This Mom Let’s Her Kids Curse!!
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On this AltMom At The Table, Gwenna and Jack talk about cursing, kids, bad words, and respecting other people with our words. Language is weird, especially in English!
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"i cursed in front of the pastors wife" that reminds me of this one time me and my mom were at the grocery store and my mom went "it's is hotter than satans ass crack out there" and she didn't realize the local pastor was behind us and when she saw him she went "oh man i'm so sorry i didn't mean to say that in front of you" and the pastor went "no you're right it's definitely that hot outside" it's a core memory for me
Pastors are human after all 😀
I am now going to use that phrase for anytime it's hot out.
Ive been trying to explain this to my husband for so long! He was raised that adults can cuss but the kids (who listen to you cuss all the time) cannot. You cannot expect a child not to pick up on what they hear. So you have to teach them like you are saying.
I agree. Kids are parrots. They will mimic anything you say & do.
Agree!! I was Nevvvvver allowed to swear zoom not ass, not shut up, nothing. And never told y. And now.....I swear worse than a m***f**kin sailor. Every other word is f*** and I don't even think about it. Obviously around my baby I am trying to restrain, but I feel like occasionally, if it's not used to hurt, sometimes it's ok...context and intent...and moderation...and where u say it...home is our safe space.
Right!
Exactly!
sorry but I don't agree.... there are many things adults can do the children are not allowed and speech is definitely one of them
I worked at Toys R Us back in the day and had to majorly self censor myself. One day I slipped and said shit to a customer, without any kids around, and was temporarily horrified. The customer looked at me and said, don’t worry I don’t give a fuck. I just laughed.
I remember an incident that took place about 55 years ago. My next to youngest brother was about 3.5 years old and had just come back from a Saturday morning drive with dad. Dad described a driver that had cut him off or some such infraction. My brother quickly cut in with “And mommy, do you know what daddy called her? “. My mom shuddered to think what language my dad must have used. “He called her a PINEAPPLE!!!”. I guess that was the first thing that came into my dad’s head.
For a long time, we called bad drivers “pineapples” in my family.
My daughters first cuss word was when she was 14 months old and dropped her food on the floor and we hear "oh, shit" 😳. Hey, she understood the correct way to use it, so proud 🤣
I also realized maybe I might be using it a little too much 😜 she's 31 now and not scarred for life
She was definitely cussing before then lol... that's just the first time you heard it
My boy when he said truck would always replaced the "t" with a "f". Everytime he saw a truck being outside or in stores or pictures he get excited & yell the word so loud you could hear 50 ft away. The people would look at me thinking what a bad mom or something. I was a young shy mom. Eventually he learn to say the word. He can drive them now.🤣
My daughter was in speech therapy for a few years, without a bunch of success. Couldn’t afford to keep sending her, had to stop just before she was 3. We were at a park day with friends, she fell and got a scrape, like they do. She responded with a dramatic FUUUUUCCCKKKK! A couple of moms looked over, scrunched faces. Frankly, I was so proud of her, as it was the first time I had heard her not only pronounce it well, but use language appropriately. And yes, of course she got it from me😇 ironically she’s now a teen, and not a fan of curse words. She doesn’t try to police our language, but she very clearly understands and chooses not to. Her big brother, well, he sounds like a sailor, just like his mama😉
My son is in speech to.
I love that
So on the same page with you. The more "shock value" we give words, without them actually even knowing why, the more of a problem it becomes. Had pretty much the same values in our home for my boys growing up. "there's a time a place.." was the motto.
My 3yo is in a best friend phase too. She will say "You're my best friend" and I'm like "I love you too." I am just waiting for her to turn that into a knife in my heart when she's upset.
My 11 year old son always asks permission to swear? And 99.9% of the time his context and use is spot on. He knows the boundaries of where to not swear and that words have consequences. 🙂
My kids will ask permission, too. Mostly to understand what it means and to verify it's a curse word. After explaining it to them, they look at me and say, "yeah, we don't want to say that." My kids want to be respectful and kind instead of fitting in with the other kids.
We did the same thing when they got to around 12, but only around us and never to degrade or bully anyone. It helped them alot to be able to express themselves to us and keep everything honest and open. We realized that we'd rather raise our kids to swear than raise them to believe some words are too scary to be given voice. However, the n word is not allowed in my house regardless of who they are.
When I was a teenager I had an argument with my dad about cuss words. I told him he cussed me out all the time (without cuss words) that he was being as or more disrespectful then me using a cuss word. I usually did it if I like stubbed my toe. I never use it to cuss someone off.
I love how you handle this, and it's pretty in line with what we do in our house too.
Some family members did not appreciate this, but also every adult in my son's life cusses, it's hard to expect him not to pick it up.
My only extra rule there is that we don't cuss around strangers, at all, because you don't know what other people will be comfortable hearing.
This includes taking the uses of God/Jesus into account, because even though we don't ascribe to those faiths, we want to respect them. So we try not to use those words in public.
This was how I was raised and how my son will be raised once he starts talking. No swearing around people we know will take offense or school where he will get in trouble. I have a much better filter than my husband who was raised no swearing ever as a child. We both have ADHD. I think learning to filter at a young age helped me to not let things slip as much.
You are a person I wish other people would be 😭❤️ I swear. A lot... But I don't take the Lord's name in vain due to being a believer. I just appreciate that you try not to do that in front of strangers... 👍😭❤️ It's always uncomfortable hearing it. I understand I will hear it and that I have to chill but it's just nice to know someone out there cares the way you do. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@samanthaanderson9675 im not Christian but muslim and im highly offended when people do so. its basic respect.
This is exactly how I've taught my children. Swearing was never a big deal when I was growing up, but using curse words at someone was a big no no. Stubbed your toe? Acceptable to swear. Mad at Mom? Don't say it out loud. And now I've passed that on to my own kiddos, the idea to be aware of your audience, and surroundings and the situation. Words only have the meaning we give them, but at the same time, there are other words to say that aren't offensive. It's a tough balance, especially because my hubby and I both cuss like sailors, but we've also come up with some creative alternatives. My personal favourite is FUZZY DUCK!
Myself, husband and two pre/teenage sons sitting in the living room watching tv. Sons are potty mouthing like crazy. Husband asks “where did you learn how to talk like that?” Sons answer by pointing at their mother, me. Words only have the meaning and value we attach to them. As long as they didn’t cuss in front of grandparents and elders, in school or in front of other younger children I didn’t really care what words they used. I have one other story that I think is funnier, I’ll tell you that one in a bit ❤️ much love, be safe❤️
I'm 18, and have a bit of a sailors mouth. There were several times where I cussed in front of a teacher, one being during an exam. Looking back on it, I tend to use swear words as a frustration thing, sometimes as an insult to people who piss me off (when they're out of earshot), and to add emphasis to what I'm saying. Since I work in retail and swearing is often highly frowned upon, I make up new swear words such as 'son of a freddy fudgenugget', 'fudgeknuckles', or 'fudgin' shudgecakes'.
Honestly I wish I was raised like this. When I was 14, I got in trouble one time just because I said Damn and I wasn't allowed to listen to music with curse words. That rule was stupid to me because I grew up hearing my parents curse and they would play that type of music in the car in front of me and my siblings but I couldn't listen to it on my own time? Plus I was mature enough to know what those words mean and I knew how to control my urges.
I've worked a few years in the kitchen at summer camp and have entertained coworkers with my swear substitutes. "Oh fudgecicles and lollipops" "what the french toast" "crab baskets" and "aww butts". Half of the substitues are for kids that are taught not to swear and the other half is so they don't take home swears that will offend their parents. HOWEVER anything you say/shout in the cooler with that wonderful heavy door will not hurt anyone.
Coworkers that stayed the night on campgrounds did witness casual me in the lodge for adult staff and counselors off duty. Metal music playing on my phone and casual swears will occur while I work on a friendship bracelet for my secret buddy after a 12 hour shift in the kitchen.
When my brother was little he couldn't pronounce the words TRUCK or FORK! There was an incident at the grocery store involving a huge shiny red fire truck. People were staring at my poor mom like she had horns as she tried to correct his pronunciation. This was not the only incident related to speech issues. Fun times!
I am now a Grandmother, but by the time my boys were "tweens" (I don't like that word) so 10 to 12 the youngest probably was 10, I realized that these were just words. As a child I grew up around adults that cursed like a bunch of drunken sailors, and my Great Grandparents could do it in 3 languages in one argument, English, Polish, and Slavic, yet me and my cousin would get in trouble for substituting words for the actual words but in the right context. This made no sense, and it hit me one day as I went to correct my son and the first word out of my mouth was no better than the one he said, so it was decided that as long as they didn't use words in the context to hurt or insult people, in school, or in a disrespectful manner to any adults I would let go of the reigns it made for a more peaceful house. My boys still grew up to join the long line of drunken sailors in our family line, so my parents saying we all were worse than the generation before us because it wasn't allowed when we were kids was totally wrong.
I literally have the same type of vibe in my house. I couldn't care less what others think of it. My kids did great in school and stayed out of trouble too! I did something "right " lol
I have raised my children exactly the same way. They are open to speak freely at home, but never to hurt each other. And the “it’s just a word, but can come in different ways” feeling is how I felt completely.
This is such a well thought out conversation about intent and context for parents wanting to raise well adjusted children that I just had to sit here for awhile and just let all your words slowly settle around me. I'm not a parent of small children. My grandchildren are graduated from college. I discovered your channel only recently and almost swiped past you thinking what could a large woman with outrageous purple and neon pink spiky hair, a prominent nose ring, green lipstick and kindergarten glitter eyeshadow have to say that would be so well presented such that I could experiance something so thought provoking that it would burst through my bigotry that her outrageous persona challenged me with? I always thought of myself as quite liberal, tolerant and educated in communication skills. Your digital presence in my life has taught me otherwise. Your channel is re-parenting adults on rethinking intent and context and kindness and tolerance in self expression. That not everything has to be either a shield or a weapon; that either you are attacking or protecting yourself from something out there. Strangely, you have helped me immensely in how I approach talking to my friends and acquaintances about our different political views. No, It hasn't changed their views one iota but has helped me cope with how I react to grief and loss and disappointment.
Good for you! I intend to grow and improve right into the afterlife. It's never too late for tomorrow to be better than yesterday, through today.
When we were 17 and 13 my sister and i started calling each other ugly, as you said with calling your friend bitch, to us its a term of endearment. Over the years my sister changed my name from ugly to Ugga bugs to bugly. So now i am her bugly and she is my ugly! Now that we’re 30 and 26 its still our way of showing our love.
There's been some interesting research into 1) "no-no" words and where they are stored in the brain, and how they are some of the last things to deteriorate once cognition declines in things like dementia or Alzheimer's, AND 2) cursing when it comes to pain relief and coping with traumas like cancer. Really interesting stuff, and an interesting take on cursing.
When my kids were young and they cussed and anyone would say " do you let them cuss"?
I would always say to them " They could be doing and saying a lot worse". Now that my kids are grown(30 and 26) they very very rarely cuss. 😊💜
When my kids were growing up I told them about grown-up words BUT I told them that if ever they felt unsafe when we were out in public they must swear as loud as possible. People don't really respond when a kid shouts or screams but every adult will stop and stare at a swearing child. And look to see who the parents are. No one can just take them
ive raised my son like this since he was a toddler cuz I swear...a lot. One time he was like 3 or 4 and we were going into a store and this ass like cut us off or did something that was asslike. my son whispered to me, he's an asshole. Not very loud but I agreed with him and said but we don't say that out loud at the store lol
Awe I love the very last story I really thought momma was about to shed a tear about grandma hearing her son talk about his personal relationship and went all grandma! What a sweet precious story and your daughter will probably always remember that
Thisssss!!! I’m Australian and swearing is just a part of life here the C word is how we greet our mates 😂 it’s the intent behind the words that makes it wrong ❤
I allow my kids to curse if they can follow the boundaries we have. There's a time and a place, and we curse expierences, not people. Slurs are just a no.
My 3 yr old grandbaby was putting on her sandals today and was in a hurry. She was having trouble with it and out pops, "fucking sandal". While I was laughing hysterically, I was trying to tell her that it was a grown up word and she was too young to say it. It was situationally correct, so kudos there, but I'm not sure how well I got through because of my laughter. It caught me by surprise and , well, it was just fuckin' funny. 😛
I definitely agree with the idea of lets kids cuss if they understanding and self control about its use. Though I find it interesting that your eldest is more comfortable cussing in front of friends than at home, cos I was the opposite as a kid. I would swear at home with/at my parents all the time, but hardly anywhere else and it wasn't until my senior years that swear words started to come out around friends, to which the reaction was a shocked "you swear?". The shock was probably made worse by the fact I was a top grades, general goody two shoes student.
My 3yo has started repeating some phrases and using them in somewhat the right context, but if nothing else, it makes you reflect about things you say
Omg I LOVE fuckle shoes!!! 🤣🤣🤣 I absolutely love how kids mispronounce words! My daughter used to call her bathing suit 🩱 her ‘baby soup’ 🤣 she’s almost 13 and still call it that to this day!
I found that letting my kid cuss (shit was his 1st at age 5), in context, he didn't go thru that horrid stage of the F-bomb every other word. I taught him not to call names. That is hurtful. But die in a video game and say shit, fine.
Same. Slurs are off the table, but I engage them with WHY those words are hurtful and the history behind them. As long as they are decent humans that respect other peoples’ boundaries, I don’t care what words they use.
I have allowed my kids curse when they hit 13/14 years old. I curse my, husband curses. My kids will curse when they aren't around us. However, I am a 53 year old daughter who still won't curse around my parents. Lol Thanks for sharing your ideas.
I let my kid do al lot of things that we are not supposed to like cussing, jaywalking etc because I do them to. All adapted to the situation of course, like not in school or with elders and when there are absolutely no cars around or other kids involved. Because that is just realistic. Explain why, when etc and I truly believe they will be better off than just saying no.
I know a kid who said the f word for smack. It was a very interesting conversation at daycare when he told the teacher another kid had smacked his face 🤣🤣🤣🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
This is great. I used to tell my Mom 'they were just verbs and adjectives' 😂
So glad my husband and I talked about it we said the same thing it's a word but you call someone names it's different. I tell him respect you swear at school yep probably will get in trouble you swear at grandma's yep she will probably be hurt. If course after this talk he still would not. He does sometimes now but but knows when and where. You put it together great.
My sister as a tiny child had a hard time with the word “fish”. The f sounded a lot like a b and sh sounded like ch.
My favorite was my nephew when he would say "nine a sore" 🦖🦖🦖💗🙃💗
To me, they're just filler words. & as long as the children know when, where, & how to say these words & they're being respectful toward others then there's nothing wrong with it. We are a family of sailors so to expect these kids not to say this stuff is just wrong on the adults part. I always say that kids are parrots. They will mimic everything you say & do so be mindful of how you speak & act.
I try not to cuss in front of my 2year old but my 13year old has been saying whatever she wants for years. I can't remember making the rule, she just got to an age where it seemed absurd to not let her cuss in her own home as if it's a formal space like a classroom. She's never said a slur so she clearly understands the difference there.
About the sparkle shoes speech impediment thing, I can also see correcting her and the anxiety coming from that making her more shy or nervous around adults.
Tell me a me cry. When you were talking about his mother grandma grandma Graham. That really touched me thank you thank you
You are the Mumma bestie I've needed, Ty for helping retain (what is left of) my sanity!
Hey, I'm borrowing, my dad's phone right now, Um Here's the thing when she mentioned about the little's dad's mother talking about her to her his stepdad. What made me laugh?
Is that reminds me about the The J A word. Literally that reminds me of how my dad's girlfriend and him behave around each other. Sometimes they like to mess with each other and stuff. I heard that and I have the phone here by my bed Oh my night stand and I was sitting in my bed. Watching this and I had to lean over in place my forehead on the corner of my bed laughing hard enough where my eyes and nose Wound up running.😂😂😂 Literally LOL oh my goodness. I could not pause the video fast enough that was hilarious. Anyways, y' all have a very blessed day.❤❤❤.
This was such a clear concise way of explaining all the nuances and seemingly contradictions in the topic.
So nice to find parents my age using logic/rationale/common sense when it comes to this topic. I've always allowed my kids to cuss if they feel the occasion warrants it, lol. Of course, we've always talked to them about the importance of using discretion. Like, dont do it at school, in certain people's homes, and we had conversations about intent and all of that jazz. And guess what? My oldest is in her 2nd year of college, the middle one is a senior, and my youngest is 9 and I've NEVER had a single complaint from teachers or anyone else they have been around. Even better, I've always gotten compliments about how kind and well-mannered my kids are. So clearly, cuss words dont actually destroy innocence nor does it automatically mean that they're going to be horrible people when they grow up. We're all obviously doing something right, so go us! 🤘❤️🤘🤭
When I listen to how you parent it reminds me of how I act around my parents at my age. I've got to an age (mid/late teens) where I can curse and swear in front of my parents but I choose not to but I do swear in front of my friends cause I'm more comfortable around them and using that type of language. I also end up self censoring myself in front of younger children because I have that worry of being a bad influence and sometimes I do that by accident. Like there's words as a kid that have a lot stronger meaning that adults try to not say around their children that are like between 3-5 when they learn more words as they copy. And when I'm playing games and acting with them sometimes I'll say words like "oh no I'm dead bleh" and then try to correct myself myself like wait I meant "I'm sleeping/asleep" then they copy me and saying "oh not you're dead" and that just makes freak out a bit lol 😂😂
Up to a certain age there are words that have "magic" meanings, and I applaud your insight (or memory) that you recognize that.
I spent a lot of my early childhood terrorized by my older siblings' use of words that I took literally by mistake. Or I believed that saying a thing could make it be true.
My kids are grown but I love what you do with cuss words. I was raised with kids aren't allowed to cuss with the beginnings of what you do with words like the n word. I took that to exactly what you do as far as words go with my kids who are in their 30's.
I mentioned this to my husband and he wasn't against it. Considering that I have the vocabulary of a trucker and he's not so far behind me on that platform, but as for our 9 yr old son to use a few cuss words now ... honestly wouldn't bother me. Our son has cussed and I had to ask him to repeat just to ensure I heard him correctly.....yea I did and yes I laughed out loud 🤣🤣🤣. But I also told him that certain words are just not age appropriate for him to use. And I also explained to him that he has to be respectful of others around him. (Grandparents, littles, ect.). So I say fuck society and just do what's best for you and your family. 🖤🖤🖤
I let my kids cuss when they were younger, but I taught them there was a time and a place to use certain words, and not every family was like ours. Now my children are grown and have children of their own and they let them Express their self however they want and yes my grandkids do cuss. But they know there's a time and a place for certain words. I am proud that my children turned out the way they did and they are not trying to censor their children
You two have a great thing going. You’re teaching your children what intent is, not only arounds the words they use, but how they effect everyone including themselves.
That is called parenting in the 21 century.
Both my children are full grown, oldest one married and his wife is a teacher & agrees when it comes to words, their meaning & the intent behind them.
I’m sharing this video to my daughter-in-law & to beat friend who two is a mom.
Note: I love the videos you guys make! I shared 2 with my best friend.
Keep up the awesome stuff you do & you 2 are awesome parents❤
Weird question. Can I clone you? I don’t have a clone machine but if ever I do, or a human xerox machine…. we just need more of you on this planet.
18:22 as a step child that was loved more by my stepdad then my biofather.
My step grandma really said I don’t know how to deal with five grandkids so let me make food. She won the grandma role with that. The way you guys are talking about that is exactly how my grandma Acted though hell would freeze over before she cursed.
We have a similar stance with our kids (9 & 13) to "know what it means," "don't use it to be ugly to someone," and "read the room."
That said, your last comment about your MIL...reminds me of my late mother. In high school I brought my boyfriend home to meet her. He was sitting on a chair in the lounge, just the other side of the kitchen where there was a wall to partition but a small "window" between. My mom was getting ready to head out to work and she was washing something in the sink, grumbling about something to do with my dad. We definitely caught a few f-bombs and my 16 y/o face was mortified that this was his first impression of her. She must have clocked that I was embarrassed and then noticed the top of his head as he sat in that chair just the other side and proceeded to say, "Oh...hi, Adam. I'm sorry...but sometimes I just like to say FU*#!" 😳
I wanted the ground to swallow me whole! 🤣
When you said " Not my best friend" I busted a gut. My 4 year old says that all the time too.
What a wonderful conversation. I hope a lot of people listen and understand
We don't tell ours to not say the words. Our older curses in bursts because adults are immature and giggle, but we also let her know when she's gone too far. She uses them correctly at home, but knows not to say them around Oma or at school. The younger doesn't use them at all, surprisingly.
Such an awesome episode. Such a cute story about meeting his mom.
So articulate ❤ Love the insight and I also parent the same way for my older kids
Same here. And my youngest never chooses to use "cuss" words , like his momma. I cuss.
The more I watch your content, the more I am realizing we have identical parenting styles. My kids can cuss if they want when we are at home. If they know the true definition of the word and are using it in the correct context, as well as with their intent behind using it. I don't like it when my oldest calls his younger siblings certain words. They are not supposed to use offensive language in excess or around people that might find it offensive, like their grandparents. Out of my 3 kids, the oldest is the one I am most lenient with because he is almost 18 now, next is his brother, who is 14, and last is their sister, who is 8. She doesn't curse much because she is still at that age where she is nervous about getting into trouble for it.
My philosophy with my kids is I can't tell my kids to do/not do something contrary to what I normally do or have done in the past. I say things that could make a sailor blush.
I feel like we would be best friends! Lmao you guys are so awesome
Y’all are so cute together!
Would LOVE it if you all could tell story of how you got together, like from when you all first met to got married
I am Norwegian, and cussing or no cussing is not the thing I get hung up on. The thing to consider, which is this video's grand point, is that you treat other people with respect. What words you are using is secondary or even at the bottom of the list.
Thank you that's a good advice very much appreciated. 👍
I have the same mindset when it comes to cussing. No bad intent, don't use it at school or grandma's, use it correctly. I get plenty of criticism for it so I was thrilled to hear there are others like me or there. Love you guys!💜
Love love love this mentality, words only have the power they are given. I find I'm checking only MY language at school functions 🤔. We have a rule of intent in our house, you can say dammit if you drop something etc. but you can't say "damn you" to hurt someone's feelings.
I'm not a parent myself but I grew up being yelled at whenever I cursed. I've done it since before I was 7 and picked up on it more when I was 11. Honestly, it's become a bit of a problem because I just roll them off the tongue like marbles on a mountain, anywhere and everywhere with zero regard for anyone. I'm trying to fix that though. I never understood why that kind of vocabulary was shunned, to me they're just words.
Awe, Grandma sounds awesome!
Fuckle shoes! 😂😂😂 They should be that forever!
Sometimes the kid's words are better! My oldest called Charlie Brown's dog "Snoofy" & we not only taught our younger kid that name, but we all still use it to this day, 12 years later!
Don’t feel bad about f*ckle shoes 😁 when I was very young I couldn’t say Astros, the Houston baseball team that my Grammy loved. I said “Go 🍑holes!” 😆
My brother loved to play with a toy dump truck, but struggled with the p in dump and the tr came out as an f. My dad found it amusing, my mom pretended she was embarrassed but I think she also found it funny.
My daughter is 12 and I appreciate this conversation so much. We have a very open dialogue and jokingly will call each other a bitch occasionally. And she curses at times, but she is also emotionally intelligent and articulate. she can differentiate between environments and audience. We as adults swear at home, but maybe at work it’s not appropriate. This discernment is important and if she lacked that ability I would delay what I allow her to say. I am okay with her swearing as long as she is in control of what and how she is communicating. Interestingly, language is always evolving and her teachers use words like damn and pissed regularly, which I have no problem with. I’m pretty sure my teachers would of considered those swear words.
P.S. your husband just specifically used the word discernment. 100% agree
Lol the shoes love it!!
Just like when my son kept flipping up his ring finger at his sister saying he wasn't really flipping her off. Yes, but your INTENT was the same, ergo... " Xander stop flipping off your sister or your grounded from wifi for the rest of the night,"!
I feel like the parents that cuss that don’t let their kids cuss just have superiority complexes. Like either you don’t let them curse because you also don’t curse because your family finds them offensive, or you let them cuss because you also cuss. But telling other people they can’t cuss when you can because you’ve spent more time on earth on them is just weird. Also I realize most parents have superiority complexes, my own included and I love them anyway lol. (I can recognize something weird when I see it though)
A few years ago at a cat adoption event there was a little girl getting her first kitty. Only she could not pronounce her “k”
So she was running around the area chanting “I’m getting a titty! I’m getting a titty!”
It was the best thing ever
When u said your mouth works faster than your brain, I thought, here is a woman who actually gets it. Thank u. Only found u a few months ago so I am watching your older stuff. Thank u for letting me see I’m not failing like I thought I was
One thing tripped me out a bit: the voices are paired with the wrong audio channels.. Gwenna is panned to the right, Jack to the left, yet the camera suggests Jack at the right and Gwenna to the left. Just for the funsies I ran the video through audacity and flipped the channels, and it's immediately more pleasant when viewed with the video.
But good content, definitely!
I tell my kids you can't cuss till your taller then me 😂
I raised my 5 kids who are all adults with the knowledge that they could cuss. they could use them only at home at certain ages. when my oldest who is 333 years old now. at 3 said shit because of something she kept dropping something (which seems to be that miracle age when they say either shit or damn in the right way) she knew at that age only at home. what happened at school i didn't get upset about cuz of being taught what words were only for her to say at home and other words for when she was older i never had an issue. my philosophy was if I'm gonna be a sailor I can't punish my kids for what they see and hear me do on a daily.
My kids aren't allowed to cuss. It's whatever, probably a remnant from my childhood and also not being allowed. 🤷♀️
What REALLY angers me is when I get a concerned message/call from the teachers informing me that my child has said "frick", "freak", other non-cuss words, etc.
So, you're tattling to me my child used classroom friendly words?
I fail to see the issue, but they sure do!
On the allowance of cuss words, in my house we have adult words and bad words.
Adult words are, obviously cusses. Bad words are hurtful words like stupid, fat, etc that even*I* an not allowed to say.
I always allowed my kids to curse but to me only ... That way they are free to express themselfs freely to me without thinking they will get in trouble for expressing their emotional or frustrations clearly and completely... Then we talk about it . Alot of ppl thought my kids would come out so disrespectful but nope they have manners and speak properly to everyone
My daughter at 3 years old use to say bitch everytime she meant to say Fish. It took us awhile to figure out what she was trying to say.
I remeber in the deathly hallows I forgot whether it was part 1 or 2 were Harry was saying how a word has much power as u let it and I no that was in the context of boldi but it’s so true and I’m glad to no that mumacusis is a potter head 2
You need merch along the lines of "go sparkle yourself"
My first full sentence was god dammit. We were camping I dropped my binky. Mom washed it off and handed it to me I missed when putting it in my mouth. She washes it off again then puts it in my mouth. Then I sneezed. I said god dammit. Mom said she was shocked. Dad goes what he only said what you were thinking.
💪❤️💪❤️ explained very well
"I cursed in front of the pastor's wife" well when I was like 4 or 5 I didn't like the pastor or his wife now mind you this is my dad's church he's from a small town and my mom's not. My mom found out that the pastor was stealing money from the church and the wife knew what he was doing. Needless to say I called the pastor's wife a bitch and she told my mom to tell my sister who is 12 years older than me to watch her mouth around me. It's funny to me because I come from a very big family and I have a lot of older cousins that I hung around and they are the ones that cussed around me the most. In my house my mom was the one that cussed. If dad wasn't at work I heard my mom cuss a lot. If dad was home he didn't even want me saying fudge. And my mom respected that. BTW I just found your channel and I love love it. Keep being you!!!
I let it slide when my 3 and 4yr old use swear words unless we're in certain settings (Like the doctors!!). Because 1) They're literally just words. Classism gave them the 'Bad' connotation which is stupid. And 2) They know what the words I use mean. They know what most words that come out of their own or someone else's mouth means because meaning is very important. When they DON'T know what a word means, I do put a temp ban on them. Naughty is currently banned in my house. It means "I don't like this behaviour and you need to feel shame.". And I'm not having shame/guilt placing. My kids can't get that, and so we're trying to teach them how to tell someone they don't like something without the need to shame or guilt. The way my 4 year old uses it is with A LOT of anger and rage.
Just like you said. Intent means a lot. And when they swear, it's got no intention. When they say naughty etc, they mean it with venom in the word. And that's not okay.
My daughter said fuckles for sparkles!!
My daughter is 9 and I’m the same way with her but she’s still to where she won’t say it she writes it out on a piece of paper and shows me 😂she’s just recently started doing to where if she wants to say fuck something she’ll put her middle finger to express it instead of saying it. She’s only done it when me and her have been watching horror movies together and a scary moment happens, instead of being like “ohhh no fuck this” she holds her middle finger up at the tv and just says the word this as she does it lol
That's how my Mom handled it...I'm 36.
We are a sweary family from a long line of sweary people. The only family members I can remember hating swearing was my Nan and one of her nine children. One rhe other side its swearers all around. My MIL swears when the occasion calls for it. We let our 3 kids swear when they each were around 7-9ish. they are all teens now. My oldest swears way too much and in the wrong circumstances, my middle child swears pretty frequently and knows that some people dont appreciate swearing so gage your audience first., my youngest occasionally and always apologises. They were all given the same boundaries will swearing so make of that what you will 🤷♀️