I've been away from the dating "game" so long [30+ years; lost my wife to cancer], I didn't remember much of it. Watching all these videos (yours and many others) is convincing me to just remain single. Not worth the hassle, stress, uncertainty, and energy drain.
Sorry to hear of your loss, I too lost my wife to cancer 3 yrs ago. Everyone asks if I am ready to find and or be with another woman.Even though its been 3 years I know in my heart I will never be comfortable trying to meet/date another woman. I am 64 and am ok with not being with a woman... too complicated these days. To many woman at or 10-15 years below my age are only wanting to meet a man who can "take care" of them. I can honestly say I understand what the meaning of woman hitting the wall is all about. You hit the nail on the head by saying to much of a hassle, stress, uncertainty, and energy drain. Wallet drain for sure... I am going to Arizona this winter to get out of the cold weather here in the north and next year may travel to the Philippines and be a passport bro!
@goodcitizen I hear you there. No one can ever truly heal from these losses (or any, really). As for the younger(ish) women [girls, it seems], looks about right, sadly. Thanks for the kind words, all. Good luck stay strong.
You know I have a long-term lady who's in my life and is like 20 years younger than me, but just a good friend who has chewed me out for putting up with crap tests and "doing every little petty request for women I've dated, because then they will never respect [me] cuz they know they can get away with almost any outlandish request even if it makes me a convenient friend with benefits/service call at will for her or an open wallet or both." So, I basically stopped doing all this stuff. So, I no longer do stuff like that for regular acquaintances, and keep my friends (female) just that (tho, I do still entertain occasional flings it's not with the women I value as close friends. If I did I obviously wouldn't get that kind of sound advice from these ladies, I would instead be randomly called up for "service calls" or $ or favors and treated like an ATM or human vibrator or something rather than an actual person or friend worth giving honest advice to.
marriage just means you dont trust your partner. its a bogus concept. if you genuinely love your partner and they genuinely love you back then you dont need extra "proof" or sign a fucking paper that you love them
@@NakedAvanger False. Marriage is the seal of trust. If you lack trust in eachother, you wont get married. Marriage is the final step of a lifetime commitment to eachother, concrete, irrefutable definitive evidence you want eachother and no one else, as marriage is Never between more than 2 people. Claiming its bogus or lack of trust, is evidence of the type of person you are. You can keep on piling up your body count with no proper relationship nor commitment, and let others have their proper love and affection for their lifelong partners.
@@NakedAvanger "if you genuinely love your partner" I guess the US Constitution is just a paper. I guess Liberty is just a concept. I guess every other person in this world is just an opportunist "partner". If you love them. I guess a man putting his reproductive part into another man's excrement plumping is an act of love, diseased destructive love that adds to heightened suicide among that loving community. I guess a woman jamming her arm into another woman's uterus is also a loving community. Otherwise, what is marriage but a *bleep piece of paper? I guess other people are just cars and trucks that people love, they partner with. Their dog and cat makes loving partners. Maybe children born into the world are just a contractual partnership and the State owns them, otherwise what's a piece of paper? All too often the same children have no rights to life anyway, end up exterminated by their "loving" parents who don't believe in marriage.
If there were 4 things I was looking for in a woman it would be these. 1.) Integrity- Someone who can be honest with you and be honest with themselves and someone who has a moral compass even when no one is looking. 2.) .A woman who can say "I'm sorry" and "I was wrong". I have great respect for men who can do this. It shows that someone has integrity and self awareness and that they can learn from their mistakes. 3.) A woman that can be self critical without beating themselves up. The ability to see ones faults and face them. 4.) A woman who wants to build a meaningful relationship. Not one based on what they can get so much as what they receive by giving.
@@user-cz5lj2vx1f Absolutely applies to men as well. This new wave of men hating women and women hating men is incredibly destructive. I feel sorry for the younger generations that will realize this too late in life.
100% agree. My girlfriend asked already on the 2nd date to be exclusive. Not dating other people. Honestly, I was a bit surprised at 1st, but she also did not play games, no "shit tests." I have to admit I was not particularly attracted to her physical appearance, but the more I got to know her inside and personality, I quickly developed feelings for her. Now she's the most beautiful woman to me. People overestimate looks, we all do. If you're looking for a long-term partner, it's about mutual values, connection, beliefs, growing... My ex-girlfriend, I found physically attractive, but on the inside she was mean, so I lost quickly all feelings.
Same here. Although a bit early, my girlfriend and I also became exclusive on our 2nd date. We've been together for 4.5 years now and are still going strong 💪🏼
As a guy who has no clue about dating, met a woman at a party, talked nice with her, thought, she is great but don't know if she is interested in me. Met her a couple more times, I left to go home, she followed me and bluntly asked me if I am numb. Said no but afraid of rejection. Well, that was 15 years ago. Best woman ever. Love being in love with her.
I absolutely love when women are transparent and communicate their goals and foundries. I'm not a mind reader, and it would save so much time and frustration. Good list Emily!
Have self respect gents - don't play her games. Walk. Away. If she can "get away" with the (mind) games early, do you think that will ever stop going-forward? Walk away.
These are all 100% true. They are not only signs that the woman is high value but also that she is committed to making the relationship work with you specifically.
"5 Signs She's the Right Woman for You: A Dating Guide" **Summary:** In this video, the content creator discusses five essential signs that can help men identify the right woman for a committed relationship. The key takeaways from the video are as follows: **1. Lack of Alternatives:** The right woman won't entertain multiple dating options for an extended period. When the connection is genuine, both partners will naturally let go of other potential partners. Look for signs that she wants exclusivity or inquires about your dating life. **2. Avoiding Crap Tests:** The right woman won't subject you to constant "crap tests," such as canceling dates, asking for significant favors, or friend-zoning you if you say yes to everything. She respects your boundaries and doesn't put you through unnecessary tests. **3. Emotional Attachment Over Sex:** A woman interested in a committed relationship won't react well to sexualization during the early talking stages. She's looking to build an emotional connection and values more than just physical intimacy. **4. Transparency and Communication:** She will give you clear blueprints of her likes and boundaries, ensuring you know her expectations before crossing any lines. This shows that she wants your relationship to succeed. **5. Reciprocal Effort:** The right woman will make an effort in the relationship. She'll initiate texts, calls, plan dates, ask about your day, and care about your well-being. She is willing to reciprocate the effort you put in. Overall, these signs are crucial for identifying a woman who's genuinely interested in a committed, balanced, and loving relationship. Keep them in mind while dating to help you find the right partner.
I've heard on multiple videos if she makes time it's a sign of interest, rhe lady I'm interested in does this aswell as, messages 1st, gives options of where we go is always just the 2 of us all the signs she wants to be with me. But won't take the final step, I have asked. Is she unsure or am I denying the obvious and already in the zone... its been nearly 2 months.
Regarding sexualization, I've found that with only one exception I've found that after a girl has gotten comfortable with me if I just ask "hey, is this on the table?" before making any advances, I'll not only get a straight answer about it, but usually she'll match whatever respect I give to her answer. A couple times just having that respectful, boundary focused conversation about sex before doing anything has even enhanced non-sexual aspects of my relationship with women.
You are absolutely correct. By the end of the second date, she informed me that she was not going to date anyone else and asked if I wanted to go "Steady" like in high school. Now we are in our 70's, so it felt good to feel like we were by in high school, ha. She also asked about the other girls I was dating at the time. Honestly, the conversation went almost exactly as you described in your video. I recognize that this was a "decision point" in our relationship. But I felt the same way about her. Consequently, we were the ones for each other. Amazing how fast things turn when you know you are right of each other.
The right kind of woman, or man, is kind, compassionate, funny, easy to be with and respectful. When people play games with each other, it's an attempt to gain power over the other. Relationships with an unequal power dynamic can be stable until they are not, which is how we have a 50% divorce rate. Sadly far too many people allow insecurity to guide their actions and choices.
One perspective about a woman "not having to compete with another woman for a man" is that the woman in question is failing to see that the man she is interested in has no desire to get in the dating game nor will put up with the foolishness it brings into his life. She is going to have to compete with his preference for his peace and solitude without having to inform anyone of his leaving and coming home. Living your life without responsibility to yet another woman is damn liberating. In other words....... she's going to have to be mature (wise beyond her years) and secure within herself and the man she's targeted. Yep, targeted. Oooo...one more thing. I don't stand in line for any woman.
I was in the talking phase with three different when I met my wife on a dating app. One dropped off twice rather quickly. I could see by each first date with my eventual wife and the other lady that both were marriage material. It was by far the most difficult decision I could make. I was open with both of them about talking to the other, which they were appreciative of. The lady I did not marry was previously married and could tell I was more into my wife to be. Once my obliviousness wore off, we kindly and mutually parted ways, and the rest is history.
I never had a girlfriend until I met my wife. I didn’t play the dating game although opportunities were left and right when I was still in the Navy. I didn’t look for her. She just suddenly came into my life. 28 years later, we’re still a family.
I am very loyal to a woman who comes into my life from the start.I never argue with my partner,so if she tries she will have to say sorry in the end,I can debate anything
When I had dated my wife for about a month. I told her that I was painting my kitchen and livingroom over the weekend. She showed up at my house in painting clothes and asked if I wanted help? We had a great time with music playing and pizza. She lost a bet and had to paint naked!! It was a game changer in regards to that she wanted to be a contributor to a relationship, she didn't have a problem getting her hands dirty,and she was a great sport about losing a bet! All of which has made our marriage successful.
Best advice I've ever heard in CZcams! No joke. I always expected games and feared that she would not see me as enough, but I completely agree that if she's the right girl she will accept me just the way I am. Also would show she's a high quality woman.
About setting boundaries early on, that was her. I cautiously overshot here and there and made a big mistake that made me think she would drop me, rightfully so, but she didn't. All of this while we (officially) were just friends, and now we're very happy in a relationship. She "fails" a bit on the reciprocating part, but she has powerful reasons to. I'm pretty sure we'll end up married.
Make sure she wants to fix those issues. It's a holding a spoon for a month vs a decade thing in a relationship. No relationship is perfect, but reciprocity should not be an area where you compromise.
Plant seeds water it with love and have patience, woman think things through over time and eventually she will start a conversation about what you said and what her thoughts are and she will probably agree with you.
This is true everything you said is spot on. I have never done the dating scene just hoped it would happen naturally and had been searching for the woman of my dreams (I'm very specific) my most of my life and then one day I get a knock on the door and there she was all (157cm/5ft & 47kg/103lb) so I invited her in and we ended up talking for hours we hung out a few more times and I KNEW I had finally found her and so I gave myself fully to her and her alone then and there. She was so beautiful in every way she was so smart and funny we had such an amazing time together and she was exactly like how you describe in this video. She had been severely hurt by a guy years earlier and had been alone for over 10 years because she hated males. I showed her that I was a gentle, caring and loving man that was capable of protecting her I was the first she had ever fallen in love with and same for me. I had never known that kind of happiness before, the kind a man gets when he is with a good loving woman it was literally paradise. She died recently and now I'm just an empty space with a memory of her face. I will never be with anyone ever again no one can match her and I don't want to let anyone try. Males if you find her (the woman you want to love) follow this lady's advice and become a man because ONLY a man loves, protects and cares for the woman in his life if you do anything else your not a man your an adult child. Hold on to the ones you love guys and show them you love them it's very easy just listen to them, dream with them, plan with them, tell them how much you love them multiple times a day and how beautiful they are in every way not just physical point out the things you love about them (their beautiful eyes, smile, intelligence, anything) only talk to another female if it's professional and NEVER look at another. She should be your partner, lover, best friend talk to her about your life and ask for her opinion not your friends she should ALWAYS come first before ALL. You should be wanting to spend your time with her and not your friends because then she isn't central to your life and she SHOULD be. A good woman is the best thing a good man will EVER have in his life and they are worth everything. Sorry I know this is long but this is only a nut shell I could write a book on it.
Thank you, Emily. These are great! The thing about the tests, if someone asks or does these things would signal to me that she is a hot mess and I would walk away anyway. I am supportive of my partner, but I am not carrying all the weight. Unnecessary drama is the last thing I am going to let into my life.
Agree that no one deserves unnecessary drama and tests, but there are however some small tests done at the beginning that can tell you a lot about a new partner, because these are not really the things that can be found out in a conversation. As an example, I watch a guy's reaction to something and that tells me if I can respect him; if he holds his own with a challenging question or comment, like he's not going to change himself in order to impress me. Men also test women; her reaction to a physical move which is too soon maybe, how she reacts if he compliments another woman, etc.
@@ashton1952 I guess I see that as different from testing. I agree with these things. I just see them as natural occurrences in learning about each other. Maybe it is because they are more subtle and the things Emily described are just a test for the purpose of testing.
I think the one about not sexualizing is a difficult one in todays dating scene. I have experienced several times now, that not sexualizing woman early on was taken as me not really being interested, or at least not being interested romantically but only as a friend. It seems to me that hook up culture really have distorted the way these things work. Because sexual escalation pretty much right away (at least showing that you want it) is expected if you are interested beyond friendship. Now of course one may say that these are simply not the right women, if they expects this, but this culture is so prevalent these days, that it can be hard to find women who are truly of a different mindset (outside of fx religious communities).
may be then they where not the right one's anyways? If she is looking for a hookup then this make sense - but a woman looking for a long lasting relationship should want to know you better before having sex, and may be those who will "test sexual compability" first have not understand what relationship is and also not, what's about sex...
All you have to do is show interest in a non-verbal way that creates physical intimacy but doesn’t come off as a strong sexual advance. Ex. Sit side by side during dinner and share your meal with her, hold her hand, give her a warm hug before/after the date, make eye contact and glance at her while she is not looking and let her catch that smirk shyly as you got caught and look away . That will all give her the clue that you have interest in her and she will instinctively know sex is part of your interest
@@SabrinaDacosta I have tried that before, and still they have been surprised when I expressed interest beyond friendship. My experience really have been, that the sexual advance has to be quite big. Like trying to kiss her or rubbing her thigh. Holding hands, looking into each others eyes and such was not enough to let them know, that I was romantically interested. They still did not think it was more than friendship. It surprised me as well, that they did not pick up on it.
Thanks much so from all your tips I pretty much got my baby’s mummy completely wrong and now I’m the one who’s left with absolutely nothing haven’t even met my baby yet 😭☺️❤️
This particular video is Spot On! Thanks Ms. King... I was personally able to match the woman that I'm currently dating and in love with to these five signs... I'm
Only Christian women have value,morals, ethics and standards that have value, they know who they are and how to behave before God 🙏 and man, all other women are trouble !!! 🤡🤡🤡
My lady fit all of those criteria. We were interested in only each other within 2 months, and engage soon after. We've been married for almost 30 years and still going strong.
Yeah things are extremely different in this day and age, back in the day you didnt needed people to tell you how to navigate through all of the bs that is the dating scene rn
VIDEO IDEA: might consider doing a video/topic on women’s reactions when men come in too strong. Or something about that. I’ve done that a couple of times and then been rejected. Thanks! Great content.
The last time was a person that I had met while working, she was a client going through a divorce. We had some energy together but she was not yet divorced. About a year later, we meet again and now she was divorced. Then I saw her online, hinge maybe, and asked her out. Met we for coffee and ended up extending the date through lunch including a long walk in a tree lined park just talking together. We kissed when we left, I told her that I like her. Never heard from again. Am I supposed to like someone and not extend the date? It’s disheartening because it takes a long time to meet someone that you feel is compatible. Maybe I just need to accept that when she left she simply wasn’t in the same place, maybe too freshly divorced, and instead of talking or evening texting, she just ghosted.
Hey Emily. Just as a 30 year old man who is single and maybe doesnt want to date i just wanted to take the time to thank you for you content it makes alot of things ive wondered for a long time clear. Thank you for your perspective you often biting wit and congratulations on your tiny human.
Nice video. Thanks. I haven't dated in forever because my wife of 24 years died last year, but I know I'm looking for a giver, not a taker when I do start dating.
Been married for a while now and all of these things were dead on except for the last one. She didn't expect a ton from me. Just expected me to show her love and not be a jerk.
If you are really right for each other, then neither of you will be in fear that it is not working out. If it is meant to be then you will find a way together.
Recently, I was heartbroken because the girl showed lots of early signs of being the right woman, but all of a sudden she switched off on the pretext of not wanting to be with anyone. People are very unpredictable.
Please, please don't let her be the right one. The rejection will be devastating. So much easier when she's not the right one. Soooo much easier. ;p All I can say after point number five is, I'm doomed. 😂
I am a 57yr old widower, posting on my late wife's account. She and I went out on one date, slept together that night and were excusive from that point on. Married a year later and were growing our bond stronger when the cancer came for her 13 years into our marriage. After that relationship, not sure I want another. But I agree with everything here.
I'm more like the woman to be honest. I tell them what I expect. I expect it to go both ways. I don't date though, I attract and gauge how the women behave.
At 53 and now single for 4 years I have no desire to enter another relationship. I tried dating once in that time but the lady decided on a guy that treated her bad. Later I found out that she questioned why she didn't choose me. Well, probably because I treated her well. I didn't need anything financial from her just to spend time together. Anyway, I've just decided that I will not try anymore especially if there have to be games. I'm too old for that. I have friends and family in my life as well as my buddy (dog) so I'm good.
Just wanted to say it's so refreshing to see a normal woman. Always seem to attract the narcissist. I give and give and give and they take and take and take but they won't do anything in return. I figured out how to get rid of them though I'll pretend like I don't have any income I'm broke, they make up an excuse to go visit a relative and I never hear from them again. I've watched the number of your videos so and you really seem to have a handle on how to treat a man and how a man should treat you... Your husband is a very lucky, thanks for the content it comes in handy I'm trying to understand certain types of women.
So true what you say in all these reasons. The main one for me is she not initiating first contact. It will be OK at first, bit when it is always like that.... So that is why I am still single. The only lady that intiate first contact is unfortunately unavailable.
I'm really glad you put up these videos. Ive been learning so much! It's really hard for me to understand women not just because its hard for all of us men but also because I have a little bit of autism. Its not much and you probably wouldn't know it reading this. So i have this question. There's a woman i really like and she is a single mom. She's a really really sweet person, and i feel like were at the talking stage. So i asked her out a few days ago and she very sweet and kindly said she couldn't because shes spends all her time When shes not at work with her kids. And one of them is a 9 or 10 month old baby. So i can definitely understand her needing to be with her baby. If shes interested but not wanting to go out. Is that an early sign she might not be the right kind of woman for me? P.s. I know there's the heck no group that'll say don't even think about it! 😂.
About to turn 40, and the kind of woman you're describing seems like a Unicorn to me lol. I do know one, she's one of my best friends, and she's married with kids.
Ive been dating for a few years now, most point I already knew instinctively. It’s good to know, harder to implement though ahah. I’ve just faced a difficult situation where this girl had agoraphobia and couldn’t come to see me… at first I thought she was playing games, then I felt she wasn’t reciprocating my efforts… and I got very anxiously attached, shortly after she ended it. Crazy! I wonder if I should try contacting her again after a while..?
I’ve been with a woman for 4 years and engaged for 1.5 years. She just dumped me. I’m not trying to be ugly but whatever. I’m 52. I’ll be fine alone. I took great care of her and her children and grandchildren but I’m completely fine. Awesome babe. I hope you find what you are expecting.
It's easier for me. 1) Her voice cradles the soul, taking me home, a place which has not existed physically for years. 2) My body feels as if it's being irradiated with goodness and love. 3) Her size and shape are my ideal. 4) Her laughter is perfect sound, the most beautiful sound I have ever heard as a musician. There's more, but suffice it to say that imposters just can't cut it.
Hello Emily, How are you today? This is from France, by the by. My English is a little rusty I admit. First off, well done for your content. This is going to be a bit of long winded, sorry. I wanted to leave you this comment for some time now. I have been in a couple for a few years now (I have got it very wrong a few times, but she still puts up with me...), I am a father twice. I don't have recent experience in the dating scene at the moment, neither in france nor elsewhere. But i can see that female an male acquaintances are struggling with finding a suitable partner. But watching your content, it reminded me of a French radio programme I heard some 25 years ago... I tried to find a trace of it for substance, but I couldn't find anything, unlucky... But the comment of the female guest had striken me. She explained (from my memory, if i am not too mistaken) that in France in the 15th, 16tn century, amongst aristocrates, marriage could be organised the following way. The man would express in romantique interest for a lady. In order to check the contecnt of his character, le lady could, quite openly (his/her acquaintances would be made aware of) set a serie of challenges as a pre-requisite to marriage. If he accepted and fullfilled, she would be his, for better for worse... If he refused the challenges, she would walk away. Apparently, most men took on those challenges. The method appears to have been popular at the time. I am not saying we should do the same. First of all, women at the time were much less free than today. But powerless as they may have been, some did find a way to check the content of the character of a given suitor. But i can't help but think there is minset to be looked into. To summarise. Be plain, from first contact (or first date) with the guy, that expressed an romantique interest, about the behaviours and attitudes your looking for in a man, and that for the first six months/ year, you will see how he does on those concerns of yours. Once the year is past, both you and the guy can decide which way to proceed in good knowledge and transparency. It may not be passionnate; but it may avoid disappointment later on. Thanks for reading me that far, I only hope I made my point clearly enough as it stands. Please let me know if you would like any clarification. Looking forward to your future content. Yours, Damien.
I did have a woman who did some of the things mention, but I recently cut her out of my life because after a talk she and I had about a month ago, she said I never had a chance to be something more with her. She supposedly in love with a mutual friend she and I have who does not even live near by.. she wants to keep me in the dreaded friendzone, so I moved her to the out of my life zone. I Have not contacted her since the talk she and I had in September 2023. though for some reason she randomly called me a couple weeks ago on 13 October 2023, and part of me wanted to ignore her call, but I ended up answering it and she and I talked for about a half hour. but since that day, though I have not made contact with her. Though i've had some weekends i've felt tempted to contact her but have not done so.
@@raybod1775 shit shes chose a mutual friend over me, and the mutual friend lives 1000 miles in another state. does not even live near by. as I mentioned in the post, I had not talked to her since the conversation in September, until the one day october when she decided to call me out of the blue.
@@jamesbickle4912 She already told me I never had a chance to become something more with her. and again I have not made any contact with her since that talk in September. I have not texted her, have not called her nothing. I Have not even seen her since that day. though when she called me on October 13, she hinted at wanting to go bowling or something together, and I indirectly told her no, i'd think about it, and I never contacted her.
You're with the right woman if you're calm being around her. She does not strain you, cause any insecurities or worries.
Bingo
And if she’s the right woman, it’s easy to be the best version of yourself. The wrong women will bring out the worst in you.
So true, I was always walking on eggshells with my ex, horrible way to live.
Same as the right man.
In other words, she'll be sane. Good luck on finding one of those.
I've been away from the dating "game" so long [30+ years; lost my wife to cancer], I didn't remember much of it. Watching all these videos (yours and many others) is convincing me to just remain single. Not worth the hassle, stress, uncertainty, and energy drain.
Sorry to hear of your loss, I too lost my wife to cancer 3 yrs ago. Everyone asks if I am ready to find and or be with another woman.Even though its been 3 years I know in my heart I will never be comfortable trying to meet/date another woman. I am 64 and am ok with not being with a woman... too complicated these days. To many woman at or 10-15 years below my age are only wanting to meet a man who can "take care" of them. I can honestly say I understand what the meaning of woman hitting the wall is all about. You hit the nail on the head by saying to much of a hassle, stress, uncertainty, and energy drain.
Wallet drain for sure... I am going to Arizona this winter to get out of the cold weather here in the north and next year may travel to the Philippines and be a passport bro!
Sorry for both of your losses about your wives. That's really heartbreaking to hear. I hope you 2 can heal and find love again. 😢
@goodcitizen I hear you there. No one can ever truly heal from these losses (or any, really). As for the younger(ish) women [girls, it seems], looks about right, sadly.
Thanks for the kind words, all. Good luck stay strong.
You know I have a long-term lady who's in my life and is like 20 years younger than me, but just a good friend who has chewed me out for putting up with crap tests and "doing every little petty request for women I've dated, because then they will never respect [me] cuz they know they can get away with almost any outlandish request even if it makes me a convenient friend with benefits/service call at will for her or an open wallet or both." So, I basically stopped doing all this stuff. So, I no longer do stuff like that for regular acquaintances, and keep my friends (female) just that (tho, I do still entertain occasional flings it's not with the women I value as close friends. If I did I obviously wouldn't get that kind of sound advice from these ladies, I would instead be randomly called up for "service calls" or $ or favors and treated like an ATM or human vibrator or something rather than an actual person or friend worth giving honest advice to.
agreed brother dont bother with dating anymore even me at 34 its becoming a joke....
If women don't understand what marriage is, don't expect them to understand what dating is supposed to be.
Exactly!
marriage just means you dont trust your partner. its a bogus concept.
if you genuinely love your partner and they genuinely love you back then you dont need extra "proof" or sign a fucking paper that you love them
@@NakedAvanger False. Marriage is the seal of trust. If you lack trust in eachother, you wont get married.
Marriage is the final step of a lifetime commitment to eachother, concrete, irrefutable definitive evidence you want eachother and no one else, as marriage is Never between more than 2 people. Claiming its bogus or lack of trust, is evidence of the type of person you are. You can keep on piling up your body count with no proper relationship nor commitment, and let others have their proper love and affection for their lifelong partners.
@@NakedAvanger "if you genuinely love your partner"
I guess the US Constitution is just a paper. I guess Liberty is just a concept. I guess every other person in this world is just an opportunist "partner". If you love them.
I guess a man putting his reproductive part into another man's excrement plumping is an act of love, diseased destructive love that adds to heightened suicide among that loving community. I guess a woman jamming her arm into another woman's uterus is also a loving community.
Otherwise, what is marriage but a *bleep piece of paper?
I guess other people are just cars and trucks that people love, they partner with. Their dog and cat makes loving partners.
Maybe children born into the world are just a contractual partnership and the State owns them, otherwise what's a piece of paper? All too often the same children have no rights to life anyway, end up exterminated by their "loving" parents who don't believe in marriage.
@@NakedAvangerNo, marriage has been the established agreement in many cultures for centuries! 🥸
If there were 4 things I was looking for in a woman it would be these.
1.) Integrity- Someone who can be honest with you and be honest with themselves and someone who has a moral compass even when no one is looking.
2.) .A woman who can say "I'm sorry" and "I was wrong". I have great respect for men who can do this. It shows that someone has integrity and self awareness and that they can learn from their mistakes.
3.) A woman that can be self critical without beating themselves up. The ability to see ones faults and face them.
4.) A woman who wants to build a meaningful relationship. Not one based on what they can get so much as what they receive by giving.
These could all equally apply to MEN that women should be looking for! CHARACTER counts.
Woman here 👋 I just gotta say that integrity is also my #1
@@user-cz5lj2vx1f Absolutely applies to men as well. This new wave of men hating women and women hating men is incredibly destructive. I feel sorry for the younger generations that will realize this too late in life.
100% agree. My girlfriend asked already on the 2nd date to be exclusive. Not dating other people. Honestly, I was a bit surprised at 1st, but she also did not play games, no "shit tests." I have to admit I was not particularly attracted to her physical appearance, but the more I got to know her inside and personality, I quickly developed feelings for her. Now she's the most beautiful woman to me. People overestimate looks, we all do. If you're looking for a long-term partner, it's about mutual values, connection, beliefs, growing... My ex-girlfriend, I found physically attractive, but on the inside she was mean, so I lost quickly all feelings.
This is an extremely common pretty logic basic thought, you didnt reinvented the wheel
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 but he isn't wrong to emphasize on it as some people lose track of this sort of stuff
@@Kenny-ep2nf only dumb people
Same here. Although a bit early, my girlfriend and I also became exclusive on our 2nd date. We've been together for 4.5 years now and are still going strong 💪🏼
@@andnowyouknow3363 good stuff mate
Here are my 5: Clarity. Maturity. Stability. Kindness. Bring joy and beauty into my life.
As a guy who has no clue about dating, met a woman at a party, talked nice with her, thought, she is great but don't know if she is interested in me. Met her a couple more times, I left to go home, she followed me and bluntly asked me if I am numb. Said no but afraid of rejection. Well, that was 15 years ago. Best woman ever. Love being in love with her.
Awesome story. The good ones are still out there
Love that ❤
sounds like my woman - 32 years together and still happy every day.
I absolutely love when women are transparent and communicate their goals and foundries. I'm not a mind reader, and it would save so much time and frustration.
Good list Emily!
“The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”
I'm ...... waiting for the rainbow.
Well your going have to get through at least one or two hurricanes on top of that.
@@brokeboy87 Two? Damn. Already did one, was hoping that was it.
We press on!
The last hurricane tore up everything, but the foundation. I am still rebuilding.
Facts lmao
Not a good idea first thing taken by the wind will be your umbrella that's when your decision must be made
Have self respect gents - don't play her games. Walk. Away. If she can "get away" with the (mind) games early, do you think that will ever stop going-forward? Walk away.
These are all 100% true. They are not only signs that the woman is high value but also that she is committed to making the relationship work with you specifically.
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**3. Emotional Attachment Over Sex:** A woman interested in a committed relationship won't react well to sexualization during the early talking stages. She's looking to build an emotional connection and values more than just physical intimacy.
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Great online & summary
Hi ChatGPT
That AI works well! Fascinating!
I've heard on multiple videos if she makes time it's a sign of interest, rhe lady I'm interested in does this aswell as, messages 1st, gives options of where we go is always just the 2 of us all the signs she wants to be with me. But won't take the final step, I have asked. Is she unsure or am I denying the obvious and already in the zone... its been nearly 2 months.
@@martinking9945 You've been in the zone since day one my man. Walk away.
You got me at the "she will give you the blueprint". What an excellent analogy! A lot of the success here is communication. Your channel rock :)
A woman that does a "test".. red flag. RUN
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Regarding sexualization, I've found that with only one exception I've found that after a girl has gotten comfortable with me if I just ask "hey, is this on the table?" before making any advances, I'll not only get a straight answer about it, but usually she'll match whatever respect I give to her answer. A couple times just having that respectful, boundary focused conversation about sex before doing anything has even enhanced non-sexual aspects of my relationship with women.
As a woman-Bingo!
You are absolutely correct. By the end of the second date, she informed me that she was not going to date anyone else and asked if I wanted to go "Steady" like in high school. Now we are in our 70's, so it felt good to feel like we were by in high school, ha. She also asked about the other girls I was dating at the time. Honestly, the conversation went almost exactly as you described in your video. I recognize that this was a "decision point" in our relationship. But I felt the same way about her. Consequently, we were the ones for each other. Amazing how fast things turn when you know you are right of each other.
The right kind of woman, or man, is kind, compassionate, funny, easy to be with and respectful. When people play games with each other, it's an attempt to gain power over the other. Relationships with an unequal power dynamic can be stable until they are not, which is how we have a 50% divorce rate. Sadly far too many people allow insecurity to guide their actions and choices.
Correct
One perspective about a woman "not having to compete with another woman for a man" is that the woman in question is failing to see that the man she is interested in has no desire to get in the dating game nor will put up with the foolishness it brings into his life. She is going to have to compete with his preference for his peace and solitude without having to inform anyone of his leaving and coming home. Living your life without responsibility to yet another woman is damn liberating. In other words....... she's going to have to be mature (wise beyond her years) and secure within herself and the man she's targeted. Yep, targeted. Oooo...one more thing. I don't stand in line for any woman.
I was in the talking phase with three different when I met my wife on a dating app. One dropped off twice rather quickly. I could see by each first date with my eventual wife and the other lady that both were marriage material. It was by far the most difficult decision I could make. I was open with both of them about talking to the other, which they were appreciative of. The lady I did not marry was previously married and could tell I was more into my wife to be. Once my obliviousness wore off, we kindly and mutually parted ways, and the rest is history.
I never had a girlfriend until I met my wife. I didn’t play the dating game although opportunities were left and right when I was still in the Navy. I didn’t look for her. She just suddenly came into my life. 28 years later, we’re still a family.
I am very loyal to a woman who comes into my life from the start.I never argue with my partner,so if she tries she will have to say sorry in the end,I can debate anything
Thanks Emily, but you forgot to mention the name and location of this remote island where these awesome women live.
Fantasy island.
When I had dated my wife for about a month. I told her that I was painting my kitchen and livingroom over the weekend. She showed up at my house in painting clothes and asked if I wanted help? We had a great time with music playing and pizza. She lost a bet and had to paint naked!! It was a game changer in regards to that she wanted to be a contributor to a relationship, she didn't have a problem getting her hands dirty,and she was a great sport about losing a bet! All of which has made our marriage successful.
Good woman will not test you like that!!
Best advice I've ever heard in CZcams! No joke. I always expected games and feared that she would not see me as enough, but I completely agree that if she's the right girl she will accept me just the way I am. Also would show she's a high quality woman.
Putting in all the effort for years is unbelievably exhausting.
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About setting boundaries early on, that was her.
I cautiously overshot here and there and made a big mistake that made me think she would drop me, rightfully so, but she didn't.
All of this while we (officially) were just friends, and now we're very happy in a relationship.
She "fails" a bit on the reciprocating part, but she has powerful reasons to.
I'm pretty sure we'll end up married.
Make sure she wants to fix those issues. It's a holding a spoon for a month vs a decade thing in a relationship. No relationship is perfect, but reciprocity should not be an area where you compromise.
Plant seeds water it with love and have patience, woman think things through over time and eventually she will start a conversation about what you said and what her thoughts are and she will probably agree with you.
Non reciprocal relationships are soul sucking.
@@Theviewerdude Yeah the minute I read that my stomach dropped for him. Doesn't work long term.
AMAZING and the MOST INSIGHTFUL CZcams channel regarding relationships. Hands down....
Once again, you're spot on, and i am in awe of your insight.
Keep up the great work.
Congrats on your kid, she has a great mom!
I love your dating videos. They’re down to earth, and to the point. Amazing! I hope the ladies are listening too.
I’ve out of dating for so long now. This sounds exhausting. I’m not feeling it at all.
Sounds like a dog at crufts the dog show jumping through hoops. Dating has to change for me to step my toe back on the water.
This is true everything you said is spot on. I have never done the dating scene just hoped it would happen naturally and had been searching for the woman of my dreams (I'm very specific) my most of my life and then one day I get a knock on the door and there she was all (157cm/5ft & 47kg/103lb) so I invited her in and we ended up talking for hours we hung out a few more times and I KNEW I had finally found her and so I gave myself fully to her and her alone then and there. She was so beautiful in every way she was so smart and funny we had such an amazing time together and she was exactly like how you describe in this video. She had been severely hurt by a guy years earlier and had been alone for over 10 years because she hated males. I showed her that I was a gentle, caring and loving man that was capable of protecting her I was the first she had ever fallen in love with and same for me. I had never known that kind of happiness before, the kind a man gets when he is with a good loving woman it was literally paradise. She died recently and now I'm just an empty space with a memory of her face. I will never be with anyone ever again no one can match her and I don't want to let anyone try. Males if you find her (the woman you want to love) follow this lady's advice and become a man because ONLY a man loves, protects and cares for the woman in his life if you do anything else your not a man your an adult child. Hold on to the ones you love guys and show them you love them it's very easy just listen to them, dream with them, plan with them, tell them how much you love them multiple times a day and how beautiful they are in every way not just physical point out the things you love about them (their beautiful eyes, smile, intelligence, anything) only talk to another female if it's professional and NEVER look at another. She should be your partner, lover, best friend talk to her about your life and ask for her opinion not your friends she should ALWAYS come first before ALL. You should be wanting to spend your time with her and not your friends because then she isn't central to your life and she SHOULD be. A good woman is the best thing a good man will EVER have in his life and they are worth everything. Sorry I know this is long but this is only a nut shell I could write a book on it.
I’m so sorry that you lost your soulmate. Much respect
This is the best comment I've seen in a while. Thanks for putting that out there, sorry for your lost men, and I'm glad you got to experience her
This response must have been done by a girl.
Im so glad someone is willing to speak on this.
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Welcome back Emily. We missed you. Congratulation on you beautiful baby girl :)
Thank you for doing what you do. It will help so many people get on the right track to the right relationship. Bravo!
Thank you, Emily. These are great!
The thing about the tests, if someone asks or does these things would signal to me that she is a hot mess and I would walk away anyway. I am supportive of my partner, but I am not carrying all the weight. Unnecessary drama is the last thing I am going to let into my life.
Agree that no one deserves unnecessary drama and tests, but there are however some small tests done at the beginning that can tell you a lot about a new partner, because these are not really the things that can be found out in a conversation. As an example, I watch a guy's reaction to something and that tells me if I can respect him; if he holds his own with a challenging question or comment, like he's not going to change himself in order to impress me. Men also test women; her reaction to a physical move which is too soon maybe, how she reacts if he compliments another woman, etc.
@@ashton1952 I guess I see that as different from testing. I agree with these things. I just see them as natural occurrences in learning about each other. Maybe it is because they are more subtle and the things Emily described are just a test for the purpose of testing.
I think the one about not sexualizing is a difficult one in todays dating scene. I have experienced several times now, that not sexualizing woman early on was taken as me not really being interested, or at least not being interested romantically but only as a friend. It seems to me that hook up culture really have distorted the way these things work. Because sexual escalation pretty much right away (at least showing that you want it) is expected if you are interested beyond friendship. Now of course one may say that these are simply not the right women, if they expects this, but this culture is so prevalent these days, that it can be hard to find women who are truly of a different mindset (outside of fx religious communities).
If you're having sex before marriage you're making a huge mistake. Old fashioned but true, and one reason why our culture is so screwed up.
may be then they where not the right one's anyways? If she is looking for a hookup then this make sense - but a woman looking for a long lasting relationship should want to know you better before having sex, and may be those who will "test sexual compability" first have not understand what relationship is and also not, what's about sex...
All you have to do is show interest in a non-verbal way that creates physical intimacy but doesn’t come off as a strong sexual advance. Ex. Sit side by side during dinner and share your meal with her, hold her hand, give her a warm hug before/after the date, make eye contact and glance at her while she is not looking and let her catch that smirk shyly as you got caught and look away . That will all give her the clue that you have interest in her and she will instinctively know sex is part of your interest
@@SabrinaDacosta I have tried that before, and still they have been surprised when I expressed interest beyond friendship. My experience really have been, that the sexual advance has to be quite big. Like trying to kiss her or rubbing her thigh. Holding hands, looking into each others eyes and such was not enough to let them know, that I was romantically interested. They still did not think it was more than friendship. It surprised me as well, that they did not pick up on it.
Bingo-you’re likely only going to find this in a Christian woman. The secular culture puts the cart before the horse.
Thank you Emily. Your insights and advice are priceless and appreciated. And always delivered with a smile. 😁
Love your advice. Very helpful.
Hi Emily you've got it absolutely right. I also have two more to add. She has siblings and her parents made their marriage work.
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Yes- you are absolutely right! Love your videos!
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Thanks much so from all your tips I pretty much got my baby’s mummy completely wrong and now I’m the one who’s left with absolutely nothing haven’t even met my baby yet 😭☺️❤️
This particular video is Spot On! Thanks Ms. King... I was personally able to match the woman that I'm currently dating and in love with to these five signs... I'm
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Many thanks Emily for sharing your thoughts with me, I appreciate your time and effort 👌 ❤😊
Only Christian women have value,morals, ethics and standards that have value, they know who they are and how to behave before God 🙏 and man, all other women are trouble !!! 🤡🤡🤡
Brilliant, thank you!
My lady fit all of those criteria. We were interested in only each other within 2 months, and engage soon after. We've been married for almost 30 years and still going strong.
Yeah things are extremely different in this day and age, back in the day you didnt needed people to tell you how to navigate through all of the bs that is the dating scene rn
Unfortunately those types are less and less common
Love your channel. Maybe think about segmenting your videos so that each “thing” is equal length. It’s easier to navigate.
Would need a mind reading device and the patience of Jobe.
VIDEO IDEA: might consider doing a video/topic on women’s reactions when men come in too strong. Or something about that. I’ve done that a couple of times and then been rejected. Thanks! Great content.
The last time was a person that I had met while working, she was a client going through a divorce. We had some energy together but she was not yet divorced. About a year later, we meet again and now she was divorced. Then I saw her online, hinge maybe, and asked her out. Met we for coffee and ended up extending the date through lunch including a long walk in a tree lined park just talking together. We kissed when we left, I told her that I like her. Never heard from again. Am I supposed to like someone and not extend the date? It’s disheartening because it takes a long time to meet someone that you feel is compatible. Maybe I just need to accept that when she left she simply wasn’t in the same place, maybe too freshly divorced, and instead of talking or evening texting, she just ghosted.
Hey Emily. Just as a 30 year old man who is single and maybe doesnt want to date i just wanted to take the time to thank you for you content it makes alot of things ive wondered for a long time clear. Thank you for your perspective you often biting wit and congratulations on your tiny human.
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Good indicators guys.
When it comes to the "talking stage" I've found telling women they look nice generally makes them go away, leaving you in peace
That's odd. Ur doing something wrong
@@agentnukaz1715 your guess is as good as mine 🤣
very good advice!!
Great advise.
Nice video. Thanks. I haven't dated in forever because my wife of 24 years died last year, but I know I'm looking for a giver, not a taker when I do start dating.
Been married for a while now and all of these things were dead on except for the last one. She didn't expect a ton from me. Just expected me to show her love and not be a jerk.
Really helpful
Yup, still following Em
Great video 🙂
you nailed it. 👍
We have been married 60 years and you are give the right advise.
Yeah the thing is, dating scene nowadays is a shitshow, even dating 10 years ago was a whole different beast that it is nowadays
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thanks Emily, you're a treasure
Spot on. Perfecto!
If you are really right for each other, then neither of you will be in fear that it is not working out. If it is meant to be then you will find a way together.
Thank you Emily
Recently, I was heartbroken because the girl showed lots of early signs of being the right woman, but all of a sudden she switched off on the pretext of not wanting to be with anyone. People are very unpredictable.
Thank you. I likely confuse friendship with romantic interest.
Please, please don't let her be the right one. The rejection will be devastating. So much easier when she's not the right one. Soooo much easier. ;p
All I can say after point number five is, I'm doomed. 😂
There is no right one.
I am a 57yr old widower, posting on my late wife's account. She and I went out on one date, slept together that night and were excusive from that point on. Married a year later and were growing our bond stronger when the cancer came for her 13 years into our marriage. After that relationship, not sure I want another. But I agree with everything here.
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This is all assuming that you can actually find a woman who doesn't ghost you in like a week just for an ego boost.
Thats a stretch because most of them wont even reply you back lmao
Newly subscribed and love the content!
I'm more like the woman to be honest. I tell them what I expect. I expect it to go both ways. I don't date though, I attract and gauge how the women behave.
At 53 and now single for 4 years I have no desire to enter another relationship. I tried dating once in that time but the lady decided on a guy that treated her bad. Later I found out that she questioned why she didn't choose me. Well, probably because I treated her well. I didn't need anything financial from her just to spend time together. Anyway, I've just decided that I will not try anymore especially if there have to be games. I'm too old for that. I have friends and family in my life as well as my buddy (dog) so I'm good.
You are not alone, I'm 25 and the dating scene is no better at this age
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Love it
Great video.
When she loves you, it's pretty obvious. But this is a good breakdown.
They are incapable of love. What they call love is infatuation and lust. Nothing more.
Just wanted to say it's so refreshing to see a normal woman. Always seem to attract the narcissist. I give and give and give and they take and take and take but they won't do anything in return. I figured out how to get rid of them though I'll pretend like I don't have any income I'm broke, they make up an excuse to go visit a relative and I never hear from them again. I've watched the number of your videos so and you really seem to have a handle on how to treat a man and how a man should treat you... Your husband is a very lucky, thanks for the content it comes in handy I'm trying to understand certain types of women.
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So true what you say in all these reasons. The main one for me is she not initiating first contact. It will be OK at first, bit when it is always like that....
So that is why I am still single.
The only lady that intiate first contact is unfortunately unavailable.
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I agree with you.
I'm really glad you put up these videos. Ive been learning so much! It's really hard for me to understand women not just because its hard for all of us men but also because I have a little bit of autism. Its not much and you probably wouldn't know it reading this. So i have this question. There's a woman i really like and she is a single mom. She's a really really sweet person, and i feel like were at the talking stage. So i asked her out a few days ago and she very sweet and kindly said she couldn't because shes spends all her time When shes not at work with her kids. And one of them is a 9 or 10 month old baby. So i can definitely understand her needing to be with her baby. If shes interested but not wanting to go out. Is that an early sign she might not be the right kind of woman for me? P.s. I know there's the heck no group that'll say don't even think about it! 😂.
Thank you :)
this is true because as soon as i recognize a test, i fail it on purpose to see how she reacts to failure. call it my own personal test to test her
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You should make your own dating meet and greats. I bet that would work out well.
About to turn 40, and the kind of woman you're describing seems like a Unicorn to me lol. I do know one, she's one of my best friends, and she's married with kids.
Ive been dating for a few years now, most point I already knew instinctively. It’s good to know, harder to implement though ahah. I’ve just faced a difficult situation where this girl had agoraphobia and couldn’t come to see me… at first I thought she was playing games, then I felt she wasn’t reciprocating my efforts… and I got very anxiously attached, shortly after she ended it. Crazy! I wonder if I should try contacting her again after a while..?
Maybe, she sounds hard to date. Maybe just let her know what u thought and show ur understanding.
I’ve been with a woman for 4 years and engaged for 1.5 years. She just dumped me. I’m not trying to be ugly but whatever. I’m 52. I’ll be fine alone. I took great care of her and her children and grandchildren but I’m completely fine. Awesome babe. I hope you find what you are expecting.
If only you and CZcams had been around 30+ years ago! I had to learn the hard way😉😊
This is hopeful! Now to find such a woman. If I haven't found one by now, unlikely I'll find one in the little time I have left.
@emily could you expand greatly on #4? Thank you!
You cannot judge a relationship by the first 6 months....thats the valium phase.
Wrong.
Your the best!
“You are the best” or “You’re the best”. Not “your the best”.
It's easier for me.
1) Her voice cradles the soul, taking me home, a place which has not existed physically for years.
2) My body feels as if it's being irradiated with goodness and love.
3) Her size and shape are my ideal.
4) Her laughter is perfect sound, the most beautiful sound I have ever heard as a musician.
There's more, but suffice it to say that imposters just can't cut it.
Nailed it 😁
Hello Emily,
How are you today?
This is from France, by the by. My English is a little rusty I admit.
First off, well done for your content.
This is going to be a bit of long winded, sorry.
I wanted to leave you this comment for some time now. I have been in a couple for a few years now (I have got it very wrong a few times, but she still puts up with me...), I am a father twice. I don't have recent experience in the dating scene at the moment, neither in france nor elsewhere. But i can see that female an male acquaintances are struggling with finding a suitable partner.
But watching your content, it reminded me of a French radio programme I heard some 25 years ago... I tried to find a trace of it for substance, but I couldn't find anything, unlucky...
But the comment of the female guest had striken me. She explained (from my memory, if i am not too mistaken) that in France in the 15th, 16tn century, amongst aristocrates, marriage could be organised the following way. The man would express in romantique interest for a lady. In order to check the contecnt of his character, le lady could, quite openly (his/her acquaintances would be made aware of) set a serie of challenges as a pre-requisite to marriage. If he accepted and fullfilled, she would be his, for better for worse... If he refused the challenges, she would walk away. Apparently, most men took on those challenges. The method appears to have been popular at the time.
I am not saying we should do the same. First of all, women at the time were much less free than today. But powerless as they may have been, some did find a way to check the content of the character of a given suitor. But i can't help but think there is minset to be looked into.
To summarise. Be plain, from first contact (or first date) with the guy, that expressed an romantique interest, about the behaviours and attitudes your looking for in a man, and that for the first six months/ year, you will see how he does on those concerns of yours. Once the year is past, both you and the guy can decide which way to proceed in good knowledge and transparency. It may not be passionnate; but it may avoid disappointment later on.
Thanks for reading me that far, I only hope I made my point clearly enough as it stands. Please let me know if you would like any clarification.
Looking forward to your future content.
Yours,
Damien.
Right on!
You and your channel has made me realize that I am normal
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My wonderful wife of 35 years asked me "will you marry me" even before we went out on our first date. So, that left out a lot of guess work.
I did have a woman who did some of the things mention, but I recently cut her out of my life because after a talk she and I had about a month ago, she said I never had a chance to be something more with her. She supposedly in love with a mutual friend she and I have who does not even live near by.. she wants to keep me in the dreaded friendzone, so I moved her to the out of my life zone. I Have not contacted her since the talk she and I had in September 2023. though for some reason she randomly called me a couple weeks ago on 13 October 2023, and part of me wanted to ignore her call, but I ended up answering it and she and I talked for about a half hour. but since that day, though I have not made contact with her. Though i've had some weekends i've felt tempted to contact her but have not done so.
She doesn’t seem to respect you and thinks of you as Mr. Good Enough until she finds Mr. Right.
@@raybod1775 shit shes chose a mutual friend over me, and the mutual friend lives 1000 miles in another state. does not even live near by. as I mentioned in the post, I had not talked to her since the conversation in September, until the one day october when she decided to call me out of the blue.
She wants to put you in layaway. Just in case her #1 option, (Or #2?) doesn't work out. Run. If she calls again, tell her that you've moved on.
@@jamesbickle4912 She already told me I never had a chance to become something more with her. and again I have not made any contact with her since that talk in September. I have not texted her, have not called her nothing. I Have not even seen her since that day. though when she called me on October 13, she hinted at wanting to go bowling or something together, and I indirectly told her no, i'd think about it, and I never contacted her.
Wow she actually came back around on Friday the 13th. You just can't make this up.
True!