HER LOOKS DIDN'T PAY! HOW A GIRL'S TRIP TO MIAMI ENDED A 8 YR FRIENDSHIP+ ENTITLED FRIENDS!
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Miami doesn't ruin friendship, it just exposes people's true personality.
yeah and that ruins the friendship
Yes it’s just the most popular city people go to. And a lot of girls share rooms.
This!
Boom!!!!!!! Yea this is THE ONE!!!
Facts
I hate when you let someone borrow money and then they make you feel bad for wanting it back and act like they’re doing YOU a favor
Never loan money. Never ask for a loan 👁
And this is why I don’t let my brother borrow money anymore ever. Sadly he’s a user.
If I don't have it to give and never see it again, then I don't have it to lend. Even with family.
That damn part….
Exactly 💯 whether it's a man or woman it's so frustrating and trifling and narcissistic on their part smh 😤🤦🏽♀️
My momma always told me “never loan out what you’re not willing to lose” true to this day. I had a “friend” that was going through hard times. I would help her every time I could. Paying for hotel rooms for her to escape her boyfriend and have somewhere to stay at night. Lo and behold, she was playing the entire friend group like a fiddle.
Would borrow from all of us separately and all of us practicing discretion didn’t tell the others. Home girl was staying in hotels for weeks by having us pay for the individual nights. Laid up with the man while telling us she was afraid of him and etc. we’d offer to go with her to the police station to report him… nothing ever came of that.
I’m still hung up on the fact she had the nerve to complain about a damned near $25 box of wipes I gave her because the wipes were “too wet”. Beggars can’t be choosers… I could have used those “too wet” wipes on my own child’s behind. Had to tell myself you can love her from a distance.
I really like that saying. Going to have to keep that. Along with my grandma's "start to hold out". Don't start any behaviors you won't/dont want to continue and don't tolerate behaviors you don't want to continue.
Machiavellianism is disgustingly common among modern women.
Machiavellianism in psychology refers to a personality trait which sees a person so focused on their own interests they will manipulate, deceive, and exploit others to achieve their goals. Machiavellianism is one of the traits in what is called the 'Dark Triad', the other two being narcissism and psychopathy.
She was a thief bank loan money you paid back
This women is well spoken and carries herself with class. I’m glad she kicked that fake friend out of her life!
Well yeah, shes a college graduate with a professional job😂. Did you expect the middle passage to fall out her mouth 😂😂😂. Im kidding but its the banality of low expectations. Its like an old dave Chappell joke "oh he speaks so well"
@@JohnGalt916 triggered? 🤣
I don’t think traveling ruins friendships. I think it creates an environment that makes it impossible to continue ignoring bad behavior. If I know someone isn’t financially responsible, lacks self-control, and driven by impressing others, I won’t befriend them. I definitely won’t loan them money or travel with them. I like my life & vacations drama-free.
I definitely agree
Definitely agree. Always seem like money is the issue
facts, have to use discernment way before the situation.
Geeze she paid that “friend” for everything like that’s her child. Smh. Adding on MIAMI IS VERY EXPENSIVE. Any plans for that type of trip or any, come prepared.
Lesson learned 😅
I took a childhood friend to the Spa for her b’day. She insisted on going to the one in central London. After the spa she wanted to go to dinner and somehow wanted me to pay after all it’s her b’day like she pays my bills. We were looking for places to eat and she was being rude AF to me and the people in the restaurant. She refused to eat because supposedly it was too cheap. Even though she wasn’t paying. In the end I walked away and never looked back. Sometimes God takes people out of your life for a reason!
AMEN!!!! THAT'S RIGHT!!!
Ungrateful
I don't think she liked you very much.
Good on you for walking away from a user and a loser.
Women's machiavellianism is disgustingly common specifically those with high body count they severely lacking humility
i love her storytelling. gets to the point very quickly, doesn't spend a lot of time talking about how viral her video got. too many tiktok storytellers spend 3 minutes talking about how they didnt expect their video to blow up.
I love the ways she talks - def a story teller!
I’ve learned that any friend that “borrows money”, just assume you will NEVER see it again. At the point you let them “borrow” you’re either “buying them OUT of your friendship” because you will never see the money again or you’re OK with giving the money away.
Yep, just consider it a gift at his point.
Exactly I try to tell people that cause I seen money break up countless friendships. And I'm talking as little as $10.
I do this same thing!
That's not true my bestie at one point lost her job I had a good job and my mom helped me a lot we paid her rent for 6 months. When I was homeless with my son my bestie let me live with her for a year, I could have moved out after 6 months but she was telling the landlords that called I didn't need the place. The apartment she found for me I've been living at for almost 10 years she passed
5 years ago. I truly miss her
@@robinwilliams1788Sounds like she was an amazing friend and you were to her. Sorry for your loss ❤
Ladies, let’s stop putting our financial stability at risk for situations that don’t benefit us. Using your housing money to help anyone is too risky! Let them figure it out please.
Girl, if you don't stop preaching. My rule is - never loan anyone money that you're gonna need back.
Right, neither one of them should have gone to Miami. They didn’t have the money! This is weird!
I don’t give out nothing I can’t afford to get back!
My rule is: i never loan out money i cannot afford to lose! period!!!!
Amen!
The fact that CLOTHES were more important than FOOD to her, that should’ve been a 🚩
Right 🤡🤡🤡
Shopping at Forever 21 at her age was a red flag.
The fact that at her age she only has $700 to her name is worse. They’d rather spend their last dollar than save for the future or build a life.
Boujee has no limit
The fact that she had outstanding parking tickets and got her car towed was a bigger red flag
She is speaking wisdom! 1. Don’t let nothing stop you from living life. 2. Live within your means. 3. Life owes you nothing you don’t give it. Can’t get much out of it if you don’t give it anything. 4. Beauty standards change from cultural to cultural and city to city. Don’t let that stop you from showing up in groups of ppl that look nothing like you.
Yes! I lost a friend of 26 years over her feelings of entitlement to my time,credit score, and in the sheer name of womanhood and friendship. She felt I should do for her no matter what because I was always there for her. Over the years she was ALWAYS in need and her friends were always there for her. I said YES so much that the 1st time I said NO, it was like I never said “yes” (shout out to Bey!). I never checked her bad behavior in the past b/c she has the nerve to be very sensitive. I’ve learned a huge lesson from that friendship. In the end, I told her about herself and quietly left the friendship. And also blocked her b/c she kept harassing me and calling me from different phone numbers 🤦🏾
A girl I used to be friends used to ask me for money to pay her bills. I came to her house one day to find out she got her hair done, her two adult daughters hair done and her mother's hair done. I learned a lesson to keep my money in my damn pocket.
My sister had a friend she helped all the time with food energy bills and other stuff, my sister helped her to get job, her first pay she went out to buy £400 shoes
Some people are like that. They will try to live off anyone and everyone. I have a neighbor who I have noticed will sidle up to the neighbors who she thinks have money or a car so she can get free rides. We avoid her like the plague.
I would have been too through!
That girl is too messy. She is getting evicted, they are throwing her stuff on the street. She was going to Miami to get a comeup.
They be homeless in Atlanta with their hairdone, bodydone, nails done 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Home girl refused to see the red flags. If she not paying her parking tickets, what makes you think she gonna pay you? 🤔
WAIT this never crossed my mind until now😂
Or rent.
Bingo! Lol
I mean, she did pay the money back but ended up using what she paid back anyways.
@@kikiwilliams4747 and I wonder if she would have gotten the money if she didn’t go on the trip
I found myself on the edge of my seat and enjoying every moment of her story (even though I felt horrible the whole time knowing she dealt with this)
Her end message is gold though
Don’t lend what you can’t afford to lose…period.
This is true!
That’s an interesting way to place blame on the lending party 🤔 but also sound advice.
WISDOM!!!!
@@bellbee58 that’s a grown woman 😂 if you broke why lend it out … I’d MAYBE understand family but for a girl you haven’t seen in 4 years? Y’all ain’t tight like that in the first place . And I know she saw the signs beforehand…
Facts 💯 don't be a bank
She's a great storyteller. It was funny how she was naming places and locations as if everybody knows Miami like that 😂
😂😂😂
Ikr but at least I know what to do and where to go whenever I touch down 😂
I actually knew all of those places but I’ve been to Miami several times. Lol 😆
@@adriannehudspeth2444I did too lol but I used to live there.
Well if u didn't know before u know now😂
This girl was a saint. Once this so called “friend” tried to have her removed out that hotel room, and they knew my hotel room was under my name I would have immediately said no she can’t come in “my room.” Ain’t no sobering up.
Never mix money and friendships- it never ends well❤
This is why you shouldn't feel like your life is lacking when you see all of those beautiful women who are prolific travelers. Perfect body, hair, nails, makeup, designer clothes.
The vast majority of them are broke and living dysfunctional lives like these women.
😂😂😂
Exactly! In my life, I've found that most people who u think have it all together, usually don't!
Omg! The truth. I have noticed that the ones who do have it together are not out here. They are low-key and love deals, and hustle hard, lmao. I tell my best friend, dude, you can buy this dress. It isn't gonna break the bank. She got side stashes, susus going, investment accounts talking bout she can't afford it 🤣 😂 😒 🙄 Love it.
@@sd8150 yes
may be a lot but a vast majority? I don't think so.
These girl trips expose a lot about friendships between women. I went to a girls trip with an ex-friend and I realized that we are not compatible as friends. I just thank God that she did not waste 8 years of my life. Yanie is right, it’s not only the men that are toxic, it’s also girl friendships that are the problem as well.
That's why I'm solo. Ion care who say having no friends is a red flag. Having a big group everywhere you go is a red flag insecure and low self esteem run together in packs
And you think your friends that you have known for years would be supportive or be happy for you but in reality not at all! That breaks my heart! You live and learn!
@Bold&Black MuvA I'm never going on a girls trip no matter where it is! Everything you listed is facts.
I literally tested one of my VERY promiscuous ex- best friends (who is in a relationship btw) by leaving her in the hotel with a guy I had been talking to all night and she slept with him 😂😂😂 some of these girls have no character, once I found out she was cheating on her boyfriend who is madly in love with her, I knew I couldn’t trust her around any man I was dating.
@@iamnunya7074 💯💯‼️
Gurl, not even an apologie can make this right. I didn't speak to my bff since April and I decided to end our friendship next time I meet her. When people get used to get a yes from you, the one time you tell them NO, they'll show their true colors. I am literally over friendships. I rather walk alone
33 n I'm just learning that now🤔 said no to 3 ppl who I always said yes to, n their reactions were, anger n cold shoulders🤔 they make out their doing me good n regardless of what I do for them, it's never as much as I do for them, they all deadbeat parents who choose to go live their "fullest" lives n only see their kids couple times a month, I chose no children or relationships, just living how I feel, unshackled from expectations n responsibilities 👍😁, they pretending they live such a good life, I've concluded that they hang around me so their "achievements" seem greater🤣 I unfortunately only realised this after being indebted to them thru addiction😞 now I gotta learn self control to take back control of my life👍🦾💪 then they can all go get 🤬🤬🤬🤬😁😁😁🙋
I learned to tell a family member NO to money because I was tired of getting told that I’d be paid on a specific day or month and let months go by without updating me of my payment and see unnecessary things being bought.
I have had my heart broken more times by “friendships” than actual relationships smh
Same 😔traumatic asf honestly
Facts!
same
Same! I am a lone wolf now and just keep to myself. Some people think I am stand-offish or I’m just this perfect person who has a ton of friends. The truth is I’m just a dork who cares too much lol. Anyways I think having few to no friends is just safer these days. People who are supposed to
be friends are getting more and more weird and are doing unimaginable things to one another. It’s scary.
I really thought I was the only one 😭😭
The first mistake she made was she emptied out her savings for the friend :/ That’s just not a good idea. I love my friends but that’s where I draw the line. Also the friend had no business being on that trip if she can’t even afford to buy herself food 😫
EXACTLY , USER !!!!
She wasn't expecting to have to pay for anything. Being extremely hyper attractive is a whole different world as a woman lol one that I can't even wrap my mind around but it breeds these kind of women and this poor, shallow, brittle friendships based on looks.
@@thickthickly I’m not sure if it’s that or if her friend is really just a dumbass. Me personally, I’m leaning towards her friend being a dumbass. Traveling somewhere with no money and thinking your looks will get you by is the absolute worst thing you could do to yourself and very dangerous. With that mentality, she’s gonna be desperate for basic necessities in an unfamiliar place where guys can easily take advantage of her or try to sell her into sex trafficking. I’m not saying women shouldn’t use their pretty privilege to their advantage, I know I have, they should still maintain a level of caution and be smart when using it. For example those drinks, they could’ve easily spiked them. Telling those guys the hotel they stayed at and what room to send the money to was not a good decision. Thankfully those men weren’t out to harm them and even helped, but given the world we live in today that could’ve gone horribly wrong.
She was young, we’ve all done things for family and friends that we’ve had to learn from.
You never loan what you can’t afford to give away. That was her mistake. Homegirl would have had to figure it out. Not clearing my savings for NOBODY!
I can't even get to the friendship part because the financial situation is GLARING to me. I understand wanting to rekindle a friendship, but neither of them, especially Caroline (moving is always expensive), was in a financial position for a vacation in Miami. Was a recipe for disaster from the beginning
It made absolutely no sense for either one of them to go on that trip. Both of their financial situations were in dire straits, plus they hadn't seen each other in 4 years! Personally, I'm not traveling to another country when my bread is crumby(pun intended), and especially not with a female I haven't even seen, muchless hung out with in 4 damn years. There's no way for me to know if she's the same kind of person she was when I met her(a lot can happen in 4yrs to change who someone was), and I can't be sure if we'll still vibe together like we did back in the day. Sorry, but there's too much money on the line for me to have all those unanswered questions. But what REALLY gets me and doesn't make sense is the logic or reasoning she used for going in the first place. She spent money on a roundtrip ticket to Miami, paid for a hotel room for 3-4 nights, had to pay to eat out multiple times a day, paid for taxies, and paid for clubbin plus alcohol all just so she could make sure she got her $700 back bc "she was broke and needed it"?!? Tf kind of logic was she using, bc the math for-damn-sure ain't math'n🤔🥴 I mean, math wasn't my best or favorite subject in school by far, but uhhh....it don't seem like sis would've come out on top after this trip(monetarily speaking). Hell, it don't even sound like she would've broke even! Orrr am I missin somethin??
Honestly, it's refreshing to hear someone being based saying 2k or 700$ is alot and they NEED it and it is a big deal. I'm so used to hearing oh I got a bag, or minimizing anything under 5k lol it makes it completely relatable cause I can't relate to anyone who talks about a bag being no big deal
This whole paragraph is low maintenance. I literally have 100k cash and still don’t feel like I have a bag smh! Poor mindset is weak here
@@JessicaAlvarez-kg1boYou’re not even black?
@@JessicaAlvarez-kg1bo the real evil here is your discombobulated double decker chin
Totally refreshing how this lady is being totally honest about her money. Not like the crazy ones who live beyond their means.
Neither one of them should’ve been in Miami.
Honestly… sounds like neither one of them needed to be going to Miami. But the friend is dead wrong
Totally agree, they both needed to stay home.
@@keishawilliams7546 Yes exactly
Yesss sit your humble ass at home girl!!! 🤦🏾♀️
No Fr had the fact that the girl friend spent hundreds on clothes on the trip lol no ma’am I buy my clothes before the trip
Agreed because damn you couldn’t feed her?
Thankfully this didn’t happen in my friendship. My friend did have to financially help me at some point, but we got even closer and I still remember to this day and am so grateful to have such a good friend. I always remember to spoil her and her siblings. This did not affect my loyalty to her and always wish the best for her. What I’m trying to say is sometimes it takes something traumatic to make people realize a true face. Ironically enough it was family members that did me dirty, and y’all know what hits closer to home hits worse. I consider this best friend my freaking soul sister.
So glad she made it home safe. And super happy that she was even in touch with her dad during her trip. She’s a doll. ❤
THIS IS EXACTLY WHY NO MATTER WHERE I GO, I GET MY OWN ROOM!!!
And whenever I go, I drive.
Yup.
My Two travel rules.
Words to live by. It should be on a billboard
That's right... I'm thinking her "missed flight" was deliberate so that she wouldn't be present to secure the room... the "shared room." Yeah, no ma'am.
I went out of town with a friend and i realized how nasty of a person she was and ended our friendship. She didn’t do anything to me but disliked the way she treated others. It’s a no for me.
Wow, that’s horrible. How did she treat other people?
@@ThePrettiestCommenter She was talking crazy to the staff at restaurant’s because she didn’t like her food, talked crazy to the manager in the hotel because booked a hotel that didn’t have free parking, She was just rude to almost everyone she came in contact with. It turned me off and i don’t want to be friends with people who act that way.
Same
Same. This girl wasn't my friend but the cousin of a friend. She tried to fight me and ended up fighting her friends because I got lost. I told my friends, and ended up getting put out of an all inclusive resort of say 2 of a 5 day trip. And then once we got home, she was being nasty to the travel agent who booked it demanding a refund. Ain't no coming back from that-- I never want to be around that chic again!
@@keishawilliams7546 I just got out of a friendship with someone who acted like that. It was extremely exhausted.
This woman is so lovely, respectful (of herself and others) and at peace. Notice, she went through all that with her friend and never said one bad thing about her.
I personally would have never travelled with $250. Regardless of the situation. I live in South Florida (Ft Lauderdal) and it costs over $100 just to breathe air here, let alone going to South Beach. (That's like a whole different country, down there)
She really needs a youtube channel and a podcast cause she is so eloquent and elegant. Her ability to engage people from start to finish is impeccable.
Ok, but can we just give Sis the applause for her riveting storytelling skills???
Haha it could be a lucrative side hustle.💯😉
Yes!!!! Why the hell not??? She nailed that storytime!!!!!
How do you even go to a vacation while you’re so far behind your rent that you’re getting an eviction notice? I truly hope that girl is doing better and making better financial choices.
They. Do. It. Trust. Me
@@sabrastone4822 I don’t get how people could be like that. Wish I could be that carefree 😅
Yea I was confused too
I would be too scared lol . I need a place to stay.
This insta IG life has people living a double life
I love this girl. She's literally where it's at.
I feel her. I went to Orlando with a girl I was friends with and she invited another girl we got there both were broke and I had to keep getting wire transfers from my sugar daddy at the time… they had inside jokes it was giving hater vibes they left me at the club and they would leave me out of activities when they did scrape a few dollars like it was a mess they got kicked out the hotel and I got their clothes held then let them come them they left ahead of time like the whole thing was a mess
“Why would I, at 38, want to look like I’ve never laughed in my life?” THANK YOU! It’s the weirdest thing to not want any features that show you LIVE. I get not wanting a scar from trauma, it’s always going to remind you of that. But stretch marks, laugh lines, age spots - they’re all so lovely!
Comments like these are priceless ❤
Thank you for this sweet comment. ❤️
Well my scars from my trauma remind me that I beat breast cancer! It is MY badge of honor.
This is such a beautiful comment.
My daughter just talked about this, the other day. It’s a part of life, for many of us.
I just want to honor the fact . She didn't disrespect her friend or dog her out ... She stood on elegance and class.. I appreciate her divine feminine energy. May you find better beautiful women goddess to befriend.. and all of us in the black community.. I pray genuine sisterhood for all of us. ❤️🌻
well said🤩
Yes. She is the type of friend I would want. She was elegant and humble while never bashing a friend who did her wrong. I love it.
She remained classic to the end.
Yesss
I don't trust it just because she's in a mirror, she's pretentious.
There's so many financial holes in her story, and we never get to hear the other side because this woman's looks made her go viral.
Yani done wasted our time but never again for sure.
I had a similar situation in Aruba where this bum who was supposed to be my friend tried to pull out a knife on me!
Advice: Hang out with classy women that are on your LEVEL! Stop helping ungrateful friends they will take advantage and abuse you!
The word at the end!!! She said what needed to be said about beauty, capitalism, etc! I love it 🥹🫶🏾
This is why I stopped trying to “keep up” with certain friends. I know I’m a broke friend and can’t afford what they can. Am I upset I didn’t get invited to these trips? Yes. Could I afford these trips? Nope. I stay my broke self home. I’ll fix my life to where I can start affording the fun stuff.
💛
Never ever feel bad. 9/10 they are using debt or someone else's money. These woman are entitled and delusional and will demand things from ppl they would never offer.
I appreciate your perspective in your honesty don't. Most women I met spend more money than they earn and are always in debt. As a man you cannot financially grow with them they're actually bad choices
Why does it make you upset? Or who are you upset with.. the friends that didn’t invite you?
@@meiposhgarden4782 I’m upset because of FOMO, I didn’t get invited to things growing up because my father was very strict. I’ve learned not to take it personal and know that my feelings are just the fear of missing out and I’m not mad that they didn’t invite me. They kind of know I’m pinching pennies as well.
I love seeing black women look beautiful and treat other black women like sisters, instead of competitors and enemies😢
I know, me too but, some people are too messy and I don't have time for it.
You and I both. I am forever grateful that I do have great friendships with my friends, especially black women. They all want me to win!🥲
It’s crazy when they call you sis and treat you like a competitor and enemy🤦🏾♀️.. like the word sis is supposed to rock you to sleep and you not notice their behavior😢
I had that exact same problem, I had to end a friendship because my friend invited her sister on our trip to Panama Florida and her sister was hating on me the entire trip and being disrespectful and my friend didn’t even have the decency to say anything to her sister but now that I look back on it, I see why my friend’s sister didn’t have any friends of her own to hangout with.
I too enjoy rewatching old Nickelodeon sitcoms.
Her words at the end are 💯 true. She’s phenomenal.
Even though its sad because I could never keep friends, but her story is one of the reason why I don't have friends, female friends at that. If you're not on my level as a independent woman, we have no conversation.
This is why we can't be afraid to tell friends NO. Regardless if they're crying, begging , slobbering , in distraught and especially if it's our last. Never give out your last piece of money. Savings or whatever! People will burn you
From the outside looking in, it is really hard to tell the distance between a person with an overwhelming emergency and someone who intentionally self sabotages in the hope that someone else will clear up the mess.
Yes! They will use you while saving there money 😂
Dis 💯 right herrr
Learned this the hard way...
I had to learn this and as soon as you start saying NO mfs start disappearing
Her arm strength in holding that phone steady explaining a story is outstanding
Sis uses that gym she was in 😂
The G.O.A.T... forearm grasp got to swoll😂
😂.
This is very sad... They are both adults but the thought process is so backwards. She should've just stayed home and told the girl to venmo the cash... There's too many ways to pay someone back now a days. The whole situation was a mess. 😅
Literally a mess😂
Wooooow. The eloquence. The class and her positivity. Love her.
It sounds like neither one of them should’ve went on the trip. Both of them were irresponsible and negligent honestly. But I definitely understand feeling a way about someone spending money in front of you like they don’t owe you.
Yes ma’am 🎯🎯🎯I was looking for this comment!
She would not be eating off my damn plate , no way spend your F***in money.
The blk woman definitely shouldn't have let her friend borrow money.
All of this would have been avoided.
This was 9 years ago, confident the story teller, has matured in more than age….
Exactly!!!
I love what she’s saying about beauty standards in different cities. I had a friend that thought she could pimp in every room and get mad when we would go places where her aesthetic was less appreciated. She’d feel like we are in a room full of haters all because I’m getting liked. I just couldn’t continue being friends with someone who thought she was always the fine one when that role can switch.
Superficial and shallow
you had a so called friend that was in competition with you. big red flag
Real talk…..a Dallas 9 and a South Beach nine are two COMPLETELY DIFFERENT WOMEN!!!!!!
Women think they're the shit till they go to a city with a beach and health focused mind set. A Miami 9 is a 7 in Brazil.@@taylenzz
Only because like 90% of Miami women have surgery on every aspect of their bodies. They all look the same too.
Omg, I went to high school with her! She was a very good student and ended up successful, she comes from a good family as well; this ‘friend’ of hers was an entitled moocher 😢 Lesson learned I guess 😩
Crazy story! Great job to the sister explaining the story. So graceful and poise. Blessings to her!
Can’t believe her friend trained to be a doctor and she behaved like that with no shame whatsoever.
Yes! I'm in the field of medical research and trust me there are many folks that are in the medical field that do not belong there. They do not have a compassionate nor humanitarian spirit.
@@efreeholdings1575 yes! All of this! Many people in the medical field are driven by the prospect of making money. No one has passion or a caring heart anymore. It’s so sad.
One has nothing to do with the other..The smartest ppl can have the worst character and that's what ya'll don't realize. Book smart don't mean you have common sense. My daughter's father is a lawyer..an educated man and he also has a very nasty attitude and hood..his looks won't tell you this or his degrees, but being around him long enough to see his true character will.. Stop assuming because ppl have a degree or are professional that makes them good ppl automatically..That's a whole lie from the pits of hell
@@chocolateradiance7216 There is a proper understanding of medical science. It is very important to have good character when you are in medicine, the research or clinical side of doing anything that is related to aiding people's health. This goes into decision making and placing forth a passionate empathic effort into determining the best treatment and care for other's lives. This is why we see so many nurses, techs, doctors treating people horrible, misdiagnosis, medical racism, etc. Not determining what would be best for each individual patient but following the bare basic mindless protocols because they do not care, they just want the check and status. Many doctors are not studied in the research and pretty much parrot the pharmaceutical companies to market their products because they get paid well. This is truly unethical. So attitude and behavior in lifestyle and how you treat others you call family and friends is THE sign of goid or bad character that will definitely leak to your job/profession.
It goes for Lawyers too but in Law, it is lawless. It is about who presents the best argument to sway the judge or jury. So bad character has much room to thrive in those conditions.
She said that the friend flunked out of medical school
The best lesson I learned in life is “never let someone borrow money that you need or gonna ask for back”
100
Say again…. You cannot make anyone pay you back unless you want yo catch a case. I make sure when I go out with friends I ask for separate checks immediately. If I feel the need to treat I do it afterwards. Regarding rent/mortgage/car/insurance/gas/food moneys…. Nope , if I can’t afford to give it and not see it again, I don’t give it !!!’
@@saritamoorebansa4485 I was saying this to my dad the same way
My mama taught me that as a child.
My mom used to say: lend out your ashole, shit throught your ribs.
And who go on a vacation with no money I’ve never heard that shit in my life
This just happened to me on a birthday trip, I booked the Airbnb, one of my friends sent her share, the other said they were waiting to get paid and would send just before the trip…then mentioned they would give it to me in cash instead once we were all there for the weekend…conveniently managed to dodge the topic the entire weekend, and tell me as we’re all leaving on the last day that they lost their job and couldn’t pay me…the Airbnb was $1700 for 3 days…and I’m stuck with my half of that bill, and theirs…happy birthday to me. Never again going to book a trip with friends unless everyone puts up cash upfront.
Miami trips almost ALWAYS reveal to you who your real friends are.
Yes. It's something about Miami
I thought it was just me
Yea look at tay and leelee
Im from the UK London. So funny i went ot on a girls trip Memorial weekend 2010 it was the same thing . Went with a friend I had known since nursery ( kindergarten) we fell out whilst in Miami. I saw her true colors whist on the trip. Friendship has been over ever since that trip. lol
Gospel. And I’ve only done this once. That place is weird. And made of stolen sand. 😂
She was so real at the end. Worry about being attractive is a losing game you will be miserable trying to be someone you are not.
i feel you but she clearly spent money on her appearance
@@ItsTheDanielShow spending money on your appearance is not the same as changing yourself to fit someone else's standard.
@@PresidentIsraa she literally spent money on herself to look like todays standard coke bottle shape woman... lets not debate you know im right! lol
@@ItsTheDanielShowin which many people do , not unusual
Notice when they want to burrow money it's a life and death situation but when it's time to give it back it's hide and seek
Don’t ever Lend what you’re not willing to give. Process that!
And then they come in the internet and say “WOMEN THAT DONT HAVE FRIENDS ARE RED FLAGS🤡” ok i don’t wanna die for someone i thought was my friend cuz i ignored the signs of jealousy and i didn’t cut off our relationship😂
Facts I think it's a red flag if you have too many friends in your circle and not knowing them on a personal level. I rather have my peace of mind, then deal with fake entitled people 💯
You are expected to know how to find good friends and now just throw up a wall by having no friends
Facts
@@stevenroshni1228 by who? We grown we can do whatever tf we want
This friendship was bad before the trip. Clearly the friend is bad at money management
They both were
@@BellaZ209 how was tik tok girl bad? Are you referring to her even giving her friend money to begin with ?
@@zero1188 -Yes! She gave this woman her entire savings, when she hadn’t been paid and was in a new country. When she went to Miami she stated, she used a prepaid credit card for the Hotel. All of those things, screams she couldn’t afford a Miami vacation.
@@The1GeminII she went to Miami to get the funds from her friend because she wouldn’t pay her back another other way?
@@user-ny8td3on3m -You do realise she spent more than what she “loaned” her “friend,” don’t you? 🤨
I’m glad all of my girls ‘ trips were a success. Yeah, we get a little annoyed, but never a disaster like this. I’m so sorry hun!
Amazing story! This lady is EVERYTHING! She gave me chills.
Girl's trips have ended so many of my "friendships". People intentionally show up broke hoping you will cover them. 🙃🙄😮💨
That's crazy
@Sheloves Shoes exactly
@Sheloves Shoes fr facts
And they both was broke…
Probably because they were never real friendships on their part 🤔🤔
I love her voice. You can tell she's a strong, confident woman and a good friend. I wish I had just one true friend. It's sickening that women like the ex friend are out here taking advantage of others.
Wow.... I really love her after listening to the whole video. She's amazing!
women don't make friend because they are not friends with other women. women are competitors not friends. all fake.
Yes, so soothing
Yess the whole time I was thinking I wish had a friend like her to give someone your last out of your savings is big the people in my life didn’t even check on me after having surgery
I definitely liked her voice and accent too lol.
I agree!
Lawd the ending message was amazing 👏🏾👏🏾
I took a trip through Hell in college, car broke down, camping in the rain in a pup tent, no money left after fixing car. The worst. We had a great time and still laugh about it, decades later. Over the years I had my purse stolen with all my ID in a foreign country, she lent me the money to get home, and I paid her back on Thursday, just like I said I would. She needed emergency back surgery and I lent her money, and she paid me back exactly when she said she would.
I also saw the wisdom of dumping a couple of friends over the years, following vacations. I think vacation just shows what you're made of.
I was almost bullied into going on a girls trip with "work friends" in my 20s (We are no longer friends lol). They called me boring, corny, square, stingy, broke for refusing to go with them. All 3 of them earned way more money than me by the way, I knew I could not afford it and didn't want to be at the mercy of anyone. I later learnt there was a fight during the trip and they refused to share the hotel room as earlier planned in a neighboring country. I can't imagine being stranded in a country i am not familiar with and not having enough money to cover unplanned expenses because of a fight. I love sisterhood but sorry I would not be going on any trips...drunk women are just as unpredictable as drunk men.
I rather be corny, square and stingy then broke. Thank you for standing your ground and being responsible. I hate when people try to guilt trip you into something smh. I barely have work friends anyways and I stay to myself cause people move weird for me
I notice drunks all move the same. Grimey, entitled and full of empty promises
Glad you didn't go. I have refused outtings before when I was not making enough money and the friend got offended by it. I just did not want to keep using her resources. We haven't spoken to each other and idk what happened to her. You can never win sometimes even when you try to consider someone else's feelings and finances.
People use words like corny and boring to try and make you feel some type of way just cuz they want you to entertain them and you refuse. No one in their right mind who cares about you would try to belittle you into doing things
Drunk people are unpredictable, that’s what it is
I went on a girls trip and found out how shady my first cousin was to me. My mom always told me she was jealous. But I was like naw. Let’s just say that was the last trip I took with her.
storytime rn
Share please. I’m nosy.
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I have a 1st cousin i haven’t spoken to in over 20 years. She’s been toxic since we were kids. Couldn’t take it anymore.
@@Mizzshron82This is me right now. The pettiness is real, the jealousy is real, the disrespect is real, the hate is real. I too walked away. I lost track of the years but once I realized my life was more peaceful and she needed me more than I needed her. HUNI.....I was a whole new me. Peace over everything.
Always taught by my father IF I'm going to need it RIGHT Back..NEVER lend it out NO MATTER WHAT! NO MATTER WHO IS ASKING.
Girl,you are beautiful! Im so glad you were level headed. It turned out well for you,God blessed you and showed you the correct moves to make.
This lady told her side of the story clearly, intelligently, and with class. I wish more sisters would conduct themselves on social media or on their talk shows and podcasts like this Lady.
I liked her voice & cadence, too!
Yes! It's unfortunate how reality TV & other media personalities ect have trained girls/& women that acting like trash , yelling & trying to fight is normal - it shows no class, couth & opposite of femininity.
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I hate this comment
Yes, she has class but they both ain’t shit tbh
I had a friend who got mad at me that I wouldn’t go out of the country with her for her birthday after her group trip fell through. It was the week I was moving into the first house I bought and I was in the middle of renovations. I didn’t have the time or money to go. We’re no longer friends. She’s So entitled.
Same here! Wanted me to pay $700 for a plane ticket to Las Vegas when I was saving up to move.. Despite the fact that I was sending her money throughout the year and she also was asking me to co-sign a loan to help her pay her rent??.. Yet she could afford to suddenly go on a trip? Whew. That friendship came tumbling down real fast and I never looked back. People are hella entitled, for sure
Makes you wonder why the group trip fell through.
Well good riddance if she lost a friend over you wanting to be more responsible than her then she didn't deserve u✌️💯
Wow.. your friend should been so proud of one of your 1st huge success. Congratulations. That's the type of energy I don't need.
She was jealous cause you bought a house she wasn’t really your friend. Good riddance 😂
She is absolutely gorgeous and the message I received from this just gathered my life 💕
Smh she seems like such a genuine person I feel so bad that this happened to her !!!! She’s absolutely gorgeous!!!!
Cap! No build a bihh with an awful shape is "gorgeous"
I like the way that she talks and explains things so well.
I love her voice, it’s very soothing. She’s very articulate.
Yesss I felt like I went on the trip with her lol
@@nateboy8370 super sexy lol
@@Garglemymayo lol yes In my head I’m right there in Miami !! Sipping my tea lol
Yesss she’s a very good story teller
She sounds like remy ma! her voice is so soothing
Why is she gasping for air after every sentence? Is it because she's talking too fast? It makes it hard to focus on what she saying
@@ariannahardy6476 I don't have this problem.
@@ariannahardy6476that bbl is weighing her down
I was looking for this comment.
@@ariannahardy6476 u must be slow
I went with my friends on a girls' trip last summer and it went well, we planned some activities and left time for spontaneity, we also made sure that we all did what each one of us really wanted to do so that no one felt left out. In terms of money, there were certain things that were paid by one designated person such as ordering Ubers, paying for everyone at the restaurant and more. At the end we all made the calculations of what was spent and paid what we owed to one another.
We are all students, so managing the money was pretty important, everything had to be taken into account, no useless spendings 😊
Omg! Spot on, girlie! I really couldn't have said it better myself! You've earned a new subber! Thanks for creating & uploading
I have a cousin with the same entitled mindset. She was my best friend since birth (we're only 6 months apart in age). She has 4 kids and refused to work longer than 3 months out of the year for years cuz she got more from unemoloyment, foodstamps, child support, and tax refunds that way. That was her hustle so I turned the other way... until I found out that she wasn't even paying rent on the 3 br house she was living in. Mind you, her rent was about $1400. That same place would cost about $2500. Instead of paying her rent, she'd buy clothes, get rental cars for $400 a week, get her nails done, get tattoos etc. Mind you, she has 4 kids. Anyway, she was constantly getting evicted. She would squat in the home for months and then "borrow" thousands from her dad just to stall the eviction until tax time. She'd then give the landlord most of her $15,000 tax check but not all of it cuz she'd be back on eviction status a month later. She did this for years. I didn't care, cuz not my monkeys, not my circus. Meanwhile, I was busting my behind going to school, working, and raising my child without help from the state. In the middle of last year, I finally graduated from nursing school. She came to graduation but wouldn't come to the restaurant afterward even though I was paying. I thought nothing of it. Then the following few months she was being really distant and weird. Then suddenly, I hear from my grandma that she's gossiping about me. For example, she was spreading rumors that I was cheating on my bf. Which was so random and untrue. I ignored her for a while cuz I had a lot of important moves to make at the time. Then she hmu asking me if I had something against her. Wtf?? I told her what I found out. She denied it, but our grandma isn't senile and she has no reason to lie, so I don't believe her. A month later, I find out that she moved in with my grandma. Come to find out, the whole time I was elevating my life, finishing school, and making important life decisions, her whole scam was catching up with her. Her dad refused to give her any more money. Her landlord refused to give her a new lease. She was evicted and had nothing in her pocket cuz she had to pay back the tens of thousands she owed the landlord. I feel bad for her and her kids of course, but I brought this cuz ppl with entitled midsets can also be extremely jealous. They feel they should always be on top. She always had a nicer home, nicer clothes, nails done, nice jewelry, but I didn't cuz I saved my money to pay for school out of pocket so that I wouldn't graduate in debt. So the minute I started to pull a bit ahead, she's got to try to tear me down cuz she's entitled to living better than me. It's sad cuz that was my homie since we were babies, but I guess I wasn't hers.
Cut her off and never look back. Congrats on your success. Keep going. You will meet better people and make better friends when you eliminate the toxicity.
She didn't notice that her way of financing life was very unstable and fleeting. And as long as you weren't graduated YET, she was still on top and still got all the "Things"...but reality kicked in on graduation day, and she couldn't handle it...that's why she didn't come to the restaurant...she didn't want to hear your accolades from everyone....
@Pysiu X thank you! Yea that whole relationship is done. I wished her the best and kept it moving. About a week later, my estranged sister came back into my life with sincere apologies and a healthy mindset. So, everything works out like it's supposed to.
I had a friend like that, and the last straw occurred when she took advantage of me when I tried to help her 1 too many times. She was very ungrateful and entitled.
Many women live like this, but you would never know because of hair and clothes. You can't them anything when they are young, but when they hit 35, they will feel the pain. Glad you ended the relationship.
When stuff like this happens, it makes you question the entire friendship and how genuine it ever was.
The love is genuine, just not given to a person who could receive, reciprocate, and pay it forward.
Much like with being cheated on, it’s times like these where you question what you’re really mourning: the person, or the perceived friend/ship you thought you had but reality has now proven to never have existed?
Exactly! And her fake friend is allegedly in Medical school, with Eviction notice taped on her door. No ma’am. I moved to Miami by myself. I like people, but I can feed them, F” em & forget them. Out of site, out of mind 😊 Bye bye😂
I work 2 full time jobs and i love shit like this❤ thank you for keeping me in da loop, Niece i love your videos
Absolutely love that song … and the fact you said this not some exposure video. ❤
It was like 3 red flags from the beginning. Aint no wayy😭
Exactly, this didn't even sound like someone you should have planned a trip with in the first place...
Looking at her, I would have never guessed that woman was surviving off of $200 for 4 days in Miami. That’s borderline impossible considering the prices there. It goes to show how much deception instagram is. But I have to sideeye both of them. Neither should have been on that trip. As a fellow Nigerian I can say we usually are more sensible than this. If she knew she barely has the money she shouldn’t have been on that trip. They both were not in any financial position to be on any sort of vacation. This story sounds like two foolish people, if I’m honest.
This was 2014 when this happened
She said her friend kept pushing the payback date -- and finally agreed to meet in Miami to get her money bc the friend didn't want to pay the $50 wire fee. She already knew she couldn't go but needed the cash back. Her friend also didn't pay for her portion, putting the burden on her even more... What a rollercoaster of a story!
Exactly.. neither one of them should have gone on that trip
My thoughts exactly
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 this is the comment I was searching for! Seems like they both were broke and had no business on that trip. An Uber from the Clevelander to Las Olas is about $55 one way non peak hours. Once she said shopping at Forever21 I knew their budget was low 😂 everyone is gorgeous in Miami Beach (without makeup) and in great shape so looks alone won’t get you far unless you meet a guy who’s not originally from the Miami area living in an Airbnb and renting a sports car. These “baddies” do it to themselves. Trips don’t expose weak friendships: being broke while on a trip exposes weak friendships. Had they had money you wouldn’t hear of this story.
Well well well spoken !
$700 in your account and not 1 paycheck yet...why is she taking trips? 😂😂. She's just as ratchet as her friend.
She was serving looks every outfit change!! When it comes to friends, I won’t be friends with people who aren’t considerate on my level, thoughtful on my level and respectful.. on my level. If you don’t have those basic qualities we have no reason to be around each other. I don’t mind splitting a bill or paying the bill, but what I’m not going to do is get taken advantage of. Past friendships/relationships have taught me these things. Keep your discernment up ladies. Be safe and don’t be scared to travel and do things alone. ❤
I lost a friend of over 20 years in Miami. The crazy part is she and I used to joke about there being a hex over the state because so many people break up from their s/o or friends there. She was drunk and showing her true colors of how she felt about me for years! Big screaming scene in the hotel. So embarrassing and hurtful. I miss her so much but it is what it is. 😢🤷🏽♀️
Rebuke the devil that is not the spirit of the Lord in your life tempting you to miss that heartless monster because I’ll be glad to pray that witch out of my life
See it for what it is: you’re not mourning the loss of her. Reality has proven that who you thought she was did not really exist and now that you know who she is, you can’t be friends with her. *You’re mourning the loss of the mask she had on that you bonded over.* You’re mourning the loss of what you thought you had and who you thought she was. Who she’s revealed to really be now, you don’t even want her, so how can you miss her?
I don’t have to leave a comment because you said it beautifully. @@peppermintpsaki1157
it isnt a hex over the state its just it releases peoples true colors because of the jealousy the colorism the hate snd its better to find out sooner in a situation like going on a trip then in a bigger situation where its life or death
I am so sorry you had that bad experience. I know exactly how you feel...The entire situation is a mess, you have done the right thing to distance yourself. We have to protect our PEACE at all cost.
Maaaaan this was MY EXPERIENCE at Myrtle Beach! Luckily for me she is no longer my friend! That was 12 years down the drain! Some people just triflin'! Amd I feel MUCH lighter and better!
All relationships have the ability to be toxic. There are also women that will use you the same ways a man would (minus sex) under the guise of friendship 😓
Yep. And men do this too and they don’t have to be your bf/husband.
This is absolutely true.
Yup learned this the hard way, anytime I hold her accountable she made me into the bad guy, then told everyone we both knew I was the bad friend. I blocked and moved on but I let it happen way to many times trying to be the bigger person.
@@hotmess9640 Exactly 💯
Biiiiiiig facts
My daughter is only in the 6th grade and I'm currently teaching her what an associate, classmate and friend looks like because they all differ but have it's purpose. Don't be afraid of having these kinds of "interactions" with peers but rather embrace discernment and don't follow blindly
My daughter is 10 years old. I'm trying too.
Also, when she becomes employed, co workers are just that, coworkers.
Great lesson. I wish my mom taught me that
@@Jade7159- They can be friends, but that's usually if they spend a good amount of time outside of work like they do inside. You really get to know the person. Situations like school and work can have you feeling like you know someone better than you really do
@@lailaalanna315 My daughter is about to turn 11 years old and I don't even let her spend the night at anyone's house. Not even relatives. Of course I get the whole what is your issue you are lame and so corny and so boring. You need to let her grow. No how I see it you won't take advantage of my intuition or discernment. I'm letting her know other girls or women are not your friends. Treat every one with a long handle spoon!
Really, (especially after she broke everything down) neither one of them had any business traveling to Miami when they were both in dire straits at the time.
I feel your stress, your a good friend sadly her loss , hopefully one day she will realize her actions etc .