I would just smile and walk away simply because I can tell she is dealing with that type of trauma. It’s now come to a point to where I’m trying to at least go somewhere where there are women like her that doesn’t deal with this type of issue. I wish things change for the best for her. She’s beautiful in my eyes but I hate seeing women on this level feeling exploited with something she has no control over.
Crazy how we get treated in America, and I'm not downing the other countries or anything, but how is it that Dominican and Brazil women can walk around half naked, barely anything on and get wived up, they're not getting raped,. Grabbed on or anything and guys don't say one word about how they dress when they are around them. I seen many beautiful women from all over, but I have seen that mostly guys want women in America to dress like they are going to church every day, or else we so call will die alone...crazy
I'm natural and been Amazon plus size girl. I've lost 90lbs and my hips and buy didnt budge. So waist little, breast dropped and booty sitting up ripped. I HATE the attention. I did not like it when I was plus size and don't like it when slimmer. I'm actually considering a butt & hips reduction. I'm 35 and scared what this hormonal hip growth would look like in couple of more years. No shade, just facts and my reality. I don't want that type of attention especially with how disrespectful it's become. I agree Yanie.
I feel this very much. I can attest to the fact that a man walking alongside a shapely woman will be placed in a precarious position by other disrespectfully bold men.
This is a million percent accurate. I’m a woman with a natural body that the girlies are paying for and even though I’m overweight I still get stares everywhere I go .. my bf tells me all the time. The struggle is real for us out here ..
Subscribed girl, my daughter is shaped like you and she hates her body. She says I’m too young for this grown women body. But she’s very beautiful inside and out and still awkward. Much respect sis
Let's not forget about being accused of having a bbl and you know that it's natural. that's my experience when I was 18. Then, I turned 19 and i tell you so many bm(5 of them) approached me knowing that they're approaching me for my body and my beauty, but mostly my body.
Where's the lie though?! Ya'll telling the truth and just because someone speak the truth doesn't mean they're jealous. People are speaking based on experience and experience of others. Welcome to the real world!
My heart goes out to her. My sister is shapely like her, more so bottom heavy. She has the type of body women always comment on and tell her they wish they had. But she’s literally harassed every day by BM. The clothes she chooses to wear are always baggy in an attempt to cover herself and avoid harassment. Every day she leaves the house, she’s hollered at, approached…and y’all know what happens when she ignores or declines attention. People have even been so bold as to grab or smack her and run off (we in NY so they wild out here). It breaks my heart especially bc I see how it’s shaped her whole demeanor and body language. My sister will shrink herself. She refuses to where AirPods bc she wants everyone to see her headphones so she can pretend she didn’t hear them..and a bunch of other tactics to avoid that kind of awful and at times scary attention. She’s is never really interested in dating BM bc of how they’ve conducted themselves around her or have treated her in the past - like an object or just a means of pleasing themselves. I’m sorry for the long post - but this is truly a problem and I pray for every woman out there who is dealing with this and every young woman on the other side who crave intimacy and genuine love from BM and think that acquiring this type of body will get that for them. I promise you, it’s not the type of attention you want. It may feel good initially but once you realize that the attention, “love” and praise you are getting and your worth and value are based on your appearance (to THEM. Your value is most definitely not based on that), then you will be disheartened. Their priorities are screwed and they have a lot of work and healing to do in their own regard. I just want y’all to know that you are deserving of unconditional love and positive regard no matter what. But your character, how you treat others, and the love you have developed for yourself first…that’s what’s truly important. and in my humble opinion, that will make your chances better at finding a DECENT person who will actually see you, for you, and treat you how you deserve to be treated. (yes there are cases where awful men fumble the bag and mess up a good thing - but that’s a completely different conversation and I’ve already said too much 😅). Have a good day 🤎🤎🤎
I don’t have that kind of body at all, but I feel your pain. I’m a plus size woman and I despise black male attention. It’s just not nice, especially when they like what they see. The cultural differences are real.
You're so right! People thought I was racist when I said this but its just truth like I'm very skinny and think and have good looks plus the only men I've felt uncomfortable around or had bad weird disgusting experiences around is Black men to the point where I ignore them and avoid them as much as possible. I working customer service as well so its even worse and I don't even smile at them or nothing like I don't like it.
Wow this video is it!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡❤️❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜💜💜💚💚💚💚💚 speak sistar! Our body needs protection. They can’t even understand that if it wasn’t natural your whole entire life .
@@ibabechanel it's not about him being black or white. Any reasonable man wouldn't encourage his wife to get a bbl to please him. Like why marry her if he wanted a woman with a big butt in the first place 🤷🏽 Her husband loves her and cares for her health. He's not selfish. She's a lucky lady❤️
🗣SPEAK sis! I’ve been dealing with this my whole life. But whatever, I don’t let it change me nor define me. I wear what I like and I do me. I STAY AWAY from men like that.
Finally!!! For years ever since I moved here in the state folks swear up and down that I must had my body done since I'm built like a video vixen. And that comes with a lot of headaches, depressions, anxieties, unwanted attentions, discrimination lawsuit, among other things. I just wish those that do decided to go the surgical route think about it twice. Yeah, it might be fun for you for a few days, weeks, even a few years but it'll run its cost. There's no price to being DISRESPECTED. Lady's please be mindful and smart about the decisions that we make.
Yanie if you don’t want the unnecessary attention, don’t wear fitted dresses Sis. Women are around here screaming “don’t look at me”. but wearing catsuits. When I started dressing like a respectful woman, I started getting treated like one. I just celebrated my 20th year anniversary and my husband loves that what I have is for his eyes only.
@@slimesita9998 I didn’t say it was our faults, but don’t fool yourself. If you dress up like a pig, a person will think you’re pork. I am a curvaceous woman as well and the attention I received in tight shorts was much different than the attention I received in slacks and a button down. If you want to attract a gentleman dress like a lady.
Women can still wear anything under the sun and still get harassed regardless. Especially if they have a thicker lower body and if you paid attention she did say that she wear all kinds of clothing. You can also be “respectful” and wear what the hell u want lol
I feel ya I'm 40 been dealing with this since I was 10yrs old now I got a daughter of my own I get why my mom was so overprotective now I understand cuz it be grown azz men cat calling its sad
That Kardashian example had me laughing b/c they sure did that switch-a-roo. Lol. I have a large chest and I still give men the side eye when they are starring at my chest and I have on baggy sweat shirt.
I so agree with everything! It was one thing to get the attention when I was rail thin..now I’m in my 30s and my body has filled out and I’m weary of more unwanted attention because I’m seeking to date to marry and I want a man that’s serious beyond the physical 🙏🏾
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!!! Most black women have dealt with curves in the right places since early teenage years, even before. I have to protect my child because she's growing so fast!
We need to also talk about women who have curves and a booty wearing dresses. I got a butt and it’s so hard to find a dress that fits you in the right places ….and isn’t short. If I wear a medium it’s lose fitting in the back and if I wear a small it fits but is short. Also the crop top craze! If you want to wear a crop that’s fine but it’s hard finding regular length tops that are cute. I wanna look good without being provocative.
I have a natural bbl shaped body (who also dressed very conservatively) and I was extremely awkward nerdy and a virgin it brought so much unwanted attention. Now I have a husband and don’t really have that problem anymore.
As a woman with a natural body like yours and being 5 feet as well, I used to wear baggy clothes and still get the unwanted comments. I'm getting married to a 6 foot man from my high school days, and I can say life has gotten easier because they won't be disrespectful if they see you're with a man.
Seems like the Muslims got that part right.. I really don't go anywhere without my husband and started dressing more modestly because of things like this. I'm blessed I lost weight, I'm still curvy but I'm not like those ig models.
I'm glad I don't have that body type because like you said the quality non black men aren't even attracted to that which is why the Kardashians got rid of it so they can get the quality non black men after using the black dusties lol 😂
A list of women who have allegedly got BBL‘s and don’t have this problem.
1. Lori Harvey
2. SZA
3. Teyana Taylor
Why because they got a “skinny bbl”. 😅
I didn't speak on cosmetic surgery. Let’s be real cosmetic surgery will upgrade your status in the world when done TASTEFULLY. But this is chess and Lori Harvey understands the assignment. When you go three rounds with the BBL you will attract property line men.😅
I had no idea Sza had a bbl hmm
@@sixteen.candles.4644 Yes, if you go to my Instagram it’s in my plastic surgery highlights. She has gotten a lot of work done but because she is very tasteful you will never be able to tell unless you clearly compare her old photos to her new photos.
@@RealTalkWithYanie wow okay I will. That's wild man. :/
Not property line men 😂😂😂
@@jessicascreenwritingservices no seriously because today at the grocery store as I’m leaving I got approached by two men in a beat up Toyota my daddy’s age. You can just tell they had nothing to offer me or match me 😭😂
Jealous of WHAT??!?? The bm gaze? The “GAT DAMN!” remarks? Lipo scars? PuhLEEEZE!
😂😭 Like sis you are attracting poverty line men
@@RealTalkWithYanie yes to poverty line men. That'll leave you when you have their baby and call you all types of b's when you dare get child support.
Exactly these bbl build a baddie girls swear us naturally skinny and naturally curvy women are jealous of them. They out here looking like ants and attracting the gazes of dusty men thinking someone is jealous.
@@amorelockster1023 build a baddie? lol 😂😂😂
@@RealTalkWithYanie Girlllll below the poverty line 😂🤣🥴
I’m a petite black woman. I use to get approached more when I was younger. Now that I’m older I don’t really get approached at all (unless I’m at some type of event). Even though I have a pretty face sometimes I get insecure and feel undesirable. This video showed me I need to dive deeper into my self love journey because no matter where on the spectrum you land, there are going to be challenges to overcome.
We have to date out to find success
You're so beautiful
@@jzhvaeduh you know, I think a lot of y’all are just scared of hard work. I acknowledge whole heartedly that it’s hard to tell a man’s intentions from the jump and a lot of us black men are grimey but I have a hard time thinking dating out is the solution. There are good black men out here but y’all not checking for them. AND When y’all date out, a lot of y’all will date someone EXACTLY like the ones you turned away, but the only difference is that he’s a different race…? I.e. Black women will shun all nerdy black men and then marry a white nerd. Shit makes no sense.
Y’all have an inflated sense of entitlement when it comes to black men. Many black women run around giving black men prerequisites they have to meet but when it comes to Brad, “he loves me and he treats me nice and that’s why I love him 😊”.
While I acknowledge many of our women are combative and hard to get along with, I still want to marry a black woman and I refuse to marry out. I’ll work hard and sift through those undesirable women to find my queen. I know she’s out there in all her melanated beauty.
Just date very intentionally and find your king.
Gain weight if you not liking the size your at.
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@@edjohn5114 I’m just more attracted to white men personally, a nerdy black man who is attractive is rare but I am very attracted to that when I see it. There aren’t enough black men for all black woman though.
As a natural woman who has the BBL body too, this is 1000 percent accurate. Its HORRIBLE. the only men I seem to attract are lustful ones. and its not even men of other communities. Id say I attract men of other communities and it feels fetishy... even in childhood we (natural body girls who had the butt) were never safe... having this body type is an actual stalemate for disaster. When I saw the craze going on for BBLS I was like "yall WANT the struggle? the lower (and if you got the knockers too) and upper back pain? are you INSANE?" Now don't get me wrong I love my body im just saying its a blessing and a curse all at the same time (for me)...
They don’t want the struggle they just want the aesthetic
@@Pink_pr1ncess then they complain about the struggle once the asthetic is achieved as if they didn't get the BBL for attention in the first place...be careful what you wish for! 🤷♀️
The lower back pain in the curve of your back, where your back doesn't touch the bed???😖
Girl, as someone with KNOCKERS (L cup), we still get the pain in our lower back and upper back even if the rest is flat as a board. Not to mention the shoulder and neck pains, the bruises from ill fitting bras, and the horrible tension headaches an migraines that no amount of painkillers can cure.
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From a thin black woman thank you for your honesty and all the ladies in the comments. I had no idea. I thought women with the curvy body type had it made but I understand what you’re saying. All of you are beautiful don’t let these barbarians get you down.
I love your name♥️
Women with the curvy body type are harassed endlessly by black men. When you got a big butt, small waist, breasts? The attention is endless. And not in a good way.
Same💕
None of them are married babe!
@@jacks4009 being curvy means you’re not married ??? Are you dense?
She is not lying ❤
At All
Facts same boat
Yeah, I can definitely relate.
She isn’t lying. I’m the opposite however, I don’t have a shapely body like that. But I do get attention from men and all they want is sex. Men trying to feel on you all the time and being inappropriate. I used to want to be the “it” girl, until I learned it’s only men being lustful.
Lying out her az. If you think its only a black men ordeal 😂
What would u be jealous of exactly, BM lusting? Like their broke az lust is worth something.... nope. Health is wealth.
Lol broke ass lust and they broke as hell. Staying with their mommas and all.
The dustavion gaze. EW.
I wish you didn't mention bm lusting/broke. It's giving off bitterness vibes.
@cg5491 definition of "bitter" (emotion): Emotional bitterness refers to feelings of sadness, resentment, and anger-especially anger-that accumulate over time.
Yes, I am, and I do resent that BM (partitially, but really any man) have allowed and endorsed the image of 'desirable women' being MAN-MADE. it's degrading, dehumanizing, and discouraging to women. And we do need to speak up. You can take it or leave it 🤷🏾♀️
I have a natural curved body. People think I have surgery but I don’t. I will be the first to tell you they only want sex. This has caused me to not date as much as I would like. You get the most craziest men that will trick and use you for one thing.
All men want is sex from everybody nowadays they out her with tss that look like Yanie. It's this sesspool of social media. Real relationships don't even exist nomore. Good luck
Exactly I too have th enatural bbl look ppl think I have surgery dating has been horrible I fear I’ll never get married
@@Snatchqueen you will don't worry and if it doesn't happen you can still have a good life!
Yes you will, you just have to give the sweet guy a chance when you see him, avoid the bad men but find the nice onece
@@jesusiseverything5191 mmm no sir, any man I have ever dated has come off as sweet and well tempered, turned out to be narcissist.
I feel like people spend too much time online, because who is whining about not being able to get a man or person without a surgery body.🥴
Let me pray for the human race and especially the woman please stop taking these unnecessary Ls🙏🏾
Girl yes lmfao like touch some grass man.
I wish women would stop lying about why they're getting these BBL's too. Its all for the male gaze because no one else cares. Real men in the real world barely care.
@@Aniexo_ 😂 not touch some grass. I’m crying 😭
Long before online woman were still subjected to ungodly beauty standards. Pray for yourself
That's what I was thinking too like I don't have a big ass but I don't have no trouble attracting men lol 🤣 so people who have that bullshit mind set that only women with big asses can get a man have just been brain washed by Instagram thots and really the type of men that only like big booty women those men be dusty perverts and I don't want them anyway lol 😂
Omg I felt this so much! I also have a natural bbl shaped body ,and this is the main reason I can’t work a regular 9-5 job in most places . Men constantly approaching me every day ,when all I’m trying to do is work is so overwhelming. I hate it , and also when the guys fight for your attention just for them to fold .They don’t take us seriously. We’re just a fetish to some to most of them. Getting hit on by grown men since 12 is really traumatic, caused me to hate my body all throughout high school , and my early 20s.
definitely can relate getting followed home or to school at 10-11 and well into adulthood is scary as hell or getting slapped on the butt by a strange dude out of nowhere. oddly enough i switched over to lightly combed wash n go mini fro now they hardly bother me. i also moved to a predominantly asian area I never knew peace like this existed.
WOW! I thought I was the only one. I really did. I have whole panic attacks working none remote jobs. Constant sexual harassment. I'm mature now and understand those things need to be reported immediately, written down by email to HR. In the past I wouldn't report it because I was scared to be bullied, outcaste, or plain scared of the man tbh.
I’m sorry😢. My daughter is going thru this right now and I hate it for her, I’ve literally rearranged life so that I can take her to and from school for her safety 💔
@@c.madelicious yes even getting told your jailbait in the store , your just there to get some snacks, so feel you .I lived in Washington state for ten years and it was actually a relief because I hardly had an issue there also predominantly Asian , white , even Pacific Islander , black in some areas but even they weren’t on that really. Peace does exist
@@girlwomen4685 I feel reporting but honestly in some places it’s so large and so frequent I literally would be spending my day making reports lol . I don’t have the energy for that . Your not the only one though , I’m thankful we are finding each other .
Plus it's an ant look.
Natural bodies are beautiful.
Naturally we don't have ant builds,but them bbl folks do.
You’re videos are actually the reason I stopped trying so hard to gain weight. I live in South Georgia and I’m a lean tall black girl. Everyone always tells me I should gain weight but honestly I’m grateful for my shape. I still get a lot of attention from men (some that’s really in wanted) but I realize it could be a lot worse. I’ve seen how they treat the curvy women down here. It is NOT for the weak.
Sweetheart you got the figure to be on a runway.
you can be slim and curvy
Everything she said is so true. I am South African and most women here are build like this, the harassment we get even while growing up is so unreal. I was so over protective of my daughter, she stopped participating in sports from a young age because of her big butt she just couldn't run. She's in Europe now and is having a better experience but when you have that shape, the people never let you forget....men and women. It's crazy, lustful and disgusting actually.. where are we suppose to live?
You tell NO lies Yanie 💯 it’s disgusting and very Traumatic. I have stories for days even as a young girl walking home from school. Big Booty = Harassment by Dusties 💯
She’s speaking the truth 🙌🏾
Only thing I’m getting is a breast reduction. I refuse to be part of this bbl culture. Even a little lipo? I get it especially mommy make overs. It’s women like Erika Banks that make it seem like it’s the end all be all.
Due to years of sexual harassment It took me 10 years to love and cherish my pear shaped body. I wear clothes that properly show off my shape instead of hiding under 300 layers of clothing.
I am a baby pear i guess. Not a really big but or breasts 🤷♀️
Doja made me fall in love with my shape. I just love the way she moves.
Rather than belittle these women for choosing BBL’s (neither of you did that in this video), I think we need to start reminding women who are insecure about having natural bodies that the men chasing the surgically enhanced women aren’t worth it. Yanie is right: you do obtain disrespectful and unwanted attention from black men that offer nothing when you have either a BBL body or a natural one similar to the surgery.
I remember crying my eyes out in high school over black boys who pursued white and nonblack girls, especially the naturally thick ones. Fast forward to this day and I’m in a relationship with someone who loves me for me. The black guys who pursued those girls are no longer with them because those girls saw those guys for who they really were. They’re working on themselves and/or in better relationships with better guys.
Why did you cry your eyes out that they chose non black women?
@@allysam.8014 No matter the ethnic group, it's NATURAL for females to want to be Desired by their male counterparts/males within their ethnic group.
@@l.boogie878 that’s true! I was a teenager still figuring out the whole crush and dating thing at that age. I’m older now and realized I could wind up hurting myself through limits.
They didn’t belittle just told the truth 💯
@@DaeFranklin did you read ?
as a woman who has the body type that women pay for. I feel and relate. I've had this convo with my best friend who is thinking about getting a BBL and I had to tell her all a nice body gets you is more attention and more men who want to do you. I've been getting harassed by men since I was 13. Which is why I also argue women don't get the BBL for themselves, they get them for the attention because if it wasn't for attention every women wouldn't then be naked once they get them or get such extreme asses.
13?? Wtf
@@blackkyurem720 yep, 13. I was 5'8 and my hips and ass was protruding. I didn't realize it. I was a teen minding my teen business but grown men would approach me and I wasn't the girl who lied about my age. Some men backed off once I said my age and some didn't care.
@@mybizness247 To the ones who didn't care, shame on them! I'd hate it too if I had an underage daughter and grown men tried something like that knowing.
Well even if it was any family member that age, but related or not I still don't like it & that's messed up period.
As for the ones that backed off, good on them. I too have seen women who I thought was in their mid 20s and ended up being like 15 - 17 but also women in their 30s that look underage, so I understand the confusion there.
But even if a girl says her age is 18 or older, it's best if a man asked for their ID incase they do lie 😂 and hopefully they have an ID if they are 18+ (I know some don't).
i’m 14 & my body’s pretty curvy . i have boobs nd a butt , always been sexualized . i’ve learned to embrace my figure over time ; not because women desire to be curvy but because i’ve realized looking past the sexual comments helped bring me that confidence . i love my figure now 👸🏽. i want all women nd men to embrace their figures ; know that you’re your own unique individual .
@@blackkyurem720 I remember I was 15 and me and my cousin literally saw an 11 year old fully developed at the pool and legit thought she got plastic surgery... She kind of knew it too and was confident about it... but we were like... Woah... I can understand why these women feel uncomfortable being harassed by people from such a young age... It's hard to not stare for me because I was just not used to seeing it
I hate it you literally can’t hide the home grown dump trunk in anything! I almost had to run away from this black man that followed me and my daughter at the park like I’m happy my husband can defend and protect me because yea looking like this you basically can’t duck attention especially in black spaces
Wow. What a creep.
You literally can’t escape it. And it can be depressing listening to men AND women constantly speak about your body. Like leave me alone!
Home grown dump truck jiggle different 🤣 that authentic jiggle. Them bbl booties be stiff and dented. Have several seats 😂
The Disgusting things men feel bold enough to say is crazy to me. I avoid walking by groups of men for this very reason. I have been assaulted in broad daylight wearing jeans and t shirt smh these creeps are disgusting.
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 So true i’m not even rlly thick ( small/medium hourglass shape) and people in general are so pervyyyy. The men are terrible and the women too, how can a woman who is at least twice as old as me body scan me?? Ma’am i’m not even in my 20’s yet?
Yanie IS NOT LYING!!! Been dealing with this since 14 years old. Left me so self conscious & with low self esteem because I do not present as an IG thotty type. Yet & still men only approach with one object and have zero chill with the so called “compliments” about my posterior
Thank you for speaking on it Yani. As someone who has been invisible 90% of the time, i can understand the desire for the attention. You think attention = value and it doesn't. So glad this healing journey is allowing me to grow confidence in obscurity.
Girl me too! I didn’t get much male attention growing up, and I did only when I grew breasts. 😂 but when I did start getting attention, I hated it. Even up till now and I’m in my mid 40’s. I don’t mind when it’s respectful, but a lot of the time, it’s not. I’m am so thankful that God made me as I am. My only goal now is to have a strong and healthy body. Period
I have no idea how you're invisible because your photo is absolutely gorgeous
@@CyberMachine she is probably very skinny with little to no curves or has an average weight body with small breasts and butt. These body types are invisible in the black community. My daughter has the skinny body type and laments that she doesn't get a lot of attention from black guys. I pointed out that Asian and WM (and the occasional BM) love her though and the attention she does get is very respectful, so what's there to complain about? 🤷🏿♀️ Women only want what is seen as popular at the time. I told my kid if super skinny aesthetic was in rn she wouldn't even be concerned with her body like that.
Another invisible girl here too.
@@ajm935 I was the same way as a girl. I’m an adult now. But it hurts it used to make me think something was wrong with me. Just be a listening ear she’ll move past it. Maybe help her get into the modeling industry?
Lord, this grown woman hormonal weight gain will have you snacking on ice and lettuce with a gym membership. 🥬🥶🏋🏾♀️🏃🏿♀️
Lol, right like Eating cookies one night, and then drinking strawberry smoothies the next morning😭😭😂😂
Not this one 🤣🤣
Girrlllll, I swear! LbVVS🤣 got my old ass doin spin class with these raggedy knees! Chiiillleeee, I refuse to gain weight!
Pretty much lmao 🤣 😂 😆
I think we need to stop pitting the bbl vs natural against each other because women that naturally look like they have the bbl (such as yourself) would still fall into the bbl category and it just ends up being a body shaming contest.
Why do we care who these men marry when majority are not a prize themselves? Being married does not equate to not settling. Being married should not be our source of validation. This is coming from a person that got married young and ended up divorcing 4 years later.
Women who are single with no kids are actually the happiest demographic of women. Not to say that there’s anything wrong with wanting to be married, but I think we should take a step back and not make/not make our own personal life decisions based on another potential person that’s statistically likely to decrease your happiness. Do it because you want to, don’t do it because you don’t want to. Not because of a man.
Lastly, if we’re being honest, I’d really rather fall into the kardashian category vs the average struggle love that the majority of our communities glorify.
This deserves so much more likes
It's the unnecessary comparisons for me a woman can get three rounds of a bbl to look naturally curvy. This whole natural curvy vs bbl curvy is weird and exhausting.
💯💯💯‼️‼️‼️
@@melteddarkchocolate000 she does tho.. the whole idea of a bbl is a “big butt” whether it looks natural or not, that’s the general aesthetic
I totally agree with you. It's just so weird how women so much care of what men think about them. Look I know of a woman who was all natural her man ended up always cheating with her with the bbl looking girls and ig hoes and ended up having a outside with a bbl girl. So at the end of the day you just need to make live about yourself and hey I seen a lot of women who get a bbl are married and are in relationships.
I just think at this point this whole natural vs bbl is used to shame women especially for the ones who get surgery.
Facts. Honestly, if you just take care of yourself and dress for your type , you’ll get the attention that you deserve.
Yanie you said everything I was thinking....I'm actually insecure about my figure because of the type of attention it brings, I feel like I can't even wear "fashionable" clothes because people will look at me a certain way and it doesn't help that I'm pretty too 🤦🏽♀️. Lol what these instagram models or bbl girls aren't telling you is that people will actually hate you because of these things...they will say sly comments such as why you always gotta wear makeup or you just think you better than everybody else. Sadly this is the reality we live in...tbh I feel like these instagram baddies are influencing a narcissistic/body dsymorphia type of mindset...it's actually scary🤯
Fashionable doesn't necessarily mean tight fitting or showing flesh. Get into fashion pd. There are fashionable clothes for you
Check out Anna Bey on CZcams..
Thank you 👏🏽
Yeah the instagram baddies, porn stars, instagram models are really just making it worse for ya'll lol. Your own gender, but because they take the opportunity to get easy money.
Your shape is beautiful period 🦋, and the hormonal weight you spoke on is so true , I got so many comments Chile 😩 dealing with an ED people picked me apart being too skinny either way we all as women are beautiful 🦋
I think a lot of us get swept up in desiring what we don’t have or can’t have. I just wish women would at least reconsider until after they reach 25-27 because like you said the grown woman weight is a real thing and your decision making is better at that age as well.
You know what some plastic surgeons used to do when women wanted breast implants?
The surgeon would give the patient a pair of implants to take home with her to wear inside her of bra for like a week or two...just to see how she liked it.
One of the women who did that, she tried it, and she noticed immediately how different the attention was she was getting from men.
Suffice it says, she did not like that kind of attention, and she chose not to get the breast implants because of all the unwanted attention she got from men.
@@GoaWay... oh that’s really interesting! That makes it all the more important for ppl to listen to naturally endowed before opting for surgery too.
I finally became happy with my body at 28. I'm very glad I waited to see if I'd fill in.
When am I going to get grown women weight I'm 24 turning 25 in a few month and built with Sponge Bob lol.
❤❤❤ You are not alone I lost over 70 pounds and people are weird. Thanks for sharing!!
When I told friends that I wanted to lose weight they were like “WHYYYYYY??? Women pay thousands of dollars for your shape.” I tell them that those women must crave blk male attention and like being overly sexualized. They stopped commenting on my weightloss journey
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 LMAO@they stop commenting.
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 lol they treated Doja the same way, they act like losing weight will make curvy women flat. Curves are bone structures meaning you can be skinny with a bbl
Yanie you look TF GOODT . And everything in this video is facts!!!! Having that body is not easy! You get the WRONG attention
For real I had a guy told me oh a lot of men like you but for what because they like what they see not for no long term relationship everything she is saying is 100 percent!
Funnily enough having that body will give you better chances at ending up with the guy you want or need. It just that it also brings alot of unwanted and unnecessary attention from the guys who aren't the one as well.
@@ashleyhutchinson8358 I'm that type of dude that would like this body shape ofc but if I don't think we're mentally a good fit or the girl's character isn't my type or style then I won't even bother with her, just eye candy and I'll keep it moving, not even try to hit (unless they come up to me for that).
But if she got the looks and the personality/character that fits me then I'd try to see what's up.
@@blackkyurem720 stop lyin..
@@roseinharlem8152let me clarify, if she got a personality that turns me off like having a bad attitude then I wouldn't even want to hit.
Girl, I’ve experienced that type of behavior from Black and Hispanic men. Just last week I had a guy come up to me in WalMart and say you look real thick in that outfit. No hey how you doing or nothing. Just immediately commenting about my body.
You know what to do with him. 🗑 trash t
That just means he wasn't interested in you he just was being a pervert.
That's why I'm glad I don't have a thick big booty body type because it just attracts dusty men and perverts lol 😂
Ughh how creepy of him, girl what you say to him ?
@@CopperColouredQueen I said, "what...?" He repeated himself. I had to make sure I heard what he said. Then I said, "uh ok..." with a confused look on my face. He walked away. I had my children with me and wedding ring on. These guys really be having some nerve.
@@nadeapw OMG THE NERVE & in front of your child. Just sick. I'm glad he left you alone though. Be safe out there sis.🙏🏾
I’m in a singles Facebook group and some of the women share the disgusting messages that men send to them mainly because of their curvy figures. I’m always shocked, because as a naturally slim woman I never get men coming in my messages talking crazy like that.
I must admit I am truly lucky to not get that negative attention from bm. I’m slim and attractive, so I still get attention but it’s a lot more respectful than what I’m hearing you go through. Attention from bm is not a badge of honor anyway so I will never understand women actually getting the type of surgery they know will attract the bm gaze. Crazy.
Yeah I’m slim thick and mainly receive positive energy from my interactions with men
Facts I’m slim thick the attention still respectful 💯
😂😂😂lol right
I love being slim and pretty. That’s what men worth dating are attracted to.
@@jzhvaeduh facts.
Same here. Waist is 37 hips are 53. You can’t really change how people categorize and think of you. Only how you present yourself in a multitude of settings both online and in reality is what’s in your control to show the respect you have for yourself and that you require it from others
Dang thick thick lol. Yall winning right now tho. Atleast it's natural.
omds your waist are basically my hips (my waist is 23) 😭 really are thick thick🤍
37/53? Thick thick? More like obese.
@@SS-ts4lk Shut up hating
This comment is specifically for the people in the comments section: It’s very easy to be critical of procedures when you have a body type that is accepted by society. Your struggle is absolutely heartbreaking and valid. However, your experience does not mean that you can understand having a body type that has never and will never be accepted (not slim… I’m speaking on the inverted triangle shaped girls who get called everything from ice cream cone, wine glass, refrigerator, badly built, linebacker etc). Men and women **both** humiliate us, and then turn around and judge us intensely for wanting to change something that has never and will never be accepted by the larger society. No, ridiculous BBLs are unnecessary but some of you need to hold your judgment. The same way I can’t tell you that your experience doesn’t matter because your body shape is accepted now, you don’t get to comment on how I should move in a world that is so undeniably cruel towards girls shaped like us. Forget the attention of men. Sometimes you have to do what you need to do to feel good about yourself, judgment aside
We can have this conversation about self-love when women built like me can exist without being insulted almost daily by people with every other body shape. Or when they make themselves feel better by saying, “I might be big, but at least I’m shaped right.” We’re bottom of the totem pole and don’t let us be shaped like this and big… it’s psychological torture by others
This. I'm a rectangle shape and i get more inverted when I gain weight. Although there are struggles with the natural thick girls, I doubt they would change their bodies if they had a chance. I actually like being rectangle shaped because I can wear anything. But when I was younger I wanted a bigger butt to be more desired as well. There are struggles with every body type!. All men like curvy women, not just black men. And all women want a chance to feel desired. The solution is get financially secured before getting surgery so you don't have to walk around the hood with a bbl. Lol
@@Blissedx not walking around the hood financially insecure. 😂 But you’re right, all men do like curvy women and we have to stop pretending like black men have a monopoly on curves and that they’re the only ones who are disrespectful towards women who have them. At the end of the day, the body shaming, no matter who it’s coming from, needs to stop. INCLUDING the plastic surgery shaming girls and girls committed to judging other’s decisions on what they do with their bodies
@@iyannamdee 100 percent agreed.
@@Blissedx that's a good point , All men like curvy women. I agree.
Im not curvy at all but all the guys I dated both black and white preferred curvy. Sometimes you don't need to ask, you just know.
I naturally have the slim thick/Slim BBL body type and even the negative attention with that is unbearable. I saw a tweet on Twitter were a woman said she needed to lose weight because she started to attract BM and chile...
I will always admire natural bodies and beauty. Natural will never go out of style, especially when you care & love for yourself overall! 💯
4:34 I can totally identify with that. I just wear jackets, coats and long, loose tops to cover my boobs and behind. I just hate feeling like a piece of meat when trying to ride the metro, go to a store or get food. Ugh...
Yanie, this isn't the first time you've talked about this and yet it STILL flies straight over these ladies' heads. Some of these comments are so combative as if you're not giving solid insight.
That thing you said about black people will tell you you're wrong about your own experience holds true. 🤣🤣
i can’t. i’ve heard too many horror stories. when i discuss this w my friends they tell me i can’t speak on it because i have a natural body. i feel like BBLs attract certain kind of men. the men we most likely DO NOT want
Women need love themselves outside of what men think and their attention❤️
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Release my sisters from the shackles of heteronormativity damn
@@gofaonemotlogelwa4925 yes😂we need deliverance from this life long burden that has caused great demise amongst many women, broken friendships and a loss of our freedom
Amen
Women receive plenty. Daddy Government loves you i bet.
People don't understand the work that you have to do to keep a curvy body shape. I have to work out for the rest of my life 😩. Its a commitment
Girllllllllllll 😔😫
@@knitro9043 That's why chubby girls are winning rn, cuz they hit the gym and get all the fitness trainers 😂
what ??? why are you complaining about working out? you should work out no matter what your body is a temple
Girl... the facts! I have a natural BBL body and remember in my teens wearing baggy clothes to thwart the attention from boys. In my 20's I dressed as man 1 Halloween and this stranger said "you ain't fooling nobody with all Dat ass" now in my 40's dealing with hormonal weight fluctuations ughhhhhh
You better preach. Your speaking FACTS!! What goes up will come drop .
A blk man said bbls look better when the woman has clothes on. Looks awful off.
All those scars! So unflattering
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 Strange shape likely too.
Thank you yanie for being so candidly ❤
Yanie I feel you to a T. I’m naturally curvy like you and these BBL women are fning up the game and making it harder for us natural bodies and bring us even worse type of attention.
Speak it Girl!
We need more of these truth's in our lives, Daily!
Love it! ❤️
Nothing but truth and facts Yani. I feel you. I get very little attention because I am tiny! Skinny and short. I'm married. Been with me man for 10 years now.
Meanwhile, I’m trying to do everything possible to not be attractive or appealing to dusties. Being naturally shapely is really a struggle
Carry your natural hair = dusty repellant.
I surely feel you!, I know exactly what you’re saying!, I’m in my 40s, I’m natural as well, small chest, no waist, big butt. Been dealing with a lot my whole life… me & my sister was talking about this a few days ago. Being naturally built. & blessed!, then folks think it’s fake 😳
Yes ma’am!❤
Everything she said was absolutely right!
I'm older now, but I wish this type of commentary was around when I was growing up!! I've always had a BBL type shape, much like yours. AND BAYYBAYYYY THIS IS THE WHOLE TRUTH!!! ❤🖤💚💯💯
This is the truth for sure. Even at my age I'm still aware of what I wear and what streets to walk down. Never had this issue in any other neighborhood or with any other men.
I’m with you Yanie 💕
Yanie I appreciate you so much for being brave enough to speak on this ❤, I have seen and experienced the same with myself and my female family members 😔
Thank you !! I loved EVERYTHING about this video !! It’s like they were reading my mind !
This is sad and true. I am attracted to this type but find it very difficult to approach and vibe with them because of that type of attention they always get. Whenever I greet with a hello or good morning, the response says it all and I would just smile and walk away simply because I can tell she is dealing with that type of trauma. It’s now come to a point to where I’m trying to at least go somewhere where there are women like her that doesn’t deal with this type of issue. I wish things change for the best for her. She’s beautiful in my eyes but I hate seeing women on this level feeling exploited with something she has no control over.
Your response is respected and I’m glad you understood where she was coming from.
Crazy how we get treated in America, and I'm not downing the other countries or anything, but how is it that Dominican and Brazil women can walk around half naked, barely anything on and get wived up, they're not getting raped,. Grabbed on or anything and guys don't say one word about how they dress when they are around them. I seen many beautiful women from all over, but I have seen that mostly guys want women in America to dress like they are going to church every day, or else we so call will die alone...crazy
I'm natural and been Amazon plus size girl. I've lost 90lbs and my hips and buy didnt budge. So waist little, breast dropped and booty sitting up ripped. I HATE the attention. I did not like it when I was plus size and don't like it when slimmer. I'm actually considering a butt & hips reduction. I'm 35 and scared what this hormonal hip growth would look like in couple of more years. No shade, just facts and my reality. I don't want that type of attention especially with how disrespectful it's become. I agree Yanie.
I feel this very much.
I can attest to the fact that a man walking alongside a shapely woman will be placed in a precarious position by other disrespectfully bold men.
This is a million percent accurate. I’m a woman with a natural body that the girlies are paying for and even though I’m overweight I still get stares everywhere I go .. my bf tells me all the time. The struggle is real for us out here ..
Subscribed girl, my daughter is shaped like you and she hates her body. She says I’m too young for this grown women body. But she’s very beautiful inside and out and still awkward. Much respect sis
Let's not forget about being accused of having a bbl and you know that it's natural. that's my experience when I was 18. Then, I turned 19 and i tell you so many bm(5 of them) approached me knowing that they're approaching me for my body and my beauty, but mostly my body.
No lies told here.. ♥️
This is the truth. I struggle in the relationship department because of my body looks like the BBL body. I love my body but what she said is facts.
Yanie is speaking the truth no lie here
Where's the lie though?! Ya'll telling the truth and just because someone speak the truth doesn't mean they're jealous. People are speaking based on experience and experience of others. Welcome to the real world!
Thank you for this. Much love.
Wow Sis... We get it coming and going. Sending positive energy to you, Queen!
My heart goes out to her. My sister is shapely like her, more so bottom heavy. She has the type of body women always comment on and tell her they wish they had. But she’s literally harassed every day by BM. The clothes she chooses to wear are always baggy in an attempt to cover herself and avoid harassment. Every day she leaves the house, she’s hollered at, approached…and y’all know what happens when she ignores or declines attention. People have even been so bold as to grab or smack her and run off (we in NY so they wild out here). It breaks my heart especially bc I see how it’s shaped her whole demeanor and body language. My sister will shrink herself. She refuses to where AirPods bc she wants everyone to see her headphones so she can pretend she didn’t hear them..and a bunch of other tactics to avoid that kind of awful and at times scary attention. She’s is never really interested in dating BM bc of how they’ve conducted themselves around her or have treated her in the past - like an object or just a means of pleasing themselves. I’m sorry for the long post - but this is truly a problem and I pray for every woman out there who is dealing with this and every young woman on the other side who crave intimacy and genuine love from BM and think that acquiring this type of body will get that for them. I promise you, it’s not the type of attention you want. It may feel good initially but once you realize that the attention, “love” and praise you are getting and your worth and value are based on your appearance (to THEM. Your value is most definitely not based on that), then you will be disheartened. Their priorities are screwed and they have a lot of work and healing to do in their own regard. I just want y’all to know that you are deserving of unconditional love and positive regard no matter what. But your character, how you treat others, and the love you have developed for yourself first…that’s what’s truly important. and in my humble opinion, that will make your chances better at finding a DECENT person who will actually see you, for you, and treat you how you deserve to be treated. (yes there are cases where awful men fumble the bag and mess up a good thing - but that’s a completely different conversation and I’ve already said too much 😅). Have a good day 🤎🤎🤎
I don’t have that kind of body at all, but I feel your pain. I’m a plus size woman and I despise black male attention. It’s just not nice, especially when they like what they see. The cultural differences are real.
You're so right! People thought I was racist when I said this but its just truth like I'm very skinny and think and have good looks plus the only men I've felt uncomfortable around or had bad weird disgusting experiences around is Black men to the point where I ignore them and avoid them as much as possible. I working customer service as well so its even worse and I don't even smile at them or nothing like I don't like it.
Wow this video is it!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡❤️❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜💜💜💚💚💚💚💚 speak sistar! Our body needs protection. They can’t even understand that if it wasn’t natural your whole entire life .
My husband told me if I get a bbl that is grounds for divorce 😂
Tell your Hubby..IN THAT ORDER! Instead of him encouraging the madness, he said I like you as is.🤍
Lol ! Is he black or white ?
@@ibabechanel it's not about him being black or white. Any reasonable man wouldn't encourage his wife to get a bbl to please him. Like why marry her if he wanted a woman with a big butt in the first place 🤷🏽
Her husband loves her and cares for her health. He's not selfish. She's a lucky lady❤️
@@thandicandy5452 Not a response tho… 🤔
If you always had a shape you know 90% attention will be unwanted so I can't imagine wanting that type of attention you'll get with a bbl
🗣SPEAK sis! I’ve been dealing with this my whole life. But whatever, I don’t let it change me nor define me. I wear what I like and I do me. I STAY AWAY from men like that.
Your truth is your truth! I absolutely agree with you.
That girl was gorgeous and was speaking truth!!!
No lies told 🤷🏾♀️
Understood. The first time I heard you tell this truth I felt empathetic and understood. We all just have to live our bodies as they are.
Finally!!! For years ever since I moved here in the state folks swear up and down that I must had my body done since I'm built like a video vixen. And that comes with a lot of headaches, depressions, anxieties, unwanted attentions, discrimination lawsuit, among other things. I just wish those that do decided to go the surgical route think about it twice. Yeah, it might be fun for you for a few days, weeks, even a few years but it'll run its cost. There's no price to being DISRESPECTED. Lady's please be mindful and smart about the decisions that we make.
All facts. I'm built just like you naturally. And I just keep walking.
The intro video was facts‼️ Yall being natural is enough.
More power to you for your strength despite dealing with harassment on a daily basis. It never ceases to amaze me how backwards black men can behave
Yanie if you don’t want the unnecessary attention, don’t wear fitted dresses Sis. Women are around here screaming “don’t look at me”. but wearing catsuits. When I started dressing like a respectful woman, I started getting treated like one. I just celebrated my 20th year anniversary and my husband loves that what I have is for his eyes only.
she just said in the video that she does wear all types of clothes and still gets unwanted attention.
women can wear whatever they want. women in long loose dresses get harrased. it’s not our faults
@@slimesita9998 I didn’t say it was our faults, but don’t fool yourself. If you dress up like a pig, a person will think you’re pork. I am a curvaceous woman as well and the attention I received in tight shorts was much different than the attention I received in slacks and a button down. If you want to attract a gentleman dress like a lady.
Women can still wear anything under the sun and still get harassed regardless. Especially if they have a thicker lower body and if you paid attention she did say that she wear all kinds of clothing. You can also be “respectful” and wear what the hell u want lol
Stfu with the victim blaming. She should be able to wear whatever she wants without being bothered
I feel ya I'm 40 been dealing with this since I was 10yrs old now I got a daughter of my own I get why my mom was so overprotective now I understand cuz it be grown azz men cat calling its sad
I just love everything about your channel and what you stand for ❤
You look amazing!!!
That Kardashian example had me laughing b/c they sure did that switch-a-roo. Lol. I have a large chest and I still give men the side eye when they are starring at my chest and I have on baggy sweat shirt.
I so agree with everything! It was one thing to get the attention when I was rail thin..now I’m in my 30s and my body has filled out and I’m weary of more unwanted attention because I’m seeking to date to marry and I want a man that’s serious beyond the physical 🙏🏾
THANK YOU QUEEN. YOU ARE SO APPRECIATED.
You my AFRICAN QUEEN
WISE WORDS FROM A WISE YOUNG LADY
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!!! Most black women have dealt with curves in the right places since early teenage years, even before. I have to protect my child because she's growing so fast!
We need to also talk about women who have curves and a booty wearing dresses. I got a butt and it’s so hard to find a dress that fits you in the right places ….and isn’t short. If I wear a medium it’s lose fitting in the back and if I wear a small it fits but is short. Also the crop top craze! If you want to wear a crop that’s fine but it’s hard finding regular length tops that are cute. I wanna look good without being provocative.
Facts. 🎉 you stated truth. I could only imagine the unwanted attention ✨
I'm subscribing cause of the honesty in that video
I have a natural bbl shaped body (who also dressed very conservatively) and I was extremely awkward nerdy and a virgin it brought so much unwanted attention. Now I have a husband and don’t really have that problem anymore.
As a woman with a natural body like yours and being 5 feet as well, I used to wear baggy clothes and still get the unwanted comments.
I'm getting married to a 6 foot man from my high school days, and I can say life has gotten easier because they won't be disrespectful if they see you're with a man.
It's sad that a woman has to constantly walk with a man in order for other men on the street to keep it respectful.
Seems like the Muslims got that part right.. I really don't go anywhere without my husband and started dressing more modestly because of things like this. I'm blessed I lost weight, I'm still curvy but I'm not like those ig models.
Wow thank you for being so honest! For a petite women like me never would have thought the issue you go thru with having a beautiful natural body .
I love you Yanie you always keep it 💯
I'm glad I don't have that body type because like you said the quality non black men aren't even attracted to that which is why the Kardashians got rid of it so they can get the quality non black men after using the black dusties lol 😂
True. I'm petite build with an hourglass figure. My waist is tiny and nonblack men love it. They see bbls as sex and lust
💯 If I want to change my shape I workout & do Keto/IF