I don't want to be intimate with my spouse
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As a woman I COMPLETELY AGREE TO EACH AND EVERY WORD HE SAID
JazakAllah hu Khairan akhi. You shot arrows that hit their mark MashaAllah. Our community needs to discuss this. Ps: men can do themselves a big favour if they just lower their gaze and not look at other women and also give up pornography completely. You will thank me later. It will increase your passion with your wife by a lot.
I'm 21 and unmarried and I find this stuff very interesting and informative. I don't want to go into my marriage uninformed.
Consider yourself blessed bro, that you are learning all these information at such an young age and before marriage.
Where my teenage brothers at yoo
@@saintshaggy1372 21 is not really teenage I would say. You mature quickly so it's different.
@@saintshaggy1372 hi
@@saintshaggy1372 15 yr old here from the uk. This stuff is interesting and helpful for sure.
You have absolutely right brother. Our Ummah are good at denials and hiding things, but everything is in our Deen. Alhamdulillah
Respect, loyalty and her honour along with emotional needs is very very important to a wife. I won't say women because I don't know how women who are girlfriends feel. But a wife definatly feels the need to be respected, honered and emotionally loved. And in return she will be obedient for the sake of Allah. How can you do that is to value her efforts, her words and just be kind. The one thing that can totally rock the boat is lying or telling half truths. Once that creeps in, its finished. She will lose all respect for her husband. If a husband and wife love for the sake of Allah and marry with correct intention, then Allah will put love and sabr in their hearts. And if your married to a rotten egg, you will know that too, whether your the wife or husband. And then you get divorce and move on.
very well said.
@Jack Ass respect and abuse are 2 different things. Who in the world will call abuse respect. If these women go back its because of emotional attachment and they don't see life without them working out. Maybe if these women put Allah first and had more stronger attachment to Allah they could leave an abusive husband and get help from family. When anyone has Allah they will never feel alone or to stick with anyone who is abusing them.
@@springleaves4958 True, I am willing to obey my husband if he truly shows that he is working hard to be a real man through Quran and Sunnah but any man being physically and emotionally abusive and straying away from the religion is a huge turn off, the woman will generally want to leave that situation because we have Allah and obeying Allah provides emotional peace.
@@anikaabida6019 the word "abusive" lost its meaning every thing is abusive now its just a subjective thing That a woman could say my husband doesn't put me on a pedestal. So there he is abusive
Thats morw than my parents. My parents never toutch each other and have no attraction or love or respect for each other at all. Its messed up. And growig up i had so much childhood trauma
They don't have to touch in front of children
Jazakallahu khairan brother
MashaAllah great video
U are right emotional needs are very important for a woman..i feel i am missing this in my marriage .😢
Get your husband to watch these kind of videos or talk to him about it seriously.
Talk rational and logical.Impressed
100-percent agree with the brother
You’re very accurate
May Allah bless you for raising awareness. Everything you said was very factual and so
Important that we understand these differences.
100 percent correct
I’m a girl being married before and I agree with you Shiekh 💯💯
He's not a Shiekh, or at least he's said he isn't
@@mujtabaalam5907 Sheikh can also be used as a mean of respect to someone older or someone with a lot of knowledge.
@@ColonelFluffles True, I just remember in a specific video him saying that he never claims to be a sheikh
Marry again don't stay single
Looks are very important gents. If she's not giving it to you. Trust and believe she's giving her best to someone better looking than you.
wa aleikom Assalaam wa rahmatuLlah wa barakatuH
Assalamu Alaykum
May I ask you why is there a sound canceling foam and synthesizer along with other music equipment behind you?
If we don't follow his way we are corrupted
I havr never heard of husband and wife working out together exercising maybe if that became the norm it would help big time as both will be in better shape and are spending quality time together??
This is very interesting to know even before marriage. I’m glad I saw it 😂
Asalamualaikum brother Rumaanii,
From my experience dealing with many married women while my husband was imam in the West brother is that, it's NOT only about emotional fulfillment, but indeed for a woman it also PHYSICAL fulfillment...
So , sadly, many many many women do not get physical/ sexual fulfillment in their intimacy with their husbands and this automatically leads them to see the intimacy with them just so unpleasant duty and they will start to hide away from that.... but as soon that she HERSELF will find physical fulfillment in her relationship then she will automatically want intimacy much more
It is up to the husbands to make sure that their wives also get their fulfillment and it is up to the wives to talk about this problem and not be too ashamed or too angry that the husband does not understand that by themselves
I hope this helps.
What is this physical fulfillment
Oh ok😊 your name is beautiful make dua for me so that i get a good religious wife and also tell your huzur husband to make dua for me too.
Is there any link to do some conseling with Syaikh Gabriel?
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Can u let me know how to contact you.
What about sihr on this subject
Need to do ruqya and realise that there is a problem that will cause problems in marriage, so you both have to be understanding and remember to try your best not to fight. Have a look at saj muslim on CZcams and facebook
So what is emotional fulfillment for a woman? How does a man emotionally fulfill his wife?
@Black Roses it goes beyond that I am sure.
Understanding her thoughts, helping her out mentally and having nice conversations with her might help her emotionally
Listen to her when she comes to you and opens up to you without being judgemental. Show her that you are here for her anytime and that her words are safe with you
@Black Roses To be fair, if you look at the "raw material" it does seem treating your wife right is almost like how you're supposed to treat a child. It sounds extreme. But the thing is, it goes both ways. You should try to be an understanding and listening ear for the wife, but at the same time the wife should understand to not "take advantage" and not to bother her husband. Just like your wife should sexually please you whenever you want. However, you, as a husband, can't just expect your wife to have sex every time, because some times she might be ill or tired or really not in the mood. As long as both parties understand their rights and obligations it will be a harmony. If it's one sided it'll never work out and one person will be mistreated and/or taken advantage of.
@Black Roses i think not simping is the way to go ✊🏻
How do we ask?
Ask what?
Have a glass of water
Brother once a week is not horrible. I completely disagree with this. Me and my wife have a very fulfilled and loving relationship. But with a child or children it cant constantly be like the honeymoon phase lol. Especially after years of being married. As far as everything else I agree 100 percent.
Brother ,how does a man emotionally fulfill his wife? How can a husband keep his wife in love with him?
I have the same query.
Don't disregard her feelings in anyway. Even in argumentation, don't dismiss her, dont make her feel like she dosent have a voice. Dont gaslight, dont be avoidant or passive aggressive when it comes to problem solving. Many times, men in islamic marriages say "thats not a big deal, your making a mountain out of a mole hill" when in reality, the responsibilities of a husband and wife are different, so just bc you may think an issue she has is not a big deal to you, dosent mean she doesn't thinks the same as you. Listen attentively. Dont argue with her but listen. Be the patient one first, have sabr first. Lead by example first. Try and make her life easier by lessening some of her duties to you. This will go along way with her feeling appreciated. This I believe is how to get a woman to be submissive and obedient to you willingly without using scripture to remind her. Put yourself in the position of a wife, think about what a woman wants from her husband. Listen to other women's experiences. If you keep hearing the same thing over and over again by different women, make a mental note to implement this in your own relationship. All in all, be the person she can rely on.
By being sincerely attentive to her
You can kiss her her head and her hair you can hug her touch her like she is a bird you say to her that you love her do these things many times in a week and give her flowers and gifts sometimes maybe she will love you but dont shout at her always show mercy and listen to her opinions about things.
I don t think there is a way to keep someone in love with you ,man or woman.The love just happen.Or don t.
Walla my wife iask me for intimacy almost every day and it gets hard to give it to her every day lol
One man's problem is another man's dream subhanAllah
He can go to the store and come back ladi da di but if she goes to the store she commits zina 😂
11:06WTH you are saying that there is no way a man cannot control himself?Are u saying all the u nmarried men masturbating or doing zinah????
It is different when you are married, you are looked for not doing anything with someone else, and you don't get to do anything with your spoose, then it is a more hopeless situation to go and do zina I guess
Imagine angels cursing a wife who refuse to sleep with a husband that she is disgusted by.
Then why is she with him?
@@Inhjhgfg 100 million reasons.For example:if she have kids and exit the marriage ,she has to stay single if she wants to keep the kids,otherwise kids go to father.Or,no financial support .