Are men single by choice?...Signs women are NOT LISTENING to what men are saying
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- čas přidán 7. 07. 2024
- Hey guys! Today we are discussing the idea that men are not single by choice but that women are. ANY woman that believes this, has not been listening to what men are saying.
I'm 50. Finding a woman my age is like going to the dump and finding the least broken thing to take home.
I'm turning 54 tomorrow just came home from my 10km daily hike am in better shape that i've probably been in since i left the military 30 years ago ,and you are so right i see these women even 15-20 years younger than me and i think no way in hell am i spending time with you
Philippines 😁
Early 50’s with a 30 year old girl friend here, lol
Word, lol
As @damon123joned stated, head East young man, head East. The Philippines, Thailand, china, Japan. Pretty much all Asian countries as well as Latin America. The Philippines has a major advantage, they speak English, and they love foreigners.
If women are single by choice, why are so many women whining on the internet that they can't find a man?
Shh.... You're trying to pull back the curtain.
Depends on the woman, sometimes serious Christian women struggle to find a man who's also waiting for marriage or prefer a low body count in men like my fiance.
Lots of folks go right for the physical while dating so real Christians get thrown off by those with bad intentions.
IKR? Make that make sense.
If men are single by choice, why are so many men whining on the internet that women won't date them?
Maybe there are both women and men who are single by choice, and women and men who are single involuntarily.
What a shocking idea, right?
@@SuprousOxide its because reality women hold the key to intimacy in bed and men control relationship and marriage. men whine about getting money cause when you have money chances of getting the master key to intimacy is high, plus in this age you can buy intimacy online, but women cant buy marriage or relationship
If she is happy being single, why is she on the Internet whining about men.
She's a bitter Old woman that no one wants to be with.
One of the problems men have with women is that these women are liars, when she says she's happier as she ages, that's a big obvious fat lie.
Yep, anyone who's content being single wouldn't be going through all the effort of making a video explaining to everyone how they're supposedly single by choice while crying about how the opposite gender can't be. They wouldn't even be thinking about being single in the first place unless someone brought it up if it didn't bother them to begin with. She's obviously deeply offended no one wants to date her. 💀
Because women have a superpower , they are ALWAYS unhappy . I swear to god they quickly need to find a way to complain/procrastinate/gossip about something(generaly men) else i think they're gonna explode internally if they don't do it.
its like they all have a hulk version inside of them . Procrastinate Power.
If you find a women that is peaceful , accountable(she is capable of saying i fuc** up my fault)
and like to say something nice(and actually mean it ) , put that shit into a museum so it can be preserve.
THIS! ends the conversation
Chris rock said it best, men are not loved unconditionally, they are only loved whilst they provide.
Facts
The sad reality. Women just want a man who can pay pay pay.
Yes so true, no enough sprinkle and a man is alone
Nobody's love unconditional y
@@robertnoble7554 whilst true men are loved with far more conditions that need to be checked off.
Women are not looking for a relationship, they're searching for a man who will financially support them.
Nailed it
YES! Men are in love. Women are in business.
For men, dating is like interviewing for a job. For women, it's like going window shopping.
Financially, emotionally, physically (labor) and mechanically. Oh yes, they also need a verbal whipping boy when things don’t go as she expects.
I get the generalization.
Because it’s true.
I’m 54 dating a woman who is divorced from her high school sweetheart.
She’s taking me on vacation for 4 days next week.
Just randomly paid for a hotel and told me I owe her a dinner when we get there.
She doesn’t want to get married.
We don’t want to live together.
Been together for 8 years.
Is she perfect… no.
Am I perfect… absolutely not.
Not every woman is the same.
🤷♂️
She is making the mistake that all female narcissists make: By thinking that men are just like her.
LOL - Mistake?
Newsflash: The first rule of narcissists is that they don't give a fuck how closely you or anybody else aligns with their delusional worldview.
You're making the mistake of thinking narcissists care whether ANYBODY is 'like' them - or not.
If your perspective is irrelevant - how can disagreeing with you be a 'mistake' - or of any consequence at all?
I can't say with any certainty WHAT this (to me) complete stranger is, but if she IS a narcissist?
You and the host's fan club are the only ones expending any energy on the question.
Thinking that Men are not even human.
She’s correct. Most men pretend they’re single by choice, but can’t attract a woman in the first place. Men are the problem in dating but refuse to admit to it
Shallow thinking, deep feelings recognize another reality is impossible.
What defines " by choice" anyway?
You can want a relationship in an ideal dating market, but choose not to in a poor dating market ( like, of course now)
On top of that there are personal life situations where the same thing applies
So is that "by choice" or not?
As a Man my choice to be single came down to the simple fact I chose peace. ✌️👍
Yeah this woman is hella projecting. Women constantly need someone to talk to about how their day was, and to vent about how horrible of an experience it was while expecting their man to be an emotional support pillar giving them constant attention and reassurances whereas men are just "yeah hey take care of the house when I'm gone, I'm gonna be at work." and even if we have the most chaotic or exciting thing happen at work we just sum it up to "yeah it was a day" when asked. We don't NEED to constantly vent or have constant reassurance that we don't look fat in our new dress, or have someone to comfort us 24/7 and if there's any gender that really can't be handle being single, it's definitely women and that's why you see so many women in "situationships" with multiple men to talk to meanwhile if men are seeing multiple women it's purely for sex, not for companionship.
Even constantly venting online, so many videos of women crying on tiktok about something or other because THEY always need someone to talk to and absolutely crave the constant attention unlike men. You won't see men posting photos of their ass on instagram and trying so hard to do half-naked photoshoots just so people pay attention to them. Men are perfectly content being alone majority of the time and for vast periods too but women can't seem to go a single day without human interaction. We still get 'cravings' for social interaction every now and then of course but we don't require a partner for that and the only real craving we can't satisfy without a "partner" is sex but we can obviously get that without dating anyone now thanks to feminism so men don't really need partners or marriage for that matter anymore.
Many men are especially and specifically wanting to avoid dating nowadays because of all the toxic feminist ideology that has brainwashed so many women into demanding completely unrealistic expectations from their partner. Dating for men now is an absolute chore that many are stating to deem as not worth it whereas for women why the hell would you not want a man paying all your bills and essentially catering to your every need like feminism has taught you to expect?
This woman, and most of the women making videos like this, are so salty because they probably managed to date a rich attractive simp for a while before being dumped because he found someone better to simp for and now they can't find anyone new because they're demanding a new one in a billion partner exactly like the old one to essentially be her wallet and lapdog that gets nothing in return again.
Amen brother! lol
So you're telling me that single is what you TRULY want to be, regardless of external circumstances? That is your solid choice with no regrets? Masturbating in a room somewhere and using your imagination and having no one to emotionally connect to if you wanted to is your genuine choice? You would turn down any attractive and reasonable woman if one came up to you and asked for permission to get to know you and date you? Or ....would you do something differently if you were in a region where you could find women who come with peace? I'm not saying there is anything wrong with *genuinely* choosing to be single. However, I have a hard time believing it is really a genuine *choice* and rather you trying to convince yourself to believe it is a "choice." You probably see what's out there and had experiences and decided it isn't worth it to keep looking then gave up involuntarily while deep down inside you truly wish there was someone reasonable and attractive to connect with and would probably immediately take it (over masturbating and watching these type of videos and / or following comments of other men who are in the same boat to release built up pain if you stumbled upon such a person right now.
I doubt that you are single by choice and rejecting all kinds of opportunities (good and bad) and probably are just single involuntarily due to it being extremely difficult for a western man to find something worthy and not having the luxury of being able to pick and choose or reject people from a plethora of people from the opposite sex strategically plotting clever and creative ways to try to get your attention the moment you either get online or go outside..
Haha that's why I left. And my heart was really acting up. At 36 that's crazy to me.
I'm 53, and happily single. Tried the dating scene, realized that the deck was stacked against me, and I checked out. Don't miss the stress!
I went to the Philippines, found my now wife, hug and say I love multiple times a day.
@@safffff1000Don't be a simp, she's still at core a woman
@@wshyangify Thank God, don't want the trans
55 happy and single.
Nailed it. Everyone, and I mean everyone, in the casino is there to destroy you. The house is there for women. The dealer is there to lull you in by letting you win a few hands. The trap is sprung. Off to the women's court system you go. All those familiar faces... They are there to fleece you.
I was married for 23 years.
I can now pay all my monthly bills with just 2 days of work.
I work less hours, and for the first time, I have savings,stocks, crypto, gold/silver, and a few other investments.
Most of all, I haven't been yelled at for almost a decade, and that's priceless!!!
After 30 years of having every penny stripped away because I committed to the relationship. I too am finally starting to actually make headway towards retirement.
King!
@@Ellfiend Kings! ;)
@@dddux kings!
After 30 years and four children, I made important decisions to let go once the kids were older. Four years later I am doing things I only dreamed of. I'm investing, have lifestyle choices, have my own home, live with autonomy, self respect, I'm fit and healthy (she's not) and I have put in a lot of work to develop peace and purpose.
If a woman does not support those values, I will not support what she deems valuable.
I will only treat a woman seriously if she matches my value. Too many women out there delude themselves into thinking men are thirsty when they actually need to become better humans before they can see the good men far ahead of them on the horizon.
We are not better than women, we are simply saying you need to *be better* and if a woman's answer is that men have no choice then so be it.
To those women - enjoy the story you create as the narrative unfolds in your life.
She is so unbelievably callous. My wife was in hospital for nine months backin 2014. I visited her every single day while I held down a full time job, paid the bills and maintained the home. I sat beside her bed and held her hand as she passed away. That is a love she will never know. I feel sorry for her to be honest. I've been single ever since I lost her.
I'm very sorry for your loss, but I'm happy for you that you experienced the kind of love that most people are simply incapable of!
I went through something similar after my spouse had multiple strokes. It was 6 months of daily visits before they passed away.
@@KentHamson I know how you feel. I hope you've managed to put your life back together and come to terms with it. If you ever feel the need to talk I'm right here. Good luck out there.
@@matthewdevalle404 It has been 16 years since they passed. I have recovered quite well. I spent 5 years single and been in a relationship with a wonderful person for over a decade.
You are a good man. Love you brother. Stay you.
Im a man and single by choice. Super tired of wasting years of my life and a drained bank account. Just so they can leave as soon as something better shows up.
Single and have money for cars!
@@AmrenMirit I have five cars and an aeroplane. Yes, I'm single!
All I have to say I'm doing better in life single. It's sux but man how many times can you get cheated on. With different women too 😞
Perfect marriages or relationships are a myth; each one is different. What works for one couple may not work for another. However, I've come to realize that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of marital difficulties, but we managed to reconcile. It was a rough patch, but we navigated through it
Your words carry immense weight, and I earnestly hope my sentiments align with yours. Despite our current separation, I cannot envision my life without her; my affection for her is profound. I long for her presence, and I'm prepared to make any necessary changes to bring us back together. We've explored various avenues, including therapy, in our pursuit of reconciliation
Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters
I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly
You definitely should
As true crime follower, I would disagree. Not every relationship can be fixed. Sometimes its literally dead end and its even not preventable because people get more, and more cunning with time. Manipulative and abusive people are always ahead of general public expectations .
After 30 I decided the vast majority of women my age had nothing useful to offer, so I went fishing instead. Far more satisfying.
That's a lot of fishing
Catch a Steelhead and cook it that day. So few things as good, clean or tasty. Add a woman to the mix..." You should have spiced it like this. I had better in France. The best restaurant to get it is..." Always something, other than just enjoying the moment and sayin thank you for the meal.
@DukeTrana
Happily married 25 years now.
Newsflash: Fishing is still - and always will be - available either way for me.
And my wife.
This is a lack of spiritual intelligence, no offense. Read a little of oriental spirituality, open your mind and meditate about your thoughts. You are what you are thinking on many others
@@octavianr526 If meditating will make me condescending like you I think I will stick to fishing instead
She literally said she "doesn't want to be accountable to somebody who isn't really that interested". She just told on herself; she's not single by choice, she's single because men aren't that interested in her.
And people not being interested in you, it's because you're uninteresting, woman!
If you were interesting, there would be interest in you, words, how do they work?
Well done.
bingo
There's still an element of choice, We may not find a match that sufficiently inspires us to make that kind of commitment. Sometimes we're not as interested in them, other times there not as interested in us, so we make a true and healthy choice not to engage with someone or beyond what feels right.
She doesn’t think men don’t have friends and family in their lives that they can count on in difficult times.
she's so happy that she felt the need to complain in a video online
Exactly
i wonder how many of the men in nursing homes without visitors are happy because they finally found some peace.
men in retirement communities are a Grand Prize...as most men are already in the ground.
women clamor and fight over men in retirement communities. fact
Most of them are in fact discarded by society.
But that's because they are men who can't work...
All men who can't work will be discarded.
I expect a lot of men will self delete to avoid that fate.
Hows being surrounded and told what do constantly every second by entitled nurses/doctors? Sounds like a fucking nightmare.
That is a myth there's no peace in the nursing home for both men and women because there's yelling, calling out, physical aggression from agitated elderly residents
@@raxxtangoThat is not true. The ones who end up with amorous relationship in a nursing home are usually with dementia. There was a man who was cognitively intact and can make decisions refused to be paired up with the single females saying they were old for him
She says that as she gets older she gets happier with herself.
But she's on here posting her gripes about men.
I think she's lying.
Right? Heck, when I was single and miserable I didn't complain much at all about it. 😂 Emily did call that projecting, though.
Lying to herself.
Sorry SISTAH, if there were actual good ones out there, we'd BOTHER.
She's just old and bitter 😭
I want a woman who isn't fat, addicted to drugs or alcohol, nor miserable to be around.
Apparently, this is asking too much.
Good luck bro! We as men only want simple things as you have mentioned and the women today are not capable of providing that
Whoa bro, lower your standards!
Image one that doesn't think of herself first all of the time.😅
And isn't far-left.
@@g1mpster😂
As a retired man, I absolutely love living alone. It's not that I wouldn't enjoy having a woman in my life. It's more that I've finally realized that my fantasy of a relationship and the reality are very very different. Yes it will make growing old more difficult, but in the meantime I'll be much much happier.
My father told me many years ago ignore what women say....pay attention to what they do. This advice served me well.
Dated more than a few in my younger years. Married an absolute gem who's actions matched her words. 25 yrs married and she is still my entire world.
I applaud u. It doesnt happen every day. Your blessed.
She is why men want to be single!
Short hair + "know-it-all-better" + "no accountability" = feminist
Nah, her bitterness is on her sleeve. You can see it right away you know what you have to deal with and it's up to you if you give it a go. The ones that get you are the ones you didn't see coming. Maybe she was just rotten or maybe you missed or ignored warning signs. Either way it's the getting blindsided that usually hurt the most. And for most people who are "single by choice" as opposed to "Not really looking right now but open to the possibility" are people still reacting to an injury from a bad breakup.
😂😂. She is giving us bad rap! 😂😂
@@Muck006 thought that was a Karen 😂
She's doing men a big favor. Stay single, ma'am.
Let's all take into consideration that she is old. She can't have children, she obviously combative, and a lot of trauma mental and physical. Who wants a car with problems? A man with no money, a man who likes reclamation projects, so he gets the old car. The person that can afford it? Gets the new car
I could not imagine dating something... like...
What a bitter...
Atleast she didn’t have kids 😮😅😢🎉😂❤
And salty!
amen!
Emily, your thinly veiled anger in this video is a reflection of every normal human's reaction to this monster of a woman. Thank you
I divorced after over 20 years. Here is what has changed! I now have peace and quiet and a lot of relaxation. The most striking thing is that I have more money at the end of the month than at the beginning and I love that. I have ZERO DEBT and live a cash and carry life. That is why I love being single.
It's sad that it came to this. What I wouldn't do for a country bumpkin with a good heart and a level head. Been single for 30 years and haven't found her yet... I've dated a few times and was not impressed.
Just remember Emily, it's not the single men that are on the highest amount of antidepressants ever in history...
True but we still have way higher rates of depression and suicides. Somewhere in there hopefully is a happy medium. Somewhere in between. "Just get over yourself and quit moping. Don't be a burden on anybody." and "I'm experiencing an unpleasant emotion. I better take a psychoactive drug with piles of side effects to fuzz out the unpleasant bits. Leave stoicism and coping skills to those who don't have meds. Let them eat prosac."
I have been single for 7 years and still don't need antidepressants. I was married 3x and at the end of all 3 marriages was prescribed antideprssants.....Turns out, the women in my life caused my depression.
I've been single my entire life. Sure I've dated but never been in a relationship. I was never really interested. I went my own way and did what I wanted to do. And I'm still doing it. I'm a loner and that's the way I like it. Though it would've been nice to share it with someone. Oh well. At least I have peace.
@@imeverywhereandnowhere56That's good that you are content with being physically alone and dying alone.
Who else laughed when she said she's having fun with her cats? 😂
The MGTOW movement has women terrified because that type of man makes women powerless against them.
Men Guarding Their Own Wallets is the stuff of nightmares for feminarcissists.
Yes but i really believe that the women are ecstatic about gaining all power in society at the expense of a family
@@christianolesen3120 Maybe, but as they age that doesn't work in their favor.
@@christianolesen3120 It will be short lived though as society will not continue without families
Exactly. Women despise men they have no power over.
Been married for 35 years and there’s nothing I need my wife to do for me, we do for each other because we want to. It’s been great.
You're the rare exception. "Congrats"
I'm 72 and have been single a large portion of my life but yet married four times. Those marriages started out well but then went south for many reasons including alcoholism and narcissism. I've had several women attempt to get me involved but when it gets down to it, we don't see the same on so many issues or concerns. I'm not against another relationship but am very leery of most women's attitudes towards men in general. This woman is a good example why I'm still single!
''married four times'' Sheesh!
I prefer peace, no drama. Men can handle being alone, women can't.
The proof is instead of talking to her man, calling her friends. venting to the bartender, getting counsel from her clergy, she’s going on the internet to vent to strangers.
@@stevend8785 they can't help it. It's their life's blood...
Amen
@zekesanchez1851
What nonsense.
If that’s the case, why all this ceaseless culture warrior whining in the YT Manosphere about the growing prevalence of single motherhood?
Are these women walking away - or not?
And if not - WTF is all the drama about?
Well? Which is it?
Well wait, does having a dog count?
I can easily live without a woman but I would hate to live without a dog.
Boggles the mind that women can't grasp MEN HAVE EMOTIONS!!! We are human, we have feelings. Why are so many women not OK with that?
To many narcissistic women
Over the decades, I have posed the question to women, " Do you think men have the same emotions and depth of emotions that women do?" Over 90% say no. They truly think we are subhuman
Some expect you to bow down to them like they are the holy grail. They can stay far away from me.I wouldn't want that bad luck but some guys deserve them.
What cultural circles are you in?
I believe you it's just 90% seems really high even though most people are extremely selfish these days.@@mwfmtnman
.....just shut and pay up.....
77 YO man here. The wife ditched me 25 years ago and for 25 years I've enjoyed a peaceful, calm and uneventful life. A huge thank you goes out to my ex-wife.
As a man when I got into my 40's & 50's there was little incentive for me to adjust my life to accommodate or take on the responsibility of a woman.I don't dislike women in general & can converse with them in small doses but just won't deal with their dramas 24/7 these days.I tried marriage once & don't need to do it again.
If you're not willing to "give" or to "tolerate" then you shouldn't be in a relationship. Period.
It’s as if people don’t realize relationships require compromise and effort…
And that's why i'm not in a relationship "PERIOD" 😃 and loving it!
And the follow up questions should be, "give" and "tolerate" what? And what do you get in return by "giving" and "tolerating"?
I'm asking these questions as a recently divorced man. I've given and tolerated things, which I'm very much questioning now and have been since divorcing.
@@dirtyace1668 it's giving and tolerating things in general, within reason and that you would deem healthy for a relationship. No one should have to tolerate cheating, physical and mental abuse, dangerous behavior, etc, unless they find it worth while to or want to for some reason. But there is a line to be drawn for every individual of what is unacceptable. But if someone is completely selfish and not willing to tolerate anyone else because that takes too much effort then being in a relationship should be a no go for that person. What should someone get for giving and tolerating? I would say the same amount of giving in tolerating in return. Mutual love and respect. That is in a perfect world though. It won't always be even all the time. But if it is never even and someone never receives it in return then it is time to think about moving on.
@@Totsy30 Those types think they're the only *person* in the relationship, and the other is just *a tool for their ends*.
Oh, honey..... my mother, my aunts, and my sister, have all worked in the nursing homes and home health for decades. I can tell you for a fact that NOBODY is getting visited in the nursing homes. The old folks who would be getting visited, are living with their family and not in the nursing homes at all.
Nursing homes are boomer dumping grounds.
I've worked in nursing homes and yes it's not common for them to be visited. It happens but it's like 1 in 20
I’ll disagree a little. Grandmas last two years required residential care due to dementia. We visited her a lot even though she normally didn’t recognize us. The good news is she wasn’t afraid of us so we played card games and got stories from her childhood growing up in a three bedroom house with mom dad and 10 kids. Most we knew some were new. I miss my grandparents. 😢
@@tufelhunden5795some
People are still loyal and sacrifice for loved ones
My mother and I have a deal in place where if she gets to the point where she actually wants to retire and feels like she can not do nearly as much on her own she basically agrees to take on house hold chores and to help with things that myself and a future wife may not always have individual time for. In return she would move with us and we would do our part to ensure she's well taken care of and never stuck in a horrible place like that. She's made it extremely clear to me that if she ever gets to the point where she can not do things constantly on her own anymore and would have to actually move into a place like that then she would rather just end things on her own terms and I will not accept her doing that to herself so its a bit of compromise on all parts. Because I agree with her and never want to be in a place where I'm living in one of those places either and I would hope my children would do the same for me or at least help me stay in my own home instead of in a place like that. I have so much respect for those who work in places like that. But I've heard just one too many horror stories to ver want something like that for me or any of mine and would rather work a little harder to make sure they will never have to be in a place like that
We currently have an alarming amount of men that are self deleting themselves in our society right now because of what is going on with the women in our society and people still have the gall to say shit like that. I've already been heart broken over things I won't get into here but after seeing that it just adds to it. But at the end of the day, I really do know and believe that you are a true blessing to this world, Emily. You really are. Not just us men need you. The world needed someone like you to pop up. Seriously. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for all that you do.
I tried to become married but kept getting used and cheated on. Had an epiphany that women were not worth my time, emotion, and treasure. Happier alone. Yea I was always the hard working nice guy. Now I'm a millionaire. Took 35yrs of living below my means and investing. Would never have happened with a wife.
We’re single not because we don’t try, because we’re judged and torn apart, and told that they’re independent and we’re worthless. When we struggle we’re seen as weak. When we stand our ground we’re toxic and abusive. When we do find someone who seems amazing, it ends up just being someone who wanted to use us, and we get blocked
Well said. Ty for adding this comment.
Nah..single because they only want to be with Chad/Tyrone
She’s sounds just a touch bitter
If you looked like that wouldn't you be?
Sounds more than a bit bitter😂
More than just a touch.
She fell out the ugly tree hit most of the branches on the way down 😅🎉😂❤
I was going to say the same thing. Just add some coping into the mix.
Single by choice. A few factors why - grieving the loss of my daughter to suicide, ex-gf was not pulling her weight, checked out mentally. I have spent the last year working on my mental health and getting myself straight.
I have been getting back into dating and found that I have consistently been made a “backup” choice for whoever they are making themselves available to. Why should I keep myself open to a relationship when I am not being chosen?
''Why should I keep myself open to a relationship when I am not being chosen?
💯
when I got my heart attack with 47 I truly came to know my wife, 3 years later I divorced her and I am so happy I did this. Now I am 54 and I am not interested in dating or relationships anymore at all, I am going to be in monk mode for the rest of my life enjoying my friends and my hobbies and sports as much as I can.
My good friend's fiancé once told me, "You are definitely marriage material, but you're going to have to put in the work." Without hesitation or even giving it a thought I responded, "I'm retired. I don't work anymore." I'm happily single - enjoying my freedom and peace.
It's a trend that most people who are engaged are incredibly smug. I wouldn't place any value on their thoughts.
As a man I have to say relationships are not worth the trouble today and a woman cannot speak for a man they have no idea what it's like to be a man today
Drizzle Drizzle- spin the plate- Run....Rinse and repeat! LOL
There's one that I would say she can Nora Vincent.
Single life is bliss. When I walked through the front door after work of my place, it’s a silent heaven. I live in my thoughts, however I want.
I don't always agree, but this whole video is 100%. About what's going through a man's mind, anyway.
I'd say, though, there is always a desire for love, but the belief that the reward is not worth the cost or risk just outweighs it.
All I heard from that lady was “I know you are, but what am I”. She’s just mad because men are choosing for HER to stay single.
Why? All I heard was why don’t men choose me? Am I that difficult to deal with?
😂. true!!!
I'm 58. And you hit the nail directly on the head! I just want someone who wants to be with me. My sister told me her girlfriends say to her, where are all the good men? I told her I'm right here but your girlfriends don't give me or other men like me a chance. No I don't look like Charles Atlas anymore. But guess what, neither do you look like Marilyn Monroe. I'm a good man. I'm honest, I don't cheat. I just want a friend.
A woman broke me in my mid 20s a week after she turned me down, by getting all emotional in front of me to her friends while saying in anguish "why can't I find a good man anywhere?" A guy friend who saw it took me aside and said she was trying to get my attention. When I told him she had already turned me down he was horrified.
@@sherpajones have you done your research on beta bucks, alhpa fu*ks, she doesn't know what she wants.He wanted a good rattle but also wants someone to steamroll, be careful not to be the latter and try to be in the middle
@@sherpajonesYou and me both that basically made it clear to me that I am not going to find a woman of good character and worthy of my time and love. They don’t want me so I don’t want them later on just because I am not making 100k or have much money period. A man could be a woman’s dream but if something is missing she won’t give him a chance instead of being realistic
@@Justyouraverageguy172 Making a lot of money won't help you. My 27 yr old son makes a little over $100,000, and we live in the midwest where that puts you in the top 2%. He has never been on a date with a girl. If you're not a tatted-up, hard-drinking, drug-addled loser who treats women like dirt, you disgust women here. Making a lot of money is just just more evidence of the respectability that they loathe. Some women will use a man like that for his money, but they'll never love or respect him; they always have a badboy they really love behind his back. I'm nearly 50, I've watched this dynamic all my life, and for my son's generation it is even worse than it is for mine. I remember teaching high school back when my son was in high school and seeing my female students pining away for losers who were already in jail at 16 or 17 while none of the respectable boys who had a good future could find a girlfriend.
I can relate to what you're saying, men just want a loyal friend who respects them and gets excited over the same things.
My wife must be 1 in million she has stuck by me since being crippled in a crash 36 years celebrated , through the good times and the bad ❤
My husband lost his left leg and was in the rehab center for that on our sixth wedding anniversary. We’ve now been married for 20 years and he’s now been in a nursing home for the last six months and I visit every chance I get. I can’t go every day because I have heart failure and my health is not good enough but I am there a lot.
@@AngelaVEdwards god bless you both, it’s just so easy for ppl who you trust to just pack up and leave these days and your husband is a lucky man to have you by his side
I'm single by choice. Went through two long-term marriages, and don't want to do that again. I've seen how most women really are, and they aren't pretty.
Two failed marriages here too, both cheated on me. Still bitter...
@@Erik-le3fn the way I see it Eric, unless somebody devotes themselves Spiritually to God, all bets are off. So it becomes a Spiritual thing, not a personal thing, and a selfish godless person is liable to do anything.
Truly happy people don't go around talking about how happy they are, only truly miserable people do
They aren't single by choice. It's just the men they want don't want them back. Chad and Tyrone is done using them.
They are too old for Chad and Tyrone now.
@@blakeolson3394 They're only fit for Vernon and Gomer.
Vernon and Gomer now say "pass" cos they know a pig in lipstick will still cover you in shit if you attempt to wrestle with it. @@theeclectic2919
I wrote a *very similar comment....*before I read yours.
As someone who previously worked in a nursing home (my official job was escorting residentson their appointments, but i was also involved in helping keep things stocked and scheduling transportation. Now I'm a medi-car driver for the transportation company that facility happens to use, so I still get to see old friends), I will loudly vouch for the truth that a lot of if not most men don't get visitors comparably to women.
Good Luck Miss Havisham.
Not single for lack of options. Single for lack of 'qualified' options.
I'm caring for my invalid wife who has breast, brain, and lung cancer, two different cancers. 3 years now, I would never give up on her. I saved money for something that could happen and she is so glad we have the resources. We have a 15 year old daughter, I'm trying to be a role model for her to look for.
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My heart and respect go out to you sir. I hope and pray for the best for your wife and hope you keep peace in both your hearts. God Bless sir.
Thank you for creating this channel. You are helping both men and women.
I'm 55, traveling the world solo...building my own home that I worked with my architect brother to design...self-made, ivy educated, with my own consulting business for 15+ years. I gave up dating during the pandemic after nearly 20 years looking for a life partner. I haven't looked back, and I've never been happier.
My friend once described bachelorhood as 1 hour of loneliness followed by 23 hours of sheer joy
For me, it's one day of loneliness and 364 days of sheer joy. All in one year 😂!
I saw an exchange in a movie (tv maybe?) that resonated with me:
*WOMAN* : "Why aren't you married? Aren't you lonely?"
*MAN* : "I've been married - and I've been lonely. I'd rather be lonely."
I have been less lonely since I gave up looking twenty two years ago. I have friends, my children, and occasionally volunteering. When I was married I had to work so much to pay for them I did not have time to be fulfilled. I felt like an unappreciated slave. Yes, my health is slipping as I near the end of life, but how would any of these selfish women help with that? Their price is too high.
I LOVE this, it sums it up so well. I'll see a happy couple and might be sad I don't have one (I used to some years ago), or when I go to bed wish there was someone else to be with, but then I forget and the rest of my lift is great haha.
@@markpashia7067same here. I checked out of the dating game after my ex had a major medical illness.
I supported her through and it drove me over $40,000 in debt. As soon as she was cured she left me for a different guy and left me holding all the debt.
Decided i was done with that game.
I'm alone... but not lonely... and now that my health is starting to go as well... i need and want fewer people around me to avoid the inconvenience to them having to watch me age out.
Did most things on my own or with minimal help... and that's how i'll do the final thing we all do.
I can’t speak for ALL men, but I’m single by choice. Reason being, people are fricked up now a days. I’m single because I can’t find what I truly desire, and refuse to settle.
She definitely seems like an outright hater!!😮😮
I'm my opinion too many people are either whores, single parents, emotionally unavailable, expect way too much, or have other baggage that prevents many natural relationships from forming.
Same here.
Nothing wrong with that ... women don't like what men have to offer .... men don't like what women have to offer .... Stay single and make yourself happy, it's what i do
Yep, she's just another misandrist.
Same here, I went MGTOW 14 years ago. Not having to tiptoe around the land mines of a damaged selfish woman is liberating.
I worked hard most of my life, allowing my wife to stay home with my kids, now that I'm older and the kids are gone, my mind and body are broken and I'm having health issues that make it hard to do a lot of things. I sacrificed everything for them and her. I just hope I'm not thrown away and disregarded...
I hope not either, I salute you!
Emily, you get us. Thank you so much.
Having been through a brutal divorce that cost me nearly everything I cared about I tried dating and quickly realized what a sewer the dating pool has become. I have now decided two things
1. As long as I live long enough to settle my parents’ affairs, I’m good.
2. I hope I leave this world when I’m at work. No nursing home, no hospital, nobody wondering
Told my boys; stick me in a nursing home you are disinherited.
There's no better way to go than in the line of duty.
I often thought that after my divorce, that the first person to know I had passed would be my mother or my ex looking for child support it was a sad realization ....maybe my work would wonder where I was after a few days...lol
Same here!
I'm 63, retired and disabled. My wife of 36 years is supportive and helpful. She's wonderful! Nothing, even marriages, are perfect. However, we have persevered through good and bad. I love my wife and she loves me and I must say that about 40 years ago I found the best person in the world to spend my life with.
After my divorce six years ago, I chose the single life. I was very content living alone and not dating. Last summer, a former gf of mine from a few decades ago re-connected with me. We hit it off immediately. We were a great couple. We got along so well and we shared the same interests. I believed I was her man and she was my woman. She blindsided me seven months later when she dumped me and ghosted me. I haven’t seen her or heard from her for three and a half months. I am back to being single and not dating, by choice.
Thank God for you Emily!
Speaking as a middle-aged man, I genuinely am looking for reasons to have faith in women again and you are an excellent starting point to regaining that faith.
I have never had a disastrously bad time with women in my life, but the creatures I see on the internet spouting everything from absolutely moronic reasoning to rabid hatred of men is really disturbing. I don't want to feel this way about women, I never did in the past and I really don't want to now! At last (with you) instead of the completely undeserved sense of entitlement, the pathological unaccountability and the overwhelming narcissism, there is a thoughtful, articulate and compassionate woman explaining her reasoned thoughts and ideas. I truly thank you.
It's so funny. They never listen to what men say or believe it and create their own narratives and we all just keep moving further and further apart.
Hi Emily!
I see this woman as having years of built up anger from a marriage to a workaholic husband. I'm willing to bet that in her divorce she scored a handsome nest egg to live off of.
My parents were divorced and I often times heard my mother talking with her divorcee girlfriends. Those women were downright vicious toward men.
I also believe that lots of women build up resentment toward their husband's over the years and once they get a taste of so called freedom they're happy to treat their men as disposable. Why? Because she feels that she earned it.
He worked his body and health literally into the ground to provide for her and his family and now the woman no longer has to sacrifice and she can live the life she wants that his hard work made possible.
I have seen it before time and time again, that's why I am single by choice.
dont care about a past. drop it or stay alone
Sad part is most women do not have anything their men want in a divorce as its mostly his, but man i love watching videos of women who have stuff complaining their guy gets half...love it ... equality bissshes
SOME OF US ARE! IT DOES WONDERS FOR MY PEACE OF MIND, NO DRAMA, NO MUSS,AND NO FUSS
Trying to find a woman with similar interests is the main reason I'm single.
"A little bit of an older woman" You're so kind, Emilywking.
lol
used goods indeed single by chooise my arse noone touches that corpse even whit gloves
Yup. Just a little bit of one, she's not complete, not all there 😂
And she is going to lose her mind when/if she sees this video.
@@H..M.. you're assuming she hasn't lost it already.
Now at 62 I’ve been single my choice for 12 years. Best decision I ever made.
I’ll take inner Peace over hassle every time.
@neomonk5668:
There's a comedy series, set in western times, known as "The Adventures of Brisco County Jr." There's a character in it named "Pete Hutter." Pete loves his sidearm so much that he launches into a conniption if he sees anyone else holding it: "Yer... Yer touchin' ma piece! NObody touches Pete's piece! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣‼️"
In my case, substitute the word "piece" for "PEACE!" NObody touches my peace!
I still can't believe I'm here. By "here" I mean, in this apartment, alone, with no one hassling me, or complaining about me, or putting me down. It feels good. I made a long list of things I don't have to do anymore, and things I don't have listen to anymore. I made another list of things I _get_ to do too. Yep, no more listening to a crazy and abusive far left harpie going on and on with her wacko belief system. She can hate me from afar.
Peace and sanity are what I value more than anything else, far more than the company of a woman.
53 here and I seen it coming when I graduated in 89'. Single still and loving it.
Emily, you nailed it!
She’s projecting 100%
I have been single for 3 years. Women are constantly coming on to me everywhere I go. But shopping for women is like that huge bargain bin of dvd's at Walmart for 5 bucks. Does not matter the title or story, they are all worth 5 bucks.
Emily you really do restore my faith in women. My own sister has told me not every woman is the same but even tho she has never lifted a hand to her husband since they have been married in 2012 or before that (1996) just hearing you stick up for us men showing the world we are useful and worthy of being in existence. I am so happy for you're partner to find such a special woman who loves and understands or the very least (which you are top dog) of understand. Keep it up! He is one extremely lucky man. Hats off to you're husband for the diamond he has found in the sewers
Thank you for all that you do Emily!
This makes me furious. I am recently divorced, wife fell in love with another man and left me after 12 years and two kids. Do you know the only thing I really wanted from her? Companionship. I was faithful and she even said she has never not felt cared for. I supported all her dreams and made sure we had the resources so that she could pursue writing or any other interest. I never made demands of her and I only said "No" once and she thanked me for it the next day. What did it get me? An affair. All I wanted was a friend to walk through life with and after all the sacrifice she fell in love with someone else and felt no remorse for what she had done.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you have an amazing day 😊
What a horrible person to do that to you. So sorry for that.
This has happened to a very large portion of men, myself included. Now they look around and wonder where the men are.
I had similar experience. Finally I just walked away after 18 years of never being good enough. Worked too much, earned too little, even though I basically paid for almost everything. Supported her ambition of being an artist/painter. I worked 60 hours a week, sat on the school board, was a parent association representative for my sons class at school, helped with the school band. My ex complained that I never helped at home as she had two jobs. She worked 31hrs a week and then had her painting job/wanting to be an artist. Then she wanted an open relationship. It was time for me to leave.
Yep, happens all the time. I paid for everything for years, pushed her to do her projects, went out of my way to assist her in her projets and procedures. As a thanks after a couple of years I got daily verbal abuse, physical, psychological and financial abuse; then when she got a ton of money she kept it all for herself even when I was in a really bad financial situation due to her deliberately draining my finances. She left a 6k€ debt on my shoulders once I kicked her out, as a sort of parting gift I suppose.
Never sacrifice anything for a woman. Most of them only seek to exploit you, then dump you when you can't provide anything to them anymore.
Single by choice here. Mental health
Pursuit of Happyness
Take care of yourself, king
And financial health.
Women don’t want commitment, they want “fun”. I don’t need fun to feel happy 😊
Same here. 14 years. Best time of my life.
Emily, you have good and insightful comments...
If men "aren't single by choice" then why do i keep hearing these stats like "x percent of men haven't approached a woman in the last years"?
To not feel it's a sad situation that anybody of any gender is alone in a care home, shows me she's completely lacking in empathy. Possibly a psychopath.
In my profession, I've seen many people alone in care homes. It's always sad, regardless of gender. It's hard to respect anyone with her attitude and lack of compassion.
Concur
Sociopath
Mizz "She did her time" is a misandrist. Pure and simple
This woman is a horrible person! She sounds very selfish. Not all older women are like her.
She was hurt previously by a man in her life, and now every man, is that guy.
Or she’s hurt men, they’ve shrugged and left
She’s hit the wall and firing back now.
It's every mans fault that she gave herself to players and got played every time. Never her poor judgement or inability to learn from her mistakes.
Maybe she was never hurt, but is simply a sociopath?
@@pilgrim42 she was hurt,. Problem is she self deluded herself by thinking she could catch and tame her target. Self delusion.
My last live-in girlfriend (in our 40s) insisted on paying rent (though I had a large income and didn't care), then decided that it was unfair since I was paying my mortgage with her rent money, then decided she could afford to work part time and take more advantage of my inground pool, then decided she could quit working altogether. I was actually fine with all that, good for her. It was something I could provide for her. But then, she decided that I should pay her for the housekeeping she did (which I am very bad at). That's when it all fell apart. Fortunately for me, she got upset and moved out. Now I am blissfully single - by choice - forever. Not looking - in fact, avoiding women. Women don't seem to understand it when I tell them this: "I don't date". They think it's very odd.
You are literally a gift to this world from God. You are such a blessing and I thank you for existing, Emily.
Simple test: How many women married a man that did not propose marriage to them? Men don't have to open that door.
My ex wife married me & she proposed.
I told her im getting a divorce though didn't ask . Aeking there is a chance she may not agree
I've had two women propose and said no to both. I proposed to the woman I married. Considering how women hit on men, men are single by choice.
@@dennishansel9526 respect to you ,
I was younger & dumber call it a life lesson 🤣
Every woman I have dated asked me to marry them. I'm going to try it one more time, but not a woke American woman.
My experience, this week. Had a series of women ask “why/how are you single?”, and one tell me “you’re a keeper”.
I am one of many men who aren’t looking for a relationship because relationships have been the source of most of the stress in my life.
It’s a growing trend.
The chick in the Tik Tok is a perfect example of why.
Had one ask me that. Looked her right in the face and told her I simply have not met a woman who is truly worthy of my time and attention. The look on her face was priceless.
"I ran across a video of a little bit of an older woman..." the linguistic brilliance of this verbal dance is legendary!
I'm 37 man, I make well over 100k. I have a big house in a great neighborhood. Drive a brand new car. I'm single and not looking. The women in my dating pool can never be happy. They'll never find a man that checks off everything on their list. And refuse to acknowledge she doesn't check off any boxes in his list. I remember seeing a study somewhere that says women are the unhappiest they've ever been. And I'm not surprised.
Protect yourself...
She has reached the age where the denial becomes poisonous.
When denial becomes 'toxic'. Apologies for using your word ladies.
As a guy, I can tell you that no guy "REALLY" wants to be single. It's more accurate to say we have given up and stopped trying to find a reasonable woman. This is what women don't want to understand: Guys believe that the negative affects of being single are better than dealing with delusionally entitled modern women. Basically, "The orange juice is not worth the squeeze." Doesn't mean we stopped liking "orange juice," it's just that "The orange juice is just not worth the effort" it takes to make. So, we switched to something easier, safer, and less drama. Like soda, coffee, milk, etc. Men are biologically better designed to handle the stresses of being single better than women. Men believe that we can do this long enough until women get their "minds right."
I agree, being single is easier but at 55 my blood still boils which is BAD... Cold showers etc...
I'm 58. Single since 2001. Finally went out with a woman my age. Was informed that she doesn't cook or do dishes. I love to cook, but I'm not going to work 50 hrs a week, buy everything cook the food ,do the dishes and provide entertainment. Women be crazy. What do I get out of this. I've been looking for a partner for a long time. I've decided at this point in my life. I'm good by myself.
I'm looking at that woman's face as she says she's "happy" and it's laughable. She doesn't look happy, she doesn't look pleasant. She looks like someone who whines a lot. Thanks Em for posting this.
I think you mean she looks like someone who drinks wine a lot... out of a box.
She is "happy" because she can FIGHT THE PATRIARCHY some more in her old age ... "refuting" anything that men say by not giving any evidence other than FEELINGS-BASED PERSONAL ANECDOTES.
Kinda KAREN Face!
It’s always funny when you can tell that obviously she is lying through her teeth about being happy.
Um - yeah, sure thing.
Because I ALWAYS consider myself eminently qualified to judge the life and mindset of a complete stranger on the basis of a 15 minute YT clip.
One that was shot and then DELIBERATELY packaged to peddle 'controversy' on a supposed flashpoint topic for which millions of men can barely manage a shrug on most days.🙄
Gee - you mean guys delay/forego romantic commitment to care for an aging and or ill parent, pursue a career path that puts them on the road 150 days a year, to start up a new business, to pay off debts, to pursue post graduate extended education????
Stop the presses.
Let's all have a pissing contest about it, shall we?
Idiocy.
@@chriscoughlin9289 she just didn’t seem as happy as she was saying. She seemed angry and upset. That’s all I was pointing out. Chill out.
@@BryJamie And all I was pointing out is that the basis for your conclusion is something roughly equivalent to the brief phone conversation that I might have with my credit union customer service representative on a bad day.
Chill out.
@@chriscoughlin9289 99/100 women seem constitutionally incapable of practicing happiness, of being content, so it's not a big stretch to say she's not happy. She doesn't appear to be happy; otherwise, why feel the need to run her cake hole about how happy she is, and about how unhappy men are?
Classic case of projection. The thing of it is, and I've been on my own since 1973, women are like drug addicts - in fact, a lot of women are drug addicts - in that they're always looking for the next external "thing" to make them happy. The right man, the right house, the right car, the right "do," new clothes....you get the idea.
Not that there aren't men who are the same way. But by and large, my observation over the last 50 years has been that men seeking happiness through external stimuli have nothing on women.
Furthermore, women in this day and age are telling on themselves. They are telling us exactly what I, and people like me have been observing for forever. They crave approval, they crave attention, and they think it will bring them happy. The thing of it is, when they're not happy, not only do they blame anyone but themselves for that unhappiness, but they actively work to make sure no one around them is happy either.
@@chriscoughlin9289 it sounds like you’re the one that has the bias. I was going off of her face and how she sounded when she was talking.
33 and met the woman of my dreams. Blessed!
Awesome!
she sounds very happy !! rock on sister. she is so self aware
To leave anyone to die alone is cruelty beyond belief especially towards that person you swore to standby in sickness and in health.
everyone goes alone, sadness is part of a full life, sadly ❤❤
We all die alone. It's an individual trip even if there are folks to witness it, even if others are dying around you-- it is a solo trip.
@@ma-jp8bf I have visited a few elderly friends on their way out., still makes me cry .
BOB, we all die alone. It is the journey that matters
@@damon123jones Yep, it is never easy saying good-bye. As my dad would say - crying never solved anything, my tears won't raise the dead. I raise a toast to them on their birthdays/sometimes on the anniversary of their deaths, but always with the vow to live my life well and enjoy those things they no longer can.
Many of my friends have tell me they've simply given up on women. It's sad but true. I used to tell my wife that I had the best job in the world, taking care of her. I guess she just didn't understand that is what men need in their life, to be protector of the family. She cheated on me and eventually left. I'm done and actually much happier without the delusional views of modern women.
I was always the hard working nice guy and made a good living. So of course I got cheated on and dumped. The last one karma got her. Cheated and left for Chad who lived with his mother. No job no education, no work history. 6mo later her mother called and said I left something at her house. Got there and the ex was there. She left him and wanted to get back together. Laughed my ass off as I walked out. Dumbest thing I ever did was to buy her a car. Tried to hide it but I gave her sister 20$ to tell me where it was. Got it back. She wrote me a 16page letter detailing what an ass I was. I keep it auround to remind me to never get married.
Both men and women have protective instincts though it's difficult not to feel undermined if some says it in a way that comes across as one sided both should be allowed to be protective
The more I hear from these women like that older one, I can't believe anyone still believes women think of anyone other than themselves, never again.
My brother had a saying "if your going to be stuck up at least be good looking" what he meant by it was any woman who are like this woman selfish, I don't need a man, bad attitude towards men. I am an old fat man now, so glad I don't have to go through this anymore. You reach a point in life when the loneliness is less painful.
Bottom line - if you can't be respectful and accountable for your own actions, you don't have the right to be in a relationship with your nothing burger on the table.